those are jokes but yeah i do understand what you mean because it's not expressing anything except for just crying because of something ACTUALLY stupid and that compared to all the others isn't accurate. feel like INFP (or atleast turbulent) is alot rarer i haven't ever seen anyone that (i think) is an INFP, ISFP is similar and i see it alot more. my mom's an ISFP my dad is (idk but propably ENTP :/ i'm INFP/J (in between) not sure bout my sister.
I’m an infp married to an estj and I love how you showed them fiercely defending their points of view but secretly listening to each other behind closed doors. We have a great marriage. 💛
Same here. I'm an INFP married to an ESTJ and we very often have very opposing views, but we can accept that, after him trying to convince me his way is better and me not giving in ;)
Are you guys sure you're not in an INFP/ENTJ or an ISFP/ESTJ marriage? Because it's almost Impossible to have a good marriage with someone who has the same functions as you.
@@someoneRando_ Absolutely sure. I've been with a guy with whom everything was easy. In the end, that didn't work out at all. My husband and I, we need to work to make our marriage work, but that just makes it all the more worthwhile.
I actually love how the estj had good intentions and wasn’t being annoying. He wanted the infp to be safe. As an infp I respect that and I wanna see more between the two. Ending was just great. I feel the infp should find a middle ground.
Honestly, infps and estjs don’t have bad relationships with each other. As an Infp I respect the hardwork and drive of an estj. And although I may not agree with them not enjoying life as I do, I can respect their intentions. And for an estj they respect me as a human, and truly wanting the best for me. Even if that isn’t exactly my want, it is objectively financially better for me. We’re not enemies, we just see the world differently.
I have an ESTJ co-worker like this. He's always being reasonable with his suggestion. He doesn't force it too much and instead he gave reasonings of why his suggestions are good. He's only 22 now, I can see that he's going to be a successful leader one day :)
Yeah, it sucks, everyone knows it. You cant really count on creativity and artistic value for money, sometimes it is helpful if someone attempts to bring you down from your daydreaming to the real life, because daydreaming can become an avoiding issue, which can get serious. But these "talks" should always be respectful and not condescending, no gaslighting/guilty tripping and not too invasive. Even if the ESFJ has good intention and want to help, being too direct and assertive can be counter-productive, because INFP is like a wild animal lol. Reality is exhausting and tedious for them, they do need help, but also have hard time taking constructive criticism. They have their own unique way of doing things that fit their complicated emotional needs, and when somebody tells them to stop doing it this way, that this other way is the only way to do it efficiently.. the INFP will likely take it personally, because the person who is judging them doesnt understand the reasons why the INFP has to do it this specific way. The INFPs and insecurities go together strongly, they often think that others find them stupid, weird, chaotic, childish, naive, mentally weak. They are like social sponges, they take in what is happening around them, the moods of the people they interact with, even if the interaction is only brief eye contact. That can become exhausting very fast, and therefore urge them to seek isolation and escape to fantasy. The "people pleaser" trait can seriously cripple the potential of true growth. You dont want to be viewed as selfish, but if you dont prioritize yourself, then the negative emotions will always remind you that you are not staying true to yourself and taking care of your needs. That can be depression or anxiety or anger. Well obviously living in a world that discourages feelings, personal needs, flexibility and independence, and encourages discipline, tenacity and being straight-faced in stressful situations, respecting authority etc.. forces INFP in periods of existential crisis, that feel like being helpless worthless unlovable powerless lost and scared person, majority of INFP I know had or still have addiction problems, substance use, pornography, games etc. it is dark reality, but I am finally coming to terms with how things are here, and that it isnt all just miserable.
This made me cry. The ESTJ explaining why the world doesn't care if he hates his job. Cuz he gotta survive... but at the end, he searched for painting materials. Based from the video, I think ESTJ's are misunderstood a lot of times. (INFJ here)
this made me cry too, my tears are lacing my fingertips as I write this. I think so too! I appreciate when people want to help me, but most find it hard to accept that I want to live a life Im happy with. I always love that they care about me though, I want them to see how amazing the little things in life can be. -INFP
One infj tried for painting and failed .....we called him hitler So yes....(deep down we need this estjs advice.....sigh...) All we have to do to love life dont this "do i love what i do analysis paralysis " Btw, estjs can gave you good advice in their enfj super ego mode all of a sudden and then just go away(but their advice is almost infj like for short period of that moment cz its super ego leads by high fe optimism charge)
I think so too. I think they can actually be tough love sort of people. I'm an infp we may not always perceive them as coming from a helpful or loving place but I do see that in a lot of them. A lot of times they are wanting you to be realistic and they're wanting to help and they want us not to get false hopes. I love ESTJs. My opposites. I have no doubt that we will sometimes disagree and conflict. But when I really look at them and see them I see how important and necessary they and their strengths are even we disagree at times.
I’m definitely the INFP that accepted the ESTJ logistics. It’s not entirely bad though, since I work with design at least. But I hate when people ask me about my professional ambitions, because, like, I don’t have ambitions related to my work, I work to be able to do my hobbies. My ambition is getting a better salary so that I can live more comfortably and do the things that I like. So I do what’s necessary to achieve that. But it’s not a “professional realization” like some people seem to have. I’ve already had a crisis about that and accepted that in the corporate world you just have to lie and pretend you’re super passionate about your job. Which is sad. I really try not to think that we only get to enjoy like 30% of our lives. At least my colleagues are awesome. That helps a lot.
Thanks for your courage and authenticity for putting these thoughts out there! As an ENFP (Asian), and grew up in an economically instable society, I also struggled when the only available aspirations were the high-paying blue collar positions (pharmacists, lawyers, engineers...) What you shared is spot on. Such refreshing perspective, we need to work to support our hobbies. That's just that! ✌️
Damn this is so me. Extremely spot on about hating when people ask me about ambitions because I have none or asking me to take on more leadership roles which I absolutely do not want to do, working hard at my corporate job only so I can get money to do the hobbies I love and exaggerating how excited I am to do a certain task at work just so people don't think I'm not a team player or that I'm lazy‼️
I'm an INFP...and actually, this actually hit hard *both* ways. I naturally relate to the INFP perspective but my heart went out to the ESTJ (even though I frankly think this is someone close to the center on the F/T axis) when he said "no...not necessarily" and talked about the way in which the world doesn't care about dreams.
@@OreadNYC Maybe it's because they are matured so their dom and inf functions seems like relatively balance, but let's not forget that both are really strong when showing their dom functions too. Like when the INFP refusing the job, instead doing what he likes to do and value (Fi) vs ESTJ when caring about his roommates wellbeing by asking him to find real job (Te). So i guess this sketch really perfect at picturing both sides and functions.
Came here expecting a funny sketch, was actually fascinated by how beautiful the interaction was. Have mad respect for ESTJs as an INFP. Great content, thank you for this. Subscribed!
I'm an ESTJ and I'm on the INFPs side, guy has a paying job and is making rent the rest is irrelevant. You should stick to your dreams if you have a chance at making it.
