My brain keeps thinking "But, what if I can use it for something else???" Decluttering Q&A
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- Опубликовано: 30 июл 2024
- This is a very COMMON struggle when decluttering, our brain automatically starts thinking of how we could use the item in the future. And this can be incredibly frustrating when we're trying to simplify our home because it can make it near impossible to part with the item! Let's talk about how we can learn to ask ourselves the next question to breakthrough!
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I get stuck on those kinds of items all the time, but I am also learning that you said you can borrow or replace items so easily. Another helpful video. I just shared you with several friends.
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My craft room is my struggle, letting go of my dreams of different crafting.
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Something that hangs me up about moving things OUT of my house is, "Could I sell this on Marketplace/Craigslist/Nextdoor?" or "Who can I give this to?" instead of just getting it OUT and taking it directly to donations...
This happens to me all the time!! I have this sense of ‘I need to find the perfect home for this item’ which is crazy bc the thing doesn’t care one way or another and I got tired of my home being used as storage for other people! Bc even the people who said ‘omg yes, thank you! I need that’ never come to get it !! They don’t want it either, it served it’s purpose, you can let it go! Dawn says in another video, she imagines someone finding an item that was hard to part with at a goodwill or thrift store and thinking ‘Omg can’t believe I found what I needed at a price I can afford!’ And that brings me peace ❤️
My mother always said it's a sin to keep things when someone else could use it. That helps me sometimes.
I've never heard of that. Does that actually come from the bible or just sayings of ppl?
@@lalalo5153 not sure just remember her saying it.
Reminds me of the parable that Jesus told in Luke 12:16-21. A rich man had so much, but rather than share any of it with others, he tore down his barn that was too small to hold it all (wasteful) and built a bigger barn. Jesus said, "Thou fool, this night thy soul shall be required of thee. Then whose shall those things be that thou hast provided?"
Sounds worthy of sin. One can only use so much.
We donate to a no-kill animal rescue that has a "thriftique". It makes me feel better that my excess is helping animals.
I believe we are the result of a clash between the lingering “scarcity” mentality of our parents and grandparents from the depression yet we are currently living in a very “affluent” society. As you have pointed out frequently, it can be helpful to recognize how easily we can replace most things. My mother used to say,” if you got it once, you can get it again.” As I am in my mid sixties, I can honestly say, “your kids won’t want it.” And your needs and life will change over time so usually all this “saving” is in vain. After all, “someday” is not a day of the week!
"Someday is not a day of the week." 😍
I love that... “someday is not a day of the week “
I gotta paint that on a sign!
You are so right about the kids not wanting our stuff! I’m sorting my moms stuff- I don’t want it....and I’m sorting my stuff- & my kids don’t want it !
I’m determined not to put my kids through what I’m going through sorting and getting rid of my moms stuff!
I literally thought this today. I looked at my childs old report cards. Nothing exceptional but and I thought she may want to look at them one day....then i realized....if my parents had mine i could care less and I'd tell them as they are also currently decluttering to throw that crap away. It means a whole lot of nothing so...in the trash they'll go.
@@TabithaDavis we have digital means these days, so I am happy to take pictures and make a photo book. Well, the last part may never happen. 😆
@Debbye Cannon I love your comment... it's full of wisdom and truly well said! Thank you!!
Could I use it? The answer is always yes but the truth is I WONT☀️
Theresa 1967 ditto!!
YEP
Yep!
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I struggle with this with almost every item I pick up but I have to keep reminding myself that if I don't have time right now to make that "thing" or use the item in the alternate way then I most likely won't have time in the near future to use it. We make time for those things that we really want to do and if I'm not making the time to use that thing right now then I probably never will. There might be time 20 years from now but right now my kids are young and I just don't have that kind of time. And it's so not worth hanging onto all the things for a "maybe" project 20 years from now.
I must start watching your videos early morning instead of late evening as I am always inspired to immediately start emptying cupboards into the wee small hours! 😀 Loving your work as always. Thank you.
Hahaha, love this!!
I was just thinking the same thing!
Me too! I watch them then I’m up until 2am cleaning stuff 🤦🏻♀️
@@cheriek3872 same for me 🙈
Or inspired to start DURING, ha~!
What makes me feel prepared for future contingencies is having money in the bank, not a stockpile of items in my home. Since becoming minimalist and being more mindful about my purchases, I have been able to save so much money. This is what makes me feel secure and prepared for whatever may come my way.
As an artist, By far the number one barrier for decluttering in my house is my propensity to reuse and create something I really should part with. Thank you for helping me reason through this. I keep so much that I don’t remember I have it.
I love asking the question... "If I did not have this item now, would it be on my shopping list because I would be needing or seeking it?" That usually helps! its almost always NO:)
When I can bless someone else with something that I've enjoyed, it makes letting go so much easier.
