Surviving And Thriving When Living Alone After 60
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- Опубликовано: 13 май 2024
- Many older adults over 60 are choosing to live alone. While this can be a great choice for some, it can also come with challenges.
In this video, we explore some of the best ways to thrive when living alone after 60. From tips on staying social and active to ideas for keeping your home safe and comfortable, we've got you covered.
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Cyn Meyer here with Second Wind Movement, a resource for older adults like you (or someone you care for) that provides education, tools and coaching, so that you live your ideal retirement lifestyle that’s active, healthy, engaged and full of purpose.
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The loneliest I ever felt was when I was married.. I’m now 53 and single..went back to school at 50 and just started a new career working from home..I love living alone
It takes a lot of courage to embrace change, especially when it involves such significant life transitions like going back to school and starting a new career.
It's interesting how you've found more contentment in being single and living alone than when you were married. It just goes to show that happiness isn't one-size-fits-all. It's about finding what works for you, what makes you feel alive, fulfilled, and at peace.
Working from home can offer a unique kind of freedom and flexibility. You've got the space to be yourself, to create your own rhythm, and to shape your environment in a way that suits you best. It sounds like you're thriving in this setup!
And as for loneliness, it's not about being alone or with someone. It's about feeling understood, valued, and connected, whether that's with a partner, a friend, or even just with yourself. So, if you're enjoying your own company, then you're on the right track! ✨
When married, were you the husband or the wife ? I could not guess from your comment ! I think women cope better when driven to live alone when older...Men tend to find it more challenging.
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement Yous said : " And as for loneliness, it's not about being alone or with someone. It's about feeling understood, valued, and connected, whether that's with a partner, a friend, or even just with yourself "
People who have a connection with God don not feel as lonely as those who don't. If you feel the 'presence' of God you are never alone. Good people find comfort in this .
Me too , I am 75 , divorced for 25 years, I loved living alone, do whatever I want , got into line dancing 4 days a week and swimming, meet lots of people, best years of my life 🥳🥳
I had a vicious, incompetent "mother" by 14 I was the family slave..
I married a weirdo I could not get away from...
When I found out he was killing patients...the nightmare of trying to stay alive to get him and his best friend investigated..was actually a huge wake up call...
3 out of 4 siblings turned out like psycho maw...stole everything..
So...
being alone is a GOOD thing for me...
I have been alone and desperately lonely ALL my life but did not know why I felt so badly...
I wish I could find a few people of similar values...but MANY people are SO crazy...I would rather not go through that again.
Social media helps a lot...I wish I had a little more connection..but people who have been savagely abused really can appreciate the safety of aloneness.
I’m 66 and retired last year and live alone (and love it!) I have always been pretty disciplined so I have a daily routine for cleaning and I’m a minimalist. I try to get 8 hrs sleep, practice intermittent fasting, walk a mile outside each morning and Pilates classes twice a week. It really helps me to be structured. I get up early as I did when working. Thanks for this great video 💕
Your daily structures sounds amazing! Super important to support your ideal lifestyle with your structure. We appreciate you watching and striving to be your best - you're an inspiring example for others 🙏💕
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement thank you for your kind reply💕🌼
Same but no Pilates, weight exercise every other day and walking. 64 here. I too get up same time as when I worked love the early morning peacefulness especially not having to get in the car and go to work. Clean uncluttered house, clean body , stress free financial life. Gonna really enjoy this time of life . I know it’s great because the days go by so quick. Never experienced a quick day at annoying 9-5 schedule. God bless you enjoy a healthy life.
You have SO hit the nail on the head! I woke at 6am and was out the house for 6.30am (without even having an alarm clock!) for nearly 40 years. Then I retired and I just CANNOT drag my ar*e out of bed before 9am most days, probably because there’s no REASON to get up that early any more…… I know all the health experts tell us how much better it is to rise at 4am etc but to my mind, that just makes for a VERY long day!!!
And what about your skin that looks like a crocodile????
There's a big difference between living alone in your 20's and living alone in your 60's! By that age, you are no longer working and seeing people all the time, plus many of us in this age group have lost many family members and friends. Its much more isolating than you realise, and I know now what people mean when they say you 'become invisible'..
It's true, aging can sometimes feel like a journey into uncharted territory, especially when you find yourself living alone after years of being surrounded by friends, family, and colleagues.
But even though the landscape of life changes as you age, it doesn't mean you have to fade into invisibility. Quite the contrary! This can be a time of exploration, self-discovery, and new connections. Take this as an opportunity to rekindle old hobbies or discover new ones. Join clubs or groups that interest you. There are countless communities out there filled with people who share similar interests and experiences.
The point is, you're far from invisible. You have a wealth of experience, wisdom, and stories to share. And there are people out there eager to listen, learn and connect. 🤗
agreed. When she said she was 40, I stopped watching. Because to know what someone is going thru at 60 is way different than making up things you did in your 20s.
I totally understand where you're coming from. There's a world of difference between being in your 40s and experiencing life in your 60s. The concerns, insights, fears, and joys can be worlds apart, and it's tough to fully grasp that without living it firsthand.
But here's the thing: while I might not have hit the big 6-0 yet, I've spent countless hours talking with, learning from, and supporting those who have. As a retirement coach, my goal isn't to pretend I've walked in your shoes, but rather to share the wisdom, experiences, and advice I've gathered from those who have.
Think of me as a relay runner in the race of life. I'm not running your lap, but I'm here to pass on the baton - the shared knowledge and insights from those who've run before. And hopefully, that baton carries a little bit of motivation, inspiration, and guidance for your journey ahead.
So while I might still be a few years away from understanding the 60s personally, I'm here, ready and eager to support you in any way I can.
@@anniesshenanigans3815agreed
@@dawnjohnson8739make yourself visible - if that is what you want. You might need to be brave...
I can speak from experience. I am 65 years old. When my husband died nearly 18 months ago, my world turned upside down. I’d retired a few months earlier to be his caregiver. After his death, I felt I’d been dropped into the middle of the ocean. It’s taken a great deal of effort to save myself from drowning in deep sorrow and stark loneliness.
I'm deeply sorry for your loss. ♥️ It takes immense courage to share your story. You are not alone in this journey and if you ever need someone to talk to, please reach out
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement Thank you. You are incredibly kind.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
My wife passed 5 yrs ago,,go one day at a time,,,it gets better very slowly,,,
@@WilliamMartinez-vq2bn Thank you for your kind encouragement.
I'm almost 70 and live alone in a remote widerness in Western Maine for 20 years. I have no outside support. I Often don't go to town or see another human for a couple weeks. Music, nature based artwork and Photography are my passion. I'm also 12 chapters into writing a book about my 47 years as a Professional Mountain Guide.
With all of that, their are times I ache for the Human Voice.
Your lifestyle sounds incredibly rich and fulfilling, with your passion for music, art, and writing. Yet, it's understandable to yearn for human connection. Your experiences are valuable and you have so much to share. Keep going with your book, it sounds fascinating!
I'd love to hear about your nature based artwork and your book. I too am writing a book and love nature and photography (I'm much younger than you but during extreme isolation of the pandemic, nature taught me so much and I felt much more connected to what was around me. Inside flowers fascinate me! Keep writing and I hope you get to publish your book, of that's what you want to do...
I am on your wagon. Trying to get to a situation like that as well.
