I want to emphasize respect in this video is equated to seeing and treating people as an equal. I know there are several definitions of respect but i use what is basically the bare minimum in this video.
Oh, we are certainly not equal to each other for many reasons, but that's not where respect comes from. You do not respect someone because it is your equal. Sometimes you respect them because you recognise that they are better than you. Also you can respect them because you realise that they are worse than you, but they are trying to become better. Respect is earned in many ways. It cannot be demanded and it cannot be simply given as a "participation trophy" due to some perceived equality. Good manners and a decent behaviour, yes. Those should be a given. But respect? That's a level above basic civility.
@@ΤάσοςΚαυσοκαλυβίτηςGood manners and decent behaviors have been designed to respect each others in a community. We are not living in the Middle Age, now social rules must be oriented to respect everyone like humans.
@@Erz3 You are conflating a simple social norm with actual respect. If I come into the store you work and say "Hello, I'd like to buy something." that is just good manners. I do not know you, ergo I do not respect you, specifically. I just understand that you are there to do a job and I am there to be a customer. Mandatory respect for strangers will never happen. It is a contradiction in terms.
@@ΤάσοςΚαυσοκαλυβίτης And why do you say "hello"? Why are you been polite in that situation? Because you want not offend the other person with rude request. If you are been polite with people you not respect, you are been cynical or hypocrital.
People are so programmed, I was raised to think I was just wrong all the time, hushed up and sent to my room. Disrespect is how it's done, like we all live in a psychological prison and all you have is street cred and the tough guy act. Take care.
There is a harsh reality of life you must understand: most people are not going to respect you no matter what you do. The world doesn't care. Use this as fuel to better yourself. I speak from experience and a life of suffering. Don't worry I don't need your pity or want it--just trying to help.
Correct, I use this fuel to do what I like and better myself. I use to hate when people don’t respect me but two years ago I know that I can use it for the better without being dragged down by other’s opinions.
That's the most relatable thing, in contrary people respect the arrogant person more than the one who works to own it. "You've to earn it" is the most BS thing ever, it's more like "You've to demand it"
The moment you learn to respect yourself, people automatically change the way they engage with you. And i don't think it stays in just that. Goes deeper, and i think it comes to how reality actually is. You can change things outside actually, by changing them internaly first. Reality is absolutely malleable.
I love content like this. Key things ... - Live in the present, don't rely on the future or past. - Don't rely on external validation, internal (your) own validation is what matters. - Don't put people on a pedestal, value yourself first and foremost. Thanks for the vid 👌
People won't respect you if you're mentally fickle and passive. Like it or not, people WILL always test your composure and sense of self-respect. One of the things I had to learn the hard way is separating someone respecting you and someone who likes you. When I was in early 20s I fought and knocked out one of my former coworkers outside of work, because he was constantly playing power games with me and kept poking me with slick remarks. He thought we were cool because there were times where I would banter back, but there was a underline sense that he didn't respect me and it was hindering my job performance. I told him multiple times to stop playing with me, and he found out why after work. I'm a bit older and wiser now, where my sense of wanting to be be liked/loved has been replaced with a idgaf if you don't like me, talk about me behind my back, or ruined my chance of climbing up the social ladder, I will be that party pooper and lame who'll shut down any slick remarks or disrespect.
If you are honest, did it improve your sense of self-respect after what you did to your coworker? I am asking because I ALWAYS get stepped on by everyone and it is a vicious cycle where my self-respect and confidence get lower and lower because they see me not standing up for myself ( and I couldn't possibly stand up for myself because no one is going to respect someone shakingly and stutteringly stand up for themselves ) So sometimes THAT seems to be the only way to break the cycle.
I had the inverted problem growing up. I was treated as too much of an equal growing up; adults had waaay too high expectations of me. I was under a lot of pressure to work hard growing up, to the detriment of my childhood. As a result, I’ve kinda never learnt to say no; since expectations of me have always been high, and I’ve always fought hard to meet them, when someone asks me to do something (even if it’s not my responsibility) I tend to do it to my own detriment. The upside is that almost everyone I know (at least to my face) respects me a lot and treats me really well, but I’m in terminal fear of not meeting someone’s expectations. I worry that if I let one or two people down I’ll lose the respect and good treatment but still have the rather high expectations imposed on me, giving me the worst of both worlds. Honestly though, I just don’t know how long I can keep up with the ever-rising expectations of me. Every time it feels like I “made it” and reached what was expected of me, the bar feels like it moves higher, and I never get a moment of rest. And, unfortunately, I’m in an academic and career path where reputation and respect amongst peers really decide how successful you are.
People very often “disrespect” someone for extremely arbitrary reasons, to do with things out of their control, usually like how they look. This isn’t the person not respecting themselves (as to why others disrespect them), it’s something beyond their control and often something they are even oblivious too until others point it out.
there's 2 levels of respect, one is real respect like admiring, and the other is basic human treatment, some ppl are not allowed to have neither of them
@@npnd5112 that has nothing to do with my comment, unless you mean - for example - an ugly person deserves either type of respect (I was talking about disrespect based on things outside of their control).
After being raised to be well-mannered and respectful of others, I realized that alot of people were not taught to do that same or abandoned that way of thinking along time ago. I started to notice that I had developed a predictable nature and people would often knowingly use it against me to take advantage of my kindness. When that happens to you for the first time you start to see that the reason why people close to disrespect you is because it's all a game to them and your good nature usually means you're guaranteed to forgive them in the end no matter what they do. You'll start to realize that the reason why people ask you to do favours is because they know you are good-willed and will most likely end up helping them, often with little to no expense or effort on their part. Those are just a few examples I can think of but the nice guy/good guy/ persona is a nightmare to be caught up in. Once you have a reputation as a "good person" it will be very difficult to reclaim your self-respect. People will call you crazy and say you've snapped or possibly under the influence if you ever say no to them, try to set new boundaries or stand up and protect yourself.
Same here but honestly now I couldn't care less about other people, I think soceity as a whole is garbage and filled with entitled assholes who think the world revolves around them. I even come across these people at my job. I think there are some genuinely good people out there but those guys are very rare nowadays.
@VectomAnimal why are you attacking me? I only have a "uh actually 🤓 👆 " retort I can use here. Perfection is often misinterpreted as technical achievement, but to be perfect is to account for supposed imperfection. While a person ideas may be perfect, if in an imperfect environment with hostile,imperfect influence the final result may be technically flawed. People refuse perfection they don't see in themselves. It can be there, but rejected at all costs of another person's ego. So, when we say perfect, are we describing an abstract, finite image to achieve, or are we considering the rationalization that existences image is always improving in a rather video-like state. You attempt to do a hairstyle that looks slim on another person, however doesn't match the effect you were hoping for. Compared to the image of perfection you seek you have failed. However, in most cases, removed from the comparison, you often added your own, perfect, appeal to the hairstyle that is perfect for you. You are separate from others, while connected in shared reality, you have room for your own choice. This means that perfect is in fact different for everyone. There is no perfect that makes us all see, hear, and look the same. Most likely, perfect gives us all our own happy little experience. So, when you say I don't know perfect, I retort "uh actually 🤓 👆, perfect is qualified by the acknowledged reality of separate experience and therefore is at some point disregarded as imperfect by another perception whom lacks the perspectives to realize that specific perfection." Don't come at me. I'm gonna through my "fighting my demons" phase rn.
