No matter what, I would 100% believe my 5 yr old daughter and never would I make her feel that she was to blame, even if she was 5 or 50… ❣️ All you have to do is see the pain and fear in their eyes… That’s good enough for me………… 💔 Such a powerful film ❣️
I have worked with kids in care for 8 yrs, 5 to 18 yr olds and to see the damage that it’s done is heartbreaking. I saw the signs that my nephew was being abused by his kick boxing coach, my sister was being groomed so that he could, 💔 I didn’t want her to say “I bet your saying I told you so”… I wanted to be their for her and most of all my nephew, to rebuild his life. He has and has met the love of his life and have the most beautiful son. 🥰 Be aware and care enough to do something about it…. 💞
❤ this is how it came full circle for me.. once I became a mama and felt the enormous rage of realizing we weren't protected and no little girl should know how to please their daddies.. sickening that as we speak many children are still being abused 😢❤
This woman was MADE for lifetime movies. She has managed to *NAIL EACH & EVERY LIFETIME FILM PLACED IN HER LAP.* She is a huge asset to the film industry.
I think Joanna Kern and Donna Mills are the top "queens" of violent subject matter in movie dramas. But, each and every actress who portrays these roles deserves an Emmy. These topics take a lot out of you.
To all the commenters who shared their stories of pain, I am so sorry you went through that trauma and I hope you know you have friends out here in You tube land that care about you. Much love from central PA
i just knew there'd be lots of comments on their own experiences, and it's messed up that these kinds of things happen. the lack of support from the mother, was infuriating. i can only imagine the pain real victims go through; my heart goes out to them
Wonderful movie. One of the best movies I've ever seen about child abuse. The actresses and actors are all great. The movie is very inspirational that there's a way to move forward and heal even after such a horrible tragedy, but it shows that one must face the truth and have the courage to stand up against the abuser.
The writing, the acting, the realistic view of what it's like to remember the nightmare of what happened when they were too young to defend themselves from their own flesh and blood. The complicit mother in denial. This is a story that hits at the heart of so many. It is in the simplest form a public service and I hope anyone who has experienced this trauma will seek professional help. My heart goes out to you.
What do you mean by professional help? A lawyer? That is expensive and unaffordable for most people (over half of the people who live on the street in France were sexually abused by their 'family' when they were children) and as there is seldom any hard evidence, the police will refuse to register a complaint. Suggesting that victims of child sexual abuse should get psychiatric help is extremely offensive. Of course it is a nice little earner for the shrinks and for Big Pharma. It doesn't work though: still in France, half the people who commit suicide each year were sexually abused as children. The victims who manage to get their abusers convicted seldom commit suicide, it's the victims who got 'professional help' who commit suicide.
@@yehmen29The myth about getting "help" will continue. Rehab and counseling centers are major sponsors of shows and movies that cover psychological issues. No mention of the stats is ever made.
Unfortunately this happens so much this is nothing knew it happened in my family back in the 1930s this subject was realistically and we'll played such a sad tragic situation that causes so much pain 😢😢😢
A very good movie! A story that needed to be told! My prayers go out to each and every child that has had to endure abuse at the hands of their father! I pray healing for each and every one! Hugs
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Even at the age of 82, this film brought back memories 😮of my childhood like it was yesterday. We do not choose the family we are born into and have no obligation to condone abuse, tolerate or forgive the perpetrator, no matter who it is. If the abuser is a parent, sibling or any other family member, that person has no right to scar an innocent child, they are first and foremost, an abuser and criminal. The bruises that are not visible do the most damage, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. You never really recover.
My father was sexually molesting me when I was little, back in the 1960s....I never said anything until I was an adult, married, and children of my own.... Never confronted my father. My mother wouldn't believe me when I told her...Thing is, though...she knew... Just like the grandmother in the movie did.... It took many, many years for me to heal... There's a lot of trauma...PTSD.... But, now I can look back, and I'm alright... I had to learn to Forgive...Not only forgive my parents, but, also myself! We put a lot of blame on ourselves...Shame... Guilt...We falsely judge ourselves....I learned to Forgive and Love myself AND to forgive and Love those who hurt me...Hate eats us up on the inside.... Forgiveness and love is Healing...Freeing...and Brings so much Peace
Oh my gosh Cynthia, exactly the same heat for me, but with the added trauma that my father was a cop & also molested my sister. But she idolised him & still does. A classic case of Stockholm’s syndrome.
I'm yet another survivor. My father did go to prison, but it's left it's mark. Eating disorder, trust issues etc. I went on to marry someone worse than my father. I have divorced him and I'm finally able to begin my healing journey
I'm so sorry this happened to you . I can't fathom on top of all the pain caused by your father, how a mother can deny what happens to their child. My heart hurts so much for anyone who has experienced this. 💔
I was raped a number of times (never by a family member though) I felt dirty and tried to scrub myself clean in the shower, but the feeling wouldn't budge. I didn't tell my parents because I believed they would blame me. Both my parents are dead now, and I never told either of them. However, I dealt with it in rehab (yes, I became a drug addict) I'm now 32+ years drug & alcohol free & have dealt with many issues
Jesus is just that inner strength you have that you didn't know you had, because you give it a name, it becomes something stronger, something outside of yourself that can help, The ultimate friend... when in reality it is you the entire time.
@@ClaireCole-k7fThis is so sad that even if the mother knows, maybe she depends on the abuser financially. She sacrifices the child to avoid the stigma and being alone.
Same. I’m so sorry. Told her when I was 10 and again at 16 (2 different perpetrators). I was more or less overlooked for the first time and blamed for the second. My grandmother suspected and was ignored when she mentioned it. Some days I’m amazed I’m still here - truly ❤
She was not a mother. She may have felt powerless and afraid. But as the parent, she needed to be the adult and protect you from a monster. So sorry she did not.
It's almost identical to our story that began in 2006, apart from 2 different relationships and yet the same kind of trauma. Well done. What a healing movie. Impressive!
Yeah they get the blame for trying to break up the family destroy relationships.. "It is not your fault" became a big thing in the '80s because people would not tell because their family blamed them for breaking up their families for causing strife when in fact it's only the abuser that causes it.
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
@@FeastofTabernacles-iz1gi I am SURVIVOR of 10 years of sexual abuse by my step-father....i was 2 when my father died in the Korean War. Everytime the memories became too painful I would run, I lived in 14 different countries. My daughter was molested a government daycare when she was 4. I blamed myself for her pain as well because I thought if I had of went for proper counselling I would have been able to protect her and reconize the symptoms when it first happened. I went for professinal help and my Dr recommended to face my accuserr as the final step to healing > i could not believe the excuses he uses>>> my mother was ill and he had needs>>> he took us kids in and feed us I owed him>>> if it wasn"t him i would have lost my virginity by some other man>>> I was only five and didn"t even know what virginity was then>>>> he never assulted his own daughter as she was his own flesh and blood so it did not matter what I was. This man was a very high up in national security who escorted QE11 and other leaders so was a well respect community man. He was 72 when he was charged and had cancer by this time. I knew he had hurt others , 1 sister committed suicide and the other became a drug addict and died of an over dose. There were other young girls and women too. Half my family were angry with me and took years before they spoke to me. I only wanted an apology. Due to his illness he spent time under house arrest with no guests allowed except family. I work with victims of SA and tour the country giving help to young teenagers . I turned our 8 bedroom home into a refuge home for those who need a safe place to heal, return to school , university or community college. It is free due my inheirtance from my stepfather. We have had 37 girls stay with us in the last 20 yrs. It is not easy to find the strength to face the perpretator without plenty of support. Some of the girls who appear on the streets as wild and sexual active may be just trying to cope the best way they can until they can find the power of their voice to speak out. This is a well portrayed movie. They neglected to empathize how the victims that relive the trauma when fighting for justice in our court system.
This happens to boys too. Was abused as a little boy sexually. Then as a teen, the physical abuse. God is always with me. Now hopefully can help others with hope.
Am going to show this movie to my daughter. When I was pregnant with her I cried when the doctor told me I was having a girl. All I wanted was boys because I was so afraid I couldn’t protect her if something similar to what happened to me would happen to her, I didn’t think I was capable to protect her. I even had those nightmares of the past too. Now I have 2 girls and a boy and I thank God for giving me that privilege to be there mother
So sad the mother's reputation was more important than what the daughters and granddaughter went through and the dad was in total denial. Just sick!!!!!!!!
yes, but that was pretty typical of the time. People's images they portrayed they felt were more important than healing damage. Im not saying I agree, but have experienced enough of it it...
Wonderful movie, hit home 💔, replayed my life, step by step, father left, and 3 older brothers violated 3 younger sisters.....and mother took brother's side to avoid negative publicity. Mother is gone now but pain is still there, no one got prosecuted, slap on the wrist ..... yet we, sisters (1 died at 23) 2 of us have to somehow find a way to live. Hell pure hell when you are violated by your own family and so many ways. God help us 🙏💔
*God bless you and your sister. Tragic just tragic. I am so sorry this happened* *and that you lost your sister at 23. I will pray for you honey. Time doesn't* *heal all wounds. Please also seek help.* 😢😭💖🙏
The painful memories never go away, neither does the guilt, that somehow I as a child did something to bring about the abuse by my two brothers. I have never been able to have a healthy relationship with a man. I never married and I have no problem with never dating ever again. I just never felt safe with a man.
I watched the scene with Christy and her father a few times. I suppose he was trying to remain as calm as possible so Christy wouldn't get more frightened or distressed (and, God forbid, fall off that bridge); then the rescue workers would have an easier time getting them both to safety. I'm not sure how realistic/typical Christy's outburst was (that is, shouting about how much 'the horsey game hurt' with all those strangers in earshot, when she'd been scared into secrecy till just the day before). But the in-denial grandmother and wife of the perpetrator did, unfortunately, have a reaction which isn't that uncommon.
I was abused as a child, twice. I didn't tell as a kid until someone found out, even then I had blocked out so many memories especially the worst parts, my mother was no help she kept saying how she had it worse. She was raped as a kid but since I didn't remember I had it "better", then once I had my own kids I have has so many flashbacks of memories and ptsd issues from when I was a little kid, and I have had issues trusting people with my own kids especially my daughters. I am always worried about how adults are with my kids. Now I remember almost everything, how it felt how I wanted to move but couldn't, how I was raised to be quiet and not tell. I was the perfect victim no one noticed changes, no one saw it, I had two different abusers by the age of 9.
God, this movie depicts how the physical trauma comes to the conscious mind exactly. Waves of glimpses, colors, textures, feelings shut down, especially when it happened at pre-verbal stages.
As a child that this happened to back in the 70's I can see the signs. I make sure my kids knew and my grandbabies know they can tell me anything about everything. I'm not going to allow anyone be hurt in my life. Even if the person is 5 years older it's not ok they did nothing wrong.
