A woman shouldn't have to convince or coach a man into wanting or loving her, especially after she has opened up to him about her feelings and made a conscious decision to show herself as vulnerable. Sometimes regardless of how tender and respectful you are to a man, some will not appreciate it. This is a big turn off to me.
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Yeah but that's how many men are...it's up to you to decide if he is worth the wait. Frankly, all the ones that were instantly interesting in me, were the biggest mistakes in my life. Loving someone enough to have patience at least for me, has been my test.
@@lisawentworth6831 very well said as you say it beautifully. I’m exhausted of doing what I did for myself. I wrote n sent a confession email to my man ex who breadcrumb me that I got all my feelings n clarified misunderstandings between us in my E-mail. I’m finally feeling at peace after my E-mail which he responded with his sorry 😢 n rejected me by not being ready for relationship n still figuring it out. I’m moving on just loving me.
@@melatimohdsalleh1880 Well done...take care of yourself. In my case, I knew he really loved me, and reconciled and had to use my patience skills, because I knew he was worth it. The hell I went through while he was making on him making up his mind, I wouldn't wish on anyone...
🌿Regardless of a busy life... a person ALWAYS makes time for what is REALLY IMPORTANT TO THEM!!! Even if it is just a moment or two... Maintain your self respect people!
If he flakes, I put him immediately in the friendzone and treat him as such.. I stop investing, but I stay nice and friendly, slighty desinterested in him. If he tries to come back by texting, I text back, but hours or days later and never with emojis. And I move on!
This is huge. I made several mistakes reaching out to past people I dated. I realize that was absolutely ridiculous. I also realize how much I am loving being single lately, staying focused on my art and building up my business. I am seeing how important it is to stay focused on making my life beautiful, focus on raising my son and exercising regularly. I am realizing if someone wants to see me, they need to step up and put that effort in. However, if it is an ex, I have given up on them. I let them go. I'd rather stay single and committed to making my life so much better. I am looking for someone who is looking for an authentic & long lasting relationship. I think it starts with building from a friendship first. I love how you provide really awesome ways to communicate with men. It is so helpful.
I started a relationship with my very best friend of five years. He wanted to move in right away since we always just got along so very well. All was good, we were talking things slow as fast as the intimacy goes. There months later I discover this man who had been my closest friend cannot even stand sex. I am losing my mind. I am all kinds of horny all day long every day. I am getting nothing whatsoever. Now I want to revert to best friends. And we can't, we are in too deep now with the having arrangement. Our families have already blended a long time ago but how will they all react when or if I should say, we go back to just friends??? It's a hot messssss
@@susannegraf2519 it was a horrible nightmare. There will be no recovery and no looking back. Things were great for about 3-4 weeks. Never again will I even allow thoughts of crossing that line enter my realm of possibility. All is well, this absolutely made it clear to me that things in fact do happen for a reason. The reasons are clear, I am at peace with everything that has evolved.
The phone thing, yeah it’s a load of crap. Lol. One guy made an excuse about his phone acting up. So I blocked him, he reached out months after on social media and he’s like oh I tried to text you... I was like strange, you know what my phone has been acting up. 😂
😂😂😂 That is wonderful that you set that boundary with him. He clearly showed you that he was not the high-quality man that you desire! Keep up the good work! bit.ly/femmtools
I'm not connecting with no man's heart who breadcrumbs me. Obviously he doesn't value me or see me as a priority therefore he's not worth a heart to heart conversation. Sorry #NEXT
Right! I can be cordial like he's doing but my energy will be matching his, not putting forth more than him hoping he feels it and comes around... that's wasted time and energy lol
i agree 100%! and any real and good Man will communicate, and will make sure you have no doubt if he trully likes you/wants you....which is why above video is bs ;) imho
@@symonesymone3941 yes girl I tried it too and failed. I even made myself super vulnerable because I assumed that's what he needed before opening up to me. However he used to tell me that he loves me right before getting off the phone, but was not investing and I told him he wasn't loving me. I've just decided to move on.
They will never tell you. Trust me. Every time I’ve given a man an opportunity to tell me what’s up, he lies. Then the truth comes out not long after. Don’t even bother asking, lol. If you feel something is off and/or you are being mistreated, then trust your instincts and walk.
Seriously if men could just be honest that would solve half the problems. I'm sick of the "I'm looking for an official relationship" statement on the first date just to find that as time goes on the excuses as to why the relationship can't happen begin to come out. It's so frustrating.
Men in my experience, can change their mind in 5 minutes, 5 months, 5 weeks, or even 5 seconds. If you feel a man won't 'change' he won't and that is your mindset and it's your right. Yet this is not what I teach nor the results I and my clients receive.
As a man, my experience is this. If I call regularly women start to pull away. Why? Is it because I seem needy? When I make my life the priority and invite her to come along, I find she desires to be with me much more.
@@jeradblazek677 I can only guess that they are not serious about developing a relationship with you. I am definitely not an expert, but people that have mutual interest can make it happen. If the interest is one sided, the relationship is not likely to happen. I wish you luck. Finding a good relationship is difficult.
Stop giving boyfriend, husband titles☝️ No one is ever to busy. There’s 24hrs in a day and no one eats sleeps and work 24/7 all it takes it 10 minutes of a persons time to pick up the phone and learn to tell a guy what you will and won’t put up with by talking to him rather at him but be firm in your decision. I also feel too many times, we as women speak up for the guy if he’s changed his mind over and over about a real date etc., drop him like a bad habit & keep it moving sista!!!!☝️☝️☝️💯
Chlarie Peace I hear you women can be dating emotionally unavailable expecting quality results then get frustrated! Women need to make ourselves high value to get a quality man ! Most women will get put out by high value men bcoz these men expect quality too . Time to LEVEL UP . Man is not a pet to fulfil all our needs he not always going to message every day and straight away all the time he has a life n so shud you. If he’s successful n rich these men are always busy. He is not our GAY BESTIE
@Chlarie Peace just because he a doctor doesn't mean he can't call you sometimes on his break he doesn't have to do it everytime he's at work but if you guys are just starting out he can make it a priority to check in so don't act like he that busy because my daughter works in the operating room along side the doctors and on her break she cheeks in with her little daughter , so men will call or text those he care about he will put forth the effort just like his job.
I really happy I saw this I'm now in a relationship with a guy who is stringing me along for months I keep giving him chances but he's never going to change .
I absolutely love how super-smiley & positive you always are, Adrienne!!! You are so beautiful inside & out. Thank you for teaching & enlightening the masses again & again. God bless you. 🙏💙
I’m glad this video fell into my suggested feed. After 6 years I’m embarrassed to say I feel I’ve finally come to a point that all I was getting is breadcrumbs. I guess I thought he really was “too busy” then I realized that we all have the same 24 hrs in a day. I’ve waited long enough. Although it hurts horribly, I’m slowly letting go of the hope this man will ever come around and I’m moving on 💔
Hugs to you, honey! 🥰 I know it can be so tough. I recommend working through my ABC program. Even if you decided you don’t want this man back, this will help attract high-quality men into your life. bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
One thing that occurs to me is how much emotional labor women have been expected to provide for centuries. It’s 2020 and men, should they chose to better themselves as a partner can find countless resources to learn how to communicate effectively, open to their emotions. I am seeking a partner who is doing his own work, not just depending upon me to understand the right ‘script’ or to play games. I am seeking emotional honesty
@@AdrienneEverheart respectfully, I leaned back into my feminine for over eight weeks, he reached out to communicate every day, bought me flowers, took me to dinner, we went looking for a new apartment for him, we talked about all the big stuff: health, childhood, sexuality, past relationships, etc. Yet he kept holding me at an arm's length emotionally, stating that all he could be was 'friends' right now. When I decided to communicate a healthy boundary about how much time, attention and energy I was not willing to give if he was not ultimately looking for a life partnership, commence radio silence. Yes, women do need to learn how to receive and allow him to be the man, yet after eight years of dating, I've discovered it's so important to be honest and clear right away, before your heart gets involved, what you are ultimately looking for and to clarify what he's ultimately looking for. Not asking for a marriage proposal a month in as that would likely take several years of deepening the relationships, just exploring the overall motivation for spending time together. Then, when there's a split early on, it's not so devastating to your emotions and your life.
