Don’t pursue a man - this is what happens when you do
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I’m a diamond girl who struggled with pursuing men all my life. I’m now sharing this video with my adult daughter and hoping she will use your guidance to improve her dating and relationships. ❤💎💍
Hugs to you! Keep up the good work! 🥰
@@AdrienneEverheart That man was not sexually attracted to you (a lot of men are closeted pedophiles/whateverphiles). That was the reason he was treating you like that. You were not the object of his desire ( maybe the object of his desire is somethjng that looks like a child). Do not go for a man that doesn't show clear signs the he wants YOU.
Ppl keep saying if u are young u have options but truth be told in this society n generation everybody wants a quick thrill …there aren’t that much options … u can get a lot of ppl to have sex with n go on fun dates with n take up time with ….but only a few actually gonna value n care about you and genuinely wanna build a life with u
The person you speak of is rare. Not impossible but rare.
Your mindset needs a little help - with quality over quantity. Aside from that the more you Quantum Date the more options you have to attract a quality partner. I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
Ladies if you find a guy attractive just smile be playful good energy. If he is available healthy masculine man he will approach you talk to you and if there is attraction he’ll ask you out.
Or talk in circles about wanting to sometime yet never setting up pursuing it smiling back hinting flirting. Guess many guys in feminine and that's not for me if he hinting to wanting me to pure I lose respect in them as romantic interest its friend zone if I made the move to invite to lunch
@@bunnyboo6295 it doesn't work with a feminine woman and a feminine man who wants you to fight and pursue after him
@@ellebelle222 Exactly feminine waits to receive they might send hints be inviting if men are waiting, they will not end up with feminine ladies. Another man that is a man will see what he wants and make the move while the lady might have had interest in other man playing games a lady isn't waiting on a man that don't show interest like a man.
These fem guys are setting up to be appealing to masculine women yet many of these men claim to want a feminine one
@@bunnyboo6295 exactly.
the abandonment trauma is too real and had me chasing an ex for three years practically begging for him back. it makes me sad thinking about it
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I hear "infinite amount of options" a lot, but truly, I am only attracted to a man once every decade (and when this happens it runs deep).... not so infinite after all. :)
Same. I think in our case taking their importance away and just enjoying our life as is is the only option we have left.
Omg, I'm exactly the same! It's sooooo hard not to get super attached to a guy when you FINALLY find one you actually like, because you like so few men. It really sucks. I WISH I had endless options/men I was attracted to!
@isabellabazzara same here. I know that feeling. I too feel strong liking and attraction for someone once in a decade unfortunately. So lot of options mentality doesn’t come to me easily.
Im the same. Im only truly, seriously, deeply attracted to a man every so often. I dont know why Im like that. I have friends who get attracted to any guy who pays them enough attention or has good sex with them and then they get let down. Its like for me to be truly attracted to a guy they have to meet certain criterias or something so, when I am attracted to someone its like "Okay, dude, Im not getting any younger here. I see you over there looking at me. Make a move already!" lol.
Options as in he has XY genes? LOL.
Well, I'm over 50 and dating has not changed...😮 it's the same!
I agree.. I think this lady has to remember we are all different.. I’m more confident now I’m older and they are bees to the honey pot .. that’s the main thing holding older women back and it’s disappointing this channel is being ageist instead of impowering us to have the man we desire , not only who desires us
Soooo true had two 10 n 15 year relaishionips have 2 daughters in there thirties first were my boyfriend from teens n we drifted n broke up in our early twenties dated bit there were not datesites u went out least u coukd see them n if they were with friends u coukd sorta tell if they were at least more sbout em than u ever coukd now but since breaking up with my second daughters dad I picked him at 25 u just don't resly know anyone till u live with them ur blinded by the feelings I don't regret my daughter but wat a waste of ur looks n thirties don't think tho I've met men here there on date sights it's just all too scary plus ur not as confident in uf body not that we dhouldnt be menopuease is like big thing to try look out for anyone I did I just don't think we bought up our kids maybe have grandkids wanting to be around our family I only like people that are not available one thing how never think its you they love to breadcrumb u like she Says by fifties even forties we know wat there about n it have to be gr8 personality n attraction its not about looks is it .
