I never wanted to get married because I have seen very very few spouses who are content together. But Alhamdulillah Allah blessed me with a partner who is the light in my life. We find peace and joy in each other's company, do things together. Unfortunately we dont see such behaviors in couples
Salam Tazeen, mashAllah it was a very refreshing episode to see that common couples are thinking outside the box and wanting to bring a positive change. Marriage has been a very interesting topic for me to learn about and always wanting to improve in myself even after being married for 23 yrs to a lovely person. Farhan bhai's reaction that you are listening to him with patience just cuz you are on the podcast caught my attention the most in the entire episode ..and your comment that " iss per may ihtijaj keroon on gi" made me think of y couples usually don't have conversations...and that's not what I am implying on both of you at all...but just pondering and wanting to emphasize that if one partner has an issue/prob ...he/she should have enough patience/space to hear the their partner fully before jumping on to asking questions or suggesting any solutions...
Patience/gratitude are so important in a healthy relationship ...be it parents with kids or husband/wife. We learn that from the story of life and Musa (AS).
Initially I was apprehensive about the face veil..Because I was a victim of a stereotype. But, this is one of the best husband-wife conversation I have ever witnessed. Goodluck with your marriage..its beautiful.
I think this rise of lavish weddings is the changing paradigms... We're seeking validation from others. We need likes and waao-s to be accepted....it's sad....peak times of materialism.
Very useful and impactful discussion. I remember I used to express similar thoughts before I got married. I think societal pressure is the main root cause.
Assalam o Alikum Its good to see that people are discussing family related topics. I hope more topics will be discussed in future. I am just 23 years so have no expereince so do correct me if my opinon is worng. As far as the responsibilities of a house are concerned, in my opinion there are two parts. One is financial and one is house work. And i think before marriage the girl and boy should decide who is major responsible for what. It doesnt necessarily means the women has to do all the house work. Husband and wife are partners so they both should collectively decide about their roles and responsibilities.
Main Alhudulillah baiton ki shadi krny wali hon Insha Allah, hum to simply krna chah rhyn but lrki walay co oprate krny ko tyyar nahi jab k hum Middle class sy belong krty hain
Loved it. The jokes on marriage has such historical and psychological roots. You know like how the movie humanized oppenheimer, thats what the humor around marriage does. Diffuse the conversation of changing the norms and just deflect it by laughing at it k hahaha aisa hi hota hai bus. Humor is such a powerful tool used against the oppressed like what the colonists did to pakhtuns to diffuse their threat and intimidation.
In the Quran, whenever Allah mentions nikkah he also emphasizes purity along with it highlighting that the purpose of marriage is to uphold and maintain purity The most primary and fundamental reasons of getting married includes 1) halal sex 2)Progeny Yet the modern world and women are indoctrinated into labelling the one of the most fundamental reasons for getting married as a disgusting thing And they are basically trying to demonize both in marriage Kids - women aren't kids making machine Sex - you see women as objects
Really important topic for changing the values our society! Very true! Society Change us waqt tk acha lagta hy jb tk ap ko khud kuch change na krna pary I really need this type of discussion I think this idea 3-4years ago with my life partner ...I feel my dream comes true but with the different characters ❤❤ Thanks to both of you and your team
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27 December 2007 mai Hum nai Larosh catering say free food khaya thaa 😊 q k sara khana venue say wapis aa gaya thaa or itna khana larosh catering walay store nahi kur suktay thaay toh sub unhao nai area mai awazain laga laga k bantt diya thaa
Very good and impressive discussion but little heavy to consume for common people, concepts, words are not very "desi" , so one to be a well educated to consume this discussion.
Allah ap dono ki jori salamat rakhy ... Boht deep topics py ap dono baat kar rahy hain ... Bas aik suggestion hai keh kisi baat ko bhi binary mai dekha jae ... Matlab ye sab baatyn agar sahi nahi hain to totally ghalat bhi nahi hain... Shukria ... Jzakumullah khair.❤
Boht important podcast hai ... Isko tags lga dyn ta ky topic dubara search karny mai asani ho ... Jzakumullah khair❤. Mai khud married copules ki counseling karta hu lekin boht saari baatyn in mai sy mai khud bhi karta tha ... Halanky sab baatom ko binary mai nahi dekhna chahiye keh ye baat bilkul ghalat ya normal ... Btw boht faeda hua ... Again jzakumullah khair.
