Or you'll cheat on me but I keep coming back bc I'm desperate. Girls don't know what marriage is and cut men off before anything affectionate happens. Girls are horrible at relationships and don't play any part and don't support or help their men out
@@JhonnyStone100 Yeah, of course you do 😬 Since you "totally" do shit the guy does in the video, then you already see the most common reaction to it as well?
I hope you really did lose your feelings for him. I understand it must've been difficult to say 'no', but you gotta start practising saying no more frequently so you can protect yourself from people who jave bad intentions with you. Sometime 'I love you' means 'I wanna use you' some people are only going to want you for the the sake of their OWN short term pleasure. They trick you in with emotional manipulation and gaslighting techniques to keep you trapped and defenceless. Look into the mirror, imagine yourself in such scenarios and practise saying 'no'. All you need to say is no nothing more,nothing less don't waste even more time and energy on people like that.
Trust me: if a man tells you he is not ready for a relationship or marriage, PLEASE believe him. I manipulated my way into someone's life and once there I realized why he wasn't ready, he had so many issues. I shoud had listened to him. The relationship was hell. It was the biggest mistake of my life. If he says he is not ready, listen to him, don't take it personal and just move on.
Can we just all agree it’s not JUST men or JUST women. We are both assholes to each other because we both think we deserve better than we are given regardless how great the gift is. 2022 baby! Thank you social media 💁♂️
I mean, when one of them said, "Imagine if we were boyfriend/girlfriend and started dating," I was like, "I don't know which is which in this sketch." Literally could go either way.
I’ve never feared women raping or killing me. 95% of pedophiles are also men. Men are the oppressor class, men oppress women’s rights. This isn’t antiquated. “We are both assholes to each other “ nope.
Not all, some people and you avoid those. I see plenty of married young couples living their lives without drama laughing at all that new age nonsense.
@@seankeegan8285 Because female hypergamy isn't a thing, nope! Dudes pointing out women love having orbiters means they think everyone is a psychopath! The cope is real.
Hey, props for being honest and not wasting someone else's time. Not everyone it's in the mindset to be avavible to date all the time, some people want to focus on other things and that's fine. If you happen to meet someone you really like then you gotta make a choice and if you think it's not going to work out it's probably for the best to say, better for everyone involved.
yeah, I feel like there's a lot of people in the comments who are upset about hearing this but it's like.... what's wrong with honesty? would you rather have a distant partner?
It seemed more to me like they were building up to a proper/serious relationship and then they tell them that. Like most would prefer to know from the start you know?
The issue is that you raise someone's expectations. But with ZERO intentions to follow through. And the whole "we should stay friends" is more of time wasting phenomenon for the other party. The not in the right headspace party is just sub-consciously keeping their options open
The issue is with the fact that it becomes confusing you know, at one point the other person is I like you and at the next point i can't be in this, i mean if you did not wanted to be something you should not have said things which would raise someones expections, just be clear from the start about what you want
I totally get where you guys are coming from, but two scenarios I've experienced myself: 1. Got into a relationship and thought I really really liked the person, but after a few months I realized I just wasn't happy and had my own issues i needed to deal with. I knew it would hurt him to break up but it would be worse if I wasted his time by staying and faking happiness. 2. Have flirted with several people in the past year, made sure to be VERY clear and upfront about not wanting a relationship, they agree and we continue with hanging out and flirting without expectations. Suddenly they come and confess to me and then get sad when I say "No, I still don't want a relationship". A lot of people seem to think that "I don't want a relationship" just means playing hard to get, and that they can convince the other person to date them cause they're such a catch or whatever. I've done my best to be clear and communicative, but not every does the same or is willing to listen. People are very complicated 😕
See you missed the whole point (and I think the person who made this video also doesn’t get what that whole “need to focus on myself” means). When someone brings up all this talk about how they are “finding themselves”, “focusing on their career”, or whatever, what they ARE actually saying is “I don’t find you hot/interesting/good enough for me”. They are just saying they don’t want you. That they aren’t interested in you. People are so uncomfortable saying no.
@@kylekenan2321 Being rejected sucks balls, but it sucks way more to be lied to (like in the video) and be fed a bunch of bs. Just say you aren’t interested in me, it’s ok. I’ll actually be grateful for giving an answer.
Fellas. If someone says they like you but they're not ready for a relationship yet, that means they they like attention you're giving them and they'll keep you around until they found someone they wanna date
@@mckdink So you want them to come frank and verbally abuse the guy with degrading him so you can find them coming clean much better? Well, let me tell you this, a girl can't do this without sounding like a shrew and kills herself socially
@@raniasaad4210 You can’t possibly believe that the only two possible responses for a girl to give are verbal abuse and flat-out lying. Here’s an easy third option, just saying, “I just don’t feel that way about you, sorry”. It’s simple, direct, to-the-point, and gets the message across without being needlessly cruel or misleading. I call it “HONESTY”.
Here the same thing happened with me.... we reduced to friends....and it's been two days....we finally got seperated from each other's world coz he wanted to 🙂💔
This is good advice. Don't stay friends with somebody that you have feelings for. That is just going to hurt you, and make it harder to move past them.
i wouldn't outright say dont do it, i think if you wont be heartbroken by rejection and can be satisfied to stay friends, it's still doable. but dont do it expecting the other person to fall in love with you, and stay open to romances with other people. if the friendship is worth preserving and the heartache is manageable, it's doable! just not easy!
@@zorro...... I agree. Some ppl make much better friends than partners, but it requires putting those feels on the back burner to allow the friendship to blossom without expectations. Tricky, but definitely doable as long as both parties are mature enough.
@@zorro...... I will say this can be incredibly difficult. In some cases, maybe most, idk I've only dealt with this situation once but heard other dudes tell similar stories, it doesn't matter if you have that kind of logic. If you stick around with them as a friend, when you guys spend time together you're just gonna keep remembering why you liked them in the first place. If you continue learning even more things about them that you really like, now you're developing a genuine one-sided love for them n shit. If you can spend maybe a little less time with them, like be friends but maybe only hang out every other weekend or some shit, a few texts here and there, maybe that can work? From my personal experience, I thought I was a smart motherfucker who could handle that shit with that mindset and just still be a good friend since she was fun to hang out with for me too, and be emotional support to eachother venting about rough days, and that turned out with me developing self-loathing because I ended up just liking her more and eventually accepting that everything that I was doing to improve myself at the time had her in mind, hoping she sees me becoming more attractive, no matter how I tried to deny it and say "it's for me". Way back after she rejected me before I tried being friends like that, I initially told this girl that I'm gonna need some space. She felt like that meant I was never gonna speak to her again and that'd be shitty cuz we had so much shit in common and she could really open up to me. So I tried for I think nearly 2 years until I eventually I told her I can't be a buddy if my feelings are gonna stick around, so I need space away from her just to myself. I end up getting over a year or something away from her, because she got real bitter about the situation feeling like I blindsighted her since for a couple years, in her eyes, I was a good buddy she could talk to about anything n shit, and now suddenly she lost a huge support. So I get my space, she's pissed and doesn't wanna talk again anyway, and during my time away from her: I get my head back and grow up some more, she realizes she was being selfish for trying to keep me around, she contacts me in a text and I realize that she realizes she was being selfish and that she's done some growing as well. And NOW we have been genuine buddies for a long time. But we have a reasonable amount of space between us now, and other friends to hang out with too, so it's more natural. So yeah idk man, that's a summary of my experience. I think with most things there's more nuance with this shit and you can't just say yes or no if it's doable, because logic doesn't tend to take into account how illogical human emotions are, until experiences teach you those lessons (and hopefully you've got the critical thinking abilities to not assume that these experiences are the TRUTH and its fuckin gonna be that way with every girl and for every dude in that situation, even when videos and comment sections validate your bias)
Every single time. The problem isn't even that you don't wanna date, it's that you'll lie straight to my face about WHY you don't want to. Respect both our times and just say no, it ain't hard.
Why would I say that, then they leave and I don’t have that person who I value anymore, but also do not have the time to give them everything that comes in a relationship such as a bunch of dates or hanging out a lot, (not the seeing other people part (Ik people will imply it on what I just said.) if your seeing a bunch of people than just put that all into 1 person and boom it’s a real relationship.)
@@neilnoakes2685 Oh no. Polls and stats show it’s never been this bad. 1/3rd of young men 18-30 are virgins. 50% of women by 2030 will be perpetually single. If this isn’t corrected we’re looking at a significant population collapse in the West.
