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If people cared half as much about being a good person, as they do about the way they look, we would be living in completely different world.
Amen ❤️💪🏼
Unfortunately there is too much privelege coming with good looks so until that changes looks will be the priority.
@@moonknight4053 Humans love darkness and they hate the light
@Camrynns
Why do you care about people's feelings and opinions?
Who cares about society?
No one will care when you die.
No one will mourn your death forever.
Even your loved ones especially your family might mourn for 3 days then they'll get over it and forget about you.
Maggots and worms will eat your flesh when you die.
Also beauty will start to fade.
When you're in 20s is not like when you're in your 30s.
20s are better.
The more we age, the less youthful we become.
We should get over it.
Life is short
So true!
He says "People are afraid of aging." I'd say WOMEN more so. Why? Because there is a HEAVY penalty to being an older woman. Pretty privilege is real and young women, especially, are aware of this and are very afraid, and for good reason, about what will happen when they no longer benefit from the "cute ingénue" appeal. They arent afraid of death. They are afraid of becoming invisible, unwanted second class citizens.
I feel like this really comes down to our society. My Asian friend can't wait to be a grandmother because elderly women are highly valued & respected in her culture. Wish it was that way here too.
Well said
Good riddance, I say.
Similarly, would this doctor be making videos to repeatedly reply to this woman if she were 50+ and aging naturally? Pretty privilege runs deep and subconsciously. But most young women have a sense of it.
I am perfectly fine with aging. I don't alter anything. but my husband dyes his hair and thinks about fillers/botox or whatever is needed to fill in his deep face winkles... I think it's nonsense but when HE cannot handle his aging what can I do... 🤷♀️
I appreciate your broad persepctive doc, but I do think its really sad that people feel "immense pressure" to change their appearance surgically. As a broke millennial, Im gonna keep working on my education and health. People will eventually catch up and realize that aging is a privilege, and true beauty always shines from inside out ✨️
I don’t disagree, however, until society collectively decides to place more value on people’s individual beauty ( even in old age) and character rather than this hyper focus on youthfulness, chasing beauty, and all of the the “perceived “ benefits of these things, people will continue to feel this pressure.
Yup
if only the last part was true 😢 as Gen z and growing up seeing all these beautiful women on TV I’ve always felt pressure to become beautiful through any means possible. As technology improve, average becomes higher and higher. And if you’re not beautiful then you are considered worthless in gen z. I’ve had body issues from age 9 just from watching Disney channel 😅🩷🩷
@@MagsLuvthat’s going to cost you more than just money. Just look at Madonna. She couldn’t accept aging naturally and tried to fight back against it and she looks like a botched wax statue.
Absolutely ❤🎉
Omg calling an unworked-on face a “raw” face gives me the heebie jeebies 💀
Hannibal Lecter vibes
@@helixmoore7636 lol
Like cyberpunk 2077. Its more unusual to not have any cybernetics augments
hi remember to not use God's name in vain
@@mariamendoza8934Jesus Christ, I forgot all about that! Goddamnit!
I’m 66 years old. At 65 I decided to quit coloring my hair and go grey. It was a hard decision because I didn’t want to look so old. I have aged about 10 years in the last 3 years. The interesting thing is I’ve had some compliments by very young women (younger than 20). One young lady in a restaurant said, “You’re so pretty!” It made me feel much better than it would have had it come from a person my age.
I let mine go grey after it fell out from chemo and I was only 52! Priorities shifted very quickly when you realised you may not have many years left. Not that I don’t use light makeup to cover blemishes etc. Full disclosure.
@coralice6263Thanks for asking. I’m in remission 6th year.
As a 20 year old, you're gorgeous!!! I would love to look like you at 65
Lol I dyed my hair 3 or 4 times between 18 and 25?and it was so annoying...so I decided to not touch my gray hair.
My sister is a hairdresser and customers who know me asked her what is needed to get my "silver highlights" she said "wait 20 years"
If I'm too bored I get natural bright wash out dye like pink or fuchsia.
Because they're white they get the bright colors for a couple of weeks and then go back to white.
As a 15 y/o, grey is the prettiest hair color out there
Aging is a PRIVILEGE that is denied to many. We live in such a shallow, appearance-oriented culture. When this generation gets to be my age (I'm 56 and have had no cosmetic work other than braces on my teeth), they had better have already gotten their fears under control because, otherwise, they're going to be in a world of hurt! _Just sayin'...._
Ladies (and some gents), PLEASE learn to love the way you look NOW while you still have the time and please STOP depending on your looks for happiness. God forbid anything should happen and you lose them early through some kind of accident or tragedy. Watching these young people stress over every blemish is so, so sad.
Agreed! I am Gen X too, turning 53 next month, and have chosen to love my natural beauty. There is nothing prettier than CONFIDENCE!!
you can enjoy this privilege ma'am
I've earned all my smile lines, and my crows feet. Aging has been a privilege and I'm happy.
Wise words 👍🏾💓🥲
You are so right- aging is a PRIVILEGE . It is a fact of life and sad that some go to such extremes to disguise it.
It’s kind of sad that women have to wear make up in public to feel good about themselves or to get views, but men don’t really have to. I think that’s an issue that needs to be looked at more
look at it the other way. Men are either naturally good looking, or they can't hide behind make up bc it's ,,unmanly". We girls at least have a choice
@@fum4491Not really. Women without makeup are always seen as less attractive because our society doesn’t even know what a woman is supposed to look like. Men on the hand have simply never normalized makeup so they are seen attractive even without it.
@@fum4491 never thought of it that way but that’s also a good point
I don't wear make up in public, and I feel good about myself. Please learn to detach your self-image from what other peoole think/what you think other people are thinking
I wear makeup because I want to not to get attention. The ones who want attention do makeup to the extreme. Huge eye lashes, very thick eye liner, and so on.......
The real issue is that so many people who have had so much done don't look that good.
Especially some of the celebrities look so much worse than before their surgeries.
This!!!
And somehow way older.