@@jamesg469 Thank you for the suggestion, however I trust my inner knowing about which people and resources are right for me. Glad this worked for you and peace
Hugs to you! 💕 This is absolutely true! You are a Diamond girl and you are the prize! Lean back into your feminine energy & let the man come to you! bit.ly/femmtools
☺️. I'm curious, aside from your presence, what do you bring to a relationship that you feel you are the prize? What do you expect a man to bring? Nobody should feel they are the "prize" for just showing up. And no, sex doesn't count as something you bring, that should be a mutually beneficial thing, like dancing.
@@jeradblazek677 maybe because my father raised me to believe there are certain things I am supposed to have in regards to how I'm treated, maybe I was a bit spoiled but he wouldn't approve of any guy who doesn't treat me like a princess.
@@nicolejennings8389 yet I see you didn't answer any of my questions, you only affirmed to me that you believe your general presence is enough in a relationship. For your dad, you may be his little princess (cringe). To any potential male you will come off as a pretentious spoiled brat who's only good for one thing (spread em). It's possible you may find someone to marry and breed with you. But I have a feeling you'll then find yourself raising a couple of kids after a divorce, wondering why you can't find another beta male to provide for you. 🤦🤦 If you want to be a princess, they typically grow to be a queen. Will you then be treating your husband like a king? Will he be the one in charge of the house, providing and protecting? Will you be submissive to his authority? If not, then you have only been raised to be a spoiled brat who thinks others are there to take care of you with no accountability on your part.
4.48 Best answer!!!!! I love it when men get a taste of their silly games. Bread crumbing and flakes nowadays shouldnt have any of our time and should be removed fr our lives, removed fr our future
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SheRaSeven and Adrienne Everheart are complete opposites. SheRa teaches how to manipulate and trick men, and only date rich, older, ugly men....I watched her for a year. She teaches you to settle for "only money", and NOT love. Everheart is teaching the real deal, how to be completely authentic, without manipulation. She teaches how to tie up a guys heart without games. SheRA is all games.
That’s so true if he’s flaking out in the first few weeks of seeing each he showing u who he is just move on he’s not gonna change that happened to me with my baby daddy he never changed he kept doing it repeatedly but I kept trying to make it work just leave
He was sending messages through whasapp but really basic just to keep the contact. I didnt feel any quality messages. After three weeks of feeling weird and sort of breadcrumbed I told him I was feeling I needed more contact when we talked ( I knew men dont like and they take it as comolaints) but this little contact was not working for me . Well... he just stop contacting me. As simple as that.
You can tell him you think something feels off and if there is something I should know but NO man is going to then decide to answer truthfully to question like that unless he’s willing to loose her at that moment or be put in a position to hav to make a decision as to whether he is to leave the other woman at that particular time. He’ll wait until it’s the best time for him and until then continue to lie with great skill and feeding hope which strings the woman along who’s wanting things to be true.
Christina Cataldi exactly what happened with me a couple weeks ago! He went silent after a date - this was a guy I’d known for a few years & we reconnected on more of personal basis in late July. But the days following he just got quiet on me. Ignored my messages & I wasn’t bombarding him either. His went from friendly to short & cold SUPER quick. Then I told him something felt off in his energy & he said he just wanted to be friends like “I hope we can still be friends😊” ... this a week AFTER he has encouraged me to express my feelings & said nothing against them then... accept a basic friendship after expressing deeper feelings? Um, NO thank you!
@@celissewillis9399 I know how you feel. I had this before and I think I am going through it right now!!! It made me resentful and angry in the past. I see it from another perspective now and wow I feel so good 😊 Yes you showed your feelings, you were your authentic self! It took you courage to be vulnerable!!! When we do so, we somehow expect something back! We hope they open up in return and show us how they feel positive towards us. you stated yourself: he said nothing against them. You expressed your feelings "hoping he'd answer them" , like with an agenda... don't get me wrong I did it too. Now I learn to express my feelings from an authentic place, without expecting anything in return! If he returns the feelings, great it makes me more than happy and even more in love, he doesn't return the feelings fair enough! his choice and his loss - he is not my man. Will it sting? oooo yes, but I remain in my truth. Is it scary in the beginning to open up, show your vulnerability and authenticity to a man??? Ow yes!!! Does it give him power??? Well once you love yourself, know what you want and where your boundaries are... you keep your own power. Your choice to remain just friends or walk away!!! YOU CHOOSE and stick with yourself.
Well sure he won't tell you the truth if is intention is to string you along! You can ask it once, maybe twice and then the guy should step up and you remain expressing how you feel. If he doesn't step up... you have your answer! In the past I thought a guy was breadcrumbing me! This one was not! I just didn't express how I felt and didn't tell him how he made me feel when he did good stuff He was clueless!!! I thought he should know, if he loved me he should know what to do!! If a guy is into me he will show! Yes, he will but if we do not reinforce it with feeling statements and do not open up our heart, he gets lost and looses connection quite rapidly! I am noticing it right now with the guy I am actually dating. I hope it is not too late, and if it is.... lesson learned 😊 I do know why we do not open up our heart; it is scary, as we might have been hurt in the past by opening up and being vulnerable! We do not want to be hurt again!!! But that will keep us from connecting with a man. The magic happens when you understand that it is OK to be vulnerable, it is OK if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings because you love yourself first. It stings of course and it is even good to tell him that it saddens you, you keep being yourself and that is what makes you so beautiful! These are the lessons I learned from Adrienne 💕 ans wow was I resistant at the beginning 😁
They say they don’t want to talk on the phone a lot, they say they’re not big on texting, they say they’re better in person… But they make almost no effort to spend regular time with you… Literally dealing with this right now. The guy claims to have a shitty phone making regular communication difficult. When I have expressed the need for more communication/attention he steps it up a little bit. What is so frustrating is he’s not even trying to fix his phone or get a new one. I finally said… Well I don’t know what to do if we can’t spend more time together or you won’t get your phone fixed?
Hugs to you! 💕 I would start pulling your energy away from this man. If I man wants to be with you he will move mountains and show up. I would keep dating a rotation of men and focus on your full & juicy life. bit.ly/femmtools
What if we had an amazing time talking Friday night, made plans to talk again Saturday night but he flaked and since then hasn’t said good morning or night (like he was), but this morning said “it’s raining, seems like the snails are traveling East”. lol. Cute but !?!?!?
Sometimes I feel this self induced pressure to reply + continue talking in texts. But I truly dislike it doesn’t feel good to engage in ways that’s don’t feel natural to me or have me in my body
Also when he flaked he said l “ I hope it’s okay, talk soon” and I replied ” felt amazing to connect last night over the phone, was looking forward to it again tonight. Take all the time you need to rest up, gn!”
I had a male friend that was breadcrumbing me & after 4 yrs I just felt that it wasn't enough and that he wasn't that interested anymore. I think that i might have made a mistake in breaking up w him just a few days ago....Im not sure now! Adrienne, you just said in this video that as long as he is still breadcrumbing, that he is still maintaining connection & so he is interested. He tried to tell me that but I was too upset because I want more. I may have sabotaged my relationship w him. I haven't heard from him in a week.
