Another great show❤️❤️❤️💯 - So let’s talk about the 🐘 🐘🐘... in the room. When you are an attractive woman 👩🏽 how do we navigate the waters 🌊 of men being sexually driven? ...That’s even when we are a great catch! I’m dating a man that loves me but he’s still very paranoid when it comes to things (ex.Me being out w/my male friends ) and I’m structured when it comes to certain things (sex b4 💎 💍) but I’m also a realist. 💟🔍💡Frankly I’m ready for him to make a move 💍🗝💋... I think the best humans are built for deep intimacy and loving relationships. Thus, I’m with the belief system that biologically that high sex drive is to remind a man/woman to get married young,....Soooo they can be happily intimate with their wife /husband and build intimately and productively. ☺️ Wed to form strong 💪🏽 families and build wealthy and healthy family mindsets. ⭐️
The Roommates Podcast I Really Enjoyed hearing this perspective on Relationships coming from a females point of view! I was Blessed with added knowledge
@@Tre38843 100% agree. They want to be on a 365 day holiday every year, spending money, not working and showing it all off to make people as jealous as they feel seeing other women doing that.
My mom told me go and get your degree, but never lose your femininity, a man doesn't care about that, but ensure you can take care of yourself. The older I get the more I understood what she meant then. I am grateful for my mom every day.
A wise man once told me that some women marry a man thinking he’s going to change, and he doesn’t, and a man marries a woman thinking she’ll never change and she does.
Yes. I know a single woman who will be 60 this year. She never had a boyfriend. She is one of the manliest women I know. She stopped dating many years ago. I think she felt that no man was good enough for her. Compromise was something she was never willing to do.
@@Ace.0.0.0. "She is one of the manliest women I know" well, that's her problem right there in a nutshell, but someone like her will never see it. Have fun staying delusional I guess
I have to disagree they want someone else to get the degree, start the business, buy the house, buy the car. The better looking she is the more she will expect to be given the world just based on her looks.
@@broco6608Love exists beyond the senses but I wish it was that quantifiable and linear . I loved your response though because it challenged my thinking which is one aspect of many for me , and you ?
She is describing my marriage. When I met him, I knew that he was the one. And I could never understand why he was single and for so long. He told me that I appreciate the things in him that he used to do for other women, that they would not even notice. And then I realized that those little things that he does, that no one else appreciated, are the exact reason why I love him so much.
this also depends on your age. The woman in video was 39 when she really loved her husband. I have found this too, women in 30s are more loving which should seem natural. But when you compare it with girls in 20s it unfortunately comes off as desperation. It's like when you get older your brain starts nagging you to cling harder to your partner
I have always known this even as a young woman. Keep your face pretty, body tight and hair full and rich no matter how many degrees you recieve. I'm married once for 18 years as of yesterday. I am 44 now and men still chase me as if I was 25 years old because I look almost exactly the way I did when I was 20. Don't ever let yourself go. Stay beautiful ladies. Inside and out!
@@I.Am.RosaMarie watch beauty videos on RUclips, apply what you learn, eat right, and go to the gym. Eventually, you'll do it because it make you feel pretty and nice.
A “6” is basically a notch above average. She’s cute on the right day, pretty on the right evening, in the right hair, clothes and makeup...maybe a couple of times a month. What chick wants to be THAT? 🤷🏽♂️😆
She got her degree, got a good job and she thinks that she has moved to the front of the line. She’s still a 6. What she doesn’t realize, she’s behind the unmarried 9s, 8s, 7s, and 6s who look a little better than she does.
@Shadi the second a man shows his emotions to a woman, they get so turned off! So many men have experienced it. Men that do well with women only show their emotions to their friends or parents / siblings.
Many women have a tendency to be preoccupied. I recommend doing what you can to grow personally. I'm 28 and that has become my primary focus. As I continue to exercise self care and grow professionally a relationship is a side Pursuit that I am open to. Hang in there and I wish you the best! It's rough out here. 💯
@j4s2v1 The thing is women ask men to open up. I told my ex that she would find is repulsive if I would open up about my fears etc. She, like all women exclaimed that that wouldnt happen. Guess what happened when I actually did. She also used my insecurities as ammunition in heated arguments. Women lack introspection, also they have no idea what turns them on.
she still doesn't. she completely misunderstands our motivations. Every thing men have been conditioned to do is because women select their mate for their eggs, not because of "patriarchy".
All women understand what men want, and why men want it. It's about control, and men are being oppressed by women and the ultimate pimp, big daddy government. Face it, you lose, gents.
"If you really want to attract more men....go to the gym." This needs to be yelled from the tallest building. Women who don't want to sweat out their hair need to pay attention to this.
@Riso Exactly!! I wish I could walk into a gym and just pick up weights and look like i have been lifting successfully for years. Women would get so toned if they would only workout.
ha! one of my top requirements was she has to have the type of hair that can get wet. I love to travel to warm and tropical places and I was not going to deal with "I can't get my hair wet" or a bunch of weave.
It is simpler than that.....Just eat less and healthier. I moved to a country where it is very rare to see a woman under 50yo who is overweight. I never see younger women who are overweight. All that changed in the US in the 70s, before that obese people were extremely rare. In my high school of 3400 students, I saw my first fat teenager as a Junior when a boy moved into our district who was fat. The whole school helped him to lose weight. Obesity is not more common than not in the US. Eating better and healthier is also cheaper
Max Bishop what kind of absolute trash take is this? You’re hilarious. Over here saying women have fewer repercussions to PREGNANCY, BIRTH, AND CHILDREARING than men. I mean, your head is sooo far up your ass, it’s already emerged back out through your mouth. Congratulations, you defy physics
Now I'm tired of people dogging women for the height preference. I'm a tall girl, 5' 9", and I legit prefer men near my height or taller. I do not feel feminine around guys extremely shorter than me. I'm beyond annoyed that shorter girls refuse men near their height. It may be superficial of me but every woman wants to feel protected and feminine. I've only felt that safety from a guy who can look straight at me without breaking their necks or could actually hold me in his arms fully.
@@kimallnaturelle I think the rule of a man being the same height of a woman or taller is a reasonable guideline for women, but the problem is when 5"6 women want 6" and over men edit: because its kind of unfair on taller women
@@kimallnaturelle we're taking about the woman who are 5'2 days guys who are 5'8 are short.... I prefer taller woman too, and don't guys do take it op the ass, but it's rare.
@PGrad you are so right. In their defense, shorter girls make no sense. You're below 5' 5" and refuse a man that's between 5' 7" and 5' 9" just have someone 6 ft tall.
Rebecca Lynn Pope needs to get on The Real Show and educate those Talk-host ladies. The Real show feeds those ladies out in the world' unreal expectations of dating as feminist, preparing them for the Lone-life & Cat package deal.
She'd go on once but would likely never return because most black women do not subscribe to her mindset. Black women are too combative, argumentative, and they reject any message of personal accountability. You can't reason with them, and many are simply not marriage material.
@@suave_d you mean black men right. because ya can NEVER take accountability and with the black men in prison, shot down, uneducated, etc. most black men don't marry at all. they are so many educated black women
She definitely understands the male psyche and emotions. I wish in Jamaica that someone like her speak to our Jamaican women and men for them to really understand each other. This video has been an eye-opener for me.
The median HOUSEHOLD income in the United States is $57,000. That’s based on a married couple and a child. Act accordingly... this is real life, not a BET movie.
Also, the median household net worth is -$34,000, negative net worth. American society has changed so much in cost of living advancing since 1970s by 1200% and incomes advanced 55%. I am old enough to remember doctors making house calls and mother paying for it out of the cookie jar, and a man, with a full-time job, any full-time job could raise a family on a single income, have savings, and take regular vacations. Compared to other countries, the average American lives with less security and savings than the median income vs cost of living in 70% of countries. I have been in 91 countries and none have the vast difference between the wealthy and the average. I was pretty successful in many fields in the 70-90s, all at the same time but now to be considered secure and the wealth needed for personal independence requires a net worth of $10million or more, in unencumbered cash in investments or cash. When I had high income from investments and business ownership, women were very attracted to that which was a boost to the ego but the women who were seeking wealth were not the people I could respect after getting used to their beauty or style. I gave everything away except one house and one car and a storage unit filled with awards and gold/platinum records and moved out of the US in 2000 21 years ago and live in a beautiful, most educated, and cultured city in the world that has a cost of living about 1/10th that of the US which have neither of those traits. I arrived with 2 suitcases and $6000 in my pocket seeking a simpler more direct and meaningful life. My retirement at 49 was the best decision of my life. That retirement lasted 2 months before I started a business in a field I knew nothing about and it became successful but sold it to regain the time to enjoy life and the amazing women here.. The second retirement lasted 6 months and started another, and now have 4 businesses, 3 are small and one is larger with 68 employees There is something very distorted in US society, a very stressful, angry divided society with a thousand political identity groups that all hate the other 999 groups. Women have changed so much more than men, they are not even compatible in the US anymore. Men who want a family and a secure happy modest life with no debt or stress really need to move out of the country. Live is so much more pleasant, easy and humane in other countries.
