With the third story, "awkward" silence especially with a good friend isn't always a bad thing. There is something beautiful about being able to chill out in silence but still enjoy eachothers company. Silence doesn't mean you are bad at social skills it could mean you guys are comfortable with eachother. Awkward silence with people who you don't know, oh yeah awkward. But what OP is describing is different, something I've experienced, and it's good to embrace it. And if it really makes you feel uncomfortable talk it out, sometimes people need reassurance so it's okay to ask if things are okay.
thats exactly what i was thinking, its not awkward silence - its comfortable silence; I used to feel this way and I asked my friend abt it and she was like no dude we just know each other SO WELL at this point we don't need to entertain each other every second
Definitely! Sometimes the silence shows how comfortable you are. Like me and Justin going out to dinner and just not talking and people watching instead 😅
I was coming to comment same thing, if you are comfortable with people you are with it should not be awkward, just silence and you can talk with people to the end of world but people who you can be in silence comfortable are the real ones. It's not normal to be talking all the time so OP should change their attitude about it or ask from the friend about it (for example does the friend feel it awkward or something like that, maybe not with those words).. I have stopped socializing with people who I can't be in silence sometimes and I have only good friends left.. ofcourse with new people it is different, because it takes time to start being comfortable with new people
Yeah, I mean I study with my friends and I realized trying to fill the silence was worse than just letting it happen. Now it’s comfortable, it just takes time and getting to know each other
Exactly. My sister (best friend of 20+ yrs) and I can sit in complete silence and it's never awkward. We always have the best time and enjoy each other's company no matter what. It's the best friendship I've ever had.
I love you guys and have been a follower for awhile with the THT, just a bit of input with the awkward silence story. My 3 best friends and I have been best friends for 10+ years and some of our most favorite things about or friendships is we just sit in silence and enjoy each other's energy. I know it sounds weird but the relationships I can sit in silence and still recharge my battery while being in someone else's presence is invaluable.
Highly recommend the meet up app. You can find different events that you like to do (kayaking thrifting trivia night) I’ve met a couple friends that way! Also it’s a usually a group setting so the pressure is a little lighter than one on one also you’ll be doing something
I wish I could talk thru my friendship issue with you two!! So much to it that it can't really be written out in a reasonable way. My best friend/sister of 15 years is distant now because her dad decided he didn't like me anymore when her kids wanted to stay with me for a weekend instead of going with him. I've never felt so devastated. He won.
@Father Knows Something we've talked about it all, she knows how I feel. And I know that it's not intentional. Her family dynamics are difficult, and she can't/won't say no to them.
Staring from minute 26:48 is honestly something I needed to hear back in middle school & high school. It was only until the past year or 2 that I’ve been able to truly understand this.
Dear Story 4 writer, recently I had a similar "problem" with one of my close friends. She is getting married next September and planning has started. I asked her if I could come dress shopping with her, she clearly said no, I was very hurt by that, but understood. After a few days of distance I told her that I was very hurt by her saying that with such confidence not even hiding her being annoyed, that I asked her that. She apologized immediately and said she didn't want to hurt me, she was just sure who she would bring and having a plus 1 adds to the cost. Moral of the story, be honest about it, and tell your friend this was very hurtful to you and maybe consider stepping away from the friendship. This is something he can only apologize for and he sadly can't change that you were not present on the big day. I am sorry you had this experience.
i personally love cardio and feel it’s a huge stress reliever. i feel morgan could of just yeah cardio or you can also try .. like all exercises is great for your body and mental health
For the last story the wife may be upset at the reminder of the fact that he could die. I didn’t pay attention to the gender of the writer and don’t want to assume the wife is jealous or bitter. I’m married to a Leo and when he did store security for the store I work at Christmas Eve the store manager made a joke I didn’t appreciate. My husband said merry Christmas to me and I turned about and was joking with him and was like ugh your gonna see me tomorrow. The store manager goes maybe you will maybe you won’t…… I looked at him and said I will. He’s my husband. He said Ik. I didn’t appreciate him trying to joke I might not see my husband the next day. I fully understand he was trying to be funny, but everyday my husband puts his uniform and badge on could be the last time I see him. I don’t like a reminder that this could be the last moment I have with my spouse. So the wife may have taken it that way. Or she could just be jealous of the writer. Who knows.
