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It's so heartbreaking, feeling that something is "off" your entire life, but not being able to ascertain exactly what it is. You can grow to adulthood feeling misunderstood and isolated from everyone around you.
@@Pink_Ruby your brain has a lot of vulnerable states, in case of childhood trauma, our brains are not fully developed until the age 25 and whenever we learn about feelings and what they are, our brain has the tendency to study them and how to trigger them BUT our brain's study on emotions gets interrupted with tragic events, it can be anything from violence, verbal abuse and several other things and as we grow older, our brain tries to forget it and when it does it leaves something like a “scar„ that ends up affecting our well being leaving its self unnoticed and since it is something that hurt our brain it automatically stops trying to heal itself because pain can be stronger than any other felling therefore it would look like it's scared finding about emotions like trying something new and it goes wrong. That's how I see it at least, that "it" doesn't exist and it's just fear of future actions
My whole childhood was traumatic enough that it’s difficult to remember the good stuff. My whole adulthood has been spent recovering from my childhood, which is why I feel angry when people say to just let go of it because it’s in the past. How does anyone let go of CPTSD? When you never felt safe as a child, you don’t know how to feel safe as an adult. When your depression and anxiety occurred so early in life that you don’t know what it’s like to not feel depressed and anxious, how does one let go of that? There’s nothing simple about childhood trauma. There’s no way to just let it go. People need to respect that we’re doing the best we can with our past haunting us even today.
I agree. I remember blowing up at my very first Al Anon meeting when the guy leading the meeting said that we were in the room because "We did this to ourselves!"...How can a child stop their parents from drinking and beating the shit out of each other? How does a child have anything to do with evictions and having no electricity or water or food because the bill aren't getting paid die to drinking? How does a child have anything to do with the inappropriate extra attention their mothers' MALE interests paid them? Needless to say...that meeting was especially animated! LOL!
I hate when people say: 'Ugh, why are you so negative all the time?!' 'Stop being so depressed' These people have no idea how others have been through. I hope this video spreads more awareness. Thank you for reading this, you are amazing and unique! Don't change who you are because of what people dont like about you. You know you more than anyone.
I am experiencing a traumatic childhood, abuse is hurtful and this shit is real. When people talk about thoughts of suicide, depression, and abuse, PLEASE listen. Please pay attention to those who are willing to talk about it. Show that you care
Every night I cook dinner. I use that time to speak to my kid about her day and things about life. This week she’s going to start going to the gym with me cos she wants to lose weight and be healthy.
@@MrLiminalPhoenix I went through physical, sexual, verbal etc abuse. Sucks to have to be your own parent!!! It was hell for me until I learned more about how to talk to myself and care for my emotions. The rage and anxiety zapped my energy levels. It was hard to have motivation for anything. Do you have things to do to help you chill? Mine were/are music, animals, even video games helped me shut off the noise. I began healing by learning as much as I could. How to care for my feelings, and how to heal my inner critic (I was very mean to myself- often yelling at myself for making mistakes) and finding other people that enjoyed the same things, and/or people I could trust was huge for me. Thich Nhat Hanh's books, and Sarah Peyton's work with non-violent communication and healing based on understanding yourself & others saved my life. Please know you're not alone, and you're already ahead of the game because you haven't given up. No matter what happened to u- u didn't give up on yourself. You love yourself enough to keep trying, and self-love is hard for everyone. You fucking rule!!! Courage of the heart is rare, but is has a special power when it's there. Stay safe dear one
@@dbg0206091 thank you for the kind words. Thankfully nothing has gotten sexual, but they are physical and mental. I've commented before about the possible depression I might be in right now due to these instances. I cant get myself diagnosed because clearly my parents dont care, and even if I did we dont have the money to pay for appointments. Thankfully I've had many kinda words, and many useful tips given to me about this issue. Thank you all
Even if you've survived an emotionally or physically abusive childhood, just know that you're worth more than your trauma, and things will eventually get better.
Not if you don't take care of your emotional health. In whatever way necessary to HEAL that trauma. You don't eventually get better miraculously -thats why it's called magical thinking. Any survivor of any childhood trauma isn't worth any more or any less than any other person. But they're likely a LOT stronger than other people. They just can't believe that...until they heal the trauma. They should never feel like they are only their trauma, but they will be controlled by their trauma-in one way or another, at some time or another -if it isn't healed. It isn't the person's fault, but it becomes their responsibility to themselves (and anyone in their life or anyone potentially in their life) to put in the effort to heal. Is it hard work? Of course it is, because good things only come from hard work. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. A life worth having is worth the effort. And THAT is how you KNOW you're worth more than your trauma. Once you're ahead of it and can truly see the world as it is, and not through the lens your brain had no other choice but to create for you. Why? Because it wanted you to survive. Why? Because this world would suck without you, and your smart brain KNEW that! (Can you tell there is someone in my life that is in denial anything downward spiral stemming from 30 years of thinking it'll get better without work?)
I lost my mother from lung cancer at the age of 10, it's been 9 years now but I'm still wondering what would my life look like if she didn't smoke that much...
The worst result from my childhood trauma is the unreasonable amount of anxiety I get when just sitting in my college classrooms or being in a school environment. Even if everyone besides me is friendly to me and I’m not being bullied, I randomly get flashbacks of the horrible childhood bullying days.
Same... flashbacks are the worst. They distort reality worse than a drug. You want to believe that you're safe, but your brain is saying "No, you're not."
I definitely relate to this but I hope other people who have gone through the same thing knows that that negativity isn’t all that’s out there and there are beautiful people and places in the world 💜
I’ve been seeing a new therapist, it’s been a month, and he saw what I thought: I have a lot of childhood traumas. For years, I was with a therapist that “ignored” my past… I always thought I was “overthinking” and having a professional, without me talking much, seeing that, and making me acknowledge it, it’s been some rough times but so fulfilling. ❤️
I never had an abusive household, but back when I was in school, I was emotionally abused by so many teachers, it was at a point where it felt like a verbal bootcamp. My self-esteem plummeted so bad in middle school to the point where I would join in making fun of myself whenever bullies would make fun of me. Even now I find myself struggling in my mid 20s because all I can think of is how bad my school years messed with my head. These videos really help to remind me that I'm not alone.
Often joining in was your brain protects itself by predicting the abuse like a defence. I hope you are safe now and that you can let go of those defence mechanisms that you don't need anymore.💙
@@bigpoppasmurf1813 "Funny" enough that is the main reason why I joined in with my bullies. The main reason I started joining in making fun of myself is because the more harsh I was on myself the less the bullies desired to bully me because I took all the fun away from them by doing so. I just wish I realized then how bad it would effect my mental health in the long run. I'm actually now learning how to let go of them as I've only recently stopped being so hard on myself. Thank you for the comment, it means a lot ❤
After 30 years of not being good enough, at school, work, with parents, relationships, social events, i guess my trust and beliefs in other people has indeed been damaged 💔
I can attest to all of this. My childhood was rife with mental, emotional, and physical abuse. To this very day I feel isolated, worthless, helpless, stuck. My few significant relationships either re-victimized me or failed miserably. If this has happened to you, get the help you need, and get it sooner rather than later. The longer you wait the harder it gets.
Regarding self sabotage I actually went in the opposite direction and that naivety combined with past trauma ended with me in a relationship that was just as abusive as my childhood, took getting away from that to realise I've never recognised my own self worth. Been reflecting a lot since and trying to do what's best for me rather than what's better for everyone else.
Me too. Lots of blowback from family who do not like the new me. Sucks, but my recovery is everything to me. Getting somatic trauma therapy and it is helping me unclench. ☮️❤️
There’s this kid in my class I’ve always wondered about. Let’s call him Jim. Jim was calling attention to himself every single class. He would be super loud, attention seeking, and as annoying as you could be in middle school. After I learned even more about psychology, I learned to by sympathetic towards him. He may’ve had a rough upbringing. Anyways, that aside, imagine my surprise when 2 years later, he was gone (he switched schools, I think), and in his place came someone from my 5th grade class. I made it pretty clear that I didn’t want anything to do with him or anyone in that class, even if he were nice. He laughed, but left me alone after. I ain’t letting anyone mess with me. I closed myself off to him. Thankfully there was no one else from my old school who joined that year. Let’s just say they were bad bitches.
Timestamps 💖 1. It Makes you more pessimistic - 0:40 2. It makes you feel more alone - 1:11 3. It makes you self-sabotage - 1:53 4. It takes away your sense of safety and security - 2:32 5. It hinders your ability for meaning-making - 3:25 Thanks for making people more aware and all they you do! ☺️
As a child I grew up in a broken home with a neglectful mother and abusive step father who would beat, humiliate and phycologicaly abuse me. My mother ignored it for years until my step dad nearly beat me to death for saying no to him. I never forgave my mother after moving out she never protected or cared enough about me. I still carry that trauma I don't think it could ever heal but I have done my best to move forward with my life as best I can.
I can definitely relate to the feeling alone one. I was the only person in my family that grew up experiencing anxiety and I felt like my family didn't understand how I felt and I didn't feel confident communicating my feelings so I kept it all to myself. It took me 29 years to heal from chronic anxiety. Please, anyone reading this, know that wherever you find yourself in your life right now healing is possible for you. Fulfillment, happiness and peace is possible for you. You just have to find the right outlets to achieve it 💛 - Julia
I wanna take a moment and thank this channel very well. Cuz I’ve and I’m still experiencing this trauma till this day. I asked someone who can help me and they told me more about it. Without this channel I wouldn’t have known anything about my situation and I maybe would’ve been stuck with it forever. Thank you so much! 😊
The problem with trauma is, that we live in a society, that tell you to not speak about your "negative thoughts" to others, so they don´t get depressed too. They don´t get it, that it´s not the same, because if you tell your wound you give the other the possibility to see, they are wounded too, even if they don´t know it.
That's why therapists are there to help out. They are trained to take that negativity and direct it somewhere else. And I do agree that we should be able to open up to others about our negative experiences and have that be accepted, but most ppl i have met have not even thought about it, so when that negative news do come out, it makes them feel negative because they don't know how to handle it (and why would you expect them to, they just want an easy life with positive vibes only.). There are people who are willing to push tooth and nail to try to understand what's going on with you and have a deep self-awareness and consciousness to know exactly where that negativity is coming from and can actually help you out. Others view all forms of negativity as draining that they'll pretty much say or do things that imply "get over it" so they can feel those "positive vibes only." The former is more likely someone you would want to open up to, but the latter can't really understand your experience because their upbringing of this world is very different so they can't really relate to the negative experience you've gone through. It's foreign to them.
