to break my habit and addiction of impulse spending, i started going to the library. walking out with a stack of 15 books gives me that rush of getting something new and treating myself without the buyers remorse. it literally does not matter if you read them or not because it costs $0. just return them in two weeks and treat yourself to a new stack
This reminds me of those clothing subscriptions where you get clothes for the month and return it after. I kinda want to try it... not sure if it will help😂
I spent an effing fortune on a Miele C3, and regret not a penny. I have four pets and no one that walks into my house could tell if they're all in the garage.
Marci Elston I wish my Miele magically resulted in a spotless home. I have found that having a Dyson, a Miele, and an Ecovac Robot sadly still means I have to use them for them to work.
Yes! I just bought a cordless Bissell stick vacuum with a detachment for cleaning the furniture, too and I love it! I hated vacuuming and realized it was because of having to drag a cord behind me and plug and unplug it from room to room.
I've converted my compulsive need to buy things for a little dopamine rush into buying stocks. I still get that same satisfaction, but now I have the added satisfaction of knowing that I'm saving for the long term and also it's fulfilling to see those investments grow.
The other day I had the funniest moment with a coworker friend. She asked if I wanted to go shopping with her over the weekend and I said, "No sorry I don't need any clothes." and she was like "why does that mean you can't go shopping?" It took me so long to explain that if I go I will buy crap I don't need or really want... but it made me realize how far I've come with curbing my spending and shopping intentionally! Was kind of a funny moment but made me very proud of myself.
It’s the best way to go. Buy when you need something like truly need it. With clothes for me it’s easy my weak spot are handbags. I love handbags however I really try to buy them sporadically even me being someone who only buys contemporary designer. Now there is nothing wrong going to the mall to just do window shopping without buying nothing and go get a coffee and latter going dinner. I do that with some of my friends, we go to have dinner and coffee but before that most times I go with her to the stores and most times she leaves with a shopping bag. She is not a crazy spender she just likes to buy something before we go dinner or lunch. Nothing wrong going with your friends shopping even if you don’t do any shopping. Just go for the fun ride
That's a wonderful milestone to celebrate on your journey to responsible spending! It's a shame that you had to forgo spending time with a friend though (unless you secretly thought it would be awkward 😉). I know some alcoholics who avoid parties, cookouts, bars, etc., because they don't trust themselves around liquor. They miss the comraderie, but alcohol still has hold over them. I know others who can be around it and are neutral, and still others who actually are repulsed by the scent. Same with ex-cigarette smokers. I hope you get to the point where shopping and purchases don't trigger much of an emotional response, other than "yay, I can cross that off my list!" For me, whenever I see "HURRY! SALE ENDS SOON!" I immediately downshift instead. When you feel rushed, you aren't being considerate of your future self, who will most likely feel regretful about the purchase. Another thing I do is keep a running list of things I would like to purchase, like, a new raincoat, or, replacement water filters., so when I go out to the mall I'm focused on what I need, not on what would maybe be nice to own. That way, I get a little endorphin boost when I make the purchase, and another one when I get home because I can cross it off my list. Plus, no regrets - instead I get a feeling that I'm making progress! One more thing you can do is have a designated splurge item for when you go shopping with someone who is in "misery loves company" mode. Choose items that can be given away as gifts, like, scarves or gloves or pillows, or something she doesn't know you splurge on regularly, like fresh flowers, high-end chocolate or imported coffee. That way you're being diplomatic with a weaker friend, and you're not blowing your budget unnecessarily. Basically, have a plan before you go out. It gets to the point where you feel really healthy at the end of your shopping trips! Best of luck!
@@carbine090909 that's me too! I literally had to reluctantly pull myself away a few days ago from an outlet store where some pretty handbags were finally in a better price range for me but none of the options were quite perfect for what I need. I was very sad, but knew it was the right choice *because* of how pressured I felt. Also, I love that idea of keeping a list of the things you actively need. I only keep that list in my head but I do forget what they are at times, lol
YES! Get rid of the haul videos!! Esp the “I bought $1000 worth of the lowest rated clothes on [insert terrible brand]”. Over-consuming for a haul is bad enough but the fact that they return most of the stuff and most of the time returned items are destroyed rather than resold drives me up the wall!
Amen! I can’t say I watch a lot of clothing haul videos, but I do watch a lot of tech videos that essentially do the same thing - just disgusting how much bottom of the barrel garbage they will buy and be proud of it. Half the time they destroy the products just for the clicks. It’s disgusting, I’ve unsubscribed from so many of these
I will never understand how something that has been made can be destroyed without even having been used 🤦♀️ this is so sad because we are using our scarce resources but apparently some people think clothes grow on trees...
They usually get it free if they got a lot of followers.at my local goodwill you see so many clothes with the tags still on because people are just dumping clothes there
Not to mention how this whole 'impressing ppl' toxicity extends into flashy cars and the idea of 'needing' a $700, 000 wedding. No one's looking at you. They're all too busy focusing on what THEY'RE wearing/driving/flashing. We're not in junior high anymore.
The outfit repeater thing is just obnoxious. Traditionally, Japanese women's magazines do "style it different ways" spread of items to show that that they can fit into a wardrobe and be flexible. I really wish that there was more of that energy in American media, especially from influencers (beyond OMG Kate Middleton wore the same coat twice).
This used to be normal in American magazines as well. They would have a months worth of outfits, using the same 6-8 items. But, that seems to have been phased out. Actually, I don’t know anybody who subscribes to printed magazines anymore (I’m gen x, if that matters). They may very well still have this in some printed magazines.
I read a blog called The Daily Connoisseur, she talks about her time as an American on exchange in France. She was stunned that even the wealthier women had closets of a dozen items at most. She ended up committed to a capsule wardrobe even years later for the decision freedom.
2:00 Watching Haul Videos 7:26 Obsessing Over Luxury Items 11:17 Impulsive Spending 13:39 Spending Because Your Friends are Spending 15:26 Going into debt to fuel your lifestyle
I never understood why "outfit repeater" is a stigma that exists. If you only like an item enough to wear once - frankly, you don't really like it. (Sure, exceptions for wedding dresses and the like if you prefer, but I mean for everyday wear and even special occasions.)
I always thought that stigma was about lack of creativity rather than having too few items. Like you're not supposed to wear the exact same combination of items several times a week or even more than once or twice a month because it looks boring and like you're not "putting in effort". I always thought of it as some standard that really fashionable people have but the rest of us don't really care and probably would never notice.
I know right. I’m an outfit repeater I couldn’t afford new clothes left and right and because why not. People used to make fun of me now people are doing capsule wardrobes. I was doing that before it was a thing
Omg... In this recent, never-ending Lockdown, I have been wearing same tracksuit practically every day. (Different tops and underwear!) Lately I have noticed staff at my local takeaway places starting to speak to me as though I am "special". Under "normal" circumstances I work in corporate environment so I'm enjoying the break from having to find something "new" to wear each day.
Do a video about the phenomena of people pretending to be rich. That topic really fascinates me I’d say that it is appropriate to treat yourself to a small item once per month as it does help with morale, BUT ONLY if you don’t have any debts that needs to be paid and the item’s price tag is within your budget
One of my friends is always on ig with Gucci and Chanel purses so I asked her ex boyfriend how in the f she can afford these things. Well, he told me is all fake she buy them from dhgate. I laughed so hard.
She weaves in this topic into all her videos yet a specific video about the consequences of such behavior would be an excellent deep dive. An interview or feature with someone who learned from this toxic behavior would be interesting to watch! Good idea
This would be great. I associate with "genuine money" carrying designer bags, and then I see others in the same circle who I know are limited in their means (moreso than me) and are also rocking designer bags, and I think "hang on I'm here with my $150 'splurge bag' that I wear everywhere and you're rocking a new designer piece, how is this possible". Different priorities. Different debt levels. Okay. And the bags do look nice! I'd just personally struggle to justify it. I am interested for a Chelsea deep dive.
Is it just me or is the rich pretending to be poor more of a phenomena? I get the other way around because it’s the poor who are stigmatised. It’s so obvious with gentrification happening globally
In 2020, I sold or donated almost ALL of my wardrobe. I finally got a job last month and bought a small wardrobe of quality over quantity (no fast fashion) clothing. Now, I actually have more to wear (everything goes well together). Also, I don't feel any need to purchase a lot of items, in fact, I feel amazing saying no to clothes I know I do not need. What a change!
This is a good one! I'm so tired of "influencers" peddling this lazy ass content on social media where all they do is buy things or push other people to buy things so they can get views, commissions, sponsorships, etc while doing minimal work and promoting horribly unsustainable habits. People need to wake up!
I've been saying this for yrs and get comments from ppl implying I'm jealous lol that's how sleepy /toxic our society is...gonna take a while for ppl to wake up
I have deleted Instagram from my phone because I realized that almost 90% of my purchases in the past 6 years had been made as a result of seeing beautiful people wearing these items. It might sound ridiculous, it IS!! But that’s my case. I didn’t spend a lot, but I was buying items that didn’t help me be a better person (as you say: I was the same person, with just more luxury items in my closet). So I stopped watching and scrolling and I’ve been one month without spending - feels so good! Thanks for another great video ❤️
Same! I deleted it about 2 years ago. It's just a shopping app. Every post is an ad in some shape or form. It fills me with dread when someone shows me instagram on their phone. The whole thing is ew.
It's truly bonkers our attitude towards clothing. The average person in the west had between 5-10 outfits which they made LAST. Clothing was routinely handed down through the generations and made over to match current fashions without wasting precious fabric. Clothing was also proportionally much more expensive to produce and buy; our modern fast fashion is almost entirely down to slave or at least exploitative labor and cheap materials. /rant (this takes up SO much space in my head...)
I'll add to this - what annoys me is that imo you can even make buying clothes a hobby without being wasteful about it. I'm someone who likes clothes and likes having lots of outfits to choose from. I wouldn't be happy with just 10, but I still consider everything I buy a long-term investment and everything in my large wardrobe gets worn. I also think it's ok to make buying mistakes if you learn from them, but unfortunately a lot of people don't seem to take the time to do that. It's also still ok to be spontaneous if you use a charity shop - not really a downside to it in that scenario. And of course you can try on things and return them! It's actually really fun to do, I don't understand why hauls don't take this approach? Just play out a romcom makeover scene, it's way more interesting to watch!
The saddest part of this is that even if you want to sew your own clothes, the fabrics that are commonly available in shops now are such poor quality AND even if you spend what I think of as a hefty amount of money on an item of clothing, eg $140 for a day dress, there’s no guarantee that it’s a quality made product that will last.
@@melissahoneybee8493 I kept old clothes that don't fit , have holes and that I no longer wear so I can repurpose them .. good place to shop for fabric if need be is at a thrift store or in your own closet..