As an ESTJ, 2:13 hit hard. Holy crap. I wasn’t expecting that. But it is truth. I was in the fashion industry and let it all go for a 6 figure job in tech. I have an excellent career, but I kid you not I always think…what if.
ESTJ here too ... I always liked math and technology, and I am working in IT now. But sometimes, I'm still at loss, seemed like I haven't pushed the right button just yet. I'm taking masters this year and I hope I can find new answers and gain more clarity.
Wow! This feels like every day of my adult life. You did a great job of showing a more sympathetic side to the ESTJ. As an INFP, I appreciate it. We have more in common than you'd think.
Yeah, I thought the ESTJ's recognition of the INFP's talent was really sweet. :-) I'm an INFP but I have an ESTJ mom and I get sick of seeing them treated as nothing but brainless assholes.
I mean they have the same 4 dominant cognitive functions. Their just reversed by one another. A true opposite has 4 completely different dominant cognitive functions.
@@imaginarypath7867 exactly. An ISTP is the true opposite of an ESTJ. I violently clash with those ESTJ morons as an ISTP since I can't give af about their interests (work, work, work) or life philosophy (work again)
@@nerysghemor5781 To me it seemed like the ESTJ was kind of jealous, that the INFP is being more free-spirited and just doing what he loves to do, when the stress of work is getting to the ESTJ, it makes him wonder and it is inspiring him. They can certainly learn from one another. But usually it is a tense relationship. Never would have labeled ESTJ as brainless a-holes, maybe they can seem heartless and cold sometimes, but not a-holes, they often over-work themselves, they work really hard, maybe they have hard time showing affection and showing they care about somebody, but they can show through effort for sure.
I'm an INFP but I was raised by an ESTJ mom and ENTJ dad, so I actually DO do both...have a hobby and a 9 to 5. Staking my income on my art freaks me out and actually saps the willingness out of me to WANT to do it. Freedom for me is knowing I can do exactly what I want with my writing without caring about marketing, market share, income, or any of that, because I have a job with actual work-life balance that basically finances it, and a solid retirement plan that may actually get me out of the workplace at 60 if the market doesn't totally crash, and give me 30-40 years to do whatever the hell I want any time I want. I don't look at aging with fear...I look at it with anticipation because it's gonna be MINE MINE MINE ALL MINE BABY. I like how at the end, they both appreciate each other. :-)
@@esotericslayer6004 I’m an Air Force brat, so growing up we lived on a military salary, which is definitely not rich. You have what you need to take care of yourselves though.
If I could make my hobbies passive income instead of a job, I don't have to force myself to do them as much, but I could still make a little extra money.
As an INFP, retired now from numerous dead end jobs, but thoroughly enjoying my now plentiful free time, I think the best insult I ever heard was when I was told once that I had “launched but never landed”. I prefer living in space not time, lol.
I'm an INFP with an ESTJ mom, and believe me, I can relate. She's an awesome mom and I love her but sometimes she tells me to be more practical than I am and we do argue, but it's alright. I understand where her point of view comes from.
I really felt this, except as an ESTJ I'm much more aggressive with my ideologies, pushing my opinions forcefully on people who are usually extremely unproductive. It's not a good trait to have, but I acknowledge I can be a wet blanket who is often closed minded to those who only rely on their imagination.
DUDE, WHAT THE HECK?! THIS MAKES ME EMOTIONAL! HAPPY TO SEE THE INFP AND ESTJ ARE TRYING TO CONSIDER EACH OTHERS IDEAS AND OPINIONS DESPITE THEIR DIFFERENT VIEWS! 🤧
This got me. I’m an INFP who has a dream, but no ambitions to be great, rich and famous. In other words, no drive nor desire to aim for the world’s definition of success. I truly want to be able to follow my heart and go for what would make me happy and fulfilled in life. But as I grew older, I acknowledge the need to be realistic and practical. And on top of that, I also have to consider my family and their expectations of me. To make something of myself, and not end up in a seemingly dead-end profession. My current job is considered high-status, with lots of perks and respect tied to it. But a part of me just knows it’s not what I want to keep doing for the rest of my life. But like ESTJ said, which kind of reminds me of my mom: It has to be done. I truly hope I could have both my dream and my responsibility fulfilled in one profession or life path. Until then, I fear I will feel like I’m just floating in uncertainty and longing.
I really enjoyed this as an INFP and I loved that the ESTJ was not portrayed as a villain, but as a helpful and well-meaning friend. Unfortunately, ESTJs often get an undeserved bad rap within the MBTI community. I hate that.
This is a good example of how ESTJs show people they care! The ESTJ wanted INFP to get a better job for his safety/well being, hope INFPs can see the real motive behind the whole conversation.
Funny I can relate to both. Since I am an ESTJ that works in the art world online, which kinda make sense both types share the same cognitive functions but in different orders. I feel like INFP is my inner childish self while ESTJ is my more adult and mature self.
Me and my aunt pictured in this. Is hard to be part of this society, when you don't even now what you want to do with your life, but still you need to get a job to survive.
I’m a INFP but living a ESTJ life. Everything the ESTJ said in this video is what I think of everyday. I’m really good at my job and how to “survive” with a good pay. But all I really wanted is to do something I value and that is not related to money. Ironically I tried my best to be ESTJ to the society so I can kept being an INFP when I’m alone and not working.
I'm an infj and watching this video does make me respect my estj friend alot. Their straight no-bullcrap is really refreshing to me, even if it can come across a bit harsh sometimes. Sometimes people are critical towards estj, but I for one do respect you Estjs! Really liked the video. Thank you
I realize I'm an INFP and therefore biased, but I can't see the INFP's ending as a good outcome at all. Yes, he's struggling a bit at the moment, but he's getting by in a field notorious for people NOT getting by, and he's got room to grow. Patreon income is mostly stable with generally gradual declines (unless something drastic happens, in which case yeah, he'll probably start looking for a "real" job), but if he takes on something else he'll almost certainly not have the same output from his writing, and people will stop supporting him. You should only trade happiness in your career for stability if you're actually going to get better opportunities out of it, and here he'd be losing a good if not amazing job with lots of potential to gain... a dead end warehouse job? Or was the point that his self-doubt overcomes him at the end, and he is going to make himself miserable for no good reason because he's surrounded himself with unsupportive people? Either way, I feel very bad for him. I'm glad the ESTJ came away with something of value, though.
Most likely neither of them will go through, but the conversation made them consider what it is their last function wants. But as the video shows, the INFP is living but barely surviving and the ESTJ is just surviving but not living. But once all is said and done, even if neither of them end up following through, both do crave what their last function wants but neither want to give up their dominant function..
I don't think so. A healthy INFP has fully developed functions including Te which helps in functioning in society with financial stability, independence and backup options. Once you grow as a person, you don't see your cognitive functions as "opposing" but rather learn to harmonize different aspects of your life. This is definitely a growth and maturity moment for the INFP, with development of Si and Te.
