Matthew and Lewis are back at it again with another fabulous episode. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and insight that continues to bless and inspire our generation. Thank you also for leading by example as two men who are not only teaching the world much practical wisdom but also applying to your own personal life and relationships.
Trash cans... such the life truth. This is what I appreciate in relationship the most: feeling safe and calm inside of me along everyday routine... don't need "heart fireworks" ... all the time...it could be even exosted 🙂
Touch your inner space, which is nothingness manifestation.guide as silent and empty as the sky; it is your inner sky. Once you settle down in your inner sky, you have come home, and a great maturity arises in your actions, in your behavior. Then whatever you do has grace in it. Then whatever you do is a poetry in itself. You live poetry; your walking becomes dancing, your silence becomes music
Two men having a REAL VULNERABLE conversation, now this is true Masculinity! Absolutely beautiful! I’ve been watching Matthew since the beginning and it’s amazing to see where he’s at now with it, another great interview Lewis Howes ♥️
Foundations for a commitment "castle": 1) show up in ways they need, not just how you're comfortable showing up. 2) work on yourself (hobbies, passions, outlets, friends...but also, BE MINDFUL of the difference between being vulnerable and expecting them to constantly put a bandaid on or reassure you. Can't be like that all the time - gotta work on it yourself.) 3) Seeing each other as a teammate, not someone to fulfill your needs (or to compete with) and making sure you're supporting them, being a gardener, not just the flower. (Expect to switch those roles as needed but be ready to support them in their limelight.) Amazing video, guys, with so many thoughtful and insightful nuggets!
Lewis, you’re a great interviewer. I love how you allow your guests to talk without interrupting them. You listen intently with respect. This in turn makes your guests comfortable and more open. This openness makes a great interview therefore adding value to the lives of your viewers. You truly have a gift. I’ve seen a number of very famous people with large platforms who do not have what you have. Thank you for sharing and being true to who you are.
I think the fact that everyone is so worried about being happy is the reason why people find it harder to settle down these days. There's always something(one) around the corner who's going to make you happier, always. The grass is always greener on the other side. I think exactly the opposite - that people should be less selfish and stop thinking about short term pleasures/rewards/happiness and start sacrificing their own happiness for more meaningful connections.
Happiness is moments. Only feelings EMOTIONS. Fleeting. Ever changing highs. Chemical highs. Our bodies are WONDERFULLY DESIGNED. TAKES WORK to feel it. Not lasting or permanent. Always changing LEVELS. UP!!😃 & gradually goes down. Fluctuations in our human bodies. Human feeling minds. Amygdala organ. Hipocampus feels high happiness comes from stomache & human SKIN : OUR NERVOUS SYSTEM!!! Marvelous design. HAPPINESS EXPERIENCES through Friendship Neighbor SIDE HUGS. SHAKING HANDS. CONVEYING GOOD THOUGHTS to each other to BUILDING EACH OTHER UP!!😃 HAPPINESS is WORK ENJOYABLE. ENJOYABLE. THINK ENJOYABLE LIGHT HEARTED TALK WORK. 🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑💡👍👍👍👍
Yes! My ex's son said if u leave my dad then u don't love him! Just bc i decided to not be disrespected don't meen i don't love the guy! I love the guy w all my heart but we butheads! Can't get along anymore bc i decided i won't be disrespected and moved out. We still dated and he said it was all my fault. Ugh! I can't get anywhere w him. He WONT see my side!
THANK YOU for leaving in the part where Matthew lost his train of thought - this was such a breath of fresh air. Loved the humanity. Loved the uncertainty. Loved the realness. He was a role model of bravery in showing up in imperfection. Grateful for both of you holding space for this conversation.
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Awww Matty… I cried around 1:16:00 mins I felt moved by my partner's words and actions he keeps by and always considerate, looks after me well, protective and evolving himself in a balanced way. I am so grateful for him in my life. Deep loving tears as this is a contrast from my past relationships or lack of. Positive healing and peace inside. Love Ya.
@@mynkmoonsun8678 you use garbage cans every day, not the $500 outfit. Dont base relationship only on the big occasions that made you happy (example vacation - it's SUPPOSED to be good), but the every day as well
Mynk Moonsun it means what is your relationship like when no one’s watching. What are the interactions when there’s no special occasions to dress up for, to be extra romantic for. For example, when you come home after a long day at work and your partner prepared a nice hot bath for you, just because he/she knows that’s what you like. Or when he/she spends extra time to fix the shirt that you really like but got ripped in the corner, or when they remember to leave the parsley out of the soup because they know you don’t like it....All without being asked. Small things like that but it requires attention to details and dedication towards the partner to even think of and remember these details are the core of the relationship
I just love how Lewis takes notes, I find it very sweet and moving that he never turns down an opportunity for self growth. Love you both, Matthew comes across as a very smart and spiritual guy.
I love the phrase: 'This is not going to serve you.' I'm not sure where I first heard or read it but I use it so often. And it conveys such a deep sense of care as opposed to judgement or condemnation. It is a gentle reminder of our desired goal. A light for our path when we are in the fog of emotion or expectation.
I must say that the realism of this interview is spectacular. And the depth of what is real in relationships that you both talk about is true. I know this from watching a successful relationship over time (my folks were together 50+ years) They showed exactly these qualities until they passed away. It was the determination to stay in love, to create love, and to remind themselves of the best in each other that kept them together. Thank you for the vulnerability to show what is real.
I love the pause and then the CHOICE to be vulnerabe on Matthew's part made me tear up with happiness. Seeing that choice is beautiful and to be respected no matter who you are.
I decided to listen to this podcast simply because Lewis conducts great interviews. I am so glad that I engaged with an open mind because Matthew dropped soo many gems, which highlighted where I’ve gone wrong in relationships and how I can improve, but he also articulated beautifully what I want out of my future relationship. Clarity is an amazing experience. Brilliant interview and I’ll be listening again! Keep up the great work Lewis and Matthew.
That is one of my favorite videos from you, Matthew Hussey! There’s something raw and vulnerable about you in here. As you said - give people something real, a real story and that really moves people ❤️ Wish you all the strength and love, it’s ok to fall and get hurt sometimes. Thank you for showing us that part of yourself!
