"Modern World Is In Chaos" - How To Get Ahead of 99% of People In 2025 | Sam Harris

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @JonnM
    @JonnM 4 года назад +1146

    He’s on the button here. A major determinant of how well we feel is framing. When I was a little kid I was always very anxious. One day my father took me aside and told me he observed my anxiousness and asked me what I was worried about. He suggested we write them down. He then put the list in his wallet and said we’d revisit them in the future sometime. A few weeks later he called me in and said “let’s check that list”. He then ticked them off one by one and of course none had happened. He then said to me “worry is a wasted emotion” “Most bad things never happen”. “If your worry is something you can do something about then do it, if you can’t do anything about it, forget it.” 50 years later I often think of that conversation and appreciate it as the best lesson I ever learned. It’s guided me throughout my life.

    • @redfury223
      @redfury223 3 года назад +83

      Your father is a legend.....what a great way to teach a younger person.....beautiful lesson

    • @grammarnationalistpartylol6301
      @grammarnationalistpartylol6301 3 года назад +50

      My dad taught me almost nothing. Certainly nothing like that.
      But I liked reading your comment.

    • @jakw97
      @jakw97 3 года назад +7

      You should be a journalist. I would read texts like this every day/week. This is what some of the big news papers used to have, the New York Times had. All jurnalists today are hacks of each other, and never have interesting storys to tell.

    • @grammarnationalistpartylol6301
      @grammarnationalistpartylol6301 3 года назад +2

      @Sero Suit I've been working on that, been doing it for a week

    • @JustMe-999a
      @JustMe-999a 3 года назад +3

      lie

  • @angiemcmurray9861
    @angiemcmurray9861 3 месяца назад +11

    Whether you agree with his ideas or not, he is one of the most articulate people alive. It’s a total pleasure just listening to his mastery of the language and how amazingly well he expresses his ideas. Wonderful.

  • @LawrenceAugust_
    @LawrenceAugust_ 5 лет назад +3371

    Sam Harris aka Zen Stiller

    • @voidandnon-2530
      @voidandnon-2530 5 лет назад +96

      Best nickname I've heard.

    • @esh8400
      @esh8400 5 лет назад +30

      🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😊🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠

    • @RanjanDuttaRoy
      @RanjanDuttaRoy 5 лет назад +11

      Hahahaha :D

    • @ks-dd7gv
      @ks-dd7gv 5 лет назад +6

      Hahaha

    • @JeiBurke
      @JeiBurke 5 лет назад +18

      lmao that's the first time I heard that

  • @xInfisphere
    @xInfisphere 4 года назад +49

    I'm 24 now and I have been following Sam Harris' work for 10 years.
    I have only read a couple of his books, but have watched countless speeches, seminars, debates, and interviews, listened and continue to listen to many of his podcasts, have been using his meditation app and listening to his lessons for over a year, and I am still BLOWN AWAY by his words. I still find myself excitedly inclined to open my notes and write down his quotes. What a wealth of knowledge and wisdom. Each word seems so acutely thoughtful and precise. In my view, he is one of the most authentic and empathetic minds of all humanity.

  • @KphexTwin00
    @KphexTwin00 5 лет назад +656

    Sam Harris is one of my favourite humans.

    • @subatomicparticle
      @subatomicparticle 5 лет назад +16

      You say it as though you weren't human your self

    • @kaufmanat1
      @kaufmanat1 5 лет назад +1

      @@subatomicparticle hahaha

    • @divyasingh4505
      @divyasingh4505 4 года назад +1

      💜💜💜💜

    • @c.guydubois8270
      @c.guydubois8270 4 года назад +2

      @fynes leigh hey, imagine you had a treatment that reducers the perception of suffering mentally and physically. Would you tell anyone?...

    • @mariaalano3077
      @mariaalano3077 4 года назад +1

      i just stumbled into him today, seems i found a guru

  • @Larfage
    @Larfage 5 лет назад +1380

    Thank you Ben Stiller for your zen words of wisdom!

  • @moragmcgill
    @moragmcgill 4 года назад +28

    Love Sam Harris' take on mindfulness and Tom's questioning and listening skills
    Anxiety and excitement: tehe story we tell ourselves 21:45
    Freedom and welbeing is not predicated on getting rid of the physiology: 22:45
    Sense of self: 34
    stream of consciousness: 36:35
    Most people are waiting for the world to give them a good enough reason to just be present: 38:55
    Experiencing self and Remembering Self: 41:10

  • @jonasjrgensen2637
    @jonasjrgensen2637 2 года назад +23

    "Most people are waiting for the world to give them a good enough reason to just be present" Wow. Absolutely brilliant. 3 years later and i cannot get that quote out of my head

  • @Satadru
    @Satadru 5 лет назад +74

    Never get bored of listening to this man. Thanks, Tom, for bringing him in.

  • @Kinsman19
    @Kinsman19 5 лет назад +457

    Sam is one of the most thoughtful and complete thinkers I've ever come across.

    • @darkday8913
      @darkday8913 5 лет назад +18

      Then you havent come across many people.

    • @Kinsman19
      @Kinsman19 5 лет назад +36

      @@darkday8913 Clever reply, bub.

    • @SupremeIntentionCrew
      @SupremeIntentionCrew 5 лет назад +2

      Checkout Jean Francois Geriepy

    • @MrPDTaylor
      @MrPDTaylor 5 лет назад +2

      @@SupremeIntentionCrew Jean Francois Geriepy is an idiot.

    • @J90JAM
      @J90JAM 4 года назад +2

      @@darkday8913 and who would you recommend? Genuine question.

  • @juanbonami2182
    @juanbonami2182 5 лет назад +55

    Whenever i click on longer videos i begin with the slight intention of clicking away after the first 10 min or so... but before i knew it the video was 50 minutes in and the video was over. I love when that happens. Good stuff Sam Harris!

  • @TrentonErker
    @TrentonErker 5 лет назад +451

    “Most people wait for the world to give them a reason to lose their sense of self.”

