I like to try to mimic emotions with women too. Even if I have no common interests with her, I can still relate to the feelings and passions she is giving off when she's talking about her interests (whether they're good, bad, sad, negative, positive, or indifferent). Essentially it's a full proof way to connect with a women under-the-radar, cause you don't have to fake it. for example, if I'm macking on a girl who likes to knit scarfs (something I know nothing about), I can feel the emotions or certain passion she is sending off when talking about those scarfs and try to relate to those specific feelings. So I'll tell her a story about me and sports (something I know a lot about) in a manner which makes me feel the same way she feels about knitting. it's a great way to indirectly fly under her BS alarms and build rapport cause I'm being sincere and not trying to fake my intentions and come on too strong to her like a lot of guys who run out of things to say after a corny pick-up line. I'm no pick up artist, nor do I intend to try to take advantage of women. Just an idea that I hope helps you guys out. Open for constructive criticism
Great advice! I also realize that I do this subconsciously sometimes. Especially when it comes to rate of speech. And women do this also as well to guys. It's not just a guy thing. It's actually an innate feeling we all have that naturally makes us want to mimic the people we like in an attempt for them to like us as well. The need of belongingness I think
Hello, Kate It's been a pleasure to learn from you, and I must say that the things you tell us to do and not to do really matter a lot to women. For people like me, you are an angel! If you have any point to keep in mind, specifically for places like India, would you mind helping us with them?
Hey Kate! Gotta question. Sooo this girl I think likes me talked to me about her personal life and asked personal questions. I gave her a card for her bday and shortly after I told her I liked her ( like two days after) she didn’t bring up the card to me but when I was telling her how I liked her and that I was nervous, she had a huge smile and wide eyes and said thanks and that we can talk more. Feels kinda iffy to me. Any insight?
Hey Kate. I once asked you about how to get over my break up. Your advice helped me a lot. It's been almost a year. Now there's a new girl I like at my office who joined just recently. I somehow gathered my strength and spoke to her. We spoke for around 10 mins. But that day my body language was not so good. So I wanted to ask you about how to go and talk to her again.. as it is a work place so you know what might be the problems. What to do and what not to?
@@KateSpring I legit have the same last name as you. This is weird to see, considering I have never seen anyone with "Spring" as their last name. I thought I was the only one, wow!
I do have to ask: How do you gain confidence around gorgeous women, I'm talking 9s and 10s? I'm embarrassed to say it, but women of that calibre intimidate me, I get shy around them, or I'm nervous to approach them.
Confidence isn't something that disappear when talking to certain women. If you're getting cold feet all of a sudden, then you're not really confident. You're actually _pretending_ to be confident. You should get rid of the "Rating" mentality. Your confidence must come from within, from yourself. Not based on a woman's attractiveness.
Thanks I don't believe I can express it enough . Even if the techniques or lack of a better word the information Ive attained from you is a blessing . Because like you said tone is every thing .Because I have a more mono tone voice I have to speak louder so it doesn't sound like I'm mumbeling . But the point I was trying to make is that because of your tone and how you use your linguistics for how you present the information I just sounds more understandable or its maybe easier to process the information because of how you present it I have ADD so I process things differently than some people . To make along story short . I appreciate your time and I got more from this one video than the rest of them . You have value and worth . Again thanks !!!!😉
@@KateSpring I already have. But we as humans only taken so much from what we watch or read . Most of what you say resonates with me so me having ADD and I process things differently . I make sure to take in your videos numerous times. My biggest struggle is being aware of & processing women's body language . And making sure I'm sending out the right body language.
Hello Kate! I really appreciate your advices. I had a really fun day with the girl I like last Saturday. We met at a local activity, hours of one on one talking, spent time with friends at there, eat a dinner in private, after the activity she invited me to drink with her close friend and her friend's boyfriend etc. But I'm still not sure if she's into me or only regarding me as a friend. Since then (3 days now) we haven't called or texted to each other. I don't know if she's waiting me to communicate first. Also I don't want to look like an impatient person (you warned about not being overeager and let her wonder in one of your videos). So you have any suggestions?
