Will Gweilo 60 get MARRIED AGAIN?
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- Опубликовано: 21 авг 2024
- I get a lot of comments on my channel about finding a new partner, a girlfriend , a wife. I have pondered this question every time it comes up and I decided to make a video about it so that you the viewers know what I am thinking. I really do have no secrets and this one is from the heart. I am sure the trolls will have a good time at my expense on this video.
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It is heartbreaking for anyone to lose a loved one, but life goes on for us. My best wishes to you.
Give yourself at least 6-month "emotional" holiday.
You think you are over it but you really don't, especially when your late wife had a major impact on your life.
After 6 months, you will be able to better handle your emotional side and make better decisions/choices.
I say before you try to find someone, make sure your pain for your wife is gone first. That way that new person is a chance of a new start and bot just a pain killer
Do what makes you happy, Gweilo! 🤗
Its hard adapting to loss of loved ones and the sense of sudden loneliness and rushing into a relations at this moment may definitely a big mistake.
Kirk you have to find an ideal mate for yourself. Definitely the word “replacement” is never an appropriate word. No one can replace anyone!! I’m sure Wei Fong wants to see you to be happy lover and continue having a fruitful life, not a dull lost soul. No 2 persons are alike. Not a single soul in the world will ever be the same as Wei Fong. Go for it! You are not an unfaithful husband. She knows!
good reply. Yes replacement not a good word for a human.
Take it slow, if it happens it happens. I personally wouldn’t be actively seeking, but if someone right comes along I would give it a chance. But I would be very selective, at that age I would value my peace more than anything else. I rather be alone than deal with unnecessary drama.
Well said
I hope you find a really lovely lady, Kirk. You’re a good man and deserve someone to spend your days with. So sorry for the loss of your wife.
What you're saying is so true and I agree. No need to hurry and just live your life happily. Take your time, but also don't miss out when something good comes along.
Thanks for sharing your life story!
It is tough to start a new relationship after mid age. A partner relationship might be better rather than another marriage.
Agree
I think you are right Kirk. When my wife Chin-Ni passed away a few years ago I had exactly the same things going through
my mind, but then I was thinking: what if the shoe had been on the other foot? What if I had passed first? I loved my wife,
would I have wanted her to live like a nun for the next 20 -30 years? Off course not !!! So go ahead, put some distance
between you and recent events and then find another nice new partner. Think of it that way, with what you're doing,
you can give another beautiful, middle aged lady an amazing, interesting lifestyle.
I think in Chinese tradition, the greatest respect and responsibility for your passed wife is to take good care of her parents and children (if her parents are still alive). Likewise, your passed wife would want you to remarry and take care of yourself.
His late wife's parents passed away. She had a surviving unmarried brother who is in his 50s.
Just let life takes its natural course. If you meet someone, then great. If not, then so be it. But one thing - beware of gold diggers
People will gossip behind you if you mess around here in China. Its better to wait for another year in order to keep your hard-earned reputation.
Don't rush into another relationship. Take your time to grieve and come to terms with your loss.
Do whatever you want, Gweilo. Just make sure you not taken advantage of.
You will be fine Kirk. The journey on Planet Earth is interesting and always a challenge. If another special lady comes along you will know. Sometimes one doesn't need to look it will be dropped into your lap. Stay focused on everything good as you are. People come into our lives for a reason, bringing happiness, joy, sadness, and grief whether we like it or not. Earth the learning Planet. xo
Life goes on, Kirk. Take your time and go forward.
There is nothing wrong with moving on in your life. The most important thing I think is communication and seeing that your Chinese language skills are limited then I think your future partner most likely will need to be able to speak English. Take it from a long term veteran, you need to be able to totally understand each other, without English skills both you and your future partner will be lost in communication. Don't worry, plenty will say you can learn Chinese as you go along but that will take a lot of time and patience. Using google translate will get frustrating and it isn't correct sometimes. I need to re-translate sometimes to double check and then it is so wrong and need to start over. You choose your own path and what fits you, all good, I wish you luck.
