I feel like the underlying assumption that "my boyfriend is too nerdy to cheat" and I don't like that. It's your personality and morals that keep you from cheating, not your interests.
Whenever they say my boyfriend or girlfriend is "too nerdy to cheat," it's just a low-key way of saying "they're too ugly to cheat." People who say such things need to be immediately dumped! 😆
Completely understand the sentiment of your statement (bc cheating can happen to and from anyone, and I've def gotten cheated on by someone who was/is a huge nerd and anime fan), but in this case iirc the tiktoker and bf are actually pretty sweet so just going based on that in this instance I think she was saying that her bf has hobbies that he's clearly comfortable with sharing them with her (iirc they're both star wars fans too). I really don't think it was exploitive. However, I've definitely seen degrading versions of this tiktok and it's very upsetting.
Also being a nerd doesn't make you not a misogynist... Just look at the Big Bang Theory it is misogynist as fck and they're all supposed to be " adorable nerds"
That star wars dude didn't deserve that. He's a sweet passionate dude just trying to vibe with his hobbies. Plenty of people would love someone like that.
He really didn't, I don't understand why it would have anything to do with faithfulness, there are many people out there who would share his interest and want to date him, and even people who don't, it's possible to not like something and still respect it, it's so stupid and full of stereotypes.
Exactly. If she doesn't want to appreciate him and his interests I'll happily do so. Though he and my other partner might get along so well they could forget I was there... lol Risk I'm willing to take because he was so adorable.
He reminded me of my boyfriend, honestly. It's so nice when people talk about things they're passionate about, and he was obviously excited to he able to share his thoughts about something he loves. It made me really sad knowing why that video of him was even taken.
@@werewolf-mp3 Honestly that video made me more happy than mad because I was like "Aww how cute!". But I think videos like this are fine if the partner is in on the joke which in both cases they were.
Exactly. Imagine if this guy sees his gf's video later and reads comments that make fun of him for being passionate about sth. He deserves better and I hope he in fact will never cheat on this woman because there no longer is a 'them',
It honestly looks like some weird parody that would be on a show like "Parks and Recreation" or "Superstore." xD Like, people actually unironically do this crap? xD
"His masculine supoort and structure allows me to surrender even deeper into my yummy and juicy feminine flow" sounds like a line straight out of 50 shades of gray.
God that line was so disgusting. Who tf refers to feminine energy like that? Heck! Just saying "feminine energy" sounds cringy af. I wanna shoot myself for reading that and saying the other thing!
friendly reminder that consent is freely-given, informed, and ongoing!!!! if someone only has sex with you bc you manipulated them into it, it wasn’t consensual!!!
Ugh the guy talking about girls being time wasters when they don't sleep with him is absolutely horrible. The way he talked about it like it is normal to manipulate people into sex by making them insecure makes me sick to my stomach. I pity every woman in his life.
If a guy pulls some shit like that on me, I'll be the one glad for getting rid of a time-waster, I'll just be mad he didn't show his true colors sooner...
it just gives off MASSIVE incel/antifeminist vibes. I did know one guy with English as a second language who had no clue it had that connotation though and stopped immediately when I said so that's something to bear in mind
I come from a farming background so whenever a guy refers to women as females, I automatically think about livestock and so I feel as if those men see us as such. Like we’re a breed of some species and not individual human beings. It’s gross.
I think for me it depends on the context. If you say “there’s so many females there” it’s kinda dehumanising, but if you say “being female is probably tiring” for some reason I don’t find that offensive
@@mavisseafoam yeah, there's def a difference between medical/scientific context and casual context. As someone who was afab, it is gross to be called female in casual context and not just because of dysphoria.
@@mavisseafoam I would agree, I think the difference there is "being a female" vs "being female" as well. If someone says the former, unless they're also saying "males", it definitely comes off in the uncomfortable/objectifying way.
@@mavisseafoam I think generally the difference you're thinking about is the adjective vs the noun! Female is more often used as an adjective, whereas the noun form is almost exclusively used either in science or by sexists, because "woman" is universally preferred by most people. The noun form of "female" often feels clunky in this context, and you're left sort of looking for a noun (person or human) that isn't present. Edit: Also, outside of science, female (adj) is generally "of or pertaining to *women*" and the correct noun form for like 99% of sentences would be woman, not female. For example, "female sports" is "sports for women," "female washrooms" are "the women's room," etc. etc. So when somebody uses the noun female, they're going out of their way to not use the term woman, and we instinctively question their motives. Like calling a burger "sustenance." Yeah, it's technically true... but why aren't you calling it food?
@@marias-i3333 like I in no way support cheating, nor would want to be a side chick, but damn I love nerdy boys getting excited over their fandom things. AND I love star wars, so damn yes he could get me lol.
Exactly, I love nerdy guys it makes me so happy when they start talking about the things they love and they just light up its rly cute honestly Edit: also I get nerdy about things too so it's nice to not be judged when I hyperfixate on something for a month and can only talk about that specific thing... currently it's werewolves...
@@ducky5277 It's just like listening to toddlers tell stories. You might not understand what they're talking about fully, but seeing their interest and how happy they are just is amazing.
@@ducky5277 Literally, almost all of my guy friends *are* nerdy (I am too lmao), like legit they are my people so I don't understand why it's bad to seem nerdy or not as masculine. Like, nerdy people are amazing human beings and I love them all
Not to mention it's kind of humiliating for autistic people like me, it feels like they're saying I'm not worthy of love because I'm autistic and that I'm lucky I found someone who tolerates me
@@moiaussi7722 yeah I’m getting the same vibes Nothing wrong with having special interests and talking about them with loved ones! This video makes it seem like that may be a bad thing and that’s sad, he seems so genuinely happy he figured out the jet pack :(
I HATE the jokes about men being put on the spot to say their girlfriend or wife is beautiful and good for them or else she'll be mad. It perpetuates the idea that all women are shallow and want lip service for validation. If you have to be forced to say your partner is someone you find beautiful and beneficial to your life, then it's not a good relationship. Why are you even there?
@@theomacer3094 I wasn't talking about the Target video. My comment was in response to the video of the guy reading signs his wife was holding up behind the camera.
"I'm going trans" sounds like what you'd yell before transforming into a magical girl with a trans pride themed outfit edit: wait guys i just realized.. magical girl TRANSformation
That dude who was saying what to do when a girl doesn’t want to sleep with you- Like sir that is just using pressure and manipulation to get what you want I am still so surprised that people actually think and act like this what is wrong with human beings
Plus, not now doesn’t mean they are “wasting your time” or aren’t planning on sleeping with you ever (also, how degrading is that, he thinks if she’s not going to sleep with him then he has no reason to spend time with her. He literally only cares about sex with this person). She could be on her period, be waiting until marriage/a certain time/ a certain relationship milestone, or just not feel ready yet.
@@bluegirl278 Yeah, the only person who is wasting their time here is the guy himself, since he doesn’t seem to understand what a relationship is. If he thinks he’s entitled to have sex at any time without considering the thoughts of whoever is unfortunate enough to date him at the moment, he’s better off doing it with an inanimate object for the rest of his life. He’s looking for one anyway.
I think that even if the Target couple got married, their relationship would be doomed and end in divorce a year or 2 later. You can't pressure and publicly humiliate your partner into marriage...
@@OrontesRM According to some articles that I briefly viewed on the internet, it is indeed fake. Which doesn't really restore any faith, but it is something at least
I feel like the guy with the wife holding up the notes was actually poking fun at the straights who are in miserable relationships but pretend they're not.
I also think female is kind of frustrating bc men have used it in a negative way to speak down to women. You know, saying shit like, “do this right now, woman!” or “All females are [insert negative adjective here].”
Yep, only gotten worse with pickup artists and incels talking about women as a group pretty much exclusively as “females” (or worse variations thereof), and the way the language of “getting a female”, “finding a female” etc has spread from that world to dudebros and pretty much into mainstream use I almost prefer the days when “getting pussy” was the most overused expression, because at least that’s honest and direct about what they’re referring to, and it was limited to hookup context; it’s worse when the entire person is reduced to that in much broader contexts
I've always felt that when people say "females" it's kinda objectifying women (or who they see as women), because it's stripping us down to our reproductive organs and stuff. It's not really the word per say, but the way they use it, because they never say "males" they always say "men"
if I say this out loud, I'll get laughed at and called "sensitive" because it's so difficult to explain WHY dudes using "female" in that specific tone is so icky and uncomfy. I think all women feel this way. it's just... creepy and gives you an idea of what kind of person that man is but if anyone asked me to explain WHY "female" is such a telling word, I wouldn't be able to explain it.
