She also never wanted it to become such a thing. She did it because she suffered several miscarriages and just wanted to celebrate that they got to that stage in the pregnancy (which her prior pregnancies hadn't made it to). It was never about the gender, it was about getting past that gestational milestone.
Or any other state. Our idiots aren't the first people to start a wildfire with a gender reveal. O.o Some idiot in Arizona did the same thing a couple years earlier. And then, someone in Canada had to go and prove they learned *NOTHING* from either of those idiots, and started a wildfire in Alberta, Canada. >_
I'd love there to be a "gender reveal" party that just has the smoke or confetti come out as purple and people being super confused. "So what is the baby?" "The baby is a baby."
My parents never had a gender reveal, and at the baby shower specifically requested green, brown, red, and yellow clothes. They said they weren't going to accept any pink or blue or anything hyper-gendered (mr awesome, daddy's girl, etc). I ended up trans, and I can actually show people my baby pictures without risking my stealth. Thanks mom and dad!
I have a toddler photo of myself (AFAB) wearing a "daddy's boy" type gendered shirt - we got it for free off an older child and working class families don't refuse even incorrectly gendered free kids stuff. It's cute and it confused people back then and now. Most of my baby photos, like literal infant, you can tell I'm a girl, but a lot of my toddler photos are in boys' clothes or gender neutral clothes, and I love it now looking back.
Maybe they do intend it? I hope so. Maybe they are trying to say they'll love them regardless of how things end up... that said I know that I am likely being optimistic 🤣
@@jas.b5828 obviously I know that it's wishful thinking... I'm a lesbian with a 2yr old and a pregnant wife I would love to have my children in a world that wasn't so hyper gendered... that said we don't necessarily raise them gender free we still used the sex assignment at birth but we buy clothes and toys across the spectrum and we will certainly be sure they know that should they ever feel differently about their gender assignment it would be respected, accepted, and no big deal for us. We are hopeful we are doing the right thing but that's the thing with parenting you just never know what is the best way for your child when they first arrive... but ya gender reveals are way too hyper gendered for us
"Gender" reveals for unborn babies: Kinda cringe Any gender reveal with pyrotechnics: Very stupid and dangerous (please stop setting my country on fire, thanks) Gender reveals for someone coming out as trans: Genius
I'm not overly fond of them myself, but the idea started from a couple trying to conceive, and after many miscarriages very early on in the pregnancy, they ended up with a baby that actually survived. Although, they wanted to mark a massive milestone, because the fetus hadn't survived long enough in previous pregnancies for one to be able to tell the sex. Hence what we now have as "gender" reveal parties. That milestone was what they celebrated, not the idea of what is between one's legs. It actually wasn't anything like what we have now, but of course things escalate.
The first one: "It's an Addams!" Gender reveals just feel really creepy. Telling a bunch of very interested adults about their childs' genitals feels illegal. Putting all those expectations on a fetus for how they'll dress, act and the hobbies they like just seems very entitled from the parent and dehumanizing for the infant.
yet the probability that the fetus will enjoy being reffered the way their genitals suggest is over 90%, so is it really so bad? I guess maybe since I'm cis I don't get it, but I remember as a little child loving being girly and reading books or watching shows about other girls, it was a part of my identity and I wouldn't like to have it taken away from me.
@@LookingForFrogs the thing is, cis people aren't the only people who might feel uncomfortable with this. There are many gender nonconfomring cis people who weren't allowed to do things that didn't fit into the expectations of what they were 'supposed' to like as girls or boys. Butch lesbians being forced to wear dresses, feminine men being made to play sports. Heck, there are fully feminine women who just had a couple of hobbies that were coded as masculine that also dealt with this and felt restricted in their childhood. Gender roles and cissexism negatively affect _everyone_ . People should be allowed to like what they like, without being shamed because they don't fit into expectations that were forced onto them before they were even born. And this doesn't alienate people like you who are girly girls, it just means that _everyone_ gets to be who they are instead of just gender conforming people like you being comfortable and catered to because they are the presumed norm. Also society already leans super heavily towards affirming kids who are gender conforming (feminine girls and masculine boys) so no, avoiding parties that aggressively gender infants and hyperfixate on their genitals will not rob you of your feminine childhood. The point is to get rid of expectations and allow kids to be whoever they naturally are, that obviously includes people like you, because you are the norm, and because it includes literally everyone. It doesn't mean getting rid of girly things or feminine women, it means representing feminine and masculine people of every gender, and those who have no desire to be either. It means representing _everyone_ Also the idea that 'well most people are cis so who cares how much it hurts trans kids' is a pretty shitty take especially on a trans man's channel that is heavily viewed by trans people. Last time I checked, 'the majority of people are fine with this so who cares if it hurts minorities' is the antithesis of activism. The point is to include EVERYONE and doing that doesn't threaten people who already get to exist comfortably. Acting like it is the job of trans people to navigate cissexist norms that harm them, when those norms don't have to exist (and when it would be to the benefit of _everyone_ for them to not exist ), is a bad take. It hurts _us_ so of course it matters, of course it's bad.
@@Lisa_Flowers gender reveals are just the parent finding out the gender of their kid.. grandparents finding out if they have a grandson or daughter stop going so deep into it🥰 the gender reveal impacts their life in now way
As an Elementary School teacher you're absolutely right- can't trust kids with anything. I've literally had kids walk into the classroom essentially saying "Morning! Here's my family's deepest darkest secret!"
I kept the sex if my baby a secret to avoid all the things that come along with friends and family buying or saying stereotypical gendered things. I wanted my kid to be loved for being a baby and not for being a specific sex. People made such a big deal about it and would say “I’ll wait to find out what it is so then I can buy them stuff” and I’d just respond with “get anything you think is cute because it shouldn’t matter. Just avoid super gendered things like ‘daddy’s girl’ or ‘mister cute’.” I’d also refer to the baby as “they” and people would first assume twins (fair) but then I would explain it’s single gender neutral and people would give me this face 🤨.
I love this idea of parenting! I watched a video about it, parents who raised their child with they/them/ pronouns and the gender neutral name "Zoomer" they got all ("all" meaning both traditionally feminine and traditionally masculine) the clothes and all the toys for Zoomer and they played with and wore all of them. I'm pretty sure they gravitated more towards boy friends in school and eventually (second grade?) told his parents he liked he/him pronouns better. honestly in love with how this turned out and while I don't like kids and don't plan on having any I think this is what I would do.
If the plan wasn't adoption of do the same! (But I will still teach my child about pronounce and ask them which ones they prefer and ya know, keep it as gender neutral as possible)
I don't see how you need to know the sex of the baby to buy baby stuff. If pink and blue feel too rigidly attached to a gender for you to risk, there's plenty of other adorable outfits in sorts of colors. There's all the baby paraphernalia that's needed for any baby, all sorts of baby toys, just bunches of stuff someone could get without needing to know the sex of the baby.
Something I've noticed is that people use the pronoun "it" to refer to babies a lot. "It's a boy." And it makes more sense to use "they" as in "They're a boy."
My parents kept my sex a secret until I was born because they wanted to be surprised. It didn’t have anything to do with keeping it gender neutral, they just wanted to be surprised. But I think I grew with a fair share of “masculine” and “feminine” things. My parents never said I couldn’t do things because of my gender and they pushed me to try lots of stuff regardless. When I was a little kid I had barbies and dolls but I also had toy cars and action figures.
I honestly don’t mind little gender reveals. Like cutting a cake open or something. Not caring what the gender is and being open to that potentially changing in the future :)
I agree, we found out the gender, didn't have a big reveal. I'd like to do a cake or cupcakes if I have another tiny human. Main reason for wanting to know, for me, was that caring for a boy and caring for a girl, when they're babies, are two different things so I wanted to be able to mentally prepare myself so that I could keep my child healthy and happy.
i believe it's bad luck to celebrate the baby before birth hah but i've always thought of having a gender reveal party either for myself (i'm nonbinary) or for my child and have a plain cake and say "i don't care!" after cutting it
4:58 this one made me genuinely mad. The kid obviously didn’t wanna pop the balloon but the mum, instead of doing it herself, just..pushed her to do it? And then got mad when SHE let go of the balloon. What made me mad is that I have the strong feeling that the mum blamed the little girl and maybe even screamed at her afterwards..
I think the kid might have been scared of the sound the balloon would make when popped, gathered enough courage to try it once but lost her nerve when it didn’t work. So the mom took the pin to do it herself but the kid got upset so she gave the pin back. Kid at this point is just done and throws the pin on the ground like “if I can’t do it, nobody can” So mom starts to scold the kid for being difficult but lets go of the balloon in the process so now the whole thing’s fallen apart. If that’s the case then I can understand the mom being frustrated and stressed out. Then again, that’s just my take on it. Hopefully she was just mad at the situation and didn’t take it out on the kid later. Edit: autocorrect typo
Jamie's face as he tries his hardest to be polite all while being HORRIFIED by the giant baby suited people: priceless and must be preserved as a pivotal moment in humanity's history
My parents kept mine a secret till I was born, however, they did “expect” a girl and had Hannah as a name picked out with pink clothes and all. Then I was born a biological male. Must have disappointed them the moment I was born. But who is the joke on now since I am Transgender? Guess they where right after all! XD
I *knew* I was having a boy - just knew it. When the ultrasound came back female, it was definitely a surprise. 12 years later, I was right all along. Sometimes we just know. I hope that your parents are supportive. 💜
My parents choose not to even find out with me, but based on the wives tales about how a child is carried and the glow of the mother etc. everyone else told them they would have a boy. They had a boys name picked from early on and a few girls names they liked but none to settle on. I was born a girl and didn't have get one of the names from the final list, the boy name had to wait for the 3rd born.
Adding to my other comment: it bothers me that parents seem to be so excited about their child’s ‘gender’ when they are a baby, but when that same child is older and transitions, all of a sudden they struggle to or outright refuse to validate that same child’s true gender
It’s cause they get an idealized version of their kid in their head, and then get mad when the kid doesn’t fit the fantasy they made-up. Encanto and Turning Red are recent Disney+ movies about that kind of thing.
I agree like yeah okay You have a boy or girl but if when they get older and realize the kid have always felt like they should have been they other gender then it's ok what would you like me to call you.