I enjoyed the entire interview. Two successful, masculine men having a deep and vulnerable conversation. Now that's a real turn on. I ESPECIALLY loved the part where Matthew suggests not to be edited for loosing his train of thought. So inspiring! So brave! So one of a kind...Thank you Matthew for paving the way for the celebrities and couches of the future! :-)
3 things to say (to Matthew) before time (a life) runs out ;) 1. I love your smile. Even though we may never meet in person, your smiles give great warmth to me, reminding me that there is someone out there in the world that cares. 2. I love your confidence. I still struggle calling myself a coach, but seeing your progress in the past few years really set an example for me that "this is possible!" 3. Thank you for being vulnerable, because, you gave me a chance to be vulnerable too. Many, many love from West Coast.
I really had a good laugh when you said, in a relationship our significant other could care less what we are in our job. Sometimes you have to be the gardener! How true! Thanks Matt!
Damn! ...that castle analogy was spot on and eye opening. I have been building the castle on my own as he sat back and criticized my every move . Here I am 10 years later and he packed and walked out 24 days ago because I have been working so hard for so long to build the foundation then the structure and finally the roof to only realize that he was no where to be found by my side thru thick or thin, good times or bad, thru sickness or health.....so when I did get sick from pulling all the weight ...and after burying my Father and getting a life altering disease that made it impossible for me to carry that weight....he left. I'm angry at myself . I'm a strong woman tho and I will endure the disappointment and I have to remind myself where there are life's rejections are God's protection. I will re read this post years from now and realize it was the best thing to happen for me. Sigh....right now, I just take one day at a time. Thank you for the eye opening insight. I got this.
I absolutely adore Matthew😍, everything about him I find is "my dream men"! Started listening to him awhile ago, realized Im still dealing with unavailable emotional man 🙄 Im very authentic and me 😁, unfortunately atrack these "kind" uffff..Working progress hopefully getting there🥰 Huge hug from a big fan❣️
I can't begin to describe how much it cheered me up to hear that at age 13(!) Matthew noticed that we design the trash cans for each land AND, that we inspired him to create immersive experiences for his seminars!! You see I've worked for Walt Disney Imagineering for 25 years and I've been furloughed due to COVID19. It's a terribly depressing and frightening time for me and my friends and co-workers. We have no idea if or when we'll be called back to work and put back on the payroll. The stress is terrible. This was the last thing I expected to hear tonight but I needed to hear it. I'm new to this channel and just came across a couple of Matthew's videos yesterday and then this video was suggested tonight. I haven't been in a relationship in many years and the deck appears to be stacked against me, but I found a lot of valuable information during this interview so anything is possible! Thank you!
I have recently been introduced to Matthew Hussey. Listening and just in awe on the conversation on how we show/express love towards the needs of our partners; priceless. "Show up in ways they need." Matthew you are a true gem. There's hope in way of insight, guidance, and practicality. Pure gold.
I loved this - it kept reminding me that the only relationship any of us are ever having is the relationship we are having is the one we have with our self. From that place - we either project or relate to others from that center. Every discovery of ourselves is worth every piece of pain that the “mirror” of another brings us. Don’t break the mirror - just be grateful when the mirror reveals the truth - you just have to be looking for the reflection in the mirror of you that the relationship brought you🙏
Thank you Lewis and Matthew for this video. It was the realest conversation about relationships I've seen on youtube. It was like the type of conversation I would have with my friends on the couch I think Matthew might be on to something with the 4 steps: Admiration, Chemistry, Commitment, and Compatibility. My previous relationship was so amazing I couldn't imagine us breaking up, but for some reason things just weren't working after 3 years. Now something's clicked. Admiration? yup. Chemistry? yup. Commitment? yup. Compatibility? :(
26:59-28:54 So powerful about how instincts are not always the best thing to rely on. We have to think as well and make the most practical (and do-able) decision.
Yes! See me- That gives me air. Safety- that gives me wings. Inspire me...that paints an endless rainbow of possibilities! ❤️❤️ I loved this. Both of ur pauses. Deep breaths...and vulnerability was a nice step away from the daily coaching we’ve been seeing from everyone. because real life... real relationships aren’t perfectly rehearsed speeches but rather at times hiccuped and stuttered speeches or like Matthew- a lost train of thought. That was great!!! Thank u both 🙏🏼
I wish more humans would work on being good, unconditionally self loving single individuals instead of being so obsessed with partnerships. We are more complex than one relationship. I appreciate your insights, and also, gosh, maybe just work on being happy and healthy and whole first, THEN relationships happen naturally.
Basically, your potential partner might click/have charisma/chemistry but the compatibility can change within the relationship anytime. Then committing, admiring, communication is also important got it.
Matt has evolved mentally since the last interview. He was and back then an impressive, intelligent man, but here he seems more balanced and mature in the things he talks about
Feeling safe, seen and being inspired to be better every day is everything...this interview brought tears to my eyes. I really hope there are men out there feeling the same way or at least acceptive to talk about these things and willing to improve as much as I am. I'm so ready to build the castle with that amazing view. 🙏😊✨
"Having a really healthy combination, and questioning oneself"!!!!!!! YES! Love that!💖 Finding that balance in a relationship - compassion, empathy, connection, understanding, growing together!🥰🎉🎊💃 my heart is honestly singing from all of this! Just found this gem of a conversation, and I feel blessed! This is the type of "food" that feels so fulfilling and healthy and brings feeling of true joy! Thank you Lewis and Matthew!🙏💖🥰
My family has been through so much in the last 13 to 16 years that I'm 27 physically, feeling 50 mentally. And I've seen, heard and lived through the ups and downs of my parents relationship. They been married almost 30 years and from my observation aren't Really happy. And they had 9 children together! They don't seem to Like each other Wholly. Both have selfish tendencies that they don't recognize. I have learned a lot through their relationship. I Want To Always LIKE The One I'm With. And I Want Him To Always LIKE Me. Like Each Other Enough To Take A Moment Of Silence To Acknowledge & Listen To What The Other Does That Doesn't Sit Right With The Receiver. And We Collectively Acknowledge That Life Will Put Us Through Harsh Trials, Keep Faith In God's Wisdom, Always Have The Desire To Understand Each Other And Be HELP MATES In This Life One Day I'll Have That! IF GOD WILLS!