"If you want to just attract more men, go to the gym. Just go the gym." "At the end of the day getting another degree isn't going to attract more men, or help you meet a man." LOL, yes men are simple, we will love and marry a woman that is beautiful and makes us feel good, and that's all we mostly care about. We just want to be happy and not treated like a competitor in our own house.
@@EsotericHighway Women are poor at self-reflection, this is one reason they are so picky. When they are a 4 they see themselves as a 10, so they pass up the guy who is a 5 who would actually be a great partner. Thank social media for a lot of that because women used to know better. All the 'likes' have gone to their heads now.
@@Tantella1 ... If you aren't on social media, you are a tiny outlier. But kudos to you, you might actually have a chance at realizing your true value, and be able to genuinely desire a man that is a good for you.
What a beautiful, feminine woman..she is precious. Very well spoken, sure but not “hard” in her delivery.. the truth is always like good medicine, hard to swallow but good for us in the long run. Kudos! ❤️🌻
@@Wes-Tyler This is the biggest irony of all this type of content. It's just a circle jerk of men who already know this stuff and are just reaffirming their beliefs. Young women are the ones who really need to hear these messages, watch these videos and get the reality-check they require, but they won't. Because their lifestyle inherently negates any need for them to even go down the rabbit hole to end up here. They're on TikTok, Instagram and Snapchat, getting an endless abundance of attention and opportunities. They're out partying, living for the moment, with no foresight about the future or the wider picture of what's going on. I don't mean this in a patronising way, but they're very much like children in this regard, in that they literally don't even self-reflect or introspect about these things. Like, when you were a kid, you didn't ponder on the finer points of life, society or the nature of things. You simply lived your life, played with toys, ran about kicking a footfall, or whatever it was you did, and young women very much life in a cotton-wool world like this. That is, until they have their identity crisis generally between age 30 - 35 (providing they're still single, then).
I have to be honest. As a woman we are superficial. When my boyfriend started opening up I couldn’t handle it. He was showing his real feelings and his vulnerability my attraction for him was falling apart. I was so used to him showing strength, being mysterious and I was not prepared to see that part of him. He was raw and it was difficult. But thank God it helped me deal with my own expectations of him and letting him be himself. I dated him because I had an idea of him something he was doing to show off to me and it boils down both our fault to appeal to each other but when I saw him get vulnerable I nearly lost my thing for him and I decided to snap out of fantasy. It was a wake up call to use the opportunity to be real myself and respect him. I stayed quiet and never showed any disrespect. It was hard to see him fall apart gotta admit.but when I had to work on my psyche, I took the time to readjust and appreciate what he was doing. I had a true new discovered connection with him. He was still my king with his vulnerability. Eventually he told me that’s what he was expecting of me and he did it on purpose as he needed it. So we woman should be aware and prepared..
Fairplay to you. Unfortunately, most women lack this sort of introspection, or at least, they are not willing to undergo the self-reflection necessary to facilitate it. They base everything upon their emotions and what they 'feel' at any one time, as the determiner / arbiter of truth. So for example, "I feel less attracted to him after he opened up about his emotions, therefore that means I should leave him". Introspection and self-reflection is so critical to the long-term maintenance and health of any relationship, but so few people today actually recognise that, or they can't be bothered with it. Proper committed relationships take work. After that 2 or 3 year honeymoon phase, it's not all gonna be plain sailing, and your partner isn't some idealised creation that exists to fulfil you requirements of attraction 24/7. They're a living, breathing, flawed human, and we need to accept that reality if we actually want to date someone seriously.
It really pissed me off that you females base attraction off that. That's like if a girl started crying and I decided to ghost her or lose feelings. Really asinine way of thinking. Props to you for staying but still a bit disappointed.
@@kunknown2340 Well glad I am not looking for your approval. Besides you males loose attraction when you see your partner starts putting on weights and breasts become saggy and what not so why are you so surprised at the level of maturity it requires to deepen a relationship that is not based on appearances?
@@peeerlyb.7762 Physical looks can fade for both genders so that comparison is garbage. If a woman is crying her eyes out or shows weakness that shouldn't deattract a man unless if he dislikes crying in general. Most men would try to see what the issue is, but switch the roles and, "I lost attraction for him." Or worse, a woman will just ignore or leave the man. If that isn't some double standard BS, then I guess I don't know what BS is, and in turn, I have a right to be irritated by it. We are not emotionless machines that females and the media seem to perpetuate, we are human beings too. Oh well.
@@alexg2k2 I understand why you would say that, but I believe you can be a full on feminist and still embrace the natural differences, strengths and weaknesses of men and women. I do at least, and so do the women in my circle, and I'm sure there must be plenty more who also feel the same way.
@@dharad It's not just about recognizing the differences between men and women. The welfare state, abortion, and no fault divorce need to be abolished.
Check the hair products you so lavishly put in to your hair, check the type of celebrities and women leaders that you follow. It's all connected. There's masculinity in men and femininity in women and that's how it's supposed to stay in order for relationships to work. Problems start when a very feminine woman starts exhibiting masculine traits because she's been ran through more times than the Holland tunnel and the residual masculine energy has a lasting effect on her body and mind. Look into this, don't just take my word for it.
Im 29 and its mindblowing that most women my age and even younger have kids. And not divorced with kids but knocked up by a boyfriend. Some even have 2 or 3 kids from multiple guys... Such a waste.
@@coffeeonthemoon I just dont get it... Maybe if our generation refuses to date single mothers then women will learn and not have kids until marriage. I refuse to pay for and raise another mans mistake. Kids are expensive enough, I want to raise and support my own children, not someone else's.
This was a quality show! Great guest. And I appreciate how young, yet mature you 2 are. If you 2 are signs that better men are coming, then I'm happy for my younger sisters.
As I told a friend back in high school, "People now a days date not because they actually love each other but because they see it as a social status. A new thing to brag about to others on social media. Never go looking, just do your best and what you enjoy and your other will come to you"
Men don’t really do this. It’s women who dare by committee and cede to their friends’ opinions on their man. Men don’t even discuss their girlfriends or wives with their friends. Men don’t rely on their woman for status, they have to crate their own status.
Great video! I met my husband when I was 19, and he was 18!! We got married 3 years later, and will be celebrating 30 years of marriage in July!! We were both still in college and didn’t have much, but looking back, that’s what held us together( and our love for God). Was it difficult at times yes, but I’m so glad I didn’t give up! 😂 Oh, I did make a list of what kind of man I wanted when I was 17 or 18... it consisted mainly of what kind of person he’d be and not so much on looks and money. Call it being naive, but I definitely got a wonderful hardworking, and loving husband!!😍
@Dream Dream Serene men ONLY value looks? Oh, I'm sorry I didn't realize that you knew all men intimately. You are a sad, and empty woman. You clearly didn't even listen to what Rebecca had to say. But you should.
This was so interesting and even educational for someone like me, with little experience with women. Chris Rock was so right about many people when he said "Men cannot go back sexually, women cannot go back in lifestyle".
Well you're light skinned they think you will cheat so they might cheat sometimes it's about power. I am attractive and women be jealous. They assume attractive men always cheat because in 95% of stupid movies we do cheat. A lot of men cheat in real life but NOT as many do in movies especially if she's loyal.
@Liam O’Neil who is telling you you can't have standards? As long as they're realistic, have your standards. And if someone, woman or man, tells you you're asking for too much, tell them to shove it where the sun don't shine
W Bell Well, yeah, we’re not allowed to have standards. If some 250+ lbs troll rolls up and propositions me and I refuse, then I’m automatically a shallow, misogynistic pig who’s afraid of strong women. Or I’m gay.
What and who brought men grievance? The answer: man. Because man made the choice to get involved with whatever woman he chose....Women too! No one is a victim. We all have the free will of choice.
One of THE best episodes yet! You're right, each sex needs to really learn and understand the genetic makeup of one another. That's where the confusion comes from; each sex feeling like the opposite sex should think and behave like them. Thank you for the jewels of knowledge you all are dropping. It's greatly appreciated!
joe Black what I’m saying is that men and women need to learn how one another are wired by nature. Men want women to think like men and vice versa. Once we truly learn one another, it can be up hill from there. Unfortunately SOME men and women these days don’t know themselves, so there’s no way, they can begin to learn, understand, love, or even fulfill their role in the life of another.
@@ms.angiesworld8696 The thing is everyone is not wired the same due to sex. They may know that they are not the type to fit into certain roles. It's the reason for so much pushback against being a June Cleaver type.