Yeah been on both sides of that. Just will point out that it is better to be alone than to waste someone’s time but there are situations when it feels so inorganic for someone to say they need to work on themselves. They go out and party every weekend and have absolutely zero motivation to make changes to their lives and start dating someone different within months anyways so it’s just dodging a bullet in a lot ways
Everyone needs to work on themselves. And everyone is a potential waste of time for other people. Just rip the band-aid off and say it's over. Don't make lame excuses.
Dating is supposed to be like a job interview. People cut to getting physical way too fast, then they get attached but then regret it because maybe that person isn't meant for them that way. Better single than locked in the wrong relationship
This skit reminds me of a conversation I had with a guy a long time ago that had been in a woman's friend zone for a few years, and as he was describing their relationship and how it really sucked to be in that woman's friend zone, I thought to myself maybe he was in the friend zone because he was afraid to tell that woman what was good, and I think most guys are like that. Appreciate this skit because this woman has given you a solution as to how to get out of the friend zone. When they say "let's just be friends" but deep down you know you can't do that without suffering silently because you have feelings for that person, just say no and move on. Ridding yourself of that person and suffering for a few weeks alone is a hell of a lot better a deal than staying in that person's friend zone and suffering indefinitely.
This is the part where I act really amazing and understanding and say everything they want to hear and then when we part ways I disappear completely and move on quietly. Like 9/10 times they beg for you back and say they’re wrong etc.
I was the guy, 3 separate times I tried to explain that mentally I was really struggling and not in a position to have someone in my life like that. 3 separate times they talked me into actually dating. 3 separate times I was broken up with because of my mental problems. If someone gives you this whole excuse, don't push them just move on.
I get you there, I myself never dated anyone. But yk thays where it all differs. Some use it as an excuse while some just mean it. So people cannot really always interpret what's the truth. Can't even blame them, we all are lonely and mentally drained at this point. Well though I hope you're mental health gets better sooner and u stay happy.:]
@@hotinjectionjewelry I know I tell myself the same thing, it's just really hard to say no to sweet guys when I know they're being genuine....I'm starting to grow a backbone on this though
“We clicked the second we started talking and we really couldn’t ask for a better person as a partner but here’s a super elaborate reason as to why it just can’t be”
@@marshalldannon5593 agreed. But prob not gonna happen I see one good thing. Men turning to things that actually benefit them directly and pertain to their purpose - their job/career/money, God, dog/pets, family/parents, hobbies, community, etc Let the women figure things out themselves. When they’ve grown up and are ready for whatever, they will let it be known
It's as if people want nothing less than perfection now. Life is messy. We are messy. Life can also be bitterly cold. Sometimes we need someone to crawl out of the darkness with.
I actually appreciate man that respect me enough to not waste mi time, usually those who don't want a serious relationship just propose the friends with benefits bullshit!
I thing the problem here is that they've been building up to a stable relationship and one day he goes up w that, there's nothing wrong w honesty but you should make things clear from the start, not halfway through
The thing is…when you come into someone’s life it’s a damn waste of both your time and energy on both accounts…not just the woman’s time etc. Furthermore, you either have interest in someone or you don’t…If you take interest and learn more about the person it can allow you to grasp who they are as an individual and from there you should decide whether or not to take it seriously or not (the best thing to do is just end it….don’t use them as that’s disgusting).
I did say this to a girl I met, weeks after a break-up. I told her that I need time to get over my ex, and that I don't want to take her as assistant to make me feel better. Still it happened that we came closer and it became hard to make sort of a cut. It's just she is the woman I'd wish for myself - and I still hope she will not be engaged in some month when I'm done with my bullshit. I know I will not be interested in another girl, as she is my number one even though we are not dating or anything. But I will not ask her to wait also. If she decides to still be there in some month I will be happy af. If not I hope she gets as happy as she can get. She is amazing. So finally: Timing really can be the problem. It's up to you to decide whether you may want to wait for someone or not. I mean, it's not like there are million of people that make you feel good out there. Sometimes it does not cost much to give someone time. Of course you should not rely on anyone. In general tough.
Got to say if you feel that way about her you should tell her and go for it, timing is crappy sometimes but so is missing out on things that you could have made happen.
Broooo!!! I relate to this so much. I've had so many relationships similar to this, the common ones would be like "Nooo... Not yet." For advice for people who go through this, get out of it and find someone who actually takes it serious.
I am exactly in a situation like that. I was dating a girl, we had 1 date, it was clear my intention from the beginning, she said she want to keep seeing me, we had 2 more dates, then suddenly she started to avoid, get distant, saying that she was busy etc... now she says that she wants just to be friends. WTF?!
See this is why I tell people straight from the moment we meet and I can sense the flirty vibes that I’m not looking for anything serious. Lets not waste each others time but also don’t feel like people are compelled to date you just because they spend time with you.
@@tajakjejtam unfortunately you’ll just have to let them go and find someone who is ready and not afraid :/ better to be single than with someone who’s not on the same page you know
Dating in 2022 be like BCUZ very few people have any strength anymore due to so many toxic and extreme factors that are out of our hands. A serious relationship is unrealistic until both parties are strong both mentally, emotionally, financially and in their physical health. Currently all 4 of these pillars of strength are being weakened every day by our failing systems of government, commerce, social constructs and literally everything. It’s impossible to expect anyone 30 and under to get into a serious marriage or relationship unless they are strong, and honestly the vast majority is seriously struggling
No it's not, they keep you friends and end up bagging another lady who they weren't sure about but have known for longer. You will know about it and they will still want to keep you... FRIENDS!!!
@@dr.sustainable right and along with all this shit they'll call you when they would be so high so that they wanna sleep with u.... LIKE BRO??,!!! WTF? YOU DON'T WANNA LIVE BY MY SIDE BUT SLEEP WITH ME? AND SAY TO THE WORLD WE RE JUST FUCKING FRIENDS 🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷
I actually hear this from both men and women and I hear it pretty frequently these days. People either don't know what they want or they want too many things and can't make a full decision on what they want at the current moment.
I get the frustration and I know some people use this as an excuse bc they're not interested in you. But there are people who genuinely just need time for themselves and are not ready to put time and energy into a relationship yet. Its just annoying if they are not being upfront with you about it.
Also dating in 2022: Guy: Hey, I had a fun time. Girl: Oh my god, I did too, we should do this thing next time. Guy: So when do you want to go do that thing? Girl: *no response*
They have too many options these days. A man’s options should all be among this list of things that pertain to his purpose - job/money/career, God, dog, family/parents, hobbies If a good woman comes along, good. It’s their turn to pursue and seek out
@@onward2727 I agree but we need to view this with both men and women in mind. If a man and a woman have no purpose other than romance, he/she has no purpose at all. Your career, religion, pets and everything else should be given priority and when your ready to settle down that's when you should add a romantic partner to that list. Don't waste their time or yours.
In my honest experience, every time a guy has said, "I'm really just not looking for a relationship right now..." (*after he pursued me, ironically), what they meant is that they absolutely were...just not with me. If someone says this to you and you're a romantic, run, don't walk. It would have been one thing if they'd said this upfront and I could have known what I was getting into. But they usually took me out on dates and acted romantic and sweet for a few months---without the relationship being sexual!!---yet never actually making it official. Then, at the point where we would have naturally settled into a relationship, they whipped that line out of nowhere. Few days or weeks later, they were making it official with someone else. And I wasted time trying to figure out why. I truly feel that 9 times out of 10 when they do this, they've got multiple people on the line and you're just one of many numbers in the ol' Rolodex.
The Toxicity in your reasoning lies around the Word "naturally". There Is no "naturally". There Is not a Natural Evolution to relationship. There Is Just your prefererences and expectations, against the other part's preferences and expectations. Being.entitled to relationship Is what ironically keeps you out of them, i think.
@@giacomobandini969 nobody said they were entitled to anything. The toxicity you speak of is coming from yourself. Clearly you have nothing better to do than dig up old comments to respond to from almost a year ago. Also, I'm in a relationship. 😆 but that's more than you can probably say, I'm guessing from a basement somewhere.
@@DiamondsAndMeForever I can't help but notice that, beside your many personal attacks, that you have not answered my observation. Are you or were you entitled to relationship? Did you hold the belief that after you were "pursued" , things should "spontaneusly" progress into long term relationship? If you hold such belief, well, i have tò tell you, that Is a very toxic attitude. It means that you are incapable tò separate your legittimate preference from the external reality. That you are confounding how you want things to be with how things should be. There Is nothing bad into wanting long term.relationships: It becomes a problem when you start to.believe.that Just because you do not get what you want, there must be something foul behind the scene. They Just Do not share your value.
