Facts. I’m a sophisticated guy and men do complain about women being independent but then are blindsided when they realize there are women who need a man. What do the men who complain do when a women becomes in need and the man wants to play 👌 it’s why I understand why women have some independence because many men are in and out 👋
@@NorberisR Let's be honest if the man is broke you do not want him.... You can barely communicate with him and you are coming from 2 different cultures. So be honest if he loses all his money and gets sick are you going to work and take care of him and the kids? NO, you are going to bounce. But BW that have their own career are going to be able to hold the household down and marrying these men for love and common interest. While you are marrying them to spend money on you and your entire family and your community.
You arrogantly speak of "carrying someone" as if you would know better than a woman. Carrying the wrong man's seed (ie any man who fails to provide, protect, or profess) leads into generational struggle. This is Poverty Prevention Basics 101
To be honest, I don't mind being alone. Taking charge of my own affairs is the challenge I've chosen. I have little interest in inviting her along on my journey. Either she can give my life a boost. Or, I will just keep it moving. First and foremost, you must win your own war. It is imperative that you pick your conflicts. Do not let anyone else pick your battles for you. Neither the American nor the Dominican woman would get my vote for picking my struggle. I just don't have time, energy, or interest for her renovation project. Nice video...
then why even watch the video? why leave a comment? I don't understand why someone would be in this space watching these videos and commenting if you don't want women. strange...
Norberis, you did a phenomenal job raising awareness by outlining the differences in living standards between the US and the Dominican Republic. Exceptional content... keep up the good work 💯
Ok, after listening to what you are saying in the vid. I'm picking up on certain men who pretty much have/desire a gf for "show & to play with" & after that "leave me alone" lol. That's a pretty immature way to go about a relationship. As far as a financial participation, a man needs to establish his thoughts about that from the get-go, if he's cool with that or not.
Great point. I have a good rule: after several months and a commitment I can help, with rent, which on average is between $100-$150 a month. Helping pay someone’s rent should been seen as support. If that’s not acceptable then, 🏃🏿♂️
No disrespect to Dominicans but I know that a lot of them like money they always say they broke they always have a story to say that they don't have anything.. we all struggling whether it's here or over there
I think everyone in the world like money. I don't think it's exclusive to Dominicans. Leave those chapis alone, that what it sounds like your dealing with.
No I just here from people I meet from there and here they always tell how a lots of people out there cry for money and they say that Pretend some of them they don't have when they do.. they tell me to be careful.. that all I Dominicans I have family that are Dominican soo is not ever one I know this but those that do that make all the Dominican look bad..
I met an amazing Domincan women that worshipped that ground I walked on. She was classy, unfortunately I just didn't love her. She was a gem. Any man that loves her will be lucky. And she is so proud of her country
What I tell guys about women in The Dominican Republic, is they are very traditional...as in a "traditional woman" so if that is what you are looking for you need to expect to conduct yourself like a "traditional man". Take care of your woman because she will take care of you. You can help her and be smart with money at the same time, and if you cant then maybe you shouldn't be looking for a woman until you can.
@@wisdommasterreviews4712 i see where you are trying to go with this and its ok that you lack experience so in the future when you get your 1st girlfriend we can continue this conversation...i want you to be able to keep up.
Nonsense. Most Dominican men die broke, net worth below $0. This means they die owing people $. To tell someone he shouldnt be looking for a woman if he cant do better than that is classist.
@@GalaxieMarauder Iam sorry it wasn’t my intention to come off sounding classist, but I didn’t think this topic included local Dominican Men, they automatically have advantage/head-start when it comes to love from a Dominican Woman …broke or other wise, Gringos not so much…when it come to the gringo the majority of the time love and loyalty is contingent on his ability to provide a better life in some capacity, both the Dominican Man and the gringos are expected to fulfill a traditional role but my point was only directed to foreigners…ie “don’t waste her time if you don’t have that dime”. Relationships are definitely a business, and if you don’t think so maybe it’s time to cut the Disney off.
MY Dominican Gf soon to be wife lives in san jose de Ocoa i met her 2 years ago in Santo Domingo and have been to her humble home, your right about where they come from and standard of living I support her and in return I have met someone who supports my goals respects me as a man and someone who loves and will b my future wife. Alot of men from America forget thats how alot of our grandma's and grandpa's lived and it was the way to respect and make marriage a beautiful thing 😘🥰 just my 2 thoughts and yes my mother is Dominican but im american born
Today is today, yesterday was yesterday and 60 years ago was 60 years ago. So if many men have forgotten how their grandmothers had to survive 60 years ago, then that is perhaps because the young Domi Chicks today want to live as effortlessly as possible, only the best for themselves, but certainly not like they did 60 years ago.
I just came back from Santo Domingo & I think men in the states really need to get familiar with the culture and really go see how their potential girl/wife is living. Sometimes that alone makes everything else make sense. It's easy to look at a beautiful woman that you met online and overlook the fact that she doesn't have much. Go live like she lives for a weekend. I guarantee you'll understand when she needs some support.
They can't handle a Dominican woman or Latina in general. Single Dominicanas 🇩🇴 send all the request to me 😆 . I will surely give you the right answer ✅️
I totally agree! I’ve been married to a Dominican lady for 9 years now. She’s from Santiago, and is a surgeon. Very independent lady, but is very friendly and cooperative.
@@krazyjnva2up2down55 It is hard for many of us to believe that many live in such conditions. Living for today and hell for tomorrow. Its seems to me that women are taking care of the men. How can a real man watch as his child does not have food.
Good video 👍👍👍 I choose a different path....a professional woman from a good family ($$$)....this is NOT the easy route, but once your in that circle, life is good 😊
Hello Norberis. You're absolutely right, that's exactly how it is. Due to their unfortunate situation, many of the often young women and mothers are dependent on support. And every man with a serious interest should be aware of that. However, one must not forget that this problem was not created by the foreign men, but is a purely home-made problem of the DR. There is certainly also a lack of the necessary political will to improve the situation. One should also not forget that any financial support has its limits and is not a bottomless pit. The chapis are a topic in themselves, I think every man who falls for such a woman is naive and it's his own fault. Because whether and how he supports a woman remains his own decision.
@@reesejohnson2788 This may not always be true, but very often it seems so. But it is up to you to decide whether and how and to what extent you are willing to help.
Unfortunately chapis or golddiggers don't come with a label on their forehead identifying themselves. Yes, a certain amount of caution should be exercised that is within your risk tolerances. Discernment must be learned. Matters of the heart, feelings, or emotions are never, ever straightforward. so I respectfully disagree with the notion that a person that falls victim to another person's "ill intentions" is being naive (aka foolish), and to label them as such is...well...naivety in the most literal sense. lol.
I totally agree with you. This is one of the better videos on a Dominican relationship. If you have trust because that is earned not given. You are supposed to or it's your duty to help her. Nice video. You hit the nail on the head with this one.
I think we're missing the point. The problem is these women feel entitled to your hard earned money. Women want you to think that the only 2 options for men is to be a trick or completely non existent to them
If she is sleeping with you, then you must do things for her as well. Why do you feel entitled to her body? You have taken your dusty behaviour to the DR. You complained about your women there. Now you complain about the women in DR. Who is the problem here?
@@Katarina23 Idk if you're talking about me but I've never been to Sosua or bought sex (not knocking anybody that does). But you're not gonna gas me into thinking sex isn't a mutual beneficial exchange lol. At least not in my world. Anybody that feels entitled to my money is my employee
First let me say thank you.. sincerely You explained so much so well. I was watching thinking this woman is beautiful and smart. I live in Brooklyn ny so you know what it is. After listening to you I now have a much better understanding of what is actually going on. You've help to put to rest some of the fears I had about dating Dominican women. Everything you said made perfect sense. I'm old school I believe a man is supposed to be a blessing to a woman. I tell my friends and family this all the time. Growing up I would hear " boy you supposed to be a plus to a woman not a minus" is wat he would tell me. He was right and so are you well done!