You've sabotaged nothing. You are sick of waiting and I don't blame you. Own it like a Goddess! Do you have this program because it will really help you. bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
I commend most dating coaches & advice about relationships. But I feel that with all this advice is not offering much success in dating ! The world is soo different & complicated. People have the “grass is greener syndrome” short attention spans bcoz of Dating apps n Instagram girls post body pics...so most wont commit just serial date.People love one minute then not the next, a guy can be attentive, move slow, meet the family say he wants a relationship n kids and still ghost you bcoz maybe he just changed. Not all guys of course but a high number of them are. Love in relationships will always be a risk 🙏🏾
Hugs to you! 🥰 Dating is very tough these days. Masculine men who are ready to commit are really out there. FEMM Tools would be a great place for you to start bit.ly/femmtools
I believe you are on your way to truly opening up the answers to why relationships are harder these days. The whole conversation is very nuanced, and neither gender is completely to blame.
You're speaking from a woman's point of view. My Ex Girlfriend had Breadcrumbed me last week after 6 months. She wasn't looking to get back together with me. I think that she thought that I was going to Beg and Plead for her not to leave me. When I didnt contact her i think that I injured her ego. She text messaged me probably because she was curious of what I was doing or to see if I was still interested in her. She just needed validation so she can move forward. Men wait anxiously for a woman to text message them also. Women also have narcissistic personality traits. They use the Silent Treatment, Gaslighting or abandoning without closure. This happened to me but it was a learning experience. I will never trust a women completely again. Happiness comes from within you not a woman or a man.
I hear you. The confusion is how silence is perceived. The silent treatment isn't always a deliberate withholding weapon, sometimes ppl need space to figure things out on their own. Sometimes it is a coping mechanism, to prevent a person from over reacting, saying something they might regret, or not knowing what to say as they are unable to process their tbots/feelings. The "silent treatment" can vary depending on the context, situation and person.
I have this guy I really like, high value man, he texts me every other morning “good morning lovely” or good morning x and the conversation is just fruitless…. It never goes anywhere, I’ve decided now to stop replying and see where it goes
What do you expect a man to say when he's texting a girl other than "hi, hey u, or hello"? This is why things are so complicated in dating. People say that people who are dating tend to over complicate things, but yet when you try to simplify things, someone still complains. I'm head over heels for a woman, I'm pretty sure she knows I like her a lot and she likes me a lot too but I haven't quite opened up to her all the way yet. But when I text her, it's always a simple opener. Women always say what they want but yet respond better to something else. With women, less is more if you apply it right. I can tell you one thing, if a man is communicating with you in a consistent way, meaning you text him and he texts you and you guys always return each other's texts but you see he still hasn't opened up to you yet, then try opening up to him first and you will be surprised with his response. Real men understand that infatuation is not love and we dont want to spew our feelings to someone who is all lovey dovey during the infatuation stage only to leave him hanging with his feelings when the infatuation is over. We need to make it past the infatuation stage and then we can see down the road a little clearer.... on another note, I think you are very wrong to encourage a woman to PRACTICE opening up her heart to someone she doesn't feel anything for. You are leading these women down a destructive and karmic road. This sounds like a narcissistic boot camp if I can be honest.
@@AdrienneEverheart yes and I relayed and meant everything that I wanted to get across without any weariness. Trust me, it takes no energy at all to serve justice. A quality woman doesn't breadcrumb a man. You know nothing of me or my love life and I am at peace with myself whether I have a partner or not because no one will ever love me more than God. Do you even incorporate God into your life and relationships? Get your mind right lady.
It's so stupid when guys go down to the classic phone excuse. "I forgot my phone was on silent, I lost your number, I didn't see your text, I left my phone in the car, I didn't hear my phone, my phone died, I chunked my phone across the Atlantic Ocean mid-sentence while I was texting you.. my phone got ran over by a freight train, bad reception, my nephew was playing games on my phone..." I mean in your situation, any man that has a job-a job where he has to travel to Hawaii for business obviously isn't living paycheck-to-paycheck. I mean how can somebody go on a business trip nowadays without a phone? LOL what a loser. Why are guys so scared of just being upfront? They don't want to hurt your feelings? Ha! No they just don't want to hurt their ego admitting to themselves that they are acting like a middle school child. Guys like the one you described can easily get a replacement phone even though his reason was a bunch of BS.
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I was getting breadcrumbs for 10 months...it was a mutual problem because HE was married and I was recently widowed and although we were compatible it was clear I was going to lose him sooner or later because he was going through a guilt complex. Not my problem. He ghosted me for weeks at a time and then he would call with the same question..."what are you up to?". I hate small talk. I am not a doormat and when he pulled away and started ghosting me I had to confront him and I knew I had to put a stop to it all. He attempted to friend zone me and I said NO...I wasn't having any of it. He thought he was going to be able to orbit me by calling once a month for 2 minutes. Uh...hell no. I told him he would not hear from or see me again. If we weren't going to remain lovers then I wasn't going backwards to the "friend" zone. Nope. He couldn't handle my heart. I had to let him go. It broke my heart and I had to grieve another loss.
Wow, you said pandemic... Finding Value.. Leaving my value in his hands and only if they deem you valuable- thats exactly how I felt :/ That’s a bunch of bs...on my part. But I am so grateful you put this video.
I have a lot of work to do. When I would tell my ex husband something bad happened in my day he would ask me what did I do to make someone mistreat me. Real talk. If I told him someone flipped me the bird he would ask what I did to cause it. HORRIBLE
Try telling him only positive things for two weeks straight. He is likely feeling too much drama. A good break can help hit the reset button. Get more loving support from within, or a close friend or family member.
Also, this man did not have the empathy or tools needed to be kind, most likely he was not taught this. You can turn this around by being empathetic to the man or simply saying, "I feel so sad because I did nothing. I really need a hug." It is ok to ask for a hug. Melt into him.
@@redpillqueen8888 was definitely a narc. I miss my family but I would shrivel up and die spiritually (and physically too) if I ever got back with him. So far I'm thriving. My money is flowing, I'm doing better overall. No amount of empathy works with these soul sucking people. I'm glad my soul is healing. God is great.❤
This guy approached me online to meet me telling how much he liked me. He was back and forth at the time of meeting giving weird excuses . He was new in the island so I gave him a break .When finally he decided to meet me, we talked a while but basically he was complaining about he drank a lot on the night before and kind of “crying” about problems he had with his ex girlfriend which he left behind in another State but that they still talk . He apologized to me for not being in conditions to share and told he wanted to leave to what I responded : “don’t worry there are other men that I can meet and don’t have your issues”. Lol Cuz in the inside I felt kind of despised . But guess what happened . Like about 3 weeks later he texted me back wanting to see me again to which I replied : “Do you feel better ?” , and he said yes I do . But he was kind of he had not too much time cuz he had to go to work . Then I said “ok just tell me yes or no and don’t make me waste my time “ . I felt so proud of myself since this is the first time I talk to a man like that. Then he stopped talking to me immediately . Ha ha .
Hugs to you! 💕 I am so sorry, honey! However, it is never too late to fix things. First you must lean back! I would recommend working through the ABC’s bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
I must be more like a guy. I prefer “hey”. Or even “Sup”. I actually love that!? I get super agitated at “Hows your day going!?” Because I hate texting. I prefer just to know they want to touch base without starting a conversation! The absolute best tests are statements and not questions like, “ Hey was thinking about u! Hope your having a great day!” That’s perfect!
Hi Adrienne, I am dating this guy for about 3 months.. recently I feel like he will just reach out thru text once a week. He is also a slow responser lately.. He is already getting toxic to me, coz I kept thinking bout him and what is happening, what’s my worth to him.. I have been watching and listening to your advice.. for my self love and self respect I know I don’t deserve crumbs.. so I started ignoring him too.. for a week already. I already brought up to him about his slow response weeks ago. Then he became flaky again.. it’s just pissed me off now.. I’m avoiding him. Though he and I haven’t talk about “what are we” He recently message me asking if I am mad at him? I don’t know what to response..:-(
Wait, if we reply, and the other girls don’t, then... we will look too desperate though? I don’t know why they go more text than phone!! It makes me think they’re too lazy, or have another girl!!