Doc just mentioned that good plastic surgery should whisper, not yell. I know I had good plastic surgery when people tell me I have the natural body that people pay for. I tell them I did pay for it, and they're always shocked loool
@@Dr.Gloomy sure no problem: I had a tummy tuck and lipo on my midsection and back. My doctor had a conservative hand, and I made it a point to leave the rest of my body alone, mainly because I know that if I tried to make any other body part perfect, I wouldn't know when to stop.
I also get Botox in my forehead lines and undereye filler bc they were really hollow.
I appreciate your honesty
@@mammajamma4397very good way of thinking! It definitely is a slippery slope where you start thinking about things you’d never even thought about before! Staying off social media massively helps in terms of self image and competition so I think that’s where the youth are going wrong 😢
We're creating a totally unrealistic expectation of what constitutes beauty. There was a time when we accepted the differences in faces and found the individual beautiful. Now, beauty isn't born, it's purchased. We used to talk about the need for more diversity in our fashion magazines, but it appears that today we can only appreciate one type of beauty - tiny, tiny nose, full, full lips, and eyebrows lifted to the hairline.
Don't forget the BBL, breast implant, ass implant and more.....
No, we didn't. We just had different ways of changing how we looked and making procedures and cultural practices more expensive as more people have access. We have never been magically more accepting.
Yes everyone on social media looks the same..... sometimes u see a woman and can't tell if its Beyoncé kim..... kylie or random ig model
Normal humans do not like that look. Social media clones.
When i see one in the wild i laugh and everybody stares at the idiocy.
Must say i live in the Netherlands.
Dutch people are 'nuchter'
Doe maar normaal dan doe je al gek genoeg!
😂😂
So much truth expressed I your comment- people are so obsessed with their physical appearance, that they are compromising their inner beauty that is permanent and unique, the physical beauty does not last forever, but our inner core, who we are as individuals, what our values and believes are, what makes us authentic and real.
I'm from Argentina, we don't use make up for everyday. When i watch movies/sitcoms from USA, i always found it weird. I mean, we use make up for a party, or a date, but not for work. People at work Will ask you where are you going after work or what are your plans, if you show up with make up
That’s awesome!
I like that.
Maybe were you live. I knew w girl from Buenos aires on FB and she always had horrible makeup on. Maybe it was for FB pics? Idk
Thanks for sharing that
I'm also from Argentina but grew up in the US. Whenever I traveled back home to visit family, they would comment that I didn't look like I was from there, until I opened my mouth! Lol. I've loved makeup and dressing up even if I was going to work or going to the supermarket. I can't just roll out of bed, put some clothes on and go to work or school like that. That's what men do, as a women, I want to make that extra effort and a bare face just doesn't cut it. It wasn't enough for me at 18, and it's definitely not enough for me at 52.
At 60, I am putting on my makeup and taking care of my health and working on getting past the stigmas. You either get older or die. So live your life for you and what works for you. Makeup no makeup surgery no surgery. What someone else comments is irrelevant. Enjoy your life.
Great comment! 🫶🏽
Easy to say with make up. You can wash that off, when you have a bodged irreversible surgery as many do you still have to live with that for life or at worst that mind end it. Very common for women coming home to the a UK needing hospital care for bad procedures
Good advice thank you 😊
Exactly. I'm turning 60 in a couple of months. Bring it on xx
I'm sixty and i don't even put on make up 😂
I also wanted a nose job when I was a teenager (i am now 27) and I never got one! Thank God!!
The feeling of accepting yourself as you naturally are is so rewarding and creates real peace. There’s no journey for me to arrive at a place where I’ll feel good about myself through “fixing things” about my appearance .. I just accept this is the body I have,and I wish more people could experience that. I wish people would stop interpreting their features that don’t “match society” or “fit in” as wrong or broken needing fixing.. we are all different and that’s ok.
When I was a kid, I wanted a nose job. I think a lot of it was my mother repeatedly telling me that I had the bad luck of inheriting my dad's nose and not hers (needless to say, I have always had a difficult relationship with her). Luckily I was strong enough to resist. Now I am so glad I didn't touch it. My nose totally matches my face!!
@@abcd4406 that’s the thing! Mine matches my face too.. and it works perfectly fine too haha.. if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it 😂
I'm happy for you, my friend! I myself always wanted to fix my nose as a child, as it had a prominent dorsal hump that literally none of my relatives (including great grandparents!) had, and i always felt very bitter and self conscious about it. No one in my entire life EVER commented on it, for good or for ill, but I always hated that bump. Then it occured to me at 25 that I didn't need some magic or miracle of God to change my nose--my paycheck could 😂. I figured my brain was done developing so if I still wanted to get rid of that bump after 17 years, and I had the money? Why not! 3 years later, and I couldn't be happier, absolutely no regrets. But I know my own experience is just that--my own. And I really repect people who come to accept and appreciate features that used to bother them, its amazing ❤
I friend of mine had such a beautiful roman nose (the really curved ones), it gave her such a distinct character. I do not remember if I ever commented how much I like her look wit it, as I knew she wanted a surgery and finally got it. I am not sure tat would have changed her mind, but at least telling her that would have put a bit of different perspective on het being it wit such distaste.@@readmachine18
The thing is, these procedures have become a normal trend, so I think we should know to draw the line and stop praising unnatural beauty.
well said
well, define 'normal": "normal" people should have eyelashes to protect the eyes, and also form like a nice dark shadow around the eyes. That's the normal. Due to DNA mutations, my hair, eyes, skin is lighter and w no eyelashes mascara my eyelashes are almost unseen.
Also: normal is to have a darker skin tone. My lighter skin color is not "normal", it is results of DNA mutations.
BTY, it seems that to lost the hair color is also not a "normal" procedure of aging, but a genetic problem: not all people lost the hair color, while some start losing it at eary age. Until genetic therapy will be available, what is wrong about people dyeing the hair to a "normal" color (or to any color)
@@empress2529 Are you trying to say that you have albinism?
By all means don't praise unnatural beauty if it isn't your thing, but I hope you can respect Gen Z's choice to go plastic if they love it.
How about we just live and let live?