Your health is your wealth . I am 8 years your senior and when I turn 66 cancer struck NHL and survived that ordeal . The sh*t really hit in Dec. 2021 when my Chinese wife died[in her sleep] and Covid almost got me . I sure would like to meet that special someone but with three more bouts of Covid recently . Well, I hope for the best for you. Be wise as a serpent because there are lot of snakes around . . Find a lady friend to show you how to cook ,its fun and easy . Take care and keep cool .
Glad to see you in great spirits! I'm sure weifang would want you to be happy as well! All the best!
Being open to a new relationship is fine, but just put your guard up a bit against jumping into something too soon, even if it looks like the real deal, out of a desire to end your loneliness. At the same time steer around much-younger women who have a "daddy" complex, and be on the alert for widows closer to your age who are needy and desperate to find a nice man, such as yourself, to lean on. Weifang seems to have been an independent woman - maybe look for someone like that, who has her own life but at the same time is open to romance.
Good to see Gweilo you’re getting back and you’re gonna be OK, you’re doing it at your own pace, and you’re on the right track. Hang in there. Things are looking good for you.
Great to see a video this morning
Hey, Alex, you are his pal. Advise Kirk to lay off the grog. His excessive consumption of beer will lead to liver diseases.
You're a good guy gweilo just be happy.
It's possible for men and women to be just friends (good friends). It's ok to be alone/single - you are not lonely if you have good friends.....
I just got married in Nanning last tuesday, feb. 20th 😁. I'm back in Norway right now, but will be back soon. I like Nanning better than where I live now 😌 and by the way, I'm 5 years younger than you, there's allways hope for love, what happens, happens. Your wife will allways be in your hearth, she would want you to be happy 😊
luck man i knew a brit had fake marriage just come to china meet his young bird, he just had his 60 years old birthday last week in yunnan
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Will you reside in china or Norway?
Congratulations on your 100k subscribers. Take your time Kirk. Enjoy what you have without any stress added.
Go for it Gweilo. You only live once.
I'd just take it slow and try to be get closer with women who really seem compatible. You can certainly meet some lovely people who respect each other's freedom.
Not only "life is short". Too many examples show that two people living together do make people live longer.
You're a grown man. Do what you think is right. You've done pretty well without our advice. 😅
I won't repeat what others have already said. I think your main barrier of making a connect with someone is language. If you put some effort into learning Mandarin, it would make things much easier. In the event you do meet someone soon, I wouldn't compare her to Wei Fang because it wouldn't be fair to her. Imagine the new woman compares you to her ex-husband? Everyone is unique. Hope you will find the right person soon!
Take your time and go at a gentle pace...Friendship is No1
*All the best to you*
Yes you are right, take your time in finding your next partner. You are in no hurry you just need to find someone who is right for you. Just keep away from the gold diggers eh!
Life goes on, I’ll support any decision you make!
My condolences. i know your wife struggled and you even went back to canada to get better. i watched you and your wife for years. stay strong and continue to live your life.
For me I would wait a while. I feel my wife and I have been together a long time.
Don't rush things, you'll live to regret, one step at a time. Cheers!🍺🍺🍺
Take your time Gweilo.
The universe will make that decision for you Gweilo!
Speaking for myself. I found my soulmate when I wasn’t intentionally looking - all the best! 👍🏼
Good luck, take your time, their are plenty nice. Ladies out there.
In a nutshell, you cant be alone as you are not used to it. Just take it slow and steady and dont rush it as its not easy to find a new life partner after your recent great loss. Generally I agree when in China, like others say, wait a year. All the best, Kirk!
Hi Kirk, I met my Chinese wife when I was the spritely age of 67, and am now 70. Jenny is a Spring Chicken of 51yrs. There is hope for you yet even if you are Canadian. And she has a sister slightly younger. Way to go.
Kirk erectile dysfunctional 😭
Good on you Gweilo, trust there is someone for you as you are a man with a good heart.