Who cares what we look like. Be authentic. Or you’ll attract a game player if you play games. And when they flake and act dodgy give them the axe. It’s a beautiful thing
So im confused.... if you have a man that constantly ghosts you for weeks at a time and they always touch base with a “ hey just checking in” or “ hey how are you” what do we respond to that
Hi Deanne, it can be complicated, and there's no one right way to approach this. I would recommend you find out a lot more strategies for dealing with this in my 500 Ways to Talk to a Man and Dating Unzipped guides: bit.ly/500waysbook & bit.ly/datingunzipped
So insightfull!!! tell him how you feel from an authentic place!!! I often mistake that man always want the positive women and see "sad" (negative) woman as a burdon. I start to use feeling statements and see the reaction is different than when I just tell something in a masculine way! Still need to practice, not used to feeling statements... Keeping practicing!!! It doesn't come naturally yet!!! Lately the guy I am dating for 4 weeks went silent... I initially leaned back.... after 4 days I sended "Hey sweet, I feel sad and confused about the silent. Is there something I should know?" He answered withing few hours with a big text explaining what is happening... what happens puts quite stress on our connection. Due to the stress that also impacts me, I was in my boy energy without feeling statement and he went back in his silent. I realise he might just be breadcrumbing me or something eles due to the situation... I'll give it another shot if he comes back! I'll put attention on using feeling statements and see how it goes from there. What I notice, I a, changing my own vibe!!! I would like him in my life, still he has to choose me. If he doesn't, yes it stings, but I am OK with that knowing and believing my man is out there. Starting to love myself first lately (yes finally) knowing what I want and need and knowing my boundaries, help me a lot. Now I need to practice on delivering it in a loving and feeling way. Thanks for your video's adrienne
Ok so you said no when he asked you out after 3 weeks , but then did he continue asking you ? When did you accept ? How you start the relationship and it is now his fiancé ? I need to know because I am in a situation like this now . Thanks
Can you talk about your boyfriend not texting or calling through out the day when you know he is always on his phone. Then he saids I don’t call or text him . When I do I am the first to do so I work he is home all day (self employed )he said he doesn’t want to bother me I should call when I am free is it just me hahaha not sure I never had this done to me before
No, I *never* wonder "what I did," if a man fails me/disappoints me...That's what insecure women do. If a man fails me, I recognize him as a loser and I delete/block his number instantly. Problem solved. I move on... At the speed of light! 💪⚡ I have far too many real men as options out there, as to get hung up on a loser...
Hugs to you! 💕 Learning to handle these men with feminine energy methods will help you move up the tiers and you will start to meet higher-value men. Learn more here. bit.ly/femmtools
HEY YOU!!!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVICE OR TEACHINGS OF MEN WELL IM A SELL OUT I JUST GO RIGHT WITH THE HEART ILL TALK ABOUT THIS SOON LOVE BLANCA ALEX!!!! LIKE HE SAID THIER ARE PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA!!!! WOW THIER LOSS!!!!
A woman shouldn't have to convince or coach a man into wanting or loving her, especially after she has opened up to him about her feelings and made a conscious decision to show herself as vulnerable. Sometimes regardless of how tender and respectful you are to a man, some will not appreciate it. This is a big turn off to me.
Hugs to you! 💕 Feminine energy will activate a man into his masculine energy, or show you that a man is not worth investing your time in. It also boosts your vibe, so that men who want to breadcrumb won’t waste your time! bit.ly/femmtools
I totally agree with you!
Yeah but that's how many men are...it's up to you to decide if he is worth the wait. Frankly, all the ones that were instantly interesting in me, were the biggest mistakes in my life. Loving someone enough to have patience at least for me, has been my test.
@@lisawentworth6831 very well said as you say it beautifully. I’m exhausted of doing what I did for myself. I wrote n sent a confession email to my man ex who breadcrumb me that I got all my feelings n clarified misunderstandings between us in my E-mail. I’m finally feeling at peace after my E-mail which he responded with his sorry 😢 n rejected me by not being ready for relationship n still figuring it out. I’m moving on just loving me.
@@melatimohdsalleh1880 Well done...take care of yourself. In my case, I knew he really loved me, and reconciled and had to use my patience skills, because I knew he was worth it. The hell I went through while he was making on him making up his mind, I wouldn't wish on anyone...
🌿Regardless of a busy life... a person ALWAYS makes time for what is REALLY IMPORTANT TO THEM!!! Even if it is just a moment or two... Maintain your self respect people!
Yes
Real Talk! Blessings🤗😊😘
THANK YOU. I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT !
That is the truth. If they show one face when together and another when apart, believe the worst.
True 💯
When people show you who they are, believe them.
I needed that. I give this advice all the time but can't take my own advice unless someone gives it back to me. I'm weird & u helped me a lot
@@PoliticalWonderland understsnd so true
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If he flakes, I put him immediately in the friendzone and treat him as such.. I stop investing, but I stay nice and friendly, slighty desinterested in him. If he tries to come back by texting, I text back, but hours or days later and never with emojis. And I move on!
Nike Heise I like advice like this. Put you back in powerseat.
This seems to be the best advice, but would you do if you worked together and you really, really like him??
jemsmom97 what matters is how much he likes you
@@jemsmom97 I never mix Business with relationships. But yes, I would do the same
Nike Heise i need to learn from you dear..
"Look at men as practice" 👏👏
This is huge. I made several mistakes reaching out to past people I dated. I realize that was absolutely ridiculous. I also realize how much I am loving being single lately, staying focused on my art and building up my business. I am seeing how important it is to stay focused on making my life beautiful, focus on raising my son and exercising regularly. I am realizing if someone wants to see me, they need to step up and put that effort in. However, if it is an ex, I have given up on them. I let them go. I'd rather stay single and committed to making my life so much better. I am looking for someone who is looking for an authentic & long lasting relationship. I think it starts with building from a friendship first. I love how you provide really awesome ways to communicate with men. It is so helpful.
Thanks for the heart Adrienne! :)
I started a relationship with my very best friend of five years.
He wanted to move in right away since we always just got along so very well.
All was good, we were talking things slow as fast as the intimacy goes. There months later I discover this man who had been my closest friend cannot even stand sex.
I am losing my mind. I am all kinds of horny all day long every day.
I am getting nothing whatsoever.
Now I want to revert to best friends. And we can't, we are in too deep now with the having arrangement. Our families have already blended a long time ago but how will they all react when or if I should say, we go back to just friends???
It's a hot messssss
@@ginaberrie2608 oh dear, sounds awful! How did you decide now?
@@susannegraf2519 it was a horrible nightmare. There will be no recovery and no looking back. Things were great for about 3-4 weeks.
Never again will I even allow thoughts of crossing that line enter my realm of possibility.
All is well, this absolutely made it clear to me that things in fact do happen for a reason.
The reasons are clear, I am at peace with everything that has evolved.
@@ginaberrie2608 so glad that you found your way out of that! 💫💜
The phone thing, yeah it’s a load of crap. Lol. One guy made an excuse about his phone acting up. So I blocked him, he reached out months after on social media and he’s like oh I tried to text you... I was like strange, you know what my phone has been acting up. 😂
Ha ha good one
😂😂😂 That is wonderful that you set that boundary with him. He clearly showed you that he was not the high-quality man that you desire! Keep up the good work! bit.ly/femmtools
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Hahaha amazing cheers girl 🥂💕
Shell
Lol I will do that next time lol
I'm not connecting with no man's heart who breadcrumbs me. Obviously he doesn't value me or see me as a priority therefore he's not worth a heart to heart conversation. Sorry #NEXT
Right! I can be cordial like he's doing but my energy will be matching his, not putting forth more than him hoping he feels it and comes around... that's wasted time and energy lol
@Chlarie Peace bs obviously u got no self respect ;) and do not like happy and trully healthy people
i agree 100%! and any real and good Man will communicate, and will make sure you have no doubt if he trully likes you/wants you....which is why above video is bs ;) imho
When she said that I was like..what?! Open my heart? Obviously i already tried doing that and he didnt care lol
@@symonesymone3941 yes girl I tried it too and failed. I even made myself super vulnerable because I assumed that's what he needed before opening up to me. However he used to tell me that he loves me right before getting off the phone, but was not investing and I told him he wasn't loving me. I've just decided to move on.