@@kirstenbakker839 because it promotes unhealthy mindsets and affects girls, especially young girls negatively
The freckles I was made fun of for? My curvy bum I was made fun of for? My thick eyebrows I was made fun of for??? I was young in the 80s, 90s and part of the 2000s. And now almost everything I was made fun of for on my body (and I did learn to hate myself for it, for quite some time) is now en vogue
Same here. I have red hair and also got looked down on. In the 80s and 90s the boys liked very thin females with black, brown or blonde hair and very tan. Sometimes Millennials and Gen Z are given a hard time but I have to say that they are a lot less judgmental than we (Gen X) were as far as looks.
now the curvy bum not so much en vogue, that shows that we shouldnt take trends at heart, body types shouldnt even be a trend in the first place
@@quantumangel737 I'd say it's definitely the general trend right now, but of course people still have personal preferences. For example i prefer slimmer/more athletic women generally speaking.
Same 😢 a muuuuuuch better climate for red heads
It amazes me how 90% of the people who get work done, are people who don't even need it. They are usually such good looking people before the work. I don't know why they can't see it or don't believe people who tell them they are beautiful prior to the surgeries.
I think the problem with beauty standars, is that whatever it is, be surgery or simply makeup, gets people to bully those who don’t get those things done.
If you get those done you still get bullied kkk
I'm so happy to have signs of aging because for a long time I was suicidal and I didn't see a future past 18 years old. I'm 32 now and every laugh line, crows foot, and gray hair marks another moment that I am still here thanks to God!
❤
Im 56 yrs old. The only thing I had done was some deep laser treatments on acne scars. I LOVE being middle aged. No more period cramps. I only need about 5 hrs of sleep. I have worked hard and saved and invested a lot of my money- so I have 3 houses now. Plus I do not give a crap about wrinkles and thinning hair. The not giving a crap is the best part
If you consider 56 middle-aged does that mean you're going to live until 112?
I have many relatives in the low 100s, so probably. Also f=ck you@@SamStone1964
@@SamStone1964 and who cares? what is 56 then? Like, a near-death elderly nursing home age? lmao
@SamStone1964 isn't it middle-aged? I always considered 40s - 50s as your middle age
@@not_a_cat1392
I was teasing the person who made the comment. It's a subjective term and some people even stretch it to their 60s. I consider it to be maybe late 30s to early 50s.
I mean, im gonna say it. This is coming from a 22 year old female who is already naturally pretty. As the doctor said, everyone has different starting points. I've known girls in their 20s who are already developing forehead lines, or have bags under their eyes. I've known women who feel just fine until they start see the first signs of aging crop up. Everyone is different. No one should get surgery because of societal pressure.. I think the most important thing is to ask yourself why you're considering it. Will it make YOU feel more confident? I also think it's important to WAIT and really sleep on it. I have a bump on the bridge of my nose and always felt that my profile is too severe. In my 20s I desperately wanted a nose job and people always said don't do it, you won't look like yourself then, it'll change your face too much. As I got older I realized my grandma had the same nose and looks quite regal in old photos. I like that I have her nose and I'm glad I didn't change it, even if society says it's flawed.
I'm 15, quite average looking, and have been thinking about getting my chin done for years. I don't really want to do it and likely never will but it's been at the back of my mind lol
@@Adelaide672 i get you, but pleaaaaaase wait. you are so so so young. one thing my mother said to me when I was young, I only understand it now (I'm 33): when you're young, you're beautiful by default. Because youth is beautiful by itself. So you really are beautiful just because you're young.
That's not to say that older people don't look beautiful, but youth truly is beautiful. Recently, I found some pictures of myself when I was 17 (I always thought I was average, not much to look at) and I really thought to myself, god I was so beautiful. The skin was full, no lines, hair was gorgeous, I always thought I was chubby but I was so thin...I always lived healthy, exercised, weight had not changed much, but one day I was 30 and saw freaking lines under my eyes and on my forehead and wondered who the hell is this imposter?! :D College, job, mortgages, bills, stress really takes a toll on you hahah and you just grow older. Which is a privilege. I just wished I'd realized sooner that I will never be as beautiful as I was when I was that young, so please just enjoy it.
You can always get surgery, please just live healthy, don't drink or smoke and enjoy your teenage years and then 20's. Then comes certain life experience and you'll see how you feel about your chin. Don't forget, a lot of these looks are just trends.
@@googlyeyes9428 Thank you for your kind reply ❤. I will wait, I'll probably never go through with it anyways. And I'm sure you're still super beautiful :)
I just don't know where to draw the line with caring about my looks. Are makeup and nice clothes also wrong? I like wearing makeup, mostly having fun with eyeshadow looks and lipstick, but I only do it when I WANT to. I've never done it with the intention of "covering up my flaws." I have no problem with how I look naturally and feel fine going out in the public with a bare face. I also like wearing cute clothes which I think look good on me. But I only like dressing up when I truly want to.
Do we really only want to look good for others? Is wearing makup and cute clothes really only for others? Is it not possible to enjoy those things yourself? I mean, I always wonder if others can have an opinion on my looks and what's more appealing, then why can't I have an opinion on what looks better on me? If I'm capable of finding other ppl's appearances beautiful in a non-sexual way, then doesn't that mean I can also want to look pretty for me?
@@not_a_cat1392I wear make up everyday and dresses and I often don’t see anyone. If I’m lucky I see the mailman. I dress up for me. I mean I sometimes leave the house but I like to play around with make up, experiment and change my look. I’ve changed my hair colour a few times over the years it’s even been pink. I think there is nothing wrong with doing any of these things for you. There is nothing wrong with playing with your style. If you do anything permanent just be aware it’s permanent. Some things like I’ve seen girls shave their eyebrows can be permanent. They may never grow back quite the same. So it’s safer to get those professionally bleached if your want to go really wild. Same with tattoos remember if you don’t like them they are a pain literally to remove. Also there are beauty treatments you can do at home that aren’t surgery that will look after your skin like led therapy. If you’re doing it because you enjoy it and find it fun then it’s all good. It’s mainly a problem when you feel like you have to look a certain way for society. You are beautiful no matter what because we are all unique in our own ways.
