As adults we come to the realization that our lives change ONLY when we CHANGE. I have done the work Dear One, and have created a way for you to experience a radical transformation from within that will kickstart your inner child healing journey and teach you precisely how to also access your higher self...by the way, it's all scientifically proven... Join me for the next LIVE 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency Coaching Program where I am your guide toward your inner transformation www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp
@@Cpatriot mine is too. Can you immagine this: when I left my ex, she than turned against me, and I am her only child. Her covert fear was not that I will be unhappy, but that I will ruin the picture of her happy family, her value and respect in the society, but most of all, she was scared of my independence. Can you immagine? She even trethened with a suicide. That, after a year and a half no contact, when I asked her about the suicide trethening, she acused me for why I belived her. Haha, complete madening. And in the past she was so dominant and controlling. And I belived her, becase she was like she knew everything. She is a doctor. And since my father was an alcoholic, I was there to help her and was an emotional support to her. But she wanted more, she wanted to blame shift and guilt trip me. Tipical covert narc, the bigest victim of all. But I am at the point of radical acceptance. I am even sorry for her.
I love that Thank you❤.The acceptance of the fact that we are codependent takes time as well, otherwise, we will just listen to what you say in our free time and think It's about other people at the same time putting up with things that ruin our lives It's just like being a drug addict...the recovery can only happen when we truely accept the fact that we have a drug problem and are ready to face IT with the feeling of fear and vulnerability, that is called true strength as we do IT no matter how difficult its ❤
@@The1972maxim a drug problem that is not our fault. We we primed from our birth to fight for the love that should be given to us unconditionaly. Now I give that lovr to me. I bow only to God. No more earthly Gods for me!
YOU ARE SO HELPFUL AND I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL. I WAS SHOCKED WHEN YOU SAID ALMOST 60. YOU LOOK AMAZING! LADIES ALSO IF YOU WENT THRU NARCISSITIC ABUSE YOU WILL REGAIN YOUR LOOKS AND EVERYTHING YOU LOST!
No sense of self as a result of neglect and abuse magnified my life of confusion and an underlying animosity for my family which I could not make sense of. I am now 50 years old and after over half of my life being medicated, spent in therapy, and practicing Zen Buddhist meditation, I am only now becoming aware of these resultant thoughts and feelings. This is in no small part thanks to you and your content. Your videos are so personal, because of your sharing, and very validating. Unfortunately, my marriage is on the edge of a cliff. The thought of losing my 7 and 6 year old daughters makes it nearly impossible to “pick myself up by my bootstraps” and make a real change. But what will be will be. The challenge is in forgiving myself, not others. While the diagnoses over the years may have felt important at the time, in terms of identity and identification, in the end they don’t mean anything and are only starting points.
I see many adults stick as kids. That tells me that many are stick this way and think they are an adult, when not. I love to learn as much about myself, whether it hurts or not. I find many that cover up their mess with drugs and alcohol bc it’s too painful to know the truth about themselves. So bc I’m open to know myself and I don’t look at as painful. I need to take full advantage of that and keep digging.
Thank you so much I typed in how to help stop myself from pleasing people, an you came up, listening you is an awakening itself I thank God you coming across you 🙏
I’m seeking out therapy because I’m tired of my behavior with codependency. I hate being this way. And setting boundaries feels like a knife in my gut. I’ve been through 4 counselors that only seemed to get frustrated with me because I was struggling to focus on the work. If the new therapist doesn’t work out, Lisa, you’re my last hope. I’m so tired.
Yes, I think only my father has really showed me love, because he was attuned with me and shared happines with me. He was listeneing music with me. I still have happy feelings about that.
It took me 70 years to realize that I spent my entire life codependent. Always seeking approval and acceptance. My mother was a Grandiose Narcissistic Witch. She destroyed my father and brother, both committed suicide. I was a magnet for abusing women that took everything more than once. After much introspection, at this age, my favorite person is my German Shepard (and you).
