Overcoming Pornography: Nic's Story
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
- We LOVED having Nic on our show to tell his story of overcoming pornography. His story is so genuine and powerful. If you've ever struggled with pornography, know someone who has struggled with pornography, or simply want to better understand those who struggle, this is the episode for you!
This is part 1 of a 2-part series: The first part is Nic's story and the second part is Nic answering YOUR questions (from our Instagram page) about pornography.
In this part, Nic tells about struggling with pornography for more than 2 decades. He was first exposed to pornographic images when he was around 11 years old. Since his initial experience, Nic began consuming more and more pornographic material. He was very good at hiding his addiction and was even able to hide it from his wife for many years.
However, he know what he was doing was wrong and he thought he could fix it on his own until one day, he just couldn't take it anymore. Nic and his wife were putting their kids in bed when Nic asked his wife if he could confide in her about something.
And that's when things finally started changing.
See the full story in the episode and check out Part 2 to hear your questions, answered.
**Nic has kindly offered his email address to anyone who wants to anonymously reach out: nicldsarp@gmail.com
**Also, Nic does amazing firesides, presentations and keynote speeches. Reach out to the email address above for inquiries.
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Wow... I prayed about this less than a minute ago and then found this video. No joke I was praying, went on my computer, one of the first things I see. God bless!
Faith in Jesus Christ Will help us be better people. Stay strong my Friend
who did you prey to lucifer your leader?
That’s awesome!!!
Thanks for the awesome video once again. It will definitely help me to understand those who are struggling with this. Also I have my first meeting with the missionaries tomorrow!
Ciara Galvin, how was your first meeting with missionaries? :-) I hope you are well.
Thank you Nic for being so brave!! This will help so many people!
"The opposite of addiction is connection" - brilliant! We got ya buddy!!
It's True
Seriously, this brought the Spirit! I loved when he talked about the Savior saying that He knows "it [whatever painful thing an individual is going through] hurts." I have a strong personal testimony of that.
I struggle with pornography.
I would’ve never posted that before seeing this video. Like he said in the video, it’s a lot easier to be vulnerable when people are suffering with the same thing as you. Let’s cure this disease.
You’re a brave soul. Thank you for being so open. I have an observation. I think the issue surrounding porn addiction is a generational issue. In, and out of the church. Older generations look at the idea of having issues with pornography as having a few magazines between your mattresses, or a video tape or two. That being said it makes sense they say things like “get married that’ll fix it” because they’re assuming it’s curiosity about sex, and sexual desire (it’s obviously not) because when they picture the idea of pornography they’re thinking magazines, and such. Not that porn addiction can be acted out through magazines and videos…it’s just a lot of the pornography that was distributed in the past wasn’t as accessible, and as vulgar as it is now. To older generations outside of the church they just don’t see an issue with having a magazine or two “boys will be boys. It’s natural” 😖. No. I truly believe the millennial and gen z generations are being bombarded with the most vulgar, the most obscene images and videos all at our fingertips, at anytime or anywhere. The average American child has been exposed to this type of pornography by the age of 10. when you enter a porn site all they’re legally required to do is ask if you’re over 18. The same with social media. Kids lie to get in. Social media by the way is getting more and more saturated with pornography, as well as sites like Etsy…selling négligees with overt pornographic images. Gen z has been speaking up a lot about how porn has damaged them. It’s getting easier for people to speak up because so many have had issues with pornography. Billie Eilish is a notable member of gen z who has come out and said it ruined her brain. The more people come out and share the more people see the problem. The more people see the problem the more regulations can be put in place to at the very least protect children from it. I commend you for coming out to talk about this. So so so important. As a mother of 4 under 6 I am terrified of how this topic will effect them as they grow. ♥️♥️
Thank you so much for making this video.
I am 12 years old, I first started this addiction when I was just 8 years old, going on till I was 9. I didn't think that this action was going to affect me so much when I was growing up, but it has. It has mentally made me grow up much faster than any child should go through.