Thank you glad this was helpful and you understood what I was trying to say. Some misinterpreted that I meant for all women but it for women who you vetted and want to move forward in a long term relationship. Because I don't feel a man should support any woman he is not serious about or her serious about him.
@@NorberisR I think people get it you tempered your words very carefully. Now a days people just like being difficult it's almost like they get some kind of joy out if it. Keep doing your Thang pretty lady and I'll keep watching!
This is a very informative video, Norberis. I have come across so many men who come here looking for a woman and they have no idea about the Dominican culture. I had to learn this myself many years ago. I remember thinking every woman was a chapi until I realized exactly what you pointed out in the video. Even women in regular relationships with Dominican men, it is the culture that the man is going to provide most or all the financial support. But foreigners definitely need to take the time to get to know any woman here that they have the idea of making his girlfriend. Like you said, we all know many chapis are running around. So getting to know her will help him realize if she's just a chapi or if she's just a woman who doesn't have access to the opportunities women in richer countries have. There is definitely a difference and finding out that part can be the difference between a dude ending up getting taken advantage of or finding a good woman who simply has financial needs.
@@NorberisR Absolutely! The culture and the language are the 2 most important things they need to understand and it will change their experience completely! And I don't advise anyone to try to have a long-distance relationship while they are living in the U.S. or another country. That can lead to so many problems. They should wait until they have a way to be here more long-term, living day to day, learning the culture and studying the language. That would help reduce the struggle.
Excellent video, Norberis! Every man who’s planning on going to D.R. should watch this video. Especially if they’re going there to hang out in Sosúa. 😄👍🏽
KLK Norberis my favorite 🇩🇴 youtuber. Let's be real even though I'm single & don't have kids yet. I don't need a man who is always complaining, a big liar, not being truthful / sincered. Not all men not like that. Some men complain about women being independent a man can't tell a woman how to live her life the way she wants too. # 2. I'll never search for love online never know. I don't want to date the wrong guy especially in-out of jail, having a criminal history & having multiple relationships no way sister. I love your videos I do support you & I'm always here
Hola Norberis. It took me a while to understand this part of the culture. At first I was not with it based on my American background. Now I am willing to play the part financially for the right woman and situation. That takes a little time to get to know the woman
Good points. It's all about what we are both getting out the deal. I don't mind taking care of a woman, who respects me, and appreciates as a man.. a feminine women who is willing to cooperate with me .
I agree with your video 1000 percent but it not just the Domican Republic this video can be said for a lot of places. I visited overseas and I have no problem with it.
I think a woman who needs a little help financially will find other ways to show her appreciation. I am not talking sexually either. She may wash your clothes, keep your house clean, or ensure you have a hot meal for dinner. She just doesn't want to take but contributes in other ways.
I've never been to the Dominican Republic. I can tell you this, I never hear anything good about it. However, I'm a big believer in checking a spot out for yourself. Good luck with your channel.
Yet it's still the #1 tourist destination in the Caribbean and over 500,000 travel here from the U.S. each year. You just might be listening to the wrong people. But what do I know😁
I agree with you. I actually think it's a good thing for a woman to depend on a man financially. Men are designed to be providers. Women are more naturally nurturers and its better for them to stay with their kids rather than leaving them with a baby sitter. Especially when the kids are first born. Simple observation should tell us that. In my opinion this makes for a better society when people play their role and its one of the strengths of the DR even though it isn't perfect. The family life is stronger.
Is this the advice you would give your daughter? Remember marriages and relationships fall apart all the time. Men say they want a stay at home wife but they don't want to support her if things don't work out either. It's hard to find employment after being out of the work force for long periods of time.
@@chenitabest4969 what you are mentioning has nothing to do with what I'm talking about in this video. And what advice are you referring to? I'm talking to the men not female, so why are you bringing my daughter into this conversation? And yes if I had a son I would tell he needs to pick a struggle and stop complaining. These are fact of life. Life is full of choices and we have to pick something. If not life will choose it for us.
I thought of Kevin Samuels when I saw the title, then you had him in the video!! Thanks for doing this video, some men & women have unrealistic expectations.
Better put over 2,000 years ago, "In a loved one, either correct the vices or endure them. If you fix them, your partner will be better. And if you endure them, you will be better yourself" Marcus Terrentius Varro, (116-27 BC) Roman polymath and a prolific author.
Excellent video! Most women that you date here will need some level of support and that is very understandable. How I approach it and what I recommend is that you set limits; for a few reasons. Reason #1, because of the culture differences, most relationships won't last, especial if you don't speak Spanish. If you give to much, to fast, you will be left frustrated. The second reason that I recommend limits is, whatever she was doing without, before you met her, she was surviving. I know men who have went into a woman's residence, saw how she was living and by the way, her family has lived like that for generations and although she is fine and happy, men feel sorry for them and will want to furnish that residence with appliances that items that she has never had. I've seen men furnish entire residences, by mottos, iPhones and other expensive items, all to end up single. Men have to set a weekly or monthly budget to give to a women and let me tell you that it will never be enough! Once she sees that you are serious and that's all she is getting, she will either learn to make it work or it will cause the relationship to end. Once you get some time in with this woman and you want to, on special occasions, do something extra, such as upgrade her phone or buy an appliance, I think that's cool. Nothing I'm saying applies to all, but many can't handle money. Example: if you decide her weekly budget is 5500 Pesos and you give it to her on Monday and tell her that it has to last until next Monday, that money is spent by Wednesday. She didn't set any aside for the rent, cell phone or any other bill and when those bills are due, guess what? This will be a very big problem in that relationship. But, once she learns to hold on to some money, set some aside for upcoming bills, you might have a keeper. Just my opinion, once you set a limit, you must say no and stick to it.
I'm planning on contacting your ASAP for a one-on-one consultation on dominican courtship and renting a 2 unit apartments for up to 90 days! Respectfully, Aphroone Richardson of Chicago, IL, USA! I'm be dating only professional and college educated dominicanas who are business-minded with an entrepreneurial winning spirit! Gracias a ti!
Great job with the video dear. As a Dominican I can comment that the issue in our country is not the women, it's the men! Specifically the ones that travel and make it the norm to spoil women beyond comprehension! The men have no right to complaint, either they should date middle class financially stable women in our country or deal with the artificial standard they themselves have setup. PS, Subscribed.
I want some advice from you. A gentleman dates Dominican woman. She’s a supervisor in a call center (to give you an idea of how much she makes), lives alone no kids and drives her own small car. The gentleman I am referring to finds it awkward discussing money with his girlfriend. He prefers supporting her with a regular allowance so she doesn’t have to ask. What is a reasonable monthly allowance to give such a woman in your opinion? Thank You in advance
Knowing that the cultures are different and understanding their conditions is just as important as understanding your own. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you HAVE to help but it’s something that goes a long way. If she from the tropical farmlands best believe it isn’t easy but I don’t believe you should have to pick a struggle. It’s counter productive to always complain when the simple solution is communicating. You don’t necessarily need to go by the culture but it’s not about just the culture. It’s about understanding necessity and that’s not always a simple answer
Kevin Samuels... Interesting.. I must say I visited for the first time last week. I love the scenery it is a beautiful country. I am very interested in the culture. Thanks for the insights.
It is a struggle. Struggle to stay out of Western Union. I feel good about things when I am there But when in the States thoughts of party girl with chulo in the club comes to mind. I actually had one girl try to have me buy shoes for her boyfriend. She says for her father. Hah he wears sneakers I guess. It's nice sometimes but can turn bad fast to abusive.