    • @zioshi2
      @zioshi2 5 лет назад +17

      This interview has so much information. It's hard to keep track. Thanks for the comment!

    • @ximwise
      @ximwise 5 лет назад +3

      interested in the context, at what point does he say this

    • @johannesyt1526
      @johannesyt1526 5 лет назад +5

      @@ximwise 38:55!

    • @anitarussell1966
      @anitarussell1966 4 года назад +2

      Rrpoppoooprpr

    • @anitarussell1966
      @anitarussell1966 4 года назад +2

      Vickrant James rvroo

  • @MindNow
    @MindNow 5 лет назад +617

    *What has really helped me is actually reminding myself that I’m going to die someday* 🙏
    Coming to peace with death is something really liberating

    • @raymondtendau2749
      @raymondtendau2749 5 лет назад +21

      "Premeditation of Death is premeditation of Freedom"...Robert Greene,Laws of Human Nature.

    • @sodapopinski3208
      @sodapopinski3208 5 лет назад +3

      How?

    • @Shulamitefire
      @Shulamitefire 5 лет назад +9

      *Therefore I said to you that you will die in your sins; for if you do not believe that I am He, you will die in your sins. (John **8:24**)*

    • @JonasAnandaKristiansson
      @JonasAnandaKristiansson 5 лет назад +2

      Yes!! Sadghuru style. Namaste

    • @raymondtendau2749
      @raymondtendau2749 5 лет назад +12

      @@Shulamitefire i accept your "you will die" but "in your sins" part i will not accept.

  • @mattbidus9108
    @mattbidus9108 5 лет назад +14

    You’re at the mercy of who you were yesterday Sam Harris you’re a genius

  • @tomgreen2644
    @tomgreen2644 3 года назад +4

    Sam Harris is a world treasure!

  • @danchisholm1
    @danchisholm1 5 лет назад +27

    sam and folks like him are slowly making this world better

    • @deerlow1851
      @deerlow1851 2 года назад

      @@ivotenotocensorship5247 explain yourself

    • @nogrammer
      @nogrammer 2 года назад

      @@ivotenotocensorship5247 you gonna explain, or????? whats wrong with being rational?

  • @ShadowZZZ
    @ShadowZZZ 4 года назад +13

    I love listening to Sam Harris, he is a great mind, wise philosopher, and logical thinker. I can recommend reading his books the end of faith, letter to a christian nation, free will and trying out his meditation app. He has truely changed my life for the better

    • @ghilas6928
      @ghilas6928 2 года назад +1

      I second the app waking up. Changed my life starting last year

    • @deepaknambisan3251
      @deepaknambisan3251 2 года назад +1

      @@ghilas6928 thank you for the recommendation

    • @ghilas6928
      @ghilas6928 2 года назад +1

      @@deepaknambisan3251 Of Course

  • @HumansOfVR
    @HumansOfVR 5 лет назад +131

    *_I recommend looking into stoicism if you are trying to achieve a feeling of inner tranquility_*

    • @HumansOfVR
      @HumansOfVR 5 лет назад +5

      @marshmelo I actually have an animated series on stoicism if you're interested

    • @nick_k.6000
      @nick_k.6000 5 лет назад +1

      Life Progress - Health, Wealth, & Happiness Channel I just finished reading “how to think like a Roman emperor” .. which introduced me to Marcus Aurelius & Stoicism.. definitely opened my eyes to new horizons

    • @camdavbax
      @camdavbax 5 лет назад +6

      Stoicism and mindfulness meditation go hand in hand as philosophies and toolsets for living in our world in line with the logos. Seeing things as they truly are is at the core of stoicism, and mindfulness is the practice of seeing your own consciousness as it truly is, including discovering what is in your control and what is not.

    • @J90JAM
      @J90JAM 4 года назад

      Any recommendations specifically?

    • @thehighpriestess8431
      @thehighpriestess8431 4 года назад +1

      Tell that to a grown up who grew up in a war zone. Can you give me some directions?

  • @thatmexicanwiththemustache
    @thatmexicanwiththemustache 2 года назад +8

    46:10 “They’re thinking without knowing that they’re thinking” I felt that

  • @Howitchewstofeel5gum
    @Howitchewstofeel5gum 5 лет назад +3

    "I don't think all forms of depression are just a matter of what a person's thinking". Thank you. So many people in the self-development and mindfulness world seem to think that all you have to do is meditate and "keep a positive mindset" to cure depression.

    • @marieb728
      @marieb728 4 года назад

      just?

    • @Howitchewstofeel5gum
      @Howitchewstofeel5gum 4 года назад

      @@marieb728???

    • @Terri_2.0
      @Terri_2.0 2 года назад

      Yes, it´s very much diet-related, as well. Many still think serotonin is only made in the brain when we now know most of it is made in the gut. A leaky gut, inflammation, metabolic syndrome, etc. can be at the root of most depression and anxiety. Many success stories out there about dietary changes and mental health. Amber O´Hearn, Dr. Georgia Ede, nutritionist Judy Cho, Brett Lloyd, Emily Penton to name just a few..

  • @gihaniamarasuriya7465
    @gihaniamarasuriya7465 5 лет назад +246

    Tom, I’ve always watched your videos. But I’ve been binge watching them for the past two days, and I have to tell you Not only do you have the best content with the most insightful people, I look up to you so much for the amount of effort and research you put into an episode. It’s insanely admirable! Keep up the best work. 🙌🏼

    • @GT-xp6bx
      @GT-xp6bx 5 лет назад +4

      Agreed

    • @TomBilyeu
      @TomBilyeu  5 лет назад +38

      Thank you so much, that means a lot!