I sat at my kitchen counter and looked at my husband and realized how much I cannot stand him. It’s completely over! Same with me I do not need that man’s approval! I could never love this man ever. Too much damage has been done. 56 years worth of being treated like trash!
Thank you so much Lisa. I'm 50 years and have experienced my codependency for the first time ever. The realization of my hidden childhood trauma and how it's affected my recent ended relationship is liberating. My healing journey has started. Never too late
Lisa, you are a Jewel! Thank you so much for lightening my/our way for recovery and reconnection! Deeply touching, extremely helpful! All the blessings to you and everyone one here!
I 100% know what you mean about the "dark energy" and getting sucked into the fight. The soon to be ex-narc is doing everything in his power to get me sucked in - threats, blackmail, guilt, shame, you name it he does it. He even tried a subtle death threat the other day. I have decided to not join the fight anymore and "shutty shutty".
I am 64 year old Gay man in a new relationship and my guides are bringing up my co-dependency BIG TIME! I have used a few of your videos and shared them with my clients. This conversation is 100% connecting with my heart. As a gay kid growing up in the 60's and 70's this conversation is long overdue. Thank you for your sharing your gifts 🙏❤🙏
You are amazing Lisa. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't hear your message a few years ago. Been on a self-discovery and self-reclamation journey since. Thank you for all you do and your beautiful light.
This really helped my. My mother was emotionally abusive and had borderline personality disorder and my ex abused me in the same ways she did and I believed in both cases I thought if I loved them enough theyd love me back and treat me better. My last rship I thought I was finally in a healthy stable rship then realized he was an alcoholic (like my father ) and I was def codeoendant on him and looked past every red flag and did my best to love and care for him till I realized hiw tixic it was and left him. Im going to start my healing journey today so I can attract a healthy rship.
Oh my gosh…. I am crying… I am so sorry that you grew up that way…. Much like me…. It just breaks my heart for and for me…. I just can’t believe you are putting into words EVERYTHING I’ve been through and still going through. So many feelings to feel….. wow
Awesome! I’ve been in recovery from addiction for 34 years. I’ve been clean and sober and I knew that was something missing. Thank you so much for shining a light on it it in such a lucid and articulate way. I love you for that!
I perfectly understand, having a disfuncional family and a different mom is not easy. It's feels like i speak a different language, nothing I do is good and sometimes i can't even talk. My family is not a lovely family, is very complicated I thought my family situation was a punishment from the universe probably because my karma, but today I see my situation in a different way. They don't understand must of situations and I discovered I'm an empathetic person with high sensitivity and that was a huge shock for me understanding better. Today Im trying to heal what ever I have to resolve with this people I call family, I guess is the purpose of all the situation in my life. And also people think that healing is easy and we can heal today. Thanks for sharing 🙏 peace and blessings to everyone
I can relate so much to what you’re saying. Turning 40 this year, I’ve been reflecting on my own behaviors and realized that I’ve been repeating the same patterns that you’ve described. I always thought there was something wrong with me, but your insights really hit home. I’m aware that I’ve started displaying these behaviors in a new relationship I really care about, and I’m determined not to let it impact things negatively. I’m committed to making changes and improving myself, but it’s challenging. Your advice is really helpful and motivating for me right now.
I. Even trying to figure out what is wrong with me wha is the root of my problems. I thought I’m just overly emotional and anxious. Or seasonal depressed. I’m codependent and I’m now starting the journey to heal and be a better me. Thank you for this video it really opens my eyes.
Its so interesting how I have a thought and then a youtube video pops up that goes deeper into that specific thought. I am codependent and I recently had the idea to repeat Shanti Shanti. I will bring peace to myself. Your video resonates with me. Thank you. Super helpful.
