Make Them DESIRE YOU! - 5 Easy Ways To Become More ATTRACTIVE TODAY | Lewis Howes

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  • @TheVillageBeast
    @TheVillageBeast 2 года назад +214

    Never stop self improvement guys ! Work harder on yourself than you do at your job

    • @JenMarco
      @JenMarco 2 года назад +8

      Yes! The rest will come naturally.

    • @thairujackline8180
      @thairujackline8180 2 года назад +5

      Jim Rooohn!!..absolutely work harder on yourself

    • @jigerkijeet
      @jigerkijeet 2 года назад +1

      Stated by Jim Rohn .

  • @haitiancreolewithluciano
    @haitiancreolewithluciano 2 года назад +356

    One of the best ways to be desired is to hold off on desiring others too much. When you focus on yourself, others start giving you attention as well

    • @travelchannel304
      @travelchannel304 2 года назад +2

      What..no how does one do "holding off" ?!! It takes 21 days to start a new habit, I've read. IF ONE knows how to BE consistent for 3 weeks!

    • @bellakim9404
      @bellakim9404 2 года назад +25

      True. Prioritize yourself and others will treat you according to how you respect yourself.

    • @bodydesignbyrachel
      @bodydesignbyrachel 2 года назад +3

      So true.

    • @oksanaparr1396
      @oksanaparr1396 2 года назад +5

      If you hold off on desiring other you automatically become less desiring, because you and your body , mind not project attraction.

    • @darrellgainer6966
      @darrellgainer6966 Год назад +2

      @@oksanaparr1396 that’s not true

  • @karenelliott6309
    @karenelliott6309 Год назад +23

    Love what Matthew said about not every emotion is a cue to do something. I’ve been caught in that trap before.

  • @princessjulia5646
    @princessjulia5646 Год назад +10

    The best advice. I've been trying to get overba broken heart for 6 months ! I've read all the books listened to all tge podcast s !!!!!! But this one has made me get out of bed ! Abd say enough is enough to myself . Love is not enough I must rely on myself to be happy n fully full filled. Thank you

  • @Sarasarah3
    @Sarasarah3 2 года назад +142

    My boyfriend and are super attracted physically to one another, but we respected one another too much to risk ruining something good with sex too soon; so we made a conscious decision to wait 2 months to have sex. Take your time building the emotional connection because it makes everything all the more sweeter

    • @WillIam79-c7f
      @WillIam79-c7f 2 года назад +12

      Who railed you for 2 mo?

    • @Annamelese
      @Annamelese 2 года назад +15

      Two month? Wow you are waiting long time 🤣🤣🤣

    • @patriciapeever5974
      @patriciapeever5974 2 года назад +13

      Steve HARVEY says 3 months 1st..get to know each other ...fully, RESPECT, like each OTHER..

    • @elain2706
      @elain2706 2 года назад +1

      @@Annamelese 2 months is too long . If less than 3 months I won’t even have sex with my date

    • @klopossa2
      @klopossa2 2 года назад +2

      We'll be married first..been 9 months. 3 ldr, 6 boots on grnd.

  • @thesilverladylifts2708
    @thesilverladylifts2708 Год назад +9

    I love and enjoy my solitude and don’t miss anyone’s company. Now is my time to date the most important person in my life, that person is me! I’m gone through love taking care of others, love others so much more and nurtured them so they can be free on their own. I’m not lonely. I work on me, my fitness, my love for listening to podcasts I’m passionate about. If anyone is interested in getting to me, they would have to come to me organically because I stopped looking a while ago they need to fit in this new life I’ve created for myself.

  • @lucybraun8969
    @lucybraun8969 Год назад +50

    I got detached from my feminine energy. It has helped me to start getting it back through baby steps - things like dressing more feminine, and doing girly things, like getting hair & nails done regularly, chatting with girly girls, etc.

    • @karenjudd5183
      @karenjudd5183 Год назад +8

      And flirt like the goddess you are!

    • @lucybraun8969
      @lucybraun8969 Год назад +15

      @@karenjudd5183 My flirting is pretty rusty. It's been eons since I came across anyone I wanted to even bother flirting with. Where are the gentlemen these days?

  • @alienesse
    @alienesse Год назад +30

    This is so wise. Unconditional love is a myth. One person for everything sets oneself up for failure. There is no one, just the one in that part of time...
    I miss him but it's okay. I had a chapter and it has closed. I set myself free.