Most of the time I agree with Morgan, but sometimes I think she gets overly defensive when it comes to parents & their kids, like the step-parent is always a dick if they dont immediately step into a parent role. I've been the child who has been abandoned by their parent for their partner, but I've also had a partner (20 year age gap) who has kids from a previous marriage who live in another country, the eldest a year younger than me. He changed his mind about having more kids, and him not wanting to share those things/have a family with me hurt more than being abandoned as a child. Maybe it's the fact that I dont get to have that sense of family as a kid or as an adult that hurts. I broke up with him btw, but my point is, cut some of these women some slack...they aren't all monsters.
Okay so for The last Story I do not agree with Morgan and her dad. Let that friendship go. You make his wife uncomfortable. she is under the impression that you have feelings for her husband. And you let her think that for five years. You already said that you don't think they're good together. So if you don't support their marriage why would you get an invite to the wedding? People want to have fun at their wedding. These two obviously want just very close friends and family. And his wife has met you once. If you wanted an invite you should have made an effort to reach out sooner and squash the beef with his wife. But you don't like her. You have no interest in being friends with her. You just want her husband to be in your life. Look at it from the wife's perspective. Would you want some girl your husband was close with, who doesn't support your relationship, and who has made no effort to get to know you in five years at your wedding? She still texts your husband, still misses him. Still wants him literally between her and her groom at her wedding. But doesn't even have the courtesy to address making a scene at his going away party? Doesn't address it and apologize for making them uncomfortable? Hasn't for five years explained if her feelings were romantic or not. Has no interest in connecting with the wife/gf while the bf was deployed. And that's her while impression of you. And it's your fault. No you're not getting an invite to the wedding so you can make the bride uncomfortable. Noone wants that. Not her not him and not their loved ones. In this only makes it more complicated if he ever did have feelings for you. How upset do you think he was that you waited until he was in a happy relationship and leaving to tell him about your feelings? Now him and his girlfriend are in a long-distance relationship and his best girlfriend gave him and his gf the impression she has feelings too. Messy. And leaving that sitting for five years. Messier. You ain't no friend of his and he has zero obligation to you. If you do message him I would suggest saying congratulations and you're sorry for not being in their lives. You want to be in their lives going forward and you're ready to try and make an effort to get to know and like the wife. If you can't do that. Can't go in with an open mind about them being good for eachother or not. Then stay away.
exactly!! you said it perfectly. boundaries are important to have a good relationship. friendships won’t be the same because your priority should be your partner and this “friend” doesn’t seem to understand that and idk why the wife is being presented as insecure
@@hayamirin6795 The bride has enough to do without arranging a lunch for her fiance's friend that fell off five years ago and doesn't like her. This person has main character syndrome. She moved on with her life until her former friend got engaged. She needs to move on. And take the L. Maybe she can learn to treat her current friends better.
@@jackfr00t right?! it's rediculous. If my husband's friend from five years ago messaged me saying they want an invite to our wedding after we didn't hear from them for five years? Girl or Guy no thank you. But a girl from the past who doesn't like me? Triple the fuck no. With the cost Pp making everything higher? Take your selfish ass outta here! My husband would have been so pissed 😂 like wow so all I had to do to hear from you was get engaged?;
For the awkward silence story - is there a local improv class you could join? Working on improvisational skills is a great way to help you get comfy in silences and think on the spot. Plus you can make cool friends in improv classes too 🤍
With the third story, "awkward" silence especially with a good friend isn't always a bad thing. There is something beautiful about being able to chill out in silence but still enjoy eachothers company. Silence doesn't mean you are bad at social skills it could mean you guys are comfortable with eachother. Awkward silence with people who you don't know, oh yeah awkward. But what OP is describing is different, something I've experienced, and it's good to embrace it. And if it really makes you feel uncomfortable talk it out, sometimes people need reassurance so it's okay to ask if things are okay.
thats exactly what i was thinking, its not awkward silence - its comfortable silence; I used to feel this way and I asked my friend abt it and she was like no dude we just know each other SO WELL at this point we don't need to entertain each other every second
Definitely! Sometimes the silence shows how comfortable you are. Like me and Justin going out to dinner and just not talking and people watching instead 😅
I was coming to comment same thing, if you are comfortable with people you are with it should not be awkward, just silence and you can talk with people to the end of world but people who you can be in silence comfortable are the real ones. It's not normal to be talking all the time so OP should change their attitude about it or ask from the friend about it (for example does the friend feel it awkward or something like that, maybe not with those words).. I have stopped socializing with people who I can't be in silence sometimes and I have only good friends left.. ofcourse with new people it is different, because it takes time to start being comfortable with new people
Yeah, I mean I study with my friends and I realized trying to fill the silence was worse than just letting it happen. Now it’s comfortable, it just takes time and getting to know each other
Exactly. My sister (best friend of 20+ yrs) and I can sit in complete silence and it's never awkward. We always have the best time and enjoy each other's company no matter what. It's the best friendship I've ever had.