I'm not done with the video yet, but I feel like it's going to be life-changing for me. I can relate to you so much. It made me cry when you were talking about your parents because I had the exact same thing back home No, I'm the way I am and it's painful. Whatever I'm breaking up I'm with somebody or I'm just starting to see someone. I always have this feeling of impending Doom like something bad is going to happen. I'm so sick of it. So sick of the anxiety. I want to beat this so thank you so much for making videos like this and trying to help people❤
My grandmother from dads side was an alcoholic. Only now at 60, when every person in my parental family has past away I realise big part of my ‘problems’ has to do with her alcoholism.. my dad only received love from his dad who committed suicide at an early age. My mom suffered from early dementia. But I am getting there. Thank you Lisa, from Amsterdam ❤
One of the greatest gifts my malignant narcissist father left was a copy of his memories. I read it and could not believe the degree to which his whole experience of his life was him. Me, my sister, my mother, his second wife, his parents and his three siblings barely receive a mention. Everything was about him. May he rest in peace and may our souls never cross paths again!
Thank you for your videos. I am 43 yr old man who had no idea how much he buried and carried thru his life. I was shocked the first time I watched as it was like you were talking about me. Thank you for opening my eyes for the first time in my life.
Thank you so much Lisa for the work that you have done. I am running so much through your videos. I am a 62-year-old man and I have had a fair amount of therapy, like the way you have explained these things is so much like you are just reading my mind😍
Thank you for helping me understand why I attract Narcissists or Super religious which I’m not into either they like to control and I can’t ever give up my control again
Lisa, Thank you for being YOU!!! You are so incredibly article and convey your thoughts so precisely! I am so sorry for what you have gone through, but you are helping SO many people! You are beautiful outside and in. .
I appreciate your openness Lisa. I'm trying to heal, but I had to thoroughly Understand what I need to heal.. I thought my mom was only had babyblues. As an only child I am tangled with them, til now my dad lives in my house and he rearranged everything including the furnitures. I thought I was avoiding his Rage. To me, Love is a privillege, not everyone gets love. But since my business also went down, I knew it is my subcon sabotage. It is not about self Pity, we need to see the picture before we can get back to Normal and hv our life in control.. ❤ sending love from Indonesia.
I literally felt like you were talking to me in this video! I found myself nodding yes so many times listening to this amd it resonated so big with me! Thank you for your videos Lisa ❤️
If you take away the detail, it sounds like we had almost the same childhood and came to the same conclusions not aware that this wasn't just a part of everyone's life, though I'm male and when I gained size, fight became my only cope. This is very strange but helpful because you have so much more wisdom that I can believe and learn from.
I don't have to imagine it unfor tunatelly I live that every day. I am deeply sorry that u went through this awful sensations and feelings but I am happy u could succesfully recover from this.Thank u so much for sharing this. I feel that I am looking at myself in a mirror...Can u sha ke me so I awaken? This is an every day nightmare 24/7... except when I sleep n' sometimes not even there I can be free!!.😢💔
I’ve been exactly where you are. Get some really good help with this. I’m telling you that you can’t do it alone. Keep loving on your kids in the meantime. Remember that you are modeling principles, values and integrity, so treat there mother with respect. You may be the only one who can teach your kids these values. Don’t cry in front of your kids. Look for online groups. Stay on this path, seek to learn what your childhood programming was. 12 step meetings are the first place you might look to hear how others handle this process. Good luck.
Such a great video… thank you!! You explain codependency so well, I too, was in a narcissistic relationship in my first marriage due to my parents. I’m on my healing journey and thankfully have found you & journaling.
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. It is such a relief knowing that there is an explanation for my mother's behavior. She passed. I forgave her. But now, I need to work on my recovery. Amazing information.
Thank you!!!Lisa. Excellent, professional and easy way to share your experiences with us . I had all my relationships codependency, I am in my journey to heal.
Amazing Talk here - this entire talk is 100% relatable and True Freedom is on the other side of it all after doing the work. Thank You for Your Clarity in every word. 62 yrs. old here. Always Learning. Been working on it for years now. Best work anyone will ever do .
Lisa you have a gift of explaining things in such a beautiful and logical way! I feel so much like I have had the same wounded little girl view of love. Hoping that as I overcome codependency I can attract a good man to come even if I am in my 50's.