@@giacomobandini969 because you didn't ask a question. I've been in a relationship for two years. This comment was talking about people who lie. Claim they don't want a relationship and suddenly are in one with someone else. If people like that were just honest from the start, then they could save others and themselves from unnecessary heartbreak. But there is a certain type of person who can't handle accountability and prefers to just ghost or tell lies to avoid difficult conversations. That's their choice, just as it is the choice of the other party to not be happy about it and speak about their experience. Which is what this video did. Not hard to understand.
bruhh my crush told me we could stay friends after I confess to him but proceed to unfriend me after I sent him message that I wanna have space for myself because it's hard to stay friends from someone you like and he doesn't like you back 😭
Yeah that was gonna happen. Girls can't be friends with guys they like because if he doesn't like them back they will try to interfere everytime he finds a girl HE likes.
Yep I let my feelings known to a woman I liked. We had good chemistry and connection when we met. Friends on Facebook. Wished her happy thanksgiving and got no reply. My previous two messages over the past month no reply. So I unfriend her and dropped her a quick fast and a hurry
I think as long as you don't lie, it's fine. If you don't want this to happen then ask upfront if they are looking for a relationship or not. If they don't know then you can decide if you want to risk it or not. But it's not their fault if you "date" for a while and you get the feeling they want a relationship as well and then they don't. Even if you and the other person act like you are already in a relationship. That does not mean it has the same meaning for them as for you.
i have a friend who genuinely is so busy he can’t date, but i like him a lot. but i’m going to wait for him and see if things change. regardless i have an amazing friend
And thus, you havnt forced him into relationship which means you never wasted the relationship and kept him as a friend. Now, you leave that opportunity open for the future, and show him that regardless of things, you want him as a friend at least.
If he was interested in dating you he would make time. Granted there are times I have been too busy to date and simply didn't want to deal with it, but still if I already had someone available that I was into I would find at least some time
After my last breakup I was still in love with that person for like a good year. After they started dating again I kept trying to move on. With one of their recent ex’s I had realized I was a terrible person for liking someone in a relationship but just couldn’t stop. One day they told me that their parents might get a divorce and apparently I didn’t give them an appropriate reaction and they said “Really? That’s it? Wow.” I felt a little bit of my heart shatter but I could understand after re-reading the context of the situation and how they could’ve taken it in the wrong way. Later that day, they made a joke where they said “You know your presence really just annoys me”. That was the last straw. I turned off my phone and cried for a minute. I could feel my heart being ripped out of my body with those lines and torn to absolute shreads. They told me it was just a joke and the other people in the gc were laughing about it. I told them it wasn’t funny and they were just like “okay”. I feel no love towards them anymore and don’t think I will feel any love for anyone like that for quite some time. Even when people joke about liking me I get uncomfortable and embarrassed about the situation. Idk why I thought this was relevant but I just wanted to put that what they said could be a valid response to not being ready for a relationship. Update: I am in a very happy relationship with my now girlfriend and have been able to recover from this whole experience
Nah bro fuck those guys trust me those people have no respect for you and ur generally better off with other friends, hope you find that special person in your life and have better luck with groups in general🙏
You put walls up around your heart. This is not necessarily a bad thing. There's a difference between showing love for someone and being a doormat. Just so long as you don't wall yourself in. You can be a bit more selective but I would suggest you don't lock the whole world out.
I literally feel so called out for this when I'm basically deadass serious about me not wanting to be in a relationship yet. Normalize the fact that people often don't wanna involve themselves in relationships they know they can't give their all into because they want to focus on more important things for them.
Well if you're lucky he might ask you to marry him 😉 I met my fiance on online dating, he said he wasn't interested in a long term relationship, so I said "ok fine, have a nice day!" Five minutes later he texted "wait - I do want to go on a date with you!" Got together six days later, got engaged 5 years later 😂❤️
He waited 5 years to propose to you? Kinda sounds like he's wasting your time. Do you have a solid date for the wedding, or is he always "too busy right now" and insists he wants to talk about it "later"? I'm not feeling the love. I met my wife in October and we were married two years later. She was the one.
@@protorhinocerator142 5 years isn't a long time, in fact you get to know each other better, so there's a smaller chance of very serious arguments or divorce
Everyone wanna be finding themselves and a whole bucket if things to do. While I just wanna get married and be a typical stay at home mom who grows along with her family.
I've made out with one 7 times and she told me this hahaha. I said sure that's fine, but next time I'm around her I'm still gonna do the things that attract women and probably hookup with her again hahah.
yea girls say they just want to be friends but if you weren't friends before what they really mean is they never want to see you again. There is zero point in being friends with her unless this was someone who was a friend before and just doesn't want to get involved romantically.
The problem is, everyone feels like they have so many options. Everyone is bratty, and wanting more than theyre willing to work for. They have priorities in the wrong place, and everyone just bullshitin
Yep. And people ask why I'm not dating anyone. This video explains it well. I'm down to date, jsut every girl im down to date either ignores me or isn't interested.
Fr tho, if your too busy to get into this kinda thing then just don't look for a relationship. It's kinda like buying food when all your cupboards are already filled up and overflowing, just wait till they get less filled or better organised before trying to fit more stuff in them
This is exactly me and hits me right on the spot. The only difference between me and towards the latter part of the video is that I don't waste anybody's time talking about it, but rather I just tell them that I have to get going and we just part ways instead of keeping them as a backup plan (I know that's likely the translation of the later part when asking if they can be friends)
Man, I hate this but can relate so much to it. I've not wanted to get into a relationship for a couple of years now and solely focus on myself. In doing that, I've lost emotional attachments to a lot of things I used to hold dear due to shutting everything away. Now, when I think about wanting to be in a relationship, I know I'm not mentally ready for it due to my own decisions and mistakes.
That ultra hot rich guy you see that you want to marry? Guess what? Every other woman is seeing that same guy and you are all going after the same guy so he has no incentive to settle for any one woman until all his options dry up. Women wonder why they get cheated on? Because they go for guys like that. Even super models get cheated on by their famous husbands so women don't really have a chance unless they go for someone who values them soo much that they wouldn't dare jeopardizing it.
yeah, you shouldn't have asked her just focus on your purpose (financial and physical gains). then don't pay them any mind and eventually you'll be the guy overwhelmed with options saying you're not sure to her. if enough guys do this it'll iron itself out.
@@JALA578 if you wanna impress the girl by flashing money , then mind it that she will be in it for money , dont expect loyalty "instead of this you should focus on judgement ability to know which girl carries red flags or which is green flags i.e the loyal one" many rich people are also taken advantage of , so dont try to impress people with money , cause then you gonna end up with gold diggers while youre 80 on your death bed
Maaan, theres this one girl Ive been on and off with for years, we tried the whole “dating” thing a few times but none of us were ever REALLY serious about it. That is until about 4 months ago when we both graduated from HS and something just clicked for me that night I guess, since then we’ve been talking and hanging out and stuff but when I went to tell her how I was feeling she said she felt the same way but just wasn’t ready for a relationship, that was fine I figured I’d play it out a little longer and see how things go, we’ll a few more weeks go by and we start hanging out with one of our mutual friends from work that we hadn’t seen for a while, and they are pretty much all over each other right in front of me, and they both know how I felt which is the part that really sucks, don’t think I’ll be sticking around much longer. Oh well i guess 😂
Pretty much exact same thing I went through with the guy I was crushing on and ended up falling for 😔His ex messed him up and he had some things in the past he's still going through... it's rough. Asked him out twice. He cancelled both right before the date. Said he liked me, but told me he wants to be friends. Didn't always respond to my messages, but viewed my stories. Didn't want a relationship, but we texted each other. A few times til dawn. Messaged me he was thinking of me late at night, then ghosts me for a week. I still love him, but now just as a friend. I'm done trying. Moving on, finally 🥳
A woman said this to me over a year ago. She said, let's be friends...I said okay but I don't see you as a friend, only as a lover. I haven't heard from her since😂😂😂 I didn't even remember her until watching this vid
People thought I was complaining when I said back in 2006 2009 was the best years dating and it was. It was nice when you took a girl out and she actually wanted to go out again lol. Glad I’m married now from the woman I meet in that era. Feel bad for all the youngins
IDK I think pre-pandemic wasn't too bad but now everyone's either way too serious about it or just wants to hook up. It's like everyone is obsessed with having the perfect life before they can commit to dating you and if they have to work on like one thing or something's not perfect then all of a sudden it means they don't have time to date you when in actuality you're always probably going to be working on something and nothing's ever going to be perfect.