This kind of attitude only perpetuates victim blaming. Maybe you would’ve done differently. But for a lot of us it’s an unbearably hard choice to make. This is someone that raised you. Someone that maybe in some ways had protected you and treated you like a parent. So of course you feel a love for them and it’s so insanely difficult to feel like you’re hurting them, despite the fact that they’re just getting what they deserve for the pain they put you through. The conversation with the brother at the hospital perfectly described the inner struggle constantly felt. The first person I ever told the truth told me that because I was still in that conflicted place despite what happened to me then I must have liked it. THAT is what’s disgusting.
My dad abused me when i was 11 up to 14 ,I'm now 49 I've lived with this all my life .,therapy never really helped me ,my abuser was never held accounted for as he has long passed now ,but for a very very long time I couldn't tell anyone what was happening too me as my dad use to say it was our little secret ,my mum had an incline something was going on but chose not to shop him till this day I hate her for it the abuse only ever happened too me not my brothers .To this day its shaped how I form relationships (I cant) This film really hit it home for me .
The father is reaping the cost of what he himself did to his very own two daughters and his granddaughter. A just reward. He’s reaping the seed that he has sown.
The subject matter of this movie, was important to share & bring to light, why sexual abuse within families is so difficult to acknowledge & navigate. It is a generational issue, it takes one brave member to speak the truth, & there goes the apple cart! It's usually the black sheep of the family, because they refuse to join the status quo & are willing speak the truth. Many a family member have been ostracized & blamed for causing the discord. Parents will often deny or disown their own children in order to avoid facing the truth. Those who speak out against the parent(s) are the brave & lonely ones. God Bless their courage💜🙏💐
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
I'm still recovering from all the abuse unfortunately my staff is adding it making me feel more guilty and worse I got out of a horrible relationship where I felt victimized all over again and he refused to accept his wrongs.
My husband also thought I was crazy & I suffered depression & bouts of crying, until I opened up to him & disclosed "The secret" then I began the healing process. I needed medication & counselling for years. Our marriage & relationship improved. We have now been married 50 years. He also told me of his abuse. We suffer in silence for years & nobody knows what's wrong. So sad.
I've seen this movie before but it was so good I decided to see it again actually this is the third time I've seen this anything Joanna kerns is in us worth watching she' is such a good actress right up there with Sally field Meryl Streep and other quality movie actresses
The grandma and the brother are more worried about the disruption in their lives, their reputations, and lifestyles than what’s happening to the little girl. The grandma is the epitome of denial. The brother is completely brainwashed. Not being believed and being made a scapegoat is another form of abuse.
If he believes it, he's lost his belief in what his dad is and he has to believe this really did happen to his sisters and daughter. He came around. For some of us, this is not fiction.
This movie is exactly what happened to my youngest 3 siblings out of 8 kids in my family .Growing up in Asia, the culture it's so suppressed to the point that if you're kid you're not suppose to speak up ,that's how we were raised ! My Dad was a monster !!! I pray to God to help me to forgive him but part of me want him be in hell for eternity! Please ,please my freinds out there ,if you have small children ,you need to pay close attention to your kids behavior and people around them .❤️🙏Please God save us all !
I am so sorry. Remember Jesus knows the hearts of man. He knows you want to forgive. We all deserve hell because sin is the wages of death. Romans 6 :23 23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Jesus also asks us to forgive as HE has forgiven us. Ephesians 4:32 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Jesus will never leave us nor forsake us. When you are feeling angry get on your knees and ask Jesus to help you. God Bless you in the name of Jesus.
Your testimonial is nothing but the truth. Many of us asians were raised not to speak. Unfortunately, I followed suit and did damage to my only child, I was an evil mum 😢
I'm too am so sorry you and your family suffered in such a manner. Your feelings are not wrong, it's up to YOU and no one else to decide whether you want to forgive or not to forgive. I never forgave my father for violently and verbally abusing me, and I don't care one bit that I feel as I do. God can forgive, but he must be truly repentant in order for that to happen. My mother never forgave my father for the violent abuse, and I for one don't blame her either.
‘Parents’ who do things like this make me sick to my stomach, and the worst thing is victims feeling bad for what they had done to them & make excuses like its ok.. human beings can be absolutely vile
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
I have found that Jesus is the answer I could forgive my stepfather but it was hard for me to forgive myself cuz I could not understand how a 10 year old child could could do something that would attract an adult to them. And yes my mother knew and if it wasn't for friends being at our home one time nothing would have been done. I find out years later after my mother passed that she blamed me. As I said jesus takes away the pain and if you listen to him he will tell you child it was not your fault
True. God is right there with you! God saw everything that happened to you and God has healed you in the wonderful Name of Jesus Christ Amen ❤I’m so sorry for the horrible things you have endured. Sorry 😞 But eternal life is yours, my friend through Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour 🎊
Letting Go of the past does not mean that what the predatory sick subhuman did to you is in any way less wrong, to rob you of your innocence and trust. You can let it go so it no longer impacts your present and your future. To release that horrible saga, celebrate the fact that you survived it, you are stronger for getting through this. The Full version of the Serenity Prayer, and the pure love, peace and grace and healing of the Holy Spirit, it's connected you to a very real relationship with the very Best Father You can let go of the toxic mind games, blame and guilt for the actions of this Paedophile. You were not protected by your Mother then, but you know that He was in the wrong. Letting Go is the gift you give yourself, Today. You don't have to carry this guilt another day longer, not even another hour longer.. you are Free and you know pure love acceptance from God the Father, his Son, our Lord and whatever you pray for in His name will be granted, (some prayers take a little longer, but He walks beside you His love and support is there for you anytime you need it, his hand is there, anytime you need a helping hand, if you stumble, He is right there to catch you, the Holy Spirit is the calm & blissful serenity. You are free of the chains that bound you carrying the burden of the secret you kept, because predators can be very convincing. You know better now, you know He was wrong The Father of Lies and pure evil is who speaks to him, for you do not feel guilty for the lies in his words and the pure evil in what was done to you - not by you - you have no guilt for the actions of a child molester. His judgement will be coming for the both of them. Holding onto the past, talking about it or even thinking about it, brings it back into your present. You deserve a release, now it is in the past, nothing for you to be guilty about - You are better than that! Hallelujah - You have found Pure Love, in the greatest Father there is, The Almighty is there to help you, every step you take. From now on, you can make good choices, to surround yourself with positive loving and very healthy relationships that is your reality if you choose to accept it.. Its the future you deserve, and will have from now on, if you accept you deserve this. Love yourself, you are a Child of God. He knows all of you, not just the faces you show outwardly, and He adores you Look forward and enjoy the blessings you have coming. Ask God what He wants you to do next, you will get an answer loud & clear.. Leave the peadophile to face the judgement he has to come. He's earned it. Your Mother too. When you become a Mother, you know what not to do!! God Bless you Sister. So proud of what you have overcome, survived and now you are thriving!!
True. In order to go on with your life, you need to forgive in Jesus' name. Acts 2:38 Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
Je ne peux pas regarder ce film...quand le vieux parle à sa fille à l hôpital j'ai tout compris de l abjecte suite Trop d horreurs sont faîtes aux enfants que je ne crois pas que s en remettre à la religion.... Il ne peut il y avoir un dieu qui veille sur nous Si c était le cas il foudroierait les tordus dès que l idée leur passerait sous la ceinture MÉDITATIONS URGENTES
Amazing writing. It’s disturbingly accurate; that’s exactly what abusers do. They say “that never happened” right up until there’s proof it did, and then it’s “why are you so upset about that”, and then it’s “how can you do this to me and ruin my life like this?” Veronica is stronger than I was, that’s for sure. When I had an opportunity to notify someone about what was going on, or if my mother might end up facing some kind of consequences, and she pulled the “how can you do this to me?” Card, I always backed down. Because abusers are so amazing at making you feel like you deserved it, and making you believe you’d be just as bad as they were if you turn them in. For example, I wanted to call the police on the drug dealer that almost killed my mother with sketchy counterfeit pills, and stole thousands of dollars from us, and she said “you have no right to ruin his life”. But he had a perfect right to do all the things HE did, hurting all three people in my family in one way or another.
Okay cel! - I feel you - almost same bs happened to me - it´s trauma sequelae - until the rest of our lifes - could not sleep tonight, bc of that - and just watched this movie - I guess I was quite strong in taking all this - but I am only human and my soul has her own ways to deal with the past. Something has triggered me - a couple of days ago - and here I am - sleepless - with memories of my childhood/youth is coming up in pieces - again. Had to go in -no contact - to all my past family abusers - they simply got away with it - I was the one, they called a liar and crazy - almost seems like those fu....narc. abusers always getting away with their kinky attitudes, right. I am 63 years old - and still have to deal with all that crap in my body and brain system - quite normal - while I am trying watching this movie - my very own movies are thriving through my systems. People who never had to go through those things - do only hardly understand, what trauma really does to you and with you. I am not a victim anymore - I am a survivor now - yes, indeed. When my memories finally - starting - just coming up - it was already too late for me - to sue those perpetrators - hopefully this narc. and sexual abuse will stop in the next generation - but I am not quite sure - yet.🙄🤔🤨
@@claudiaschneider5744 Hello my name is Mary: If l can suggest to you Claudia, to have "Deliverance Healing " ! Deliverance Healing is God based healing: every healing session takes you back to each time you were abused, the goodness of these healings is, that you enter the horror through the eyes of Jesus, what that means, there is NO reliving the trauma and horror, AND PAIN AGAIN... NONE. Jesus takes on the horror, because the process of the healing is you actually give Jesus the pain, shame and trauma.... you don't experience it. To get the healing process started... you go to A memory. You go to the memory to heal the TRAUMA what you took on in that act. Then the Priest or the Healer, takes you step by step what traumatised you, and you give those traumas to Jesus, how you give the traumas to Jesus by not wanting to keep them, the next step is the actually healing .... the emotional damage done to you in the sexual acts, NOW begins in the process of being healed. What happens you go into the memory and give over to Jesus, the pain, shame etc, WHATEVER is happened and whatever you felt in those moments, you REALISE you are not alone in yr horror Jesus is there now, with you ********very important Jesus was there with you every time this abuse happened to you, He was present: you were NOT ALONE HE WAS RIGHT BESIDE: the Priest asks you do you want to hold on to that abuse: **** at this stage the abuse that you are carrying ; have been carrying, is the shame, the hatred for that person, feeling worthless, having no control, feeling dirty, blaming yrself AND THE BELIEF you were the cause of the abuse because you exsist, suicidal, confusion, self hatred, experiencing given torture, hurt, no freedom, stuck, going mad, no way out etc.. these are the bad emotions you took on and live with them every day of yr life, and many more in that one sexual act: each one of these gets healed: by being reversed eg... each bad emotion gets healed by renouncing that evil: let's say self hatred.... the pray is... do you want to keep self hatred.... you of course say NO, the priest will ask you to choose the opposite of self hatred... you think, and answer its self love, then the Priest and you together pray " In the Name of Jesus l renounced self hatred etc.... and the Priest prays asks for yr opinion do you choose self love, you answe Yes, l choose to love myself In The Name of Jesus... etc, followed by I am A well Beloved daughter of God.... In the end you ask God for forgiveness for hating the abuser: YOU ASK GOD TO FORGIVE THE ABUSER: BY CHOOSING FORGIVENESS YOU ARE RELEASED from all those bad emotions. It's all in the forgiving. ... you realise that the abuser is just like you. ... he/she themselves were abused by someone in their own childhood. ##### There is more to this healing, l have only written a little. ONE IS NOT BORN A PAEDOPHILE: ONE IS TAUGHT TO BE A PAEDOPHILE: SEXUAL ABUSE DAMAGES THE MIND: ALL SEXUAL ACTS START IN THE MIND FIRST, THEN ARE CARRIED OUT AND PERFORMED WITH OUR BODILY FUNCTIONS. ▪︎▪︎▪︎▪︎THESE HEALINGS ARE LIFE CHANGING. ##### This is in America: Father receives emails from around the world, just type in his name and ask for his address, there is an automatic email where you leave yr own name address, he contacts you. Father will direct you what to do: OR... l can only suggest to you to go to a Roman Catholic Archdiocese and ask about Deliverance Healing: Or even better still contact a PRIEST: and he would inform you where you could get help:- Father Vincent P. Lampert: Pastor: 765-647-5462 (x 6) fax: 765-647-1634: *****St Michael Catholic Church: Parishes: Location:: 145 St. Michael Blvd, BROOKVILLE: Indiana 47012: Office Hours::: 8am - 4pm : Mon-Fri ::: Administrative Assistant Mrs. Carla Hertel: p
Abusers flip everything.. for example, when your husband beats the crap out of you, and the neighbor hears it and calls cops, and he goes to jail, then you start feeling guilt over him being locked up.. meanwhile he’s blaming you for making him so angry he lost control and beat the crap out of you…. Everything becomes backwards.. the victim is the one feeling guilt and the perpetrator is acting like the victim..