Lovely, soulful interview...Matthew and Lewis you are two beautiful souls! Still looking to build that castle with someone. My ah-ha moment was when Matthew used the illustration of finding "a great piece of land" (connection/potential with a man) and the importance of both people "building the castle" (the actual relationship) on it. Thank you!
This is a new era.We need to break the bonds of our programming about relationships and create new relationship paradigms based on what evolving beings need .
It’s funny cos I’ve used so many dating apps and talked to many guys, went on a few dates. But I didn’t meet my husband online. I met him at the bank casually standing in the long line. We have a beautiful son and trying to have another baby (possibly girl). I’m sure dating apps work for some, but not for me
@Martina Well, I grew up in the time of no home computers. Went all over the place, did all kinds of things, travelled, never met the right person. Some people have to try extra hard to find the right match. It doesn't 'just happen' for everyone. I suggest going both routes. Online, and go where a lot of available men might be. Maybe volunteer at conferences, or whatever.
On dating apps I’m honestly to the point where I’m just having fun, with LOW Expectations of anything meaningful. I really want to meet my next husband walking down the street at the bank ,the grocery store ,the gas station ,organic and natural ,I’m just literally having fun and exercising and practicing my dating and interview skills.
When Matthew was telling his 3 love letter sentences, this just hit so close to home. I saw my relationship with my boyfriend in these words. We have such a beautiful relationship and we will soon be in a long distance relationship. Your episode really made me think of what we can do and talk before the move in order to think how we will continue to be great together. Thank you Matthew for going for the podcast and Thank you Lewis for hosting him :)
You both are amazing examples! On how to talk and to really listen, on being vulnerable, real, observing, loving and self respecting! And this for all genders! Thanks, guys!!
Great interview! I feel when Matthew uses the word 'instinct' he's really referring to our egos. Gut instinct is something we should all be more in tune with and usually ends up being right. It's the ego mind that causes us to react in certain ways that most of the time can be detrimental to us and our relationships :)
Lewis is an awesome conversationalist host. More genuine relationship-building topic vids. Thanks Lewis for acknowledging others. Authentically brilliant! Much love!
I;ve been listening to Hussey for about 4-5 years now. All that he said made me think oh yes he's right. But then I date and forgot it all! Then go back to Hussey and then forget it all again. The thing is that it now all clicks! Some gets things quickly and some get it late. I'm so happy I finally got it! Thank you, Hussey. Your A, triple C [attraction, chemistry, commitment and compatibility] finally registered! You're Fab!
Great questions Lewis!! The “Letter to your wife on your last day” got me emotional. That’s the stuff life is really about, and it’s so humbling to remember what it all boils down to at the end of it all. It is not just excitement and texting and shallowness forever- this is about your LIFE. It’s about the trash cans!! Amazing interview; Matt is such an inspiring person, and I am leaving this video so humbled but also so motivated! Thanks to you both!
"You need to feel you have a teammate" .. "A lot of people feel they're constantly being understanding, but they don't have a teammate on the other side" .. and again, Matt just swings a bat and beheads me with these affirmations .. thanks for giving yourself the time to study and give form to the emotions that some people like us have difficult time to shape into thoughts
Those 3 last things in that love letter brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing this and thank you Lewis for knowing how to bring the deep gold out of your guests.
Really nice to hear Matthew make connections with the brain, mindful communication, vulnerability, and emotional intelligence. I would love to see him do more of this.
Please continue doing this kind of videos, discussions between the two of you. You have no idea how much impact it has, how much opens the mind and heals the soul! Very inspiring, thank you so so much, much gratitude and appreciation!
I've followed Matthew for a little while now, and find a lot of his talks/interviews to be helpful or insightful, but this one, in particular, I found to be incredibly moving. In part because of the raw vulnerability (good call to leave in the real human moments of distraction/lost thought), but perhaps more so for having recently experienced and realized much of this myself. You can be in love and unhappy...staying in a relationship far longer than I ever should have because we were two independently successful people who loved each other, admired one another and pushed each other to grow...on the outside it looked like it should have worked. Realizing and admitting that I was holding onto a future that I envisioned with this person, the life that I hoped we would have once all of these "obstacles" were out of the way, rather than what actually was...admitting that, if that future never came and what we had in the present was how it was forever, I would be miserable and unfulfilled, and finding the courage to walk away was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I kept holding on to all of our "Space Mountains," dreaming of all the future trips to Disney Land, and ignoring the state of the trash cans. Thank you both so much for sharing this with the world.
Great relationships will change the world, or at least the world around us, so thanks very much guys for your constant exploration and conversation. None of us know all the answers and I appreciate your focus on humility. You both seem excited, and I really also like the "height" of your aspirations. I support you both in getting there and sharing it with the rest of us. Go for gold! In fact, go for element 115!
15 minutes in is a total realisation a true sharing - my core needs were not met and my entire future was a vision that was not happening both ways. My rescue was my children’s protection xx
If more men and women had these types of REAL conversations, based on vulnerability and selflessness in relationships, I believe we would live in a world with less sexism, gender neutrality and the utmost respect for each other. It just might lessen the catty and egotistical response we often run to.
I don’t know about other women out there, but I’ve been very direct with my wants from men. Seems to be working so far. If a women or a man are passive aggressive, then nothing progresses. 🤔
It's beautiful to see many of us trying, learning to be better at relationships, we've discovered that only growth will decrease the pain and the suffering we've experienced in our romantic live. Thanks for sharing this knowledge and growing and learning and helping us truly appreciate it ❤️❤️❤️
Awesome cant wait to hear this right through on the way home. I loved the last show and have followed Mathew since. So much truth. Love your Channel & book Lewis
I have seen many of Matthew's videos and listen to the GTG audiobook. This one feels the most authentic and it moved me. There is a sense of truth and vulnerability that it is extremely endearing. Never lose that trash can spark, Mathew! You may only be seeing the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the number of people you are helping. Please keep fighting the good fight. :)
I never post comments but I really needed to commend Matthew & Lewis for such an insightful, thought provoking interview. Matt you are so on point about building "a castle" although I also learn a lot from your videos and other material. I am so moved to look at a love relationship differently. I know about the 5 love languages but you included it here in a very powerful manner. Thank you. Much appreciated.