Regula Guy Nah, to say that either men or women approach things one particular way is an erroneous statement. You have to do extensive research before you could prove either statement.
@@regulaguy1733 preach bro if a man don't have much he gets rejected but if he has everything she loves him now if a female don't have much I'll still love her but females dont love like us men bro
I strongly disagree with her comment about having sidechicks being common for men throughout relationships.. I really didn’t relate to that at all and it’s not what I’ve seen amongst my mates either..? There are simply some guys that don’t even try to fight temptation, and then there are guys that aren’t phased by other women when they are with someone that they are happy with..
@@douglascampbell4993 dude i am a man , stop the games, she is right. Not every man, because she even says that there are exceptions to the rule but in general men are like that. Tell your girlfriend what you are saying but dont tell us because we are men too and we know the truth
@@tonyebiere551 lmao. Nah dude.. that incessant need or desire for different women at different times, whether you are in a relationship or not? That is insecurity, and the need to validate yourself externally with attention seeking and ego fluffing. Plain and simple dude. I don’t need to dribble bullshit to any girlfriend to try and reassure anyone, if you are that simple then all the best to you. But you’ll be speaking for yourself..
@@TheCritic9196 actually my husband of 15 years just prepared an upscale plate of ramen noodles with shrimp.(cause I respect his tears when ever they do happen)😉
I've cried an let me tell you if ur with that right woman she respects a man who is not afraid to cry and living and loving his truth. If ur afraid to cry in front of ur woman first ur not living your truth. Second if she leaves or treats u in a way? Then she's not that woman an she is not living her truth. See ya. That's it. If it starts as a game an ego etc dont get mad if that shit bites either of u in ur ass. Live ur truth. Both parties. It will set both of yall free. Love urself first. So if she or he cant love u like u love u then by by. Goes for both sexes❤️
truth truth , If you cry because a family member died or an incredible act of kindness was done to you, they may let that slide. But, if you cry because you had a hard day at work or the boss is picking in you or you cry during a movie. She will lose respect for you eventually. Of course there is always that one unicorn out there but we are all chasing that one unicorn.
Adults absolutely have gotta rethink first dates across the board. They should be picnics ice cream roller skating. 1.Find out whether you're flat out open to another person yet. 2.Find out if you can even have fun that's not sexual together. If you can't have fun doing nothing you definitely don't belong in a whole entire committed relationship with that person.
Eating ice cream, while walking through a park and talking about everything from favorite books to what was your least favorite subject in school (mine is math), would be a dream date for me.
@maddy H A lot of people are immature, but it isn't just the men. And on the flip side there are definitely very mature people of both sexes. The biggest thing to remember whether you are a man or a woman is that once sex enters the picture everything becomes complicated. Much harder to see that someone isn't right for you if you've already reached the most intimate level with them...
I am really grateful that you guys had her on your show. It was truly enlightening and has changed my views on my relationship instantly! It’s crazy to me how society can change how you think of people and how it makes you feel like the fake is real and the real is fake. You all do not know how much this has helped and is so needed!!! Thank you so much much blessings to you all
@@cardelturner8116 I like you Cardel. You an independent thinker. Many men out here like Big women but b/c media (evil white money greedy men) have turned half of society against big women for the purpose of propaganda and makes them feel they should be embarrassed or ashamed if they are dating one then some of these men publicly refuse to profess that. Those are men who are not mature and who are easily led by others and a man without a mind of his own is incredibly unattractive.
Girl where!?!!? The man she presented here is not a millennial man that is evolved & conscious of his place in the circle of life. I would NOT date a man with this kind of outdated mental construct. Men are attracted to boobs & teeth? If you don’t get up outa here!!! This kind of relationship where the woman is objectified & lives in subjection to the needs of the man is superficial, one dimensional & lacks the foundation needed to take the partnership through tough times. I do get that MOST men are as she described, but not the ones worth their weight in gold.
coptic777 “Will”??? Listen. Make that statement over the lives of your sisters & nieces, because it doesn’t remotely apply to me. Aint nobody sitting here depressed over a man. You sound like you have no experience with women over the age of 21. Which man (uses term loosely) sits there bursting with glee over the thought of a woman being alone? Get your immature ass up offa my comment & go see how you can make yourself useful to your community. You add no value here.
Ricky it’s ok darling. The more evolved specie of human has arrived to counteract the detrimental & devolving effects folks like you are having on the psychological welfare of this planet. Have a good day x
Wrong assumptions: If women want more degrees and careers and money, it's not to be more attractive to men, it's to be more independent. Women are hungry for power but do not see the sacrifice they have to make.
Being on the fringe my childhood was pretty wack. Now that I am a man I am trying to make it. But making IT is hard 27 next week and wonder where the time went been running up a hill to reach my goals.
@himode That's what you think. But, okay. This is exactly why the narrative should change from women to men. Got women out here giving out false information on women. It's false buddy.
This was a great episode! I loved the flow and direction of the conversation! Most definitely one of the best episodes thus far I wanted to comment on a few points that were made. I am going to try to be transparent to save a soul. When I was a teen, I was diagnosed with PCOS. I noticed having a lot of sexual urges. I would equate the urges to being human and being triggered by music, media, etc. After hearing what Rebecca said is making me question if the symptoms of PCOS has been influencing my fervor to some capacity. From my understanding, the androgen (sexual hormone) levels are higher in women who have it. When diagnoses little was explained to me about the disorder and how it could affect my body. I want to do more research to understand it more. I loved the point about how men are not built like us. So many times women are fighting for guys to see eye to eye with them but simply, they aren't always able to. This is something I need to work on personally, moving away from the expectation of "well, they can change" to a more realistic viewpoint. Picking up on the conversations early on and BELIEVING THEM LOL Also, I was enjoying the dating advice about keeping things light early on. Far too many times if men I were pursuing had a question, I would answer it as honest as possible. Just like how it's important to have boundaries with your body, one should consider having boundaries over information shared. Although I believe its a case-by-case scenario, dating is about getting to know if you are compatible and having fun. I am hoping when I'm back in the season of dating that I can apply this. Thank you again !!!
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I have PCOS as well and my hormones are imbalanced so I've felt "weird" for years unable to understand what I was feeling so I get it. Stay encouraged beautiful queen 👑
Rebecca Lynn Pope....I love her. She is so real, authentic, transparent. I stumbled across her on YT in 2017, joined her Godly Girls group, and bought her book. I have been blessed by her insight and willingness to share her life's lessons with others to make our lives better.
LovingMe1st you'd be surprised at how many guys I tell to hit the gym. I go all the time myself. I'll never be lebrons height or size, but I'm pretty sculpted myself (no cap). It's up to the individual at the end of the day. Most guys will accept who they see as an average girl tho, never vice versa.
I love who I am as a person. I have a great personality, I'm smart and quite funny. But if I'm being completely honest, my body seriously needs to level up to match those great qualities. It's bitter pill to swallow. So I'm getting a personal trainer and heading to the gym.
This is my favorite. I love how she explained in detail. I believe she reached many personalities in her examples. She is so chill and has great vibes. I can listen to her more. Does she have a channel? Her wisdom is invaluable.
@@robertwarner1160 - put down the junk science and deal with people. Men and women who go into marriage emotionally ready are happier, it's weird that you would count dicks/vaginas or hold their age against them.
Good women run in packs. That explains it. That’s why I barely witness the “dark side” in person. I be like “who are these women y’all talking about, my friends don’t act like that, the women in my family don’t act like that”
Although I get that I don't understand the logic when you know there's millions of people who live here you have to know that there is a bigger world then the 5 people you know. Woman are intelligent sp how is that concept difficult unless you're a narcissist
@@johnh8705 The good women provide an offensive line for the badust in case in the future they want to opt in to fuckery. They may not all take the option but they're all like that And this notion that just because they are not life that they don't understand does not make them good women because that makes them narcissistic. Just because I'm not a thief does it mean I cannot see thieves exist.
This episode right here provided so much clarity and a WHOLESOME perspective on this dating game, expectations, honesty, desire, and marriage. I LOVE IF Y'ALL COULD START TALKING ABOUT MORE MARRIAGE AND ASK HER HOW HER MARRIED LIFE IS. Appreciate y'all, brothers.
Incredible interview here- so many valuable truth bombs- one after another. This session should be required as part of senior year HS health class for all young people. Much more valuable in peoples lives than the three "r's". She really understands human psychology and immutable characteristics, and how our society has forgotten what cannot be changed, only softened.
Let me tell you.... I’m a GAW (Grown A$$ Woman). I’m professional , work out and professional and I’m mentally:emotionally stable. I did the work. I’m now in a committed relationship. I have tons of dating experiences (prior to my current relationship) and I live in Atlanta. I can tell you that this woman is telling 100% truth and on point.