@@GregXHunterz Therapists are liars, who have no clue why people are in pain and so their "help" is everything than worthy. But as long as people don´t get it, what kind of impact toxic people have on the mental health of others, they call it trauma, not manipulation.
@@GregXHunterz Assholes like you call trauma really "negativity"? That alone shows clearly, why toxic people aren´t call abusers, because the impact the have in the life of others isn´t call chronic pain, but "negativity" as is mental wound isn´t a wound at all ,but the wrong view.
@@GregXHunterz As if radical actions of others and oppression have only the impact to make you feel down, and don´t destroy everything, that is important for selfworth and interaction with others.
@@GregXHunterz Toxic people treat your soul as if it don´t deserve positive things and do their best to teach to to think the same about you, but go on and call this kind of shit just "negativity", not abuse or toxic or bullshit.
I didn't have a traumatic childhood, but all my siblings did. After the Vietnam War, they all came to Australia and I was born here. I was raised in a family with a collective trauma, and to this day I bond more readily with people who have deep emotional wounds. My personal relationships are with volatile women who have experienced physical or sexual abuse. I'm not a rescuer because I've shown that I can remove myself from bad situations; rather I want to be present and supportive for those whom I know are suffering. I often fail. That's the thing that bites at me, knowing that people are suffering and are unable to crawl their way out. It's a constant process to create healthy boundaries for my own wellbeing, and I'm trying to find ways beyond bonding with people who are self-defeating and sabotage the relationship.
The cold hard truth is, much like addicts, it doesn't matter what you say or do. It doesn't matter if you even successfully get them into some therapy program or support group. If they aren't ready to confront their trauma, they won't. I have been in therapy since the age of 11, maybe 12, and only when I was 23/24 did I finally get trauma therapy despite doing therapy for basically a decade of my life. I just got to a point where I didn't want to be stuck anymore. It was my "rock bottom." It's great that you want to support people who have been through trauma, but you will never be able to help them unless they actually want to change. They have to hit their rock bottom. Confronting trauma take an incredible amount of energy and work, it takes time, and you have to relive a lot of it. It's hard for people to do that unless they get to that point in their lives where they just *have* to do something.
Thank you for all the wonderful videos! I am a 41 yo woman and my childhood traumas are impairing me now more than ever. My best advice to all is seek help as soon as possible so that the trauma doesn’t impair you because you’ve waited too long.
Pov: you're early and have to wait for the person to post time stamps of the points I radiate positive recovery energy to everyone who is going through hard times💗
It’s so sad that children have to go through this. Remember, you can’t just “forget” about the bad stuff, but you can grow and seek out the help of others you can help you feel more comfortable with it. And to anyone who knows someone in this sorta situation, please be kind and do the best to lend a helping hand when they need it. Stay safe, y’all ❤️
I didn’t live in an abusive home, but my school years were distorted by anxiety. I believe it originated from year 1. My class was doing a play, and I had been given the lead role. I was so excited, but I was also given a massive monologue that I had to say in front of the entire school. I forgot a massive chunk of it, and could never memorise it. The day came. I remember being so excited, I went up to the microphone, began the monologue, then faded off, trying to remember what I was meant to say. Kids and parents started laughing. My teacher whispered the words, but I couldn’t understand what she said, so I said “What?” very loudly into the microphone. The laughing got a lot louder. All I remember is finishing my speech and sitting down. After that, I never volunteered to speak at assemblies. I couldn’t even order food for myself. In highschool, my anxiety became more generalised. I can talk to people still, and do presentations, but I often shake and blush and stumble over my words, and I can’t stop thinking about every possible way it could go wrong. Thank u for my Ted talk.
Well, my childhood to me was pretty awful.., i was bullied at a young age, and all of the ppl that i knew have left me, so i was a loner, and i gained depression and trust issues at a young age, maybe like 5 or 6, and when i go to some places as a kid and try to make friends, i still get bullied or forgotten.. i never knew i could have been going through this.
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This hits me hard. Went through a lot in my childhood years. Never learned to love properly or how to be love. As I get older I realized a lot of the pain I blocked out in my youth is catching up to me. I’m 28 and it feels like something inside me is breaking more and more everyday. Just not sure what it is
I feel so sad for my two children. The wife is such an abusive, maltreating lady who shouts like crazy at the children, throws things at them, treats me like garbage, always drives me out of the house, and in recent years, secretly had a third child with another man. Now we're in the courts. And instead of being repentant she fabricates blatant lies against me to keep me away. The kids are going through all this shit because of her. Without her, me and the two kids are very happy. Pray that I win the cases and get my kids, and that she won't bother us anymore.
I feel a great deal of sadness right now. I just wish all those people who couldn't or wouldn't understand the effects my childhood trauma had on my life would watch this video. It won't help me, but maybe it would help the other people they interact with from here on in. Don't worry. My years of wanting to hurt myself are long gone. I just know -- in my 70s -- that recovery is a lifelong process, but the only one that works and the secret to fulfillment. Best wishes and love to you all.
As someone who's gone through childhood trauma, instead of severe guilt, i try to isolate myself from anyone that gets to close to me, and small inconveniences make me either explode with anger, blaming it on my surroundings or crying uncontrollably. I'm still practically a child, as i'm a minor, altrough smallest of tasks always drain me out. I feel tired all the time. When i stand up, i feel dizzy and sit down again. I can't take living like this any longer. People are obviously aware of my problems yet to nothing, and it infuriates me. When i do actually go outside for a walk, i'm THAT scared of people to the point that i ACTUALLY hold my breath and try to keep myself together when i walk past them. Any eye contact makes me anxious
I've experienced childhood trauma. I've grown to develop a pessimistic worldview. I was a super shy kid, a self-blamer, and I look down on myself. Can't even look people in their eyes. I was like this for the majority of my life. Good thing I was able to develop a bit more positivity in me throughout the past 8 years. Slowly but surely, I was able to recount my past, think about the traumas, and was able to forgive myself and the ones who made me experience them. There are still lingering ones but you know, life is always a never-ending process. Some traumas cannot be forgotten, but you have a choice, whether to let 'em haunt you or let yourself move on.
This is something I'm struggling with. I'm on a journey to heal but finding it so difficult. I think I blame myself for everything but trying to change that mindset.
I love how you used Naruto. Aside from relating to his story one thing that anime itself showed me, especially looking at Naruto's character is how much you can still have a happy life and meet people who will be with you and help you throughout the process. I can't say all of us can be like him and burst with positivity all the time but we can learn from how he lived and try to help ourselves out of the darkness somehow 🙂
Oh absolutely. A lot of people experience trauma for the first time in adulthood. But I think childhood trauma is a lot more difficult to recover from, as you've never known any different. Whereas if you, as a 35 year-old mentally stable person for example, become traumatised by an event/series of events, it should be easier to recover yourself back to the time when you were mentally/emotionally stable. If you've never been mentally and emotionally stable because of early childhood trauma, it's very tricky because it's somewhat unimaginable to be mentally healthy.
@@charlottetaylor4471 Yea I Know. I Never Even Met My Parents. Moms Was A Drug Addict & I Was Taken Away At Birth. Biological Brother Killed In My Face In Fostercare & He Was 3. Just Found Out I Had A Brother & We We’re Beat A lot. Passed Around Like Trash.
This video really hit home for me. I'm 39 and still working on things. Also, + 1 million internet hugs for the Naruto reference. I wish I'd been able to watch the show growing up. Sounds silly but I think Naruto's spirit and attitude would have help me think about my own problems in a more constructive way, at least to a degree.
I went through abuse, parents divorced (and got married and divorced with different people numerous times since), my mom abandoning me and dad never being there and being raised by my grandparents as a result. It used to effect me badly as I didn’t learn how to deal with such trauma for a long time, I ended up addicted to heroin and meth at 18 years old. I’m 24 now and in recovery and am slowly learning how to deal my childhood trauma. I’ve learned to forgive myself and my parents, but I have to love them from a distance as they both are very toxic. When I turned 18, I moved in with my mom and began drinking and using a lot of dope with her. And my father was always in and out of my life, choosing women and steroids and body building over me (he was a wannabe body builder and wannabe country musician), and to this day he doesn’t take any responsibility and thinks I should just forget about it and move on which is why I won’t speak with him. He tries to get ahold of me through my fiancée but she ignores him lol.
Im so sorry to hear what you've gone through, it must've been so hard. You deserved better, i hope you're doing great now and living the best of life!!
I feel you. Both my parents were self concentrating and toxic. It took me 27 years to figure out that my mom is the worst mom in this world. I am under therapy now. These fucking parents ruined my life completely. I think people shouldn't give birth to children if they are not capable to raise them. period.
@@afrinakhanam4696 I totally agree. Trauma is passed on. It’s such a nasty, vicious cycle, just like addiction is. And unless you try to get help and work on yourself, you tend to pass it on to your kids. It’s really sad because you wanna feel bad for these people but some go on to abuse their own kids and it puts you in such a tough spot of how to feel as a result.
@@AndrewLemmings Agreed once again and can't relate anymore. My grandmother was also a toxic mom, she used to leave her children including my mom alone and stay in her parent's house for weeks. As I heard from my mother, my great grandma was also a funky kind of woman instead of a so traditional home-oriented woman even in that era. So genetically they had been passing this toxicity on generation after generation. I have thought to put an end to it, I am not bringing any child into this world. This toxicity needs to stop and moreover, I do not like children anyway.
That 'lol' full of pain... I know bro. 33 and just realizing the extent of all this. I'm f*cking angry because I've suffered and to this day my mom tells me to snap out of "it" 😂 F*ck off is what I want to say...but she has trauma of her own that she cant even see the effects of!
I had a traumatic childhood. My mother killed herself when I was 10 years old....I found her dead body. My father was physically and emotionally abusive. I was subjected to bullying in middle school and high school. Your video is helping me to see there is hoo
This is my real struggles. I just want to stop comparing my own capabilities to others, just live a peaceful and focus life. However, as I have a childhood trauma that people always compared me to other, it is really difficult for me to get rid of it. Praying and praying that I'll heal from these trauma.