I ways assumed they were either implying women aren't human OR avoiding using terms with age connotations like "woman" or "girl" because they don't want to discuss their possible preference for underage partners. I've never met a "females" dude who expressed a consistent desire to date women over 18, no matter how old he happened to be. It was always, "Get'em young before feminism happens to them (and before they develop an adult personality)."
The guy responding with his wife holding up cue cards in the mirror was hilarious. That one was 100% a joke just meant to be funny. The other things...They’re lucky I can’t reach through my phone and smack them.
What if - and stop me if I'm being too crazy here - women aren't just sexual objects that can be thrown away when we say "no". What if women are people who have feelings and don't just want to sleep with a guy and actually want to get to know them and potentially fall in love and have a future. I know it's 2021 and my ideas are insane and futuristic but hear me out guys... 🙄
Honestly. The majority of the videos of ppl saying they’re “super straight” were men. Those were most the ppl that supported it. I did see a couple women making videos in support but it’s rare
Venesa vokey and posie parker said they were super straight. Maybe it’s just not as common. Maybe more men desire biological children then women but I don’t know for sure.
@@grizzlybear2702 it's nothing to do with desiring biological children. Just a thin veil over their transphobia, which is in turn, a thin veil over their homophobia and fear of being pinned as "gay"
@@grizzlybear2702 I can guarantee these men do not care about procreating, they only care about recreating- and recreating only in a certain specific way that they've decided is the right way. That's why they get so personally offended that attractive trans people exist because it challenges their ideas on how sexual relationships work
"Females" is also kind of objectifying. Especially when "females" is used to describe women and "dudes", "guys" or "men" etc is used to describe men in the same sentence....
"Tell me how you know your boyfriend won't cheat on you without telling me he won't cheat on you" Proceeds to film her boyfriend being very adorable and nerdy. I mean come on, who wouldn't want to sleep with that man? Or was her point supposed to be that he's too interested in his figurines to cheat? I'm so confused
honestly, i refuse to believe she meant it in a bad way- i looked at that tik tok and thought, “wow. maybe they’re really comfortable with each other, and he can talk freely about his hobbies and interests and he trusts her” or smth-
The guy with the action figures excitedly explaining that to his girlfriend is so wholesome and adorable on his part to bad she was just filming it to berate him he seems so nice and genuine
I've seen a lot of things how it was probably about "he's comfortable with sharing all this with me, he gets so excited about things like this! we're happy together, that's why he wouldn't cheat!" and i can't help but agree with them. Just decided to point that out in case you didnt see those comments :)
The "controlling girlfriend" one HAS to have been a joke, surely? If you watch it thinking they're serious is totally not okay, but if you watch it as if it were a comedy sketch, it's kind of funny.
I get it's a joke. I just feel like that brand of humor normalizes unhealthy relationships, demonizes "controlling" women, and berates men who don't assert control for the sake of it. What makes me even less comfortable is the age of these people. This joke was considered prime humor in the 1970s and 80s. It's born out of a fear of women taking over if they're given too many rights and feminism goes "too far".
The only straight who's okay in this collection is the guy in the last one lol, but he deserves better, someone who won't make fun of his interests for clout.
Like, seriously. Plus it just seems like the aura is weirdly smug from behind the camera? Like just because the guy has 'nerdy" interests that no one would want him and therefore she has her "claws" into him? Gross all around. >_>
Literally! He was so innovative and it was clearly a passion he was excited to share with the person he cares about! Like, I kinda date nerdy people on purpose, because I myself am nerdy and I love the passion for that kind of stuff, even if I don't like it or get it. I loved the whole thing he did with the floating stand and jetpack, and like he said, sucks since it was a rare figurine he got the jetpack from, but that still was cool! is it weird I was legitimately interested in what that man was on about, cause like, that's kinda how my best friend/ex acts about his nerd stuff I don't always get. I don't know a ton about Star Wars for example, but I like it okay, and I love to hear him ramble on about stuff he loves about it and how he'd go about problem solving, and try to understand, or at least acknowledge he's sharing something that brings him joy, and that makes me happy, lol
@@kiralonely if this isn't relationship with mutual respect, i don't want it I always thought if you love someone, you love their passion for hobbies. Like maybe you don't like fantasy, but it's adorable to watch your love ramble about it for hours(and maybe even get you interested). It's so easy to listen to your partner and everyone is thankful for someone who lends an ear
That one really left a bitter taste in my mouth. It's like his gf is trying to say 'Look how nerdy my bf is, he's so nerdy that he wouldn't be able to get another gf.' yikes lady...
"Females" is used most when talking about animals from what I see. Like in biology class we might talk about female specimens of like, rats or something, so it feels very icky to use if for people. Also, no one says "I need some males in my life", so if makes it even more icky that only women are talked about in non-human terms (in this situation).
The last guy with the Star Wars figures is actually a super sweet creator. Tbh I don’t think that trend was too bad because for the most part it I think the point is showing that your boyfriend has nerdy golden retriever energy, and therefore wouldn’t cheat on you
yea it’s a trend on tiktok has a bit of a weird feeling but for the most part i don’t think the ppl participating are trying to be mean to their partners, hopefully
That's what I hoped, cause it seemed like it was accidental to make it seem...Pretty rude- I can see how it was meant to be nice, but I can also see how it can be really rude, so-
Yeah. What I got from that video was more along the lines of "my boyfriend is perfectly comfortable rambling about his interests to me, showing that he trusts me completely and is therefore highly unlikely to cheat on me". Though perhaps my read on the video has been warped by my own discomfort with showing my interest in Star Wars to people lol.
That guy seems hella wholesome anyway, i relate to that "telling people you love stuff they may not like a ton, but they still listen cause they know i like it and it means i like them too"
i'm an old cishet married lady and that last one was not only incorrect it was just mean. no matter the fandom there are girls who are just as in to as any dude. it's one thing to joke and mess around with your partner but she's basically saying he's such a dork he CAN'T cheat on me, no one else would take him TO THE ENTIRE WORLD. girl he's not going to cheat on you, he's just going to leave you b/c you're mean.
As an asexual person I know sex does not define a relationship you can still be in a romantic relationship without being a time waster. Also Jamie Is literally the sweetest
@Agent Of Chaos 666 be who you are comfortable being and are happy with! It is your body so be proud of being aware and acknowledging something like this. It's a hard thing to accept when others are against it and I'm glad you acknowledge it. Just be happy and safe, that's all that matters! I'm similar in a way, people who call you certain slurs just are too close minded. A lot of my friends don't understand and are against it themselves, but they never put me down or give me hate for it. ^-^ I'm sure you will find some accepting people.
That marriage one is exactly why I don't wanna get married. The whole pressured commitment thing is so off putting to me. And the whole feminine flow thing made me feel so unbelievably uncomfortable and has further cemented the fact that I myself am indeed Trans. Thanks straight TikTok, I hate it
All relationships are built on open communication and trust No marriage should be a surprise, there should be a lot of discussion beforehand It should be a partnership not a dictatorship
I'm not married, but been in a perfectly good relationship for 23 years. I don't want all the expense and people pleasing and family politics. Happy how we are. He did ask, I said no and why. 🤗
The use of the word “female” is weird because female refers to any living organism, while a more appropriate term, “woman”, refers specifically to a human. Give that first guy a female otter. Under 5’6, and brown hair :)
I really can't tell if the woman in the last one is making fun of her boyfriend for his hobbies or being like "Look how dedicated he is to this, it's adorable and we are happy together"
I think if she were unsupportive of his hobbies, he wouldn't feel so comfortable making that whole (adorably) nerdy speech to her. He would probably keep that part of him to himself instead. I can see how the video could be mean, but I really think she's just saying "look how excited he is to tell me about this nerdy stuff, there's no way someone that jazzed to tell me about jetpacks would cheat!"
I think she made it with good intentions but it kind of made me uncomfortable tbh. Like, she's infantalizing him and desexualizing him, and so there's no way he would cheat because he's basically a dorky immature child? That's kind of the vibes it gave me.