Dawn, I discovered you 4 days ago and have totally revolutionised my house in that time. I do have a long way to go still, but thanks. I am so grateful for my new way of thinking. Maybe the best bit is my husband said he is afraid of sitting still too long because I might just throw him out or donate him 😉
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I use our extra eyeglass cases (the hard ones) for storage in my car and purse for the cord and ear buds for my phone.
This is a good idea!
I have one that I use just for my crochet supplies, hooks, needles, stitch markers.
B Brundage Ah. Too bad I threw mine all away!
I do the exact same thing! Perfect for my charging cords, especially my smart watch!
The hard shell cases are great for :
Sewing emergency supply kit. Glasses cleaning kit.
Glasses repair kit.
In the suitcase for jewelry.
Glasses.
I not only do I ask myself "what could I do with this" with my own stuff, but with random junk along the roadside!
Love this!!! ♥️
Poodle Daddles , I can so relate!
Ha ha - me too but I never do it. Got rid of all of it!
TheDriftwoodlover , Good for you! I am still working on mine! I have been sick for a while, so, I am having to work and rest, work and rest. But, slowly but surely!
Poodle Daddles so funny that you said this about the random junk- on a road trip to TX I wrote a list of some of the weird stuff on the side of the road- It was fun to think of the “backstory” of things.... 🤗 but now I can get rid of more of my saved stuff. Love this community!
Oh, love that under-the-bed shot! A couple of weeks ago, I got down on my knees to look under the guest room bed, resigned to another few hours of decluttering who knows what. Surprise! There was almost nothing under that bed. It was already gone to who cares where. Such a supremely satisfying feeling. Now that is a peaceful home.
Have to say and I have been de-cluttering and purging for several years now. It wasn't easy and we hold off literally truck loads of stuff. Not last year but the year before I had the year of the Great Purge where I went through every closet drawer shelf room out building attic Barn tool box cupboard car glove box everything and pitched and purged like crazy like my life depended on it. I did this in different waves. The first go-round I flew I went through everything and the things that I knew I didn't want without thinking I just grabbed and put it in a box the Box went out on the back porch the next wave I went through was a little bit harder then it got harder and harder as I felt I was going to end up with nothing left. I boxed up things and put the date to six months or a year later and at that time came and went and I didn't open that box I instantly would just take the box out of the house. It felt so good I felt so liberated and so free. Then I started watching your videos along with other people's videos and I started looking at my house and started thinking about what would fall and hit me in the head if there was an earthquake. And that's when I decided we are going to become minimalist. My mind definition of what minimalism is. As I go through the house if I am not happy and filled with gratitude when I am cleaning something then out it goes. It is taken nine months this year and I finally love my house. We got rid of so much that I ended up with an extra room and turn that into a beautiful pantry. The next room that ended up empty is it wonderful spare bedroom which was much needed. Now when I clean my house or as the fly lady says bless my house I can have the entire house clean in an hour and that would include the windows. I am able to spend more time canning I'm doing the things that I really love and fixing more nutritious food. I am even sleeping better. I know the things that I donated will be sold and the money will be used to feed the Homeless and to buy coats hats and gloves for the homeless this winter. And that makes me feel a lot better then being grumpy all the time because I have so much stuff to clean and take care of. so to those of you that are on the fence about what you really need to get rid of or it's too hard or too confusing keep going don't give up set that timer for 2 to 15 minutes and just go for it with bag in hand. This last weekend I finally went and bought new clothes after 15 years of not having new clothes. when I brought in 14 new shirts I got rid of 15 old shirts and that actually felt really good. So keep going don't give up take a break if you need to be kind to yourself because there is a world of freedom and peace on the other side
Love your story. An update would be wonderful and appreciated.
Wow, thanks for the encouragement. Planning to purge a little everyday. I really need the PEACE
I always say I can use it for something later. Then when the time comes to use it, I can’t find it amongst all the other stuff.
Right so we have to ask, in that case, and i must work on this too, is "If i did want to use it, could i find it? Another one I've heard recently is "if I needed one of these, would it occur to me that I already have one?
The glass case dilemma is not silly!! It's the crux of the problem we have with parting with clutter. It's usually a delayed decision to the point of defeat. I love sharing my stuff with others (friends or relatives) if I'm downsizing it out but I'm more apt to go with the "can this be replaced for under 20". I'm old now and extremely sentimental but I'm enjoying the fruits of my labor. That vacuuming goes a lot quicker without all the clutter. Love your videos!!
Cure: Watch back to back “Hoarders” show 😳😳
“Can I get by without it?” Wow I don’t know why but this one question is the answer I have been looking for. I’ve watched lots of videos, read books and surfed social media on the topic of decluttering and I still have such a struggle with choosing to let go of so many items in my home. Thank you for these tips! That one question is exactly the perspective I need to finally be able to let go in a major way! Thank you again. Keep doing the good work!
Suzie, it was just THIS perspective that I "needed" as well. Somehow it just connected when I heard to ask the question "Can I get by without out" and I'm thinking, oh my goodness ... I can see A LOT of stuff that the answer to it would be YES. I am so thankful I come across this video as I have a feeling that it will be much easier to get rid of more stuff now! Thank you to The Minimal Mom!