Good luck Kirk. We visited my in-laws in Southern China for the first time in 5 years (covid and school exams) over NY., back on Sunday. Was brilliant. Reinforced everything I remembered and more. Daughter loved it. ✅ I'm sure in time u will meet someone who can be your partner again. Keep the head up.💪👈Thanks
G60, you been through a lot. Looking after a terminal ill love one is both physically and mentally draining. It is time to do what's best for yourself. Nobody is going judge you for it, least of all the Chinese
Difficult to take decision at this age. But we wish you to be happily married with a appropriate lady ❤.
Your profound love for your late wife is much admired！A man of 60 Something is still young. But I wish and hope you will find another suitable partner！ Good luck.😍🙏🏼
What I can say is, for anyone, if you feel miserable just because you are alone, then that means you got some homework to do. Being alone is just fine. Being with someone is just fine too.
There is no right or wrong in this, so do it at your own pace, when YOU feel good about it. If you don't want to move on, then that's fine. If you ever decide that you finally do want to move on, that's also fine. Only YOU can decide the correct path for yourself. We will support you!
Live your life, please enjoy.. I came across your channel, thank you for posting videos about China and your life...
Gweilo very important don't get into a bad relationship like many men facing
Like your honest and frank talk about what and how you feel in the absence of Wei Fong. Yes, hangon and don't rush. Lots of Chinese women who are in same situation as you, have their telescope zoom at you as I write this comment.❤
We hear you. Loosing a love one is tough. But finding another right person is even tougher. Take your time. When the right one comes along you would know it. There is no quilt in remarrying. Like my late wife said our Union ended when one of us passed. She made me promise her to marry again under one condition. That person has to be good to her two children. A few years later I did meet up with my new love, but we were not married for the children’s sake. She agreed.
I really think over all you are clear and seem in the right direction.I pray for you!😊
nice weather over there，thank you
I think everyone wants you to just be happy, Kirk ❤ so whatever makes you happy
support you on whatever your desition
Take your time Gweilo. You will find love again
I am happy & like to see you live in Mainland China. I support Gweilo60. 👍
Take your time! When you're ready and meet someone special you know is the right time!
I understand what your saying completely .I lost my wife last spring. A little too soon for me but like you anyone I meet at some point wouldn't be the person I lost. Wouldn't be fair to compare.
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As always, life goes on naturally stay healthy and be happy ,Jayoe
Time will heal all wounds is the saying. I think that a newfound love will be natural and wish You all the best for the future!
Look after yourself
Nowadays people in their 60s are considered young seniors (still got some oomph). If someone suitable comes along, why not?
oomph 😂😂
People are crazy on how they express 😂😂I'm happy for you! And life will provide ❤
Time will heal. It takes time Kirk. I am older than you. True you only live once but you want to live fullest…with a partner.
My cousin is perfect for u! She is only in her fifties, she has an education and her parent were teachers in China from south east Asia! When I am back, most of our family are in america and in Canada. I think you a great for her.
You do not need to marry again. Just hv a companion.
I believe that it would be best to wait a little longer, but overall, I think this is a wise move Gweilo. Dont sweat the small stuff and have a beer for all of us stuck on this side of the pond!!
We Support you
Wow, what a topic for a new widower .
Gweilo, you are so real, down to earth, and speak in paced and ease way. that's what attracts me that no others, just pleasant to hear you talking something or nothing.
You're 100% right to get yourself back in the game. Much the same as your good self I lost my wife, the mother of my kids. We'd been married for 23 years, 15 of which I'd spent looking after her full time as a carer due to her disabilities. Yes it's true not everyone agrees with "moving on", I wouldn't think of it as moving on, love is an energy, and like energy it can neither be created or destroyed. You'll always have that love but you'll also have so much more to give. I tried explaining to people it's not the hours without Pauline I found hard, it was the minutes. Go out an live life, because the last thing your wife would have ever wanted was for you to become ostrisied from life, take it at your own pace and I wish you all the best in your future. BTW 63?? Lad you look half my age and I'm 51! If I can meet someone, anyone can 😂
Take your time. Enjoy when your daughter visits. Being single offers all kinds of opportunities.
