The Moment I Became Less Confrontational
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- Опубликовано: 21 май 2022
- Gerby got absolutely mollywopped and that was the moment I became less confrontational
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I’m pretty sure school is the reason so many of us fail to become properly functioning adults. Most of my childhood trauma happened in school. Loved it when I got reprimanded after taking matters of bullying into my own hands
you know. now that I think about it. school is 100% responsible
You should read, ‘dumbing us down’ by john taylor gatto
@@hannibalburess6994 what is it about?
I hate relating to this
I understand and how did you do that?
You thought the freestyle was funny….and you’re absolutely fucking right it was amazing
GENERAL DINKY ASSEMBLE THE CHIPMUNK ARMY
Completely gay and I loved it
Mans got the bars 👌🏽
That freestyle in the beginning😮💨
That had me dying 🤣
I feel like being bullied in school and not doing anything causes violent thoughts to occur I always catch myself day dreaming about beating the fucking shit out of someone but I always catch myself thinking that and just try to decipher this what I’ve gotten to do far
its pent up anger mixed with regret with a pinch of disgust. For me the feelings went away somewhat after i convinced myself that i wont let that happen again, mainly by gym and bjj. If you get that thoughts its good to write them and figure them out when you calmed down then you will dig for the roots of the problem.
These thoughts are normal. Don't let modern society shame you into removing that fight in you
Holy fuck that resonated so much with me. I used to whip up the worst shit in my head man, I didn't get beat up or bullied or anything, but I think the reason I struggled so hard with it, was cause I was raised to never express my anger, and was given no way to divert it. 3 years later, I'm completely a different guy, still a dumb 15 year old, but even though I do have activities I do other than videogames, I just find it a bit sad how I haven't found a way to disperse immense anger.
please continue to journalize your life like this, it is very interesting and entertaining, especially cuz you have that nice soothing voice
We the CCP agree!
It actually is
I've been in the same situation and the only solution is joining a boxing gym, it completely changes your mentality and makes you tougher in the head and even more in fights.
no it makes u dumber lol
I've been lifting weights for about 6 months now this is next on the agenda man I would love to join one can't do it rn tho hopefully I join one before the end of the year
I just joined a boxing gym as well a month ago, I have a millionaire mindset and I want to get to the top. But ive known this girl for a while and i hadnt talked to her until i saw her at school again, and I really like her and she showed a lot of interest but recently shes showed less (i assume because i showed less bc i had a "tough mind" or thought i did) so i then became sensitive, and now im sitting in my own sh*t
@@TheoVonMiscClips you know what to do
@@bakar2134 beat her up
Bro got into more fights in the first grade than I've ever had in 19 yrs
fr was a menace when i was 9
I've thought about this alot, from kindergarten to third grade it was common for the boys to fight on the play ground. I used to fight without fear, was I more of a man when I was a child? A horrible way to be.
yeah i had a lot of fights but most of them happened when i was in high school
On god bro.
All of my fights were in primary school 😂
I was such a little shit
i got in like 1 fight and there was no real violence
Your channel is the most relatable one i found love the content and humor
*full ad crit garen montage*😂😂
@@Hello-gn3ec og content lmao
I remember I used to want to fight kids in 1st grade all the time just because I loved to and would test anyone who said anything about me. After being suspended and tons of detentions, I received basically brainwashing by physical abuse into turning me into an obedient, mute, unemotional child. I never laughed anymore in class, never talked, never smiled. I was deeply scared and afraid my parents would hurt me. Teachers even noticed I was not a normal kid, and wanted to tell my parents. I basically did a complete 360 to my personality at age 6 because I had been beat so badly. Because children are sponges and so impressionable, this basically became my set and stone personality for the rest of my life. Didn’t help either when I was a late bloomer and was 5’3 up until junior year of highschool when I hit a growth spurt. Not gonna go into highschool but you know it was definitely way worse.