I hate the ones involving kids. They put them on show, expect them to pop a balloon (which is scary for many young children) then get angry at the kid when they meltdown 🤦♀️ Gender reveal parties... each to their own as long as they don't hurt anyone. I think a lot of people use it as an excuse to have a party rather than taking it seriously. The ones I find scary are the ones where (usually) the Dad is visibly disappointed or sad the whatever it is reveals Pink.
Gender reveals are only okay when someone comes out as something that isn't their AGAB, or the way it was originally intended. Pretty sure the first lady who had a gender reveal party, had it because she wanted to celebrate, that she finally managed to carry a baby long enough to find out their sex, because she kept loosing the pregnancy...
If I had a small gender reveal, it would be just so if they do come out as a different gender later or no gender at all, we can have an 2.0 party. Basically, I just like planning parties. When they start school, I'd probably throw them a coronation into educated society. I'd c as lol in all my cousins and friends with kids starting school to debut their kid into celebrating education. All presents will be school supplies and books. No balloons th
When my mom found out I'm trans she asked if she could throw me a gender reveal party. Wasn't expecting that reaction (wasn't expecting anything negative). We live over 1000 miles from each other so dunno if it'll ever actually happen. On a related note, when an employee said she was going to a gender reveal party I almost asked how old the person coming out was.
As a non-binary person I feel like gender reveals are ridiculous but I also acknowledge the fact that raising your child as a specific gender that they may not identify as is what can be emotionally damaging to trans children not a party that existed before they were born. I think it's obvious how little meaning these have to us as humans based off of childrens reactions of "whatever this kid is, it will be, just give me the damn chocolate." It feels like an added ritualistic practice to validate traditions that still don't hold true in a more progressive world (that has always existed but is safer to exist in the public eye now).
One of my kids is non-binary and I feel awful enough that they had to endure 20 years of being treated like someone they're not, before realizing and coming out. Even before that, I was grossed out by the emphasis so many people put on confirming what genitals a kid has.
I also have the feeling it is an excuse to have some attention. I mean I have nothing against a good excuse to collect all your friends for a party but a lot of the gender reveal party's seem to be for pure attention and for Instagram. What of a bad parent do you have to be to be mad at your kid for not wanting to pop a f ING balloon double your size and trying to force her.
@@missnaomi613 yeah ad putting it in a box. I mean to know the gender to know what kind of clothes to buy (because of physic) I cam understand but raising a boy and a girl doesn't need to be that different. I am a sis girl but never liked dresses a lot as a child I never liked pink as a color and I always lived videotapes crime series and was pretty rough. I am more "boy" then my brother. You never dree a baby like they would like, because they don't have a taste yet the parent's pick what they like. I have the feeling the parent's just find the stereotype things "cute" and that's why they do that.
the one at 5:10 is maddening! Yelling at your kid for not wanting to do something most kids don't like-because balloons are for keeping and also popping is loud and scary-and then being mad over the balloon SHE herself let go?
But I love the comments about trans people doing them. 💗 I once saw a guy on tv whose grown up daughter had some gender confirming surgery and he turned up at the hospital with an “it’s a girl” balloon. So touching I still get teary when I think of it.
At the very least they should be called "sex reveals," as that's what they actually are. But we as a society are too prissy to use the word "sex" even when it's appropriate.
Yeah, a baby had no identity, especially not a gender identity and even less so when they are not even born yet, you need quite a bit of awareness for all of that to develooe and a lot of the early displays of gendered behavior is learned from what people around them clearly expect them to do, and not a genuine expression...... Its really just a sex reveal with what behavior and interests you are going to expect from them and force on them....
I'm pretty meh about gender reveals, as long as they don't cause damage to anyone. But I do find them hilarious, especially when there is a fail like the two parents having tow different colors revealed. Really hoping that some of those kids will be trans later on, and they can point to family videos like this and be like: see, there were very early signs. :D
I hate them. It's basically saying "this is what my kids genitals look like and that's it. And you know the parents are transphobic if they are that obsessed with it.
@@OzCroc I don’t think that parents being obsessed with gender reveals is a telltale sign that they are transphobic. More likely it was an integral part of the culture and community they were raised in, and they haven’t necessarily been exposed to arguments against them.
Having a gender reveal meant a lot to me as I was basically celebrating being pregnant long enough to actually be able to find out the gender, I've suffered with 8 back to back misscarages so making it to 16 weeks pregnant was absolutely *HUGE* for me and my husband. We had a Halloween themed gender reveal and picked purple💜 for a baby "Ghoul" and green💚 for a baby "boo". We had a special balloon made and matching stick made so it fit our colour theme, all went well until my big sisters shitty boyfriend shouted "IT'S A BOY" as a prank.... My sister was vial during the whole thing as she's mad I'm having a kid as that means the attention will be on my child not on her as she lost her kids (she was abusive-I only *just* found out as she hid it). Everyone went from happy and cheering (for a split second) to confused and completely done with the whole thing. He absolutely destroyed the joy. Then my mil and dil were upset that we are having a girl not a "perfect little boy".... My dil was huffing and puffing then said to me in a very annoyed tone "haven't your family got enough girls". A month later my baby got diagnosed with a condition called bilateral talipes so I was offered a abortion, I refused as my baby is a blessing I don't care if she was wonky feet (btw its treatable so she won't live in pain or be restricted in any way once treatment is finished). My mil and dil were very upset that baby has a disability and not happy we don't want to "try again". Basically my mil and dil are complete twats and will be cut off, I'm done and so is my husband. My sister has also been cut off because no way am I letting a abusive person near my child, my sister also tried to stop my wedding and when that failed she got engaged straight away (probably for attention as that what she claimed I was doing). Apparently life is a game to her and everything is a competition and I don't want to play so she can play alone. It's safe to say if I'm ever lucky enough to be pregnant again me and my husband will go out for a nice meal and have a themed desert to find out baby's gender. Fuck trying to please everyone else, we will save the money and enjoy it ourselves in private.
Since its becoming more and more common for people to treat their pets like childs (me included) I think we should create species reveal parties. What am I having? A cat, a dog, a parrot or a human??? Lol
@@thepinkestpigglet7529 the thing is tho, gender isnt something you can dictate before someone tells you. So theyre just revealing the sex which is literally just the genitals
@@thepinkestpigglet7529 wait, can I ask how cis people think about it though? I'm from NZ, people dont do genital reveals here, just baby showers sometimes if the parent is pakeha and middle class. I've never understood why parents would do this. Would be interested in hearing your view.
I'm a cis mother of 3, one of which happens to be non-binary. Even decades before, I thought it was gross how much emphasis some people put on what genitals a kid has.
@@beev448 it is when you’re a literal baby. When the baby is older, they can decide what their gender is, but it is a literal automatic thing that is there as soon as conception happens. Raising a child outside of their sex will be harmful and damaging to them most of the time you do so, so yeah, it’s definitely something the parents can “decide” based on the sex of the baby. This is such a dumb conversation. It’s creepy that you all are even interpreting it as a “genital reveal party”. I’m so concerned for all of you when you’re told what a child’s gender is and you automatically think to that. Gross.
Gender reveal parties are an excuse for having a party imo. I think it's cool if you just wanna have cake with your family. Just don't say no to your kids if they ever want to express themselves differently when they get older.
I am just a "regular" CIS female. I found the whole idea of being put in a drawer because I am a girl annoying even since I was a 4 or 5. I was always drawn to toys and activities that are supposedly "only for boys". Yet I was forced to "pick a doll" for Xmas every year - until I rebelled and asked for a remote controlled Porsche with popable lights :). My grandma once tried to "bribe" me so that I would not insist on the book "Leatherstocking" for my birthday but instead get a "book for girls". She offered to buy me 3 other books if I would just not insist on Fenimore Cooper...guess what, I went with "Leatherstocking". But I never forgot the endless humiliation of having to fight all my relatives including my parents (who constantly apologized for my "weird" interests) who tried to make me a "proper girl". So, I guess you can imagine what my opinion of a gender reveal is...Everytime I see a little baby girl with pierced ears (child abuse IMO) and pink clothing and toys I just want to throw up. It is brain washing from moment 0 on. Why not let a kid develop according to their interests? Why is that so hard? Oh, and my fav color always was blue - even though in my birth country the color assignments of pink and blue to a certain sex was not a thing back then. Now it is , too. Yuck!
I understand when people do them in some way like cake or muffins, but i don’t understand why to throw a whole party and accidentally light Canada on fire.
By the way: the trans community isn’t the only one wishing to get rid of gender reveals. The whole zero waste movements and environmentally conscious people agree with you. And I am not only talking about wildfires being spread, but the amount of plastic Ballons, plastic glitter (literally microplastic) and other things being thrown into the environment because of this unnecessary practice.
especially when the fails happen and the balloon flies off only to pop in the high atmosphere, fall back down (possibly trapping a flying bird), and eaten by curious animals who wonder what all these bright pink inch long circle pieces of plastic taste like in some woodland area much too far away from the starting point.
@@elena-dz4dv you’re still creating unnecessary waste when buying such single use items. You’re also creating demand for more of it. I’m not saying don’t get a cake with a color in the middle of you really want to,but all those other things are highly unnecessary .
@@vivigoesusa i lean my family reuses confetti… we aren’t very fortunate so, it’s not going on the trash. Every thing that’s trash for the others is not for us, I see us having that confetti for years lmao my sister probably decorate her room with it. Also I’m sorry about my English
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Gender reveals are excellent and perfect, we're just holding them for the wrong people. Babies don't know their gender and it's pretty weird to hold a party to announce your baby's expected genitals. Trans people, on the other hand, need to update a load of people on the pronouns they'd like to use, likely the name as well, and they could do with a lot of support and reassurance from the people who love them that they are welcome and encouraged to be themselves. Imagine your closest friends cheering and celebrating you as you come out ❤️ Not for everyone, but would be lovely for some.
When the confetti was blue instead of pink by a mislabeling, just watch the kid actually be ftm and the incorrect gender reveal is actually just foreshadowing
I feel like they’re silly because you AREN’T revealing your baby’s gender. It’s just a party where you tell everyone what parts your baby was born with, and that seems weird to me! But I also understand that some parents really want to celebrate their new family member. I just think there are better ways to do it
Yeah why can't people just celebrate them having a baby and not obsess on the baby's sex? The baby isn't gonna even understand the concept of gender until they're much older anyway.