@@abyrupus You seem to be arguing as if I said it was impossible for INFPs to develop Te or reach stability, I never said that. I said "most likely". But more importantly, I said what you said as well. That deep down they both crave to follow what their inferior function wants, but they do not want to give up their dominant. Which, a healthy INFP will find a way to achieve both. What I did do wrong, and will retract, is that I made it seem like it was a very unlikely thing to happen. I did not meant that, but it seems like I said that. You are right, and functions need not oppose, it is something I have learnt about myself as well. To any INFP reading this I did not meant you couldn't do it, you can do this! Find a way to make all of your four functions, work together and achieve that which you desire.
It is a good ending for the INFP - the ending isn't showing the INFP throwing away his happy job to look for a bad one, it's showing him considering the more stable options, so when something happens, the INFP is prepared. I think. Also I find it so wierd that the ESTJ quit art completely and is only now getting back into it. When I was a kid I wanted to be a footballer (soccer one), loved drawing and making things but I never quit playing football outside in the park when I realized I couldn't become a footballer. Nor did I quit art.
I'm an INFP, but I was raised by Te-doms (ENTJ dad, ESTJ mom). I actually get stressed at the idea of staking my income on my writing. In fact, the idea of having to deal with editor deadlines, concerns about what the market wants, getting hit by the cancel culture mob, etc. freaks me right the hell out because when I get down to it, I want to do the fanfic *I* want, and I don't want all that other crap. I heard a guy in an author group literally say, when asked what his favorite thing to write was, it was "Whatever the audience wants," and I just thought, "YIKES." I actually managed to find a 9 to 5 at a company where they actually walk the walk when it comes to work-life balance. It was hard getting here (7 years of hell at a retail company) but I feel pretty balanced now.
Dude, this was WAY too accurate. I felt like I was watching myself (the INFP) and my brother (the ESTJ) having a normal daily conversation. I think we have had 90% of this exact dialogue many times before. Nice to see both sides understanding each other... I wish that would happen more in real life.
This is brilliant! I was on the edge of my seat and really felt for both of them - it’s like they are so close to understanding each other, but can only really embrace it when alone. INFP married to an ESTJ.
I love how you end the video! The entire sketch has a point of conflict, a climax, then the resolution part is where both characters found meaning after resolving their altercation. Applauded! 👏👏 Highly enjoy your channel, Kevin! - ENFP
As an INFJ with severe ADHD, in this case I overlapped a ton with the INFP. I have two non-traditional jobs, both of which make me happy, and neither of which are as stable as I might wish. I loved the balance and interplay shown here between different functions and function stacks. Gives me hope that I'll keep finding my footing, too! 😊
@@eval4495 I do tutoring and also a small (two-woman) LLC running kids' programs during school breaks. It's stuff that I could naturally develop out of the paths I've ended up taking along the way. I hope maybe my experience can be useful to you, even just to help spark an idea. I relate to the difficulty of finding the right fit! For what it's worth, I'm cheering for you!
I'm an INTP but I feel that I understand both sides. I feel that on the spectrum of ideals versus financial security, I'm somewhere in the middle. There are jobs that I will refuse to do, knowing fully well that there are incompatible with me, but at the same time, I do get it that I need a way to earn a decent living. So I'm probably in the middle attempting to do both the hobby and esoteric pursuits that I wish was a job while earning a living with something close to my expertise that pays. This, I have diluted my energy, spreading myself too much. This would never happen to either the INFP nor the ESTJ. Very insightful. Thank you.
Beautiful! Just beautiful! As an INFP I always wanted to be an artist, a writer, a musician, a wizard, a knight, a pirate (but the real kind with a parrot and a hook prosthetic), a super saiyan and some other things. And Ill keep going towards my goals, your video really inspired me!
This is your best one, I'm serious it was perfect. I'm enfp so I've found myself in that infp position, of being unable to take action, pointlessly wasting time. I'm 24 now and I've had my lessons.
As an ISTJ I have a good drawing realistic ability, made countless drawings and ended up studying in Electrical Engineering major of my dad's company (My dad being an ESTJ @@) and didn't like it at the beginning, had unhealthy coping strategy and went through an addiction because I did not like the major and bad idea from Ne grip. Now I nearly graduate, heal well from the addiction for entire Uni time and I'd say I wanna focus on my major work more (I found the motivation in my dad's company) and... watch other's drawings on Insta for...drawing's sake :) My dad after entire of his working life as an Electrical Engineer and the Director, now he begins to watch RUclips videos about catching snakes in rural town in breaks of his work:) Thank you for this skit Kevin. Your acting is superb *chef kiss* This hits really :)
These 2 are actually subconscious of each other fighting for life and dominance. It is hard to balance these 2 if they shut each other down but when they listen and work together they are wonderful. Just takes a lot of mental energy though.
This is so authentic like a real person instead of just MBTI types programmed to a character. Love you Kevin you're a gem. P.S. Lol shoelaceusa P.P.S. can't wait for ISFP and ENTJ
As an infp I’m just really glad that my dream career also comes with stability. Not many people can follow a dream that doesn’t have some kind of major risk along with it, and I have a lot of respect for people who follow those dreams despite the risk
I came here for an mbti skit and this was waaaaay more than that. Well done, I get the feels and get both perspectives. We all are stuck in between I believe. -an ENFP
Excellent video for many reasons already stated in the comments! I'm an INFP and looking back at my life, I always felt a bit "less than" for not having career aspirations. Now I have an understanding of exactly why, which I didn't back then. I was fortunate enough to find jobs I loved that were fun, flexible non-corporate, and full of free spirits like me.
wow, this is great. i like how the ending shows how both of them were indeed deeply considering each other's point of views. make one with INTJ and INTP as roommates! :D
1:21 endless possibilities dude... comedian, artist, painter, sculptor, programmer, open my own business, etc. this thing of being "safe" is the same thing of not seeing opportunities for me.
wow, this is actually very realistic and definitely some of the conversations me (infp) and my father (estj) had. i love the ending, both still try to understand each other. this video was a rollercoaster of emotions for me but it has really surprising conclusion. thank you for this!
Same for me but in my case my mother is the ESTJ. As a child I felt a bit unloved but after we had a deeper conversation and said out point of views, we understand eachother very well.
Bro that is summary of me as INFP trying to communicate with my dad ESTJ. I feel like he is a narcissist, that mainly cares about himself and money. And he feels like it is a miracle that I am not homeless yet. LOL yeah. I thought at the end, when the estj leaves the apartment, the infp would reveal that he has no fans and no patreon. that he just hoped he will at some day. Anyway it feels very real for me.
I've said that exact line before. "It's not about what I want to do, it's about what I have to do to survive." I keep typing as infp on all these tests. Ouch this one hurt a lot. I've been stressed and burned out for a long time. And I hear we rely on our opposite functions whenever we're stressed. Basically, never able to rest. And I have the philosophy that the faster you get the job done, the easier it becomes. But I never realized, that with life, the job never gets done. Welp, time to go cry in a corner. I do appreciate the vid and the work you do. Keep them coming. This one just hit very close to home. And in short. I'm just, very tired.