Thank you so much for this video. I you too think like that but I totally get it. Me in my lady friend from the DR we"ve talking over 5 months now so yeah your right. I don't look at it as a struggle I look at it as a opportunity cost to a future family tree.
She’s got a point. As for me, I dont mind a woman needing me for whatever, just as long as I sense she enjoys accompanying me or I give a sense of return on investment.
Awesome I've been enjoying your content. May God continue to bless you, your husband and daughter. Also my lady is helping me learn Spanish so we can communicate better.
I’m fine with marrying a woman that’s poor in materialistic things…..However……. She has too be Rich in Spirit, Moral, & Willpower….. I need devout loyalty ,Respect & understanding of communication rules the nation as I will give all this in return…..
There's a limit you can help out but when the my mother's sick and needs medicine, I'm sick I need this and that. When its to the point of what were you doing before me arises its a problem. You still have choices and in any country with who you lay with. American men are seen as just a check. When a chapi, and career girl are asking for the same thing its hard to distinguish the difference. Giving and not feeling used is the key if every conversation is a man giving or asking for money you feel used not appreciated
I agree the women that make up stories about needing things these women should be avoided. And its understandable to feel used in situations like this when they are always asking for money. But it's will say there is a big difference between a chapi and professional woman.
If your in and out what can a women do when she needs a man and they always leave so I get it 👌 a serious relationship involves men staying and figuring it out 👍🏾
Foreigners forget that we are coming from strange places USA, Europe, UK we never grew up with these women or know they history some of ya"ll do not even want to get to know they families you only just want them for SEX so you cannot expect miracles overnight they is a difference between making love and paying for love its not the same stop looking for the easy route out which is SOUSA travel to other cities experience different cities DR women are not stupid they know the game & what you are looking for show them something different be a LEADER A MAN not a boy with western egos 😎
in my experience the DR and countries like south america you will find either you financially support because they have a need and there is no help or they have their own and are respectful about it. even going to a foreign country looking for wife/girlfriend/other you will still have issues but not to the extent in the US. it is what you are willing to accept of supporting or carrying a person in that country and if that person has your back or is only there because they are an opportunist and will leave at the first sign of issues for another opportunity. you have to make your intentions known and have boundaries to find that good brugal/mamajuanna/ diamond in the rough dominican woman. the laws in the US are built and more favored for a woman financially, especially if it ends in divorce and kids are involved. there is child support, medical ,house, pension and the list goes on. they are even having kids just to get a monthly check from the Govt.(its a business now). there are good women in the US but unfortunately there is that pookie , ray ray, 304, culture and feminist mentality growing and now even marriage is almost frowned upon and men are leaving to other countries like DR. i say all this but it is amusing that we want to get away from all what i said above but that same mentality is brought to these countries and it changes and then we want to complain but we are the ones that brought it there. in the end leave that drama at home if you go overseas. find a cooperative woman that will help you build and be your rock and you with her.
Good video. Guys are confusing scammers with women looking for a relationship. You have to use common sense. If you’ve never seen her then it’s stupid to send them money that’s a straight simp move. But if she’s your girl and she’s calling and texting you all the time and you’ve been with her then why be a bum if you want her to stay down then help her out. Just manage her expectations and she’ll be alright. I’ve dated Dominican women in the DR and the US. They’re beautiful and straight to the point. Be like that with them and they’ll treat you like a king
This is basically what I'm was trying to get across. Referring to women who want relationships not the ones who don't. There was some intentionally wanting to misunderstand that point in order to be disagreeable. If you are with a woman who really likes you and wants a relationship there is nothing wrong with helping this person. I wasn't talking about helping random women. Thanks for you understanding.
They always got something negative to say about the opposite sex.This is one of the top reasons why the opposite sex doesn't want to have sex with them.They never have anything positive to say about the opposite sex.
@@NorberisR Women are literally the same across the globe. Looks and body fades, what else can she do for a man? Most women can only offer her youth, beauty and fertility. Oh yes... Most men are dating foreign women mainly for a good time and rarely escalates to any marriage.
This is a very interesting topic. Honestly I want nothing to do with American women, so when I decided to look outside of the US, I know there would be some struggles, but I knew the pros would definitely out way the cons. I know helping my partner will be a must, but I only wanted to know what value I will be getting. I don’t know if it luck; but it have worked out for me so far, and I am contented, I don’t need to say happy. I can’t say I have a struggle or struggles; because to achieve,or to get what you need, it’s about give y take. Sometimes it’s a little uncomfortable but not excessively uncomfortable. I have always said if you want in you have to be all the way in. Family and all. It is worth it. My two cents Norberis. And I wish other men would understand this. Hope you understand my point.
You must also consider many women just playing you for your money. The difference is someone that is with because they don't need and you have one woman just playing for your money. You have to see what's more authentic. I need you or I want you because I love you. We can talk for days why our society here in the states want us to have broken homes.
@@shanib.2 I guess she have been playing me for 10 years. You know what I don’t entertain this type of BS argument. It’s like looking for shadows every were you walk, under the bed, in the closet, behind the door, over there, over here. It get one no were. You say she maybe using me for money. I could be using her for her vegetable. This is not the case though. But I am just calling you out on your straw man argument. Makes no sense. I already know; no matter what positive argument I could have said you would find a negative agreement, just because I said I want nothing to do with American women.
@@shanib.2 thanks for your concern 👍. I guess you know every woman in the DR. I have no time to worry about that sis. Any one who think a man or woman played them is Dum. People play themselves. I am never a looser always a winner. I hope you understand what that mean. But thanks for looking out sis.
@@Dee-pj7hh I don't confessing to know all women in DR because I was able to marry someone successfully myself. I am very ingulfed in the culture and it's just what I see in my experience of the majority. Best wishes to you and your family
@@shanib.2 It just funny. From what you have been saying is Dominican woman cheat. That is all you see because your so engulfed in the culture. Do you understand how you’re defaming Dominican women. This is all you see. Your own words. I know many Dominican women who would strongly object to you opinion. Any way that’s for your well wishes. 🙏🏽
It is all about disclosure! Men or women should disclose their expectations upon starting the relationship. If you are looking to have fun, casual sex, both sides should be aware of it and behave accordingly. If a man fall in love with a woman that is financially unstable , the man should expect to contribute to her well-being if he has the means to do so. A man should not expect passion, undivided attention, great sx from a woman whose family is in a dire economic situation. If you want to be a king, you got to wear the crown. Otherwise pay for a moment, got your massage😉 and move on. Lol
I agree, just ask the right questions up front. It may not be romantic but, necessary. there is a song that goes a little something like this, “ if you dance to the music, don’t you know, you have to pay to the Piper”, ask you mama!” I’m sorry I didn’t bother to find out who sing that song😮
I understand the whole choose a struggle thing, but I also think that if you travel there and you are looking for love dont go to the tourist spots there are a lot of nice places and you can get that dominican experience. There nothing wrong with helping some one financially if you know them met them in person. If you are only talking online no but they will try you
Good talk, honest. But as an american i wonder not about her needs but the quality of the woman herself. Is she a gamer, a party girl, faithful, too many emotional scars from poor choices of men, or is she caring, loyal, honest, supportive, faithful, and not looking for an atm. While i realize there are good women in the DR but knowing it takes time, not a vacation, to learn who she is.
I'm Mexican American and I've had great luck with Dominican women. I do feel I get treated a lot better than other Dominican men because my last girlfriend would brag and say look at his face and skin, he's handsome.