My parents got divorced when i was 4. That meant multiple rounds of that awful, and not very surprisingly depressive court headquarters. I'm 12 now but still have to move from one place to another every 15 days. My dad remarried when i was 7 without telling me. I lost both my grandparents when i was 10. My mom's side family occasionally fight and are very disjointed. My mom is trying to convince me for her getting married again. I do feel like all of this has taken a toll on me.
@@dhiv6321 i can totally understand. My friend was going through the same thing. Maybe you can try to take them to a couple therapist or something cause my friend did and things got better, even if not completely okay.
9 years and still counting. I can still remember every word they told me and everything they did to me for 365 days CONSECUTIVELY. Way back I was a transfered student at a so called 'Christian School'. It was a life changing event to me. Every fckn single day and no one ever dare to step up for me. Up until now I can still hear them ( in my head ) saying hurtful words to me. And no one around me fckn understand that sht. Its hard for me to bear such experience that sometimes I just want to take my life. And every single day the urge of it me doing just gets stronger. If life after death didn't exist at all or I was born as an atheist I wouldn't be alive and departed from this world full of hatred, agony and cruelty.
I don't know if it help, but I can relate a lot. I was bullied all the way from 3rd grade to 10th grade, had all my "friends" turn away from me because they couldn't deal with all the constant physical and verbal attacks every single day and didn't want to become victims themselves. I had two different school administrations be completely helpless against it for different reasons (the first one because teachers were good friends with the parents of the bullies, the second one simply didn't want to admit anything is wrong to preserve the school's reputation). Interesting, suicide never really crossed my mind. Why would I leave, even though the people around me (in the past) were horrible? Here's where all my stuff is! I've got books to read, games to play, stories to create myself, new skills to learn, languages and knowledge. Life is already far too short as it is and it would be a shame to cut it even shorter when there is so much stuff out there to experience. Even if my past still lingers in the back of my head and gives me trust issues and social anxiety. I need to work on that, too, but even if I'm only doing baby steps there, it really doesn't matter as long as you have other things that fill you.
I was raised by a 16 year old. So whenever someone yells at me I get aggressive. It’s just a self defense mechanism thankfully I was able to overcome that in my early 20s.!
For me my childhood experiences were something subtle, not entirely evil but still damaging leading me into confusion while living with the stigma around my mom's mental illness. I have never been physically abused but emotionally neglected, a home that supposed to be a safe enviroment caused me almost constant distress in my childhood, avoiding from my parents' mood swings and agressive responses, trying to belive everything will be okay, and not wanting to throw away my life but fight for a better future. The history of my life made me stuggling with anxiety and trouble around my self-worth, my identity and managing my emotions. Rn I'm in the process getting officially diagnosed with personality disorder. Thanks god I'm having precious friends who support me!
This Video helps me to not be so hard on myself and ur channel is not only so creative and beautiful but also so helpful. I will forever be thankful. When I’m down I can tell myself because of ur channel things like that’s not ur fault and it came from that or that I’m feeling that. ❤️
Great video. Your narrative is very soothing and makes it clear what you are articulating without triggering any traumatic emotions/thoughts. Quite articulate yet calming at the same time. Well done!
My father’s death at a young age was profoundly traumatic to me. I truly feel that your age during which the trauma or loss occurs is the age that your psyche can permanently remain at. No matter where I go, no matter how much time passes by, no matter how mentally healthy I feel on good days, or how injured and upset I feel on bad days... to me... it’s ALWAYS the summer of ‘01... and after all this time... I paradoxically like to re-visit the places that bore such significance, and somehow re-live, or re-experience certain moments or emotions for a strange sense of restorative and comforting nostalgia, even if brutal. For if enough time passes by, you can somehow embrace your pain as a defining and sacred moment in your life. Maybe coming in with wiser eyes, or a wiser frame of mind does the trick... or perhaps seeking to re-fight the fight, but on MY terms. Maybe it’s a defense mechanism, who knows? I guess this is what Freud meant when he said “one day, the years of your worst struggles will strike you as the most cherished”
Both my parents have no idea the extent they’ve hurt me. My mum recently said “oh yes I hit you when you were younger, I realised it was because I was depressed” but she never said sorry.. and no, it was not the type for “discipline” where one hits you on your arms and legs. My dad thinks he should never have to speak to us nicely like a normal human being because “he’s our dad so he shouldn’t have to be nice to us”, this is on top of a violent but broken household growing up. I have sought help but I’m so frustrated that my life gets better and than just relapses into low moods and a series of self sabotage. I’m mad at myself that I can’t heal even when I acknowledge that it was my parents who failed me. I can’t get past my trauma.
OMG....So true. All of it. Explains alot for myself and i am sure so many others. Explains being stuck in the past and can't ever seen to get out no matter how hard you may try.
Im so thankful of you guys because your videos help me understand so much about traumas and anxieties because im in a long distance relationship and my girlfriend has suffered from a very traumatic experience in life which left her scarred and to be honest i wanna help her grow and be the best version of herself which and your videos help me grow better and more understanding for her
I lost my father at 13 from cancer within 2 years from diagnosis, I had two younger brothers. It was a challenge but at 30 my mother then died of cancer. Im 35 now and just landing back to earth. I mentally reverted to a teenager and am now working myself out of a relationship were theres blatant manipulation and disrespect. I never left bc i was dependent on that feeling of having atleast someone that cares about me despite the treatment. This was an amazing video and i related a lot to it, more than any other video. Thank you
all of this is certainly relatable, if i’m being honest. i generally don’t trust many people at all, and by that, i mean there is only about one person who i mostly trust. school feels unsafe, home feels unsafe. lots of stuff has happened, and is happening, that just makes me sort of, shut down, almost. it’s strange. if anybody is going through any kind of trauma, then know that you are capable of being loved and cared for, as much as anyone else, okay? reach out to someone for help. and if you’ve went through trauma, talk to someone about it. let things out, or try. maybe write it down, if possible; reflect. honestly that probably didn’t make much sense ^^ tl;dr, you are all able to be loved, whether it seems that way or not. thanks for making these videos, by the way! you really help the community a lot :)
I watched my dad die over a few years, he was terminally ill. They day he died I was 10 I tried to revive him, as I found him, I couldn’t and I felt like a failure. I’m 42 and to this day I still cry over it all. Don’t think I’ll ever get over those few years.
I had a great breakthrough with my therapist yesterday in regards to my childhood trauma and how it’s shaped my inner critic and how it effected my inner child. I’ve had my trust broken and have been abandoned by people I thought cared for me many times throughout my life and it’s led to some really harmful thoughts, low self-esteem, and self sabotage. My therapist recommended I try EMDR therapy when I move back to my home state later this year. I’m really hoping it gives me the help I need to see past my traumas so I stop hurting myself emotionally.
I caused stress in my relationship with my loved one because I was reflecting the trauma from my childhood onto us. I never purposefully meant it, I was/am just so sad and anxious and I overwhelmed him. I was/am so scared to be alone, so I took too much of his space so I could imagine I was secure and and happy. He did make me feel secure and happy, but I forced some of it onto him to help me, which was unfair to him completely. We’re on a break right now, and it is hurting me because I have an anxious attachment style, but I’m taking the time to better myself and teach myself that I cannot become what I grew up with. So with all of my love, I hope he is doing better right now and I’m so sorry for not giving you enough of your own space. I’m getting help!
i didnt like that much the reference of including anime characters in it or referencing shows since i like the original characters more but it might appeal to others, anyways again good video
I am somehow EXTREMELY GRATEFUL THAT THIS CHANNEL EXISTS. Though the videos are "only for fun purposes" they gave me comfort and helped me in understanding myself better (yk, moments of enlightment) more than any living person/fun thing around me. People express various things in the comment section....honestly I vent things that I cannot infront of my family or friends and know others' life through their comments. It feels comforting and peaceful. Thank you for the help. Thank you thank you thank you!!! I cannot stress how much I appreciate it! EVEN HER VOICE FEELS SO COMFORTING....SOMETIMES I SHED TEARS THAT I MAY HAD BEEN HOLDING FOR MONTHS........thank you.
I am extremely pessimistic due to this. I grew up in a VERY violent home, and I'm under 12 but luckily with my dad who is my favorite person. But his soon to be ex is hard. But, thank you so much for making this. It helps so much by spreading awarness and help people understand it is nothing to fake, make fun of, or anything like that. Its very serious and yeah.
My dad was killed when I was 6 ( maybe 5) and I'm still struggling with feelings of safety and worthiness . Some things are deep rooted into my personality now. Loved this video!
Thank you so much for this video. I’m 13 years old and I grow up in an abusive household my mom constantly screams at me everyday she tells me she wishes she never had me & she always cusses at me. I’ve done so many things and tried talking to her and she just gets mad when I confront her about it. And I try my hardest not to care what she thinks and me & my sister are still recovering
Did I ever sabotage myself. I could never understand why things felt wrong. Healing is a long, arduous journey. Any of you struggling with this, you are not the problem.
I had a happy childhood. However, once I started school, my perspective on the world changed. My classmates used my good nature for their own gain, and I was too naive to realize it. I had all of those signs at that point.
This is such an important video to understand better why people behave like they behave. It will be translated into German on our Psych2GoDeutsch channel, too.
Advising people to seek help is easier said then done . For one thing they may not know or understand that what they are feeling/going through isn’t “normal”. I didn’t! As a child I used to wake up late at night hearing crying. My dad would regularly come home from the pub drunk and then proceed to beat my mum. One of my earliest memories is getting out of bed and going down stairs to investigate the noise. That’s when I saw my dad punching my mum. I ran over to my mum and got in between her and my dad to try to stop him from hurting my mum. My dad picked me up and throw me across the room. I was four years old. Both my mum and I would be “regulars” at our local A&E department. This went on for years undetected by anyone. We dared not tell anyone in fear of receiving a worse beating. I grew up to be very angry and aggressive child and if anyone said anything horrible to me, my first and only reaction would be to hit them. I was labelled as a trouble maker. I have always been super jumpy, the slightest little noise makes me jump out of my skin! I even tried pushing my dad down the stairs one night when he was hitting my mum on the landing, I was 16. Unfortunately he saved himself and came after me. I had stitches and a concussion to show for my stupidity! I’ve never drunk alcohol, even to this day the smell of alcohol on anyones breath makes me feel physically sick. It’s only because I was fortunate enough to find a kind, gentle and loving husband that I learned how real men treat women. I also learned just how a real dad should treat his child, with lots of love, laughter, kisses and cuddles instead of being constantly told how stupid they are as well as called horrible names and beaten.
