Everyone deserves to feel loved and have good friends, but many people face certain situations while growing up with toxic parents, siblings, or getting teased by classmates. This makes them feel unloved and left out, resulting in social isolation and then loneliness. To anyone reading this, if you had a tough childhood, don't let whatever happened during your childhood prevent you from being the best version of yourself. Don't judge yourself for your social skills, those are merely skills, that can be learned through practice and observation. Open yourself to the world and show it your amazing, weird, goofy self and see the magic happen. Please don't sabotage yourself by turning down invitations or other opportunities to meet amazing people. The pain of loneliness is the worst thing in this world, some people feel that for a short time, while some with troubled childhood feel that they deserve it and accept it as their fate. That is not your fate, stop feeling sorry for yourself and immediately take charge of your social life. Nobody deserves to feel left out and lonely. NOBODY.
Hey Dr. Hope you read this. You’ve literally changed my life. From me a few months ago to now is an absolute 180. I have depression, anxiety and ADHD and have taken your advice and I’ve never felt better so thank you kindly. You’re a life saver, literally. EDIT: Also would like to add that because of Dr. Huberman. I was able to find the motivation to start my own online business which I just launched last week. No customers as of yet, but hey I started! Which was hard since I have inattentive adhd and never thought I’d be able to do it. I really hope that this inspires anyone reading this who is going at it tough that there is hope so keep pushing and there is always light at the end even though it may not seem like it.
For anyone wondering what has helped me. 1. Meditation! Mindfulness! 2. Early morning sun. I used to sleep all the time being I have depression. This is a must add to your mornings. It’s hard at first but hang in there and it’ll change you! 3. Fish oil, magnesium glycinate. I’m sceptical about supps. But I can say magnesium glycinate is doing something positive. 4. Cold showers. I hated cold showers. But after about a few weeks you will look forward to it. Strange but true. If anyone needs me to clarify or further tips please let me know. We all deserve to be happy as we all only have one shot at this.
@@adhrit1426 Hey Anubhav, I take 3 x 600mg caps a day. The brand I take is nutralife. They’re a New Zealand brand. I haven’t tried any other brand as I’ve only been on it for a few weeks but I can say it’s definitely doing something. I’m a skeptic though with supps but I 100% feel something from them. Only supp I can say I actually feel something from.
Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people because an upsetting event occurs in their lives taking them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......
Hi professor Huberman, could you please talk about humor? What's the neuroscience behind it? Why do we have it? I don't know whether there is sufficient literature to discuss such topic but I'm sure it would be very interesting. Thank you so much for your hard work!
would love this. As well as, how to improve humor! I heard of an interesting study where subjects would write captions for photos, and other subjects would grade them based on how funny they found them. apparently, over time, they got a bit better!
Bret weinstein has an intresting evolutionary argument for humor as a male sexual display; 1. Women are selecting for men with humor 2. This is because making a group of people laugh is a proxy indicator of high social status 3. Humor is the recognition of patterns that make sense but are not consciously apparent to everyone, i.e to make a joke is to seize a social opportunity. Therefore humor can be an indicator of a greater acuity for spotting opportunities to gain resources or status
Thank you so much! I had a serious bond with my cat, who passed away 3 weeks ago. For about 2 years of quarantines and online work he was my only close friend. He used to have multiple health issues and as he got worse I was syringe feeding him, giving medication every 6-8 hours and even organized space to monitor his night sleep. I was so anxious that I could only sleep when he sleeps and was checking on him multiple times. After he passed away, my body just forgot what it should do. I'd just lie down with my eyes open with zero comprehension of time going by. Your explanation of the loss was the most beautiful thing I've heard for a long time, I felt like someone acknowledged my right to grieve the loss of my cat. Bond is a bond if you feel like the one you're bonding to is special, no matter if it is "just" a cat. Body treats it all the same
asat.o I can completely relate to your experience, having lost my dog in 8/2019. I am finally, just now returning to a fairly 'normal' state. My dog also was sick - had cancer for 3 yrs. I had him on a very pricey protocol of nutriceuticals for cancer, CBD oil, vita. D therapy, homemade organic 'human' food, nutritional mushrooms, Chinese herbs, and a couple pharmaceuticals, plus regular acupressure treatments! This type cancer is what's medically termed 'indolent' meaning 'painless.' So he did beautifully for 3 years after diagnosis. I practically went to the poor house with all the expense of this protocol. But it seemed to work so I just kept going. This same cancer is typically highly fatal in dogs soon after diagnosis, or sometimes even before. Both his vets called him their miracle dog. He went downhill very quickly and passed away at home, peacefully, painlessly. Like you, I was devastated and seemed to lose all my motivation or even knowing who I was or how I should 'go about' my day. I felt like I didn't have 'a day' to 'go about'! My life was just a jumble of messy feelings & hopelessness 🙄 I did take advantage of reaching out to a pet-loss counselor - a free phone service - who was so awesome and helped pulled me out of the intial depths of despair, and feelings of guilt...we all feel that guilt after caring for a loved one who passes... (if ONLY I'd done THIS or done THAT, they would still be here...that type of guilt.) The counselor explained that we need to let this guilt GO, because holding onto it keeps us stuck, (we can't move forward) - we are unaccepting of the situation, and still hoping it isn't true, even though we know it is! So, she got me over the hump, to begin my journey back to finding myself and living my life. But for nearly 2 years I had very little motivation. Everything, even little things, were completely overwhelming. Dr. Huberman's Podcasts were a huge lifesaver - he threw me a life raft this past January that I've clung to ever since! I began to realize I had so little dopamine in my brain and that's why the low motivation. My dog's passing and all the anxiety & stress leading up to it changed my brain in a very bad way! So, I've followed all of Dr. Huberman's advice - watched all his podcasts and can finally say I am back to living life...not just existing. I am very sorry for the loss of your kitty. I can totally relate to your situation and your feelings. I am glad that you have also found help here with Dr. Huberman's very informative and actionable lectures. Merry Christmas & my 'Best' to you in the coming year😊
@@barbarafairbanks4578 oh wow, thank you for your support and your story! It must've been a hard journey for both of you. I had this guilt after my older cat passed away - I took him as elderly cat and he stayed with me for 4 years. I was just begging to live separately from my parents and my life was a mess. I remember asking for cat food packs for my birthday as a present and friends supported us. His previous owner didn't say anything about his health, so after his kidneys started to go wild, I discovered he only had one functional and when it was too late. He was in icu for a week and got comatose with no signs of getting any chance. I had to make a decision and put him down, he probably had 12 hours more of painful unconscious existence. That guilt weighted on me until Qat died, my little one. I took him as 3 year old cat and he was sick from the first day. I did everything. I've found best doctors. I was trying so hard to redeem myself and he died anyway. Looking back I realized, what I actually did good last with my elder cat with all resources I had. I miss both of them, but strangely I'm at peace. Hurts as hell, but I don't have anyone to blame. Sometimes I just don't get what I want no matter how hard I try. I wish we had counseling where I live, but unfortunately civilization hadn't spread that far yet. I had a session with emergency general psychology consultation, but weirdly enough - it is the rest of my life hurts. I had to put up with a lot of bad things to secure my cats health - overworking, horrible working conditions, being dependent on parents for housing (at some point it was a choice between paying rent or crashing my parents place and paying for cat treatment)... now I don't have an excuse to tolerate all this. Before my life was a shit I'm dealing with and my amazing little cat, now it is just shit. The void of unaccounted trauma is just opens before me
@@barbarafairbanks4578 deepest sympathy warm hugs Be kind to yourself as you move forward to an exciting future there are more animals who need someone to love them 🙏♥️👍😁💎
Of course it's never "just" a cat (or "just" anything). :) It's been a year since this comment has been left. I truly hope that you've been kind to yourself, that your wound has healed (as much as it can) and that you're doing well now!
I'm so thankful that I grew up with a mother who cared for me so much, we still have a close bond. I'm 44 and married but my mom lives with us in a shared house. My wife and I have a loving bond and can hardly be apart. However, we don't have much outside social interaction anymore for various reasons, and it does make it hard sometimes. We have each other, and for now that will have to be enough.
Wow. I was telling my friend that I feel I am actually an extrovert that became introverted by upbringing. I'm lonely and don't out but I yearn that social interaction. This puts that feeling into scientific terms. I'm so stoked.
Note to self: If strawberries start tasting sweeter while in a relationship it's because my brain has been releasing oxytocin, vasopressin, norepinephrine, dopamine, and phenylethylamine. Got it.
I’m listening to all your podcasts in order and just learned, in the episode with Lex Fridman, that you had recently lost Costello, your dear friend and companion. This is very late, but I’m so sorry for your loss. I really enjoyed how you talked about him and I can only imagine how profound the loss must feel. Thank you for speaking openly about him and how you said goodbye.
I'm watching this on my phone and Andrew had a perfect pair of glasses on for 3 seconds an I was like oh wow but realised it was simply a couple cracks in my phone
Andrew, your podcast about dopamine and addiction was the trigger that pushed me to finally quit cigarrettes and tobacco use. I’m 6 days free now and have not felt this good and awake in years. I want to thank you wholeheartedly for your effort and time in making these.
Congrats on quitting smoking! I quit in 2008, after smoking 16 years. I flipped that switch so hard that occasionally, I will have a dream that I am smoking, but I always think "WTF and throw my cigarette away".
@AMellowSurfer There were tons of replies here under your comment where did they all go? So weird I've never seen so many replies deleted from under one comment before. I don't think it was yt either.
My therapist actually recommended your podcasts to me, and this one was the first one I watched, starting with "Childhood Attachment patterns in Adulthood". I LOVED it! Thank you so much.