@VectomAnimal you sound like bane complaining out his mask. Why are you talking to me like I don't know something? Bro this feels like you're acting out some personal problem on me. So in order to be perfect you need to be surrounded by the imperfect? That's relativity. Leave me alone.
Damn this is real asf, i think u need to love yourself to being respected, if You don love You u gonna let the people being disrespectful with you, person whos reading this You are amazing, love yourself u are Unique in this world, be the better versión of You ❤
I bet you suffered a lot, and you got so many traumas as a child, like me, congratulations for making it as this far, even so i need to tell my self this first, i just dom't feel that working on myself, but i really liked your way of talking and everything, i enjoyed your video, try to sleep it is very important, i knew that you were deprived just from your eyes, looking from you more content, thanks for the riminder leilani❤
28 here and it always feels like no one really respects me as a person. From time to time, I feel like I've always been treated like I'm the laughingstock of the entire world by almost everyone. It's like I've always been misunderstood. I am so screwed up that it makes others look good. Part of the reason is I sometimes say, do or think things out loud that put me in unpleasant situations. Always been friendless and never had a romantic partner in my life. I did almost everything they've ever asked and I've done it well. Guess I'll never know what it is people really wanted. They never seem to deal with me as a child and can't stand the sight of me as an adult. Seriously, what is it that galls people so? Is it because I'm not like them or that I just might be better? At this point, I just don't or can't understand people at all. Might as well be alone.
you're right on certain parts but wrong on others. ngl I see it consistently with your other videos too. also your understanding and personal growth is similar to mine, however from my view it is too optimistic. won't deny that the messages are good, it will help normal people.
Wouldn’t say ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ since neither of us actually know and are all trying to figure things out! And while I also disagree with a few minor points, I believe everyone is different with their understanding of the world; there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ view - as long as you introspect and ponder and spend sufficient time facing your own thoughts, you’ll naturally reach your truth.
@@rian534 i disagree. There are things which are universally right and wrong in the form of what is generative and what is degenerative. would also disagree in the not knowing part because that in itself disables your other statement of growth or as you said "personal" growth, which will always use a model that parallels for everyone despite it being personal, however consciousness and awareness can not be personal and will always be universal. Edit: I don't deny individuality exists however the framework is collectively the same and with heavy nuance that will be too much of my time to explain.
@@Tenebris8444 Actually, I think we have a very similar view here. I’ve sat for a while thinking about my own comment and realised that me saying “there is no right or wrong view” is an absurdly gross oversimplification. Apologise that this is difficult for me to articulate because I rarely have these types of discussions. ‘Framework’ is the exact same word I’d use as well. While I believe that such a thing as ‘personal truths’ do exist and not every person’s worldview should look the same, there are definitely commonalities - universal truths, as you’ve said - that need to be addressed. This is what makes up the ‘framework’: it’s the scaffolding that makes sure your ideas are built upon authentic truths. But my theory is that we might disagree on where the line separating universal truth and personal truth lies. But yeah - it’s honestly difficult to explain or justify why I feel this way since there’s lots of nuance. Too many things to go over. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I'm getting very sick and tired of this world and what people respect versus what they don't and what women want versus what they don't I'm going joker here I'm starting to legitimately lose it.
This is a vicious cycle in childhood brought on by the school system (which facilitates the bullying for control over the masses). The bullies are just as insecure, if not more, than the bullied. They are just more successful. They are more successful sometimes for being stronger or more popular. But also simply because the bullied refuse to participate in the abuse of others. Kids don't have the experience to know what's going on or even know this paradigm is what they are set in. All they know is abusing each other for dominance. Many are prepared early by their parents to dominate and bully the other kids for "advantage". Those parents also had an inferiority complex and pass it on to their children, perpetuating this vicious cycle.
Hello~ i just want to say that you're really pretty, you don't have to hide your face with your hair, i just can't help but think you'll also look pretty with your hair tied up and showing your face clearly, have a good day ✨
thank you 🥹. my face was my biggest insecurity growing up and i'd use my hair to cover it. i've gotten over that now for the most part and simply enjoy having my face covered as a lasting effect but i appreciate this a lot
As an autistic adhd individual I have managed to escape the narcissistic parental jail only 3 years ago and begin realizing what I have been gone through just recently. I just wanted to say: I love you. I feel you. I sympathise with you. You are not alone. Moreover, what happened has happened, I forgive everyone. I just want to move on… I have reverted to Islam a year ago and Allah has given all of the things that I have desired for my whole life in this last one year. InshaAllah you would be able to find this peace as well. May Allah guide you. May peace be upon you.
I can really resonate with everything you're saying right now. I've been living like that for years and it got to the point where I don't even react anymore or even make fun of myself as a way to cope with it.
just wanted to drop this comment and laud you for just how fucking real you are and how much this video spoke to me and my experiences. everything you say about coming to grips with and claiming your self worth for yourself and not taking shit from no one is something i've been going through in recent months so naturally what you've said is stuff i've already thought through before and agree with, but just seeing someone else express those sentiments so authentically in such a heartfelt manner made me (and definitely many others watching) feel completely seen and validated in their growth as people, and i wanna let you know how fucking awesome you are for that. keep being real like this, you'll be goin far yknow lol
You’d think it’d go away in adulthood but nah to be fair i get why some people earn respect and some don’t but there’s times where first impressions count so much it’s hard to make that up.
First of all I appreciate you and everything you said and I do feel like you in a lot of ways, and it feels bad like hell sometimes even just feeling alive but I’ve learned and adapted to it for forever now and now I feel the ick when I get confidence and I feel the confidence is too much and too big and I don’t want to put that on other people so I’ve always been a background player who never really tries to put anything on anybody and I don’t know how to get over that because it kinda works for me in a weird way, I don’t know what my true self is anymore honestly
The only persons respect you need in this world is your own, everyone else's is irrelevant. People's perception of you will always be fickle. Also you're mad cute.
Honestly people don’t respect people who don’t allow them to maintain the illusion of their identity. Masculine men respect you for making them feel strong, people fighting for authority seek to feel a source of truth, people want to feel they are normal by seeing you mirror their own actions. You’re a thinker, you seem honest rather than a show runner and that exposes reality to people who have no intrest in it. It’s rare for anyone to say the words think you need to hear in order to grow. They are more likely to judge others untill it’s time to inflict verbal harm. Idk you seem really cool. I’d love to see you succeed lady
Respect is earned. You want respect you have to build it. Social status, influence, wealth, and control. Your power must be absolute then you will be respected. But you don't need the respect of others to live your life. Just respect yourself.
Although brass knuckles are banned in most states, you can take a large locking carabiner and either use a file or a grinder to make gaps and pointed edges on the side. You should then be able to fit all 4 fingers in the carabiner and have the long (pointed) edge protecting your knuckles and inflicting more damage to your opponent (Whoops I think I commented on the wrong video. Or maybe not...)