I’m just typing this essay hopefully so someone else doesn’t feel too bad about their situation, especially as a male. It’s hard out here.
look up "spaceghostpurrp sermon" but ye sounds like u were in the middle east. that shits common asf
@@farttoilet9490 no bro i live in pennsylvania lol. I'm a born american
@@dtbffe8306 im so sad bro how do you even live happily bro?
I kind of relate to this even though my parents didn't beat me. Right before I started 1st grade my parents were stuffing my head with stuff like "don't pick fights with anyone and don't be rude, tell your teacher!!" and because of that, when I was getting bullied I was too much of a 😺 to do anything about it because I was scared of the consequences. It really f'ed me over and because the sentiment of not taking risks and not confronting people is still attached to me. Parents really determine how their children will develop mentally even with such small things as that.
@@rigzyv2643 exactly. And now that we are old we have to unlearn everything we previously knew
Every trauma dents you like a car in a crash. You can see it in the posture of people. Most of it can be fixed by being mindful of your posture and getting good at stuff. Keeping your head up is actually really good and worthwhile advice. There are situations where keeping your head down is appropriate though.
We need to start a fight club 😤
Gerbert durden
I agree
Start boxing.ive only been doing it for 2 months but after my second spar I looked at the world differently. Combat sports make an unbelievable difference to you as a person
Rule number one of fight club
U broke the first
You should never let another man get you in your emotions being the bigger person and above pettiness will always rise above being a fight seeking person. But you also got to stand on your square and defend yourself.
You could not have said it better brother
Very relatable man, the moment you stand up for yourself its a good feeling.
real talk you got a lot of balls opening up on this, its a struggle for agreeable ppl
relatable. sadly. I can hear the voice in my head saying DO SOMETHING BRO but I just never do
True that
So true man
Gotta rewrite your history, next time when you hear that voice listen, then when something comes up you'll remember yourself as the guy who does something
It's because you've trained your mind to work like that. Until you start training it to act when you want it to, you won't change. Start with small stuff, like complimenting random people. Eventually, you'll be competent at acting the way you want.
@@maxtheawesome4255 im ngl after this post I had a literal switch go off in my head where now im not with the bullshit no more💀💀I gotta chill a lil doe this semen retention rage got me on one
"I just got to suck my way out of this damn situation man"
I'm like the complete opposite. When I was growing up, I dealt with everything by using my fists, because that's how my father used to deal with me. It actually fucked me up a lot, because obviously no one wanted to be around me. Eventually by the time I was 15 or 16, I developed a strong sense of empathy for people and realized what I was doing to people, but my social skills were severely underdeveloped by this point. During high school, no one messed with me, but I also had zero true friends. I've been working on my social skills ever since, but they're still pretty bad, and I go into every relationship with the mindset that no one can like me. Pretty much all of us have some form or another of fucked up trauma from our childhoods. Just know that the bullies are probably just as, if not more fucked up than you are.
Friends come and go, broken pride never leaves tho.
I am the exact same
You should consider joining a boxing or MMA club. Sounds like you like to fight, so getting into a club with like minded people would be a great way to make friends and use your fists in a more constructive way.
They may be even more fucked up, but there’s little pity out here. There’s no excuse, and sympathy is a privilege.
You gotta find balance in this tho. You need to stand your ground when it matters but you can't let everything bother you so much you need to confront people on every other thing.
This. Usually you go from being soft, to being overly aggressive, which is how I became but then found the balance. I just had to make up for all the times I was soft
@@symboIiq damn that's deep fr
Exactly. U gotta choose ur battles
When should you take it to the point of fighting
Its always the authority, tell you you shouldn’t defend yourself, tell you shut up n listen and on top of that bullies! I feel like bullying would be less of a problem if teachers didnt raise us like bitches rather like men
Fr bro, I swear bullies never even get in trouble the teachers just ignore it. And then when someone decides to finally stand up for himself they get suspended and crazy trouble while it was obviously the only and best thing you could do at the moment.
yeah. i’ve gotten told that so many times as a kid due to how rowdy i was that it made me feel as if though i shouldn’t fight back or defend myself which is absolutely wrong and i don’t think a society should raise boys on that sort of notion it just makes weak men.