The unwrap videos for small children are super popular. Kids love watching toys being unpackaged. Sometimes played with, sometimes just unwrapped. It's like consumer training wheels.
I feel one major side effect of constantly consuming (esp clothes for me ) is that you appreciate each Item you receive or buy way less as it just feels normal. When I’ve slowed down buying it makes it so when I do bring a new piece in it definitely feels like a more special experience and I take better care of it because it feels far more valuable.
One thing I like to do to curb my fast fashion spending is to "buy" all the clothing options in Animal Crossing. My ACNH closet is about 1200 items large and all hand-made by a small business run by hedgehog sisters. I can put together the most outlandish OOTDs with no negative financial impact while having a minimal, comfortable wardrobe IRL.
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I think "haul" videos definitely impacted Millennials spending from 2010 to now. It definitely did for me. I can not count the number of beauty items I have purchased because of RUclips beauty gurus.
Whenever I get an itch to buy, I think about useful things that I need like grocery, pharmacy stuff, punch cards for sports activities, etc. and honestly it gets my itch to spend and I feel way better for controlling myself from buying clothes, which I used to do!
I used to live in a climate with four seasons for real, spring and fall were too distinct to really wear all the same clothes (except obvious stuff like rain boots or jackets), but I'm with you in spirit; 52 "micro seasons" of clothes is completely bonkers, bad for the environment, and I'm not here for it!
The climate where I live is volatile and we dress in layers. I wear the same tshirts and tank tops 12 months a year, and I just add cardigans, hoodies, and scarves over it. I do need more clothes than a more stable climate, but I don't need a completely different outfit for a 30 degree day than what I would wear for a 50 degree day.
One trick I have learned to avoid impulse buying clothes is to hold the item while perusing others. After a few minutes of "possesion" I come to my senses and put it back. 🙂
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12:10 makes me think of a tweet I saw: “targeted advertising has decided that my recent dehumidifier purchase is only the first in my newfound hobby of dehumidifier collecting” 😄
If anyone is looking for fashion influencers that promote slow fashion over consumerism, Alyssa Beltempo, Audrey Coyne, Emma Hill, and Lumiere d’Helen are wonderful channels to watch. They all have great tips and Alyssa has a series of copying Pinterest/celebrity outfits using things from her own closet w/o buying more items. They’re wonderful and have all changed the way I look at buying clothes.
I'm fascinated at how "luxury" items (handbags, shoes, accessories, clothes) for your average, everyday person has become so normalized. I watch a lot of luxury channels (just because I like fashion) and so many just drop, like, $5,000 on ONE handbag and don't blink an eye! When did that happen??
I broke my shopping habit by picturing the fancy item I wanted to buy crumpled up on the bottom of my bedroom closet because the truth is, once you buy it the thrill wears off quickly and it just becomes another item in your closet. I also started taking pictures of things I wanted to buy so I could think about it and I ended up not buying the item.
One of these days I was REALLY REALLY sad and didn’t know what to do, so I went to the store and bought all the stuff that I needed to buy (new toothbrush, pasta, headache medicine, etc) but hadn’t bought yet because I just forget to do so. Made me a bit better, distracted me for a while and was 100% useful.
Amazing video, thank you Chelsea . Also, as a 35 yo I feel kind of disconnected from this tiktok and Instagram influencer culture, crazy hauls, etc. and I’m kind of relieved it was not really a thing when I was in my teens and early 20s . Or maybe I just live under a rock, lol. But I do feel bad for today’s teens who are basically born into it.
I'm almost 40, and I agree that it must be hard to be 20-something now and have social media constantly implying to you that you are or could be "a big deal," and that you should pursue fame or notoriety alongside or instead of pursuing who you want to be. Of course, it's easy for me to say, I have a lot of things figured out about myself that few 20-somethings understand yet (experience almost makes up for the aches and pains y'all!), and one always assumes one knows more than they do, and we all often imagine we grew up in superior or ideal conditions. Maybe the social media overload will prod more modern younger people toward greater self-perspective and authenticity. I certainly hope so.
Pardon me to comment on this lovely madams. What you are saying is right in my opinion. There is pressure (visible or invisible) from media social and their peers, whenever they follow the same age influencer, celebrities or friends. The pressure to show they also get everything right and not fall behind, from their ability to buy whatever they want, their life (single or married), etc. It... Make some of them goes into over-consumpsion (on things or food including hauls), while also pushing them to debts. Loads of debts. I mean i know there is unavoided debts like student loan or loan to buy house, but the pressure is literaly throwing the mentally not matured young people to deeper pits. On... Both debts and unhealthy mental health.
I'm 38 & take great pride in not having a Tik Tok account, which I see as being a platform strictly for teenagers. I try not to be mean, but when someone my age tells me they have a Tik Tok account, it's hard not to judge them for it. Are they a paedo? Do they have a 5 second attention span? Do they have horrible taste in comedy? Are they mentally immature?
Great video! :) This helps me to not buy things I don't need: 1. I deleted ALL shopping apps from my phone, so I don't get tempted to "have a look" when I get bored 2. I unfollwed influencers who practice a lifestyle of overconsumption and brands that I like to not get tempted 3. I have a small closet so I divided my wardrobe into spring/summer and autumn/winter to have a better overlook. Every half a year I empty my entire closet and have a look at the garments and divide them into 3 piles (1. what I wore a lot, 2. Damaged or items that are not suitable to wear anymore, 3. Stuff I didn't wear). I will take pictures the garments of pile number one (usually around 25 items) and store the pictures on my phone, so I can look at them right before the next season to see what matches my current wardrobe if I see something that I like. Pile Nr 2 will be fixed and/or transferred to "clothes for paint jobs, gardening, the woods etc" or thrown away if they are too damaged. Pile number 3: I try to ask myself why I didn't wear it (bad weather, changes in size, I didn't like it anymore, no occasion). If there is a reason to keep it for the next season I will, if not I'll give it to friends, donate it or sell it online. This sounds like a lot of work, but it is usually a fun weekend/Sunday :-) 4. To stop me from compulsive buying I will sleep over an item for a couple of days (weeks if possible) and will have a look at my garment pictures and how it will fit in my wardrobe and if it is something that I will actually wear. I figured that in 90% of the cases I don't go back to purchase the item bc the initial spark vanished 5. I stopped buying memories when traveling and reduced it to one item max. 6. Before the season starts I will have a look at what I really need and set a budget. My birthday is in June, so I usually ask for one item as a birthday gift for my summer wardrobe/decorations/cosmetic etc and for Christmas for the winter season. I really like the idea of a capsule wardrobe and so far it works very well for me (in an extended version of around 25 items). I really like mood boards (I work in Marketing) so I like to display the pictures (you see I keep coming back to my pictures haha) of my current garments on a mood board and play with it by adding a new color that I like, shape and cut (usually for bottoms), textures (like wool, leather, cotton, jacquard), a new type of shoe and (this is my favorite) a new belt to spice up and modernize my closet for the next season. I follow a couple of capsule wardrobe influencers to get some inspiration :-) 7. I try to buy high quality and sustainable products and first have a look at second hand platforms (I have 2 brands which I really love, so these are usually my go to options). However I try to purchase 2-3 items that I really like and need, instead of 20 mediocre items. 8. I try to eliminate repetitive and expensive habits, like buying a coffee at the coffee shop before work (I have my coffee at home or put it in a tumbler), eating out every single day bc there was "no time" to prepare my lunch etc. 9. I safe 50% of the money that I don't spend on stuff that I don't need (usually a fixed sum each month at the beginning of the month) and put it in a separate account. I don't have a credit card or debit card for this account and it is reserved to spend it on a down payment for a house, my retirement, my future kids or whatever. The rest of the money I use for activities (memories): with my friends, traveling, maybe a new hobby, books etc. Maybe this is helpful for anyone :-)
Wouldn't be amazing to see the day where wasteful spending is just so passé? This is why I dove in so hard into DIY videos and learned to sew in order to breathe new life into my wardrobe. It's time to get real, yo.
They say us dutchies are cheap, but perhaps we're ahead of the times then? Happens quite often that people show off how little they spend on something.. "Hey I like the dress you're wearing" "OMG THANKS IT WAS ONLY 50 CENTS AT THE THRIFT STORE!!!"
Do you have any sewing machine recommendations? I've been using one from the 70s that I got for free in a Buy Nothing group but I think it's finally on it's last leg.
@@laurenneely645 I actually bought the homebrand of our local drugstore a couple of years ago and it's still working fine for basic reparations 🙈 I'm not a sewing guru, but theres this one second hand store that has a sewing atelier and also gives workshops on how to be a part of the circular economy when it comes to fashion. There should be more initiatives like that!
This is the reason why I don’t watch makeup channels anymore (unless the content is an anti-haul). I would spend so much money on makeup I CAN’T EVEN WEAR BECAUSE WE’RE IN A PLAGUE
Seriously. I cut way back on the amount of makeup content I watch, because I primarily wanted reviews or tips and tricks, but it seems like every channel became so focused on HAULS which don't tell me anything about how good the makeup is. Even if you swatch it on your arm, that doesn't tell me how long it lasts, how it feels on your lips, whether that sparkly eyeshadow is gonna rain glitter onto your cheeks all day.
@@aydinasivertsen8139 Agree completely! Kimberly Clark had the best balance of humor and anti-consumerism and really pointing out how/why a launch was redundant or gimmicky. A lot of other channels seemed to just be jumping on the trend without considering the overall message.
if any of you would like to get back into some makeup videos i’d recommend youtubers like robert welsh and bailey sarian. entertaining and informative!
SAME the only ones I’ve watched in years are nisapisa’s antihauls because my obsession with beauty vloggers in high school 2012-2016 ruined my perception of myself. I didn’t know about filters, ring lights, and blur effects at the time and I thought people’s skin ACTUALLY LOOKED LIKE RUclipsRS ON CAMERA
feel like i’m sort of in the throes of somewhat of a shopping addiction to distract myself from my struggles with depression. this video truly resonated with me.
I'm reminded of the Australian news anchor who got called out for wearing the same blouse a second time 4 months later. Whereas a male anchor wore the same suit every day for a year and no one noticed. (I think my comment before got deleted because I tried to credit my source, and references to other sites are probably banned, not the content, I don't think this is off topic or offensive! So leaving this uncredited).
It's been 3 years since I bought any new pieces of clothing, I take mine or my mum's old clothes to the tailor and get them altered to my requirements and taste :) also starting a mutual exchange community locally where we can swap clothes rather than buy :)
I occasionally watch book hauls and they don't have all the same negative underpinnings as clothing or makeup hauls but they can cause stress and FOMO. And bookstores are starting to lean into that culture as well. There's a peer pressure in some parts of the reading community to read a crap ton of books every month/year, which leads to people speedreading and not taking time to savor or enjoy reading because they're always thinking about their endless TBR list. I'm not so much afraid of being seen in the same outfit twice as I am afraid that wearing/washing a piece of clothing too often will deteriorate it to the point it's unwearable. Shirts that I've had for only 2 months already have holes all over them.