@@katthebunnyqueen5189 I think she is really supportive, the reason being he was fully ok with telling her all about his hobby with seemingly no fear of judgment. I think she seems to think he’s just as cute as the comments do. It was a sweet TikTok for once.
O goodness. It's my 14 year old son in the future. And I'm down for him holding onto his passions. I hope he finds a person that loves and appreciates this passion.
if your GF shows up in a wedding dress and with a pastor and gives you an ultimatum, just say "well damn I'm sure glad I found out before we got married. Have a nice life."
To that guy who said he would pretend he was calling another girl, "I MAY have at some point in the future wanted to sleep with you but that attitude would turn into a hard nope, never, no thanks hope I don't see you again soon"
Exactly what I was thinking. He seemed to think that if a woman doesn't want to sleep with him one time, they will never want to sleep with him. Dude, it's doesn't work like that. Sometimes you're in the mood, sometimes you're not.
The last guy with the Star Wars figures is a friend of mine laughing at himself, he and his wife are both passionate Star Wars fans who love each other a lot! It makes sense in the context of his channel, but hard to tell out of context ☺️
I think the one where she filmed her boyfriend setting up his figurines was so sweet, he looked so wholesome and happy when he turned to face the camera
In regards to that “females”-related topic, I’ve always seen that any man who used that specific language, when not talking about anatomy or animals, it is always in a weird sort of possessive way. Like I’ve heard cis men talking about how “females like so-and-so” in regards to sex or sexual pursuits. It’s always been used in demeaning and dehumanizing ways. I’m always suspicious when I hear men talk like that-it’s a clear indication of what sort of personality they have
Okay, that last one with the guy gluing the jet pack on his collectable figure actually made me smile, that was adorable. I'd say those straights are okay. The others though? Nope.
Ok but the last one that guy having a hobby he's really passionate about, that was cute as heck! I love when people have hobbies they love and are super passionate about and aren't afraid of letting the world know!
"tell me your boyfriend won't cheat on you without telling me your boyfriend won't cheat on you" that guy is so cool tho??? like, i wanna be friends with him and talk about our mutual love for star wars and figurines
I feel horrible for the last guy, he seemed genuinely passionate about star wars. People should be allowed to be interested in things without being made fun of.
That last one just made me feel icky. Like the joke was “he’s too much of a nerd for anyone else to tolerate him.” It was such a sweet moment and it was used in such a gross way... I feel so bad for the guy
The joke is actually “aw my boyfriend is so sweet, nerdy, and happy in our relationship.” Like he’s sharing his interest with her and you can tell they talk about it all the time hence why he’s so comfortable and excited to tell her!
That "marry me now or we're over" thing . . . like, if you get to that point, you should already over, right? Not EVEN with the production that went into this whole scenario.
I think the last one was supposed to be adorable. The boyfriend doesn't have time to be unfaithful because he's way too busy making little jetpacks for his figurines.
How I know my boyfriend won’t cheat: We take naps together. Literally just nap and cuddle. Nothing more nothing less. And all sorts of people think it’s weird. But it works for us.
@@lokicooper4690 It’s cause sometimes we would visit each other just to nap together. We didn’t need much else, we talked sure but napping was comfortable to us.
Really shocked by the "how to get a girl to sleep with you" one, brought back very very traumatic memories. Manipulation and emotional blackmail is a predatory, rapist tactic... Still shaken. But Jamie's videos are always a gem (I just wish there was a TW for that one clip)
Hey, I realized something and didn't know where to share it, so here I am: I am the only menstruating being living in my house. I live with two other women, my mom and my sister, but my mom doesn't get periods anymore and my sister takes medicine to not get them because she gets such terrible cramps and headaches and her body just collapses everytime. So, I am the only menstruating being living in this house. If we were going by some transphobes' logic, I would be the only woman living here. See the problem? It just doesn't make sense. It's a logicless logic.
No, it absolutely is logic. Only it takes false premises and so comes to completely false conclusions. But the logic in itself is flawless. People overestimate "logic", thinking it means "sensible decisions".
@@elektra121 "reasoning conducted or assessed according to strict principles of validity. " I dunno, I'm not sure where you can fit "blatant falsehood as one's foundation" in here.
@@TheGreatBackUpVIDEOS Because the "reasoning" (=drawing conclusion according to valid principles) itself doesn't say anything about the validity of the premises. "If all A have the characteristic of being B" and "my subject is an A", then logic says it must have the characteristic of being B. "All things that are made out of frozen lemonade are pink. The moon is made out of frozen lemonade. So, the moon is pink." This is absolutely valid, flawless logic, even if being absolute bullshit at the same time, because the premises are wrong. Only because something is "logic" doesn't mean it says anything true about our world. Logic isn't truth. It can be, if the premises are true (which, in the cases that we talk about, aren't). But "logic" in itself doesn't say anything about the applicability of the conclusions to our world. So, the guys conclusions are absolutely wrong while being absolutely logic acvording to his false premises. I know it sounds weird.
Im not even an asexual , ( I'm trying to figure out for sometime if I'm actually a demi) ..He could have simply talked and tried to know her a bit better , at least a few days ..before calling her a time waster. It totally disgusts me .
This is actually the only one that the woman is being creepy. He's just supporting her in her exercises. The movements are dancelike and graceful. She's making it uncomfortable with her comments. Why does she think she has to be "yummy" and "juicy"? There's your ew factor.
@@jay_art3032 oh no💔 you can have my fyp it has a lot of lgbtqia+ stuff, art, birds, nails honestly anything except straight stuff and yk anyway so I will gladly share mine with you to get u off of there.
I just told a guy the other day that talking about Star Wars is actually really sexy for me. I’m not even lying. So that’s last TikTok was absolutely the cutest freaking thing on the planet and now I’m smiling like an idiot.
I think the last one was about how he talks about his figurines to his partner like he knew her his whole life. If my boyfriend would talk like that to me I would trust him too tbh
For people who don’t know: The guy in the last video has a podcast call “The Rexin Around Show” and he and his friends talk about Star Wars and always preach about how the fans are toxic. In my opinion they are the best part of the fandom. His wife, who is also a Star Wars fan, filmed the video. She did not mean it as making fun of him. I keep seeing comments saying that she was being mean posting that but, as far as I know, he is the one who runs the account and he is also the one that got her into Star Wars.
tbh I really liked the last one! sure, part of the joke was "haha he's such a nerd" but also that little glimpse into their relationship showed that he has, in the past, shared a really big interest of his that's clearly very important to him, and she listened and paid attention. he clearly felt very comfortable sharing all that with her and I think that's v cute
Jami, I just wanted to say thank you! I just found out I'm a trans guy and your videos have helped me learn so much! They're also much more relatable now, and very funny in general! I hope everyone has a good day!
Hello everyone, I hope you all have a fantastic weekend. Don't listen to anyone in your life who tells you that you are something your not, you are valid and always will be. Your a strong person and and while life may seem bleak you just have to focus on the fact that it will get better although I know personally how hard that is. It's easier to focus on your present instead of thinking about what will happen in the future, but you will get there. Never stop being your true self, I know for a fact that your are a beautiful person inside and out. Also remember to reach out via the comments anytime you want: Sincerely, your virtual parent.
Hey cactus! Hope you’re having a great day. I’m really struggling with school and stuff while being very confused about my identity, so your comments never fail to make me feel better. Thanks
Hello Cactus. I hope you are doing well. I’m just popping in to let you know I’m still here, although I’m not sure how long that’s going to last. Please tell the others that I miss them and I’m trying to think of ways to come back to the server, and that they can get through whatever they’re going through. Stay strong :)
I got harassed by homophobes today. These teens (who are a large family of about seven brothers) assumed that me and my friend are gay and they chased us home on bikes and threw mud in my eye (there is still a piece in the back of my eye that won’t come out) and threw sticks at us while shouting homophobic slurs. I’m glad it wasn’t worse bcz ppl have had horrific things happen but this needs to stop.
I also hate being referred to as a "female" and I'm a cis woman. It's just always felt condescending. and slightly offensive to me, I guess because it's always been used that way towards me.🤷♀️
the use of “females” for women is very dehumanizing... like with “females” you can be referring to any creature that happens to be female. hearing it always gives me slimy vibes
7:30 I'm so sorry, but this is so cute how he's just talking. It's adorable~ Seems like a joke, but he was just so passionate talking about his figurines that it would suck if she didn't care
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Straight TikTok is basically just emotionally abusive relationship TikTok.