I agree with you. I have lived in a few Latin countries and the women I have delt with always needed money or would need it sometimes. Men need to study evolutionary psychology and learn intersexual dynamics, learn to vet women properly and see the situation through the right lens. I had no problem paying for things because they stayed with me for prolonged periods of time. So it wasn't like I was dealing with a random woman, these women added value to my life and took care of things around the condo. Latin women are a lot easier to deal with than the American women. American women have the 3 traits that turn men off the fastest and they wave them like a badge of honor. Aggressiveness, entitlement and arrogance. Most American women are the bottom of the barrel. Make sure the woman adds value to your life, is coachable, helpful, supports you and compliments your life. Don't give money to random women and stay the F**K away from Chapis! Great videos Norberis!!
Hola tia Norberis! I'm age 73 in June 2024! I need your match making services! I am coming to Santo Domingo to seek a Dominican wife to spend the remaining of my life with! Gracias a ti! ASE!
I love your presentations. I really needed to see this video. I recently started to doubt myself and wonder if i was pouring money down the rabbit hole. In my life I am not. I married my dominican girl friend last summer. we had been together for 3 years. I know her family, how they live and what they survive on. I am 63 and she is 36. I met her in the providence of La Vega. I think up in that area you are seeing the real D.R. . I will retire in the next 14 months and live in our home that we are buying there at least 1/2 of each year. we will travel back and forth to the USA for the advantages of my dual citizenship. I am here to learn and enjoy the rest of my life with my beautiful bride. Norberis please respond if you wish as I want to invest in more agriculture land in the la vega area. I am blessed with a beautiful, faithful wife, but her mother is awesome support to me, the son-in-law. Its about family if you really want to be here.
Guys it doesn't matter where you go. If you have a woman being good to you and you know she's with you for you then at a given time support (Yes that includes financial) should be an automatic thing. Discuss this as money will be an important topic wherever you are.
Greetings Norbi=eris, I Think You Made an Excellent Very Valid Point Sis'. Great Points Brought to Light Supporting the Perspective of Narrative. Most Definitely Something Guy's Need to Consider. Especially Those Wanting a Fantasy Fulfilled w/o "Context & Nuance". Thank You! Things to Consider for sure as Many Guy's are Receiving a lot of Criticism & Pressure as "Passport Bros." are Ridiculed for their Choices Largely influenced due to the Frustrating Dating Scene Currently w/in the "Western Woman" Mindset. Thanks Again Love* Peace!
Hell no!!! To the no, no no!! Unless I am married to someone then I am supporting that woman. At no point should my girlfriend think she is entitled to my money. Period!!! That’s a huge red flag for any man, regardless of nationality.
What I noticed about so called black men in the US is that many of us don't put God first. We have been castrated mainly by our single mothers. To put God first means that as a man, you hold yourself accountable and responsible for everything you do in life. You also understand that no matter if you have been with a woman for two months or 20 years that a woman is an additional bill. The most important thing is that the woman is loyal and brings peace into your life not that she asks for money. Many guys come to Dominican Republic and meet a street girl, wife her, and then get on the internet and complain when she leaves them or he allows her to take all of his money. There are so many beautiful single Dominican women that work at the airport, bank, police force, military, hotels, etc. Brothas don't go for those women. They go for the chicas they they meet in the clubs. They don't go for the one Dominican woman wearing the long dress and is covering herself, they go for the Dominican woman that is walking the street half naked. In the end, the owness and responsibility will always be on the man. I've been with my Dominican woman since 2019. Her family is from the countryside. They are very humble people. I go and stay with them which is about 45 minutes from San Juan De la Maguana. These are women that grew up around a long line of women that are hardworking and committed to their families.
It's not either or, the issue is in both scenarios both Dominican and American women expect the same things. The problem is men feel like it's a one way street because we're expected to be protectors and providers while basically getting nothing in return. If we expect a traditional women in the way they want a traditional man it's called "sexist" or "oppressive " which is a double standard. I don't think men have a problem being traditional as long as a woman is traditional as well.
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Facts. I’m a sophisticated guy and men do complain about women being independent but then are blindsided when they realize there are women who need a man. What do the men who complain do when a women becomes in need and the man wants to play 👌 it’s why I understand why women have some independence because many men are in and out 👋
There is some truth to that.
A passport bro with sense😉
@@NorberisR Let's be honest if the man is broke you do not want him.... You can barely communicate with him and you are coming from 2 different cultures. So be honest if he loses all his money and gets sick are you going to work and take care of him and the kids? NO, you are going to bounce. But BW that have their own career are going to be able to hold the household down and marrying these men for love and common interest. While you are marrying them to spend money on you and your entire family and your community.
I never complain about a Independent women. Its all about preference. Because i don't need a needy azz women either.
Amen Brother may peace with you
Supporting someone and carrying someone is two different things. One will lead into a struggle more than the other 🤔🤔🤔🤔
This true.
You arrogantly speak of "carrying someone" as if you would know better than a woman. Carrying the wrong man's seed (ie any man who fails to provide, protect, or profess) leads into generational struggle. This is Poverty Prevention Basics 101
@@beatlessbeauty1106 This goes for both women and men, you never find out the wrong or right choices until afterwards
Life is hard enough marry a religious woman in church with her own career so you can hold each other down.
@@cathylake9072 There's many choices to make, the right or wrong ones always reveal themselves
Love this pick a struggle. Set a domican girlfriend budget a month and leave if she gets out of hand or the situation no longer fits your needs 🇩🇴
To be honest, I don't mind being alone. Taking charge of my own affairs is the challenge I've chosen. I have little interest in inviting her along on my journey. Either she can give my life a boost. Or, I will just keep it moving. First and foremost, you must win your own war. It is imperative that you pick your conflicts. Do not let anyone else pick your battles for you. Neither the American nor the Dominican woman would get my vote for picking my struggle. I just don't have time, energy, or interest for her renovation project. Nice video...
Right there you just picked your struggle. And a lot of men think like you do and that's their choice if it works for them.
PREACH BRO👍🏾
then why even watch the video? why leave a comment? I don't understand why someone would be in this space watching these videos and commenting if you don't want women. strange...
@@ABullboy you have to have an open mind, maybe agree to disagree
@@Bronx_Yankee does it make sense to you? I just don't understand why someone would reply to a video about women, but he says I don't want any women.
My girlfriend hasn’t asked me for anything since my apartment was destroyed by hurricane Ian. She’s just been supportive thru it all. 🙏🏻
That's great. Sounds like you have a good one🤗😊
@@NorberisR Whit6444 put a ring on her finger! ASE!
Norberis, you did a phenomenal job raising awareness by outlining the differences in living standards between the US and the Dominican Republic.
Exceptional content... keep up the good work 💯
You're welcome, glad you enjoyed it.
Ok, after listening to what you are saying in the vid. I'm picking up on certain men who pretty much have/desire a gf for "show & to play with" & after that "leave me alone" lol. That's a pretty immature way to go about a relationship. As far as a financial participation, a man needs to establish his thoughts about that from the get-go, if he's cool with that or not.
Thanks for this perspective 🥰
Great point. I have a good rule: after several months and a commitment I can help, with rent, which on average is between $100-$150
a month. Helping pay someone’s rent should been seen as support. If that’s not acceptable then, 🏃🏿♂️
My girl is Dominican, wouldn’t change her for the world, what ever she needs I will snap my back working to give her ❤ Big love RD x
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No disrespect to Dominicans but I know that a lot of them like money they always say they broke they always have a story to say that they don't have anything.. we all struggling whether it's here or over there
I think everyone in the world like money. I don't think it's exclusive to Dominicans. Leave those chapis alone, that what it sounds like your dealing with.
You’re right jen
No I just here from people I meet from there and here they always tell how a lots of people out there cry for money and they say that Pretend some of them they don't have when they do.. they tell me to be careful.. that all I Dominicans I have family that are Dominican soo is not ever one I know this but those that do that make all the Dominican look bad..