25:50 probably because people innately senselessly follow their forefathers with or without knowing purpose of doing those things. They don't wanna think about if they should do it or not, as thinking is painful...and requires mental effort
Mujhe nahi pata keh mery comments ap logo ko pohnch rahy hain keh nahi please koi messege pohnchany ka way btaiey koi gmail ya or kuch ... Jzakumullah khair
Wese jo mn ek chz chata hn k hamari Society mn change ho wo Shadi krne ka tareeka h Chahe wo molvi q na ho Islam nhi yad ayga jb on ki beti ki shadi hogi wo Khana phir bhi Khilayga
25:50 Ham is lie kre hn K ek trending mn h jo chz Trending mn hoti h wo Log Zaror krty hn ye cheez log ab zakat le k shadi krty hn or bohot Log ek assets Sell kr k
Same mn bhi sochta hn Or Hamare relatives ab mujy isi wjh se Bewakoof lagne Lage hn Ek mehengi shadi kr k pata nhi Kia hasil krty hn I'm 21 mn ne niyat ki Jitna hosaky otna Kam kharcha krsako lekin mere maa bap or future K jo khandan milyga Wo bhi ye nhi krne dege Lekin ek misal to banao ga zaror
Chand bemaqsad functions aur bekar saman par 50 lac kharch krne se behtar hai ye paisa ache assets mai invest krde, miya bivi dono aur unki ane wali nasal k future k liye kafi faidamnd rahega
Ap shadi ki baat kr rahay hain ma Lahore ma ek Elite liberal arts University ma parhta houn larkiyo ki jo aj halaat hain dar lagta Maa Baap ko hostel wali larkiyo ka tu pata he nahi ha. Baki meray samnay larki k 3-5 boyfriends hotay secretly aur physically 2-3 se attached. Ab her dosri teesri larki ager single ha tu aesi dekhtain jesay larkay ghourtay thay kesi zamnay ma larkiyo ko. Ab larkiyo pa trust nahi raha sharif larkay kiya krain! Maa Baap shadi ki baat krtay hain tu dar lagta kiyo k larkiyoun k jo halaat ha. Dil krta ha 2-3 bachay adopt kr la banda jesay Maa Baap grandchildren ki khowahish krtay hain. Social media, Western culture ka influence India ma aur India ka Pakistan ho raha ha. Drugs ki tu baat nahi karo ga jo wo leti hain larkiya. Larkay bhi qasoorwaar hain lekin Sharif larkay kaha jaien? Larkiya wesay he bad boys se attract hoti hain aur phir jab dhoka milta ha toxic masculity, all men are dog etc. Shadi ko rehnay he dain yeah ghatay ka soda lagta ha. No offense intended. (This is my personal experience anyone can disagree)
@@Gungalo yar ap boht achy bachy lag rahy ho ... Allah apko kamyab kary ... Asal baat to yehi hai jo ap ny btai hai saari ... Lekin ap Allah py bharosa rakho or shadi ky waqt thora stand bhi lena sab Allah py hi na chor dena ... InshaAllah apko achi larki mil jae gi ... Allah ny achon ky liey achi hi rakhi hoti hain ❤️
Mai sigma male type admi hu lekin strangely mujhe madam ki baat zyada sensable or easily acceptable lagti hai or farhan bhai ki baat questionable or debatable nazr aati hai 😊
Very interesting and mature discussion, really appreciate.. Need more of such discussions. آگے بڑ ھنا ہے تو اطوار بدلنے ہوں گے ہم کو معیار وں کے معیار بدلنے ہوں گے
Meri shadi pr 10 lakh rs mere end se kharch hoye thay aur ex wife ki side se samajh lo 20 lakh. Phir bhi divorce ho gayi. Yeh sb bekar hay itna kharcha krna.
مجھے انتہائی خوشی ہو رہی ہے فمیلی ولاگرز جیسے جاہلوں کے درمیان ایک ایسی فیملی ہے جو بہترین گفتگو کر رہی ہے ❤ اللّه سلامتی دے میرے بہن بھائی دونوں کو 💚 میں نے بھی ایسا بولا مگر میری بیوی نے منع کر دیا کے تم سارا پیسہ خرچ کر دو گے بعد میں مجھے پریشانی ہو گی۔۔ پیسہ بچا لو شادی ہو جاۓ گی ❤❤❤
I really don't agree with this podcast towards the end, admi ko kamana hai har halat mai lekin ghar ke kaam mai dono partners hain. Ye ajeeb si aik hypocrisy hai.