Please don’t put words in my mouth. I’m all for women dating at any age & the difficulty many women over age 45 have in finding a partner clearly doesn’t include EVERY woman over age 45. 🤷🏻♀️
For those of you over age 45 not experiencing “the red line” Keep up the good work ladies! 🥰
People want what they can't have. It's human nature.
I’ll tell you this much..if I ever have a daughter she’s getting a serious Adrienne education early on!
That’s so sweet! ❤❤❤
I know this sounds like good advice, but to be honest, it gives me so much anxiety. This entire message makes me feel powerless, like I am pushed into this position of endless sitting in the waiting room for love to maybe come to me, and even if it does, it can fall apart if I don't play the game right. It feels like Im not allowed to show him that I'm interested or that I want connection. It's almost like women are not allowed to voice their needs toward men. It's like living in a constant state of dissonance and the inability to live and show my feelings and needs authentically. I don't think it's healthy. It sounds like a confusing game. It just doesn't feel right inside. I'm sorry to be so blunt. I wonder if anyone else feels this way?
I understand what you are saying. I have been following this work for a very long time, and some of it has been truly very helpful to me, like learning to speak from your feelings, but some of it is very gimmicky (get ANY man ADDICTED to YOU!) A lot of the time I feel like it implies if a guy didn't like you, choose you or "claim" you, it's because you weren't "in your feminine" enough. If you don’t get the results you want, it’s because you’re not implementing these tools correctly- i.e. it’s your fault if the guy pulls away, every time, no exceptions. When in reality it could be for any number of reasons, even reasons that have nothing to do with you. The example Adrienne gives in this video of the guy she ‘pursued’ doesn’t sit right with me for some reason.. I get the same icky feeling like it’s being suggested if she hadn’t pursued, and been so “in her masculine”, then she would’ve been successful in getting the guy. Couldn’t there be other reasons he wasn’t interested? I also don’t like the “one size fits all” approach to the advice, that all men act a certain way, 100% of the time. I found out the hard way that this is simply not true- sometimes following the advice has backfired.
@@r-rt5lda I agree. Men are not all the same, women are not all the same and neither are situations. I like that you describe it as an icky feeling. That is exactly what it is. It does not feel right. I think that being authentic and truthful with our feelings and intentions is more important than playing some sort of game. If he is uncomfortable knowing how I feel about him, than we may as well forget it anyways.
I teach authenticity so there's something your missing in the context and of course one video can't give you ALL of my message. You can show interest, yet not pursue. You can absolutely show feelings and needs, this is about NOT PURSUING.
I never ever say "you aren't feminine enough," - the message of this video is Do Not Pursue, re: the title. There's a lot being read into and "it's like women can't..." that is never being said. I do teach a way to express yourself authentically in which a man receives. Again, the video is about not pursuing.
I have been with my husband for almost 30 years, married almost 28. I did not pursue him. We met through a dating service in Delaware. If a man doesn't want you, he will tell you.
When a woman pursues a man, it is very difficult for the man to get her to understand that she is not wanted without provoking an extreme heartbreak reaction. Once a man knows your interest, don't pursue him.
Informal survey with single men and asked why they don’t pursue women, why they’re not asking them on dates. Most of the men said they were talked to like crap from a woman when they approached to get her number or show an interest. Numerous menus and said in some cases when we were either verbally abusive or very nasty.
Ya see, there was a time when a man approached and the woman said, “I’m flattered, but I’m not dating right now or I have a boyfriend or whatever”. Of course, if she was interested she would give a number. There’s no reason to be nasty and a lot of men are not pursuing women because of this.
This is why I teach warmth! I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
We are living in a time where people have been traumatized. The expectation of healthy adaptive behavior is unrealistic. It will take a generation or more to reverse the effects of social engineering.
I have heard this too. So wrong.
How come men and women don't forget their responsibilities at work but it's always men who forget those at home! And why does it take for a woman huge amount of time and patience to teach them these? And make them not forget? Just like a mother raising a toddler??
Why does a man need to be taught anything? Encouragement and appreciation is done by the women so he continues being an accepting partner.