I came across you couple of days ago, and already have learned so much. To be able to understand brings to much relief. Next step is to practice that will bring freedom. THANK YOU SO MUCH for your time, and care 🙏
Michelle you are the most CLEAR CUT professional on codependency that I HAVE EVER HEARD! Thank you so much. If I wasnt lacking money I would just gift you for the knowledge. Thank you for all you do~
Ha ha to me, thinking i have overcome codependency because i have overcome and lived thru so much and come out on the other side. Haha. AND YET A HOLE IN ME IS SAD AND I HAVE BEEN STUCK NOT KNOWING HOW DO I GET OUT OF THIS AND MOVE ON. WHY AM I STILL STUCK? THAT IS HOW I HAVE BEEN WALKING AROUND. feeling alone and stuck. "A thought disease"... I have been Desperately trying to open the door and connect to my authentic self. 😢yet i don't/ didn'tt know why i am stuck. I don't even know i am still operating from those thoughts. From those stinkin feelings self perception thoughts. I'm behing the glass. 😢 Thank you Lisa. You are amazing. ❤
My grade two lesson from the priest we called “ father” for religious class, said we had to strive to B E perfect. Be perfect in the eyes of god. So my gr two mind said you can’t make errors.
Wow Lisa! You got your own business going? You must have had some schooling? That’s awesome!😊You have been so encouraging to me. Your life sounds so much like mine. I took Cosmetology and I felt so backwards and people scared me. I got so sick for so many years! But now I do not put up with the crap and controlling individuals. I could not continue with cutting hair because the smells made me sick! So I am still here and he’s still a narcissist! I wish I could leave!
As adults we come to the realization that our lives change ONLY when we CHANGE. I have done the work Dear One, and have created a way for you to experience a radical transformation from within that will kickstart your inner child healing journey and teach you precisely how to also access your higher self...by the way, it's all scientifically proven... Join me for the next LIVE 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency Coaching Program where I am your guide toward your inner transformation www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp
@@Cpatriot mine is too. Can you immagine this: when I left my ex, she than turned against me, and I am her only child. Her covert fear was not that I will be unhappy, but that I will ruin the picture of her happy family, her value and respect in the society, but most of all, she was scared of my independence. Can you immagine? She even trethened with a suicide. That, after a year and a half no contact, when I asked her about the suicide trethening, she acused me for why I belived her. Haha, complete madening. And in the past she was so dominant and controlling. And I belived her, becase she was like she knew everything. She is a doctor. And since my father was an alcoholic, I was there to help her and was an emotional support to her. But she wanted more, she wanted to blame shift and guilt trip me. Tipical covert narc, the bigest victim of all. But I am at the point of radical acceptance. I am even sorry for her.
I love that Thank you❤.The acceptance of the fact that we are codependent takes time as well, otherwise, we will just listen to what you say in our free time and think It's about other people at the same time putting up with things that ruin our lives It's just like being a drug addict...the recovery can only happen when we truely accept the fact that we have a drug problem and are ready to face IT with the feeling of fear and vulnerability, that is called true strength as we do IT no matter how difficult its ❤
@@The1972maxim a drug problem that is not our fault. We we primed from our birth to fight for the love that should be given to us unconditionaly. Now I give that lovr to me. I bow only to God. No more earthly Gods for me!
YOU ARE SO HELPFUL AND I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL. I WAS SHOCKED WHEN YOU SAID ALMOST 60. YOU LOOK AMAZING! LADIES ALSO IF YOU WENT THRU NARCISSITIC ABUSE YOU WILL REGAIN YOUR LOOKS AND EVERYTHING YOU LOST!
You are amazing, keep up the great work! So many of us have had similar experiences and are benefiting from your experiences.
even after years of recovery and healing I still fall back into old habits so easily. I realise later that I was behaving in a codependent way.
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Same here.
Same here. I didn’t know I had no sense of self until recently!
My daughter brought me here , I want to be free. ❤This is not a fun feeling
Same.