    • @creativegirl9132
      @creativegirl9132 5 лет назад

      Tom Bilyeu may you give scooter braun to interview like this

    • @creativegirl9132
      @creativegirl9132 5 лет назад +1

      Tom Bilyeu he is manager of famous singers as justin bieber, Arania

    • @asiaminddynamics
      @asiaminddynamics 5 лет назад +1

      It's interesting- around 26 minutes, they start talking about managing and shifting mental and emotional states. I love the discussion, but I wonder, if you know or learned NLP. I know it's efficiency is always being discussed, but there is so much NLP brought to the world, for example with regard to shifting emotional states, letting go of negative emotions, or stepping back from negative situations to gain control over your states. I wonder .....

  • @MrHitchslap
    @MrHitchslap 5 лет назад +114

    Funny how our brains are so complex that a voice like Sam's is often useful and needed to remind ourselves that we can break the spell of negative emotions with ease through mindfulness or reframing

    • @shiskeyoffles
      @shiskeyoffles 5 лет назад +2

      I like his voice

    • @MrHitchslap
      @MrHitchslap 4 года назад

      @abhitechie well he needs body guards when he gives public speeches since he gets death threats. He has a lot of controversial views lol

    • @snoozyq9576
      @snoozyq9576 4 года назад +3

      @abhitechie his advice is meant to be useful for people in the first world. It doesn't have to help everyone in the world to be useful...

    • @jaipanesar6027
      @jaipanesar6027 2 года назад

      @ScienceVideosFan he dad died when he was young plus a failed relationship meant he was lonely and depressed for a long while

    • @karinlarsen2608
      @karinlarsen2608 2 года назад

      When we hear the truth, we know it

  • @michaelmarkunas
    @michaelmarkunas 4 года назад +27

    The interviewer asked rambling self -centered questions. Treating the interview as his own therapy session. Fortunately, Sam Harris is an outstanding speaker. And kept the interview on track.

  • @VladProkhorovDrums
    @VladProkhorovDrums 5 лет назад +26

    I absolutely love Sam, what an outstanding individual

  • @mindasriver8408
    @mindasriver8408 5 лет назад +4

    The first moments of this talk are spot on. The feelings themselves aren't that bad, even fear. The story around the emotion is the issue.

    • @trout3685
      @trout3685 2 года назад

      Probably why people like to imagine their dead parents are in heaven because it softens that dark feeling of loneliness.

  • @AtheistVitalist
    @AtheistVitalist 5 лет назад +10

    Massive respect for Tom for this. I used to think this is just another motivational channel with no real substance. I've been slowly changing my mind over the past few months, seeing some really solid interviews. And this here does it for me, I'm sold. You're the real deal, Tom. Keep up the good work.

  • @ShadowZZZ
    @ShadowZZZ 4 года назад +6

    He hit the nail on the head when he said that the things worth learning and doing are ideas which are interesting, intellectual but also important. This is why I'm so into science and philosophy. I am not satisfied with a trivial life, I want to know and understand better whats at the bottom of things, and what core ideas are really relevant, which cannot be stripped down into further more. also I want to lead a good life, a life worth living, where ethics, justice and minimising needless suffering come into play. really, in life the most two important values are truth and good - ethics and epistemology. almost everything we do or worry about intellectuall can be boiled down to these two majesteria

    • @Dman9fp
      @Dman9fp 3 года назад

      To each there own, whatever makes one feel good in life/ fulfilled without hurting others yes. Just makes me think back on the quote by Watts that essentially 'trying to fit everything into words/categories is just like trying to consume the ocean with a fork'. Some things change by observing them. Some things we can never truly observe about ourselves or others in a certain way because we are biased. And that's fine, a lot of joy can actually be found in thought-provoking mysteries versus trying to find out everything and expecting it to measure up to what we find weird or intriguing enough or whatever other measure/ bar / expectations we set, unconsciously or consciously. Discovery and exploring is still very worthwhile so long as we don't expect it to fix anything or to get us to a certain mindset or place. Just my 2 cents/ reaction to this comment, not trying to change anyone or anything

  • @polymathpark
    @polymathpark 3 года назад +34

    It is so refreshing to witness such a high functioning, balanced human. Sam is one of my favorite people, no one chooses their words better and sees the world, and life, more clearly than him, IMO. I believe that if more people emulated him, and followed his advice, the world would be a much better place. Thanks to both of you for being great role models, and spreading amazing messages! This content is invaluable these days.

    • @JimmyKlef
      @JimmyKlef 3 года назад +3

      Everyone likes a sam harris on tv. Nobody likes a sam harris in real life. Most people i have ever known would just inherently exude insecurity and become competitive and probably toxic. Thats likely how many would cope with just a super mindful calm nice smart person. People hate that shit it’s unreal. They’d almost all become parasitic, or damaging, because the only alternative in their minds would be they’d have to worship him. Peoples egos don’t work how we wish they did. How we talk like they do.
      Seriously. Think about the sam harris in your life. You probably shit on them. If you don’t you fuckin know everyone else does.

    • @goingintohellhigh
      @goingintohellhigh 2 года назад +1

      @@JimmyKlef would probably have a great conversation even if we may disagree on some points. Sam is certainly a better person to interact with than the people you say would dislike him. Nice people usually attract other nice people. Das real life karma.

    • @underated17
      @underated17 Год назад

      @@goingintohellhigh Just be nice and treat others kindly, exactly. It's simple. A truly kind person is real and knows how to add humour in life, be sweet to others and smile.

    • @underated17
      @underated17 Год назад

      @@JimmyKlef Are you actually saying that people hate calm people? That's a gross generalization. People like kindness and not generally obnoxious people.

  • @nichleigh9050
    @nichleigh9050 4 года назад +2

    I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH. THE CONVERSATIONS YOU HAVE ON THIS SHOW ARE DESPERATELY WHAT I SEEK TO HAVE.

  • @LoobyLoo71
    @LoobyLoo71 3 года назад +6

    ‘The half life of negative emotions is incredibly short’ excellent!

    • @joseandrada264
      @joseandrada264 2 года назад

      Then how is it there are thousand of suicides every year?