So you can answer this: Why do women get mad when they're told to humble themselves and date a guy thats equal to her, instead of aiming for guys out of her league?
rico rogers in all my relationships (and I’m considered as a really diplomatic person) I’ve rarely met a man who was willing to accept the truth even IF his flaws was obvious to all and harmful for him and others. It dépends if people are open minded or not. As Rebecca said, women are more likely to be closed minded on that level that’s the only general statement I would make.
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Thanks for this show gents! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Quick one, please upload Rebecca's show you're referring to. Much appreciated
Another great show❤️❤️❤️💯 - So let’s talk about the 🐘 🐘🐘... in the room. When you are an attractive woman 👩🏽 how do we navigate the waters 🌊 of men being sexually driven? ...That’s even when we are a great catch! I’m dating a man that loves me but he’s still very paranoid when it comes to things (ex.Me being out w/my male friends ) and I’m structured when it comes to certain things (sex b4 💎 💍) but I’m also a realist. 💟🔍💡Frankly I’m ready for him to make a move 💍🗝💋... I think the best humans are built for deep intimacy and loving relationships. Thus, I’m with the belief system that biologically that high sex drive is to remind a man/woman to get married young,....Soooo they can be happily intimate with their wife /husband and build intimately and productively. ☺️ Wed to form strong 💪🏽 families and build wealthy and healthy family mindsets. ⭐️
@@salimalugolobi1910 Search her name on youtube and you can find it.
@@Kristina_lyric16 Thanks for sharing
The Roommates Podcast I Really Enjoyed hearing this perspective on Relationships coming from a females point of view! I was Blessed with added knowledge
"If it took money to get her, it takes money to keep her."- A Wise Man
Factssss
That makes all the sense!!! Beautiful! I tell my 25 yr old son this! thks!!
Lol I am 25 too.
That's why you can't buy a woman nowadays, just rent them
Cristiano s oh no that wouldn’t be renting the woman themself that would be renting her poom poom.
basically women watch too much tv and spend to much time on social media
Black women want to live how Cardi B and Offset do on Instagram.
@@Tre38843 100% agree. They want to be on a 365 day holiday every year, spending money, not working and showing it all off to make people as jealous as they feel seeing other women doing that.
@@givmespace It's a cycle of misery.
And so they do is talk about how great they are and how much they hate men, but also wonder why they can't get a good man.
@@chuy8356 yep i agree. That why so many are miserable on anti anxiety and anti depressant pills. They are cracking under their own bullshit.
My mom told me go and get your degree, but never lose your femininity, a man doesn't care about that, but ensure you can take care of yourself. The older I get the more I understood what she meant then. I am grateful for my mom every day.
Your mom was spot-on and very wise.
@@dant.1028 Yes agreed...She is very wise...and you if listened to her, You are very lucky...
Yeah, the balance is definitely needed. Your mother is wise.
Wish there were more mom like yours
💯
A wise man once told me that some women marry a man thinking he’s going to change, and he doesn’t, and a man marries a woman thinking she’ll never change and she does.
Damn that was a good one
people doesn't change. The women simply stop lying about herself.
I’ve been married 9 yrs (together 15 yrs) and i agree with this 100%
Picking up "damaged goods" with the hope to be able to "fix" him/her is unrealistic.
good one
Simply put: "Women have become the men they wanted to marry"
Yes. I know a single woman who will be 60 this year. She never had a boyfriend. She is one of the manliest women I know. She stopped dating many years ago. I think she felt that no man was good enough for her. Compromise was something she was never willing to do.
@@Ace.0.0.0. "She is one of the manliest women I know" well, that's her problem right there in a nutshell, but someone like her will never see it. Have fun staying delusional I guess
The biggest irony of feminism: women are trying to be like men. The ideal woman is a man.
I have to disagree they want someone else to get the degree, start the business, buy the house, buy the car. The better looking she is the more she will expect to be given the world just based on her looks.
Ace sounds like a closet lesbian I would separate that
It's important to have standards that match what you can offer
That's the realest talk
Big facts.
I agree 💯
" All I can do is just offer you my love . " Maybe that only applies to Prince's though .
@@broco6608Love exists beyond the senses but I wish it was that quantifiable and linear . I loved your response though because it challenged my thinking which is one aspect of many for me , and you ?
Men fall in love with what they see and women fall in love with what they hear, which is why men lie and women wear makeup.
Duck Im Sprayin 🔥🔥
Preach!! PREACH!! 🙏🏾
Only REAL pimps know and understand what that statement means bro.
So both lie lmao
Maestro!
She is describing my marriage. When I met him, I knew that he was the one. And I could never understand why he was single and for so long. He told me that I appreciate the things in him that he used to do for other women, that they would not even notice. And then I realized that those little things that he does, that no one else appreciated, are the exact reason why I love him so much.
This is what femininity is about - receiving with gratitude and appreciation. Здравей! :)
@@evanatbri-s13 True. It's always so easy to give all of yourself to such a woman.
this also depends on your age. The woman in video was 39 when she really loved her husband. I have found this too, women in 30s are more loving which should seem natural. But when you compare it with girls in 20s it unfortunately comes off as desperation. It's like when you get older your brain starts nagging you to cling harder to your partner
@@AbhinavChoudharyOfficial also a lot of young women are encouraged to sleep around now which is making dating harder for them
You story warms my heart but I just want to find a block woman to be that appreciative 😢😢
I have always known this even as a young woman. Keep your face pretty, body tight and hair full and rich no matter how many degrees you recieve. I'm married once for 18 years as of yesterday. I am 44 now and men still chase me as if I was 25 years old because I look almost exactly the way I did when I was 20. Don't ever let yourself go. Stay beautiful ladies. Inside and out!
Barely look like you 44 tho😂😂
What advice would you give to a woman who has let herself go, just turned 30, single w/ no kids but wants to get herself together?
@@I.Am.RosaMarie watch beauty videos on RUclips, apply what you learn, eat right, and go to the gym. Eventually, you'll do it because it make you feel pretty and nice.
@@TheDorreProject Thank you. I appreciate the advice!!🙌🙌🙌
@@I.Am.RosaMarie No problem! I'm on the same journey as you. You got this!
Her: “And then she’s maybe a solid 6”
Them: 🤯 🤯
A “6” is basically a notch above average. She’s cute on the right day, pretty on the right evening, in the right hair, clothes and makeup...maybe a couple of times a month. What chick wants to be THAT? 🤷🏽♂️😆
Ramone DeCurta, I don’t that there’s an actual rating of 1, 2, 3 and 4. So 5 is not average. Or there would be some sad looking people out there.
Terrance Thomas there are some trolls out there. We tend to look through them. It’s too painful to look directly at them
Exactly! She ain’t that damn good looking
She got her degree, got a good job and she thinks that she has moved to the front of the line. She’s still a 6.
What she doesn’t realize, she’s behind the unmarried 9s, 8s, 7s, and 6s who look a little better than she does.
To be honest, men don't show their emotions because when they display their emotions, women disrespect them. We learn it at a very young age.
It does nothing but gives her a ego boost, never do this unless you want to feel stupid on purpose
They could even use that vulnerability against you. And that is how manipulative they can be.
@Shadi the second a man shows his emotions to a woman, they get so turned off! So many men have experienced it. Men that do well with women only show their emotions to their friends or parents / siblings.
@Shadi personal experience. Other friends experiences. Congrats, You’re a unicorn. Or maybe we’re just meeting the wrong women 😅
I did
The fact this woman listens to understand and not to respond has earned her the respect of pretty much every man in these comments.
Women: WE WANT SUPERMAN
Men: aight well I’m Clark Kent.
Women: y’all need to step up.
💀💀
Ruby Badilla I’m not, and ain’t nothing new in this podcast. I’m listening for shites and gigs. Take your mature well thought out point elsewhere.
Ruby Badilla sure thing 👍🏾
😂😂😂
@Ruby Badilla Why because I understood everything he said
In my own personal experience. Every time I open up to women and communicate they just ignore it.
Many women have a tendency to be preoccupied. I recommend doing what you can to grow personally. I'm 28 and that has become my primary focus. As I continue to exercise self care and grow professionally a relationship is a side Pursuit that I am open to. Hang in there and I wish you the best! It's rough out here. 💯
@j4s2v1 The thing is women ask men to open up. I told my ex that she would find is repulsive if I would open up about my fears etc. She, like all women exclaimed that that wouldnt happen. Guess what happened when I actually did. She also used my insecurities as ammunition in heated arguments. Women lack introspection, also they have no idea what turns them on.
u ain't good looking son
I was told to suck it up and get over it!
@j4s2v1 Yes, what they do vs what they say... two different entities.
This is how regular/real black men and women just chop it up and have good conversation. Thanks Guys!
Emphasis on real!!!!
