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You're absolutely right, and your words have touched on the heart of why we created this video. Estrangement can be a heavy burden to bear, often carried in silence. It's our hope that by shedding light on this topic, we can help lift some of that weight. It's okay to talk about it, to seek help, and to lean on others. You're not alone on this journey 💗
I already accepted that my daughter doesn’t want to have any connection with me or any of her siblings. Life is too short to care. I have many other children who care deeply about me and I to them. I look at that it’s her choice and if she’s fine with it , that’s fine with me.
Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you’ve found peace by focusing on the loving relationships you have, and that’s such a healthy outlook. Wishing you and your family all the best. ❤️
I fought stage 4 cancer utterly alone. I'm sure some of it was from the stress of grieving over them. . At this point, I don't care about reconnecting. Anybody who is that cold and heartless is no longer allowed access to me or my life. The next time there will be contact is when the State Police go and tell them I've expired. I tried hard to figure out what to do with my body after I pass... but I've decided... that's not really my problem now, is it? As next of kin those 2 can figure it out on their own. PS I'm leaving everything to somebody I can trust to care for my very old loyal dog. And clearly that is NOT my kids
I'm really sorry to hear that! But it's completely valid to prioritize your peace and well-being. You deserve support, understanding, and the freedom to make decisions that best suit your needs and wishes. ❤️ Please feel free to reach out if you need to talk
Thank you for the insight. It has been a year since my son has let me see my Grandchildren. But I am raising his Dog since the Girlfriend did not want him in her life either. It has been the most heartbreaking experience I have ever had in my life.
Truly significant for me. I just received a letter from my adult adopted daughter today, that she no longer wants me in her life and that I respectfully do not try to contact her now, later, or in the future. She has violently abused me on more than one occasion and when I brought that up to her therapist in a joint conversation, she chose to never speak to me again. She has regained her relationship with her once estranged father to gain financial support, and has discontinued contact with me for over a year. I am heartbroken, but know I won't be able to do anything to make this a resolvable situation.
Oh, my heart truly goes out to you during this profoundly difficult time. Receiving such news can feel like a storm cloud has parked itself right above your head, casting shadows on everything. It's a heavy weight to bear, especially when it comes from someone so integral to your life. It takes immense courage to navigate the turbulent waters of complex family dynamics, particularly when they involve hurt from those we hold dear. While the path to resolution might seem obscured now, give yourself permission to grieve, heal, and find peace in the knowledge that you've approached this situation with grace and dignity. In these moments, leaning on friends, hobbies, or even exploring new interests can offer solace. Sending you a world of support and understanding. 🌟
I wanted to reply to this! I was adopted and I left my family. I live in regret now, but I know I was acting out my fears and feelings of not being understood on how much hurt I felt, being abandoned. I took it out on my adoptive parents. I also have learned that this is extremely common❤ If you want any support, I'm happy to answer any questions, coming from an adopted person.
@MandaPanda038 I feel exactly the same. I also hold the belief that people should enjoy their money while they are here. None of us are entitled to an inheritance from what they have earned in their lifetime. I never think about inheritance. I don't care.
Hi! As someone who is nearing retirement (57) but also the daughter of a very codependent enmeshed parent, this video can be looked at from both angles for me. Unhealthy, unlearned boundaries can be devastating to past and future generations. Unrecognizable because it is how you learned life as a child and do not know anything different. Somewhere deep within our soul, we know something is wrong until that final button is pushed and it becomes a last straw causing estrangement. But as a mature loving adult, the desire to reconnect and have relations with a parent is there. We just have to recognize how fruitful it will be after trying to resolve conflicts. Adult children also need to be their true and authentic self. Thank you for posting this video.
Those deep-rooted dynamics can be tough to untangle, but your desire to reconnect and find a healthier path is admirable. And szaying true to yourself while navigating these waters is so important. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts with us 💕
Life's journey can be unpredictable, but remember, every sunrise brings a new day filled with opportunities for growth and understanding. I'm here to support you every step of the way!
I'm glad to hear that our content is valuable enough for multiple listens! Yes, we do incorporate subtle background music in our videos. Your feedback is important to us, so please let us know if it's impacting your ability to absorb the information.
What if you don’t want to reconnect to avoid them becoming estranged again? These last two years have been a struggle for me emotionally but I am not willing to make amends only to experience abandonment again.
