🤔Why we don't have friends + fun announcement! (Week Re-cap)
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- Опубликовано: 21 июн 2019
- Tom says he doesn't like people...I'm an introvert...so we have a hard time making friends! But we're pushing ourselves outside of our comfort zone to find a group to spend time with!
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It’s so nice that Tom has become a regular on your show. You two are adorable!
Love the team. I smile from ear to ear.
They are so cute together!!
This is why decluttering works for you, Cas, and Dana....you all have spouses who love and support you and your vision. I am married to someone who literally undermines my every effort to organize, get a routine, and stop the chaos he so enjoys. I've discovered through Dr. Ramini and my counselor that I'm dealing with a narcissist, who loves chaos and disorder b/c it keeps me off-balance and helps him avoid responsibility. How do I navigate that in my quest for order and routine? Anybody?
@@shelleykapp9637 It's very hard to have *clarity* when in a relationship with a narcissist. You will probably need to develop some strategies for resistance. (Not enmity or belligerence! 🤪 Not even confrontation, initially, until you feel you are prepared for it.)
Perhaps, as far as decluttering goes, start with your own stuff, and declutter things that are not too noticeable to begin with. (Stealth, so you avoid reactions.)
He might become a bit suspicious when he sees you getting more upbeat, but I hope you have made some personal progress before then.
I was in a relationship with a narcissist, and when I realized that those relationships begin as *co-dependancies* it rankled a bit.
I had to face the truth that I had been an *enabler* of his behaviour, and because of my own insecurities I put up with behaviour that was disrespectful towards me.
Thankfully, after escaping that relationship I began dealing with the insecurities in myself that made me a victim and an enabler. So, *never again!!*
Best wishes for the future 👍👍😊
@@judylloyd7901 Your advice is spot on. Thank you. I am very grateful for your insightful, kind, and encouraging words.
My, I thought we were strange for not having friends ....And to see so many people who can relate ...its refreshing and comforting that we somehow normal
or that we are all abnormal lol
Actually I'm on that path to ditch friend circle.
I know. Same here
Oh my goodness, making friends as an adult is so hard. I have so many aquaintances, but it's so hard to have real friends. I also moved away from my closest ones.
There is a good book called Friendtimacy by Shasta Nelson you may like. She has done a ted talk too
Yes, that is hard! I don't know why it can't be like in elementary school!!
That is me I can walk into a room and socialise and I am quite loud, but translate that into a new friendship no. I seldom phone people or follow up as I am convinced that it is a step to far.
For me it's hard because I'm always so willing to put in the effort, and I end up getting ghosted by grown ass adults. :(
@@jmcast3195 JM Cast, I've just come back from that TED talk after reading your comment and wanted to thank you! Not sure how this is going to change my current relationships, but makes total sense and lifts a curtain of how I lack at finding real close friends. Thanks for sharing and have a great life!
Here's to the introverts! Nothing wrong with leaving it to the extroverts to do the talking - they enjoy it anyway 😃
Love the book, "Quiet" by Susan Cain
Agree
I always thought I was an extrovert, but recently have discovered that is not quite the case.
I can talk fairly easily to most people, and I can talk a lot, but I'm quite happy with my own company for days at a time.
People are starting to label those like me as "ambiverts," like the ambidextrous person who can use either left or right hand. 😊🤪
I like being around people for about 15 minutes, after that - please let me go home.
I know, right?
Same here!
Ahaha lol love this.
Yes! 😛
Amen!
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Thanks for this simple recipe for the seasoning!!!
I also add a packet of sazon goya 🥰🤗
And coriander.
So much healthier!❤
Aww. The shout out to your old friends was touching.
I know this is from a year ago, but I have a very VERY wise friend who told me (when I was feeling guilty about being fairly antisocial and okay with being antisocial!) that "you have to 'audition' at least 20 people before you find one who is even remotely friend material." What a great relief it was to hear that!
I SO relate to Tom! Starting conversations and small talk are extremely uncomfortable for me. Meeting new people is almost torture but friends add so much joy to your life and are worth the discomfort in the end. Loved this video 😁
Thank you so freaking much for being honest and transparent! I really felt like my husband and I were weird for not having many friends. Making friends as an adult is seriously hard! Also, I feel like most people in their late 30’s have so much drama. I am really a drama free person and just don’t have the energy for it 🤷🏽♀️. I would love a great tribe, maybe I’ll listen to your book recommendation.