    • @whiskers11234
      @whiskers11234 Год назад

      Unconditional love exists only between Mother and Child ... Therefore never grant or make a baby with a woman because she will only give love to that child no longer you the daddy, Husband, Lover, Boyfriend, Etc.... Thats the gift all woman desire to have and its to love and be loved.. That will only exist between her and the child she made... Never a man except if its her son...

  • @cherylannem8841
    @cherylannem8841 2 года назад +69

    It's all about being present with whoever you are with. Whether it's your partner, your Sister, Friend, or Grandchild. Put that Phone away!

    • @andrewpipitone1572
      @andrewpipitone1572 2 года назад +7

      There is an old song called Love the one your with. Lol

    • @markrossi5721
      @markrossi5721 2 года назад +3

      @@andrewpipitone1572 - being a baby boomer, I know that song well. I had that Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young vinyl album called Four Way Street that had that song and many other great songs on it. Those were the days my friend! What the hell has happened to this world since then?

  • @TheVillageBeast
    @TheVillageBeast 2 года назад +19

    Love your channel bruv. Love how you literally talks about anything. Let’s level up guys 💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +2

      So glad you enjoy the channel! Thanks for being here! 🧡

  • @800-HOT-MESS
    @800-HOT-MESS 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you!! You guys are helping so many people ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  7 месяцев назад

      You're welcome! 🧡

  • @lucybraun8969
    @lucybraun8969 Год назад +14

    Our value is found in the fact that we are worth an only begotten son to our heavenly father. Without our flaws, we would not have need of a savior. The best we can do is to strive for being the best possible version of ourselves through obedience, and being able to forgive ourselves for our mistakes.

  • @heyu123
    @heyu123 Год назад +12

    Lewis I really admire u. U went through so much (the little that I know) and you’re helping so many people now ❤❤❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +1

      Appreciate you and your support🧡

  • @safiramennas9601
    @safiramennas9601 Год назад +2

    Mathew you are so smart and inspiring, you noticed something in yourself that is actually scientifically proven to make you feel better, that "noticing" the good moments in your day and focusing on them is such a key to get over a heartbreak ! Thanks for sharing this and helping others, you're one of those people who contribute in making this world better. 🙏🏼💙

  • @thesnehap
    @thesnehap 2 года назад +24

    Love your channel, content and podcast! I am thankful to have you found you and your work! Most of these topics need to be shared, discussed far and wide - thank goodness people are seeing through some of the illusions!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +7

      So glad you enjoy the channel! Thanks for being here! 🧡

  • @anneliesewright662
    @anneliesewright662 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you for being so REAL.

  • @robotcitizen101
    @robotcitizen101 2 года назад +43

    having had rockstar levels of popularity and people of all persuasions offering themselves to me, while being in multiple relationships, with no end of 'booty' on call, after many years of that - endless drama! - I finally achieved happiness and satisfaction with peace and quiet by switching off from them all; am thoroughly enjoying the quiet life with some awesome animal friends. I have time now to actually do so many satisfying things that don't involve other people's life-draining drama. I hope you all get over the awfully sad desperate infantile neediness of wanting to be desired, considered attractive and all that. It's a terrible hamster wheel. Life is so much better when you stop caring about it. I know many of you won't get this until you've been on the hamster wheel and are thoroughly disillusioned by it. But maybe this note will help at least one person get off the hamster wheel years before they might have otherwise. Genuine happiness comes when you don't need someone else's approval, attention or energy to feel OK about yourself.

    • @Smokillo
      @Smokillo 2 года назад

      The hamster wheel doesn’t attract me

    • @patriciapeever5974
      @patriciapeever5974 2 года назад +2

      Needieness is a sad way to start a relationship.

    • @beac8238
      @beac8238 Год назад +1

      How old were you when you finally got tired of that lifestyle? And did you find a woman to settle down with?

    • @spiritualawakeing
      @spiritualawakeing Год назад

      They got subscriber, channels, likes and off one in dozen links I had plan to create my application. Many do not know facts. But 12 years ago they started own vision. Never ever gave me any help. Only taking and taking as Raping me over and over. Hurts knowing I am zero, to All the Ones. Never offering ONE is Trinity. Hated by many loved by most. Either way, I am here commenting still never earn zip. FB block me, I see truth. Sad to know I am extra hated for being equal to you as sinner.

