Connie P. ...Yes! So I've Decided That From Now On...I'm THE ONE Who's Playing Them!!! I NEVER TXT FIRST I AM NEVER JUST 'ALWAYS' AVAILABLE WHENEVER *HE* WANTS!!! (lol) AND...NO MATTER WHAT.. I'm Always VERY Blasé About Shit!! So Far..IT'S WORKING.. LOLOL
I'm actually really impressed with this guy. His advice is spot on, and his explanations of the people's psychology behind the texts makes perfect sense.
Except he missed the shit testing. The woman gave him a specific thing to do to see if had the intent to catch up, and he decided he didn't want to do as he was asked. Power game.
You’re right My ex used to say he was too busy to have a conversation on the phone lol I believed him at the beginning but then I kept telling myself that no one is that busy, unless you’re working as a doctor and you keep having emergencies at the hospital lol
This is true ladies . Know when a guy is really interested in you . They'll give you their time even if "they are busy" . If they really like you or are interested, they'll make time . Know your worth ! 👍
That is so true, just was a relationship he never had time for me, I always. Went out of my way for him , he was always laid back. If I wanted to spend time with him he would I'm going to bed, and I would the same to him and say in the end how's if feel. This relationship is done he walked and I'm still having it go threw my head what I did wrong.
@Ohai 🌸Agree. Even though Matthew gives straightforward verbal examples, I struggle with stand alone verbal explainations trying to "see" the example in practical ways in my imagination. The visual cues with the explain is perfect. The humor is bonus and will help info stick⭐
I would not have met that jack for a drink No Way. Don't Even Try Coffee shit date on me. Won't work. No thanks. I can make better free coffee at home without having to get dressed up and interviewed. PASS.
It’s simple in my eyes. If you feel someone is stringing you along, just stop all interaction whether it be cold turkey or slowly drips away to nothing. It’s not hard when you love yourself and put yourself first. Don’t pursue, don’t push conversation and let him drift away. Make room for someone who is not a stringer. Life is too short and time is too precious to even think of entertaining something or someone who’s not serving you! Self love, self care, first. The rest will be so free and easy when you let go and watch the natural way life unfolds.
I used to date someone like that, he would leave me on read then give me a bunch of excuses that he's working all the damn time, ignore my messages for 3 or 4 days then cb like nothing happened .. After crying for several days and deleting his number few times, I deleted his number for the last time and our conversations as well and ignored his ass when he came back, met someone a month later and now we've been together for over a year.. Plz ladies don't settle down for guys like this
@@melissasherriff1378 Hi Melissa , it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
A girl has no name K but to be fair...her messages were kind of intense. If a guy did that I'd probably be less attracted to him as well. Not saying he isn't a time waster I just think you can't blame people for not being into a super eager person.
Maddy Harvey see that's the main mistake of women, we tend to give guys excuses for everything they do. But the truth is they don't care bout us, if they did you can totally see it. But an emoji? Really? Seems to me like a way of saying "hope you get my point that I'm not interested into talking to you"
Neither a man nor woman should put up with games, bullshit or being undervalued. I'm a giver by nature but lately I just said "ENOUGH." I broke the pattern with the last guy who was lusting after me 100% but emotionally didn't give a damn. I was the only one who was emotionally involved, the only one giving, and I told him: "Your words and promises are meaningless if they're not supported by actions. I don't deserve to be undervalued. Goodbye and good luck."
Dont stop give because there are to few woman that gives only takes. Like you i have always bee the one giving and not reciving back. Just remember that its about give and take.
Omg your words just gave me goosebumps! I said almost the exact same thing to my last bf and moved on. He was SO shocked about that and didn't want to understand (because apparently after breakup i was the one not giving a shit and i was the one not having feelings for him, but he was just talking and talking all the time with no action to support his words.) crazy :D i feel kind of good not being the only one
How this works: 1) Be welcoming and open and approachable. Start a conversation if you'd like to. Be warm. 2) Allow him to earn your subsequent attention. Don't play games. Trust your gut. Don't pander. Don't give more thought/energy/investment than you receive. Don't chase. Show appreciation. Take notice. Be congruent. Be warm. 3) Lean back and invest in yourself and other relationships. Do things that feel good. Trust yourself. Value yourself. Know your worth. Laugh. Have fun. 4) Allow him to do the work to woo you and learn how to make you happy and feeling good. Know that he needs space to form attraction and desire for you. Know that space is essential for reflection and growth. Give him both boundaries and freedom. Do not promise him anything. Your loyalty must be earned and must always be earned. Do not contract yourself to him but allow him to earn you for as long as you want him in your life. Men do not value what they do not earn. They do not treasure what they look at or engage with too frequently. Always be a valuable diamond he strives to keep safe. I hope this helps you.
Interesting and designed. I'm hesitant on the aspect he must continually have to earn..... But, in my head I read it as distrust. Rather than earning because they live and love to see you proud of them. Mutual glow.
He didn't respond at all when she asked him for a date, then sent an asinine emoji of an old guy days later. Am I the only one thinking that sort of rude and disrespectful behavior is a huge red flag??
Do you genuinely want to go on a date with a guy that only changed his behaviour once you called him out for it? I had a man spend $1,000 on a plane ticket to come see me because I joked that I wanted to see him or I'd be sad. Another dude braved 2 hours in a snowstorm using public transit because his phone wasn't sending messages and he didn't want to stand me up. Those are the men I'd like to date, I'm not into Grandpa.
Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thank you! 🙏
Canceling plans excuse generator: Choose an intro + choose a scapegoat + choose a delay The best advice should be a reality check: "You're just on it his harem of phone contacts list. He doesn't give a f*ck about you. You're just there in case all his other 23 alternatives reject him and he would still prefer go for a walk with his dog. If he's so horny his balls might explode he might call you to take a dump". *Block and delete*
Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thanks! 🙏
I see a lot of comments about people being confused and not knowing how to respond and play 'games' anymore, but here's the thing; if you have high standards and make an amazing life for YOU, then this response would come naturally. Then you wouldnt even need assholes like this and you can just move on because you didnt lose anything! You deserve the world girls!
But then we wouldn't be communicating and getting to know the you-you. Don't get me wrong, I would totally do the same due to social inability. But then again it'll only take 5 minutes actually speaking to each other that the deception is usually obvious.speach patterns are individual to an extreme even with accents. ...okay. I have been caught doing this. ...it shows more intelligence to learn from other's mistakes.