Let's be friends... I feel the same way! haha :) we are drama free almost all the time but take the time to break down things that are "serious" to us for sure
I think Tom and my husband would be best of friends he’s so similar! We have a teen and a three yr old it’s hard to make new friends!!!
we're the same
That’s me and my husband! We have no friends! He acts like he doesn’t like people, it’s like pulling teeth to get him to social events and talking. I’m a little nervous but love people and know I need it because I’m at home all the time. Thanks for the video :)
Get some friends of your own and then introduce them as a done deal. That's what I did.
same
Zero Waste Wiltshire thank you!
yep!!!
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Tom, you are hilarious!
Thank you all for keeping it honest and real!
So, I'm binging yours and several other channels right now and it's crazy listening to you talk about spending more time w real, live people and then covid happens this year and closes that down even further. So sad what's going on but we can still find ways to serve others and I thin that's the key! Thanks for serving the RUclips community w awesomeness you two!
I love Tom's humor - cracking up while I watch this. Very sweet couple!
I love Tom's face when you say "real live people"!! I feel exactly the same way, Tom!
I so appreciate your honesty... not liking the people meeting (dating)process! It’s great to realize there are more of us! My husband is a 2nd career minister. He says he’s introverted, but people gravitate to him and he is exhausted at the end of weekend after services. I am most like Tom. It is such a process of convincing myself with positive thinking... I know it is what I truly want but with the anxiety and the time it takes to transition and really feel it’s a good fit... the child hood or high school friends just fell into place & without really trying. All hard work pays off. It just didn’t seem like work when I was 13.
Thank you for the encouragement to stick with it!
My husband has heaps of friends but im the introvert who loves being a homebody. I love people but need the solitude after working so much with people. I love being part of the community though and chatting with people when out and about but have very few close friends which most people dont seem to understand. Im very happy and content but sometimes think i should make more of an effort.
I think that’s a good distinction: liking people 🆚 the process of getting to know people to see if they are compatible. Good vid! Thanks for sharing 🌸
This made me like you guy's even more! I love the truth. Making friend's is exhausting. 😩
THIS!!!!!
This describes us to a 'T'. We just really like staying home. And once I hit 50 I realized I'm okay with not doing EVERYTHING all the time.....I no longer feel guilty if I need to bow out of the millionth activity at church. And the thing that happened is that once we were selective in our activities with others we now enjoy those times together more.
This is so good!!!♥️
You two are fun! Thanks for some sunshine in my life.
You two are the nicest people ! I can’t imagine anyone who wouldn’t be so happy to have you as friends !!!
I absolutely adore you two!! I'm right there with Tom when it comes to people. ❤
Making friends is very hard. My hubs and I have been married for 12 yrs and still working at it. I’m an introvert and he just likes being home comfy. Thanks for this video. New subbie enjoying your channel.
I felt this video!!!! This is something my husband and I have been trying to invest in lately. I’m very introverted and we both would honestly rather stay home, but I know that’s not always healthy. I’m so glad to hear we aren’t alone!
I really appreciate your honesty about difficulties making friends. You are so right that you do need to be persistent and patient and it does take effort and there is awkwardness and it does take time for people to start to come out of their shell. You have really encouraged me! God bless you.😘
I find myself smiling when I’m watching y’all! I think you’re a fun couple!
"Put my arm in something sticky" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 y'all are so fun and adorable. Glad I found your channel.
I just love listening to you both. Something about you is just so REAL and the fake world of television is horrible ... which makes you both so refreshing!!
My husband and I are the same way! We would much rather stay home with each other than make the effort to spend time with others. For me, spending time with people can be very draining so at the end of a long work day, I just want alone time (which rarely happens because I have a toddler ;).)
Ashley Farrell you are my people.
Totally get that!!!
It's refreshing to know that there are other couples a bit like us. My husband has no interest in meeting new people and I'm an introvert. He also does not enjoy sports.. lol
Same for us!
Same here! It's a bit of a shame because I think introverts can become good friends, but we avoid people because all the extroverts are out there trying to soak up all the attention!