Those two bang-strands make Sis look like she goin' thru it for real :D It's very cool: Video feels very authentic :) One thing not mentioned (in this video) that will be appreciated, is that some people simply NEED to disrespect (a certain) someone. For example: Two different people may view the same person as inferior in a certain way (this person's status, job, personality or whatever it may be)... one of these two people will see this person as inferior and just treat them like shit (think of the people who go to a restaurant and treat their waiter like a sub-human) while the other will see something about this person as objectively inferior, but they will follow this realization up with a rationalization ("They are working at McD's while I'm working as a stock broker, but I don't know where they've come from and what they've been thru") for this person's circumstances. What's the difference? Misery. Sounds corny, but some people are loving and others are the opposite. A person who cannot respect someone as a human being no matter what is miserable and cannot feel love. This is a very unpleasant sort of person to be. Do not let others disrespect you and they won't. They only succeed in disrespecting you when you allow it, and the first and only step is to respect yourself like Sis says in this video.
Sounds like you suffered from the looking glass self. So many people mistreat you that you think you deserve it. But it takes one or two people to treat you better to reset your baseline in life and say “I deserve better”. Now I don’t put up with any disrespect at all, I know everyone is on their learning phase but if someone needs to learn to treat people right that is not my problem.
4:30 i never saw it that way, it's really good to check it out. I usually do the excercise of "flipping the roles around" but i guess i didn't do it socially. 9:45 pls get some sleep, that kinda deprivation fucks up every aspect in life. motivation, life expectancy, anxiety problems, etc. 10:51 well, that's new! there's a lot of things that i didn't know about in here, and i'm for it. 11:29 i kinda disagree, but if you mean in emotions, yeah, sure. But i do perceive myself better that murderers, rapists, etc.
1:24 exactly “ah bro You can’t take X insult that I know is pretty personal you’re sensitive brah!!!” People love shitting on you then when you snap You’re crazy,boring,or have no sense of humor.
Messaged my ex again. Met up turns out everything was a misunderstanding in both ends. We allegedly make up but it’s over hasn’t responded to me in 2 days. Had a friend I haven’t spoken to in months and he replied to me within the hour. Yeah I love my ex and I deserve to burn because of it but in the end I’m not crazy and I’m done with that person no blocking simply done. No hatred just pure frustration of being treated 2nd class.
Love is kind. Simple kindness and gentleness are in very short supply these days. When we first set up the operation we found this was real problem: we had to teach people how to treat one another with courtesy and consideration kindness is not just going around with a goofy smile on your face: rather it is the exercises of the imagination God gave you to see how others are feeling and to work out what they are likely to need. People often come up to me after a meeting and ask how they can get further into the spiritual life. One method is by memorising scripture get steeped in the word of god. Another is by having good, close fellowship and talking matter over. Such fellowship means among other thing giving freely, being quick to apologise, for getting righteous indignation. If difficulties arise between you and another Christian the keep your mind on the primacy of love and unity if a major matter of morality or spiritual principle is involved, then love and unity are all the more necessary. This is one area of life where we do need brainwashing love, love, love, all the way. Love is my aim. I know that I need many other gifts in my Christian life, but my primary goal is love. Thank you god bless you
Have you ever looked into your Human Design composition? I wonder if Gate 23.2 is active in you: "The need to abandon tolerance, when survival and individual expression is threatened."
This explains quite a bit of things that had happened in my life and still do to some extend, whichever may be yours, i want to thank you for it helps to have some guidense since i am 15 and autistic Holy cow I just hit gold with your channel, am gonna checkout how much of your vids may help and also thank you for making this type of stuff okay byeeeeeeee :D
My hops They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops And sleepin' in a grave 'cause of my hops And not getting paid 'cause of my hops Ballers know the deal when they see me in the place Follow up, two-hand dunk, nuts in ya face See, you was under the goal Where the big boys play, so now you know I'm 6'2" with crazy hops From that two-hand in my video, I'm still gettin' props Light feet, I wear a size ten That's why I'm gettin' up time and time again Boys look like they wanna squab when they see me snowbird 'Cause they know they gonna get a two-hand-reverse Or I might just do a self alley And hang on the rim 'til your posse wanna blast me Yeah, that's how I do On this hoop court, I'm a fool And I'm still getting up To get the whole place crunk My hops They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops And sleeping in a grave 'cause of my hops And not getting paid 'cause of my hops I'm paid, I gives a fuck about a win I'm trying to get me a nasty bam in A loss I don't bar I leave the court and get freaked by three stars That's the life of a G My hoop shorts too long to ever see a knee White or black T-shirt, that's a bet And I'm always dry, 'cause real ballers never sweat Damn, a thug got game I could've hooped in the pros but mothafuck a plane And boys know where I be Marian, ballin', is where to find me Hooping on a Thursday night Rising to the occasion, and taking time flight And oh yeah, I got that thang with me Under the bleachers you'll do a 360 My hops They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops And sleeping in a grave cause of my hops And not getting paid 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops And sleeping in a grave cause of my hops And not getting paid 'cause of my hops My hops
The whole general cosmos. The special Earth. The whole general Earth. The Earth's wealth of open liquid water. All that water. The special water cycle. The water cycle. Biological life. General biological life. Animal life. General animal life. Human life. General human beings. Woman. I personally got this from Genesis 1-2. But, I would say its in reality anyway.
The problem is that I'm forced to work with people who feel this way towards me. Who don't treat me with respect, yet I have no choice but to be around them. It's either I make $150k a year or leave this job and make $60k a year. So I don't want to just leave this job, I have to put up with it. :(
the first step is respecting yourself. taking yourself seriously. begin to act like they are the weird ones when treating you less than. work on having a confident and competent demeanor. don't let them run over you, and speak to them straight faced and seriously (but not rudely) if you will not leave this job
Is their lack of respect for you hindering your job performance? If so find another job and start fresh. Cause at the end of the day, if you're going to be stuck in place for 40 hours a every week at the very least it should be tolerable. Don't be afraid to look like a stick in a mud or party pooper by shutting people down and setting up boundaries, your self respect and mental health is your main priority.
Why do society and the people around witnessing the wrongdoing of others just get conniving or simply turn a blind eye? I blame society for disrespectful behavior of single individuals's antisocial behavior.
9:10 It might seem odd, but there is an easy answer to that. Do you REALLY want the respect of the people that are nasty enough to exhibit such behaviours? I am not sure there is a direct equivalent in English but in my language there is a word "μεγαλόφρων" that means "a person with a higher level of behaviour/ethics". Those are the kind of people you'd like to respect you. The petty people that would deliberately aim to denigrate someone else so that they could finally feel like they are worth a damn? Why would you care what they even think? So why bother defending yourself? It is an honour for you that petty people like them dislike you. While the years pass you will realise that the dislike/distaste of some people is the best badge of "you are doing something right in life" that you can earn. 11:08 Friends do not need to be your equal. Be a friend to them and they will be a friend to you. That's all that is needed. No need to "measure" each other or even count pennies about who contributes the most to the "friendship". It is not a business contract, friendship. 14:04 You are basing a lot of things on "worth" and it should be a good video to try to define what/how you measure it. In your example, the person in the car is immaterial. Since they are driving a car, they are "worth" more on the highway. Think of it this way. You are a passenger on a plane. The pilot might be a totally bad person, a criminal even, but at the moment the pilot is worth all your lives, because if the pilot fails you all perish. The personal worth of the pilot is immaterial. What the pilot is doing/driving defines the pilot's worth at the moment.