Haha! A guy said all this to me once and when he said he wanted to stay friends I just said “but we’re not friends” and he was so offended lol. We’d had two dates..
You are the best ! 💯 That "NAH....BYE!" in the end deserves an Oscar. Girls !!! Did you see that? That's how you reject bullshit. I'm gonna share this video with my teenage daughter immediately.
Thank god he said it and didn’t drag you for years! 🙌🏽 now you can move on. Ladies this is actually a blessing if he really SAYS this! Believe it and move on. No hard feelings just move the hell on unless you want someone to drag you and never say this! 🤷🏽♀️
when a girl tells you I'm not ready to be in a relationship , it means I'm not ready to be in a relationship WITH YOU. if she were that into you she'd do everything on her way to be w u w no excuses. Cut it off and move on, you worth more than that . stay strong boi
i had that before and yes i confirm that. she liked a boy after me and she told me many lies (its just friendly...but not at finally) than tell me the truth in beginning in order to keep me for other reason not for relationship.
Not at all, I have 0 interest in being in a relationship for at least the next 5 years or so. There's so many things I want to do and accomplish and a relationship would only slow me down.
I like that she refused his friendship instead of waiting and hoping for a chance! Being refused so openly, he will remember her better! She must be strong inside!
Sorry about that my guy. Most women are like that. They know they can lead men on easily so of course they're gonna exercise that freedom. Women think that just because they're pretty, they can do anything they want.
ive been in this situation too many times. when they ask to be friends, I say yes, then just basically ignore them anytime they text me. I have a habit of reciprocating the way people treat me
Bro that’s actually me- idk how tf I always get myself into situations were a guy likes me and I kinda like them but I know I can’t date them cause I’m not in the right headspace
Yo this just happened to me. Although I did wanna stay friends with her. She's hella cool and just because she don't wanna date me doesn't mean she can't be a cool friend... plus... what if she has another friend who does wanna date... connections yo.
Translation: "You're not my first choice, but I want to keep you around as a back-up plan."
Or you'll cheat on me but I keep coming back bc I'm desperate. Girls don't know what marriage is and cut men off before anything affectionate happens. Girls are horrible at relationships and don't play any part and don't support or help their men out
Oh bro, you know my life now.
this is how you get girls, play with them and never commit. i do exactly like the “guy” in the video and it works. makes the girls obsessed with you
Facts
@@JhonnyStone100 Yeah, of course you do 😬
Since you "totally" do shit the guy does in the video, then you already see the most common reaction to it as well?
Went through the exact same thing. I wish I could just say the "nahh" part like she did 😭😭
Friendzone is eternal. :)
@@heinrich.hitzinger :")
I hope you really did lose your feelings for him. I understand it must've been difficult to say 'no', but you gotta start practising saying no more frequently so you can protect yourself from people who jave bad intentions with you. Sometime 'I love you' means 'I wanna use you' some people are only going to want you for the the sake of their OWN short term pleasure. They trick you in with emotional manipulation and gaslighting techniques to keep you trapped and defenceless. Look into the mirror, imagine yourself in such scenarios and practise saying 'no'. All you need to say is no nothing more,nothing less don't waste even more time and energy on people like that.
@@muskafaiz3813 Aww thanks a lot. That's kind of you. Yes, I'm working on that :)
You can
Trust me: if a man tells you he is not ready for a relationship or marriage, PLEASE believe him. I manipulated my way into someone's life and once there I realized why he wasn't ready, he had so many issues. I shoud had listened to him. The relationship was hell. It was the biggest mistake of my life. If he says he is not ready, listen to him, don't take it personal and just move on.
YOU'RE ALL DATING THE SAME TOP 5% OF MEN
its because theyre all dating the same top 5%@XhonorGamer
Why was he not ready?
Thanks
Very true.
And if a woman says that, she wants you as the back-up plan.
bro someone told me this and then they got in a relationship a month later 💀💀
same. his gf cheated on him though
@@noku3360 serves him right 😂😂
@@chiomaede6105 girl you know it! 🤣🤣🤣 i won’t lie, i did laugh
@@noku3360 😂😂....you have the right to feed on his pain...😂😂
He was probably in love with that person
Can we just all agree it’s not JUST men or JUST women. We are both assholes to each other because we both think we deserve better than we are given regardless how great the gift is. 2022 baby! Thank you social media 💁♂️
I mean, when one of them said, "Imagine if we were boyfriend/girlfriend and started dating," I was like, "I don't know which is which in this sketch." Literally could go either way.
I’ve never feared women raping or killing me.
95% of pedophiles are also men. Men are the oppressor class, men oppress women’s rights. This isn’t antiquated.
“We are both assholes to each other “ nope.
Not all, some people and you avoid those. I see plenty of married young couples living their lives without drama laughing at all that new age nonsense.
Translation: I’ll keep you round and get resources off you and continuously look for somebody else better.
Keep reinforcing that everyone is a psychopath to yourself, it’ll really help your dating 😂
@@seankeegan8285 thats not what I said. Read it again 🤣
@@seankeegan8285 Because female hypergamy isn't a thing, nope! Dudes pointing out women love having orbiters means they think everyone is a psychopath! The cope is real.
Nope only simps allow themselves to be friendzoned. I recently cut off this chick because felt like she friendzoned me.
@@Kopp203 no it’s just funny guys complain about something innate about women, instead of bettering themselves to be the one they upgrade to lol
Hey, props for being honest and not wasting someone else's time. Not everyone it's in the mindset to be avavible to date all the time, some people want to focus on other things and that's fine. If you happen to meet someone you really like then you gotta make a choice and if you think it's not going to work out it's probably for the best to say, better for everyone involved.
yeah, I feel like there's a lot of people in the comments who are upset about hearing this but it's like.... what's wrong with honesty? would you rather have a distant partner?
It seemed more to me like they were building up to a proper/serious relationship and then they tell them that. Like most would prefer to know from the start you know?
The issue is that you raise someone's expectations. But with ZERO intentions to follow through. And the whole "we should stay friends" is more of time wasting phenomenon for the other party. The not in the right headspace party is just sub-consciously keeping their options open
The issue is with the fact that it becomes confusing you know, at one point the other person is I like you and at the next point i can't be in this, i mean if you did not wanted to be something you should not have said things which would raise someones expections, just be clear from the start about what you want
I totally get where you guys are coming from, but two scenarios I've experienced myself:
1. Got into a relationship and thought I really really liked the person, but after a few months I realized I just wasn't happy and had my own issues i needed to deal with. I knew it would hurt him to break up but it would be worse if I wasted his time by staying and faking happiness.
2. Have flirted with several people in the past year, made sure to be VERY clear and upfront about not wanting a relationship, they agree and we continue with hanging out and flirting without expectations. Suddenly they come and confess to me and then get sad when I say "No, I still don't want a relationship".
A lot of people seem to think that "I don't want a relationship" just means playing hard to get, and that they can convince the other person to date them cause they're such a catch or whatever. I've done my best to be clear and communicative, but not every does the same or is willing to listen. People are very complicated 😕
Social media has done a lot of harm to dating and relationships
I couldn't agree more
Truer words have never been said
Yeah, exposing shallow people for being shallow.
Now, dating has always been terrible
How has it affected dating and relationships negatively
Don't let yourself be an option.
Don't try to be friends with those archetypes,
it'll drain you.
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Maintaining a relationship and focusing on your career, along with other responsibilities is part of being an adult.
See you missed the whole point (and I think the person who made this video also doesn’t get what that whole “need to focus on myself” means).
When someone brings up all this talk about how they are “finding themselves”, “focusing on their career”, or whatever, what they ARE actually saying is “I don’t find you hot/interesting/good enough for me”.
They are just saying they don’t want you. That they aren’t interested in you.
People are so uncomfortable saying no.
@@co7769 and that makes it all the more difficult to know.
@@kylekenan2321 Being rejected sucks balls, but it sucks way more to be lied to (like in the video) and be fed a bunch of bs. Just say you aren’t interested in me, it’s ok. I’ll actually be grateful for giving an answer.
Exactly!!!!