@@fluffy698 That's a baby shower. You get together and celebrate the baby. In Australia, I have been to many baby showers, a few mixed ones (traditionally it's a "women's only" event where your friends and family give you advice etc) but never a gender reveal party 🤷♀️ just isn't done much here.
@@jackriver8385 yuppp, i was in fetal the whole time, and i was 1 month early. doctors couldnt figure out my sex, mom dad thought i was gonna be a boy (also had planned for more boy names and just 1 girl name) They also had to color my baby room white because they didnt know what i was. im a transmasc boy now so...
For the balloon question as to what happens when they float off: they do pop at some point but take a while to so they just end up in random places (my family has found a bunch of random balloons in the forest that definitely just drifted off from where they were meant to be)
After gender reveal parties have now started forest fires and LITERALLY caused a small earthquake, I can genuinely say: no. No, I don't like gender reveal parties.
@@agnestennisberg4314 yeah I know and that’s fine but I think sometimes it can get to the point people get obsessed over it when it’s doesn’t really matter u know
The woman who kind of started it all celebrated because she had many miscarriages before. It wasn't really about the gender but about making it that far into the pregnancy. I think that reason and trans are valid
I've already decided that I'm inviting my family to a gender reveal party in then future and Imma just be standing there with my bf and we're gonna do the "gender reveal" and when people say shit like "it's a boy!" I'm just gonna be like hell yeah I'm a boy I've been telling you this for years-
i feel like simple gender reveals can be fun, obviously it's exciting to figure out what your child is gonna come out as... however, you should also be willing to accept your child if they come out as a different gender later in life, not be pissed they aren't their original "agab". honestly, you shouldn't have a kid at all if you cant handle that. but yeah, gender reveals can be cute as long as its not super imposing on stereotypes, ridiculous expectations, or sexist. what would be super cool would be a gender reveal party again when a trans person coming out!! like "hey, i'm not a baby anymore, i've figured myself out.. and this is who i am!!! surprise!!"
Gender reveals are okay if they don't go overboard and get harmful. I would never personally attend one or arrange one of it wasn't a "hey, I'm not AGAB" gender reveal. The whole "I wish you to know what genetals my baby has" thing is so icky imho
I'd use an animal in a reveal party: get everyone together in a nice open area and trot by on horseback trailing a banner saying "We're having a human baby" (But then I'm not having kids and I'd rather spend my money on getting the horse, lol)
Personally, I would never do a “gender” reveal party, but I guess if that’s what you want to do, that’s up to you. I don’t mind it so much when it’s a little thing though, like something inside a cake, or something, but, i must say, transgender reveals should be more of a thing! They’re so cute!
Is it not creepy to some people ppl how eager they are to tell a bunch of people what genitals their fetus has? That's really weird when you think about it
I'm not 100% sure but I think I stumbled upon a gender reveal party for a trans guy. I was working as a political canvasser, and I had a list of specific people's addresses to go to. The information I was given was usually name and age, sometimes a phone number and email. I went to a door where there was an ultrasound taped to the door which upon closer inspection was dated for the mid-90s (it was 2014). The person on my list happened to have a feminine-sounding name and the age listed lined up with the ultrasound date. I knocked on the door and a middle-aged woman answered and seemed glad to see me when I introduced myself and explained what I was doing in the neighborhood. I might be misremembering but I thought there might have been an "It's a boy" decoration or two inside the house. Anyway, I asked, "Is [feminine name] here? I have a few quick questions for her." And the woman's face fell a bit and she said, "No, she doesn't live here anymore." So I crossed the name off my list and apologized for bothering her and wished her a good day. It wasn't until later that evening that I put the pieces together but I wouldn't have been able to update his info on my list anyway 😔
I do have a problem with gender reveal parties. It’s not the concept itself, it’s the overly extravagant fiascos that they’ve been turned into when they originated as a woman wanting to celebrate her successful pregnancy after suffering many miscarriages. Now, they’re just ways for upper middle class people to throw unnecessary parties and place more stress upon the expecting parents.
Gender reveals are only okay as a method of coming out for trans people, in my opinion. I like the idea of them slowly morphing from a toxic cishet thing to a funny way trans people can announce who they are (and then everyone gets cake).
for me (like, just me, personally. this sounds really cute and way better of a concept and it'd be really rad seeing people do this) i don't think just me being myself openly shouldn't be this big of deal and parties ain't my thing anyway but anything as an excuse to buy cake
What’s so funny is that the first gender reveal party ever WAS for a trans person. Like their gender was revealed as a boy ( i think) and they had a second gender reveal later when they came out as gender nonconforming and the mom who did the first one has even said it’s a toxic thing
Everyone gets cake and the trans person gets presents that help with the transition! They need new clothes and other gendered stuff just like new moms need stuff for their babies.
my mom chose not to know the gender of her babies until we were born. so it was a surprise even for her each time. and then they just simply called the family from the hospital to tell them the good news... I think that's the simplest, least comlicated way and it's genius.
I hate how little kids are forced to be at these events despite them clearly hating i, not to me toon the risk off having them be in the path of a confetti canon tube or over-head box or some such thing
Same here. I was wondering why no one else mentioned it in the comments. That was awful. On top of that the mom even gets mad because the balloon flew away while she hit her daughter... wtf
Whenever I see these I just want to know what the kid will be like as an adult. Imagine being the balloon that flew away kid and later realizing you're agender. Imagine getting the """wrong color""" only to find out you're trans and it was actually right. That would be hilarious to me---
The one with the kid not wanting to pop the balloon doesn’t sit right with me. I’m autistic and have a sensitivity to loud noises. If adults were screaming at me to pop a giant balloon, I would be completely traumatized. And the way the mom seemed to lunge at her before the balloon drifted away? That family seems emotionally abusive at best, physically abusive at worst.
I have a kid and we didn’t do a gender reveal. We did a “this is what we were told regarding the sex of the baby” Facebook post with an ultrasound photo of his head, not his junk (yes... I’ve seen those before). The straights really are not okay lol.
I always joke to my friends that when/if I ever get pregnant I'm going to pretend to have a gender reveal party and make it a big thing and invite a bunch of people and then it'll just say "A Baby" and everyone will go home disappointed, I'll be laughing my ass off, and my child will end up with a wardrobe that's more than one color. My friend told me that if she ever got an invite to a gender reveal party from me she won't come lmao
I don’t like the idea of a baby gender reveal. Normally the people that do these giant ones are also into gender stereotypes that can be damaging in the long run. Now, a trans gender reveal?! That’s just fun. That’s probably done with support of family and friends. It’s a fun party to support the person transitioning. The person doing the gender reveal is old enough to decide and be comfy with it. And the person the party is about can enjoy the cake or sweets too!! This is the gender reveal I like. 🙌🏽✨💖
Personally, I have no use for these gender-reveal shindigs, and believe that all the hoo-hah surrounding the "officially" designated appearance of the neonate's genitalia is totally pointless, especially given the fact that not all AFABs are female, nor are all AMABs male, and also given the existence of intersex folks. That said, I love the following joke told me by my best female friend, a trans woman: A young couple had just had their first child, and a friend of the family called the new mother to congratulate her. After showering her with good wishes, the caller finally asked what was on their mind: "So -- is it a boy or a girl?" Replied the wise young mother with a smile, "We don't know -- our baby hasn't told us yet." Tell me if that isn't a wholesome and sensible way to think about the gender of one's offspring.
The ones where the balloon flew away just made me think "Welp we stole your gender now you're destined to be non-binary/agender" and it's so funny lmao
So as of right now I have 5 daughters (A set of triplets and a set of twins) I am also currently pregnant with twins. For every one of my babies I did have a gender reveal, but it obviously was different for twins and triplets. I personally had 3 or 2 balloons I popped them with a needle and Blue or pink confetti came out. I would never EVER do a popper because it did light my state on fire :). I have the gender reveal party for the twins I’m pregnant with on Friday! Can’t wait wonder if it’ll be more girls or not
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I'm personally not bothered by the whole gender reveal thing, as long as the people who are doing it at least clean up after themselves if they're in a public area or park, or better yet keep at at their own home or garden or whatever they have. That said, I think the mom at around 4:58, with the kid that didn't want to pop the balloon, smacked the kid, and I hate her with all my heart.
as someone who's scared of the sound of a balloon popping, it was so painful to watch. if i was the kid i would've thrown a tantrum right then and there
Yep, and the comments on that one with all the people saying the kid needs a "whooping" for being a "brat" is disgusting. She looks the same age as my son and he HATES balloons popping, I also cannot imagine placing him in front of everyone, centre of attention like that and for him to not have a tantrum/meltdown. Childism is a thing. People treat kids as not really worth respect. It's heartbreaking.
Yeah for sure. I was very scared of balloons popping when I was a kid. I would have been terrified. Kids do get more scared of things easier. That mother lacks so much empathy and understanding for her child.
That’s what I saw too and wondered why it appeared no one was talking about that. Child was clearly distressed about popping the balloon. No way would my child have wanted to do that as they are and have always been very sensory sensitive. And then she hits her child - disgusting
We just had a friend make a cake with the color in the middle. Delicious and not wasteful as well as informative, but I asked for dinosaur things for the baby shower and had people asking if i was "sure" bc dinosaurs "are for boys"??? I guess my child cant like paleontology or archaeology bc of her genitals? I had no idea that was a thing before becoming a parent bc i love dinosaurs and was always allowed to pursue whatever my interests were. We currently let her dress however she wants and give her as many options as we financially are able to. Baby clothes are expensive and she can wear cousin hand me downs or whatever, she doesn't seem to know the difference between when people call her a cute boy at the park in her favorite grey dinosaur sweatshirt or tell her they like her fluffy tutu she will sometimes pick out to go to the store 🤷🏼♀️ and I don't mind correcting people.. or just not correcting them. We just say thanks and move on with our lives. I just want her to be healthy and do what makes her happy.
Here, have a wholesome story. When my mom was expecting me, they decided to wait til I was born to see what my sex was. My older sister wanted a girl and demanded they have a girl. I was AFAB and now it's an inside joke in our family. When I came out as nonbinary to my sister she jokingly said,"sorry I demanded you be a girl".