What happens when people who've been very cosmetically tweaked and beautified have children who don't naturally look stunning like their beautiful parents?
It will happen all the time. They will tell them that they love them so so muc and that they should love themselves whilst having altered their whole appearance.
Two naturally beatiful people can have average looking children, just as two ugky oarents can produce a stunner. there is no specific beauty gene. And biologocal children will always have some features after their parents even if they are not so harmonious.
This is a very weird concern to have.
@@inmyflopera729I don’t think it’s a weird concern at all. Genetically attractive people tend to have attractive children.
@@jen0718 this is so wrong. I don't have the energy to explain tho so consider that u have won. ✋
As millennial I agree with Brett Cooper. I haven’t had any work done, but the pressure is so immense and I could see how younger women would feel the need to keep up. I wish we would just embrace natural beauty more
I remember when Aerie (girls underwear company) pledged to never retouch their photos, my jaw literally dropped when I saw tummy rolls, cellulite, stretch marks etc. We've just become accustomed to make "perfection" the standard - AND THIS is unhealthy
You brought such a balanced view on her conversation on the subject. Humble and empathetic.
Honestly beauty as it’s defined by social standards is getting really boring. Like yeah yeah, we’ve seen the same face million times already
I think we have normalized that "beauty" means "having procedures", and people who decide not to (and are not naturally "beautiful") are called ugly by society. It shouldn't be a societal pressure to get things done, if you do then that's fine, but a lot of jobs (specially for women) require you to look a certain way that can only be achieved through aesthetic procedures.
Honestly now, what kind of jobs are you talking about? Or what kind of crazy country are you from where you can only get hired to be lobbyist, an architet, a doctor, a police officer, a lawyer or a teacher if you look like Kim Kardashian, lol ?
how is Gen Z affording all this?
Holla at me 2 when somebody answers u😂
They’re all in debt
I wanted to ask this too. I need Botox for medical reasons and god damn I’ve been putting it off for years because it’s so expensive
Because they’re not having kids
just spoiled kids?! lol
I’m glad that you mentioned not everyone has the same starting point. Some people just want to fit in and shouldn’t be judged for that.
i laughed at that moment. Like no shit she's pretty without makeup and surgieries. Maybe that's because... SHE IS PRETTY? Doctor Linkov basically said the same thing, just way more tactful lol
Let's be honest here. This is a target on most woman's backs. The need to feel desirable, beautiful, pretty and sexy has been around forever. Maybe it's time to change that narrative and bring up our daughters differently. Praise their intelligence, kindness and worth to the world instead of praising beauty per se. Just a thought.
You seem like a very kind open hearted person. Your patients are lucky to have you.
I really dont care about plastic surgery :) but the calmness, compassion, and understanding of Gary is so appeling that i would listen to him even if he spoke about the most lame boring topic what so ever..
Why are 22 years old girl worried about plastic surgery( because they growing old)… What’s wrong with just being yourself and not a cone of what’s in( but your own distinct, genetic make up that makes you beautiful and unique)… I didn’t worry about aging till I turned 47 soon to be 49… but I still just tried eat right, workout, don’t drink alcohol or smoke… I rather age gracefully with age comes more wisdom… and learning to feel comfortable in my own skin…
There is a reason that Gen Z looks older. They grew up too fast and even get work done earlier than the previous generations. I'm uncomfortable with growing older but I know it's inevitable and I know that getting work done doesn't make anyone look younger, it just makes them look different. My fear of not looking like myself outweighs my fear of aging.
Oh my God. They are worrying over nothing. My generation and Gen Z are still acting like angsty teenagers.
For real. This prolonged adolescence in our generation is worrisome.
@@chrystianaw8256we were raised by the former generation…
I guess this is the root of the problem
Am almost 52 and get a lot of compliments from younger women asking me how I kept my baby skin and having no wrinkels. I was and am still all natural and was always aware that my skin and my face are going to reflect my inner me when older. So I invested in myself. No chemicals( no make up) on my skin. Never, just mascara, lemon juice, aloe vera and jojoba oil. Thinking positive and taking care of my thoughts and actions. And most important having a husband who never gave me stress and having a bunch of kids(5). Am not against surgeries if they are done nicely but looking at all those young girls. It's not making them prettier. In real they look plastic. It's only beautiful on Insta.
I think the most surprising thing to me is that "normal" people are doing these procedures. In my 5 these costly procedures were reserved for the upperclass with disposable income. Since there are so many people constantly complaining about our tanking economy it genuinely surprises me that people are prioritizing these things in their budgets.
I'm in my 50s and I watch this type of content to witness the state of Society in general. Once, when I was 40, a male friend and I were talking about plastic surgery. He told me his sister have breast implants. I went to talk about the societal pressure on beauty standards. He told me "It is easy to say when you are naturally beautiful". My jaw dropped, because I was bullied all my childhood and teenage years because I NEVER was part of the beauty standard, and I suffered a lot due to my physical appearance. So, beauty is truly something very subjective, for him I was beautiful, for others I was the object of bullying. But, I always have had an immense appreciation for the talents and intelligence that life has given me, because I knew that looks will wane sooner or later.
I was born and raised in Miami (the plastic surgery and BBL capital of the US 😂) and let me tell you guys, it take A LOT of mental work to not succumb to the pressure of getting something done. I'm only 26. I'm constantly bombarded by lip filler ads, baby botox ads, breast augmentation, etc. It's a lot
Stay strong! 💪🏻
Miami born girl here and I couldn’t agree more
This feels like a similar issue of steroids/SARMs, fake natties, etc. that encourage unrealistic body standards.
I think this wave of transparency is a huge leap forward though.
Where do twenty-two year olds find the money for all these cosmetic procedures?
I’m 68. I really hate losing what decent features I did have. Just had my first procedure, an upper and lower blepharoplasty. I’m on day 5 post op. I had a very nasty reaction to the ophthalmic antibiotic ointment. It made me think twice about my next procedure! Surgery is serious business and should not be taken lightly. P.S. I bought your scar cream Dr. Linkov! Hope it works well!