I understand that ache you speak of. Good news is 1. You sound physically fit from being a guide. 2. You have artistic talents-that is HUGE. 3. You are writing a book about a full life you have led. That is beautiful.
I talk to myself because a great person speaks and a great person listens.
A great person speaks, and a great person listens. So why not be both? 😂
I like this!!👍 I’m going to use it! Good one😉
So do I and have been doing so all my adult life.
I always said nobody listens like I do
I’m 70, I live alone and I love it!!!
🎉 ❤️
Good for you. Lucky
I can't compare living alone in my 60s to living alone in my 40s or 20s. It's a completely different life, physical situation, and mind space. It is truly "alone."
You're absolutely right, each stage of life comes with its own unique experiences and challenges. While I may not have personally lived through my 60s yet, my role as a retirement coach has given me valuable insights into the different aspects of this life phase. I've had the privilege to walk alongside many individuals navigating their 60s and beyond, learning from their wisdom and experiences. My aim is to use this knowledge to provide guidance, support, and encouragement. Hope this video helped ❤️
My life was completely different when I was 40 than it is now at 63. Completely.
Agreed. For one thing, the money you spend of health care expenses is very different. When I am sick now, it takes much more money and much more time to get better. My energy levels when I am sick or injured is quite different than when I was 40 and 'worked through' having a broken rib or pneumonia.
You're absolutely right! Life at 40 and in your 60s can be as different as night and day. Each decade brings its own unique experiences, challenges, and joys. And while I may not have walked in your shoes at 63, I'm here to lend an understanding ear and share the wisdom gathered from many others who have.
It’s a real challenge. I live with 19 cats but still miss that human personal connection. You are amazing. I like this video and will watch your other videos, hoping to learn something new. Thanks for inspiring me.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing a bit about your life with us. It sounds like you’ve got quite the lively household with your 19 furry friends! While pets can fill our lives with joy and companionship, it’s completely understandable to yearn for more human connections as well. I'm thrilled to hear you found some inspiration here, and I hope our upcoming videos continue to provide you with new insights and ideas 💗
One more crucial thing is a regular scheduled shower and personal hygiene time. Which include brushing flossing and gargling, nothing worse then an old person who smells old and wears old out of style clothes. A fresh dab or two of nice soft perfume for a lady or a nice dab of cologne for men, doesn’t have to or most often shouldn’t be old spice lol. A clean body using body wash like axe or something fresh . And a nice upright intentional posture for as long as you possibly can physically do it. One more thing a little pep in your step. Don’t have to try to act younger than you are but a as young of a version for your age is cool.
Absolutely, having a routine is vital in retirement (it's actually so important that we've created 3 videos so far!)
Oh ya? I know a 35 year old who, even with a dental plan, refuses to get to the dentist...while his breath REEKS!
@@marianfrances4959 unfortunately I knew younger ones too. No excuses for them. Us old people are slowly deteriorating away naturally so we do need to try a little harder and if retired have plenty of time to work on it.
Remember what you said 40 years from now, when you are in that position of an older person and not working, lost many of your friends, maybe divorced, health issues.
@@lnmas2301 maybe but my grandparents smelled like mothballs
Love the alone time, 64 and retired since 61. I had enough people and forced relationships at work. Worked heavy labor in construction had my fill of macho smoking, chewing tobacco, drinking fools in my life. This alone is God’s gift for me. All good points you make here. Don’t need them all but they are generally good.
It sounds like retirement has been a blessing for you! 🌟
I am 68 and i love living alone and it is something i should have done when I was younger. I have learned so much about myself and especially about the results of my decisions. I used to live with family and i appreciated them. But now i say a prayer quite often when I come home to my place. I get to choose whatever I like.
It's wonderful to hear your story and the sense of empowerment and self-discovery that living alone has brought you.
At 68, you're standing strong in the prime of your life, embracing solitude not as a sign of loneliness, but as a testament to your independence. Love it 😍
I am 60 and have living alone for the past ten years. I'm not retired. Recently I went back to grad school to become a Mindfulness and Transpersonal Counselor. Between grad school and part-time work I keep busy. I also go hiking and biking regularly and attend a dance class twice a week and Yoga on Saturdays. I do get lonely from time to time. Journaling helps and going for a walk in nature usually grounds me. Thank you for this information. 🙏🏼✨️🌺
Your journey is truly inspiring! Embracing learning and staying active, both physically and mentally, are fantastic ways to make the most of this chapter in your life. Remember, it's okay to feel lonely sometimes - just know that you're not alone in this journey. ❤️
Having money…without it stress is your constant companion…and all the tips in the world boil down to this…
Money is important, but it's not the be-all and end-all of life. It's a tool, not a goal. It's a resource we can use to craft the life we want, to ignite the passions that set your soul on fire.
Lots of money is absolutely essential. That is the awful, but absolute truth on planet earth.
A certain amount of money is necessary. It allows freedom of movement and alleviates stress from paying bills etc. However, I personally know some happy people with very limited $$ and some miserable rich people
pretty accurate and imazing how far it will go when invested
Having health is very important too. Being sick tired and broke AND alone 😔
I am absolutely loving my life at the mo. I am 68 and feel the best i`v ever felt or been. I still have my youngest son who is 26 living and working at home. I was married young at 18 pregnant and so ignorant and innocent. I was divorced in my late thirties but fell pregnant in my early forties unplanned with a new partner who has not shared out r lives and has since died. I have two older sons of fifty and 46 but feel so free and contented with life. I have no desire or need for sharing my life with anyone but my son. Life is good and i feel at my best. I went vegan 11 yrs ago for ethical reason and my health improved within weeks, (mental and physical ) and i would describe myself as now as being the best iv ever felt or been. When we are young we think we need a man or partner to support us, We under estimate our strength, both mental and physical for some reason, but until we go it alone we really come into our own and find our true strength.
Wow, your story is truly inspiring! It's amazing to see how you've embraced life with such vigor and positivity at 68. Your journey, from a young bride to a confident, independent woman, is a testament to your strength and resilience.
Stay vibrant and keep sharing your wonderful experiences with us. You never know who might be inspired by your story next! 🥰
I would have a big think about Vegan for Health reasons as you will notice there are many nutrients missing in this Diet !😊
I just finished a big declutter, making a fresh start requires a fresh space! Great video!😊
Yay, you've got this 😁
I’m 71 years old and single all my life.. I get up and walk for at least an hour every morning either at the community center or around the local lakes in Minneapolis…
Your morning walks sound lovely 🥰
I live alone as a 60 year old retired widow. I read, attend craft days and other programs at our library and a local church, walk for an hour at the Rec center , use weights at home, garden, visit older friends who are home alone or in a nursing facility, do Bible study on RUclips, ride my bike, attend free music program outside in our town, go to the movies.
Wow, you're truly an inspiration! Your zest for life and the variety of activities you're involved in are simply amazing. You're proof that retirement isn't about slowing down, but rather about embracing life with open arms and a heart full of passion. 🥰
When you are in your 40s you are in your peak earning years. In your 60s you are often limited in your earning potential and may be struggling with inflation. It is hard to have much of a social life on a limited income. If you have already established friendships, they may be content with a cup of home brewed coffee and a walk but the fact is, most things cost money now and not within the reach of a single senior.
It's true, the transition into retirement often involves navigating new financial realities. But value isn't always about dollars and cents. The richness of life comes from experiences, relationships, and personal growth.