They will never tell you. Trust me. Every time I’ve given a man an opportunity to tell me what’s up, he lies. Then the truth comes out not long after. Don’t even bother asking, lol. If you feel something is off and/or you are being mistreated, then trust your instincts and walk.
You also because it is your right. Not because it’s a truth serum.
Seriously if men could just be honest that would solve half the problems. I'm sick of the "I'm looking for an official relationship" statement on the first date just to find that as time goes on the excuses as to why the relationship can't happen begin to come out. It's so frustrating.
Nobody is ever busy. And if he's not sure now he never will be sure.
Men in my experience, can change their mind in 5 minutes, 5 months, 5 weeks, or even 5 seconds. If you feel a man won't 'change' he won't and that is your mindset and it's your right. Yet this is not what I teach nor the results I and my clients receive.
If he is truly interested he will call regularly. If he always texts, he ain’t that into you.
As a man, my experience is this. If I call regularly women start to pull away. Why? Is it because I seem needy?
When I make my life the priority and invite her to come along, I find she desires to be with me much more.
@@jeradblazek677 I can only guess that they are not serious about developing a relationship with you. I am definitely not an expert, but people that have mutual interest can make it happen. If the interest is one sided, the relationship is not likely to happen. I wish you luck. Finding a good relationship is difficult.
Isn’t it amazing that we women always think first of all that we did something wrong
Stop giving boyfriend, husband titles☝️
No one is ever to busy. There’s 24hrs in a day and no one eats sleeps and work 24/7 all it takes it 10 minutes of a persons time to pick up the phone and learn to tell a guy what you will and won’t put up with by talking to him rather at him but be firm in your decision. I also feel too many times, we as women speak up for the guy if he’s changed his mind over and over about a real date etc., drop him like a bad habit & keep it moving sista!!!!☝️☝️☝️💯
Chlarie Peace Yeah! Just let them keep putting YOU down! 🙄
@Chlarie Peace lol😂
Chlarie Peace I hear you women can be dating emotionally unavailable expecting quality results then get frustrated! Women need to make ourselves high value to get a quality man ! Most women will get put out by high value men bcoz these men expect quality too . Time to LEVEL UP . Man is not a pet to fulfil all our needs he not always going to message every day and straight away all the time he has a life n so shud you. If he’s successful n rich these men are always busy. He is not our GAY BESTIE
@Chlarie Peace just because he a doctor doesn't mean he can't call you sometimes on his break he doesn't have to do it everytime he's at work but if you guys are just starting out he can make it a priority to check in so don't act like he that busy because my daughter works in the operating room along side the doctors and on her break she cheeks in with her little daughter , so men will call or text those he care about he will put forth the effort just like his job.
@@leilaabdelmeguid3977 lol
Some people where to broken from their childhood instead of rewarding people who love them, they punish them
Hugs to you. Child abuse is the worst thing ever.
And that is not what you need in your life as you go forward.
There are more single women, than men. If he is not ready, it's his loss. Some men are just evil.
@Chlarie Peace hoo
I really happy I saw this I'm now in a relationship with a guy who is stringing me along for months I keep giving him chances but he's never going to change .
Women hope men will change. Men hope women don't change.
I absolutely love how super-smiley & positive you always are, Adrienne!!! You are so beautiful inside & out. Thank you for teaching & enlightening the masses again & again. God bless you. 🙏💙
I’m glad this video fell into my suggested feed. After 6 years I’m embarrassed to say I feel I’ve finally come to a point that all I was getting is breadcrumbs. I guess I thought he really was “too busy” then I realized that we all have the same 24 hrs in a day. I’ve waited long enough. Although it hurts horribly, I’m slowly letting go of the hope this man will ever come around and I’m moving on 💔
Hugs to you, honey! 🥰 I know it can be so tough. I recommend working through my ABC program. Even if you decided you don’t want this man back, this will help attract high-quality men into your life. bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
@@LisaT_ me too
One thing that occurs to me is how much emotional labor women have been expected to provide for centuries. It’s 2020 and men, should they chose to better themselves as a partner can find countless resources to learn how to communicate effectively, open to their emotions. I am seeking a partner who is doing his own work, not just depending upon me to understand the right ‘script’ or to play games. I am seeking emotional honesty
Hugs to you! 💕 You just need to lean back and give the man the space to pursue and provide for you. Learn more here. bit.ly/femmtools
@@AdrienneEverheart respectfully, I leaned back into my feminine for over eight weeks, he reached out to communicate every day, bought me flowers, took me to dinner, we went looking for a new apartment for him, we talked about all the big stuff: health, childhood, sexuality, past relationships, etc. Yet he kept holding me at an arm's length emotionally, stating that all he could be was 'friends' right now. When I decided to communicate a healthy boundary about how much time, attention and energy I was not willing to give if he was not ultimately looking for a life partnership, commence radio silence. Yes, women do need to learn how to receive and allow him to be the man, yet after eight years of dating, I've discovered it's so important to be honest and clear right away, before your heart gets involved, what you are ultimately looking for and to clarify what he's ultimately looking for. Not asking for a marriage proposal a month in as that would likely take several years of deepening the relationships, just exploring the overall motivation for spending time together. Then, when there's a split early on, it's not so devastating to your emotions and your life.
@@jamesg469 Thank you for the suggestion, however I trust my inner knowing about which people and resources are right for me. Glad this worked for you and peace
I don't ever have those thoughts because I'm the one rejecting them but I also don't view men as a valuable prize. Women are the prize.
Hugs to you! 💕 This is absolutely true! You are a Diamond girl and you are the prize! Lean back into your feminine energy & let the man come to you! bit.ly/femmtools
☺️. I'm curious, aside from your presence, what do you bring to a relationship that you feel you are the prize? What do you expect a man to bring?
Nobody should feel they are the "prize" for just showing up. And no, sex doesn't count as something you bring, that should be a mutually beneficial thing, like dancing.
@@jeradblazek677 maybe because my father raised me to believe there are certain things I am supposed to have in regards to how I'm treated, maybe I was a bit spoiled but he wouldn't approve of any guy who doesn't treat me like a princess.
@@nicolejennings8389 yet I see you didn't answer any of my questions, you only affirmed to me that you believe your general presence is enough in a relationship.
For your dad, you may be his little princess (cringe). To any potential male you will come off as a pretentious spoiled brat who's only good for one thing (spread em).
It's possible you may find someone to marry and breed with you. But I have a feeling you'll then find yourself raising a couple of kids after a divorce, wondering why you can't find another beta male to provide for you. 🤦🤦
If you want to be a princess, they typically grow to be a queen. Will you then be treating your husband like a king? Will he be the one in charge of the house, providing and protecting? Will you be submissive to his authority? If not, then you have only been raised to be a spoiled brat who thinks others are there to take care of you with no accountability on your part.
Why would anyone see you as a "prize" when you in turn do not see them as valuable?
Lool. That is why I dumped my ex. It became a text only relationship. So boring. No real effort to actually call. Even when I asked
Good for you! xoxo!
Been there 2
Been there 2
Been there. Texting is the worst. Zero emotional connection and they will never get to know you. It's a copout and a waste of your time.