Stop teaching. Walk away.
If you’re “making” a man do something he will automatically do less and less because unconsciously he is building resentment against you. You’re not his mom to teach him how to live life. He is his own person.
That’s the mothering Adrienne referred to in this video. You’re mothering him
It’s a good idea to let go of these strong believes and find what would feel better for you, your life and relationship. How would it feel to have a balanced life with harmony, love, respect and also knowing 20% might be the challenging parts? Get in touch with how you want your life to feel. Get my free ‘scripts men love to hear’ guide 😘 www.everheartcoaching.com/freegift/
Showing interest in a guy and pursuing a guy are two different things. Give the upcoming younger women healthy advice that'll help their relationship with the opposite gender 💥🧐
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oh how hurtful when he said what do you want from me :). so glad you have the right man now
It’s hurtful but men are also mirrors/messengers that teach us how we are showing up and what energy we are in.
He just did not want to tell her no but clearly was not interested.
@@Mimi-ni3il 100 percent... mimi
Oh he was still very much interested in me, wanted to always date and make plans but to be exclusive and live near one another… 🤷🏻♀️
Thank you for sharing this! 🥰
I love this new format ❤ great work love ❤
Yay! Thank you!
@@AdrienneEverheart ❤️🦆
I recently had a man I met tell me he doesn’t pursue women as it was a “turn off” for HIM. And that isn’t how relationships start. HUH?THAT IS A FEMININE EMEGY MAN. My answer was OK. So silly
Also a man is terrified of being rejected. It’s why most men don’t want to approach women. Women wearing ring maybe not.. otherwise they have no clue if she’s dating single etc
well he has no interest in women he likely waiting for prince charming
@@Lisa_M_V That's why a man would find out if interested in dating If you are not actively interested to know you're not really that interested. Women need that energy feeling of being a man's desire to fall in love
There are so many men it seems like this nowadays, 49 and looking to date someone established around 60. Was asked out by a cute 30 something year old. Strange how some younger men seem capable to go for what they want. Could it be low testosterone maybe in the older ones... they pursue but take nudges then complain I don’t chase like other women.. 🤷♀️. Do older Men become lazy to pursue or just insecure? Prefer an established man but even when a women is attractive takes care, it’s not easy for women once they are well lived:) (smartened up)
Thank you so much for sharing... TBH my husband always felt like he was hounding women when he was single, but with me, he was making dates with me and letting me know he wanted to spend time with me, and he is a shy/sensitive type of man. Let that man go find a woman who wants to the the "alpha."
Adrienne can you recommend me videos about mothering men, how to stop and what to do instead? How to recognize that I am mothering ?
That’s a great idea! I’ll make a video on that sometime. 🥰
before the egg and the sperm meet, both are travelling toward each other. But you are right, the egg receives the sperm, while the sperm persists to connect with the egg
That's where the magic happens!
What if you're married Adrienne? How do you turn things around if your guy is just chilled and doesn't pursue as he should?
Divorce.
I think you should pray and keep being sweet to him, even if he doesn’t deserve it
He may not be pursuing but is he present, available and willing? Or is he avoiding you? This is about rebuilding and hitting the reset button.
I have some videos about my two week reset… but long term love needs appreciating one another and work to stay in love! My advice is what you want the most from him, offer to him… not pursue but offer like an invitation.
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Lovely, insightful message. Thanks Adrienne ❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
I had this happen to me, but I stopped giving my energy and time to a man who was not reciprocal, and I walked away for my healing and self-love. But oddly, now that I'm moving on, the man I was pursuing is now pursuing me 😅 . Don't want him anymore... don't know what to do😅
I know it is unrelated but i just think that your hair looks always so pretty Adrienne 🥰
Thank you so much! I lost a lot of my hair during Covid and with menopause but it’s slowly coming back.
I disagree with the 45 and over comment. It's not true! Any woman can look good if she's looked after herself, even if she's 60! And a 35 year old can easily be rejected if she hasn't taken care of herself! We should not put people in a box and we should not make assumptions!!!
In my business, the women age 45 and over have much less men pursuing them.