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
Whats really sad is that a person that has NEVER endured this kind of abuse & trauma that affects one's life, believe she THINKS SHE KNOWS she would react differently thus passing judgement. Fear & shame is a HUGE factor plus finding a good psychotherapist is really difficult to find. Too assumptions, too many judgements, too many "I would have handled it differently" from individuals that sadly just do not TRY to reach deep down inside & imagine the worst horror & betrayal imposed by ANYONE.
So emotional 😥 the worst pain is the fact that their mother doesn't seems to understand the trauma, pain, painful memories, emotional tortured and sleepless nights they went through it's a pain that can never go away a wound that can never be heal
The mother was concerned about nothing but her lifestyle and her social image and standing. She never protected her daughters; she was too busy being important.
I think she is in denial that it was real. I think that's going to happen a lot when people find out what's been happening in our governments and how many paedophiles and traffickers are in 'our' governments
It happened to my daughter she and her older brother told me after I left him he was their step dad as soon as they told me I believed then and Called the police and filed a report on my daughter's behalf thank god I left him or I would never have known any parent that chooses a man or woman over their child is not a parent as far as I'm concerned I stayed 19 years on my own after that I had a little girl to that man and we left him when she was 4 months I am now happily married to a wonderful man ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
How can a mother close her eyes to this criminal???? How can a father do this hellific crime to his children. Prosecute the bastard, perpetrator !!! Protect the child and stop the criminal. Get Justice, put him in jail …!!!
I can never forgive my late for what my stepfather did to me & to my younger sister. I was already an adult when he started groping him. I pushed him away with all my strength. My guardian angel must have protected me when suddenly I blurted my mom's name & he came to his senses. He knew he was in a wrong when he said pls do not mention abt what happened to my sick ailing mom. He got the balls to say that anything I say will cause my mom's death since she's sick with stage 4 lymphoma. I didn't say anything to my mom because I know it will definitely break her heart. I started to avoid him as much as I could. It was after my mom's passing that I learnt that he did the same to my younger sister & aunty too He made me feel that I was at fault, felt so dirty & vile. I leave it up to God for him to be punish for his actions
I’m always glad for a synopsis which often helps me to understand better before I have to get so far along into the movie 🎥 to understand what’s happening.
This movie brought up some really raw emotions for me that I keep thinking are already dealt with, but it is a story that needs told. People need to know
I'm 57yrs young and 'It" will always be there, in the back of your head. Calm and quiet or loud and fierce. But this is ok because it is part of our lives. I know how you feel as I have a feeling we were in the same boat. Be strong as you always are Penny and may 2023 give you all you need to be happy, healthy and safe, In every sense of the words. Peace xo see my comment above yours by 2 thx
I've lived with that "smothered feeling" my entire life. Learning to wear a CPAP mask in my 40's was really hard. Also can't stand having my limbs held in place by blankets etc. The body remembers as well as the mind.
My husband was very supportive, but it took me 14 years to tell him. I cannot be in a room with the door shut, nor drive in a car unless the window is down. I understand the smothered feeling and hate blankets only a cotton sheet but my feet must be uncovered. The CPAP mask did take many months of wearing it through the whole night.
WOW! Supper sad! Makes think that devil never sleeps! As a youth my single parent mom taught us never trust a man w/a child no mater what! As a parent always stay alert! Lord knows what she went through?
I had a repressed memory in my 30s from something that happened when I was 15. It didn’t come to light in a few days like it does for many. It came about gently and gradually over a matter of months or years. The brain is a weird thing.
Late post but my mom and my brothers father split up while she was pregnant...when he use to come by to see his son he use to wait until my mom left to the kitchen or something to show me his well erected penis, urging me to touch it... im 42 now and ive repressed those memories and they only returned after he came from overseas looking for me and proposing marriage and confessing his feelings for me and how he loved me from i was a baby. Mind you im 3 years older than my brother. 🤮🤮🤮..
And that's where the statute of limitations comes in.. " It was 30 years ago what can you do" Doesn't matter if it was 30 minutes ago it's still a crime and it still happened. Sometimes it takes 50 years for someone to come forward and say this happened to me.. It's usually men that take the longest.. cuz no one talks about men being abused as boys or even as men. This country has a lot of work to do.
The grandmother would rather keep the family image than to face and deal with the truth! She knew all along what he had been doing to them that’s why she never was around when they were younger! The brother don’t wanna betray his father! The older sister couldn’t cope with it all that’s why she turned to drugs and stayed away! The other sister showed courage and told!
I totally understand , you not alone Glyn Parker , I myself went through this torturement as a young child , I had to forgive in order to have some peace in my life , you are not alone 🙏
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
My mother heard me but wasn't listening. She basically ignored it. I can't talk to her ever since. My father molested me in the bath. Once. The other times he was anxious when I was wearing summer clothes. I will feel relief when he dies. I can't wait.
The scene where the dad climbs out to kristy when she ran away and was clinging to the bridge was so good. that’s a father! Protect and love your kids.
No he's not. He had the sick audacity to question weather he should participate in prosecuting his father just because it was his father. I swear if my husbands father did anything like that to any of our kids he'd probably kill him.
he was no dad of the year. He rather shut his little girls mouth than shut his fathers mouth. He wanted to protect his precious father at all coast, while his little girl would have to live with"this wasn't SO bad after all.."
This movie depicts each generation and how they deal with crime. The grandmother era shows that crime is tolerated and serial rapist, pedeophile, and serial killers run rampant. Well, my generation will stop them before they start and lock them up if the begin. No crime goes unpunished. Every person must seek the higher ground by being good.
what I do know is my mother turned a blind eye but to benefit from a pedophile who worked sometimes but not always. The pedolphie felt he had the "RIGHT" to do as he pleased by pushing the limits which were not his but ours. . I do regret not calling the police when I spoke to my mother and her deadbeat husband - because I was afraid that my sisters and I would be separated and never get together again due to CPS don't always keeps siblings together. Also, we were not of the age to provide financial assistance until we were not yet older enough to support this dysfunctional family. Until we got to be 18 years older and finished with high school which my own mother was desperate for someone to support this family since she lacked any education and her deadbeat didn't always wanted to work.
This movie was all to real for me, just a few differences in the story. 50yrs ago, my brother, myself 10-14 age range it happened a few times to many. I no longer talk [for 20yrs now] with sisters, brothers, mom has passed but would act as this mother did. My father, I never talked to or tried to speak about it. It never goes away, there is no closure when no one believes you. But life goes on, it has too for me, my son and his family. One more difference Not Rich over here!
@@cg9616 Thank you so very much. I have learned to live with it all behind me, I no longer let it be a part of my life. Took along time dealing with the mental and emotional agony, but at least I didn't turn out to be a wild murderer. LOL You are an angel for sending me condolences. Peace & Love & Respect cg9616
I feel so fortunate that I never had to deal with a situation like this. What a terrible thing that the father did to his daughter's and to his grand daughter. ( what a monster). And their mother was not any better. She was in denial. I guess the only thing that mattered to her was money, and the health of her husband. The old bastard should have dropped dead, or be put in jail. Thank you for loading a great movie❤❤
I think that her husband had a perfectly normal response in the beginning,because he had no idea what was going on ! He was finding it difficult to process it all the way through. Of course the whole process was a minefield. The fact that grandfather was still continuing to abuse was so very sick….Today if you report it to the police,they jump into action straight away ! Plus it’s mandated reporting for the professional counselling services and doctors !
I have known several families where the same problem was happening and no the police did not jump into action right away, nor did Child Protective Services.
Actually as a young person ( I’m 21 years old btw ) this kind of thing goes unreported the majority of the time because it’s still normalized and it’s so sickening to think about
I think the mother should have had some charges against her, as well, even if it was just neglact. I think usually mothers do know what is going on, and refuse to help. It is disgusting.