I see how ESTJs don’t comment a lot here so here I am. As an ESTJ, especially a female, I must say this conversation doesn’t really happen a lot coz I don’t really care what other people think or do. The ESTJ must care for his INFP roommate so he provides the offer and explains the grown-up thing. I have a lot of dreams I give up gradually during the growing up procedure, and I’m getting them back recently because I have a steady job and enough time to do it. I really agree what ESTJ thinks here, INFP’s thoughts are sometimes just unrealistic for us. (No offense)
Whelp, I feel called out lol I'm so glad these vids have positive endings and can show how people are malleable. Just recently learned through the cognitive functions that I'm an ESTJ personality type and coming to terms with how other people see me. Haha it's painful
ESTJ here who works a full time 40+hr a week job. Deep down I want to write a book though. When I was a kid I would spend time writing stories. And I loved to read. So I can relate to the ESTJ here who abandoned his dreams of becoming a painter.
Damn, this reminds me so much of my dad. Although he just enjoys creative stuff as a hobby, he did sacrifice the opportunity for his dream job because my mother was pregnant with me at the time and they couldn't find a house near the workplace. So instead he accepted a job elsewhere. It wasn't a job he wanted and he ruined his back in the long run, but he worked incredibly hard to make sure our family was financially stable. As an ISTJ, I really look up to him. While I'll never be as eloquent, charming and versatile as he is, I still do everything to follow his footsteps within my own capabilities.
I (infp) love my dad (estj) :’) Always feels like he is just the worldly, grown up version of me, and I’m the childish version of him who refuses to grow up. So similar. Thank you for this, I cried
I love how ESTJ was giving though love to INFP, they maybe different like they might fight like cats and dogs and hate each other but deep down they would love each other. Those two would make good frenemies
oh, it's so sweet! my INFP cousin was like this but she finally settled and got some job that she enjoys (at least she says so). I didn't intervene at all. and I as ESTJ just got lucky to be raised by a really understanding INFJ who managed to see the best in me. I am happy to do my job (I love it!) and hobbies (playing guitar, writing fanfiction, too (OMG) and you know, just enjoying my life). not everybody is so lucky, though. I was satisfied to see ESTJ take action towards his dreams! some of us people do need a roommate that will remind us of something important we just fail to see.
wow (?) you managed to convey so much while making it look very natural, really I kinda forgot you're like... the same guy acting both types! great work!
as an INFP this dude must have a lot of respect for his roommate to put so much effort into justifying himself. I'm normally like, "oh you don't approve? k I don't care bye".
Wow, this somehow is really accurate and hit right on the point ! My conversation with XSTJ type usually goes like this 😶 (even the sigh at the end xd)
This is literally every single conversation with my parents every time we talk about jobs in general I am ISFP but i do relate to INFP (because i am actually somewhere in between of N and S). After getting bachelor's degree in IT (programming stuff to be specific) i realised that i never actually liked it. I only liked the idea of getting money from that. No real passion there. But "getting money" wasn't motivating enough and i ended up half-assing things to just get them done. Now i actually want to do something i love which is writing. And not just as a hobby. That wouldn't be enough. And nobody will stop me (i do tend to be stubborn when it comes to changing things in life). You hear me dad? YOU WON'T STOP ME. It's now me against the world
I'm an Enfj my new friend is an Estj I came here to understand him more and help him. Because he doesn't talk much nor does he ask for anything and he's kinda boring at first but then I found out how awesome he is
Oh I loved the ending ... you don't have to think black and white ... i hate my job but It has payed the resources for my hobby ... I feel a bit safe because of it ... I also learned alot from my job
This is a lot like me (INFP) and my xSTJ father, especially during the time when I had to choose a career path. He wanted me to be a teacher since it has "ensurance and astable salary" all the while both of us very well knew I'm NOT the kind of person who can handle crowds (like a classroom full of students). What I wanted (and I still want) to do is a job related to writing and/or translation. Everyone knew my passions of writing and foreign languages, even though some would say they should just be "hobbies". Man! Those were chaotic days!😅
Finally an infp portrayal that isn't just crying all day
A lot of people just baby them
@@toltecsamongus6610 yeah that too
those are jokes but yeah i do understand what you mean because it's not expressing anything except for just crying because of something ACTUALLY stupid and that compared to all the others isn't accurate. feel like INFP (or atleast turbulent) is alot rarer i haven't ever seen anyone that (i think) is an INFP, ISFP is similar and i see it alot more. my mom's an ISFP my dad is (idk but propably ENTP :/ i'm INFP/J (in between) not sure bout my sister.
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I’m an infp married to an estj and I love how you showed them fiercely defending their points of view but secretly listening to each other behind closed doors. We have a great marriage. 💛
Same here. I'm an INFP married to an ESTJ and we very often have very opposing views, but we can accept that, after him trying to convince me his way is better and me not giving in ;)
I’m an ESTJ and my husband is an INFP. We hear you! ❤️
Are you guys sure you're not in an INFP/ENTJ or an ISFP/ESTJ marriage? Because it's almost Impossible to have a good marriage with someone who has the same functions as you.
@@someoneRando_ Absolutely sure. I've been with a guy with whom everything was easy. In the end, that didn't work out at all.
My husband and I, we need to work to make our marriage work, but that just makes it all the more worthwhile.
Almighty Leftist i second this
I actually love how the estj had good intentions and wasn’t being annoying. He wanted the infp to be safe. As an infp I respect that and I wanna see more between the two. Ending was just great. I feel the infp should find a middle ground.
He did, he searched up the job application for the company estj suggested
Honestly, infps and estjs don’t have bad relationships with each other. As an Infp I respect the hardwork and drive of an estj. And although I may not agree with them not enjoying life as I do, I can respect their intentions. And for an estj they respect me as a human, and truly wanting the best for me. Even if that isn’t exactly my want, it is objectively financially better for me. We’re not enemies, we just see the world differently.
They both did. The INFP searching up the job apolication, and the ESTJ buying the art supplies.