I told a guy i loved him. He said I did it to myself😬🤣🤣
Aaaaw I'm sorry
😅 savage but I respect it 😂😭
Please move on he doesn’t deserve you! ❤
He was the wrong guy for you my dear! The best is yet to come 💕
@@jenj5437 LOL. This was years ago. I'm definitely over it
Ok I won’t pursue but guys literally do not approach me at all I’m tired of being single I’m young too
I know, this is the problem I have too. Dating is so much different now. Most men I come across want you to do the pursuing/planning/reaching out. They're the ones sitting back. I've tried the sitting back approach but then they just disappear and my phone is silent. And I wasn't even being desperate/pursuing them.
SMILE at them it’s so easy if they are single and available they will say hi
We won't have healthy relationships unless we are content with ourselves.
Just break the ice, with the guy u like. Just ask him out for a simple date. Coffee, snack. That's basically all it takes. Good luck
Let’s change up the words and mindset! “Quality Men flow to me effortlessly.” I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
Excellent video ❤ ever since I stopped Persuing men , a behavior I learned from watching my mother , it was normal for me ….
Since I stopped , I’ve been single & now they pursue me . ❤❤
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I think it’s really difficult today they seem to keep coming into your life on & off …. you live your life …then there bk again 😖. I’m saying that to them ‘what do you want from me ‘ leave me be if your not going to step up💁♀️
Absolutely. If after 2 weeks of no communication- if they don’t date you regularly boldly move on. I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
I would like to ask if it’s okay to plan dates as a woman on and off in a 8-9 months committed relationship or I should always let the man do all the planning eg. Weekends, holidays etc.?
I am asking this because my bf would most of the time initiate things. During one of our conversations i randomly said I love when you lead in a relationship. He said men and women are emancipated these days and there is nothing wrong if a woman is initiating things in a relationship. There should be balance. Anyone of the two can initiate.
Adrienne what do you think I should do here? Do you suggest that a woman could take the lead on and off (like planning dates, paying on a date sometimes etc)
Absolutely! There’s “just dating”
And there is committed relationship. Two separate ways of doing things! If you want one on one support consider joining my private membership group. 💞diamondgirl.me/group
It should be a sharing amongst two people who plans they're togetherness. We(my date and I) always discuss this decision and input of who will do what and on that day or before it happens. I loved it!
Thank you Adrienne great reminders and insight... btw your skin looks amazing! ❤
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I love your suggestions and advice. It is spot on and has saved me much heartache. ❤️🙏
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Dear Adrienne, after watching your videos for two years and then completing you ABCs to get him back, my man proposed to me! However we have such a wonderful relationship that I find myself obsessed with him even after 3+ years together, and as such I am always thinking about him/pursuing him! Which type of coaching of your would you recommend?
Wonderful! So happy you’re getting married! Sound like he’s the center of your happiness. Some of this might be normal and healthy! I’m available in my group community! If you want one on one support consider joining my private membership group. 💞diamondgirl.me/group
Love this video, thanks for such great coaching, we appreciate you!
I appreciate that!
omggggg i relate to all of this.. i made all these mistakes in my 20's.
Love love love your advice!! Always on point!!!! Pls listen to to this advice ladies!! Save yourself a lot of headache!!!😊
Yes! Thank you! ❤️❤️
If he doesn’t make you a priority he ain’t interested
Never make a woman your priority. She will know u r a loser.
Women of any age: recognize the signs, and leave emotionally unavailable people alone ( especially men ). You are not mom/therapist/healer/fighter. You might never find a men who loves you and meet you the right way, but that doesn’t make settling for AHs worth it. Get to know yourself first, and please don’t fell into the trap of masculine/feminine energy BS, it’s just bypassing the true source of the problem.
It goes both ways
Adrienne I have to disagree with this one. Due to the reengineered intersexual dynamics of this modern world where women are now empowered/encouraged to accuse men of all kinds of ridiculous things for the great crime of following their natural het instincts (e.g. the urge to pursue the female), yes! men have softened up and adapted to the new reality by sitting back and surpressing the vigor of their desire for the woman/women they want. Most men in the dating market today had been trained from a young age to "respect women" with messages so confusing/conflicting that the men are no longer sure what's generally okay. So, the new mindset sadly sums up to "don't risk it even if it's worth it". Women, on the other hand, face no societal consequence(s) in going for what they want.