This brings back a lot of memories when I had my first child in 1982. I started having serious nightmares that would only fade when the baby reached about two years old and then my second the nightmares came rushing back and more worse, and then again fadeaway, and then I had my third and they were so Disturbing my sleep and constant nightmares on a regular basis throughout all the years of raising my three little girls I never told anyone because the nightmares were so horrific so scary and it was all about babies being abused and just horrible things. I don’t even know where it would come from. I was a person growing up. What were the church all the time didn’t like scary movies didn’t like being scared. Didn’t even like Halloween that much, I even went to a sleep clinic. They said they seen no problems. I slept beautifully and peacefully because I knew I was being watched and I was secure and taken care of. It wasn’t until I was 34 years old and my youngest baby soon to be four, and my constant picture, a photograph of a memory that was always on the edge of my vision constantly I could never grasp it or see it, I was losing time also, I would all sitting up here somewhere wondering how I got there. I think it was those times from that picture that memory became full on into my view and it was blocked out and I was removed for a short time I would have out of body experiences even as a child. I would fantasize, leaving the classroom and flying and being above everything as I get older, these OBES WOULDsend me around the world. That fateful day, when the full Ness of the memory became apparent to me fully at 34 years of age, I realized, at that moment, all those nightmares, all that fear all the horrific pictures of babies being abused with me and all my abuse that I recalled was of oral sexual abuse by a woman either my aunt, or my mother at this point or even my grandma I don’t know the face is blocked, I was relieved when I relived it or that it became to my fall awareness and all I could really sick of his. I’m not crazy I’m OK and everybody else is I was always so fearful of telling anyone for fear they would think I was crazy and take my kids away, and at the same time, their father, my husband of 30 years until we divorced was very mentally and emotionally abusive in which steadily got worse through the years which only added of course to my fears I’m 66 years old now I’m doing well it is sad to think back of my babies because I don’t get to remember much it’s blocked out I think I survived all those years in different boxes of coping mechanisms even as a child are used those coping boxes to prepare me for whatever the Days events handed me
That grandmom was so adamantly disconnected with the main character, especially with leaving the baby with babysitters, that its no wonder the abuse happened right under her nose
This happened to me from a very young age but it was an uncle not my dad I want to make that clear. I will always feel broken because I never got closure 🙏
While in Middle School, I stayed all night with a friend. I slept in her bed by myself. That night I woke in the dark, and was being assaulted by her older brother. Afterwards I told my mom, and she said we shouldn’t say anything because it was our neighbors. Mom saying that was the worst part of it all. It was like she didn’t believe me. She didn’t say that, but it felt that way. Later I became a sexually acting out teenager. My rights to my own body didn’t mean anything to me anymore. In college while on a first date the man seemed very scary to me. It was overbearing and felt very threatening. I let him have his way because I felt like he was going to get violent if I didn’t. I never told anybody about that. All of it is mentally and spiritually damaging.
You poor girl, this is the only comment I believe because you didn’t talk crap about jesus and god, you worded it in such a way i believe you totally.. sending my love and respect to you beautiful stranger.. ❤❤
He gave me harmony! When I was a little girl of age, something bad was done to me, that caused so much damage, as that little girl's heart broke into sadness, by some adult's madness! The abuse gave me many years of agony, until I surrendered my life to the Lord, and found myself in harmony. Finally I understood that He always had loved me, and He had felt the pain I felt ; that made my heart melt. He helped me to forgive the abusers, as His love for me changed my heart for real, and He little by little the wounds would heal. Today, my heart aches for those who have gone through the same, and thought it was some adult's game. I pray for them with deep compassion and sorrow, as I hope for them a better tomorrow ; and that they will turn to the Lord with all their agony, as He is the only One who can give them harmony! 25.12.2020.
Beloved many men do other family members know and let shame stop them from doing anything. Many babies given up by their parents are product of incest.
This hit home. I was sexually abused by my own father for 15 years. My mom said this when I finally revealed it when I was 17 " What are you complaining about? He left you a virgin"! It made my skin crawl in this movie that he molested his grandaughter. In this movie her father an dmother are in great denieal. One movie mistake at the end. Unless she was pumping she would not be able to nurse, she would have been dried up.
I know that it's only a film but we know that such things happen. The mother in this film is as evil as the father. Parents role is to protect their children, especially a mother's. She carried that child for 9 months and she should always side with her child against her husband. ANY PERSON WHO HARMS A POOR DEFENCELESS CHILD SHOULD GO TO PRISON FOR LIFE. AND I MEAN LIFE !!!!
@@pedrojacqueline1032 When she said that she was so desperate for validating her own disgusting pig pedo husband raping her daughters, and grandchild! Flirting. I wonder how many Wives in real life of pedo husbands use that excuse for molestation.
THIS MOVIE GIVES US ALL SO MUCH TO REFLECT ON AS SO MANY OF US EXPERIENCED THIS TERRIBLE ABUSE AS CHILDREN AND THE PERPATRATORS GOT AWAY WITH IT BECAUSE WE WERE TOO SCARED TO SPEAK UP BUT THERE IS KARMA THATS FIR SURE
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
@@stephaniebach__12-24 it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
As I used to say about my stepfather: if he didn’t want to be known as a child molester, he shouldn’t have been molesting children. Not anyone’s fault but his. My abuser took his final breath in prison where he couldn’t hurt anymore innocent little girls, but not until after both of my sisters had committed suicide 😭
@@kimberleybruesch3876 omg bless your heart 😢😢 I'm so sorry!! I also had a stepfather like that, but mine also claimed to be a "preacher"!! I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't even begin to imagine what that must be like. I hope you've been able to heal at least somewhat. May I ask how old they were?
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No matter what, I would 100% believe my 5 yr old daughter and never would I make her feel that she was to blame, even if she was 5 or 50… ❣️ All you have to do is see the pain and fear in their eyes… That’s good enough for me………… 💔 Such a powerful film ❣️
I have worked with kids in care for 8 yrs, 5 to 18 yr olds and to see the damage that it’s done is heartbreaking.
I saw the signs that my nephew was being abused by his kick boxing coach, my sister was being groomed so that he could, 💔 I didn’t want her to say “I bet your saying I told you so”… I wanted to be their for her and most of all my nephew, to rebuild his life.
He has and has met the love of his life and have the most beautiful son. 🥰 Be aware and care enough to do something about it…. 💞
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Would you do the same thing for the neighbors daughter or your daughters classmate?
@@nussknacker9827 of course i would..
I've worked with abused kids for 8 yrs?????
❤ this is how it came full circle for me.. once I became a mama and felt the enormous rage of realizing we weren't protected and no little girl should know how to please their daddies.. sickening that as we speak many children are still being abused 😢❤
So sorry you experienced this kind of betrayal and pain.
I hope you are healing your soul. God bless you❤️
Now it is promoted by the liberal far left, still there's people who will vote for them knowing this. 🤦
This woman was MADE for lifetime movies. She has managed to *NAIL EACH & EVERY LIFETIME FILM PLACED IN HER LAP.* She is a huge asset to the film industry.
Totally agree 💯 with you ❤
@@hollyh314 ❤️❤️❤️❤️😘
@@latimoreshenii3334 thanks for the reply! Xoxo
YESSSSSSSSSSSS
Absolutely she’s a great actress ❤
I think Joanna Kern and Donna Mills are the top "queens" of violent subject matter in movie dramas. But, each and every actress who portrays these roles deserves an Emmy. These topics take a lot out of you.
To all the commenters who shared their stories of pain, I am so sorry you went through that trauma and I hope you know you have friends out here in You tube land that care about you. Much love from central PA
i just knew there'd be lots of comments on their own experiences, and it's messed up that these kinds of things happen. the lack of support from the mother, was infuriating. i can only imagine the pain real victims go through; my heart goes out to them
It is a painful stain
Wonderful movie. One of the best movies I've ever seen about child abuse. The actresses and actors are all great. The movie is very inspirational that there's a way to move forward and heal even after such a horrible tragedy, but it shows that one must face the truth and have the courage to stand up against the abuser.
The writing, the acting, the realistic view of what it's like to remember the nightmare of what happened when they were too young to defend themselves from their own flesh and blood. The complicit mother in denial. This is a story that hits at the heart of so many. It is in the simplest form a public service and I hope anyone who has experienced this trauma will seek professional help. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you. Love and Blessings from Germany to you.💖💫🕊️
@@liviamoon Love, blessings and support from me to you.💖🌞🌺
What do you mean by professional help? A lawyer? That is expensive and unaffordable for most people (over half of the people who live on the street in France were sexually abused by their 'family' when they were children) and as there is seldom any hard evidence, the police will refuse to register a complaint. Suggesting that victims of child sexual abuse should get psychiatric help is extremely offensive. Of course it is a nice little earner for the shrinks and for Big Pharma. It doesn't work though: still in France, half the people who commit suicide each year were sexually abused as children. The victims who manage to get their abusers convicted seldom commit suicide, it's the victims who got 'professional help' who commit suicide.
@@yehmen29The myth about getting "help" will continue. Rehab and counseling centers are major sponsors of shows and movies that cover psychological issues. No mention of the stats is ever made.
Unfortunately this happens so much this is nothing knew it happened in my family back in the 1930s this subject was realistically and we'll played such a sad tragic situation that causes so much pain 😢😢😢
Blocked memories are our protection to ourselves.. but we can't control a trigger to trauma we experience in our lives .
Movies in 2023 cannot compare to these great acting and awareness movies!❤
Yes what happened to the quality of the movies..
@@Carousel5883People are too busy on instagram and are about as deep as teaspoons.
I agree. I love these older movies.
Movies in 2023 glorify this behavior.
I knew I wasn't alone. I loved curling up with these films. The movies they make now are predictable. I like to be on the edge of my seat
I think anyone should cut connection with people,who make you unhappy, even if they they are your family members.
@ Hua absolutely true. Life is too short to be surrounded by toxic ppl.
I learnt that at a late age, the freedom & relief is incredible
Respect,it’s sad how some let it go on and knowing it’s wrong n every aspect
I believe this is a great advice and I had done so myself.
Respect,exactly n ✌️triple times
True...if one can't join them avoid them...for them not to destroy your inner peace
A very good movie! A story that needed to be told! My prayers go out to each and every child that has had to endure abuse at the hands of their father! I pray healing for each and every one! Hugs
Even at the age of 82, this film brought back memories 😮of my childhood like it was yesterday. We do not choose the family we are born into and have no obligation to condone abuse, tolerate or forgive the perpetrator, no matter who it is. If the abuser is a parent, sibling or any other family member, that person has no right to scar an innocent child, they are first and foremost, an abuser and criminal. The bruises that are not visible do the most damage, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. You never really recover.
Too true. I will never forget.
I always feel that a mother doesn't want to realise that she wasted her life being married to a pervert.
Not all men are like that, there are a very few good men like my dad.
You are correct. My experience as you.
I know it's sad
I'm sorry that happened to you 😢
I no longer speak to my mother. Its been 15 yrs. Looking the other way is almost worse. Not protecting children is pure evil.
This was so well scripted, the actors did an amazing job on such a tragic topic. Thanks for sharing.
Bravo to Kerns, for taking this role. Too much molestation goes on in families. We need to discuss this topic everyday.
Toxic relationships with a family member is NOT worth it..they are hard to sever but in the end its best for YOUR mental health !!!
So true!
Agreed!
AMEN TO THAT ONE 🙏 🙌 ❤
Veronica knew right away when she first saw Christie’s face. Good for her.