@@888-m2m, each section is labeled on his website, and the videos here are also sectioned. You just click the one you want, and it takes you to that point. Each video is long, so he has made it easy to find particular segments to watch. I think it's a great tactic!
You are the first scientist who has validated my strong feelings of empathy. I know it is subjective, but learning about the hormones involved makes perfect sense to me. Thank you for speaking on these topics. It gives me ideas for furthering my progress in my therapies. Thank you!
HSPs are the extreme introverts i guess. being isolated/antisocial for so long, the brain has a need to become hyperattuned to its environment thus it tend to sense more or even amplify the data it collects.. sometimes creating narration of such experience in a narrow view.. meaning whatever theme is most dominant in ones mind, thats what you sense more in the environment, a preconceived notion... what are you most hypersensitive about? what do you get ( a feeling state) when socializing??? more negative or positive? too many variants to consider...
I love when people use their hotness for good. Thanks for making these studies so accessible to us, this podcast has been one of my favourites this year!!
Just finished a university course on psychopharmacology and this podcast is just the cherry on top. Lots of dots to connect and food for thoughts. Thank you Andrew for keeping my mind well nourished!
don't keep those revelations you've gleaned from connecting said dots from the rest of the scientific community! Transparency between fields of study is crucial to our overall progress and meta-science.
@@polymathparkI've been reflecting on the role of dopamine and serotonin and their influence on thought patterns. I am an avid meditator and have a deep fascination for observing how my thoughts emerge. If we take dopamine for example, who its role is very roundly to move us towards what feels good and to ultimately recreate those experiences, I ask : how does it achieves this? And all I can seem to think about are thoughts. Let's say that i really enjoyed interacting with an individual, my thoughts will probably look like "wow this person is awesome, I wish to see them more" and the mind goes on about how great of an addition that person is now to our lives. So the more these thoughts are powered by, in this case dopamine, the more those thoughts transform into beliefs and belief systems and thus reinforcing the habit of moving towards them. Seems to me that dopamine when interacting/working with specific regions of the brain serves as some sort of projector that we interpret as specific thoughts.
This age of podcasting is 1000% game changer for me. Through listening to you I’ve learner I’m on the autistic spectrum. I’d love to hear a full episode from you on this subject. I’m in my mid 40’s and I never knew why I was so different. Now that I have a framework to help me understand and predict my thoughts and behaviour I’m feeling so much better.
Bondings have been my greatest challenge in life. As Helen Keller I've learned to turn away from the world around me. To connect with the invisible world. Tenderly love calls me into intimacies beyond what I have known. Changing me in ways I have no control of. Bonding with the spiritual world makes the visible world at peace and in harmony. I have neurological brain damage. Those that have labeled me as "weird". I'm able to laugh. They see in me a part of themselves. It scares them. No way am I lonely.
Dr. Andrew I have followed you for past 4 yrs now. Your childhood story caught my attention. You growing up with your parents and then your Dad leaves you and your Mom. It resonated it, mostly with my son. So watching your success, your gifts in educating the world of humanity and ways of life, give me so much hope for my son growing up without a father, after his father left us, his father subsequently end up passing away due to Covid leaving my son fatherless, my heart would break for my son, but you’ve truly given me hope and inspiration that my son will be and is just fine. Thank you for sharing so much with us all. May God cont to bless you.
Ty Andrew for helping me understand the various layers of the brain in understanding my emotional and cognitive roller coaster I'm experiencing with my daughter post my recent loss of my noble physician husband
This channel has easily become my favorite channel on RUclips. Perfect for thought provocation, perfect as white noise when falling asleep, perfect for entertainment. 10/10 from me.
i noticed this in italy. all villages where there is a community , where ppl meet weekly 1 -2 times to get all together and do everything together. and they all turn over 100 years.
Thank you Dr. Huberman, team, sponsors and supporters!🥳 50+ episodes already! This podcast is a testament to thriving through difficult times. Thank you COVID! Value adding content delivered with a bar-raising level of excellence for all podcasts! So close to 1 MILLION SUBSCRIBERS 🥳☀️ A blissful holiday season to all! #grateful #science
This video subject came right on time. I just let go of a very good guy because he just doesn't show anymore interest like he once did. Grateful for every person that crosses my path no matter how little or long they are around. You can always grow and learn from anyone. Stay fascinated with life.
@@Milan-mh4nc sorry you didn't understand my post friend. I let him go because he hasn't been showing me interest like he did in beginning. He has pulled away and more distant. So I just let go moving onwards. No use trying to get him to like me if he really just doesn't.
Thankyou, I now understand why I'm so upset my husband does not understand how I think nor empathise with my need for social interraction. It's the same with every experience in our relationship. He wants to do everything alone, gardening, reno's, cleaning, where I desperately crave the shared experience in any way. We can focus on externals, kids, sport, movies but this is not at the level needed in a marriage. It has been years and I now see it won't change. Thank you as I realise I have been gaslighted all this time with his dismissing that people "need" shared social interaction as ridiculous. Happy New Year.
I'm 5 months behind on episodes I'm going to have to start watching at least three a day. This is arguably the most important RUclips channel in existence. The work you are doing here is improve my life dramatically I can't even describe it I literally tell everyone I know about it. I wanted to answer these questions that you've answered for so long and understanding my own neural anatomy to this degree is just help me so much I wish that I could explain the richness I have in knowledge of myself. I'm going to have to put it in a song
I love this Podcast. My last kid went to college and all of a sudden I am experiencing this "loneliness feelings" I feel that this is a sense of loss. My brain has been doing exactly what he has been describing. I wake up and experience a little anxiety, I conscientiously say "I need to find a tribe" so my poInt is, my brain knows, and tells me through chemical rrlease what I need to survive AMAZING. We need to tune into, and act upon that which we are being told.
God! This podcast is making me love biology, and appreciate all the research community :D Schools did the exact opposite thing, I hated all this soo much. Thank you. You are a legend.
Dr. Andrew Huberman, I wish I could describe to you how incredibly grateful I am for your existence! Thank you SO much for the time and effort you put into writing these lectures for us to be able to easily understand the amazing science out there. Thanks to your lectures, I feel so empowered and more compassionate towards myself and others because of the knowledge I'm gaining about the brain and how it all works.
You are my go to for all things neuro, you're just so easy to listen too and waste no time with superfluous information. Thank you, so greatful for your work.
I just dipped into the introvert & extrovert part and Andrew Huberman has brilliantly defined me. Seems I'm an introvert who gets lots of dopamine from few social interactions. I knew I was perfectly comfortable with fairly short conversations and now I know why. However, a few months ago I felt strangely lonely sitting on the grass in a public space surrounded by young people (I'm quite old) who I didn't know... yet I think that I would have been perfectly happy if they weren't there! Thank you Professor Huberman - fascinating...
We are extremely Blessed to be a part of this tribe. Learning growing understanding neuroscience and science from one the best of the best. Profesor Huberman!! Seriously I have learn more from Monday’s Lessons in 2021 than my entire life. I feel pretty amazing 🤩 The best is yet to come!!!! Do your part peeps knowledge with out action is garbage.
I'll throw another "podcast changed my life" on the pile, truly top quality content. Could you do an episode about meditation and mindfulness specifically? I know meditation touches on NSDR but I'd love to hear more about brain changes, specific practices for cultivating those changes, and other types of meditation beyond traditional vipassana. Is there research on loving kindness meditation or tonglen? I'd love to hear you tackle the subject. Thank you for all you do!
Roughly 50% of us were not securely attached to our caregivers, that is, are impaired in our capacity to bond healthily. That's more than a "pathology"; that's half of us! This has huge implications for all aspects of society, from the economy, to mental health, health, education, crime, violence and on and on. It's not as upbeat and fun to address this half, but the focus is crucial if we are to progress as a society.
Educational leaders really need to hear this one (and the others too, of course) to have a better understanding of the introvert/extrovert equation with dopamine so that they can support students more effectively in a school environment and help students going through challenging life changes (moves, relocations, loss). Really helped me understand myself better too. Thanks so much.
Question: since we’re comparing the need for social interaction in introversion and extroversion to hunger, can you train or regulate your social “craving” in a similar way as the need for food during fasting? Or is the amount of dopamine released during a social encounter inbuilt? Thank you for a great episode once again, Dr Huberman!
I understand that neurogenesis is a driver in SSRIs ability to treat depression and has been found to occur in the +200mg range. The SSRIs dominate the receptors blocking the dopamine molecules, they lower your drive for social interaction. Opposite is true with norepinephrine. Being able to naturally build up the receptors via neurogenesis is probably not realistic.
@@kayas.1782 , you can increase dopamine receptor density and sensitivity through various things such as fasting, caffeine, an herb called forskolin, and sunlight. Remember the brain is very plastic.
Since 'fixing' my dopamine it is amazing that I can listen to this long form of content and educate myself. Truly fascinating for a young person who does not study these subjects formally. I just wish the rest of my generation could see the light, it is as if most of society is destroying their dopamine system and sinking into a terrible place. I feel the compounding effect of this over time will create a deep divide in society. Thankyou Andrew for this high quality information you are changing lives.
I'm crazy about this podcast, and I talk about it to my friends and family all the time, but the Ram Dass joke just won me over forever. Thank you Dr. Huberman, you're really changing lives.
Not even 15 minutes into this video and we get a very clear explanation of what's happening in the world right now. I just stumbled upon your channels while browsing Instagram and I'm hooked already. Thank you so much for brining science and biology, in a very understandable way, free of charge. You're a legend!
The fact that so many different desires load on the same system is incredibly interesting. If you're getting a ton of dopamine from falling in love, you forget your drive for other things. Also, if you are getting constant, massive reward from drugs or on demand stimulating experiences like porn, you will likewise feel very little motivation to do anything else. Now, what I am wondering is how the different drives balance over time. It certainly isn't sustainable to only care about one source of satisfaction across time. The drug user, for example, would enjoy their habit and forget about other motivations in the short term, but over some time would start to feel the rest of their life as miserable and just escape temporarily into that habit. If anyone has any insight here I would much appreciate it.