It's important that you share the responsibility with her, not necessarily equally. When u feel ill you take a leave from the office, it's important that when she feels ill or exhausted she can take leave from her house wife responsibilities. Equally sharing work is not necessary but empathy towards her role and troubles is important
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I never wanted to get married because I have seen very very few spouses who are content together. But Alhamdulillah Allah blessed me with a partner who is the light in my life. We find peace and joy in each other's company, do things together. Unfortunately we dont see such behaviors in couples
Mashallah! It's truly inspiring to see such happiness! We would love to hear more from you both we need to tell positive stories
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This is such an important conversation. You guys are making a real impact!
Thanks 🙏 - what do you think is the right approach between weddings and marriage?
@MOMKAST I think as muslims we should stick to what Islam says and keep weddings as simple as possible
Become a human being first...Everything else comes later.
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Salam Tazeen, mashAllah it was a very refreshing episode to see that common couples are thinking outside the box and wanting to bring a positive change.
Marriage has been a very interesting topic for me to learn about and always wanting to improve in myself even after being married for 23 yrs to a lovely person.
Farhan bhai's reaction that you are listening to him with patience just cuz you are on the podcast caught my attention the most in the entire episode ..and your comment that " iss per may ihtijaj keroon on gi" made me think of y couples usually don't have conversations...and that's not what I am implying on both of you at all...but just pondering and wanting to emphasize that if one partner has an issue/prob ...he/she should have enough patience/space to hear the their partner fully before jumping on to asking questions or suggesting any solutions...
Patience/gratitude are so important in a healthy relationship ...be it parents with kids or husband/wife. We learn that from the story of life and Musa (AS).
We totally agree, listening , empathising and having compassion is mandatory.
I know farhan bhai since 2004 . When I was in school. Raftar and momkast is choosing excellent topics. These are the real issues of our society.
Thanks a lot really appreciate it -Farhan
Initially I was apprehensive about the face veil..Because I was a victim of a stereotype. But, this is one of the best husband-wife conversation I have ever witnessed. Goodluck with your marriage..its beautiful.
That’s very kind of you. Would love to hear from you ❤️
I think this rise of lavish weddings is the changing paradigms... We're seeking validation from others. We need likes and waao-s to be accepted....it's sad....peak times of materialism.
لیکن وہ کہتے ہیں ہماری شادی ہماری مرضی پھر
Very useful and impactful discussion. I remember I used to express similar thoughts before I got married.
I think societal pressure is the main root cause.
Exactly, we need to talk about it!
Ma sha Allah kitni achi jori he ap logo ki allah pak hamisha khush o khurram rakhe aur ap k podcast se awam me tabdeeli aye ameen
Ameeen! Please join our movement of social change help us identify and deal with issues that are most important for our society
Assalam o Alikum
Its good to see that people are discussing family related topics. I hope more topics will be discussed in future.
I am just 23 years so have no expereince so do correct me if my opinon is worng.
As far as the responsibilities of a house are concerned, in my opinion there are two parts. One is financial and one is house work.
And i think before marriage the girl and boy should decide who is major responsible for what.
It doesnt necessarily means the women has to do all the house work.
Husband and wife are partners so they both should collectively decide about their roles and responsibilities.
بہت سارے نوجوان لڑکیاں ایک نوجوان میاں کی انتظار میں لیکن ہم نے شادی کو اتنا مہنگا بنایا ہے اور دوسری طرف زنا کو بہت آسان بنایا گیا ہے 😢
It’s crazy
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Main Alhudulillah baiton ki shadi krny wali hon Insha Allah, hum to simply krna chah rhyn but lrki walay co oprate krny ko tyyar nahi jab k hum Middle class sy belong krty hain
Himmat karain 🙏 zor lagain
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته بہت بڑی وجہ دین سےدوری اور معاشرہ کا پریشر ہے اور خاص کر اس پریشر کا خواتین بہت اثر لیتی ہیں۔
You are doing great work for the Society.😇
Thank you so much 😀
“With great power comes great responsibility”. Nice to see MOMKAST quoted Stan Lee’s quote from Spider-Man’s comic
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A much awaited insightful discussion
Thank you for this educational discussion. Our society needs more people like you. Your team is doing its best to make the world a happier place.
Thanks boss - please subscribe and share
Loved it. The jokes on marriage has such historical and psychological roots. You know like how the movie humanized oppenheimer, thats what the humor around marriage does. Diffuse the conversation of changing the norms and just deflect it by laughing at it k hahaha aisa hi hota hai bus. Humor is such a powerful tool used against the oppressed like what the colonists did to pakhtuns to diffuse their threat and intimidation.
