Thank you for your talks they are very helpful. I am a worrier but beginning to becaware that I worry too muuch for my own good. I have been worrying about my sleeping fot the past 4 years and now realise that it is not terrible for my age and the worrying about waking during the night is makind my anxiety about it worse so I will try use the cognitive method and see what happens.
I have found that my tendency to worry/think things to death magnifies significantly toward bedtime, in that kind of twilight zone when my mental state has degraded, but I’m not physically tired yet. This happens earlier during wintertime. I recognize this as a serious issue and finally realized that I could use some guidance. These videos seem to be pointing me in the right direction. Thank you.
Hi Joseph - it's very common for people to worry more before bed, as they have fewer distractions to keep their minds occupied and the worries can seep in. I'm glad you are finding the videos helpful.
Excellent. Dr Nader what do you think about different relaxation techniques such as breathing and meditation? Hope you can present a video on such topic
There are a lot of great videos on different types of relaxation techniques already on RUclips, but I will add this to my list of future video topics. Thanks for your feedback and thanks for supporting the channel!
Doctor Thank you for the worksheet. I appreciate the time and effort you put into it. It is Concise and written for the average person, like myself, to understand.
Very informative vid series,Dr Rami. Thanks a lot.Very rarely speakers give short,concise but still very clear ideas about the process of worrying and its remedy.My son,Niraj is suffering from Schizophrenia, as told by psychiatrists whom I am consulting. But of late I feel the disorder is due to fear/ anxiety and Irrational Beliefs,which he has developed since last 20 years or so.He is not able to understand the true reality of day to day happenings and gets worried a lot about calamities coming to him on a daily basis.Your vid talks has given a clear path to follow. I have already started seating with him to follow the procedure you mentioned.And I am sure to get good results. Thank you,Dr Rami. And God Bless you.
That was very helpful, it gave me a new perspective and made me to have a second look about all the times I was worry and not do any thing. So the next time I would feel worry about any thing, first I will analyze it. What is it about? Is it helpful to be worried about that? How can it be helpful? Is it possible to not be worried about this subject and why? Thank you so much dr. These taughts are so precious. I appreciate your work
Every time One of my type 2 worries comes up, I listen to your vide “don’t worry be happy “. Over my entire life , since childhood, I have suffered from gad. I don’t use the word “suffered” lightly. Thank you. Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪
Greetings back from Canada 🇨🇦 I'm glad you have found the videos helpful and hopefully the worry management series videos have provided further useful information on top of the "Don't worry, be happy" video. I have often heard from people that they have been worriers their entire life - GAD can be such a chronic condition affecting people for years. The tools I have presented will not work overnight, but with time and practice, you can learn to manage the worries better. I wish you all the best on your journey and hope these videos can help you get where you want to be a little faster. Thanks for your encouraging feedback and support of this channel!
Niraj is also suffering from OCD,high ambitions,comparing with other healthy people.He also gets episodes of episodes panic attacks some times.I think your worry alleviating techniques will greatly give relief in his symptoms.When not suffering from such thoughts, he is very loving and charming boy, making jokes, singing, playing keyboard.
You pointed me to this video after I expressed some doubts about worries not being useful at all. I watched your new series from the start and it's really helpful and well presented. This video answers my question to a great detail. I am still interrested in whether you hold that worry itself is never useful for motivating and directing attention or is it excessive worry that is problematic. The other way to put it is: would you say that, ideally, people would never worry? This video and the part of the video I commented on mostly seem to imply that, even though, occasionally, in talking about challenging beliefs about worries you focus on excessive worry. As you invited us to ask questions: I would be interrested in hearing your thoughts on the difference between rumination and emotional processing. Former is often presented as something to be avoided (by distraction) and the latter as something important in the process of healing traumas, where distracting one self would be considered a form of suppression. The potential problem is that I am not sure there is a difference between the two. I found a text or two addressing this question but it still sounded like in real life experiences it might be difficult to determine balance between avoiding rumination, on the one hand, and of letting emotional processing do its work, on the other. I will continue watching your videos and I am recommending your channel all over the place 😊 Thanks!