I have an ESTJ co-worker like this. He's always being reasonable with his suggestion. He doesn't force it too much and instead he gave reasonings of why his suggestions are good. He's only 22 now, I can see that he's going to be a successful leader one day :)
Yeah, it sucks, everyone knows it. You cant really count on creativity and artistic value for money, sometimes it is helpful if someone attempts to bring you down from your daydreaming to the real life, because daydreaming can become an avoiding issue, which can get serious. But these "talks" should always be respectful and not condescending, no gaslighting/guilty tripping and not too invasive. Even if the ESFJ has good intention and want to help, being too direct and assertive can be counter-productive, because INFP is like a wild animal lol. Reality is exhausting and tedious for them, they do need help, but also have hard time taking constructive criticism. They have their own unique way of doing things that fit their complicated emotional needs, and when somebody tells them to stop doing it this way, that this other way is the only way to do it efficiently.. the INFP will likely take it personally, because the person who is judging them doesnt understand the reasons why the INFP has to do it this specific way. The INFPs and insecurities go together strongly, they often think that others find them stupid, weird, chaotic, childish, naive, mentally weak. They are like social sponges, they take in what is happening around them, the moods of the people they interact with, even if the interaction is only brief eye contact. That can become exhausting very fast, and therefore urge them to seek isolation and escape to fantasy. The "people pleaser" trait can seriously cripple the potential of true growth. You dont want to be viewed as selfish, but if you dont prioritize yourself, then the negative emotions will always remind you that you are not staying true to yourself and taking care of your needs. That can be depression or anxiety or anger. Well obviously living in a world that discourages feelings, personal needs, flexibility and independence, and encourages discipline, tenacity and being straight-faced in stressful situations, respecting authority etc.. forces INFP in periods of existential crisis, that feel like being helpless worthless unlovable powerless lost and scared person, majority of INFP I know had or still have addiction problems, substance use, pornography, games etc. it is dark reality, but I am finally coming to terms with how things are here, and that it isnt all just miserable.
This made me cry. The ESTJ explaining why the world doesn't care if he hates his job. Cuz he gotta survive... but at the end, he searched for painting materials. Based from the video, I think ESTJ's are misunderstood a lot of times.
(INFJ here)
this made me cry too, my tears are lacing my fingertips as I write this. I think so too! I appreciate when people want to help me, but most find it hard to accept that I want to live a life Im happy with. I always love that they care about me though, I want them to see how amazing the little things in life can be. -INFP
One infj tried for painting and failed
.....we called him hitler
So yes....(deep down we need this estjs advice.....sigh...)
All we have to do to love life dont this "do i love what i do analysis paralysis "
Btw, estjs can gave you good advice in their enfj super ego mode all of a sudden and then just go away(but their advice is almost infj like for short period of that moment cz its super ego leads by high fe optimism charge)
I think so too. I think they can actually be tough love sort of people. I'm an infp we may not always perceive them as coming from a helpful or loving place but I do see that in a lot of them. A lot of times they are wanting you to be realistic and they're wanting to help and they want us not to get false hopes. I love ESTJs. My opposites. I have no doubt that we will sometimes disagree and conflict. But when I really look at them and see them I see how important and necessary they and their strengths are even we disagree at times.
Like when we need something done and someone to organize things. I know exactly who to call who won't let us down. ESTJ we need you! Lol
INFP: Feeling anxious and want to escape 1 min into the video
I’m ESTJ with a strong INFP subconscious. This video = my life.
I’m definitely the INFP that accepted the ESTJ logistics. It’s not entirely bad though, since I work with design at least. But I hate when people ask me about my professional ambitions, because, like, I don’t have ambitions related to my work, I work to be able to do my hobbies.
My ambition is getting a better salary so that I can live more comfortably and do the things that I like. So I do what’s necessary to achieve that. But it’s not a “professional realization” like some people seem to have. I’ve already had a crisis about that and accepted that in the corporate world you just have to lie and pretend you’re super passionate about your job. Which is sad.
I really try not to think that we only get to enjoy like 30% of our lives. At least my colleagues are awesome. That helps a lot.
Thanks for your courage and authenticity for putting these thoughts out there! As an ENFP (Asian), and grew up in an economically instable society, I also struggled when the only available aspirations were the high-paying blue collar positions (pharmacists, lawyers, engineers...)
What you shared is spot on. Such refreshing perspective, we need to work to support our hobbies. That's just that! ✌️
Perhaps are you an INFP 6?
Damn this is so me. Extremely spot on about hating when people ask me about ambitions because I have none or asking me to take on more leadership roles which I absolutely do not want to do, working hard at my corporate job only so I can get money to do the hobbies I love and exaggerating how excited I am to do a certain task at work just so people don't think I'm not a team player or that I'm lazy‼️
Well, I prefer the logistics of logisticians, the ISTJ ;-)
Sameeee I totally agree I got a bit emotional at 2:00 !! Finally the ESTJ opens up!!
Oof...this one hit surprisingly close to home, man.
I'm an INFP...and actually, this actually hit hard *both* ways. I naturally relate to the INFP perspective but my heart went out to the ESTJ (even though I frankly think this is someone close to the center on the F/T axis) when he said "no...not necessarily" and talked about the way in which the world doesn't care about dreams.
@@OreadNYC Maybe it's because they are matured so their dom and inf functions seems like relatively balance, but let's not forget that both are really strong when showing their dom functions too. Like when the INFP refusing the job, instead doing what he likes to do and value (Fi) vs ESTJ when caring about his roommates wellbeing by asking him to find real job (Te). So i guess this sketch really perfect at picturing both sides and functions.
Came here expecting a funny sketch, was actually fascinated by how beautiful the interaction was. Have mad respect for ESTJs as an INFP. Great content, thank you for this. Subscribed!
I almost cried watching it, hit hard. shows how much Fi i use as an infp LOL
Its really bad when you see yourself 100% in these characters 😢😅
I'm an ESTJ and I'm on the INFPs side, guy has a paying job and is making rent the rest is irrelevant.
You should stick to your dreams if you have a chance at making it.
But barely getting by is not a way to live.
@@maylynbayani Why wouldn't it be a way to live ? What is "a way to live" ? It's not like there is only one road ahead for every single human being.
As an ESTJ, 2:13 hit hard. Holy crap. I wasn’t expecting that. But it is truth. I was in the fashion industry and let it all go for a 6 figure job in tech. I have an excellent career, but I kid you not I always think…what if.
Yes, im a ESTJ, That reminded me of my reason for working.
INFP here: 😫. That is all.
Sounds like Ne might be a demon for you.
I feel your pain. I bet you have an incredible talent for art. Your dreams have value! And yes, I am an INFP LOL.
ESTJ here too ... I always liked math and technology, and I am working in IT now. But sometimes, I'm still at loss, seemed like I haven't pushed the right button just yet. I'm taking masters this year and I hope I can find new answers and gain more clarity.
Wow! This feels like every day of my adult life. You did a great job of showing a more sympathetic side to the ESTJ. As an INFP, I appreciate it. We have more in common than you'd think.
Yeah, I thought the ESTJ's recognition of the INFP's talent was really sweet. :-) I'm an INFP but I have an ESTJ mom and I get sick of seeing them treated as nothing but brainless assholes.
I mean they have the same 4 dominant cognitive functions. Their just reversed by one another. A true opposite has 4 completely different dominant cognitive functions.
@@imaginarypath7867 exactly. An ISTP is the true opposite of an ESTJ. I violently clash with those ESTJ morons as an ISTP since I can't give af about their interests (work, work, work) or life philosophy (work again)
Yes sympathy, but no empathy.