Thank YOU for being here Lisa ❤
No sense of self as a result of neglect and abuse magnified my life of confusion and an underlying animosity for my family which I could not make sense of. I am now 50 years old and after over half of my life being medicated, spent in therapy, and practicing Zen Buddhist meditation, I am only now becoming aware of these resultant thoughts and feelings.
This is in no small part thanks to you and your content. Your videos are so personal, because of your sharing, and very validating.
Unfortunately, my marriage is on the edge of a cliff. The thought of losing my 7 and 6 year old daughters makes it nearly impossible to “pick myself up by my bootstraps” and make a real change. But what will be will be. The challenge is in forgiving myself, not others. While the diagnoses over the years may have felt important at the time, in terms of identity and identification, in the end they don’t mean anything and are only starting points.
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Thank you for sharing. Your life seems to mirror mine. ❤
I started to reparent my inner child.
I keep hearing About parenting yourself and am going to try it.
@@jilli813 that is the healing, the most important thing.
I see many adults stick as kids. That tells me that many are stick this way and think they are an adult, when not. I love to learn as much about myself, whether it hurts or not. I find many that cover up their mess with drugs and alcohol bc it’s too painful to know the truth about themselves. So bc I’m open to know myself and I don’t look at as painful. I need to take full advantage of that and keep digging.
Thank you so much I typed in how to help stop myself from pleasing people, an you came up, listening you is an awakening itself I thank God you coming across you 🙏
Both my parents were narcs. It nearly destroyed me but I realize they were/are sick.
Demonized. People can change if they receive salvation .
14:05 “We think we are our emotions but we’re not” - slow clap. Beautiful
Thank you for being there ❤
Beautiful, Lisa. Your words are really healing. Thank you.
"I feel like my mom is behind a glass of pain" hit home, I can completely understand..
I’m seeking out therapy because I’m tired of my behavior with codependency. I hate being this way. And setting boundaries feels like a knife in my gut. I’ve been through 4 counselors that only seemed to get frustrated with me because I was struggling to focus on the work. If the new therapist doesn’t work out, Lisa, you’re my last hope. I’m so tired.
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How are you doing today Lesley? Have you found the right therapist? Are you feeling stronger?❤
Taken me over 15 years to find the right therapist , and she's still not perfect ! Got to build at the relationship
Yes, I think only my father has really showed me love, because he was attuned with me and shared happines with me. He was listeneing music with me. I still have happy feelings about that.
It took me 70 years to realize that I spent my entire life codependent. Always seeking approval and acceptance. My mother was a Grandiose Narcissistic Witch. She destroyed my father and brother, both committed suicide. I was a magnet for abusing women that took everything more than once. After much introspection, at this age, my favorite person is my German Shepard (and you).
Dogs are the best! Bless you🙏❤️
GSD ❤ a gentleman dog with lot of grounding energy. Now, my BC ❤ beeing in awe
Dogs are the best remedy against narcissistic abuse.
This was so valuable for me, thank you.
My childhood was so similar. Add a sadistic streak to both parents. Thanks for your honesty
Same here 😢. Sending you so much love ❤❤❤. Hope you are well.
you look 20 years younger! Gods gift of more youth for your loss of youth. ♡ much love
@@thelt247 hey thank you for that❤️🌷
I sat at my kitchen counter and looked at my husband and realized how much I cannot stand him. It’s completely over! Same with me I do not need that man’s approval! I could never love this man ever. Too much damage has been done. 56 years worth of being treated like trash!
I wish you well.
Thank you so much Lisa. I'm 50 years and have experienced my codependency for the first time ever. The realization of my hidden childhood trauma and how it's affected my recent ended relationship is liberating. My healing journey has started. Never too late
Gm from New York This is amazing thank you so much we still working on this ❤❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This is absolutely an “aha” moment for me…thank you
Lisa, you are a Jewel! Thank you so much for lightening my/our way for recovery and reconnection! Deeply touching, extremely helpful! All the blessings to you and everyone one here!
Good morning from San Diego!🌸
I 100% know what you mean about the "dark energy" and getting sucked into the fight. The soon to be ex-narc is doing everything in his power to get me sucked in - threats, blackmail, guilt, shame, you name it he does it. He even tried a subtle death threat the other day. I have decided to not join the fight anymore and "shutty shutty".
