In years of watching videos about psychology and self-help yours are just about the only ones that give concise, applicable actions that you can take right away to solve your issues. Real therapy is personalized and therefore more effecatious, but for some quick tips, you can't beat these. Thank you very much.
For once I'm going to share an experience I had. I was in a relatively new job, way above the level I'd worked at before. One Monday morning I came in and I was overwhelmed, completely as you describe in your video. To the point of having a physical response - I literally felt dizzy and in my stomach a black ball of panic pulsed to the beat of my rapid heartbeat. I was almost blacking out, knowing I was going to fail ignominiously at the job. After panicking a bit I got a pad and wrote a list of everything I had to do that week. There was a shitload of it, and I only had 3 days because those were the terms of my employment. After that I went through and arranged the list in order of how certain I was to get the sack if I didn't do that thing. I rewrote the list in that order. Then I started, as calmly as I could, on the first task. I finished that, crossed it out and went to the next thing. I HAD FINISHED EVERYTHING ON MY LIST BY LUNCH TIME. I had the rest of the week, 2 and a half days, to plan and do strategic things that I wanted to do. I've never forgotten this. I still get overwhelmed and I still panic sometimes. But I've got that memory to hang on to. Oh, and I probably wouldn't have got the sack if I didn't get it all done anyway :) I hope this can help someone. Thank you for all you do :)
Hi Tabitha - thank you for sharing this experience. Just goes to show that by taking action to address problems and challenges, things can become a lot less overwhelming.
I just discovered you Dr Rami. Good tools for me I’m a clinician but have also battled dysthymia.. so want to get better at helping myself so that I could help others..I love your content..
Another great video, it is so amazing to see that you point to All the small downside that depression and anxiety cause and even give solution for them. I have listened to so many therapists and you are simply the best.
Just watched this video again-- it is one of my favorites! I understand that I should just focus on one thing at a time but for me it is hard to prioritize and to choose the one next thing I should work on.
Sometimes it doesn't matter what gets prioritized, just that something gets picked. Flip a coin, pick the top document on the pile, pick the easiest task etc. All that matters is that a person just does one thing and stops trying to do it all.
great video, thank you so much for your videos, very well explained, you explanation really helps understand how we are overwhelmed because we dont break down things into smaller tasks and only seeing big picture , which can be anxiety provoking.
I needed this video! Thank you Dr Nadar for taking the time to make it to help your subscribers. Your suggestions and validation are exactly what I needed to Dave this upcoming week!
I wonder, what is a good approach for someone who is intimidated by prioritization? I am often overwhelmed and use avoidant behaviors to cope (which makes things worse, like you said), and I know I am trying to do too much and need to focus on one small thing at a time. But how do I know what I should be working on? Particularly when the urgency of tasks is not static (working on a paper that's overdue is urgent, but eventually so is making dinner and going to the bathroom and changing a dirty diaper and and and). I'm terrified I will miss something important so I make huge lists that are hard to keep track of, and I'm so scared I will choose the wrong thing to spend my small amount of energy on.
That's a good question. What I find is that there is usually no specific order that must be followed when prioritizing tasks. Sure, some approaches may be more efficient or effective, but typically, it doesn't matter where a person starts. In other words, if prioritization is not clear, then just start working on anything, rather than trying to figure out the best order to do things. I hope that helps.
I don't know if this will help you, but I wonder if it's maybe the numbers that scare you, and maybe if you just assigned everything A, B or C you could then just randomly work from the A list. It's not so intimidating as having to get a big list in the exactly right order, especially if one's a bit of a perfectionist.
I'm glad you are finding the videos helpful. I will be posting a video on depersonalization, but you will have to continue being patient, as I have a lot of demands on my time and am trying to balance a number of requests.
In situations like this, I recommend that my clients set to goal of brushing their teeth for 30 seconds, or whatever amount of time is not overwhelming.
Doctor Nader, I have to give this feedback: the lighting in your videos is a bit creepy. Looks a bit like you’re recording these while your kids are asleep in the background 😴 😉
@@DrRamiNader it’s difficult. But there being no light in the background is the most important part, I think. Then it’s just your lit face in a dark room.
In years of watching videos about psychology and self-help yours are just about the only ones that give concise, applicable actions that you can take right away to solve your issues. Real therapy is personalized and therefore more effecatious, but for some quick tips, you can't beat these. Thank you very much.
Hi Nikola - thank you for your supportive words. I'm glad you have found the videos helpful.
These are better than my counseling sessions so much more effective for me to listen to Dr. Nadar each day
your videos are very helpful. very calming. and not overwhelming. thanks for making them available !
Hi Mark - glad you are finding the videos helpful. Thank you for your kind words.
I’ve been really leaping forward in my PPD recovery ever since watching your videos. Thank you soo much
For once I'm going to share an experience I had. I was in a relatively new job, way above the level I'd worked at before. One Monday morning I came in and I was overwhelmed, completely as you describe in your video. To the point of having a physical response - I literally felt dizzy and in my stomach a black ball of panic pulsed to the beat of my rapid heartbeat. I was almost blacking out, knowing I was going to fail ignominiously at the job. After panicking a bit I got a pad and wrote a list of everything I had to do that week. There was a shitload of it, and I only had 3 days because those were the terms of my employment.
After that I went through and arranged the list in order of how certain I was to get the sack if I didn't do that thing. I rewrote the list in that order.