My biggest struggle in life was feeling that whatever bad stuff happens, It's my fault. I also was left home alone a lot during childhood, and have learnt to entertain myself. My primary caregiver used me as an emotional punching bag, and whatever good news I came with to them, It was always discarded and dismissed. Why this happens? A cycle of abuse. Their parents have been abusive, so they are abusive towards us. The only worthy thing to do, is to heal yourself, as to prevent yourself from being a part of this cycle. Also find a good partner, if you want a long lasting relationships. It feels good to know that there are people that spend their time to elevate someone else's pain and suffering. Thank you, Psych2Go Team!
So true in many ways. I certainly can relate. Even though I've gotten professional help, there are brief moments when I recall the trauma. Fortunately as I've gotten older and wiser, I've learned how not to let my past affect my present and future. In other words, I just do the best I can and keep moving forward.
I can relate to this so much…. I remember once my teacher asked us to tell our earliest childhood memories especially happy ones But there was nothing happy about my childhood….I watched everyone one of my friends talk about their parents and their happy yet simple time being a child….I wish…mine was like that too…when the teacher asked me…i was already crying silently…. You see…my mom and dad fought a lot…my earliest childhood memories only consist of me crying under the dining table…while I heard them slap eachother and scream at eachother…it subconsciously broke me into pieces….never one had I seen them happy together….my mom and my dad had a divorce a year later…when I was 9 my father reappeared in my life causing great stress for me. He was the reason my mom had to work so hard now and he simply did not even care about me he wanted to show off to his friends about me and how intelligent I was and am… When I was nearing my 10th birthday….I started having these sudden compulsions and these weird type of obsessions with cleanliness to the point that a skin allergy made my skin black on my arms due to the constant washing and sanitizer rubbing on my hand… We went to a child psychiatrist to find out what really happened…. Turns out I had OCD (Obsessive compulsive disorder) I was given therapy for a long time until I went back to normal It comes back everyone 6 months….in different ways… When asked for the cause my therapist said it was due to childhood trauma…. I’m still not that great…but I’m happy that I was able to beat it at least a little…
These videos about the effects of childhood trauma are always so strange to me. I feel like I identify with so many of the symptoms but my memories of childhood are all so vague that I can't really point out anything that feels traumatic. I've been dealing with low self-esteem for most of my life at this point. It feels kind of like having the edges of a jigsaw puzzle figured out but the middle, the core of the issue, remains a mystery.
Often when you experience trauma it impacts the brain's part responsible for keeping memories in a bad way. This might be the explanation why you can't remember that much.
@@mumboexeyeye4240 btw maybe you should look into the topic of cptsd - complex post traumatic stress syndrome. Most people think of trauma as a single bad experience but if you go through bad times especially early in childhood it can cause a very complex trauma that's nearly impossible to pinpoint but the bad consequences are real...
I may not have been through trauma when I was a child, but there was so much that happened throughout all of my teenager years that I can say that all of these points fit me. Sorry about this long comment, but I feel like I gotta speak this out. This video and several others have really resonated with me and made me realize I've been going through these things. Read if you so wish. I've moved all over the states from year to year, lost my brother, had seen my mother wrongfully arrested, being isolated mostly by my father, been treated constantly as a liar, witnessed the muzzle flash of a gun and had to hide by myself by running under a table, and have had barely any long time friends to offset it. On top of that, I had to keep going to school and most of this stuff was from 8th grade to 12th grade. I maybe 20 now, but all of those memories from the past 7 years have been very painful and I've practically internalize it. It feels like I'm alone everywhere I go, that no one (not even most of my family) really cares about me, and I don't even matter or have anything of value to share to others despite my talents. On top of that, there have been times where people have used me as a means to say that someone else isn't taking care of me properly or how my mom was a horrible parent (which is absolutely wrong) against my wishes. I know that there are people who've been through trauma when they were younger, but I've never heard of someone who described their trauma as the equivalent of being treated as a tool for someone else's gain or reputation. And for clarification, I have not been to a therapist for any of this at all (up to the moment of this post). I'm sorry for typing this long post, but I've had this desire to finally say everything that's happen for so long that I can get desperate enough to say this to anyone. I could even type out intricate details of each key moment, but that would make this too long and I don't want to take up too much of your time. TL;DR, this video resonates with me greatly and I fit under reach of these, even though I don't want to admit it.
I know Life itself does not love me - not only parents and teachers psychopaths...But I want to stand it. I know the more I genuinely smile to this Life, the more wonderful ideas it will get to make other people happy. And that's it! Thank You!!:))!!
I feel scare all the time. Feel like I have to hug myself to calm down. I actual use the tip hugging or holding my own hand to calm down. Don't even realize before I developed some insight. Just feel bad. Don't know what it is.
So much rainclouds around,i don't even know how to clear all of em, sometimes when i watch something that remind me about happiness,the rainclouds doesn't exist for a moment before it come back. There are many things i experienced in the past,betrayed,etc was meal everyday to me. Less happiness lots of sadness etc. It is realy painfull when you try to make your friends etc happy but they almost never try to do the same to you. They did that sometimes only when they need my help,not really real want to cheer me up etc. I have been walking alone for years, but luckily there is still someone always be my side.even if the rainclouds is rarely disapear at least i'm still alive even if it is painful. Hope yall always be happy and have better fate
On a surface level I'm optimistic about most things. One day me and my college best friend were talking over a topic when he noticed something within me. A rather negative mindset of the future. He asked why, I simply answered I'm just scared of the unknown. After quite the whats and whys i told him some of my experiences as a kid. Guy listened. Then guy told me, "You're not scared. You're traumatized." . . . :') i felt my entire life crashing down at that moment. I wept like a child. An utterly desolated child. He was spot on and more for the reason cause he came from a healthy family. When i look at him i see the differences between us. How vast can perception differ between growing up with a healthy family and a toxic one. Guy always encourages me to remain strong. To not let negativity cloud my perception. I try. I really try. But its tough. And I don't think i can explain it to him by any means. Perhaps i am weak. Maybe I'll lose everything i have who knows. I'll try though. I'll keep trying. Its just, tough sometimes. I've grown so numb. If i lose things again i don't think I'll blink twice. Lets see what the future holds.
Yes to all. Our teenage children told me, the other month, that they "don't hate people like you do Dad." I can't even remember what the topic of conversation was, but that bit stuck with me. At least the wife has had a positive affect on them.
I had a pretty good childhood… until fifth grade, where everyone in class bullied me, I was a tattletale so teachers couldn’t help me, and the worst part… a good friend of mine betrayed me. Middle school added more salt to the wound, despite moving to a new town after fifth grade. Many classmates were toxic and potentially creepers, and their behaviors exposed me to the existence of racism. When I moved to another town in high school, the kids were more well behaved than the others because of a nicer environment… but the teachers wouldn’t listen to my needs, and they kept pressuring me to the point where I attempted suicide a few times! I never went to college right after graduating, and have been spending my scarred life just loafing around at home with my family. Even then, I struggle to communicate with my family to this day, and it’s been damaging my mental health I’ve been trying to heal.
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“Just get over it”. “You’re so extra” “it happened a really long time ago just let it go” “who cares?” (Insert inapplicable unsolicited advice here) *seeks help* = instantly gets dismissed and invalidated. *tries to talk about it* = hear to reply than listen to understand. Yup. I’m stuck with it forever
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Hello everyone, good viewing🐼👍
Ok
It still effects me. I have a very Low self estem and only go to people WHO abuse me verbally
Thank You, Psych2Go.
Thank you for all you do
It's so heartbreaking, feeling that something is "off" your entire life, but not being able to ascertain exactly what it is. You can grow to adulthood feeling misunderstood and isolated from everyone around you.
It freaking sucks. I'm still not sure what "it" is.
Ikr!! 😭💔
@@Pink_Ruby your brain has a lot of vulnerable states, in case of childhood trauma, our brains are not fully developed until the age 25 and whenever we learn about feelings and what they are, our brain has the tendency to study them and how to trigger them BUT our brain's study on emotions gets interrupted with tragic events, it can be anything from violence, verbal abuse and several other things and as we grow older, our brain tries to forget it and when it does it leaves something like a “scar„ that ends up affecting our well being leaving its self unnoticed and since it is something that hurt our brain it automatically stops trying to heal itself because pain can be stronger than any other felling therefore it would look like it's scared finding about emotions like trying something new and it goes wrong.
That's how I see it at least, that "it" doesn't exist and it's just fear of future actions
i wish you the best 🤍
@@Lusitania_memes take care
My whole childhood was traumatic enough that it’s difficult to remember the good stuff. My whole adulthood has been spent recovering from my childhood, which is why I feel angry when people say to just let go of it because it’s in the past. How does anyone let go of CPTSD? When you never felt safe as a child, you don’t know how to feel safe as an adult. When your depression and anxiety occurred so early in life that you don’t know what it’s like to not feel depressed and anxious, how does one let go of that? There’s nothing simple about childhood trauma. There’s no way to just let it go. People need to respect that we’re doing the best we can with our past haunting us even today.
EXACTLT
I feel exactly like u say. People don’t get it. Even good people.
Exactly
I agree. I remember blowing up at my very first Al Anon meeting when the guy leading the meeting said that we were in the room because "We did this to ourselves!"...How can a child stop their parents from drinking and beating the shit out of each other? How does a child have anything to do with evictions and having no electricity or water or food because the bill aren't getting paid die to drinking? How does a child have anything to do with the inappropriate extra attention their mothers' MALE interests paid them? Needless to say...that meeting was especially animated! LOL!
MOOOOOOOD.
I hate when people say:
'Ugh, why are you so negative all the time?!'
'Stop being so depressed'
These people have no idea how others have been through. I hope this video spreads more awareness.
Thank you for reading this, you are amazing and unique! Don't change who you are because of what people dont like about you. You know you more than anyone.
My pet peeve: "SMILE!"