I’ve never read a truer statement in my life
Yes I say that everytime I scroll through shorts
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I've definitely seen videos that are just a tutorial for how to gaslight your girlfriend. Definitely some sketch peeps on there.
@@meepmoopiethe3rd And I've seen video of guys pretending to be rapists on ther too... tiktok is a nasty place unles you're gay or trans...
That guy talking about how to "deal" with women who don't want to sleep with you actually made me physically sick to my stomach
Kind of made me feel that the woman he's trying to manipulate might realize she's in a position to dodge a bullet and would get out of there fast.
I know right? Ugh he's horrible.
And just how many women want to sleep with now? Is he aware that women can see tiktok too or is he just dumb? Ugh!
Someone should send that video to his mother. Aunt. Grandmother.
Yup! Nasty, nasty guy.
I feel like the underlying assumption that "my boyfriend is too nerdy to cheat" and I don't like that. It's your personality and morals that keep you from cheating, not your interests.
Whenever they say my boyfriend or girlfriend is "too nerdy to cheat," it's just a low-key way of saying "they're too ugly to cheat." People who say such things need to be immediately dumped! 😆
Completely understand the sentiment of your statement (bc cheating can happen to and from anyone, and I've def gotten cheated on by someone who was/is a huge nerd and anime fan), but in this case iirc the tiktoker and bf are actually pretty sweet so just going based on that in this instance I think she was saying that her bf has hobbies that he's clearly comfortable with sharing them with her (iirc they're both star wars fans too). I really don't think it was exploitive. However, I've definitely seen degrading versions of this tiktok and it's very upsetting.
Its a personality trait alot of nerds have thats why girls trust them more
Exactly.
Also being a nerd doesn't make you not a misogynist... Just look at the Big Bang Theory it is misogynist as fck and they're all supposed to be " adorable nerds"
That star wars dude didn't deserve that. He's a sweet passionate dude just trying to vibe with his hobbies. Plenty of people would love someone like that.
He really didn't, I don't understand why it would have anything to do with faithfulness, there are many people out there who would share his interest and want to date him, and even people who don't, it's possible to not like something and still respect it, it's so stupid and full of stereotypes.
Exactly. If she doesn't want to appreciate him and his interests I'll happily do so. Though he and my other partner might get along so well they could forget I was there... lol Risk I'm willing to take because he was so adorable.
He reminded me of my boyfriend, honestly. It's so nice when people talk about things they're passionate about, and he was obviously excited to he able to share his thoughts about something he loves. It made me really sad knowing why that video of him was even taken.
@@werewolf-mp3 Honestly that video made me more happy than mad because I was like "Aww how cute!". But I think videos like this are fine if the partner is in on the joke which in both cases they were.
Exactly. Imagine if this guy sees his gf's video later and reads comments that make fun of him for being passionate about sth. He deserves better and I hope he in fact will never cheat on this woman because there no longer is a 'them',
"My yummy and juicy feminine flow" is a phrase I hope I never hear again.
It honestly looks like some weird parody that would be on a show like "Parks and Recreation" or "Superstore." xD Like, people actually unironically do this crap? xD
I don't get grossed out by a sentences but i think that line was the first that made me wish ii didn't have an imagination
I FUCKING SNORTED MY COKE PUT MY NOSYRILS
i am in physical pain after hearing that phrase
That phrase sounds like something you'd read in a really shitty romance/erotica novel. Like the r/menwritingwomen kind of novel.
"His masculine supoort and structure allows me to surrender even deeper into my yummy and juicy feminine flow" sounds like a line straight out of 50 shades of gray.
It sounds like a line that got *edited out* of “50 Shades of Gray” because the Ick Factor was too high.
@@juniper617 fr
Lmaoooo isn't it?? 😭
why is this exactly what I thought about when I watched it???
God that line was so disgusting. Who tf refers to feminine energy like that? Heck! Just saying "feminine energy" sounds cringy af. I wanna shoot myself for reading that and saying the other thing!
The reason why "ugly" girls talk more is because you're paying attention to what they're saying instead of daydreaming about sleeping with them
🐊
The tea is extra hot today
True lol
Love this, I'm glad someone understands this
@@slimetank394 it is *scolding*
friendly reminder that consent is freely-given, informed, and ongoing!!!! if someone only has sex with you bc you manipulated them into it, it wasn’t consensual!!!
This honestly needs to be said more
Enthusiastic consent is top tier, don't settle for less!
I got that extra spicy (and consensual) 69th like
This reminds me of FRIES (from Planned Parenthood)! Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific. Consent is important for anything!
This, ffs yes this !!!
“i brought the pastor, i brought emily-“
emily: *waves*
IM SORRY THAT WAS TOO FUNNY PLEASE THE POOR GUY
How is there a thousand likes and no comments, let’s change that!
Ugh the guy talking about girls being time wasters when they don't sleep with him is absolutely horrible. The way he talked about it like it is normal to manipulate people into sex by making them insecure makes me sick to my stomach. I pity every woman in his life.
AMEN
Amen
Amen
If a guy pulls some shit like that on me, I'll be the one glad for getting rid of a time-waster, I'll just be mad he didn't show his true colors sooner...
@@koalaeucalyptus I'm more worried about the girls that don't have that confidence :/
Let's all just appreciate that Jamie had to find and watch the cringiest cishet tiktoks so we don't have to
I mean we did end up watching them, just through a happy yellow spud filter
We don’t have to? I- didn’t we watch them too?
We shared the watching with him.
@@marlyd perfect explanation
His fyp is going to stay dirty for weeks 😭
Spoiler alert: someone being a "nerd" or passionate about their hobbies doesn't make them immune to cheating on you.
Source: personal experience.
Oh i am so sorry
Yup scum bags come with all types of interests
Another one of those "positive" stereotypes that are actually just harmful.
Agreed I dated 3 guys who were nerdy and gamers, and they either cheated, assaulted, or threatened me 😃
@@stargirl1589 oh that’s *great*
Don't worry, I promise that all cis women find people calling us "females" slightly uncomfortable as well
it just gives off MASSIVE incel/antifeminist vibes. I did know one guy with English as a second language who had no clue it had that connotation though and stopped immediately when I said so that's something to bear in mind
I agree
Yes! It feel weird and analytical, definitely incel vibes
It's dehumanizing
I come from a farming background so whenever a guy refers to women as females, I automatically think about livestock and so I feel as if those men see us as such. Like we’re a breed of some species and not individual human beings. It’s gross.
The use of the word “females” to described human women feels dehumanizing to me.
Yes! Exactly! We’re not animals! It’s just plain gross! Hell, I’d be upset if people started calling men “males,” because that’s rude too
I think for me it depends on the context. If you say “there’s so many females there” it’s kinda dehumanising, but if you say “being female is probably tiring” for some reason I don’t find that offensive
@@mavisseafoam yeah, there's def a difference between medical/scientific context and casual context. As someone who was afab, it is gross to be called female in casual context and not just because of dysphoria.
@@mavisseafoam I would agree, I think the difference there is "being a female" vs "being female" as well. If someone says the former, unless they're also saying "males", it definitely comes off in the uncomfortable/objectifying way.
@@mavisseafoam I think generally the difference you're thinking about is the adjective vs the noun! Female is more often used as an adjective, whereas the noun form is almost exclusively used either in science or by sexists, because "woman" is universally preferred by most people. The noun form of "female" often feels clunky in this context, and you're left sort of looking for a noun (person or human) that isn't present.
Edit: Also, outside of science, female (adj) is generally "of or pertaining to *women*" and the correct noun form for like 99% of sentences would be woman, not female. For example, "female sports" is "sports for women," "female washrooms" are "the women's room," etc. etc. So when somebody uses the noun female, they're going out of their way to not use the term woman, and we instinctively question their motives. Like calling a burger "sustenance." Yeah, it's technically true... but why aren't you calling it food?