What does race have to do with it? Only a racist notices a persons color.
@@fahey6797 You're on a black channel, stop.
@@fahey6797 Shit up Bitch.
So this is a « BLACK » Channel ? I’m not sur Hafeez and Chris only wants to make content for Black viewers 🤔
She listens to men. That's why she's ao unique and wise
The older I get the more I understand just how big the difference between wisdom and intelligence is.
Good
She’s so sweet, polished, and sincere.
Carl Bandy good breeding...Wise & compassionate...😎 GOOD WOMAN!!!!
Its experience
Stop gassing her.
@@Druxluxe lol
Exactly. Don’t need red pill with women like this.
...women actually think a man cares where she went to school or what degrees they have
A lot of men in DC do!
Alot of men also judge something we can't control
Theres actually gold digging men out here that care. You would be suprised
Yeah mannn that is how we are conditioned and raised to think...our stock goers higher if we don't come across as "gold diggers" smh
@@carleysoul no we dont. we just ACT like we care.
This the first woman that I feel actually understands men on So many levels.
crome Rebecca was a match maker for over 8 years for women
crome Not really
she still doesn't. she completely misunderstands our motivations. Every thing men have been conditioned to do is because women select their mate for their eggs, not because of "patriarchy".
Yeah but she gets it once she’s old, she still looks good though
All women understand what men want, and why men want it. It's about control, and men are being oppressed by women and the ultimate pimp, big daddy government. Face it, you lose, gents.
She is a straight up 10 ! Her feminity is just phenomenal! She has the Look, the dignity, the warm radiant aura...
No woman of that age is a 10. A 10 is for women in their 20’s. 30’s - max 9, and so on
@@JamalW239 please shut the hell up and stop listening to Kevin Samuel videos
@@JamalW239 You are dense..fr
A 10 what???????
Straight women are not the ones who get to decide how attractive other women are. She's a 5 at best.
"If you really want to attract more men....go to the gym." This needs to be yelled from the tallest building. Women who don't want to sweat out their hair need to pay attention to this.
@Riso Exactly!! I wish I could walk into a gym and just pick up weights and look like i have been lifting successfully for years.
Women would get so toned if they would only workout.
ha! one of my top requirements was she has to have the type of hair that can get wet. I love to travel to warm and tropical places and I was not going to deal with "I can't get my hair wet" or a bunch of weave.
I am in the gym to work-out, for me it's business not pleasure!
@@carojames6776 I don't think she means to meet men at the gym......I think she means the result the gym creates.
It is simpler than that.....Just eat less and healthier. I moved to a country where it is very rare to see a woman under 50yo who is overweight. I never see younger women who are overweight. All that changed in the US in the 70s, before that obese people were extremely rare. In my high school of 3400 students, I saw my first fat teenager as a Junior when a boy moved into our district who was fat. The whole school helped him to lose weight. Obesity is not more common than not in the US.
Eating better and healthier is also cheaper
A chick could design a guy per every aspect that she wants
She would trade him in within 6 months because he got boring
Lmao fax
Deadass bruh
This is the realest thing I ever read.
@Max Bishop black women wanna be like white MEN...
Max Bishop what kind of absolute trash take is this? You’re hilarious. Over here saying women have fewer repercussions to PREGNANCY, BIRTH, AND CHILDREARING than men. I mean, your head is sooo far up your ass, it’s already emerged back out through your mouth. Congratulations, you defy physics
The chicks that are saying that's not fair she's judging people on how they look, are the same chicks rejecting guys because of their height.
Now I'm tired of people dogging women for the height preference. I'm a tall girl, 5' 9", and I legit prefer men near my height or taller. I do not feel feminine around guys extremely shorter than me. I'm beyond annoyed that shorter girls refuse men near their height. It may be superficial of me but every woman wants to feel protected and feminine. I've only felt that safety from a guy who can look straight at me without breaking their necks or could actually hold me in his arms fully.
@@kimallnaturelle I think the rule of a man being the same height of a woman or taller is a reasonable guideline for women, but the problem is when 5"6 women want 6" and over men
edit: because its kind of unfair on taller women
@@kimallnaturelle get a gun, its far better protection.
@@kimallnaturelle we're taking about the woman who are 5'2 days guys who are 5'8 are short.... I prefer taller woman too, and don't guys do take it op the ass, but it's rare.
@PGrad you are so right. In their defense, shorter girls make no sense. You're below 5' 5" and refuse a man that's between 5' 7" and 5' 9" just have someone 6 ft tall.
BROTHERS BROTHERS BROTHERS. PLEASE FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART. GET THIS WOMAN ON YOUR PODCAST AGAIN.
Rebecca Lynn Pope needs to get on The Real Show and educate those Talk-host ladies.
The Real show feeds those ladies out in the world' unreal expectations of dating as feminist, preparing them for the Lone-life & Cat package deal.
She'd go on once but would likely never return because most black women do not subscribe to her mindset. Black women are too combative, argumentative, and they reject any message of personal accountability. You can't reason with them, and many are simply not marriage material.
She doesn’t fit the narrative of “ The Real”
NNWillieProject
Not the lone life and package deal. 😂
@@suave_d you mean black men right. because ya can NEVER take accountability and with the black men in prison, shot down, uneducated, etc. most black men don't marry at all. they are so many educated black women
@@alext3480 Look for the black men that are not hood they are everywhere and not in jail.
She definitely understands the male psyche and emotions. I wish in Jamaica that someone like her speak to our Jamaican women and men for them to really understand each other. This video has been an eye-opener for me.
Now you're being unrealistic 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
We never understood each other but we understand survival so no matter what we always find our way back together plus everybody got someone.
Jamaican women spend too much energy chasing wyt3 men.
The median HOUSEHOLD income in the United States is $57,000. That’s based on a married couple and a child. Act accordingly... this is real life, not a BET movie.
lmao facts
So real
Also, the median household net worth is -$34,000, negative net worth. American society has changed so much in cost of living advancing since 1970s by 1200% and incomes advanced 55%. I am old enough to remember doctors making house calls and mother paying for it out of the cookie jar, and a man, with a full-time job, any full-time job could raise a family on a single income, have savings, and take regular vacations. Compared to other countries, the average American lives with less security and savings than the median income vs cost of living in 70% of countries. I have been in 91 countries and none have the vast difference between the wealthy and the average. I was pretty successful in many fields in the 70-90s, all at the same time but now to be considered secure and the wealth needed for personal independence requires a net worth of $10million or more, in unencumbered cash in investments or cash. When I had high income from investments and business ownership, women were very attracted to that which was a boost to the ego but the women who were seeking wealth were not the people I could respect after getting used to their beauty or style. I gave everything away except one house and one car and a storage unit filled with awards and gold/platinum records and moved out of the US in 2000 21 years ago and live in a beautiful, most educated, and cultured city in the world that has a cost of living about 1/10th that of the US which have neither of those traits. I arrived with 2 suitcases and $6000 in my pocket seeking a simpler more direct and meaningful life. My retirement at 49 was the best decision of my life. That retirement lasted 2 months before I started a business in a field I knew nothing about and it became successful but sold it to regain the time to enjoy life and the amazing women here.. The second retirement lasted 6 months and started another, and now have 4 businesses, 3 are small and one is larger with 68 employees
There is something very distorted in US society, a very stressful, angry divided society with a thousand political identity groups that all hate the other 999 groups. Women have changed so much more than men, they are not even compatible in the US anymore. Men who want a family and a secure happy modest life with no debt or stress really need to move out of the country. Live is so much more pleasant, easy and humane in other countries.
@@stanspb763 Where'd you move to?
Yes, I'm curious m, where did you move to.
Your best episode
nahfr
What’s good bru
Facts🔥🔥🔥
euuuugghhh berlin
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Yep. Abused by their mother and abandoned by their fathers, so many are broken . Men needs healing, just as much as women.
Preach!!
We all need it indeed.
Wrong
That's all you got from this video?
@@boycottactivision lol
I’ve been abstaining for a few years now. It’s super hard it’s so nice to hear a woman that understands where I’m coming from. Great episode.
Good for you!!!
Dawn Isola same here aha maybe we should meet sometime
Good for you man. No false allegations, no friend zones, no gaslighting,............
Try fasting, it can help.
@KillingerDOOM She called out both sides...Negates any charge of manipulation if he is speaking her truth and understanding of both sides.
"If you want to just attract more men, go to the gym. Just go the gym." "At the end of the day getting another degree isn't going to attract more men, or help you meet a man." LOL, yes men are simple, we will love and marry a woman that is beautiful and makes us feel good, and that's all we mostly care about. We just want to be happy and not treated like a competitor in our own house.
Some women have to do everything backwards.
BOOM!!!!