@@davidhibbs3396 Maybe we need an ear piece on the actual date to receive instant phrases, until we get the gist of it.. just kidding, but it’s a nice dream tho 😄
Matthew Hussey don't you feel bad that these girls with cognitive dissonance are acting like victims on high-horses when they're stringing countless guys along all at one time? Maybe you should focus on pre-teen girls before they become hypocritical sociopaths? Guys who don't respect a lot have careers and hobbies.
"you have your reasons, I have my reality.." matthew thank you so much for that... that along with all the things my mother has taught me will help me so much with relationships in the future!
Right?. ....I sent a text just last night. If I saw this vidoo earlier I would've composed the text differently. But it's cool....this guy claimed to be Interesteda few months ago...he went from calling and texting everyday....to texting only "good morning" once a week....nothing more. He would contact me to make plans and then disappear for almost 2 weeks! Then pop back up with a normal "Hello there"...no explanation or apology...I had enough and told him I was tired of his empty promises and my time is better spent with people who knew what they want. Obviously he didn't. I asked him not to contact me anymore. He simply replied "Ok if that's how you feel"....and that was that. I had the feeling he was stringing me along for a while now....but I'm done with that. I deserve better. Moving on
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Hi Brenda, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends?? Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture, it can brighten up the most darkest atmosphere of any man’s world😉
I'm watching this while a guy is waiting for my reply to his half-assed texts and Matthew is literally saving my life right now. 7 minutes ago I would've reacted completely differently
Damn, you really hit the nail on the head. I’ve been with a low motivated boyfriend who doesn’t inspire me. Never comes up with date ideas. Always an excuse. It’s time to cut the cord.
Hahaha! So funny. He did send it on purpose because she had referred to his slow replying as grandpaesque. That was an injury to his childish ego. So when he checked into her availability he wanted to make sure if she was still ready for the same type of grandpa lol. I'd say he was a man with a huge experience on the feminine emotional frailty and its propensity to victimhood as a result; an emotional predator type that needs human flesh to cherish as narcissistic supply to feel complete for a limited amount of time. Hahaha! I've been listening to and reading Sam Vaknin's musings a lot lately.
I had a guy tell me to make it “short and sweet” and immediately turned victim when I responded, “Another time then.” Here’s the deal: NO ONE tells me to make it short and sweet and receives a pass from this woman. Done.
Seeing how distraught women are with men is confusing to me as a man who knows how distraught men are with women. Maybe we should just be honest with each other?
Because men want a woman who cares but gives them space and if you don't have a good balance he sees you as uninterested or clingy. You're testing their reactions to you that's why you can't be honest. Men may judge you
I CRACKED UP AROUND 2:45 WITH THE SUDDEN DRAMATIC PLOT OF THE GRANDPA EMOJI TEXT 😂😂 I LOVE HOW SOFTLY HE SAID, "a grandpa emoji". SO PRECIOUSLY AMUSING OMG
Matthew is really good with advice for us women and his videos. I can’t wait for the next video. Matthew knows what a women is worth and our values. Thankyou Matthew
They're out there ! When we just met on an app my bf would text me *at least* every other day, and not mindless emojis. We got to know each other so well and 7 months later, I love our relationship. I hope you meet someone amazing ❤️
I am a man and I don't lead women along. I hate people who do that. People find me very reliable. My friends are reliable too and my clients tend to like me a lot and give me high reviews for my work. I'm decent looking and have a lot of things going for me. But women tend to flake on me and be more interested in guys who tend to flake. One of my best friends has the same problem. So why don't y ou start being interested in men who are reliable and don't flake. And don't put all the blame on men because you choose the men who flake.
I was in a similar situation and used the “all good!” response and it worked perfectly. The guy immediately started putting more effort into trying to see me
I've never heard who this Mathew Hussey is but everything he says is right. You have to see excuses immediately. It's really simple. If a guy or girl likes you, he'll text all the time. If he or she is not into you, he won't text. Simple. No excuses.
That's not 100% right, but if they are into you they'll make a *proactive* effort to explain why they are/will be largely incommunicado - "I'm being deployed" "I'll be on stage at the conference" "Microsoft screwed up my PC again" :) The last one happened to me recently, so I installed Whatsapp to be able to keep sending/receiving texts to my lovely gf.
If anyone didn't bother texting me back for days I'd drop them quick-smart. If they aren't interested, they aren't worth it. Now if they texted me back later that same day, it's fine 'cause their phone may have ran out of power and needed charging.
Sasaki Umiquema i love how he talks woman. I go to this conversation with my girlfriends and we figure how to reply like crazy. Thanks matthew for this :) i appreciate him and steve harvey for sharing male perspective
Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thanks! 🙏
Death to the CCP my take on it is games are meant to be played. So play games but don’t expect to not get played! The foundation of all our external relationships is first how we treat ourselves. We attract people for a reason. When you don’t play ego mind games and are just authentic you will attract the same back.
@@wolfgirl-tf1eo no. No amount of double texting will make him interested. If he's not, you can stay on your head and nothing will change. The ball is in his court now. If he doesn't take it it really means he's not interested enough - no guy who likes you would risk losing you in such a silly matter. Besides double texting will make you seem desperate and that's not attractive to anyone. He needs to invest his part in the relationship. The question is why do you still want to be with a guy who doesn't care about you or not put any effort? Because he's a "nice guy"? Really? There are plenty of nice guys out there who would treat you better. Have some confidence in yourself as a woman. If you don't value yourself, don't expect others to do that. If you let others stomp all over you, you'll never find respect, attractiveness and love. You did your part. Now wait for his turn have patience. If he's not replying, you will have his answer and you can move on knowing that you did your all.
@@bouncybutterfly7753 I like your answer! So I've written stories about this question but the #1 most important "secret" is this. Every spiritual being generates and creates at a particular wavelength - low, medium or high. You want to find somebody as high as you can. Of course you need a few tools to identify that.
It’s called desperation. I felt pathetic FOR HER! Maybe in high school this is understandable, but clearly she’s not bc she can drink and the guy in this video is older too. The girls a total loser and accepted a date with a dick who is just going to give her the run around again. She messed up big time.
Perfect timing for me to find this video. Two takeaways that hit home: He has his reasons. I have my reality. My new favorite text reply: “It’s all good. :-) Have a great week!”
Samthesalvaje wow you're like so judgemental. How can you ascertain if this person is single or not? They could be watching the video for a psychology paper or something? It's pretty obvious why YOURE single. You're mean!