  • @yojohan4564
    @yojohan4564 5 лет назад +17

    I think I have seen everything Sam Harris related that exists online, and this is the best interview I've ever seen with him. Easiest subscribe of my life

  • @drewe9514
    @drewe9514 5 лет назад +56

    Favorite guest so far... a true intellectual!

    • @deejaye2647
      @deejaye2647 5 лет назад +1

      I love Sam so much! I've learned a great deal from him the past 2-3 years.

  • @feezyfutruck6084
    @feezyfutruck6084 5 лет назад +28

    It's pretty amazing how our brains are able to refocus energy to something different in just a second. What we do don't realize is that we are able to 100% dictate what to focus that energy on. Reminds me of the book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. Great interview

  • @HaikesXO
    @HaikesXO 5 месяцев назад +1

    29:30 very interesting. Music is one of my favorite things in life. I listen to it everyday and I couldn’t imagine life without it. Completely different experiences.

  • @Kyembwa
    @Kyembwa 10 месяцев назад +1

    A beautiful soul - Dr Sam Harris.

  • @AMentorway4u
    @AMentorway4u 5 лет назад +5

    I love when two intelligent people have a conversation and actually listen to each other without interupting one another. Respect Mr Tom.

    • @zoltarbixbal3190
      @zoltarbixbal3190 Год назад

      Depends what they say, and if it makes any sense. Personally, not impressed by this Ben Stiller look-a-like comedian.

  • @alphacause
    @alphacause 5 лет назад +6

    Thank you Tom for bringing Dr. Sam Harris on your show. Of all the intellectuals that one can listen to, Harris is the one that I have always found to be the most engaging in his elucidation of the problems with religion, and how it relates to our current political climate. Familiarity with his arguments, books, and lectures on the subject are integral if you want a true understanding of the topic. Harris just has a way of cutting through all the sophistry and politically correct gibberish that is incessantly used by media pundits and academics, who seek to give religious faith unbridled respect. Furthermore, unlike other atheist critics who leave an emotional vacuum for those whose faith they have eviscerated, Harris' writings and presentations on meditation and the inner workings on the mind has given us an alternative to quench our thirst for a "spiritual" outlet. I appreciate that you have given Dr. Harris time to speak on these topics, at length.

  • @demi3857
    @demi3857 4 года назад +2

    Tom Bilyeu and Sam Harris is a magical combo. I feel liberated af after watching this conversation.

  • @sudabehmoein1788
    @sudabehmoein1788 3 года назад +1

    I so so relate to this scientist .. love his honesty about no longer listening to music and constantly learning even in a passive way!!! He made me feel normal! Let’s have Hom back Tom!???

  • @KellyBergerDeusVult
    @KellyBergerDeusVult Год назад

    My pursuit of the idea of well-being began with my father's definition of being a success. He said it doesn't matter how much money you make or what you do. Be the best at what you do. Always. Figure out a way to pay your own way. That doesn't mean currency always. And be happy. If you can check all three of those boxes. You're a success. Obviously I've evolved some since that. Simplistic perspective but it served me well as a foundation on which to grow. And I'm still growing. And I definitely don't have all the answers. The conversations like this lead me in the right direction

  • @jondeeca
    @jondeeca 5 лет назад +34

    Years ago in the 80s Stanley Keleman said that the difference between fear and excitement is breathing.
    I believe he wrote this in his book "The Body Speaks Its Mind."
    .

    • @tomhummel2641
      @tomhummel2641 5 лет назад +5

      That is mind-bending and the more I think about it, the more I realise that it might be true. Gotta get that book!

    • @rhondapelletier2141
      @rhondapelletier2141 3 года назад

      Love that! Ty for sharing

  • @ASkepticalHumanOnYouTube
    @ASkepticalHumanOnYouTube 5 лет назад +135

    Sam Harris on Impact Theory? Whaaat?! This is crazy. You're crushing it, Tom!

    • @WillDanceAlone2U
      @WillDanceAlone2U 5 лет назад +2

      @A Skeptical Human BUYERS BEWARE! As many of the entitled videos in this human YT channel show, the user confuses "debunking" with "skepticism," a basic error common in sophomoric
      analysis dipped in entangled methodological and philosophical underpinnings.
      Be skeptical.

    • @bluegiant13
      @bluegiant13 5 лет назад +7

      @@WillDanceAlone2U Calm your tits.

    • @uMadness
      @uMadness 5 лет назад +1

      @@WillDanceAlone2U Not sure I get your point

  • @bellafina1916
    @bellafina1916 5 лет назад +18

    He calms my soul honestly

  • @connieroche6564
    @connieroche6564 3 года назад +1

    Covid came to unfold a whole year in meditation and mindfulness to release people like you two share your life with others so we can have our expirences validated. Those ingenuous relatives are you and I and them....waking up to a new beginning.

  • @LissMoony
    @LissMoony 4 года назад +8

    His eyes... They‘re shining. You can literally see very deep calmness radiating from them.

  • @imblessed200
    @imblessed200 5 лет назад +3

    Tom, your letter to your wife to reshift your brain is awesome. You did that on your own. When I was going through a f'd up divorce (cheating and abandonment) I would listen to Pandora comedy throughout the day. It helped me extremely!! I had 2 babies and my husband was cheating and wanting out and my life was falling apart. The constant comedy playing in my ears was life changing in that moment. Now I know why!! I've healed and moved on from that part of my life and now I'm mildly obsessed with becoming more spiritually aware, thanks to your shows❤😘❤😘

  • @malik_alharb
    @malik_alharb 5 лет назад +144

    Its interesting how Tom's default is to try to optimize and accomplish things to live a fulfilling life. I find that to be a very western way of thinking. One could have a fulfilled life based off of achieving desired conscious experiences.

