Remote Work is Great but... I'm Lonely
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- Опубликовано: 17 май 2022
- I share an update on life doing remote work. 4 months and I'm really enjoying it but.... turns out remote work has its own downsides too. Remote work can be isolating and lonely when you spend a lot of time without interacting with other people.
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Hey guys! If you follow my IG, you know where I’m going with this video lol. Any of you work remotely and feel similarly?
I feel the exact same way. I have very low motivation to do work and get very bored because I’m not interacting with anyone.
Hi Sam, great video with relatable content, thanks for talking about these relatable issues
Aight i'll follow
@@rileyplant2 LOL at least sound more excited
I learned how to draw and fell in love with the idea of starting a business, but the adjustment to working from home and not seeing anyone leaves me feeling a bit uninspired.
I work remote and the key is to plan lots of stuff outside of work to do. Volunteer groups, running/biking clubs, sports leagues, starting/joining a band, going to local fairs, etc.. If you’re in a city, then theres also undoubtedly coworking meetups where you hang out with people during the day at a cafe or wherever and work.
@@vceisdeadwhat remote job would you recommend with no experience
It’s so much harder that way. It is so much easier to make connections with people when you’re actually on a physical team with them working together. Meeting random people and bicycling groups or whatever is very difficult. Difficult to even make friends like that, forget about girlfriend.
@@bluetoast8584 since the time I making this comment, I’ve found that the best way to make friends outside of work no contest is through coed sports leagues. Just find a team sport that you enjoy, I play beach volleyball.
Here in 2024, working along from home for years. No family nearby, no significant other for 2 years, no roommate, no co-workers. Feel like I'm losing my mind from the isolation and depression.
Quit and find a job in the cubicle.
I was the same until someone suggested I go do hobbies and interests with groups like clubs, etc which helped as I didn't feel forced to make friends but shared interests with others.
Great video. You mentioned not knowing how much of the loneliness is related to the pandemic vs. post-college life. I'm a bit older than you, and my observation has been that it's mostly the result of the pandemic (and maybe social media, too). My post-college life was much more social and much less lonely than my post-pandemic life today.
I really relate to this! I just started working remotely for 2 months now and it has obvious benefits of flexible hours and no commuting but I've been feeling fomo from not being in the office. I also agree with your thoughts on the disconnect we feel moving into working life as I graduated last year and now the world seems alot bigger but also more empty but it's up to me to change that... thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!
Thanks for watching Eric 😊
i feel this so hard. graduated 2019, working in tech as well. i’ve never been particularly career-focused, but i feel totally adrift in remote work. i was in an office for half a year before covid hit and i miss seeing people in-person during my workday. even if i wasn’t making friends with everyone, it was at least *something* during my mandated eight-hour workday. now, i just feel like there’s an absence there.
i live in a small city where it can be hard to meet people, which probably partially contributes to my woes, but i feel like a narc for saying i’d rather be in an office right now, haha.
Nah I get it! It gets really lonely out here lol
I work from home for the last 3 years, since the pandemic started. It's a call-centre job where I constantly get abused by the "Karens" and "Terrys" each day and also have to put up with some rude and arrogant team leaders whenever ever I ask questions or assistance. This job really opened up my eyes about people. Once you stay in a job for so long, you tend to see the ugly side of people. People that you thought were nice to you in the beginning are not really nice at all. Then I also realised that in life everything changes; nothing stays constant. People come and go. So many people that I know in my workplace had already left the job. My mistake was that I dwelled onto my misery and not noticing that time continues to move forward and doesn't stop for anyone. My motto in life is to embrace solitude, and always strive to better myself and to focus on myself than on other people.
People can be heckin rude sometimes :/ solitudes nice but there are good ppl out there too!
My job is not remote and during the pandemic I was pretty envious of all my friends who had remote jobs- after watching though, I realize I have an active social life and I would contribute my job to a good portion of that.
I still don’t like waking up early and commuting though…😪
Remote work has its pros and cons for sure, but it’s all about what u prefer!
This is really rather relatable, I like the way you think. I graduated from High School at 16, I got a Full Time White Collar Job about a Month ago, and I'm now 18. And I have to say, my Years between School and Work I was very independent, driven, and disciplined. Initially this Job was supposed to be Onsite, and I was looking forward to that adventurous aspect of it since I've been Homeschooled all of my life (And never leave the house or get to have friends). But then I realized they would have me working almost fully remote (Welp, more years working in the house).
You are definitely right in the way that having this extra time, we don't always spend it as efficiently as we would like to (I have that Inner Capitalist too). I certainly have spent 60% of this time on RUclips and AI rather inefficiently, when all this time I have had a Movie Project to that I could be working on. As you said, finally having a Job can make you a bit too comfortable, I am definitely experiencing that as well. When you mention the speed of life being really fast the first 17 years, that is also so true, I was in such a rush to study, get certified, and get a Job. But now that I have, it feels like the world just stopped.