If she was smart, she would have done the following: 1.) waited a week before texting back 2.) text him back with a grandma emoji 3.)block him 4.) ghost him into obscurity
Mara L if you’re single, and get ghosted. I totally understand why: 1.) you’re petty as fuck 2.) you’re a smart ass 3.) you focus on minutia instead of substance 4.) you also resort to juvenile name calling. Feel free double-check my numbers on this comment as well 😘
This is so relevant to my life right now! I was gonna text him asking him out because I thought "someone's gotta do the asking" but I won't do that now! Thanks Matthew!
EXCELLENT ADVICE. I JUST LET GO OF & BLOCKED 🚫 GUY OF 8 MONTHS. HE SAID WORDS I MISS YOU & I LOVE YOU. BUT HIS ACTIONS OTHERWISE. HE WAS A BS'ER AND PLAYER. I AM MOVING ON. I WILL USE YOUR ADVICE. GREAT 👍 INFO.
"Respond to your reality, not his reasons." OMG breakthrough i've been almost-seeing this guy for far too long, and i finally got the balls to tell him if he can't make time for me then he's not worth my investment.
I cut all of this by giving them my number and saying "Call me! The old fashioned way." I do not accept texts anymore. If a 23 years old has the balls to pick up the phone and ask me out, then why shouldn't a 35 years old being able to do it? You wanna see me? Call me! I want to hear the voice and excitement in it. Oh and no FB exchange anymore. Such an easy way to see all the information you seek and make your conclusions. No. Ask and hear the person talk and if you don't like what they say then don't accept the next date. Those texts are such a waste of time.
Couldn't agree more, it's very interesting to respond to text with a call!! Lol, no, text directions, a meeting place, addresses, phone numbers, but as a mode of communication, for..get..it! Call me to make plans or go away.
Baroness James I so agree with you. I just did that because I figure that . If there is some interest he will call. This texting thing is too much lol.
Bravo i couldn't agree more with you. So sick of the slow as molasses texting, public short replies online... boring... Ugh... make it STOP!! I am going to use your technique... call me 😉
Not only did I find the twilight phone playfulness absolutely perfect but the text message scenario was incredibly eye opening!!! I honestly could of saved so much time and effort had I realized I was investing 90% of my time and attention to someone who had only invested minimally. I can relate tremendously to this video thank you so much!! 👌🏻
You are AMAZING! I just read the free download guide. Thank you SOOO MUCH for taking your valuable time to write that for those of us that are a bit damaged and have no clue how to reclaim their power! Seriously, I realized EXACTLY WHY my situation went SO SIDEWAYS! I literally did 4/5 wrong on that list. I was mind-blown at all the boxes I ticked. So embarrassing 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ Thank you for your knowledge and time🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I just started taking care of myself and stopped obsessing over him and his bs. I’m warm but not trying too hard anymore either. I’m good either way…stay or go…thanks for the confirmation I’m doing the right thing.
i saw something similar in your previous video and i used it on my guy...worked like a charm! we kickstarted it again and though it didnt work out in the end, i learned so much more bout self worth and value. and the importance of setting the standards and deciding my investment based on what he's giving me. i saved myself from getting hurt even more. so thank you Matthew. really, thank you!
I had a friend that started doing this. We never had convo issues and then all the sudden he was taking 2 weeks or more to answer. Saying he was 'busy. He gave these excuses too. I'm worth 30 seconds of time. So I finally said no hard feelings but I'm not putting any more energy into this and he disappeared completely. I'm at a point, I know my value and I'm not chasing anymore.
Watching this video is depressing. I used to give extra attention during my early college days. Never again. I protect my heart and low key. When he shows more or act with his words. Then I will give a bit of energy.
Thank you for this, I always invest 200% and just get walked over and rejected, I now realise that little or no investment from him drop it, let it go instead of desperately trying to make it work. X
This is my favourite video of yours by far 😂😂 In the midst of month 6 of my first ever relationship (late to the game maybe, I'm 30 years old!) and am going to try to implement the "invest as much as he invests in you" philosophy from now on, makes so much sense - thanks for all your advice!
Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thanks! 🙏
@@DanielMendoza-su3ei There's not one answer... there's YOUR answer. How do you feel about the date? Is it something you want to get out of the way soon--meet the person to see if you're really interested? Or does it feel like a huge commitment (you prefer to get to know the person online)? Just don't wait too long, because the longer you wait, the more you and the girl have riding on the line when you DO meet, and it could get ugly if things don't go the way you want. Meeting someone for that first date can be really intimidating for both people! But if you're not scared to ask, if you're ok with the girl saying "no" or "it's too early," that's an alpha move. You show your confidence by taking risks and not flying off the handle when things don't go your way. Don't overinvest in that first date--you don't know if you really want to be with that person. It's too early. Be cool.
My rule is, "Don't invest anything you can't afford to lose." It makes sense to me. Sometimes the matching investments game can backfire--become a power struggle. Sometimes you just need to give a little extra (IMHO), but you should never give anything you don't really want to give (without expecting anything back), nothing you aren't willing to lose.
I think its sad that if a woman is the organised type or just wants to keep momentum going that men are put off by that. I can't stand these games either and am happier to be single than play such games. My time is precious too.
Matthew you are a GENIUS! I feel so empowered in my love life after following your advice for the past year and am now beating guys away with a stick - a playful, sparkly stick that is! ;) Even some men who strung me along before now jump at every text I choose to send. Thank you for being my guru. This is the best video yet and I just love you and your team. Cheers, Emily
Matrhew I just wanted to say thank you for all of your advice. I’m in my late 40’s, divorced and now dating again. And what I find is most of this is just plain common sense that we ignore when we’re desperately trying to get “the guy”, especially when were younger and not experienced. Now that I’m older, some of this advice comes naturally because I just genuinely don’t care enough to invest in someone who isn’t investing in me. Simply put, in over it. I know my worth and am not willing to hand it over so easily (now). But what has me thrown off a little bit are text messages, because of course dating is different now because of technology. So I came to you to understand how to put a stop to the texts that’s designed to string me along. I recognized that’s what was happening, but didn’t know it was a “thing “. So, I had already sent a guy a text similar to what your advised, but I think he was taken aback because I haven’t heard back from them yet. But the one difference is - I now know is: if I don’t hear from him I’m the better for it. If he can’t come off the fence, then that’s his hang up (pun intended) not mine. So, keep the advice coming we truly appreciate it!
My phone. Take it. I don’t even want it back... just keep me updated 😂
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Hahaha right?!
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I'm just tired of the games. Anyone else with me??
Connie P. Here here!