    • @spiritualawakeing
      @spiritualawakeing Год назад

      @@Smokillo How does it feel as Karma start world wide.

  • @ericmhowardii8410
    @ericmhowardii8410 2 года назад +11

    Communication and trust work well in all relationships.

  • @DanDanTheFireman
    @DanDanTheFireman Год назад

    An amazing video. I love the format of taking different clips and creating some important tips. All of them resonated with me.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @LeahWasHere23
    @LeahWasHere23 Год назад +2

    This whole video -- GOLD! -- I think I've replayed the part with Esther Perel at least 10 times.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      Thank you so much for watching!

  • @joybarton3460
    @joybarton3460 11 месяцев назад

    Just an awakening podcast! The lady has words of utter wisdom!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  11 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for being here!

  • @ptyh27
    @ptyh27 Год назад +12

    Everyone has expectations. No such a thing unconditional love these days

  • @sheilaisrael8922
    @sheilaisrael8922 2 года назад +8

    Lewis you are a great teacher, and trying to bring awareness to the partnership dance!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +1

      Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

  • @theresacourter627
    @theresacourter627 2 года назад +5

    Thank you for being so real!! I needed to hear that men can feel this way too

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад

      You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡

  • @jennifergersch9126
    @jennifergersch9126 Год назад +2

    Two awesoome people thrown together! Thank you!

  • @jonkybeats
    @jonkybeats Год назад

    I loved when Matthew said “sippin a beach on a cocktail” 2:18

  • @karishma5711
    @karishma5711 2 года назад +6

    This is one of the best practical learning. And the Athlete example is best. I need to start from this.

  • @ericmhowardii8410
    @ericmhowardii8410 2 года назад +9

    Relationships needs love, honor, trust , common ground and loyalty that runs both ways inside the family between husband and wife, son , daughter and the list goes on.

  • @savannasmuaythai
    @savannasmuaythai 2 года назад +10

    theres a saying "if you find yourself alone, rejoice!'

  • @mcm6563
    @mcm6563 Год назад +5

    I learned so much deep anderstantding💫 tkank you.

  • @SoCalBrian
    @SoCalBrian Год назад +2

    29:10 omg thank you to this woman for saying the truth!

  • @florebaptiste2792
    @florebaptiste2792 Год назад +6

    Anyone in my life will bring “er” they can only make me happier, calmer etc. they will add to what I’m already creating.

  • @fernandaflores9690
    @fernandaflores9690 9 месяцев назад

    Do you have this amazing podcast in Spanish? Thank you!:)

  • @catherinelandry811
    @catherinelandry811 2 года назад +9

    Thank you. The storm analogy and staying true to your end goal was helpful. If they text, "respect the drug". I needed this today. Many thanks

  • @KirkLeeSweet
    @KirkLeeSweet 2 года назад +1

    These videos from Lewis are helping me so much. What did we do before RUclips premium?

  • @lenkavolnhals7197
    @lenkavolnhals7197 2 года назад +1

    I have finished your podcast today, if I had enough time I would watch it again, but I am very short of time at the moment and the next month. I did love the podcast and wish I were less tired to listen to every little detail. Thank you. I will jump over Huberman and watch your previous podcast, hope someone else come after him.

  • @lucybraun8969
    @lucybraun8969 Год назад +1

    You guys were a big part of my good weather today.

  • @carlosjuvencio-ew9xn
    @carlosjuvencio-ew9xn Год назад

    Thanks for this. Learned a lot.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @Hiltie1
    @Hiltie1 2 года назад +1

    This is great majestic wisdom. Thankyou for sharing.

  • @annaalm18
    @annaalm18 Год назад

    Highly valuable content, thanks Lewis!!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @rebeccagonzalesfinley5751
    @rebeccagonzalesfinley5751 Год назад +2

    You just hit a spot wow thanks

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @craigosterberg5045
    @craigosterberg5045 2 года назад +2

    Thanks for the info

  • @xelaklement3367
    @xelaklement3367 2 года назад +9

    Please invite Dr Mike Mew from orthotropics on your podcast. He has crucial and life changing information to share and he's been silenced by the orthodontics community. He really needs our support. Please if you know his work, upvote my comment or suggest him as a guest on other big podcasts 🙏 He is one of the great scientists who has changed my life for the better. Sorry for going off topic, the video was great as always!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +2

      I ask that all guest requests go through: lewishowes.com/contact under "press/media/interview."

