Father Knows: Nagging Feelings Part 1
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- Опубликовано: 18 окт 2024
- Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD.
This episode features write-ins from people that are having some nagging feelings and problems, and is the first trio episode we've done! A couple of the stories will leave you heated (or at least it left Morgan feeling that way)! And be sure to be back for part 2 because it gets even better..
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About changing careers...just think about how many years you have until retirement (around 65, I think). Even if you do graduate at 33, that's still another lifetime of working! Change at 50, you still have 15 years. Just do whatever makes you happy!
That's very true!
True. I see what you are saying. Its always good to do the best thing for your health and what will make you happy.
But at the same time, the flip side of that, is thinking about how many years you have until retirement and can you AFFORD to swtich careers and re-train?
Going back to collage and/or switching careers you will start from the bottom of the ladder again, earn less and put less money away into your pension.
Even if you can afford the pay cut currently, can you pension pot afford the pay cut? Will this screw you over later on, when you are retired?
Just some things to think about on the flip side.
@@xwinwinwinxI’m 28 and have switched careers at least 3 times already, and each time it’s literally starting from rock bottom. No seniority, your savings deplete quickly, and I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to afford a home. It’s a beautiful thought that you can switch as much as you want, but it’s true that it’s maybe not feasible for everyone
For the story of the baby gate, it’s just laziness and pure toxic masculinity! IF HE WANTED TO HE WOULD! Op is just telling us about the baby gate, who knows what else husband is not doing! He probably doesn’t help with feedings and diaper changes. And yes I’m talking from experience. I had to build my baby’s swing, crib, closet and bed while having a man by my side. Now I’m my own handyman but I take pride in it lol I’ll make sure my son grows up to be a handyman a house cleaner, mechanic and a very useful human being.
i adore how jerry looks at morgan with pride knowing his daughter has a great head on her shoulders
My mom (age 50+) at the start of covid (2020) got breast cancer, she was fired from her job (she’s worked with media and communication all her life) and her life got tuff. With lots of meds and some better days of her sickness she started to take classes in yoga therapy. She got super interested in yoga and everything that comes with it. Now she is cancer free and have started her own yoga clinic, where she helps people (mostly those going through breast cancer) to feel better. And enjoys what she’s doing :))
This is amazing. So so happy she’s health and has found her calling. Thanks for sharing ❤️ -M
Your mom is an inspiration and validates whatI was saying on the podcast. Hey your mom have continued good health as her happiness will help facilitate that.. xo J
Justin got very passionate about the change of careers story. He made some great points and it was clearly heartfelt 💗
That was really good advice for the person who’s cat passed away. I have an older kitty and his health hasn’t been great this past year so the fact that one day I’ll lose him is every present in my thoughts. I appreciated this advice as well. I have no family (orphan) and don’t live in the city my friends live in. With Covid it’s been a rather lonely 2 years. I needed this advice today. Thank you
So happy we reach you and are able to provide some comfort 🤍 I’m actually putting my dog down tomorrow due to cancer and had no idea how much I needed this advice too -M
I just would like to reach out and thank you Jerry for being able to put into words something my father didn't know how to. The advice about the kitty actually hit me pretty hard, I had to make the decision to put my 7 year old (I've had him since he was 6 weeks old.) GSD down due to his worsening allergy's on 2/11. I recorded the bit about there is another animal that needs your love as much as you need theirs and sent it to my own father -- his response was "that man is a man of wisdom, I wish I could buy him a drink (or soda) for giving you that push and comfort." Thank y'all so much and thank you guys for hitting on even sensitive topics and helping people all over. Also -- my heart goes out to you Morgan, we have the same love of GSD's and hearing about you having to make that decision as well really hit home when I was listing to THTs.
Beth, recognize that your story was presented to me like a day or two before my sons took Bear to the Dr. You helped prepare me for being there for my family… thank you.
Baby gate
Thanks Morgan, great advice child safety is none negotiable. Love your podcast!
Jerry and Justin are the perfect combo !
About the community volunteering … my family owned nursing homes and from as young as I can remember my sisters and I would go to activities and visit the elderly patients and place games and eat lunch.. it made their days. We spent summers hanging out with the patients.