Ok, but can we appreciate the one dude get so happy about his star wars figurines. That's adorable FIFNGKRKVKRKD
Totally agreed. Like, being nerdy doesn’t mean you can’t cheat, but that guy was just so frickin cute
Also, that tiktok gave me the vibe of "oh, my bf is too nerdy to successfully pick up another girl" and that's just shitty
@@marias-i3333 like I in no way support cheating, nor would want to be a side chick, but damn I love nerdy boys getting excited over their fandom things. AND I love star wars, so damn yes he could get me lol.
Yess i love the collection its so cool i wanna get a collection like that
Fell for a clone wars nerd myself. If that girl thinks extensive knowledge of the 332nd isnt a turn on, she's in for a rude awakening.
One of my pet peeves is people being condescending against guys who have "nerdy" interests
Exactly, I love nerdy guys it makes me so happy when they start talking about the things they love and they just light up its rly cute honestly
Edit: also I get nerdy about things too so it's nice to not be judged when I hyperfixate on something for a month and can only talk about that specific thing... currently it's werewolves...
@@ducky5277 It's just like listening to toddlers tell stories. You might not understand what they're talking about fully, but seeing their interest and how happy they are just is amazing.
@@ducky5277 Literally, almost all of my guy friends *are* nerdy (I am too lmao), like legit they are my people so I don't understand why it's bad to seem nerdy or not as masculine. Like, nerdy people are amazing human beings and I love them all
Not to mention it's kind of humiliating for autistic people like me, it feels like they're saying I'm not worthy of love because I'm autistic and that I'm lucky I found someone who tolerates me
@@moiaussi7722 yeah I’m getting the same vibes
Nothing wrong with having special interests and talking about them with loved ones! This video makes it seem like that may be a bad thing and that’s sad, he seems so genuinely happy he figured out the jet pack :(
I HATE the jokes about men being put on the spot to say their girlfriend or wife is beautiful and good for them or else she'll be mad. It perpetuates the idea that all women are shallow and want lip service for validation. If you have to be forced to say your partner is someone you find beautiful and beneficial to your life, then it's not a good relationship. Why are you even there?
She cornered me in a Target. I panicked
Side note: I like the colors in you pictures. I have the demi version beside my name at my work teams space.
I like your profil picture
@@theomacer3094 I wasn't talking about the Target video. My comment was in response to the video of the guy reading signs his wife was holding up behind the camera.
@@karinelfwing9095 That's cool that you get to be out in your workplace.
there should never be a ‘but’ after the words “i respect your boundaries.” ever.
I disagree
"I respect your boundaries, BUT you've got to respect mine too"
@@cursingsteak0124 i feel like thats an "and" type of situation tho
@@cursingsteak0124 That's the only but that's acceptable.
@@cursingsteak0124 no because if you're saying but that means if they don't want to respect your bonderies you can do what ever you want to them too
"I'm going trans" sounds like what you'd yell before transforming into a magical girl with a trans pride themed outfit
edit: wait guys i just realized.. magical girl TRANSformation
How do I aquire such an outfit? Am not trans myself but I've got several friends who I'm sure would be quite interested
@@kae41 ok so first ur gonna have to locate a magical amulet that will give u transgender powers-
@@rosey5743 and it’s coloured blue white and pink and it’s like in your heart?-
I want this-
We need a Sailor Moon or Cardcaptor Sakura reboot where the magical girl is trans. 🪄
That dude who was saying what to do when a girl doesn’t want to sleep with you-
Like sir that is just using pressure and manipulation to get what you want I am still so surprised that people actually think and act like this what is wrong with human beings
It's kinda illegal
At least we women know who to avoid now, so he made it easy for us lol
@@TertiaryQuota hah yes
Plus, not now doesn’t mean they are “wasting your time” or aren’t planning on sleeping with you ever (also, how degrading is that, he thinks if she’s not going to sleep with him then he has no reason to spend time with her. He literally only cares about sex with this person). She could be on her period, be waiting until marriage/a certain time/ a certain relationship milestone, or just not feel ready yet.
@@bluegirl278 Yeah, the only person who is wasting their time here is the guy himself, since he doesn’t seem to understand what a relationship is. If he thinks he’s entitled to have sex at any time without considering the thoughts of whoever is unfortunate enough to date him at the moment, he’s better off doing it with an inanimate object for the rest of his life. He’s looking for one anyway.
Me - A female who is 5’6 and a brunette
Also me - *Scared lesbian screeching*
*Bisexual bellowing*
*asexual anguish*
*Pan panicking*
*aromantic attacking*
I absolutely adore these replies
I think that even if the Target couple got married, their relationship would be doomed and end in divorce a year or 2 later. You can't pressure and publicly humiliate your partner into marriage...
who would say yes in that situation?Maybe it was her way of coping, a bit dramatic but definitive at last
Amen you right
Or they would annul the marriage in seconds.
I don't think it was real, though: the white collar of the "pastor" wasn't fitting under the collar of the shirt
@@OrontesRM According to some articles that I briefly viewed on the internet, it is indeed fake. Which doesn't really restore any faith, but it is something at least
Me explaining to my friends the difference between straight people and THE straights.
its the same as trying too Explain "boys" and "THE BOYS🥶🔥😈"
@@jellybeans3994 they are 😳
Maybe they need their own flag?!😅😐
@@blackcopycat4967 what's THE BOYS?
@@skyee7 its just of homophobic, misogynist little boys.
I feel like the guy with the wife holding up the notes was actually poking fun at the straights who are in miserable relationships but pretend they're not.
same i actually laughed
Yeah that one made me laugh
That’s what I was thinking
Same
Yes, he was, it was an ironic video, even though not wery good. I mean, it is a joke, but not a good one.
I also think female is kind of frustrating bc men have used it in a negative way to speak down to women. You know, saying shit like, “do this right now, woman!” or “All females are [insert negative adjective here].”
yeah! then there's the fact that they're using an adjective as a noun… really makes it feel like that's all they see you as
It’s super dehumanizing. I hate it.
Yep, only gotten worse with pickup artists and incels talking about women as a group pretty much exclusively as “females” (or worse variations thereof), and the way the language of “getting a female”, “finding a female” etc has spread from that world to dudebros and pretty much into mainstream use
I almost prefer the days when “getting pussy” was the most overused expression, because at least that’s honest and direct about what they’re referring to, and it was limited to hookup context; it’s worse when the entire person is reduced to that in much broader contexts
Also it, unlike 'woman', doesn't exclude girls, which also feels very off.
Its got the same energy as calling black people "Blacks" Like its super weird borderline offensive
The woman going to the supermarket to get the dude to marry her felt like an episode of Superstore
I like to imagine the manager coming out and saying "Ma'am, this is a Target."
What is it ? ;;
Putting someone on the spot like this is not ok.
@@BahamutEx exactly
@@akitokutikabanae7010 It's a sitcom that ran its last season this year, really good one.
Other people:
I'm testing beauty products so you dont have to.
Jamie:
I'm testing straight people so you dont have to.
Your pfp is fuckin beautiful
Like, setting the gayness aside, the colors just look so fuckin good together.
i test straight ppl everyday by being trans and gay
my name is jamie so i got confused for a hot second
I'm straight so I can test myself lol
I've always felt that when people say "females" it's kinda objectifying women (or who they see as women), because it's stripping us down to our reproductive organs and stuff. It's not really the word per say, but the way they use it, because they never say "males" they always say "men"
Yeah, it's so pretentious and condescending. Like they're documenting an animal species
It's because they don't see women as ✨human beings✨
this is is thank you for putting it in words
if I say this out loud, I'll get laughed at and called "sensitive" because it's so difficult to explain WHY dudes using "female" in that specific tone is so icky and uncomfy. I think all women feel this way. it's just... creepy and gives you an idea of what kind of person that man is but if anyone asked me to explain WHY "female" is such a telling word, I wouldn't be able to explain it.
I ways assumed they were either implying women aren't human OR avoiding using terms with age connotations like "woman" or "girl" because they don't want to discuss their possible preference for underage partners. I've never met a "females" dude who expressed a consistent desire to date women over 18, no matter how old he happened to be. It was always, "Get'em young before feminism happens to them (and before they develop an adult personality)."
I saw the title of the video and I just shouted, “NOPE.”
lmaooo same bestie
same😭✋🏻 saw the title and was like "is that even a question??"