Yeah the clothing thing is also my fear. I’ve heard that hang drying instead of using a dryer helps so I do that sometimes with clothes that seem more fragile
I was thinking about houseplant community and all the hauls there :) yes, it is a thing. And a rare houseplant can cost more than a designer handbag so were are not talking pennies here.
You hit the nail on the head with this one. I’m in my 40s and enjoy watching style and etiquette videos for mid aged chicas like myself. And EVERYONE has MULTIPLE fracking designer purses, tote bags, handle bags, cross body bags, wallets and WALLS of off-the-wall priced luxury perfumes and shoes. I’ve come to appreciate those quality content creators who teach how to rock a 10 item wardrobe because it’s just crazy in these social media streets.
I think something people (viewers/consumers) also need to understand and remind themselves is that they don’t need to purchase everything they see in these videos + you have the choice to simply not consume this content unless you need to. It’s definitely easier said than done and I know it will take a collective effort to lower the popularity of hauls, but these videos do so well because we give them that power and attention. I never see hauls on my FYP/homepage bc I give them 0 interaction. But I know the power of marketing is actively trying to get our attention, so I get it lol
Yes, yes, yes. I rarely get haul recommendations. There is no reason I need to see how many items you got from Target, Amazon, H&M, Zara, or Trader Joe's.
I actually don't mind haul vids, I watch them because they are interesting and I focus on plus sized influencers. I'm not American so I don't have access to the stores so I will not buy. I get her point though
yea they werent always my favorite unless i was looking for a specific type of item, but at least when i was super deep into the makeup channels, haul videos were actually highly requested. i would see the comments.
I don't think I've ever had a haul video suggested to me on YT, and I'm glad; it doesn't interest me, and I don't see the appeal in general! It does make me think about the vastness of the corners of YT, and how they seldom even touch, there's just so much on this website/app it staggers me!
This video is so timely. I JUST HOSTED an intervention with a few friends via zoom to talk about their consumerism practices and how it's causing depression, debt, and narcissist tendencies. Even went through budgeting 101 approaches with 2 of them. Will send them this video as a follow-up 🙌
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I worked with a girl who would track what I wore and tell me when I last wore a certain outfit or top and then ridicule me for wearing the same thing multiple times. Like she literally wrote a description of my outfit on her calendar!
I'm jaded, but the people saying they would forgo healthcare for luxury items are probably the ones who will NEVER have to make that choice. Also, my take away from this video is have better friends, and stay off social media,😆. Very thankful I can be honest with my friends if I can't afford to do something, and I don't feel a need to live my life for views and likes. Keeping up with the Joneses was never my speed.
I notice the normalisation of luxury goods in corners such as stationery, home decor, baby goods. It's pervasive. I switch right off creators who promote any type of haul because the luxury goods are now the inevitable peak of their creation arc. I just want to be allowed to enjoy things without feeling like I should be aspiring towards a $700 planner/bookend/wooden rattle FFS. Consumerism ruins everything.
Pop-culture-like elements such as single-use outfits found their way into the modern goth subculture. This really bothers me because the subculture itself was a branch from counter-culture in the rejection of just accepting societal standards. Outfits that would have typically be constructed of multiple layers and rotational items you wear until you can't anymore (then find a new way to utilize the items). Are marketed and sold online where depictions on social media give the impression that you need to constantly be buying top-tier items from brands like Killstar. It's such a bummer to see.
Also the goth sub-culture, since it has it's roots in punk, was very much associated with DIY items and a unique look. That's why I don't understand the whole goth fast fashion thing, it doesn't make any sense.
@@melisacaceres8740 Completely agree. I do appreciate the wide availability of alternative clothes where I don't have time to DIY everything. At least Killstar, Punk Rave, and a few other brands are high-quality clothes more consciously made. But brands like Dolls Kills are the H&Ms of this space.
Investing in a Dyson is just that, an investment. I love my quality cleaning products and kitchen appliances, because they'll last longer than the cheapo product that was about $20 cheaper in store. I've gotten to a place where I don't make purchases that won't go above and beyond in the purchase price. I even invested in seeds and pots to start growing my own food to save money and eat better
One thing I do when I’m feeling the need to buy impulsively is go through all my stuff… I usually end up making little gift bags for friends and finding things I forgot I had & it’s like shopping from home :)
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“Delete your card info from your browser so at least have to get up and get your card to buy it” Hahaha joke’s on you I have my card numbers memorized 😭😭😭💀
whenever someone says that i always say cancel it and get a new card that you dont know the number of :) simples! unless you have a photographic memory.... then your just screwed haha
Such a good and important video! Also, as a mental health professional, I really appreciated your distinction between clinical depression and the more colloquial use of it.
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getting off social media may solve most of these problems. I've never been into social media so i don't fully understand the desire to maintain a certain lifestyle, dress a certain way, etc. I know i'm vulnerable to it, but being off social media helps me actually not engage.
I was very proud of myself for turning down an invitation from friends to go to this insanely expensive restaurant, because I knew that I have other important expenses and I had to be responsible. And my friends were nice enough to understand that. But yeah, the one habit that I have found myself falling into more often is agreeing in a particular place to eat where most of the menu is outside my budget.
I’m a SAHM and I use to go to the 99cent or the Dollar tree every day after dropping off my kids and buy scrapbook supplies like stickers and stuff. I would drop $20 bucks a day. That crap is $400 a month! After several months of this I ban myself and broke that bad habit. I still have a crap load of scrapbook supplies and this was 4-5 years ago.
Wow, how timely is this video! We were driving yesterday from one state to another and several times we passed these HUGE shopping centers. I found myself wondering how detrimental these places must be to someone who is a compulsive buyer or has a shopping addiction. They are the modern day casinos for people! I have also found myself deleting the people who's haul videos I used to enjoy. I'm on a new year's resolution (I'm great at keeping them) to adhere to a budget for our family and to increase our financial wealth. I was never someone who enjoyed shopping before, but found myself shopping more and more over time. Thank you for speaking such wisdom and I can't wait to see you hit the 1 million subscribers! Love your channel!! Cheers from California!
I returned a lipstick to Ulta today. I have never returned a beauty item EVER! I'm 50. I tried wearing it twice and it made me look like I was dead. I'm so proud of myself. Baby steps.
Depression is a symptom, the underlying cause is loneliness and lack of meaning. I take a picture of anything I'm tempted to buy but don't need; capturing it on my phone is enough to dispel the FOMO. Another rule is to return anything I haven't worn or opened by the last day of end of return period.
Yeah, I've stopped just passively watching haul videos. I try to be more intentional about it now and only watch them if I'm thinking of buying from somewhere new, or I'm interested in a specific item, and want to hear some reviews.
So many good points and insights. I have recently started watching a lot of home decor/vacation rental decor videos and have a noticed a lot of videos with titles about how to make your home look expensive. Really? Is this really what the goal of decorating your home should be? Thanks for another great video!
The best part of this video is me shopping on The Real Real at the same time while watching...you are speaking the truth but always have been a shopper
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2:00 Watching haul videos on youtube or tiktok 7:30 Obsessing over luxury items 11:16 Impulsive or compulsive spending 13:41 Spending because your friends are spending 15:25 Going into debt to fuel your lifestyle Tons of insightful details in each point!
@@DreamingMuse13 I always wondered as someone who has no desire to put on makeup daily for other than the fact I look dead without some mascara what is the desire? Is it as simple as I just feel like it? What is the attraction to it?
@@MrLakers92 I wouldn't call myself a 'makeup head' but since I basically only wear makeup on days when I'm *not* out in public to be seen I think it's relevant - there's just something fun in almost a kid-playing-make-believe way to do really beautiful, dramatic makeup solely to catch glimpses of myself in the mirror and feel fancy while I'm just puttering around my apartment doing chores. I think for a lot of people it's also a form of self- and artistic expression - it just happens to be a very ephemeral medium.
yup, i don’t wear much makeup unless i’m going out which isn’t that often, i have the few essentials that i use and only buy new makeup when i run out of a certain product. i’ve had the same eyeshadow pallets for years lol
as someone with chronic mental and physical conditions, that statistic angered me. i can’t imagine someone being so out of touch with reality that they’d rather spend their money on designer items than having healthcare.
I know someone who didn't pay her self-employment health insurance premiums because she wanted to take a trip abroad. She got injured before the trip, had to cancel and had a $$$$ bill because she wasn't covered. #doh
I DON'T want them to fix the algorithm so that they know what I've already bought! I know you were making a bit of a joke, but seriously I'm okay with seeing ads for things I've bought because they crowd out potential ads for things I don't need.
I too find it amusing that various platforms are desperately trying to sell me something I've already bought, and I like that it crowds out other ads, but it's also just so absurd: "oh, you got an electric kettle? We've got hundreds of electric kettles, you could start collecting them! Look!" I don't want the algorithm fixed, but it is a weird thing to contend with all the same.
My favorite is a friend of mine sent me a link to a really ugly kitchen sink. She knew I would think it was funny and I really did. But what amused me more is that it triggered repeated ads for this ugly sink. It amused me every time as I'd always think "Yup. It's still ugly."
I just want to say I appreciate your realness and directness. It’s SO incredibly refreshing in a world full of fakes and sugar coaters. THANK YOU and every time you upload, I find myself nodding in agreement with everything said💯🥂
Loved this video. I have to say, that after being very careful about what I expose my self to on the internet, these haul videos, particurlarly the lux ones, only seem desperate and vulgar to me. I would not dream about flashing a brand for the sake of it. What does it say about a person? Are you so insecure that you feel you have to hide behind this logo? I. have good coats I`ve owned for 20 years. Also, thank god for channels like this one, and particurlarly the rants. As I`m norwegian, some of the more lokal money stuff does not relate to me, but so much else is helpful. Also I too am in a relationship with a Dyson vacuum cleaner and it gives my life meaning. Love your content, Chelsea. Would really apreciate stuff on brands that are more ethical. I`m wearing my old panties to shreads because I can not bear the thought of wearing garments with drops of blod on them from exploited hands.
This made me realize I want an OOTD account made by someone with a capsule (or just smaller) wardrobe where they show various ways to mix and match pieces. I need to get better at mixing what I have.
Emma Hill and Audrey Coyne are also great channels to watch. I love Alyssa too! Lumiere d’Helen is another one. None of them have capsules but they talk a lot about how to rewear the pieces we already have.