I Love Leilani She’s Beautiful in The Video My First Time Watching Her Video I Have 2 Roommates they Kinda Soft they Cool the One is Like a Bully they Respect Me I Respect them Too the Fullest of My Heart lol this is the Video that I Needed lol 💙💙💙
It sadly happens. Some people will disrespect you, and find something to bully you for. Thats why you need to bite their hands off if they lay em upon you, no matter the consequences. Never give in and never back down.
I can tell whats going on with you. The reason people do that to you is because they’re telegraphing their inferiority complex. You bring that out in them. Just listening to you try to get a handle on it, I can feel that old rage rising to the surface. You’ll survive it. Use it. I know exactly what youre going through. You’re right and they’re wrong.
I'm sorry. I imagine you as a stuffed animal named grumpy bear, but out of respect for you I still refer to you as Leilani. You see in my mind I see you as a black stuffed bear with a heart stitched on it's stomach, it has a melancholy demeanor and helps me by explaining life advice in an animated fashion... I know you're a person though, and I respect that despite how cute grumpy bear is. It's not that I don't take grumpy bear seriously per se, I just know others might not. Out of respect for you I'll refrain from posting "thanks grumpy bear, I needed that today" after every video. I digress, another thing. What's helped me in respecting myself and thus finding respect from others was building something and developing skills other than the realization other's really arent just inherently better. This creates a much stronger sense of self almost subconsciously, armored against the abysmal behavior of others. Food for thought, Leilani. Nice vid.
I think this is bs. Unless you also treated others with less respect. I always hear this but I never treated other who maybe had low self esteem as lesser so I think ppl who do are just scumbags
but i don't want to be certain way for people to like me by being someone that i'm not i love being my real true self i don't like most of us get label we don't respect ourselves all because i'm shy i think there is nothing wrong with being shy, weird and difference i think it's ok good natural thing it's not bad thing to me if some of us are shy, weird, weak and difference that's what makes us unique but the only thing i do agree what you said that we are equal nobody is better than anyone ele i do agree most say the reason why most treat some of us that love to be too nice friendly because they are not happy with there life, jeaoulsy and inecurities bring us down so they can feel better about themselves sometimes i do stand up for myself to my family and most of the majority of people i do get fed up with how the way most people treat me called them out they label is a bad just for standing up for myself to them but i do it all the time because i think i don't deserve to be treat it like trash the reason why i don't stand up for myself everyday because i fear my family almost kick me out and they will get a beating get in trouble i think that's why i don't stand up for myself everyday i only do it sometimes when i actually really get fed up and i agree that i am my own best friend
I don't want respect from others nor do I want to respect others. Screw the world. My life belongs to me. I can do what I want when I want and if anyone wants to get in my way then they're gonna have a hell of a bad time.
That I feed the beggar, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy in the name of Christ-all these are undoubtedly great virtues. What I do unto the least of my brethren, that I do unto Christ. But what if I should discover that the least amongst them all, the poorest of all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders yea the very fiend himself-that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved-what then?
I trurly don't know what to say for today's input... just don't obssess over this topic, it's not boring or anything, but any kind of obssession is bad.
Ayn rand gets a lot of shit for saying some people are better than others and you need to recognize where you stand on a hierarchy. She's just going more in depth with the story of the three little pigs and it shows no one actually gets it. No, I'm not going to let my brother think it's ok to build his house out of hay or sticks. It will hurt his feelings and he'll have to eat his pride and live with me in the brick house but at least he'll be alive. Equality is the war cry of the unjustifiably indignant.
@@farmersmith7057 ah yes the notoriously grey morality of brick houses being more resilient than ones built with straw. This really is a cruel world that doesn't reward the morally upright who know the holiest of building materials are paper, cardboard, water and marshmallows. Obviously I don't mean better in a moralistic sense. Yet it needs to be made clear to you.
I can’t defend myself, I’m in my late 20s and I’m broken. Every time I would get angry as a child my dad would beat me. Im now scared to stand up for myself, people can tell and I get taken advantage of. I cant keep a job as I keep getting burned out from all this I’ve been physically abused at jobs and I just freeze up, I can’t/don’t stand up for myself
I hope you can see yourself as you truely are and never again allow anyone to treat you poorly. See past the filter. You have everything to offer. Never allow for anyone to hurt you - ever again. Intelligent, beautiful. I wish the very best!
I want to emphasize respect in this video is equated to seeing and treating people as an equal. I know there are several definitions of respect but i use what is basically the bare minimum in this video.
Oh, we are certainly not equal to each other for many reasons, but that's not where respect comes from. You do not respect someone because it is your equal. Sometimes you respect them because you recognise that they are better than you. Also you can respect them because you realise that they are worse than you, but they are trying to become better. Respect is earned in many ways. It cannot be demanded and it cannot be simply given as a "participation trophy" due to some perceived equality. Good manners and a decent behaviour, yes. Those should be a given. But respect? That's a level above basic civility.
@@ΤάσοςΚαυσοκαλυβίτηςGood manners and decent behaviors have been designed to respect each others in a community. We are not living in the Middle Age, now social rules must be oriented to respect everyone like humans.
@@Erz3 You are conflating a simple social norm with actual respect. If I come into the store you work and say "Hello, I'd like to buy something." that is just good manners. I do not know you, ergo I do not respect you, specifically. I just understand that you are there to do a job and I am there to be a customer.
Mandatory respect for strangers will never happen. It is a contradiction in terms.
@@ΤάσοςΚαυσοκαλυβίτης And why do you say "hello"? Why are you been polite in that situation? Because you want not offend the other person with rude request. If you are been polite with people you not respect, you are been cynical or hypocrital.
@@ΤάσοςΚαυσοκαλυβίτης You are conflacting show your respect with show your admiration to another person.
People are so programmed, I was raised to think I was just wrong all the time, hushed up and sent to my room. Disrespect is how it's done, like we all live in a psychological prison and all you have is street cred and the tough guy act. Take care.
There is a harsh reality of life you must understand: most people are not going to respect you no matter what you do. The world doesn't care. Use this as fuel to better yourself. I speak from experience and a life of suffering. Don't worry I don't need your pity or want it--just trying to help.
Correct, I use this fuel to do what I like and better myself. I use to hate when people don’t respect me but two years ago I know that I can use it for the better without being dragged down by other’s opinions.
I wholeheartedly agree, pain is a great motivator like my favorite astrologer here in RUclips once said...