I went "is this even a valid question its a known fact they aren't"
Same thoooo 😂
And that's no lie
The guy responding with his wife holding up cue cards in the mirror was hilarious. That one was 100% a joke just meant to be funny. The other things...They’re lucky I can’t reach through my phone and smack them.
Yep, a joke, but not a good one. I feel like it just perpetuates the stereotype of "controlling women".
@@rekwa3860 yeah it normalizes the misogynistic idea that women just want to control and harm men, as well as makes light of abusive relationships.
The trope is gross. Yes it's a framed as a joke but it's a really tired one.
Straight tiktok is either weird flexing, misogyny, or things that should just be private.
How bout all three
@@moiaussi7722 yeah
I'm glad that I didn't know straight tiktok existed when I was using the app
bruh if the girl doesn’t want to sleep with you, she doesn’t want to sleep with you. and that’s on periodt. no excuses.
What if - and stop me if I'm being too crazy here - women aren't just sexual objects that can be thrown away when we say "no". What if women are people who have feelings and don't just want to sleep with a guy and actually want to get to know them and potentially fall in love and have a future. I know it's 2021 and my ideas are insane and futuristic but hear me out guys... 🙄
No, no... You might be on to something... Could it be... Is... Is the prophecy true?!
woah thats unbelievable 😰
Oh my god. . . I think you might be on to something. . . Your a genius
honestly the concept is just too grand to be understood
Oh my god…it’s like…so brilliant…i think my mind has just been bloowwwn 😳😮😱😱🤯🤯🤯
notice when the whole "super straight" tiktok phase was going on, *not many women came out as transphobic* (coming from a trans guy)
Yup, I've only seen cishet men call themselves super straight.
Honestly. The majority of the videos of ppl saying they’re “super straight” were men. Those were most the ppl that supported it. I did see a couple women making videos in support but it’s rare
Venesa vokey and posie parker said they were super straight. Maybe it’s just not as common. Maybe more men desire biological children then women but I don’t know for sure.
@@grizzlybear2702 it's nothing to do with desiring biological children. Just a thin veil over their transphobia, which is in turn, a thin veil over their homophobia and fear of being pinned as "gay"
@@grizzlybear2702 I can guarantee these men do not care about procreating, they only care about recreating- and recreating only in a certain specific way that they've decided is the right way. That's why they get so personally offended that attractive trans people exist because it challenges their ideas on how sexual relationships work
I'm straight and straight tiktok still scares me 😫 what is happening
🤣🤣
I’m a straight 19 yr old dude myself and even I struggle with what the hell is going on with my peers
Me watching most of these tiktoks: Ok,then, just why? Can’t you be slightly normal and ok if people are slightly different from a “perfect person”.
Same me too
Because most straight tik tok is abuse/ misogyny
"Females" is also kind of objectifying. Especially when "females" is used to describe women and "dudes", "guys" or "men" etc is used to describe men in the same sentence....
yeah it's used by guys who are trying to manipulate them, like, those pick up artists who teach men how to manipulate women
When you say it like that, yes, totally objectifying/dehumanizing. If "males" isn't used in the same sentence, then it totally feels that way.
It’s reducing women to their biology
"Tell me how you know your boyfriend won't cheat on you without telling me he won't cheat on you"
Proceeds to film her boyfriend being very adorable and nerdy. I mean come on, who wouldn't want to sleep with that man? Or was her point supposed to be that he's too interested in his figurines to cheat? I'm so confused
Her point was that he won't find anyone to cheat on her with because he's a nerd
for my sanity i choose to believe she was just showcasing how her bf is like wholesome and sweet
@@enter_eagle I like that interpretation best. It didn't feel like that when I was watching it, but I'm gonna choose to believe it anyways
honestly, i refuse to believe she meant it in a bad way-
i looked at that tik tok and thought, “wow. maybe they’re really comfortable with each other, and he can talk freely about his hobbies and interests and he trusts her” or smth-
Uno reverse card, now everyone is attracted to your cute star wars boyfriend
The guy with the action figures excitedly explaining that to his girlfriend is so wholesome and adorable on his part to bad she was just filming it to berate him he seems so nice and genuine
I've seen a lot of things how it was probably about "he's comfortable with sharing all this with me, he gets so excited about things like this! we're happy together, that's why he wouldn't cheat!" and i can't help but agree with them. Just decided to point that out in case you didnt see those comments :)
If a person started making booty calls in response of me not wanting "adult fun time", all I would be is very happy about the choice I made.
do i sense a One Topic fan???
@@aidenharkrider8132 You do indeed! 😄
Big same. *Oh, all you wanted from me was sex? Glad I’m getting rid of a time waster.*
Literally.... respect my choice and if you want to gft it from someone else go ahead I'm still not gonna f**k you..I'll happily leave
And then I'd run the hell away from him as fast as possible.
The "controlling girlfriend" one HAS to have been a joke, surely? If you watch it thinking they're serious is totally not okay, but if you watch it as if it were a comedy sketch, it's kind of funny.
100% a joke. She's positioned perfectly in the mirror.
I get it's a joke. I just feel like that brand of humor normalizes unhealthy relationships, demonizes "controlling" women, and berates men who don't assert control for the sake of it.
What makes me even less comfortable is the age of these people. This joke was considered prime humor in the 1970s and 80s. It's born out of a fear of women taking over if they're given too many rights and feminism goes "too far".
That was some serious boomer humour
The only straight who's okay in this collection is the guy in the last one lol, but he deserves better, someone who won't make fun of his interests for clout.
Like, seriously. Plus it just seems like the aura is weirdly smug from behind the camera? Like just because the guy has 'nerdy" interests that no one would want him and therefore she has her "claws" into him? Gross all around. >_>
Literally! He was so innovative and it was clearly a passion he was excited to share with the person he cares about! Like, I kinda date nerdy people on purpose, because I myself am nerdy and I love the passion for that kind of stuff, even if I don't like it or get it. I loved the whole thing he did with the floating stand and jetpack, and like he said, sucks since it was a rare figurine he got the jetpack from, but that still was cool!
is it weird I was legitimately interested in what that man was on about, cause like, that's kinda how my best friend/ex acts about his nerd stuff I don't always get. I don't know a ton about Star Wars for example, but I like it okay, and I love to hear him ramble on about stuff he loves about it and how he'd go about problem solving, and try to understand, or at least acknowledge he's sharing something that brings him joy, and that makes me happy, lol
@@kiralonely if this isn't relationship with mutual respect, i don't want it
I always thought if you love someone, you love their passion for hobbies. Like maybe you don't like fantasy, but it's adorable to watch your love ramble about it for hours(and maybe even get you interested). It's so easy to listen to your partner and everyone is thankful for someone who lends an ear
@Marilyn Matt what?
That one really left a bitter taste in my mouth. It's like his gf is trying to say 'Look how nerdy my bf is, he's so nerdy that he wouldn't be able to get another gf.' yikes lady...
"Females" is used most when talking about animals from what I see. Like in biology class we might talk about female specimens of like, rats or something, so it feels very icky to use if for people. Also, no one says "I need some males in my life", so if makes it even more icky that only women are talked about in non-human terms (in this situation).
The last guy with the Star Wars figures is actually a super sweet creator. Tbh I don’t think that trend was too bad because for the most part it I think the point is showing that your boyfriend has nerdy golden retriever energy, and therefore wouldn’t cheat on you
yea it’s a trend on tiktok
has a bit of a weird feeling but for the most part i don’t think the ppl participating are trying to be mean to their partners, hopefully
That's what I hoped, cause it seemed like it was accidental to make it seem...Pretty rude-
I can see how it was meant to be nice, but I can also see how it can be really rude, so-
Yeah. What I got from that video was more along the lines of "my boyfriend is perfectly comfortable rambling about his interests to me, showing that he trusts me completely and is therefore highly unlikely to cheat on me".
Though perhaps my read on the video has been warped by my own discomfort with showing my interest in Star Wars to people lol.
That guy seems hella wholesome anyway, i relate to that "telling people you love stuff they may not like a ton, but they still listen cause they know i like it and it means i like them too"
He was so sweet. I am now very interested in star wars action figures. I need to know more!
i'm an old cishet married lady and that last one was not only incorrect it was just mean. no matter the fandom there are girls who are just as in to as any dude. it's one thing to joke and mess around with your partner but she's basically saying he's such a dork he CAN'T cheat on me, no one else would take him TO THE ENTIRE WORLD. girl he's not going to cheat on you, he's just going to leave you b/c you're mean.