It's completely understandable to feel hesitant about reconnecting, especially after experiencing emotional struggles. Protecting your heart is important, and it's okay to take your time. Maybe consider small, gradual steps towards rebuilding trust, if and when you're ready. It's about what feels right for you, and it's okay to prioritize your emotional well-being. 💙
Thank you so much. Since the birth of my granddaughter 4 years ago , I hardly have any contact with my daughter. I feel from you segment that there must be a level of "release" I as the parent my have and not to force anything on my daughter.
I'm glad you found value in the video. Life has a way of changing when we least expect it, and sometimes, those changes involve relationships with our loved ones. It's evident that you care deeply for your daughter and granddaughter. It can be tough when communication diminishes, but remember, every relationship ebbs and flows. Sometimes, giving space and understanding can be the most loving act. And while it may take time, I believe that love always finds its way back. In the meantime, continue to embrace your own journey and interests. Perhaps even find a new hobby or revisit an old one. You never know where these paths may lead, and they could provide exciting opportunities to connect with new people or even reconnect with your daughter. 💗
Hopefully this will encourage some parents to accept some responsibility for their behavior. I am a child of an alcoholic, codependent, dysfunctional home. I went no-contact with my family for close to a decade and it was very healing. But the best thing I ever did was be in limited contact with them, but with huge non-negotiable boundaries. And yes, they still believe that it’s my job as the oldest daughter to emotionally and physically take care of them in exchange for some inheritance. But honestly, I have spent my life making sure I don’t have to ask them for a single thing, so I’m good with no money & no problems.
Thanks for sharing your story. Setting boundaries and focusing on your own healing is so brave. Sounds like you’ve really found peace, and that’s what matters most. ❤️
Absolutely, boundaries are crucial in any relationship, including between parents and children. Establishing respect for boundaries helps foster healthy, respectful interactions. By setting clear expectations and consistently communicating about personal limits, parents can guide their children towards understanding the importance of mutual respect ❤️
My dad was non existent in my teen age years because he was too busy chasing ass. I still didn’t abandon him because he’s my dad. Blood was thicker than water when I grew up
I want to be loved for who I AM !! I LOVE MY PARENTS, AND CHILDREN AND EXTENDED FAMILY UNCONDITIONALLY, why cant i be loved unconditionally, like i was by my gtandparents before they passed ??
It's completely natural to want to be loved unconditionally, just as you love your family. Grandparents often have a special way of showing unconditional love, and it's understandable to miss that. Remember, love can be expressed in different ways by different people. Sometimes, communicating your feelings and needs can help others understand how to support and love you in the way you desire. You're deserving of love just as you are! ❤️
I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. It must be incredibly painful, especially as a single mother. Remember, you're not alone, and there are support groups and resources that can help you navigate these feelings. Take care of yourself, and I hope you find some peace and healing. 💔
Do possibly accept TRICARE insurance? I’m having a terrible time trying to find help. Lost my husband in May, and my 26 y/o daughter lashed out and will not talk to me. I need help. Thank you in advance
Hi there, unfortunately our services don't fall under insurance coverage. I'm so sorry for your loss and the rift between you and your daughter - what a challenging time for you and your family. Sending you so much love ❤️
I still pay for my 25 yo NC son’s cell phone $25/month just to check and see if he’s alive …what a weird way to live. He also got inherited money from grandparents but doesn’t want. So many layers….
I am the grandmother who has always supported this adult child but since she has been told to have NO CONTACT WITH ANYONE FROM YOUR PAST I am searching for a way to reach out and let her know I still SUPPORT HER UNCONDITIONALLY; however, she has left home without a cell phone or any means of contacting her. ARE THERE ANY WEBSITES WHERE I CAN SEND AN ANONYMOUS MESSAGE LETTING HER KNOW I AM STILL HERE TO SUPPORT HER?
Your dedication and unwavering support for your grandchild is deeply touching, and it's clear how much you care. Where did she go? How would you reach her?
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement That is one of the biggest concerns I have.....I DO NOT KNOW WHERE SHE WENT NOR WITH WHOM. I really have no way of reaching her because she left without taking her cell phone and no mention of where she plans to go.
This lady CLEARLY isn't educated in Narcissist abuse. Some of those parents have even gone as far as attempting to murder their child in their rage fits. Please educate yourself before you talk to someone about repairing relationship with a toxic family member.
Thank you for highlighting this crucial topic. Narcissistic abuse is undeniably serious and demands careful attention, but it's important to recognize that not all family estrangements arise from such dynamics. Toxic relationships come in many forms, and ensuring safety and well-being should always be the top priority. ❤️ Family relationships are often intricate and multifaceted, with numerous factors influencing them. Our video aims to provide general guidance that can be applied to a variety of situations. It's vital for everyone to consider their unique circumstances and seek professional advice when needed.