    • @maslakarkhus8673
      @maslakarkhus8673 5 лет назад +17

      Interesting indeed, I do think there exists a nice balance between the two though. If there is only focus on conscious experiences, I imagine the allure of completely giving in to constantly evolving narcotics, VR technology, etc, would be irresistible for future generations in the long run. The conscious experiences and reliefs need to have a strong connection to the real world, and I would think Tom’s way of thinking is beneficial in this regard.

    • @itscork
      @itscork 5 лет назад +18

      Optimization and accomplishment isn’t necessarily tied to material things. It doesn’t have to mean “ earning your PhD” or purchasing a 7,800 square foot home.
      I personally tend to think of a lifetime achievement goal as raising my children to be successful, kind, compassionate people.

    • @maslakarkhus8673
      @maslakarkhus8673 5 лет назад +1

      itscork Very true

    • @dalegriffiths3628
      @dalegriffiths3628 5 лет назад +4

      itscork true but then by you saying successful then that suggests that you want for your children a nice comfortable home, enough money to live on such that they have no financial worries, a big enough house that they can enjoy it, have friends over for dinner put up the in-laws if they are visiting etc. On the whole it is easier to be loving, kind and philanthropic if one has a base level of success themselves.

    • @thataintnomoonsucka
      @thataintnomoonsucka 4 года назад

      Taoism......look into it, but not too deeply.

  • @482jpsquared
    @482jpsquared 2 года назад

    @ 22:00. For me the great differentiator between anxiety and excitement in relation to the examples Sam gave is this. If I'm going to give a presentation, I have to control the situation. All eyes are on me. That's anxiety. (Angst-eye-ity you could say.). If I'm about to get on a roller coaster, the situation is going to control me. My eyes are on the world around me. That's excitement.

  • @eawil-sunart
    @eawil-sunart 5 лет назад +2

    My 2 favorite people... Thank you guys for helping me more than you will ever know..... I was at the end of my rope holding on to anything... and your mindset , wisdom and guests provided me with the awareness of so much.... down to realizing I'm actually a bright person.. something I never thought for one second... keep impacting , waking up and helping other make sense of the things that matter in life.... you are both an awesome gift to our universe

  • @ValerieEllis
    @ValerieEllis 5 лет назад +22

    What a coup to host Sam Harris. A truly supreme human being adding infinite value to the world to anyone perceptive enough to listen and consider his words. In a world of hostility, ignorance and superficiality, this person is a sparkling light in the dark, a reason for hope. Thank-you for introducing him to more people and return him often.

    • @annarizzuto4324
      @annarizzuto4324 5 лет назад +1

      Valerie Ellis l agree🙏 I’m grateful that he introduced another supreme human being, Andrew Yang, to Joe Rogan thereby raising awareness to his presidential campaign. The world needs more people like them. I’m watching from Australia ❤️🧢

  • @Breakingtheglasswall
    @Breakingtheglasswall 5 лет назад +27

    The best advice I ever received about anxiety was that there are three types, two of which you can't control. Neurotic anxiety is created when you ignore your natural and normal anxiety. It is anxiety over irrational fears, paranoia, ocd, opinions of others etc... The solution is to refocus on natural anxiety. Natural anxiety is about things you know you can have an impact on, goals, finances, daily life etc... Existential anxiety is about things outside the scope of your view and power: What happens when I die? What is the world coming to? Etc... The solution is to let go and trust whatever the power over those things is (or trust that the big picture of everything is fine).

    • @y488
      @y488 4 года назад +1

      Thanks for sharing that advice.
      Still working on taming the neurotic type of anxiety.
      If another power or figure controls something, I remind myself, "whatever happens, happens."

    • @vernie7882
      @vernie7882 4 года назад +3

      I can’t explain how much I love this comment. You have the exact same thouught I’ve come to before also. The difference is what you call neurotic anxiety is what I always thought of as ”being anxious about the anxiety itself” It’s when you go that one level deeper into misery where you don’t even care about basic things that naturally make you anxious so that you would just do something about them. Instead, you just have this ego about being a certain kind of anxious person and you are scared of the most ridiculous irrational things while conveniently not looking in the mirror and seeing all the things you’ve ignored that are making you anxious that you could fix.

    • @konan8353
      @konan8353 2 года назад

      Trust that the big picture of everything is fine is exactly the same as saying 'stop worrying' and not giving a reason why

    • @Terri_2.0
      @Terri_2.0 2 года назад

      ✌💞

  • @nishantintouch
    @nishantintouch 5 лет назад +28

    Sam is one of the few true intellectual giants mankind has today. Out of the four horsemen, he is the deepest thinker .

    • @ericboaz9631
      @ericboaz9631 4 года назад +5

      He is gifted not wise.wisdom is to know your source, God; creator of all things

    • @davidcottrell1308
      @davidcottrell1308 Год назад +1

      @@ericboaz9631 please.

  • @MegaYounglover
    @MegaYounglover 4 года назад +2

    Sam maintains the state of calmness effortless , and yet he got my attention 100% of what he got to say!🙏🏼

  • @gloriamariadc7757
    @gloriamariadc7757 5 лет назад +65

    "The diff btw excitement & anxiety is mostly just the framing.." whoa. "The power of framing is immensely powerful. The half life of a negative emotion is incredibly short."

    • @tubo1812
      @tubo1812 4 года назад +2

      I didn't listen to the video yet but reading that quote makes me think it is a waste of time, only one who doesn't know what anxiety is can say that

    • @Mo-ld1it
      @Mo-ld1it 4 года назад +4

      @@tubo1812 He literally has a PhD in neuroscience and you're some random shmuck on youtube

    • @gloriamariadc7757
      @gloriamariadc7757 4 года назад +4

      @@tubo1812 I totally hear u. (Yep, it's hard to hear that kind of quote when one has anxiety.)

    • @megyoung9303
      @megyoung9303 4 года назад +1

      @@Mo-ld1it What threatens you about this?