Same here!
make better choices.. easy
Connie P. ...Yes!
So I've Decided That From Now On...I'm THE ONE Who's Playing Them!!!
I NEVER TXT FIRST
I AM NEVER JUST 'ALWAYS' AVAILABLE WHENEVER *HE*
WANTS!!! (lol)
AND...NO MATTER WHAT..
I'm Always VERY Blasé About Shit!! So Far..IT'S WORKING..
LOLOL
Connie P. Yep
I'm actually really impressed with this guy. His advice is spot on, and his explanations of the people's psychology behind the texts makes perfect sense.
Not to mention he references the Twilight Zone
Mark Santiago sounds like for sad people who can’t accept a no and that they aren’t wanted any more.
I just can't get over how awesome his impression of Rod Serling was....
Except he missed the shit testing. The woman gave him a specific thing to do to see if had the intent to catch up, and he decided he didn't want to do as he was asked. Power game.
@@ej4672I was gonna say the same thing! 😅
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"respond to your reality, not his reasons" so wise! I need this guy to be my friend.
Rachel Knows I need to shrink him and put him in my pocket
@Mara L for Your information my self esteem is good & my IQ also . Don't judge a person by it's book cover 👌✌
@Mara L I'm not going to entertain you . So have a good day!
@Mara L shuusshh you troll! Just spread the love alright? New Years are coming! Have a blessed day buddy :)
@Mara L yikes, God bless you.
No one is THAT busy. They make time. We chase what we value.
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Absolutely
You’re right
My ex used to say he was too busy to have a conversation on the phone lol
I believed him at the beginning but then I kept telling myself that no one is that busy, unless you’re working as a doctor and you keep having emergencies at the hospital lol
facts
Big Facts! Plus that sounds like he was ghosting her
I wish you were my best friend...you could have saved me from a lot of crap...
SimpleBrownEyedGirl word
AMEN!
@@xaviusamericus9561 Found the incel.
Im late, ans drunk but im wirh tout on this...lol
If it weren’t for this video, I never would have dated my husband. This blew my mind and changed the entire dating game for me. Thanks Matthew
Wow! Congratulations Dani!
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Uhhhhhhhgggggg dating is too complicated. Dying alone is starting to look appealing
Dont have kids..they grow up and ignore youworse then any man..save your money and have fun...dont do it!!
yess..thankyou
Hannah C. 👏🏻🤘🏻👍🏻😆🤣
For real though
Thank you 😘
If you feel like you’re being played, you probably are. Stay away!
Do not meet men from New Jersey!!
Thanks I needed that message
@@jacqulynthompson3575 - the one I met was scandalous always begging for money,!!!?!
True
Thier narcissis
How lucky she is to have you as her friend
This is true ladies . Know when a guy is really interested in you . They'll give you their time even if "they are busy" . If they really like you or are interested, they'll make time . Know your worth ! 👍
I am allergic to MEN🤣🤣😭😭🤣🤣😂
Thank you for your comment. I'm older, and still learning.
True story, there is a whole world of people that are upset of you are monopolizing his time...
That is so true, just was a relationship he never had time for me, I always. Went out of my way for him , he was always laid back. If I wanted to spend time with him he would I'm going to bed, and I would the same to him and say in the end how's if feel. This relationship is done he walked and I'm still having it go threw my head what I did wrong.
Yap
I think he should do more of these example text messages. This was amazing
@Ohai 🌸Agree. Even though Matthew gives straightforward verbal examples, I struggle with stand alone verbal explainations trying to "see" the example in practical ways in my imagination. The visual cues with the explain is perfect. The humor is bonus and will help info stick⭐
kii Ora me too! I need concrete examples. (I’m thinking he wants us to buy his books for those tho... lol)
He just changed my whole life now I see why my the guy stopped messaging with me 😳
I would not have met that jack for a drink No Way. Don't Even Try Coffee shit date on me. Won't work. No thanks. I can make better free coffee at home without having to get dressed up and interviewed. PASS.
2022. Totally live this!
It’s simple in my eyes. If you feel someone is stringing you along, just stop all interaction whether it be cold turkey or slowly drips away to nothing. It’s not hard when you love yourself and put yourself first. Don’t pursue, don’t push conversation and let him drift away. Make room for someone who is not a stringer. Life is too short and time is too precious to even think of entertaining something or someone who’s not serving you! Self love, self care, first. The rest will be so free and easy when you let go and watch the natural way life unfolds.
damn.. this is all so true. self love is key.
Easily said when you're drop-dead
gorgeous 🥰💓😘💝
Thank you thank you thank you for saying this
Girl this is the TRUTH!!!
Perfect Answer 🤩
I need to re-watch this every week
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roisin ni ghabhann same.
Same
Wheeze but true af 😂💯
Omggggggg yes!!! Hourly!!!
I used to date someone like that, he would leave me on read then give me a bunch of excuses that he's working all the damn time, ignore my messages for 3 or 4 days then cb like nothing happened .. After crying for several days and deleting his number few times, I deleted his number for the last time and our conversations as well and ignored his ass when he came back, met someone a month later and now we've been together for over a year.. Plz ladies don't settle down for guys like this
respond to your reality not his reasons. deep.
Gabby Montano That was profound, to say the very least! ;)
Gabby Montano ,
so true...so deep.
Gabby Montano True!
Loved that...need to make a reminder of that
@@melissasherriff1378 Hi Melissa , it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Dude after that grandpa emoji I would've left him on read, deleted the conversation and deleted his number. Freaking time waster
Sharon Vanguard attraction is not a choice. There is a person behind those messages whom she met but you haven't.
same
A girl has no name Exactly
A girl has no name K but to be fair...her messages were kind of intense. If a guy did that I'd probably be less attracted to him as well. Not saying he isn't a time waster I just think you can't blame people for not being into a super eager person.
Maddy Harvey see that's the main mistake of women, we tend to give guys excuses for everything they do. But the truth is they don't care bout us, if they did you can totally see it. But an emoji? Really? Seems to me like a way of saying "hope you get my point that I'm not interested into talking to you"
Neither a man nor woman should put up with games, bullshit or being undervalued. I'm a giver by nature but lately I just said "ENOUGH." I broke the pattern with the last guy who was lusting after me 100% but emotionally didn't give a damn. I was the only one who was emotionally involved, the only one giving, and I told him: "Your words and promises are meaningless if they're not supported by actions. I don't deserve to be undervalued. Goodbye and good luck."
Madeleine Alba 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Boom!
Did he disappear after that?