But you are absolutely right when you say "In the end it comes down to discipline and getting out of our comfort zone to really live". Absolutely. I like how you don't go like "We're doomed", you get down to the common sense solution. Hearing you is just what I needed to reinforce my drive to get back in the fighting spirit.
Anyway, really good video, I like you so far, you're a good common sense working man, I might have to subscribe.
Very relatable as someone who graduated during the pandemic also. The ending where you're staring into the distance cracked me up!!
My future so bright I can’t see it
I can totally relate with the feeling of guilt for not using the time I have gained from wfh more productively
Relate, relate! I am working remotely since covid start. Those days was so lonely to me. I always cried before i sleep. I decided to quit social media last week and i hope it makes some changes. I'm glad i saw your one video today and it gives me new perspective in life. Thanks.
Thank you for this video, it's ironically made me feel less lonely knowing that there are other people in the same position who feel the same way. I, like you, have made it with a great job. I really related to your words around feeling like you're stagnating. University had constant goalposts, and for the first time we're all out in our own world doing our own thing. By most measures, I am successful, yet I still feel so envious of the people my age who are working at bars, or travelling, or both! You're right though, our life is in our own hands, and it's up to us to put ourselves out of our comfort zone.
You’re really interesting and you articulate this subject so well. I’m really enjoying your videos
Such an important topic but yet so less videos or blogs on this issue.
Glad you talked about it.
Please make a video on how to overcome this loneliness especially for freelancers
Heck yeah I’ll probably be talkin about it more in future videos:)
I totally agree with you man. Remote work is really not ideal, especially for young people. I work remote, but I know another department that is hybrid and I am so jealous of all the relationships and friendships They all have that they got from the job. You used to be able to take a job in a new city and meet a bunch of people and make friends and start a whole new life, it is much harder now, because a lot of desirable jobs are remote. I could go on much longer.
Thats crazy b/c I am having same thing where I am remote but I just moved to new state so it is kind of boring. I think sometimes it would nice to do a hybrid method but then I think it might just be revisionus history. I think remote work forces you to have to get out side your comfort zone which is good!
So True! And honestly I don’t think anyone wants to admit it. At least I put a cheery front that “I’m busy all day.” There is hardly communication with peers/ when I do see them at the office it’s very dry. Something is just off.
I started this job at the start of Covid, and it’s wearing… ready for Hybrid somewhere else.
Can relate 100% to pretty much everything you said. I also graduated in 2020 and it’s been hard making friends outside of work, especially with remote work.
I like the fun tease at the end of the video, excited to see what you’ve got planned about moving to a new location. I actually did something similar haha, I tried the digital nomad lifestyle at the start of the year and lived in Europe for 3 months. So if you need any tips or advice about traveling, let me know. It’s a lot of fun but a big learning curve too.
Since then, I’ve moved from my hometown in Florida to Los Angeles. I’m still at my Florida remote job (which I really enjoy) but feeling extra lonely in LA. Thanks for talking about this topic, it’s nice knowing that we’re all out here going similar issues. Just gotta stay excited about the future, learn new stuff, and meet new people.
Traveling is great! Such an easy way to experience new things
I'm about to do the Europe thing! Would love any tips
Moving to a walkable community + joining local meetups helped me with this. I have the benefits of WFH (comfy setup, deep work) while also bonding with people when I feel extroverted.
I too feel lonely when working remote. Although I think it's another thing for me then just remote work. I live in a quite remote village, where it's hard to find friends that like the same stuff as me. I literally got no friends. But that is usually ok, I have a family with three kids and a wife. But from time to time I feel really lonely, I sometimes think about starting to stream programming and maybe some old games, just for fun.
Great video Sam, I’m also a proponent of remote work. I just feel that we work too much and forget that we work to make a living and not the other way around.
I love your honesty! I was forced back to the office, people here in Brazil think working from home is not really work. Anyways.. I also struggle with making new friends, connecting with the ones I already have etc. Little by little we make some progress. I think in the end we should just try to see more the progress we've made rather than how much we have yet to achieve.
Great mindset!
Although you’re still allowed to want things ;)
Needed this :) always felt and feel lonely at work. Colleagues here are mostly just a snake in disguise and good people just left the company already due to this. Hope things were good. Glad that am not alone to feel this. :)
I feel very isolated. Having too much extra time to lay in bed
I’m in the exact same boat man! I work remotely too and only see my coworkers at socials once a month. I don’t mind my work but the routine feels so stagnant, lonely and boring. I’m not seeing anything new or having any new interaction. I was actually pretty depressed during the pandemic cause my life was only work. Now I’m starting to put more effort into creating a social life outside work. I joined a softball league, met some people through an improv class, and am trying to be more proactive about filling my life with fun stuff. I’m also about to hop on a plane for the first time in 2 years so that should help as well.