"It's one where 1+1=3." Ended with arguably the best quote of the entire podcast. Although there were a lot of great tidbits in the middle. Good stuff fellas!
Lewis, thank you so much for bringing in Matthew. That was such a genuine interview. You two are just great!! And for Matthew, there's so much power in showing vulnerability and yes not portraying perfect all the time is nothing but authentic and inspiring. You're my favorite and only Life and Relationships Coach 💜
I really understand the standard that Mathew talks about but I haven't found someone who has the kind of growth, and thought of how great quality of relationships can be. This is the first time I have heard and for a guy to say this, he has to have a quality of thought which comes from self awareness and self meditation. It is honest.
Oh wow. You two are beautiful men with beautiful spirits. God put you on this earth to help make our lives better and guide us into making better choices for our lives I believe. I am happy that you are living out your purpose(s). Matthew, what you have shared here has done a lot for me in my personal life and love life. I just wanna say, Thank You.
The research shows those that meet off line have more success with long term relationships. Vs. The “grass is greener syndrome” on line causes especially if you photograph well. Good stuff Lewis and Matthew. Ricky
Wow I've not finished Watching this yet but Matthew is absolutely glowing !! He looks sooo happy and self assure d and almost at peace with everything. I'd like to think it's partly because of his relationship and it's just so beautiful to see genuine happiness radiating from someone
I ONLY focus on ONE man at a time.If he’s flaky inconsistent ,ghosting ,etc. and he totally disconnects, I DONT let him come back. Like Matthew said most people on dating websites are talking to multiple people at the EXACT same time. BUT,If I’m really investing in focusing in him and I DONT get the same thing from him NEXT , he doesn’t get the opportunity to do me like that again.,There’s a chance that if he did it once, he will do it again ,and my heart is NOT a revolving door.
Thank you so much for this video! your wisdom, honesty, kindness - you both break so many walls of stiff concept one might have about life, love, itself... the way you do it.. with such a gentle power, intelligence, and compassion... it's amazing - you give people so much wisdom, freedom, and love! Thank you for that! ps: I'm attending Mattew's event in London next week, so excited, can't wait!!
Wow!! What a powerful episode. Thank you both for sharing. Matthew, you helped me wake up about myself. Also thanks for not editing and be genuine as always.
Beautiful guys! I can't believe Matthew is 5 months younger than me...he is wise beyond his years! What a love note! He has clearly set his intention...I'm sure he will be building a magnificent, glorious castle with the right lady soon and that he will one day be able to tell her just that 🏰💕. I look forward to building a solid castle with someone some day soon also 😊. I always dreamt of the castle...but I feel more ready to build alongside someone now from the ground up, as opposed to waiting at the top of my tower like Rapunzel...waiting for her prince charming to climb up to her. Keep on keeping it real guys! Awesome friendship the two of you share. And it is great that you value that and don't take it for granted. Keep showing all the men out there how to be vulnerable and how to strive to be and do better. Peace.
Matthew and Lewis are back at it again with another fabulous episode. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and insight that continues to bless and inspire our generation. Thank you also for leading by example as two men who are not only teaching the world much practical wisdom but also applying to your own personal life and relationships.
You are very welcome!
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Trash cans... such the life truth. This is what I appreciate in relationship the most: feeling safe and calm inside of me along everyday routine... don't need "heart fireworks" ... all the time...it could be even exosted 🙂
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Touch your inner space, which is nothingness manifestation.guide as silent and empty as the sky; it is your inner sky. Once you settle down in your inner sky, you have come home, and a great maturity arises in your actions, in your behavior. Then whatever you do has grace in it. Then whatever you do is a poetry in itself. You live poetry; your walking becomes dancing, your silence becomes music
Two men having a REAL VULNERABLE conversation, now this is true Masculinity! Absolutely beautiful! I’ve been watching Matthew since the beginning and it’s amazing to see where he’s at now with it, another great interview Lewis Howes ♥️
I SO agree!! On all fronts, and Lewis having the ability to let him shine too. I got SO much from this.
yes, it's very raw. love that
said no man ever
You're a woman hahahaha, you don't know what true masculinity is.
@@jayc342009 And you're man who has no idea what women are attracted to
Foundations for a commitment "castle":
1) show up in ways they need, not just how you're comfortable showing up.
2) work on yourself (hobbies, passions, outlets, friends...but also, BE MINDFUL of the difference between being vulnerable and expecting them to constantly put a bandaid on or reassure you. Can't be like that all the time - gotta work on it yourself.)
3) Seeing each other as a teammate, not someone to fulfill your needs (or to compete with) and making sure you're supporting them, being a gardener, not just the flower. (Expect to switch those roles as needed but be ready to support them in their limelight.)
Amazing video, guys, with so many thoughtful and insightful nuggets!
deprofundis thank you for the summary
@@katiacomk you're welcome!
@deprofundis So well said (summarized) thank you!
Thanks for the summary saves me time.
Yeah, pretty good summary.
Lewis, you’re a great interviewer. I love how you allow your guests to talk without interrupting them. You listen intently with respect. This in turn makes your guests comfortable and more open. This openness makes a great interview therefore adding value to the lives of your viewers. You truly have a gift. I’ve seen a number of very famous people with large platforms who do not have what you have. Thank you for sharing and being true to who you are.
Thanks so much for watching, Sherri!
And he is so humble!!!
Literally why I watch him! He listens without interrupting his guests. Such a talented interviewer.
“You made me feel safe, seen, and you made me wanna be a better person.” Thanks Lewis and Matthew. I shall treasure those words for a long time.
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Thanks for highlighting it I noted it in my bullet journal!
"you can be in love and unhappy!" -- We DO need to start worrying more about happiness! I love Mathew!
I think the fact that everyone is so worried about being happy is the reason why people find it harder to settle down these days. There's always something(one) around the corner who's going to make you happier, always. The grass is always greener on the other side. I think exactly the opposite - that people should be less selfish and stop thinking about short term pleasures/rewards/happiness and start sacrificing their own happiness for more meaningful connections.
But then Matthew would be out of business so of course he's not gonna say that hehe.