I know this is a year after this video went out, but I’m delighted to hv this for today - major decluttering all day, but completely out of ooomph now. Jyst read this , ‘can I get by without this?’ - this is my new mantra!! Thanks Dawn and followers! Needed this! 🙌🏼
No one has ever before given a reason for "but I may need it someday"! Thank you so very much!
If I think, “oh, I could use this to make xyz!” I try to stop and be honest with myself and ask, “okay...but will I ever actually do it?” And usually the answer is no if I’m being honest
R Ellis why is it so hard to be honest with ourselves? 😂 I have the same issue. I am crafty and have loads of ideas, but I’m in a season of life that is extremely busy and if I ever do have the time for a craft or fun project, I have far too much crud to go through to find what I saved. 🤦♀️ I have been saying, “I need to realize the time it takes to organize all this and find ____ I could have made the $ to just go buy it.”
I tried to convince my mother to ask that additional question, too. She's 87, doesn't craft or do any of that kind of stuff anymore, and yet when she went through her closets trying to clear them out, she kept a bunch of stuff because she was going to use them in future craft projects. I told her that I had a bunch of that kind of stuff, too, but donated it all after asking myself, "but, honestly, are you at all likely to do it?" The answer was almost always no.
I found your videos about a month ago and I'm hooked :) You are even training my 4-year-old to declutter! She would still rather do my stuff than hers - but it's a great start!
I'm a Christian life coach and the idea of doing a Bible study or something around decluttering my heart has been in my mind for YEARS. Listening to your videos recently I have SO many ideas now to put that together! I'm doing a workshop on decluttering emotions and a coaching program that goes deeper into decluttering your heart!
Your work is making a bigger impact than you know. Thank you for sharing your journey
After minimizing our belongings for a year (yay!) I recently realized that the places in my home that I feel the most happy and calm are the empty spaces 😊
Yes! Love this!!! ♥️♥️♥️
AMEN
I knew what those jeans were for the second I saw them, my husband keeps a pair for the same reason! I still struggle with paper clutter.. It's a daily battle!
The alternative is you don't have to keep the whole pair of jeans just a patch or two. There will be more jeans that wear out that can be used for patches.
Yep, paper remains the bane of my existence!
I’m probably a 8 or 9 on the 10 scale of angst when it comes to decluttering. The hardest items are often those that aren’t good enough to donate but “too good to throw away.” I’m right there with you on the tattered jeans- I probably have six pairs...maybe more, that are hanging around in the hopes I will use them for patches or a craft project such as a denim quilt. This hope is bolstered by the fact that I have used them for those purposes in the past...but now the long distant past. A few things that help me let go of some of these items is A) Asking myself if I would be willing to do this task today, or if not today, then when? Putting a time limit on keeping it. B) Recycling it in some other way- denim can be laid down under mulch as a weed block for instance. 3) Throwing it out with gratitude for its service and my abundance and trying to make my future purchases mindfully to reduce waste.
I had two bags full of denim quilt blocks I had gone through all the trouble of cutting up, but never got around to creating a quilt. I had those bags in my trip zone for more than 5 years until I had a friend talk to me about a denim quilt his mom had made him, and he complained that it was so very heavy, and hot, not breathable. I'm not living in a cold zone, and menopause is knocking on my door. I don't want to sleep in a hot bed, and I hate having heavy things on my legs in bed. I labelled the bags as 4" pre-cut denim quilt blocks, and donated the lot. It felt good to have the walking space back, and I'm glad now not to have gone through the massive effort of sewing a heavy quilt and then not wanting to use it. I would definitely feel way too much angst to donate that!!
This video actually made me sad.Why? Because I want to do this, but I am in poor health. I get my Daughter to help sometimes, but she really doesn't stick with it long. Most people would see my house as very organized, but I KNOW what lurks behind those closet doors, and under those beds. LOL Maybe tomorrow I will start again,one drawer,one closet at a time.
So sorry to hear this Judy! Sending wishes for improved health to you!
I’m so sorry your health is not great. But I think you have found the solution, to make progress a little at a time. Perhaps your daughter could use her time to haul your give-items away? Good luck going forward!
Bless you Judy, I hope your health improves for you, if you sit in front of a drawer to sort it out, or even if you try for 5 minutes every so often at a time, when your on a good day, I wish you all the luck in the world, and I’m sure you’ll see progress after a while. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Judy, I have had a bout with poor health and feel for you. Sending prayers and positive energy your way. I second the post that encourages you to spend 5 min on something. It does add up and you'll feel so good when you see progress. Blessings to you.
@@TheDriftwoodlover I have Emphysema and was just diagnosed with Diabetes. I am making lifestyle changes, have lost 24 pounds in 3 months, so hopefully I am on the up swing.Thank you for all the sweet comments.I asked my Daughter if she would help me tomorrow and she said yes! I really don't have a lot, but I do have more than I need.