In the Quran, whenever Allah mentions nikkah he also emphasizes purity along with it highlighting that the purpose of marriage is to uphold and maintain purity
The most primary and fundamental reasons of getting married includes
1) halal sex
2)Progeny
Yet the modern world and women are indoctrinated into labelling the one of the most fundamental reasons for getting married as a disgusting thing
And they are basically trying to demonize both in marriage
Kids - women aren't kids making machine
Sex - you see women as objects
Really important topic for changing the values our society!
Very true! Society Change us waqt tk acha lagta hy jb tk ap ko khud kuch change na krna pary
I really need this type of discussion I think this idea 3-4years ago with my life partner ...I feel my dream comes true but with the different characters ❤❤
Thanks to both of you and your team
🙏🙏 please spread the word
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Thanks a lot for giving the space on your platform !
Will share with you if blinks any idea !
Very nice discussion in the beautiful way!❤
27 December 2007 mai Hum nai Larosh catering say free food khaya thaa 😊 q k sara khana venue say wapis aa gaya thaa or itna khana larosh catering walay store nahi kur suktay thaay toh sub unhao nai area mai awazain laga laga k bantt diya thaa
What a story!!!
You’re talking about Nazimabad?
Very critical topic ❤
Very good and impressive discussion but little heavy to consume for common people, concepts, words are not very "desi" , so one to be a well educated to consume this discussion.
We will be careful next time brother 🙏
Allah ap dono ki jori salamat rakhy ... Boht deep topics py ap dono baat kar rahy hain ... Bas aik suggestion hai keh kisi baat ko bhi binary mai dekha jae ... Matlab ye sab baatyn agar sahi nahi hain to totally ghalat bhi nahi hain... Shukria ... Jzakumullah khair.❤
Agreed 👍🏻
Boht important podcast hai ... Isko tags lga dyn ta ky topic dubara search karny mai asani ho ... Jzakumullah khair❤.
Mai khud married copules ki counseling karta hu lekin boht saari baatyn in mai sy mai khud bhi karta tha ... Halanky sab baatom ko binary mai nahi dekhna chahiye keh ye baat bilkul ghalat ya normal ... Btw boht faeda hua ... Again jzakumullah khair.
That’s such an important POV.
25:50 probably because people innately senselessly follow their forefathers with or without knowing purpose of doing those things. They don't wanna think about if they should do it or not, as thinking is painful...and requires mental effort
That’s precisely the case we don’t stop and ponder
Makes sense.
bhai raftar pe uplaod karo na ye, waha ki audience ko yaha laane ke liyw
MA! Great work ❤❤❤
Shukran
Mujhe nahi pata keh mery comments ap logo ko pohnch rahy hain keh nahi please koi messege pohnchany ka way btaiey koi gmail ya or kuch ... Jzakumullah khair
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@MOMKAST my pleasure 😊
Wese jo mn ek chz chata hn k hamari Society mn change ho wo Shadi krne ka tareeka h
Chahe wo molvi q na ho Islam nhi yad ayga jb on ki beti ki shadi hogi wo Khana phir bhi Khilayga
25:50 Ham is lie kre hn K ek trending mn h jo chz Trending mn hoti h wo Log Zaror krty hn
ye cheez log ab zakat le k shadi krty hn or bohot Log ek assets Sell kr k
31:00 100% agreed!
but the truth is those who have tried to set examples despite being affluent, are not seen as positive.
Farhan is right this is truly difficult
Same mn bhi sochta hn Or Hamare relatives ab mujy isi wjh se Bewakoof lagne Lage hn Ek mehengi shadi kr k pata nhi Kia hasil krty hn
I'm 21 mn ne niyat ki Jitna hosaky otna Kam kharcha krsako lekin mere maa bap or future K jo khandan milyga Wo bhi ye nhi krne dege Lekin ek misal to banao ga zaror
Best of luck bro
Chand bemaqsad functions aur bekar saman par 50 lac kharch krne se behtar hai ye paisa ache assets mai invest krde, miya bivi dono aur unki ane wali nasal k future k liye kafi faidamnd rahega
100%
Ap shadi ki baat kr rahay hain ma Lahore ma ek Elite liberal arts University ma parhta houn larkiyo ki jo aj halaat hain dar lagta Maa Baap ko hostel wali larkiyo ka tu pata he nahi ha. Baki meray samnay larki k 3-5 boyfriends hotay secretly aur physically 2-3 se attached. Ab her dosri teesri larki ager single ha tu aesi dekhtain jesay larkay ghourtay thay kesi zamnay ma larkiyo ko. Ab larkiyo pa trust nahi raha sharif larkay kiya krain! Maa Baap shadi ki baat krtay hain tu dar lagta kiyo k larkiyoun k jo halaat ha. Dil krta ha 2-3 bachay adopt kr la banda jesay Maa Baap grandchildren ki khowahish krtay hain. Social media, Western culture ka influence India ma aur India ka Pakistan ho raha ha. Drugs ki tu baat nahi karo ga jo wo leti hain larkiya. Larkay bhi qasoorwaar hain lekin Sharif larkay kaha jaien? Larkiya wesay he bad boys se attract hoti hain aur phir jab dhoka milta ha toxic masculity, all men are dog etc. Shadi ko rehnay he dain yeah ghatay ka soda lagta ha. No offense intended. (This is my personal experience anyone can disagree)
Wow…that’s a completely different pov
Allah se dua karein.