Ditto for my guy but I'm not an introvert, I just dont trust people. Sadly 99% of them like to stir up shit, Which is why I refuse to talk to any neighbors. Been at my current addy for 7-8 yrs and do not talk to any of them. I Couldn't tell you anyone's name and I couldn't be happier. In the past when I've tried, its always been something I've regretted. So ya my guy will tell you I'm his only friend lol I do miss having a close girlfriend to do stuff with sometimes but I'll get over it ;-)
@@LuLuLately Sometimes though when you are married to the wrong person, you find out things from your neighbors. I remarried 10 yrs after my first DH died....WOW that was a wake-up call. I found out one day when I went to take some mail that had been delivered in our box by mistake to the gal across the street and she said to me "Oh,_____ I am so sorry to hear that your new husband has cancer! You're going to have to go through losing a spouse all over again."
I just nodded and she gave me a hug, and I left....THE SAD THING? My 2nd DH didn't have CANCER.....WOW....when he came home from work, I let him know that I knew. Sadly within the last 6 months, I've found out a lot more that I didn't know. I'm chronically ill myself and KNOW that I should END this farce of a marriage, but when you are in and out of the hospital and doctors offices as I am, it's difficult. I really know what I should kick him to the curb, simply because that isn't the only thing he lies about. I've started to really listen to him, and it's pretty clear that he'll lie about most anything.
I need to start over, but I'm scared.....really scared.
If anyone has advice, plz let me know.
Same here.
Thank you very much, you made me happier with my husband a little more...not that he isn't great, he's definitely great :) but for years I could not understand why he doesn't like people, like hanging out with friends and family and all...and you've explained it so nicely so it's naw much more settled in my heart and I can have a better understanding and feelings for him. So important! Thank you! 🌸
Small group/Sunday School is my jam and fav part of church.
You 2 are so cute and I so love your honesty. That is what makes good people feel confortable. I think it's superficialness that Tom does not like and everyone seems like they are so darn superficial. I wish I could find someone like Tom. Please keep up the honest fun videos!
I happened upon your channel while on medical leave and while I probably won’t be a true minimalist, it has made me go huh... so much in the last 2 weeks binge watching your show. I’m thinking about stuff and organizing in a whole new way. I liked the pick 1 thing to get done on the to do list a day and know it’s a revolving list so stop mentally beating yourself up for not getting the 25 things done. Also I purchased bigger storage jars to consolidate pantry goods so I have the same amount of food just cleaner looking. Thanks for being you!
So happy to know that I'm not the only person in a relationship where we don't like sports and are introverted. I thought I was a freak! 😄
Too bad there's not more people in this country that does not like sports. We are a sports crazy country.
I think even people who like sports can talk about and do other things. I know I and my friend's can.
As a social worker, sadly I see more people struggling with being a true friend to someone. We now live in a very narcissistic society and the idea of community has really fallen apart. Growing up, families got together often for no reason and now it's been reduced to holidays, funerals or weddings. It is important to find commonality with people and to step outside one's comfort zone, in order to grow as a human being. I do understand though that for some people, just the thought of that can be anxiety provoking. Personally, I am very much an extravert but have no real friends that I could pick up the phone and share an event together. I have lots of acquaintances, though. Life is busy, people are in their own tunnels but it's important still try and connect with people. Would love to try and meet you in Ashville, on the tour but it's about a 3 hour drive, still Asheville is beautiful and I might make the journey.
This is really interesting, thank you for sharing! Very encouraging, too!! And we would LOVE to see you but understand it's a big commitment!!
"People are in their own tunnels." So true! I remember my family getting together every Sunday for dinner at Granny's just to spend time together with four generations under one roof but that sadly left the world with her. In my experience, every time I have tried to reach out and invite someone (family members) over to try to spend time together it turns into me just babysitting their kids while they go do things alone or with someone else. Totally not what I was going for. I think these days when you try to put yourself out there you are risking being taken advantage of because the family dynamic is so broken compared to generations past.
Sure, I loved the large family gatherings and the village feel of some suburbs. Doing things together or going places is great bonding. But chitchat can be so exhausting, being careful what you share about yourself takes just as much energy as thinking what to say.