Thanks Dawn! I just keep reminding myself that most things are easily replaceable and usually for $20 or less. That has been the best tip for me.
Yes! Love this one!!
This has helped me many times too
My boys used to go through their pants until I learned the trick if iron on patches! Turn the jeans inside out and iron them to the inside of the knees. It really helps. And of course use your Hobby Lobby coupon on the patches! ☺️
Thank you! My son went through 3 pairs of pants last month and I've been at my wits end trying to figure out how to keep them from getting torn up.
I so resonate with this! Our upbringing can greatly affect us. I realize we had so little growing up that I have struggled to let go of things, whether it was because I felt wasteful, or like I could surely use it later or I should find someone to give it to. The problem is I then end up with bags and boxes of good intentions and yet weighted down by so much stuff... sigh
Ditto
One idea is every time you sort through stuff you have your bag to give to the op shop (short for opportunity shop - same as Goodwill I think) or a box to give to your friend and then you go and give it to them. Don't worry about getting a whole lot of stuff at once. Just get what you've sorted out on one day out of the house, one bag/box at a time.
I struggled with this But now thanks to you & Diana I say "this can be a blessing to someone else"
Yay!! That's awesome!! 👍♥️
Making a huge difference in every aspect of my life. I have a job interview this Friday, one next Monday and hope for others. I feel clearer headed as I can see the progress decluttering is bringing to my life.
The process continues :)
I do too! So many tools from Dawn and Diana
For me I've been holding on to a set of bathrobes my parents gifted my husband and I for Christmas several years ago and we don't use them. Their just hanging on a hook in my bedroom. Today I'm giving them away!
I am a teacher and am getting my classroom ready. There are so many books that never get read by the kids but have such a hard time getting rid of them. I know my classroom would benefit from having less stuff and having more space. I keep thinking about how less visual clutter will help me and my students feel calmer and less stressed.😊
I am also Holly, also a teacher and completely understand this challenge. The fact you are aware and concerned about this issue shows what a great teacher you are. I have noticed a HUGE difference in my students when the room is tidy. Finding that balance between a fun learning space and not overstimulating, with a breadth of options for personalization but organized in a stress-free and easy to keep tidy way is not easy. Many of the tips on this channel have been relevant and useful for my classroom as well. Good luck this school year!
I always struggle with the "but I could use this for..." scenario. I read once that creative people have the hardest time getting rid of stuff because they can think of so many ways to use it other than its intended purpose. Sometimes I have to remind myself that while I am creative, the actual chance that I'll use that thing for any of the uses I can think of is actually very small.
Another question to ask myself is, "Would I go out and buy this item right now to have on hand for 'just in case'?" If not, it needs to go!
Thanks for all of your videos!!! They really help and I always look forward to hearing from you, Tom, and Diana. I hope to see you in Indy!!!!!
I guess I always used Proverbs 31:25 saying I have no fear of the future because of my preparedness, but you are right, it stresses me out to store it all in “preparation.” 😄
I have a hard time with useful things - extra blankets, pillows, etc. I did purge a lot of blankets this year to help a young family who needed them.
I have lots of "just in case" items too, but "can I live without it or easily replace if needed" are great to keep in mind
I'm so grateful for this because whenever I've tried to talk about items I struggle to get rid of all I hear is that I'm " over thinking" and I'm " too anxious" and it's irrelevant and not worth thinking about much less talking about. It's so needed and it helps so much just to hear someone reason through keeping or not keeping something.
I ask myself at least once a week "how easy is this for replace" after watching your videos because when you mentioned how society and Amazon has made it so easy to get just about anything we need I literally stopped storing things just in case. If I run out of anything I can run to the store and pick it up, I dont need to have 10 tote bags just in case one rips. I love your channel and your content so much!! ❤
I just watched this over again, to type a list of questions for myself, to keep on track and more clear headed going through things. There are so many things, I have kept because of the "I could use it for"s and also items from our parents. Yet, I know, neither set of parents would like to see us drowning in clutter. Quite the opposite. Thanks, and wish me luck!
Glasses cases. So funny. I have about 5!! Same reasons. Also old glasses! 🤦🏼♀️
So crazy how we justify keeping certain items and end up not using them. Thanks for the extra push to understand my purpose of simplifying my home.
My husband is what I keep bumping into. I love your videos. I will keep trying.
I ask myself, “What would Dawn do”?
WWDD. lol......
Thank you so much! I’m in tears. It is such a journey. You got me when you mention, is it peaceful to my family. Just about everything except junk mail I struggle with. I too grow up very modestly. I often wonder is that why I want to keep everything. When in actuality it’s hurting us because of the clutter chaos.