Sure, a night out on the town might not be as frequent, but that cup of home-brewed coffee with a good friend, or a peaceful walk in nature can offer priceless moments of joy. And who knows? This could be the perfect time to explore low-cost or free activities in your community, or even pick up a new hobby.
We have a list of over 100 things to do in retirement and most of them are free 👇
bestnextchapters.secondwindmovement.com/101-things-to-do-in-retirement-free-ebook-yt
Community centre activities only charge $50 membership fee a year ( of course it varies, but usually inexpensive for seniors ) with at least 10 activities to choose from every day , all run by senior volunteers. Get to meet a lot of people.
@@rubychung750 I'm not american. In my city they have a seniors membership that is about $50 but then you pay program fees on top of that. The membership gets you a discount, that's all.
I would think by the time your retired, your house should be paid for and you should have a 401k. Money should not be a problem as you age.
@@georgesontag2192 The fastest growing segment of homeless people are seniors. Why? Because pensions do not get indexed to inflation unless you were a government worker. Also healthcare bills and prescriptions add up. Property taxes and insurance go up higher than pensions. Food has gone up 30% in the past 4 years. Financial planners tend to underestimate costs. I laughed at mine when I was told I don't have to work any more. Glad I never followed THAT advice!
I love to live alone. i have been doing for a wile now. I enjo it so much. I even dont wanna live with some one anymore
LOVE this! It sounds like you've found your groove. May you thrive and grow in the amazing opportunities that comes with living alone 🤩💕
Same
I'm 60 and really enjoy spending time by myself. There are times, however, when I crave more human connection. The key word here is CONNECTION, not just being around people. I feel discouraged in finding human connection as I feel like, most of the time, I end up doing all the work: making the invites, coming up with plans, checking in, actively listening. It is hard to find people who are fun, mindful, and interested in/capable of true connection. I find that most people are too self-centered; i.e., their focus is to be seen and heard. They're not really interested in seeing and hearing others and I end up feeling drained.
Your sentiments echo the feelings of many. Craving deep, genuine connections is a universal human experience, especially as you grow older. It's disheartening when the effort feels one-sided. But it's often in our most challenging moments that we discover your true strength and resilience.
Consider this a journey of self-discovery, where each encounter teaches you something new. There are likeminded individuals out there who also yearn for meaningful connections. Don't lose heart; keep reaching out, keep listening, and keep sharing your wonderful self with the world. Your tribe is out there, waiting to connect with someone just like you.
And it's perfectly okay to enjoy your own company. Cherish these quiet moments of solitude, for they offer a unique opportunity to reconnect with yourself. Stay strong! 🌟🙌
I am 59 and I started to live alone 8 mths ago after my son moved out. I don't like living in an empty house. I miss my sons company. I have health issues which makes it difficult for me to keep a clean house. I am in a social group called meet up and do activities with my social group almost every day because I don't like being alone in my house and I need to be with other people. I also go for walks along the beach almost every day .
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It takes courage to embrace these changes and it's amazing to hear how you're actively making life fulfilling and engaging for yourself.
For those days when the house feels a bit too quiet, perhaps consider introducing elements that bring you joy - it could be a favorite piece of music playing in the background, or arranging your space with comforting items that hold fond memories.
As for maintaining the house, it's absolutely okay to ask for help. There are services available that can assist with household chores, making it easier for you to manage your health and well-being.
You're doing an amazing job, Sheila! 😊
Maybe you should think about giving suggestions for living your best life in your twenties, or living alone after 35 or 40, something you have first-hand experience with. It's hard to see you as an authority on the subject from reading a book or what other seniors have told you. Although I appreciate your effort, you are far from 60. When was 40 I couldn't even conceptualize the changes I would face at 60. Now that I'm here things have happened in my life and body that have truly surprised me. I live alone and have for 28 years. I love living alone and dancing to the beat of my own drum. It’s really all a state of mind.
Thanks for your response, I hear you. In these videos I’m sharing some tips and tools that have helped students and clients in my programs and private coaching sessions throughout the years since 2018 (the application is research-based and universal yet the outcome is unique to the individual). Just a sidenote- I don’t recommend replicating anyone’s life or experience (and certainly not mine) as the answers people seek are found inward. I’m grateful to be a practicing retirement life coach and love helping this audience. So great to hear you love living alone and are dancing to the beat of your own drum! 💕
I did not see anything in the video about volunteering in organizations. It is a good way to get out of the house, interact with people, and feel better about yourself. I recommend delivering meals for Meals on Wheels. It serves a vital purpose and everyone likes to get food.
Great point! Volunteering is indeed a fantastic way to stay engaged and give back to the community. 👏 Thank you for sharing your experience with Meals on Wheels - it's an excellent recommendation.
However, I'd like to emphasize that it's about finding the *right* volunteer opportunity for you and not following someone else's advice. It's about discovering what would bring you the most joy and purpose
They can because fosters for animals also. The pounds give you free medical and food. Both my cats are mine but if I didn't have them I would foster.
You are so gracious when responding to the critical, unhappy commentors! Bless you
😊 Thank you!
I am 60 and have lived alone for most of the last 25 years. I am never lonely. What faces us at 60 is far different than at 40 so I am sorry to say that you have no validity on this subject. At 60 you start to think about what you are facing in the near future (retirement, death, loss of friends and family, illness, to name a few) and at 40 you cannot possibly know how that feels when it pretty much consumes your life.
Thank you for sharing your perspective so candidly. It's always enlightening to hear from individuals who have walked the path and experienced the journey first-hand.
As a retirement coach, I don't claim to fully understand every individual's personal journey or feelings. While I may not be 60 yet, I've had the privilege of sharing numerous conversations with people in their 60s and beyond. These discussions have given me insights into the concerns, challenges, and opportunities that come with aging and retirement.
And you're absolutely right. The mindset at 40 is different than at 60. Our priorities shift, our perspectives evolve, and we begin to think about aspects of life that perhaps didn't consume much of our thoughts before. Retirement, health, loss - these are serious, profound topics that deserve attention and understanding.
What I hope to bring to this space, even as someone younger, is empathy, guidance, and a listening ear. I aim to provide tools and resources that can help make navigating these concerns a little less daunting. ❤️
I was single and lived alone at 40 and 60 and I think her 7 points to help with loneliness are valid and helpful for both. Sure you might be in a different place and focused on different things. She isn't proposing to solve all your problems here, but to give you pointers to help with loneliness.
I am 55 y and i love be alone. I was married 18 y and after i separated to be free, like a bird. And i love it!! It is the best time of my life!! I think i will never feel alone, because i always find something to do.
The joy you've found in solitude is a beautiful reminder that life's best moments often come when we embrace change and chart our own course. It's so wonderful to hear 🥰
I would like to hear from someone who IS actually 60-not 40…
Thank you for your comment! You're right, I'm a retirement coach in my forties and I haven't personally reached 60 yet. But, that doesn't stop me from helping you plan your golden years effectively.
Think of it this way: I'm a guide on this journey. While I haven't walked the path myself just yet, I'm equipped with the right tools, resources, and knowledge to help you navigate your own route confidently.
Every day, I work with people who are enjoying their life post-retirement, learning from their experiences, and applying those insights to help others like you.
I hope that you still found the tips helpful 🤗
The fact she is only 40 and not 60 is manifested when she spoke of the importance of decluttering and failed to mention the risk of FALLING, a major risk factor many seniors face when living in a cluttered environment.