@C RD some are not tho, women on birth control pills can be more masculine
Yup
@Blake Q men are obese as well so let's not go there
Like the way the hosts listen more than talk.
because they are young and want to learn
I'm glad I stumbled upon this by accident.
Glad you are here
I did too a couple of months ago & subscribed. I love them!
@@TheRoommatesPodcast thanks for the good content.
@@QueenOyinkan yeah, I will go ahead and suscribe too.
Nothing is by accident RUclips knows what you need 🤣😊
She made a lot of valid points. I've seen myself doing some of these things too. U have to be willing to look inside so u can make improvements.
AyeshéIsAlwaysLovely exactly, growth requires looking at yourself objectively, and then actually being proactive..
@@EsotericHighway Women are poor at self-reflection, this is one reason they are so picky. When they are a 4 they see themselves as a 10, so they pass up the guy who is a 5 who would actually be a great partner. Thank social media for a lot of that because women used to know better. All the 'likes' have gone to their heads now.
AllPro777 I don’t think this is true at all. Not every woman is on Instagram or Snapchat. We have real lives to live a jobs to live 😂
@@Tantella1 ... If you aren't on social media, you are a tiny outlier. But kudos to you, you might actually have a chance at realizing your true value, and be able to genuinely desire a man that is a good for you.
Yes, no college degree or woman’s salary has ever caused an erection.
When my mentor said; if you open a Facebook account, keep in mind you'll have no time to mind your own business. Best advice ever
It sounds like a lot of women in the future are going to be single
They already are
By 2030 HALF of women* in the US will be childless and single
- Rollo
Edit: women over 40
Many are already Single in 2020.
@@Odieodius Or single moms actually probably 75% of women will be single moms it's already at 55%?!
Many are already single.
I really enjoyed this episode. She made some really great points and it gave me a lot to think about.
like what??
@@keith8421 the fact that men want a pretty woman
" buh looks don't matter" bullshit
What a beautiful, feminine woman..she is precious. Very well spoken, sure but not “hard” in her delivery.. the truth is always like good medicine, hard to swallow but good for us in the long run. Kudos! ❤️🌻
"Life is hard enough, your partner needs to make that a little easier". FACTS!!
This is the greatest wakeup call for women I've ever seen.
Check out her video. It's legendary.
Too bad it’s only men watching..
@@Wes-Tyler This is the biggest irony of all this type of content. It's just a circle jerk of men who already know this stuff and are just reaffirming their beliefs. Young women are the ones who really need to hear these messages, watch these videos and get the reality-check they require, but they won't. Because their lifestyle inherently negates any need for them to even go down the rabbit hole to end up here. They're on TikTok, Instagram and Snapchat, getting an endless abundance of attention and opportunities. They're out partying, living for the moment, with no foresight about the future or the wider picture of what's going on. I don't mean this in a patronising way, but they're very much like children in this regard, in that they literally don't even self-reflect or introspect about these things. Like, when you were a kid, you didn't ponder on the finer points of life, society or the nature of things. You simply lived your life, played with toys, ran about kicking a footfall, or whatever it was you did, and young women very much life in a cotton-wool world like this. That is, until they have their identity crisis generally between age 30 - 35 (providing they're still single, then).
gooooooddd damn this is so full of so much truth !!! knocked it out of the park with this one gents!
Thanks!
The guys' reactions when she said "she's maybe a solid 6" 🤣🤣🤣
I have to be honest. As a woman we are superficial. When my boyfriend started opening up I couldn’t handle it. He was showing his real feelings and his vulnerability my attraction for him was falling apart. I was so used to him showing strength, being mysterious and I was not prepared to see that part of him. He was raw and it was difficult. But thank God it helped me deal with my own expectations of him and letting him be himself. I dated him because I had an idea of him something he was doing to show off to me and it boils down both our fault to appeal to each other but when I saw him get vulnerable I nearly lost my thing for him and I decided to snap out of fantasy. It was a wake up call to use the opportunity to be real myself and respect him. I stayed quiet and never showed any disrespect. It was hard to see him fall apart gotta admit.but when I had to work on my psyche, I took the time to readjust and appreciate what he was doing. I had a true new discovered connection with him. He was still my king with his vulnerability. Eventually he told me that’s what he was expecting of me and he did it on purpose as he needed it. So we woman should be aware and prepared..
Fairplay to you. Unfortunately, most women lack this sort of introspection, or at least, they are not willing to undergo the self-reflection necessary to facilitate it. They base everything upon their emotions and what they 'feel' at any one time, as the determiner / arbiter of truth. So for example, "I feel less attracted to him after he opened up about his emotions, therefore that means I should leave him".
Introspection and self-reflection is so critical to the long-term maintenance and health of any relationship, but so few people today actually recognise that, or they can't be bothered with it. Proper committed relationships take work. After that 2 or 3 year honeymoon phase, it's not all gonna be plain sailing, and your partner isn't some idealised creation that exists to fulfil you requirements of attraction 24/7. They're a living, breathing, flawed human, and we need to accept that reality if we actually want to date someone seriously.
It really pissed me off that you females base attraction off that. That's like if a girl started crying and I decided to ghost her or lose feelings. Really asinine way of thinking. Props to you for staying but still a bit disappointed.
@@kunknown2340 Well glad I am not looking for your approval. Besides you males loose attraction when you see your partner starts putting on weights and breasts become saggy and what not so why are you so surprised at the level of maturity it requires to deepen a relationship that is not based on appearances?
@@kunknown2340 it takes works and self reflection both ways.
@@peeerlyb.7762 Physical looks can fade for both genders so that comparison is garbage. If a woman is crying her eyes out or shows weakness that shouldn't deattract a man unless if he dislikes crying in general. Most men would try to see what the issue is, but switch the roles and, "I lost attraction for him." Or worse, a woman will just ignore or leave the man.
If that isn't some double standard BS, then I guess I don't know what BS is, and in turn, I have a right to be irritated by it. We are not emotionless machines that females and the media seem to perpetuate, we are human beings too.
Oh well.
Wow after thousands of years we still can't get it right women are becoming men and men are becoming women!
Hooray for feminism!
@@alexg2k2 I understand why you would say that, but I believe you can be a full on feminist and still embrace the natural differences, strengths and weaknesses of men and women. I do at least, and so do the women in my circle, and I'm sure there must be plenty more who also feel the same way.
@@dharad It's not just about recognizing the differences between men and women. The welfare state, abortion, and no fault divorce need to be abolished.
Check the hair products you so lavishly put in to your hair, check the type of celebrities and women leaders that you follow. It's all connected. There's masculinity in men and femininity in women and that's how it's supposed to stay in order for relationships to work. Problems start when a very feminine woman starts exhibiting masculine traits because she's been ran through more times than the Holland tunnel and the residual masculine energy has a lasting effect on her body and mind. Look into this, don't just take my word for it.
FEMINISM is CANCER
No debt, in shape, stable and can’t find any woman my age 26 with their shit together at all. Too much baggage
And that baggage bro, she will unload on you if you are not careful. Better to be alone than with a psycho
You attract what you are. If your quality dude, then you should be able to attract quality females. It's really not that hard
Im 29 and its mindblowing that most women my age and even younger have kids. And not divorced with kids but knocked up by a boyfriend. Some even have 2 or 3 kids from multiple guys... Such a waste.
@@coffeeonthemoon I just dont get it... Maybe if our generation refuses to date single mothers then women will learn and not have kids until marriage. I refuse to pay for and raise another mans mistake. Kids are expensive enough, I want to raise and support my own children, not someone else's.
Cant find 26 year old women without kids nowadays
bring her back! so informative
She will be back
Stop trying to BE your desires and learn how to attract them!
@Hawk Defa Often yoyr looking in the wrong places
@Hawk Defa Try looking in different places such as networking events
@Hawk Defa You'll be happy when you let go of your fear and stop regarding women as a monolith.
This was a quality show! Great guest. And I appreciate how young, yet mature you 2 are. If you 2 are signs that better men are coming, then I'm happy for my younger sisters.
:)
The problem nowadays is people don't date for love. They date to show off who they're dating.
That's very true especially in Hollywood
As I told a friend back in high school, "People now a days date not because they actually love each other but because they see it as a social status. A new thing to brag about to others on social media. Never go looking, just do your best and what you enjoy and your other will come to you"
And…@dchawk81, do not think women do not do the same thing
Men don’t really do this. It’s women who dare by committee and cede to their friends’ opinions on their man.
Men don’t even discuss their girlfriends or wives with their friends. Men don’t rely on their woman for status, they have to crate their own status.