Love the initiative you put into softball and other activities! CHeering u on from afar 💪🏼
I relate to you bro. I just moved to a new city, remote working and feeling lonely.
I can absolutely relate to this - to the point where I'm excited to go back to school in July because it'll give me consistent human interaction lol
Yasss we’re all lacking a little human interaction! Japan??
@@SamLui especially after covid lol. And YES IT'S FINALLY HAPPENING
@@elevLisa woohooo!!!!
Exactly this dude. I dropped out of college and became a self taught freelance "pixel artist", but I feel like this isn't sustainable for my mental health. I think it's time for me to continue my computer science degree to meet people and learn more about the world than what's only in my bubble.
I think the perfect balance was my last job. It was remote, office was local, we connected every month or two and just went home after a few hours. I have a new job now, once a week on site which isn't too bad but I always wish I were remote when I am stuck in rush hour or having to stay at the office that day just because. I do have fully remote opportunities, where the office is outside my state... I do get nervous about being remote with no local team. I
The thing you realize real quick when you get into your 30's is that whatever you expected life to be like turns out to nothing like it. People change for good and bad. You loose friends and it becomes much harder to make new friends as you get older. People get far busier with family and you rarely will see them other than major events like birth, death and weddings. Don't need to sugarcoat it. That's the reality.
i feel really related to you at the moment
Kuyaaaaaaaaa Saaaaaaaaam!! I laughed so hard on the "1st world problem" haha. On behalf of the 3rd world countries - I agree hahaa.
I can relate on the feeling hehe I am an introvert too believe it or not haha but being alone and stuck for many years did take its toll on me too and many colleagues buuuuut although I am alone I kinda don't feel lonely so yeah if that makes sense hehe. Stepping out of our comfort zone is soooooo hassle haahah netflix and chill is life!!! hhaha kidding :D
Ugh I love my alone time too but DANG sometimes I need time w other humans. It’s so refreshing to talk to someone who has different thoughts than you 😅
Also kuyaaaa! I haven’t seen you in a while! Welcome back :)
felt this one
You’re not alone bro!
I'm in marketing for a small start up saas company remote. i am the youngest member of the company, 24, grad in 2020, and there's only 10 other people in it, and they're mostly retirement age or parent age. So I'm not close with any of my coworkers. Yes the extra time is put in my hobbies like art and roller blading but it's mostly for self-entertainment as most college friends are starting to get busy with their own lives as well. I'm thinking about going back to my childhood roots of doing volunteering work like I did back in grade school hopefully to meet new friends but I doubt I'd ever meet people my age doing volunteer work, most are either clubbing or partying still while I grew out of that after college.
So many options dude. Volunteering and giving back doesn’t seem like a bad idea at all!
I work remote and do volunteer stuff and lots of other things outside work and theres a ton of people in their 20s doing volunteer stuff. Its a really great way to meet new people all while contributing positively to your local community.
At the end of the day, this exercise teaches us that, in many cases, looking terrible in public isn’t as bad as we believe. Sure, we might get some looks and giggles, but these don’t hurt, now do they? The Cynic philosopher Diogenes of Sinope used to sleep in a barrel on the streets, walking around in ragged clothes, ‘pleasured’ himself in public, and insulted people who walked past him. He didn’t care what people thought of him. Therefore, no one was able to hurt him.
true 🥺🥺🥺
Same with freelance part-time work. Thinking of switching to full-time.
Full time freelancing??
@@SamLui Currently - yes
Join a Rec or club. Their pretty good.
cool cool cool but why can't I hear u?
I’ve found that depending on in office interactions for friendships is a hollow endeavor. People move around the organization and move on to different companies. It’s better to invest social capital in more stable areas outside of work.
if you feel lonely that's not a problem of remote work . you simply don't have friends or don't know how to make. if you're relying on your job to not feel lonely , then you have the problem. remote work is the best thing! you save money and time from the unnecessary commute , you have better mental health , less pollution for the enviroment, less car accidents
True but at the end of the day its not going to be for everyone.
Yeah its 100% not having enough friends and family. Im lonely af
you're to pretty to be lonely ;)
Pretty people get lonely too! But thanks :)
Ai needs u to feed it
4 months in and you already talk like a corporate bot.
It wasn’t like this after I graduated from school and that was back in 2011, this is covid-post Covid I am an introvert also, but something changed in me after Covid since I’m also remote I feel so lonely and from having no social anxiety to not even able to go to the office due to the social anxiety from not socializing in so long.