I wanted to open a restaurant in Sosua called “My aunt’s broken leg;”
I met an amazing Domincan women that worshipped that ground I walked on. She was classy, unfortunately I just didn't love her. She was a gem. Any man that loves her will be lucky. And she is so proud of her country
What I tell guys about women in The Dominican Republic, is they are very traditional...as in a "traditional woman" so if that is what you are looking for you need to expect to conduct yourself like a "traditional man". Take care of your woman because she will take care of you. You can help her and be smart with money at the same time, and if you cant then maybe you shouldn't be looking for a woman until you can.
@@wisdommasterreviews4712 i see where you are trying to go with this and its ok that you lack experience so in the future when you get your 1st girlfriend we can continue this conversation...i want you to be able to keep up.
Great point!
@@wisdommasterreviews4712 What?
Nonsense. Most Dominican men die broke, net worth below $0. This means they die owing people $.
To tell someone he shouldnt be looking for a woman if he cant do better than that is classist.
@@GalaxieMarauder Iam sorry it wasn’t my intention to come off sounding classist, but I didn’t think this topic included local Dominican Men, they automatically have advantage/head-start when it comes to love from a Dominican Woman …broke or other wise, Gringos not so much…when it come to the gringo the majority of the time love and loyalty is contingent on his ability to provide a better life in some capacity, both the Dominican Man and the gringos are expected to fulfill a traditional role but my point was only directed to foreigners…ie “don’t waste her time if you don’t have that dime”. Relationships are definitely a business, and if you don’t think so maybe it’s time to cut the Disney off.
MY Dominican Gf soon to be wife lives in san jose de Ocoa i met her 2 years ago in Santo Domingo and have been to her humble home, your right about where they come from and standard of living I support her and in return I have met someone who supports my goals respects me as a man and someone who loves and will b my future wife. Alot of men from America forget thats how alot of our grandma's and grandpa's lived and it was the way to respect and make marriage a beautiful thing 😘🥰 just my 2 thoughts and yes my mother is Dominican but im american born
Yes, thank you for sharing this perspective.
Today is today, yesterday was yesterday and 60 years ago was 60 years ago. So if many men have forgotten how their grandmothers had to survive 60 years ago, then that is perhaps because the young Domi Chicks today want to live as effortlessly as possible, only the best for themselves, but certainly not like they did 60 years ago.
I just came back from Santo Domingo & I think men in the states really need to get familiar with the culture and really go see how their potential girl/wife is living. Sometimes that alone makes everything else make sense. It's easy to look at a beautiful woman that you met online and overlook the fact that she doesn't have much. Go live like she lives for a weekend. I guarantee you'll understand when she needs some support.
I agree
I'm dominican and I agree with you.
They can't handle a Dominican woman or Latina in general. Single Dominicanas 🇩🇴 send all the request to me 😆 . I will surely give you the right answer ✅️
I totally agree! I’ve been married to a Dominican lady for 9 years now. She’s from Santiago, and is a surgeon. Very independent lady, but is very friendly and cooperative.
@@krazyjnva2up2down55 It is hard for many of us to believe that many live in such conditions. Living for today and hell for tomorrow. Its seems to me that women are taking care of the men. How can a real man watch as his child does not have food.
Good video 👍👍👍 I choose a different path....a professional woman from a good family ($$$)....this is NOT the easy route, but once your in that circle, life is good 😊
I agree. Most men want the easy way that's why they get certain results.
Hello Norberis. You're absolutely right, that's exactly how it is. Due to their unfortunate situation, many of the often young women and mothers are dependent on support. And every man with a serious interest should be aware of that. However, one must not forget that this problem was not created by the foreign men, but is a purely home-made problem of the DR. There is certainly also a lack of the necessary political will to improve the situation. One should also not forget that any financial support has its limits and is not a bottomless pit. The chapis are a topic in themselves, I think every man who falls for such a woman is naive and it's his own fault. Because whether and how he supports a woman remains his own decision.
Great point 👍🏼
It always seems like a bottomless pit of financial support
@@reesejohnson2788 This may not always be true, but very often it seems so. But it is up to you to decide whether and how and to what extent you are willing to help.
Unfortunately chapis or golddiggers don't come with a label on their forehead identifying themselves. Yes, a certain amount of caution should be exercised that is within your risk tolerances. Discernment must be learned. Matters of the heart, feelings, or emotions are never, ever straightforward. so I respectfully disagree with the notion that a person that falls victim to another person's "ill intentions" is being naive (aka foolish), and to label them as such is...well...naivety in the most literal sense. lol.
@@thewaywayback7284 Don’t worry, everyone on the internet can actually read minds… 🤦🏽♂️ 😂
And also in dominican republic it is getting just as expensive as the United States.
This is correct.
Wow she used a KS clip. Luv it. awesome video
😂🤣 yes my husband threw that clip in there🤣😂
@@NorberisR 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I totally agree with you. This is one of the better videos on a Dominican relationship. If you have trust because that is earned not given. You are supposed to or it's your duty to help her. Nice video. You hit the nail on the head with this one.
Thank you🙏🏾
I think we're missing the point. The problem is these women feel entitled to your hard earned money. Women want you to think that the only 2 options for men is to be a trick or completely non existent to them
Leave them chapis alone, that feel entitled 🤣😂
@@NorberisR you aint lyin lol
If she is sleeping with you, then you must do things for her as well. Why do you feel entitled to her body? You have taken your dusty behaviour to the DR. You complained about your women there. Now you complain about the women in DR. Who is the problem here?
@@Katarina23 Idk if you're talking about me but I've never been to Sosua or bought sex (not knocking anybody that does). But you're not gonna gas me into thinking sex isn't a mutual beneficial exchange lol. At least not in my world. Anybody that feels entitled to my money is my employee
@@Katarina23 exactly
First let me say thank you.. sincerely
You explained so much so well. I was watching thinking this woman is beautiful and smart. I live in Brooklyn ny so you know what it is. After listening to you I now have a much better understanding of what is actually going on. You've help to put to rest some of the fears I had about dating Dominican women. Everything you said made perfect sense. I'm old school I believe a man is supposed to be a blessing to a woman. I tell my friends and family this all the time. Growing up I would hear " boy you supposed to be a plus to a woman not a minus" is wat he would tell me. He was right and so are you well done!
Thank you glad this was helpful and you understood what I was trying to say. Some misinterpreted that I meant for all women but it for women who you vetted and want to move forward in a long term relationship. Because I don't feel a man should support any woman he is not serious about or her serious about him.
@@NorberisR I think people get it you tempered your words very carefully. Now a days people just like being difficult it's almost like they get some kind of joy out if it. Keep doing your Thang pretty lady and I'll keep watching!
Norberis, your English accent has improved greatly. You are much more clear than previously. Keep up the good work.
Thank you, I will. Practice makes perfect❤
This is a very informative video, Norberis. I have come across so many men who come here looking for a woman and they have no idea about the Dominican culture. I had to learn this myself many years ago. I remember thinking every woman was a chapi until I realized exactly what you pointed out in the video. Even women in regular relationships with Dominican men, it is the culture that the man is going to provide most or all the financial support.
But foreigners definitely need to take the time to get to know any woman here that they have the idea of making his girlfriend. Like you said, we all know many chapis are running around. So getting to know her will help him realize if she's just a chapi or if she's just a woman who doesn't have access to the opportunities women in richer countries have. There is definitely a difference and finding out that part can be the difference between a dude ending up getting taken advantage of or finding a good woman who simply has financial needs.
You are exactly right. People need to really understand the culture. This alone will improve their life here.