That's the most relatable thing, in contrary people respect the arrogant person more than the one who works to own it. "You've to earn it" is the most BS thing ever, it's more like "You've to demand it"
Facts people find reasons to do so.
24 year old guy here and I‘m just learning to stand up for myself and respect myself, it’s never too late people
Good luck. 27yo guy here doing the same. Learning to set boundaries and not tolerate shitty behavior like gaslighting
The moment you learn to respect yourself, people automatically change the way they engage with you. And i don't think it stays in just that. Goes deeper, and i think it comes to how reality actually is. You can change things outside actually, by changing them internaly first. Reality is absolutely malleable.
Ive been bullied for 20 years im still trying to get over it 💛💛💛💛💛💛
@@TheVirginGary thank you 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
@@DavidSandoval-i6r I've been trying to get out of monetary poverty the old school oniest way, for almost that long
@@DavidSandoval-i6r shit dude if I was there I would probably try be your friend
@@YOUNGDLUFFY thanks alot I appreciate it 🙏 😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
Bruh respect yourself and 'demand' respect from others. Yes, I said demand because no matter what you do many won't respect you anyway.
I love content like this. Key things ...
- Live in the present, don't rely on the future or past.
- Don't rely on external validation, internal (your) own validation is what matters.
- Don't put people on a pedestal, value yourself first and foremost.
Thanks for the vid 👌
It often ties into lack of self respect
exactly
People won't respect you if you're mentally fickle and passive. Like it or not, people WILL always test your composure and sense of self-respect. One of the things I had to learn the hard way is separating someone respecting you and someone who likes you. When I was in early 20s I fought and knocked out one of my former coworkers outside of work, because he was constantly playing power games with me and kept poking me with slick remarks. He thought we were cool because there were times where I would banter back, but there was a underline sense that he didn't respect me and it was hindering my job performance. I told him multiple times to stop playing with me, and he found out why after work.
I'm a bit older and wiser now, where my sense of wanting to be be liked/loved has been replaced with a idgaf if you don't like me, talk about me behind my back, or ruined my chance of climbing up the social ladder, I will be that party pooper and lame who'll shut down any slick remarks or disrespect.
If you are honest, did it improve your sense of self-respect after what you did to your coworker? I am asking because I ALWAYS get stepped on by everyone and it is a vicious cycle where my self-respect and confidence get lower and lower because they see me not standing up for myself ( and I couldn't possibly stand up for myself because no one is going to respect someone shakingly and stutteringly stand up for themselves ) So sometimes THAT seems to be the only way to break the cycle.
I had the inverted problem growing up. I was treated as too much of an equal growing up; adults had waaay too high expectations of me. I was under a lot of pressure to work hard growing up, to the detriment of my childhood. As a result, I’ve kinda never learnt to say no; since expectations of me have always been high, and I’ve always fought hard to meet them, when someone asks me to do something (even if it’s not my responsibility) I tend to do it to my own detriment.
The upside is that almost everyone I know (at least to my face) respects me a lot and treats me really well, but I’m in terminal fear of not meeting someone’s expectations. I worry that if I let one or two people down I’ll lose the respect and good treatment but still have the rather high expectations imposed on me, giving me the worst of both worlds. Honestly though, I just don’t know how long I can keep up with the ever-rising expectations of me. Every time it feels like I “made it” and reached what was expected of me, the bar feels like it moves higher, and I never get a moment of rest. And, unfortunately, I’m in an academic and career path where reputation and respect amongst peers really decide how successful you are.
Ngl i avoid negative people
People very often “disrespect” someone for extremely arbitrary reasons, to do with things out of their control, usually like how they look. This isn’t the person not respecting themselves (as to why others disrespect them), it’s something beyond their control and often something they are even oblivious too until others point it out.
there's 2 levels of respect, one is real respect like admiring, and the other is basic human treatment, some ppl are not allowed to have neither of them
@@npnd5112 that has nothing to do with my comment, unless you mean - for example - an ugly person deserves either type of respect (I was talking about disrespect based on things outside of their control).
I love the video it's giving 2000s aesthetic ❤❤❤
I just ghost those people who don’t respect me. It wasn’t my parents mistreating me but my own cousins.
After being raised to be well-mannered and respectful of others, I realized that alot of people were not taught to do that same or abandoned that way of thinking along time ago.
I started to notice that I had developed a predictable nature and people would often knowingly use it against me to take advantage of my kindness.
When that happens to you for the first time you start to see that the reason why people close to disrespect you is because it's all a game to them and your good nature usually means you're guaranteed to forgive them in the end no matter what they do.
You'll start to realize that the reason why people ask you to do favours is because they know you are good-willed and will most likely end up helping them, often with little to no expense or effort on their part.
Those are just a few examples I can think of but the nice guy/good guy/ persona is a nightmare to be caught up in.
Once you have a reputation as a "good person" it will be very difficult to reclaim your self-respect.
People will call you crazy and say you've snapped or possibly under the influence if you ever say no to them, try to set new boundaries or stand up and protect yourself.
Same here but honestly now I couldn't care less about other people, I think soceity as a whole is garbage and filled with entitled assholes who think the world revolves around them. I even come across these people at my job. I think there are some genuinely good people out there but those guys are very rare nowadays.
you're fantastic this is something I really needed to process and think about
Respect is correlated with how well you make sense, which leads to success, which people want.
@VectomAnimal why are you attacking me? I only have a "uh actually 🤓 👆 " retort I can use here. Perfection is often misinterpreted as technical achievement, but to be perfect is to account for supposed imperfection. While a person ideas may be perfect, if in an imperfect environment with hostile,imperfect influence the final result may be technically flawed. People refuse perfection they don't see in themselves. It can be there, but rejected at all costs of another person's ego. So, when we say perfect, are we describing an abstract, finite image to achieve, or are we considering the rationalization that existences image is always improving in a rather video-like state. You attempt to do a hairstyle that looks slim on another person, however doesn't match the effect you were hoping for. Compared to the image of perfection you seek you have failed. However, in most cases, removed from the comparison, you often added your own, perfect, appeal to the hairstyle that is perfect for you. You are separate from others, while connected in shared reality, you have room for your own choice. This means that perfect is in fact different for everyone. There is no perfect that makes us all see, hear, and look the same. Most likely, perfect gives us all our own happy little experience. So, when you say I don't know perfect, I retort "uh actually 🤓 👆, perfect is qualified by the acknowledged reality of separate experience and therefore is at some point disregarded as imperfect by another perception whom lacks the perspectives to realize that specific perfection."
Don't come at me. I'm gonna through my "fighting my demons" phase rn.