I love you guys and have been a follower for awhile with the THT, just a bit of input with the awkward silence story. My 3 best friends and I have been best friends for 10+ years and some of our most favorite things about or friendships is we just sit in silence and enjoy each other's energy. I know it sounds weird but the relationships I can sit in silence and still recharge my battery while being in someone else's presence is invaluable.
Make the episodes longer please 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲 we miss you ❤️❤️
WINNIPEG MANITOBA BABY! Hahah died laughing when you mentioned it😂
Highly recommend the meet up app. You can find different events that you like to do (kayaking thrifting trivia night) I’ve met a couple friends that way! Also it’s a usually a group setting so the pressure is a little lighter than one on one also you’ll be doing something
Thank you for all the advice in this episode! I'm definitely going to start looking for classes in my community to make new friends.
I wish I could talk thru my friendship issue with you two!! So much to it that it can't really be written out in a reasonable way. My best friend/sister of 15 years is distant now because her dad decided he didn't like me anymore when her kids wanted to stay with me for a weekend instead of going with him. I've never felt so devastated. He won.
Ugh I'm sorry. Have you tried sitting down and talking with her yet?
@Father Knows Something we've talked about it all, she knows how I feel. And I know that it's not intentional. Her family dynamics are difficult, and she can't/won't say no to them.
Staring from minute 26:48 is honestly something I needed to hear back in middle school & high school. It was only until the past year or 2 that I’ve been able to truly understand this.
42:17 "im curious, im baffled" Jerry is so funny he has me cracking up every episode
Dear Story 4 writer,
recently I had a similar "problem" with one of my close friends. She is getting married next September and planning has started. I asked her if I could come dress shopping with her, she clearly said no, I was very hurt by that, but understood. After a few days of distance I told her that I was very hurt by her saying that with such confidence not even hiding her being annoyed, that I asked her that. She apologized immediately and said she didn't want to hurt me, she was just sure who she would bring and having a plus 1 adds to the cost. Moral of the story, be honest about it, and tell your friend this was very hurtful to you and maybe consider stepping away from the friendship. This is something he can only apologize for and he sadly can't change that you were not present on the big day. I am sorry you had this experience.
I was shook when you mentioned Winnipeg Manitoba, Lmfao nobody ever talks about us. It really is hard to make friends with people out here
Agreed! The pandemic made it so much worse 🫠
No literally, from NS and you never hear about us. Canadian things
Write of the last story! I think you should invite the wife out for lunch and clear the air!
Always look forward to these!
Those couches are awesome
The earliest I've even been! Jerry's insights are amazing!
He does have some of the best words of wisdom
Hi Jerry, Justin, Morgan, and Holly!!!
Ok WPG shout out!!
2nd story was too relatable but the feedback from you guys was great
i personally love cardio and feel it’s a huge stress reliever. i feel morgan could of just yeah cardio or you can also try ..
like all exercises is great for your body and mental health
I didn’t think we were going to get one this week! ❤
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❤❤❤ glad to be one of the first viewers 🎉
Me too!! Means so much to have you join us!
Happy thanksgiving!!!
For the last story the wife may be upset at the reminder of the fact that he could die. I didn’t pay attention to the gender of the writer and don’t want to assume the wife is jealous or bitter. I’m married to a Leo and when he did store security for the store I work at Christmas Eve the store manager made a joke I didn’t appreciate. My husband said merry Christmas to me and I turned about and was joking with him and was like ugh your gonna see me tomorrow. The store manager goes maybe you will maybe you won’t…… I looked at him and said I will. He’s my husband. He said Ik. I didn’t appreciate him trying to joke I might not see my husband the next day. I fully understand he was trying to be funny, but everyday my husband puts his uniform and badge on could be the last time I see him. I don’t like a reminder that this could be the last moment I have with my spouse. So the wife may have taken it that way. Or she could just be jealous of the writer. Who knows.