True
Fellas. If someone says they like you but they're not ready for a relationship yet, that means they they like attention you're giving them and they'll keep you around until they found someone they wanna date
Fuck
Probably true. I think this convinced me I need to end this with this girl
Exactly
Never take girls seriously from mental disorders to how they live their life. I don't trust girls
Truth
@@kirbylover37 I couldn't stop thinking about it after the first time that happened, now I don't give a chance to anyone. It's better
Girls be like “I’m not ready for a relationship right now” then have a boyfriend 2 weeks later
They're not & do it anyway & it won't last! It'll be toxic & painful rest assured!
Also guys do this
That's just their "nice" way of them telling a guy "I want a relationship, just not with you"
@@mckdink So you want them to come frank and verbally abuse the guy with degrading him so you can find them coming clean much better? Well, let me tell you this, a girl can't do this without sounding like a shrew and kills herself socially
@@raniasaad4210 You can’t possibly believe that the only two possible responses for a girl to give are verbal abuse and flat-out lying. Here’s an easy third option, just saying, “I just don’t feel that way about you, sorry”. It’s simple, direct, to-the-point, and gets the message across without being needlessly cruel or misleading. I call it “HONESTY”.
I feel bad for those who experienced the same thing as me but feel relieved at the same time because I wasn't alone 😔
Evil
Here the same thing happened with me.... we reduced to friends....and it's been two days....we finally got seperated from each other's world coz he wanted to 🙂💔
@@shrutikanabhunia9554 Omg same
@@saisakthi7219 🙂✌️
In other words: YOUR BODY COUNT IS TOO HIGH 💀
This is good advice. Don't stay friends with somebody that you have feelings for. That is just going to hurt you, and make it harder to move past them.
i wouldn't outright say dont do it, i think if you wont be heartbroken by rejection and can be satisfied to stay friends, it's still doable. but dont do it expecting the other person to fall in love with you, and stay open to romances with other people.
if the friendship is worth preserving and the heartache is manageable, it's doable! just not easy!
@@zorro...... I agree. Some ppl make much better friends than partners, but it requires putting those feels on the back burner to allow the friendship to blossom without expectations. Tricky, but definitely doable as long as both parties are mature enough.
@@zorro...... If you're not tapping ass it ain't worth it lol
@@dl30wpb name checks out
@@zorro...... I will say this can be incredibly difficult. In some cases, maybe most, idk I've only dealt with this situation once but heard other dudes tell similar stories, it doesn't matter if you have that kind of logic. If you stick around with them as a friend, when you guys spend time together you're just gonna keep remembering why you liked them in the first place. If you continue learning even more things about them that you really like, now you're developing a genuine one-sided love for them n shit. If you can spend maybe a little less time with them, like be friends but maybe only hang out every other weekend or some shit, a few texts here and there, maybe that can work? From my personal experience, I thought I was a smart motherfucker who could handle that shit with that mindset and just still be a good friend since she was fun to hang out with for me too, and be emotional support to eachother venting about rough days, and that turned out with me developing self-loathing because I ended up just liking her more and eventually accepting that everything that I was doing to improve myself at the time had her in mind, hoping she sees me becoming more attractive, no matter how I tried to deny it and say "it's for me".
Way back after she rejected me before I tried being friends like that, I initially told this girl that I'm gonna need some space. She felt like that meant I was never gonna speak to her again and that'd be shitty cuz we had so much shit in common and she could really open up to me. So I tried for I think nearly 2 years until I eventually I told her I can't be a buddy if my feelings are gonna stick around, so I need space away from her just to myself. I end up getting over a year or something away from her, because she got real bitter about the situation feeling like I blindsighted her since for a couple years, in her eyes, I was a good buddy she could talk to about anything n shit, and now suddenly she lost a huge support. So I get my space, she's pissed and doesn't wanna talk again anyway, and during my time away from her: I get my head back and grow up some more, she realizes she was being selfish for trying to keep me around, she contacts me in a text and I realize that she realizes she was being selfish and that she's done some growing as well. And NOW we have been genuine buddies for a long time. But we have a reasonable amount of space between us now, and other friends to hang out with too, so it's more natural. So yeah idk man, that's a summary of my experience. I think with most things there's more nuance with this shit and you can't just say yes or no if it's doable, because logic doesn't tend to take into account how illogical human emotions are, until experiences teach you those lessons (and hopefully you've got the critical thinking abilities to not assume that these experiences are the TRUTH and its fuckin gonna be that way with every girl and for every dude in that situation, even when videos and comment sections validate your bias)
Every single time. The problem isn't even that you don't wanna date, it's that you'll lie straight to my face about WHY you don't want to. Respect both our times and just say no, it ain't hard.
This. Women are the ones who think a lie is comforting. If the answer is no, say no. The lying is beyond disrespectful!
@@klove5974
Women?
Why would I say that, then they leave and I don’t have that person who I value anymore, but also do not have the time to give them everything that comes in a relationship such as a bunch of dates or hanging out a lot, (not the seeing other people part (Ik people will imply it on what I just said.) if your seeing a bunch of people than just put that all into 1 person and boom it’s a real relationship.)
@@camalbornoz4089 That is what I said.
@@klove5974
I see.
fuck, this hits home. Especially the "I don't wanna waste your time" part. Dating in 2022 is rough.
It's been like this far longer than 2022. Back in the 90s it was the same. Sometimes you just have to roll with the punches.
@@neilnoakes2685 Oh no. Polls and stats show it’s never been this bad. 1/3rd of young men 18-30 are virgins. 50% of women by 2030 will be perpetually single. If this isn’t corrected we’re looking at a significant population collapse in the West.
Girls just like wasting boys time. They aren't sociable or useful at all
Whether they are telling the truth or not this just proves that the current system and most parents never prepared this generation for adulthood.
_"this is fine"_ **melts in lava**
Yeah been on both sides of that. Just will point out that it is better to be alone than to waste someone’s time but there are situations when it feels so inorganic for someone to say they need to work on themselves. They go out and party every weekend and have absolutely zero motivation to make changes to their lives and start dating someone different within months anyways so it’s just dodging a bullet in a lot ways
Everyone needs to work on themselves. And everyone is a potential waste of time for other people.
Just rip the band-aid off and say it's over. Don't make lame excuses.
@@protorhinocerator142 yep
Women aren’t trying to self improve bro. Work on you.
@@SimonKnight1023 yep, no argument here. Some are but they’re very rare to find
Dating is supposed to be like a job interview. People cut to getting physical way too fast, then they get attached but then regret it because maybe that person isn't meant for them that way. Better single than locked in the wrong relationship
This skit reminds me of a conversation I had with a guy a long time ago that had been in a woman's friend zone for a few years, and as he was describing their relationship and how it really sucked to be in that woman's friend zone, I thought to myself maybe he was in the friend zone because he was afraid to tell that woman what was good, and I think most guys are like that. Appreciate this skit because this woman has given you a solution as to how to get out of the friend zone. When they say "let's just be friends" but deep down you know you can't do that without suffering silently because you have feelings for that person, just say no and move on. Ridding yourself of that person and suffering for a few weeks alone is a hell of a lot better a deal than staying in that person's friend zone and suffering indefinitely.
Remeber bois, if she says “I can’t date anyone right now ” she can date, just not you
Yep. So move on and forget about her. Never dwell.
never dwell on a plastic bitch anyway, not worth your time.
@@Keys879 facts
😭😭😭
Or him
Haha I like the way you expressed bye in the end! 😂
it's an audio
@@supernaturaloic I know! I meant her expression was so cool 😂
@@jazztracks OHHH yea she would do a great actress 😂
@@supernaturaloic agree 😂
LOL she didn't say bye she mostly just memes already spoken and recorded stuff
This is the part where I act really amazing and understanding and say everything they want to hear and then when we part ways I disappear completely and move on quietly. Like 9/10 times they beg for you back and say they’re wrong etc.
I stay friends with em but just turn my emotions regarding them "off". They always come running back.
I love that 😊
I was the guy, 3 separate times I tried to explain that mentally I was really struggling and not in a position to have someone in my life like that. 3 separate times they talked me into actually dating. 3 separate times I was broken up with because of my mental problems.
If someone gives you this whole excuse, don't push them just move on.
I get you there, I myself never dated anyone. But yk thays where it all differs. Some use it as an excuse while some just mean it. So people cannot really always interpret what's the truth. Can't even blame them, we all are lonely and mentally drained at this point.
Well though I hope you're mental health gets better sooner and u stay happy.:]
You must be a 10/10 if they want you so much lol
@@joaovictor3312 Lmaoo if I was a 10/10 they wouldn't have broken up with me
Maybe you should stop dating?