The cutest thing in this video is Jammi shaking his head around showing that the earbuds won't fall out. I say go back to a gender reveal cake with food coloring inside. That's more than enough
I do not like gender reveals! It’s ridiculous… I had zero interest in knowing what my baby was before being born! It’s like unwrapping a Christmas present in July for a peep at the ‘genitalia’ the wrapping it back up again! Nope.I was more concerned with my baby being healthy 🤦🏻♀️
I'm glad gender reveals aren't a thing where I live. As a trans guy with truckloads of dysphoria I would have felt uncomfortable knowing that someone celebrated my arrival with stereotypical pink stuff.
I don't aprove of genderreveals because they already put genderrolles on a baby that isn't even born yet. People should just hold a genderreveal party and then do like a rainbow confeffti popper😂💕
Surprise! We're raising our child as non-binary until they're old enough to tell us what gender they are. Actually that would be a pretty great way to get the point across.
@@alexshemwell8320 if you watch some of the videos titled "raising our child as non-binary" it's actually pretty harmful, a child doesn't need to think so early about all this gender stuff. What about just raising a child free from gender stereotypes, no matter if it's a boy or a girl... you don't need to put non-binary label to not push stereotypes on your child.
My opinion on gender reveal parties: They’re amazing. Truly amazing. It’s one really good indicator to know if someone is an asshole. Everything else a gender reveal party implies sucks, though.
@@alexshemwell8320 I think it's a good idea to at least give kids a starting point so that as they get older they have some kind of comparison to compare how they feel. Giving them no starting point makes it difficult to see if how you feel changes. Everything in life needs comparisons to contextualise. Forcing someone to stick with that gender if they find out it isn't for them is the problem :)
Imo, not everyone who does a gender reveal party is an asshole. Sure, most go over the top and are very stereotypical, but, for an example, i went to a gender reveal party of a very cool and chill friend of my mom (i was about 10 at the time), and it was just a cake-cutting. Nothing else. And there were some colored cupcakes with all colors, too. It was more of a party to celebrate the baby rather than their genitals
@@alexshemwell8320 but you gotta understand (I’m trans) the sex they are born with is their sec biologically so technically that is their sex. I’m raising my child as that sex until and IF they decide to change their gender. I’ll make sure they know it’s always and option, but assigned gender at birth is what they’ll be, what I’ll do my sex reveal on ( I like that terminology better than gender reveal) but theylll always know if they wanna change that they can. Parents can celebrate this if they want to.
I was hoping you'd react to that second last one 😂 when I saw it on TikTok a few months ago first thing I thought was "omg this is ridiculous.... I'mma tag Jamie" lol
I’m a gender reveal success (or fail depending on how you look at it) I’m a trans man and when I was a baby before I was born EVERYONE thought I was a boy! So much that they threw a boy baby shower for me. I found this out three days ago from my sister and I’m BAFFLED. Like there is a god and she has an awesome sense of humor.
Oh! I can actually answer the question of when it'll pop, since I did some volunteer work with actual high altitude balloons. A party balloon will pop pretty fast, since as it rises, the pressure pushing in from the outside air will lessen, causing them to expand. For a weather balloon, they're large enough and start off at a low enough pressure that they can reach over 30 km, but for a party balloon, it would happen pretty fast. Probably high enough to still be out of sight, but I doubt it would make it more than a mile or two up.
If the person later in life doesn't identify with their assigned gender at birth, then I hope their parents/caretakers accept them & love them just as much, but it's sad that a lot of enbies & trans folks don't have the support & love of their family/parents 😥 At least there's chosen family, but I understand that it must still hurt like hell to not be accepted by the people who raised you. Trans rights are human rights 🏳️⚧️ Enbies are valid 💛🤍💜 Love is love 🏳️🌈 As for gender reveals, most of them are actually kind of cringy or harmful, as I've seen other ppl comment here 😅
Hate to say it, but I have a feeling a lot of the people who go through the whole gender reveal thing probably aren't the most accepting. They can't even see that they're announcing the sex of the baby, not the gender.
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I couldn’t imagine being at a gender reveal with those loud popper thingies, I’m so sensitive to loud sounds like that and I think I would start having a panic attack
I love watching the gender reveals! I get the whole issues that people point out but they're just so exciting to me! one step closer to knowing more about a new family member is great
I'm all about the "live and let live" attitude, and I extend that mindset to gender reveal parties. As long as it's not one of those insane ones that cause wildfires, I really don't care. You can represent the gender of the baby in traditional colors at the party, however when the kid is born I hope you'll be open to allowing your son to wear pink if he wants to. Also quick thing to add. If you have a gender reveal before the kid is born, you better have a second gender reveal party if your kid comes out as trans. It's only fair.
I think a baby is reveal is a way funnier idea. Like imagine you can reveal your pregnant near a holiday, so you can blind side them. Especially on April's fool day. Hilarious. Also, a name reveal party sounds like a fun idea.
Gender reveals can be fun as long as it’s done with the environment in mind. Like no coloured confetti from balloons, no explosives or pyrotechnics and no animals involved. I would also love to see a disclaimer at these events that their child’s gender is subject to change, so more of a anatomy reveal party 🎉 ❤️
@@Av1t3o it’s already creepy to be celebrating whether or not they have a penis or vagina. So what’s the difference with making it a gender neutral party reveal??
Gender reveal parties are harmful all over and could easily be replaced with a different kind of celebration that doesn't involve harmful stereotypes and dangerous customs
The best part is that there already was a type of celebration for a future baby that didn't involve the child's gender (usually). It's simply called a baby shower but alas, can't have a week without cishet nonesense.
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The biggest irony is that the child of the woman who started this trend, came out as a gender non conforming person.
Fabulous
Thats actually incredible
I adore this
But also, she only did it to celebrate making it to find out the child’s sex after years of miscarriages
She also never wanted it to become such a thing. She did it because she suffered several miscarriages and just wanted to celebrate that they got to that stage in the pregnancy (which her prior pregnancies hadn't made it to). It was never about the gender, it was about getting past that gestational milestone.
I don’t like gender reveals at all, but I would settle for them existing as long as no one lights California on fire again
As a fellow Californian, THIS. THIS RIGHT F-ING HERE. 💪🏼🔥🤬
@@BiggerinRealLife the likelihood of that happening is low. How about we just… stop using… explosive ones? Stuff like that?
@@BiggerinRealLife as a former Californian I'm glad to live in Maine now 😎👍
Or any other state. Our idiots aren't the first people to start a wildfire with a gender reveal. O.o
Some idiot in Arizona did the same thing a couple years earlier.
And then, someone in Canada had to go and prove they learned *NOTHING* from either of those idiots, and started a wildfire in Alberta, Canada. >_
@@AndaraBledin ........I though us canadians were smarter and better than this🤦
There is only one gender reveal I’ll accept: “It’s an Addams.”
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I'd love there to be a "gender reveal" party that just has the smoke or confetti come out as purple and people being super confused.
"So what is the baby?"
"The baby is a baby."
Exactly what I was thinking!
It’s a.. human!
It's an enby!
its a collection of cells that work together to form an intelligent sentient being
mystery flavor baby
My parents never had a gender reveal, and at the baby shower specifically requested green, brown, red, and yellow clothes. They said they weren't going to accept any pink or blue or anything hyper-gendered (mr awesome, daddy's girl, etc). I ended up trans, and I can actually show people my baby pictures without risking my stealth. Thanks mom and dad!
that is wholesome!
I have a toddler photo of myself (AFAB) wearing a "daddy's boy" type gendered shirt - we got it for free off an older child and working class families don't refuse even incorrectly gendered free kids stuff. It's cute and it confused people back then and now. Most of my baby photos, like literal infant, you can tell I'm a girl, but a lot of my toddler photos are in boys' clothes or gender neutral clothes, and I love it now looking back.
You’re lucky I’m also a trans man and my parents made all of my baby clothes gendered
That's amazing!! Congratulations!
That's such an awesome idea. I'm going to do that for my kids as well.
I’m pretty sure the balloon going over the fence to the neighbors house means it’s legally the neighbors child now
Or the neighbour is the father? 🤔🤫
@@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339 or both?
Woo free baby
It's the Rapunzel Fairy tale, modern version
i'm just enjoying all the unintended trans flags these people have made in their reveal party lol
Yeah, I noticed that, too!
Maybe they do intend it? I hope so. Maybe they are trying to say they'll love them regardless of how things end up... that said I know that I am likely being optimistic 🤣
@@lizf1353 yeah no but that’s a nice thought
@@jas.b5828 obviously I know that it's wishful thinking... I'm a lesbian with a 2yr old and a pregnant wife I would love to have my children in a world that wasn't so hyper gendered... that said we don't necessarily raise them gender free we still used the sex assignment at birth but we buy clothes and toys across the spectrum and we will certainly be sure they know that should they ever feel differently about their gender assignment it would be respected, accepted, and no big deal for us. We are hopeful we are doing the right thing but that's the thing with parenting you just never know what is the best way for your child when they first arrive... but ya gender reveals are way too hyper gendered for us
Me too!
"Gender" reveals for unborn babies: Kinda cringe
Any gender reveal with pyrotechnics: Very stupid and dangerous (please stop setting my country on fire, thanks)
Gender reveals for someone coming out as trans: Genius
Agreed
Yes.
came here to say this, a baby shower is great but no need for "gender" reveals cause they make no sense & can be harmful
I'm not overly fond of them myself, but the idea started from a couple trying to conceive, and after many miscarriages very early on in the pregnancy, they ended up with a baby that actually survived. Although, they wanted to mark a massive milestone, because the fetus hadn't survived long enough in previous pregnancies for one to be able to tell the sex. Hence what we now have as "gender" reveal parties. That milestone was what they celebrated, not the idea of what is between one's legs. It actually wasn't anything like what we have now, but of course things escalate.
i need to make my gender reveal. i want turqoise
The first one: "It's an Addams!"
Gender reveals just feel really creepy. Telling a bunch of very interested adults about their childs' genitals feels illegal. Putting all those expectations on a fetus for how they'll dress, act and the hobbies they like just seems very entitled from the parent and dehumanizing for the infant.
yet the probability that the fetus will enjoy being reffered the way their genitals suggest is over 90%, so is it really so bad? I guess maybe since I'm cis I don't get it, but I remember as a little child loving being girly and reading books or watching shows about other girls, it was a part of my identity and I wouldn't like to have it taken away from me.