I'm truly sorry to hear about your pain and loss. It sounds like you're going through an incredibly difficult time. But it's never too late to seek help and make changes. You don't have to navigate this alone - feel free to reach out. You are valued and important. Please take care of yourself. ❤️
While a relationship with an adult child can reflect aspects of parenting, it's important to remember that it's not the sole measure of success. Every relationship is unique, influenced by many factors beyond just parenting. Life experiences, individual personalities, and circumstances all play a role. Parenting is a journey, and sometimes the most important thing is the love and effort you put in along the way. 🌟 And it goes both ways...
🤩 Thanks for watching! If you want to achieve your ideal retirement life (full of purpose, energy, and passion), be sure to watch this Free Workshop: How to Turn Your Successful Career Into a Successful Retirement 👉bestnextchapters.secondwindmovement.com/training-video
I teach you step-by-step The Rewire Method, so you can avoid falling into a too-common retirement rut and instead live a healthy, active, engaged retirement life
Important subject most people do not talk about. It can wear on your soul.
You're absolutely right, and your words have touched on the heart of why we created this video. Estrangement can be a heavy burden to bear, often carried in silence. It's our hope that by shedding light on this topic, we can help lift some of that weight. It's okay to talk about it, to seek help, and to lean on others. You're not alone on this journey 💗
Thanks for tackling a difficult subject with some sound ways to heal the divide.
My pleasure, Sue! Thank you for watching 😊
I already accepted that my daughter doesn’t want to have any connection with me or any of her siblings. Life is too short to care. I have many other children who care deeply about me and I to them. I look at that it’s her choice and if she’s fine with it , that’s fine with me.
Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you’ve found peace by focusing on the loving relationships you have, and that’s such a healthy outlook. Wishing you and your family all the best. ❤️
I wish I could adopt your mindset.
I fought stage 4 cancer utterly alone. I'm sure some of it was from the stress of grieving over them. . At this point, I don't care about reconnecting. Anybody who is that cold and heartless is no longer allowed access to me or my life. The next time there will be contact is when the State Police go and tell them I've expired. I tried hard to figure out what to do with my body after I pass... but I've decided... that's not really my problem now, is it? As next of kin those 2 can figure it out on their own. PS I'm leaving everything to somebody I can trust to care for my very old loyal dog. And clearly that is NOT my kids
I'm really sorry to hear that! But it's completely valid to prioritize your peace and well-being. You deserve support, understanding, and the freedom to make decisions that best suit your needs and wishes. ❤️
Please feel free to reach out if you need to talk
Thank you for the insight. It has been a year since my son has let me see my Grandchildren. But I am raising his Dog since the Girlfriend did not want him in her life either. It has been the most heartbreaking experience I have ever had in my life.
I can’t imagine how tough it's been not seeing your grandchildren. Hopefully, your son's dog brings you some comfort. 💕
Thanks for sharing a thoughtful and practical approach to a difficult topic.
Glad it was helpful!
Truly significant for me. I just received a letter from my adult adopted daughter today, that she no longer wants me in her life and that I respectfully do not try to contact her now, later, or in the future. She has violently abused me on more than one occasion and when I brought that up to her therapist in a joint conversation, she chose to never speak to me again. She has regained her relationship with her once estranged father to gain financial support, and has discontinued contact with me for over a year. I am heartbroken, but know I won't be able to do anything to make this a resolvable situation.
Oh, my heart truly goes out to you during this profoundly difficult time. Receiving such news can feel like a storm cloud has parked itself right above your head, casting shadows on everything. It's a heavy weight to bear, especially when it comes from someone so integral to your life.
It takes immense courage to navigate the turbulent waters of complex family dynamics, particularly when they involve hurt from those we hold dear. While the path to resolution might seem obscured now, give yourself permission to grieve, heal, and find peace in the knowledge that you've approached this situation with grace and dignity.
In these moments, leaning on friends, hobbies, or even exploring new interests can offer solace. Sending you a world of support and understanding. 🌟
I wanted to reply to this! I was adopted and I left my family. I live in regret now, but I know I was acting out my fears and feelings of not being understood on how much hurt I felt, being abandoned. I took it out on my adoptive parents. I also have learned that this is extremely common❤
If you want any support, I'm happy to answer any questions, coming from an adopted person.