    • @Iyiouseismouse
      @Iyiouseismouse 4 года назад +6

      For what it’s worth I have diagnosed anxiety disorder and many nights have used Sam Harris’ methods in mindfulness and perspective to calm down instead of having to use my when needed anxiety medication prescription. That’s not to say that the meds aren’t good, or that it works for everyone, but it has helped me personally.

  • @gurung7271
    @gurung7271 5 лет назад +18

    This is amazing, deep and intellectual, needs to be watched more than once to grasp..

  • @yj9032
    @yj9032 4 года назад +149

    Video is titled: 'How to Instantly Achieve a Calm State'
    Is one hour long

    • @TheCommanderjoe
      @TheCommanderjoe 4 года назад +4

      Right? Just like all those dumbass videos that show you how to shoot free throws but are longer than the 2 seconds it takes to actually toss the ball 🤬🤬🤬

    • @rocioiruntv
      @rocioiruntv 4 года назад

      Good point!

    • @JustFingAwesome
      @JustFingAwesome 3 года назад +2

      It helped me a ton in the first minute🤷‍♂️

    • @dylancoleman1921
      @dylancoleman1921 3 года назад +3

      How long did it take you to learn to say your first word in your native tongue? How quickly can you say it now?

    • @Patriotsforlife91
      @Patriotsforlife91 3 года назад +9

      The education isn’t instant. The action is

  • @maxhess3151
    @maxhess3151 3 года назад +14

    If I ever have the courage to raise children, it'll be because of Sam. His insight was what was missing in my own childhood.

  • @cliffp.8396
    @cliffp.8396 5 лет назад

    Sam Harris is nothing less than authentic in his every speaking engagement. Such a solid intellect devoid of arrogance is refreshing and enjoyable to learn from.

  • @benhallo1553
    @benhallo1553 4 года назад +2

    Don’t know the host but cool to see his vibe in light of Harris’ presence. Most people would feel intimidated and maybe going into a mini ego battle but he remained confident but equally likeably vulnerable at the same time

  • @Coose08
    @Coose08 5 лет назад +31

    Thanks Sam, I can’t say how much I appreciate your work.

  • @Bestline7
    @Bestline7 4 года назад +3

    Once you start listening to Sam Harris, it's hard to stop until the end. He's one of the most lucid minds on this crumbling planet at the moment.

  • @MemberNo2
    @MemberNo2 5 лет назад +12

    "You are at the mercy of who you were yesterday."

  • @shmoopdogg7984
    @shmoopdogg7984 2 года назад +1

    Tom,
    This was at least the fifth time i watched this interview. Sam has been an inspiration and a guiding force for me in my life. But i want to mention that without you asking insightful questions and you using your own experience as a source for those questions, Sam's true nature to help us all navigate the mess would easily be lost. I realize it your job to sort of, bring out the best in your guests; and that is what you do so to speak, in this case it is your foreknowledge of Sam's work that really takes this interview to the next level. I feel that what Sam has to offer is so valuable that the onus really falls to in having the ability to sort of set the stage to let that that happen. Sam is so easily over the head of so many people, interviewers specifically, you deserve some thanks. That's all I'm trying to say. Excellent guest, yea it was a while ago now, but still super relevant. Thanks.

    • @johns4412
      @johns4412 2 года назад

      He has become the perfect example of what happens to a rational thinker who can't control his emotions

  • @ryazaminzadah
    @ryazaminzadah 4 года назад +1

    Tom, Im observing that your ability to keep up(for the lack of a better word) with the guests to ask relevant questions to steer the conversation towards a mutual point is amazing, could you comment on how your able to sustain that level of clarity in your conversations with each guest?

  • @sarasousasantos7751
    @sarasousasantos7751 5 лет назад +16

    this talk has made me feel so calm, so peacefull (im a highly anxious person ). Mr Harris insights ring so true in my mind, Im going to try to apply these ideas in my day to day life. This was gold, this was precious

    • @MCJOHNSON95
      @MCJOHNSON95 4 года назад +1

      Get his waking upp app

    • @rhondapelletier2141
      @rhondapelletier2141 3 года назад +1

      Me too, my only wish in life as I knew this when I was a younger adult. I am in my late 50s and spent my entire life in fear in flight mode...... nobody knew how to explain it to me.......

    • @kyubbi1017
      @kyubbi1017 2 года назад +1

      @@rhondapelletier2141 and here I am constantly saying I wish I knew this stuff when I was in high/secondary school an early teen , I’m 19 now seeing this made me realise there’s still so much ahead I guess just goes to show that it’s never too late for anything and everything happens for a reason ! Theres still so much left for u .

  • @ShadowZZZ
    @ShadowZZZ 4 года назад +4

    I meditate once every day, around 20min. It takes not much of your daily life, yet completely changers your perspective on how you view things, others and your self. For example, I am more focused, more calm, get less distracted by trivial things, and find myself less in uncomfortable moods like anxiety, depression, orientationlessness, motivationlessness. And its a very simple task: all you do is just sit down at a quiet place, close your eyes, take deep breaths, then let it come and go naturally, focus on the breath, focus on other sensations in your conscious world and notice them without judgement. If you're really curious you could try finding out where your thoughts originate from or where your self lies.

    • @parajdisokincsek8161
      @parajdisokincsek8161 2 года назад +1

      How do you meditate? what is the technique? thanks

    • @felixkemp2122
      @felixkemp2122 2 года назад

      @@parajdisokincsek8161 try waking up app

    • @Terri_2.0
      @Terri_2.0 2 года назад

      @@parajdisokincsek8161 It is described right in her post: sit down in a quiet place, etc...let thoughts simply come and go, no attachment or judgement, just focus on the breath coming into your nose or feeling your diaphragm rise a bit, etc. Just let the thoughts and feelings pass by without labelling them. Sit or lie down however it´s comfortable, open or close the eyes, do it as long or short as you choose. No rules at all.

  • @iangilbert4811
    @iangilbert4811 4 года назад +119

    How to instantly reach a calm state: simply listen to the soft tones of Sam Harris's voice.