Gerby, I'm glad I found your Channel. I'm 16 and feel like I can still change myself
"still" bro you can change yourself for the next like 20 years lmaoo.
@@wtfimcrying it just be like that when ur 16.... 2 years left of being legally a child and u really feel like youre not even that far away from dying of old age while ur barely approaching the end of the first quarter of your life
@@somewhat_human yeah thats what happens in the age of the internet i guess.
Bro youre 16, thats very young.
ayooo same bro
Gerb my brother, you are a light in the dark!
Hi Gerbert, I'm a bitch too
Me too all i can do is bendover and let him do his thing
My conclusion on confrontations I’ve recently come to is this : I saw a dude I had beef with 4 years ago at restaurant, he sat right behind us, as he got up to leave, he made the fake spit noise and smiled, my friend sitting with me said the smile coulda been that he was joking but it did hurt my ego cuz I’d flashed him a peace sign before he did it. I did nothing about it. But as I thought about it, if I’m truly secure with myself and done with the beef, doing nothing is how I show that. If id gotten up and started talking shit or anything, just makes me look immature and exposes my insecurities. I don’t think avoiding confrontation makes you “weak” shows that you’re the bigger person and more mature than that shit.
There's a beautiful authenticity to your videos bro, keep making them.
You are very eloquent, thanks for sharing relatable stuff out there
Your videos put a smile on my face every time I watch them. Thank you Gerby.
The freestyle intros and your transparent style of conversing make this channel amazing!!!
I always learn something from gerb's vids. I had no idea what tetherball was.
@AnalfabeticGramarNazi anda ve el video que subí ayer locooooo! Por fa. Quizás te vas a reír o quizás vas a vomitar 🥳
Hey bro, thanks for the videos. I have been training MMA for a year now and it has done wonders for my confidence and my physical looks. Its a ton of fun as well and humbling.
Hey dude, nurse here. Mma is great exercise but don't overdoo this, if you get too many nocks to your head you can have serious consequences, take care.
@@andreaslind6338 I definitely don't want CTE and I am careful in sparring. I only train MMA so I'm not taking fights where i'll be taking full contact hits. Thanks for the reply, more people should be mindful of the risks you are taking!
W mans 🤞🏼
Every word you said touched my heart, how much I relate to that. Thank you for this
Already looking forward to the next freestyle brutha
I remember the very moment I've become non-confrontational was in 9th grade. Before 9th grade, I remember I would beat the crap out of anyone that would piss me off. Especially around 2nd to 4th grade, cuz I would get bullied by the bigger fellas frequently. At that time I didn't tolerate any form of disrespect so for those who've bullied me I would viscerally attack them, until they've eventually stopped. Never rlly got suspended or detention because the teachers and even the principal thought I was a little angel who could do no wrong. But ever since 9th grade, I knew that would no longer be the case when I had to switch schools far from the one I used to be in. There was no particular case of why I've became non-confrontational other than seeing a few classmates of mine get into a fight and they both got suspended for a bit. Which made me afraid of getting into a fight since life at home wasn't particularly great and I knew I would get punished severely if I was to get suspended. It's weird to think that I feel like I was more of a man when I was a kid, than now simply because the young me wouldn't tolerate the disrespect I would get. It's funny to think that brushing it off would make you feel like you're some Buddhist monk who shouldn't get mad at anyone, when in reality, just non-confrontational.