There has been a weight on my shoulders for four years now, and all I want is for it to go away. I have told some friends and family but never my parents, and like he said, a child doesnt tell adults these types of things because their afraid of getting regected. Lately God has been trying to get me to tell my parents about this, and I believe it is a miracle that I saw this video. I'm finally going to tell them.
I just wanted to thank you for creating this video.😊😊😘
Maddi Sackett you are an Amazing, brave girl. please do tell your parents, and no matter the outcome you will benefit greatly from being honest to yourself and those around you specially your parents. you are already Amazingly Brave. I am astonished at your courage. best wishes overcoming any addiction and may you always have Freedom and self worth in your life. 💖
@@whencecomestthou8624 Aww, thank you so much. That means a lot.
Hey Maddi, I'm 17, I started with this struggle when I was about 8, too. And also around 12 I got the biggest impression that I should get help. I remember when I told my parents and my bishop, it was the hardest thing I had to do. This last 5 years have been a fight...sometimes it bothers me until I listen or sometimes it'll just go away. I don't know if you're LDS but if you are, just trust your bishop, he may not be a doctor, but he knows that through the atonement, we can find peace again in life. You can go through this and you can end it...it won't take you five years or maybe yes, but just trust those around you who love you and be patient with yourself...and know you really don't know me, but I'm here if you want to talk to someone who's been there. You are very brave always remember that that bravery comes from your Father.
@@GusHdzRuiz You don't know how much I needed that, thank you.
Maddi Sackett i hope things have improved for you since you made these comments. Remember you are just human that has faults that can be overcome, don’t be ashamed, just fight hard through it. Hold yourself accountable each day, don’t forget to have sincere prayer and all the other things we are taught to do, it’s an armor against temptation. It’s never too late and all can be forgiven, the sooner the better. God Bless
I’ve been addicted since I was 12. It was back and forth, and would hurt worse when I would reach out to a girl for help, but be rejected. If not for the Savior’s atonement, loving parents, and constant repentance, I would’ve remained myself as miserable as an anti Mormon
Stay strong
Don't beat yourself up. A lot of kids are born into families were they are taught they will be sent to Hell for these sins. But no need to fear, as its all a myth.
I’m addicted to cutting/self-harm and I’m thankful for your message.
Stay strong bud
There is so much I want to say (that isn’t positive about me) like how I know that I shouldn’t be doing it but still do it, that that part of me that wants to stop is smaller than the part of me that likes it and wants to keep going, the fact that I saw it when I was 13 going on 14 being so scared that I would get in trouble and I didn’t tell anyone cause I was a scared kid, the fact that I can count on one hand how many times that I’ve felt the spirit, the fact that I had was home schooled for five years (going back to what you said about isolation),the fact that I have depression and that just makes my ideas on all of this stuff worse.
I don’t have a point after writing all that. I started around January of 2013 and I’m 19 going on 20 in April of next year
Michael French so did you quit?
No unfortunately
@@michaelfrench2586 you do need to reach out. Your parents will understand. Mine did. If not your bishop, you need to fight this. You can do this.
Xepher OfDawnfall I did tell my dad a month or so after my bishop but every time we talk about it always devolves into me talking about how I have no idea about how to overcome this, cause no matter what anyone says, no matter how close I am to a person any advice they give me is just words and I must decide in my heart that I’m going to changed and I haven’t reached that level of maturity yet.
But thanks anyways for your advice kind stranger
marriage is not therapy
a scripture that has helped me with this issue is Alma 42:29, also prayer and fasting work, it might not feel like it works when you are going through the process of repentance, but as one pushes forward and trusting in the Lord, you will see the results, you will then start to see strength beyond you're own, to even talk to you're loved ones about this. Don't believe in the lies of satan, you're loved ones are there for you. The worst thing one can do is to do it without help.
Thanks man. Verses 29-31 hit me like a freight train.