    • @robotcitizen101
      @robotcitizen101 2 года назад

      haha the guy who looks like the predator alien? ewww, just creepy.

    • @xelaklement3367
      @xelaklement3367 2 года назад

      @@lewishowes Thank you so much for replying! Will do 💜

  • @temprano69
    @temprano69 2 года назад +2

    I saw Mathew years ago in a video it was nice to see him again

    • @jenniferwhitehead9153
      @jenniferwhitehead9153 Год назад +1

      Mathew Hussey has 100’s of videos on RUclips. Very good relationship expert.

  • @thaothelegendary1796
    @thaothelegendary1796 Год назад +1

    What does Esther mean when she said 'we give each other a foundation from which we launch into our respective world?" how should we understand this, as opposed to the notion partners should make each other happy?

  • @takalvert
    @takalvert Год назад +1

    His so with real details amazing 👏 and all true..

  • @rebeccagonzalesfinley5751
    @rebeccagonzalesfinley5751 Год назад +2

    I’m very alone and thanks for this message

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @tianiemitchell5692
    @tianiemitchell5692 Год назад

    I agree it's never wise to rebound quickly even for a man because, it prolongs the healing process or the figure it out process that that person's the 14U person-to-person

  • @tamara8736
    @tamara8736 Год назад +1

    ugh so helpful

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +1

      Glad this was helpful for you🧡

  • @theCollectiveEU
    @theCollectiveEU 2 года назад +1

    So great Lewis 🙏

  • @Rachsbliss
    @Rachsbliss 2 года назад +1

    Thank you 🧡

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +1

      You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡

    • @Rachsbliss
      @Rachsbliss 2 года назад

      @@lewishowes your welcome!✨🧡

  • @rommystrater6334
    @rommystrater6334 2 года назад +1

    I resonate

  • @janep165
    @janep165 2 года назад +6

    Can you do mini videos with salient points? /snap shots please. Really love the content here but video too long

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +2

      Thanks for your honest Feedback! You can find an audio only shorter version of my podcasts here: lewishowes.com/podcast
      There is also the clips channel here: ruclips.net/channel/UCvR7QkSlCxuzAITcs99-G6Q

    • @janep165
      @janep165 2 года назад

      @@lewishowes thank you Lewis, much appreciated x

  • @makaylahua1
    @makaylahua1 Год назад +1

    Who is the “2nd to last” speaker? He was AMAZING, thank you ❤️

  • @АнаидДжаграева
    @АнаидДжаграева Год назад

    What’s the name of the man that was speaking about “Big lesson”?
    Lewis, thank you for your show, it means so much for me🙏❤️

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @CatherinesChronicles_
    @CatherinesChronicles_ 2 года назад +1

    Super content !
    Deep and helpful to me!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +1

      Thank you so much! 🧡

  • @SoCalBrian
    @SoCalBrian Год назад +5

    29:23 so that’s what love is

  • @АнаидДжаграева
    @АнаидДжаграева Год назад

    Oh, I’ve just understood that it’s the author of book “Live Free”- Franklin DeVon🙏😂😍

  • @lotaayson9645
    @lotaayson9645 2 года назад +1

    LOVE and Faith can not be forced
    NICE hearing from Both of you
    Remembered 4 years ago; Its coming
    Christmas; Hello TO YOUR " mOM"
    Place was spectacular; keep goings-on
    Inspired people with your welcoming
    Vibrancy

  • @diana0620
    @diana0620 Год назад +4

    Matthew ❤ is looking hotter than ever ....Lewis ❤ always

  • @dr.josephm.costello5351
    @dr.josephm.costello5351 Год назад

    Who is the woman that begins at 23:00? She is very knowledgeable.

  • @Victoria-cm1yo
    @Victoria-cm1yo Год назад +1

    How do you explain then that the majority of the people are not happy with themselves, and still have someone loving them and they have never ever been alone before. Do they even know what self love is? Do they care about it? No. Did they accept being overweight, ugly, self hate? Or still they have enough ego to tell themselves they deserve someone! And they are claiming it. It’s really a waste of time focusing on self love. You can still be just unlucky and a boring person, therefor you’ll be alone.