Freestyle was honestly enjoyable...Fire as hell with the vid. Gerby for president
I would say telling the authorities is the best option for the average joe, I was a very confrontational guy, and maybe I still am, I fought many kids before 13 through different situations, and when I was 5 I was a bully when I grew up a bit I fought against other bullies until some other bullies brought some 30-year-old men to the fight and threatened me with gutting me like a fish and ditch my body in a stinking river, I was scared, I have been practicing martial arts, melee combat since that day, and maybe practice how to shoot in the future, so I would say don't look up for fights, if they bully you, go for the authorities.
@@niyazmurshid2133You ignore that?
Youre a very lucid and intelligent storyteller. Freestyle was excellent
this what a lack of a strong male role model in life (should be the father) does to boys. the dude went his entire life being weak, instead of getting stronger. i was like that too, until i met my soldier step-father. he made me change reeaaal quick. i started working out, learned to defend myself. shit changes your life like cocaine overdose.
Bruh fr i dont got a dad and I'm a little bitch
As a smaller kid you needed to learn how to pick up a glass, or a chair, or club of some kind to plant over their heads if need be, and if can tell a situation is definitely going somewhere bad for you, and you in danger you don't hesitate, strike first in those circumstances, you just gotta learn how to feel it, and think few steps ahead of your opponent/assailant, never give opportunities for them to strike first, and there is obviously no shame in running to see another day, especially if/when outnumbered, and or they have weapons
Lil Gerby Droppin absolute flames to start this one
After a fight the chemical balance shifts drastically. The winner has his serotonin high and octopamine low. On the other hand, the loser's serotonin drops down and octopamine skyrockets. These shifts can reconstruct the brain.
The whole underlying science is clearly explained in the book "12 Rules for Life" by Jordan Peterson (chapter "Rule 1. Stand up straight with your shoulders back",
section "The neurochemistry of Defeat and Victory").
I would also add that the Matthew effect comes into place, and people basically get trapped within lose-lose streak.
You absolutely did the right thing and when you go to work on yourself remember that feeling. Authority doesn't meanjackshit if you're about to end up in the ground. You always fight when it's aimed at you first and you're in danger
You should start doing Brazilian jiu jitsu, ive always been self concious,shy, and lacking confidence but since beginning Brazilian jiu jitsu ive became so much more confident and capable. I highly recommend it!
Did you ever use your BJJ skills into a real fight, because nonetheless BJJ is a fun sport to do, but if you come against a Muay Thai fighter you are basically done for. But respect anyway, the sport is cool!
@sL1 * i was about to ask this
@@WoodmanTiller BJJ, or wrestling in general, is very important in real life fights. If you haven't noticed, 90% of the fights end up on the ground and if you know BJJ you can easily dominate your opponent cuz strikers are weak as shit in that situation.
i feel like one of the worst things is knowing that you should change into a direction and like really trying, but just not being able to. in your case standing up for yourself: You know it's a bad thing, you want it to change, but you just can't
Loved the lights
Bro the way you tell stories is funny as fuck i love it
Was not expecting those bars
Giving me hilarious Zias and B Lou vibes with the opening freestyle.
Inspiring, keep pushing forward.
The freestyles are what hook the viewers 😂
Im on my grind for SR, we’re all going to make it bruvs
I was bullied a lot in elementary school, was always brave and I always stood up but it left a strong trauma. I still stand up to bullies but now it just freezes me once i do it i get emotional. So annoying.
If there is Ger B, there should be a Ger A
I’ve learned anger and authority can get u things in short term. People will listen to you, do what you say. Then they resent you. I’ve had some friends of friend I barely know say they hate me just because I momentarily got angry at them. Gotta be careful with it
ay greetings from germany, u a real one wishing u all the best bruv
we lovin the freestyles
That freestyle was cray cray
that freestyle went hard
That freestyle was fire ngl
Thank you for your precious thoughts Mr.Gerbert
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Same but I’m trying to go to boxing to finally set boundaries when I’m confronted
Boxing alone isn't great in street fights, most of the time if you rock someone with punches theyll dive for your legs and take you down and you gotta be ready for that too. I say this from experience because I've been in a few fights and I trained boxing, I could outbox almost everyone I fought but sometimes they'd tackle me after I rocked them and I wasn't prepared for it. Train grappling too brother.