Nice going! 3 days isn't that bad, so yeah, why don't you go ahead and contact her? Just something subtle like "Hey, I met this new workmate who laughs just like you." Remember to start the conversation that doesn't sound like you've been waiting to talk to her again for ages. Good luck! :-)
Thank you very much for your answer. I contacted to wish her good luck at her upcoming work. She thanked me nicely, but unfortunately she didn't reply much and texted as playful as before. So I couldn't have the chance to ask her out. I guess she's not into me. Well, at least I tried. Still, thanks again.
I need help, I asked this girl to our senior prom and she’s on the quite side, we’re not exactly friends but she said yes and I need help to break the ice with here and get to know her better before we go so the night isn’t to awkward and maybe start a relationship with her
I suggest you start talking about your common interests and pay attention to your conversation. You'd want her to be comfortable talking to you. Everything should go smooth once she already is. Good luck! :-)
Hii Kate hope your doing great, I have a question I'm a confident person and I dress well and everythings well but I still don't have a gf, I live in Lebanon so do u think the problem might be that I'm direct and girls here are afraid of the society ?
There is this girl that I like,and she is in a relationship with someone,and I dint know that she was taken,when I asked her out,she wanted to go out with me,and after a month one day when I told her that I have feelings for her,she was like she dis not have any feelings for me but even now everyday she looks at me with those eyes that she does have feelings for me she was probably lying because I put her in a tough spot which to choose between me and her guy with whom she is in a relationship with.. What do I do now,I really want her to be mine... Someone please let me know what should I do
Women take months to fall in love. Men fall in love in less than few weeks. all you can do is walk away and don't contact her until her second or third attempt of contacting you
I've got a real question. There's a girl in my school she was interested in me but I didn't see it at first and when I did it was kinda too late. I didn't start any conversations. She lost interest. Do you think if I start talking to her now maybe she would be interested again?
Hey Kate, thanks! Also Could you make a video on how to talk to a girl on tinder/match/bumble and spark attraction to get the phone number and set up a first date eventually?
Kate quick question. Basically I was building rapport with this girl today at my local farmers market. It was going well. I asked her out, but she has a dude. And on the way out, we ran into each other again and the conversation was great. Should I have attempted to get her number just to keep in touch, though she has a dude? Your thoughts?
It doesn't matter if you have her number or not. You can take your time since there's no need to rush with the situation you're in. I've got a video that would definitely help you so go check it out! ruclips.net/video/0u29m6UbYSE/видео.html
Hey Kate, there’s a girl in one of my uni classes I’ve been wanting to talk to for a long time. Every time I pop out of the class (testing if she looks) and come back in she always looks at me and we both make eye contact but I always break it asap. not sure if this is a small sign she’s interested in me. From this only would you recommend me go and start a conversation? Thanks
@@KateSpring, through my own experiences, I have found that smiling at the girl as she is looking at you is a great way to get her attention. At that point, it's okay to break eye contact. It leaves the girl with a nice impression of you and leaves her happy to see you again in the future as you have now developed curiosity in her about you. Also, Kate, it's the first time I am seeing your video. I usually see guys doing these types of videos. I just want to say congratulations to you. It's good to get the female perspective on these matters. (And, ironically, I know I just gave my own male perspective above. :) ).
Okay so this comment is a question. I am friends with this girl I work with. We became friends after I got turned down by her around 7 or 8 months ago. I was wondering, since it seems like things have changed between the two of us is it alright to ask her out again or is this a bad call?
Hey Kate I have a question (feel free everyone to answer). I dated a girl who approach to me a month ago, she accepted on have a drink somewhere so everything seemed amazing. All changed when right at the moment of the date she didnt come, I asked her and she told me that she felt asleep due to she was really tired. Now, what should I do? This happened two weeks ago and we didnt talk anymore, I didnt took it personal, this things can happen.. I thought that the next step whould be she to say something about our missing date and maybe search for another day or moment.. She did not talk since that day anymore.. Is this a lost cause? (She came to me in a party and I assumed she was interested so.. I dont know I'm confused. Thanks!!! (Everyone can answer!!!)
Chances are, she's honestly tired that day and she's just waiting for you to ask again. There's no harm in asking, so why don't you give it another shot? :-)
Sorry I'm coming late to your question but keep in mind that in some cases, a girl will purposely or unconsciously put you in a predicament to test your reactions to see if you're fazed easily or even a threat. The best way in a lot of these cases (but remember each girl is an individual and could feel differently than most) is to act like it didn't bother you and possibly even give her a gentle ribbing about it if you can pull that off. The more you're controlled by other people's actions, the less you're able to control the narrative of your life and those around you. I would go to her in an honest and non--condemning way and directly ask her out. Maybe she had something bad or embarrassing happen to her or maybe she's testing you. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt but remember that girls will sometimes seem compliant in order to be polite instead of confrontational by turning you down directly, and some girls - like some guys - are just flakes.