Thank you for making such a clear-to-follow, insightful and helpful video on this subject!
You're very welcome, Tilda! Hope it works out for you 🤗
Adjust your wills accordingly. No contact also means no inheritance
It might be worth it to try and reconnect first ❤️
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement I can always change it if needed. I keep hope open and the wallet closed
We tremble with the idea of what what we might miss from a brookie's inheritance
I hope they do. If I don’t want them in my life now then I don’t want their stuff later. No contact means just that.
@MandaPanda038 I feel exactly the same. I also hold the belief that people should enjoy their money while they are here. None of us are entitled to an inheritance from what they have earned in their lifetime. I never think about inheritance. I don't care.
This was immensely helpful, Cyn. Thank you.
I don’t mind the music but the microphone seems to have some crackling.
Glad it was helpful, Oscar! Thanks for the tip - the new mic is on the way 😊
Hi! As someone who is nearing retirement (57) but also the daughter of a very codependent enmeshed parent, this video can be looked at from both angles for me. Unhealthy, unlearned boundaries can be devastating to past and future generations. Unrecognizable because it is how you learned life as a child and do not know anything different. Somewhere deep within our soul, we know something is wrong until that final button is pushed and it becomes a last straw causing estrangement. But as a mature loving adult, the desire to reconnect and have relations with a parent is there. We just have to recognize how fruitful it will be after trying to resolve conflicts. Adult children also need to be their true and authentic self. Thank you for posting this video.
Those deep-rooted dynamics can be tough to untangle, but your desire to reconnect and find a healthier path is admirable. And szaying true to yourself while navigating these waters is so important. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts with us 💕
Very good information....quite timely, for me.
Life's journey can be unpredictable, but remember, every sunrise brings a new day filled with opportunities for growth and understanding. I'm here to support you every step of the way!
I will listen to this several times so that I can absorb it all. Is there some sort of music going on in the background?
I'm glad to hear that our content is valuable enough for multiple listens! Yes, we do incorporate subtle background music in our videos. Your feedback is important to us, so please let us know if it's impacting your ability to absorb the information.
What if you don’t want to reconnect to avoid them becoming estranged again? These last two years have been a struggle for me emotionally but I am not willing to make amends only to experience abandonment again.
It's completely understandable to feel hesitant about reconnecting, especially after experiencing emotional struggles. Protecting your heart is important, and it's okay to take your time. Maybe consider small, gradual steps towards rebuilding trust, if and when you're ready. It's about what feels right for you, and it's okay to prioritize your emotional well-being. 💙
Thank you so much. Since the birth of my granddaughter 4 years ago , I hardly have any contact with my daughter. I feel from you segment that there must be a level of "release" I as the parent my have and not to force anything on my daughter.
I'm glad you found value in the video. Life has a way of changing when we least expect it, and sometimes, those changes involve relationships with our loved ones. It's evident that you care deeply for your daughter and granddaughter.
It can be tough when communication diminishes, but remember, every relationship ebbs and flows. Sometimes, giving space and understanding can be the most loving act. And while it may take time, I believe that love always finds its way back.
In the meantime, continue to embrace your own journey and interests. Perhaps even find a new hobby or revisit an old one. You never know where these paths may lead, and they could provide exciting opportunities to connect with new people or even reconnect with your daughter. 💗
Hopefully this will encourage some parents to accept some responsibility for their behavior. I am a child of an alcoholic, codependent, dysfunctional home. I went no-contact with my family for close to a decade and it was very healing. But the best thing I ever did was be in limited contact with them, but with huge non-negotiable boundaries. And yes, they still believe that it’s my job as the oldest daughter to emotionally and physically take care of them in exchange for some inheritance. But honestly, I have spent my life making sure I don’t have to ask them for a single thing, so I’m good with no money & no problems.
Thanks for sharing your story. Setting boundaries and focusing on your own healing is so brave. Sounds like you’ve really found peace, and that’s what matters most. ❤️
BOUNDARIES! Do children have respect for their parents BOUNDARIES???
Absolutely, boundaries are crucial in any relationship, including between parents and children. Establishing respect for boundaries helps foster healthy, respectful interactions. By setting clear expectations and consistently communicating about personal limits, parents can guide their children towards understanding the importance of mutual respect ❤️
Of course not....we aren't allowed any boundaries. It's all about THEM.