That noted, I think for the woman to pursue a particular man is not the problem. Exhibiting the same desperately coquettish behavior towards other men simultaneously or serially is. We, as men, understand that GOOD women are more easily attached emotionally and they'll always be loyal to their feelings. So, we (at least the men who think like me), usually don't mind if the female shows that interest through slightly possessive/obsessive emotional behavior, as long as it's done in a feminine way and not gone too far.
Maybe some men resent women who try that (and I see no justification even from an evolutionary standpoint) but many others dont, due to the aforementioned feminism-induced change in society. The only types of good women I think most men resent are the one who go as far as mothering us and/or being providers for us long term. Big turn-off.
Ladies, again, "chasing" is not a big deal. Don't be afraid to pursue the man you want, or at least show signs that you're interested in him. That's better than second-guessing the situation until he slips away. Trust me, it doesn't take anything away from your feminine dignity to make a move. The very minority of men who would take that the wrong way or build an unhealthy ego from that small gesture are at fault, not you. Go get'em
Showing signs of interest are ok to do! We are saying similar things. Unrequited or unwarranted interest shown to a man (pursuing) instead of letting them right man pursue you.
In this video I offer 3 examples of how to show interest.
It’s the actively requesting dates of a man who is otherwise aloof (as mentioned in my examples), contacting him after periods of disinterest, and showing other forms attention in order to get him to notice you and pursue you - these are ineffective for a long term relationship.
Further, Ii you take on the job pursuing the man actively and repetitively he has no reason to pursue you because you are doing the work for him. MOST Men take the easiest route. Smart imho.
I understand there are some conflicts with men pursuing women and knowing how far to pursue or not, (men in the media who have not accepted the word “no” for example.)
However, when the woman of a man’s dreams walks into his life, I assure you, he is not simply leaning back to see if she text him yet again to follow up about their most recent date.
He is answering her text promptly and when he’s making one date with her, he’s also scheduling a second in the future with her. He will be actively pursuing her and moving mountains to be with her. The woman won’t need to purse. She can graciously receive.
@@AdrienneEverheart Very eloquently presented. I applaud the way you make your points coherently, coming from a feminine energy perspective. The main reason I disputed your core message is the consequences you presented your female audience in pursuing the men they want. That 'Cause and Effect' has never been deeply researched, and therefore does not deserve to be baselessly discouraged. The man in your story who asked what you wanted from him was obviously feminine and/or immature in handling your pursuit. He's the exception, not the rule.
Now! We all know how women think. And we know that if you put a speck of negative connotation on something, they'll refrain from it entirely rather than rationalize it and take a chance. Hence I just want to establish that most mature men truly dont take it the wrong way when women pursue them, especially in this modern era. And playing those games to give the man a little nudge to do the chasing doesn't work anymore.
So, Ladies! Your desired man is not a mind reader and he'll never accurately guess how far you want him to go with the pursuit. It's upto you to pursue him and I can guarantee you most men will appreciate and cherish you for it. Welcome to modern times
Sour Grapes😂. Loved this video ❤
Great advice! I've walked into this mindset and way of dating and thinking, and you are 💯 RIGHT!! With everything you're saying! Listen to this, ladies! She's speaking pure facts! 👏🏽
Thank you! 😍 I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
Yes absolutely! You give great advice and I would just move on in my life!🤗❤️
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But what if the laundry piling up is driving us crazy haha
Good questions, set a limit... "I will wait 3-5 days then address this again..." But I do encourage you wait it out, let it get baddd. Then work together as a team, let him problem solve, show him you can be a good co-worker with him leading. Get my FREE scripts here: diamondgirl.me/gift
Everybody should do there own laundry or if the other one can't do it maybe very busy at work etc. Then that person can take it to the Laundromat. Of course he or she has to send it there and pay. That solved that issue.