@@nerysghemor5781 To me it seemed like the ESTJ was kind of jealous, that the INFP is being more free-spirited and just doing what he loves to do, when the stress of work is getting to the ESTJ, it makes him wonder and it is inspiring him. They can certainly learn from one another. But usually it is a tense relationship. Never would have labeled ESTJ as brainless a-holes, maybe they can seem heartless and cold sometimes, but not a-holes, they often over-work themselves, they work really hard, maybe they have hard time showing affection and showing they care about somebody, but they can show through effort for sure.
This is my sister (INFP) and my dad (ESTJ). I love how in the end they see each other’s point of view, but it does take time. Nice!! -ISFJ
Very wholesome bro. You managed managed make this infp shed a tear.
INTP here. Really felt the feels man
Same
Me too
Bro this is genius. Opposites showing each other what life’s about
I'm an INFP but I was raised by an ESTJ mom and ENTJ dad, so I actually DO do both...have a hobby and a 9 to 5. Staking my income on my art freaks me out and actually saps the willingness out of me to WANT to do it. Freedom for me is knowing I can do exactly what I want with my writing without caring about marketing, market share, income, or any of that, because I have a job with actual work-life balance that basically finances it, and a solid retirement plan that may actually get me out of the workplace at 60 if the market doesn't totally crash, and give me 30-40 years to do whatever the hell I want any time I want. I don't look at aging with fear...I look at it with anticipation because it's gonna be MINE MINE MINE ALL MINE BABY. I like how at the end, they both appreciate each other. :-)
Are your parents rich or middle class
@@esotericslayer6004 I’m an Air Force brat, so growing up we lived on a military salary, which is definitely not rich. You have what you need to take care of yourselves though.
If I could make my hobbies passive income instead of a job, I don't have to force myself to do them as much, but I could still make a little extra money.
did you have an ENFJ friend/spouse? I thought, INFP is not a natural planner.
@@mdhasn8684 No, that’s actually not even a type I seem to get along well with. I think it’s all the effect of being brought up by Te-doms.
As an INFP, retired now from numerous dead end jobs, but thoroughly enjoying my now plentiful free time, I think the best insult I ever heard was when I was told once that I had “launched but never landed”. I prefer living in space not time, lol.
I'm an INFP with an ESTJ mom, and believe me, I can relate. She's an awesome mom and I love her but sometimes she tells me to be more practical than I am and we do argue, but it's alright. I understand where her point of view comes from.
Brilliant, just brilliant. Truly magnificent work.
I had this exact conversation with my ESTJ mom. How weird. You got it on point
INFP with ESTJ dad --- this was basically every day of my life until I moved out
@@chrisc7265 man i can't wait to move out if i ever do
@@chrisc7265I'm sorry to hear that ❤
I really felt this, except as an ESTJ I'm much more aggressive with my ideologies, pushing my opinions forcefully on people who are usually extremely unproductive. It's not a good trait to have, but I acknowledge I can be a wet blanket who is often closed minded to those who only rely on their imagination.
DUDE, WHAT THE HECK?! THIS MAKES ME EMOTIONAL! HAPPY TO SEE THE INFP AND ESTJ ARE TRYING TO CONSIDER EACH OTHERS IDEAS AND OPINIONS DESPITE THEIR DIFFERENT VIEWS! 🤧
My ESTJ mom and my INFP sister.....accurate
This was actually a really sad and meaningful video.
Didn’t expect this video to actually hit so real. The acting is amazing, especially for a RUclips skit. This is quality content right here.
This got me. I’m an INFP who has a dream, but no ambitions to be great, rich and famous. In other words, no drive nor desire to aim for the world’s definition of success. I truly want to be able to follow my heart and go for what would make me happy and fulfilled in life. But as I grew older, I acknowledge the need to be realistic and practical. And on top of that, I also have to consider my family and their expectations of me. To make something of myself, and not end up in a seemingly dead-end profession. My current job is considered high-status, with lots of perks and respect tied to it. But a part of me just knows it’s not what I want to keep doing for the rest of my life. But like ESTJ said, which kind of reminds me of my mom: It has to be done. I truly hope I could have both my dream and my responsibility fulfilled in one profession or life path. Until then, I fear I will feel like I’m just floating in uncertainty and longing.
I really enjoyed this as an INFP and I loved that the ESTJ was not portrayed as a villain, but as a helpful and well-meaning friend. Unfortunately, ESTJs often get an undeserved bad rap within the MBTI community. I hate that.
This is a good example of how ESTJs show people they care! The ESTJ wanted INFP to get a better job for his safety/well being, hope INFPs can see the real motive behind the whole conversation.
Wow. INTJ here. I almost shed a tear at this. It was so moving. I love how you captured the humanity (POV) of both INFP and ESTJ.
I absolutely adored this. Please consider making this series for each type.
He is. He's two other pairs in.
OMG I can't believe how realistic this seems and it's great how both the INFP and ESTJ try to learn from each other. I love it :D
Funny I can relate to both. Since I am an ESTJ that works in the art world online, which kinda make sense both types share the same cognitive functions but in different orders. I feel like INFP is my inner childish self while ESTJ is my more adult and mature self.
Me and my aunt pictured in this.
Is hard to be part of this society, when you don't even now what you want to do with your life, but still you need to get a job to survive.
I’m a INFP but living a ESTJ life.
Everything the ESTJ said in this video is what I think of everyday. I’m really good at my job and how to “survive” with a good pay. But all I really wanted is to do something I value and that is not related to money.
Ironically I tried my best to be ESTJ to the society so I can kept being an INFP when I’m alone and not working.
Awesome, true and cruel at the same time. Brilliant!
I'm an infj and watching this video does make me respect my estj friend alot. Their straight no-bullcrap is really refreshing to me, even if it can come across a bit harsh sometimes.
Sometimes people are critical towards estj, but I for one do respect you Estjs!
Really liked the video. Thank you
Same but am an infp they really are knowledgeable and straight no to FACE. *That’s kinda cute (annoy face)and inspiring at the same time.*
This is me and my mom arguing about my future major in uni 😭
Same. One of the worst experiences D:
I realize I'm an INFP and therefore biased, but I can't see the INFP's ending as a good outcome at all. Yes, he's struggling a bit at the moment, but he's getting by in a field notorious for people NOT getting by, and he's got room to grow. Patreon income is mostly stable with generally gradual declines (unless something drastic happens, in which case yeah, he'll probably start looking for a "real" job), but if he takes on something else he'll almost certainly not have the same output from his writing, and people will stop supporting him. You should only trade happiness in your career for stability if you're actually going to get better opportunities out of it, and here he'd be losing a good if not amazing job with lots of potential to gain... a dead end warehouse job? Or was the point that his self-doubt overcomes him at the end, and he is going to make himself miserable for no good reason because he's surrounded himself with unsupportive people? Either way, I feel very bad for him.
I'm glad the ESTJ came away with something of value, though.