Dr. Huberman, my deepest condolences on the passing of your dear Costello. I will miss his gentle snoring interrupting your lecture and the way you lit up whenever you spoke of him.
So cool to see all of the praise in this comment section -- life-changing free-to-consumer science and teaching here! THANKS for the will-to-teach and help. this channel is gold.
Thank you for your great contribution Professor Andrew. Can you do an episode (maybe with a guest) on the neuroscience of belief (e.g. what sort of a state it is and what constitutes it neurologically)? This is an area that some modern-day epistemologists are also interested in. It is an old topic and one that is still discussed today.
It is an interesting phenomenon that humans delude themselves, believing in invisible beings, gods, and other fictions, but we're wired so that those delusions can create dopamine enhancement and other benefits.
May we just pause to note how awkward and adorable his anecdote about his sister was? The neuroscience stuff is cool too ;) And I don't mean his anecdote was awkward, but his discomfort around knowing too much about his sister's dating success was touching. I come from a family of over-sharers, for context.
Just wanted to say how grateful I am for this podcast. I was in a depressed state when I found this podcast and was able to break out by consistently taking cold showers for about a month before I noticed a significant change. Now it has been months that I've been doing this off and on so I don't become cold adapted. I've watched every episode from the episode 1 till this one here and I just needed to express my gratitude because the info has changed my life and my family's life. Not sure if Andrew will ever get this but I'd like to think deep down he will. Thanks again.
Andrew, last week's interview and the discussion about the visual cortex really got me interested in what you know about aphantasia. If there's enough data to make clear statements about it in an episode (or possibly a full episode on visualization or something), I would be very grateful. But I always appreciate your content. It's helped me in ways beyond words.
You are a gift from God! I've been binge eating for a while and didn't link it to my social circles which had been shrieked due to taking a gap year from university... it makes sense now !!! Thank you so much for this information I feel finally relieved 💗💗
Having Allan Schore on as a guest would be most delightful and educational. Both my wife and myself could really profit from it. Thank you for all your effort and generosity Dr!
Wish there was a way to scientifically understand how some people are completely unaffected after a breakup and move on with life peacefully 😅. Thanks for the amazing pod once again Dr. Huberman!
I paused the video again this morning at 19 minutes (I fell asleep while watching it last night into a pre-Christmas, I-was-spent-could-go-no-more, slumber) to say this is absolutely fascinating! I have found my dream channel here! And in summary, God is so awesome; He created the most extraordinary things ever, y'all!!!! Like. Ever. ❤️
Andrew, thank you very much for this approach, scientific research and your personal/professional view. I would like to ask about the neuroplasticity involved in such kind of isolation events and how we could take advantage of this rather than consider this as a negative impact, of course here I mentioned those who might see it as such and also not denying this fact. Maybe such an event could be seen from a different perspective due to the neurochemical activity, and by rising awareness, one could give people a better support in terms of lifting themselves up rather than waiting until it goes too deep into depression. Thanks and all the best
Such important topics are covered here! Love the part where you talk about how if you are chronically socially isolated, you become more "introverted." I have always felt we have "non-physical" muscles that we must work and thank you so much for helping to validate this from a science perspective!
This episode came out at a time when I really, really needed it. Thank you Dr. Huberman! Is there a difference between emptiness and loneliness? I feel like there are some days that I feel one, but not the other. Or maybe I just get them confused? What can I do when it feels like I can't connect because no one understands me? Either way, I think the tools in today's episode will help me a lot. Thanks again!
Kevin Deguzeman -just keep listening here, and you'll get insight into yourself & your feelings. As for 'can't connect bc no one understands me' - I've felt that too. But here, what we need to realize is that by repeating this negative statement, "No one understands me", we are perpetuating that (possibly completely untrue statement), and making ourselves feel even more lonely & empty & separate. Also, these 'feelings' when they pop up last only seconds. Realize that they pass quickly, and could also be lies you are in the habit of telling yourself. I realize this is 'true' in your POV, but is it, really? Is it objectively true? (I don't know you, but I seriously doubt it is true). AND...say it were somehow objectively true - 'No one understands Kevin'... Well, So WHAT? How would this, if it were objectively true, make you anything 'less'. It may make you FEEL 'less than', but it doesn't at all make you 'less than.' It just makes you 'different', if it IS somehow objectively true (which btw may be a very good thing, lol)😆 I get the feeling that this idea, for you, 'No one understands me' - could be feeding feelings of inferiority in you?...which leads even more to feeling 'separate' and unable to connect. So, cut that out! 😆 Some of the greatest people throughout history have been majorly 'misunderdtood' by others in their life - Jesus; Ghandi; Ben Franklin; Jonas Salk; Einstein; Harriet Tubman; Rosa Parks; Martin Luther King, Jr....the list goes on. You may be in very good company, Kevin, IF, indeed you are truly 'misunderstood' Lol. I would say...to overcome these feelings of emptiness (which I have also experienced), get to know yourself! Learn to be your own best friend. You can learn more about yourself with meditation...continuing to watch Huberman podcasts(!) & from your reading content. I have also been helped to learn more about myself quite a bit by reading the Stoics, like Marcus Aurelius; Seneca; Epectitus. These book - by Ryan Holiday 'The Obstacle is The Way', and 'The Daily Stoic' (and others by Holiday) are very helpful in learning to learn more about yourself. These books have been helpful for me, and also following Huberman's podcast - AND developing a solid morning routine of 'daily habits' I have established for myself- one by one (starting with ONE daily (beneficial) 'morning habit' then building on it, by 'stacking' others on - to establish a solid morning routine & structure my day. One book that helped me alot is James Clear's 'Atomic Habits', also Ryder Caroll's book 'The Bullet Journal Method' has been extremely helpful for me to learn Journaling & add structure to my life. (journaling your thoughts goals & intentions & structuring your days & your life, does away, IMO, with feelings of emptiness, and helps us to learn more about ourselves. I can assure you, that by following these practices...whoosh! your feelings of emptiness , and even loneliness (to some extent) can be dispensed with. Hope this helps!😊
You’re right. No one understands you, and no one ever will. We don’t understand ourselves - that’s why we’re here listening to Prof. Huberman. We understand some parts of ourselves, and misunderstand others. Same goes for other people. It’s like we’re all little spheres letting in light and reflecting it. Your mother sees you differently from your lover, and everyone else! And you see yourself differently from how you saw yourself when you were a kid, and that will change again. But I understand what you mean, and in that respect we understand each other. So I understand a part of you even though I’ve never met you. That’s pretty profound in and of itself. I feel the same way, although perhaps for different reasons. At least for me, I think that the problem isn’t so much other people not understanding me, but rather me not sharing myself with other people - with authentic confidence and good mood. If you’re not happy with yourself, or you think you’re inadequate, then you are generally not going to want to share yourself with others - and they will not understand you. And despite what all the pro vulnerability people say - there is wisdom in not alway sharing your inadequacies or shadow side, especially if you’re a man. So it would seem the best solution would be to address the thoughts/feelings/perceptions/ behaviours that are less than optimal, then you can confidently and authentically share yourself with others - without any shame or fear. I live in a tent in the bush, drive buses for a living and have zero social life. I haven’t pursued my passions, I feel worthless and unlovable. So I self-sabotage even further by isolating myself. Didn’t even need covid for that. I feel that others don’t understand me. I feel I don’t even understand myself (although there are some certainties and understanding). But at least we share some understanding! Wishing you a light journey mate.
@@peripheralparadox4218 Great points here. "we don't ever truly understand how others feel, and sometimes we don't even understand how we feel" is a quote from the podcast I need to remind myself of a lot more. I especially like your point about "wisdom in not sharing your vulnerabilities". I haven't thought about that viewpoint so much. Thank you for your insight and kind words, and I'm also glad to share some understanding with you. Cheers~
One of the most informative podcasts ever! I love listening to Dr Huberman’s cheerful voice, information is incredible! Thank you so much! This episode is my favorite. Hope to implement some advices into my future relationship with people.❤️🔥🙏🏼
Instead of staying up until the wee hours of the morning listening to the latest HLP, I’m going to show some restraint and go to bed instead. I’m pretty sure I have the HLP to thank for that!
Thanks Dr Huberman. I have approached your podcasts as a student and taken notes on things I find very useful (which is a LOT of the content) and have already begun to see profound changes in my life. I started watching your videos maybe 2 months ago and am so glad I started doing so. Please keep the amazing content coming, because I honestly will probably be watching these for life.
Merry Xmas Dr. Huberman! You are helping me knowing myself better. I have also realized that many of the reactions I have are "normal" and that has made me feel a lot better! Looking forward to 2022!
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson should be a guest. You might talk about personality, psychological differences between men and women, resilience, alcoholism, etc. He's gonna be touring the US during the next months. This podcast is the best audio-visual content I've found this year. Thanks Dr. Huberman, hope for many years of this.
You've covered so many brilliant topics. Would you consider covering sober mystical experiences? Obviously it's not a priority as less applicable to every day life. But very interesting. Many thanks.
By far another superior lecture from Dr Huberman. Also so timely due to the peculiar restrictions in social contact resulting from covid. After several listenings its verges on the "new normal" aspects of our future in these unsettled times,
Dr Huberman.. You talk about hierachy. And I cant help but think about how people with depression, anxiety and maybe other forms of mental issues, who get into patterns of thinking very poorly of themselves, are effected as to where they feel like they fit in a hierachy. Even if hierachies are plastic and we are part of a bunch of different hieracies. If we feel worthless because of whatever mental issue, that makes us move away from social situations. We might very well feel lonely and very much crave social interactions, only for it to make us feel even more miserable and useless. Making it even harder to go back to social interactions. That's a vicious circle. Is that a fair way of understanding what might be going on with someone who's isolated for instance because of depression?