Dont stop give because there are to few woman that gives only takes. Like you i have always bee the one giving and not reciving back. Just remember that its about give and take.
Omg your words just gave me goosebumps!
I said almost the exact same thing to my last bf and moved on. He was SO shocked about that and didn't want to understand (because apparently after breakup i was the one not giving a shit and i was the one not having feelings for him, but he was just talking and talking all the time with no action to support his words.) crazy :D i feel kind of good not being the only one
How this works:
1) Be welcoming and open and approachable. Start a conversation if you'd like to. Be warm.
2) Allow him to earn your subsequent attention. Don't play games. Trust your gut. Don't pander. Don't give more thought/energy/investment than you receive. Don't chase. Show appreciation. Take notice. Be congruent. Be warm.
3) Lean back and invest in yourself and other relationships. Do things that feel good. Trust yourself. Value yourself. Know your worth. Laugh. Have fun.
4) Allow him to do the work to woo you and learn how to make you happy and feeling good. Know that he needs space to form attraction and desire for you. Know that space is essential for reflection and growth. Give him both boundaries and freedom. Do not promise him anything. Your loyalty must be earned and must always be earned. Do not contract yourself to him but allow him to earn you for as long as you want him in your life.
Men do not value what they do not earn. They do not treasure what they look at or engage with too frequently. Always be a valuable diamond he strives to keep safe.
I hope this helps you.
That's beautiful
Interesting and designed.
I'm hesitant on the aspect he must continually have to earn.....
But, in my head I read it as distrust. Rather than earning because they live and love to see you proud of them.
Mutual glow.
2:16
"Low investment text". I now realise I've been sent quite a few of those. Thanks Matt.
Respond to your reality not his reasons... this hit me hard
Right!? I love it, more females need to see this.
Texting has simultaneously improved and ruined human interaction
Berly • D so true. But then again, I found the love of my life on tinder ;) 3 years going strong. Love him to pieces. And wedding also is planned.
Agree it’s a good and a bad thing. Makes it so much easier for guys to flake out...
Did you ever think we would live in a day that we needed a coach telling us the best way to talk to men. Wonder how Granny got her man.
@@projektbrot did you plan your divorce yet
@@redfather5342 no need to be so mean
He didn't respond at all when she asked him for a date, then sent an asinine emoji of an old guy days later. Am I the only one thinking that sort of rude and disrespectful behavior is a huge red flag??
Yes, huge red flag. This kind of guy is usually skilled at being self-effacing to manipulate women.
You are right, red flag🟥
Yip, he'll be rude and disrespectful later. He only asked her out later to have the upper hand again.
Do you genuinely want to go on a date with a guy that only changed his behaviour once you called him out for it? I had a man spend $1,000 on a plane ticket to come see me because I joked that I wanted to see him or I'd be sad. Another dude braved 2 hours in a snowstorm using public transit because his phone wasn't sending messages and he didn't want to stand me up. Those are the men I'd like to date, I'm not into Grandpa.
bombervity you must be BOMB as fuck for men to do that for you
powerpuff ranger Lol word!
bombervity what??? How are you getting these types of men? I thought they didn't exist!
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Do more text scenarios like this!!! So interesting and useful
@@goychen5212 YES!!! These are fun and "veddy interestin!!!"
Yes!! I love these, too!
Same. I like when he breaks stuff down step by step.
Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thank you! 🙏
@@DanielMendoza-su3ei lol
I honestly giggled when he sent the grandpa emoji... what a dickish, but hilarious reply.
Sham Of God me too!! Haha
Same I can’t stop laughing 😂
Stop calling dickish. It makes all people with dick are rude. STOP it.
He send grandpa because she said you have grandpa ish texting skills. His excuse for not texting sooner? Sounds obnoxious
This is exactly what I've been doing! Time to stop and create different energy and get the love I deserve, not just crumbs!!
Canceling plans excuse generator:
Choose an intro + choose a scapegoat + choose a delay
The best advice should be a reality check: "You're just on it his harem of phone contacts list. He doesn't give a f*ck about you. You're just there in case all his other 23 alternatives reject him and he would still prefer go for a walk with his dog. If he's so horny his balls might explode he might call you to take a dump". *Block and delete*
Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thanks! 🙏
I see a lot of comments about people being confused and not knowing how to respond and play 'games' anymore, but here's the thing; if you have high standards and make an amazing life for YOU, then this response would come naturally. Then you wouldnt even need assholes like this and you can just move on because you didnt lose anything! You deserve the world girls!
xoxo ya sure good luck with that
xoxo - totally!!
I wish I had a friend like Matthew.. I’d just hand him over my phone and relax 😄
I do >:)
Right??!?
And wait for your marriage date without worries😀
But then we wouldn't be communicating and getting to know the you-you. Don't get me wrong, I would totally do the same due to social inability. But then again it'll only take 5 minutes actually speaking to each other that the deception is usually obvious.speach patterns are individual to an extreme even with accents. ...okay. I have been caught doing this. ...it shows more intelligence to learn from other's mistakes.
@@davidhibbs3396 Maybe we need an ear piece on the actual date to receive instant phrases, until we get the gist of it.. just kidding, but it’s a nice dream tho 😄
Literally I wish I had a book of texts to write ready at hand it would be amazing. Matthew is so educational 🙏🏼
kissablestyles I know, right!??
kissablestyles i agree thats a great idea
he has a book that s called "how to talk to men" (i think) there are a lot of those examples in it. i really enjoyed reading it
Matthew Hussey you are amazing. Spot on!
Matthew Hussey don't you feel bad that these girls with cognitive dissonance are acting like victims on high-horses when they're stringing countless guys along all at one time? Maybe you should focus on pre-teen girls before they become hypocritical sociopaths? Guys who don't respect a lot have careers and hobbies.
"you have your reasons, I have my reality.." matthew thank you so much for that... that along with all the things my mother has taught me will help me so much with relationships in the future!
Jeezus! Why do I always see his videos after I've done something stupid?
Right?. ....I sent a text just last night. If I saw this vidoo earlier I would've composed the text differently. But it's cool....this guy claimed to be Interesteda few months ago...he went from calling and texting everyday....to texting only "good morning" once a week....nothing more. He would contact me to make plans and then disappear for almost 2 weeks! Then pop back up with a normal "Hello there"...no explanation or apology...I had enough and told him I was tired of his empty promises and my time is better spent with people who knew what they want. Obviously he didn't. I asked him not to contact me anymore. He simply replied "Ok if that's how you feel"....and that was that. I had the feeling he was stringing me along for a while now....but I'm done with that. I deserve better. Moving on
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What has Jesus to do with it?