@@hotinjectionjewelry I know I tell myself the same thing, it's just really hard to say no to sweet guys when I know they're being genuine....I'm starting to grow a backbone on this though
“We clicked the second we started talking and we really couldn’t ask for a better person as a partner but here’s a super elaborate reason as to why it just can’t be”
Fuck me, that's my life
People need to get off Tik Tok, come back to goddam earth and DO BETTER.
@@marshalldannon5593 agreed. But prob not gonna happen
I see one good thing. Men turning to things that actually benefit them directly and pertain to their purpose - their job/career/money, God, dog/pets, family/parents, hobbies, community, etc
Let the women figure things out themselves. When they’ve grown up and are ready for whatever, they will let it be known
@@onward2727 Ain't got time to wait around for that! Next!
It's as if people want nothing less than perfection now. Life is messy. We are messy. Life can also be bitterly cold. Sometimes we need someone to crawl out of the darkness with.
This…this is exactly what I was told. Like, word for word. I honestly…i’m so amazed at the accuracy of today’s landscape in dating.
I feel like everyone deserves to be loved but not everyone is ready to love
Well said
O no, everyone is ready to love, its just everyone is aiming for people out of their league
I actually appreciate man that respect me enough to not waste mi time, usually those who don't want a serious relationship just propose the friends with benefits bullshit!
I thing the problem here is that they've been building up to a stable relationship and one day he goes up w that, there's nothing wrong w honesty but you should make things clear from the start, not halfway through
Im like that but i always get left, u might say its cuz the girl u chose but no i chose traditional women.
what’s wrong with fwb?
@@miauwu8245 tbf sometimes it takes time to understand if you actually like someone or not, as a guy atleast i feel that way
The thing is…when you come into someone’s life it’s a damn waste of both your time and energy on both accounts…not just the woman’s time etc. Furthermore, you either have interest in someone or you don’t…If you take interest and learn more about the person it can allow you to grasp who they are as an individual and from there you should decide whether or not to take it seriously or not (the best thing to do is just end it….don’t use them as that’s disgusting).
I did say this to a girl I met, weeks after a break-up. I told her that I need time to get over my ex, and that I don't want to take her as assistant to make me feel better.
Still it happened that we came closer and it became hard to make sort of a cut. It's just she is the woman I'd wish for myself - and I still hope she will not be engaged in some month when I'm done with my bullshit. I know I will not be interested in another girl, as she is my number one even though we are not dating or anything.
But I will not ask her to wait also. If she decides to still be there in some month I will be happy af. If not I hope she gets as happy as she can get. She is amazing.
So finally: Timing really can be the problem. It's up to you to decide whether you may want to wait for someone or not. I mean, it's not like there are million of people that make you feel good out there. Sometimes it does not cost much to give someone time. Of course you should not rely on anyone. In general tough.
Got to say if you feel that way about her you should tell her and go for it, timing is crappy sometimes but so is missing out on things that you could have made happen.
Broooo!!! I relate to this so much. I've had so many relationships similar to this, the common ones would be like "Nooo... Not yet." For advice for people who go through this, get out of it and find someone who actually takes it serious.
I am exactly in a situation like that. I was dating a girl, we had 1 date, it was clear my intention from the beginning, she said she want to keep seeing me, we had 2 more dates, then suddenly she started to avoid, get distant, saying that she was busy etc... now she says that she wants just to be friends. WTF?!
*That "NAAH!!" Got me 😂🤪*
Yooo why is this hella relatable! I just went thru sumthing like this last week and I felt pathetic for myself as it hurt a lot...
See this is why I tell people straight from the moment we meet and I can sense the flirty vibes that I’m not looking for anything serious. Lets not waste each others time but also don’t feel like people are compelled to date you just because they spend time with you.
I wish more people would be like that :( but most of them seem to be scared of being alone and just push things and then they say "I'm not ready"
@@tajakjejtam unfortunately you’ll just have to let them go and find someone who is ready and not afraid :/ better to be single than with someone who’s not on the same page you know
this Generation is so fucked with this i dont want something serious. you all have some deep Problems
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Yeah exactly, if you lay out the terms right from the start you don't even need this conversation.
One friend of mine once said to me: People aren't afraid of engagement, they are afraid of loss.
many seem pretty content to leave for something better.
Dating in 2022 be like BCUZ very few people have any strength anymore due to so many toxic and extreme factors that are out of our hands. A serious relationship is unrealistic until both parties are strong both mentally, emotionally, financially and in their physical health. Currently all 4 of these pillars of strength are being weakened every day by our failing systems of government, commerce, social constructs and literally everything. It’s impossible to expect anyone 30 and under to get into a serious marriage or relationship unless they are strong, and honestly the vast majority is seriously struggling
Actually spitting faxs
At every woman Lmao or “I’m still healing right now. Not ready to settle down”
Translation: I am still getting fucked silly, love it and I am not ready to stop.
But like why does her mouth movements match up to the words so well?? She’s so good at that
Bruh that "I want to focus on my career" is so true
And the "career" being enslaving yourself into corporate to be replacable as fuck as soon you are not performing your best.
YOU'RE ALL DATING THE SAME TOP 5% OF MEN
Is the “stay friends” part meant to say ‘let me stay close so when I’m ready I will bag you’
Sorry Steve Harvey moment 😂
No it's not, they keep you friends and end up bagging another lady who they weren't sure about but have known for longer. You will know about it and they will still want to keep you...
FRIENDS!!!
@@dr.sustainable right and along with all this shit they'll call you when they would be so high so that they wanna sleep with u....
LIKE BRO??,!!! WTF? YOU DON'T WANNA LIVE BY MY SIDE BUT SLEEP WITH ME? AND SAY TO THE WORLD WE RE JUST FUCKING FRIENDS 🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷
No. They just are trying to have boyfriend treatment without the status
Or or or, and hear me out: they still like you as a person and just don’t have interest in you romantically, and as such would like to be your friend.
@@Lastrit_JME this is true too tho
My man just said “nah” to being friend zoned 😅
I actually hear this from both men and women and I hear it pretty frequently these days. People either don't know what they want or they want too many things and can't make a full decision on what they want at the current moment.
that BYE could have prevented all those tears and self esteem issues but we do be creating trouble for ourselves :)
I get the frustration and I know some people use this as an excuse bc they're not interested in you. But there are people who genuinely just need time for themselves and are not ready to put time and energy into a relationship yet. Its just annoying if they are not being upfront with you about it.
Exactly 🤣 i don't wanna get relationship stressed just need to focus in my life...
YOU'RE ALL DATING THE SAME TOP 5% OF MEN
Also dating in 2022:
Guy: Hey, I had a fun time.
Girl: Oh my god, I did too, we should do this thing next time.
Guy: So when do you want to go do that thing?
Girl: *no response*
Fax. Been there done that
Seems like she didn't like it to begin with and just spared your feelings by saying it was a good time.
They have too many options these days. A man’s options should all be among this list of things that pertain to his purpose - job/money/career, God, dog, family/parents, hobbies
If a good woman comes along, good. It’s their turn to pursue and seek out
@@onward2727 I agree but we need to view this with both men and women in mind. If a man and a woman have no purpose other than romance, he/she has no purpose at all. Your career, religion, pets and everything else should be given priority and when your ready to settle down that's when you should add a romantic partner to that list. Don't waste their time or yours.
Happened to me but change the girl to guy cuz he was the one who ghosted..
In my honest experience, every time a guy has said, "I'm really just not looking for a relationship right now..." (*after he pursued me, ironically), what they meant is that they absolutely were...just not with me. If someone says this to you and you're a romantic, run, don't walk. It would have been one thing if they'd said this upfront and I could have known what I was getting into. But they usually took me out on dates and acted romantic and sweet for a few months---without the relationship being sexual!!---yet never actually making it official. Then, at the point where we would have naturally settled into a relationship, they whipped that line out of nowhere. Few days or weeks later, they were making it official with someone else. And I wasted time trying to figure out why.
I truly feel that 9 times out of 10 when they do this, they've got multiple people on the line and you're just one of many numbers in the ol' Rolodex.
The Toxicity in your reasoning lies around the Word "naturally". There Is no "naturally". There Is not a Natural Evolution to relationship. There Is Just your prefererences and expectations, against the other part's preferences and expectations. Being.entitled to relationship Is what ironically keeps you out of them, i think.