  • @ligiasommers
    @ligiasommers 2 года назад

    Super helpful 🙏🏻🌹✨

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 года назад +1

      Means a lot!!! Glad this was helpful for you🧡

  • @JG-yf6pt
    @JG-yf6pt 2 года назад +2

    who is the sociologist she mentioned @29:33?

  • @Scout-nn4vb
    @Scout-nn4vb 2 года назад +5

    Matthew is hawt. 🔥

  • @paulinejeffers3
    @paulinejeffers3 2 года назад

    ❤️

  • @TheblondJane25
    @TheblondJane25 2 года назад

    GOOD ONE

  • @barokotextiledelux7949
    @barokotextiledelux7949 Год назад

    What is the name of the second speaker? I would like to order some of her books

  • @adaraluz
    @adaraluz Год назад

  • @SoCalBrian
    @SoCalBrian Год назад +2

    32:50 unconditional love is not real

  • @ny3nq
    @ny3nq Год назад

    What are the names of the interviewees?

  • @sabrinasabrina2841
    @sabrinasabrina2841 2 года назад +2

    what is the name of the last speaker?

  • @darkangelsuzy999
    @darkangelsuzy999 Год назад

    Can I find just the interview with Louis and Ester separately from the whole on here ??

  • @magalufff
    @magalufff 2 года назад +14

    At my age the only way to be more attractive is facelift😂

    • @genbeaudry5063
      @genbeaudry5063 2 года назад +2

      Your mind would be the first thing that is ghe attraction...,then the rest follows.😉

  • @jayg.a
    @jayg.a 2 года назад

    ✌️

  • @missamy3304
    @missamy3304 Год назад +1

    sorry if im wrong , why i see a lot of marijuama smoked

  • @RoopaDudleyPaintings
    @RoopaDudleyPaintings 2 года назад +4

    Women are so different when it comes to break-up.

    • @theCollectiveEU
      @theCollectiveEU 2 года назад

      How is that? I would like to know.. thanks

  • @lindabyrne5692
    @lindabyrne5692 Год назад

    No one addresses what happens when cancer strikes. So, when a woman loses her ability to perform it seems acceptable for the husband to step out of the marriage. But what happens when a man has prostrate cancer and is on meds and his libido goes to zero? Granted, it is understood that this is a life saving step in his treatment. But ... what is the longterm effect of this? Or maybe this is an advanced relationship issue and not an ordinary issue that new relationships have.

  • @valentinadagramo9683
    @valentinadagramo9683 Год назад

    Mr. Hussey: Breakup is heartbreaking..
    Howes: HAHAHA!!
    Mr. Hussey: It’s a devastating experience…
    Howea: HAHAHA!
    Howes:😀 🔨 Me🤬
    Really disgusting these reactions!!!🤯 laughing about other‘s pain. HORRIBLE! A narcissistic behaviour.

  • @susan8437
    @susan8437 2 года назад

    Ok g

  • @seangray7715
    @seangray7715 Год назад

    Your advice is so spot on but dose these things you say applie to gay men

  • @kvs7876
    @kvs7876 2 года назад +1

    I met the person, had sexy, still having sex, trying new things sex coming up on 2 months. She says I’m wonderful and beautiful and can’t stop thinking about me. Just wondering at some point will this turn into love?

    • @ZOI123-w4o
      @ZOI123-w4o 2 года назад

      What do you like about her outside of sex?

    • @yrellim
      @yrellim Год назад +2

      Sex is about attraction and pleasure.
      Love is what happens outside the bed room (the other 23 hours) -connection, respect ect.
      No sex =getting to know each other and failing in love with the person not the sex.
      Good luck!

  • @מיריתבו
    @מיריתבו Год назад

    זזז😊😊😊😊

  • @vehtty
    @vehtty Год назад

    True Virgin Entertainment

  • @lotaayson9645
    @lotaayson9645 2 года назад +2

    " BOTH looking 👍 🦸‍♂️ 🦸‍♀️; " " SMILES
    Bringing confidence to your AUDIENCE

  • @simonecavalcante3607
    @simonecavalcante3607 Год назад +6

    WoW! Thank you for bringing so much awareness to the way we look and live our relationships. 💛

  • @joseroman7553
    @joseroman7553 Год назад +1

    Loved this, fun and insightful! Thanks a lot!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @MsBuffone
    @MsBuffone 2 года назад +1

    What is the name of the second speaker?