I am there now! Where you was with your husband. He was raging and yelling at me, and the kid, so I left.
Good move
I am 64 year old Gay man in a new relationship and my guides are bringing up my co-dependency BIG TIME! I have used a few of your videos and shared them with my clients. This conversation is 100% connecting with my heart. As a gay kid growing up in the 60's and 70's this conversation is long overdue. Thank you for your sharing your gifts 🙏❤🙏
I am a 60 year old gay man, same story. I am here to learn. Love and respect from the Netherlands, brother!
@@martyvirtue4051 my relatives came from the Netherlands back in the 1700's
Maybe you should get together and be gay together. Nobody cares what your orientation is. Its 2024
You are amazing Lisa. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't hear your message a few years ago. Been on a self-discovery and self-reclamation journey since. Thank you for all you do and your beautiful light.
This was amazing. I didn't realize I was codependent. I knew I did a lot of self-abandoning, but didn't connect these dots!
This really helped my. My mother was emotionally abusive and had borderline personality disorder and my ex abused me in the same ways she did and I believed in both cases I thought if I loved them enough theyd love me back and treat me better. My last rship I thought I was finally in a healthy stable rship then realized he was an alcoholic (like my father ) and I was def codeoendant on him and looked past every red flag and did my best to love and care for him till I realized hiw tixic it was and left him. Im going to start my healing journey today so I can attract a healthy rship.
Oh my gosh…. I am crying… I am so sorry that you grew up that way…. Much like me…. It just breaks my heart for and for me…. I just can’t believe you are putting into words EVERYTHING I’ve been through and still going through. So many feelings to feel….. wow
Me Too😓
Thank you for your work.
Awesome! I’ve been in recovery from addiction for 34 years. I’ve been clean and sober and I knew that was something missing. Thank you so much for shining a light on it it in such a lucid and articulate way. I love you for that!
I perfectly understand, having a disfuncional family and a different mom is not easy. It's feels like i speak a different language, nothing I do is good and sometimes i can't even talk. My family is not a lovely family, is very complicated I thought my family situation was a punishment from the universe probably because my karma, but today I see my situation in a different way. They don't understand must of situations and I discovered I'm an empathetic person with high sensitivity and that was a huge shock for me understanding better. Today Im trying to heal what ever I have to resolve with this people I call family, I guess is the purpose of all the situation in my life. And also people think that healing is easy and we can heal today. Thanks for sharing 🙏 peace and blessings to everyone
Thank you for this, Lisa. I am a codependent. I'm 60-years old, right now.
I can relate so much to what you’re saying. Turning 40 this year, I’ve been reflecting on my own behaviors and realized that I’ve been repeating the same patterns that you’ve described. I always thought there was something wrong with me, but your insights really hit home. I’m aware that I’ve started displaying these behaviors in a new relationship I really care about, and I’m determined not to let it impact things negatively. I’m committed to making changes and improving myself, but it’s challenging. Your advice is really helpful and motivating for me right now.
When u said growing up with dysfunctional parents and going to catholic school then being punished there totally hit home for me
Thank you for sharing your story. I see many parallels in my childhood. I feel not so alone.
I LOVE the videos where you just talk and it's just you! I've watched SO many of your videos. This one is so good. Thank you!
I. Even trying to figure out what is wrong with me wha is the root of my problems. I thought I’m just overly emotional and anxious. Or seasonal depressed. I’m codependent and I’m now starting the journey to heal and be a better me. Thank you for this video it really opens my eyes.
Its so interesting how I have a thought and then a youtube video pops up that goes deeper into that specific thought. I am codependent and I recently had the idea to repeat Shanti Shanti. I will bring peace to myself. Your video resonates with me. Thank you. Super helpful.
Wow, I would never give you 59. You look 20-30 years younger! I believe inner healing does that!