@VectomAnimal you sound like bane complaining out his mask. Why are you talking to me like I don't know something? Bro this feels like you're acting out some personal problem on me. So in order to be perfect you need to be surrounded by the imperfect? That's relativity. Leave me alone.
just because you were allowed to fail don't mean you have one less person in poverty, is an admirable achievement
I know how you feel on being the black sheep
Damn this is real asf, i think u need to love yourself to being respected, if You don love You u gonna let the people being disrespectful with you, person whos reading this You are amazing, love yourself u are Unique in this world, be the better versión of You ❤
the first step is loving and taking yourself seriously :-)
I bet you suffered a lot, and you got so many traumas as a child, like me, congratulations for making it as this far, even so i need to tell my self this first, i just dom't feel that working on myself, but i really liked your way of talking and everything, i enjoyed your video, try to sleep it is very important, i knew that you were deprived just from your eyes, looking from you more content, thanks for the riminder leilani❤
28 here and it always feels like no one really respects me as a person. From time to time, I feel like I've always been treated like I'm the laughingstock of the entire world by almost everyone. It's like I've always been misunderstood. I am so screwed up that it makes others look good. Part of the reason is I sometimes say, do or think things out loud that put me in unpleasant situations. Always been friendless and never had a romantic partner in my life. I did almost everything they've ever asked and I've done it well. Guess I'll never know what it is people really wanted. They never seem to deal with me as a child and can't stand the sight of me as an adult. Seriously, what is it that galls people so? Is it because I'm not like them or that I just might be better? At this point, I just don't or can't understand people at all. Might as well be alone.
Good lord my dear, you're absolutely stunning
you're right on certain parts but wrong on others. ngl I see it consistently with your other videos too. also your understanding and personal growth is similar to mine, however from my view it is too optimistic. won't deny that the messages are good, it will help normal people.
Wouldn’t say ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ since neither of us actually know and are all trying to figure things out! And while I also disagree with a few minor points, I believe everyone is different with their understanding of the world; there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ view - as long as you introspect and ponder and spend sufficient time facing your own thoughts, you’ll naturally reach your truth.
@@rian534 i disagree. There are things which are universally right and wrong in the form of what is generative and what is degenerative. would also disagree in the not knowing part because that in itself disables your other statement of growth or as you said "personal" growth, which will always use a model that parallels for everyone despite it being personal, however consciousness and awareness can not be personal and will always be universal.
Edit: I don't deny individuality exists however the framework is collectively the same and with heavy nuance that will be too much of my time to explain.
@@Tenebris8444 Actually, I think we have a very similar view here. I’ve sat for a while thinking about my own comment and realised that me saying “there is no right or wrong view” is an absurdly gross oversimplification. Apologise that this is difficult for me to articulate because I rarely have these types of discussions.
‘Framework’ is the exact same word I’d use as well. While I believe that such a thing as ‘personal truths’ do exist and not every person’s worldview should look the same, there are definitely commonalities - universal truths, as you’ve said - that need to be addressed. This is what makes up the ‘framework’: it’s the scaffolding that makes sure your ideas are built upon authentic truths. But my theory is that we might disagree on where the line separating universal truth and personal truth lies.
But yeah - it’s honestly difficult to explain or justify why I feel this way since there’s lots of nuance. Too many things to go over. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
This channel has soo big potential keep it up❤
I'm getting very sick and tired of this world and what people respect versus what they don't and what women want versus what they don't I'm going joker here I'm starting to legitimately lose it.
i dont want respect if i havent earnt it
This is a vicious cycle in childhood brought on by the school system (which facilitates the bullying for control over the masses).
The bullies are just as insecure, if not more, than the bullied.
They are just more successful.
They are more successful sometimes for being stronger or more popular.
But also simply because the bullied refuse to participate in the abuse of others.
Kids don't have the experience to know what's going on or even know this paradigm is what they are set in.
All they know is abusing each other for dominance.
Many are prepared early by their parents to dominate and bully the other kids for "advantage".
Those parents also had an inferiority complex and pass it on to their children, perpetuating this vicious cycle.
Hello~ i just want to say that you're really pretty, you don't have to hide your face with your hair, i just can't help but think you'll also look pretty with your hair tied up and showing your face clearly, have a good day ✨
thank you 🥹. my face was my biggest insecurity growing up and i'd use my hair to cover it. i've gotten over that now for the most part and simply enjoy having my face covered as a lasting effect but i appreciate this a lot
As an autistic adhd individual I have managed to escape the narcissistic parental jail only 3 years ago and begin realizing what I have been gone through just recently. I just wanted to say: I love you. I feel you. I sympathise with you. You are not alone. Moreover, what happened has happened, I forgive everyone. I just want to move on… I have reverted to Islam a year ago and Allah has given all of the things that I have desired for my whole life in this last one year. InshaAllah you would be able to find this peace as well. May Allah guide you. May peace be upon you.
thank you so much for taking the time to reach out and tell me this 🥹🩵 i appreciate it brother, and i'm happy for you!
I can really resonate with everything you're saying right now. I've been living like that for years and it got to the point where I don't even react anymore or even make fun of myself as a way to cope with it.
just wanted to drop this comment and laud you for just how fucking real you are and how much this video spoke to me and my experiences. everything you say about coming to grips with and claiming your self worth for yourself and not taking shit from no one is something i've been going through in recent months so naturally what you've said is stuff i've already thought through before and agree with, but just seeing someone else express those sentiments so authentically in such a heartfelt manner made me (and definitely many others watching) feel completely seen and validated in their growth as people, and i wanna let you know how fucking awesome you are for that. keep being real like this, you'll be goin far yknow lol
You’d think it’d go away in adulthood but nah to be fair i get why some people earn respect and some don’t but there’s times where first impressions count so much it’s hard to make that up.
First of all I appreciate you and everything you said and I do feel like you in a lot of ways, and it feels bad like hell sometimes even just feeling alive but I’ve learned and adapted to it for forever now and now I feel the ick when I get confidence and I feel the confidence is too much and too big and I don’t want to put that on other people so I’ve always been a background player who never really tries to put anything on anybody and I don’t know how to get over that because it kinda works for me in a weird way, I don’t know what my true self is anymore honestly
What is your body count?
The only persons respect you need in this world is your own, everyone else's is irrelevant. People's perception of you will always be fickle. Also you're mad cute.
Honestly people don’t respect people who don’t allow them to maintain the illusion of their identity.
Masculine men respect you for making them feel strong, people fighting for authority seek to feel a source of truth, people want to feel they are normal by seeing you mirror their own actions.
You’re a thinker, you seem honest rather than a show runner and that exposes reality to people who have no intrest in it.
It’s rare for anyone to say the words think you need to hear in order to grow. They are more likely to judge others untill it’s time to inflict verbal harm.
Idk you seem really cool. I’d love to see you succeed lady
Respect is earned. You want respect you have to build it. Social status, influence, wealth, and control. Your power must be absolute then you will be respected. But you don't need the respect of others to live your life. Just respect yourself.
Minimal respect IS given because you are a human being then you loose or earn some
Although brass knuckles are banned in most states, you can take a large locking carabiner and either use a file or a grinder to make gaps and pointed edges on the side. You should then be able to fit all 4 fingers in the carabiner and have the long (pointed) edge protecting your knuckles and inflicting more damage to your opponent
(Whoops I think I commented on the wrong video. Or maybe not...)