Maybe that's why giving hope works to upset that equilibrium in a good way. I just worry about the false hope ... even being told one needs something outside himself to be complete is a lie. It's all within each of us but it sure does feel good to have a hand to hold while going through the uncomfortable paths with few reviews.
Dr Huberman, your conversational and humble presentation of research and discoveries on the neurobiology of social bonding is fascinating and helpful. It would be great to have Father Mike Schmitz on to discuss prayer and bonding with God and others as sources of mental health, responsibility to others and oneself, and ways to make our world good and more beautiful. God bless you and thank you so much for sharing your work.
Re listening and blown away by how densely fascinating this lecture is - my goodness, your offering so much here. The overall relevance of this is astounding-Re: the impact of this ongoing covid pandemic that’s impacted many of the social interactions that we had always enjoyed. Also, it’s refreshing to be able to grasp the underlying neurology and the biology involving our human relationships and social needs vary and can impact us. I’m saving this collection of podcasts/RUclipss because, I’ve found they are so intensely educational. I can’t thank you enough for this meaningful and deliberately accessible contribution that you’ve been offering. Your a rare gem and a gift to us! What a fascinating lecture - the synchronicity - wow - mirroring - so interesting how our physiology impacts our feeling of connection // and the way that we are so sensitive and our overall plasticity - holy cannoli… a shared story creates shared physiologically and our physiologically can cultivate ‘the Story’ - I love the idea that we can cultivate bridge by sharing experiences. Great job at articulating so much here. 💪❤️🙏👏
Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people because an upsetting event occurs in their lives taking them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......
Such a great descriptions of introvert and extrovert! Dr. Huberman truly has a talent to explain science to others. I am not a scientist and not very smart, but still can understand his lectures! Thank you! 🙏🥰
I’m eternally grateful I need very very little social interaction to feel sated. My friends are scattered around the world. I’m no longer on social media (and much healthier for it). The Buss episode killed and buried any dwindling desire I had left for a romantic relationship, and in case it wasn’t dead enough, his book dug it back up and set fire to it. I do have strong, beautiful bonds with my kids but I’d like to avoid a Grey Gardens part deux, so that leaves me with my trusty lunch. Steal my lunch, I’ll kick your shins.
@@davyroger3773 😂😂😂 nothing to do with my mate value. Everything to do with how diabolically shallow and abusive cis-het men can be (in effect plummeting their mate value). All Buss (and Huberman by endorsement) did was give men permission to be this way and leave it up to women to select better. I’m selecting better by not selecting at all. Never been happier.
@@_negentropy_ Idk what a cis hed man is but I dont think Buss is advocating for anything other than taking the findings and theories of E.P seriously. Remember the is ought fallacy; just because the data points to something being the case does not mean it should be that way or justify it at all. After all nature and her processes are amoral and at times rather nasty.
@@davyroger3773 I hear you. My post is mostly tongue-in-cheek. I think there is tremendous value in the question “what is the adaptive value of ___?” But E.P. struggles to acknowledge the vast heterogeneity of human beings. When their theories include some consideration for how incredibly complex and nuanced humans are, or the infinite variability of life and situational circumstances, schemas, heuristics, epigenetics, environment, conditioning, etc. that account for any act of behaviour, including mate-value preference, I’d be happy to take their theories seriously. Good luck out there.Take care.
This is a really interesting video. In my early 20s after a number of failed relationships, I came to the realization that in order for me to develop feelings for someone and fall in love, there had to be 3 components present with a potential romantic partner. There has to be a strong mental connection, where we can share stimulating conversation. There has to be strong emotional connection. And there has to be a strong physical attraction. Mind, body, and heart have to be in harmony for me to feel the full depth of romantic connection. I would say it parallels the idea that emotional empathy, cognitive empathy, and a shared physiological state all contribute to our connections.
Question: if "bad" social interaction is the only kind I have access to, am I better of to deal with the distress of loneliness, or to engage in the bad social interaction and deal with the distress of the bad interaction? Does it depend on the amount of distress each would incur?
This seems to be increasingly problematic issue for many. On the one hand we desire to connect. On the other there’s conflicting issues associated with it. I think a lot of it’s associated with the dissonance we experience along with how technology is affecting our social skills. There’s other contributors specific to the individual. Anyway, I feel similar and can relate with what you’re saying. I enjoy intellectual discussions such as this, collaboration and discovery involving open mindedness. There’s lots of agendas today, political conflict and a number of other things that are very disruptive. We want to reach out and socialize, do and then end up retreating in cycles. I don’t know if that’s the way you feel. We are learning more all the time too. The more we know, the natural consequence is increasingly subjecting oneself to confronting ignorances. Then, just give me some space for myself so that I can experience peace! It’s a struggle because we want both. To experience connections while experiencing contentment. That’s difficult to achieve.
I love your videos and podcasts, thank you for sharing your knowledge! Some suggestions for further episodes/topics I'd be interested in: 1) female sexual hormones (influence of menstruation cycle on mood..) and 2) neurodiversity (HSP, Autism, ADHD..)
Simple brilliant podcast. I hope people don't feel this is reductionist, it feels this understanding of relationships should make our understanding of relationships more comprehensive. One of the best pieces of learning content I've ever had the pleasure of listening to
Really sorry to hear about Costellos passing. My husband and I both listen and could tell how much he means to you. Another great podcast which makes us feel so engaged and enlightened by the work you and your team put together.
Hey Andrew! Thanks for another amazing podcast! I would absolutely love to see Dr Zach Bush come on as a guest, not sure if you can make that happen but it would be incredible to see what comes out of a conversation between the two of you! 🙏🏼 Merry Christmas to you, your family and your team.
Hey, thanks for releasing this. I feel like an alien, and I have very little social relationships. The ones I do have feel superficial, but I am still grateful for them. So yeah, it's great to have this man break it down in a dry, intellectual way. I like it like that. Let's hear it, sir.
I appreciate that you included non-human animals when discussing the impact of social isolation. So many captive social animals, particularly Dogs and horses, are kept in isolation for one third or more of their lives. Many of the guardians of these animals boast that their animals don't even want to come out of their cages/stalls or are eager to go back into their cages, somehow proving they must be den animals or some other lunacy. I loved your explanation of why these animals have a difficult time outside their boxes and that it has nothing to do with a natural and healthy lifestyle for the animal. I'd love it if you did a video explaining the needs of social animals with a focus on Dogs. From one Dog lover to another.
Can you do an episode on learning disabilities and treatments, something I struggle with. Types of learning, visual/hearing, improving recall etc. Appreciate all your hard work! Hope your doing well, Merry Christmas! Will enjoy this episode today at work.
Everyone deserves to feel loved and have good friends, but many people face certain situations while growing up with toxic parents, siblings, or getting teased by classmates. This makes them feel unloved and left out, resulting in social isolation and then loneliness. To anyone reading this, if you had a tough childhood, don't let whatever happened during your childhood prevent you from being the best version of yourself. Don't judge yourself for your social skills, those are merely skills, that can be learned through practice and observation. Open yourself to the world and show it your amazing, weird, goofy self and see the magic happen. Please don't sabotage yourself by turning down invitations or other opportunities to meet amazing people. The pain of loneliness is the worst thing in this world, some people feel that for a short time, while some with troubled childhood feel that they deserve it and accept it as their fate. That is not your fate, stop feeling sorry for yourself and immediately take charge of your social life. Nobody deserves to feel left out and lonely. NOBODY.
Well said !
Thank you :)) Your comment really encouraged me!
Thank you for this
There are other reasons someone might be in this situation too, not just bad childhood.
Hitler?
Hey Dr. Hope you read this. You’ve literally changed my life. From me a few months ago to now is an absolute 180. I have depression, anxiety and ADHD and have taken your advice and I’ve never felt better so thank you kindly. You’re a life saver, literally.
EDIT: Also would like to add that because of Dr. Huberman. I was able to find the motivation to start my own online business which I just launched last week. No customers as of yet, but hey I started! Which was hard since I have inattentive adhd and never thought I’d be able to do it. I really hope that this inspires anyone reading this who is going at it tough that there is hope so keep pushing and there is always light at the end even though it may not seem like it.
For anyone wondering what has helped me.
1. Meditation! Mindfulness!
2. Early morning sun. I used to sleep all the time being I have depression. This is a must add to your mornings. It’s hard at first but hang in there and it’ll change you!
3. Fish oil, magnesium glycinate. I’m sceptical about supps. But I can say magnesium glycinate is doing something positive.
4. Cold showers. I hated cold showers. But after about a few weeks you will look forward to it. Strange but true.
If anyone needs me to clarify or further tips please let me know. We all deserve to be happy as we all only have one shot at this.
@@emectar1773 wow. Saw your post after posting above. What a coincidence. Have a look and let me know if you need further info.
@@Xwisit Hi what dosage of Mag Glycinate do you take and also what brand do ya prefer?
This is incredible!! Well done you for taking action
@@adhrit1426 Hey Anubhav, I take 3 x 600mg caps a day. The brand I take is nutralife. They’re a New Zealand brand. I haven’t tried any other brand as I’ve only been on it for a few weeks but I can say it’s definitely doing something. I’m a skeptic though with supps but I 100% feel something from them. Only supp I can say I actually feel something from.
Andrew Huberman is single-handedly rewiring my brain such that I am looking forward to Mondays
Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people because an upsetting event occurs in their lives taking them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death.
While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes.
Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way.