Happiness comes from within. Fall in love with yourself first and be happy with yourself, that relationship never fails. ❤
Happiness is moments. Only feelings EMOTIONS. Fleeting. Ever changing highs. Chemical highs. Our bodies are WONDERFULLY DESIGNED. TAKES WORK to feel it. Not lasting or permanent. Always changing LEVELS. UP!!😃 & gradually goes down. Fluctuations in our human bodies. Human feeling minds. Amygdala organ. Hipocampus feels high happiness comes from stomache & human SKIN : OUR NERVOUS SYSTEM!!! Marvelous design. HAPPINESS EXPERIENCES through
Friendship Neighbor SIDE HUGS. SHAKING HANDS. CONVEYING GOOD THOUGHTS to each other to BUILDING EACH OTHER UP!!😃 HAPPINESS is WORK
ENJOYABLE. ENJOYABLE. THINK ENJOYABLE LIGHT HEARTED TALK WORK. 🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑💡👍👍👍👍
Yes! My ex's son said if u leave my dad then u don't love him! Just bc i decided to not be disrespected don't meen i don't love the guy! I love the guy w all my heart but we butheads! Can't get along anymore bc i decided i won't be disrespected and moved out. We still dated and he said it was all my fault. Ugh! I can't get anywhere w him. He WONT see my side!
THANK YOU for leaving in the part where Matthew lost his train of thought - this was such a breath of fresh air. Loved the humanity. Loved the uncertainty. Loved the realness. He was a role model of bravery in showing up in imperfection. Grateful for both of you holding space for this conversation.
Timestamp please?
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@@alexa81387 Thank you!
I really valued that bit aswell ! Like it was just real talk
I agree! How raw and real and touching.
13:22 “most people who believe they are evolved enough for a relationship are not.”
Fantastic quote. And it hurt my feelings 😆
Dr frank love spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a seoond chance. He helped me restore back my broken reoken relationshipof 5 years my bringing back my ex Read more
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I LOVE how raw Matthew is getting lately. Wonderful interview🙏🏽
Appreciate you, Lee!
"Relationship is a castle with secret passages only you know about, where a wall gets knocked down and you build it back up again" ❤❤❤
Did you just say raw?
Thank you Lewis! You have inspired me so much. Blessings
Awww Matty… I cried around 1:16:00 mins I felt moved by my partner's words and actions he keeps by and always considerate, looks after me well, protective and evolving himself in a balanced way. I am so grateful for him in my life. Deep loving tears as this is a contrast from my past relationships or lack of. Positive healing and peace inside. Love Ya.
"Relationship is a castle with secret passages only you know about, where a wall gets knocked down and you build it back up again" ❤❤❤
What?
I lI’ve the secret passages part
"Relationships are about the trash cans, man." I love it. Much love to both of you. I appreciate conversations like this very much.
Grateful for you, Gabrielle!
Not to mention it s so amazing to see two beautiful, attractive men talking and being vulnerable.
What does this mean more specifically? It's about how you deal with problems?
@@mynkmoonsun8678 you use garbage cans every day, not the $500 outfit. Dont base relationship only on the big occasions that made you happy (example vacation - it's SUPPOSED to be good), but the every day as well
Mynk Moonsun it means what is your relationship like when no one’s watching. What are the interactions when there’s no special occasions to dress up for, to be extra romantic for. For example, when you come home after a long day at work and your partner prepared a nice hot bath for you, just because he/she knows that’s what you like. Or when he/she spends extra time to fix the shirt that you really like but got ripped in the corner, or when they remember to leave the parsley out of the soup because they know you don’t like it....All without being asked. Small things like that but it requires attention to details and dedication towards the partner to even think of and remember these details are the core of the relationship
I just love how Lewis takes notes, I find it very sweet and moving that he never turns down an opportunity for self growth. Love you both, Matthew comes across as a very smart and spiritual guy.
This is becoming my favourite bromance!
me too
Lol same
I love the phrase: 'This is not going to serve you.' I'm not sure where I first heard or read it but I use it so often. And it conveys such a deep sense of care as opposed to judgement or condemnation. It is a gentle reminder of our desired goal. A light for our path when we are in the fog of emotion or expectation.
I must say that the realism of this interview is spectacular. And the depth of what is real in relationships that you both talk about is true.
I know this from watching a successful relationship over time (my folks were together 50+ years) They showed exactly these qualities until they passed away. It was the determination to stay in love, to create love, and to remind themselves of the best in each other that kept them together. Thank you for the vulnerability to show what is real.
This "remind themselves of the best in each other" part is something I hadn't considered explicitly. Thank you!
This conversation is lovely and genuine make u believe gives u hope in your life . I loved listen to u. U r beautiful.
I love the pause and then the CHOICE to be vulnerabe on Matthew's part made me tear up with happiness. Seeing that choice is beautiful and to be respected no matter who you are.
big fan of Matthew's, so excited to watch this interview. thanks, Lewis!
Frank James 😯😯😯
Frank James, what a nice surprise to see your comment here. I enjoy your videos and also Matthew's. So glad we have that in common 😊
Hi there 😻
@Debora Egha Skinnna Glory or is he ENFJ? Not sure. Someone else has an opinion?
Ohh hi! I'm surprised to see FJ's comment in here 😍❤❤❤
"You can be in love AND be unhappy" **BRAIN EXPLOSION* I LOVE YOU MATTHEW HUSSEY!
Mathew; this is the best interview and discussion I have seen you have. Wise beyond your years!
I decided to listen to this podcast simply because Lewis conducts great interviews. I am so glad that I engaged with an open mind because Matthew dropped soo many gems, which highlighted where I’ve gone wrong in relationships and how I can improve, but he also articulated beautifully what I want out of my future relationship. Clarity is an amazing experience. Brilliant interview and I’ll be listening again! Keep up the great work Lewis and Matthew.
That is one of my favorite videos from you, Matthew Hussey! There’s something raw and vulnerable about you in here. As you said - give people something real, a real story and that really moves people ❤️ Wish you all the strength and love, it’s ok to fall and get hurt sometimes. Thank you for showing us that part of yourself!
I enjoyed the entire interview. Two successful, masculine men having a deep and vulnerable conversation. Now that's a real turn on. I ESPECIALLY loved the part where Matthew suggests not to be edited for loosing his train of thought. So inspiring! So brave! So one of a kind...Thank you Matthew for paving the way for the celebrities and couches of the future! :-)
3 things to say (to Matthew) before time (a life) runs out ;)
1. I love your smile. Even though we may never meet in person, your smiles give great warmth to me, reminding me that there is someone out there in the world that cares.