I'm not done with the video yet, but I feel like it's going to be life-changing for me. I can relate to you so much. It made me cry when you were talking about your parents because I had the exact same thing back home
No, I'm the way I am and it's painful. Whatever I'm breaking up I'm with somebody or I'm just starting to see someone. I always have this feeling of impending Doom like something bad is going to happen. I'm so sick of it. So sick of the anxiety. I want to beat this so thank you so much for making videos like this and trying to help people❤
@@Mia-666-mi please check out my 12 Week Breakthrough Program www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp
@lisaaromano1 thank you lisa
I had a wonderful childhood with two devoted parents who made sure I knew o was the center of their world. Unfortunately they had a terrible marriage
I see you, Lisa! ❤
Your knowledge and insight has truly helped me in my healing journey !! Thank you for sharing your gifts with us Lisa 🙏🏾🙏🏾
This clip has so many great one liners embedded in the awesome content!! “Where your thoughts go - your life goes” awesome video
Dang !!! You said things that are hitting home
My grandmother from dads side was an alcoholic. Only now at 60, when every person in my parental family has past away I realise big part of my ‘problems’ has to do with her alcoholism.. my dad only received love from his dad who committed suicide at an early age. My mom suffered from early dementia. But I am getting there. Thank you Lisa, from Amsterdam ❤
One of the clearest explanations of codependency I’ve found. Thank you
One of the greatest gifts my malignant narcissist father left was a copy of his memories. I read it and could not believe the degree to which his whole experience of his life was him. Me, my sister, my mother, his second wife, his parents and his three siblings barely receive a mention. Everything was about him. May he rest in peace and may our souls never cross paths again!
Love how you explain everything! Appreciate it!
Thank you for your videos. I am 43 yr old man who had no idea how much he buried and carried thru his life. I was shocked the first time I watched as it was like you were talking about me. Thank you for opening my eyes for the first time in my life.
Thank you so much Lisa for the work that you have done. I am running so much through your videos. I am a 62-year-old man and I have had a fair amount of therapy, like the way you have explained these things is so much like you are just reading my mind😍
This is so helpful! 😢I now understand why I act in a certain way, there way I do. Thank you Lisa.
Thank you for helping me understand why I attract Narcissists or Super religious which I’m not into either they like to control and I can’t ever give up my control again
This is one of your best videos.👌
Lisa, Thank you for being YOU!!! You are so incredibly article and convey your thoughts so precisely! I am so sorry for what you have gone through, but you are helping SO many people! You are beautiful outside and in. .
I appreciate your openness Lisa. I'm trying to heal, but I had to thoroughly Understand what I need to heal.. I thought my mom was only had babyblues. As an only child I am tangled with them, til now my dad lives in my house and he rearranged everything including the furnitures. I thought I was avoiding his Rage. To me, Love is a privillege, not everyone gets love. But since my business also went down, I knew it is my subcon sabotage. It is not about self Pity, we need to see the picture before we can get back to Normal and hv our life in control.. ❤ sending love from Indonesia.
I literally felt like you were talking to me in this video! I found myself nodding yes so many times listening to this amd it resonated so big with me! Thank you for your videos Lisa ❤️
Wow, this is the most accurate desription of being coodependant. Lady. You are awesome.
Thanks!
Thank you Lisa for fullfilling your mission, much gratitude, much Love💓💓💓
You are helping me so much. Thank you Lisa and God bless you.❤❤❤
Very clear...makes sense...how much is level 1? U told my story.
Just figured this out at 67 in a narcissistic marriage of 27 yrs😢
Thank you😊
If you take away the detail, it sounds like we had almost the same childhood and came to the same conclusions not aware that this wasn't just a part of everyone's life, though I'm male and when I gained size, fight became my only cope. This is very strange but helpful because you have so much more wisdom that I can believe and learn from.
Wow I could write this as my life story!