sending a hug you look beautiful inside and out
Love your videos! Thank you for these reminders they help! Random question, but would you mind sharing the link of your gold necklace?? It’s so pretty on you ❤
Thank you! This necklace was a gift from my husband from Anthropology
Thank you I agree, nearly. I wouldn't go so far as to say "Would be nice to do it again" & Definitely Not "When & Where"? THATS PURSUING! 😖🤣
You’re getting a conversation confused with pursuing a person. Sometimes in a conversation or disagreement you want resolution. As a Diamond girl you have the right to seek resolution and problem solve. You’re not a doormat. If the man refuses you can state your peace (13 words or less) and boldly move on. Get my free ‘scripts men love to hear’ guide 😘 www.everheartcoaching.com/freegift/
You have to exercise extreme self control. Or just don’t date, that’s always an option, ladies. 😂
If something about him dies not fit with what you want. ..Ladies, as Women we have been bending to accomodate flaws, etc. In men..stop ticking off the bixes..You're Women... Intuitive...you know that you'll know he's the one even befire you actually meet him. And there really won't be any sense that you have to be forgiving of any flaws.
How far after he’s texted should we respond in order to not seem desperate do we save sex for marriage? Celebracy ?
I don’t recommend playing any time of “rules” or “games” if single I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
Just at the right time, thank you for this!❤
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Great job!
You definitely help ❤ much love
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Wow you described my life
So much better not chasing.
Wow you’re good !!!! Thank you !
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"He was too busy with work"...men usually have to work 40 hours a week to survive and be a provider.
40 hours and a lot of time more than that.
It was more like 60 and it never stopped and we had plenty of money. Mostly combined income. He was a workaholic and also doing work for his family. I wasn’t his number one, they were.
What about a man who marries the woman who pursued him? I have an ex who was devasted when I broke up with him, a few weeks later he meets a woman and she is crazy about him. He tried to break up with her or didn't care when he thought their relationship was over. Eventually, she asks him to marry her and he does. I always kind of thought he was terrified of being alone. I wish them the best, but I always had the feeling that she deserves better.
You might be getting only half of the story. He may enjoy being pursued but ultimately he made his own decision.
I searched your videos for one on this subject today as a reminder not to pursue him...thank you!
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Good advice 👍
Glad you think so!
@adrienne everheart
Could you tell what I should do when my husband and I get into an argument/tension around his lack of consideration for me and then he goes quiet for a few days. Then wants to speak to me like things are normal.
I understand he may feel ashamed and angry but I feel forgotten and not cared for when he doe this. I used to go to him and ask for resolution only to argue more. In the last few months I now just go quiet and try and stay busy.
However if he does try and speak to me as usual, should I bring it up what I felt about our argument?
Thank you in advance!
This is a pursuer-withdrawal scenario. Although you may be withdrawing as well. I would talk about it before the next time it happens. Let him know that you want to address something that concerns you, you love him and you love “us” LHK you understand his way to solve a problem is to withdraw from the situation and then you in turn may pursue him to get a solution. Ask him if this really feels healthy for both? Let him speak.
In this process Aim to use as few words as possible. See what he has to say and just give him open forum for him to speak. Even if you disagree, just hear him out and sit there in silence and look at him in the eyes and nod and listen respectfully. Your final sentence to him needs to be, “when we get in a disagreement I would really like to focus on problem-solving and if we abandon each other in that moment I feel so sad. I want to feel close and warm and loving with you. What do you think?”
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@@AdrienneEverheart Thank you for your advice 💐
If a man is not crazy about you no point. Maybe that guy was trying to tell you he was gay and you would not take the hint. In my experience I have more sex appeal and allure in my 70s. For man the hunter the woman is prey.
He breadcrumbed me for years!
Adrienne, how can I show affection and appreciation to my partner without seeming like I chase him?
Small touches of warmth. Soft communication. Smiles. Listen to him and giggle when he tries to be funny. Go deeper with “500 Ways,” ebook and 2 day video classes. bit.ly/500waysbook
That one did not deserve you, men should appreciate a woman who genuinely loves them,sounds like you did and it is his loss.
Very sad story
My boyfriend of 1.5 years abandoned me without warning 2 months ago, and I'm traumatized. Do you think this would be the right time for your courses, or should I give it time?