@@NorberisR Absolutely! The culture and the language are the 2 most important things they need to understand and it will change their experience completely!
And I don't advise anyone to try to have a long-distance relationship while they are living in the U.S. or another country. That can lead to so many problems. They should wait until they have a way to be here more long-term, living day to day, learning the culture and studying the language. That would help reduce the struggle.
@@angelo8336 I agree again I advise guys about this all the time. Don't do long distance relationship.
What access to opportunities are these women deficient in compared to women from wealthier countries?
Excellent video, Norberis! Every man who’s planning on going to D.R. should watch this video. Especially if they’re going there to hang out in Sosúa. 😄👍🏽
🤣Yes
KLK Norberis my favorite 🇩🇴 youtuber. Let's be real even though I'm single & don't have kids yet. I don't need a man who is always complaining, a big liar, not being truthful / sincered. Not all men not like that. Some men complain about women being independent a man can't tell a woman how to live her life the way she wants too. # 2. I'll never search for love online never know. I don't want to date the wrong guy especially in-out of jail, having a criminal history & having multiple relationships no way sister. I love your videos I do support you & I'm always here
Hola Norberis. It took me a while to understand this part of the culture. At first I was not with it based on my American background. Now I am willing to play the part financially for the right woman and situation. That takes a little time to get to know the woman
Yes, you're correct. Glad this was helpful.
Good points. It's all about what we are both getting out the deal. I don't mind taking care of a woman, who respects me, and appreciates as a man.. a feminine women who is willing to cooperate with me .
Thank you ☺️
Wooooooowwwwww!!!! Thanks for clarifying. Without your explanation, it definitely feels like you are being played. Thanks again.
You're welcome.
Imma keep this short. . . Great job!! explaining everything you really changed my perspective and I Thank-you
You're welcome. Glad it was helpful.
I agree with your video 1000 percent but it not just the Domican Republic this video can be said for a lot of places. I visited overseas and I have no problem with it.
Yes this is true.
I think a woman who needs a little help financially will find other ways to show her appreciation. I am not talking sexually either. She may wash your clothes, keep your house clean, or ensure you have a hot meal for dinner. She just doesn't want to take but contributes in other ways.
Yes, I agree.
I've never been to the Dominican Republic. I can tell you this, I never hear anything good about it. However, I'm a big believer in checking a spot out for yourself. Good luck with your channel.
Yet it's still the #1 tourist destination in the Caribbean and over 500,000 travel here from the U.S. each year. You just might be listening to the wrong people. But what do I know😁
I’m Dominicana Reside in Florida
😂I’m just here for the comments 😂 🍿
🤣😂🇩🇴❤️
I agree with you. I actually think it's a good thing for a woman to depend on a man financially. Men are designed to be providers. Women are more naturally nurturers and its better for them to stay with their kids rather than leaving them with a baby sitter. Especially when the kids are first born. Simple observation should tell us that. In my opinion this makes for a better society when people play their role and its one of the strengths of the DR even though it isn't perfect. The family life is stronger.
That's a great point😊
What the Dominicans men excuses? Many do not work and have an abundant of children. Most Haitians men are working hard.
@big pop Facts! They never hold the no-good Dominican fathers accountable. But want Mr sucka American to pick up the slack!
Is this the advice you would give your daughter? Remember marriages and relationships fall apart all the time. Men say they want a stay at home wife but they don't want to support her if things don't work out either. It's hard to find employment after being out of the work force for long periods of time.
@@chenitabest4969 what you are mentioning has nothing to do with what I'm talking about in this video. And what advice are you referring to? I'm talking to the men not female, so why are you bringing my daughter into this conversation? And yes if I had a son I would tell he needs to pick a struggle and stop complaining. These are fact of life. Life is full of choices and we have to pick something. If not life will choose it for us.
You are so right on about the pay scale. Its ridiculous how low it is. So unfair to good hard working people of the DR
I thought of Kevin Samuels when I saw the title, then you had him in the video!! Thanks for doing this video, some men & women have unrealistic expectations.
You're welcome.
This is a very good video - I tell people this all the time.
Thank you😊
Better put over 2,000 years ago, "In a loved one, either correct the vices or endure them. If you fix them, your partner will be better. And if you endure them, you will be better yourself" Marcus Terrentius Varro, (116-27 BC) Roman polymath and a prolific author.
Excellent video! Most women that you date here will need some level of support and that is very understandable. How I approach it and what I recommend is that you set limits; for a few reasons. Reason #1, because of the culture differences, most relationships won't last, especial if you don't speak Spanish. If you give to much, to fast, you will be left frustrated. The second reason that I recommend limits is, whatever she was doing without, before you met her, she was surviving. I know men who have went into a woman's residence, saw how she was living and by the way, her family has lived like that for generations and although she is fine and happy, men feel sorry for them and will want to furnish that residence with appliances that items that she has never had. I've seen men furnish entire residences, by mottos, iPhones and other expensive items, all to end up single. Men have to set a weekly or monthly budget to give to a women and let me tell you that it will never be enough! Once she sees that you are serious and that's all she is getting, she will either learn to make it work or it will cause the relationship to end. Once you get some time in with this woman and you want to, on special occasions, do something extra, such as upgrade her phone or buy an appliance, I think that's cool. Nothing I'm saying applies to all, but many can't handle money. Example: if you decide her weekly budget is 5500 Pesos and you give it to her on Monday and tell her that it has to last until next Monday, that money is spent by Wednesday. She didn't set any aside for the rent, cell phone or any other bill and when those bills are due, guess what? This will be a very big problem in that relationship. But, once she learns to hold on to some money, set some aside for upcoming bills, you might have a keeper. Just my opinion, once you set a limit, you must say no and stick to it.
Great point, I agree!
@@NorberisR thanks!
@@robluv4592 have fun!
I'm planning on contacting your ASAP for a one-on-one consultation on dominican courtship and renting a 2 unit apartments for up to 90 days! Respectfully, Aphroone Richardson of Chicago, IL, USA! I'm be dating only professional and college educated dominicanas who are business-minded with an entrepreneurial winning spirit! Gracias a ti!
I’m a sexy senior citizen, what advice would you have for me, when the DR men try flirting with me? I already know they see a old lady and a check. 😅
Have you had any men approach since you've been here?
Great job with the video dear. As a Dominican I can comment that the issue in our country is not the women, it's the men!
Specifically the ones that travel and make it the norm to spoil women beyond comprehension!
The men have no right to complaint, either they should date middle class financially stable women in our country or deal with the artificial standard they themselves have setup.
PS, Subscribed.
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I want some advice from you. A gentleman dates Dominican woman. She’s a supervisor in a call center (to give you an idea of how much she makes), lives alone no kids and drives her own small car. The gentleman I am referring to finds it awkward discussing money with his girlfriend. He prefers supporting her with a regular allowance so she doesn’t have to ask. What is a reasonable monthly allowance to give such a woman in your opinion? Thank You in advance
Knowing that the cultures are different and understanding their conditions is just as important as understanding your own. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you HAVE to help but it’s something that goes a long way. If she from the tropical farmlands best believe it isn’t easy but I don’t believe you should have to pick a struggle. It’s counter productive to always complain when the simple solution is communicating. You don’t necessarily need to go by the culture but it’s not about just the culture. It’s about understanding necessity and that’s not always a simple answer
Great topic. In our country the women use us so when we hear a woman asking for support we run
that place was great. will definitely go back.
People need to understand, "we need each other to survive" Hezakial Walker and the Love Fellowship Chior.
Kevin Samuels... Interesting.. I must say I visited for the first time last week. I love the scenery it is a beautiful country. I am very interested in the culture. Thanks for the insights.
You're welcome 🙏🏾
So I am dating some one from DR. He always asking for money to the point like yooo we may have to break up.