Entitled children give rats ass about boundaries
My dad was non existent in my teen age years because he was too busy chasing ass. I still didn’t abandon him because he’s my dad. Blood was thicker than water when I grew up
I want to be loved for who I AM !! I LOVE MY PARENTS, AND CHILDREN AND EXTENDED FAMILY UNCONDITIONALLY, why cant i be loved unconditionally, like i was by my gtandparents before they passed ??
It's completely natural to want to be loved unconditionally, just as you love your family. Grandparents often have a special way of showing unconditional love, and it's understandable to miss that. Remember, love can be expressed in different ways by different people. Sometimes, communicating your feelings and needs can help others understand how to support and love you in the way you desire. You're deserving of love just as you are! ❤️
The pain for parent is more huge. I'm a single mother and my one and only child abandoned me...
I'm very suffer
I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. It must be incredibly painful, especially as a single mother. Remember, you're not alone, and there are support groups and resources that can help you navigate these feelings. Take care of yourself, and I hope you find some peace and healing. 💔
Do possibly accept TRICARE insurance? I’m having a terrible time trying to find help. Lost my husband in May, and my 26 y/o daughter lashed out and will not talk to me. I need help. Thank you in advance
Hi there, unfortunately our services don't fall under insurance coverage. I'm so sorry for your loss and the rift between you and your daughter - what a challenging time for you and your family. Sending you so much love ❤️
@ thank you ever so much. Happy Holidays
You've attracted a lot of parents who have toxic behaviours with this video. Hopefully some of them realize it.
It's the nature of the topic, I guess...
I still pay for my 25 yo NC son’s cell phone $25/month just to check and see if he’s alive …what a weird way to live. He also got inherited money from grandparents but doesn’t want. So many layers….
That sounds so heavy - there’s clearly so much love behind what you’re doing.Sending you strength. ❤️
I am the grandmother who has always supported this adult child but since she has been told to have NO CONTACT WITH ANYONE FROM YOUR PAST I am searching for a way to reach out and let her know I still SUPPORT HER UNCONDITIONALLY; however, she has left home without a cell phone or any means of contacting her. ARE THERE ANY WEBSITES WHERE I CAN SEND AN ANONYMOUS MESSAGE LETTING HER KNOW I AM STILL HERE TO SUPPORT HER?
Your dedication and unwavering support for your grandchild is deeply touching, and it's clear how much you care.
Where did she go? How would you reach her?
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement That is one of the biggest concerns I have.....I DO NOT KNOW WHERE SHE WENT NOR WITH WHOM. I really have no way of reaching her because she left without taking her cell phone and no mention of where she plans to go.
This is so important... worth recording again without the audio issue?? (maybe your mic is brushing against the blouse?)
The mic was broken 😞
This lady CLEARLY isn't educated in Narcissist abuse. Some of those parents have even gone as far as attempting to murder their child in their rage fits. Please educate yourself before you talk to someone about repairing relationship with a toxic family member.
Thank you for highlighting this crucial topic. Narcissistic abuse is undeniably serious and demands careful attention, but it's important to recognize that not all family estrangements arise from such dynamics. Toxic relationships come in many forms, and ensuring safety and well-being should always be the top priority. ❤️
Family relationships are often intricate and multifaceted, with numerous factors influencing them. Our video aims to provide general guidance that can be applied to a variety of situations. It's vital for everyone to consider their unique circumstances and seek professional advice when needed.
I would do this if I genuinely knew what happened.
Maybe you could reach out? It's hard to give advice without any information...
older than who? adults Thank you for this
Sorry, I'm not sure I understand the first part of your comment. But so glad it was helpful!
I'm such an asshole even my pastors and friends shun me. My oldest son drank himself to death.
I'm truly sorry to hear about your pain and loss. It sounds like you're going through an incredibly difficult time. But it's never too late to seek help and make changes. You don't have to navigate this alone - feel free to reach out. You are valued and important. Please take care of yourself. ❤️
I respect your honesty ✌️
U keep saying what kids what as if they created a life for the parent...entitled
Respect goes both ways 😊
Does this woman have adult children , has she ever experienced estrangement ?
Talking too fast
Sorry to hear that! You can always adjust the playback speed 😊
Your relationship with your adult child is your grade as a parent.
While a relationship with an adult child can reflect aspects of parenting, it's important to remember that it's not the sole measure of success. Every relationship is unique, influenced by many factors beyond just parenting. Life experiences, individual personalities, and circumstances all play a role. Parenting is a journey, and sometimes the most important thing is the love and effort you put in along the way. 🌟
And it goes both ways...