It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......
single handedly revolutionazing youtube
and turning me into an introvert...
me too 😂
Agenda In Mind … Wow… powerful insight and info 🙏
Hi professor Huberman, could you please talk about humor? What's the neuroscience behind it? Why do we have it? I don't know whether there is sufficient literature to discuss such topic but I'm sure it would be very interesting. Thank you so much for your hard work!
This was a really good thought! I would love to hear the answer to that as well!
This one would be so good as an episode. I love humor. 💛
would love this. As well as, how to improve humor! I heard of an interesting study where subjects would write captions for photos, and other subjects would grade them based on how funny they found them. apparently, over time, they got a bit better!
Great idea! The neuroscience of humor would be amazing!
Bret weinstein has an intresting evolutionary argument for humor as a male sexual display; 1. Women are selecting for men with humor 2. This is because making a group of people laugh is a proxy indicator of high social status
3. Humor is the recognition of patterns that make sense but are not consciously apparent to everyone, i.e to make a joke is to seize a social opportunity. Therefore humor can be an indicator of a greater acuity for spotting opportunities to gain resources or status
Thank you so much! I had a serious bond with my cat, who passed away 3 weeks ago. For about 2 years of quarantines and online work he was my only close friend. He used to have multiple health issues and as he got worse I was syringe feeding him, giving medication every 6-8 hours and even organized space to monitor his night sleep. I was so anxious that I could only sleep when he sleeps and was checking on him multiple times. After he passed away, my body just forgot what it should do. I'd just lie down with my eyes open with zero comprehension of time going by. Your explanation of the loss was the most beautiful thing I've heard for a long time, I felt like someone acknowledged my right to grieve the loss of my cat. Bond is a bond if you feel like the one you're bonding to is special, no matter if it is "just" a cat. Body treats it all the same
asat.o I can completely relate to your experience, having lost my dog in 8/2019.
I am finally, just now returning to a fairly 'normal' state.
My dog also was sick - had cancer for 3 yrs. I had him on a very pricey protocol of nutriceuticals for cancer, CBD oil, vita. D therapy, homemade organic 'human' food, nutritional mushrooms, Chinese herbs, and a couple pharmaceuticals, plus regular acupressure treatments!
This type cancer is what's medically termed 'indolent' meaning 'painless.'
So he did beautifully for 3 years after diagnosis.
I practically went to the poor house with all the expense of this protocol. But it seemed to work so I just kept going.
This same cancer is typically highly fatal in dogs soon after diagnosis, or sometimes even before. Both his vets called him their miracle dog.
He went downhill very quickly and passed away at home, peacefully, painlessly.
Like you, I was devastated and seemed to lose all my motivation or even knowing who I was or how I should 'go about' my day. I felt like I didn't have 'a day' to 'go about'! My life was just a jumble of messy feelings & hopelessness 🙄
I did take advantage of reaching out to a pet-loss counselor - a free phone service - who was so awesome and helped pulled me out of the intial depths of despair, and feelings of guilt...we all feel that guilt after caring for a loved one who passes... (if ONLY I'd done THIS or done THAT, they would still be here...that type of guilt.)
The counselor explained that we need to let this guilt GO, because holding onto it keeps us stuck, (we can't move forward) - we are unaccepting of the situation, and still hoping it isn't true, even though we know it is!
So, she got me over the hump, to begin my journey back to finding myself and living my life.
But for nearly 2 years I had very little motivation. Everything, even little things, were completely overwhelming.
Dr. Huberman's Podcasts were a huge lifesaver - he threw me a life raft this past January that I've clung to ever since!
I began to realize I had so little dopamine in my brain and that's why the low motivation. My dog's passing and all the anxiety & stress leading up to it changed my brain in a very bad way!
So, I've followed all of Dr. Huberman's advice - watched all his podcasts and can finally say I am back to living life...not just existing.
I am very sorry for the loss of your kitty. I can totally relate to your situation and your feelings. I am glad that you have also found help here with Dr. Huberman's very informative and actionable lectures.
Merry Christmas & my 'Best' to you in the coming year😊
@@barbarafairbanks4578 oh wow, thank you for your support and your story! It must've been a hard journey for both of you. I had this guilt after my older cat passed away - I took him as elderly cat and he stayed with me for 4 years. I was just begging to live separately from my parents and my life was a mess. I remember asking for cat food packs for my birthday as a present and friends supported us. His previous owner didn't say anything about his health, so after his kidneys started to go wild, I discovered he only had one functional and when it was too late. He was in icu for a week and got comatose with no signs of getting any chance. I had to make a decision and put him down, he probably had 12 hours more of painful unconscious existence. That guilt weighted on me until Qat died, my little one. I took him as 3 year old cat and he was sick from the first day. I did everything. I've found best doctors. I was trying so hard to redeem myself and he died anyway. Looking back I realized, what I actually did good last with my elder cat with all resources I had. I miss both of them, but strangely I'm at peace. Hurts as hell, but I don't have anyone to blame. Sometimes I just don't get what I want no matter how hard I try.
I wish we had counseling where I live, but unfortunately civilization hadn't spread that far yet. I had a session with emergency general psychology consultation, but weirdly enough - it is the rest of my life hurts. I had to put up with a lot of bad things to secure my cats health - overworking, horrible working conditions, being dependent on parents for housing (at some point it was a choice between paying rent or crashing my parents place and paying for cat treatment)... now I don't have an excuse to tolerate all this. Before my life was a shit I'm dealing with and my amazing little cat, now it is just shit. The void of unaccounted trauma is just opens before me
I’m sorry.
There is no thing as “just a cat”… love is love❤
@@barbarafairbanks4578 deepest sympathy warm hugs Be kind to yourself as you move forward to an exciting future there are more animals who need someone to love them
🙏♥️👍😁💎
Of course it's never "just" a cat (or "just" anything). :)
It's been a year since this comment has been left. I truly hope that you've been kind to yourself, that your wound has healed (as much as it can) and that you're doing well now!
How fortunate I feel to attend this professor's exquisite lectures complete free of charges. So greatful!
I'm so thankful that I grew up with a mother who cared for me so much, we still have a close bond. I'm 44 and married but my mom lives with us in a shared house. My wife and I have a loving bond and can hardly be apart. However, we don't have much outside social interaction anymore for various reasons, and it does make it hard sometimes. We have each other, and for now that will have to be enough.
Wow. I was telling my friend that I feel I am actually an extrovert that became introverted by upbringing. I'm lonely and don't out but I yearn that social interaction. This puts that feeling into scientific terms. I'm so stoked.
Note to self: If strawberries start tasting sweeter while in a relationship it's because my brain has been releasing oxytocin, vasopressin, norepinephrine, dopamine, and phenylethylamine. Got it.
Wednes Day, Thank you!!🙏🏽❤️ Merry Christmas and happy New Year’s girl!!😂❤️✊🏽✌🏽
@@winbalingit8502 You're so sweet 🥰
Exactly!
now post it on your fridge.
Great comment -- I love it! 💖🙏🏼😆
I’m listening to all your podcasts in order and just learned, in the episode with Lex Fridman, that you had recently lost Costello, your dear friend and companion. This is very late, but I’m so sorry for your loss. I really enjoyed how you talked about him and I can only imagine how profound the loss must feel. Thank you for speaking openly about him and how you said goodbye.
Costello had an amazing presence & absolutely was meant to be a part of this podcast..
So adorable!
I'm watching this on my phone and Andrew had a perfect pair of glasses on for 3 seconds an I was like oh wow but realised it was simply a couple cracks in my phone
Andrew, your podcast about dopamine and addiction was the trigger that pushed me to finally quit cigarrettes and tobacco use. I’m 6 days free now and have not felt this good and awake in years. I want to thank you wholeheartedly for your effort and time in making these.
Congrats on quitting smoking! I quit in 2008, after smoking 16 years. I flipped that switch so hard that occasionally, I will have a dream that I am smoking, but I always think "WTF and throw my cigarette away".
@AMellowSurfer There were tons of replies here under your comment where did they all go? So weird I've never seen so many replies deleted from under one comment before. I don't think it was yt either.
@@888-m2m perhaps I have that affect.
@@lauraschoen5860 🤣🤣🤣 Not a good affect to have then.
@@888-m2m lol....may you find all your answers!
My therapist actually recommended your podcasts to me, and this one was the first one I watched, starting with "Childhood Attachment patterns in Adulthood". I LOVED it! Thank you so much.
Is that video on this channel about childhood attachment patterns? Sounds really interesting and would love to watch!
AMAZING
@@888-m2m, each section is labeled on his website, and the videos here are also sectioned. You just click the one you want, and it takes you to that point. Each video is long, so he has made it easy to find particular segments to watch. I think it's a great tactic!
I recommended THIS podcast to MY therapist :)
@@s.bibula7585 Thank you! 🙂
My emotional and cognitive well being increases every time I consume your content. Thank you for what you do, Dr. Huberman.
You are the first scientist who has validated my strong feelings of empathy. I know it is subjective, but learning about the hormones involved makes perfect sense to me. Thank you for speaking on these topics. It gives me ideas for furthering my progress in my therapies. Thank you!
I would love to see more around Social Bonding & Oxytocin.
An episode on Highly Sensitive People (HSP) would also be intriguing.
I agree. I have some HSP characteristics myself, and I'm interested in learning more about it.
HSPs are the extreme introverts i guess. being isolated/antisocial for so long, the brain has a need to become hyperattuned to its environment thus it tend to sense more or even amplify the data it collects.. sometimes creating narration of such experience in a narrow view.. meaning whatever theme is most dominant in ones mind, thats what you sense more in the environment, a preconceived notion...
what are you most hypersensitive about? what do you get ( a feeling state) when socializing??? more negative or positive? too many variants to consider...
Andrew, after i watched your podcast about dopamine, i managed to quit pornography! Pornfree for 3 months and never going back, such a big difference!
nobody likes a quitter.