Brett Cooper is so hypocritical. She's wearing makeup regardless, at home and in the studio. And I'm willing to bet she has a skincare routine as well. Why is that acceptable and yet what everyone else does is too far and a reflection of insecurities and social pressure? The line is completely arbitrary. Reminds me of Alicia Keys when she decided she wasn't going to wear makeup anymore. Do what's right for you, but don't shame or pressure other people for doing what's right for them.
Glad you mentioned the fear of death. In my early to mid 40s I started perimenopause and everything started hurting and when I looked in the mirror my face reminded me of a deflated, rotting peach. I felt repulsed as it was a tangible sign that death is coming for me too. This would be easier to accept if I felt I'd 'earned' the lines and sagging but I don't feel I've lived enough to warrant looking this old. My advice to younger people (and my younger self) is yeah, use the sunscreen, hydrate and fix major things that make you miserable like terrible teeth or a massive nose, but fill the years you have with as many adventures as you can. No matter what procedure you have, age will get you in the end - yes even you - and even if you take all the supplements -and you'd rather have spent the money on a great holiday with friends or an education or counselling rather than trying to keep the inevitable at bay because you will lose that battle. If all you look back on is a lifetime of selfies and fixing (what it turns out when you are older) are tiny flaws then you too will have the disconnection with the person in the mirror when your hormones begin to splutter out. Go and take risks and make friends and earn your older face and make the world glad you were here then maybe death will become less terrifying?
Great video. I'm 45 and I've had pretty minimal interventions (botox starting at age 42, lip filler since around the same time), which I feel fine about because I still look like myself. But I wish I could reach out to some of the 20-somethings who feel these insane pressures. I'd tell them to hydrate, wear your sunscreen, get as good of sleep as you can and work on the internal things that have led you into false feelings of inadequacy. We all go through this and a lot of it comes from lifelong internalized misogyny ... we don't even realize that we're doing it. It's something I feel I'll always have to work on.
I'd also tell them, your feelings of self-love and self-acceptance will tend to grow a lot in your 40s and 50s, and it takes away a lot of the burden you feel when you're younger. I know this isn't true for everyone, but for many of us. Certainly for me! I love myself and celebrate myself more and more with time. I hope you all will too❤
I’m 63 & have never seen a 40something that needed any age reversing procedures…
My father at 61 looks 40 because he's always had a fantastic lifestyle, is immune to stress, has always done sports, always ate healthy, and had good skincare. People need to respect their own bodies more.
So you inject your face and lips with crud and yet still feel in a position to advise others on natural beauty care?
While also blaming men and their misogyny for your own poor decisions!
You are quite something.
I'm 37 and for years was obsessed with growing my hair so I took biotin every day and it has me looking 5-10 years younger than everyone I went to school with. I also have kind of a young personality so I'm sure that's mostly why though lol
Also I'm a little shocked peoplpe are comparing themselves to obviously fake and filtered photos. You literally can't compete with it and it's no secret it's all fake
So beautifully and genuinely said and on point! ❤
I don’t know the “clean girl” trend seemed refreshing to me as a millennial cuz I was like oh cool young people are accentuating their natural features and being more natural. I mean there’s still makeup but I think there was a resurgence of “natural beauty”
The “clean girl” on TikTok is the one getting the work done the most. The botox, white strips, fillers, even the tattoos freckles in this video is a part of clean girl aesthetic.
It’s the illusion of being natural when it’s really not.
I haven’t gotten filler in my lips in years. I still have filler in my lips. 6-9 months yeah right. I wish someone had told me. Thank you for sharing!
The lady is so right. It’s ridiculous how much time/money/resources is spend on what is not feeling that ppl think they are not good enough. It’s up to ppl themselves to do what even they want, what I think is terrible is the horrible animal testing on the products just to look “good”.
This is the first generation that has intellectually and culturally regressed in the history since the Middle Ages. It's verifiable, there's studies.
I have no idea why this incomprehensible comment is being upvoted. What does this even mean---"is spend on what is not feeling that ppl think they are not good enough", or "It’s up to ppl themselves to do what even they want"? I basically have to guess what you're saying, and what I think you're saying is you think it's ridiculous to get surgery because people feel they are not good enough. The second quote? No clue.
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The “not good enough” starts early. I cringe whenever I see a baby with pierced ears (note that it’s never a boy) or a kindergartener wearing make up to church.
@@BadMannerKorea I mean ppl thinking of being told they are not good enough. Not a native English speaker and word control is optimal.
What she said is true, but some people need it for deformities. However, everybody shouldn't have the exact same face or body!. ....and some people go so overboard with it. It's hard to have a conversation with them. Without being distracted.
Yeah fixing a flaw you are insecure about is one thing but getting to an uncanny valley look as you get deeper into perception drift is another. I also can't focus on what theu are saying if they look really 'done', I just keep starring at that feature/multiple features they went crazy on.
Everyone is so afraid of ageing that they forget to live and enjoy life ... I prefer to expend money on experiences... when I'm old I'll be cover of wrinkles but I'll be happy that I lived at my fullest and didn't care about society trends... ❤❤❤❤ enjoy life people,most important is to be healthy ❤❤❤
10000% ❤️
Here, some true wisdom ❤! Bravissimo
I'm Team Brett on this, and will argue that she's not being hypocritical about the makeup. The studio makeup is like taking the original painting, covering it with gesso, and starting fresh to make a different painting. That's what a lot of the cosmetic procedures are becoming like as well - and even if that lip filler looks natural today (hint: if your top lip is more plump than your bottom then it doesn't), cumulatively, it won't when you fill that frequent flyer card. But everyday makeup is often more like taking the original painting and adding the highlights back in and touching up the contrast. It's still recognizable.
Wearing make up is the "lesser evil". Even if the plastic surgery done on someone's face/body is minimal or "natural looking", I don't think it should be praised or admired.