All I'm saying is u are alive that's all and ur breathing and have capacity to write that message
I am experiencing a traumatic childhood, abuse is hurtful and this shit is real. When people talk about thoughts of suicide, depression, and abuse, PLEASE listen. Please pay attention to those who are willing to talk about it. Show that you care
You matter, and you are worthy of love. ❤️
Every night I cook dinner.
I use that time to speak to my kid about her day and things about life.
This week she’s going to start going to the gym with me cos she wants to lose weight and be healthy.
@@excelself I wish my parents where that supportive. You're a good man.
@@MrLiminalPhoenix I went through physical, sexual, verbal etc abuse. Sucks to have to be your own parent!!! It was hell for me until I learned more about how to talk to myself and care for my emotions. The rage and anxiety zapped my energy levels. It was hard to have motivation for anything. Do you have things to do to help you chill? Mine were/are music, animals, even video games helped me shut off the noise. I began healing by learning as much as I could. How to care for my feelings, and how to heal my inner critic (I was very mean to myself- often yelling at myself for making mistakes) and finding other people that enjoyed the same things, and/or people I could trust was huge for me. Thich Nhat Hanh's books, and Sarah Peyton's work with non-violent communication and healing based on understanding yourself & others saved my life. Please know you're not alone, and you're already ahead of the game because you haven't given up. No matter what happened to u- u didn't give up on yourself. You love yourself enough to keep trying, and self-love is hard for everyone. You fucking rule!!! Courage of the heart is rare, but is has a special power when it's there. Stay safe dear one
@@dbg0206091 thank you for the kind words. Thankfully nothing has gotten sexual, but they are physical and mental. I've commented before about the possible depression I might be in right now due to these instances. I cant get myself diagnosed because clearly my parents dont care, and even if I did we dont have the money to pay for appointments.
Thankfully I've had many kinda words, and many useful tips given to me about this issue. Thank you all
Even if you've survived an emotionally or physically abusive childhood, just know that you're worth more than your trauma, and things will eventually get better.
Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
but do something about it.
Therapy might be costly $150 per session where I’m from. However it is worth it.
Not if you don't take care of your emotional health. In whatever way necessary to HEAL that trauma. You don't eventually get better miraculously -thats why it's called magical thinking.
Any survivor of any childhood trauma isn't worth any more or any less than any other person. But they're likely a LOT stronger than other people. They just can't believe that...until they heal the trauma. They should never feel like they are only their trauma, but they will be controlled by their trauma-in one way or another, at some time or another -if it isn't healed.
It isn't the person's fault, but it becomes their responsibility to themselves (and anyone in their life or anyone potentially in their life) to put in the effort to heal.
Is it hard work? Of course it is, because good things only come from hard work. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. A life worth having is worth the effort. And THAT is how you KNOW you're worth more than your trauma. Once you're ahead of it and can truly see the world as it is, and not through the lens your brain had no other choice but to create for you. Why? Because it wanted you to survive. Why? Because this world would suck without you, and your smart brain KNEW that!
(Can you tell there is someone in my life that is in denial anything downward spiral stemming from 30 years of thinking it'll get better without work?)
It doesn't get better for a lot of people. I'm so sick of hearing that. Hollow words.
@@charlottetaylor4471 True
I lost my mother from lung cancer at the age of 10, it's been 9 years now but I'm still wondering what would my life look like if she didn't smoke that much...
I'm sorry for your loss.
Sending a hug.
I feel sorry for that 😔dear
Don't worry please 🤗
Don’t worry 😉 watch this to cheer u up
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I’m so sorry to hear that R.I.P your mom 😭
Sad.. 😔🤗🙏
The worst result from my childhood trauma is the unreasonable amount of anxiety I get when just sitting in my college classrooms or being in a school environment. Even if everyone besides me is friendly to me and I’m not being bullied, I randomly get flashbacks of the horrible childhood bullying days.
Same, it ruined my college experience. I despise the universe for dragging me through life the way it did.
Same... flashbacks are the worst. They distort reality worse than a drug. You want to believe that you're safe, but your brain is saying "No, you're not."
Same
Same here!
Yup ; and nobody is willing to understand . 😢
I definitely relate to this but I hope other people who have gone through the same thing knows that that negativity isn’t all that’s out there and there are beautiful people and places in the world 💜
Of course there are...
Problem is, both seems always too far away
I’ve been seeing a new therapist, it’s been a month, and he saw what I thought: I have a lot of childhood traumas. For years, I was with a therapist that “ignored” my past… I always thought I was “overthinking” and having a professional, without me talking much, seeing that, and making me acknowledge it, it’s been some rough times but so fulfilling. ❤️
I never had an abusive household, but back when I was in school, I was emotionally abused by so many teachers, it was at a point where it felt like a verbal bootcamp. My self-esteem plummeted so bad in middle school to the point where I would join in making fun of myself whenever bullies would make fun of me. Even now I find myself struggling in my mid 20s because all I can think of is how bad my school years messed with my head. These videos really help to remind me that I'm not alone.
I hope you have a wonderful life ahead.
Everything's going to be fine.
Don't worry much.
yeah the public school system does that to people (me included l m a o)
Often joining in was your brain protects itself by predicting the abuse like a defence. I hope you are safe now and that you can let go of those defence mechanisms that you don't need anymore.💙
Same and I’m 32.
@@bigpoppasmurf1813 "Funny" enough that is the main reason why I joined in with my bullies. The main reason I started joining in making fun of myself is because the more harsh I was on myself the less the bullies desired to bully me because I took all the fun away from them by doing so. I just wish I realized then how bad it would effect my mental health in the long run. I'm actually now learning how to let go of them as I've only recently stopped being so hard on myself. Thank you for the comment, it means a lot ❤
After 30 years of not being good enough, at school, work, with parents, relationships, social events, i guess my trust and beliefs in other people has indeed been damaged 💔
Same here. It’s very difficult to seek help. People are quick to give unsolicited inapplicable advice, dismiss & invalidate, hear to reply, etc.
I can attest to all of this. My childhood was rife with mental, emotional, and physical abuse. To this very day I feel isolated, worthless, helpless, stuck. My few significant relationships either re-victimized me or failed miserably. If this has happened to you, get the help you need, and get it sooner rather than later. The longer you wait the harder it gets.
Regarding self sabotage I actually went in the opposite direction and that naivety combined with past trauma ended with me in a relationship that was just as abusive as my childhood, took getting away from that to realise I've never recognised my own self worth. Been reflecting a lot since and trying to do what's best for me rather than what's better for everyone else.
Me too. Lots of blowback from family who do not like the new me. Sucks, but my recovery is everything to me. Getting somatic trauma therapy and it is helping me unclench. ☮️❤️
Definitely. Staying in an abusive relationship/friendship is my life too. 😒
There’s this kid in my class I’ve always wondered about. Let’s call him Jim. Jim was calling attention to himself every single class. He would be super loud, attention seeking, and as annoying as you could be in middle school. After I learned even more about psychology, I learned to by sympathetic towards him. He may’ve had a rough upbringing.
Anyways, that aside, imagine my surprise when 2 years later, he was gone (he switched schools, I think), and in his place came someone from my 5th grade class. I made it pretty clear that I didn’t want anything to do with him or anyone in that class, even if he were nice. He laughed, but left me alone after. I ain’t letting anyone mess with me. I closed myself off to him. Thankfully there was no one else from my old school who joined that year. Let’s just say they were bad bitches.
@@imaginechi7677 are you ok?
Timestamps 💖
1. It Makes you more pessimistic - 0:40
2. It makes you feel more alone - 1:11
3. It makes you self-sabotage - 1:53
4. It takes away your sense of safety and security - 2:32
5. It hinders your ability for meaning-making - 3:25
Thanks for making people more aware and all they you do! ☺️
Hehe don't read my channel description
As a child I grew up in a broken home with a neglectful mother and abusive step father who would beat, humiliate and phycologicaly abuse me. My mother ignored it for years until my step dad nearly beat me to death for saying no to him. I never forgave my mother after moving out she never protected or cared enough about me. I still carry that trauma I don't think it could ever heal but I have done my best to move forward with my life as best I can.
I can definitely relate to the feeling alone one. I was the only person in my family that grew up experiencing anxiety and I felt like my family didn't understand how I felt and I didn't feel confident communicating my feelings so I kept it all to myself. It took me 29 years to heal from chronic anxiety.
Please, anyone reading this, know that wherever you find yourself in your life right now healing is possible for you. Fulfillment, happiness and peace is possible for you. You just have to find the right outlets to achieve it 💛 - Julia
I wanna take a moment and thank this channel very well. Cuz I’ve and I’m still experiencing this trauma till this day. I asked someone who can help me and they told me more about it. Without this channel I wouldn’t have known anything about my situation and I maybe would’ve been stuck with it forever. Thank you so much! 😊
Hope you'll get better sooon 💜💜
Wishing you all the best! 💛
The problem with trauma is, that we live in a society, that tell you to not speak about your "negative thoughts" to others, so they don´t get depressed too. They don´t get it, that it´s not the same, because if you tell your wound you give the other the possibility to see, they are wounded too, even if they don´t know it.
That's why therapists are there to help out. They are trained to take that negativity and direct it somewhere else. And I do agree that we should be able to open up to others about our negative experiences and have that be accepted, but most ppl i have met have not even thought about it, so when that negative news do come out, it makes them feel negative because they don't know how to handle it (and why would you expect them to, they just want an easy life with positive vibes only.). There are people who are willing to push tooth and nail to try to understand what's going on with you and have a deep self-awareness and consciousness to know exactly where that negativity is coming from and can actually help you out. Others view all forms of negativity as draining that they'll pretty much say or do things that imply "get over it" so they can feel those "positive vibes only." The former is more likely someone you would want to open up to, but the latter can't really understand your experience because their upbringing of this world is very different so they can't really relate to the negative experience you've gone through. It's foreign to them.
@@GregXHunterz Therapists are liars, who have no clue why people are in pain and so their "help" is everything than worthy. But as long as people don´t get it, what kind of impact toxic people have on the mental health of others, they call it trauma, not manipulation.
@@GregXHunterz Assholes like you call trauma really "negativity"? That alone shows clearly, why toxic people aren´t call abusers, because the impact the have in the life of others isn´t call chronic pain, but "negativity" as is mental wound isn´t a wound at all ,but the wrong view.
@@GregXHunterz As if radical actions of others and oppression have only the impact to make you feel down, and don´t destroy everything, that is important for selfworth and interaction with others.