Growing up modestly is the reason we want to keep it all. I believe that. Also, modest living means waste not, want not. I am pretty good at repurposing items. Saving money by not having to replace things is what gets me to move the item out....to the other room! :(
@@nancyrampmeyer8492 that is why my dad is a hoarder! “Why let it go to waste in some dumpster when I can keep it for just in case I need another 5 of these. In some respects it is good to keep extras like when my vacuums (that he found) was great for awhile suddenly conked out there was another one to get from basement (but keeping 8 is ridiculous) Or I was having some slight prob with my microwave in which if I cooked rice or pasta would heat up wth steam that when I went to cook something else it was shut off and I had to wait 20 mins for it to cool down. So I just casually mentioned to my dad who when he was next over, grabbed one from his extras in basement and brought it up and replaced it and this one works. So in each case yes good to have on hand but other things I don’t know why he is keeping any of it - well I do know - “waste not want not” he grew up with buying his mom a gift and she telling him sharply “take it back, we can’t afford that” (he has hated giving gifts since except recycled ones)
I love how you take our questions and apply them to real- life situations, then give us encouragement.
Yep! That used to be me, "I'm soo prepared and ready..." Today, I am saying, "I am so ready to pare down in every aspect." It truly is a mind-shift and I am glad for it.
I used to keep a jar of a hundred buttons...and never even remember having to use one.
Hahaah I found out back in 2013 when I moved in with my grandma who wasn’t a hoarder but she had lots of stuff (since passed in 2014) had a whole collection of buttons lol all in jars by color lol I looked at those and thought when will I ever find a need for these (I don’t sew)
A friend who crafted was very happy to receive my jar of buttons, and my box of ribbons, trim and other small pieces.
My daughter and a friend were here for dinner Saturday. The friend mentioned that her new apartment is the first one she's had by herself, no roommate, and so she's having to buy a lot of things...so I went through the kitchen. I pulled soooo much stuff out and let her pick what she wanted. She carried off two big boxes, and now pretty much only needs silverware and appliances. It felt really good to help her out, and even better to get rid of stuff I wasn't using. Now.....the stuff she didn't take has been piled up all over my kitchen (since SATURDAY!), and I've had trouble dealing with it. I can't quite bring myself to stuff it all back into the cabinet...but I've also had trouble deciding to actually get rid of it. This motivation is what I'm here for. I'm gonna take the plunge. Out it goes!
Growing up in a military family, I learned a house and things don’t make a home. Your family and the memories make home whatever your address. Love and laughter!
I completely agree. My father grew up in the Depression, and he was a master. My craft room is next. Wish me luck and resolve!
You can do it!!! 👍♥️😘
My parents too! I still have 2 boxes of buttons my mom saved from old clothes. 😕😕
I thought I was the only one who did this, especially the eyeglasses case example. Thank you for helping us walk through the mental process of making our homes more peaceful! Right now I'm going through my maternity clothes and my daughters too small clothes to donate to the local crisis pregnancy center. I have a large garbage bag so far!
That's awesome!! 👍♥️
I’m so glad you mentioned this! I’m pregnant with my 3rd right now, but I’m a larger size than I was with my first pregnancy. Some of the maternity clothes that I’d saved don’t fit, but knowing how expensive maternity clothes are I felt guilty just donating them. But thinking about other women in need using them makes me feel free as a bird to give them away ❤️ Thank you for the reminder to donate to a crisis pregnancy center!!
I tend to over purchase notebooks, journals, office supplies, school supplies. I have a business so I always have the excuse to use it at my office if needed. It is the never ending task of which “planner” or organization system works best. As a result, paper clutter is always an issue.
I am going to re watch your video on your to do list and system! Thanks 🙏🏻
Oh, my goodness, Dawn...You have hot the nail DIRECTLY on the head. This is how I was brought up by my grandparents who lived through the depression. Keep Everything-just in case. It's been difficult as we move toward minimalism because I think part of me feels like I'm betraying them. In a manner, anyway. It sounds silly, but it also rings true. I'm so grateful to you. I wish you were making a stop in Atlanta. While you're in Savannah, be sure to stop for Ice cream at Leopold's. It is soooooo worth it!
It's so funny. The day I started watching your channel it was actually my baby who hit the remote and started RUclips with you as a suggestion... by now I would say I've gone about half the way - slowly starting to think about all the fall/winter gear and decoration... every time I hear your music, it gets me started again so THANKS! I try to get at least one thing out of the house every day, but usually it's even a big box a week that I fill. I have eliminated certain colors from my wardrobe that helps me a lot! And I loved the solid bottom tip on kids' clothes. I have more or less adapted your laundry system and my son finally gets dressed on his own! And there's more peace (of mind) since I don't stress out with him knocking over neatly stacked t-shirts.... yay all the way!
Thank you so much, Dawn. Really.
That's really cool! It's like your baby knew what you needed 😂
@@paulacain4436 totally! I'll be forever thankful to him, Dawn and the RUclips algorithm that suggested her to me! Who-hoo!
This is so awesome!! Way to go!!! ♥️😊👍
This is so awesome! Way to go!!! ♥️😊👍
Love it!