I wear makeup mostly because when I don’t use it, almost everyone tells me I look sick and become concern (and no, I’m not sick). So I wear makeup up especially to work just to increase the confidence in coworkers that I’m healthy and ready for work
I really appreciate the honest nature of your response. There are real reasons why people do all of these things. whether we like it or not people judge us based on our looks. I’m so tired of this toxic positivity.
Yes inside work is so important. It should never be neglected for external beauty pursuits. Also, sometimes it’s hard to appreciate aging but as someone who almost had my life cut short from illness, aging truly is a privilege.
I also think its a little interesting that the women showing off “makeup free” fit the general beauty standard. People complementing her smile lines which are practically non existent. I haven’t seen any influencers with major acne or actual wrinkles that aren’t normal for their age. At the end of the day the influencers getting compliments for going natural are the traditional beautiful ones
Ive had deep forehead lines since i was 11 and i get botox not because i am scared of looking old, ill take lines anywhere but my forehead 😂
I took note of that as well, her being conventionally attractive is likely half of the reason why the clip went viral
@@LaMarieOne right like if she had a psoriasis covered potato face like me she wouldn’t be posting or at least wouldn’t get all that support. People should be able to do what they gotta do to feel good about themselves!
I'd love to see how they would compliment me to hell if I show my face lmao. Caveman brow ridges, masculine hooded eyes, long-ass filtrum and non-existent lips. Oh wait, they wouldn't.
A lot of people also called her ugly so…
I had a rhinoplasty performed 6 months ago and this has changed my life for good in many ways. It has changed my confidence and people are also treating me differently, I lost weight as well and I think people thinks my change was part of that as well but overall is not noticeable and my friends that know that I had it say it looks very natural. It was so well done that my friends and family that dont have a good perception about cosmetic surgery changed a bit how they viewed it after i had mine. Thank you for this videos dr Gary!
You're looking great, Dr. Gary!
You've done an amazing transformation with your hair regrowth!
love the balance you bring to the conversation
We already had this conversation over and over. I was a teenager in the 1990s and remember vividly how the resistance towards the beauty industry grew. What happened in the meantime? Didn't we learn anything? And why do the younger generations make the same mistakes we did? (Not talking about low rise jeans...) Didn't they listen?
Very sad to see young people and people in general are so scared of aging.
Yes very weird
Don’t worry she still wears makeup. The most shocking was when Alicia Keys stoped wearing makeup. She looked kind of ill at first but after a while you get used to it. She’s still beautiful but in a different non CGI way
The crossover I didn’t expect 😂
Time is not evil! If you take good care of your health then you will age gracefully.❤
As someone that had freckles growing up I hated them it’s so funny to me that people get them. Whats beautiful to some is ugly to others everything is so subjective
We wear makeup and dye our hair so we can avoid the staring and the judging of people. If others would learn to shut their trap, people would be less fixated on looks.
I really love how you can give your point of view in an explanatory way and that you are very empathetic about different people s feelings and preferences. I have had plastic surgery, most people would not have guessed that I got done anything at all. But I got done several things and sometimes I am terrified if I have to explain to a new acquaintance that I had not only one, but several plastic surgeries. I often feel ashame of that for the exact same reason that I don't want to appear vain. But the way you talk about it makes it understandable that wanting to appear attractive is the most natural thing for humans. I also have a friend who made me aware that maybe it's better to invest some money into therapy, to why I struggle with self esteem. He is not wrong about it at all, and I even can love a face and that is far from perfect in their own way. But your videos also really help to be okay with having insecurities which makes practicing self love and self acceptance instantly much easier. I think I have been judgemental myself, but I want to be more like you: being reasonable, but also more understanding for humans desires and needs. At least it feels much better on many levels to be that way towards myself and others
Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears (respects) the Lord shall be praised, Prov 31:30
15:00 she is making good points here. I don't think i disagree with anything she's said, & I'm glad she's trying to make at least one thing a little better.
Professional makeup is definitely a lot of makeup compared to doing a tiny bit yourself.
Not really i got profesional makeup recently and i was amazed cuz the makeup artist used so little makeup on my face, foundation wise i guess i barrly had any on i had more blush contour but i loked amazing i think a good makeup artist will use very lityle makeup.
She's 22, she hasn't even fully developed as a person yet. Seems like she's under the dunning kruger effect here. To get on her platform and say so confidently how this is right and that is wrong, nuances don't exist, is just pretty much on brand for her. I'm so glad doc looked at this issue from a more objective and knowledgeable point of view. I also like how he talked about this in a calm and empathetic way because if some 22 year old said this to me, I'd be floored. I would love to circle back to her 10 to 15 years from now and see if her opinion has changed with more life lived, especially since she's in the entertainment industry.
I also think it's coming from a place of insecurity on her part. More women getting work done means more competition for her. She feels that her natural beauty cannot compete with artificial beauty and she's angry
Natural beauty will make a huge comeback! People are already realizing how much better looking it is.
Because unfortunately they have been raised on pornography.
Men overwhelmingly prefer natural beauty. Women don’t care about men’s preferences and then complain about everything they “have” to do to look good
Perhsps people saw the NYT docu about aging called "Dying Broke". All about how little care there is for elders built into our social system. If you have seen it you will surely be afraid of aging. I don't live in the US but if I did I would certainly start doing what I could to lobby for better care. The surgeries are not going to help you.
They want people to be afraid so they’re convinced to give away more of their money to the government under the guise that the government will give it back when the individual needs it when they’re older-yeah right. They’ll keep it for themselves and give a scant amount back flamboyantly to make people think social programs are good. Socialism only works when the people have been sufficiently threatened and are fearful. Americans have been worried about not being able to count on social security for generations and it’s not that many generations old, it’s been bad from almost the start.
Forever & ever we have always joked about “the natural look” being so much effort, even when it only involves makeup & hair styling.