My father was sexually molesting me when I was little, back in the
1960s....I never said anything until I was an adult, married, and children of my own....
Never confronted my father. My mother wouldn't believe me when I told her...Thing is, though...she knew...
Just like the grandmother in the movie did....
It took many, many years for me to heal...
There's a lot of trauma...PTSD....
But, now I can look back, and I'm alright...
I had to learn to
Forgive...Not only forgive my parents, but, also myself! We put a lot of blame on ourselves...Shame...
Guilt...We falsely judge ourselves....I learned to
Forgive and Love myself AND to forgive and Love those who hurt me...Hate eats us up on the inside....
Forgiveness and love is
Healing...Freeing...and
Brings so much
Peace
Oh my gosh Cynthia, exactly the same heat for me, but with the added trauma that my father was a cop & also molested my sister. But she idolised him & still does. A classic case of Stockholm’s syndrome.
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@@corrinaridewood bless you, every little piece of compassion helps 🙏
I'm yet another survivor. My father did go to prison, but it's left it's mark. Eating disorder, trust issues etc. I went on to marry someone worse than my father. I have divorced him and I'm finally able to begin my healing journey
I'm so sorry this happened to you . I can't fathom on top of all the pain caused by your father, how a mother can deny what happens to their child. My heart hurts so much for anyone who has experienced this. 💔
My children came first over their father. I watched over my kids even with their own father. Just my protective nature.
I was raped a number of times (never by a family member though) I felt dirty and tried to scrub myself clean in the shower, but the feeling wouldn't budge.
I didn't tell my parents because I believed they would blame me.
Both my parents are dead now, and I never told either of them.
However, I dealt with it in rehab (yes, I became a drug addict) I'm now 32+ years drug & alcohol free & have dealt with many issues
That's an incredible recovery. Long may you thrive. ❤
@@manichairdo9265 thank you 🙏
Well done! You should be so proud of yourself ❤
@@iramdin8827 Thanks. Yes, I am. I'll be celebrating 33yrs clean on Monday 17th April (next week)
I'm so sorry to hear that. Maybe you should have told your parents; you never know if they would have been supportive or not.
“If anyone causes harm to any of My little ones, it is better that a millstone be put around their neck, and they be cast into the sea.” Jesus
I'd make that happen for the Lord too.
Karen..my dad did this to me..I found Jesus at 19yrs..and I had the privilege to pray with my dad 3 days before he died and he accepted Jesus 🙏 😊
Jesus is just that inner strength you have that you didn't know you had, because you give it a name, it becomes something stronger, something outside of yourself that can help, The ultimate friend... when in reality it is you the entire time.
Oh For sure .
@@pamboire6973 God bless you fr. When God changes your heart, He changes it to look more like Him♥️
This happen to me while I was 7 and I told my mother and she never believed me and ever since then I have never look at my mother the same.
I'm so sorry, that's sad but not unusual. Denial is easier for them !
So sorry to hear that, the one you trust to believe you and doesn't.
@@ClaireCole-k7fThis is so sad that even if the mother knows, maybe she depends on the abuser financially. She sacrifices the child to avoid the stigma and being alone.
Same. I’m so sorry. Told her when I was 10 and again at 16 (2 different perpetrators). I was more or less overlooked for the first time and blamed for the second. My grandmother suspected and was ignored when she mentioned it. Some days I’m amazed I’m still here - truly ❤
She was not a mother. She may have felt powerless and afraid. But as the parent, she needed to be the adult and protect you from a monster. So sorry she did not.
It's almost identical to our story that began in 2006, apart from 2 different relationships and yet the same kind of trauma. Well done. What a healing movie. Impressive!
This movie hits home! 💔. It’s crazy how victims are the ones who get the blame smh!
Yeah they get the blame for trying to break up the family destroy relationships.. "It is not your fault" became a big thing in the '80s because people would not tell because their family blamed them for breaking up their families for causing strife when in fact it's only the abuser that causes it.
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
I always got the impression my mother thought that I brought it on myself
@@juliemunro1 this could be because this happened to her as a child and she blamed herself ... understanding is the begining of TRUE forgiveness
@@FeastofTabernacles-iz1gi I am SURVIVOR of 10 years of sexual abuse by my step-father....i was 2 when my father died in the Korean War. Everytime the memories became too painful I would run, I lived in 14 different countries. My daughter was molested a government daycare when she was 4. I blamed myself for her pain as well because I thought if I had of went for proper counselling I would have been able to protect her and reconize the symptoms when it first happened. I went for professinal help and my Dr recommended to face my accuserr as the final step to healing > i could not believe the excuses he uses>>> my mother was ill and he had needs>>> he took us kids in and feed us I owed him>>> if it wasn"t him i would have lost my virginity by some other man>>> I was only five and didn"t even know what virginity was then>>>> he never assulted his own daughter as she was his own flesh and blood so it did not matter what I was. This man was a very high up in national security who escorted QE11 and other leaders so was a well respect community man. He was 72 when he was charged and had cancer by this time. I knew he had hurt others , 1 sister committed suicide and the other became a drug addict and died of an over dose. There were other young girls and women too. Half my family were angry with me and took years before they spoke to me. I only wanted an apology. Due to his illness he spent time under house arrest with no guests allowed except family.
I work with victims of SA and tour the country giving help to young teenagers . I turned our 8 bedroom home into a refuge home for those who need a safe place to heal, return to school , university or community college. It is free due my inheirtance from my stepfather. We have had 37 girls stay with us in the last 20 yrs.
It is not easy to find the strength to face the perpretator without plenty of support. Some of the girls who appear on the streets as wild and sexual active may be just trying to cope the best way they can until they can find the power of their voice to speak out.
This is a well portrayed movie. They neglected to empathize how the victims that relive the trauma when fighting for justice in our court system.
Joanna Kerns is an amazing actress! Please give her all the awards she deserves if you haven't yet.
The mother was as abusive as her father but in different ways.
@ Tania you got that right!
YES, IN DIFF WAYS
The mom was busy dressing up and going to country clubs.
Mother's a b***
This happens to boys too. Was abused as a little boy sexually. Then as a teen, the physical abuse.
God is always with me.
Now hopefully can help others with hope.
I am so sorry. Please continue to be strong.
The reaction of the mother is unbelievable
God bless you and what you’re doing to help.❤❤
I am so sorry. I myself was raped and it was my first time. Fortunately it was not a family member. My heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing.
@@jenniferbattiglia4237 thank you. Im sorry you were abused . I hope you’re ok.
Joanne kerns and Judith Light remind me of eachother, they are both incredibly excellent at their craft and I love them both!!
Am going to show this movie to my daughter. When I was pregnant with her I cried when the doctor told me I was having a girl. All I wanted was boys because I was so afraid I couldn’t protect her if something similar to what happened to me would happen to her, I didn’t think I was capable to protect her. I even had those nightmares of the past too. Now I have 2 girls and a boy and I thank God for giving me that privilege to be there mother
So sad the mother's reputation was more important than what the daughters and granddaughter went through and the dad was in total denial. Just sick!!!!!!!!
yes, but that was pretty typical of the time. People's images they portrayed they felt were more important than healing damage. Im not saying I agree, but have experienced enough of it it...
@@lisawentworth6831don’t forget people with money in those days can’t be touched
This film is so well made, factual and credible. I was blown away by the acting.
I feel so fortunate I never experienced such horrific trauma in my own life. My empathy for those that have is tremendous and heartfelt.
That's kind and empathetic of u
The effects of abuse are lifelong. You can reason as an adult but you never forgive & forget. I'm 70 now .
Wonderful movie, hit home 💔, replayed my life, step by step, father left, and 3 older brothers violated 3 younger sisters.....and mother took brother's side to avoid negative publicity. Mother is gone now but pain is still there, no one got prosecuted, slap on the wrist ..... yet we, sisters (1 died at 23) 2 of us have to somehow find a way to live. Hell pure hell when you are violated by your own family and so many ways. God help us 🙏💔
😢😢😢
God can bring peace when it seems impossible.
He has to me. He can for you.
*God bless you and your sister. Tragic just tragic. I am so sorry this happened*
*and that you lost your sister at 23. I will pray for you honey. Time doesn't*
*heal all wounds. Please also seek help.* 😢😭💖🙏
The painful memories never go away, neither does the guilt, that somehow I as a child did something to bring about the abuse by my two brothers. I have never been able to have a healthy relationship with a man. I never married and I have no problem with never dating ever again. I just never felt safe with a man.
Thank you telling your story
What surprises me is Christy's father and grandmother didn't even get that upset about the grandfather raping the little girl.
I would have unplugged his machines.
I think they groom the parents and all the people around them.
@@kimgatlin8371 play horsy with him!
@@kimgatlin8371set his ass on 🔥 right n that bed
I watched the scene with Christy and her father a few times. I suppose he was trying to remain as calm as possible so Christy wouldn't get more frightened or distressed (and, God forbid, fall off that bridge); then the rescue workers would have an easier time getting them both to safety. I'm not sure how realistic/typical Christy's outburst was (that is, shouting about how much 'the horsey game hurt' with all those strangers in earshot, when she'd been scared into secrecy till just the day before). But the in-denial grandmother and wife of the perpetrator did, unfortunately, have a reaction which isn't that uncommon.
I was abused as a child, twice. I didn't tell as a kid until someone found out, even then I had blocked out so many memories especially the worst parts, my mother was no help she kept saying how she had it worse. She was raped as a kid but since I didn't remember I had it "better", then once I had my own kids I have has so many flashbacks of memories and ptsd issues from when I was a little kid, and I have had issues trusting people with my own kids especially my daughters. I am always worried about how adults are with my kids. Now I remember almost everything, how it felt how I wanted to move but couldn't, how I was raised to be quiet and not tell. I was the perfect victim no one noticed changes, no one saw it, I had two different abusers by the age of 9.
This is so sad. Sorry for such pain. it's okay not to trust your children with other adults.
Really sorry for you😢 we got similar experiences. Just can’t face it😢
She's a really good actress.
God, this movie depicts how the physical trauma comes to the conscious mind exactly. Waves of glimpses, colors, textures, feelings shut down, especially when it happened at pre-verbal stages.
Your family or not . Always do the right thing.Speak the truth is the right thing . And the TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE
AMEN AMEN AMEN
SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO BREAK FAMILY TIES 👔 💯 % COMPLETELY AND NOT EVER LOOK BACK AND FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT
The truth should put some people in jail for life. Unfortunately victims are too often not believed.
As a child that this happened to back in the 70's I can see the signs. I make sure my kids knew and my grandbabies know they can tell me anything about everything. I'm not going to allow anyone be hurt in my life. Even if the person is 5 years older it's not ok they did nothing wrong.
This movie is disgusting. Even after all of that sexual abuse, this stupid family is still trying to protect their predatory father. Smh
Unfortunately that is reality.