This is the earliest I've ever been. I don't know how to feel!
You’re going to love Part 2
Love this episode! Specially the story with the baby gate. I found it so interesting and very relatable! I was thinking just like Morgan, but Jerry’s take on it was actually very insightful. Maybe a little push and help from his partner can actually give him confidence to actually change that insecurity.
Seeing forward to part 2!
my jaw was on the floor when you were reading the first question! i am in exactly the same position i am studying teaching to be a high school art teacher and i absolutely love the kids and teaching and seeing the students understand or get something or learn something new about themselves. i am very passionate about that. but the education system really feels exhausting to work within, like the writer said most of the work is prep and marking and grunt work. your answers really made a lot of sense to me and solidified my resolve and passion to finish my degree and get my qualification and see where that takes me and what opportunities come up. thank you guys!
Okay the whole "we didnt have a dad to show us" bit is annoying. You want to learn, you will learn. I laughed so hard when yall said youtube it! My husband does this for a lot of mechanical work. It is really just mindblowing how much information is freely on youtube.
Okay but for some reason I think it was really cute when Morgan was pretty much like "okay I should stop talking now" when she was talking about the book lol
The baby gate couple, the husband is words of affirmation. There is a great example of this scenario in the five love languages book. He won’t do task around the house because she doesn’t show appreciation and now it has snowballed into him procrastinating. She should start hyping him up when he does little task and that will encourage him to do more projects in a timely manner… love the podcast!
The cat story hit so close to home... I lost one of my cats in a very similar way back in October and, even though we did everything we could, and we were with him and loved him until his last moments, I still feel guilty about not being able to do more to help him, and I still miss him every day. God I'm crying just writing about him. Thank you guys so much for those beautiful words; even though I didn't send this story, everything you said got to me and brings a smile to my face, knowing that he still got to live a good life, and that those short years he was with us, we gave him all the love we had inside us
I’m currently finishing an accelerated second degree program to get my BSN and become a registered nurse. I started at 29 and will graduate at 31. It’s never too late to switch gears and change careers no matter what point of life you’re in. The end goal is to find something that makes you happy!
the story about losing your cat really hit home. i’m in such a similar boat, ie rocky home life and minimal friends/support. my kitty “prim” was my baby and i lost her unexpectedly to health issues last year. the pain was immense and so hard to get through, and it truly took time and giving my love to a new kitten (that i got a few months later) to fully heal. i also resonate with the guilt and feeling like you could’ve done more. i even had a vet tell me i should’ve taken her in for checkups more, however i’m a college student and wasn’t working due to covid and could not afford it. she was showing no signs of sickness up until it happened. i was sick with remorse, however now i know that vet was out of line. you saying “you’re not god” made me bawl my eyes out because i wish i someone told me that when i blamed myself. i’m crying as i write this, but not in a bad way, i just feel so touched by your loving words and i thank you.
i never cry at videos but wow the cat one made me cry so much i cant stop😢
These are so entertaining , I love you guys!! Wishing you the best. 😊💕
Just in time!! I loveee loveeeee you guys!!
I’ve been really enjoying this podcast. I came from THT and this is so welcome as I don’t have a close relationship with my parents. Thank you for sharing your advice with us. I would love to write in and hope mine may be chosen
Write it and send it in… In Instagram I think you can IM me directly. I will answer you. Please give me as many facts so I can process the question fully. J
Pet loss. I have lost 3 pets within the last year and a half. I got them all around the same time. So it was inevitable. But what helped me most was adopting a new pet soon after. I didn’t “replace” my pets. No one could say I didn’t love those babies with everything in me. But it helped my other pets cope and in turn, really helped me. I know this isn’t the norm. I just want to say for anyone who feels they’ll be judged for “replacing” a pet. You know your heart, and your intentions. Do what is best for you. My house is not a home without pets! There is no better feeling than giving a pet the best home possible.
How fucked up am I that I have been listening to this podcast/RUclips for a couple weeks, and the only one that brought tears to my eyes was the one who lost her cat?