I don't have to imagine it unfor tunatelly I live that every day. I am deeply sorry that u went through this awful sensations and feelings but I am happy u could succesfully recover from this.Thank u so much for sharing this. I feel that I am looking at myself in a mirror...Can u sha ke me so I awaken? This is an every day nightmare 24/7... except when I sleep n' sometimes not even there I can be free!!.😢💔
From Uganda
Wow, for almost 60... you look amazing! Thank you for the video, just found your channel❤
This is hard to overcome indeed I've basically given up but quite happy to
I’ve been exactly where you are. Get some really good help with this. I’m telling you that you can’t do it alone. Keep loving on your kids in the meantime. Remember that you are modeling principles, values and integrity, so treat there mother with respect. You may be the only one who can teach your kids these values. Don’t cry in front of your kids. Look for online groups. Stay on this path, seek to learn what your childhood programming was. 12 step meetings are the first place you might look to hear how others handle this process. Good luck.
Such a great video… thank you!! You explain codependency so well, I too, was in a narcissistic relationship in my first marriage due to my parents. I’m on my healing journey and thankfully have found you & journaling.
Love this Lisa. So helpful to my understanding of my codependent history
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. It is such a relief knowing that there is an explanation for my mother's behavior. She passed. I forgave her. But now, I need to work on my recovery. Amazing information.
Thank you!!!Lisa. Excellent, professional and easy way to share your experiences with us .
I had all my relationships codependency, I am in my journey to heal.
I do not do that anymore!
Amazing Talk here - this entire talk is 100% relatable and True Freedom is on the other side of it all after doing the work. Thank You for Your Clarity in every word. 62 yrs. old here. Always Learning. Been working on it for years now. Best work anyone will ever do .
God and prayer will help how to deal with theses narcissistic people
Thank you so much Lisa!
Thanks!
thanks this is a great video, gonna have to watch it a few times to absorb it all
and "i'll be 60" i honestly thought you were like, 42!
Your such a treasure, Lisa!
Lisa you have a gift of explaining things in such a beautiful and logical way! I feel so much like I have had the same wounded little girl view of love. Hoping that as I overcome codependency I can attract a good man to come even if I am in my 50's.
I came across you couple of days ago, and already have learned so much.
To be able to understand brings to much relief. Next step is to practice that will bring freedom.
THANK YOU SO MUCH for your time, and care 🙏
As soon as I can afford your course, I will take it.
Your amazing Lisa
Almost 60? My sincere compliments.
Michelle you are the most CLEAR CUT professional on codependency that I HAVE EVER HEARD! Thank you so much. If I wasnt lacking money I would just gift you for the knowledge. Thank you for all you do~
@@Mindsetolympics my name is Lisa but that’s okay❤️ I appreciate you❤️
Much gratitude 🙏🏾
This is so helpful. Thank you.
Ha ha to me, thinking i have overcome codependency because i have overcome and lived thru so much and come out on the other side. Haha. AND YET A HOLE IN ME IS SAD AND I HAVE BEEN STUCK NOT KNOWING HOW DO I GET OUT OF THIS AND MOVE ON. WHY AM I STILL STUCK? THAT IS HOW I HAVE BEEN WALKING AROUND. feeling alone and stuck.
"A thought disease"... I have been Desperately trying to open the door and connect to my authentic self. 😢yet i don't/ didn'tt know why i am stuck. I don't even know i am still operating from those thoughts. From those stinkin feelings self perception thoughts. I'm behing the glass. 😢
Thank you Lisa.
You are amazing. ❤
Self abandonment and people pleasing, never staying in my own energy no wonder none of the relationships we get into work out
23:27 - 24:55
I love and respect your truth
My grade two lesson from the priest we called “ father” for religious class, said we had to strive to B E perfect. Be perfect in the eyes of god. So my gr two mind said you can’t make errors.
Thank you for this! God bless your heart!
Thank you ❤
Wow Lisa! You got your own business going? You must have had some schooling? That’s awesome!😊You have been so encouraging to me. Your life sounds so much like mine. I took Cosmetology and I felt so backwards and people scared me. I got so sick for so many years! But now I do not put up with the crap and controlling individuals. I could not continue with cutting hair because the smells made me sick! So I am still here and he’s still a narcissist! I wish I could leave!