2. I love your confidence. I still struggle calling myself a coach, but seeing your progress in the past few years really set an example for me that "this is possible!"
3. Thank you for being vulnerable, because, you gave me a chance to be vulnerable too.
Many, many love from West Coast.
I really had a good laugh when you said, in a relationship our significant other could care less what we are in our job. Sometimes you have to be the gardener! How true! Thanks Matt!
Damn! ...that castle analogy was spot on and eye opening. I have been building the castle on my own as he sat back and criticized my every move . Here I am 10 years later and he packed and walked out 24 days ago because I have been working so hard for so long to build the foundation then the structure and finally the roof to only realize that he was no where to be found by my side thru thick or thin, good times or bad, thru sickness or health.....so when I did get sick from pulling all the weight ...and after burying my Father and getting a life altering disease that made it impossible for me to carry that weight....he left. I'm angry at myself . I'm a strong woman tho and I will endure the disappointment and I have to remind myself where there are life's rejections are God's protection. I will re read this post years from now and realize it was the best thing to happen for me. Sigh....right now, I just take one day at a time. Thank you for the eye opening insight. I got this.
I absolutely adore Matthew😍, everything about him I find is "my dream men"! Started listening to him awhile ago, realized Im still dealing with unavailable emotional man 🙄 Im very authentic and me 😁, unfortunately atrack these "kind" uffff..Working progress hopefully getting there🥰
Huge hug from a big fan❣️
I can't begin to describe how much it cheered me up to hear that at age 13(!) Matthew noticed that we design the trash cans for each land AND, that we inspired him to create immersive experiences for his seminars!! You see I've worked for Walt Disney Imagineering for 25 years and I've been furloughed due to COVID19. It's a terribly depressing and frightening time for me and my friends and co-workers. We have no idea if or when we'll be called back to work and put back on the payroll. The stress is terrible. This was the last thing I expected to hear tonight but I needed to hear it. I'm new to this channel and just came across a couple of Matthew's videos yesterday and then this video was suggested tonight. I haven't been in a relationship in many years and the deck appears to be stacked against me, but I found a lot of valuable information during this interview so anything is possible! Thank you!
Lewis I love how humble you are!
I love the trash can analogy, quickly ended a relationship recently for unattended trash cans.
I have recently been introduced to Matthew Hussey. Listening and just in awe on the conversation on how we show/express love towards the needs of our partners; priceless. "Show up in ways they need." Matthew you are a true gem. There's hope in way of insight, guidance, and practicality. Pure gold.
I loved this - it kept reminding me that the only relationship any of us are ever having is the relationship we are having is the one we have with our self. From that place - we either project or relate to others from that center. Every discovery of ourselves is worth every piece of pain that the “mirror” of another brings us. Don’t break the mirror - just be grateful when the mirror reveals the truth - you just have to be looking for the reflection in the mirror of you that the relationship brought you🙏
GREAT POINT ABOUT SOCIAL MEDIA- ITS TOXIC FOR MODERN DAY LOVE:)
This man makes so much sense ..i stumbled on to this video on autoplay....and im subscribing...off of this 1 vid
Thank you Lewis and Matthew for this video. It was the realest conversation about relationships I've seen on youtube. It was like the type of conversation I would have with my friends on the couch
I think Matthew might be on to something with the 4 steps: Admiration, Chemistry, Commitment, and Compatibility.
My previous relationship was so amazing I couldn't imagine us breaking up, but for some reason things just weren't working after 3 years. Now something's clicked. Admiration? yup. Chemistry? yup. Commitment? yup. Compatibility? :(
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26:59-28:54 So powerful about how instincts are not always the best thing to rely on. We have to think as well and make the most practical (and do-able) decision.
"we should educate our partner about how we love or should be loved not from an arrogant way, but from a loving place" - matthew hussey
Thank you for being genuine, Matt. I was wondering why your blank moments were not edited, but i learned why at the end. Very inspiring.
Yes! See me- That gives me air. Safety- that gives me wings. Inspire me...that paints an endless rainbow of possibilities! ❤️❤️
I loved this. Both of ur pauses. Deep breaths...and vulnerability was a nice step away from the daily coaching we’ve been seeing from everyone. because real life... real relationships aren’t perfectly rehearsed speeches but rather at times hiccuped and stuttered speeches or like Matthew- a lost train of thought. That was great!!! Thank u both 🙏🏼
This is what you have told me today at our meeting in Toronto “ love myths” don’t be nice , be kind to yourself . That touched me deeply.
Thanks for not editing! The Realness was Absolutely Awesome & Thought Provoking! Excellent exchange....🎓🎓🎊
I wish more humans would work on being good, unconditionally self loving single individuals instead of being so obsessed with partnerships. We are more complex than one relationship. I appreciate your insights, and also, gosh, maybe just work on being happy and healthy and whole first, THEN relationships happen naturally.
Amen!
Best Matthew's conversation ever. I really like this raw and heart-felt interview more than any of his previous more energetic and eloquent speeches
Basically, your potential partner might click/have charisma/chemistry but the compatibility can change within the relationship anytime. Then committing, admiring, communication is also important got it.
Always love when you bring Matthew. He drops a lot of wisdom, really love the castle analogy and playing the tambourine! All about teamwork 💪🏽
Appreciate you!
Matt has evolved mentally since the last interview. He was and back then an impressive, intelligent man, but here he seems more balanced and mature in the things he talks about
The stuff Matthew says at 1:21:00 is pure gold. We need more of that in this day and age!
This was so kind and wise and vulnerable and HUMAN. Thank you to you both!
Feeling safe, seen and being inspired to be better every day is everything...this interview brought tears to my eyes. I really hope there are men out there feeling the same way or at least acceptive to talk about these things and willing to improve as much as I am. I'm so ready to build the castle with that amazing view. 🙏😊✨
"Having a really healthy combination, and questioning oneself"!!!!!!! YES! Love that!💖
Finding that balance in a relationship - compassion, empathy, connection, understanding, growing together!🥰🎉🎊💃 my heart is honestly singing from all of this!