This was awesome and amazing. Thanks Nick. Love your channel
..thanks again.
Powerful. Why? because the spirit was present. He can't deny truth, He testifies of it. I am grateful for that. This topic is so taboo in the church. Think of the magnitude this would have on the armies of God here on earth, the priesthood holders, if shame was gone. If we as men took President Nelson's recent counsel to repent and cone unti Christ. I am certain this is a bigger problem in the church then we realize. It probably leads to a lot of priesthood holders becoming apathetic and then inactive in the gospel and in the the church. Nic, thank you for your story. It is filled with hope!
Thanks for sharing, this has helped me
How did it help you lol?
Roger Poonhound it gave me confidence in sharing my problem with the people I love, so that I can get help
@@rogerpoonhound381 It helps because the atonement of Jesus Christ is involved in the process(:
Dwyane Wade he’s just a troll and/or anti-mormon. In another comment he said Lucifer is our leader. Hopefully they block him soon.
What a brave brave man - his weakness is now his strengh. Godspeed.
9.9k subs?! Look out, you’re about to reach 10k 😱
Thank you Nic. Your message is powerful.
I'm glad they brought a person who actually is going/went through addiction. It hits more when we hear those who actually go through the life of addiction. Just know, Jesus Christ died for us and paid the ultimate price for our benefit. We can become Great people with his help. You don't necessarily have to be going through addiction to receive his help. We need to continuously reach out to God for "His strength". Only they can help us become and see ourselves as better human beings. I have experienced with pornography and I tell you, I regret ever getting into that. As someone who is having trouble with it, this allows to gain a better relationship with my heavenly father. Stay strong everyone. OMD. BTW, great video guys, this Specific topic needs to be addressed more and also maybe make a video on Jesus Christ and his atonement. That'd be great. It'd be more of a message of hope. Thanks.
Yo thanks DWade see you in Miami for one last dance
When did you join the church Dwayne Wade?
@@thingsandstuff3710 Haha You're kidding right??
@@dwyanewade8645 Lol of course
@@thingsandstuff3710 Haha No Worries
What a great guy. Thank you!
Thank you. Great content.
Awesome video. Thanks Nic! Thanks 3 Mormons you guys are awesome
What is the background sound u have in your videos...like small echos?
First like/comment.
Really disagree that having a wife wont solve the issue; It depends on how helpful, healthy, and active your relationship would be. At the very least, trying to quit without a wife is vastly more difficult. A healthy marriage should involve that intimacy a minimum of once a month, to a few times a week. If you don't have that chemical, physical, and emotional release it builds up in a looping cycle. A healthy relationship should take that cycle and put it on a healthier track. Without a healthy outlet, it's hard to stop a boulder from rolling once it's already been pushed down the mountainside.
The problem is that you've activated that cycle without a spouse, instead of driving on track you're spinning in the dirt. So you spin out and burn your tires in place hurting, even crippling, your ability to establish proper relationships largely because it damages your psyche filling you with self doubts and self hate that makes it harder to function in society and feel like you're worth someone's love, making it harder to move on and get healthy.
The best way I think you could overcome this is marrying someone who is very sexually active themselves or otherwise willing to have a healthy relationship leaning on the frequent side.
The problem is with Mormon culture, you don't want to talk about it, it's like playing the lottery. You're gambling with your eternal future, you might end up married to someone so repressed that they never want sex at all, or treat it like a duty only when they want children, only on anniversaries, only once a month, or so on. Forgetting that being faithful to the relationship doesn't just mean not cheating, it means fulfilling your partner too otherwise you're damaging them mentally and pushing them to feel the desire to, or just vulnerability to attempts by others to get at them.
Mormon culture surrounding sex does more damage than it does any good. It really needs sex positivity, just within the context of marriage. Marrying younger helps too.