@@LookingForFrogs the thing is, cis people aren't the only people who might feel uncomfortable with this. There are many gender nonconfomring cis people who weren't allowed to do things that didn't fit into the expectations of what they were 'supposed' to like as girls or boys. Butch lesbians being forced to wear dresses, feminine men being made to play sports. Heck, there are fully feminine women who just had a couple of hobbies that were coded as masculine that also dealt with this and felt restricted in their childhood. Gender roles and cissexism negatively affect _everyone_ . People should be allowed to like what they like, without being shamed because they don't fit into expectations that were forced onto them before they were even born. And this doesn't alienate people like you who are girly girls, it just means that _everyone_ gets to be who they are instead of just gender conforming people like you being comfortable and catered to because they are the presumed norm.
Also society already leans super heavily towards affirming kids who are gender conforming (feminine girls and masculine boys) so no, avoiding parties that aggressively gender infants and hyperfixate on their genitals will not rob you of your feminine childhood. The point is to get rid of expectations and allow kids to be whoever they naturally are, that obviously includes people like you, because you are the norm, and because it includes literally everyone. It doesn't mean getting rid of girly things or feminine women, it means representing feminine and masculine people of every gender, and those who have no desire to be either. It means representing _everyone_
Also the idea that 'well most people are cis so who cares how much it hurts trans kids' is a pretty shitty take especially on a trans man's channel that is heavily viewed by trans people. Last time I checked, 'the majority of people are fine with this so who cares if it hurts minorities' is the antithesis of activism. The point is to include EVERYONE and doing that doesn't threaten people who already get to exist comfortably. Acting like it is the job of trans people to navigate cissexist norms that harm them, when those norms don't have to exist (and when it would be to the benefit of _everyone_ for them to not exist ), is a bad take. It hurts _us_ so of course it matters, of course it's bad.
@@Lisa_Flowers Is that what gender reveal are? In my experience it's a party with a cake that's pink or blue filling inside.
@@Lisa_Flowers gender reveals are just the parent finding out the gender of their kid.. grandparents finding out if they have a grandson or daughter stop going so deep into it🥰 the gender reveal impacts their life in now way
@@LookingForFrogs It's not about the party.
It's the expectation being put on someone who isn't even born yet.
As an Elementary School teacher you're absolutely right- can't trust kids with anything. I've literally had kids walk into the classroom essentially saying "Morning! Here's my family's deepest darkest secret!"
I kept the sex if my baby a secret to avoid all the things that come along with friends and family buying or saying stereotypical gendered things. I wanted my kid to be loved for being a baby and not for being a specific sex. People made such a big deal about it and would say “I’ll wait to find out what it is so then I can buy them stuff” and I’d just respond with “get anything you think is cute because it shouldn’t matter. Just avoid super gendered things like ‘daddy’s girl’ or ‘mister cute’.”
I’d also refer to the baby as “they” and people would first assume twins (fair) but then I would explain it’s single gender neutral and people would give me this face 🤨.
I love this idea of parenting! I watched a video about it, parents who raised their child with they/them/ pronouns and the gender neutral name "Zoomer" they got all ("all" meaning both traditionally feminine and traditionally masculine) the clothes and all the toys for Zoomer and they played with and wore all of them. I'm pretty sure they gravitated more towards boy friends in school and eventually (second grade?) told his parents he liked he/him pronouns better.
honestly in love with how this turned out and while I don't like kids and don't plan on having any I think this is what I would do.
If the plan wasn't adoption of do the same! (But I will still teach my child about pronounce and ask them which ones they prefer and ya know, keep it as gender neutral as possible)
I don't see how you need to know the sex of the baby to buy baby stuff. If pink and blue feel too rigidly attached to a gender for you to risk, there's plenty of other adorable outfits in sorts of colors. There's all the baby paraphernalia that's needed for any baby, all sorts of baby toys, just bunches of stuff someone could get without needing to know the sex of the baby.
Something I've noticed is that people use the pronoun "it" to refer to babies a lot. "It's a boy." And it makes more sense to use "they" as in "They're a boy."
My parents kept my sex a secret until I was born because they wanted to be surprised. It didn’t have anything to do with keeping it gender neutral, they just wanted to be surprised. But I think I grew with a fair share of “masculine” and “feminine” things. My parents never said I couldn’t do things because of my gender and they pushed me to try lots of stuff regardless. When I was a little kid I had barbies and dolls but I also had toy cars and action figures.
I honestly don’t mind little gender reveals. Like cutting a cake open or something. Not caring what the gender is and being open to that potentially changing in the future :)
I agree, we found out the gender, didn't have a big reveal. I'd like to do a cake or cupcakes if I have another tiny human. Main reason for wanting to know, for me, was that caring for a boy and caring for a girl, when they're babies, are two different things so I wanted to be able to mentally prepare myself so that I could keep my child healthy and happy.
i believe it's bad luck to celebrate the baby before birth hah but i've always thought of having a gender reveal party either for myself (i'm nonbinary) or for my child and have a plain cake and say "i don't care!" after cutting it
@@paadoxal 1. I love your name 🤣 (ID: laughing emoji). 2. YES! If/when you or your partner is pregnant, please do this!!!
@@jessicadodge4049 thank you:)! i will haha
Plus, if/when said child comes out, then you can have another gender reveal party!
"This are my baby genitals" this made me laugh way too much
4:58 this one made me genuinely mad. The kid obviously didn’t wanna pop the balloon but the mum, instead of doing it herself, just..pushed her to do it? And then got mad when SHE let go of the balloon.
What made me mad is that I have the strong feeling that the mum blamed the little girl and maybe even screamed at her afterwards..
Shitty parenting at it's finest 🎈
I think the kid might have been scared of the sound the balloon would make when popped, gathered enough courage to try it once but lost her nerve when it didn’t work. So the mom took the pin to do it herself but the kid got upset so she gave the pin back. Kid at this point is just done and throws the pin on the ground like “if I can’t do it, nobody can”
So mom starts to scold the kid for being difficult but lets go of the balloon in the process so now the whole thing’s fallen apart. If that’s the case then I can understand the mom being frustrated and stressed out.
Then again, that’s just my take on it. Hopefully she was just mad at the situation and didn’t take it out on the kid later.
Edit: autocorrect typo
Yeah... That one has bad vibes all over it... But then again... I wouldn't want to pop the balloon either...
looked like she hit her too, poor kid
that video made me so sad for the kid
Jamie's face as he tries his hardest to be polite all while being HORRIFIED by the giant baby suited people: priceless and must be preserved as a pivotal moment in humanity's history
4.55 poor kid…she’s overwhelmed, no-one is listening, and when she acts out, her mum slaps her hand. I hate parents like this.
I've seen this one before it makes me mad every time, I'm glad she lost her damn balloon.
I keep thinking about that with all the dog/kid involved ones. They didn’t provide any support, guidance, or practice, of course it won’t work out
Yeah, there's guy I follow on TikTok, (Pre-School Therapy) who talked about how this should have been handled.
Yeah, I noticed that too. Hooray, you are having another child, you can't even treat the one you have properly. :-/
Plus, she seemed scared at first? I know a lot of kids are scared of balloons popping.
And everyone yelling at you is going to increase that anxiety.
My parents kept mine a secret till I was born, however, they did “expect” a girl and had Hannah as a name picked out with pink clothes and all. Then I was born a biological male. Must have disappointed them the moment I was born.
But who is the joke on now since I am Transgender?
Guess they where right after all! XD
It all comes full circle lmao
your parents knew it lol
I *knew* I was having a boy - just knew it. When the ultrasound came back female, it was definitely a surprise. 12 years later, I was right all along. Sometimes we just know. I hope that your parents are supportive. 💜
lol did you choose hannah as a name later on? that'd be funny.
My parents choose not to even find out with me, but based on the wives tales about how a child is carried and the glow of the mother etc. everyone else told them they would have a boy. They had a boys name picked from early on and a few girls names they liked but none to settle on. I was born a girl and didn't have get one of the names from the final list, the boy name had to wait for the 3rd born.
Adding to my other comment:
it bothers me that parents seem to be so excited about their child’s ‘gender’ when they are a baby, but when that same child is older and transitions, all of a sudden they struggle to or outright refuse to validate that same child’s true gender
As a parent, I wholeheartedly say that people like that don't deserve to be parents.
@@missnaomi613 parents like you restore faith in humanity
@@bananasinfrench awww, thank you. I'm really just trying to not be a 💩.
It’s cause they get an idealized version of their kid in their head, and then get mad when the kid doesn’t fit the fantasy they made-up. Encanto and Turning Red are recent Disney+ movies about that kind of thing.
I agree like yeah okay You have a boy or girl but if when they get older and realize the kid have always felt like they should have been they other gender then it's ok what would you like me to call you.
I hate the ones involving kids. They put them on show, expect them to pop a balloon (which is scary for many young children) then get angry at the kid when they meltdown 🤦♀️
Gender reveal parties... each to their own as long as they don't hurt anyone. I think a lot of people use it as an excuse to have a party rather than taking it seriously. The ones I find scary are the ones where (usually) the Dad is visibly disappointed or sad the whatever it is reveals Pink.
My Dad never wasted an opportunity to let my sister and me know how much he had wanted sons instead of daughters, and it messed me up for a long time.
@@ttintagel I'm sorry 😞 that's horrible.
The only good gender reveal in history was when Gomez announced, IT'S AN ADDAMS!
Gender reveals are only okay when someone comes out as something that isn't their AGAB, or the way it was originally intended.
Pretty sure the first lady who had a gender reveal party, had it because she wanted to celebrate, that she finally managed to carry a baby long enough to find out their sex, because she kept loosing the pregnancy...
Yes, you’re correct about that, and they’ve gotten so bad that she’s literally begged people to stop having them
Such parties are also filled with gender stereotypes 😑
That same woman's daughter also came out as gender-nonconforming.
THIS. This precisely.
If I had a small gender reveal, it would be just so if they do come out as a different gender later or no gender at all, we can have an 2.0 party. Basically, I just like planning parties. When they start school, I'd probably throw them a coronation into educated society. I'd c as lol in all my cousins and friends with kids starting school to debut their kid into celebrating education. All presents will be school supplies and books.