I have been watching your videos for months now and our house feels GREAT! Now, we are putting our house on the market and will be spending an unknown amount of "transition time" in our RV as we try to move our family across country. We may be crazy - doing this with 3 kids ages 6-9, but it really doesn't seem so overwhelming! We are living so minimally, that I truly believe we can do it with some creative thinking. You just have no idea how much you have helped me in this process. We are going to be living in 1/8 our current sq/ft... and we can do it! Just pray for us on bad weather days when I can't ship everyone outside :D. Thanks for investing your time in helping us on our minimal journey.
So when it rains: come up with places you can go (1) library (2) McDonald’s for a shake and play space (3). A drive to you name the location etc (4) you have a plan ( that always helps)
@@suebarnard1734 Ya! I need a "rainy day" schedule, for sure. Great ideas. I was thinking of a box of activities that I keep stored and only pull out when we've HAD IT! :)
Oh, I have SO many cases from old glasses. I even have some of the old glasses! 🤦♀️
Thank you for another great video! Last week I was inspired by your kitchen declutter video so I went through all the drawers in our kitchen and filled a large bin with stuff we don’t use, duplicates etc. I was blown away by how much stuff I have been moving around searching for things in drawers. I didn’t even see the extra clutter any more. Thank you, thank you for the motivation to do this! My husband is thrilled with this declutter too and I can’t wait to move on to something else.
I did too I went through two kitchen drawers and discovered I had 6 (yes 6!!!) Ice cream scoops and I rarely ever eat ice cream. I buy ice cream for my dad when he wants a treat when he comes over but he never uses any ice cream scoops. He uses the soup spoons. I guess it fits his mouth better when he eats off the spoon 😄
I’ve lost everything thing twice from house fires. So it’s hard to let go like you. I’m over 70 and still it’s not hard but not impossible.
If I could give this a thousand likes I would!!! Thank you for giving me the inspiration to get these things out of our house. I also have a pair of old jeans that I was saving for the exact same reason- along with old tee shirts to make into rags, etc. I’m working toward the day when I can have the same kind of peace that you enjoy in my own home! Thank you!
Oh my goodness you are telling my story here!! My mom passed away 3 years ago and I inherited her sewing stuff and I’ve been holding on to this large tub of fabric I didn’t even like because “what if?” But it was taking up space and stressing me out so this weekend I got rid of 90% and only kept what I will truly use. Such liberation!!!
I started clearing out my house this week I'm on vacation and it has been so overwhelming and is taking me so long just to get through cabinets and drawers. I keep getting discouraged and I'll set down and now I'm sitting here watching your video thinking I need to start again. It's just so hard to get rid of these Knick knacks that I've saved for so many years for whatever reason.
I get it! Keep on keeping on, don't give up! I'm doing the same this week. 😀
That can be tough, but you can do it!!! ♥️
Debbie, don't overwhelm yourself. Do what you can on this pass and take out more the next time you clean the room.
This is kind of my situation. I have the entire house though, and 3 kids 5yrs and under, with the youngest being almost 1 1/2!! It is crazy hard to get anything done because they constantly need to eat donething, break something, fight with each other, hirt themselves, and also UNDO what I have just done....so while I clean and purge 1 room they are in the next tearing it up.
Mu goal is to eliminate at least half of what we own. It took a really long time to understand and realize that my depression was manifesting as this and that the hoarding both placated and set of my anxiety. It is hard to change my mentality after having had it for 38 yrs...but I know I have to in order to lessen my anxiety and come out of depressive, dark times. Can't wait until the kods go back to school so that I can get to cleaning without the constant interruptions.
I have started setting 30 min to 1 hr alarms when i clean to keep me on track. When I dont, I tend to daydream, get sidetracked, or just stop for an hr or so "break".
Just do what you can and everyday is a new day to begin again.
@@sandradeleon6171 I feel for you! It's so hard with no kids. Can't even imagine.
My underbed does NOT look like yours, but it definitely WILL. You have so inspired me to get to it.😍
Haha, the glasses case! I’ve been struggling with this too, and old pairs of glasses!
i just took 18 pairs of glasses to the walmart drop off box.
You've struck a nerve, Dawn. I feel like the queen of "but what if?" Good instruction! Thanks.
Dawn your content just keeps getting better and better! I so appreciate your thoughtful approach to showing us the way to a more peaceful life thru minimalism. Many thanks and be blessed!
Thank you so much, I greatly appreciate that!!! ♥️😊
I so enjoy listening to your videos! Josh Becker started me on my minimalist journey about 5 years ago, but you have certainly been there along the way the last year. I love the realistic point of view you bring and the family focus as well. Thank you for all the inspiration you have given and the helpful videos!!
Thank you so much!! ♥️😊
I resisted having a wastebasket by my entryway...what a difference it has made with paper clutter!
Your videos have changed my life. I'm still peeling back the onion little by little. You were right; it is contagious. Thank you for being so transparent about how hard striving for minimalism can be. It's so reassuring hearing that others struggle with the same silly thoughts as I do. Failure, guilt, shame, embarrassment etc... This has given me the strength to continue.