Wow brother im at 31 days
@@borisleoro8943 congrats! We go strong, bro!
@Brett M the podcast number 39
@Brett M you are welcome
I’m so sorry to learn Costello passed. My heart breaks for you. Thanks for all you do on this podcast -it’s fantastic ans much needed.
wtf
I love when people use their hotness for good. Thanks for making these studies so accessible to us, this podcast has been one of my favourites this year!!
Just finished a university course on psychopharmacology and this podcast is just the cherry on top. Lots of dots to connect and food for thoughts. Thank you Andrew for keeping my mind well nourished!
don't keep those revelations you've gleaned from connecting said dots from the rest of the scientific community! Transparency between fields of study is crucial to our overall progress and meta-science.
@@polymathparkI've been reflecting on the role of dopamine and serotonin and their influence on thought patterns. I am an avid meditator and have a deep fascination for observing how my thoughts emerge. If we take dopamine for example, who its role is very roundly to move us towards what feels good and to ultimately recreate those experiences, I ask : how does it achieves this? And all I can seem to think about are thoughts. Let's say that i really enjoyed interacting with an individual, my thoughts will probably look like "wow this person is awesome, I wish to see them more" and the mind goes on about how great of an addition that person is now to our lives. So the more these thoughts are powered by, in this case dopamine, the more those thoughts transform into beliefs and belief systems and thus reinforcing the habit of moving towards them. Seems to me that dopamine when interacting/working with specific regions of the brain serves as some sort of projector that we interpret as specific thoughts.
@@sarah-anneperry6932 well...there ya go! Cannot figure out the brain WITH the brain...scientific fact.
This age of podcasting is 1000% game changer for me. Through listening to you I’ve learner I’m on the autistic spectrum. I’d love to hear a full episode from you on this subject. I’m in my mid 40’s and I never knew why I was so different. Now that I have a framework to help me understand and predict my thoughts and behaviour I’m feeling so much better.
Bondings have been my greatest challenge in life. As Helen Keller I've learned to turn away from the world around me. To connect with the invisible world. Tenderly love calls me into intimacies beyond what I have known. Changing me in ways I have no control of. Bonding with the spiritual world makes the visible world at peace and in harmony. I have neurological brain damage. Those that have labeled me as "weird". I'm able to laugh. They see in me a part of themselves. It scares them. No way am I lonely.
sounds like somebody has been doing some seriously profound introspection...
Dr. Andrew I have followed you for past 4 yrs now. Your childhood story caught my attention. You growing up with your parents and then your Dad leaves you and your Mom. It resonated it, mostly with my son. So watching your success, your gifts in educating the world of humanity and ways of life, give me so much hope for my son growing up without a father, after his father left us, his father subsequently end up passing away due to Covid leaving my son fatherless, my heart would break for my son, but you’ve truly given me hope and inspiration that my son will be and is just fine. Thank you for sharing so much with us all. May God cont to bless you.
Andrew, my heart goes out to you and I extend my sincere condolences on the loss of Costello.
How fascinating that everything we do boils down to release of chemicals in the brain. Thank you, Dr. Huberman for providing so much free value!
Ty Andrew for helping me understand the various layers of the brain in understanding my emotional and cognitive roller coaster I'm experiencing with my daughter post my recent loss of my noble physician husband
This channel has easily become my favorite channel on RUclips. Perfect for thought provocation, perfect as white noise when falling asleep, perfect for entertainment. 10/10 from me.
I can't tell you how much I appreciate what you do!! Your ability to communicate complex ideas in a clear way is remarkable!
Maya Angelo once said, When you know better you do better. She was an awesome person and so are you. Thank you for all you do.
i noticed this in italy. all villages where there is a community , where ppl meet weekly 1 -2 times to get all together and do everything together. and they all turn over 100 years.
Thank you Dr. Huberman, team, sponsors and supporters!🥳 50+ episodes already!
This podcast is a testament to thriving through difficult times. Thank you COVID!
Value adding content delivered with a bar-raising level of excellence for all podcasts!
So close to 1 MILLION SUBSCRIBERS 🥳☀️
A blissful holiday season to all! #grateful #science
This video subject came right on time. I just let go of a very good guy because he just doesn't show anymore interest like he once did. Grateful for every person that crosses my path no matter how little or long they are around. You can always grow and learn from anyone. Stay fascinated with life.
You let him go and wonder why he doesn't show interest? Did I understand that correctly?
@@Milan-mh4nc I believe she's saying the guy hasn't been showing interest like he use to and she let go of him due to that
@@hu_ni_1 thank you for explaining
@@Milan-mh4nc sorry you didn't understand my post friend. I let him go because he hasn't been showing me interest like he did in beginning. He has pulled away and more distant. So I just let go moving onwards. No use trying to get him to like me if he really just doesn't.
@@memastarful I see. Good on you for noticing that.
Thankyou, I now understand why I'm so upset my husband does not understand how I think nor empathise with my need for social interraction. It's the same with every experience in our relationship. He wants to do everything alone, gardening, reno's, cleaning, where I desperately crave the shared experience in any way. We can focus on externals, kids, sport, movies but this is not at the level needed in a marriage. It has been years and I now see it won't change. Thank you as I realise I have been gaslighted all this time with his dismissing that people "need" shared social interaction as ridiculous. Happy New Year.
I'm 5 months behind on episodes I'm going to have to start watching at least three a day. This is arguably the most important RUclips channel in existence. The work you are doing here is improve my life dramatically I can't even describe it I literally tell everyone I know about it. I wanted to answer these questions that you've answered for so long and understanding my own neural anatomy to this degree is just help me so much I wish that I could explain the richness I have in knowledge of myself. I'm going to have to put it in a song
I love this Podcast. My last kid went to college and all of a sudden I am experiencing this "loneliness feelings" I feel that this is a sense of loss. My brain has been doing exactly what he has been describing. I wake up and experience a little anxiety, I conscientiously say "I need to find a tribe" so my poInt is, my brain knows, and tells me through chemical rrlease what I need to survive AMAZING. We need to tune into, and act upon that which we are being told.
God! This podcast is making me love biology, and appreciate all the research community :D
Schools did the exact opposite thing, I hated all this soo much.
Thank you. You are a legend.
you saved my life, i was irritable didnt knew why started to interact felt good
Thank you professor Huberman for the life changing information, free information like this is being taking for granted these days ❤️
Dr. Andrew Huberman, I wish I could describe to you how incredibly grateful I am for your existence! Thank you SO much for the time and effort you put into writing these lectures for us to be able to easily understand the amazing science out there. Thanks to your lectures, I feel so empowered and more compassionate towards myself and others because of the knowledge I'm gaining about the brain and how it all works.
You are my go to for all things neuro, you're just so easy to listen too and waste no time with superfluous information. Thank you, so greatful for your work.
I just dipped into the introvert & extrovert part and Andrew Huberman has brilliantly defined me. Seems I'm an introvert who gets lots of dopamine from few social interactions. I knew I was perfectly comfortable with fairly short conversations and now I know why.
However, a few months ago I felt strangely lonely sitting on the grass in a public space surrounded by young people (I'm quite old) who I didn't know... yet I think that I would have been perfectly happy if they weren't there!
Thank you Professor Huberman - fascinating...
Dr Huberman a video on hair loss would be very much appreciated.
We are extremely Blessed to be a part of this tribe. Learning growing understanding neuroscience and science from one the best of the best.
Profesor Huberman!! Seriously I have learn more from Monday’s Lessons in 2021 than my entire life. I feel pretty amazing 🤩 The best is yet to come!!!! Do your part peeps knowledge with out action is garbage.
I'll throw another "podcast changed my life" on the pile, truly top quality content. Could you do an episode about meditation and mindfulness specifically? I know meditation touches on NSDR but I'd love to hear more about brain changes, specific practices for cultivating those changes, and other types of meditation beyond traditional vipassana. Is there research on loving kindness meditation or tonglen? I'd love to hear you tackle the subject. Thank you for all you do!
Thank you for your interest in the topic 😁💗
I think I saw him (maybe on twitter) saying he would do so in the near future
Roughly 50% of us were not securely attached to our caregivers, that is, are impaired in our capacity to bond healthily. That's more than a "pathology"; that's half of us! This has huge implications for all aspects of society, from the economy, to mental health, health, education, crime, violence and on and on. It's not as upbeat and fun to address this half, but the focus is crucial if we are to progress as a society.
Couldn’t agree more.
Educational leaders really need to hear this one (and the others too, of course) to have a better understanding of the introvert/extrovert equation with dopamine so that they can support students more effectively in a school environment and help students going through challenging life changes (moves, relocations, loss). Really helped me understand myself better too. Thanks so much.
Question: since we’re comparing the need for social interaction in introversion and extroversion to hunger, can you train or regulate your social “craving” in a similar way as the need for food during fasting? Or is the amount of dopamine released during a social encounter inbuilt? Thank you for a great episode once again, Dr Huberman!
Good question.
Inbuilt
I understand that neurogenesis is a driver in SSRIs ability to treat depression and has been found to occur in the +200mg range.
The SSRIs dominate the receptors blocking the dopamine molecules, they lower your drive for social interaction.
Opposite is true with norepinephrine.
Being able to naturally build up the receptors via neurogenesis is probably not realistic.
@@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y Fascinating. Thank you for the reply!
@@kayas.1782 , you can increase dopamine receptor density and sensitivity through various things such as fasting, caffeine, an herb called forskolin, and sunlight. Remember the brain is very plastic.
Since 'fixing' my dopamine it is amazing that I can listen to this long form of content and educate myself. Truly fascinating for a young person who does not study these subjects formally. I just wish the rest of my generation could see the light, it is as if most of society is destroying their dopamine system and sinking into a terrible place. I feel the compounding effect of this over time will create a deep divide in society. Thankyou Andrew for this high quality information you are changing lives.