No balloons th
When my mom found out I'm trans she asked if she could throw me a gender reveal party. Wasn't expecting that reaction (wasn't expecting anything negative). We live over 1000 miles from each other so dunno if it'll ever actually happen.
On a related note, when an employee said she was going to a gender reveal party I almost asked how old the person coming out was.
That's really sweet. Hope you get that party someday!
As a non-binary person I feel like gender reveals are ridiculous but I also acknowledge the fact that raising your child as a specific gender that they may not identify as is what can be emotionally damaging to trans children not a party that existed before they were born. I think it's obvious how little meaning these have to us as humans based off of childrens reactions of "whatever this kid is, it will be, just give me the damn chocolate." It feels like an added ritualistic practice to validate traditions that still don't hold true in a more progressive world (that has always existed but is safer to exist in the public eye now).
It depends if the parent (or guardian) is able to adjust
i’m also non binary and the thought of my parents having a party to reveal a gender that isn’t mine is so painful
One of my kids is non-binary and I feel awful enough that they had to endure 20 years of being treated like someone they're not, before realizing and coming out. Even before that, I was grossed out by the emphasis so many people put on confirming what genitals a kid has.
I also have the feeling it is an excuse to have some attention. I mean I have nothing against a good excuse to collect all your friends for a party but a lot of the gender reveal party's seem to be for pure attention and for Instagram. What of a bad parent do you have to be to be mad at your kid for not wanting to pop a f ING balloon double your size and trying to force her.
@@missnaomi613 yeah ad putting it in a box. I mean to know the gender to know what kind of clothes to buy (because of physic) I cam understand but raising a boy and a girl doesn't need to be that different. I am a sis girl but never liked dresses a lot as a child I never liked pink as a color and I always lived videotapes crime series and was pretty rough. I am more "boy" then my brother.
You never dree a baby like they would like, because they don't have a taste yet the parent's pick what they like. I have the feeling the parent's just find the stereotype things "cute" and that's why they do that.
the one at 5:10 is maddening! Yelling at your kid for not wanting to do something most kids don't like-because balloons are for keeping and also popping is loud and scary-and then being mad over the balloon SHE herself let go?
I always call them “genital reveals” as that’s how creepy I find them.
But I love the comments about trans people doing them. 💗 I once saw a guy on tv whose grown up daughter had some gender confirming surgery and he turned up at the hospital with an “it’s a girl” balloon. So touching I still get teary when I think of it.
At the very least they should be called "sex reveals," as that's what they actually are. But we as a society are too prissy to use the word "sex" even when it's appropriate.
Yeah, a baby had no identity, especially not a gender identity and even less so when they are not even born yet, you need quite a bit of awareness for all of that to develooe and a lot of the early displays of gendered behavior is learned from what people around them clearly expect them to do, and not a genuine expression......
Its really just a sex reveal with what behavior and interests you are going to expect from them and force on them....
I'm pretty meh about gender reveals, as long as they don't cause damage to anyone. But I do find them hilarious, especially when there is a fail like the two parents having tow different colors revealed. Really hoping that some of those kids will be trans later on, and they can point to family videos like this and be like: see, there were very early signs. :D
It would be funny too if it turns out to be girl boy twins 😂😂😂😂😂
Omg, what if they had three and one shot out white confetti too. That would be awesome
Purple confetti
I hate them. It's basically saying "this is what my kids genitals look like and that's it. And you know the parents are transphobic if they are that obsessed with it.
@@OzCroc I don’t think that parents being obsessed with gender reveals is a telltale sign that they are transphobic. More likely it was an integral part of the culture and community they were raised in, and they haven’t necessarily been exposed to arguments against them.
Ballon mom would've been more realistic if it was a water balloon
Jeez don't make me think about that it was creepy enough as it was already T_T
@@Yellowiolet ^u^
if its not a trans person's true gender reveal, I don't like 'em
Transgender reveals are the only valid gender reveals 💙💖
Me neither... trans gender reveals are the only good ones 💜
We're all here for the transgender reveals
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So im legally allowed to set califronia on fire as long as im just doing a trans gender/or non binary reveal?
Having a gender reveal meant a lot to me as I was basically celebrating being pregnant long enough to actually be able to find out the gender, I've suffered with 8 back to back misscarages so making it to 16 weeks pregnant was absolutely *HUGE* for me and my husband. We had a Halloween themed gender reveal and picked purple💜 for a baby "Ghoul" and green💚 for a baby "boo". We had a special balloon made and matching stick made so it fit our colour theme, all went well until my big sisters shitty boyfriend shouted "IT'S A BOY" as a prank.... My sister was vial during the whole thing as she's mad I'm having a kid as that means the attention will be on my child not on her as she lost her kids (she was abusive-I only *just* found out as she hid it). Everyone went from happy and cheering (for a split second) to confused and completely done with the whole thing. He absolutely destroyed the joy. Then my mil and dil were upset that we are having a girl not a "perfect little boy".... My dil was huffing and puffing then said to me in a very annoyed tone "haven't your family got enough girls". A month later my baby got diagnosed with a condition called bilateral talipes so I was offered a abortion, I refused as my baby is a blessing I don't care if she was wonky feet (btw its treatable so she won't live in pain or be restricted in any way once treatment is finished). My mil and dil were very upset that baby has a disability and not happy we don't want to "try again". Basically my mil and dil are complete twats and will be cut off, I'm done and so is my husband. My sister has also been cut off because no way am I letting a abusive person near my child, my sister also tried to stop my wedding and when that failed she got engaged straight away (probably for attention as that what she claimed I was doing). Apparently life is a game to her and everything is a competition and I don't want to play so she can play alone. It's safe to say if I'm ever lucky enough to be pregnant again me and my husband will go out for a nice meal and have a themed desert to find out baby's gender. Fuck trying to please everyone else, we will save the money and enjoy it ourselves in private.
Since its becoming more and more common for people to treat their pets like childs (me included) I think we should create species reveal parties. What am I having? A cat, a dog, a parrot or a human??? Lol
you said it perfectly, 'gender' reveal parties aren't really anything more than genital reveal parties, which is a little weird imo lol
Tbh to cis people it's kinda weird that you you're bringing up the baby's gentiles because that's not how they think about it at all
@@thepinkestpigglet7529 the thing is tho, gender isnt something you can dictate before someone tells you. So theyre just revealing the sex which is literally just the genitals
@@thepinkestpigglet7529 wait, can I ask how cis people think about it though? I'm from NZ, people dont do genital reveals here, just baby showers sometimes if the parent is pakeha and middle class. I've never understood why parents would do this. Would be interested in hearing your view.
I'm a cis mother of 3, one of which happens to be non-binary. Even decades before, I thought it was gross how much emphasis some people put on what genitals a kid has.
@@beev448 it is when you’re a literal baby. When the baby is older, they can decide what their gender is, but it is a literal automatic thing that is there as soon as conception happens. Raising a child outside of their sex will be harmful and damaging to them most of the time you do so, so yeah, it’s definitely something the parents can “decide” based on the sex of the baby. This is such a dumb conversation. It’s creepy that you all are even interpreting it as a “genital reveal party”. I’m so concerned for all of you when you’re told what a child’s gender is and you automatically think to that. Gross.
Gender reveal parties are an excuse for having a party imo. I think it's cool if you just wanna have cake with your family. Just don't say no to your kids if they ever want to express themselves differently when they get older.
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Just make it a babyshower, baby party whatever celibrating getting a baby, why make it about the babys genitals?!
Jamie struggling to say fiSHE or fisHE is the cutest thing XD
Not me yelling at the tv how it's said🤣
F'she -fizz he?
I am just a "regular" CIS female. I found the whole idea of being put in a drawer because I am a girl annoying even since I was a 4 or 5. I was always drawn to toys and activities that are supposedly "only for boys". Yet I was forced to "pick a doll" for Xmas every year - until I rebelled and asked for a remote controlled Porsche with popable lights :). My grandma once tried to "bribe" me so that I would not insist on the book "Leatherstocking" for my birthday but instead get a "book for girls". She offered to buy me 3 other books if I would just not insist on Fenimore Cooper...guess what, I went with "Leatherstocking". But I never forgot the endless humiliation of having to fight all my relatives including my parents (who constantly apologized for my "weird" interests) who tried to make me a "proper girl". So, I guess you can imagine what my opinion of a gender reveal is...Everytime I see a little baby girl with pierced ears (child abuse IMO) and pink clothing and toys I just want to throw up. It is brain washing from moment 0 on. Why not let a kid develop according to their interests? Why is that so hard? Oh, and my fav color always was blue - even though in my birth country the color assignments of pink and blue to a certain sex was not a thing back then. Now it is , too. Yuck!
I understand when people do them in some way like cake or muffins, but i don’t understand why to throw a whole party and accidentally light Canada on fire.
Under no circumstances should "brother or sister, what's in my mother" be considered appropriate...
Cissies love to make crude jokes about sex and sperm with babies
It's disgusting
By the way: the trans community isn’t the only one wishing to get rid of gender reveals. The whole zero waste movements and environmentally conscious people agree with you. And I am not only talking about wildfires being spread, but the amount of plastic Ballons, plastic glitter (literally microplastic) and other things being thrown into the environment because of this unnecessary practice.
especially when the fails happen and the balloon flies off only to pop in the high atmosphere, fall back down (possibly trapping a flying bird), and eaten by curious animals who wonder what all these bright pink inch long circle pieces of plastic taste like in some woodland area much too far away from the starting point.
and the gender creative community
The just do it inside
@@elena-dz4dv you’re still creating unnecessary waste when buying such single use items. You’re also creating demand for more of it. I’m not saying don’t get a cake with a color in the middle of you really want to,but all those other things are highly unnecessary .
@@vivigoesusa i lean my family reuses confetti… we aren’t very fortunate so, it’s not going on the trash. Every thing that’s trash for the others is not for us, I see us having that confetti for years lmao my sister probably decorate her room with it. Also I’m sorry about my English
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At 3:19 the little girl has her legs between the springs of the trampoline while the other children are jumping! That doesn't look safe.
I've always wondered if people have yellow gender reveal parties for babies born intersex and near the middle of the spectrum.
Gender reveals are excellent and perfect, we're just holding them for the wrong people.