I respect myself but I don't know when, why or how I disrespect myself.
love the Pikachu pillow
Those two bang-strands make Sis look like she goin' thru it for real :D
It's very cool: Video feels very authentic :)
One thing not mentioned (in this video) that will be appreciated, is that some people simply NEED to disrespect (a certain) someone.
For example: Two different people may view the same person as inferior in a certain way (this person's status, job, personality or whatever it may be)... one of these two people will see this person as inferior and just treat them like shit (think of the people who go to a restaurant and treat their waiter like a sub-human) while the other will see something about this person as objectively inferior, but they will follow this realization up with a rationalization ("They are working at McD's while I'm working as a stock broker, but I don't know where they've come from and what they've been thru") for this person's circumstances.
What's the difference?
Misery.
Sounds corny, but some people are loving and others are the opposite.
A person who cannot respect someone as a human being no matter what is miserable and cannot feel love. This is a very unpleasant sort of person to be.
Do not let others disrespect you and they won't. They only succeed in disrespecting you when you allow it, and the first and only step is to respect yourself like Sis says in this video.
Sounds like you suffered from the looking glass self. So many people mistreat you that you think you deserve it. But it takes one or two people to treat you better to reset your baseline in life and say “I deserve better”. Now I don’t put up with any disrespect at all, I know everyone is on their learning phase but if someone needs to learn to treat people right that is not my problem.
4:30 i never saw it that way, it's really good to check it out. I usually do the excercise of "flipping the roles around" but i guess i didn't do it socially.
9:45 pls get some sleep, that kinda deprivation fucks up every aspect in life. motivation, life expectancy, anxiety problems, etc.
10:51 well, that's new! there's a lot of things that i didn't know about in here, and i'm for it.
11:29 i kinda disagree, but if you mean in emotions, yeah, sure. But i do perceive myself better that murderers, rapists, etc.
1:24 exactly “ah bro
You can’t take X insult that I know is pretty personal you’re sensitive brah!!!” People love shitting on you then when you snap You’re crazy,boring,or have no sense of humor.
Messaged my ex again. Met up turns out everything was a misunderstanding in both ends. We allegedly make up but it’s over hasn’t responded to me in 2 days. Had a friend I haven’t spoken to in months and he replied to me within the hour. Yeah I love my ex and I deserve to burn because of it but in the end I’m not crazy and I’m done with that person no blocking simply done. No hatred just pure frustration of being treated 2nd class.
Love is kind. Simple kindness and gentleness are in very short supply these days. When we first set up the operation we found this was real problem: we had to teach people how to treat one another with courtesy and consideration kindness is not just going around with a goofy smile on your face: rather it is the exercises of the imagination God gave you to see how others are feeling and to work out what they are likely to need. People often come up to me after a meeting and ask how they can get further into the spiritual life. One method is by memorising scripture get steeped in the word of god. Another is by having good, close fellowship and talking matter over. Such fellowship means among other thing giving freely, being quick to apologise, for getting righteous indignation. If difficulties arise between you and another Christian the keep your mind on the primacy of love and unity if a major matter of morality or spiritual principle is involved, then love and unity are all the more necessary. This is one area of life where we do need brainwashing love, love, love, all the way. Love is my aim. I know that I need many other gifts in my Christian life, but my primary goal is love. Thank you god bless you
This was a great video, I hope you are having a great day!!!
I learned in grade school punches speaker louder than words 😂
Have you ever looked into your Human Design composition? I wonder if Gate 23.2 is active in you:
"The need to abandon tolerance, when survival and individual expression is threatened."
i don't believe 23.2 specifically is, but you're going to get me back into a human design rabbit hole haha
@@junnipres 😁 The rabbits gonna love the company! 🐾🐇
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10:53 is EXACTLY how i was/how ive been for a while lately oh my god
yea lifes hard its even worse when the world is saying on thing but u feel the other way. and then there is some people ho make it loook easy.
3:54 do you mean below the respect level or something if not then please explain that 😅
This explains quite a bit of things that had happened in my life and still do to some extend, whichever may be yours, i want to thank you for it helps to have some guidense since i am 15 and autistic
Holy cow I just hit gold with your channel, am gonna checkout how much of your vids may help and also thank you for making this type of stuff okay byeeeeeeee :D
omg i'm glad you could take something from it thank you 🥹
I didn’t expect to be so called out lol , but it was the painful truth i needed to hear.
Serious vocal fry !!!
Polyamorous Pete
u were casting spells with ur hands the whole video
My hops
They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops
Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops
And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops
My hops
They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops
And sleepin' in a grave 'cause of my hops
And not getting paid 'cause of my hops
Ballers know the deal when they see me in the place
Follow up, two-hand dunk, nuts in ya face
See, you was under the goal
Where the big boys play, so now you know
I'm 6'2" with crazy hops
From that two-hand in my video, I'm still gettin' props
Light feet, I wear a size ten
That's why I'm gettin' up time and time again
Boys look like they wanna squab when they see me snowbird
'Cause they know they gonna get a two-hand-reverse
Or I might just do a self alley
And hang on the rim 'til your posse wanna blast me
Yeah, that's how I do
On this hoop court, I'm a fool
And I'm still getting up
To get the whole place crunk
My hops
They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops
Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops
And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops
My hops
They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops
And sleeping in a grave 'cause of my hops
And not getting paid 'cause of my hops
I'm paid, I gives a fuck about a win
I'm trying to get me a nasty bam in
A loss I don't bar
I leave the court and get freaked by three stars
That's the life of a G
My hoop shorts too long to ever see a knee
White or black T-shirt, that's a bet
And I'm always dry, 'cause real ballers never sweat
Damn, a thug got game
I could've hooped in the pros but mothafuck a plane
And boys know where I be
Marian, ballin', is where to find me
Hooping on a Thursday night
Rising to the occasion, and taking time flight
And oh yeah, I got that thang with me
Under the bleachers you'll do a 360
My hops
They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops
Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops
And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops
My hops
They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops
And sleeping in a grave cause of my hops
And not getting paid 'cause of my hops
My hops
They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops
Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops
And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops
My hops
They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops
And sleeping in a grave cause of my hops
And not getting paid 'cause of my hops
My hops
The whole general cosmos. The special Earth.
The whole general Earth. The Earth's wealth of open liquid water.
All that water. The special water cycle.
The water cycle. Biological life.
General biological life. Animal life.
General animal life. Human life.
General human beings. Woman.
I personally got this from Genesis 1-2. But, I would say its in reality anyway.
What if everyone treats you as less than human?
i need alot of layers peeled lol from trauma
Well on the other hand who needs their disrespect? Fr
The title made me chuckle a bit
The problem is that I'm forced to work with people who feel this way towards me. Who don't treat me with respect, yet I have no choice but to be around them. It's either I make $150k a year or leave this job and make $60k a year. So I don't want to just leave this job, I have to put up with it. :(
the first step is respecting yourself. taking yourself seriously. begin to act like they are the weird ones when treating you less than. work on having a confident and competent demeanor. don't let them run over you, and speak to them straight faced and seriously (but not rudely) if you will not leave this job
Is their lack of respect for you hindering your job performance? If so find another job and start fresh. Cause at the end of the day, if you're going to be stuck in place for 40 hours a every week at the very least it should be tolerable. Don't be afraid to look like a stick in a mud or party pooper by shutting people down and setting up boundaries, your self respect and mental health is your main priority.
video ends at 16:47
Why do society and the people around witnessing the wrongdoing of others just get conniving or simply turn a blind eye? I blame society for disrespectful behavior of single individuals's antisocial behavior.