Block, delete, next.
tosca donna best comment ever LOL
Yasss sister
Single forever
Hit it quit it then forget it if she text me I ain't with it
tosca donna thank u, next
This whole thing about being nice and polite but distant at the same time works miraculously!! Thank you, Matthew!!
"Respond to his reality, not his reasons." Good line and love the Twilight Zone theme.
Hi Brenda, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture, it can brighten up the most darkest atmosphere of any man’s world😉
I'm watching this while a guy is waiting for my reply to his half-assed texts and Matthew is literally saving my life right now. 7 minutes ago I would've reacted completely differently
Ditto. Just responded with “all good. Enjoy your weekend!”
Ingreso how did it go ?
@@julys4307 I can’t reply for anyone else but mine worked like a charm within about 10 minutes!
@@SuchAClassicGirl-dx2ip awesome!!
That grandpa emoji killed me😂 #smartass
Met many like that guy :-/
I died
Hillariously disturbing xD
Lol he most likely is a cancer or Scorpio they play head games 😂 i was laughing so hard when he sent her that shit lmao
Traciee Alexanderia - He's a straight up player. He doesn't want her, likely her body.
Not responding till Friday? Ain't nobody got time for that. #Who dis?
Dee Lewis 😂😂😂
Haha 🤣👍🏼
Lol you funny fucker
😂😂😂😂😂😂 I would do the same
YYYAAAAASSSSS 👏🏻👏🏻😂
Damn, you really hit the nail on the head. I’ve been with a low motivated boyfriend who doesn’t inspire me. Never comes up with date ideas. Always an excuse.
It’s time to cut the cord.
“You have your reasons, i have my reality “ yesss👏👏👏
“respond to your reality, not to his reasons “ wow.. that’s what i exactly need to hear right now.. thank u Matt 😘
"Grandpa Emoji...." This is when I died 😂
He sounds like a freak.
Hahaha! So funny. He did send it on purpose because she had referred to his slow replying as grandpaesque. That was an injury to his childish ego. So when he checked into her availability he wanted to make sure if she was still ready for the same type of grandpa lol. I'd say he was a man with a huge experience on the feminine emotional frailty and its propensity to victimhood as a result; an emotional predator type that needs human flesh to cherish as narcissistic supply to feel complete for a limited amount of time. Hahaha! I've been listening to and reading Sam Vaknin's musings a lot lately.
It was funny as hell
Yeah I died too so funny 😂
He's an idiot
I had a guy tell me to make it “short and sweet” and immediately turned victim when I responded, “Another time then.”
Here’s the deal: NO ONE tells me to make it short and sweet and receives a pass from this woman. Done.
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Seeing how distraught women are with men is confusing to me as a man who knows how distraught men are with women. Maybe we should just be honest with each other?
Bob Jones If only it we're that simple. Most folks aren't even honest with themselves .
I wish
Honestly, honesty saves so much time.
Because men want a woman who cares but gives them space and if you don't have a good balance he sees you as uninterested or clingy. You're testing their reactions to you that's why you can't be honest. Men may judge you
@@Diasilva stupidest thing I've ever heard
When he uncovers the grandpa emoji I died 😭😂😭😂😂😂 This guy is brilliant. Thank you for managing such mortifying topics with humor and creativity 🙌🏽
Omg I died😩💀💀🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤡👎🏼
Darn real! He honestly has a gift! I love giving credit where credit is due.
Genius- and perfect production quality.:)
Rebecca F Me too I was like no he didn’t !!!!!
@@TheLadykryptoniteso true. The guy is a filthy manipulator
I CRACKED UP AROUND 2:45 WITH THE SUDDEN DRAMATIC PLOT OF THE GRANDPA EMOJI TEXT 😂😂 I LOVE HOW SOFTLY HE SAID, "a grandpa emoji". SO PRECIOUSLY AMUSING OMG
Lmao sameee 😂
This man knows exactly what he's talking about. I'm learning a lot!
2:32
"do you wanna know what he sent"
*dramatic pause *
"....grandpa emoji."
I'm dying 😂😂😂
I actually cried.😂😂
I gave up on relationships and I'm in a relationship with myself. If he wants me great if not okay whatever. I don't care anymore
Trisha chasteen this is so me right now
Damn tired 🥺
@@lindauupindi7592 yeah agreed
I can dig it I feel the same
"and u wanna know what he send..?"
*Flips the page*
".... Grandpa emoji"
i died :D
So funny 😂
😂😂😂😂 Lmaooo hes so dramatic fgs loool love him
Hilarious! I’m dying over here laughing!
liberate my mind. ....
Matthew is really good with advice for us women and his videos. I can’t wait for the next video. Matthew knows what a women is worth and our values. Thankyou Matthew
I keep coming back to this video just because it’s so friggin hilarious 😂 Please more TWILIGHT PHONE!!
SAME 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I screamed
i wanna start seeking out relationships where i aint gotta play these games.
Be honest and no one will.
They're out there ! When we just met on an app my bf would text me *at least* every other day, and not mindless emojis. We got to know each other so well and 7 months later, I love our relationship. I hope you meet someone amazing ❤️
Marie K. Thank you 🍓🍓
I am a man and I don't lead women along. I hate people who do that. People find me very reliable. My friends are reliable too and my clients tend to like me a lot and give me high reviews for my work. I'm decent looking and have a lot of things going for me. But women tend to flake on me and be more interested in guys who tend to flake. One of my best friends has the same problem. So why don't y ou start being interested in men who are reliable and don't flake. And don't put all the blame on men because you choose the men who flake.
I am with you 100%
I was in a similar situation and used the “all good!” response and it worked perfectly. The guy immediately started putting more effort into trying to see me
that's awesome! :D
I've never heard who this Mathew Hussey is but everything he says is right. You have to see excuses immediately. It's really simple. If a guy or girl likes you, he'll text all the time. If he or she is not into you, he won't text. Simple. No excuses.
That's not 100% right, but if they are into you they'll make a *proactive* effort to explain why they are/will be largely incommunicado - "I'm being deployed" "I'll be on stage at the conference" "Microsoft screwed up my PC again" :) The last one happened to me recently, so I installed Whatsapp to be able to keep sending/receiving texts to my lovely gf.
If anyone didn't bother texting me back for days I'd drop them quick-smart. If they aren't interested, they aren't worth it. Now if they texted me back later that same day, it's fine 'cause their phone may have ran out of power and needed charging.