@@GregXHunterz Toxic people treat your soul as if it don´t deserve positive things and do their best to teach to to think the same about you, but go on and call this kind of shit just "negativity", not abuse or toxic or bullshit.
I didn't have a traumatic childhood, but all my siblings did. After the Vietnam War, they all came to Australia and I was born here. I was raised in a family with a collective trauma, and to this day I bond more readily with people who have deep emotional wounds. My personal relationships are with volatile women who have experienced physical or sexual abuse. I'm not a rescuer because I've shown that I can remove myself from bad situations; rather I want to be present and supportive for those whom I know are suffering. I often fail. That's the thing that bites at me, knowing that people are suffering and are unable to crawl their way out. It's a constant process to create healthy boundaries for my own wellbeing, and I'm trying to find ways beyond bonding with people who are self-defeating and sabotage the relationship.
The cold hard truth is, much like addicts, it doesn't matter what you say or do. It doesn't matter if you even successfully get them into some therapy program or support group. If they aren't ready to confront their trauma, they won't. I have been in therapy since the age of 11, maybe 12, and only when I was 23/24 did I finally get trauma therapy despite doing therapy for basically a decade of my life. I just got to a point where I didn't want to be stuck anymore. It was my "rock bottom." It's great that you want to support people who have been through trauma, but you will never be able to help them unless they actually want to change. They have to hit their rock bottom. Confronting trauma take an incredible amount of energy and work, it takes time, and you have to relive a lot of it. It's hard for people to do that unless they get to that point in their lives where they just *have* to do something.
Thank you for all the wonderful videos! I am a 41 yo woman and my childhood traumas are impairing me now more than ever. My best advice to all is seek help as soon as possible so that the trauma doesn’t impair you because you’ve waited too long.
Pov: you're early and have to wait for the person to post time stamps of the points
I radiate positive recovery energy to everyone who is going through hard times💗
It’s so sad that children have to go through this. Remember, you can’t just “forget” about the bad stuff, but you can grow and seek out the help of others you can help you feel more comfortable with it. And to anyone who knows someone in this sorta situation, please be kind and do the best to lend a helping hand when they need it. Stay safe, y’all ❤️
I have PTSD.
All of this is how I feel.
PTSD has a lot of the same symptoms of ADHD.
Some people get misdiagnosed with ADHD when they have PTSD.
I didn’t live in an abusive home, but my school years were distorted by anxiety.
I believe it originated from year 1. My class was doing a play, and I had been given the lead role. I was so excited, but I was also given a massive monologue that I had to say in front of the entire school. I forgot a massive chunk of it, and could never memorise it.
The day came. I remember being so excited, I went up to the microphone, began the monologue, then faded off, trying to remember what I was meant to say. Kids and parents started laughing. My teacher whispered the words, but I couldn’t understand what she said, so I said “What?” very loudly into the microphone. The laughing got a lot louder. All I remember is finishing my speech and sitting down.
After that, I never volunteered to speak at assemblies. I couldn’t even order food for myself. In highschool, my anxiety became more generalised. I can talk to people still, and do presentations, but I often shake and blush and stumble over my words, and I can’t stop thinking about every possible way it could go wrong.
Thank u for my Ted talk.
getting laughed at is better than having parents who argue constantly, and always getting told to stfu by your family
Well, my childhood to me was pretty awful.., i was bullied at a young age, and all of the ppl that i knew have left me, so i was a loner, and i gained depression and trust issues at a young age, maybe like 5 or 6, and when i go to some places as a kid and try to make friends, i still get bullied or forgotten.. i never knew i could have been going through this.
Wow, this is totally me. Working through therapy now to work through the trauma I have been through. Thank you so much for posting this!!!!
There is one benefit to being pessimistic: When you only ever expect the worst, life is full of pleasant surprises.
Hello psych2go your are one of my best RUclips channel that my type to understand our feelings and mental health because in my day to day life when I'm try to discuss my mental health people are laughing over me and what have you problems your just a student and it's really hurt my feelings but now I'm decided to make healthy boundaries for myself that I'm doing things that really makes me feel happy and stay away from toxic people and psych2go your video always helpful for me and when i write a comment i feel very relaxed and happy keep growing 💫💫😇😇
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This hits me hard. Went through a lot in my childhood years. Never learned to love properly or how to be love. As I get older I realized a lot of the pain I blocked out in my youth is catching up to me. I’m 28 and it feels like something inside me is breaking more and more everyday. Just not sure what it is
I feel so sad for my two children. The wife is such an abusive, maltreating lady who shouts like crazy at the children, throws things at them, treats me like garbage, always drives me out of the house, and in recent years, secretly had a third child with another man. Now we're in the courts. And instead of being repentant she fabricates blatant lies against me to keep me away. The kids are going through all this shit because of her. Without her, me and the two kids are very happy. Pray that I win the cases and get my kids, and that she won't bother us anymore.
If you are a man, you are SOL
How are y'all doing now?
I feel a great deal of sadness right now. I just wish all those people who couldn't or wouldn't understand the effects my childhood trauma had on my life would watch this video. It won't help me, but maybe it would help the other people they interact with from here on in.
Don't worry. My years of wanting to hurt myself are long gone.
I just know -- in my 70s -- that recovery is a lifelong process, but the only one that works and the secret to fulfillment. Best wishes and love to you all.
As someone who's gone through childhood trauma, instead of severe guilt, i try to isolate myself from anyone that gets to close to me, and small inconveniences make me either explode with anger, blaming it on my surroundings or crying uncontrollably. I'm still practically a child, as i'm a minor, altrough smallest of tasks always drain me out. I feel tired all the time. When i stand up, i feel dizzy and sit down again. I can't take living like this any longer. People are obviously aware of my problems yet to nothing, and it infuriates me. When i do actually go outside for a walk, i'm THAT scared of people to the point that i ACTUALLY hold my breath and try to keep myself together when i walk past them. Any eye contact makes me anxious
Same I know those feelings. I'm have social anxiety because of my trauma.
I've experienced childhood trauma. I've grown to develop a pessimistic worldview. I was a super shy kid, a self-blamer, and I look down on myself. Can't even look people in their eyes.
I was like this for the majority of my life.
Good thing I was able to develop a bit more positivity in me throughout the past 8 years. Slowly but surely, I was able to recount my past, think about the traumas, and was able to forgive myself and the ones who made me experience them. There are still lingering ones but you know, life is always a never-ending process. Some traumas cannot be forgotten, but you have a choice, whether to let 'em haunt you or let yourself move on.
This is something I'm struggling with. I'm on a journey to heal but finding it so difficult. I think I blame myself for everything but trying to change that mindset.
I love how you used Naruto. Aside from relating to his story one thing that anime itself showed me, especially looking at Naruto's character is how much you can still have a happy life and meet people who will be with you and help you throughout the process. I can't say all of us can be like him and burst with positivity all the time but we can learn from how he lived and try to help ourselves out of the darkness somehow 🙂
Trauma Happens To Adults Too!! Especially In The Job Field.
For sure! Especially in a toxic working field. :( Have you or you know someone experienced this before?
Oh absolutely. A lot of people experience trauma for the first time in adulthood. But I think childhood trauma is a lot more difficult to recover from, as you've never known any different. Whereas if you, as a 35 year-old mentally stable person for example, become traumatised by an event/series of events, it should be easier to recover yourself back to the time when you were mentally/emotionally stable. If you've never been mentally and emotionally stable because of early childhood trauma, it's very tricky because it's somewhat unimaginable to be mentally healthy.
@@charlottetaylor4471 Yea I Know. I Never Even Met My Parents. Moms Was A Drug Addict & I Was Taken Away At Birth. Biological Brother Killed In My Face In Fostercare & He Was 3. Just Found Out I Had A Brother & We We’re Beat A lot. Passed Around Like Trash.
This video really hit home for me.
I'm 39 and still working on things.
Also, + 1 million internet hugs for the Naruto reference. I wish I'd been able to watch the show growing up. Sounds silly but I think Naruto's spirit and attitude would have help me think about my own problems in a more constructive way, at least to a degree.
I really love to watch your informative videos ❤️ thank you so much for spreading awareness
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I went through abuse, parents divorced (and got married and divorced with different people numerous times since), my mom abandoning me and dad never being there and being raised by my grandparents as a result. It used to effect me badly as I didn’t learn how to deal with such trauma for a long time, I ended up addicted to heroin and meth at 18 years old. I’m 24 now and in recovery and am slowly learning how to deal my childhood trauma. I’ve learned to forgive myself and my parents, but I have to love them from a distance as they both are very toxic. When I turned 18, I moved in with my mom and began drinking and using a lot of dope with her. And my father was always in and out of my life, choosing women and steroids and body building over me (he was a wannabe body builder and wannabe country musician), and to this day he doesn’t take any responsibility and thinks I should just forget about it and move on which is why I won’t speak with him. He tries to get ahold of me through my fiancée but she ignores him lol.
Im so sorry to hear what you've gone through, it must've been so hard.
You deserved better, i hope you're doing great now and living the best of life!!
I feel you. Both my parents were self concentrating and toxic. It took me 27 years to figure out that my mom is the worst mom in this world. I am under therapy now. These fucking parents ruined my life completely. I think people shouldn't give birth to children if they are not capable to raise them. period.
@@afrinakhanam4696 I totally agree. Trauma is passed on. It’s such a nasty, vicious cycle, just like addiction is. And unless you try to get help and work on yourself, you tend to pass it on to your kids. It’s really sad because you wanna feel bad for these people but some go on to abuse their own kids and it puts you in such a tough spot of how to feel as a result.
@@AndrewLemmings Agreed once again and can't relate anymore. My grandmother was also a toxic mom, she used to leave her children including my mom alone and stay in her parent's house for weeks. As I heard from my mother, my great grandma was also a funky kind of woman instead of a so traditional home-oriented woman even in that era. So genetically they had been passing this toxicity on generation after generation. I have thought to put an end to it, I am not bringing any child into this world. This toxicity needs to stop and moreover, I do not like children anyway.
That 'lol' full of pain...
I know bro. 33 and just realizing the extent of all this.
I'm f*cking angry because I've suffered and to this day my mom tells me to snap out of "it" 😂
F*ck off is what I want to say...but she has trauma of her own that she cant even see the effects of!