You are my comfort channel, so I was having a mini marathon for watching your videos last night. Pleasant suprise that this is a new one!❤
This video is sad. I recently heard about a trans reality show star blasting a woman for NOT having any work done. The nerve!! I am about to turn 53 with a *RAW* face and look at myself in the mirror like I'm the hottest chick out there! I love the way I am gracefully aging and have no plans of touching up my face. I looked into RED light masks but have decided to just stick with applying castor oil on my face. At the end of the day, JUST LOVE YOU! It sounds simple but it is a choice that I am making, along with choosing joy in my life.
What does her being trans have to do with anything?
@@batacumbaMisogyny from trans females born male is a problem.
@@batacumbabecause many trans people have cosmetic surgeries
If you’re talking about Saucy Santana he’s not trans… very weird detail to bring up.
Do you think drag queens are trans?
I love your balanced perspective, Dr. Gary. We are in a spectrum of satisfaction…the black and white thinking really puts people in a box of shame.❤
I’m 66 years old, and I haven’t had anything done. Now there are days I think about how good it would feel to look a little younger, but when I was as young as these girls I was beautiful, and I knew it. There is a huge difference between how you look in your 20’s, 30’s, and even 40’s, compared to your 60’s, and up. It makes me profoundly sad that lovely looking young woman in their twenties are even thinking the are starting to look old, when they should be out enjoying their lives in the bloom of their beauty. I applaud this young lady, and her message.
You have got to have the most integrity of any plastic surgeon I've come across.
Hyaluronic acid - the key compound in most fillers - has been found to block lymphatic channels.
I like that people are more open about getting procedures done, because someone may look at another and think, wow, they're so naturally attractive, but now with the more openness about Plastic Surgeries it stops people comparing themselves to others thinking they're both Natural, and I think that's a good thing.
If you want to go out and get procedures done to look good for yourself or others, all the power to you, and if you don't want to, all the power to you.
Transparency is key in a healthy society, especially when it comes to beauty.
Transparency is key in a healthy society hmmm probably and you think we are in a healthy society? And I'm thinking of much more vital issues than plastic surgery though I think it is a respectable question on it's own.
@@liketheleaf I do think transparency is key to a healthy society, I also think society (in my part of the world, and others) is very unhealthy, lack of transparency being one of many reasons.
You're right, there are more vital global issues, but since this channel is about plastic surgery and beauty I think it's best to keep it on topic.
And influencing more people to get plastic surgery because of it?!
@@user-dv9xx3yy8v If someone gets plastic surgery it's not affecting me, I'd only have a problem with plastic surgery if someone tried to pass off as natural after having procedures done.
If they're honest about it, they're not falsely setting unnaturally high standards of beauty for others, they'll know work was done, then it's up to the individual if they will get some surgeries or not, and if seeing someone online talking about plastic surgery was the deciding factor on the individual going through with getting work done then they were already thinking about it.
I'll trust it when it's someone who's not traditionally attractive is saying that. easy to say "vanity" when you are born more attractive than even people who've done work on their face "the right way".
Darwin, baby.
Agreed!
Maybe people are born with a few natural gifts. If attractiveness is one, they should be able to ply that I the social and economic marketplace the same way a math genius benefits from his gift.
@@toddshockley oh yes, I don't disagree with you. I just don't like it when someone who is so obviously traditionally attractive preaches about vanity, all the while still wearing make up to enhance her attractiveness even further. making arbitrary limit that if she does her own make up then it's "more her" than if someone else does it. vanity much?
Well, Brett is saying that 😂
For women its not about a fear of mortality. Unfortunately women are judged almost solely on their looks. Women are afraid of getting wrinkles and not being beautiful anymore and Men judging them
Freedom comes when you realise that even the most beautiful person is insecure about their looks and that this is just an industry that has learnt to exploit that insecurity. Do not look to build your confidence on something that can be marred by an outbreak of pimples, people!
I'm 35 years old. I fast for 48-60-ish hours 2-4x / month. Try to limit processed foods and added sugars. I eat steak, lamb, eggs, bacon, dairy, rice, fruit, select veggies, and sometimes a small amount of rice or bread. I used to practice carnivore diet, but "fell off the wagon" due to being relatively new to the diet while having a lifechanging traumatic event occur. I did not cope well and returned to my old habits or worse for a few years. I'm working towards returning to carnivore diet because I felt my absolute best then, as well as my skin issues and various other health issues disappeared.
I mentioned all that because I've never had a cosmetic procedure, I'm reasonably fit and lean, I rarely wear makeup, and people still ask if I'm closer to 25 than 35. Similarly, my fiance (turning 44 soon) who is and has been pretty fit, lean, and had a good diet for about 90% of his life looks far younger than most or all of his peers in their mid-40s. We both don't drink or smoke. We work to prioritize sleep, fitness and time outdoors, like hiking or even just sitting on the porch outside to watch the sunset.
He has coffee with a natural creamer made of cream, a little sugar, and some flavoring. I don't consume any caffeine on a daily basis, weekly basis, maybe once a month I may have a small amount for taste. Otherwise I try to avoid caffeine.
In the area I'm from, I'm maybe in the top 15% of common women in my age range (based on my observations of both men and women generally interacting with me, or even strangers responding to me in public settings as I go about my day). In the area I presently live, I'm sadly more like the top 5%. What's also sad is I'm less fit with slightly worse skin now than I was when I was fitter in my home state. If I maintained or return to my old health and fitness, I'm willing to bet I'd be in the top 2-3% for this area of common women. It's weird how different cultures within the same large country can vary so widely.
All that to say nobody regrets aging gracefully. There are no shortcuts to aging. We ALL age. Nobody can or will look youthful forever. BUT my observations of the populace in general is those who fight to look younger for longer via artificial means, like botox, fillers, and cosmetic surgeries, inevitably get more and more procedures and look more and more fake, malformed, and alien.
Closest I've come to wanting anything "done" to me is I want to find a good cosmetic dermatologist (is that a thing?) or some such to remove a few moles, including two on my back, as a preventative measure.
I think too many of these young women grew up too attached to technology and not grounded enough in healthy reality to normalize natural faces.
My husband is a farm hand And one day on his day off he was called during dinner time to find a random field. He knew where his boss and other people were working.