Most likely neither of them will go through, but the conversation made them consider what it is their last function wants. But as the video shows, the INFP is living but barely surviving and the ESTJ is just surviving but not living. But once all is said and done, even if neither of them end up following through, both do crave what their last function wants but neither want to give up their dominant function..
I don't think so. A healthy INFP has fully developed functions including Te which helps in functioning in society with financial stability, independence and backup options. Once you grow as a person, you don't see your cognitive functions as "opposing" but rather learn to harmonize different aspects of your life. This is definitely a growth and maturity moment for the INFP, with development of Si and Te.
@@abyrupus You seem to be arguing as if I said it was impossible for INFPs to develop Te or reach stability, I never said that.
I said "most likely". But more importantly, I said what you said as well. That deep down they both crave to follow what their inferior function wants, but they do not want to give up their dominant. Which, a healthy INFP will find a way to achieve both.
What I did do wrong, and will retract, is that I made it seem like it was a very unlikely thing to happen. I did not meant that, but it seems like I said that.
You are right, and functions need not oppose, it is something I have learnt about myself as well.
To any INFP reading this I did not meant you couldn't do it, you can do this! Find a way to make all of your four functions, work together and achieve that which you desire.
It is a good ending for the INFP - the ending isn't showing the INFP throwing away his happy job to look for a bad one, it's showing him considering the more stable options, so when something happens, the INFP is prepared. I think.
Also I find it so wierd that the ESTJ quit art completely and is only now getting back into it. When I was a kid I wanted to be a footballer (soccer one), loved drawing and making things but I never quit playing football outside in the park when I realized I couldn't become a footballer. Nor did I quit art.
I'm an INFP, but I was raised by Te-doms (ENTJ dad, ESTJ mom). I actually get stressed at the idea of staking my income on my writing. In fact, the idea of having to deal with editor deadlines, concerns about what the market wants, getting hit by the cancel culture mob, etc. freaks me right the hell out because when I get down to it, I want to do the fanfic *I* want, and I don't want all that other crap. I heard a guy in an author group literally say, when asked what his favorite thing to write was, it was "Whatever the audience wants," and I just thought, "YIKES." I actually managed to find a 9 to 5 at a company where they actually walk the walk when it comes to work-life balance. It was hard getting here (7 years of hell at a retail company) but I feel pretty balanced now.
Dude, this was WAY too accurate. I felt like I was watching myself (the INFP) and my brother (the ESTJ) having a normal daily conversation. I think we have had 90% of this exact dialogue many times before. Nice to see both sides understanding each other... I wish that would happen more in real life.
2:40 I’m an INTP, but this is so relatable- I would never give up a job with freedom for more money or greater stability, lol.
This is brilliant! I was on the edge of my seat and really felt for both of them - it’s like they are so close to understanding each other, but can only really embrace it when alone. INFP married to an ESTJ.
I'm an INFP living an ESTJ life. And I am miserable haha let's find the balance
I love how you end the video! The entire sketch has a point of conflict, a climax, then the resolution part is where both characters found meaning after resolving their altercation.
Applauded! 👏👏 Highly enjoy your channel, Kevin! - ENFP
As an INFJ with severe ADHD, in this case I overlapped a ton with the INFP. I have two non-traditional jobs, both of which make me happy, and neither of which are as stable as I might wish. I loved the balance and interplay shown here between different functions and function stacks. Gives me hope that I'll keep finding my footing, too! 😊
What kind of jobs would you recommend for people with ADHD? Because I have it too.
@@eval4495 I do tutoring and also a small (two-woman) LLC running kids' programs during school breaks. It's stuff that I could naturally develop out of the paths I've ended up taking along the way. I hope maybe my experience can be useful to you, even just to help spark an idea. I relate to the difficulty of finding the right fit! For what it's worth, I'm cheering for you!
I'm an INTP but I feel that I understand both sides. I feel that on the spectrum of ideals versus financial security, I'm somewhere in the middle. There are jobs that I will refuse to do, knowing fully well that there are incompatible with me, but at the same time, I do get it that I need a way to earn a decent living. So I'm probably in the middle attempting to do both the hobby and esoteric pursuits that I wish was a job while earning a living with something close to my expertise that pays. This, I have diluted my energy, spreading myself too much. This would never happen to either the INFP nor the ESTJ. Very insightful. Thank you.
this was actually really nice. didnt expect it to hit hard lol.
This felt like a movie scene. Outstanding work.
Beautiful! Just beautiful!
As an INFP I always wanted to be an artist, a writer, a musician, a wizard, a knight, a pirate (but the real kind with a parrot and a hook prosthetic), a super saiyan and some other things. And Ill keep going towards my goals, your video really inspired me!
This is your best one, I'm serious it was perfect. I'm enfp so I've found myself in that infp position, of being unable to take action, pointlessly wasting time. I'm 24 now and I've had my lessons.
As an ISTJ I have a good drawing realistic ability, made countless drawings and ended up studying in Electrical Engineering major of my dad's company (My dad being an ESTJ @@) and didn't like it at the beginning, had unhealthy coping strategy and went through an addiction because I did not like the major and bad idea from Ne grip.
Now I nearly graduate, heal well from the addiction for entire Uni time and I'd say I wanna focus on my major work more (I found the motivation in my dad's company) and... watch other's drawings on Insta for...drawing's sake :)
My dad after entire of his working life as an Electrical Engineer and the Director, now he begins to watch RUclips videos about catching snakes in rural town in breaks of his work:)
Thank you for this skit Kevin. Your acting is superb *chef kiss* This hits really :)
These 2 are actually subconscious of each other fighting for life and dominance. It is hard to balance these 2 if they shut each other down but when they listen and work together they are wonderful. Just takes a lot of mental energy though.
That's actually how I felt like it would be...
Prob similar with the ENFP
this made me nearly cry, reminded me of my estj. He also wanted to be an artist, but gave up his dream because it wouldn’t make money. Damn.
As an INFP, the first conversation pissed off out of me ngl. But I'm actually amazed how ESTJs worked hard get the job done
I'm INFP and my mother is ESTJ, this is so acurate.
This is so authentic like a real person instead of just MBTI types programmed to a character. Love you Kevin you're a gem.
P.S. Lol shoelaceusa
P.P.S. can't wait for ISFP and ENTJ
Wow the infp becoming philosopher asking dreams is the best part
Holy shit! This is better than I expected.
As an infp I’m just really glad that my dream career also comes with stability. Not many people can follow a dream that doesn’t have some kind of major risk along with it, and I have a lot of respect for people who follow those dreams despite the risk
I came here for an mbti skit and this was waaaaay more than that. Well done, I get the feels and get both perspectives. We all are stuck in between I believe. -an ENFP
This was very heartwarming! I love how the ESTJ searches for paint at the end, hes finally attempting to do what he wants to do! ❤️
awww, I love that they both inspired each other :))))
That was deep
Excellent video for many reasons already stated in the comments! I'm an INFP and looking back at my life, I always felt a bit "less than" for not having career aspirations. Now I have an understanding of exactly why, which I didn't back then. I was fortunate enough to find jobs I loved that were fun, flexible non-corporate, and full of free spirits like me.