Babies don't know their gender and it's pretty weird to hold a party to announce your baby's expected genitals. Trans people, on the other hand, need to update a load of people on the pronouns they'd like to use, likely the name as well, and they could do with a lot of support and reassurance from the people who love them that they are welcome and encouraged to be themselves. Imagine your closest friends cheering and celebrating you as you come out ❤️ Not for everyone, but would be lovely for some.
Well said! 💙💗🤍💗💙
When the confetti was blue instead of pink by a mislabeling, just watch the kid actually be ftm and the incorrect gender reveal is actually just foreshadowing
Then it wouldn't be incorrect
Lmao
I feel like they’re silly because you AREN’T revealing your baby’s gender. It’s just a party where you tell everyone what parts your baby was born with, and that seems weird to me! But I also understand that some parents really want to celebrate their new family member. I just think there are better ways to do it
just do like a baby party or smth. Like, "Woohoo! We have a baby and we can all enjoy them!"
Yeah why can't people just celebrate them having a baby and not obsess on the baby's sex? The baby isn't gonna even understand the concept of gender until they're much older anyway.
@@fluffy698 That's a baby shower. You get together and celebrate the baby. In Australia, I have been to many baby showers, a few mixed ones (traditionally it's a "women's only" event where your friends and family give you advice etc) but never a gender reveal party 🤷♀️ just isn't done much here.
Add in the fact that the scan showing the baby's genitals isn't 100% accurate
@@jackriver8385 yuppp, i was in fetal the whole time, and i was 1 month early. doctors couldnt figure out my sex, mom dad thought i was gonna be a boy (also had planned for more boy names and just 1 girl name) They also had to color my baby room white because they didnt know what i was. im a transmasc boy now so...
5:00 😱🚨🚨🚨🚨
She let go of the balloon to smack her kid's hands, and then I will guarantee you it 100% be the girl's fault 'for angering her'. Ye 🚨
For the balloon question as to what happens when they float off: they do pop at some point but take a while to so they just end up in random places (my family has found a bunch of random balloons in the forest that definitely just drifted off from where they were meant to be)
After gender reveal parties have now started forest fires and LITERALLY caused a small earthquake, I can genuinely say: no. No, I don't like gender reveal parties.
Just do them inside. Harmless
As a straight, I can confirm that not all straights like gender reveal parties.
I’m not straight, I’m cis, and I add that not all cis people like gender reveal celebrations either
Damn, bro I hate them too
Yh I don’t see why the sex matters tbh wouldn’t change how I raise em
@@umdonttalktome They just want to know or celebrate something
@@agnestennisberg4314 yeah I know and that’s fine but I think sometimes it can get to the point people get obsessed over it when it’s doesn’t really matter u know
Gender reveals are weird unless they’re about coming out as trans. In that case, they’re absolutely adorable
No they’re not adorable both ways
unless someone sets a forest on fire
The woman who kind of started it all celebrated because she had many miscarriages before. It wasn't really about the gender but about making it that far into the pregnancy. I think that reason and trans are valid
@@samvxlentinee coming out as the gender you identify as is adorable and wholesome, celebrating baby genitals is what’s not adorable and weird
I've already decided that I'm inviting my family to a gender reveal party in then future and Imma just be standing there with my bf and we're gonna do the "gender reveal" and when people say shit like "it's a boy!" I'm just gonna be like hell yeah I'm a boy I've been telling you this for years-
i feel like simple gender reveals can be fun, obviously it's exciting to figure out what your child is gonna come out as... however, you should also be willing to accept your child if they come out as a different gender later in life, not be pissed they aren't their original "agab". honestly, you shouldn't have a kid at all if you cant handle that. but yeah, gender reveals can be cute as long as its not super imposing on stereotypes, ridiculous expectations, or sexist. what would be super cool would be a gender reveal party again when a trans person coming out!! like "hey, i'm not a baby anymore, i've figured myself out.. and this is who i am!!! surprise!!"
Why on earth was is fishe or fishe in different colors when they could have done fishe or fisher?
Gender reveals are okay if they don't go overboard and get harmful. I would never personally attend one or arrange one of it wasn't a "hey, I'm not AGAB" gender reveal. The whole "I wish you to know what genetals my baby has" thing is so icky imho
I'd use an animal in a reveal party: get everyone together in a nice open area and trot by on horseback trailing a banner saying "We're having a human baby"
(But then I'm not having kids and I'd rather spend my money on getting the horse, lol)
Congrats...its a pony!
I have a horse. And I swear, if I ever have a child I'll do that
Shame, you sound like you'd be a great parent :D
You should start a business training and riding the horse for other peoples' reveal parties!
Personally, I would never do a “gender” reveal party, but I guess if that’s what you want to do, that’s up to you. I don’t mind it so much when it’s a little thing though, like something inside a cake, or something, but, i must say, transgender reveals should be more of a thing! They’re so cute!
Is it not creepy to some people ppl how eager they are to tell a bunch of people what genitals their fetus has? That's really weird when you think about it
I'm not 100% sure but I think I stumbled upon a gender reveal party for a trans guy. I was working as a political canvasser, and I had a list of specific people's addresses to go to. The information I was given was usually name and age, sometimes a phone number and email. I went to a door where there was an ultrasound taped to the door which upon closer inspection was dated for the mid-90s (it was 2014). The person on my list happened to have a feminine-sounding name and the age listed lined up with the ultrasound date. I knocked on the door and a middle-aged woman answered and seemed glad to see me when I introduced myself and explained what I was doing in the neighborhood. I might be misremembering but I thought there might have been an "It's a boy" decoration or two inside the house. Anyway, I asked, "Is [feminine name] here? I have a few quick questions for her." And the woman's face fell a bit and she said, "No, she doesn't live here anymore." So I crossed the name off my list and apologized for bothering her and wished her a good day. It wasn't until later that evening that I put the pieces together but I wouldn't have been able to update his info on my list anyway 😔
I do have a problem with gender reveal parties. It’s not the concept itself, it’s the overly extravagant fiascos that they’ve been turned into when they originated as a woman wanting to celebrate her successful pregnancy after suffering many miscarriages. Now, they’re just ways for upper middle class people to throw unnecessary parties and place more stress upon the expecting parents.
I can honestly say, I do NOT like "gender" reveal parties
Gender reveals are only okay as a method of coming out for trans people, in my opinion. I like the idea of them slowly morphing from a toxic cishet thing to a funny way trans people can announce who they are (and then everyone gets cake).
for me (like, just me, personally. this sounds really cute and way better of a concept and it'd be really rad seeing people do this) i don't think just me being myself openly shouldn't be this big of deal and parties ain't my thing anyway
but anything as an excuse to buy cake
What’s so funny is that the first gender reveal party ever WAS for a trans person. Like their gender was revealed as a boy ( i think) and they had a second gender reveal later when they came out as gender nonconforming and the mom who did the first one has even said it’s a toxic thing
Everyone gets cake and the trans person gets presents that help with the transition! They need new clothes and other gendered stuff just like new moms need stuff for their babies.
@@streamlily5971 the kid was gender-non-conforming in the end, but yeah
@@DeadBore oh sorry I’ll edit the comment ^^
The amount of single use plastic is kind of sickening
my mom chose not to know the gender of her babies until we were born. so it was a surprise even for her each time. and then they just simply called the family from the hospital to tell them the good news... I think that's the simplest, least comlicated way and it's genius.
The one where the little one is getting overwhelmed with popping the balloon makes me mad because the mom turns and hits her.
I hate how little kids are forced to be at these events despite them clearly hating i, not to me toon the risk off having them be in the path of a confetti canon tube or over-head box or some such thing
Same here. I was wondering why no one else mentioned it in the comments.
That was awful. On top of that the mom even gets mad because the balloon flew away while she hit her daughter... wtf
5:01 can we just talk about the way she YELLED in her kid's FACE cuz she didn't want to pop a balloon that would make a loud noise?
And it looked like she hit her
Whenever I see these I just want to know what the kid will be like as an adult. Imagine being the balloon that flew away kid and later realizing you're agender. Imagine getting the """wrong color""" only to find out you're trans and it was actually right. That would be hilarious to me---
This feels like a good writing prompt. Like a balloon prophecy!
The one with the kid not wanting to pop the balloon doesn’t sit right with me. I’m autistic and have a sensitivity to loud noises. If adults were screaming at me to pop a giant balloon, I would be completely traumatized. And the way the mom seemed to lunge at her before the balloon drifted away? That family seems emotionally abusive at best, physically abusive at worst.
I have a kid and we didn’t do a gender reveal. We did a “this is what we were told regarding the sex of the baby” Facebook post with an ultrasound photo of his head, not his junk (yes... I’ve seen those before). The straights really are not okay lol.
I always joke to my friends that when/if I ever get pregnant I'm going to pretend to have a gender reveal party and make it a big thing and invite a bunch of people and then it'll just say "A Baby" and everyone will go home disappointed, I'll be laughing my ass off, and my child will end up with a wardrobe that's more than one color. My friend told me that if she ever got an invite to a gender reveal party from me she won't come lmao
I don’t like the idea of a baby gender reveal. Normally the people that do these giant ones are also into gender stereotypes that can be damaging in the long run.
Now, a trans gender reveal?! That’s just fun. That’s probably done with support of family and friends. It’s a fun party to support the person transitioning. The person doing the gender reveal is old enough to decide and be comfy with it. And the person the party is about can enjoy the cake or sweets too!! This is the gender reveal I like. 🙌🏽✨💖
Personally, I have no use for these gender-reveal shindigs, and believe that all the hoo-hah surrounding the "officially" designated appearance of the neonate's genitalia is totally pointless, especially given the fact that not all AFABs are female, nor are all AMABs male, and also given the existence of intersex folks.
That said, I love the following joke told me by my best female friend, a trans woman: A young couple had just had their first child, and a friend of the family called the new mother to congratulate her. After showering her with good wishes, the caller finally asked what was on their mind: "So -- is it a boy or a girl?" Replied the wise young mother with a smile, "We don't know -- our baby hasn't told us yet." Tell me if that isn't a wholesome and sensible way to think about the gender of one's offspring.
Did you say hoo-hah on purpose? Where I’m from it means vagina 😂😉
As with so many other things in our society, it seems like mostly an excuse to sell pointless stuff to gullible consumers.