I’m glad you mentioned grocery hauls as being in a slightly different category. I watch grocery haul videos not for specific products but for general shopping strategies and to learn about stores with good deals to be some to shop as frugally as possible
unfortunately she is wrong there. Please read "The logic of stupid poor people" essay by Tressie McMillan Cottom. Mind you, I don't advertise shopping addiction, but luxury items can, and definitely do, carry a certain function in our stupid hyperconsumer society.
Not when everyone has a “Chanel” bag. When everyone has it or desires it or finds a way to get a dupe/fake… the value goes down. 😊 so nope, she is correct.
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Canceling Amazon Prime has saved me SO much money. Whether it's an impulse buy or a need, when I see there's a shipping fee, 7 times out of 10, I put off purchasing, which often turns into me forgetting about it or losing interest.
$500/month on luxury items? Fascinating! What was defined as luxury? Does it include services like professional hair coloring, out-of-network therapy sessions, gym memberships, house cleaning? Or was this just $500 worth of material luxury goods?
In any case, the concept of spending $500/month on anything nonessential is mind-boggling to me! When I'm a little more settled in my adult life, I can imagine have a budget of maybe $100/month on special items, but even that feels indulgent after the dedication I put in to getting debt free, lol I sure hope these folks begin to see the emptiness and overwhelm that comes from this habit. It's so freeing to finally buy only things you need and treating yourself once in a great while to something extra nice ☺
@@Jessica_Jones I’m very settled in my adult life, and the idea of spending 500 dollars a month on luxury goods makes me twitchy. I’d much rather put it in my retirement fund.
Thank you Chelsea for your "vaccine" against mindless spending! I love your channel. I watch Bernadette Banner who is a fashion historian and makes most of her own clothing. She had a video where she said she really has maybe 4 outfits. She knows how to repair them and made most of them so knows the effort that went into so she won't throw them out for a new season. I wonder if bring back sewing would help?
Bernadette is my go-to. She’s the one I turn to if I want to kill a bit of time. I know she’s not one for heavy consumerism so I don’t have to worry about her channel shoving it down my throat when I’m bored. I haven’t gotten brave enough to try a sewing project from her plethora of ideas yet though
The only haul videos I continue to watch are by an Australian RUclipsr named Alex (PrettyPastelPlease). She is always incredibly transparent about whether she spent her own money, sponsorship money, or no money on a haul. She puts up the prices of each item and will comment on whether she actually thinks they're worth the amount they're priced at (watching her roast designer brands for having uncomfortable or shitty clothing while being extremely expensive has gotten me through this global panini). She even did a "vlogmas" style stint in December where she went exclusively to thrift stores to furnish/decorate her house. I really appreciate how realistic and forthright she is, even when she's sponsored by the brand she's doing the haul from.
Hi Chelsea, my name is Giulia and I came across this chanel by accident and am so glad I did. I've seen other videos in which you talk and I subscribed right away because I related soo much! You are objective and sincere and say extremely important things about consumerism and social media, a side which I rarely see people talking about. Anyway, greatings from Brazil!
I must confess I love second hand home and homeware hauls, I use them for scratching the itch of buying stuff without actually buying stuff. I understand that they're not sustainable, though, and that one does not need to buy mugs or cushions every month.
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If your friends are making you uncomfortable because you can keep up with spendings you need new friends.Surround your self with positive ,rational,wise and intelligent people.. you will get far better financially ,emotionally and psychologically
I love fashion but when I watch haul videos it’s usually to look in my closet and see how I can recreate an outfit vs buying the exact same outfit but I definitely understand the impulse to buy especially right now when things feel hopeless.
Great video and great topic! You should continue to talk about this phenomenon. I personally love certain haul videos where the YTber is open and honest - for ex, “I look terrible in this, it’s going back!” Or it’s a wishlist item that they can finally tick off the list. And I personally prefer to see these items on real people much of my shopping is limited to online options and it’s a gamble that I don’t always want to risk. However, the massive consumption of goods expensive or otherwise is overwhelming and I understand the growing negative reaction to them. My only wish is that we were less harsh on the folks making these videos, as folks are starting to do YT full time in growing numbers and this is their way of earning an income and we start becoming more critical of ourselves and realize that their overconsumption is for entertainment purposes only. Our over consumption has real financial ramifications. In a similar vein, folks can consume higher end goods but it should be done in smaller quantities, that’s kind of the point. I buy an expensive bag, so I can wear it for years and years to come and it gets better with age. Not, let’s own 50 purses and 4 see the light of day. But that’s just my opinion 🤷🏽♀️.
I’ve rediscovered thrift stores my mom took us to as kids because I’ve lost 100 lbs and new clothing is a must. I’m in between sizes and I’ve been asking around for clothes from similar sized friends and family to see if ppl want to clean out their closets. I get such a high now when I get a “new” piece of clothing for zero money. I told myself I’m not spending any more money on clothing until I’m done losing weight because I wasted more than I’d like after my 1st 50lbs down and none of that fits anymore.
I wore the same 3 outfits literally all summer, save exercise clothes on active days. If I wasn't working remote, I NEVER would've done this due to the massive stigma around regular outfit repeating. Kinda messed up if you think about it.
Idk how common this is, but I have the opposite of a spending problem. Spending money (especially on myself) is difficult and painful for me. I'd love to see a video on this issue (the psychology behind it, how to enjoy spending your money wisely).
The compulsive spending thing is so real! I have no idea how to curve it for myself. I thought maybe getting a budget would be helpful? It’s hard cuz I have to use social media a lot for my job, but with that comes the overly specific targeted ads that are full of items I actually would love to buy. It’s hard!
The keeping up with friends thing is one I get. I don't feel the need to keep up in most senses, but frequently my friends and I will attend a 1/week free event and then, somehow, every time people will want to go out for dinner after. If I say "it's not in the budget" there's a friend (wonderful person, overly generous, needs to set their own boundaries esp in terms of finance) who will volunteer to cover us, and then "No, I didn't say we could /afford/ it, I said it wasn't in the budget, still love you guys but food at home is already paid for" becomes "oh, we were hoping to spend more time with you :( " and it becomes an unintentional guilt trip. >
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My husband and I thrift and garage sale as a hobby. I'm starting a new thing, buying what I want/need for our house, kids, etc, then buying one or more extra items to ideally resell for the price of everything we bought that day or more. So today I spent around $26 at Goodwill on various things including a nice Crockpot. Trying to sell the Crock-Pot for $25 plus shipping to basically break even on the day. Stoked to find a way to make thrift shopping even more economic!
Consumer culture has made it so easy to buy things that we’re all becoming addicted. The more we buy, the more we need to buy next time to get that same amount of (fleeting) gratification. And those who sell to us do it on purpose, no matter the negative impact on people and the planet. Sometimes I feel so sickened by it all and so anxious about the future that I wish we had some catastrophic event to force us all back into austerity. But then, not even a global pandemic worked :/
I remember about 12 years ago working at Ann Taylor on Valentines Day, and we were closing and this lady comes. She stays in the store up until an hour after we close because we have a policy of not kicking anyone out if they are in the store before we close. Everyone is upset because it’s Valentines Day and we all want to leave and she’s being a pain. She spends about $600; but comes back the following morning and returns EVERYTHING because she claims that we were rude!! Impulse buying at your finest!
to break my habit and addiction of impulse spending, i started going to the library. walking out with a stack of 15 books gives me that rush of getting something new and treating myself without the buyers remorse. it literally does not matter if you read them or not because it costs $0. just return them in two weeks and treat yourself to a new stack
This is such a good idea!!
I do this toooooo!!!
LOVE THIS.
This reminds me of those clothing subscriptions where you get clothes for the month and return it after. I kinda want to try it... not sure if it will help😂
That's genius! ❤️
No one tells us that a huge part of being an adult is finding a vacuum that you love more than most people.
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I spent an effing fortune on a Miele C3, and regret not a penny. I have four pets and no one that walks into my house could tell if they're all in the garage.
Marci Elston I wish my Miele magically resulted in a spotless home. I have found that having a Dyson, a Miele, and an Ecovac Robot sadly still means I have to use them for them to work.
@@lauralaforge558 true.
Yes! I just bought a cordless Bissell stick vacuum with a detachment for cleaning the furniture, too and I love it! I hated vacuuming and realized it was because of having to drag a cord behind me and plug and unplug it from room to room.
I've converted my compulsive need to buy things for a little dopamine rush into buying stocks. I still get that same satisfaction, but now I have the added satisfaction of knowing that I'm saving for the long term and also it's fulfilling to see those investments grow.
My dyslexic brain read 'stocks' as 'socks' and thought it was a great idea 😂
Same, but with index funds
I do that too!!
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@@nebula1oftheseven488 same! 😂
The other day I had the funniest moment with a coworker friend. She asked if I wanted to go shopping with her over the weekend and I said, "No sorry I don't need any clothes." and she was like "why does that mean you can't go shopping?" It took me so long to explain that if I go I will buy crap I don't need or really want... but it made me realize how far I've come with curbing my spending and shopping intentionally! Was kind of a funny moment but made me very proud of myself.
Well done!! You should be very proud of yourself making a change like this ☺️
It’s the best way to go. Buy when you need something like truly need it. With clothes for me it’s easy my weak spot are handbags. I love handbags however I really try to buy them sporadically even me being someone who only buys contemporary designer.
Now there is nothing wrong going to the mall to just do window shopping without buying nothing and go get a coffee and latter going dinner. I do that with some of my friends, we go to have dinner and coffee but before that most times I go with her to the stores and most times she leaves with a shopping bag. She is not a crazy spender she just likes to buy something before we go dinner or lunch.
Nothing wrong going with your friends shopping even if you don’t do any shopping. Just go for the fun ride
That's a wonderful milestone to celebrate on your journey to responsible spending!
It's a shame that you had to forgo spending time with a friend though (unless you secretly thought it would be awkward 😉).
I know some alcoholics who avoid parties, cookouts, bars, etc., because they don't trust themselves around liquor. They miss the comraderie, but alcohol still has hold over them. I know others who can be around it and are neutral, and still others who actually are repulsed by the scent.
Same with ex-cigarette smokers.
I hope you get to the point where shopping and purchases don't trigger much of an emotional response, other than "yay, I can cross that off my list!"
For me, whenever I see "HURRY! SALE ENDS SOON!" I immediately downshift instead. When you feel rushed, you aren't being considerate of your future self, who will most likely feel regretful about the purchase. Another thing I do is keep a running list of things I would like to purchase, like, a new raincoat, or, replacement water filters., so when I go out to the mall I'm focused on what I need, not on what would maybe be nice to own. That way, I get a little endorphin boost when I make the purchase, and another one when I get home because I can cross it off my list. Plus, no regrets - instead I get a feeling that I'm making progress! One more thing you can do is have a designated splurge item for when you go shopping with someone who is in "misery loves company" mode. Choose items that can be given away as gifts, like, scarves or gloves or pillows, or something she doesn't know you splurge on regularly, like fresh flowers, high-end chocolate or imported coffee. That way you're being diplomatic with a weaker friend, and you're not blowing your budget unnecessarily. Basically, have a plan before you go out. It gets to the point where you feel really healthy at the end of your shopping trips!