Critical seniors. Here is a tip from age 66, change your attitude.
@@nikkipage9132 Okay...seniors can fall. Happy?
I’m amazed that some one with 0 experience has so much to say .I’m 70 , been an athlete all my life and I know that I’m 100 percent more fit than probly all the people on the this blog including the presenter. People who live together live longer period . Like the Bible says if a person falls there spouse will help them up. Ww3 is starting good luck!
What you’re saying is true, yet because of the age difference and generation, the times, the people 60 and older have experienced a totally different lifestyle and culture that is impossible to explain unless you’ve lived it. And for some, we’ve made some tragic lifetime decisions that can’t be changed and that are still being felt with. There are answers for everything and I appreciate your excellent ideas and efforts in wanting to help those older than you. ❤️
Your words truly resonate, and I couldn't agree more. Each generation has its unique experiences, challenges, and defining moments that shape its perspective. And while we may not have lived those moments ourselves, we can certainly learn from them.
You're absolutely right, some decisions leave an indelible mark on our lives, and the repercussions can be felt long after. But every experience, even the most difficult ones, teaches us something valuable. They shape us into who we are and equip us with wisdom.
And you know what? That's the beauty of life.
Thank you for your kind words and for being part of this conversation. Your journey is our inspiration. ❤️
Absolutely. I'm 63 and live alone. I meditate upwards of 4 times a day for about 20 to 30 min. It helps really enjoy your life wherever your at.
Wonderful! Thank you for sharing your experience 🙏
I'm 62 retired my religion/ faith,,,my home,,,my small circle of friends// family,,my partner ( we live apart) all keep me busy,,this is the best life ever!!!
Your story serves as a wonderful reminder that retirement can indeed be 'the best life ever' 💗
I'm 61 retired almost 2 years. Thank you for the thoughtful video full of valid points and suggestions. Just want to say that some of these comments are just terrible. As a former social worker, I had clients well past my own age that needed my help and resources. They learned from me and I them. Ms. Meyer is contributing to society and developing her empathic skills. Wisdom can be obtained at any age. Some of us older folks need to knock that chip off the shoulder. We don't know everything.
First off, a hearty congratulations on your well-deserved retirement! 🎉
Learning is indeed a two-way street. It's not about age, but about open hearts and open minds. Yes, we bring our own experiences to the table, but there's always room for another serving of knowledge.
As a former social worker, you've seen firsthand the power of empathy and understanding. You've made a difference in so many lives, and that's something to be immensely proud of.
Thank you for your kind words 💗
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement Thank you very much! May you continue to find success and fulfillment on your journey with helping others. ♥
I have lived alone my entire adult life. I am 65 and not yet retired, but work from home. I moved to a new state a few years ago and that's been the hardest. But I agree with everything she says in this video. I will have a structured plan in place when I retire. I have been working on my sleeping and eating habits too. I attend events outside of home to try to make friends in my new state, but this is not that easy and it takes time. I have lots of hobbies, love to read etc, so for me if I could just find a new friend or two, I would be fine. I think she could add having friends/people. I do have family near me, so that does keep me from being lonely too.
It's wonderful to hear that you're proactively building a structured plan for your retirement. Moving to a new state can indeed be challenging, especially when it comes to making new friends. But remember, good things often take time, and with your positive attitude, I'm confident you'll soon find those new friends you're looking for. ☺️
I am 70 yes this October.. totally alone..thx soo much❤
Not lonely.. just empty..
Happy early birthday! Turning 70 is a monumental milestone, and while you might feel alone, remember, your story is far from over. It's a chapter waiting to be filled with new adventures, connections, and discoveries.
Im 67 and I'm listening!
Thank you 🙏 Hope it was helpful!
60 in March...isolated and lonely.Avoid most people as energy vampires or sexual predators.All family died.Find peace in nature and fresh air self care and love.Would rather b alone than be abused or controlled by narccistic men.Not invisible yet as determined i never will be makeup haircare..very important for the self esteem.Not ready to give it all up yet..Look at Joan Collins married a younger man makes the best of herself at nearly 90! What a woman ❤ go ladies!
When asked about the age gap between she and her husband she said "If he dies he dies!" I laughed out loud!
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First off, happy early birthday! Your 60s are a time of new beginnings and self-discovery, and it's clear you're embracing this journey with strength and determination.
I admire your resilience. You've faced tough times, but you continue to find peace in the beauty of nature and the simple acts of self-care. There's something incredibly empowering about choosing solitude over toxic relationships. It takes courage and self-love, and you have ample amounts of both!
Your spirit reminds me of Joan Collins - always vibrant, always fabulous, and never letting age define her. She's an icon who knows her worth and isn't afraid to show it. And clearly, so are you!
So go ahead and rock your 60s, just like Joan rocks her 90s 💪❤️
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement Thankyou for your positive support Cyn it means alot to me. I will give it all my best shot.You are Amazing too! 🙂❤ Thankyou for your love this day x ive subscribed love
What an amazing way of approaching this subject, I loved your video. Subscribing!
Welcome aboard, glad you enjoyed it 🥰
Love your videos for us over 60’s CYN! Thank you!❤
Thank you for watching and stay tuned for more ❤️
I saw a comment saying you are too young to know what to advise 60 year olds, but I think your tips are appreciated at any age. I have only lived alone 1 year of my life. I might have to actually do it for the first time in my life soon and getting myself prepared. I appreciate your tips regardless of your age. We may have different life events and experience but all these tips are good for anyone
I am 51 semi retired
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for the openness to new perspectives, regardless of age 🥰
Stepping into a new chapter of living alone, especially with the added layer of (semi)retirement, is indeed a significant transition. It's all about equipping yourself with the right mindset and tools for this phase. Think of it as an adventure, one where you discover not just more about the world around you but also about yourself.
But preparing to live alone offers a unique opportunity to craft your space and time into something that truly resonates with who you are and who you aspire to be.
I totally agree, will like to hear living alone from an older person. Not 40 yr old!!!
I appreciate your honesty, and I completely understand where you're coming from. Age does bring wisdom and unique experiences that can't be replicated. But remember, wisdom can also come from learning, understanding, and empathizing with others' experiences-not just our own.
So while I may not have personal experience of being 60 or living alone at that age, I've spent countless hours talking to, learning from, and sharing stories of those who do. I take their insights and advice to heart, and my aim is to offer you the same wisdom they've shared with me.
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovementI’m in my late 60’s and think you have very good advice for older people. I’ve watched a lot of videos and find yours to be the best. You have great advice and have been helping me a lot with starting retirement. Keep up the great positive work.
She has very good advice. Older people’s videos tend to be goofy and unstructured.
Her advice is solid
@@johnurban7333I agree with that!
Thanks for a timely topic. Appreciate you!!
Thank you, Vickie 😊
LOVE your channel (new subscriber). You're awesome. Thanks for the great tips and many helpful videos. All the best. 😀
Welcome aboard and thank you for your kind words 🥰
Hello. I’m so happy to have found this space. I’m 67 and partially retired. I say partially because just one year ago I was celebrating my choice to retire. As time passed however, I realized that I needed some structure back in my life. So here I am scrolling through my iPad for something of interest and I landed on your page. Thank you for this opportunity to associate with like minded folks and for the promise of developing some new habits.