Yes! I needed to stop asking myself “Is this thing worth something?” and start asking “Is this worth something TO ME, right NOW?” Because yeah, it’s hard to get rid of something that’s “perfectly good” in itself, but if you aren’t ever realistically going to use it, it’s not worth taking up your space!
You put the message in such easy terms! Every time I see the notification that you have posted a new video, I CANNOT wait to watch!! ❤️👏🏻
Thank you so much, that means more than you know!!! :)
Dawn, you're just so pleasant. :) Love every video. :)
Thank you so much Katie!! ♥️😘
My problem is a husband that has systematically filled 3 sheds, a garage, the basement, the loft & now even the house where the walls are closing in on me. I feel physically ill at the thought of all this 'stuff he has acquired & there's nothing I can do about it. Except! I have started to minimise the things that belong to me, they are slowly getting recycled, donated or chucked & I want to be left with my special belongings only. Its the best I can do. Thank you for the inspiration.
This is good for me to hear. My husband would like us to get rid of stuff - I'm the nostalgic one. I'm slowly understanding how it is negative to hold on to so much.
Thank you- I am from a very "resourceful" family and this helps me get over some things my brain is saying.
I am so so grateful for this video. This paralyzed me and i was never able to allow myself to get rid of things without feeling wasteful that i can use it for something else. I love how you go into detail about examples and how you walk yourself through this. You’re a decluttering therapist!
A good question as well is, could someone else be using this right now? Donate because, yes! Probably!
You’re so speaking my love language in this video Dawn! You have no idea how that just hurt to the core but felt so good! Yes I too grew up the same way and my brother and I both have had issues with keeping things. It helped me this last spring as we sold our house and moved from Washington to Idaho however in the midst of it all we are renting a cabin because it’s really hard to find affordable houses here in North Idaho but all that just to say that most of our stuff is in storage and I dread the thought of unpacking anything. We went through a lot of things and downsized and minimized tons of things but I feel after watching this, there’s much more we can get rid of and I have that exact mentality and I think that’s what’s kept me holding onto things. Thank you thank you thank you, this is actually exactly what the Lord wanted me to hear today! Blessings, Andrea💗
Your videos are so motivating! I need to start watching them in the morning and not before bed. I just got up and pulled 10 items out of my closet that I kept just in case.
The key is what you said: any decluttering or organizing that can allow you to focus on the important people and pursuits in your life are worth doing.
This is huge for me! I had to live frugally for so long and now that I don't necessarily HAVE to (of course I still do just not as extremely lol) and this is my issue with probably 80-90% of the things I'm culling. I just get trapped in that mindset. So thanks for a simple set of questions I can ask myself!
In January I started watching decluttering you tube videos, and then minimalist videos, mainly because I started looking into zero waste living (or just being far less wasteful than we are), which I feel we have come a long way in. And then I found your channel, and what I have been feeling about my home is what you describe in your videos! I'm working my way through them and you totally hit the nail on the head... less stuff for you to manage makes for a far more happier life. We're a family of four and have two boys (age 4 & 6), and I work from home and my brain used to be so scrambled because the house was just so full of stuff and always felt messy. I'm nine months into the big declutter and your videos are definitely helping me along this path with so many realistic tips. And the craft area vide? I took that on board straight away and its gone down very well! Keep up the great work!
I have jeans and sunglasses case waiting to be reused. Oh so crazy how our minds work. This is a great video. Thank you.
I'm just starting this process and already I have cried twice. It's been so emotional for me to declutter. I've had to stop and pick it up the following day. I've enlisted my husband's help and my children's help as well. You've been so inspirational and have helped me get to the bottom of why I hang on to things (I'll need it one day, my mom gave it to me, etc.). Ugh. It's exhausting but I know I will feel so much better when I get into a groove. Wish me luck!
Hi Dawn! The most difficult item/items for me right now are parting with baby clothes and toys of our three kids (ages 2, 4, 6). Since we are still in the season of having children and are open to more, it is hard to part with the memories and the “what if’s” related to the possibility of having more kids and wanting/needing these items. I have started the process though, and what has helped a bit is watching your encouraging videos and reminding myself that if we were to have another child it would be ok to just purchase again. In the meantime, we are overrun with stuff which is detracting from the peaceful atmosphere that is so important for our family!
Thank you for this ministry of guiding and supporting this community to focus on the purest of priorities, namely our mental health and quality time with family. This all works together to live out our faith and live our best life 😊✝️💞
I spent my life tidying up and putting stuff away. When someone came to visit it would all get put in cupboards and drawers so the house looked "nice". It never stayed that way for long lol.
I have a holiday cottage I rent out and it has everything you could want or need for your stay. I know not to put anything unnecessary in there as it's just more to clean and tidy. I love it when it's all done and ready for our next visitors.
Until I found you it just never occurred to me my home could be the same!!!!