I love this when you say to ask "how are WE doing", rather than, "What did I do?" or "What is he doing?". Just found your channel. Thanks!
NomadiCrafter thank you for commenting. 💕
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4.48 Best answer!!!!! I love it when men get a taste of their silly games. Bread crumbing and flakes nowadays shouldnt have any of our time and should be removed fr our lives, removed fr our future
In 7 minutes you nailed it. We are so different men and women. I think we forget this. Awesome video.
Thank you so much! 🥰 I am so happy to help!
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As SheRaSeven says,
Dump that dusty 😂
He needs to open up that wallet if his heart is in the right place
shera is psychotic and many women that follow her advice, lose good men. Do you want short term?
SheRaSeven and Adrienne Everheart are complete opposites. SheRa teaches how to manipulate and trick men, and only date rich, older, ugly men....I watched her for a year. She teaches you to settle for "only money", and NOT love. Everheart is teaching the real deal, how to be completely authentic, without manipulation. She teaches how to tie up a guys heart without games. SheRA is all games.
@@22Lovejoy Agreed!!! So true, I love Everheart as she keeps it real, authentic and genuine.
Shera is Savage. Lol. I can’t use or manipulate like that. Good to have standards tho.
That’s so true if he’s flaking out in the first few weeks of seeing each he showing u who he is just move on he’s not gonna change that happened to me with my baby daddy he never changed he kept doing it repeatedly but I kept trying to make it work just leave
He was sending messages through whasapp but really basic just to keep the contact. I didnt feel any quality messages. After three weeks of feeling weird and sort of breadcrumbed I told him I was feeling I needed more contact when we talked ( I knew men dont like and they take it as comolaints) but this little contact was not working for me . Well... he just stop contacting me. As simple as that.
Low effort man...defo not worth your time! ♥️
You can tell him you think something feels off and if there is something I should know but NO man is going to then decide to answer truthfully to question like that unless he’s willing to loose her at that moment or be put in a position to hav to make a decision as to whether he is to leave the other woman at that particular time. He’ll wait until it’s the best time for him and until then continue to lie with great skill and feeding hope which strings the woman along who’s wanting things to be true.
No one can control whether a person lies or not - its that you are ASKING this is the best you can do for you. 🥰
Christina Cataldi exactly what happened with me a couple weeks ago! He went silent after a date - this was a guy I’d known for a few years & we reconnected on more of personal basis in late July. But the days following he just got quiet on me. Ignored my messages & I wasn’t bombarding him either. His went from friendly to short & cold SUPER quick. Then I told him something felt off in his energy & he said he just wanted to be friends like “I hope we can still be friends😊” ... this a week AFTER he has encouraged me to express my feelings & said nothing against them then... accept a basic friendship after expressing deeper feelings? Um, NO thank you!
@@celissewillis9399 I know how you feel. I had this before and I think I am going through it right now!!! It made me resentful and angry in the past.
I see it from another perspective now and wow I feel so good 😊
Yes you showed your feelings, you were your authentic self! It took you courage to be vulnerable!!! When we do so, we somehow expect something back! We hope they open up in return and show us how they feel positive towards us. you stated yourself: he said nothing against them.
You expressed your feelings "hoping he'd answer them" , like with an agenda... don't get me wrong I did it too.
Now I learn to express my feelings from an authentic place, without expecting anything in return! If he returns the feelings, great it makes me more than happy and even more in love, he doesn't return the feelings fair enough! his choice and his loss - he is not my man.
Will it sting? oooo yes, but I remain in my truth. Is it scary in the beginning to open up, show your vulnerability and authenticity to a man??? Ow yes!!!
Does it give him power??? Well once you love yourself, know what you want and where your boundaries are... you keep your own power.
Your choice to remain just friends or walk away!!! YOU CHOOSE and stick with yourself.
Well sure he won't tell you the truth if is intention is to string you along! You can ask it once, maybe twice and then the guy should step up and you remain expressing how you feel.
If he doesn't step up... you have your answer!
In the past I thought a guy was breadcrumbing me! This one was not! I just didn't express how I felt and didn't tell him how he made me feel when he did good stuff He was clueless!!!
I thought he should know, if he loved me he should know what to do!! If a guy is into me he will show! Yes, he will but if we do not reinforce it with feeling statements and do not open up our heart, he gets lost and looses connection quite rapidly! I am noticing it right now with the guy I am actually dating.
I hope it is not too late, and if it is.... lesson learned 😊
I do know why we do not open up our heart; it is scary, as we might have been hurt in the past by opening up and being vulnerable! We do not want to be hurt again!!! But that will keep us from connecting with a man.
The magic happens when you understand that it is OK to be vulnerable, it is OK if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings because you love yourself first. It stings of course and it is even good to tell him that it saddens you, you keep being yourself and that is what makes you so beautiful!
These are the lessons I learned from Adrienne 💕 ans wow was I resistant at the beginning 😁
Christina Cataldi very well said!
The fact that a man connects with your heart is true.
If you’ve only seen him a few tunes there is no “we”
They say they don’t want to talk on the phone a lot, they say they’re not big on texting, they say they’re better in person… But they make almost no effort to spend regular time with you… Literally dealing with this right now. The guy claims to have a shitty phone making regular communication difficult. When I have expressed the need for more communication/attention he steps it up a little bit. What is so frustrating is he’s not even trying to fix his phone or get a new one. I finally said… Well I don’t know what to do if we can’t spend more time together or you won’t get your phone fixed?
Hugs to you! 💕 I would start pulling your energy away from this man. If I man wants to be with you he will move mountains and show up. I would keep dating a rotation of men and focus on your full & juicy life. bit.ly/femmtools
Actions speaks louder than words 🙃👏
That is the coolest choker!! 💗
A little big like owned., not taste imo.forgive me.😍😚😚😚
I am going to quit texting with any male love interest
What if we had an amazing time talking Friday night, made plans to talk again Saturday night but he flaked and since then hasn’t said good morning or night (like he was), but this morning said “it’s raining, seems like the snails are traveling East”. lol. Cute but !?!?!?
Sometimes I feel this self induced pressure to reply + continue talking in texts. But I truly dislike it doesn’t feel good to engage in ways that’s don’t feel natural to me or have me in my body
Also when he flaked he said l “ I hope it’s okay, talk soon” and I replied ” felt amazing to connect last night over the phone, was looking forward to it again tonight. Take all the time you need to rest up, gn!”
Me too
I HAVE A LIMIT..& ONCE I AM PUSHED TO THAT POINT...THEN I AM DONE ONCE & FOR ALL..
Sending you so much love! 💕
Me too,
I’ve learned to raise my standards and lower my tolerance for BS ✊❤️
I had a male friend that was breadcrumbing me & after 4 yrs I just felt that it wasn't enough and that he wasn't that interested anymore. I think that i might have made a mistake in breaking up w him just a few days ago....Im not sure now! Adrienne, you just said in this video that as long as he is still breadcrumbing, that he is still maintaining connection & so he is interested. He tried to tell me that but I was too upset because I want more. I may have sabotaged my relationship w him. I haven't heard from him in a week.
You've sabotaged nothing. You are sick of waiting and I don't blame you. Own it like a Goddess! Do you have this program because it will really help you. bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
I commend most dating coaches & advice about relationships. But I feel that with all this advice is not offering much success in dating ! The world is soo different & complicated. People have the “grass is greener syndrome” short attention spans bcoz of Dating apps n Instagram girls post body pics...so most wont commit just serial date.People love one minute then not the next, a guy can be attentive, move slow, meet the family say he wants a relationship n kids and still ghost you bcoz maybe he just changed. Not all guys of course but a high number of them are. Love in relationships will always be a risk 🙏🏾
Hugs to you! 🥰 Dating is very tough these days. Masculine men who are ready to commit are really out there. FEMM Tools would be a great place for you to start bit.ly/femmtools
I believe you are on your way to truly opening up the answers to why relationships are harder these days. The whole conversation is very nuanced, and neither gender is completely to blame.