    • @polymathpark
      @polymathpark 3 года назад +1

      try his meditation app for more of the sultry tones ;)

    • @melanie851
      @melanie851 3 года назад +2

      I'm in love with his voice...

    • @moatasemkassab4517
      @moatasemkassab4517 3 года назад +1

      He should make an ASMR channel and name it "Harris-ian ASMR"

  • @MichaelvanderGalien
    @MichaelvanderGalien 5 лет назад

    That last part hit me in the face, actually, because my uncle -- my dad's twin brother -- just heard that he has throat cancer, and that it looks like it may have spread to his prostate and even to his lungs. We are hoping for the best, because if it has spread, he's obviously in serious trouble. If it hasn't, it's treatable.
    In any case, loved this conversation. Very good points. Very usable.

  • @lesleysreadingroom2867
    @lesleysreadingroom2867 3 года назад +2

    Dear Sam , you have helped me through the most agonising period of anxiety in my life . Your tips are just easy and work like a bomb ! This is better than all my meds put together. I thank you .
    Ohh but , how I would love to help you get the best out of reading that you can . I love your voice . And you speak eloquently . You have wonderful composure and presence in front of the camera . As a librarian and speech coach and I coach reading skills online . I am sure I can help you a little to be able to read more efficiently . We need you to read more so that you can share more of your insights with us .

  • @creamrising
    @creamrising 5 лет назад +3

    I've been using the words "alter the metric" and it seems a precise match to Sam's idea of "framing", which is both liberating and empowering to me.

  • @raymondtendau2749
    @raymondtendau2749 5 лет назад +52

    Just Downloaded his book
    " the End of Faith"...Just a few pages through the book and im blown away already...Wow.

    • @clarkzy
      @clarkzy 5 лет назад +5

      Raymotives Worldwide I love it when I see someone discover Sam Harris because I remember that moment !! Enjoy the book and check out his podcast !!

    • @FiveThings2018
      @FiveThings2018 5 лет назад +1

      @Raymotives Worldwide And here is the first chapter of the audio version of "The End of Faith" Narrated by Sam Harris himself: ruclips.net/video/L8nqjqaN2C8/видео.html

    • @sylvannaidoo9085
      @sylvannaidoo9085 5 лет назад

      A modern day philosopher king..... thanks for helping me and countless others achieve a true sense of self

    • @MikkoHaavisto1
      @MikkoHaavisto1 4 года назад

      You wouldn't download a car.

    • @raymondtendau2749
      @raymondtendau2749 4 года назад

      @@MikkoHaavisto1 yeah true.

  • @toms6356
    @toms6356 5 лет назад +243

    This was way better than "Meet the Parents" but not quite as good as "Dodgeball".

    • @bluegtturbo
      @bluegtturbo 4 года назад +3

      I disagree - neither are as good as Something about Mary.

    • @kellybennett8011
      @kellybennett8011 4 года назад +6

      Looks like a Zen Stealer to me.

    • @SmilusMusic
      @SmilusMusic 3 года назад

      Haha

    • @hamig306
      @hamig306 3 года назад

      exactly

    • @rrrrrr6305
      @rrrrrr6305 3 года назад

      @@kellybennett8011 ز

  • @dannyromano8361
    @dannyromano8361 4 года назад +2

    I love sams ability to break things down the way he does.

  • @martincooper8559
    @martincooper8559 4 года назад +1

    Sam is most definitely one of the most insightful people in today's day and age...

  • @LoftBallerina
    @LoftBallerina 5 лет назад +6

    Great guest and great insights! Interesting how he talks about people seeing themselves as being in their head behind their face and not in their body. I have found that the cure to that is to have a dance practice! Or martial arts like in his case! Movement that is mindful is a game changer!

  • @Feelization
    @Feelization 5 лет назад +24

    Yes! ✨🙏❤️✨ Feeling The Feeling - without creating a big story around it is a very powerful practice.

  • @antmass3
    @antmass3 5 лет назад +40

    "We have to be hostage to a conversation that our ancestors were having 2,000 years ago, and we have to imagine that certain of our books were dictated by the creator of the universe." Love that line!

  • @Shaffaqwamiq
    @Shaffaqwamiq 4 года назад

    Sam Is a beautiful Human Being. He truly changed my life

  • @soubhikmukherjee6871
    @soubhikmukherjee6871 3 года назад +1

    Sam is moving in the right direction.

  • @Fireoncityy
    @Fireoncityy 4 года назад +5

    He gives such a good hug. I want a Sam Harris hug too

  • @clarkzy
    @clarkzy 5 лет назад +14

    I haven’t watched much of Tom - but every interview he actually listens, it’s great

    • @oolala53
      @oolala53 2 года назад

      It's interesting that you say that because although he does listen, I often think he talks too much about his own opinions. But he did seem to be really trying to take in what Sam was saying, which is WAY beyond the average self-help promoters out there.

  • @mistym0rning
    @mistym0rning 5 лет назад +15

    Jeez... after just the first 30 seconds Sam gave me this epiphany: my feelings of anxiety (heart racing, nervous feeling in my tummy) are very, very similar to e.g. the excitement of meeting a guy you have a crush on. It's not that far removed -- the difference is in whether you interpret the butterflies in your stomach as a desirable, positive feeling or a stressful, nerve-wracking experience.

    • @kusali11
      @kusali11 3 года назад

      He's sitting there calmly but it looks like he was describing his nerves.

  • @anneyng5633
    @anneyng5633 3 года назад

    Thank you, Tom, for asking Sam Harris some valuable and intuitive questions instead of poking him with the defensive religious stick. I really enjoy the sharing of information and actually getting past the 'boring angry stuff' of egoistic short-sightedness. I will watch more of your videos from hereon.
    You really know your questions and willing to learn through conversation. This is a refreshing take on a conversation with Sam.