I had a traumatic childhood. My mother killed herself when I was 10 years old....I found her dead body. My father was physically and emotionally abusive. I was subjected to bullying in middle school and high school. Your video is helping me to see there is hoo
This is my real struggles. I just want to stop comparing my own capabilities to others, just live a peaceful and focus life. However, as I have a childhood trauma that people always compared me to other, it is really difficult for me to get rid of it. Praying and praying that I'll heal from these trauma.
My parents got divorced when i was 4. That meant multiple rounds of that awful, and not very surprisingly depressive court headquarters. I'm 12 now but still have to move from one place to another every 15 days. My dad remarried when i was 7 without telling me. I lost both my grandparents when i was 10. My mom's side family occasionally fight and are very disjointed. My mom is trying to convince me for her getting married again. I do feel like all of this has taken a toll on me.
me and you went through the same thing! with my parents so keep going:) i believe that we’ll get through it and may your grandparent rest in peace
@@miyaaskgma2430 thank you so much
well mine aren't getting one (divorce) and its traumatic....
@@dhiv6321 wdym
@@dhiv6321 i can totally understand. My friend was going through the same thing. Maybe you can try to take them to a couple therapist or something cause my friend did and things got better, even if not completely okay.
9 years and still counting. I can still remember every word they told me and everything they did to me for 365 days CONSECUTIVELY.
Way back I was a transfered student at a so called 'Christian School'.
It was a life changing event to me. Every fckn single day and no one ever dare to step up for me.
Up until now I can still hear them ( in my head ) saying hurtful words to me. And no one around me fckn understand that sht. Its hard for me to bear such experience that sometimes I just want to take my life. And every single day the urge of it me doing just gets stronger.
If life after death didn't exist at all or I was born as an atheist I wouldn't be alive and departed from this world full of hatred, agony and cruelty.
If you guys have some time try listening to Anberlins - Soft Skeletons.
I don't know if it help, but I can relate a lot. I was bullied all the way from 3rd grade to 10th grade, had all my "friends" turn away from me because they couldn't deal with all the constant physical and verbal attacks every single day and didn't want to become victims themselves. I had two different school administrations be completely helpless against it for different reasons (the first one because teachers were good friends with the parents of the bullies, the second one simply didn't want to admit anything is wrong to preserve the school's reputation).
Interesting, suicide never really crossed my mind. Why would I leave, even though the people around me (in the past) were horrible? Here's where all my stuff is! I've got books to read, games to play, stories to create myself, new skills to learn, languages and knowledge. Life is already far too short as it is and it would be a shame to cut it even shorter when there is so much stuff out there to experience. Even if my past still lingers in the back of my head and gives me trust issues and social anxiety. I need to work on that, too, but even if I'm only doing baby steps there, it really doesn't matter as long as you have other things that fill you.
I was raised by a 16 year old.
So whenever someone yells at me I get aggressive.
It’s just a self defense mechanism thankfully I was able to overcome that in my early 20s.!
Same but I’ve yet to overcame that part and I don’t know if I ever will
This is such an amazing endeavor
For me my childhood experiences were something subtle, not entirely evil but still damaging leading me into confusion while living with the stigma around my mom's mental illness. I have never been physically abused but emotionally neglected, a home that supposed to be a safe enviroment caused me almost constant distress in my childhood, avoiding from my parents' mood swings and agressive responses, trying to belive everything will be okay, and not wanting to throw away my life but fight for a better future. The history of my life made me stuggling with anxiety and trouble around my self-worth, my identity and managing my emotions. Rn I'm in the process getting officially diagnosed with personality disorder. Thanks god I'm having precious friends who support me!
Not making friends in middle & high school.
Thank you for helping me and caring more than both sets of parents ever could
This Video helps me to not be so hard on myself and ur channel is not only so creative and beautiful but also so helpful. I will forever be thankful. When I’m down I can tell myself because of ur channel things like that’s not ur fault and it came from that or that I’m feeling that. ❤️
Great video. Your narrative is very soothing and makes it clear what you are articulating without triggering any traumatic emotions/thoughts. Quite articulate yet calming at the same time. Well done!
My father’s death at a young age was profoundly traumatic to me. I truly feel that your age during which the trauma or loss occurs is the age that your psyche can permanently remain at. No matter where I go, no matter how much time passes by, no matter how mentally healthy I feel on good days, or how injured and upset I feel on bad days... to me... it’s ALWAYS the summer of ‘01... and after all this time... I paradoxically like to re-visit the places that bore such significance, and somehow re-live, or re-experience certain moments or emotions for a strange sense of restorative and comforting nostalgia, even if brutal. For if enough time passes by, you can somehow embrace your pain as a defining and sacred moment in your life. Maybe coming in with wiser eyes, or a wiser frame of mind does the trick... or perhaps seeking to re-fight the fight, but on MY terms. Maybe it’s a defense mechanism, who knows? I guess this is what Freud meant when he said “one day, the years of your worst struggles will strike you as the most cherished”
This is heartbreaking not so many are lucky to have free time but end up closing themselves off from others
Relevant topic👍🏻
Both my parents have no idea the extent they’ve hurt me. My mum recently said “oh yes I hit you when you were younger, I realised it was because I was depressed” but she never said sorry.. and no, it was not the type for “discipline” where one hits you on your arms and legs. My dad thinks he should never have to speak to us nicely like a normal human being because “he’s our dad so he shouldn’t have to be nice to us”, this is on top of a violent but broken household growing up. I have sought help but I’m so frustrated that my life gets better and than just relapses into low moods and a series of self sabotage. I’m mad at myself that I can’t heal even when I acknowledge that it was my parents who failed me. I can’t get past my trauma.
OMG....So true. All of it. Explains alot for myself and i am sure so many others. Explains being stuck in the past and can't ever seen to get out no matter how hard you may try.
Im so thankful of you guys because your videos help me understand so much about traumas and anxieties because im in a long distance relationship and my girlfriend has suffered from a very traumatic experience in life which left her scarred and to be honest i wanna help her grow and be the best version of herself which and your videos help me grow better and more understanding for her
I lost my father at 13 from cancer within 2 years from diagnosis, I had two younger brothers. It was a challenge but at 30 my mother then died of cancer. Im 35 now and just landing back to earth. I mentally reverted to a teenager and am now working myself out of a relationship were theres blatant manipulation and disrespect. I never left bc i was dependent on that feeling of having atleast someone that cares about me despite the treatment. This was an amazing video and i related a lot to it, more than any other video. Thank you
My father was abusive and Hurt me so bad. I can confirm every single point of this video and that is the main reason I am with help.
all of this is certainly relatable, if i’m being honest. i generally don’t trust many people at all, and by that, i mean there is only about one person who i mostly trust. school feels unsafe, home feels unsafe. lots of stuff has happened, and is happening, that just makes me sort of, shut down, almost. it’s strange.
if anybody is going through any kind of trauma, then know that you are capable of being loved and cared for, as much as anyone else, okay? reach out to someone for help. and if you’ve went through trauma, talk to someone about it. let things out, or try. maybe write it down, if possible; reflect.
honestly that probably didn’t make much sense ^^
tl;dr, you are all able to be loved, whether it seems that way or not.
thanks for making these videos, by the way! you really help the community a lot :)
You help my community find their way with these videos. Thank you so much for existing.
I watched my dad die over a few years, he was terminally ill. They day he died I was 10 I tried to revive him, as I found him, I couldn’t and I felt like a failure. I’m 42 and to this day I still cry over it all. Don’t think I’ll ever get over those few years.
I had a great breakthrough with my therapist yesterday in regards to my childhood trauma and how it’s shaped my inner critic and how it effected my inner child. I’ve had my trust broken and have been abandoned by people I thought cared for me many times throughout my life and it’s led to some really harmful thoughts, low self-esteem, and self sabotage. My therapist recommended I try EMDR therapy when I move back to my home state later this year. I’m really hoping it gives me the help I need to see past my traumas so I stop hurting myself emotionally.
I caused stress in my relationship with my loved one because I was reflecting the trauma from my childhood onto us. I never purposefully meant it, I was/am just so sad and anxious and I overwhelmed him. I was/am so scared to be alone, so I took too much of his space so I could imagine I was secure and and happy. He did make me feel secure and happy, but I forced some of it onto him to help me, which was unfair to him completely. We’re on a break right now, and it is hurting me because I have an anxious attachment style, but I’m taking the time to better myself and teach myself that I cannot become what I grew up with. So with all of my love, I hope he is doing better right now and I’m so sorry for not giving you enough of your own space. I’m getting help!
man i love the relaxing voice from the person in the video, great job seriously
i didnt like that much the reference of including anime characters in it or referencing shows since i like the original characters more but it might appeal to others, anyways again good video
I am somehow EXTREMELY GRATEFUL THAT THIS CHANNEL EXISTS. Though the videos are "only for fun purposes" they gave me comfort and helped me in understanding myself better (yk, moments of enlightment) more than any living person/fun thing around me. People express various things in the comment section....honestly I vent things that I cannot infront of my family or friends and know others' life through their comments. It feels comforting and peaceful. Thank you for the help. Thank you thank you thank you!!! I cannot stress how much I appreciate it! EVEN HER VOICE FEELS SO COMFORTING....SOMETIMES I SHED TEARS THAT I MAY HAD BEEN HOLDING FOR MONTHS........thank you.
I hate that this channel exists, it’s trying to make you weak bro, instead of becoming a Tank Of Steel
This is a great video. An enlightening, I call it. Keep it up
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The timing for this is so perfect.
Thank you so much for all your love and all your encouragement. We love you. Thank you.
I am extremely pessimistic due to this. I grew up in a VERY violent home, and I'm under 12 but luckily with my dad who is my favorite person. But his soon to be ex is hard. But, thank you so much for making this. It helps so much by spreading awarness and help people understand it is nothing to fake, make fun of, or anything like that. Its very serious and yeah.
Almost 10 million! 10 million lives saved and enlightened!
Every child deserve peace in their childhood,sad many parents dont even realise it
My dad was killed when I was 6 ( maybe 5) and I'm still struggling with feelings of safety and worthiness . Some things are deep rooted into my personality now.
Loved this video!
I lost my dad at 5 as well.
Thank you so much for this video. I’m 13 years old and I grow up in an abusive household my mom constantly screams at me everyday she tells me she wishes she never had me & she always cusses at me. I’ve done so many things and tried talking to her and she just gets mad when I confront her about it.