Then I started, as calmly as I could, on the first task.
I finished that, crossed it out and went to the next thing.
I HAD FINISHED EVERYTHING ON MY LIST BY LUNCH TIME. I had the rest of the week, 2 and a half days, to plan and do strategic things that I wanted to do.
I've never forgotten this. I still get overwhelmed and I still panic sometimes. But I've got that memory to hang on to.
Oh, and I probably wouldn't have got the sack if I didn't get it all done anyway :)
I hope this can help someone. Thank you for all you do :)
Hi Tabitha - thank you for sharing this experience. Just goes to show that by taking action to address problems and challenges, things can become a lot less overwhelming.
@@DrRamiNader most of all I think, by staying calm.
I just discovered you Dr Rami. Good tools for me I’m a clinician but have also battled dysthymia.. so want to get better at helping myself so that I could help others..I love your content..
Hi Sandra - so pleased you have found the videos helpful. And thank you for the work you do with your clients and helping them to live better lives.
Greatly appreciate your help! I'm feeling less overwhelmed and more confident watching your videos. God will repay you with many blessings!
Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad you found the video helpful.
Another great video, it is so amazing to see that you point to All the small downside that depression and anxiety cause and even give solution for them. I have listened to so many therapists and you are simply the best.
Your words are so kind and encouraging. Thank you Negin.
Just watched this video again-- it is one of my favorites! I understand that I should just focus on one thing at a time but for me it is hard to prioritize and to choose the one next thing I should work on.
Sometimes it doesn't matter what gets prioritized, just that something gets picked. Flip a coin, pick the top document on the pile, pick the easiest task etc. All that matters is that a person just does one thing and stops trying to do it all.
@ that makes sense because getting something done (any one thing) gives you satisfaction and motivation to do more!
great video, thank you so much for your videos, very well explained, you explanation really helps understand how we are overwhelmed because we dont break down things into smaller tasks and only seeing big picture , which can be anxiety provoking.
Trying to do too much at the same time is a huge factor in feeling overwhelmed. Glad the video was helpful.
your videos are gold to me. thanks.
That's very nice to hear. Glad you have found them helpful!
You don't know how you change my life today!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you soooooo much these tips are really helpful
Thank you so much for your encouraging comments. I'm glad the video was helpful!
Thank you for giving these valuable sessions. These are better than any session I've had with counselor in my city.
You're welcome. I'm glad you are finding the videos helpful.
@@DrRamiNader Very helpful and freeing
Great advice Dr, I'll split my long term goals into weekly goals
I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better!
I needed this video! Thank you Dr Nadar for taking the time to make it to help your subscribers. Your suggestions and validation are exactly what I needed to Dave this upcoming week!
Hi Brenda - you're very welcome. So glad you found the video helpful!
I love this! Thank you, it makes a lot of sense.
Glad you found it helpful!
Thank you for all these videos Dr.
You're very welcome!
Keep it up Dr you are amazing sir
Thank you for your kind words.
Thank you. This was helpful.
You're very welcome!
Good vid Doc!
Hi Ronnin - glad you found it helpful!
I wonder, what is a good approach for someone who is intimidated by prioritization? I am often overwhelmed and use avoidant behaviors to cope (which makes things worse, like you said), and I know I am trying to do too much and need to focus on one small thing at a time. But how do I know what I should be working on? Particularly when the urgency of tasks is not static (working on a paper that's overdue is urgent, but eventually so is making dinner and going to the bathroom and changing a dirty diaper and and and). I'm terrified I will miss something important so I make huge lists that are hard to keep track of, and I'm so scared I will choose the wrong thing to spend my small amount of energy on.
That's a good question. What I find is that there is usually no specific order that must be followed when prioritizing tasks. Sure, some approaches may be more efficient or effective, but typically, it doesn't matter where a person starts. In other words, if prioritization is not clear, then just start working on anything, rather than trying to figure out the best order to do things. I hope that helps.
I don't know if this will help you, but I wonder if it's maybe the numbers that scare you, and maybe if you just assigned everything A, B or C you could then just randomly work from the A list. It's not so intimidating as having to get a big list in the exactly right order, especially if one's a bit of a perfectionist.
great video god bless you Dr🙏🏻keep going, we still waiting the depersonalaization video😄
I'm glad you are finding the videos helpful. I will be posting a video on depersonalization, but you will have to continue being patient, as I have a lot of demands on my time and am trying to balance a number of requests.
@@DrRamiNader i really understand that thank you very much for your time🙏🏻
Hope you experience the satisfaction that comes from helping others.
I do, and I also appreciate your kind and encouraging words.
Too many invasive thoughts make me feel overwhelmed and tired all the time during depression and its what i do, escape in bed!
I wish you were my doctor
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words.
What if two minutes brushing your teeth is overwhelming?
In situations like this, I recommend that my clients set to goal of brushing their teeth for 30 seconds, or whatever amount of time is not overwhelming.
Doctor Nader, I have to give this feedback: the lighting in your videos is a bit creepy.
Looks a bit like you’re recording these while your kids are asleep in the background 😴 😉
Sorry about that - I have tried to adjust the lighting a few times, but I guess it's still a work in progress.
@@DrRamiNader it’s difficult. But there being no light in the background is the most important part, I think. Then it’s just your lit face in a dark room.
@@DrRamiNader Thank you so much for your kind words!