Best of luck!
I’ve seen resumes where people put shopping as a hobby. I never understood that.
@@carbine090909 that's me too! I literally had to reluctantly pull myself away a few days ago from an outlet store where some pretty handbags were finally in a better price range for me but none of the options were quite perfect for what I need. I was very sad, but knew it was the right choice *because* of how pressured I felt.
Also, I love that idea of keeping a list of the things you actively need. I only keep that list in my head but I do forget what they are at times, lol
YES! Get rid of the haul videos!! Esp the “I bought $1000 worth of the lowest rated clothes on [insert terrible brand]”. Over-consuming for a haul is bad enough but the fact that they return most of the stuff and most of the time returned items are destroyed rather than resold drives me up the wall!
YESSSSS!!! Purposely buying crappy items (and a lot of them) really makes me angry.
Amen! I can’t say I watch a lot of clothing haul videos, but I do watch a lot of tech videos that essentially do the same thing - just disgusting how much bottom of the barrel garbage they will buy and be proud of it. Half the time they destroy the products just for the clicks. It’s disgusting, I’ve unsubscribed from so many of these
People overthrift hauls too.
I will never understand how something that has been made can be destroyed without even having been used 🤦♀️ this is so sad because we are using our scarce resources but apparently some people think clothes grow on trees...
They usually get it free if they got a lot of followers.at my local goodwill you see so many clothes with the tags still on because people are just dumping clothes there
Don’t go into debt to impress a stranger. Or to impress anyone really. Including yourself. xx
Your channel is a gem ^^
Brilliant
Not to mention how this whole 'impressing ppl' toxicity extends into flashy cars and the idea of 'needing' a $700, 000 wedding. No one's looking at you. They're all too busy focusing on what THEY'RE wearing/driving/flashing. We're not in junior high anymore.
Woah, not even yourself? Can u explain that?
The outfit repeater thing is just obnoxious. Traditionally, Japanese women's magazines do "style it different ways" spread of items to show that that they can fit into a wardrobe and be flexible. I really wish that there was more of that energy in American media, especially from influencers (beyond OMG Kate Middleton wore the same coat twice).
This used to be normal in American magazines as well. They would have a months worth of outfits, using the same 6-8 items. But, that seems to have been phased out. Actually, I don’t know anybody who subscribes to printed magazines anymore (I’m gen x, if that matters). They may very well still have this in some printed magazines.
I read a blog called The Daily Connoisseur, she talks about her time as an American on exchange in France. She was stunned that even the wealthier women had closets of a dozen items at most. She ended up committed to a capsule wardrobe even years later for the decision freedom.
It’s all about the money
I remember egg magazine “from japan” did that same concept with mix n matching certain items into different outfits for the week.
People be acting like we don't have washing machines
I stopped buying clothes because I realized none of them would fill any sort of emotional whole I had. Loved this one Chelsea!
Renting formal outfits are great
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I had to take a step back to realize I was addicted to retail therapy.
@@carolinelaronda4523 that was unnecessary, on that note, god bless you and have a nice day ☺️.
Dude. Same.
2:00 Watching Haul Videos
7:26 Obsessing Over Luxury Items
11:17 Impulsive Spending
13:39 Spending Because Your Friends are Spending
15:26 Going into debt to fuel your lifestyle
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I only spend after all my money is properly allocated and if there's some left then I shop cash only
Thank you! This was a god-send lol.
How great would it be, if she just got to the point, instead of rambling
You are a blessing! ❇️
I never understood why "outfit repeater" is a stigma that exists. If you only like an item enough to wear once - frankly, you don't really like it.
(Sure, exceptions for wedding dresses and the like if you prefer, but I mean for everyday wear and even special occasions.)
Right? If I like something, I wear it constantly!
The only time repeating an outfit was stigmatized to my knowledge was in the beginning of The Lizzie McGuire Movie
I always thought that stigma was about lack of creativity rather than having too few items. Like you're not supposed to wear the exact same combination of items several times a week or even more than once or twice a month because it looks boring and like you're not "putting in effort". I always thought of it as some standard that really fashionable people have but the rest of us don't really care and probably would never notice.
I know right. I’m an outfit repeater I couldn’t afford new clothes left and right and because why not. People used to make fun of me now people are doing capsule wardrobes. I was doing that before it was a thing
Omg... In this recent, never-ending Lockdown, I have been wearing same tracksuit practically every day. (Different tops and underwear!) Lately I have noticed staff at my local takeaway places starting to speak to me as though I am "special". Under "normal" circumstances I work in corporate environment so I'm enjoying the break from having to find something "new" to wear each day.
Do a video about the phenomena of people pretending to be rich. That topic really fascinates me
I’d say that it is appropriate to treat yourself to a small item once per month as it does help with morale, BUT ONLY if you don’t have any debts that needs to be paid and the item’s price tag is within your budget
I would love to watch this!
One of my friends is always on ig with Gucci and Chanel purses so I asked her ex boyfriend how in the f she can afford these things. Well, he told me is all fake she buy them from dhgate. I laughed so hard.
She weaves in this topic into all her videos yet a specific video about the consequences of such behavior would be an excellent deep dive. An interview or feature with someone who learned from this toxic behavior would be interesting to watch! Good idea
This would be great. I associate with "genuine money" carrying designer bags, and then I see others in the same circle who I know are limited in their means (moreso than me) and are also rocking designer bags, and I think "hang on I'm here with my $150 'splurge bag' that I wear everywhere and you're rocking a new designer piece, how is this possible". Different priorities. Different debt levels. Okay. And the bags do look nice! I'd just personally struggle to justify it. I am interested for a Chelsea deep dive.
Is it just me or is the rich pretending to be poor more of a phenomena? I get the other way around because it’s the poor who are stigmatised.
It’s so obvious with gentrification happening globally
In 2020, I sold or donated almost ALL of my wardrobe. I finally got a job last month and bought a small wardrobe of quality over quantity (no fast fashion) clothing. Now, I actually have more to wear (everything goes well together). Also, I don't feel any need to purchase a lot of items, in fact, I feel amazing saying no to clothes I know I do not need. What a change!
yess!
This is a good one! I'm so tired of "influencers" peddling this lazy ass content on social media where all they do is buy things or push other people to buy things so they can get views, commissions, sponsorships, etc while doing minimal work and promoting horribly unsustainable habits. People need to wake up!
I've been saying this for yrs and get comments from ppl implying I'm jealous lol that's how sleepy /toxic our society is...gonna take a while for ppl to wake up
“Now you’re just you with a Chanel purse” 💀
That cracked me up
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So very true 🤣
Aaaah… but I would look so good with a Chanel purse 😁
OUCH!
😂😂😂 - now you still you - even 500 $ poorer.
I have deleted Instagram from my phone because I realized that almost 90% of my purchases in the past 6 years had been made as a result of seeing beautiful people wearing these items. It might sound ridiculous, it IS!! But that’s my case. I didn’t spend a lot, but I was buying items that didn’t help me be a better person (as you say: I was the same person, with just more luxury items in my closet). So I stopped watching and scrolling and I’ve been one month without spending - feels so good! Thanks for another great video ❤️
Same! I deleted it about 2 years ago. It's just a shopping app. Every post is an ad in some shape or form. It fills me with dread when someone shows me instagram on their phone. The whole thing is ew.
It's truly bonkers our attitude towards clothing. The average person in the west had between 5-10 outfits which they made LAST. Clothing was routinely handed down through the generations and made over to match current fashions without wasting precious fabric. Clothing was also proportionally much more expensive to produce and buy; our modern fast fashion is almost entirely down to slave or at least exploitative labor and cheap materials. /rant (this takes up SO much space in my head...)
I'll add to this - what annoys me is that imo you can even make buying clothes a hobby without being wasteful about it.
I'm someone who likes clothes and likes having lots of outfits to choose from. I wouldn't be happy with just 10, but I still consider everything I buy a long-term investment and everything in my large wardrobe gets worn.
I also think it's ok to make buying mistakes if you learn from them, but unfortunately a lot of people don't seem to take the time to do that.
It's also still ok to be spontaneous if you use a charity shop - not really a downside to it in that scenario.
And of course you can try on things and return them! It's actually really fun to do, I don't understand why hauls don't take this approach? Just play out a romcom makeover scene, it's way more interesting to watch!
The saddest part of this is that even if you want to sew your own clothes, the fabrics that are commonly available in shops now are such poor quality AND even if you spend what I think of as a hefty amount of money on an item of clothing, eg $140 for a day dress, there’s no guarantee that it’s a quality made product that will last.
@@melissahoneybee8493 I kept old clothes that don't fit , have holes and that I no longer wear so I can repurpose them .. good place to shop for fabric if need be is at a thrift store or in your own closet..
The unwrap videos for small children are super popular. Kids love watching toys being unpackaged. Sometimes played with, sometimes just unwrapped. It's like consumer training wheels.
I feel one major side effect of constantly consuming (esp clothes for me ) is that you appreciate each Item you receive or buy way less as it just feels normal. When I’ve slowed down buying it makes it so when I do bring a new piece in it definitely feels like a more special experience and I take better care of it because it feels far more valuable.
agree with this 100%! and you stop thinking only about what the next item you’ll be getting is, but actually appreciating what you do have.
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One thing I like to do to curb my fast fashion spending is to "buy" all the clothing options in Animal Crossing. My ACNH closet is about 1200 items large and all hand-made by a small business run by hedgehog sisters. I can put together the most outlandish OOTDs with no negative financial impact while having a minimal, comfortable wardrobe IRL.
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Ayyyy me too! Also keeps me from buying new furniture IRL. 😄
This is me and even in animal crossing I’m starting to realize I overspent, il gonna get rid of like half of my closet
I do the same but with Genshin Impact, Minecraft, and other "collectible/creative" games. It's strangely satisfying.
I think "haul" videos definitely impacted Millennials spending from 2010 to now. It definitely did for me. I can not count the number of beauty items I have purchased because of RUclips beauty gurus.
Not to mention how many of them were such a waste of money 🤦🏻♀️
Whenever I get an itch to buy, I think about useful things that I need like grocery, pharmacy stuff, punch cards for sports activities, etc. and honestly it gets my itch to spend and I feel way better for controlling myself from buying clothes, which I used to do!
i love how you talk about the absurdity of micro seasons... we all need to get behind the idea of only 2 real seasons... fall/winter and summer/spring
I would argue there are 3 main seasons. The very cold one. The very warm one. And the in between one.