Don't give him money, he is using you.
Yes it sounds like he's a Sanky Panky. Red flag.
@@NorberisR Certain women are called ‘Chapis’ and certain guys are called ‘Sanky Panky?’ 😂
Very great video! I live in the DR and i would rather have Dominican women ANY DAY! I choose the DR struggle 😂
😂thank you.
It is a struggle. Struggle to stay out of Western Union. I feel good about things when I am there But when in the States thoughts of party girl with chulo in the club comes to mind. I actually had one girl try to have me buy shoes for her boyfriend. She says for her father. Hah he wears sneakers I guess. It's nice sometimes but can turn bad fast to abusive.
If you are going to Western Union then this means you are in a long distance relationship and not something I would recommend.
@@NorberisR Don't be a western union chapi 😁
This is why I love you so much, the content is real it's on point and it covers topics that many people need to hear.
Thank you😊☺️
Thank you so much for this video. I you too think like that but I totally get it. Me in my lady friend from the DR we"ve talking over 5 months now so yeah your right. I don't look at it as a struggle I look at it as a opportunity cost to a future family tree.
She’s got a point. As for me, I dont mind a woman needing me for whatever, just as long as I sense she enjoys accompanying me or I give a sense of return on investment.
Understandable.
Awesome I've been enjoying your content. May God continue to bless you, your husband and daughter. Also my lady is helping me learn Spanish so we can communicate better.
Thank you, I really appreciate this comment. And much success learning Spanish. I expect you to be fluent in a few months 🤣😂
@Norberis R.
Thank you for this informative video.
You're welcome.
She speaking facts...her accent is beautiful
Thank you 😊
I'm coming to Dominican 🇩🇴 Republic I. 2 weeks let's set up a interview 💪 I speak about relationships to!!
Will you be in Santo Domingo?
Yes I will message you when I'm there..
I totally agree with what you are saying, it takes time to really find a good woman. Women in the states are no different
Amazing Video!!! This is my mindset already. 🙌
Thank you.
I’m fine with marrying a woman that’s poor in materialistic things…..However…….
She has too be Rich in Spirit, Moral, & Willpower…..
I need devout loyalty ,Respect & understanding of communication rules the nation as I will give all this in return…..
Great point, thanks sharing.
This is so true .
I have this experience in messing with women in the Caribbean and in LatinAmerica...
I’ll apply this to Africa instead of the DR, but this woman is absolutely correct.
notberis i need to get in touch with the president there i like your videos
Ok only if you can put me in contact with your President, Joe Biden😂🤣
Yep choose the battle 😂 great short video 🎉
Thank you🤗
Thank you for the video....I understand a lot better now.
You're welcome.🤗
There's a limit you can help out but when the my mother's sick and needs medicine, I'm sick I need this and that. When its to the point of what were you doing before me arises its a problem. You still have choices and in any country with who you lay with. American men are seen as just a check. When a chapi, and career girl are asking for the same thing its hard to distinguish the difference. Giving and not feeling used is the key if every conversation is a man giving or asking for money you feel used not appreciated
I agree the women that make up stories about needing things these women should be avoided. And its understandable to feel used in situations like this when they are always asking for money. But it's will say there is a big difference between a chapi and professional woman.
Good morning
Looking forward to this video and I agree with you
Thank you 👍🏼🤗
@@NorberisR you're welcome
It costs to be the boss!!!
That's what they say😁
You made some very good points.
Thank you.
If your in and out what can a women do when she needs a man and they always leave so I get it 👌 a serious relationship involves men staying and figuring it out 👍🏾
Love Your Content As Always❤️🔥🔥🔥
Thank you❤️🇩🇴
Bonito video lluvia de bendiciones para ti mi Negra 🖤🙏🏿👍🏾💯🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Foreigners forget that we are coming from strange places USA, Europe, UK we never grew up with these women or know they history some of ya"ll do not even want to get to know they families you only just want them for SEX so you cannot expect miracles overnight they is a difference between making love and paying for love its not the same stop looking for the easy route out which is SOUSA travel to other cities experience different cities DR women are not stupid they know the game & what you are looking for show them something different be a LEADER A MAN not a boy with western egos 😎
Well said❤️🇩🇴
If I claim her as my woman I’m taking care of Everything. EVERYTHING!!!!
Ok then😁.
great video norberis ...
Thank you 🙏🏾
They become the entitled ones demanding a stunning girl from a third world country but expect her to make as much money as an american woman
Yes, this is my point.
Thank You 👍🏿💯
You're welcome
You looking fantabulous 🙂😍
Thank you🤗
in my experience the DR and countries like south america you will find either you financially support because they have a need and there is no help or they have their own and are respectful about it. even going to a foreign country looking for wife/girlfriend/other you will still have issues but not to the extent in the US. it is what you are willing to accept of supporting or carrying a person in that country and if that person has your back or is only there because they are an opportunist and will leave at the first sign of issues for another opportunity. you have to make your intentions known and have boundaries to find that good brugal/mamajuanna/ diamond in the rough dominican woman.
the laws in the US are built and more favored for a woman financially, especially if it ends in divorce and kids are involved. there is child support, medical ,house, pension and the list goes on. they are even having kids just to get a monthly check from the Govt.(its a business now). there are good women in the US but unfortunately there is that pookie , ray ray, 304, culture and feminist mentality growing and now even marriage is almost frowned upon and men are leaving to other countries like DR. i say all this but it is amusing that we want to get away from all what i said above but that same mentality is brought to these countries and it changes and then we want to complain but we are the ones that brought it there.
in the end leave that drama at home if you go overseas. find a cooperative woman that will help you build and be your rock and you with her.
Great point.
Good video. Guys are confusing scammers with women looking for a relationship. You have to use common sense. If you’ve never seen her then it’s stupid to send them money that’s a straight simp move. But if she’s your girl and she’s calling and texting you all the time and you’ve been with her then why be a bum if you want her to stay down then help her out. Just manage her expectations and she’ll be alright. I’ve dated Dominican women in the DR and the US. They’re beautiful and straight to the point. Be like that with them and they’ll treat you like a king
This is basically what I'm was trying to get across. Referring to women who want relationships not the ones who don't. There was some intentionally wanting to misunderstand that point in order to be disagreeable. If you are with a woman who really likes you and wants a relationship there is nothing wrong with helping this person. I wasn't talking about helping random women. Thanks for you understanding.
They always got something negative to say about the opposite sex.This is one of the top reasons why the opposite sex doesn't want to have sex with them.They never have anything positive to say about the opposite sex.
This is interesting 🤔
Everywhere you go you got pros and cons.
Yep, it's just that simple.
Lol, I see what you did there. 👀
Very nice. I enjoyed
Thank you.
Wow great video 👏🏾
Thank you😁
Dating a foreign woman is a liability. If she doesn't bring nothing but her body, let her go.
Interesting perspective as that's the same reason American men are leaving American women and marriage😂😂. Proves my point even more.....😅😄
@@NorberisR Women are literally the same across the globe. Looks and body fades, what else can she do for a man? Most women can only offer her youth, beauty and fertility. Oh yes... Most men are dating foreign women mainly for a good time and rarely escalates to any marriage.
This is a very interesting topic. Honestly I want nothing to do with American women, so when I decided to look outside of the US, I know there would be some struggles, but I knew the pros would definitely out way the cons. I know helping my partner will be a must, but I only wanted to know what value I will be getting. I don’t know if it luck; but it have worked out for me so far, and I am contented, I don’t need to say happy. I can’t say I have a struggle or struggles; because to achieve,or to get what you need, it’s about give y take. Sometimes it’s a little uncomfortable but not excessively uncomfortable. I have always said if you want in you have to be all the way in. Family and all. It is worth it. My two cents Norberis. And I wish other men would understand this. Hope you understand my point.