Great video! I met my husband when I was 19, and he was 18!! We got married 3 years later, and will be celebrating 30 years of marriage in July!! We were both still in college and didn’t have much, but looking back, that’s what held us together( and our love for God). Was it difficult at times yes, but I’m so glad I didn’t give up! 😂
Oh, I did make a list of what kind of man I wanted when I was 17 or 18... it consisted mainly of what kind of person he’d be and not so much on looks and money. Call it being naive, but I definitely got a wonderful hardworking, and loving husband!!😍
I'd like to meet your granddaughter... She has a fighting chance of being a good woman. 🙂
Congratulations. And it's probably because you weren't a combative feminist.
If only this was still a thing in this modern time -_- a man can dream
@Dream Dream Serene haha what? You are exactly the kind of woman Rebecca is talking about. Vein and shallow.
@Dream Dream Serene men ONLY value looks? Oh, I'm sorry I didn't realize that you knew all men intimately. You are a sad, and empty woman. You clearly didn't even listen to what Rebecca had to say. But you should.
This is one of your best shows guys. Keep it up
I could listen to her all day. It’s rare to hear a woman speak wisdom in humility.
This was so interesting and even educational for someone like me, with little experience with women.
Chris Rock was so right about many people when he said "Men cannot go back sexually, women cannot go back in lifestyle".
Thank you for letting her talk!!
Exactly. Very good interview
Bravo. She is simply amazing. I am at a loss for words. She was the perfect guest. That is a special woman there.
The only thing on my list is to have a woman whose loyal and even that seems like alot to ask for
That's because loyal generally translates to staying around while you cheat
Women are only as loyal as their options allow.
You lying. You know your list is longer. What is the point of lying in the internet?
It's not too much to expect. Both people should be absolutely loyal to each other.
Well you're light skinned they think you will cheat so they might cheat sometimes it's about power. I am attractive and women be jealous. They assume attractive men always cheat because in 95% of stupid movies we do cheat. A lot of men cheat in real life but NOT as many do in movies especially if she's loyal.
"Men are just BITTER" ,"Men just need to STEP UP", the common response by women after men voiced their grievance. Why play the un winning game?
It is because mens standards makes them feel awkward and inadequate.
@Liam O’Neil who is telling you you can't have standards? As long as they're realistic, have your standards. And if someone, woman or man, tells you you're asking for too much, tell them to shove it where the sun don't shine
W Bell Well, yeah, we’re not allowed to have standards. If some 250+ lbs troll rolls up and propositions me and I refuse, then I’m automatically a shallow, misogynistic pig who’s afraid of strong women. Or I’m gay.
@@thisiswhatilike54 So let her think that and you do you. That's the trick to that. She can't force you to say yes, therefore you can have standards.
What and who brought men grievance? The answer: man. Because man made the choice to get involved with whatever woman he chose....Women too! No one is a victim. We all have the free will of choice.
Damn, I was just planning to skim through this but ended up sitting up through the whole 101 minutes. She drops some KNOWLEDGE man.
Lol same here
Hahahaha! Same!
Same here
61 minutes?
I was *this* close to doing the same. Then she started spitting game lol
I love this woman. Hearing her understand and empathize with men's struggle is extremely refreshing.
One of THE best episodes yet! You're right, each sex needs to really learn and understand the genetic makeup of one another. That's where the confusion comes from; each sex feeling like the opposite sex should think and behave like them. Thank you for the jewels of knowledge you all are dropping. It's greatly appreciated!
Glad it helps :)
Ms. Angie's World and so how will this podcast change your behavior?
So you basically saying men is doing what they should? Because most men want traditional women, and women don't do their traditional roles.
joe Black what I’m saying is that men and women need to learn how one another are wired by nature. Men want women to think like men and vice versa. Once we truly learn one another, it can be up hill from there. Unfortunately SOME men and women these days don’t know themselves, so there’s no way, they can begin to learn, understand, love, or even fulfill their role in the life of another.
@@ms.angiesworld8696 The thing is everyone is not wired the same due to sex. They may know that they are not the type to fit into certain roles. It's the reason for so much pushback against being a June Cleaver type.
Women love optimistically and men love idealistically
@@regulaguy1733 But men don't love if you're not physically attractive to them.
Dumfries Spearhead that’s not true
Regula Guy Nah, to say that either men or women approach things one particular way is an erroneous statement. You have to do extensive research before you could prove either statement.
@@regulaguy1733 preach bro if a man don't have much he gets rejected but if he has everything she loves him now if a female don't have much I'll still love her but females dont love like us men bro
@@suckmymeat371 exactly
I love her transparency! Men and women need to hear this.
Omg she’s so gorgeous and spot on with everything she’s saying
I strongly disagree with her comment about having sidechicks being common for men throughout relationships.. I really didn’t relate to that at all and it’s not what I’ve seen amongst my mates either..? There are simply some guys that don’t even try to fight temptation, and then there are guys that aren’t phased by other women when they are with someone that they are happy with..
@@douglascampbell4993 cheating is wrong but she is saying the truth.
@@douglascampbell4993 dude i am a man , stop the games, she is right. Not every man, because she even says that there are exceptions to the rule but in general men are like that. Tell your girlfriend what you are saying but dont tell us because we are men too and we know the truth
@@douglascampbell4993 no she’s a realist she’s completely right about that it happens. Doesn’t mean it’s right but it’s the realism of the world
@@tonyebiere551 lmao. Nah dude..
that incessant need or desire for different women at different times, whether you are in a relationship or not? That is insecurity, and the need to validate yourself externally with attention seeking and ego fluffing. Plain and simple dude. I don’t need to dribble bullshit to any girlfriend to try and reassure anyone, if you are that simple then all the best to you. But you’ll be speaking for yourself..
I absolutely love this episode!! So many gems 😍
Tooo many
Go ahead and cry to your woman and see how fast she loses admiration for you.
Depends on what he's crying about
L.A. Randle you eating all the Raman noodles
@@TheCritic9196 actually my husband of 15 years just prepared an upscale plate of ramen noodles with shrimp.(cause I respect his tears when ever they do happen)😉
I've cried an let me tell you if ur with that right woman she respects a man who is not afraid to cry and living and loving his truth. If ur afraid to cry in front of ur woman first ur not living your truth. Second if she leaves or treats u in a way? Then she's not that woman an she is not living her truth. See ya. That's it. If it starts as a game an ego etc dont get mad if that shit bites either of u in ur ass. Live ur truth. Both parties. It will set both of yall free. Love urself first. So if she or he cant love u like u love u then by by. Goes for both sexes❤️
truth truth , If you cry because a family member died or an incredible act of kindness was done to you, they may let that slide. But, if you cry because you had a hard day at work or the boss is picking in you or you cry during a movie. She will lose respect for you eventually. Of course there is always that one unicorn out there but we are all chasing that one unicorn.
This was GREAT!!! She was informative and relatable...thanks
So great.
I love hearing this woman talk about her man. I am married and I can say that there is no greater feeling than hearing your woman give you praise.
A top 10 dude will hook up with 8's,9's,and 10's but they'll marry lower because it's easier and they are capable of love.
True.
I don’t think I’m top ten and even I did that, it’s the smart thing to do.
This is the most REAL relationship video I have ever seen.
Adults absolutely have gotta rethink first dates across the board. They should be picnics ice cream roller skating. 1.Find out whether you're flat out open to another person yet. 2.Find out if you can even have fun that's not sexual together. If you can't have fun doing nothing you definitely don't belong in a whole entire committed relationship with that person.
Ryan Carson good ideas!
Add going to the park as a first date option.
Eating ice cream, while walking through a park and talking about everything from favorite books to what was your least favorite subject in school (mine is math), would be a dream date for me.
@maddy H A lot of people are immature, but it isn't just the men. And on the flip side there are definitely very mature people of both sexes. The biggest thing to remember whether you are a man or a woman is that once sex enters the picture everything becomes complicated. Much harder to see that someone isn't right for you if you've already reached the most intimate level with them...
@maddy H those sound like the fuckboys tho.
I am really grateful that you guys had her on your show. It was truly enlightening and has changed my views on my relationship instantly! It’s crazy to me how society can change how you think of people and how it makes you feel like the fake is real and the real is fake. You all do not know how much this has helped and is so needed!!! Thank you so much much blessings to you all
Dang this is so true. I just sat here eating two pieces of pie knowing I needed to lose weight to be more attractive to men lol. Seriously though.
Purple Girl Lol! That pie was good though wasn’t it? Lol
Same. I now have to talk to myself and say “ girl do you want to waste your good years over some food”
@@tschickel27 💀
bigjayking24 I am not attracted or interested in a big overweight woman especially a black woman that is disgusting
@@cardelturner8116 I like you Cardel. You an independent thinker. Many men out here like Big women but b/c media (evil white money greedy men) have turned half of society against big women for the purpose of propaganda and makes them feel they should be embarrassed or ashamed if they are dating one then some of these men publicly refuse to profess that. Those are men who are not mature and who are easily led by others and a man without a mind of his own is incredibly unattractive.