The "Tell me" ones are basically "Tell me your relationship is unhealthy without telling me your relationship is unhealthy"
As an asexual person I know sex does not define a relationship you can still be in a romantic relationship without being a time waster. Also Jamie Is literally the sweetest
@The Emo Trans Bimbo both are completely valid
@The Confused Pansexual Emo oh ☹️ I’m sorry I didn’t know if the other person/people is okay with it then why do others care? 😔
@The Confused Pansexual Emo that’s true 😞and that’s sad
@Agent Of Chaos 666 be who you are comfortable being and are happy with! It is your body so be proud of being aware and acknowledging something like this. It's a hard thing to accept when others are against it and I'm glad you acknowledge it. Just be happy and safe, that's all that matters! I'm similar in a way, people who call you certain slurs just are too close minded. A lot of my friends don't understand and are against it themselves, but they never put me down or give me hate for it. ^-^ I'm sure you will find some accepting people.
THANK YOU!!! As a fellow acespec, this is so true
That marriage one is exactly why I don't wanna get married. The whole pressured commitment thing is so off putting to me. And the whole feminine flow thing made me feel so unbelievably uncomfortable and has further cemented the fact that I myself am indeed Trans. Thanks straight TikTok, I hate it
All relationships are built on open communication and trust
No marriage should be a surprise, there should be a lot of discussion beforehand
It should be a partnership not a dictatorship
Tbh I want to get married because it'll make a cool party but I don't really think anything would change in my relationship before and after marriage
to be fair anyone would hate the stupid "feminine flow" thing. It's the stupidest shit ive ever heard.
I'm not married, but been in a perfectly good relationship for 23 years. I don't want all the expense and people pleasing and family politics. Happy how we are. He did ask, I said no and why. 🤗
@The Emo Trans Bimbo I don't see any mistakes in their reply, but your reply has a mistake.
The use of the word “female” is weird because female refers to any living organism, while a more appropriate term, “woman”, refers specifically to a human. Give that first guy a female otter. Under 5’6, and brown hair :)
I really can't tell if the woman in the last one is making fun of her boyfriend for his hobbies or being like "Look how dedicated he is to this, it's adorable and we are happy together"
I think if she were unsupportive of his hobbies, he wouldn't feel so comfortable making that whole (adorably) nerdy speech to her. He would probably keep that part of him to himself instead. I can see how the video could be mean, but I really think she's just saying "look how excited he is to tell me about this nerdy stuff, there's no way someone that jazzed to tell me about jetpacks would cheat!"
I think she made it with good intentions but it kind of made me uncomfortable tbh. Like, she's infantalizing him and desexualizing him, and so there's no way he would cheat because he's basically a dorky immature child? That's kind of the vibes it gave me.
@@eshiboo Yeah, that was what had me confused. My guess what she intended it to be what Paige said, but it comes off wrong.
7:25 he seems like such a wholesome, sweet and passionate guy and I feel like his partner doesn't appreciate him in the way that he deserves it :/
I know right?? That one made me so sad! :(
I hope she does appreciate him and his interest and is just showing he's too wholesome to cheat?
@@raemorefield4677 I really hope that's what she meant but I have a feeling she didn't and that makes me sad
@@katthebunnyqueen5189 I think she is really supportive, the reason being he was fully ok with telling her all about his hobby with seemingly no fear of judgment. I think she seems to think he’s just as cute as the comments do. It was a sweet TikTok for once.
O goodness. It's my 14 year old son in the future. And I'm down for him holding onto his passions. I hope he finds a person that loves and appreciates this passion.
if your GF shows up in a wedding dress and with a pastor and gives you an ultimatum, just say "well damn I'm sure glad I found out before we got married. Have a nice life."
To that guy who said he would pretend he was calling another girl, "I MAY have at some point in the future wanted to sleep with you but that attitude would turn into a hard nope, never, no thanks hope I don't see you again soon"
Exactly what I was thinking. He seemed to think that if a woman doesn't want to sleep with him one time, they will never want to sleep with him. Dude, it's doesn't work like that. Sometimes you're in the mood, sometimes you're not.
His eww at 6:35 made me laugh so hard. You can tell he is genuinely disgusted
The last guy with the Star Wars figures is a friend of mine laughing at himself, he and his wife are both passionate Star Wars fans who love each other a lot! It makes sense in the context of his channel, but hard to tell out of context ☺️
I think the one where she filmed her boyfriend setting up his figurines was so sweet, he looked so wholesome and happy when he turned to face the camera
In regards to that “females”-related topic, I’ve always seen that any man who used that specific language, when not talking about anatomy or animals, it is always in a weird sort of possessive way. Like I’ve heard cis men talking about how “females like so-and-so” in regards to sex or sexual pursuits. It’s always been used in demeaning and dehumanizing ways. I’m always suspicious when I hear men talk like that-it’s a clear indication of what sort of personality they have
I would like but it’s at the perfect number 😔🤚
When we say
“the straights” most the time we mean “the jackass straights” lol
@@loisa2pa868 Yeah there is being straight, and then there are 'the straights'
"Are the straights okay?"
Oh no.
"ON TIK TOK!"
OH NO!!!
oh no no no no no no
Okay, that last one with the guy gluing the jet pack on his collectable figure actually made me smile, that was adorable. I'd say those straights are okay. The others though? Nope.
No, THIS straight is okay, his girlfriend making fun of his passion isn't :(
I thought that the
"m y w i f e i s n o t c o n t r o l l i n g m y l i f e"
One was pretty funny actually.
I mean, at least his wife was in on it. XD
Ok but the last one that guy having a hobby he's really passionate about, that was cute as heck! I love when people have hobbies they love and are super passionate about and aren't afraid of letting the world know!
"tell me your boyfriend won't cheat on you without telling me your boyfriend won't cheat on you" that guy is so cool tho??? like, i wanna be friends with him and talk about our mutual love for star wars and figurines
I feel horrible for the last guy, he seemed genuinely passionate about star wars. People should be allowed to be interested in things without being made fun of.
Yea
Stakuyi's wife kinda does that too and it's sometimes funny but sometimes it's just... Oof.
the straights(TM) are never ok, but they are especially not ok on tiktok
Not all straights are like that.
@@beanvillus we know that, but some are like that
@@imaneclair4836 Yeah, (to me) it just sounded like "the straights" like "all straights", so I just wanted to clarify that.
@@beanvillus nah memes are 100% true of everyone.
@@beanvillus yeah that’s fair not all of them are bad but just these ones on tiktok need to stop haha
That last one, giving him a jetpack and a floating stand, that was adorable.
The guy really said “I’m going trans 😤” as if he’s saying something like “I’m going sicko mode 😤”
Can we just give a sec to our good sir One Topic? Like Dudes I didn't even know he wasn't bi till he told us and I love him even more for it-
OT is bi?
i don’t remember him outright saying it, what episode was that in?
Isnt OT straight? I thought he was just a mega ally or something.
Wait OT is bi? I never even knew that, he’s always been seen as the best ally lol.
Wait he’s bi?!!!!!
When jammie wants to say it's "uncomfortable"
Jammie : that's ✨ interesting✨
I asked my SO, "If a guy says Female, what's your first thought?"
Without missing a beat, they say, "Incel..."
That last one just made me feel icky. Like the joke was “he’s too much of a nerd for anyone else to tolerate him.” It was such a sweet moment and it was used in such a gross way... I feel so bad for the guy
The joke is actually “aw my boyfriend is so sweet, nerdy, and happy in our relationship.” Like he’s sharing his interest with her and you can tell they talk about it all the time hence why he’s so comfortable and excited to tell her!
That "marry me now or we're over" thing . . . like, if you get to that point, you should already over, right? Not EVEN with the production that went into this whole scenario.
I just want to know how she convinced the pastor to go along with this tho
The word "females" makes me uncomfy but the *"juicy"* female energy makes me very uncomfy
I think the last one was supposed to be adorable. The boyfriend doesn't have time to be unfaithful because he's way too busy making little jetpacks for his figurines.