Chastity that sucks. Sounds like you are a lot wiser and more loving than they. You might consider initiating a conversation with them about this if you feel they will hear you n not be defensive or make you feel oversensitive...a big if. If not spend time with or trying to make friends. In the end try to ficus in the fact that you're getting to spend quality time with their kids who will one day be adults who might remember your focus on family and try to do the same.
I blame Facebook for a majority of these social downfalls. Humans are naturally selfish narcissistic creatures but growing up we were taught things like manners and respect. Then social media gave way to this platform where talking about yourself all day long is now socially acceptable. Its bizarre how people blast their entire life without a second thought. So why would anyone have gatherings other than holidays or funerals? Everyone , especially the young who have grown up on social media , dont feel the need to visit in person and catch up when they can scroll through your feed and find out all they want to in a matter of minutes. This digital world is making people more like machines and less like human beings.
I can relate to Tom. I hate the process of meeting new people. I used to say I hated people too. After I came back to my faith it became clear that I needed the fellowship with other people. So yeah, stepping out of my comfort zone is hard. Love your channel!
Hubby and I aren’t people people either 😊 We work together full time with the public and people assume we like people. Not that we aren’t friendly, but we’d prefer to spend the time we’re not at work in the garden. We’re happy just hanging out with us and family. Meeting new people is not my thing. My kind of friend would turn up with a shovel for planting and chocolate 😄😂
Yes, I wish I could make a friend where we spend our time doing relaxing things, enjoying eachother's company without necessarily having to talk the whole time.
Oh yay!! I was super excited to see that you're coming to Nashville! I've now got it on my calendar. 🤗 I'm an "aspiring minimalist" thanks to you!
Yay for the tour! We will be praying that you are used in a grand way :)🙏. We enjoy your videos so much. I relate well to you and my husband relates to Tom . Thank you
Yes, making friends is a big problem with alot of married couple, and it is hard. And your right, you just got to put yourself out there. Still working on it!
Small groups are great! Its nice to find your tribe
You two are AMAZING!! I love your interaction!
Love the video bc I can relate to Tom. My kids are college students and we have a family motto when comes to friends... Quality over Quantity. You realize who your true friends are when you need help.
You two are so funny and sweet. There's no way people don't want to meet you! So go out there and enjoy new friends!
Oh my goodness! Just love you guys! Having “aha” moments with this video. We live in Milford, Ohio now. Hubby born/raised in eastern NJ and me born/raised in eastern ND. We are in our early 50’s and we tease that we don’t have friends. Lol. We have friends but mostly from our growing up years. Now we have many acquaintances and that is just fine with us. I love people. One of my God given gifts is to love on and help others so it’s not that we don’t like people, we just have so many things going on. Another note…I moved here in 2001 and still get teased about my accent. I worked for neurosurgeons some years back and one of the docs would always say “Kim, say boat!” Too funny. Thank you all for your channel. Lots of good stuff!
He is SO like my hubby...I totally relate...
I am so glad l 'found' you 💓
I believe you are an absolute answer to prayer for me...& much needed.
I have been overwhelmed with the 'so much' around me & in which l live.
I've tried decluttering, sorting, giving, 'storing' away... lt's just got worse.
The garden & patio area is much better & one shed has less contents as l had vergeside collection a month ago (household goods) & greenwaste (shrubbery, prunings) happening within a few days & a neighbour very kindly helped me shift unwanted furniture & massively prune a frontyard tree.. so it's all looking so much better now.
I tried the 'does it spark joy' method & piled a lot of my bedroom contents on the bed...& was horrified 😮 Tried sorting from there.. oh dear.. so many boxes of stuff laying around now & on furniture etc.
As said, l found you yesterday morning & give thanks!
Your 2 step 'onion layer' sort out method gave my soul realistic heartwarming hope!
Also the 'what message is this speaking to me? video (use me, clean me, put me away etc) & the whole house declutter video l watched today (said you did this 8 hours ago).
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
FINALLY, I see definite HOPE and Light at the end of what has been a very very long & dusty, lonely tunnel.
God BLESS YOU!
I do too❤️❤️❤️
You both are just adorable!!!!! Love the videos and all of the inspiration!
"And it makes you fat" ... that is just a risk I'm willing to take!