But the reassurance from y’all about how my boy has completed his mission and now it’s up to me to carry on his spirit towards another animal provides me peace. Thank you. I am fortunate that I have people in my life that let me love on their animals. In my town, people incarcerated by the city provide care and loves for the animals in the shelter, so I can’t volunteer down there. My situation is, I am in a rental, no pets allowed. Not even a fish. Animals provide me the total love, not dependent upon my social skills or my ability to calm myself down around other human beings.
Humans tend to be manipulative. Animals are, but in a completely funny and obvious way…(huskies).
I trust an animal way more than humans. I know this is off topic, but just rambling….
So psyched that I found this podcast ! I’ve been digging to see if there was a THT episode I might have missed when I stumbled upon this gold mine
i die at your dads dad jokes HAHAHAHHA
Hi!
I have been watching Morgan’s videos, I think I have seen all of them, and I just stumbled on this series. I love them! I just wanted to give a small opinion on the title of this channel. I feel as though it doesn’t sound quite right. Everyone has heard of the “Father Knows Best” title because of the popular sitcom in the ‘50s and I can see why you played on that title. It has nostalgia. But maybe if you kept it to “Father Knows” and left it at that because that’s simple and sweet, or make it “Father Does Know Something” where adding the “Does” shows that, despite how every new generation feels as though the older generations are clueless, they have life experience and turns out, they actually do know what they’re talking about when giving advice. I feel as though either of those two options would help it to stick or catch in people’s mind.
Regardless, I love your content and I know this is an unsolicited opinion. I can’t wait to keep watching! - Cristina
For the first story- I've always dreamed of being a teacher because of the sense of community, nostalgia and even just the little things like the classrooms around Christmas time. But I've always known i couldn't handle the full time job of teaching, so I started co-oping at a daycare in high school and that filled my heart with so much joy💕
Cat story)- I was literally listening to this my trying to keep occupied and kept think about if there was an episode with a story with a cat loss because I just lost mine due to a urinary blockage and I feel so guilty and he was only 2 years old … he was my everything
The baby gate you can put them up with out the drill most of the time . Like you just tighten it to the wall and have to keep an eye on it more but they still work with. I have 3 baby gates and all 3 are out up with out the drilling and I have cats jumping on them and been using them and they work fine .
For the person who's cat passed: your kitty doesn't hold anything against you. They have passed on and don't remember any pain or anything that you feel you are guilty about. I know when they pass they still love you, because I know exactly which hamster sends me my new ones lol. I hope you're doing okay
My children's favorite animal is the sloth. They are from South America. Lol They can actually swim pretty fast and even though they are slow they can take on most of their predators with their sharp claws.
Completely weird unrelated fact baby Koalas have to eat their moms poop so they can digest eucalyptus leaves since they are so toxic.
We don't have sloths in Australia 🤣🤣🤣
South America she saw, for sure
Hahahaha shit I think I’m thinking of Koalas. I’m dying 😂 -M
Caitlyn , that said then Australia is a great place to send Morgan on a Sloth hunt…. LOL
The Worlds Sloth population wins ….
Man, this is deep... deeper than I thought it would be... on this channel anyway 😀...??honestly... I'm not sure why...?
Definitely going to watch more. Thank You!
Love your guys’ energy together
Challenge the national debt with your education….. I felt that …. 😢
That first person should look into various library work. I've done teens, children, bookmobile and other stuff. Lots of human contact and depending on the job less or more prep time.
my esa puppy Bear died when he was 8 months old and went to get neutered.. i think about him everyday but needed to get a new best friend after he died because i could not live my life without a dog once i experienced his love everyday unconditionally . I often feel guilt for 1. taking him to get neutered that day and 2. for getting a new dog mostly due to comments that some immature college students make ( i'm 20.5 lol). But i know he loved me more than anything.. separation anxiety unfortunately but all he wanted was for me to be happy. he was so special and everyone who he met loved him immediately. I feel months later that i would still be crying everyday without having honey to raise. my roommate at the time also got a puppy because honey literally fell into my lap (a dude w a lot of puppies) and we got close and i also helped raise her pup because hey did this before! i will never forget my baby bear.. he would have been one january 7th....he helped me through soooo much in the short time he had on earth. he helped me through my breast reduction and major self growth. he taught me so much and now my cancer♋️ high ass is crying in bed with honey! gonna go cuddle her now
Hiiiiii love you guys from algeria 🇩🇿and Jerry is amazing he reminds me of my dad
He must be my brother from another mother…
Ps, Thank you
19:37 Cats are bad asses. They pretend like nothing is wrong until something is and it's too late to do anything.