You're speaking from a woman's point of view. My Ex Girlfriend had Breadcrumbed me last week after 6 months. She wasn't looking to get back together with me. I think that she thought that I was going to Beg and Plead for her not to leave me. When I didnt contact her i think that I injured her ego. She text messaged me probably because she was curious of what I was doing or to see if I was still interested in her. She just needed validation so she can move forward. Men wait anxiously for a woman to text message them also. Women also have narcissistic personality traits. They use the Silent Treatment, Gaslighting or abandoning without closure. This happened to me but it was a learning experience. I will never trust a women completely again. Happiness comes from within you not a woman or a man.
She sounds really confused. Hope it goes ok and thank you for writing today.
I hear you. The confusion is how silence is perceived. The silent treatment isn't always a deliberate withholding weapon, sometimes ppl need space to figure things out on their own. Sometimes it is a coping mechanism, to prevent a person from over reacting, saying something they might regret, or not knowing what to say as they are unable to process their tbots/feelings. The "silent treatment" can vary depending on the context, situation and person.
Yeah this is a video for women so that is supposed to happen. There are videos for men about this topic.
@@SR77736 😅🤣😂😂😂😂
I have this guy I really like, high value man, he texts me every other morning “good morning lovely” or good morning x and the conversation is just fruitless…. It never goes anywhere, I’ve decided now to stop replying and see where it goes
What do you expect a man to say when he's texting a girl other than "hi, hey u, or hello"? This is why things are so complicated in dating. People say that people who are dating tend to over complicate things, but yet when you try to simplify things, someone still complains. I'm head over heels for a woman, I'm pretty sure she knows I like her a lot and she likes me a lot too but I haven't quite opened up to her all the way yet. But when I text her, it's always a simple opener. Women always say what they want but yet respond better to something else. With women, less is more if you apply it right. I can tell you one thing, if a man is communicating with you in a consistent way, meaning you text him and he texts you and you guys always return each other's texts but you see he still hasn't opened up to you yet, then try opening up to him first and you will be surprised with his response. Real men understand that infatuation is not love and we dont want to spew our feelings to someone who is all lovey dovey during the infatuation stage only to leave him hanging with his feelings when the infatuation is over. We need to make it past the infatuation stage and then we can see down the road a little clearer.... on another note, I think you are very wrong to encourage a woman to PRACTICE opening up her heart to someone she doesn't feel anything for. You are leading these women down a destructive and karmic road. This sounds like a narcissistic boot camp if I can be honest.
Look at how much you have written here... please use this energy to connect to a quality woman. ❤️
@@AdrienneEverheart yes and I relayed and meant everything that I wanted to get across without any weariness. Trust me, it takes no energy at all to serve justice. A quality woman doesn't breadcrumb a man. You know nothing of me or my love life and I am at peace with myself whether I have a partner or not because no one will ever love me more than God. Do you even incorporate God into your life and relationships? Get your mind right lady.
It's so stupid when guys go down to the classic phone excuse. "I forgot my phone was on silent, I lost your number, I didn't see your text, I left my phone in the car, I didn't hear my phone, my phone died, I chunked my phone across the Atlantic Ocean mid-sentence while I was texting you.. my phone got ran over by a freight train, bad reception, my nephew was playing games on my phone..." I mean in your situation, any man that has a job-a job where he has to travel to Hawaii for business obviously isn't living paycheck-to-paycheck. I mean how can somebody go on a business trip nowadays without a phone? LOL what a loser. Why are guys so scared of just being upfront? They don't want to hurt your feelings? Ha! No they just don't want to hurt their ego admitting to themselves that they are acting like a middle school child. Guys like the one you described can easily get a replacement phone even though his reason was a bunch of BS.
Hugs to you! 💕 Yes it’s just a bunch of excuses. You deserve a man that will show up & pursue you! Watch their actions! Learn more here. bit.ly/femmtools
My dog ate my phone 😆
“It’s a pandemic!” -
Hugs to you! 💕 Yes, it truly is, but you can learn to activate a man into his masculine energy to pursue you by learning how to speak to him! My ebook “500 Ways” will help you learn this. bit.ly/500waysbook
The irony!
I was getting breadcrumbs for 10 months...it was a mutual problem because HE was married and I was recently widowed and although we were compatible it was clear I was going to lose him sooner or later because he was going through a guilt complex. Not my problem. He ghosted me for weeks at a time and then he would call with the same question..."what are you up to?". I hate small talk. I am not a doormat and when he pulled away and started ghosting me I had to confront him and I knew I had to put a stop to it all. He attempted to friend zone me and I said NO...I wasn't having any of it. He thought he was going to be able to orbit me by calling once a month for 2 minutes. Uh...hell no. I told him he would not hear from or see me again. If we weren't going to remain lovers then I wasn't going backwards to the "friend" zone. Nope. He couldn't handle my heart. I had to let him go. It broke my heart and I had to grieve another loss.
Wow, you said pandemic...
Finding Value.. Leaving my value in his hands and only if they deem you valuable- thats exactly how I felt :/
That’s a bunch of bs...on my part.
But I am so grateful you put this video.
Hi just find you recently. You are an Awesome Woman thank you so much for your insights, Wisdom and Work. ❤️🙏🏻🔖⚖️💪🏻
All the Way from Denmark 🇩🇰
WOW! Thank you for joining in on the conversation. Much love!
I have a lot of work to do. When I would tell my ex husband something bad happened in my day he would ask me what did I do to make someone mistreat me. Real talk. If I told him someone flipped me the bird he would ask what I did to cause it. HORRIBLE
Glad he is ur ex
Try telling him only positive things for two weeks straight. He is likely feeling too much drama. A good break can help hit the reset button. Get more loving support from within, or a close friend or family member.
Also, this man did not have the empathy or tools needed to be kind, most likely he was not taught this. You can turn this around by being empathetic to the man or simply saying, "I feel so sad because I did nothing. I really need a hug." It is ok to ask for a hug. Melt into him.
Avoid men (and friends) who always play the devil’s advocate could be a narcissist undermining and gaslighting you.
@@redpillqueen8888 was definitely a narc. I miss my family but I would shrivel up and die spiritually (and physically too) if I ever got back with him. So far I'm thriving. My money is flowing, I'm doing better overall. No amount of empathy works with these soul sucking people. I'm glad my soul is healing. God is great.❤
Hi Adrienne, I have an anxious style of attachements and "fall in love" easily and always seeking approval from a man. I would like to change myself.
You can change. What do you feel you lack as a person that you feel someone else will fill?
One time a guy asked me via text, how it going? I said, “wishing I could float away on a marshmallow cloud ⛅️”. Lol. I like to reply with crazy
That is so cute! 💕
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Adrienne!!! You've already had your wedding anniversary by the time I'm watching this, but I had to tell you, I LOVE YOU
This guy approached me online to meet me telling how much he liked me. He was back and forth at the time of meeting giving weird excuses . He was new in the island so I gave him a break .When finally he decided to meet me, we talked a while but basically he was complaining about he drank a lot on the night before and kind of “crying” about problems he had with his ex girlfriend which he left behind in another State but that they still talk . He apologized to me for not being in conditions to share and told he wanted to leave to what I responded : “don’t worry there are other men that I can meet and don’t have your issues”. Lol Cuz in the inside I felt kind of despised . But guess what happened . Like about 3 weeks later he texted me back wanting to see me again to which I replied : “Do you feel better ?” , and he said yes I do . But he was kind of he had not too much time cuz he had to go to work . Then I said “ok just tell me yes or no and don’t make me waste my time “ . I felt so proud of myself since this is the first time I talk to a man like that. Then he stopped talking to me immediately . Ha ha .