  • @Spescorp90
    @Spescorp90 5 лет назад +1

    It’s very interesting how these guys can talk and talk and talk. Never get bored of it though. 👍

  • @PPS-UK
    @PPS-UK 5 лет назад +4

    That is one of the best explanations about self, the mind and the body I have heard from the western world outside of the indian gurus.

    • @aliciaali8299
      @aliciaali8299 4 года назад

      Try Sufism , you will learn a lot but to learn something ... mind should be open .

  • @Minorstepstudio
    @Minorstepstudio 5 лет назад +3

    By far the most important guest you've ever had here. Hope you keep bringing people of a similar intellectual level, instead of salesy internet marketers. Cheers

  • @kevindanielpg
    @kevindanielpg 5 лет назад +14

    Man Impact Theory is ON FIRE with the Guests, I'm just starting to see the interview and I already now that it will be gold, Sam is truly a slow pace and interesting thinker.

  • @grayfox5739
    @grayfox5739 4 года назад

    Sam Harris is a legend. Intelligence and wisdom personified. Anyone and everyone would benefit from his Philosophy.

  • @megg.6651
    @megg.6651 4 года назад

    Sam, you are a great example that the world needs right now.

  • @thereallegend4lyfe
    @thereallegend4lyfe 5 лет назад +29

    Where self help meets full blown philosophy. Wonderful.

    • @markreadin7124
      @markreadin7124 5 лет назад

      Any other recommended thinkers like Sam Harris?

    • @thereallegend4lyfe
      @thereallegend4lyfe 5 лет назад

      Jordan Peterson and Slavoj Zizek. @@markreadin7124

    • @markreadin7124
      @markreadin7124 5 лет назад

      @@thereallegend4lyfe Does Zizek have something that overlaps with self help? I hope so

    • @thereallegend4lyfe
      @thereallegend4lyfe 5 лет назад

      Not really, most of Zizek's work has to do with political philosophy. @@markreadin7124

    • @saritajoshi1737
      @saritajoshi1737 4 года назад

      @@markreadin7124 Daniel Schmachtenbetber

  • @jeremykrak
    @jeremykrak 5 лет назад +11

    I was homeschooled (religious reasons that I've since deprogrammed) --- but it gave me a weird unfair advantage to learning and self-study. After hearing this and at 26 minutes when Sam shared his "no life hack to learning", I say that to this, I've naturally developed almost the identical learning / information style (firehose of information from audiobooks and podcasts and discarding books on whim when I lose interest on thousands of topics) almost identically, and it's helped me really be very successful. Something strangely true about this style of learning that is better than "you have to finish it" model, much more fluid.

    • @karinlarsen2608
      @karinlarsen2608 2 года назад

      What if somehow we sign up for every experience we go through, to prepare us to meet God

    • @whenraindropsfall
      @whenraindropsfall 2 года назад +1

      what a long way to say ‘I’m stuck up’

    • @jdrex5039
      @jdrex5039 2 года назад +1

      @@karinlarsen2608 what God? God is a narrative not a reality..

    • @jdrex5039
      @jdrex5039 2 года назад

      @@whenraindropsfall what a short way to say 'I'm jealous'

  • @midoann
    @midoann 5 лет назад +8

    Sam Harris, the best intellectually and spiritual ( not in a religiously point of view).

  • @Claythargic
    @Claythargic 2 года назад

    Framing is easily one of life's great mental tools. My personal favorite variant of framing is voluntary re-framing, when you deliberately choose to present, to yourself, this current situation in a different way. Sam at his best in videos like this!

  • @rechanasivadasan1779
    @rechanasivadasan1779 4 года назад

    Listening to Sam = Mindfulness and Meditation

  • @carbon1479
    @carbon1479 4 года назад +3

    I really love his description of feeling cleaner/healthier coming out of it than having gone in. It's like a pressure wash for your nervous system IMHO.

  • @rogerbabson7221
    @rogerbabson7221 3 года назад +3

    Best line: "Most people are waiting for the world to give them a reason to just be present."

  • @bajpai96
    @bajpai96 5 лет назад +1

    You guys have been two of my favourite people in the world for years now and have honestly just been waiting for you to get together! Finding this was like Christmas for me; Tom you're the best interviewer I know of and always know how to ask the questions I seem to want to know the answers to most too - Sam is the one who answers things better than anyone I know and cares and is an expert in exactly what it is I'm passionate about.
    I don't think the interview could have gone better.
    Note: heard this on your podcast first, but had to come back to see it face to face.
    Cheers Tom, great stuff!

  • @georgekiapos1
    @georgekiapos1 3 года назад

    I've watched Impact Theory for years (among a host of other thought provoking podcasts). I've also followed Sam Harris along the way -- including some of his great debates with respected contemporary scholars. I've been a serious meditator for years now: every morning for a minimum of an hour, followed by 45 minutes of yoga (before I begin the mundane tasks of the day). And, I think it's finally paid off. I just had an epiphany watching the first eight minutes of this podcast. In great clarity, I've realized that what Tom and Sam are engaging in (despite each of their overflowing intellects, eloquent expression of language and desire to explore the human condition on a variety of levels) is that they are virtuosos in the art of conversational masturbation. Perhaps life is really much simpler than overthinking, or over speaking anything at all. The solutions are already there. Just look within with devout humility and impeccable honesty. The answers are sure to come.

  • @violinbuff3782
    @violinbuff3782 Год назад

    HARRIS has a great mind and an ability to have at the same time a very practical thought process. He is almost too smart but also self effacing. Be glad not to cloudy the waters with music in a multi tasking way. Music alone is obviously very beautiful

  • @auto-did-act
    @auto-did-act 5 лет назад +5

    Great work, Tom. I have a small suggestion: could you watch your own wordcount during your questions? Sometimes you seem to speak more than the person being interviewed (eg: qualifying your question with anecdotes) and it's easy to lose track of what your actual question was.

    • @lillyr1786
      @lillyr1786 3 года назад

      I wish you would do the interview, Cause you nailed it Tom is using too many words it’s dizzying.