Hahaha, love this!!! ♥️👍
Truth bomb 😂
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Haha! You are fu--nnny!!! 🤣🤣🤣❤️
You and Tom is not alone. I kept laughing during this episode!!! Y’all sound like my hubby and I. Thanks for the encouragement on small groups, I’ve been slowly preparing mine for joining one this fall.
Sometimes I'm somewhere where I can't have the sound on the videos but I still watch you because you're constantly smiling & it just makes me happy to see you and your family happy. It gives me hope for my daughter... love and happiness really are possible despite what's going on in the world. Thank you & God bless you all. ❤🙏
We've never used Dave Ramsey but my husband was fortunate enough to have parents that taught him how to manage money and build a credit score. I am so thankful for them! My parents still live in welfare conditions because they do not have self control or self drive. They have no credit because my dad has been bankrupt 3 times and my mom has student loans from 25 years ago. Anyway lol My husband and I bought our first house in 2008 for $40k in a small town homes are cheaper but wages are also lower. We had a 30 yr note but my husband said we will pay it off in 10 years. We actually paid it off in 8!!!!! My husband lost his $24 and hour job in 2016 in the oil company and we decided to file a hardship on his 401k. Our banker was so upset and tried to tell him not to but with our 4th kid on the way it was either that, or lose everything! He paid off every bit of debt we had with it! He got a job at $15 and hour so a $9 pay cut was rough. We cloth diapered, hung clothes out instead of using a dryer, gardened, my husband has always been our mechanic, so all that together saved us a ton of money and we did not have to use government assistance. Not that it's wrong but it's unnecessary for us to further our country into debt if we could possibly try hard on our own. So now fast forward to baby #5 on the way and the 900sqft home no longer fitting us all in, we HAD to move. I had prayed desperately many times to God for a debt free studio for my photography and a debt free home. God gave me the number 5000sqft and that is what I prayed for. So here we are now from 2018-2020 and we bought a home, a rent home, and my studio all for $157k and totaling over 5000sqft. Plus our previous home is now our rent home because we did not owe on it. So 2 rent homes pay our mortgage every month plus some left over! My husband makes over the $24 he lost in 2016! That's us getting into more debt I know but we are well into getting back to debt free with double payments on mortgage and other things. In March of this year we paid off our 2014 Sienna and we are debt free on vehicles. We recently acquired a small dental bill but like I said before, my husband learned how to build his credit through small credit cards and switching to 0% interest cards. Our score is well into the 800's! Our Sienna that is paid off still gets free oil changes and car washes for life through the dealership so we actually earn money now by having it! None of this is to brag on ourselves at all. We got out of debt in 2 of the roughest years for us 2016 and 2020 only because of God's wisdom and direction for our lives! Now should I even mention that God moved us into a former hoarders home and property! lol But thanks to you Dawn I know how to declutter! Yall are awesome and I binge listen to your channel all day everyday for motivation!
I'm just so chooooosey with who I want to spend time with. I'm 100% an introvert and just love being home, puttering around. ❤️
Oh my gosh!... this is so refreshing to hear!...My husband is a super extrovert and I can be an extrovert for a period of time.... If I don't click with people I feel like " get me outta here!" Its nice to know I am not the only one that feels this way!
My husband and I have the reverse situation. He can get along with everyone, while I am so reserved. We didn't get to try for the friends since he died suddenly. I applaud you both for taking the plunge!
Totally agree with you guys!! Making friends as adults was so hard!! But once we joined a very family/community oriented church and began volunteering, things just fell into place. We have the BEST friends ever and I can’t imagine doing life without them!! 🥰 We just had to put ourselves out there and join in.
This is so spot on for me and my hubby right now. We moved to be closer to family, about six months ago, and have made friends with only one other couple. It's really a lot harder when your kids are out of the nest because we made so many of our old friends through the boys school and sports. Also, my old friends were through my writing group and through teaching dance, but I haven't got back into those activities yet. Hubby says he doesn't like people and when guys talk sports news he has no clue, and I even though I'm more of an extrovert, I find it takes a lot of energy to make new friends...it's easier to read a book or go on RUclips....especially at sixty.