To rescue a man that had Cut his hand directly and half right to the wrist.There is no point in calling in ambulance because nobody else knew where this field was Miles back away from roads.
My husband flew out of the house found the field. Got the man to the hospital in the amount of time it would have took for an ambulance to even locate the field and get back to the Injured farmer that's another reason why they don't bother calling 91.
I'm curious about aesthetics procedures. Interestingly the more videos I see about aesthetics procedures, the more I'm conviced to never have one
I love your take and how peacefully you lay it out. Specially because you have a very informed posture
I kind of have to roll my eyes about someone who basically naturally meets the current beauty standards like Brett basically looking down at people who don't have such naturally harmonious features wanting to seek a solution to it. Like it's easy to talk about how bad cosmetic treatments are when you already look really good without them. But life just is harder in some ways when you are not naturally attractive.
I'm glad you mentioned this point.
Brett is, from the modern beauty standard perspective, not as attractive, she could easily find a fair amount of features to modify if she would to fall under the pressure + she is going to start showing signs of aging at some point which we all do sooner or later and I think that's the point of her arguments - we really made some seriosly sky high standards. I was growing up in the 90s and 2000s and never felt that kind of a pressure as today, and I am more mature now than i have been growing up during the skinny era.
@@Zhenevjev Brett is not unattractive by current standards by any stretch. She's not perfect, no one is, but she doesn't have any super unusual or stand-out features that sometimes lead people to seek cosmetic procedures. Like some people are born with basically no lips, or a nose that absolutely dominates their face, or a seriously recessed chin, ears that could basically help you take flight. She overall has pretty normal balanced features it wouldn't be hard to settle with once you're past the teenage angst and self-obsession people go through at a young age. It's pretty easy to scoff at people getting cosmetic procedures done when you don't have the lived experience of features that people double take in the supermarket but for some people that actually is a reality.
@amandarobbins2530 I don't think that anyone has any real issue with cosmetic procedures in case there is an evident off puting feature or extreme lack of something where you can empathize with a person being bothered by it, but the sad truth today that many are trying to stress is that probably most of the cosmetic procedures today are done on an very average (in a good way), or even fairly attractive girls just because they don't have the look or features that are highly valued today (this narrative is also heavily supported by cosmetic industry as the industry is booming more than ever and they have the financial incentive to keep this going). It is more of a perceived flaw than an objective flaw. For example, the amount of lip fillers i see even in my country that is in Europe on very young girls (not to mention adolescent girls and women) is appaling, i really doubt that so many of these girl had unnatractive extremely small lips or a straight line where lips should be so they put a bit of filler in there just to differenciate the feature - chances are, most of them probably had fine, average lips but average is seen as unatractive nowadays and everyone is going for the full lips look. I doubt that the lack of cheekbones is making anyone's face less attractive if they are born without that face structure, it is just a perceived flaw as a result of social media trends. Extremely big butts and BBLS, same thing. I can agree that the beauty trends and some amount of pressure around attractiveness existed probably since the dawn of mankind, but when i look back at my childhood and what these kids are growing up with today I can def say that they are under a lot more pressure. You said it yourself and that is probably the caviat of discussion - no one is perfect, but perfection is strived for today and that is probably what is toxic. I can't speek for Brett, but i've seen much of her contents, she is pretty level headed and i think that is probably what she is trying to stress as there is more of her videos on how much the gen z is obssessed with looks.
@@Zhenevjev I totally agree with what you're saying. The bar for attractiveness has definitely moved.
thank you for sharing your thoughts. All are valid points, and at the end, it is about keeping it healthy, in all ways possible: socially, mentally, financially, physically; simply, to be sensible about it. Also, I'd like to add that I really like your energy. Your voice, the way you talk, your postures, there's something very soothing and relaxing about watching your vids. So, thanks for the vibes also.
I grew up not liking myself, but then started to focus on the features I liked and working on those I could "improve". I take cold showers, live an healthy life, run and work out, work on myself and I turned 50 and never felt better. Without any procedure l. And I learned to embrace those features I don't like that much 😊
I almost never wear make up, but I take good care of myself and it's visible
We should create a world where people do not feel the need have beauty as their strengths but rather their talent, intelligence, good heart etc. Let naturally beautiful people have beauty as their strength that they were gifted by god just like you are gifted with other strengths.
This video makes sense it more about people's fears of aging and getting closer to death. My age is now closer to 40 than 20 and my Grey's are popping out my eyes are staying puffy for longer and I'm tired all the time. Lol but I love most of it cuz it keeps me humble and more accepting of people. I see younger people judgements especially at the gym and remember how I was that naive. Growing up is not always just physical but psychological as well.
I absolutely love Dr. Gary’s cool, calm and collected demeanour ❤
I totally agree that if you can tell it was done then it wasn’t done well.
I think doc is doing great work work with explaining all technical knowlegde connected with na aesthetic surgeries. But I think also that most of people nowadays give in the pressure of looking akceptable for onlookers at their social media profiles. Most from.Z generations have grown up on Internet highly enhanced beauty stereotypes, and now they are hypersensitive, and especially overly sensitive about the perfect appearance.
Is this why so many women and some men look Kardashian like?
Good job Mr. Doctor.
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As Dr Gary says we all have different starting points and it's kind of annoying to hear this judgment of cosmetic procedures from a young influencer who naturally possesses uncommon good looks ..
uncommon good looks where do you live...........Wisconsin?
A lot of people who get cosmetic procedures look amazing before too, whilst starting points can be an aspect, it’s not all about that. Look at celebrities, for example. At this point, it’s a lot bigger than simply people who are seen as conventionally unattractive wanting to be conventionally attractive
@@maltsoymarai2243Celebrities have been doing this for ages because they work with their faces, they compete for jobs and public attention on the basis of their looks(besides talent ofc but let's not kid ourselves that looks don't play a huge role in the entertainment industry). The standards for them are held much higher than for us.
Most of regular people who get cosmetic surgery are a matter of 'starting point'. Regular people who already look great usually don't drop several paychecks for plastic surgery to look even better.
Still waiting for celebrities to open up.