@@Vangle-icarus ^^ funny & true !
I used to live in a climate with four seasons for real, spring and fall were too distinct to really wear all the same clothes (except obvious stuff like rain boots or jackets), but I'm with you in spirit; 52 "micro seasons" of clothes is completely bonkers, bad for the environment, and I'm not here for it!
Michigan may seem like it has that many seasons, but it changes multiple times in a day. 😅 I’ve adapted by getting very good at layering.
The climate where I live is volatile and we dress in layers. I wear the same tshirts and tank tops 12 months a year, and I just add cardigans, hoodies, and scarves over it. I do need more clothes than a more stable climate, but I don't need a completely different outfit for a 30 degree day than what I would wear for a 50 degree day.
One trick I have learned to avoid impulse buying clothes is to hold the item while perusing others. After a few minutes of "possesion" I come to my senses and put it back. 🙂
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I've inadvertently done this so many times and I always put the item back!
12:10 makes me think of a tweet I saw: “targeted advertising has decided that my recent dehumidifier purchase is only the first in my newfound hobby of dehumidifier collecting” 😄
If anyone is looking for fashion influencers that promote slow fashion over consumerism, Alyssa Beltempo, Audrey Coyne, Emma Hill, and Lumiere d’Helen are wonderful channels to watch. They all have great tips and Alyssa has a series of copying Pinterest/celebrity outfits using things from her own closet w/o buying more items. They’re wonderful and have all changed the way I look at buying clothes.
And Justine Leconte.
🎀Thank you.🎀
my girls! love them all, and on plus side, they are never boring
don't forget Daria Andronescu ^^
I follow Audrey Coyne. She's great
I'm fascinated at how "luxury" items (handbags, shoes, accessories, clothes) for your average, everyday person has become so normalized. I watch a lot of luxury channels (just because I like fashion) and so many just drop, like, $5,000 on ONE handbag and don't blink an eye! When did that happen??
I broke my shopping habit by picturing the fancy item I wanted to buy crumpled up on the bottom of my bedroom closet because the truth is, once you buy it the thrill wears off quickly and it just becomes another item in your closet. I also started taking pictures of things I wanted to buy so I could think about it and I ended up not buying the item.
One of these days I was REALLY REALLY sad and didn’t know what to do, so I went to the store and bought all the stuff that I needed to buy (new toothbrush, pasta, headache medicine, etc) but hadn’t bought yet because I just forget to do so. Made me a bit better, distracted me for a while and was 100% useful.
Amazing video, thank you Chelsea . Also, as a 35 yo I feel kind of disconnected from this tiktok and Instagram influencer culture, crazy hauls, etc. and I’m kind of relieved it was not really a thing when I was in my teens and early 20s . Or maybe I just live under a rock, lol. But I do feel bad for today’s teens who are basically born into it.
I'm almost 40, and I agree that it must be hard to be 20-something now and have social media constantly implying to you that you are or could be "a big deal," and that you should pursue fame or notoriety alongside or instead of pursuing who you want to be.
Of course, it's easy for me to say, I have a lot of things figured out about myself that few 20-somethings understand yet (experience almost makes up for the aches and pains y'all!), and one always assumes one knows more than they do, and we all often imagine we grew up in superior or ideal conditions. Maybe the social media overload will prod more modern younger people toward greater self-perspective and authenticity. I certainly hope so.
Pardon me to comment on this lovely madams. What you are saying is right in my opinion.
There is pressure (visible or invisible) from media social and their peers, whenever they follow the same age influencer, celebrities or friends.
The pressure to show they also get everything right and not fall behind, from their ability to buy whatever they want, their life (single or married), etc.
It... Make some of them goes into over-consumpsion (on things or food including hauls), while also pushing them to debts. Loads of debts.
I mean i know there is unavoided debts like student loan or loan to buy house, but the pressure is literaly throwing the mentally not matured young people to deeper pits. On... Both debts and unhealthy mental health.
I'm 38 & take great pride in not having a Tik Tok account, which I see as being a platform strictly for teenagers.
I try not to be mean, but when someone my age tells me they have a Tik Tok account, it's hard not to judge them for it.
Are they a paedo? Do they have a 5 second attention span? Do they have horrible taste in comedy? Are they mentally immature?
Great video! :) This helps me to not buy things I don't need:
1. I deleted ALL shopping apps from my phone, so I don't get tempted to "have a look" when I get bored
2. I unfollwed influencers who practice a lifestyle of overconsumption and brands that I like to not get tempted
3. I have a small closet so I divided my wardrobe into spring/summer and autumn/winter to have a better overlook. Every half a year I empty my entire closet and have a look at the garments and divide them into 3 piles (1. what I wore a lot, 2. Damaged or items that are not suitable to wear anymore, 3. Stuff I didn't wear). I will take pictures the garments of pile number one (usually around 25 items) and store the pictures on my phone, so I can look at them right before the next season to see what matches my current wardrobe if I see something that I like. Pile Nr 2 will be fixed and/or transferred to "clothes for paint jobs, gardening, the woods etc" or thrown away if they are too damaged. Pile number 3: I try to ask myself why I didn't wear it (bad weather, changes in size, I didn't like it anymore, no occasion). If there is a reason to keep it for the next season I will, if not I'll give it to friends, donate it or sell it online. This sounds like a lot of work, but it is usually a fun weekend/Sunday :-)
4. To stop me from compulsive buying I will sleep over an item for a couple of days (weeks if possible) and will have a look at my garment pictures and how it will fit in my wardrobe and if it is something that I will actually wear. I figured that in 90% of the cases I don't go back to purchase the item bc the initial spark vanished
5. I stopped buying memories when traveling and reduced it to one item max.
6. Before the season starts I will have a look at what I really need and set a budget. My birthday is in June, so I usually ask for one item as a birthday gift for my summer wardrobe/decorations/cosmetic etc and for Christmas for the winter season. I really like the idea of a capsule wardrobe and so far it works very well for me (in an extended version of around 25 items). I really like mood boards (I work in Marketing) so I like to display the pictures (you see I keep coming back to my pictures haha) of my current garments on a mood board and play with it by adding a new color that I like, shape and cut (usually for bottoms), textures (like wool, leather, cotton, jacquard), a new type of shoe and (this is my favorite) a new belt to spice up and modernize my closet for the next season. I follow a couple of capsule wardrobe influencers to get some inspiration :-)
7. I try to buy high quality and sustainable products and first have a look at second hand platforms (I have 2 brands which I really love, so these are usually my go to options). However I try to purchase 2-3 items that I really like and need, instead of 20 mediocre items.
8. I try to eliminate repetitive and expensive habits, like buying a coffee at the coffee shop before work (I have my coffee at home or put it in a tumbler), eating out every single day bc there was "no time" to prepare my lunch etc.
9. I safe 50% of the money that I don't spend on stuff that I don't need (usually a fixed sum each month at the beginning of the month) and put it in a separate account. I don't have a credit card or debit card for this account and it is reserved to spend it on a down payment for a house, my retirement, my future kids or whatever. The rest of the money I use for activities (memories): with my friends, traveling, maybe a new hobby, books etc.
Maybe this is helpful for anyone :-)
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Wouldn't be amazing to see the day where wasteful spending is just so passé? This is why I dove in so hard into DIY videos and learned to sew in order to breathe new life into my wardrobe. It's time to get real, yo.
They say us dutchies are cheap, but perhaps we're ahead of the times then? Happens quite often that people show off how little they spend on something..
"Hey I like the dress you're wearing"
"OMG THANKS IT WAS ONLY 50 CENTS AT THE THRIFT STORE!!!"
Do you have any sewing machine recommendations? I've been using one from the 70s that I got for free in a Buy Nothing group but I think it's finally on it's last leg.
@@laurenneely645 I actually bought the homebrand of our local drugstore a couple of years ago and it's still working fine for basic reparations 🙈 I'm not a sewing guru, but theres this one second hand store that has a sewing atelier and also gives workshops on how to be a part of the circular economy when it comes to fashion. There should be more initiatives like that!
I can't tell you the amount of money I've spent on crafts, though :-(
Yes, absolutely!!
This is the reason why I don’t watch makeup channels anymore (unless the content is an anti-haul). I would spend so much money on makeup I CAN’T EVEN WEAR BECAUSE WE’RE IN A PLAGUE
this is a mood.
Seriously. I cut way back on the amount of makeup content I watch, because I primarily wanted reviews or tips and tricks, but it seems like every channel became so focused on HAULS which don't tell me anything about how good the makeup is. Even if you swatch it on your arm, that doesn't tell me how long it lasts, how it feels on your lips, whether that sparkly eyeshadow is gonna rain glitter onto your cheeks all day.
@@aydinasivertsen8139 Agree completely! Kimberly Clark had the best balance of humor and anti-consumerism and really pointing out how/why a launch was redundant or gimmicky. A lot of other channels seemed to just be jumping on the trend without considering the overall message.
if any of you would like to get back into some makeup videos i’d recommend youtubers like robert welsh and bailey sarian. entertaining and informative!
SAME the only ones I’ve watched in years are nisapisa’s antihauls because my obsession with beauty vloggers in high school 2012-2016 ruined my perception of myself. I didn’t know about filters, ring lights, and blur effects at the time and I thought people’s skin ACTUALLY LOOKED LIKE RUclipsRS ON CAMERA
feel like i’m sort of in the throes of somewhat of a shopping addiction to distract myself from my struggles with depression. this video truly resonated with me.
I'm reminded of the Australian news anchor who got called out for wearing the same blouse a second time 4 months later. Whereas a male anchor wore the same suit every day for a year and no one noticed.
(I think my comment before got deleted because I tried to credit my source, and references to other sites are probably banned, not the content, I don't think this is off topic or offensive! So leaving this uncredited).
It's been 3 years since I bought any new pieces of clothing, I take mine or my mum's old clothes to the tailor and get them altered to my requirements and taste :) also starting a mutual exchange community locally where we can swap clothes rather than buy :)
I occasionally watch book hauls and they don't have all the same negative underpinnings as clothing or makeup hauls but they can cause stress and FOMO. And bookstores are starting to lean into that culture as well. There's a peer pressure in some parts of the reading community to read a crap ton of books every month/year, which leads to people speedreading and not taking time to savor or enjoy reading because they're always thinking about their endless TBR list.
I'm not so much afraid of being seen in the same outfit twice as I am afraid that wearing/washing a piece of clothing too often will deteriorate it to the point it's unwearable. Shirts that I've had for only 2 months already have holes all over them.