9:10 It might seem odd, but there is an easy answer to that. Do you REALLY want the respect of the people that are nasty enough to exhibit such behaviours? I am not sure there is a direct equivalent in English but in my language there is a word "μεγαλόφρων" that means "a person with a higher level of behaviour/ethics". Those are the kind of people you'd like to respect you. The petty people that would deliberately aim to denigrate someone else so that they could finally feel like they are worth a damn? Why would you care what they even think? So why bother defending yourself? It is an honour for you that petty people like them dislike you. While the years pass you will realise that the dislike/distaste of some people is the best badge of "you are doing something right in life" that you can earn.
11:08 Friends do not need to be your equal. Be a friend to them and they will be a friend to you. That's all that is needed. No need to "measure" each other or even count pennies about who contributes the most to the "friendship". It is not a business contract, friendship.
14:04 You are basing a lot of things on "worth" and it should be a good video to try to define what/how you measure it. In your example, the person in the car is immaterial. Since they are driving a car, they are "worth" more on the highway. Think of it this way. You are a passenger on a plane. The pilot might be a totally bad person, a criminal even, but at the moment the pilot is worth all your lives, because if the pilot fails you all perish. The personal worth of the pilot is immaterial. What the pilot is doing/driving defines the pilot's worth at the moment.
amazing video
ngl u fine ah lol
Ali G has a great short speech about this
Great video
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I love you
I Love Leilani She’s Beautiful in The Video My First Time Watching Her Video I Have 2 Roommates they Kinda Soft they Cool the One is Like a Bully they Respect Me I Respect them Too the Fullest of My Heart lol this is the Video that I Needed lol 💙💙💙
Everybody deserves respect but respect needs to be earned! It’s not like you give it away like you give away candy!
It sadly happens. Some people will disrespect you, and find something to bully you for. Thats why you need to bite their hands off if they lay em upon you, no matter the consequences. Never give in and never back down.
I can tell whats going on with you. The reason people do that to you is because they’re telegraphing their inferiority complex. You bring that out in them. Just listening to you try to get a handle on it, I can feel that old rage rising to the surface. You’ll survive it. Use it. I know exactly what youre going through. You’re right and they’re wrong.
I'm sorry. I imagine you as a stuffed animal named grumpy bear, but out of respect for you I still refer to you as Leilani. You see in my mind I see you as a black stuffed bear with a heart stitched on it's stomach, it has a melancholy demeanor and helps me by explaining life advice in an animated fashion... I know you're a person though, and I respect that despite how cute grumpy bear is. It's not that I don't take grumpy bear seriously per se, I just know others might not. Out of respect for you I'll refrain from posting "thanks grumpy bear, I needed that today" after every video. I digress, another thing. What's helped me in respecting myself and thus finding respect from others was building something and developing skills other than the realization other's really arent just inherently better. This creates a much stronger sense of self almost subconsciously, armored against the abysmal behavior of others. Food for thought, Leilani. Nice vid.
Thank you for this video it made me feel 100x better💜
I think this is bs. Unless you also treated others with less respect. I always hear this but I never treated other who maybe had low self esteem as lesser so I think ppl who do are just scumbags
but i don't want to be certain way for people to like me by being someone that i'm not i love being my real true self i don't like most of us get label we don't respect ourselves all because i'm shy i think there is nothing wrong with being shy, weird and difference i think it's ok good natural thing it's not bad thing to me if some of us are shy, weird, weak and difference that's what makes us unique but the only thing i do agree what you said that we are equal nobody is better than anyone ele i do agree most say the reason why most treat some of us that love to be too nice friendly because they are not happy with there life, jeaoulsy and inecurities bring us down so they can feel better about themselves sometimes i do stand up for myself to my family and most of the majority of people i do get fed up with how the way most people treat me called them out they label is a bad just for standing up for myself to them but i do it all the time because i think i don't deserve to be treat it like trash the reason why i don't stand up for myself everyday because i fear my family almost kick me out and they will get a beating get in trouble i think that's why i don't stand up for myself everyday i only do it sometimes when i actually really get fed up and i agree that i am my own best friend
I don't want respect from others nor do I want to respect others. Screw the world. My life belongs to me. I can do what I want when I want and if anyone wants to get in my way then they're gonna have a hell of a bad time.
are you open to the love of the savior Jesus Christ? not trynna be christianity pushy but i’m curious
That I feed the beggar, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy in the name of Christ-all these are undoubtedly great virtues. What I do unto the least of my brethren, that I do unto Christ. But what if I should discover that the least amongst them all, the poorest of all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders yea the very fiend himself-that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved-what then?
OMG your beautiful ❤
I trurly don't know what to say for today's input...
just don't obssess over this topic, it's not boring or anything, but any kind of obssession is bad.
Did you go to Harvard? Some call it better than Community College.
Dude, how did i not sub after your "communication" video, im all in for this type of vids😆🙏🏼
Ayn rand gets a lot of shit for saying some people are better than others and you need to recognize where you stand on a hierarchy. She's just going more in depth with the story of the three little pigs and it shows no one actually gets it. No, I'm not going to let my brother think it's ok to build his house out of hay or sticks. It will hurt his feelings and he'll have to eat his pride and live with me in the brick house but at least he'll be alive. Equality is the war cry of the unjustifiably indignant.
Just World fallacy.
@@farmersmith7057 ah yes the notoriously grey morality of brick houses being more resilient than ones built with straw. This really is a cruel world that doesn't reward the morally upright who know the holiest of building materials are paper, cardboard, water and marshmallows.
Obviously I don't mean better in a moralistic sense. Yet it needs to be made clear to you.
@@RobertAdamant get off your pulpit for 5 seconds.
Not everything in this life is in our hands.
Do you understand that?
@@farmersmith7057 praise Kek. All is right done for the sake of Kek.
@@RobertAdamant hope you get everything you want on your 14th young man.
I like the way you think. Sweet dreams :3
I can’t defend myself, I’m in my late 20s and I’m broken.
Every time I would get angry as a child my dad would beat me.
Im now scared to stand up for myself, people can tell and I get taken advantage of. I cant keep a job as I keep getting burned out from all this
I’ve been physically abused at jobs and I just freeze up, I can’t/don’t stand up for myself
but bro have you tried respecting yourselsf????
Senhores, me apaixonei novamente por uma mulher que mora longe e nem sabe que eu existo
No Juniper today 😔
Lmao
cool
Yessir yessir
I hope you can see yourself as you truely are and never again allow anyone to treat you poorly. See past the filter. You have everything to offer. Never allow for anyone to hurt you - ever again.
Intelligent, beautiful. I wish the very best!
🥹 thank you