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Emotional Invalidation
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- Опубликовано: 19 авг 2024
- This is an excerpt from one of Doug's online coaching sessions as he teaches the Noll Affect Labeling System tm. For more information and to attend a free master class, go to www.deescalate....
It is to protect their own feelings. It’s uncomfortable for them and they’re actually being selfish. They won’t hold a space to sit and talk. In this way, over time more problems and feelings surface later. Or even explode! It makes the person feel unsupported, dismissed and unloved. More problems could be avoided and the person hurting could be helped if the person invalidating them had just sat and listened to them and let them know that they see that they’re in pain even if they can’t understand. ♥️
I didn’t realise this has been happening to me my whole life. I can see it now.. thank you for the video
Pretty bad hah?
Chronic emotional (psychological) invalidation is the reason people end up spinning out of control.
It’s called emotional abuse
As a midlifer, I think it's really important to make these experiences accessible to everyone, at any age. There is a weird perception that each generation cultivates, and we forget that our life experiences/suffering are not inclusive to that time, in their journey. We still try to heal, even in the middle of our lives. thanks for posting this. 💌 Edin in- just want to add... it is not OUR responsibility to heal our partner, or give them advise or therapy. That is why we have educated professionals. Our roles as partners are to support...not be therapists. be kind to yourself pls.✌🏽
This is the bread & butter of all relationships... People don't know how to give bread. Only crumbs
So helpful to hear, thank you for this peaceful insight
Yes all of those things said. Then, it is what it is and whatever. Not good for anyone!! Smart mouths
My narcissist doesn’t say anything to me, instead, he just straight out ignores me.
did u leave yet?
Do you expres your needs?
Stonewalling is a form of invalidation.
This is exceptional. You're very concise & clear, speak with great tone & confidence. Not once did you go off subject or say "umm"
Hands down one of the best vids on this subject
Wow, thank you!
Great info! I will be much more careful in the future with how I address these situations with family and friends. Especially my G K's
Glad it was helpful!
Now it makes so much sense! The friendship I had was built from the beginning on me sharing my emotional ups and downs of my life, and he at the end felt too overwhelmed of all my troubles and ended up invalidating me, which shattered me for a month. Now i feel validated (at least it was bound to happen and i have experience) and can start working again on making my life better! :D
Great subject! You need to talk more about this!
I will!
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
You are so welcome!
You're great. Thanks.
Happy to help!
Beware also of instrumental affect labelling: a sophisticated manipulator will superficially acknowledge your emotion to soothe you and go on to continue to pressure you or distort what you're expressing. That's why I look behind the acknowledgement to the intention: sometimes an acknowledgment conceals an intention to dismiss.
Exactly! All the don'ts. Me .
Dont love don't love don't love.
This is triggering that’s not how things are lol
Don’t be so dramatic! yea my brother invalidated me…