Yes! Overconsumption on BookTube is real too, not just for clothing
Yeah the clothing thing is also my fear. I’ve heard that hang drying instead of using a dryer helps so I do that sometimes with clothes that seem more fragile
Wow even booktube has been infiltrated 😨
I was thinking about houseplant community and all the hauls there :) yes, it is a thing. And a rare houseplant can cost more than a designer handbag so were are not talking pennies here.
You hit the nail on the head with this one. I’m in my 40s and enjoy watching style and etiquette videos for mid aged chicas like myself. And EVERYONE has MULTIPLE fracking designer purses, tote bags, handle bags, cross body bags, wallets and WALLS of off-the-wall priced luxury perfumes and shoes. I’ve come to appreciate those quality content creators who teach how to rock a 10 item wardrobe because it’s just crazy in these social media streets.
I think something people (viewers/consumers) also need to understand and remind themselves is that they don’t need to purchase everything they see in these videos + you have the choice to simply not consume this content unless you need to. It’s definitely easier said than done and I know it will take a collective effort to lower the popularity of hauls, but these videos do so well because we give them that power and attention. I never see hauls on my FYP/homepage bc I give them 0 interaction. But I know the power of marketing is actively trying to get our attention, so I get it lol
Yes, yes, yes. I rarely get haul recommendations. There is no reason I need to see how many items you got from Target, Amazon, H&M, Zara, or Trader Joe's.
I actually don't mind haul vids, I watch them because they are interesting and I focus on plus sized influencers. I'm not American so I don't have access to the stores so I will not buy. I get her point though
yea they werent always my favorite unless i was looking for a specific type of item, but at least when i was super deep into the makeup channels, haul videos were actually highly requested. i would see the comments.
I don't think I've ever had a haul video suggested to me on YT, and I'm glad; it doesn't interest me, and I don't see the appeal in general! It does make me think about the vastness of the corners of YT, and how they seldom even touch, there's just so much on this website/app it staggers me!
This video is so timely. I JUST HOSTED an intervention with a few friends via zoom to talk about their consumerism practices and how it's causing depression, debt, and narcissist tendencies. Even went through budgeting 101 approaches with 2 of them. Will send them this video as a follow-up 🙌
The FOMO spending is such a real struggle. Thank you for addressing it!
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I worked with a girl who would track what I wore and tell me when I last wore a certain outfit or top and then ridicule me for wearing the same thing multiple times. Like she literally wrote a description of my outfit on her calendar!
Oh wow, intense
Maybe she felt insecure about not owning a washing maschine
I'm jaded, but the people saying they would forgo healthcare for luxury items are probably the ones who will NEVER have to make that choice.
Also, my take away from this video is have better friends, and stay off social media,😆. Very thankful I can be honest with my friends if I can't afford to do something, and I don't feel a need to live my life for views and likes. Keeping up with the Joneses was never my speed.
@The Financial Diet You forgot to mention you're a scammer. Idk what you're doing around these parts but it's best you go.
I notice the normalisation of luxury goods in corners such as stationery, home decor, baby goods. It's pervasive. I switch right off creators who promote any type of haul because the luxury goods are now the inevitable peak of their creation arc. I just want to be allowed to enjoy things without feeling like I should be aspiring towards a $700 planner/bookend/wooden rattle FFS. Consumerism ruins everything.
Pop-culture-like elements such as single-use outfits found their way into the modern goth subculture. This really bothers me because the subculture itself was a branch from counter-culture in the rejection of just accepting societal standards. Outfits that would have typically be constructed of multiple layers and rotational items you wear until you can't anymore (then find a new way to utilize the items). Are marketed and sold online where depictions on social media give the impression that you need to constantly be buying top-tier items from brands like Killstar. It's such a bummer to see.
Also the goth sub-culture, since it has it's roots in punk, was very much associated with DIY items and a unique look. That's why I don't understand the whole goth fast fashion thing, it doesn't make any sense.
The goth and rock lifestyle has become more of a fashion statement over the last few years.
@@melisacaceres8740 Completely agree. I do appreciate the wide availability of alternative clothes where I don't have time to DIY everything. At least Killstar, Punk Rave, and a few other brands are high-quality clothes more consciously made. But brands like Dolls Kills are the H&Ms of this space.
Investing in a Dyson is just that, an investment. I love my quality cleaning products and kitchen appliances, because they'll last longer than the cheapo product that was about $20 cheaper in store. I've gotten to a place where I don't make purchases that won't go above and beyond in the purchase price. I even invested in seeds and pots to start growing my own food to save money and eat better
One thing I do when I’m feeling the need to buy impulsively is go through all my stuff… I usually end up making little gift bags for friends and finding things I forgot I had & it’s like shopping from home :)
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“Delete your card info from your browser so at least have to get up and get your card to buy it”
Hahaha joke’s on you I have my card numbers memorized 😭😭😭💀
whenever someone says that i always say cancel it and get a new card that you dont know the number of :) simples! unless you have a photographic memory.... then your just screwed haha
Uh-oh! Hahaha
Me too!
Such a good and important video! Also, as a mental health professional, I really appreciated your distinction between clinical depression and the more colloquial use of it.
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getting off social media may solve most of these problems. I've never been into social media so i don't fully understand the desire to maintain a certain lifestyle, dress a certain way, etc. I know i'm vulnerable to it, but being off social media helps me actually not engage.
Agreed!
I was very proud of myself for turning down an invitation from friends to go to this insanely expensive restaurant, because I knew that I have other important expenses and I had to be responsible. And my friends were nice enough to understand that. But yeah, the one habit that I have found myself falling into more often is agreeing in a particular place to eat where most of the menu is outside my budget.
I'm that person most likely to not be able to walk out of Target without spending at least $30. It is insane. LOVED this video, Chelsea!!
$30? i can't leave without spending 100
Yeah usually just makeup I won’t even wear 😒 This is why I refuse to go into a store out of boredom anymore… or online!
I’m a SAHM and I use to go to the 99cent or the Dollar tree every day after dropping off my kids and buy scrapbook supplies like stickers and stuff. I would drop $20 bucks a day. That crap is $400 a month! After several months of this I ban myself and broke that bad habit. I still have a crap load of scrapbook supplies and this was 4-5 years ago.
Wow, how timely is this video! We were driving yesterday from one state to another and several times we passed these HUGE shopping centers. I found myself wondering how detrimental these places must be to someone who is a compulsive buyer or has a shopping addiction. They are the modern day casinos for people! I have also found myself deleting the people who's haul videos I used to enjoy. I'm on a new year's resolution (I'm great at keeping them) to adhere to a budget for our family and to increase our financial wealth. I was never someone who enjoyed shopping before, but found myself shopping more and more over time. Thank you for speaking such wisdom and I can't wait to see you hit the 1 million subscribers! Love your channel!! Cheers from California!
I returned a lipstick to Ulta today. I have never returned a beauty item EVER! I'm 50. I tried wearing it twice and it made me look like I was dead. I'm so proud of myself. Baby steps.
Depression is a symptom, the underlying cause is loneliness and lack of meaning. I take a picture of anything I'm tempted to buy but don't need; capturing it on my phone is enough to dispel the FOMO. Another rule is to return anything I haven't worn or opened by the last day of end of return period.
Yeah, I've stopped just passively watching haul videos. I try to be more intentional about it now and only watch them if I'm thinking of buying from somewhere new, or I'm interested in a specific item, and want to hear some reviews.
So many good points and insights. I have recently started watching a lot of home decor/vacation rental decor videos and have a noticed a lot of videos with titles about how to make your home look expensive. Really? Is this really what the goal of decorating your home should be? Thanks for another great video!
Totally! And the amount of money spent on 'make-overs' that aren't eben going to last more than 2 years, since it is often bald done, is astounding!
Home decor is the new fast fashion. I fkn hate interior decorating channels. Vapid, wasteful industry.
Investing is buying yourself a better future you don't have to work hard again.
You can say that again.
I have achieved many things in my life since I started investing.
Speaking of investment, I've been finding it difficult choosing between real estate and Crypto, Stock investing.
@@kelvinl.3875 You sounded like a motivational speaker, And I hate your kind.😒
@@jasmineheidi1427 I'm into real estate investing.
The best part of this video is me shopping on The Real Real at the same time while watching...you are speaking the truth but always have been a shopper
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"Now you are just you with a Chanel bag".... wow I felt that. Chelsea dropping hard truths
2:00 Watching haul videos on youtube or tiktok
7:30 Obsessing over luxury items
11:16 Impulsive or compulsive spending
13:41 Spending because your friends are spending
15:25 Going into debt to fuel your lifestyle
Tons of insightful details in each point!
in other words, stop spending money you don't have on crap you don't need to impress people who don't care
@@bluejedi723 exactly.
Stopped buying makeup. I realized I hate people and avoid them as much as I can. A hermit doesn't need much lol
Can’t relate. The dilemma most makeup heads and I have is we do makeup for ourselves. Can’t out hermit myself.
@@DreamingMuse13 I always wondered as someone who has no desire to put on makeup daily for other than the fact I look dead without some mascara what is the desire? Is it as simple as I just feel like it? What is the attraction to it?
@@MrLakers92 I wouldn't call myself a 'makeup head' but since I basically only wear makeup on days when I'm *not* out in public to be seen I think it's relevant - there's just something fun in almost a kid-playing-make-believe way to do really beautiful, dramatic makeup solely to catch glimpses of myself in the mirror and feel fancy while I'm just puttering around my apartment doing chores. I think for a lot of people it's also a form of self- and artistic expression - it just happens to be a very ephemeral medium.
yup, i don’t wear much makeup unless i’m going out which isn’t that often, i have the few essentials that i use and only buy new makeup when i run out of a certain product. i’ve had the same eyeshadow pallets for years lol
Foregoing healthcare for luxury items!?!?!?!? That’s insane. 😱
as someone with chronic mental and physical conditions, that statistic angered me. i can’t imagine someone being so out of touch with reality that they’d rather spend their money on designer items than having healthcare.
I know someone who didn't pay her self-employment health insurance premiums because she wanted to take a trip abroad. She got injured before the trip, had to cancel and had a $$$$ bill because she wasn't covered. #doh
Embarrassing. Like, GET your priorities TOGETHER 🥴
I love how these videos are like a mix of counselling and financial advice
I DON'T want them to fix the algorithm so that they know what I've already bought! I know you were making a bit of a joke, but seriously I'm okay with seeing ads for things I've bought because they crowd out potential ads for things I don't need.
@The Financial Diet go away scammer
I hate that algorithm but I am going to look at it like that now. At least I am not tempted to buy something new. 😁
seriously - I looked for and purchased a new TP holder. Now I have ads for those everywhere, and it amuses me.