Again, thank you for another thoughtful comment. My take in these videos is primarily on excessive worry, because that tends to be what causes problems for people. Not run of the mill, every day worries. I like to make a distinction between being concerned about something and that motivating me to do something about it, vs worrying excessively about it. Once the smoke detector goes off in my house alerting me that the toast in my toaster is burnt, I no longer need the smoke detector blaring in my ear while I'm trying to fish the burnt toast out of the toaster. So if an initial worry can motivate you to deal with an issue, that's great. But you don't need to keep worrying about it to maintain that motivation. I hope that makes sense. Thanks again for the questions.
what is very interesting is, I would not have claimed any benefits to my worries. However, I still cling to them like a warm blanket. So at a deeper less conscious level I do hold these false benefits/expectations without realizing it.
In your video on anxiety you said anxiety is an emotion.Can you please explain further why it feels so bad and what is anxietys purpose if it has one. I am just beginning to understand my emotions and am trying to engage with them and sort myself out with the findings Could you make a video of emotions and how to handle them please i would love to know more
Hi Lynda, the purpose of anxiety is to alert someone to when there is threat or danger near them and to activate them to do something to either fight the threat or to run away. Without anxiety, people would not recognize danger and dangerous situations and that would not be adaptive. The problem with anxiety disorders is that the anxiety is not in response to an actual dangerous situation, but perceived danger in a situation that is not dangerous at all. I hope that makes sense.
What if we’re worried about our thoughts? What if we worry about brain fog, jumbled thoughts, intrusive thoughts , mental health, how can we apply this to that?
Hello Dr Rami,I want To know From U What Is the reason associated with Worrying,Some People worry A Lot Mostly Suffering from GAD While Some people Dont Worry At All,And Second Thing Are Fear And Worry Related To Each other,As I Feel Im Worrying Becz i have Fear that Something Bad Will Happen,Plzz Clarify....
In terms of why some people worry more than others, there are a lot of factors that can contribute to where the excessive worry comes from. There are likely components related to genetics, personality, modelling from parents, early life experiences, stressful life events etc. The challenge is, we can never really know why a particular person is prone to worry more than someone else. From my perspective as a psychologist, the focus is less on where the worry came from, but more about what factors are maintaining the worry, because that's something a person can control. That's what these videos are focusing on. In terms of the relationship between fear (or anxiety) and worry, I discussed that in the first video of this worry management series. Anxiety/fear is the emotional result of the worry process. Worry is a thought process and anxiety/fear is the emotion that results from the worrying.
Anxiety is a normal human emotion and not something you can completely eliminate. You should feel anxious in some circumstances - that's normal and adaptive.
Unfortunately I am worrying about getting a terminal illness in the near future, and that is something I can't solve. Have been ruminating these anxious thoughts for over a month, nonstop, now. I think I am going crazy....
Worrying really has no utility. Better to just wait for that failure, rejection or cancer and take it on the chin when you get it. In the meantime just live a carefree and happy life.
Dr Nader can you explain why excessive worriers come back I’ve challenged my beliefs and looked at the uncertainty videos and those work most of the time but for a specific worry I have two months from now nothing is working why does it seem to come back sometimes and feel uncontrollable
Hi Keith - obviously I cannot provide specific advice or suggestions. For Type II worries (worries about future problems that have not yet happened and may never happen), I have posted a couple of videos on cognitive avoidance and cognitive exposure using a worry script (ruclips.net/video/n2u3jpGl81Q/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/mkYxVWlwuk0/видео.html). You may want to take a look at those videos.
@@keitht1557 Sorry Keith - I can only work with people in BC, where I am licensed. And even at that, my practice is full and I am not currently taking on any new clients. It's part of the reason I started making these videos. I'd encourage you to find a psychologist locally who specializes in CBT.
Thank you for your talks they are very helpful. I am a worrier but beginning to becaware that I worry too muuch for my own good. I have been worrying about my sleeping fot the past 4 years and now realise that it is not terrible for my age and the worrying about waking during the night is makind my anxiety about it worse so I will try use the cognitive method and see what happens.
Thank you for sharing. Glad you found the video helpful.
This was so great! Just that concept about the pieces of suck - I will never forget that.
I have found that my tendency to worry/think things to death magnifies significantly toward bedtime, in that kind of twilight zone when my mental state has degraded, but I’m not physically tired yet. This happens earlier during wintertime. I recognize this as a serious issue and finally realized that I could use some guidance. These videos seem to be pointing me in the right direction. Thank you.
Hi Joseph - it's very common for people to worry more before bed, as they have fewer distractions to keep their minds occupied and the worries can seep in. I'm glad you are finding the videos helpful.
Great insight. So well put, so pleasant to listen to!
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I'm glad you found the video helpful.
Your videos are exactly what I was looking for. Can not tell you how greatfull I am.