@@Gungalo yar ap boht achy bachy lag rahy ho ... Allah apko kamyab kary ... Asal baat to yehi hai jo ap ny btai hai saari ... Lekin ap Allah py bharosa rakho or shadi ky waqt thora stand bhi lena sab Allah py hi na chor dena ... InshaAllah apko achi larki mil jae gi ... Allah ny achon ky liey achi hi rakhi hoti hain ❤️
very well
Thank you!
Mai sigma male type admi hu lekin strangely mujhe madam ki baat zyada sensable or easily acceptable lagti hai or farhan bhai ki baat questionable or debatable nazr aati hai 😊
Sigma male Kya hota hai bhai? Ye sigma alpha etc ye sab fazool batain hain bus.
@Enthusiastic_Khan ok ji ... Sorry ap ko agar koi baat buri lagi ho ... 🙏
Very interesting and mature discussion, really appreciate..
Need more of such discussions.
آگے بڑ ھنا ہے تو اطوار بدلنے ہوں گے
ہم کو معیار وں کے معیار بدلنے ہوں گے
Bohat bohat shukriya! Please aage aur logon ke sath share karain
Meri shadi pr 10 lakh rs mere end se kharch hoye thay aur ex wife ki side se samajh lo 20 lakh. Phir bhi divorce ho gayi. Yeh sb bekar hay itna kharcha krna.
That’s very sad and that’s the point we are making - it’s important to have a good marriage
@MOMKAST in my second marriage I will not repeat the same mistake
Aab Damad Alhudulillah bht achay hain aab Bhoyn bht ajeeb ho gi hain😂😂😂😂
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ہم دین سے دور ہو کر بربادی کی طرف جارہے ہیں جتنی خرافات بےحیائی بڑھتی جارہی ہے برداشت ختم عزت ختم شادی بھی نہیں چل پارہی
ناز کرنے کی درست وجہ پاس نہ ہو تو احساس کمتری سے رسومات اور دکھاوے برامد ہوتے ہیں۔
Kya baat hay 🙏
یہ جملہ سلمان آصف صدیقی صاحب کا لگ رہا ہے۔
یہ انکا اندازِ بیان ہے
Muje civic Wala larka chaye😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
مجھے انتہائی خوشی ہو رہی ہے فمیلی ولاگرز جیسے جاہلوں کے درمیان ایک ایسی فیملی ہے جو بہترین گفتگو کر رہی ہے ❤ اللّه سلامتی دے میرے بہن بھائی دونوں کو 💚 میں نے بھی ایسا بولا مگر میری بیوی نے منع کر دیا کے تم سارا پیسہ خرچ کر دو گے بعد میں مجھے پریشانی ہو گی۔۔ پیسہ بچا لو شادی ہو جاۓ گی ❤❤❤
Zindabad please 🙏 subscribe and share 🙏
The issue is very important but all in vain .
😂. Empty talk.!
Baaki sarai baatain theek lekin har Islamic podcast feminism ka shikar hai, har bar qawam ki meaning distort karna bara common hai.
I really don't agree with this podcast towards the end, admi ko kamana hai har halat mai lekin ghar ke kaam mai dono partners hain. Ye ajeeb si aik hypocrisy hai.
It's important that you share the responsibility with her, not necessarily equally. When u feel ill you take a leave from the office, it's important that when she feels ill or exhausted she can take leave from her house wife responsibilities. Equally sharing work is not necessary but empathy towards her role and troubles is important
22:18 Bang on !
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