Most of the time I agree with Morgan, but sometimes I think she gets overly defensive when it comes to parents & their kids, like the step-parent is always a dick if they dont immediately step into a parent role. I've been the child who has been abandoned by their parent for their partner, but I've also had a partner (20 year age gap) who has kids from a previous marriage who live in another country, the eldest a year younger than me. He changed his mind about having more kids, and him not wanting to share those things/have a family with me hurt more than being abandoned as a child. Maybe it's the fact that I dont get to have that sense of family as a kid or as an adult that hurts. I broke up with him btw, but my point is, cut some of these women some slack...they aren't all monsters.
Okay so for The last Story I do not agree with Morgan and her dad. Let that friendship go. You make his wife uncomfortable. she is under the impression that you have feelings for her husband. And you let her think that for five years. You already said that you don't think they're good together. So if you don't support their marriage why would you get an invite to the wedding? People want to have fun at their wedding. These two obviously want just very close friends and family. And his wife has met you once. If you wanted an invite you should have made an effort to reach out sooner and squash the beef with his wife. But you don't like her. You have no interest in being friends with her. You just want her husband to be in your life. Look at it from the wife's perspective. Would you want some girl your husband was close with, who doesn't support your relationship, and who has made no effort to get to know you in five years at your wedding? She still texts your husband, still misses him. Still wants him literally between her and her groom at her wedding. But doesn't even have the courtesy to address making a scene at his going away party? Doesn't address it and apologize for making them uncomfortable? Hasn't for five years explained if her feelings were romantic or not. Has no interest in connecting with the wife/gf while the bf was deployed. And that's her while impression of you. And it's your fault. No you're not getting an invite to the wedding so you can make the bride uncomfortable. Noone wants that. Not her not him and not their loved ones. In this only makes it more complicated if he ever did have feelings for you. How upset do you think he was that you waited until he was in a happy relationship and leaving to tell him about your feelings? Now him and his girlfriend are in a long-distance relationship and his best girlfriend gave him and his gf the impression she has feelings too. Messy. And leaving that sitting for five years. Messier. You ain't no friend of his and he has zero obligation to you. If you do message him I would suggest saying congratulations and you're sorry for not being in their lives. You want to be in their lives going forward and you're ready to try and make an effort to get to know and like the wife. If you can't do that. Can't go in with an open mind about them being good for eachother or not. Then stay away.
exactly!! you said it perfectly. boundaries are important to have a good relationship. friendships won’t be the same because your priority should be your partner and this “friend” doesn’t seem to understand that and idk why the wife is being presented as insecure
I disagree. I think she should invite the wife out for lunch and talk
@@hayamirin6795 The bride has enough to do without arranging a lunch for her fiance's friend that fell off five years ago and doesn't like her. This person has main character syndrome. She moved on with her life until her former friend got engaged. She needs to move on. And take the L. Maybe she can learn to treat her current friends better.
@@jackfr00t right?! it's rediculous. If my husband's friend from five years ago messaged me saying they want an invite to our wedding after we didn't hear from them for five years? Girl or Guy no thank you. But a girl from the past who doesn't like me? Triple the fuck no. With the cost Pp making everything higher? Take your selfish ass outta here! My husband would have been so pissed 😂 like wow so all I had to do to hear from you was get engaged?;
@@rebeccah4177 No
Second, Hi!
Hello there :)
I know I’m late but the last write in …maybe she doesn’t know she’s a “pick me girl” and the wife can’t stand her lol idk just my guess ..😅
i thought morgan no longer worked as an OT? or is back in the field? just because she talked about it like it was in present time
I don't think she's currently working in OT but I'm sure she's still maintaining all her credentials so she could get back into it
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The vibes seem tired 🥺
I'm always tired :/ I had 2 coffees before this too
@@TwoHotTakes it's comforting for me to see that other people get tired too tbh (though I didn't feel that you were tired)
I kind of enjoyed the tired slower vibe… probably because that is where I am at this morning
For the person who wrote the second story; they should try medicinal cannabis!
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First? Really?
Eek so happy you're here!!
For the awkward silence story - is there a local improv class you could join? Working on improvisational skills is a great way to help you get comfy in silences and think on the spot. Plus you can make cool friends in improv classes too 🤍