Brenda Marie good work! Do you have “500 Ways” eBook?
Adrienne Everheart's Love Academy No , I don’t .
I can hear you from Jamaica
Me too
avery bailey me too
This video is not just fluff - thank you.
Goodwill Bunny you are so welcome. 💕
That’s so true words that keep you in a loving bond. This is happening to me know feeling hurt but time wasters
You just say to him :my dear I gona call you,now can't talk,and don't do that ,thay don't hear words ACTION only is truth
Totally true but hurting at the same time :))) i always overshare and he avoid talking to me
Hugs to you! 💕 I am so sorry, honey! However, it is never too late to fix things. First you must lean back! I would recommend working through the ABC’s bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
I must be more like a guy. I prefer “hey”. Or even “Sup”. I actually love that!? I get super agitated at “Hows your day going!?” Because I hate texting. I prefer just to know they want to touch base without starting a conversation! The absolute best tests are statements and not questions like, “ Hey was thinking about u! Hope your having a great day!” That’s perfect!
I agree. Even when I do get a "how was your day" text, I typically respond by saying "not a single complaint...hope you're doing well".
I like that a lot! Shuts that dead end conversation down right away. Using that one for sure!
Maybe that won’t lead to much maybe short term bf gf stuff.. 🤷🏻♀️
I did the practice thing and I end up falling in love with a guy who end up using me😁😒😪😭
I’m so sorry, honey! 💕 Hugs to you.
This is so true!!
Greetings from Germany 💛
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Hi Adrienne, I am dating this guy for about 3 months.. recently I feel like he will just reach out thru text once a week. He is also a slow responser lately.. He is already getting toxic to me, coz I kept thinking bout him and what is happening, what’s my worth to him.. I have been watching and listening to your advice.. for my self love and self respect I know I don’t deserve crumbs.. so I started ignoring him too.. for a week already. I already brought up to him about his slow response weeks ago. Then he became flaky again.. it’s just pissed me off now.. I’m avoiding him. Though he and I haven’t talk about “what are we”
He recently message me asking if I am mad at him? I don’t know what to response..:-(
Block him. You don't need this crap
While I have to say that blocking him would be good, I would respond to the 'are you mad at him' with 'Who? You? WHO are you again?'
Clearly he is not interested, just keeps you around for the ego boost !
No never show your emotions- I would say - why would I be mad??? What are you talking about?
He doesnt like you. Run away from him. Soon. Block him everywhere.
nice stuff
I hear u very well. It's working
Here's my feelings! Here I am!
I love that. I just found you - love everything you're sharing. ❤️
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Yes I hear you
Wait, if we reply, and the other girls don’t, then... we will look too desperate though?
I don’t know why they go more text than phone!! It makes me think they’re too lazy, or have another girl!!
A lot of times that is the case. This is why it is so important to ask for the phone call and get the first date set up on the phone call.
Who cares what we look like. Be authentic. Or you’ll attract a game player if you play games. And when they flake and act dodgy give them the axe. It’s a beautiful thing
So im confused.... if you have a man that constantly ghosts you for weeks at a time and they always touch base with a “ hey just checking in” or “ hey how are you” what do we respond to that
Hi Deanne, it can be complicated, and there's no one right way to approach this. I would recommend you find out a lot more strategies for dealing with this in my 500 Ways to Talk to a Man and Dating Unzipped guides: bit.ly/500waysbook & bit.ly/datingunzipped
Forget he exists lol
Run don't walk, block don't just delete, move on and never look back. Learn to love and appreciate yourself.
Yes I can hear you nicely
So insightfull!!! tell him how you feel from an authentic place!!!
I often mistake that man always want the positive women and see "sad" (negative) woman as a burdon.
I start to use feeling statements and see the reaction is different than when I just tell something in a masculine way! Still need to practice, not used to feeling statements...
Keeping practicing!!! It doesn't come naturally yet!!!
Lately the guy I am dating for 4 weeks went silent... I initially leaned back.... after 4 days I sended "Hey sweet, I feel sad and confused about the silent. Is there something I should know?"
He answered withing few hours with a big text explaining what is happening... what happens puts quite stress on our connection.
Due to the stress that also impacts me, I was in my boy energy without feeling statement and he went back in his silent.
I realise he might just be breadcrumbing me or something eles due to the situation... I'll give it another shot if he comes back! I'll put attention on using feeling statements and see how it goes from there.
What I notice, I a, changing my own vibe!!! I would like him in my life, still he has to choose me. If he doesn't, yes it stings, but I am OK with that knowing and believing my man is out there.
Starting to love myself first lately (yes finally) knowing what I want and need and knowing my boundaries, help me a lot.
Now I need to practice on delivering it in a loving and feeling way.
Thanks for your video's adrienne
Positive feminine energy! If you want to learn more about that, check out my FEMM Tools for Dating & Marriage: www.everheartcoaching.com/femmtools
Ok so you said no when he asked you out after 3 weeks , but then did he continue asking you ? When did you accept ? How you start the relationship and it is now his fiancé ? I need to know because I am in a situation like this now . Thanks
Good advice here
legit and realistic
You are a God-sent🙏🏽
Thank you so much for the sweet words! 🥰
Can you talk about your boyfriend not texting or calling through out the day when you know he is always on his phone. Then he saids I don’t call or text him . When I do I am the first to do so I work he is home all day (self employed )he said he doesn’t want to bother me I should call when I am free is it just me hahaha not sure I never had this done to me before
Thaaank you !!!!!! Really helpfull !!!!!
No, I *never* wonder "what I did," if a man fails me/disappoints me...That's what insecure women do.
If a man fails me, I recognize him as a loser and I delete/block his number instantly. Problem solved.
I move on... At the speed of light! 💪⚡
I have far too many real men as options out there, as to get hung up on a loser...
Hugs to you! 💕 Learning to handle these men with feminine energy methods will help you move up the tiers and you will start to meet higher-value men. Learn more here. bit.ly/femmtools
Loud and clear
Love this video and your down to earth vibe. Feel like I’ve known for some time, but I just found this first video.
HEY YOU!!!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVICE OR TEACHINGS OF MEN WELL IM A SELL OUT I JUST GO RIGHT WITH THE HEART ILL TALK ABOUT THIS SOON LOVE BLANCA ALEX!!!! LIKE HE SAID THIER ARE PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA!!!! WOW THIER LOSS!!!!
Sooo true !
I can hear you!
Tbh I lose my enthusiasm and get turned off if I notice he breadcrumbs. His loss!
@@How.Dare.You. Me too! My body recognises breadcrumbs as some form of rejection and it shuts down x
I love this - feeling excited to try! 😚
My favourite video! Just what I needed to see
I'm so happy it helped you. xoxo!
I really needed to hear this ♥️
We can hear you
I love that necklace! Beautiful!
I can hear you loud and clear!
Yes, you sound good
Hi Adrienne, if a guy is busy should you pull back and focus on yourself when he's Not texting you?
Yes, I don't want to be the center of someone else's life, and they shouldn't be mine. That's too much pressure on anyone.
I hear you.
WE!!! Love it!!!!!!!!!!! Xxxxxxxxxxx Here’s my feelings... it’s all practice xxx
Yes I can hear you.
I had a guy cancel on me with the excuse I DONT HAVE ANY CLEAN UNDERWEAR
Great video. Thank you Adrienne
Thank you for commenting!
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I’m so glad I found you ❤️❤️❤️
xoxo to you too gorgeous! Thank you!
Love your site, you're to the point and honest. I should be more like that when meeting guys 😁
Hugs to you! 💕 You can learn to be feminine and tie up a man’s heart. Here’s a great place to start. bit.ly/femmtools
Yes
You are awesome! Thank you so much!
You are so welcome! xoxo!
Love the necklace!!
awww, thank you! XO
Where did you get it from?.