I like seeing Tom in the videos, always interesting to have a mans perspective on things. He does have a sense of humor and with the newer videos you can see that he has become so much more comfortable (at least from what I see) being a part of the videos. I know what he means about meeting friends. I was an introvert as a child, not so much as an adult...but it still takes me awhile to be comfortable around people I don't know. I had to laugh about his comment about blending into the wall.....oh too funny ( but only to someone who has felt that way before I'm guessing)....but also a serious reaction till you are comfortable. Good video.
Lol, Tom is a hoot! My hubby is an introvert and I'm an extrovert, so we pair together nicely. We LOVE our home group (life groups) and have been part of various ones over the last 19 years that we've attended our community church. We've gone camping and vacationed together, and we've also been there for each other in tough situations. Can't imagine life without them💕😊
Thank you so much for this post, you guys are so sweet to share your journey 💗
Yay! You all are coming to my city (Louisville, KY)!! I am putting it on my calendar and hope to see you!! I am a major introvert and so is my husband so I can relate to this on so many levels. I love how you joined a small group and put yourselves out there and gave your kids that opportunity as well - I know we definitely have to be intentional as I totally can function and live as a hermit crab but realize God created us to fellowship and relationships are blessings so I make myself interact as much as possiblef. It is very hard to meet and get to know people for sure. My husband and I have very few friends for the same reasons and his work schedule keeps him from a lot right now, which we are praying about making some changes in that area, but as you said others have told you - we totally are just like you guys in this area so appreciate you sharing how it is working for you. There are people we serve with at church that we would love to get to know better so a regular get together would be awesome!! Great idea on the space for your family - I am realizing people are more important as well and would love to do that. Great video - thanks for sharing!!
This is such a helpful video!! We moved to a new area where we knew no one and it seemed so tough to make new adult friends! So glad to know we aren’t alone .... thank you!
Looove this video! It feels good to know that my husband and I are not the only couple without friends! Thank you for sharing this!!!
The more i watch the more i enjoy you two!
I love your authenticity! A friend of mine whom I had to move away from (Tom, I feel your pain) told me years ago when I was your age that it IS a hard stage of life in which to make close friends. Al of my closest friends are from college but we do not live near each other to be part of each other's daily lives. I am glad you have found a small group and I need to do the same.
Small groups can be awesome. To make a good friend, be a good freind. They may feel uncomfortable too. God bless you both.
Love this and love your program. I had so much trash last week because you inspired me to start letting go of things!! Have to add that my husband is similar. He says I hate getting to know people but forces himself to go to small group because he knows God wants us to serve and be with people. But it’s a challenge for those of us who are introverts!! 💕
I can so relate to saying "we don't have any friends". My husband and I moved to another state and I left a lot of good friends behind. I am always trying to find ways to get together with other people from church and my husband is always reluctant.
Glad your making quality friends , we have done that in the past but get caught up in friendship honeymoon phases 🥺 hope it's long lasting joy for you guys .
You guys are hilarious!!!
I can relate to Tom! I always say i do not like people however once I do have a friend i am a great one and stay friends for a lifetime!!!!
I’m sooooooooo glad we’re not alone! Thank you for sharing
Looooved this vlog! I think I'm like Tom but often wish I was like you Dawn lol. Thanks for sharing with us.
I like being home with my animals. Love to work with children and helping them learn. Like to get out and about at times, but not comfortable in big crowds. Love shopping, love texting, love helping those in need.
Its nice to have a few good friends. They multiply our joys and divide our sorrows. We should not build our world only around our fam bc the people closest to us are the ones who hurt us the most; at least we have friends around who dont judge us and listen to us even f they dont give us advice. Just the thought that theyre there to listen to our woes is already healing to our broken spirit.
What! I can't believe we are not the only ones. Thanks so much. You have opened me up to some outstanding people and ideas.
Thia channel is so refreshing and real! Love it!
I don’t like people either lol. They stress me out. Part of having minimal friend comes from wanting minimal lifestyle. I am introvert too. I enjoy quiet time more and more. Only with my immediate family. You guys are so cute. 😁
LOVE your kitchen!!! 💕
I just want to say thank you for all of your videos! We moved overseas from the US 4 years ago and oh, do I wish your videos were around before then! We sorted through everything we owned, and either sold, gave away, trashed or put things in storage with a friend. That was hard work as though I wasn't a hoarder, I did have some tendencies with a piles here and there and there. ; ) Watching your videos are so inspiring and bring such joy. It's like I'm getting to visit a neighbor and receive wonderful ideas on how to enjoy life to the fullest with less. : ) May the Lord continue to bless you and your family as you continue sharing your life experiences! Blessings to all!