Go for it. Your life will always be with your lovely wife and if you find a new friend she will always be with you.
Do not look for, just leave it on spontaneity .
It’s not just you G60. Many do the same. People are afraid to be alone. It’s set in their way too.
*Important Traits For A Spouse*:
1) Genuine & Honest - Do what is said, say what is meant.
2) Emotional Stability & Rational Thinking (especially for a woman)
2) Accountable & Responsible (Vs Blaming)
3) Kind, Caring and Considerate
4) Respectful, Gracious & Forgiving
5) Appreciative, Grateful & Thankful
6) Patient, Gentle & Disciplined (self control)
7) Optimistic (opposite of being fearful, anxious, doubtful and worrying).
8) Friendly & Warm
9) Humble.
I think it is best to keep an opened mind. All the best. :)
Remember you are perfect as you are. You do not need a new partner for the future. It is now time to get spiritual as mankind's expiry date is near. Prepare for your leaving to join the loved ones over yonder. Good luck and best wishes for the future. 🤫
You decide how long you need to greive. Don't rush it. I wish you all the best.
Advertise in the chinese social media that Geilou 60 is looking for life partner again!!
Mate go for it be happy. You deserve it. But do it only when you're ready. Age is of no consequence. Cheers mate.
It's your choice bro
Yes find a live -in partner as long as the other partner agrees . That's the best choice.
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Living together is not the thing in China, unlike the West.
When you are talking with a new gal, who may be great, or not so great, never talk about your past wife. Do not compare.
Make friends, but no commitment. Still early after your wife passing. That's my opinion.
Let us the audience decide if the lady suits you or not, put her on your videos, if she refuses then that's the end of that for her. 😂
😆 haha Kirk needs a wife
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We will decide who his new wife will be. 😀
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Not joke, this is for real.
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For real 💯
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With good intentions and an honest heart, you do what's right for you. Nobody need judge.
if you meet someone else is something only you can decide on Kirk. it is obvious your wife was a truly wonderful person and she will always have a very special place in your heart.
I know there is something about Chinese women that sets them apart from many western women.
I am not trying to be biased but your in your 60’s and I’m in my early 70’s
yet our chance of finding a life long partner in the west at our age are very slim compared to countries like China.
All I can say Kirk is take time out and heal my friend , believe me I feel your pain .
Enjoy life and what will be will be .
Your in a country where many people still value traditional values and not corrupted like the west
and I think the Chinese system has no wish to go that way.
I was about 59 when I met Hui and this year we will have 15 years of marriage behind us.
She is without doubt the most wonderful woman I have ever met.
You lovely wife was no doubt the most wonder woman you have ever met you voice and your face and how you speak tells me volumes about you.
Your wife was very selfless and I know mine is too. I am sure that she would like to see you happy again one day. You have a large following and from the many comments I have read and liked it’s clear these followers love you.
Keep your channel going and never ever give up. Your lovely wife has
gone back to source her avatar died the soul never dies she will reincarnate again.
There is much much more after this life that few can comprehend my friend.
This experience ends another begins the never ending circle of life.
Love peace and happiness to you brother your a true Gem just like your wife was.
You never know....go with the flow that is it
Love your video
I would say you do what you feel is right, and ignore what other people say.
Better not go out looking for a partner. If it happens...it happens. You will not look so good if you do it now. I am not mainland Chinese but SEAsian Chinese.
Get a girl friend or female companion if a right one comes along, but not to marry again within three years, just to be respectful to Weifong.
Wei Fang would not want to to be alone Kirk. I am sure that is why she held on as long as she did. Choose your friend wisely.
It is not easy to live alone after you have a partner for so many years, but life goes on .. i have been doing it since i was 45 years old and now i am 59 still alone and retired for 4 years... now I just started feel lonely after retirement. Take care yourself and maybe you will find a suitable person to keep you company.. just moved back from The U.S and living in Jakarta metropolitan city, doing very well here.. watching you and I understand how you feel Gweilo..
Thanks I think a lot of people go through what we are going through and it is just part of life.