Yea but it’s still weird that your interests decide wether you can cheat or not but yea I agree it was slightly wholesome
You know you’re early when it counts the time it was released in seconds. Oh boy am I scared for what will be found on straight tiktok >_
Memento mori
Memento mori :)
Memento Mori
Unus annus, momento mori my friend
I wasn’t there for Unnus Annus. I associate Memento Mori with A Series Of Unfortunate Events
How I know my boyfriend won’t cheat:
We take naps together. Literally just nap and cuddle. Nothing more nothing less.
And all sorts of people think it’s weird. But it works for us.
What's wrong with taking naps and cuddling? I don't get why anyone would think that was weird. Go you and your boyfriend!
@@lokicooper4690 It’s cause sometimes we would visit each other just to nap together. We didn’t need much else, we talked sure but napping was comfortable to us.
I would really love to find someone one day who I know won't cheat on me.
Really shocked by the "how to get a girl to sleep with you" one, brought back very very traumatic memories. Manipulation and emotional blackmail is a predatory, rapist tactic... Still shaken.
But Jamie's videos are always a gem (I just wish there was a TW for that one clip)
You know, Christmas tree shopping is always SO hard when you’re not
The amount of stores ive been kicked out of because im 5"6.5' is countless. •~•
I'll go Christmas tree shopping with you.
Im so lucky for being non binary, 6'1 and purple haired
I'm 5'7" and blonde
Hey, I realized something and didn't know where to share it, so here I am:
I am the only menstruating being living in my house. I live with two other women, my mom and my sister, but my mom doesn't get periods anymore and my sister takes medicine to not get them because she gets such terrible cramps and headaches and her body just collapses everytime.
So, I am the only menstruating being living in this house. If we were going by some transphobes' logic, I would be the only woman living here. See the problem? It just doesn't make sense. It's a logicless logic.
Shh, that requires considering that women are more than baby makers and transphobes don't think of women as human.
No, it absolutely is logic. Only it takes false premises and so comes to completely false conclusions. But the logic in itself is flawless. People overestimate "logic", thinking it means "sensible decisions".
@@elektra121 "reasoning conducted or assessed according to strict principles of validity.
" I dunno, I'm not sure where you can fit "blatant falsehood as one's foundation" in here.
@@TheGreatBackUpVIDEOS Because the "reasoning" (=drawing conclusion according to valid principles) itself doesn't say anything about the validity of the premises. "If all A have the characteristic of being B" and "my subject is an A", then logic says it must have the characteristic of being B. "All things that are made out of frozen lemonade are pink. The moon is made out of frozen lemonade. So, the moon is pink." This is absolutely valid, flawless logic, even if being absolute bullshit at the same time, because the premises are wrong. Only because something is "logic" doesn't mean it says anything true about our world. Logic isn't truth. It can be, if the premises are true (which, in the cases that we talk about, aren't). But "logic" in itself doesn't say anything about the applicability of the conclusions to our world. So, the guys conclusions are absolutely wrong while being absolutely logic acvording to his false premises. I know it sounds weird.
3:19 me an Asexual:
This makes me extremely uncomfortable. I felt very disgusted while watching this tiktok
It is extremely hard to watch
Me not being an asexual but feel disgusted as well. Wtaf was going on there😃? Did they really think it was a good idea to share this thing?
@@lillyflower259 i don't even want to know what was going through her mind when she posted that
Im not even an asexual , ( I'm trying to figure out for sometime if I'm actually a demi) ..He could have simply talked and tried to know her a bit better , at least a few days ..before calling her a time waster. It totally disgusts me .
This is actually the only one that the woman is being creepy. He's just supporting her in her exercises. The movements are dancelike and graceful. She's making it uncomfortable with her comments. Why does she think she has to be "yummy" and "juicy"? There's your ew factor.
This is a question where the answer is always “ No. “
@6:50. Manipulated consent is NOT CONSENT
Can we all just take a moment to appreciate how amazing Jamie's beard is?
Straight tiktok is never okay, I'm very glad I was never on that side
Same! My cousin was on there one time and she would always send me videos from that side and it’s scary on there😖 I wish it never existed
Same
I wish I could get off straight tiktok.. but for some reason it won't work???
@@jay_art3032 oh no💔 you can have my fyp it has a lot of lgbtqia+ stuff, art, birds, nails honestly anything except straight stuff and yk anyway so I will gladly share mine with you to get u off of there.
I'm glad I was never on tiktok in the first place
I just told a guy the other day that talking about Star Wars is actually really sexy for me. I’m not even lying. So that’s last TikTok was absolutely the cutest freaking thing on the planet and now I’m smiling like an idiot.
Last time I was this early the straights were absolutely not ok
Yeah...we're not...
No more “first comments” imagine being the last human being to watch this video. They will probably never know they are the last.
o lord
I think the last one was about how he talks about his figurines to his partner like he knew her his whole life. If my boyfriend would talk like that to me I would trust him too tbh
"Are the straights ok"
The straights: "There is no war in Ba sing se"
For people who don’t know:
The guy in the last video has a podcast call “The Rexin Around Show” and he and his friends talk about Star Wars and always preach about how the fans are toxic. In my opinion they are the best part of the fandom.
His wife, who is also a Star Wars fan, filmed the video. She did not mean it as making fun of him.
I keep seeing comments saying that she was being mean posting that but, as far as I know, he is the one who runs the account and he is also the one that got her into Star Wars.
tbh I really liked the last one! sure, part of the joke was "haha he's such a nerd" but also that little glimpse into their relationship showed that he has, in the past, shared a really big interest of his that's clearly very important to him, and she listened and paid attention. he clearly felt very comfortable sharing all that with her and I think that's v cute
Jami, I just wanted to say thank you! I just found out I'm a trans guy and your videos have helped me learn so much! They're also much more relatable now, and very funny in general!
I hope everyone has a good day!
Hello everyone, I hope you all have a fantastic weekend. Don't listen to anyone in your life who tells you that you are something your not, you are valid and always will be. Your a strong person and and while life may seem bleak you just have to focus on the fact that it will get better although I know personally how hard that is. It's easier to focus on your present instead of thinking about what will happen in the future, but you will get there. Never stop being your true self, I know for a fact that your are a beautiful person inside and out. Also remember to reach out via the comments anytime you want:
Sincerely, your virtual parent.
Oh, hey! I've seen you before, you commented this on The Queer Kiwis newest video too right?
This made me cry, thank you so much:')
Hey cactus! Hope you’re having a great day. I’m really struggling with school and stuff while being very confused about my identity, so your comments never fail to make me feel better. Thanks
Thanks
Hello Cactus. I hope you are doing well. I’m just popping in to let you know I’m still here, although I’m not sure how long that’s going to last. Please tell the others that I miss them and I’m trying to think of ways to come back to the server, and that they can get through whatever they’re going through. Stay strong :)
That dude all excited about his figures was adorable, people talking about things they're passionate about is 🤌🏻🤌🏻🤌🏻
That first tiktok makes me glad I dyed my hair blonde.
It also made me glad I'm a dude.
same, it also made me glad I'm not cis because this guy gives off Super StraightTM vibes
I'm a brunette but I didn't fulfill the other requirement cos I'm 5"8 lol
It made me glad I'm a ginger lol
Made me glad I'm a trans boy, made me glad I'm almost taller than 5"6', and made me glad I just dyed my hair black
I got harassed by homophobes today.
These teens (who are a large family of about seven brothers) assumed that me and my friend are gay and they chased us home on bikes and threw mud in my eye (there is still a piece in the back of my eye that won’t come out) and threw sticks at us while shouting homophobic slurs.
I’m glad it wasn’t worse bcz ppl have had horrific things happen but this needs to stop.
Oh I'm sorry that happened. They sound like assholes.
@@reid4758 thanks they are well know on my street and they have targeted ppl before
I also hate being referred to as a "female" and I'm a cis woman. It's just always felt condescending. and slightly offensive to me, I guess because it's always been used that way towards me.🤷♀️
the use of “females” for women is very dehumanizing... like with “females” you can be referring to any creature that happens to be female. hearing it always gives me slimy vibes
Two people call women "females". People trying to exclude trans women and incels dehumanizing women
Those two often overlap.
7:30 I'm so sorry, but this is so cute how he's just talking. It's adorable~ Seems like a joke, but he was just so passionate talking about his figurines that it would suck if she didn't care
i would come out to my parents to get out of straight tiktok to be honest, it’s the one place i never *ever* want to be.