The story is disgusting. The movie is just portraying what has and is still happening everyday in some poor child's life!@
This kind of attitude only perpetuates victim blaming. Maybe you would’ve done differently. But for a lot of us it’s an unbearably hard choice to make. This is someone that raised you. Someone that maybe in some ways had protected you and treated you like a parent. So of course you feel a love for them and it’s so insanely difficult to feel like you’re hurting them, despite the fact that they’re just getting what they deserve for the pain they put you through. The conversation with the brother at the hospital perfectly described the inner struggle constantly felt. The first person I ever told the truth told me that because I was still in that conflicted place despite what happened to me then I must have liked it. THAT is what’s disgusting.
@@Death4271Thank you for sharing your story.😢❤️I wish you all the very best in your life 😢
That’s why actual perps remain at large and they continue with their dirty jobs.. these things are not reported…
I always believe my child. Over any person. Regardless if they are a family member or not. Children over spouses. Always.
My dad abused me when i was 11 up to 14 ,I'm now 49 I've lived with this all my life .,therapy never really helped me ,my abuser was never held accounted for as he has long passed now ,but for a very very long time I couldn't tell anyone what was happening too me as my dad use to say it was our little secret ,my mum had an incline something was going on but chose not to shop him till this day I hate her for it the abuse only ever happened too me not my brothers .To this day its shaped how I form relationships (I cant) This film really hit it home for me .
The father is reaping the cost of what he himself did to his very own two daughters and his granddaughter. A just reward. He’s reaping the seed that he has sown.
The subject matter of this movie, was important to share & bring to light, why sexual abuse within families is so difficult to acknowledge & navigate. It is a generational issue, it takes one brave member to speak the truth, & there goes the apple cart! It's usually the black sheep of the family, because they refuse to join the status quo & are willing speak the truth. Many a family member have been ostracized & blamed for causing the discord. Parents will often deny or disown their own children in order to avoid facing the truth.
Those who speak out against the parent(s) are the brave & lonely ones. God Bless their courage💜🙏💐
Joanna Kerns is a highly underrated actress
This was very painful to watch. I was a victim of child abuse by my own stepfather, it took me years to work through it
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
I'm still recovering from all the abuse unfortunately my staff is adding it making me feel more guilty and worse I got out of a horrible relationship where I felt victimized all over again and he refused to accept his wrongs.
So sorry 😔
My husband also thought I was crazy & I suffered depression & bouts of crying, until I opened up to him & disclosed "The secret" then I began the healing process. I needed medication & counselling for years. Our marriage & relationship improved. We have now been married 50 years. He also told me of his abuse. We suffer in silence for years & nobody knows what's wrong. So sad.
I've seen this movie before but it was so good I decided to see it again actually this is the third time I've seen this anything Joanna kerns is in us worth watching she' is such a good actress right up there with Sally field Meryl Streep and other quality movie actresses
The grandma and the brother are more worried about the disruption in their lives, their reputations, and lifestyles than what’s happening to the little girl.
The grandma is the epitome of denial. The brother is completely brainwashed.
Not being believed and being made a scapegoat is another form of abuse.
it's his own child, and he can't make up his mind to protecting his own child or sister, ot making daddy mad
If he believes it, he's lost his belief in what his dad is and he has to believe this really did happen to his sisters and daughter. He came around. For some of us, this is not fiction.
This movie is exactly what happened to my youngest 3 siblings out of 8 kids in my family .Growing up in Asia, the culture it's so suppressed to the point that if you're kid you're not suppose to speak up ,that's how we were raised ! My Dad was a monster !!! I pray to God to help me to forgive him but part of me want him be in hell for eternity! Please ,please my freinds out there ,if you have small children ,you need to pay close attention to your kids behavior and people around them .❤️🙏Please God save us all !
I am so sorry. Remember Jesus knows the hearts of man. He knows you want to forgive. We all deserve hell because sin is the wages of death. Romans 6 :23 23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Jesus also asks us to forgive as HE has forgiven us. Ephesians 4:32 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Jesus will never leave us nor forsake us. When you are feeling angry get on your knees and ask Jesus to help you. God Bless you in the name of Jesus.
Your testimonial is nothing but the truth. Many of us asians were raised not to speak. Unfortunately, I followed suit and did damage to my only child, I was an evil mum 😢
I'm too am so sorry you and your family suffered in such a manner. Your feelings are not wrong, it's up to YOU and no one else to decide whether you want to forgive or not to forgive. I never forgave my father for violently and verbally abusing me, and I don't care one bit that I feel as I do. God can forgive, but he must be truly repentant in order for that to happen. My mother never forgave my father for the violent abuse, and I for one don't blame her either.
Sorry
@@billieteo7145 You're not an evil mum and it's the abuser that is the problem and evil not you.
Thank you for sharing this movie on RUclips. It really brings up family secrets .
‘Parents’ who do things like this make me sick to my stomach, and the worst thing is victims feeling bad for what they had done to them & make excuses like its ok.. human beings can be absolutely vile
"Let's not talk about unpleasant things", my mother's mantra.
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
It is so easy...No confrontation.
Everything ok
I have found that Jesus is the answer I could forgive my stepfather but it was hard for me to forgive myself cuz I could not understand how a 10 year old child could could do something that would attract an adult to them. And yes my mother knew and if it wasn't for friends being at our home one time nothing would have been done. I find out years later after my mother passed that she blamed me. As I said jesus takes away the pain and if you listen to him he will tell you child it was not your fault
True. God is right there with you! God saw everything that happened to you and God has healed you in the wonderful Name of Jesus Christ Amen ❤I’m so sorry for the horrible things you have endured. Sorry 😞 But eternal life is yours, my friend through Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour 🎊
Letting Go of the past does not mean that what the predatory sick subhuman did to you is in any way less wrong, to rob you of your innocence and trust. You can let it go so it no longer impacts your present and your future. To release that horrible saga, celebrate the fact that you survived it, you are stronger for getting through this. The Full version of the Serenity Prayer, and the pure love, peace and grace and healing of the Holy Spirit, it's connected you to a very real relationship with the very Best Father You can let go of the toxic mind games, blame and guilt for the actions of this Paedophile. You were not protected by your Mother then, but you know that He was in the wrong. Letting Go is the gift you give yourself, Today. You don't have to carry this guilt another day longer, not even another hour longer.. you are Free and you know pure love acceptance from God the Father, his Son, our Lord and whatever you pray for in His name will be granted, (some prayers take a little longer, but He walks beside you His love and support is there for you anytime you need it, his hand is there, anytime you need a helping hand, if you stumble, He is right there to catch you, the Holy Spirit is the calm & blissful serenity. You are free of the chains that bound you carrying the burden of the secret you kept, because predators can be very convincing. You know better now, you know He was wrong
The Father of Lies and pure evil is who speaks to him, for you do not feel guilty for the lies in his words and the pure evil in what was done to you - not by you - you have no guilt for the actions of a child molester. His judgement will be coming for the both of them.
Holding onto the past, talking about it or even thinking about it, brings it back into your present.
You deserve a release, now it is in the past, nothing for you to be guilty about - You are better than that!
Hallelujah - You have found Pure Love, in the greatest Father there is, The Almighty is there to help you, every step you take. From now on, you can make good choices, to surround yourself with positive loving and very healthy relationships that is your reality if you choose to accept it.. Its the future you deserve, and will have from now on, if you accept you deserve this. Love yourself, you are a Child of God. He knows all of you, not just the faces you show outwardly, and He adores you Look forward and enjoy the blessings you have coming. Ask God what He wants you to do next, you will get an answer loud & clear.. Leave the peadophile to face the judgement he has to come. He's earned it. Your Mother too. When you become a Mother, you know what not to do!! God Bless you Sister. So proud of what you have overcome, survived and now you are thriving!!
True. In order to go on with your life, you need to forgive in Jesus' name.
Acts 2:38 Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
Je ne peux pas regarder ce film...quand le vieux parle à sa fille à l hôpital j'ai tout compris de l abjecte suite
Trop d horreurs sont faîtes aux enfants que je ne crois pas que s en remettre à la religion....
Il ne peut il y avoir un dieu qui veille sur nous
Si c était le cas il foudroierait les tordus dès que l idée leur passerait sous la ceinture
MÉDITATIONS URGENTES
Would Jesus be so kind as to order and pay for a kebab and chips for me please I shall therefore become a believer
Amazing writing. It’s disturbingly accurate; that’s exactly what abusers do. They say “that never happened” right up until there’s proof it did, and then it’s “why are you so upset about that”, and then it’s “how can you do this to me and ruin my life like this?”
Veronica is stronger than I was, that’s for sure. When I had an opportunity to notify someone about what was going on, or if my mother might end up facing some kind of consequences, and she pulled the “how can you do this to me?” Card, I always backed down. Because abusers are so amazing at making you feel like you deserved it, and making you believe you’d be just as bad as they were if you turn them in.
For example, I wanted to call the police on the drug dealer that almost killed my mother with sketchy counterfeit pills, and stole thousands of dollars from us, and she said “you have no right to ruin his life”.
But he had a perfect right to do all the things HE did, hurting all three people in my family in one way or another.
Okay cel! - I feel you - almost same bs happened to me - it´s trauma sequelae - until the rest of our lifes - could not sleep tonight, bc of that - and just watched this movie - I guess I was quite strong in taking all this - but I am only human and my soul has her own ways to deal with the past. Something has triggered me - a couple of days ago - and here I am - sleepless - with memories of my childhood/youth is coming up in pieces - again. Had to go in -no contact - to all my past family abusers - they simply got away with it - I was the one, they called a liar and crazy - almost seems like those fu....narc. abusers always getting away with their kinky attitudes, right. I am 63 years old - and still have to deal with all that crap in my body and brain system - quite normal - while I am trying watching this movie - my very own movies are thriving through my systems.
People who never had to go through those things - do only hardly understand, what trauma really does to you and with you. I am not a victim anymore - I am a survivor now - yes, indeed.
When my memories finally - starting - just coming up - it was already too late for me - to sue those perpetrators - hopefully this narc. and sexual abuse will stop in the next generation - but I am not quite sure - yet.🙄🤔🤨
in msnc
@@claudiaschneider5744
Hello my name is Mary:
If l can suggest to you Claudia, to have "Deliverance Healing " !
Deliverance Healing is God based healing: every healing session takes you back to each time you were abused,
the goodness of these healings is, that you enter the horror through the eyes of Jesus, what that means, there is NO reliving the trauma and horror, AND PAIN AGAIN... NONE.
Jesus takes on the horror, because the process of the healing is you actually give Jesus the pain, shame and trauma.... you don't experience it.