Sun Jara : And can be busy too. But days later, especially if you only get to know the person...Ugh. Doesn't feel that respectful, indeed.
‘Respond to your reality, not to his reasons’. I love you, Mathew. 🙏🏻😘
Critical analysis, very well done
*applause*
Sasaki Umiquema i love how he talks woman. I go to this conversation with my girlfriends and we figure how to reply like crazy. Thanks matthew for this :) i appreciate him and steve harvey for sharing male perspective
Why can’t we just love each other and drop all the mind games ☠️
Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thanks! 🙏
"respond to your reality, NOT to his reasons" 😣oh yes straight to the heart
I'm too old for these games. no thanks, would rather stay single and happy.
I'd just feel empty after playing all these mind games. Is it all there is to dating?
Death to the CCP my take on it is games are meant to be played. So play games but don’t expect to not get played! The foundation of all our external relationships is first how we treat ourselves. We attract people for a reason. When you don’t play ego mind games and are just authentic you will attract the same back.
Theres no happiness being SINGLE
@@trinijoyl1720 No happiness in dating and no happiness in being single. 😭
Lol we want to get married
Him texting “all good! Have a great week”
Me: *shouts* THATS SAVAGE 😂
It is savage lmao 😂😂😂
I fucking worked though 😄😄😄😄
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
ugh i did this and he hasnt responded :( and he was super nice and a gentle man and now im scared should i double text and say 'good morning' ?
@@wolfgirl-tf1eo no. No amount of double texting will make him interested. If he's not, you can stay on your head and nothing will change. The ball is in his court now. If he doesn't take it it really means he's not interested enough - no guy who likes you would risk losing you in such a silly matter. Besides double texting will make you seem desperate and that's not attractive to anyone. He needs to invest his part in the relationship. The question is why do you still want to be with a guy who doesn't care about you or not put any effort? Because he's a "nice guy"? Really? There are plenty of nice guys out there who would treat you better. Have some confidence in yourself as a woman. If you don't value yourself, don't expect others to do that. If you let others stomp all over you, you'll never find respect, attractiveness and love. You did your part. Now wait for his turn have patience. If he's not replying, you will have his answer and you can move on knowing that you did your all.
So sad that dating has become such a freaking chess game.
Bouncy Butterfly, only happens if you are hanging around men of low wavelength. Avoid those types.
@@bobg344 yes!! Staying single until I find someone healthy and willing to do the work.
@@bouncybutterfly7753 good idea, but remember the best way to find that healthy, willing person is to be a healthy, willing person. :-)
@@bobg344 I am well aware and well equipped. How silly to think I would expect something I'm not 100% willing to do, myself. 😂
@@bouncybutterfly7753 I like your answer! So I've written stories about this question but the #1 most important "secret" is this. Every spiritual being generates and creates at a particular wavelength - low, medium or high. You want to find somebody as high as you can. Of course you need a few tools to identify that.
LMAO I can't believe she invited him out after his slow response...
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It’s called desperation. I felt pathetic FOR HER! Maybe in high school this is understandable, but clearly she’s not bc she can drink and the guy in this video is older too. The girls a total loser and accepted a date with a dick who is just going to give her the run around again. She messed up big time.
I died when he showed the grandpa emoji 😂😂😂💀
You're funny and practical. Have been practicing this for the past 6 years. I now have ZERO dating life but LOADS of peace.
I think this dude is gonna save us all from mundane texting and bad eggs!! ❤
Perfect timing for me to find this video. Two takeaways that hit home:
He has his reasons. I have my reality.
My new favorite text reply: “It’s all good. :-) Have a great week!”
This helped me so much even with family and friendships. I always carry the weight and care too much
Same here, I care more than they do. But I'm done. I had it. Its about me where my focus will be.
I'd love to hand you my phone.
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jamie9lynn1 that’s what she said
Me too!!
Me too. I wanna send him my texts history just for a good analysis lol
@@BenziitOfemme me too
She is the backup weekend girl
My thoughts too
What was the upside down face about.
@lou davey i dont have much money could u recommend a prise.
Back up WEEKDAY girl.
"7PMISH" I was running around the room frantic hoping this girl is mentally okay and that she is not crazy. Girl, let him do the work, not you.
Samthesalvaje wow you're like so judgemental. How can you ascertain if this person is single or not? They could be watching the video for a psychology paper or something? It's pretty obvious why YOURE single. You're mean!
He needed to at least meet her half way. He wasn't even giving her that courtesy until the end.
If she was smart, she would have done the following:
1.) waited a week before texting back
2.) text him back with a grandma emoji
3.)block him
4.) ghost him into obscurity
LoL, 😂
Mara L if you’re single, and get ghosted. I totally understand why:
1.) you’re petty as fuck
2.) you’re a smart ass
3.) you focus on minutia instead of substance
4.) you also resort to juvenile name calling.
Feel free double-check my numbers on this comment as well 😘
Reflect
Lol 😂😂😂 grandma emoji
But she actually liked him and wanted to see him again
This is so relevant to my life right now! I was gonna text him asking him out because I thought "someone's gotta do the asking" but I won't do that now! Thanks Matthew!
EXCELLENT ADVICE.
I JUST LET GO OF & BLOCKED 🚫 GUY OF 8 MONTHS.
HE SAID WORDS I MISS YOU & I LOVE YOU.
BUT HIS ACTIONS OTHERWISE.
HE WAS A BS'ER AND PLAYER.
I AM MOVING ON.
I WILL USE YOUR ADVICE.
GREAT 👍 INFO.
This is so complex it's like math
Isabella lombard Chemistry
Isabella lombard math is less complicated :(
shazamanda 2708 we are not studing same math then :P
Maths is easy
Isabella lombard Facts 😂😂
"Respond to your reality, not his reasons."
OMG breakthrough
i've been almost-seeing this guy for far too long, and i finally got the balls to tell him if he can't make time for me then he's not worth my investment.
What happened?
I cut all of this by giving them my number and saying "Call me! The old fashioned way." I do not accept texts anymore. If a 23 years old has the balls to pick up the phone and ask me out, then why shouldn't a 35 years old being able to do it? You wanna see me? Call me! I want to hear the voice and excitement in it. Oh and no FB exchange anymore. Such an easy way to see all the information you seek and make your conclusions. No. Ask and hear the person talk and if you don't like what they say then don't accept the next date. Those texts are such a waste of time.