"With age comes wisdom, but sometimes age comes alone" Oscar Wilde
She looks like nia long. I love how level headed she is. So rare to meet women who can see the pros and cons of both sexes
Rebecca Lynn Pope is an incredible woman. Dropping some wisdom for women worldwide.
Whewwwww. This got me all the way together. So so good!
Now you see if y’all u swear and what a man is y’all would be ok and go watch that video that she did and listen to o her
I’m so excited for this! I LOVE Rebecca Lynn Pope!! Reminder is ON
She is so great.
Great interview! She was transparent, informative and relatable. She gave practical information that I will be utilizing in my dating life.
She is real amazing.
Girl where!?!!? The man she presented here is not a millennial man that is evolved & conscious of his place in the circle of life. I would NOT date a man with this kind of outdated mental construct.
Men are attracted to boobs & teeth? If you don’t get up outa here!!! This kind of relationship where the woman is objectified & lives in subjection to the needs of the man is superficial, one dimensional & lacks the foundation needed to take the partnership through tough times.
I do get that MOST men are as she described, but not the ones worth their weight in gold.
coptic777 because if this is what a “husband” is we’d rather be alone. ✌🏽
coptic777 “Will”??? Listen. Make that statement over the lives of your sisters & nieces, because it doesn’t remotely apply to me. Aint nobody sitting here depressed over a man. You sound like you have no experience with women over the age of 21. Which man (uses term loosely) sits there bursting with glee over the thought of a woman being alone? Get your immature ass up offa my comment & go see how you can make yourself useful to your community. You add no value here.
Ricky it’s ok darling. The more evolved specie of human has arrived to counteract the detrimental & devolving effects folks like you are having on the psychological welfare of this planet. Have a good day x
Ms. Pope was incredible- clear, pleasant, relatable, and empathetic. I will be looking into her work. Thanks, guys!
Be careful fellas, there's danger in EVERY interaction.
Best comment
Wrong assumptions: If women want more degrees and careers and money, it's not to be more attractive to men, it's to be more independent. Women are hungry for power but do not see the sacrifice they have to make.
Women are hungry for both power and status.. because that's what they find attractive in men.
Facts
a good woman gets all her degrees and the greatest of the degrees being getting a husband.
Being on the fringe my childhood was pretty wack. Now that I am a man I am trying to make it. But making IT is hard 27 next week and wonder where the time went been running up a hill to reach my goals.
You’re so right. I’ve seen it with my own eyes.
... I saw that rant video; she literally gave the game away and I love/thank her for it.
Andre Jones what video, they keep talking saying “the video” but I wish they linked it.
What game? Women have different thought processes and preferences and ideals. #jussayin 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
@himode That's what you think. But, okay. This is exactly why the narrative should change from women to men. Got women out here giving out false information on women. It's false buddy.
@himode that's why I said believe what you wanna believe and imma happy go lucky myself out this conversation quietly but quickly. Bye.
I love listening to Rebecca talk. She's gorgeous, very intelligent, classy and confident. I'd love to meet a woman like her
This was a great episode! I loved the flow and direction of the conversation! Most definitely one of the best episodes thus far
I wanted to comment on a few points that were made. I am going to try to be transparent to save a soul.
When I was a teen, I was diagnosed with PCOS. I noticed having a lot of sexual urges. I would equate the urges to being human and being triggered by music, media, etc. After hearing what Rebecca said is making me question if the symptoms of PCOS has been influencing my fervor to some capacity. From my understanding, the androgen (sexual hormone) levels are higher in women who have it. When diagnoses little was explained to me about the disorder and how it could affect my body. I want to do more research to understand it more.
I loved the point about how men are not built like us. So many times women are fighting for guys to see eye to eye with them but simply, they aren't always able to. This is something I need to work on personally, moving away from the expectation of "well, they can change" to a more realistic viewpoint. Picking up on the conversations early on and BELIEVING THEM LOL
Also, I was enjoying the dating advice about keeping things light early on. Far too many times if men I were pursuing had a question, I would answer it as honest as possible. Just like how it's important to have boundaries with your body, one should consider having boundaries over information shared. Although I believe its a case-by-case scenario, dating is about getting to know if you are compatible and having fun. I am hoping when I'm back in the season of dating that I can apply this.
Thank you again !!!
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I have PCOS as well and my hormones are imbalanced so I've felt "weird" for years unable to understand what I was feeling so I get it. Stay encouraged beautiful queen 👑
Thank you
Rebecca Lynn Pope....I love her. She is so real, authentic, transparent. I stumbled across her on YT in 2017, joined her Godly Girls group, and bought her book. I have been blessed by her insight and willingness to share her life's lessons with others to make our lives better.
Kellie Alston yes maam👏🏾
20:20 the "work on your body" comment was classic lol. I say this all the time but it's rude if men bring it up 😂
Fucked up right?
No it's rude just tell the men to do the same because they aren't all built like Lebron James.
LovingMe1st you'd be surprised at how many guys I tell to hit the gym. I go all the time myself. I'll never be lebrons height or size, but I'm pretty sculpted myself (no cap). It's up to the individual at the end of the day. Most guys will accept who they see as an average girl tho, never vice versa.
It’s not rude atall every human being should strive to do so.
I love who I am as a person. I have a great personality, I'm smart and quite funny. But if I'm being completely honest, my body seriously needs to level up to match those great qualities. It's bitter pill to swallow. So I'm getting a personal trainer and heading to the gym.
This is my favorite. I love how she explained in detail. I believe she reached many personalities in her examples. She is so chill and has great vibes. I can listen to her more. Does she have a channel? Her wisdom is invaluable.
Moral of the story: both men and women will be ready for love once life has knocked them down several pegs.
Pretty much 😁..
too late women can not pair bond after 6 dicks
@@robertwarner1160 - put down the junk science and deal with people. Men and women who go into marriage emotionally ready are happier, it's weird that you would count dicks/vaginas or hold their age against them.
basically 😂😂😂
Mmmmmmm yas.
this is my first time seeing these guy. Strong podcast. Really enjoyable and informative.
Good women run in packs. That explains it. That’s why I barely witness the “dark side” in person. I be like “who are these women y’all talking about, my friends don’t act like that, the women in my family don’t act like that”
That's good to hear.
Big facts!
Although I get that I don't understand the logic when you know there's millions of people who live here you have to know that there is a bigger world then the 5 people you know. Woman are intelligent sp how is that concept difficult unless you're a narcissist
And "good women" are the first ones to declare that "it's not all."
@@johnh8705 The good women provide an offensive line for the badust in case in the future they want to opt in to fuckery. They may not all take the option but they're all like that
And this notion that just because they are not life that they don't understand does not make them good women because that makes them narcissistic. Just because I'm not a thief does it mean I cannot see thieves exist.
This episode right here provided so much clarity and a WHOLESOME perspective on this dating game, expectations, honesty, desire, and marriage. I LOVE IF Y'ALL COULD START TALKING ABOUT MORE MARRIAGE AND ASK HER HOW HER MARRIED LIFE IS. Appreciate y'all, brothers.
You can have high standards but make sure you meet them first 💯
She is a gift! Thank you for these great people, especially Rebecca and Stephan!
Couldn't have clicked on this any quicker. Thanks for having this lovely lady on your show!
She is so great.
@@TheRoommatesPodcast She is, wise/faith based/practical knowledge for us ladies. We need the truth lol.
Incredible interview here- so many valuable truth bombs- one after another. This session should be required as part of senior year HS health class for all young people. Much more valuable in peoples lives than the three "r's". She really understands human psychology and immutable characteristics, and how our society has forgotten what cannot be changed, only softened.
Smart, Classy, Beautiful
She's a gem who understands the minds of both genders.
Exactly doesn’t have a bunch of tattoos and boobies sticking out everywhere 😹.
Let me tell you.... I’m a GAW (Grown A$$ Woman). I’m professional , work out and professional and I’m mentally:emotionally stable. I did the work. I’m now in a committed relationship. I have tons of dating experiences (prior to my current relationship) and I live in Atlanta. I can tell you that this woman is telling 100% truth and on point.
So you can answer this: Why do women get mad when they're told to humble themselves and date a guy thats equal to her, instead of aiming for guys out of her league?
rico rogers nobody likes to hear the truth. Men aren’t perfect either but they do not like to hear it. I agree with Rebecca 100%
@@EvaKNF
But men accept the truth
rico rogers in all my relationships (and I’m considered as a really diplomatic person) I’ve rarely met a man who was willing to accept the truth even IF his flaws was obvious to all and harmful for him and others. It dépends if people are open minded or not. As Rebecca said, women are more likely to be closed minded on that level that’s the only general statement I would make.
Rebecca has no business understanding us so well 😂 gotta love this woman
Honestly we not that hard to understand, women just not who they think they are