Dont need a dad to be mechanical. My single mom and I (plus 6 kids) did everything from building, plumbing, woodchopping, gardening, flooring growing up.
I GOT A GARDENER TOO! Yet I kill plants.. definitely not right
OMG that “bidding” concept…. What’s the name of the book again?
What makes love last by John Gottman :)
I am also in college to teach and I am having a very hard time with this as well. I originally started college for social work but quickly realised that it would be draining because there is only so much I am able to do and it would be heartbreaking to see children that I am unable to help. I then switched to an elementary education major and now I don't know what to do. It is going on 6 years now (stopped school for a while when I went through my divorce) and I am about a year away from graduating but I don't know what I am going to do yet.
As a former teacher…don’t do it! You also get paid crap and treated like trash. Substitute while you go to Graduate School for something else!!! (And buy insurance through your school). Consider Guidance Counseling like Morgan said. Or Library Science. Also consider teaching another age (like Pre-K. For example, I’d work with toddlers instead of preteens again in a heartbeat).
The woman who's husband won't do things around the house and gets upset when another man does it. Tell him on a Friday night (or their equivalent of a Friday) i need this task done, if its not done by Monday I'm bringing someone else in. Then the wife should ask on Facebook marketplace for a woman who can do what she needs. He can't be angry she got help he can only be upset with himself because he didn't do it first.
No education is wasted. You always pick up things that are helpful even if you do a completely different job.
This first story already kills me. Kids can take on 10s and 100s of thousands in student loans as brand new adults, but colleges dont even have a duty to realistically portray the career or industry they're choosing? That should be literally required prior to kids signing for loans. Just ethically, its insane that most kids dont see the reality of their career until well after the student loan companies and and colleges have siphoned every penny.
Imagine paying 100,000 for your idea of what a video game system is but you dont really know, and the seller COULD show you it right there before purchase to ensure its what you want, but nah, 4 years later you're contending with a jumanji board game and you don't even get to meet Robin williams. You'd feel a lil swindled.
Very thankful my parents only had girls so I was forced to hold the flash light or hold the board while he drilled it, being able to learn that crap myself.
There is a channel called things your dad never taught you or something made specifically for that last story
I was a teacher and became a school counselor. Keep in mind that school counselors are required to have a master’s degree in counseling. :)
Jerry, are you a pastor? You said “people aren’t congregating anymore”, so I’m just curious. If so, I’m even more astounded at your openness and progressiveness (although I realize you said “business” and “customers”)
No I’m not a Pastor, I created unique art mixed with electronics for religious institutions .
He makes/made memorial boards for jewish synagogues :)
The first story, she said it’s her SECOND degree, which implies the last time she got a degree she changed her mind. It almost sounds more like an inability to stick to something, probably at least partially due to not knowing herself and/or the field well enough. You can’t make a career out of going to school. She has two degrees. She should start applying to places she’s considering and do something temporary - 3 months at each place or something - until she finds where she wants to be. But changing her mind right near the end sounds more like it’s something to do with her and not the career
I’d like to follow this up by saying, anyone who is getting a masters or phd tend to say so - by her calling it her “second degree” makes it sound like a second bachelors.
Maybe it was a language barrier? I think she may have meant grief - not guilt?
To the person who needs help with things around the house there is a RUclips page called "Dad how do i" he also grew up without a father
I love the comments about changing careers. My dad did a year and a half of undergrad, left school to tour with a rock band, lived in Japan as a buddhist monk, came back to the US to finish undergrad and go to medical school, was an ER doc in a trauma center, a prison doctor, and then became a family medicine doctor. At 73 he's still practicing medical hypnosis because he's so passionate about it. I think it's healthy and normal to change your mind and alter course with your career and interests!
Wow talk about a guy that's done it all! What an incredible life and careers.
sloths are from south america
Does Phoebe buffay love jacques cousteau?
Is Morgan okay? 🥲♥️
I'm good but part 2 is getting uploaded right now and that one is even more intense