I am so glad to hear that. This is exactly what I was hoping for by doing these videos.
Excellent. Dr Nader what do you think about different relaxation techniques such as breathing and meditation? Hope you can present a video on such topic
There are a lot of great videos on different types of relaxation techniques already on RUclips, but I will add this to my list of future video topics. Thanks for your feedback and thanks for supporting the channel!
Doctor
Thank you for the worksheet. I appreciate the time and effort you put into it. It is Concise and written for the average person, like myself, to understand.
Hi Steve - glad you found it helpful!
great clear video. Interesting!
Hi Christine, glad you found it interesting.
Your videos are
very enlightening. Thank you!👍
Thank you for the kind words. I'm glad you are finding them helpful!
Very informative vid series,Dr Rami. Thanks a lot.Very rarely speakers give short,concise but still very clear ideas about the process of worrying and its remedy.My son,Niraj is suffering from Schizophrenia, as told by psychiatrists whom I am consulting. But of late I feel the disorder is due to fear/ anxiety and Irrational Beliefs,which he has developed since last 20 years or so.He is not able to understand the true reality of day to day happenings and gets worried a lot about calamities coming to him on a daily basis.Your vid talks has given a clear path to follow. I have already started seating with him to follow the procedure you mentioned.And I am sure to get good results. Thank you,Dr Rami. And God Bless you.
Thank you for your kind words! I hope the videos will help.
That was very helpful, it gave me a new perspective and made me to have a second look about all the times I was worry and not do any thing. So the next time I would feel worry about any thing, first I will analyze it. What is it about? Is it helpful to be worried about that? How can it be helpful? Is it possible to not be worried about this subject and why? Thank you so much dr. These taughts are so precious. I appreciate your work
Hi Mandana - I'm so pleased you are finding the videos helpful! Best of luck with your efforts.
This is very informative. Thank you!
Hi Aisha - glad you found it helpful!
Every time One of my type 2 worries comes up, I listen to your vide “don’t worry be happy “. Over my entire life , since childhood, I have suffered from gad. I don’t use the word “suffered” lightly.
Thank you. Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪
Greetings back from Canada 🇨🇦 I'm glad you have found the videos helpful and hopefully the worry management series videos have provided further useful information on top of the "Don't worry, be happy" video. I have often heard from people that they have been worriers their entire life - GAD can be such a chronic condition affecting people for years. The tools I have presented will not work overnight, but with time and practice, you can learn to manage the worries better. I wish you all the best on your journey and hope these videos can help you get where you want to be a little faster. Thanks for your encouraging feedback and support of this channel!
@@DrRamiNader many, many thanks for all of your work in putting these videos and information together. It is so valuable.
Anna
@@annamaria1929 Hi Anna - you are very welcome!
Niraj is also suffering from OCD,high ambitions,comparing with other healthy people.He also gets episodes of episodes panic attacks some times.I think your worry alleviating techniques will greatly give relief in his symptoms.When not suffering from such thoughts, he is very loving and charming boy, making jokes, singing, playing keyboard.
You pointed me to this video after I expressed some doubts about worries not being useful at all. I watched your new series from the start and it's really helpful and well presented. This video answers my question to a great detail. I am still interrested in whether you hold that worry itself is never useful for motivating and directing attention or is it excessive worry that is problematic. The other way to put it is: would you say that, ideally, people would never worry? This video and the part of the video I commented on mostly seem to imply that, even though, occasionally, in talking about challenging beliefs about worries you focus on excessive worry. As you invited us to ask questions: I would be interrested in hearing your thoughts on the difference between rumination and emotional processing. Former is often presented as something to be avoided (by distraction) and the latter as something important in the process of healing traumas, where distracting one self would be considered a form of suppression. The potential problem is that I am not sure there is a difference between the two. I found a text or two addressing this question but it still sounded like in real life experiences it might be difficult to determine balance between avoiding rumination, on the one hand, and of letting emotional processing do its work, on the other. I will continue watching your videos and I am recommending your channel all over the place 😊 Thanks!
Again, thank you for another thoughtful comment. My take in these videos is primarily on excessive worry, because that tends to be what causes problems for people. Not run of the mill, every day worries. I like to make a distinction between being concerned about something and that motivating me to do something about it, vs worrying excessively about it. Once the smoke detector goes off in my house alerting me that the toast in my toaster is burnt, I no longer need the smoke detector blaring in my ear while I'm trying to fish the burnt toast out of the toaster. So if an initial worry can motivate you to deal with an issue, that's great. But you don't need to keep worrying about it to maintain that motivation. I hope that makes sense. Thanks again for the questions.