@@goated6146 bet thanks for the advice
We need more unfiltered dialogue thanks man.
These freestyles gives you an identity
Gerby is my spirit animal
Finally a guy I can relate to. Briliant content RUclips has been dry as f
Hahahah I love this kid 😂 one of my favorite channels right now🥳
Bruhhh you killing me and my depression
dude i can watch you all day long!
"Suck and gluck your way out of predicaments." lol. Subbed.
I wish I had personality like this man
i"m gonna need that intro sampled, shits fire!
freestyle was fire bro🔥💯
I love the free styles 😂
You're amazing man you should do standup comedy
5:09 glad you cleared that up. I'm in the Bay and notice the preferential treatment the ratchets get no matter what
Before school your mind is free and you are confident and when your in school your a prisoner if you don’t go to college you are free again
Yo that freestyle was actually kinda fire haha
growth is what gonna take you out from the past left trauma effects
Your life is worth fighting for bro don’t take shit from anyone 💯
That lighting is 🔥
gerby unfiltered
I do believe one can become less confrontational with time naturally. I remember on 8th grade i was beating up half of my friends (not seriously of course) when they did something to me (again nothing serious just stypid teenager jokes). I remember being more respected and i am pretty sure that made at least one girl like me. On next grade I was suddenly another person. I wasn't doing anything to anybody again. All that happened during that summer is that i stayed quite lonely. Still I believe its an useful virtue to know what to do and when to do it. If another person does me one typical stypid joke now (I'm 17), i reply with some kind of punch or something. It does increase respect among your peers to know that you will at least do something if you're annoyed. This way you don't become the punching bag of a group. I never was that although ik that a few people would have been perfectly okay with me being treated like that in the group
spazzed in the beginning
im always ready for a fight because if i dont kill others others will just kill me. kill or be killed if i were less confrontational they would treat me like a doormat and end up killing or harming me
freestyle was lit af
papa gerbs how do i stop being a ppl pleaser fake nice person and set boundaries without feeling guilt
BIG UPS GERB
8:36 Gerb thinking to himself if “ _gotta suck myself outta these damn situations_ “ is a good sentence to end the video on
fire freestyle
That was a good opening, keep doing it up hahahah, maybe someday you'll start your rap career haha
raw asf
Love your freestyle on Jordan Peterson. I live in Toronto an have met JP on the street. He is great and you are amazing.
Eat right start working out go boxing or do some mma keep that grind up and you'll gain confidence in yourself that trauma will go away remember that if you set your mind to it you can do anything KING
man🤣🤣🤣 love u.... from South Africa
Aye ima need you to release that on spotify ma boy
Lobsters have higher chance of losing next fight after losing their last fight
Is there any way or place i can contact you to ask how to deal with a few things or thoughts you touched on during your videos without getting in deeper?
Maybe in the future you could start making videos answering the comment section...the one of these two channels just feel so real.
Anyway keep it up! Amazing content
He got a discord
I've been homeschooled the majority of my life and I've only relatively recently grown to stand my ground and fight when needed. I still have trouble standing my ground when it comes to social situations however. For example, something like my friend does something to betray me and I do nothing but forgive them. I know we should all forgive but it comes to easily for me and I'm not sure if that's good or not
I had some confrontations where an entire band was against me but i managed to be better than them in most confrontation so I can stand my ground if needed
Get on that MMA grind Gerbie, it changed my life.
Your story is similar to mine. Except I was in sixth grade and my bully was in seventh grade only because he had failed once or twice. He also had martial arts training and his dad encouraged him to fight. It was like a real life Karate Kid movie, except I didn't have a Mr. Miyagi.
Song dope asf
Rise up sigma nation 🔥🔥🔥