Hello, and a warm welcome to our community! 🎉
Retirement is indeed a significant transition, and it's completely normal to seek some form of structure even in this new phase of life. It's about finding a balance between relaxation and engagement, solitude and socializing, freedom and routine.
Here's a resource that could help - our Finding Clarity Workbook 👉 bestnextchapters.secondwindmovement.com/finding-clarity-workbook-access
Thank you, we need this.
You are so welcome ❤️
Resume back to the healthy habits I was creating for myself in 2020 so far started with decluttering and connecting with others every week thank you enjoy your channel
Thanks for watching and for your input! Those healthy habits of decluttering and connecting with others sound spot on - may you enjoy your important journey and thrive 🙌🚀
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement welcome and thank you🎊😊
So glad to find you! I’ve been trying to figure out how to structure my life. I am disabled due to osteoporosis, walking is very limited. But I need ideas on how to do more than move from bed to recliner. 😊 Thank you!
Hello there! 🌟 I'm thrilled you've found us too! Given your situation, gentle, seated exercises could be a fantastic way to start. Chair yoga, for instance, has been a favorite among many-it's gentle on the body but incredibly uplifting for the spirit. It can help maintain flexibility and reduce discomfort, all from the safety and comfort of your chair. Here's a helpful article to get you started 👉 secondwindmovement.com/chair-yoga/
I have had the married life. Raised 2 sons. Had more of my share of relationships with woman over the years. I feel like everything is out of the way. I have been a runner for over 35 years and this is my mindfull physical practice. Fishing is another awsome relaxation activity that I really like. Eating well and sleep is no question paramount. Great video and information.
Oh wow, thanks for sharing! 😊
Thanks for your suggestions. I really need to incorporate these behaviors into my daily life. I’m 78, living alone, and definitely lonely. One good habit I do have that I think you might add to your list, is walking. I walk every day, if at all possible, about 30 minutes. Walking is something that most able people can do. It helps in so many ways, mental and physical.
You're absolutely right - it's a fantastic habit that has numerous mental and physical benefits. It's a great reminder for all of us to incorporate more movement into our daily routines. You're doing amazing!
I live alone but have a LAT relationship -Living alone together
Perfect
I am always there for her and vice versa. I love living alone and we share a dog.
Big suggestion- Have easy and quick access to a good hospital.
The older you get, the more likely you will need it.
Kids, grand kids, reading, travel, exercise, dog walking,volunteering: I don’t know I ever had time to work!
Didn't that used to be called " dating"? or am I missing something?
That sounds interesting. Could you explain what you mean by alone together? 😀
LAT - you are in a relationship but live in separate houses ( I think )
I'm 67 and living my best life! My mantras are evolution and encore. Using my career capital in public relations and developing my creative agency. Still discovering exploring and learning. Make it happen and forward motion.....baby! Life is always a creation of your own😊
What a fantastic outlook you have! Your energy and enthusiasm are absolutely contagious. At 67, you're not just living life, you're rocking it!
Your journey is a beautiful reminder that learning doesn't stop at any age. Every day brings new opportunities to discover and explore, whether it's a new skill, a new place, or a new perspective. And you seem to be embracing every single one of those opportunities with open arms.
Stay fabulous and continue living your best life! 😊
I am so happy, thank you so much for your good suggestions.
It's my pleasure 😊
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovementI enjoy so much, I hope I am growing better day by day, eventhough I am alone, I fell beautiful. Thank you.
I am approaching 60 and what’s become abundantly clear is the need to keep pursuing things even if we do them alone. We can self isolate and that can prevent us from enjoying these years where are health is good and we probably have a bit more time to engage with our “bucket list”. I am hyper aware of how fragile health and mobility can be as we age.
Your words ring true on so many levels. As you approach your golden years, it becomes more crucial than ever to keep engaging in activities that bring you joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose. Because aging isn't about slowing down, it's about moving forward and making the best of this new chapter 🎉
Good video, overall, thank you. RE: the gym clip, my latest instructor had covid...and that was the end of my attendance!
I'm really glad you enjoyed the video! 😊 As for the gym situation, I completely understand your concerns. The world has truly been on a roller coaster ride with COVID-19, hasn't it? But remember, every setback is a setup for a comeback. You've got plenty of ways to stay fit and active, right from the comfort of your home. Perhaps this is the perfect time to explore a new workout routine or even dust off that old yoga mat.
Thank you. Sending hope. This is a awesome video ❤👍🕯🙏🛡
You are so welcome 💕
I am 75 , divorced and lived alone for 25 years . I loved it , get to do whatever I want. I am lucky I got into line dancing 4 days a week and swimming , party more than in my 20’s ( too busy working and raising a family.) Meet lots of people . Best years of my life .
It's truly inspiring to hear that you're living life on your terms and loving it! Line dancing four days a week and swimming? That's amazing! 🤩
Thank you, thank you.
You are very welcome 🤗
Hi! I am your new subscriber and I am so glad that I came across your channel. I agree with everything you said. As an elderly, I am very active and busy with different activities all week. I do my daily walks, then I go to the senior center to attend aerobic class for seniors. I live alone by choice and I do not feel lonely at all.
By the way, I like your pendant. May I ask where I can buy one like that? My youngest daughter likes those kinds of jewelry. I want to give her something similar to the pendant you're wearing now for her birthday next month.
Thank you for your vlog!!
Thanks so much for watching and striving to be your best - we need more people like you inspiring others! My pendant is from a local art festival in Laguna Beach - it's turquoise embedded in silver, hopefully you can find something like that for your daughter from a local jeweler or handcraft artist who sells their stuff online (like Etsy)! Sending you love, keep going 🙌
Im 75 years enjoyed Living alone, never married, always going out with friend, never feel lonely, attending community activities, doing some volunteer works!!!
That's absolutely wonderful to hear! Keep up the fantastic spirit, and may your days continue to be filled with joy, purpose, and plenty of good company 🤗
Thanks, agree with your advice. Mabuhay from Manila Philippines
You're so welcome, Mabuhay 😊
I just retired at 62. I've been living alone (this time) for about a year and a half. I was living with and caring for my parents from 2003, until my mother died in 2017 and my father in 2022. I lived alone for nearly a year when I was 19, again after I left my ex wife when I was 34, for about 7 years.
I cook all my own meals. Egomaniacal me says I'm the best cook I know. Been cooking since I was 8. I go to the gym a block away, 5 times a week, to spend an hour on the exercise bike. I usually get 16 miles, more or less. I also work out in a yoga routine, plus push ups and crunches, 3 times a week and I do a weight routine with 12 lb dumbbells 3 days a week. I do 2 sets of 80 crunches and 2 sets of 40 push ups in those workouts. The yoga plus (as I call it) routine takes about 30 mins and the weights, about 10. On weekends, I walk, usually between 30 and 70 minutes, depending on how I feel (I have some knee pain which is sometimes quite severe).
I watch tv when I can stand it and usually catch the evening news. I enjoy watching some game shows, though I prefer quiz shows, as I have since I was a kid. Sometimes they make me think everyone is stupid but me.
I download ebooks and audio books from my library. I usually read while riding at the gym. I have hundreds.of old songs on my phone and listen to those while riding and/or walking. I found I can't concentrate on audio books while walking, riding or driving. I can while doing something relatively mindless like solitaire.