You must also consider many women just playing you for your money. The difference is someone that is with because they don't need and you have one woman just playing for your money. You have to see what's more authentic. I need you or I want you because I love you. We can talk for days why our society here in the states want us to have broken homes.
@@shanib.2 I guess she have been playing me for 10 years. You know what I don’t entertain this type of BS argument. It’s like looking for shadows every were you walk, under the bed, in the closet, behind the door, over there, over here. It get one no were. You say she maybe using me for money. I could be using her for her vegetable. This is not the case though. But I am just calling you out on your straw man argument. Makes no sense. I already know; no matter what positive argument I could have said you would find a negative agreement, just because I said I want nothing to do with American women.
@@shanib.2 thanks for your concern 👍. I guess you know every woman in the DR. I have no time to worry about that sis. Any one who think a man or woman played them is Dum. People play themselves. I am never a looser always a winner. I hope you understand what that mean. But thanks for looking out sis.
@@Dee-pj7hh I don't confessing to know all women in DR because I was able to marry someone successfully myself. I am very ingulfed in the culture and it's just what I see in my experience of the majority. Best wishes to you and your family
@@shanib.2 It just funny. From what you have been saying is Dominican woman cheat. That is all you see because your so engulfed in the culture. Do you understand how you’re defaming Dominican women. This is all you see. Your own words. I know many Dominican women who would strongly object to you opinion. Any way that’s for your well wishes. 🙏🏽
This was important
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It is all about disclosure! Men or women should disclose their expectations upon starting the relationship. If you are looking to have fun, casual sex, both sides should be aware of it and behave accordingly. If a man fall in love with a woman that is financially unstable , the man should expect to contribute to her well-being if he has the means to do so. A man should not expect passion, undivided attention, great sx from a woman whose family is in a dire economic situation. If you want to be a king, you got to wear the crown.
Otherwise pay for a moment, got your massage😉 and move on. Lol
I agree, just ask the right questions up front. It may not be romantic but, necessary. there is a song that goes a little something like this, “ if you dance to the music, don’t you know, you have to pay to the Piper”, ask you mama!” I’m sorry I didn’t bother to find out who sing that song😮
I understand the whole choose a struggle thing, but I also think that if you travel there and you are looking for love dont go to the tourist spots there are a lot of nice places and you can get that dominican experience. There nothing wrong with helping some one financially if you know them met them in person. If you are only talking online no but they will try you
Great point.👍🏼
Good talk, honest. But as an american i wonder not about her needs but the quality of the woman herself. Is she a gamer, a party girl, faithful, too many emotional scars from poor choices of men, or is she caring, loyal, honest, supportive, faithful, and not looking for an atm. While i realize there are good women in the DR but knowing it takes time, not a vacation, to learn who she is.
Yes I'm referring to women who are serious in this video. This is once you are past the vetting process.
I'm Mexican American and I've had great luck with Dominican women. I do feel I get treated a lot better than other Dominican men because my last girlfriend would brag and say look at his face and skin, he's handsome.
🤣😂that awesome 😎
I agree with you. I have lived in a few Latin countries and the women I have delt with always needed money or would need it sometimes. Men need to study evolutionary psychology and learn intersexual dynamics, learn to vet women properly and see the situation through the right lens.
I had no problem paying for things because they stayed with me for prolonged periods of time. So it wasn't like I was dealing with a random woman, these women added value to my life and took care of things around the condo. Latin women are a lot easier to deal with than the American women. American women have the 3 traits that turn men off the fastest and they wave them like a badge of honor. Aggressiveness, entitlement and arrogance. Most American women are the bottom of the barrel.
Make sure the woman adds value to your life, is coachable, helpful, supports you and compliments your life. Don't give money to random women and stay the F**K away from Chapis! Great videos Norberis!!
This is a really good point and perspective. Thanks for sharing this.
“Make sure the woman is coachable.” Couldn’t have said it better.
@@NorberisR de nada :)
Facts Bro
What a the difference between “random women” & “Chapis?”
Great video.
Thank you 🙏🏾🇩🇴
Hola tia Norberis! I'm age 73 in June 2024! I need your match making services! I am coming to Santo Domingo to seek a Dominican wife to spend the remaining of my life with! Gracias a ti! ASE!
Sorry but I don't offer matchmaking services but there are plenty of women here.
I love your presentations. I really needed to see this video. I recently started to doubt myself and wonder if i was pouring money down the rabbit hole. In my life I am not. I married my dominican girl friend last summer. we had been together for 3 years. I know her family, how they live and what they survive on. I am 63 and she is 36. I met her in the providence of La Vega. I think up in that area you are seeing the real D.R. . I will retire in the next 14 months and live in our home that we are buying there at least 1/2 of each year. we will travel back and forth to the USA for the advantages of my dual citizenship. I am here to learn and enjoy the rest of my life with my beautiful bride. Norberis please respond if you wish as I want to invest in more agriculture land in the la vega area. I am blessed with a beautiful, faithful wife, but her mother is awesome support to me, the son-in-law. Its about family if you really want to be here.
Thanks for sharing your story. What are your questions about agriculture?
Very good video.
Thank you.
Guys it doesn't matter where you go. If you have a woman being good to you and you know she's with you for you then at a given time support (Yes that includes financial) should be an automatic thing. Discuss this as money will be an important topic wherever you are.
Greetings Norbi=eris, I Think You Made an Excellent Very Valid Point Sis'. Great Points Brought to Light Supporting the Perspective of Narrative. Most Definitely Something Guy's Need to Consider. Especially Those Wanting a Fantasy Fulfilled w/o "Context & Nuance". Thank You!
Things to Consider for sure as Many Guy's are Receiving a lot of Criticism & Pressure as "Passport Bros." are Ridiculed for their Choices Largely influenced due to the Frustrating Dating Scene Currently w/in the "Western Woman" Mindset.
Thanks Again Love*
Peace!
You're welcome. Glad you enjoyed this video.
Hell no!!! To the no, no no!!
Unless I am married to someone then I am supporting that woman. At no point should my girlfriend think she is entitled to my money. Period!!! That’s a huge red flag for any man, regardless of nationality.
Hmmm... that's interesting 🤔🤔🤔
What I noticed about so called black men in the US is that many of us don't put God first. We have been castrated mainly by our single mothers. To put God first means that as a man, you hold yourself accountable and responsible for everything you do in life. You also understand that no matter if you have been with a woman for two months or 20 years that a woman is an additional bill. The most important thing is that the woman is loyal and brings peace into your life not that she asks for money. Many guys come to Dominican Republic and meet a street girl, wife her, and then get on the internet and complain when she leaves them or he allows her to take all of his money.
There are so many beautiful single Dominican women that work at the airport, bank, police force, military, hotels, etc. Brothas don't go for those women. They go for the chicas they they meet in the clubs. They don't go for the one Dominican woman wearing the long dress and is covering herself, they go for the Dominican woman that is walking the street half naked. In the end, the owness and responsibility will always be on the man. I've been with my Dominican woman since 2019. Her family is from the countryside. They are very humble people. I go and stay with them which is about 45 minutes from San Juan De la Maguana. These are women that grew up around a long line of women that are hardworking and committed to their families.
Great points and thank you for sharing your perspective.
Factssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss very true
It's not either or, the issue is in both scenarios both Dominican and American women expect the same things. The problem is men feel like it's a one way street because we're expected to be protectors and providers while basically getting nothing in return. If we expect a traditional women in the way they want a traditional man it's called "sexist" or "oppressive " which is a double standard. I don't think men have a problem being traditional as long as a woman is traditional as well.
Ok🤔