I too find it amusing that various platforms are desperately trying to sell me something I've already bought, and I like that it crowds out other ads, but it's also just so absurd: "oh, you got an electric kettle? We've got hundreds of electric kettles, you could start collecting them! Look!" I don't want the algorithm fixed, but it is a weird thing to contend with all the same.
My favorite is a friend of mine sent me a link to a really ugly kitchen sink. She knew I would think it was funny and I really did. But what amused me more is that it triggered repeated ads for this ugly sink. It amused me every time as I'd always think "Yup. It's still ugly."
hauls give me feeling of anxiety, anger and frustration because they are the epiphany of what's wrong with our economy and life style and environment
I just want to say I appreciate your realness and directness. It’s SO incredibly refreshing in a world full of fakes and sugar coaters. THANK YOU and every time you upload, I find myself nodding in agreement with everything said💯🥂
Loved this video. I have to say, that after being very careful about what I expose my self to on the internet, these haul videos, particurlarly the lux ones, only seem desperate and vulgar to me. I would not dream about flashing a brand for the sake of it. What does it say about a person? Are you so insecure that you feel you have to hide behind this logo? I. have good coats I`ve owned for 20 years. Also, thank god for channels like this one, and particurlarly the rants. As I`m norwegian, some of the more lokal money stuff does not relate to me, but so much else is helpful. Also I too am in a relationship with a Dyson vacuum cleaner and it gives my life meaning. Love your content, Chelsea. Would really apreciate stuff on brands that are more ethical. I`m wearing my old panties to shreads because I can not bear the thought of wearing garments with drops of blod on them from exploited hands.
This made me realize I want an OOTD account made by someone with a capsule (or just smaller) wardrobe where they show various ways to mix and match pieces. I need to get better at mixing what I have.
Alyssa Beltempo is great for “slow” fashion.
Emma Hill and Audrey Coyne are also great channels to watch. I love Alyssa too! Lumiere d’Helen is another one. None of them have capsules but they talk a lot about how to rewear the pieces we already have.
Also, A Small Wardrobe is fantastic!
I watch Justine Leconte and Useless (Use Less, by Signa from Denmark) and they both talk about this type of stuff.
I’m glad you mentioned grocery hauls as being in a slightly different category. I watch grocery haul videos not for specific products but for general shopping strategies and to learn about stores with good deals to be some to shop as frugally as possible
I always think of that Freckle quote! Such a great thing to remember
"Now you're y just YOU with a Chanel bag" damn !!!! Right on my ego
unfortunately she is wrong there. Please read "The logic of stupid poor people" essay by Tressie McMillan Cottom. Mind you, I don't advertise shopping addiction, but luxury items can, and definitely do, carry a certain function in our stupid hyperconsumer society.
Not when everyone has a “Chanel” bag. When everyone has it or desires it or finds a way to get a dupe/fake… the value goes down. 😊 so nope, she is correct.
I literally cackled at “get right with God” 😂😂😂😂 that was so perfect!
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Canceling Amazon Prime has saved me SO much money. Whether it's an impulse buy or a need, when I see there's a shipping fee, 7 times out of 10, I put off purchasing, which often turns into me forgetting about it or losing interest.
Listening to these videos while I'm out shopping definitely helps to curb impulse spending
$500/month on luxury items? Fascinating! What was defined as luxury? Does it include services like professional hair coloring, out-of-network therapy sessions, gym memberships, house cleaning? Or was this just $500 worth of material luxury goods?
Considering that statistic was paired with Gucci ads on TikTok, I’m assuming it’s material luxury goods.
“Luxury item” means luxury good/product, luxury services are a whole different beast…
In any case, the concept of spending $500/month on anything nonessential is mind-boggling to me! When I'm a little more settled in my adult life, I can imagine have a budget of maybe $100/month on special items, but even that feels indulgent after the dedication I put in to getting debt free, lol
I sure hope these folks begin to see the emptiness and overwhelm that comes from this habit. It's so freeing to finally buy only things you need and treating yourself once in a great while to something extra nice ☺
@@Jessica_Jones I’m very settled in my adult life, and the idea of spending 500 dollars a month on luxury goods makes me twitchy. I’d much rather put it in my retirement fund.
@@lulubelle65 totally!!
Thank you Chelsea for your "vaccine" against mindless spending! I love your channel. I watch Bernadette Banner who is a fashion historian and makes most of her own clothing. She had a video where she said she really has maybe 4 outfits. She knows how to repair them and made most of them so knows the effort that went into so she won't throw them out for a new season. I wonder if bring back sewing would help?
Bernadette is my go-to. She’s the one I turn to if I want to kill a bit of time. I know she’s not one for heavy consumerism so I don’t have to worry about her channel shoving it down my throat when I’m bored. I haven’t gotten brave enough to try a sewing project from her plethora of ideas yet though
Her wardrobe is huge though, no?
Haul videos are really good for deciding what not to buy though
Really? I'd rather see a review/ reccomendation after using the item(s)
I'm a female millenial and all of these points are sooo relatable. Insightful content & a much needed reminder for the time we live in right now! ❤
The only haul videos I continue to watch are by an Australian RUclipsr named Alex (PrettyPastelPlease). She is always incredibly transparent about whether she spent her own money, sponsorship money, or no money on a haul. She puts up the prices of each item and will comment on whether she actually thinks they're worth the amount they're priced at (watching her roast designer brands for having uncomfortable or shitty clothing while being extremely expensive has gotten me through this global panini). She even did a "vlogmas" style stint in December where she went exclusively to thrift stores to furnish/decorate her house. I really appreciate how realistic and forthright she is, even when she's sponsored by the brand she's doing the haul from.
Hi Chelsea, my name is Giulia and I came across this chanel by accident and am so glad I did. I've seen other videos in which you talk and I subscribed right away because I related soo much! You are objective and sincere and say extremely important things about consumerism and social media, a side which I rarely see people talking about. Anyway, greatings from Brazil!
I must confess I love second hand home and homeware hauls, I use them for scratching the itch of buying stuff without actually buying stuff. I understand that they're not sustainable, though, and that one does not need to buy mugs or cushions every month.
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If your friends are making you uncomfortable because you can keep up with spendings you need new friends.Surround your self with positive ,rational,wise and intelligent people.. you will get far better financially ,emotionally and psychologically
Love this channel and how we can learn from other people's experiences
@The Financial Diet nope. Just nope.
I love fashion but when I watch haul videos it’s usually to look in my closet and see how I can recreate an outfit vs buying the exact same outfit but I definitely understand the impulse to buy especially right now when things feel hopeless.
Great video and great topic! You should continue to talk about this phenomenon. I personally love certain haul videos where the YTber is open and honest - for ex, “I look terrible in this, it’s going back!” Or it’s a wishlist item that they can finally tick off the list. And I personally prefer to see these items on real people much of my shopping is limited to online options and it’s a gamble that I don’t always want to risk. However, the massive consumption of goods expensive or otherwise is overwhelming and I understand the growing negative reaction to them. My only wish is that we were less harsh on the folks making these videos, as folks are starting to do YT full time in growing numbers and this is their way of earning an income and we start becoming more critical of ourselves and realize that their overconsumption is for entertainment purposes only. Our over consumption has real financial ramifications. In a similar vein, folks can consume higher end goods but it should be done in smaller quantities, that’s kind of the point. I buy an expensive bag, so I can wear it for years and years to come and it gets better with age. Not, let’s own 50 purses and 4 see the light of day. But that’s just my opinion 🤷🏽♀️.
"Get it together America". YES to healthcare for call. Thanks Chelsea!
Chelsea is always on point! Hugs from Brazil!
This channel is a life saver, thank your for all your advice ❤️
I’ve rediscovered thrift stores my mom took us to as kids because I’ve lost 100 lbs and new clothing is a must. I’m in between sizes and I’ve been asking around for clothes from similar sized friends and family to see if ppl want to clean out their closets. I get such a high now when I get a “new” piece of clothing for zero money. I told myself I’m not spending any more money on clothing until I’m done losing weight because I wasted more than I’d like after my 1st 50lbs down and none of that fits anymore.
I wore the same 3 outfits literally all summer, save exercise clothes on active days. If I wasn't working remote, I NEVER would've done this due to the massive stigma around regular outfit repeating. Kinda messed up if you think about it.
I LOVE vacuuming , I am an outfit repeater, I am pro-healthcare for ALL !
The only „hauls“ I do enjoy are the frugal but healthy grocery ones, combined with meal plans. Lots of tasty budget friendly inspiration 🙂
Idk how common this is, but I have the opposite of a spending problem. Spending money (especially on myself) is difficult and painful for me. I'd love to see a video on this issue (the psychology behind it, how to enjoy spending your money wisely).
The compulsive spending thing is so real! I have no idea how to curve it for myself. I thought maybe getting a budget would be helpful? It’s hard cuz I have to use social media a lot for my job, but with that comes the overly specific targeted ads that are full of items I actually would love to buy. It’s hard!
The keeping up with friends thing is one I get. I don't feel the need to keep up in most senses, but frequently my friends and I will attend a 1/week free event and then, somehow, every time people will want to go out for dinner after. If I say "it's not in the budget" there's a friend (wonderful person, overly generous, needs to set their own boundaries esp in terms of finance) who will volunteer to cover us, and then "No, I didn't say we could /afford/ it, I said it wasn't in the budget, still love you guys but food at home is already paid for" becomes "oh, we were hoping to spend more time with you :( " and it becomes an unintentional guilt trip. >
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omg dyson is expensive but so worth it! life changing actually, 6 years and still going strong
No ones gonna mention the “expensive things are worse.” Clip. Good taste
yeah someone please tell me the title of that movie/series
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My husband and I thrift and garage sale as a hobby. I'm starting a new thing, buying what I want/need for our house, kids, etc, then buying one or more extra items to ideally resell for the price of everything we bought that day or more. So today I spent around $26 at Goodwill on various things including a nice Crockpot. Trying to sell the Crock-Pot for $25 plus shipping to basically break even on the day. Stoked to find a way to make thrift shopping even more economic!
Consumer culture has made it so easy to buy things that we’re all becoming addicted. The more we buy, the more we need to buy next time to get that same amount of (fleeting) gratification. And those who sell to us do it on purpose, no matter the negative impact on people and the planet. Sometimes I feel so sickened by it all and so anxious about the future that I wish we had some catastrophic event to force us all back into austerity. But then, not even a global pandemic worked :/
I remember about 12 years ago working at Ann Taylor on Valentines Day, and we were closing and this lady comes. She stays in the store up until an hour after we close because we have a policy of not kicking anyone out if they are in the store before we close. Everyone is upset because it’s Valentines Day and we all want to leave and she’s being a pain. She spends about $600; but comes back the following morning and returns EVERYTHING because she claims that we were rude!! Impulse buying at your finest!