Just found this gem of a conversation, and I feel blessed! This is the type of "food" that feels so fulfilling and healthy and brings feeling of true joy!
Thank you Lewis and Matthew!🙏💖🥰
Wow the castle metaphor hit me hard, I will remember it everytime I see a nice piece of land 🙆🏽♀️
My family has been through so much in the last 13 to 16 years that I'm 27 physically, feeling 50 mentally. And I've seen, heard and lived through the ups and downs of my parents relationship. They been married almost 30 years and from my observation aren't Really happy. And they had 9 children together! They don't seem to Like each other Wholly. Both have selfish tendencies that they don't recognize. I have learned a lot through their relationship. I Want To Always LIKE The One I'm With. And I Want Him To Always LIKE Me. Like Each Other Enough To Take A Moment Of Silence To Acknowledge & Listen To What The Other Does That Doesn't Sit Right With The Receiver. And We Collectively Acknowledge That Life Will Put Us Through Harsh Trials, Keep Faith In God's Wisdom, Always Have The Desire To Understand Each Other And Be HELP MATES In This Life
One Day I'll Have That! IF GOD WILLS!
Lovely, soulful interview...Matthew and Lewis you are two beautiful souls! Still looking to build that castle with someone. My ah-ha moment was when Matthew used the illustration of finding "a great piece of land" (connection/potential with a man) and the importance of both people "building the castle" (the actual relationship) on it. Thank you!
This is a new era.We need to break the bonds of our programming about relationships and create new relationship paradigms based on what evolving beings need .
It’s funny cos I’ve used so many dating apps and talked to many guys, went on a few dates. But I didn’t meet my husband online. I met him at the bank casually standing in the long line.
We have a beautiful son and trying to have another baby (possibly girl).
I’m sure dating apps work for some, but not for me
@Martina Well, I grew up in the time of no home computers. Went all over the place, did all kinds of things, travelled, never met the right person.
Some people have to try extra hard to find the right match. It doesn't 'just happen' for everyone.
I suggest going both routes. Online, and go where a lot of available men might be. Maybe volunteer at conferences, or whatever.
Lucky you! Have fun!
On dating apps I’m honestly to the point where I’m just having fun, with LOW
Expectations of anything meaningful. I really want to meet my next husband walking down the street at the bank ,the grocery store ,the gas station ,organic and natural ,I’m just literally having fun and exercising and practicing my dating and interview skills.
When Matthew was telling his 3 love letter sentences, this just hit so close to home. I saw my relationship with my boyfriend in these words. We have such a beautiful relationship and we will soon be in a long distance relationship. Your episode really made me think of what we can do and talk before the move in order to think how we will continue to be great together.
Thank you Matthew for going for the podcast and Thank you Lewis for hosting him :)
You both are amazing examples! On how to talk and to really listen, on being vulnerable, real, observing, loving and self respecting! And this for all genders! Thanks, guys!!
Great interview! I feel when Matthew uses the word 'instinct' he's really referring to our egos. Gut instinct is something we should all be more in tune with and usually ends up being right. It's the ego mind that causes us to react in certain ways that most of the time can be detrimental to us and our relationships :)
Love the castle analogy. It will help me so much moving forward with my dating journey.
😢 at 15:22 was spot on. I’ve lived it. The key I believe is to love oneself more
Lewis is an awesome conversationalist host. More genuine relationship-building topic vids. Thanks Lewis for acknowledging others. Authentically brilliant! Much love!
You are very welcome!
I;ve been listening to Hussey for about 4-5 years now. All that he said made me think oh yes he's right. But then I date and forgot it all! Then go back to Hussey and then forget it all again. The thing is that it now all clicks! Some gets things quickly and some get it late. I'm so happy I finally got it! Thank you, Hussey. Your A, triple C [attraction, chemistry, commitment and compatibility] finally registered! You're Fab!
What a vulnerable & layered conversation. 🙌💯 That Love letter 💌 question....wow.
Grateful for you, Lisa!
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Great questions Lewis!! The “Letter to your wife on your last day” got me emotional. That’s the stuff life is really about, and it’s so humbling to remember what it all boils down to at the end of it all. It is not just excitement and texting and shallowness forever- this is about your LIFE. It’s about the trash cans!! Amazing interview; Matt is such an inspiring person, and I am leaving this video so humbled but also so motivated! Thanks to you both!
Well said! I teared up. I got emotional as well :) He distilled it down to what matters the most. ❤️ Many men don’t articulate all of that.
Love this message! I want to apply the importance of the trash cans to my business as well as my relationship
"You need to feel you have a teammate" .. "A lot of people feel they're constantly being understanding, but they don't have a teammate on the other side" .. and again, Matt just swings a bat and beheads me with these affirmations .. thanks for giving yourself the time to study and give form to the emotions that some people like us have difficult time to shape into thoughts
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Those 3 last things in that love letter brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing this and thank you Lewis for knowing how to bring the deep gold out of your guests.
Profound moment when he said that you can be in love and be unhappy... DAMN!
Really nice to hear Matthew make connections with the brain, mindful communication, vulnerability, and emotional intelligence. I would love to see him do more of this.
Please continue doing this kind of videos, discussions between the two of you. You have no idea how much impact it has, how much opens the mind and heals the soul! Very inspiring, thank you so so much, much gratitude and appreciation!
Two wise men. It is a breath of fresh air. I could have listened to you guys for ever.
Love is a verb / Love is a doing word (Massive Attack)
I've followed Matthew for a little while now, and find a lot of his talks/interviews to be helpful or insightful, but this one, in particular, I found to be incredibly moving. In part because of the raw vulnerability (good call to leave in the real human moments of distraction/lost thought), but perhaps more so for having recently experienced and realized much of this myself. You can be in love and unhappy...staying in a relationship far longer than I ever should have because we were two independently successful people who loved each other, admired one another and pushed each other to grow...on the outside it looked like it should have worked. Realizing and admitting that I was holding onto a future that I envisioned with this person, the life that I hoped we would have once all of these "obstacles" were out of the way, rather than what actually was...admitting that, if that future never came and what we had in the present was how it was forever, I would be miserable and unfulfilled, and finding the courage to walk away was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I kept holding on to all of our "Space Mountains," dreaming of all the future trips to Disney Land, and ignoring the state of the trash cans. Thank you both so much for sharing this with the world.