Baroness James so true texting is a big turn off
Couldn't agree more, it's very interesting to respond to text with a call!! Lol, no, text directions, a meeting place, addresses, phone numbers, but as a mode of communication, for..get..it! Call me to make plans or go away.
Baroness James I so agree with you. I just did that because I figure that . If there is some interest he will call. This texting thing is too much lol.
Bravo i couldn't agree more with you. So sick of the slow as molasses texting, public short replies online... boring... Ugh... make it STOP!! I am going to use your technique... call me 😉
Yes fucking call. Its like the mass eliminator of bullshit
Can we pleaaaaase have more of these videos, I watched this a couple of times, so funny 😂, but also inspiring and very useful 👌
Not only did I find the twilight phone playfulness absolutely perfect but the text message scenario was incredibly eye opening!!! I honestly could of saved so much time and effort had I realized I was investing 90% of my time and attention to someone who had only invested minimally. I can relate tremendously to this video thank you so much!! 👌🏻
Karla Ruiz Thanks needed to read your comment to remember what is really important in my life.
Do not have unprotected text =)
Social Butterfly I agree... cover that phone in a condom :P
Hideous color, isn't it.
I lost it at the grandpa emoji 👴 😭😂😂😂😂😂😂 I was in tears of laughter
Even though the guy is clearly an idiot, I have to say, the fact that he only sent the emoji and there was nothing else was quite brilliant.
Yeah, me too...I mean...he replied on Friday with a grandpa emoji......))
You are AMAZING! I just read the free download guide. Thank you SOOO MUCH for taking your valuable time to write that for those of us that are a bit damaged and have no clue how to reclaim their power! Seriously, I realized EXACTLY WHY my situation went SO SIDEWAYS! I literally did 4/5 wrong on that list. I was mind-blown at all the boxes I ticked. So embarrassing 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ Thank you for your knowledge and time🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Who else envies his friend for having such a useful friend??😂😂
I laughed so hard at that grandpa emoji
“Low-investment message”, lol. I love it!!
I just started taking care of myself and stopped obsessing over him and his bs. I’m warm but not trying too hard anymore either. I’m good either way…stay or go…thanks for the confirmation I’m doing the right thing.
Can I have Matthew as my best friend? He would solve all my texting problems with guys
DaCiJay b
i saw something similar in your previous video and i used it on my guy...worked like a charm! we kickstarted it again and though it didnt work out in the end, i learned so much more bout self worth and value. and the importance of setting the standards and deciding my investment based on what he's giving me. i saved myself from getting hurt even more. so thank you Matthew. really, thank you!
Lol when guys do this I turn my read receipts on.. let him see that I read the message and then not respond back ever again
Bad bitch🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Damn why I didn’t think of this! Lol thanks!
Wow, that's savage! Can we be friends? I need that kind of sass in my life.
I do the same!!! 🙌🏾💯💯💯
I had a friend that started doing this. We never had convo issues and then all the sudden he was taking 2 weeks or more to answer. Saying he was 'busy. He gave these excuses too. I'm worth 30 seconds of time. So I finally said no hard feelings but I'm not putting any more energy into this and he disappeared completely. I'm at a point, I know my value and I'm not chasing anymore.
I need Matthew as a friend. 😭I so need someone smart like him to guide me.
Watching this video is depressing. I used to give extra attention during my early college days. Never again. I protect my heart and low key. When he shows more or act with his words. Then I will give a bit of energy.
Thank you for this, I always invest 200% and just get walked over and rejected, I now realise that little or no investment from him drop it, let it go instead of desperately trying to make it work. X
This is my favourite video of yours by far 😂😂 In the midst of month 6 of my first ever relationship (late to the game maybe, I'm 30 years old!) and am going to try to implement the "invest as much as he invests in you" philosophy from now on, makes so much sense - thanks for all your advice!
Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thanks! 🙏
@@DanielMendoza-su3ei There's not one answer... there's YOUR answer. How do you feel about the date? Is it something you want to get out of the way soon--meet the person to see if you're really interested? Or does it feel like a huge commitment (you prefer to get to know the person online)? Just don't wait too long, because the longer you wait, the more you and the girl have riding on the line when you DO meet, and it could get ugly if things don't go the way you want.
Meeting someone for that first date can be really intimidating for both people! But if you're not scared to ask, if you're ok with the girl saying "no" or "it's too early," that's an alpha move. You show your confidence by taking risks and not flying off the handle when things don't go your way. Don't overinvest in that first date--you don't know if you really want to be with that person. It's too early. Be cool.
My rule is, "Don't invest anything you can't afford to lose." It makes sense to me. Sometimes the matching investments game can backfire--become a power struggle. Sometimes you just need to give a little extra (IMHO), but you should never give anything you don't really want to give (without expecting anything back), nothing you aren't willing to lose.
Those little games are so annoying , you either like this person or not, if you like someone, just make it happen!!!
lucinda alen I so agree
lucinda alen i think inconsiderate and disrespectful is more like it
I agree, that's why i don't date anymore.
I think its sad that if a woman is the organised type or just wants to keep momentum going that men are put off by that. I can't stand these games either and am happier to be single than play such games. My time is precious too.
Deanna Hart Seriously is the dating pool just full of anti social people
Matthew you are a GENIUS! I feel so empowered in my love life after following your advice for the past year and am now beating guys away with a stick - a playful, sparkly stick that is! ;) Even some men who strung me along before now jump at every text I choose to send. Thank you for being my guru. This is the best video yet and I just love you and your team.
Cheers,
Emily
Emily Green - Nice for you, nice to nice women more empowered to stop being door mats for players.
Matrhew I just wanted to say thank you for all of your advice. I’m in my late 40’s, divorced and now dating again. And what I find is most of this is just plain common sense that we ignore when we’re desperately trying to get “the guy”, especially when were younger and not experienced. Now that I’m older, some of this advice comes naturally because I just genuinely don’t care enough to invest in someone who isn’t investing in me. Simply put, in over it. I know my worth and am not willing to hand it over so easily (now). But what has me thrown off a little bit are text messages, because of course dating is different now because of technology. So I came to you to understand how to put a stop to the texts that’s designed to string me along. I recognized that’s what was happening, but didn’t know it was a “thing “. So, I had already sent a guy a text similar to what your advised, but I think he was taken aback because I haven’t heard back from them yet. But the one difference is - I now know is: if I don’t hear from him I’m the better for it. If he can’t come off the fence, then that’s his hang up (pun intended) not mine. So, keep the advice coming we truly appreciate it!
He would have been blocked. Quickly! This works great for men who are emotionally unavailable. Run ladies ❤