(Oh, and about friendships over here. One can be a hermit and just wait until time overseas is complete, or one can take a chance and meet some truly fantastic people from all over the world! Friends are in and out over here pretty quickly [average stay is 2.5 years], so what's wonderful is that we've made deep, meaningful friendships rather quickly than compared to the US. I love how the Lord has brought His people together to just do life together! It's truly amazing!) Thank you again!
Dear Dawn- What I love about your videos is that they motivate me to do things I’ve been putting off, and then I always find myself smiling at the end of them. Thanks for all the encouragement. And since I know your husband doesn’t like people, and you’re an introvert, I am doubly, triply encouraged, because now I know we’re basically the same person, except that you’ve figured some important things out, and you’re sharing them with the rest of us. Thank you so much!
You two are absolutely adorable!!
So excited you're coming to Florida!!
You guys are fun to watch together 🥰 My Husband also doesn't like the getting to know people phase so much, and I'm an outgoing introvert who struggles more with commitment and regular visiting with friends. But I think we'd all totally get along. I'd love to have some IRL chats to glean from your minimal ways!
I LOVED this video!!!!!!! So can relate!!! Thanks for keeping it real. I'm super excited you are coming to Louisville! I'm only an hour away, so I'll definitely meet you there. CAN'T WAIT!
You guys make me smile big when I watch your videos! 😁❤ Love u guys
I find myself smiling every time I watch your videos.
What a real and honest topic. Thank you for sharing.
So excited to come see you in IL!
Oh my gosh!!! 😀 I'm so excited!!! I only live 2 hours from Louisville, KY!!!! I would LOVE to get to meet you Dawn! I find you so relatable and you seem like such a sweet person 😄 I have 3 kids ages 5, 3 and 7months and a husband that works full time and also pastors our church, so your easy, practical approach to minimalism has been a real game-changer for our family! Thank you so much for what you do! You are truly a blessing! If there is any way that I possibly can I will definitely try to be there when you come to Louisville! Yay!!!! 😄
The meet-up idea sounds fun! I hope you have an amazing time. I will see if I can stop in and say hello. 😊
We love people around and have so many fun events at our house! I don’t like the empty nest and of course, love kids! We do so much with our grandkids and have engrafted many other kids into our hearts and fun! We
Look forward to throwing fun events as of yesterday, 4th of July!! We put on quite a cool fireworks display and safely let them kids do Roman candles.
Swimming, games and just great fun to make memories! I enjoy Dawn’s channel and tips!! She has helped me to minimize my clutter on our living level. ❤️❤️
I love you guys.. and can absolutely relate to why Tom is like that with people..
this one had me laughing! I can relate to what you’re saying about people in general and friendships
Lovely family! Love you and your home! God bless you all!
I love that you said friends don't need to be 100% compatible. My 2 best friends didn't like me when they first met me (I guess I'm bad at first impressions?) But now they're my best friends in the world, and we're all still very different.
I love you guys! I totally get you, my husband is the same thing, he doesn’t like to go through the process of meeting new people, he’s awkward towards the whole thing,but he got a few great friends that he gets totally loose around them when they get together which makes intimate get-together more fun!!! 😊
I think it just takes time to warm up to new people, and finally make those deeper connections 😀
Yes, amen!!!! ♥️
I find I take time to warm up to people. And this can be off putting. But once you’re in you’re in!!!
I loved this video! As an extrovert....I appreciate you sharing how YOU feel around others. We are all different for sure, but I must add that I have several introverted friends who I admire and feel “grounded” with because they ARE different from me. My husband and three of my children are introverts by nature. I, along with two of our other children, are extroverts. I appreciate the variety! Just know this Tom.....the process may be difficult as you described, but YOU may be that ONE person another Dad needs to help him overcome areas he struggles in and as a good friend, you may be changing his life and not even know it.😉