Not that I would know, I just study relationships, psychology, and *currently* suffer myself from exactly what I described though it's particularly complicated with other issues. Sometimes I feel like I'm hopeless, like my only hope is to by some miracle marry someone with the same problem, two people with this same issue would pair well in helping each other.
Hey, the wife won't solve the issue thing is...well maybe you won't reach porn as often or at all, but the problem with porn is that it turns your concept of intimacy to be lustful and that only thing that matters is that you feel these feeling that you crave and in marriage that stays, so it hurts to have someone you love and also knowing in your mind that what you care is intimacy, or this isn't like porn, porn makes me feel better than my spouse, but it's lust and THAT is what just marriage can't solve. And when two people love each other, they don't want to 'satisfy' the other, they want to protect them, see them grow and see them happy, for the right reasons. I suffered from these problem since I was a kid. I don't know if you're christian, but if you are, just trust the Lord, he died in the most painful way possible and you only need to let Him in your heart so his sacrifice acts on you, also trust family members and seek professional help, it helps you understand that you are NOT alone and believe that brighter days are yet to come :)
That sounds like a personal problem, not a general one. Though I'm sure there are many who were affected the same way too, but that's how most things work anyway, most things affect people differently. Experiences are subjective. But whatever the case, keep doing whatever helps you out. 👍
Awesome !!!!.
Thank you for sharing
Thank you Nic! You are amazing
Thanks nic about opening your self
rip sis's lashes
I had to rewind to make sure he said thuck
Xepher OfDawnfall Ha ha! I said “look”. 🙂
@@way-of-kings Hey nice, I really appreciate the Bravery and story you brought us. Hopefully I bump into you one of these days. I'm also and addict and I could've really used this story. Thank you(:
Huh? Thuck?
Thank you
I love you man
that totally came off not straight
@@rogerpoonhound381 Uh no. We are all family. We all need to show love to each other
7:06 loloallaldool mlaon the funmy fisch
Masturbation is natural and healthy. Watching pornography does not make you bad. Porn addiction is only common in the Mormon church because Mormon church because parents don’t educate their children enough about sex
stop watching porn nick
I think most addictions including addiction to Pornography are bad. It just pains me to see that religious people go through an unnecessary painstakingly slow suffering trying to do the "will" of their "God(s)" and thus making the addiction even more severe both psychologically, physically and ironically even spiritually. I think religious Dogmas do more harm than good when trying to overcome addictions like pornography.
Whence Comest Thou? I think pornography is the best poison Satan has in store for all men and women. God's commandments are rules that help us become more like our saviour. With God's grace, it is enough for the daily help we need.
Earl Jared Banaga I believe you are sincere in your Faith but both the Faith and the Rules that you say God has given does not prevent or give any solution to addictive behaviours. also if you are talking about the God of the Bible and of The Book of Mormon he has quite a track record of giving horrendous commandments such as to kill opposing tribes and individuals and also how to perform abortions if the husband suspects his wife to be unfaithful. No answers and solutions to addictions of any sort.
Earl Jared Banaga not to mention God destroyed countless of human beings just like you and me many times through out the Bible's account and Book of Mormon all because they (Men, Women and Children) were not living up to his Moral standards. that's not a God worthy of Praise from someone who values Liberty. speaking of Liberty back to the topic of Addiction 🤓
Whence Comest Thou? Sounds like u have been researching and looking for things in scripture that suit what u wanna hear...take the other point of view and read and research more. U will find what we praise and worship
Tyler Minyard I know that there is a lot of beauty in scripture absolutely there is, The Bible and Book of Mormon are books that even I (as critical as I am of them) will defend and preserve with my life because I love Freedom and Education. I have not study only the "parts" that I want to hear. I have read The Bible and Book of Mormon in its entirety. I just can't believe that a fellow human being can praise the beautiful parts of these books and then either ignore or shrug their shoulders to the ugly parts which I must emphazise in many cases is God himself who gives these horrendous laws and commandments. I feel that to be dishonest in the part of the reader and the faithful.