When u are speaking doc, it feels like my brain is talking to me .....
So fulfilling and satisfying to hear from you sir. ☺
I'm crazy about this podcast, and I talk about it to my friends and family all the time, but the Ram Dass joke just won me over forever. Thank you Dr. Huberman, you're really changing lives.
Not even 15 minutes into this video and we get a very clear explanation of what's happening in the world right now. I just stumbled upon your channels while browsing Instagram and I'm hooked already. Thank you so much for brining science and biology, in a very understandable way, free of charge. You're a legend!
Empathy, patience and knowledge...those three would help this world a lot!
The fact that so many different desires load on the same system is incredibly interesting. If you're getting a ton of dopamine from falling in love, you forget your drive for other things. Also, if you are getting constant, massive reward from drugs or on demand stimulating experiences like porn, you will likewise feel very little motivation to do anything else. Now, what I am wondering is how the different drives balance over time. It certainly isn't sustainable to only care about one source of satisfaction across time. The drug user, for example, would enjoy their habit and forget about other motivations in the short term, but over some time would start to feel the rest of their life as miserable and just escape temporarily into that habit. If anyone has any insight here I would much appreciate it.
Dr. Huberman, my deepest condolences on the passing of your dear Costello. I will miss his gentle snoring interrupting your lecture and the way you lit up whenever you spoke of him.
Changing life 🧬 one episode at a time .
So cool to see all of the praise in this comment section -- life-changing free-to-consumer science and teaching here! THANKS for the will-to-teach and help. this channel is gold.
Thank you for your great contribution Professor Andrew.
Can you do an episode (maybe with a guest) on the neuroscience of belief (e.g. what sort of a state it is and what constitutes it neurologically)? This is an area that some modern-day epistemologists are also interested in. It is an old topic and one that is still discussed today.
Seconded.
It is an interesting phenomenon that humans delude themselves, believing in invisible beings, gods, and other fictions, but we're wired so that those delusions can create dopamine enhancement and other benefits.
As a therapist I give your name out for people to listen. Amazing stuff!
Your amazing. Thank you for all the hard work that goes into this.
May we just pause to note how awkward and adorable his anecdote about his sister was?
The neuroscience stuff is cool too ;)
And I don't mean his anecdote was awkward, but his discomfort around knowing too much about his sister's dating success was touching. I come from a family of over-sharers, for context.
I thought that it was very funny as well. The anecdote was interesting too, esp the bit about jazz clubs.
Just wanted to say how grateful I am for this podcast. I was in a depressed state when I found this podcast and was able to break out by consistently taking cold showers for about a month before I noticed a significant change. Now it has been months that I've been doing this off and on so I don't become cold adapted.
I've watched every episode from the episode 1 till this one here and I just needed to express my gratitude because the info has changed my life and my family's life. Not sure if Andrew will ever get this but I'd like to think deep down he will.
Thanks again.
Andrew, last week's interview and the discussion about the visual cortex really got me interested in what you know about aphantasia. If there's enough data to make clear statements about it in an episode (or possibly a full episode on visualization or something), I would be very grateful.
But I always appreciate your content. It's helped me in ways beyond words.
You are a gift from God! I've been binge eating for a while and didn't link it to my social circles which had been shrieked due to taking a gap year from university... it makes sense now !!! Thank you so much for this information I feel finally relieved 💗💗
Having Allan Schore on as a guest would be most delightful and educational. Both my wife and myself could really profit from it.
Thank you for all your effort and generosity Dr!
Wish there was a way to scientifically understand how some people are completely unaffected after a breakup and move on with life peacefully 😅.
Thanks for the amazing pod once again Dr. Huberman!
I paused the video again this morning at 19 minutes (I fell asleep while watching it last night into a pre-Christmas, I-was-spent-could-go-no-more, slumber) to say this is absolutely fascinating! I have found my dream channel here! And in summary, God is so awesome; He created the most extraordinary things ever, y'all!!!! Like. Ever. ❤️
Andrew, thank you very much for this approach, scientific research and your personal/professional view. I would like to ask about the neuroplasticity involved in such kind of isolation events and how we could take advantage of this rather than consider this as a negative impact, of course here I mentioned those who might see it as such and also not denying this fact. Maybe such an event could be seen from a different perspective due to the neurochemical activity, and by rising awareness, one could give people a better support in terms of lifting themselves up rather than waiting until it goes too deep into depression. Thanks and all the best
Such important topics are covered here! Love the part where you talk about how if you are chronically socially isolated, you become more "introverted." I have always felt we have "non-physical" muscles that we must work and thank you so much for helping to validate this from a science perspective!
This episode came out at a time when I really, really needed it. Thank you Dr. Huberman!
Is there a difference between emptiness and loneliness? I feel like there are some days that I feel one, but not the other. Or maybe I just get them confused? What can I do when it feels like I can't connect because no one understands me?
Either way, I think the tools in today's episode will help me a lot. Thanks again!
I feel that sometimes
Kevin Deguzeman -just keep listening here, and you'll get insight into yourself & your feelings.
As for 'can't connect bc no one understands me' - I've felt that too.
But here, what we need to realize is that by repeating this negative statement, "No one understands me", we are perpetuating that (possibly completely untrue statement), and making ourselves feel even more lonely & empty & separate. Also, these 'feelings' when they pop up last only seconds. Realize that they pass quickly, and could also be lies you are in the habit of telling yourself.
I realize this is 'true' in your POV, but is it, really? Is it objectively true? (I don't know you, but I seriously doubt it is true).
AND...say it were somehow objectively true - 'No one understands Kevin'...
Well, So WHAT?
How would this, if it were objectively true, make you anything 'less'. It may make you FEEL 'less than', but it doesn't at all make you 'less than.'
It just makes you 'different', if it IS somehow objectively true (which btw may be a very good thing, lol)😆
I get the feeling that this idea, for you, 'No one understands me' - could be feeding feelings of inferiority in you?...which leads even more to feeling 'separate' and unable to connect. So, cut that out! 😆
Some of the greatest people throughout history have been majorly 'misunderdtood' by others in their life - Jesus; Ghandi; Ben Franklin; Jonas Salk; Einstein; Harriet Tubman; Rosa Parks; Martin Luther King, Jr....the list goes on.
You may be in very good company, Kevin, IF, indeed you are truly 'misunderstood' Lol.
I would say...to overcome these feelings of emptiness (which I have also experienced), get to know yourself! Learn to be your own best friend.
You can learn more about yourself with meditation...continuing to watch Huberman podcasts(!)
& from your reading content.
I have also been helped to learn more about myself quite a bit by reading the Stoics, like Marcus Aurelius; Seneca; Epectitus.
These book - by Ryan Holiday 'The Obstacle is The Way', and 'The Daily Stoic' (and others by Holiday) are very helpful in learning to learn more about yourself.
These books have been helpful for me, and also following Huberman's podcast - AND developing a solid morning routine of 'daily habits' I have established for myself- one by one (starting with ONE daily (beneficial) 'morning habit' then building on it, by 'stacking' others on - to establish a solid morning routine & structure my day. One book that helped me alot is James Clear's 'Atomic Habits', also Ryder Caroll's book 'The Bullet Journal Method' has been extremely helpful for me to learn Journaling & add structure to my life. (journaling your thoughts goals & intentions & structuring your days & your life, does away, IMO, with feelings of emptiness, and helps us to learn more about ourselves. I can assure you, that by following these practices...whoosh! your feelings of emptiness , and even loneliness (to some extent) can be dispensed with. Hope this helps!😊
@@barbarafairbanks4578 wow!👏 this is such a solid response/advice!!👍
You’re right. No one understands you, and no one ever will. We don’t understand ourselves - that’s why we’re here listening to Prof. Huberman. We understand some parts of ourselves, and misunderstand others. Same goes for other people. It’s like we’re all little spheres letting in light and reflecting it. Your mother sees you differently from your lover, and everyone else! And you see yourself differently from how you saw yourself when you were a kid, and that will change again.
But I understand what you mean, and in that respect we understand each other. So I understand a part of you even though I’ve never met you. That’s pretty profound in and of itself. I feel the same way, although perhaps for different reasons.
At least for me, I think that the problem isn’t so much other people not understanding me, but rather me not sharing myself with other people - with authentic confidence and good mood. If you’re not happy with yourself, or you think you’re inadequate, then you are generally not going to want to share yourself with others - and they will not understand you. And despite what all the pro vulnerability people say - there is wisdom in not alway sharing your inadequacies or shadow side, especially if you’re a man. So it would seem the best solution would be to address the thoughts/feelings/perceptions/ behaviours that are less than optimal, then you can confidently and authentically share yourself with others - without any shame or fear.
I live in a tent in the bush, drive buses for a living and have zero social life. I haven’t pursued my passions, I feel worthless and unlovable. So I self-sabotage even further by isolating myself. Didn’t even need covid for that. I feel that others don’t understand me. I feel I don’t even understand myself (although there are some certainties and understanding).
But at least we share some understanding!
Wishing you a light journey mate.
@@peripheralparadox4218 Great points here. "we don't ever truly understand how others feel, and sometimes we don't even understand how we feel" is a quote from the podcast I need to remind myself of a lot more. I especially like your point about "wisdom in not sharing your vulnerabilities". I haven't thought about that viewpoint so much. Thank you for your insight and kind words, and I'm also glad to share some understanding with you. Cheers~
One of the most informative podcasts ever! I love listening to Dr Huberman’s cheerful voice, information is incredible! Thank you so much! This episode is my favorite. Hope to implement some advices into my future relationship with people.❤️🔥🙏🏼
Instead of staying up until the wee hours of the morning listening to the latest HLP, I’m going to show some restraint and go to bed instead. I’m pretty sure I have the HLP to thank for that!