There's a Montessori education facility that shares space in the building where my gym is housed. Frequently, the kids are in the gym when I'm there and I enjoy watching them play and some of them occasionally talk to me. I get a kick out of that. I also have a retired friend who works at the gym. He's in his 80s and I frequently spend some time talking with him after my workouts.
I don't know about goals. I'm losing weight now, because I went over 250 and I'm only 5-8. My current diet is working. My doctors tell me that my knee pain will probably go down as I lose weight.
About 20 years ago, I had an idea for a new kind of solar power device. I haven't seen anyone else come up with it or anything similar, so maybe I can try to actually build it and get a patent.
Thank you 😊
You're welcome 😊
I am alone I'm happy with good health and I am a yoga teacher thk u for this lovely message 💖 🙏
It's truly inspiring to hear from you! 🌟 Embracing solitude with a content heart, enjoying good health, and sharing the gift of yoga with others - that's a beautiful journey you're on.
I realized I didn't like being alone after being divorced for 20 years. 4 years I met Rocky and he has a attitude but he's pretty clean. Hes also affectionate and sweet. Hes my cat and that's all I need. Im to busy to be lonely. Never was so happy the last 20 years.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It's not always easy to navigate life changes like divorce, but you've shown tremendous strength and resilience ❤️
Just make sure you have lots of money. That makes all the difference. If you're poor? Forget about living any kind of good life.
Finances absolutely play a role in how we experience retirement. But a good life isn't solely defined by the size of your bank account. It's also about the richness of your experiences, the quality of your relationships, and the joy you find in simple pleasures.
Yes, money can provide comfort and security, but there's so much more to life!
I'm on disability and I have everything I need. I go to thrift stores and have bought expensive like new furniture. It's also fun buying collectables and other things for my house. I budget and I'm doing well. My home is almost payed for and it was worth it being frugal. People come over and ask me if I'm rich. I'm not trying to look that way so I tell them I'm not. It's all what you make of a situation.
Thanks for helping the 60 year youngings..........
We're here to support! 😊 Glad you found our content helpful!
What would you know about being lonely in your 60s
Given that I'm a retirement life coach, I've had the privilege of working with hundreds of older adults. Combining their experiences, my research, and approach, I aim to help older adults thrive in every aspect of their lives
I'm 78 years and I think all she has said is very relevant and helpful.
As for me I've basically included most of those suggestions in my lifestyle for the longest while. A person's mindset about their personal well being can determine the quality of their aging life.
I have contemporaries who sit and literally plan their funeral,on the contrary,I plan my life, because I'm living.
When I die,the living will take care of that,but life is for living.
Thank you for sharing your helpful tips,especially for people who are hellbent on thinking loneliness.
You've hit the nail on the head - our mindset plays a crucial role in determining the quality of our lives as we age. 🎯
This is lovely.
Nice one David.Not quite long I started investing. I'm very curious and need help on how to enhance and increase my returns. Any good investment tips would be appreciated
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Tje main thing about dealing with being lonely and be alone, turn to ur Place of Worship.
You dont know until youre 60
Hey there, thanks for your comment! You're absolutely right. I may not be 60 yet, but I've been fortunate enough to work with many vibrant and resilient individuals who are living alone past 60. They've shared their experiences, challenges, and triumphs with me, and it's been a journey of discovery for all of us.
So, while I might not know what it feels like to be 60, I do understand the concerns and aspirations of those who are. And I'm here to support and inspire you on this journey ☺️
absolutely! once you get sick, your realize how important having someone being concerned about your well being is so important. Plus, there are all the little mundane unimportant things to share with another person, that friends would not have as much time for. Counting for someone and being counted are important for well being.
Thank you for your video. I voluntarily retired 9 months ago w/little preparation. That was dumb. In my 1st 9 months I went from exuberance to despair to battling back. What a trip it’s been but I am determined to thrive. Take care. Btw: the background music you’re playing is very distracting to me.
Hey Frederik, your journey sounds like quite the rollercoaster ride, but your determination shines through! 🚀 Remember, it's never too late to prepare and make the most of your retirement. As for the music, thank you for your feedback. We'll definitely take that into consideration for our future videos.
I totally agree. You haven't walked your talk...did not sound authentic. The best advice we can give is coming from our Lived Experiences! This clip only left me irritated! Xx
Youngsters think they know it all
We are too free thinking
If yoy meet a person 47 plus they have done so much especially the single ones 50 to 80 more than married I predict
Married people can be boring
I'm 69 and are very grateful for your advice
I'm thrilled to hear you found the advice helpful!
I will be 70 in April. I stopped practicing law at 66. My wife of 33 years died a few months ago. I now live alone. I walk 5.4 miles at 5 am 4 days weekly, practice Taijiquan daily, do 100 pushups in the morning, do all my own house and yard work, grandpa Uber my small grandchildren, native plant and vegetable garden, study Special and General Relativity.
I am just under 5’10” (2 inches shorter than I used to be), I weigh 182 pounds, have a 33 inch waist, and wear a 46 long suit coat. I have my wife’s dog, our son’s box turtle (she is about 40 years old now) and my daughter in law’s salamander to care for. I miss my wife but I am not lonely. I have always been a person who has enjoyed a lot of time alone.
Your skin is beautiful for 40. Like Black people, Asian skin ages slowly. I am Black and most people think I am in my early 50s. They are stunned when I tell them my age.
Firstly, let me express my deepest condolences for the loss of your wife. It's clear from your words that you had a strong bond, and I admire your strength in moving forward with such positivity.
I love that you've embraced your role as a "grandpa Uber" and care for your family's pets. The love you have for your grandchildren and these little creatures shines through, adding another beautiful layer to your rich life!
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement I was my wife’s home hospice primary caregiver. It was the most profound experience of my life. I was the last person she saw. I learned so much.
I lived with other people from 18 through to 63 years of age - partners or flat mates or kids or adult kids
My first 4 months of living alone were very lonely
Then I got the hang of it and love it ❤
Church
New friends
Bible studies
Ask people out for coffee or lunch - don’t wait for others to ask you
Invite them over
Join the gym or senior citizens
Invest in friendships
Share with others
BE A FRIEND to others & listen not just talk
I still work & volunteer & remain interested
Walk or swim or go to dance classes
Invite your neighbours over
You name it - the world is there
You choose
It's wonderful to hear that you've found joy in living alone after an initial period of loneliness. Your proactive approach-engaging in church, making new friends, and inviting people over-is a great example for others. You've shown that being active and reaching out can open up a world of opportunities.
Keep enjoying your walks, swims, dance classes, and all the other activities that make your life rich and fulfilling. You're proof that retirement can be a vibrant and exciting stage of life. Well done! ❤️
Everyone is on this mindfulness kick. It's a new thing made up by the gurus. I find that doing some simple things that find me peace. Mindfulness is fine for those who can quiet the mind. But for others doing things that I find joy in is best.
Mindfulness isn't a one-size-fits-all approach, and it's not the only path to peace and happiness. You've beautifully highlighted the essence of joy - finding it in activities we love. Whether it's gardening, painting, reading, or simply watching the sunset, these moments can be just as fulfilling and grounding as a mindfulness practice.
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement Thx.
lonliness is having no one notice you or be interested in anything you do. How to get the lonely people together
It can be so disheartening to feel unnoticed ❤️ But there's a world full of people feeling just the same way, waiting to connect. What if you took the helm and started a hobby club, or joined an online community? You'd be surprised how many folks are looking for companionship.