@@giacomobandini969 nobody said they were entitled to anything. The toxicity you speak of is coming from yourself. Clearly you have nothing better to do than dig up old comments to respond to from almost a year ago. Also, I'm in a relationship. 😆 but that's more than you can probably say, I'm guessing from a basement somewhere.
@@DiamondsAndMeForever I can't help but notice that, beside your many personal attacks, that you have not answered my observation.
Are you or were you entitled to relationship? Did you hold the belief that after you were "pursued" , things should "spontaneusly" progress into long term relationship? If you hold such belief, well, i have tò tell you, that Is a very toxic attitude. It means that you are incapable tò separate your legittimate preference from the external reality. That you are confounding how you want things to be with how things should be. There Is nothing bad into wanting long term.relationships: It becomes a problem when you start to.believe.that Just because you do not get what you want, there must be something foul behind the scene. They Just Do not share your value.
@@giacomobandini969 because you didn't ask a question. I've been in a relationship for two years. This comment was talking about people who lie. Claim they don't want a relationship and suddenly are in one with someone else. If people like that were just honest from the start, then they could save others and themselves from unnecessary heartbreak. But there is a certain type of person who can't handle accountability and prefers to just ghost or tell lies to avoid difficult conversations. That's their choice, just as it is the choice of the other party to not be happy about it and speak about their experience. Which is what this video did. Not hard to understand.
Then she posts a picture of herself with another dude 24 hours later saying they’re together. Definitely not speaking from experience.
Lols, of course you aren't!!!
I hope you've, I mean, you're friend has recovered
Or himself
bruhh my crush told me we could stay friends after I confess to him but proceed to unfriend me after I sent him message that I wanna have space for myself because it's hard to stay friends from someone you like and he doesn't like you back 😭
Yeah that was gonna happen. Girls can't be friends with guys they like because if he doesn't like them back they will try to interfere everytime he finds a girl HE likes.
Yep I let my feelings known to a woman I liked. We had good chemistry and connection when we met. Friends on Facebook. Wished her happy thanksgiving and got no reply. My previous two messages over the past month no reply. So I unfriend her and dropped her a quick fast and a hurry
That's awesome, he gave you what you wanted then and stopped being friends with you and gave you space :D
The ending is exactly how you should handle a situation like this. Value your time and find someone who is ready.
I think as long as you don't lie, it's fine. If you don't want this to happen then ask upfront if they are looking for a relationship or not. If they don't know then you can decide if you want to risk it or not. But it's not their fault if you "date" for a while and you get the feeling they want a relationship as well and then they don't. Even if you and the other person act like you are already in a relationship. That does not mean it has the same meaning for them as for you.
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Yeah this just looks like a communication failure on the part of the person looking for a relationship.
i have a friend who genuinely is so busy he can’t date, but i like him a lot. but i’m going to wait for him and see if things change. regardless i have an amazing friend
And thus, you havnt forced him into relationship which means you never wasted the relationship and kept him as a friend. Now, you leave that opportunity open for the future, and show him that regardless of things, you want him as a friend at least.
If he was interested in dating you he would make time. Granted there are times I have been too busy to date and simply didn't want to deal with it, but still if I already had someone available that I was into I would find at least some time
Damn it took me years to say that bye after the same word to word excuse.. And the relief it brought when I finally said that. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
It sounds like... "I'm not interested but just in case I will be later, I'm gonna be nice about it."
After my last breakup I was still in love with that person for like a good year. After they started dating again I kept trying to move on. With one of their recent ex’s I had realized I was a terrible person for liking someone in a relationship but just couldn’t stop. One day they told me that their parents might get a divorce and apparently I didn’t give them an appropriate reaction and they said “Really? That’s it? Wow.” I felt a little bit of my heart shatter but I could understand after re-reading the context of the situation and how they could’ve taken it in the wrong way. Later that day, they made a joke where they said “You know your presence really just annoys me”.
That was the last straw. I turned off my phone and cried for a minute. I could feel my heart being ripped out of my body with those lines and torn to absolute shreads. They told me it was just a joke and the other people in the gc were laughing about it. I told them it wasn’t funny and they were just like “okay”.
I feel no love towards them anymore and don’t think I will feel any love for anyone like that for quite some time. Even when people joke about liking me I get uncomfortable and embarrassed about the situation.
Idk why I thought this was relevant but I just wanted to put that what they said could be a valid response to not being ready for a relationship.
Update: I am in a very happy relationship with my now girlfriend and have been able to recover from this whole experience
I feel you :(
Nah bro fuck those guys trust me those people have no respect for you and ur generally better off with other friends, hope you find that special person in your life and have better luck with groups in general🙏
You put walls up around your heart. This is not necessarily a bad thing. There's a difference between showing love for someone and being a doormat.
Just so long as you don't wall yourself in. You can be a bit more selective but I would suggest you don't lock the whole world out.
I'm so sorry.... My God I feel your pain
You are strong for moving on even when you still cared about them but they treated you badly
And it's social media like this that causes this problem.
I had this exact conversation an hour ago, almost verbatim. Now I’m seeing it in suggested post.
This happened to me last year with a guy. Only HE got as far as introducing me to his PARENTS before suddenly dropping all this bs 😩
That’s clumsy as it is stupid
you are single-handedly helping me through my first breakup after a 5 yr relationship.
It’s just that they don’t want you like that. I seen a guy do that to my friend then get with someone weeks later lol
Tell you this, and then three weeks later, they're in a relationship.
1 week later it crashed
Aww that's sucks. I can't believe she followed her heart/feelings or found someone that was a better fit for her or that she liked more. Tragic.
I literally feel so called out for this when I'm basically deadass serious about me not wanting to be in a relationship yet. Normalize the fact that people often don't wanna involve themselves in relationships they know they can't give their all into because they want to focus on more important things for them.
Well if you're lucky he might ask you to marry him 😉
I met my fiance on online dating, he said he wasn't interested in a long term relationship, so I said "ok fine, have a nice day!"
Five minutes later he texted "wait - I do want to go on a date with you!"
Got together six days later, got engaged 5 years later 😂❤️
so cute ❤
He waited 5 years to propose to you? Kinda sounds like he's wasting your time.
Do you have a solid date for the wedding, or is he always "too busy right now" and insists he wants to talk about it "later"?
I'm not feeling the love.
I met my wife in October and we were married two years later. She was the one.
@@protorhinocerator142 5 years isn't a long time, in fact you get to know each other better, so there's a smaller chance of very serious arguments or divorce
@@protorhinocerator142 exactly
@@protorhinocerator142 lol 5 years is fair. Depends their age. Most guys settle down in their late 20s
Everyone wanna be finding themselves and a whole bucket if things to do. While I just wanna get married and be a typical stay at home mom who grows along with her family.
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WE'RE THE MIGHTY ADELAIDE CROWS!!!
My two personalities be like:
If a girl tells you she just wants to be friends, never associate yourself with her again.
I've made out with one 7 times and she told me this hahaha. I said sure that's fine, but next time I'm around her I'm still gonna do the things that attract women and probably hookup with her again hahah.
yea girls say they just want to be friends but if you weren't friends before what they really mean is they never want to see you again. There is zero point in being friends with her unless this was someone who was a friend before and just doesn't want to get involved romantically.
The problem is, everyone feels like they have so many options. Everyone is bratty, and wanting more than theyre willing to work for. They have priorities in the wrong place, and everyone just bullshitin
Yep. And people ask why I'm not dating anyone. This video explains it well. I'm down to date, jsut every girl im down to date either ignores me or isn't interested.
Then you should work on yourself till they are
Then maybe you should work on who you are “down to date.”
@@RitaP41nah. Take it or leave it, I don’t have to prove sheeit
@@Tempusverum that's cool. Stay the same until you're miserable enough to Want to change. 😎
@@RitaP41 I am what I am. I don’t chase or pretend to be something I’m not for something as fickle as feelings
Oh my God! I just went thru this exact situation!! Yep not being friends. No contact!!!
Should have told her “I have enough friends”
@@ResidentRecon89 I blocked her
Me being the one who is wearing a cap- 💀
Same 😭
Sameeeee
Same
Same tho💀
I've used them lines some of them word for word 😅😅
Fr tho, if your too busy to get into this kinda thing then just don't look for a relationship.