Same! I always thought I was a night owl and gave up on being a morning person. But HLP has got me waking up & hitting the gym at 6am!
Thanks Dr Huberman. I have approached your podcasts as a student and taken notes on things I find very useful (which is a LOT of the content) and have already begun to see profound changes in my life. I started watching your videos maybe 2 months ago and am so glad I started doing so. Please keep the amazing content coming, because I honestly will probably be watching these for life.
Merry Xmas Dr. Huberman! You are helping me knowing myself better. I have also realized that many of the reactions I have are "normal" and that has made me feel a lot better! Looking forward to 2022!
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson should be a guest. You might talk about personality, psychological differences between men and women, resilience, alcoholism, etc. He's gonna be touring the US during the next months.
This podcast is the best audio-visual content I've found this year. Thanks Dr. Huberman, hope for many years of this.
You've covered so many brilliant topics. Would you consider covering sober mystical experiences? Obviously it's not a priority as less applicable to every day life. But very interesting. Many thanks.
It’s amazing that mankind has always known connection is synonymous with the heart. Now we know it’s synchronised too!
Let's appreciate the great choice of timing for this episode 💯
By far another superior lecture from Dr Huberman. Also so timely due to the peculiar restrictions in social contact resulting from covid. After several listenings its verges on the "new normal" aspects of our future in these unsettled times,
Dr Huberman.. You talk about hierachy. And I cant help but think about how people with depression, anxiety and maybe other forms of mental issues, who get into patterns of thinking very poorly of themselves, are effected as to where they feel like they fit in a hierachy. Even if hierachies are plastic and we are part of a bunch of different hieracies. If we feel worthless because of whatever mental issue, that makes us move away from social situations. We might very well feel lonely and very much crave social interactions, only for it to make us feel even more miserable and useless. Making it even harder to go back to social interactions. That's a vicious circle.
Is that a fair way of understanding what might be going on with someone who's isolated for instance because of depression?
Maybe that's why giving hope works to upset that equilibrium in a good way.
I just worry about the false hope ... even being told one needs something outside himself to be complete is a lie.
It's all within each of us but it sure does feel good to have a hand to hold while going through the uncomfortable paths with few reviews.
I'm interested in this too!
Dr Huberman, your conversational and humble presentation of research and discoveries on the neurobiology of social bonding is fascinating and helpful. It would be great to have Father Mike Schmitz on to discuss prayer and bonding with God and others as sources of mental health, responsibility to others and oneself, and ways to make our world good and more beautiful. God bless you and thank you so much for sharing your work.
Thank you, Dr. Huberman! 🤗 What a beautiful episode. I appreciate your work so very much. Thank you, thank you, thank you! 💖🙏🏼🕊️
Re listening and blown away by how densely fascinating this lecture is - my goodness, your offering so much here.
The overall relevance of this is astounding-Re: the impact of this ongoing covid pandemic that’s impacted many of the social interactions that we had always enjoyed. Also, it’s refreshing to be able to grasp the underlying neurology and the biology involving our human relationships and social needs vary and can impact us.
I’m saving this collection of podcasts/RUclipss because, I’ve found they are so intensely educational. I can’t thank you enough for this meaningful and deliberately accessible contribution that you’ve been offering. Your a rare gem and a gift to us!
What a fascinating lecture - the synchronicity - wow - mirroring - so interesting how our physiology impacts our feeling of connection // and the way that we are so sensitive and our overall plasticity - holy cannoli… a shared story creates shared physiologically and our physiologically can cultivate ‘the Story’ - I love the idea that we can cultivate bridge by sharing experiences.
Great job at articulating so much here.
💪❤️🙏👏
Understanding how to act under conditions of incomplete information is the highest and most urgent human pursuit.
-Nassim Taleb, The Black Swan
Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people because an upsetting event occurs in their lives taking them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death.
While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes.
Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way.
It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......
어머 서구 오빠가 어제밤에 말했던 거네?🧐
This is the most articulate man on earth
Thank you for changing my life with the information I have learned from you🙏🏻
Such a great descriptions of introvert and extrovert! Dr. Huberman truly has a talent to explain science to others. I am not a scientist and not very smart, but still can understand his lectures! Thank you! 🙏🥰
@Paul B Thank you!
I’m eternally grateful I need very very little social interaction to feel sated. My friends are scattered around the world. I’m no longer on social media (and much healthier for it). The Buss episode killed and buried any dwindling desire I had left for a romantic relationship, and in case it wasn’t dead enough, his book dug it back up and set fire to it. I do have strong, beautiful bonds with my kids but I’d like to avoid a Grey Gardens part deux, so that leaves me with my trusty lunch. Steal my lunch, I’ll kick your shins.
Why? Buss should encourage you to increase your mate value!
@@davyroger3773 😂😂😂 nothing to do with my mate value. Everything to do with how diabolically shallow and abusive cis-het men can be (in effect plummeting their mate value). All Buss (and Huberman by endorsement) did was give men permission to be this way and leave it up to women to select better. I’m selecting better by not selecting at all. Never been happier.
@@_negentropy_ Idk what a cis hed man is but I dont think Buss is advocating for anything other than taking the findings and theories of E.P seriously. Remember the is ought fallacy; just because the data points to something being the case does not mean it should be that way or justify it at all. After all nature and her processes are amoral and at times rather nasty.
@@davyroger3773 I hear you. My post is mostly tongue-in-cheek. I think there is tremendous value in the question “what is the adaptive value of ___?” But E.P. struggles to acknowledge the vast heterogeneity of human beings. When their theories include some consideration for how incredibly complex and nuanced humans are, or the infinite variability of life and situational circumstances, schemas, heuristics, epigenetics, environment, conditioning, etc. that account for any act of behaviour, including mate-value preference, I’d be happy to take their theories seriously. Good luck out there.Take care.
This is a really interesting video. In my early 20s after a number of failed relationships, I came to the realization that in order for me to develop feelings for someone and fall in love, there had to be 3 components present with a potential romantic partner. There has to be a strong mental connection, where we can share stimulating conversation. There has to be strong emotional connection. And there has to be a strong physical attraction. Mind, body, and heart have to be in harmony for me to feel the full depth of romantic connection. I would say it parallels the idea that emotional empathy, cognitive empathy, and a shared physiological state all contribute to our connections.
Question: if "bad" social interaction is the only kind I have access to, am I better of to deal with the distress of loneliness, or to engage in the bad social interaction and deal with the distress of the bad interaction? Does it depend on the amount of distress each would incur?
This seems to be increasingly problematic issue for many. On the one hand we desire to connect. On the other there’s conflicting issues associated with it. I think a lot of it’s associated with the dissonance we experience along with how technology is affecting our social skills. There’s other contributors specific to the individual. Anyway, I feel similar and can relate with what you’re saying. I enjoy intellectual discussions such as this, collaboration and discovery involving open mindedness. There’s lots of agendas today, political conflict and a number of other things that are very disruptive. We want to reach out and socialize, do and then end up retreating in cycles. I don’t know if that’s the way you feel. We are learning more all the time too. The more we know, the natural consequence is increasingly subjecting oneself to confronting ignorances. Then, just give me some space for myself so that I can experience peace! It’s a struggle because we want both. To experience connections while experiencing contentment. That’s difficult to achieve.
Just with hearing Andrews voice I feel calm and in peace 🩷
Good morning class! Another great topic to start my week. Thank you Dr. Huberman.
Dog ate my homework.
I am so grateful for my virtual connection with Andrew Hubberman through the podcast and Instagram posts.
I love your videos and podcasts, thank you for sharing your knowledge! Some suggestions for further episodes/topics I'd be interested in: 1) female sexual hormones (influence of menstruation cycle on mood..) and 2) neurodiversity (HSP, Autism, ADHD..)
Simple brilliant podcast. I hope people don't feel this is reductionist, it feels this understanding of relationships should make our understanding of relationships more comprehensive. One of the best pieces of learning content I've ever had the pleasure of listening to
Thank you for this amazing podcast. Can't wait for your discussion with Allan Schore and Lisa Feldman Barrett.
Really sorry to hear about Costellos passing. My husband and I both listen and could tell how much he means to you.
Another great podcast which makes us feel so engaged and enlightened by the work you and your team put together.
Hey Andrew! Thanks for another amazing podcast! I would absolutely love to see Dr Zach Bush come on as a guest, not sure if you can make that happen but it would be incredible to see what comes out of a conversation between the two of you! 🙏🏼 Merry Christmas to you, your family and your team.
You are the superhero of the science world for bringing these to us🙏
Hey, thanks for releasing this. I feel like an alien, and I have very little social relationships. The ones I do have feel superficial, but I am still grateful for them.
So yeah, it's great to have this man break it down in a dry, intellectual way. I like it like that. Let's hear it, sir.
I appreciate that you included non-human animals when discussing the impact of social isolation. So many captive social animals, particularly Dogs and horses, are kept in isolation for one third or more of their lives. Many of the guardians of these animals boast that their animals don't even want to come out of their cages/stalls or are eager to go back into their cages, somehow proving they must be den animals or some other lunacy. I loved your explanation of why these animals have a difficult time outside their boxes and that it has nothing to do with a natural and healthy lifestyle for the animal. I'd love it if you did a video explaining the needs of social animals with a focus on Dogs. From one Dog lover to another.
Can you do an episode on learning disabilities and treatments, something I struggle with. Types of learning, visual/hearing, improving recall etc. Appreciate all your hard work! Hope your doing well, Merry Christmas! Will enjoy this episode today at work.
Hi Dr Huberman,Thank you, for sharing your expertise. Sorry to hear about Costello . All the very best sir.