Great relationships will change the world, or at least the world around us, so thanks very much guys for your constant exploration and conversation. None of us know all the answers and I appreciate your focus on humility. You both seem excited, and I really also like the "height" of your aspirations. I support you both in getting there and sharing it with the rest of us. Go for gold! In fact, go for element 115!
15 minutes in is a total realisation a true sharing - my core needs were not met and my entire future was a vision that was not happening both ways. My rescue was my children’s protection xx
If more men and women had these types of REAL conversations, based on vulnerability and selflessness in relationships, I believe we would live in a world with less sexism, gender neutrality and the utmost respect for each other. It just might lessen the catty and egotistical response we often run to.
that will never happen though
@@jayc342009 Because women communicate indirectly
@Maleficent Men are direct communicators
@@orkzin FALSE.
I don’t know about other women out there, but I’ve been very direct with my wants from men. Seems to be working so far. If a women or a man are passive aggressive, then nothing progresses. 🤔
It's beautiful to see many of us trying, learning to be better at relationships, we've discovered that only growth will decrease the pain and the suffering we've experienced in our romantic live. Thanks for sharing this knowledge and growing and learning and helping us truly appreciate it ❤️❤️❤️
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Awesome cant wait to hear this right through on the way home. I loved the last show and have followed Mathew since. So much truth. Love your Channel & book Lewis
I have seen many of Matthew's videos and listen to the GTG audiobook. This one feels the most authentic and it moved me. There is a sense of truth and vulnerability that it is extremely endearing. Never lose that trash can spark, Mathew! You may only be seeing the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the number of people you are helping. Please keep fighting the good fight. :)
Very powerful, touching and helpful. Fantastic questions as well! Truly appreciate the incredible people I've learned about on this channel!
I never post comments but I really needed to commend Matthew & Lewis for such an insightful, thought provoking interview. Matt you are so on point about building "a castle" although I also learn a lot from your videos and other material. I am so moved to look at a love relationship differently. I know about the 5 love languages but you included it here in a very powerful manner. Thank you. Much appreciated.
"The castle is where it's at" Loving this conversation
"It's one where 1+1=3." Ended with arguably the best quote of the entire podcast. Although there were a lot of great tidbits in the middle. Good stuff fellas!
Lewis, thank you so much for bringing in Matthew. That was such a genuine interview. You two are just great!! And for Matthew, there's so much power in showing vulnerability and yes not portraying perfect all the time is nothing but authentic and inspiring. You're my favorite and only Life and Relationships Coach 💜
I really understand the standard that Mathew talks about but I haven't found someone who has the kind of growth, and thought of how great quality of relationships can be. This is the first time I have heard and for a guy to say this, he has to have a quality of thought which comes from self awareness and self meditation. It is honest.
This guy is amazing
A wonderful combination of light and profound
His outlook on love and relationship is truly philosophical
why is he single?:)
@@srwarner3346 he is still in search of the best :)
Not settling for less than his ideal
Who knows
Oh wow. You two are beautiful men with beautiful spirits. God put you on this earth to help make our lives better and guide us into making better choices for our lives I believe. I am happy that you are living out your purpose(s). Matthew, what you have shared here has done a lot for me in my personal life and love life. I just wanna say, Thank You.
The research shows those that meet off line have more success with long term relationships. Vs. The “grass is greener syndrome” on line causes especially if you photograph well. Good stuff Lewis and Matthew. Ricky
I bet that’s right, but I have so few opportunities to meet single men in my daily life.
Matthew Hussey, you made an impact on my instinct. I just love the way you connect. You just made my Sunday. Stella
I never thought I would start crying because somebody talked about trashcans the way Matthew does. I want these trashcans
Wow I've not finished Watching this yet but Matthew is absolutely glowing !! He looks sooo happy and self assure d and almost at peace with everything. I'd like to think it's partly because of his relationship and it's just so beautiful to see genuine happiness radiating from someone
He isn't in a relationship anymore so 😜🙁🤪
@@nidzapage1968 I heard.. Either way he looks like he's in a really good place here
@@pinkunicornglitter i'm sure they've been broken up longer than we've known. He's gonna be fine and so is she. Part of life.
Thank you both! One of the most inspiring, interesting conversations I ‘ve heard. I feel so blessed being able to enjoy this... Thank you!!!
I ONLY focus on ONE man at a time.If he’s flaky inconsistent ,ghosting ,etc. and he totally disconnects, I DONT let him come back. Like Matthew said most people on dating websites are talking to multiple people at the EXACT same time. BUT,If I’m really investing in focusing in him and I DONT get the same thing from him NEXT , he doesn’t get the opportunity to do me like that again.,There’s a chance that if he did it once, he will do it again ,and my heart is NOT a revolving door.
Thank you so much for this video! your wisdom, honesty, kindness - you both break so many walls of stiff concept one might have about life, love, itself... the way you do it.. with such a gentle power, intelligence, and compassion... it's amazing - you give people so much wisdom, freedom, and love! Thank you for that!
ps: I'm attending Mattew's event in London next week, so excited, can't wait!!
Wow!! What a powerful episode. Thank you both for sharing. Matthew, you helped me wake up about myself. Also thanks for not editing and be genuine as always.
Beautiful guys! I can't believe Matthew is 5 months younger than me...he is wise beyond his years! What a love note! He has clearly set his intention...I'm sure he will be building a magnificent, glorious castle with the right lady soon and that he will one day be able to tell her just that 🏰💕.
I look forward to building a solid castle with someone some day soon also 😊. I always dreamt of the castle...but I feel more ready to build alongside someone now from the ground up, as opposed to waiting at the top of my tower like Rapunzel...waiting for her prince charming to climb up to her.
Keep on keeping it real guys! Awesome friendship the two of you share. And it is great that you value that and don't take it for granted. Keep showing all the men out there how to be vulnerable and how to strive to be and do better. Peace.
Love never fails, love is patient ,love is kind, it always protects, it always trusts, it always hopes, always perseveres.
Beautiful Matthew, so young, but so wise.
Two great people having a deep conversation. Can’t get better than this!
Agreed 🤗
What a profound discussion. Thank you Lewis for posting this & thank you Matthew for such amazing insight! God bless both of you 🙂