To get the healing process started... you go to A memory. You go to the memory to heal the TRAUMA what you took on in that act. Then the Priest or the Healer, takes you step by step what traumatised you, and you give those traumas to Jesus, how you give the traumas to Jesus by not wanting to keep them, the next step is the actually healing ....
the emotional damage done to you in the sexual acts, NOW begins in the process of being healed.
What happens you go into the memory and give over to Jesus, the pain, shame etc, WHATEVER is happened and whatever you felt in those moments, you REALISE you are not alone in yr horror Jesus is there now, with you
********very important Jesus was there with you every time this abuse happened to you, He was present: you were NOT ALONE HE WAS RIGHT BESIDE: the Priest asks you do you want to hold on to that abuse:
**** at this stage the abuse that you are carrying ; have been carrying, is the shame, the hatred for that person, feeling worthless, having no control, feeling dirty, blaming yrself AND THE BELIEF you were the cause of the abuse because you exsist, suicidal, confusion, self hatred, experiencing given torture, hurt, no freedom, stuck, going mad, no way out etc..
these are the bad emotions you took on and live with them every day of yr life, and many more in that one sexual act:
each one of these gets healed: by being reversed eg... each bad emotion gets healed by renouncing that evil:
let's say self hatred.... the pray is... do you want to keep self hatred.... you of course say NO, the priest will ask you to choose the opposite of self hatred... you think, and answer its self love, then the Priest and you together pray " In the Name of Jesus l renounced self hatred etc.... and the Priest prays asks for yr opinion do you choose self love, you answe Yes, l choose to love myself In The Name of Jesus... etc, followed by I am A well Beloved daughter of God....
In the end you ask God for forgiveness for hating the abuser: YOU ASK GOD TO FORGIVE THE ABUSER: BY CHOOSING FORGIVENESS YOU ARE RELEASED from all those bad emotions.
It's all in the forgiving. ... you realise that the abuser is just like you. ... he/she themselves were abused by someone in their own childhood.
##### There is more to this healing, l have only written a little.
ONE IS NOT BORN A PAEDOPHILE: ONE IS TAUGHT TO BE A PAEDOPHILE:
SEXUAL ABUSE DAMAGES THE MIND: ALL SEXUAL ACTS START IN THE MIND FIRST, THEN ARE CARRIED OUT AND PERFORMED WITH OUR BODILY FUNCTIONS.
▪︎▪︎▪︎▪︎THESE HEALINGS ARE LIFE CHANGING.
##### This is in America: Father receives emails from around the world, just type in his name and ask for his address, there is an automatic email where you leave yr own name address, he contacts you.
Father will direct you what to do:
OR... l can only suggest to you to go to a Roman Catholic Archdiocese and ask about Deliverance Healing:
Or even better still contact a PRIEST: and he would inform you where you could get help:-
Father Vincent P. Lampert: Pastor: 765-647-5462 (x 6) fax: 765-647-1634:
*****St Michael Catholic Church: Parishes: Location:: 145 St. Michael Blvd, BROOKVILLE: Indiana 47012:
Office Hours:::
8am - 4pm : Mon-Fri ::: Administrative Assistant Mrs. Carla Hertel: p
Abusers flip everything.. for example, when your husband beats the crap out of you, and the neighbor hears it and calls cops, and he goes to jail, then you start feeling guilt over him being locked up.. meanwhile he’s blaming you for making him so angry he lost control and beat the crap out of you…. Everything becomes backwards.. the victim is the one feeling guilt and the perpetrator is acting like the victim..
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
The mother is just heinous. Her whole life was about herself and her made up world of denial.
Whats really sad is that a person that has NEVER endured this kind of abuse & trauma that affects one's life, believe she THINKS SHE KNOWS she would react differently thus passing judgement. Fear & shame is a HUGE factor plus finding a good psychotherapist is really difficult to find. Too assumptions, too many judgements, too many "I would have handled it differently" from individuals that sadly just do not TRY to reach deep down inside & imagine the worst horror & betrayal imposed by ANYONE.
So emotional 😥 the worst pain is the fact that their mother doesn't seems to understand the trauma, pain, painful memories, emotional tortured and sleepless nights they went through it's a pain that can never go away a wound that can never be heal
she doesn't care
The mother was concerned about nothing but her lifestyle and her social image and standing. She never protected her daughters; she was too busy being important.
She was busy imitating a mother.
I think she is in denial that it was real. I think that's going to happen a lot when people find out what's been happening in our governments and how many paedophiles and traffickers are in 'our' governments
Their mother had no real connection. She reverts back to her lifestyle and protecting it, rather than her children. Sad!
It happened to my daughter she and her older brother told me after I left him he was their step dad as soon as they told me I believed then and Called the police and filed a report on my daughter's behalf thank god I left him or I would never have known any parent that chooses a man or woman over their child is not a parent as far as I'm concerned I stayed 19
years on my own after that I had a little girl to that man and we left him when she was 4 months I am now happily married to a wonderful man ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
How can a mother close her eyes to this criminal???? How can a father do this hellific crime to his children. Prosecute the bastard, perpetrator !!! Protect the child and stop the criminal. Get Justice, put him in jail …!!!
Money, position. Many do that
Men like that keep women"in their place"
Coral you are right, I can not understand that this planet have that sickness humanity like the man and the mother 😢
They oughta be hung up by a fishing hook and swung by their b..ls
Alot of times .......there is no justice for Children.
Wonderful movie, thanks for sharing this story with us. 20.07.24.
I can never forgive my late for what my stepfather did to me & to my younger sister. I was already an adult when he started groping him. I pushed him away with all my strength. My guardian angel must have protected me when suddenly I blurted my mom's name & he came to his senses. He knew he was in a wrong when he said pls do not mention abt what happened to my sick ailing mom. He got the balls to say that anything I say will cause my mom's death since she's sick with stage 4 lymphoma. I didn't say anything to my mom because I know it will definitely break her heart. I started to avoid him as much as I could. It was after my mom's passing that I learnt that he did the same to my younger sister & aunty too
He made me feel that I was at fault, felt so dirty & vile.
I leave it up to God for him to be punish for his actions
I’m always glad for a synopsis which often helps me to understand better before I have to get so far along into the movie 🎥 to understand what’s happening.
This movie brought up some really raw emotions for me that I keep thinking are already dealt with, but it is a story that needs told. People need to know
I'm 57yrs young and 'It" will always be there, in the back of your head. Calm and quiet or loud and fierce. But this is ok because it is part of our lives. I know how you feel as I have a feeling we were in the same boat. Be strong as you always are Penny and may 2023 give you all you need to be happy, healthy and safe, In every sense of the words. Peace xo see my comment above yours by 2 thx
@@kimwalsh thank you so much for the encouragement and may you be blessed!❤️
@@kimwalsh and I wish for you also all the happiness and health and peace and everything you need in 2023 to come to you. God bless
@@pennyvoll1169 Thank you
@@kimwalsh you’re welcome
My mom believed me. 💛
As she should. ❤
I've lived with that "smothered feeling" my entire life. Learning to wear a CPAP mask in my 40's was really hard. Also can't stand having my limbs held in place by blankets etc. The body remembers as well as the mind.
My husband was very supportive, but it took me 14 years to tell him. I cannot be in a room with the door shut, nor drive in a car unless the window is down. I understand the smothered feeling and hate blankets only a cotton sheet but my feet must be uncovered. The CPAP mask did take many months of wearing it through the whole night.
It's horrific. I hope every bit of this nightmare and pain heals.
Read The Body Keeps the Score.
OOOOOHHHHH YESSSSSS IT DOES SISTER AND THEN IT CAUSES PROBLEMS IN YOUR BODY LATER IN LIFE 💯 %
FACTS OF LIFE , I KNOW , BECAUSE I'M SUFFERING NOW 😪 😢😢
WOW! Supper sad! Makes think that devil never sleeps! As a youth my single parent mom taught us never trust a man w/a child no mater what! As a parent always stay alert! Lord knows what she went through?
Their mother is unbelievable!! he rapped her daughters and granddaughter and she continues to defended him!! That's also sick!!..
Very common. Google it
Abuse never stops till they are stopped
I had a repressed memory in my 30s from something that happened when I was 15. It didn’t come to light in a few days like it does for many. It came about gently and gradually over a matter of months or years. The brain is a weird thing.
Late post but my mom and my brothers father split up while she was pregnant...when he use to come by to see his son he use to wait until my mom left to the kitchen or something to show me his well erected penis, urging me to touch it... im 42 now and ive repressed those memories and they only returned after he came from overseas looking for me and proposing marriage and confessing his feelings for me and how he loved me from i was a baby. Mind you im 3 years older than my brother. 🤮🤮🤮..
I can't seem to remember fully still.
“1”of the bestest tv mom’s of the 80’s Joanna❤️
And that's where the statute of limitations comes in.. " It was 30 years ago what can you do"
Doesn't matter if it was 30 minutes ago it's still a crime and it still happened. Sometimes it takes 50 years for someone to come forward and say this happened to me.. It's usually men that take the longest.. cuz no one talks about men being abused as boys or even as men.
This country has a lot of work to do.
I'm glad my sister and me had a safe life with our father. My father was a very strict man.
why did u feel the need to say that on HERE ????
The grandmother is talking about her social life and not her granddaughter !!! Shame !!!
She just care about her status
The grandmother would rather keep the family image than to face and deal with the truth! She knew all along what he had been doing to them that’s why she never was around when they were younger! The brother don’t wanna betray his father! The older sister couldn’t cope with it all that’s why she turned to drugs and stayed away! The other sister showed courage and told!
This movie is tragic. The father and the mother is disgusting and I hope anyone in this situation get the justice they deserve.
Watching this as someone who experienced it I find the mothers behavior so repulsive. I fronted up to my mother and she denied knowing. Very sad.
I totally understand , you not alone Glyn Parker , I myself went through this torturement as a young child , I had to forgive in order to have some peace in my life , you are not alone 🙏
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
In the 90’s the beautiful actresses did movies about the ugly issues so many women face.
My mother heard me but wasn't listening. She basically ignored it. I can't talk to her ever since. My father molested me in the bath. Once. The other times he was anxious when I was wearing summer clothes. I will feel relief when he dies. I can't wait.
I am so sorry. You didn't deserve to be hurt that way. I pray you have moved on in peace. God Bless.
This movie hits close as one who was not believed and then just swept under a rug.
The scene where the dad climbs out to kristy when she ran away and was clinging to the bridge was so good. that’s a father! Protect and love your kids.
No he's not. He had the sick audacity to question weather he should participate in prosecuting his father just because it was his father. I swear if my husbands father did anything like that to any of our kids he'd probably kill him.
he was no dad of the year. He rather shut his little girls mouth than shut his fathers mouth. He wanted to protect his precious father at all coast, while his little girl would have to live with"this wasn't SO bad after all.."