And I try my hardest not to care what she thinks and me & my sister are still recovering
Did I ever sabotage myself. I could never understand why things felt wrong. Healing is a long, arduous journey. Any of you struggling with this, you are not the problem.
I had a happy childhood. However, once I started school, my perspective on the world changed. My classmates used my good nature for their own gain, and I was too naive to realize it. I had all of those signs at that point.
This is such an important video to understand better why people behave like they behave.
It will be translated into German on our Psych2GoDeutsch channel, too.
Advising people to seek help is easier said then done . For one thing they may not know or understand that what they are feeling/going through isn’t “normal”. I didn’t!
As a child I used to wake up late at night hearing crying. My dad would regularly come home from the pub drunk and then proceed to beat my mum. One of my earliest memories is getting out of bed and going down stairs to investigate the noise. That’s when I saw my dad punching my mum. I ran over to my mum and got in between her and my dad to try to stop him from hurting my mum. My dad picked me up and throw me across the room. I was four years old. Both my mum and I would be “regulars” at our local A&E department. This went on for years undetected by anyone. We
dared not tell anyone in fear of receiving a worse beating. I grew up to be very angry and aggressive child and if anyone said anything horrible to me, my first and only reaction would be to hit them. I was labelled as a trouble maker. I have always been super jumpy, the slightest little noise makes me jump out of my skin!
I even tried pushing my dad down the stairs one night when he was hitting my mum on the landing, I was 16. Unfortunately he saved himself and came after me. I had stitches and a concussion to show for my stupidity!
I’ve never drunk alcohol, even to this day the smell of alcohol on anyones breath makes me feel physically sick.
It’s only because I was fortunate enough to find a kind, gentle and loving husband that I learned how real men treat women. I also learned just how a real dad should treat his child, with lots of love, laughter, kisses and cuddles instead of being constantly told how stupid they are as well as called horrible names and beaten.
My biggest struggle in life was feeling that whatever bad stuff happens, It's my fault.
I also was left home alone a lot during childhood, and have learnt to entertain myself.
My primary caregiver used me as an emotional punching bag, and whatever good news I came with to them, It was always discarded and dismissed.
Why this happens? A cycle of abuse. Their parents have been abusive, so they are abusive towards us. The only worthy thing to do, is to heal yourself, as to prevent yourself from being a part of this cycle. Also find a good partner, if you want a long lasting relationships.
It feels good to know that there are people that spend their time to elevate someone else's pain and suffering. Thank you, Psych2Go Team!
So true in many ways. I certainly can relate. Even though I've gotten professional help, there are brief moments when I recall the trauma. Fortunately as I've gotten older and wiser, I've learned how not to let my past affect my present and future. In other words, I just do the best I can and keep moving forward.
This is so heartbreaking 💔 I wish everybody gets healed ❤
Thank you for the video ❤️❤️🥺😓
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I can relate to this so much….
I remember once my teacher asked us to tell our earliest childhood memories especially happy ones
But there was nothing happy about my childhood….I watched everyone one of my friends talk about their parents and their happy yet simple time being a child….I wish…mine was like that too…when the teacher asked me…i was already crying silently….
You see…my mom and dad fought a lot…my earliest childhood memories only consist of me crying under the dining table…while I heard them slap eachother and scream at eachother…it subconsciously broke me into pieces….never one had I seen them happy together….my mom and my dad had a divorce a year later…when I was 9 my father reappeared in my life causing great stress for me.
He was the reason my mom had to work so hard now and he simply did not even care about me he wanted to show off to his friends about me and how intelligent I was and am…
When I was nearing my 10th birthday….I started having these sudden compulsions and these weird type of obsessions with cleanliness to the point that a skin allergy made my skin black on my arms due to the constant washing and sanitizer rubbing on my hand…
We went to a child psychiatrist to find out what really happened….
Turns out I had OCD (Obsessive compulsive disorder)
I was given therapy for a long time until I went back to normal
It comes back everyone 6 months….in different ways…
When asked for the cause my therapist said it was due to childhood trauma….
I’m still not that great…but I’m happy that I was able to beat it at least a little…
Hi and thank you so much 😊
These videos about the effects of childhood trauma are always so strange to me. I feel like I identify with so many of the symptoms but my memories of childhood are all so vague that I can't really point out anything that feels traumatic. I've been dealing with low self-esteem for most of my life at this point. It feels kind of like having the edges of a jigsaw puzzle figured out but the middle, the core of the issue, remains a mystery.
Often when you experience trauma it impacts the brain's part responsible for keeping memories in a bad way. This might be the explanation why you can't remember that much.
@@minoruhaginoya2249 Thank you for taking the time to comment. I wasn't aware of that connection. Appreciate the insight.
@@mumboexeyeye4240 You're welcome 🙂
@@mumboexeyeye4240 btw maybe you should look into the topic of cptsd - complex post traumatic stress syndrome. Most people think of trauma as a single bad experience but if you go through bad times especially early in childhood it can cause a very complex trauma that's nearly impossible to pinpoint but the bad consequences are real...
I may not have been through trauma when I was a child, but there was so much that happened throughout all of my teenager years that I can say that all of these points fit me.
Sorry about this long comment, but I feel like I gotta speak this out. This video and several others have really resonated with me and made me realize I've been going through these things. Read if you so wish.
I've moved all over the states from year to year, lost my brother, had seen my mother wrongfully arrested, being isolated mostly by my father, been treated constantly as a liar, witnessed the muzzle flash of a gun and had to hide by myself by running under a table, and have had barely any long time friends to offset it. On top of that, I had to keep going to school and most of this stuff was from 8th grade to 12th grade.
I maybe 20 now, but all of those memories from the past 7 years have been very painful and I've practically internalize it. It feels like I'm alone everywhere I go, that no one (not even most of my family) really cares about me, and I don't even matter or have anything of value to share to others despite my talents. On top of that, there have been times where people have used me as a means to say that someone else isn't taking care of me properly or how my mom was a horrible parent (which is absolutely wrong) against my wishes.
I know that there are people who've been through trauma when they were younger, but I've never heard of someone who described their trauma as the equivalent of being treated as a tool for someone else's gain or reputation. And for clarification, I have not been to a therapist for any of this at all (up to the moment of this post).
I'm sorry for typing this long post, but I've had this desire to finally say everything that's happen for so long that I can get desperate enough to say this to anyone. I could even type out intricate details of each key moment, but that would make this too long and I don't want to take up too much of your time.
TL;DR, this video resonates with me greatly and I fit under reach of these, even though I don't want to admit it.
I know Life itself does not love me - not only parents and teachers psychopaths...But I want to stand it. I know the more I genuinely smile to this Life, the more wonderful ideas it will get to make other people happy. And that's it! Thank You!!:))!!
I crying for my child self. I never knew it's all connected to my childhood. All of these connect to me. If only I can hug my child self.
I feel scare all the time. Feel like I have to hug myself to calm down. I actual use the tip hugging or holding my own hand to calm down. Don't even realize before I developed some insight. Just feel bad. Don't know what it is.
2:22 this right here… it hurts to accept that I’ll have this in the back of my mind, no matter how much I want to believe there is “good” in humanity
So much rainclouds around,i don't even know how to clear all of em, sometimes when i watch something that remind me about happiness,the rainclouds doesn't exist for a moment before it come back. There are many things i experienced in the past,betrayed,etc was meal everyday to me. Less happiness lots of sadness etc. It is realy painfull when you try to make your friends etc happy but they almost never try to do the same to you. They did that sometimes only when they need my help,not really real want to cheer me up etc. I have been walking alone for years, but luckily there is still someone always be my side.even if the rainclouds is rarely disapear at least i'm still alive even if it is painful. Hope yall always be happy and have better fate
Never be ashamed to seek therapy. There's nothing shameful about making your life better 💛
It feels so self-indulgent
I’m too poor for it🙁
On a surface level I'm optimistic about most things. One day me and my college best friend were talking over a topic when he noticed something within me. A rather negative mindset of the future. He asked why, I simply answered I'm just scared of the unknown. After quite the whats and whys i told him some of my experiences as a kid. Guy listened. Then guy told me, "You're not scared. You're traumatized."
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:') i felt my entire life crashing down at that moment. I wept like a child. An utterly desolated child.
He was spot on and more for the reason cause he came from a healthy family. When i look at him i see the differences between us. How vast can perception differ between growing up with a healthy family and a toxic one.
Guy always encourages me to remain strong. To not let negativity cloud my perception. I try.
I really try. But its tough. And I don't think i can explain it to him by any means. Perhaps i am weak. Maybe I'll lose everything i have who knows. I'll try though. I'll keep trying. Its just, tough sometimes. I've grown so numb. If i lose things again i don't think I'll blink twice. Lets see what the future holds.
This is exactly what this video makes me see how my childhood trauma shape my view on life 😢💔
Yes to all.
Our teenage children told me, the other month, that they "don't hate people like you do Dad."
I can't even remember what the topic of conversation was, but that bit stuck with me.
At least the wife has had a positive affect on them.
OMG her voice is so relaxing and comforting. 🥰
I had a pretty good childhood… until fifth grade, where everyone in class bullied me, I was a tattletale so teachers couldn’t help me, and the worst part… a good friend of mine betrayed me.
Middle school added more salt to the wound, despite moving to a new town after fifth grade. Many classmates were toxic and potentially creepers, and their behaviors exposed me to the existence of racism. When I moved to another town in high school, the kids were more well behaved than the others because of a nicer environment… but the teachers wouldn’t listen to my needs, and they kept pressuring me to the point where I attempted suicide a few times! I never went to college right after graduating, and have been spending my scarred life just loafing around at home with my family. Even then, I struggle to communicate with my family to this day, and it’s been damaging my mental health I’ve been trying to heal.
All of the points given speaks to me, especially how it explains how it effects me in my older years. 😔
People are beautiful, it just takes time to find them.
Loved your videos♡thankyou
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“Just get over it”. “You’re so extra” “it happened a really long time ago just let it go” “who cares?” (Insert inapplicable unsolicited advice here)
*seeks help* = instantly gets dismissed and invalidated.
*tries to talk about it* = hear to reply than listen to understand.
Yup. I’m stuck with it forever
I'm sorry, my friend.