@@DrRamiNader Thanks for another kind answer! That makes perfect sense 😊
Dude, you are the best.
Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad you have found the videos helpful.
Your “pieces of suck” math exercises made me laugh, and that, plus the logical advice this presented, broke my cycle of worrying. Thank you!
Thank you for your kind words. Glad you found the video useful.
what is very interesting is, I would not have claimed any benefits to my worries. However, I still cling to them like a warm blanket. So at a deeper less conscious level I do hold these false benefits/expectations without realizing it.
A lot of people do and don't even realize they hold these underlying beliefs about the usefulness of worry.
In your video on anxiety you said anxiety is an emotion.Can you please explain further why it feels so bad and what is anxietys purpose if it has one.
I am just beginning to understand my emotions and am trying to engage with them and sort myself out with the findings
Could you make a video of emotions and how to handle them please i would love to know more
Hi Lynda, the purpose of anxiety is to alert someone to when there is threat or danger near them and to activate them to do something to either fight the threat or to run away. Without anxiety, people would not recognize danger and dangerous situations and that would not be adaptive. The problem with anxiety disorders is that the anxiety is not in response to an actual dangerous situation, but perceived danger in a situation that is not dangerous at all. I hope that makes sense.
What if we’re worried about our thoughts? What if we worry about brain fog, jumbled thoughts, intrusive thoughts , mental health, how can we apply this to that?
The skills apply for all types of worries. It also includes worries about worrying, which is something we call metaworry.
Hello Dr Rami,I want To know From U What Is the reason associated with Worrying,Some People worry A Lot Mostly Suffering from GAD While Some people Dont Worry At All,And Second Thing Are Fear And Worry Related To Each other,As I Feel Im Worrying Becz i have Fear that Something Bad Will Happen,Plzz Clarify....
In terms of why some people worry more than others, there are a lot of factors that can contribute to where the excessive worry comes from. There are likely components related to genetics, personality, modelling from parents, early life experiences, stressful life events etc. The challenge is, we can never really know why a particular person is prone to worry more than someone else. From my perspective as a psychologist, the focus is less on where the worry came from, but more about what factors are maintaining the worry, because that's something a person can control. That's what these videos are focusing on. In terms of the relationship between fear (or anxiety) and worry, I discussed that in the first video of this worry management series. Anxiety/fear is the emotional result of the worry process. Worry is a thought process and anxiety/fear is the emotion that results from the worrying.
Thanks Dr Rami
Thank you!.....I have a question what if I make myself so strong that I don't get anxiety at all?...is it possible ....?...would it be a normal ?
Anxiety is a normal human emotion and not something you can completely eliminate. You should feel anxious in some circumstances - that's normal and adaptive.
@@DrRamiNader okay
Unfortunately I am worrying about getting a terminal illness in the near future, and that is something I can't solve. Have been ruminating these anxious thoughts for over a month, nonstop, now. I think I am going crazy....
That's a very common worry theme.
Worrying really has no utility. Better to just wait for that failure, rejection or cancer and take it on the chin when you get it. In the meantime just live a carefree and happy life.
Deal with the problems when they arise, rather than worrying about them before they do.
Dr Nader can you explain why excessive worriers come back I’ve challenged my beliefs and looked at the uncertainty videos and those work most of the time but for a specific worry I have two months from now nothing is working why does it seem to come back sometimes and feel uncontrollable
Hi Keith - obviously I cannot provide specific advice or suggestions. For Type II worries (worries about future problems that have not yet happened and may never happen), I have posted a couple of videos on cognitive avoidance and cognitive exposure using a worry script (ruclips.net/video/n2u3jpGl81Q/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/mkYxVWlwuk0/видео.html). You may want to take a look at those videos.
Dr Nader I feel real drained by my worriers. Is there a way I can set an appointment up to talk about specific worriers do you do zoom meetings ?
@@keitht1557 Sorry Keith - I can only work with people in BC, where I am licensed. And even at that, my practice is full and I am not currently taking on any new clients. It's part of the reason I started making these videos. I'd encourage you to find a psychologist locally who specializes in CBT.
@@DrRamiNader ok thank you that makes sense
Is there jobs that hire depressed people? Gov programs?
Hi Roy - I don't know. Different communities have different programs and opportunities.
@@DrRamiNader Thank you for your response.