I have started to do a philosophy degree online, which I enjoy immensly. What is bothering me is, this will not go anywhere; I will not have a carreer out of this degree. Also, I feel a great deal of sense of urgency to complete my course, as I feel, I am running out of time.
Thanks so much for watching and for your feedback! If you are enjoying your philosophy degree immensely, it's 💯 not a waste and it has already gone somewhere important. I encourage you to continue to follow that spark and what intrinsically lights you up, as you may find that you can contribute your knowledge from your degree in more ways than you think (beyond the traditional career paths) - cheers to following your joy! ✨
I've lived alone my whole life and never had any issues with it.
That's wonderful to hear! 🎉 Your journey is proof that living alone can be a fulfilling experience. We all have different paths, and it's inspiring to hear about yours.
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement The lnneliest I ever was when I was growing up with a narcissistic father and co dependent mother. Felt like I had no parents at all.
I live alone ( I have a cat )
I bank and pay bills on line
I have my groceries delivered
I shop on Amazon when I rarely get a hankering to waste money
I have a service cut my lawn/weeds I pay them online
I watch church services on livestream
I can't remember the last time I left the house
😊
It sounds like you've got a great system going on, managing life's necessities from the comfort of your home.
While it's wonderful to enjoy the calm and solitude, remember that it's also important to occasionally step outside, breathe in some fresh air, and feel the sun on your skin. Even a brief walk around the block can do wonders for your mood and energy levels. So, go ahead and open that door - the world is waiting for you! 😊
I do many of those things. There's a answer for everything if you search. I also don't drive much either because of a disability. I do go to the dollar store and grocery store close by and talk to people there. I guess being in a small town helps.
Hello! Glad I found your channel as it came onto my recommended feed. Question - I went to your website, and signed up for the newsletter, however, another RUclipsr '60 and Me' came up. I'm confused, are you associated with her?
Hi, we collaborate sometimes 😊 Although now I'm a bit confused, where did 60 & Me pop up?
A man who dont drink or smoke.Has got brains.
It's certainly something that has to be enjoyed in moderation if at all 😊
Some of us has lost our spouses , waking up 3 am. Seems be normal people talked to. Married 40 years agrees with a lot to try to get across
However when you gone thru multiple losses parents husband siblings. Like to hear your input. True life experience
I hear you, and I want to acknowledge the depth of your feelings right now. Loss is a universal experience, but that doesn't make it any less personal or profound. While I may not be over 60, I have experienced loss in my own life, and I understand the waves of grief that can wake you up at 3 am.
I've had the privilege of working with countless older adults as a retirement coach, and I've seen firsthand how resilience can grow from grief. You're not alone in this journey, and it's okay to reach out for help. We have a video on grieving that many have found beneficial - it doesn't offer easy answers, but it does provide some compassionate insights into dealing with loss. (ruclips.net/video/K5H5oIlpNTo/видео.html)
Just what we needed--someone 40 telling us how to live alone & not be lonely after 60! You can't understand what it's like bc YOU'RE NOT OUR AGE!
I understand where you're coming from. It's true that personal experiences can shape our understanding in ways that mere words cannot. However, wisdom can come from many sources, and sometimes a fresh perspective can offer insight or comfort.
Every person's journey is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. The key is to find what resonates with you, what gives you joy, and what helps you feel connected.
You're right that being over 60 and living alone presents its own set of challenges. But as many have found - and as you might too - it can also be a time of self-discovery, new adventures, and deepening relationships.
Just a sidenote - I don’t recommend replicating anyone’s life or experience (and certainly not mine) as the answers people seek are found inward. I’m grateful to be a practicing retirement life coach since 2018 and love helping this audience. I’m rooting for you! 💕
I am 55 love living alone
And no parasites will get my money. My will will be drafted exact until then pets, work, bargains, garden, travel, good sleep, peace, nice food, upgrade housr may move one more time Saving for retirement, less clutter, new experience, skin care, health carr
Doing what I want, classes etc
Here's to many more years of peace, good sleep, delicious food, and fulfilling experiences 🌟👏
I don’t think anyone can understand how long term loneliness can impact. I’m a therapist who has lived alone for 20+ years. I’m almost 64 and I am struggling with a sense of loneliness that I have never felt before. If depression has taken hold and just being tired of being alone, losing confidence etc it makes initiating anything very difficult. I can see where you’re coming from but if we’re already treading water it’s difficult to change mind set and habit and even when I do that I’m aware that it’s always looming. And I am self aware.
Loneliness, especially long-term, can indeed take a toll. But it's never too late to invite change into your life. Each day brings a new opportunity, a fresh start, to break free from the patterns that hold you back. It might seem daunting, but small steps can lead to big changes. Reach out to an old friend, join a community group, or even adopt a pet. And therapy isn't just for your clients - it can be a lifeline for you as well ❤️
You maybe too self aware! This is a sign you are depressed as you mentioned above. Ruminating about one’s life stage can be awful. I believe you I have been there.
Have you thought about getting treatment for your depression? Also try and write 10 things you are grateful for everyday.
12 Step programs are extremely beneficial for learning how to let go of the past and learn to be in the present. So many books on mindfulness and meditation are worth it!
Could you disclose your skincare routine, as a 60 year old??
Hello, and thank you for your comment! It certainly brought a smile to my face. While I'm not quite at the 60-year mark yet, as a retirement coach, I understand that there's a wealth of wisdom and experience that comes with each passing year.
My role is not to pretend that I have all the answers, but rather to provide guidance and support based on extensive research and the shared experiences of those who are navigating their golden years. Your journey through life is unique, and it's my mission to help you embrace and celebrate this uniqueness.
Perhaps you're wondering, "How can someone in their 40s talk about thriving in your 60s?" That's a fair question. But age doesn't always equate to understanding. Sometimes, an outside perspective can offer fresh insights and spark new ideas. 💡
Prefer to live into own journey.
.own company..
Absolutely, embracing your own journey is the first step towards a fulfilling retirement!
You have no idea how lonely living alone is. It's horrible!!!!😢
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way! You're much stronger than you think, and I'm here if you ever need to talk. You're not alone in this journey. 💪💖
I live alone, but I’m not retired. I’ll be 60 this year. I just went through a depressive situation and with the help of my therapist I am coming out of it. I live in a cluttered condo and really want to have a clean space but don’t know where or how to start. Any suggestions? I’m a composing musician and a crochet artist and I’m scared that having someone in to help me declutter will get rid of things I need for composing and crocheting. Help please!
First off, I want to give you a big virtual high-five 🙌 for taking those vital steps towards your mental health. Battling depression is no small feat, and your courage is truly inspiring. It's okay to not be okay sometimes, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Now, let's talk about that clutter. You're a composing musician and a crochet artist - that's amazing! 🎵🧶 Your condo isn't just a living space, it's your creative studio. So, it's crucial that this space inspires you, not overwhelms you.
Here are a few suggestions to get started:
1. One step at a time: Rome wasn't built in a day, and your condo won't be decluttered in one either. Start small - one drawer, one shelf, or even one corner at a time.
2. Sort and categorize: Divide your items into categories - music materials, crochet supplies, and other household items. This will help you see what you have, what you need, and what you can let go of.