You are awesome dude, its real and sweet at the same time, thank you
Man. I am an infp and my dad is an estj... Why is this so accurate?!?!? Great job!!!
wow, this is great. i like how the ending shows how both of them were indeed deeply considering each other's point of views. make one with INTJ and INTP as roommates! :D
1:21 endless possibilities dude... comedian, artist, painter, sculptor, programmer, open my own business, etc. this thing of being "safe" is the same thing of not seeing opportunities for me.
This is so accurate. I used to be sure my crush was ENTJ untill I realized he's more about reality than vision. And he's crazy lol
wow, this is actually very realistic and definitely some of the conversations me (infp) and my father (estj) had. i love the ending, both still try to understand each other. this video was a rollercoaster of emotions for me but it has really surprising conclusion. thank you for this!
Same for me but in my case my mother is the ESTJ. As a child I felt a bit unloved but after we had a deeper conversation and said out point of views, we understand eachother very well.
Bro that is summary of me as INFP trying to communicate with my dad ESTJ. I feel like he is a narcissist, that mainly cares about himself and money. And he feels like it is a miracle that I am not homeless yet. LOL yeah. I thought at the end, when the estj leaves the apartment, the infp would reveal that he has no fans and no patreon. that he just hoped he will at some day. Anyway it feels very real for me.
Nice sketch! Concise yet very in-depth.
I've said that exact line before. "It's not about what I want to do, it's about what I have to do to survive." I keep typing as infp on all these tests.
Ouch this one hurt a lot.
I've been stressed and burned out for a long time. And I hear we rely on our opposite functions whenever we're stressed.
Basically, never able to rest. And I have the philosophy that the faster you get the job done, the easier it becomes.
But I never realized, that with life, the job never gets done.
Welp, time to go cry in a corner.
I do appreciate the vid and the work you do. Keep them coming.
This one just hit very close to home.
And in short. I'm just, very tired.
I see how ESTJs don’t comment a lot here so here I am.
As an ESTJ, especially a female, I must say this conversation doesn’t really happen a lot coz I don’t really care what other people think or do. The ESTJ must care for his INFP roommate so he provides the offer and explains the grown-up thing. I have a lot of dreams I give up gradually during the growing up procedure, and I’m getting them back recently because I have a steady job and enough time to do it.
I really agree what ESTJ thinks here, INFP’s thoughts are sometimes just unrealistic for us. (No offense)
Whelp, I feel called out lol
I'm so glad these vids have positive endings and can show how people are malleable. Just recently learned through the cognitive functions that I'm an ESTJ personality type and coming to terms with how other people see me. Haha it's painful
ESTJs mean well but I can't stand them when they're controlling and pushy.
ESTJ here who works a full time 40+hr a week job. Deep down I want to write a book though. When I was a kid I would spend time writing stories. And I loved to read. So I can relate to the ESTJ here who abandoned his dreams of becoming a painter.
Wow, ESFJ here. These two sound like the inner dialogs in my heart sometimes. I got the feels...
Damn, this reminds me so much of my dad. Although he just enjoys creative stuff as a hobby, he did sacrifice the opportunity for his dream job because my mother was pregnant with me at the time and they couldn't find a house near the workplace. So instead he accepted a job elsewhere. It wasn't a job he wanted and he ruined his back in the long run, but he worked incredibly hard to make sure our family was financially stable. As an ISTJ, I really look up to him. While I'll never be as eloquent, charming and versatile as he is, I still do everything to follow his footsteps within my own capabilities.
I (infp) love my dad (estj) :’)
Always feels like he is just the worldly, grown up version of me, and I’m the childish version of him who refuses to grow up. So similar. Thank you for this, I cried
This one is fantastic! What an incisive exploration of two opposing types in action!
I love how ESTJ was giving though love to INFP, they maybe different like they might fight like cats and dogs and hate each other but deep down they would love each other. Those two would make good frenemies
enfj here. I feel both of these at the same time.
my head freaking boils when i watched this, if i was that infp dude i would've punch his face and screamed GET THE FRICK OUT.
This was beautiful, ty !
I'm an INFP. My best friend is an ESTJ. We've been raising hell together for almost ten years.
This was surprisingly deep.
oh, it's so sweet! my INFP cousin was like this but she finally settled and got some job that she enjoys (at least she says so). I didn't intervene at all.
and I as ESTJ just got lucky to be raised by a really understanding INFJ who managed to see the best in me. I am happy to do my job (I love it!) and hobbies (playing guitar, writing fanfiction, too (OMG) and you know, just enjoying my life).
not everybody is so lucky, though. I was satisfied to see ESTJ take action towards his dreams! some of us people do need a roommate that will remind us of something important we just fail to see.
As an INFP, this would be 100% relatable if people didn’t support my activities and job.
wow (?)
you managed to convey so much while making it look very natural, really I kinda forgot you're like... the same guy acting both types!
great work!
So true, as an infp i think its better to have some stable work u dislike least but having hobbies in free time, youtube channel, patreon etc
You are a great actor
this is real, my ESTJ roommate worries more about my job than me:v
as an INFP this dude must have a lot of respect for his roommate to put so much effort into justifying himself. I'm normally like, "oh you don't approve? k I don't care bye".
Wow, this somehow is really accurate and hit right on the point !
My conversation with XSTJ type usually goes like this 😶 (even the sigh at the end xd)
This is literally every single conversation with my parents every time we talk about jobs in general
I am ISFP but i do relate to INFP (because i am actually somewhere in between of N and S).
After getting bachelor's degree in IT (programming stuff to be specific) i realised that i never actually liked it. I only liked the idea of getting money from that. No real passion there.
But "getting money" wasn't motivating enough and i ended up half-assing things to just get them done.
Now i actually want to do something i love which is writing. And not just as a hobby. That wouldn't be enough. And nobody will stop me (i do tend to be stubborn when it comes to changing things in life). You hear me dad? YOU WON'T STOP ME.
It's now me against the world
POV watching this because I'm INFP and ESTJ at the same time and I always fight against myself like this in my head😂😅
I'm an Enfj my new friend is an Estj I came here to understand him more and help him. Because he doesn't talk much nor does he ask for anything and he's kinda boring at first but then I found out how awesome he is
Oh I loved the ending ... you don't have to think black and white ... i hate my job but It has payed the resources for my hobby ... I feel a bit safe because of it ... I also learned alot from my job
This is a lot like me (INFP) and my xSTJ father, especially during the time when I had to choose a career path. He wanted me to be a teacher since it has "ensurance and astable salary" all the while both of us very well knew I'm NOT the kind of person who can handle crowds (like a classroom full of students).
What I wanted (and I still want) to do is a job related to writing and/or translation. Everyone knew my passions of writing and foreign languages, even though some would say they should just be "hobbies".
Man! Those were chaotic days!😅