Hi, if you are traumatized you need to be in therapy. There is no question or grey area. Therapy is the only thing that treats trauma.
I so understand being blindsided and suddenly left alone. By all means explore the ABCs. You can begin healing immediately by using that course.
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Thank you, Adrienne! 💕
What tragically unfortunate advice, for we men, by and large have stopped pursuing women
Very much sad. However this is a mindset. I have men pursuing me everywhere I go, opening doors, flirting, giving me free things, even in my husbands company. Chivalry isn’t dead unless you think so - your thoughts attract more of that reality. Baader-Meinhof phenomenon.
@@AdrienneEverheart Interesting theory. Personally, I can't say I've gone the worst course for it, now living on anchor
mind blowing
Thank you. 🙏🏼
Curious what a healthy mans response to Honey, I know you can figure this out would be ?
It can vary, but take your focus off his response, let it be up to him, not your problem to fix everything or his problems ;-)
@@AdrienneEverheart
Okay, we keep the ball in his court but how should we be feeling by not picking up the ball ?
Single women keep women single.
Only if they want to. That wasn’t what I wanted. 👏🏼I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
@AdrienneEverheart Your advisement inadvertently keeps women single.
The idea of a man chasing a woman is a recent invention, and isn't natural.
The women must pursue the men they want.
And if the men they want reciprocate attention, than the match is perfect.
If the men they want do NOT reciprocate interest, than move on to other men they still want who would reciprocate interest in those women.
That is the natural order.
That is the healthiest order.
My favorite episode on King of Queens , Carrie teaches Holly getting the Man
what do you think about men that say things like it would be easier if women approached men and women don't do it because they are afraid of rejection
I agree with this, in my world that is "drop the handkerchief" in that you let a man know you are interested. Find a reason to chat and "chatting has felt so fun. Would be nice to get coffee sometime, what do you think?" Now he knows and he can either say YES or NO. Get more SCRIPTS here diamondgirl.me/gift
Oh my god for real
❤❤❤❤wow he was a jurk to speak with you he was a little boy.
He was for sure scared and he is still alone.
Before 31:23 so then what do you think " ...?" Is??? But a Tap on the shoulder, "Hey, I'm Here...pursuing you to acknowledge me" "...?:
You’re getting a conversation confused with pursuing a person. Sometimes in a conversation or disagreement you want resolution. As a Diamond girl you have the right to seek resolution and problem solve. You’re not a doormat. If the man refuses you can state your peace (13 words or less) and boldly move on. Get my free ‘scripts men love to hear’ guide 😘 www.everheartcoaching.com/freegift/
@@AdrienneEverheart Super Thanks SisStar! 🥰
What you’re talking about in the beginning is one-itis. Don’t pursue people who don’t choose you. In that you are right.
However, in this gynocentric society where men are shamed and demeaned for approaching women and women say things like, “all men are potential predators”, yeah a lot of men don’t think the juice is worth the squeeze. Also consider that many young men have seen their fathers and uncles financially destroyed in divorce court and want no part of that.
Kudos to you for finding your husband in your friend zone. Many women miss good men in their social circle because they don’t fit their preconceived notions.
I think Emily W King has some good advice about women approaching men. Men aren’t interested in game playing. Being a grown up woman and treating a man like a fellow human is not, “masculine energy”.
For older men consider that most of them have been destroyed in divorce court and can’t afford to lose half of their net worth (including their 401k) again. Not getting married again is just survival. Women seem to be blind to this risk for men. It’s a life and death risk.
I don’t shame men for pursuing me. 🥰
Adrienne, as you are a woman over 45… How do you think this concept changes?
As stated in the video men have no reason to marry again and have a larger pool of women to date. This is both my opinion and that of many women I’ve worked with 50+ in age.
@@AdrienneEverheart I appreciate the response and yes, I did hear you say that in the video. I thought maybe there was more to it, but I have found that the feminine energy principles work at any age, which I also believe you mentioned... frankly, I don't think it's just the men who don't want to marry again… Women who are over 45 do not necessarily want to get married again either... we'd rather just have a younger lover!
Unrelated to the topic:
You are so fortunate in winning the genetic lottery.