This movie depicts each generation and how they deal with crime. The grandmother era shows that crime is tolerated and serial rapist, pedeophile, and serial killers run rampant.
Well, my generation will stop them before they start and lock them up if the begin. No crime goes unpunished. Every person must seek the higher ground by being good.
what I do know is my mother turned a blind eye but to benefit from a pedophile who worked sometimes but not always. The pedolphie felt he had the "RIGHT" to do as he pleased by pushing the limits which were not his but ours. . I do regret not calling the police when I spoke to my mother and her deadbeat husband - because I was afraid that my sisters and I would be separated and never get together again due to CPS don't always keeps siblings together. Also, we were not of the age to provide financial assistance until we were not yet older enough to support this dysfunctional family. Until we got to be 18 years older and finished with high school which my own mother was desperate for someone to support this family since she lacked any education and her deadbeat didn't always wanted to work.
I wanna live on the cloud you do...
I see some narcissism , gaslighting brewing somewhere in this video & it's so sad
A story that needed to be told--a film that needed to be made.
@Vin D A comment that needed to be posted♡
Smh
Everyone knows this kind of thing happens...it didn't need to be made in my opinion.Its not like no one knows this kind of thing happens.
@@djsi38t but nobody wants to talk about it. It needed to be made.
@@djsi38t Why are you all over these movies making such ridiculous comments? Go troll on political or comedy channels smdh!
This movie was all to real for me, just a few differences in the story. 50yrs ago, my brother, myself 10-14 age range it happened a few times to many. I no longer talk [for 20yrs now] with sisters, brothers, mom has passed but would act as this mother did. My father, I never talked to or tried to speak about it. It never goes away, there is no closure when no one believes you. But life goes on, it has too for me, my son and his family. One more difference Not Rich over here!
So very sorry for your suffering. I sincerely hope you can live your best life ❤
@@cg9616 Thank you so very much. I have learned to live with it all behind me, I no longer let it be a part of my life. Took along time dealing with the mental and emotional agony, but at least I didn't turn out to be a wild murderer. LOL You are an angel for sending me condolences. Peace & Love & Respect cg9616
Sending you love , healing and vibes of strength and peace❤️ . You are worthy of love and protection.
I feel so fortunate that I never had to deal with a situation like this.
What a terrible thing that the father did to his daughter's and to his grand daughter. ( what a monster). And their mother was not any better. She was in denial. I guess the only thing that mattered to her was money, and the health of her husband. The old bastard should have dropped dead, or be put in jail.
Thank you for loading a great movie❤❤
I agreed it happened to my mom by a neighbor i believe. Parts of her has never been the same. My mom has recently passed on..
There's family. And then there's relatives. There's a HUGE difference!! Know the difference, and act accordingly.
I think that her husband had a perfectly normal response in the beginning,because he had no idea what was going on ! He was finding it difficult to process it all the way through.
Of course the whole process was a minefield. The fact that grandfather was still continuing to abuse was so very sick….Today if you report it to the police,they jump into action straight away !
Plus it’s mandated reporting for the professional counselling services and doctors !
I have known several families where the same problem was happening and no the police did not jump into action right away, nor did Child Protective Services.
That's what I was saying throughout this movie
You’re so right I don’t think this type of abuse will ever go away today it seems more cases coming out
Times have sure changed re abuse. You are right- people and police started to listen to victims now instead of blaming.
Actually as a young person ( I’m 21 years old btw ) this kind of thing goes unreported the majority of the time because it’s still normalized and it’s so sickening to think about
I think the mother should have had some charges against her, as well, even if it was just neglact. I think usually mothers do know what is going on, and refuse to help. It is disgusting.
This brings back a lot of memories when I had my first child in 1982. I started having serious nightmares that would only fade when the baby reached about two years old and then my second the nightmares came rushing back and more worse, and then again fadeaway, and then I had my third and they were so Disturbing my sleep and constant nightmares on a regular basis throughout all the years of raising my three little girls I never told anyone because the nightmares were so horrific so scary and it was all about babies being abused and just horrible things. I don’t even know where it would come from. I was a person growing up. What were the church all the time didn’t like scary movies didn’t like being scared. Didn’t even like Halloween that much, I even went to a sleep clinic. They said they seen no problems. I slept beautifully and peacefully because I knew I was being watched and I was secure and taken care of. It wasn’t until I was 34 years old and my youngest baby soon to be four, and my constant picture, a photograph of a memory that was always on the edge of my vision constantly I could never grasp it or see it, I was losing time also, I would all sitting up here somewhere wondering how I got there. I think it was those times from that picture that memory became full on into my view and it was blocked out and I was removed for a short time I would have out of body experiences even as a child. I would fantasize, leaving the classroom and flying and being above everything as I get older, these OBES WOULDsend me around the world. That fateful day, when the full Ness of the memory became apparent to me fully at 34 years of age, I realized, at that moment, all those nightmares, all that fear all the horrific pictures of babies being abused with me and all my abuse that I recalled was of oral sexual abuse by a woman either my aunt, or my mother at this point or even my grandma I don’t know the face is blocked, I was relieved when I relived it or that it became to my fall awareness and all I could really sick of his. I’m not crazy I’m OK and everybody else is I was always so fearful of telling anyone for fear they would think I was crazy and take my kids away, and at the same time, their father, my husband of 30 years until we divorced was very mentally and emotionally abusive in which steadily got worse through the years which only added of course to my fears I’m 66 years old now I’m doing well it is sad to think back of my babies because I don’t get to remember much it’s blocked out I think I survived all those years in different boxes of coping mechanisms even as a child are used those coping boxes to prepare me for whatever the Days events handed me
That grandmom was so adamantly disconnected with the main character, especially with leaving the baby with babysitters, that its no wonder the abuse happened right under her nose
This happened to me from a very young age but it was an uncle not my dad I want to make that clear. I will always feel broken because I never got closure 🙏
While in Middle School, I stayed all night with a friend. I slept in her bed by myself. That night I woke in the dark, and was being assaulted by her older brother. Afterwards I told my mom, and she said we shouldn’t say anything because it was our neighbors. Mom saying that was the worst part of it all. It was like she didn’t believe me. She didn’t say that, but it felt that way. Later I became a sexually acting out teenager. My rights to my own body didn’t mean anything to me anymore. In college while on a first date the man seemed very scary to me. It was overbearing and felt very threatening. I let him have his way because I felt like he was going to get violent if I didn’t. I never told anybody about that. All of it is mentally and spiritually damaging.
I hope you have gotten help.
You poor girl, this is the only comment I believe because you didn’t talk crap about jesus and god, you worded it in such a way i believe you totally.. sending my love and respect to you beautiful stranger.. ❤❤
He gave me harmony!
When I was a little girl of age, something bad was done to me, that caused so much damage, as that little girl's heart broke into sadness, by some adult's madness!
The abuse gave me many years of agony, until I surrendered my life to the Lord, and found myself in harmony.
Finally I understood that He always had loved me, and He had felt the pain I felt ; that made my heart melt.
He helped me to forgive the abusers, as His love for me changed my heart for real, and He little by little the wounds would heal.
Today, my heart aches for those who have gone through the same, and thought it was some adult's game.
I pray for them with deep compassion and sorrow, as I hope for them a better tomorrow ; and that they will turn to the Lord with all their agony, as He is the only One who can give them harmony!
25.12.2020.
"This isn't about punishment. It's about recognition. "
And accountability.
And validation.
And taking away some of the guilt that an abused child.invariably feels.
When lifetime movies were raw and great....
I miss the old lifetime movies
Thank you for the great movie.
Very sad that you own father could do something so despicable to hes own daughters.
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Lots do.
Beloved many men do other family members know and let shame stop them from doing anything. Many babies given up by their parents are product of incest.
This hit home. I was sexually abused by my own father for 15 years. My mom said this when I finally revealed it when I was 17 " What are you complaining about? He left you a virgin"! It made my skin crawl in this movie that he molested his grandaughter. In this movie her father an dmother are in great denieal. One movie mistake at the end. Unless she was pumping she would not be able to nurse, she would have been dried up.
I'm glad I'm not the only one too notice that. Maybe she was pumping?
I know that it's only a film but we know that such things happen. The mother in this film is as evil as the father. Parents role is to protect their children, especially a mother's. She carried that child for 9 months and she should always side with her child against her husband. ANY PERSON WHO HARMS A POOR DEFENCELESS CHILD SHOULD GO TO PRISON FOR LIFE. AND I MEAN LIFE !!!!
The fact that she said her daughters were always flirting with their father and other men even made me hate her more
Death sentence
@@pedrojacqueline1032 When she said that she was so desperate for validating her own disgusting pig pedo husband raping her daughters, and grandchild! Flirting. I wonder how many Wives in real life of pedo husbands use that excuse for molestation.
@@sallyrickerson9139 so disgusting
THIS MOVIE GIVES US ALL SO MUCH TO REFLECT ON AS SO MANY OF US EXPERIENCED THIS TERRIBLE ABUSE AS CHILDREN AND THE PERPATRATORS GOT AWAY WITH IT BECAUSE WE WERE TOO SCARED TO SPEAK UP
BUT THERE IS KARMA THATS FIR SURE
So true
They will all stand before God one day
@@stephaniebach__12-24 Exactly! You may get away with something here on earth. but God knows truth and He is a Just God.
it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
@@stephaniebach__12-24 it is so common and yet most stay silent and it breaks my heart so many can never have a chance to heal??? what ever that is ... my youtube channels i do much and part has always been for a place where people can come to make videos privately to tell their life stories or what Christians reject as this is testimony one to another so we may heal ... but i been blown up 14 times as hundreds who did this private then mostly said post them so others may come and cry together and heal because it works ... many hate me for this work over the years and social media destroys it because it offends others.... and I'm sure it does as there are so many who call jeffrey ebstien a molester who deserved death and yet with so many this has and does happens to the people who do it justify and think the filth they do or did is not the same ....
As someone who's mother didn't believe them either this movie really hit home!!!
I'm so sorry. I pray you are healing and living a life you deserve. God Bless.
@@LemireCassie thank you very much and yes I am 😊😊
@Charlotte Marsh thank you very much 😊😊
As I used to say about my stepfather: if he didn’t want to be known as a child molester, he shouldn’t have been molesting children. Not anyone’s fault but his. My abuser took his final breath in prison where he couldn’t hurt anymore innocent little girls, but not until after both of my sisters had committed suicide 😭
@@kimberleybruesch3876 omg bless your heart 😢😢 I'm so sorry!! I also had a stepfather like that, but mine also claimed to be a "preacher"!!
I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't even begin to imagine what that must be like.
I hope you've been able to heal at least somewhat. May I ask how old they were?
Although I don't agree with what the grandfather did, I am glad the movie was made, the subject matter.
What happened? Did the grandfather go to jail?
This movie was deep. I found myself crying a lot