It's kinda like buying food when all your cupboards are already filled up and overflowing, just wait till they get less filled or better organised before trying to fit more stuff in them
I'm sooooo glad I'm in a healthy committed relationship that I don't have to deal w this BS again... ugh.. this was PTSD for me 😖
This is exactly me and hits me right on the spot. The only difference between me and towards the latter part of the video is that I don't waste anybody's time talking about it, but rather I just tell them that I have to get going and we just part ways instead of keeping them as a backup plan (I know that's likely the translation of the later part when asking if they can be friends)
i was in this exact situation a few weeks ago 😭 im so glad i decided to distance myself from him lmao
Man, I hate this but can relate so much to it. I've not wanted to get into a relationship for a couple of years now and solely focus on myself. In doing that, I've lost emotional attachments to a lot of things I used to hold dear due to shutting everything away. Now, when I think about wanting to be in a relationship, I know I'm not mentally ready for it due to my own decisions and mistakes.
Holy shit I'm not only one in this situation without saying "nah"
POV: You keep messing with the same type of guy expecting a different result.
The definition of insanity, ladies.
That's why you don't ever take them seriously
@@trebrown8144 Don't take the hivemind seriously 😱 Dangerous advice, my friend, dangerous advice. The hive knows you, the hive will find you...
That ultra hot rich guy you see that you want to marry? Guess what? Every other woman is seeing that same guy and you are all going after the same guy so he has no incentive to settle for any one woman until all his options dry up. Women wonder why they get cheated on? Because they go for guys like that. Even super models get cheated on by their famous husbands so women don't really have a chance unless they go for someone who values them soo much that they wouldn't dare jeopardizing it.
@@red2977thankfully I don't care if you're rich or hot. Just have good hygiene and be respectful.
@@painted_k9I hate that. The hivemind is such bs. I want an individual, not a collective
"just wanna stay as friends" nah bruh, I wanna stay FORGOTTEN :D
Happened to me too, and I guess because I talked to her about it, she decided she’ll get cuffed up with a guy two weeks later.
she just wasn't into you my friend. Been there...
yeah, you shouldn't have asked her just focus on your purpose (financial and physical gains). then don't pay them any mind and eventually you'll be the guy overwhelmed with options saying you're not sure to her. if enough guys do this it'll iron itself out.
A million different possibilities had to have happen, dont blame her or yourself for it.
@@JALA578 big facts
@@JALA578 if you wanna impress the girl by flashing money , then mind it that she will be in it for money , dont expect loyalty
"instead of this you should focus on judgement ability to know which girl carries red flags or which is green flags i.e the loyal one"
many rich people are also taken advantage of , so dont try to impress people with money , cause then you gonna end up with gold diggers while youre 80 on your death bed
Maaan, theres this one girl Ive been on and off with for years, we tried the whole “dating” thing a few times but none of us were ever REALLY serious about it. That is until about 4 months ago when we both graduated from HS and something just clicked for me that night I guess, since then we’ve been talking and hanging out and stuff but when I went to tell her how I was feeling she said she felt the same way but just wasn’t ready for a relationship, that was fine I figured I’d play it out a little longer and see how things go, we’ll a few more weeks go by and we start hanging out with one of our mutual friends from work that we hadn’t seen for a while, and they are pretty much all over each other right in front of me, and they both know how I felt which is the part that really sucks, don’t think I’ll be sticking around much longer. Oh well i guess 😂
Bro you deserve better than that
@@MissCamilleC I appreciate it
You deserve better mate
@@Faro526 thank you I really appreciate it
No way she did u dirty...💀she doesn't even care. Justice for you😭
Gorgeous 😍! I love the “F…. Here we go”. That is hilarious. Gorgeous & funny, great combo, your guy is one lucky MOFO!!!
Pretty much exact same thing I went through with the guy I was crushing on and ended up falling for 😔His ex messed him up and he had some things in the past he's still going through... it's rough. Asked him out twice. He cancelled both right before the date. Said he liked me, but told me he wants to be friends. Didn't always respond to my messages, but viewed my stories. Didn't want a relationship, but we texted each other. A few times til dawn. Messaged me he was thinking of me late at night, then ghosts me for a week. I still love him, but now just as a friend. I'm done trying. Moving on, finally 🥳
STOP Chasing guys! You're welcome.
Same EXACT thing happened to me.
A woman said this to me over a year ago. She said, let's be friends...I said okay but I don't see you as a friend, only as a lover. I haven't heard from her since😂😂😂 I didn't even remember her until watching this vid
"Nah.. Byee" That makes me laugh so hard every time i've watched it. So good.
People thought I was complaining when I said back in 2006 2009 was the best years dating and it was. It was nice when you took a girl out and she actually wanted to go out again lol. Glad I’m married now from the woman I meet in that era. Feel bad for all the youngins
As a "youngin" i appreciate that, so difficult just finding someone who will stay nowadays
IDK I think pre-pandemic wasn't too bad but now everyone's either way too serious about it or just wants to hook up. It's like everyone is obsessed with having the perfect life before they can commit to dating you and if they have to work on like one thing or something's not perfect then all of a sudden it means they don't have time to date you when in actuality you're always probably going to be working on something and nothing's ever going to be perfect.
Haha! A guy said all this to me once and when he said he wanted to stay friends I just said “but we’re not friends” and he was so offended lol. We’d had two dates..
In other words, you were salty and wanted to give some venom, because you couldn't accept being rejected after 2 dates.. lol
You are the best ! 💯
That "NAH....BYE!" in the end deserves an Oscar. Girls !!! Did you see that? That's how you reject bullshit. I'm gonna share this video with my teenage daughter immediately.
Why is this like way too accurate…😂
Exactly some girls be doing this stuff and they wonder why they get a long term relationship 🤦♂️
Don’t I meant
Thank god he said it and didn’t drag you for years! 🙌🏽 now you can move on. Ladies this is actually a blessing if he really SAYS this! Believe it and move on. No hard feelings just move the hell on unless you want someone to drag you and never say this! 🤷🏽♀️
YOU'RE ALL DATING THE SAME TOP 5% OF MEN
when a girl tells you I'm not ready to be in a relationship , it means I'm not ready to be in a relationship WITH YOU. if she were that into you she'd do everything on her way to be w u w no excuses. Cut it off and move on, you worth more than that . stay strong boi
i had that before and yes i confirm that. she liked a boy after me and she told me many lies (its just friendly...but not at finally) than tell me the truth in beginning in order to keep me for other reason not for relationship.
Not at all, I have 0 interest in being in a relationship for at least the next 5 years or so. There's so many things I want to do and accomplish and a relationship would only slow me down.
The 'hat' response is actually how EVERYTHING goes. It's quite scary the accuracy....
I like that she refused his friendship instead of waiting and hoping for a chance! Being refused so openly, he will remember her better! She must be strong inside!
One time I was told she needed to work on her mental health and she proceeded to get a boyfriend 1 week later
She wasn't into u
Sorry about that my guy. Most women are like that. They know they can lead men on easily so of course they're gonna exercise that freedom. Women think that just because they're pretty, they can do anything they want.
@@scottlang808 some of them are not even pretty but have that attitude
Bruh honestly I'd just say I'm not ready for a relationship and leave it as that I don't have time for that extra stuff lol
Same
The facial expressions were spot & cute. Especially with that beautiful face lol
Bro this is so true👹✨
+Early. :)
YOU'RE ALL DATING THE SAME TOP 5% OF MEN
I experienced this 11 months and 30 days ago. Exactly this 😂 😭
Me: "I like you"
Her: "Sorry, but I just see us as "friends""
Translation: **rejected**
Translation: you have not even kissed her
She’s so damn beautiful, what lucky person she decides to get with bless you!!
You're only setting yourself up for huge amounts of pain by putting them on a pedestal.
“Yeah, it’s basically what you’ve been doing this whole time” ROASTED
dude I know that shit pisses me off
ive been in this situation too many times. when they ask to be friends, I say yes, then just basically ignore them anytime they text me. I have a habit of reciprocating the way people treat me
Bro that’s actually me- idk how tf I always get myself into situations were a guy likes me and I kinda like them but I know I can’t date them cause I’m not in the right headspace
Same happens with me too!! I can totally feel you😣
I mean people have their own life and they Don't want to waste their life dating so I can't blame you 🤷
Same 😭🙏
Then stop being like that. Just reject them outrightly when you're not interested. Srsly, always beating around the bush and leading people on..
What you really mean is they were not attractive enough for you.
Yo this just happened to me. Although I did wanna stay friends with her. She's hella cool and just because she don't wanna date me doesn't mean she can't be a cool friend... plus... what if she has another friend who does wanna date... connections yo.