You look so pretty! I am so happy for you. :)
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You're doing such a good job at it.
You’re so sweet! I’ve been using sunscreen since I was very young.
Is it ok to still love a man after you let him go ?
YES! Love is a wonderful thing and destigmatizes the push/pull of a breakup. Tap your heart and send him love!
Definitely watch out for excuses - excuses is a NO. Women definitely can't pursue men and can't be the one deciding that the guy is the one.
You're looking pretty and fresh today
I'm seeing a man ,just as a friend and he has said up front that he doesn't believe in remarriage, he is divorced and is saved.
I’m saved too. I always say upfront that I want to be remarried when the time is right when I start out in a relationship/friendship. I always appreciate when guys tell me they’re not interested in getting married again. You should believe what he says.
You can till date him as one of your quantum 5. Many men once the woman walks away change their mind. I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
Men want to chase
Not you chasing him.
A real turn off to him..
So annoying
Meh. Less so these days. Welcome to the 21st century.
How does a woman pursue a man? That doesn't even sound right?😊
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@Sacred revel you dodged a bullet. Huge red flag trying to move so fast.
Sorry but persuing a guy for more than a year and even move to be close to him is obsession.
Totally! Don’t pursue!
Adrienne, what if we had an argument and I kinda said goodbye to him, as he was not acting as I wanted him. I only realised how wrong I was months later, now. That I was like a demanding, dramatic child and repelled him with my energy. Now I realised this so I wrote him a sorry message and that I will work on my issue and if we can still be friends (we are friends only due to distance) . I wrote him, once he is ok to talk, would be glad to hear from him. He ignored my message. Now I try to lean back and do nothing and heal myself. Do you think he would come around if enough time goes by and my energy changes?
I have a feeling that you spoke your truth and he knew it was true. You may be missing him and realize you could’ve done or said things differently, but you were probably speaking from a place of total frustration and honesty. I’m curious how this would feel if you had a very full bank account and about five men who were interested in dating you? That is all within your reach, and then this man who cannot handle a little criticism Might begin to seem like not the best option for you. I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
@@AdrienneEverheart actually I already have 500 ways to talk to a man, and were considering the abc s. But I think I need a deep healing first (inner child, and traumas) plus just take my energy back to me. Let's see what unfolds. The uncertainity about him bugs me, but I need to live through that. 💖
@@AdrienneEverheart and yeah, he probably felt it right, and he is not acting nice with me. Hope he would change
@@AdrienneEverheart and yeah, he probably felt it right, and he is not acting nice with me. Hope he would change
Rori Ray was the first to explain masculine & feminine energy with the sperm & egg. Weren’t you trained by her?
I never heard this from her. In fact I got the concept from Simone de Beauvoir - the weaker sex.
Men get told not to chase women, women get told not to chase men... Today's result is dating is a hot mess. If you like someone, shoot your shot... If it's on then it's on and bang the gong cuz it's a win-win... If you get rejected, something better is always coming 'round the corner. That's life. Enjoy!😉
There’s letting someone know you’re interested and then there’s chasing someone. Two very different things. Maybe that’s the problem. No one can tell the difference. I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
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Sorry no interest in me then no interest in her. I'm good alone thanks. My income over 100k and no debt. So I'm good
Very good! Keep up the good work! 🥰
Ladies, go chase the man you like. Men aint doing that anymore because they became afraid to speak to you. Let them know you want them. Don't listen to this 'therapist'.
If any woman “chases” a man like a wild animal to prove to him her worth and capture his attention - and this is sustainable and works long term - my blessings to you. I am personally not into this exhausting process of behaving like a suitor when I am the valuable prize.
@@AdrienneEverheart You are not the Prize, believe me.
I'm already a man why want anuther 😅😅😅😅😅
I can't stand when guys don't reach out, then wanna say you ghosted them 😒 you mean doing what you've been also doing too, type ghosting? Yea, ok 😒🤦🏽♀️
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@@AdrienneEverheart you're a gem, thank you!
I chased and all it did was waste my Time
I wasted my Young Beautiful Life
I bet you had some fun too! I enjoyed the thrill of the hunt back in my masculine days.
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Very sad story