The ones where the balloon flew away just made me think "Welp we stole your gender now you're destined to be non-binary/agender" and it's so funny lmao
So as of right now I have 5 daughters (A set of triplets and a set of twins) I am also currently pregnant with twins.
For every one of my babies I did have a gender reveal, but it obviously was different for twins and triplets. I personally had 3 or 2 balloons I popped them with a needle and Blue or pink confetti came out. I would never EVER do a popper because it did light my state on fire :). I have the gender reveal party for the twins I’m pregnant with on Friday! Can’t wait wonder if it’ll be more girls or not
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I'm personally not bothered by the whole gender reveal thing, as long as the people who are doing it at least clean up after themselves if they're in a public area or park, or better yet keep at at their own home or garden or whatever they have.
That said, I think the mom at around 4:58, with the kid that didn't want to pop the balloon, smacked the kid, and I hate her with all my heart.
I does look like she hits them, yeah. What a horrible person...
as someone who's scared of the sound of a balloon popping, it was so painful to watch. if i was the kid i would've thrown a tantrum right then and there
Yep, and the comments on that one with all the people saying the kid needs a "whooping" for being a "brat" is disgusting. She looks the same age as my son and he HATES balloons popping, I also cannot imagine placing him in front of everyone, centre of attention like that and for him to not have a tantrum/meltdown. Childism is a thing. People treat kids as not really worth respect. It's heartbreaking.
Yeah for sure. I was very scared of balloons popping when I was a kid. I would have been terrified. Kids do get more scared of things easier. That mother lacks so much empathy and understanding for her child.
That’s what I saw too and wondered why it appeared no one was talking about that. Child was clearly distressed about popping the balloon. No way would my child have wanted to do that as they are and have always been very sensory sensitive. And then she hits her child - disgusting
Why do they call it gender reveal when they are revealing the sex and not the gender?
Exactly
We just had a friend make a cake with the color in the middle. Delicious and not wasteful as well as informative, but I asked for dinosaur things for the baby shower and had people asking if i was "sure" bc dinosaurs "are for boys"??? I guess my child cant like paleontology or archaeology bc of her genitals? I had no idea that was a thing before becoming a parent bc i love dinosaurs and was always allowed to pursue whatever my interests were. We currently let her dress however she wants and give her as many options as we financially are able to. Baby clothes are expensive and she can wear cousin hand me downs or whatever, she doesn't seem to know the difference between when people call her a cute boy at the park in her favorite grey dinosaur sweatshirt or tell her they like her fluffy tutu she will sometimes pick out to go to the store 🤷🏼♀️ and I don't mind correcting people.. or just not correcting them. We just say thanks and move on with our lives. I just want her to be healthy and do what makes her happy.
Here, have a wholesome story. When my mom was expecting me, they decided to wait til I was born to see what my sex was. My older sister wanted a girl and demanded they have a girl. I was AFAB and now it's an inside joke in our family. When I came out as nonbinary to my sister she jokingly said,"sorry I demanded you be a girl".
The cutest thing in this video is Jammi shaking his head around showing that the earbuds won't fall out. I say go back to a gender reveal cake with food coloring inside. That's more than enough
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she stopped to scream in her child's face and now the balloon is gone
because her anger was more important than her effort
Sheesh, didn’t even see that. Terrible shame.
I do not like gender reveals! It’s ridiculous… I had zero interest in knowing what my baby was before being born!
It’s like unwrapping a Christmas present in July for a peep at the ‘genitalia’ the wrapping it back up again!
Nope.I was more concerned with my baby being healthy 🤦🏻♀️
I'm glad gender reveals aren't a thing where I live. As a trans guy with truckloads of dysphoria I would have felt uncomfortable knowing that someone celebrated my arrival with stereotypical pink stuff.
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I don't aprove of genderreveals because they already put genderrolles on a baby that isn't even born yet. People should just hold a genderreveal party and then do like a rainbow confeffti popper😂💕
Surprise! We're raising our child as non-binary until they're old enough to tell us what gender they are. Actually that would be a pretty great way to get the point across.
@@alexshemwell8320 and that would still turn out to be correct some of the time.
@@alexshemwell8320 if you watch some of the videos titled "raising our child as non-binary" it's actually pretty harmful, a child doesn't need to think so early about all this gender stuff. What about just raising a child free from gender stereotypes, no matter if it's a boy or a girl... you don't need to put non-binary label to not push stereotypes on your child.
My opinion on gender reveal parties:
They’re amazing. Truly amazing. It’s one really good indicator to know if someone is an asshole. Everything else a gender reveal party implies sucks, though.
the only gender reveal party ill go to is my own gender
well it hasn't happened yet but-
I think some cis people don't understand the harm that they're doing by putting these gender expectations on their kids that aren't even born yet.
@@alexshemwell8320 I think it's a good idea to at least give kids a starting point so that as they get older they have some kind of comparison to compare how they feel. Giving them no starting point makes it difficult to see if how you feel changes. Everything in life needs comparisons to contextualise.
Forcing someone to stick with that gender if they find out it isn't for them is the problem :)
Imo, not everyone who does a gender reveal party is an asshole. Sure, most go over the top and are very stereotypical, but, for an example, i went to a gender reveal party of a very cool and chill friend of my mom (i was about 10 at the time), and it was just a cake-cutting. Nothing else. And there were some colored cupcakes with all colors, too. It was more of a party to celebrate the baby rather than their genitals
@@alexshemwell8320 but you gotta understand (I’m trans) the sex they are born with is their sec biologically so technically that is their sex. I’m raising my child as that sex until and IF they decide to change their gender. I’ll make sure they know it’s always and option, but assigned gender at birth is what they’ll be, what I’ll do my sex reveal on ( I like that terminology better than gender reveal) but theylll always know if they wanna change that they can. Parents can celebrate this if they want to.
I was hoping you'd react to that second last one 😂 when I saw it on TikTok a few months ago first thing I thought was "omg this is ridiculous.... I'mma tag Jamie" lol
I’m a gender reveal success (or fail depending on how you look at it) I’m a trans man and when I was a baby before I was born EVERYONE thought I was a boy! So much that they threw a boy baby shower for me. I found this out three days ago from my sister and I’m BAFFLED. Like there is a god and she has an awesome sense of humor.
Foreshadowing
Oh! I can actually answer the question of when it'll pop, since I did some volunteer work with actual high altitude balloons. A party balloon will pop pretty fast, since as it rises, the pressure pushing in from the outside air will lessen, causing them to expand. For a weather balloon, they're large enough and start off at a low enough pressure that they can reach over 30 km, but for a party balloon, it would happen pretty fast. Probably high enough to still be out of sight, but I doubt it would make it more than a mile or two up.
If the person later in life doesn't identify with their assigned gender at birth, then I hope their parents/caretakers accept them & love them just as much, but it's sad that a lot of enbies & trans folks don't have the support & love of their family/parents 😥
At least there's chosen family, but I understand that it must still hurt like hell to not be accepted by the people who raised you.
Trans rights are human rights 🏳️⚧️
Enbies are valid 💛🤍💜
Love is love 🏳️🌈
As for gender reveals, most of them are actually kind of cringy or harmful, as I've seen other ppl comment here 😅
Hate to say it, but I have a feeling a lot of the people who go through the whole gender reveal thing probably aren't the most accepting. They can't even see that they're announcing the sex of the baby, not the gender.
@@barrylangille3523 yeah, that's really sad though that they care more about their child's private parts than the child's personality
The lady who started the gender reveal thing had her kid come out as enby.
@@asmith8692 okay. I hope she supports them 💛🤍💜 That is karma for mom tho 😅
@@chaoticgoodgh0st286 I think she had a second gender reveal party for them.
Hello, everyone. You probably don’t care but I just wanted to share that I just figured out I’m poly and I’m very happy that I’ve finally figured out myself completely (I hope) and I also made a new neopronouns set that I love!
Anyway how are you all doing? I’d love to hear anything you want to say! Rant, talk about hyperfixations, anything 🙂
Yay congrats 💜💜🤗🤗
@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 thank you so much ❤️
What are your pronouns!?
oh hey that’s awesome! from one non cis buddy to another, i’m proud of you :) have a great rest of your day
@@spinachsheik3701 the new sets I came up with are &/&s/&self (pronounced as and) and spark/sparks/sparkself, but I use a lot of different neos
I couldn’t imagine being at a gender reveal with those loud popper thingies, I’m so sensitive to loud sounds like that and I think I would start having a panic attack
I love watching the gender reveals! I get the whole issues that people point out but they're just so exciting to me! one step closer to knowing more about a new family member is great
"The popping of the stomach, and the baby like 'Wahey!'" KILLED ME
IM CRYING DHASJAJSJHDF
I have been forever traumatized by the inflatable babies 😬
I'm all about the "live and let live" attitude, and I extend that mindset to gender reveal parties. As long as it's not one of those insane ones that cause wildfires, I really don't care. You can represent the gender of the baby in traditional colors at the party, however when the kid is born I hope you'll be open to allowing your son to wear pink if he wants to.
Also quick thing to add. If you have a gender reveal before the kid is born, you better have a second gender reveal party if your kid comes out as trans. It's only fair.
"and the balloon baby just going 'wheyhay!'"
im bloody creasing
I think a baby is reveal is a way funnier idea. Like imagine you can reveal your pregnant near a holiday, so you can blind side them. Especially on April's fool day. Hilarious. Also, a name reveal party sounds like a fun idea.
Gender reveals can be fun as long as it’s done with the environment in mind. Like no coloured confetti from balloons, no explosives or pyrotechnics and no animals involved. I would also love to see a disclaimer at these events that their child’s gender is subject to change, so more of a anatomy reveal party 🎉 ❤️
@@Av1t3o it’s already creepy to be celebrating whether or not they have a penis or vagina. So what’s the difference with making it a gender neutral party reveal??
Gender reveal parties are harmful all over and could easily be replaced with a different kind of celebration that doesn't involve harmful stereotypes and dangerous customs
100000% agree
The best part is that there already was a type of celebration for a future baby that didn't involve the child's gender (usually). It's simply called a baby shower but alas, can't have a week without cishet nonesense.
"Take a look at my little unicorn"
How can one man fit so much wholesome not even 5 seconds into the video?
people already have baby showers, why do they need a second party to tell the world their baby's sex?
They’ve gotten out of control