I have begun to declutter, it's really scary, and exhilarating at the same time. I am so grateful I found you.
I watched Marie and thought the results of her method were wonderful, but for me it is peace that really resonates and spurred me on though I'm sure when I have less stuff joy will follow.
I just wanted to say a big thanks!
I found a lot of peace in cleaning out my “just encase” areas but now our finances have tightened and it’s not as easy to come by the stuff I got rid of🙈. I’ve started doing something in between. In the case of jeans I’d cut out a few good sized patches, tuck them into my sewing bin and recycle the rest of the pair so it’s a more manageable size to store and is ready for it’s intended purpose.
That is a good idea
I like this mesa-mesa. Then by reducing the size of your sewing supplies over time you will declutter the unnecessary. I like the container method myself as well. Keeps variety organized and volume limited. Just need good labeling and system to retrieve things when needed.
Easy! I had to move abroad as a child and had to let go of many, many things that were dear to me: my toys, my cat, favorite nightgown that was too small(mom kept taking it out of the suitcase, while I was putting it in), etc. So, at this point, only people matter, not things.)
I too have a problem getting rid of my eye glass cases but you just gave me all the reasons to just let it go! 😊😎🤓
Glad I'm not alone!! It sounded kind of ridiculous when I said it out loud 😉😘
But it would be useful to put something delicate in for travelling as you said Dawn lol xx this would be me xx
@@TheMinimalMom Not ridiculous at all! I have the same issue. In fact, when you mentioned you could use it to store things when you travel I thought, "Oh what a great idea!" LOL
This is so on point! I found myself going through clothing. "This is in really good condition" Try it on... "Oh this is too big" I could alter it! "I never loved it like I thought I would". OK, get rid of it! BUT WAIT, "I could make this boiled wool jacket into slippers". REALLY. It went into the keep pile, then the donate it pile, then a new pile for things I can fix, then back in the donate pile, then a craft it into something else pile, and finally in the donate pile. One item down, only five drawers, one closet and four bins to go!
Oh my, you made me laugh out loud. I have done the same thing,
@@debbiekortyna7711 The struggle is real. I did get through 2 bins. :)
The one rare time that a need is met by something we stored makes us feel so good that we rescued the situation, and that reinforces the habit.
purses, I can not seem to find the right one and I have so many that I thought would work but does not. Yet I do not seem to get rid of them
These are great questions to ask yourself! Thanks for sharing. Decluttering brings so much peace in my home and my mind too.
Yes! Amen!! ♥️👍
Love your videos! One of the questions i ask myself when getting rid of somethings is if im keeping it put of fear. That simple question has helped me declutter ALOT of stuff.
Could I get by without it? Awesome question. My bump in the road is kids toys.
Would your kiddos be happier, better-behaved, more peaceful with fewer toys?
I'd be TOTALLY fine getting rid of most of my kids toys (because I know what he actually plays with and what he doesn't) but unfortunately my husband gets a say too and he never wants to get rid of ANYTHING! "But he uses it at least once a month, even though it's huge and he's broken it a million times" 🤦🤦🤦🤦
This is so true. Seems very obvious now you've said it! Thank you
I just don't know what to keep what to get rid of and by the end of the day I'm just tired and have more boxes. I know we don't need all of it.
Perhaps I can offer a first step for people struggling with this idea. Sometimes there is less to "inventory" if you do one more step. For example with the jeans you could cut one piece to patch with later and discard the rest.
For corbin you should try and keep your eyes out for double pleated knee from Lands End. My sister lives by them for her sons. they have an extra piece of fabric sewn on the inside of the jeans they are great.
Thank you for your work from Switzerland !
I have the SAME GLASSES CASES
and have kept them for the
EXACT SAME REASONS!!!!
🤓🤓🤓no jokie artichokie!!! 🤓🤓
Hahaha, love this!!!! ♥️
I love having a peaceful home! Thanks for your help in my process! 😀
Looking forward to seeing you in Asheville!😀😀
We recently had our house appraised and our cleaners helped by "decluttering" for us and placing alot in the garage. The house as they left it is so much closer to your home and so easy to keep tidy - especially the kids rooms and their playroom. After making beds and 5 minutes in the playroom they are done. There is more decluttering to do in the kitchen drawers and a few cabinets but otherwise my house is starting to feel "peaceful". It's been several years I've been at this and it took "outsiders" coming in and pointing out what was ultimately "too much" for the final push. I'm so grateful. I know I have trouble with being too sentimental and being in love with kids stuff. It's not enough to declutter - we have to stop the buying too lol. Thanks Dawn for being a constant inspiration! ❤️
I know you say that the thought process seems silly when you say it out loud, but it's SO TRUE! I can't even tell you how helpful it has been to have you say the words out loud so I can work through all of my self doubt in getting rid of stuff! You are such a blessing! Thanks for taking the time to make these videos! They have been a game changer for me in getting my house in order!💗💗💗
Love that you addressed this! Definitely needed it.