3. Storage solutions: Consider investing in storage solutions like boxes, bins, or shelves. They're great for keeping your composing and crocheting essentials organized and easy to find.
4. Ask for help: If you choose to hire a professional organizer, communicate clearly about what you want to keep. A good organizer will respect your needs and help create a system that works for you.
Decluttering is not about getting rid of things but creating a space where creativity can thrive.
Also we have a couple of articles and videos on our RUclips and website, so feel free to read more about decluttering. Good luck!
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement Thank you for your reply and suggestions. I'll check out what is here on decluttering. I used to be ashamed of my clutter, one part of my depression and I discovered while seeking decluttering options that my clutter might actually be a sing of depression. Now that I feel better, I want to clean my home. Creativity happens, but it is sometimes hurt by not knowing what I have or where what I need is. Thank you for the help!❤
I feel if the financial stability was there living alone at 60 wouldnt be so scary i sont see a clear path to stop working ans although my work is rewarding to me and keeps me very social it terrifies me when i retire and venture out to so other things ive always wantrd to do but nrvrr had time the money won’t be there
Very scared
Sharon, your feelings are completely valid and shared by many, especially as you approach new chapters in your life like retirement. It's understandable to have concerns about financial stability and the changes that come with stepping away from a rewarding career. Your work not only provides a sense of purpose but also keeps you connected socially, which is incredibly valuable.
The transition into retirement and pursuing those dreams you've had to put on hold can indeed feel daunting without a clear financial path. However, it's never too late to explore strategies that might help secure your financial future and give you the freedom to enjoy the things you've always wanted to do.
You are delightful and helpful and I really like the house plant idea😍
Thank you for your kind words! It's always great to hear when we've been able to help brighten someone's day 🤗
My dogs keep me company 🐶
Pets are amazing companions 🥰
I always loved living alone until people started telling me how weird I am for doing so. What am I missing?🙄
Living alone is a unique journey of self-discovery, not weird at all! It's your life, your rules 😄🌟
You’re not missing anything, and you’re not weird. Some people like living alone and some do not. Neither one is weird. I am like you. I love living alone. Please don’t let someone else’s opinion steal your joy.
Nothing. Unless you like cooking, cleaning, laundry and being told what to do.
❤❤1980. I would surf Huntington Beach pier. It was called the white ghetto. There were so man drugs it part of the culture. today, I dont drink, do drugs and been clean since 1984. I still stuff HB pier north side. I am 60.
Wow, what a journey you've had! Congratulations on your strength and resilience. It's a testament to your grit that you've been clean since '84.
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement i lost a friend Anthony Rossi. We were surfers which I remember going to his house and his Dad open the door. The lock on his Dads face.. He started to cry……. Anthony Mom came out and said, Anthony hung himself. I still remember that , I stopped all pot and stopped going to Huntington Beach Main Street the white Ghetto…. Yes, I still surfed but I would surf at cliffs or balsa Chica, I stayed away from the white ghetto.. Frank Martinez Downey California
Seeing my aging parents keep active with exercise, keeps them younger. I believe the school systems in our time did not educate us with life long exercises to stay flexible, strong, toned mentally as well as physically. The schools were too busy trying to find that next basketball, football, gymnasts, etc. -star athletes instead of keeping everyone more fit daily and as to why we stay fit for our journey called life! I was always slender and not athletically minded, it’s tougher now to try to stay fit with exercise but I am trying to keep up with my folks who are running circles around me. 😊 Also eating the right foods is also key to a happier healthy life.
It's absolutely wonderful to see your parents setting such a positive example by staying active in their golden years. Exercise isn't just about looking good-it's about feeling good, staying strong, and keeping our minds sharp.
It's never too late to start your fitness journey, and kudos to you for taking those steps! Every little bit counts. Even a short walk around the block or a few minutes of stretching each day can make a difference. 💪
Thank You--it’s about brain health too and staying more flexible. We don’t exercise all our muscles as we think we do-that’s why when we do an activity like painting our house, some of us, our body aches in places we didn’t know we have. Even for many, just walking is a gentle exercise, yet it should engage your mind by looking at things different, near and far even exercises our eyes too. If all we can do is start something, walking/staying active more is a good start-yes, wear sunscreen, wear a hat, UV sunglasses, etc. watch for things that can trip or make us slip. Watch out for dogs that don’t belong to us on that walk. I was never big into exercise, still not but I realize I need to stay active because of the folks. My dad one day almost couldn’t get up, looked up some age appropriate exercises, strengthened muscles and is now able to get up by himself. He thought he was active enough….NOT! I thought he was active enough…Nope but now he’s on his way to maintaining himself. In or out of the gym, there are ways outside of a gym to still stay fit. He didn’t want the cost of the gym, he is 87 now, still doing activities and loving life. The last thing he did was mend a fence and cut down what he could a fallen tree with a chainsaw…I gotta keep up with the folks! LOL! Laughter and Fun! We all need to keep it up!@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement
I’m not sure how a 40 year old can understand fully or give advice to those of us in our 60’s.
Age does bring along a unique set of experiences, insights, and wisdom that might be missed by someone younger. But as a retirement coach, my role isn't to fully understand your life but to guide, motivate, and inspire you on your journey.
My advice doesn't come from age, but from a place of understanding and empathy towards the concerns and dreams of individuals navigating their golden years 💕
Living alone at different stages of life is different at each stage. At 40-50, one is normally still active and healthy. When you are 55-60, health issues start cropping up and becoming a nuisance. After 60, one sees less of one childrens' faces but more of the ugly faces of diseases.
Thank you for your honest insights. It's true, each phase of life has its own rhythm and challenges. The vitality of our 40s and 50s can gradually give way to a slower pace and health concerns in our 60s and beyond.
But let's flip the script a bit. Your golden years can also be a time of profound growth and rediscovery. Living alone in your 60s isn't just about managing challenges-it's about seizing opportunities. It's about celebrating the freedom to live on our own terms and embracing the joy of solitude.
being lonely has nothing to do with being alone. The most alone I've felt was when I was in my 20's. I'm now 65 and having a husband is a bonus but not necessary to my having a vibrant life. A lot of my social engagement is from my friend and children and extended family. oh and my husband as well.
You've beautifully captured a universal truth: being alone does not equate to being lonely. Your vibrant life at 65 is a testament to this, and it's truly inspiring. You've found richness in the relationships with your friends, children, extended family, and of course, your husband 💗
I love going out dancing, talking to the band, and partying. Yep. My mind is on music and fun. I’m a free spirit and when I think I get depressed. Thinking is so depressing. Rather, memories, are the worst. I dissolve memories. It’s easier than all the processing. Uggh. I’d rather paint my deck with bees stinging me than have to relive the past.
Your zest for life is truly inspiring! Dancing and music can indeed be a wonderful escape, a way to live in the moment and just enjoy the rhythm of life 😊
I don't mind living alone but just worry if I get sick who will help me as on a budget and couldn't afford to hire someone to help with chores or Healthcare??
Joyce, your concerns are entirely valid and shared by many. Living alone can be liberating, but it also comes with its own set of challenges. But remember, you're not alone in this journey.
There are resources and community services available that can provide assistance, and sometimes, they are just a call away. Local volunteer groups, non-profit organizations, and even neighbors can be a source of support.
And while we can't predict the future, we can certainly prepare for it. Regular health check-ups, a balanced diet, and a little bit of exercise can go a long way in maintaining good health.