Hi. I am always successful at starting a conversation with my ex on a high note, with interesting stuff. I am facing problem with getting the conversation to flow and leaving her wanting more. Help! :-)
I would like to ask how to start a conversation directly over text. In my situation I don't have the girl's phone number but we do follow each other on Instagram. We study in same college but in different departments so there is a real small chance of us to meet in person and I will get a chance to ask her number. Please guide me on how to start and take it forward. Thank you.
i have no idea what to talk about with women. so all the tips work up until the actual conversation, and than im doomed.. like always. and im 28 and i look good. T-T
@@KateSpring like I feel you radiate this energy that allows others to feel safe. Its relaxed and soothing ya know? Well I wish you much success and happiness
That's definitely a big plus, but not enough to tell that she likes you. There's a couple more signs you might want to check out in this video: ruclips.net/video/n7-09X9aKg8/видео.html
That is so true... Wish i would take action though rather than only watching videos ;) I cannot convince myself. Actually to be honest i don't like some stuff because it seems very probable to work, though i hate to think that it might be used for manipulative purposes, that doesn't make me feel right at all.
Well i ended up dating someone i never thought - always been tall, confident and in good shape but let me tell you that doesnt get you the girl for you in most cases :) Show care, enjoy the moment, dress well, act decent aswell as dont lean too much into it at first :D Went from going to the bar with my pals every weekend to considering buying a house, get a bigger car etc. :) But wait however long it takes to meet the special someone dont be hasty :)
You tell everyone what to do. Then they follow your instructions. Then finally they end up getting hurt. Then they never ever want to be in a relationship ever again. That's what happened to me. You see guys who are successful; everyone runs after them. When you fall down, nobody stands beside you. People don't always get the girl they want. So shut the hell up.
Love your channel and a subscriber but your Victoria Secret look has to go for a more professional outfit. Your sharper than this to stoop to this level.
I like to try to mimic emotions with women too. Even if I have no common interests with her, I can still relate to the feelings and passions she is giving off when she's talking about her interests (whether they're good, bad, sad, negative, positive, or indifferent). Essentially it's a full proof way to connect with a women under-the-radar, cause you don't have to fake it. for example, if I'm macking on a girl who likes to knit scarfs (something I know nothing about), I can feel the emotions or certain passion she is sending off when talking about those scarfs and try to relate to those specific feelings. So I'll tell her a story about me and sports (something I know a lot about) in a manner which makes me feel the same way she feels about knitting. it's a great way to indirectly fly under her BS alarms and build rapport cause I'm being sincere and not trying to fake my intentions and come on too strong to her like a lot of guys who run out of things to say after a corny pick-up line.
I'm no pick up artist, nor do I intend to try to take advantage of women. Just an idea that I hope helps you guys out. Open for constructive criticism
Great advice! I also realize that I do this subconsciously sometimes. Especially when it comes to rate of speech. And women do this also as well to guys. It's not just a guy thing. It's actually an innate feeling we all have that naturally makes us want to mimic the people we like in an attempt for them to like us as well. The need of belongingness I think
Hello, Kate
It's been a pleasure to learn from you, and I must say that the things you tell us to do and not to do really matter a lot to women. For people like me, you are an angel!
If you have any point to keep in mind, specifically for places like India, would you mind helping us with them?
Hey Kate! Gotta question. Sooo this girl I think likes me talked to me about her personal life and asked personal questions. I gave her a card for her bday and shortly after I told her I liked her ( like two days after) she didn’t bring up the card to me but when I was telling her how I liked her and that I was nervous, she had a huge smile and wide eyes and said thanks and that we can talk more. Feels kinda iffy to me. Any insight?
Things are certainly looking good for you Kristofer. If you're feeling confident she likes you too, then go for it! :-)
I know you help guys with these relationship tips, but do you think they can be used for a woman seeking a woman?
Hey Kate. I once asked you about how to get over my break up. Your advice helped me a lot. It's been almost a year. Now there's a new girl I like at my office who joined just recently. I somehow gathered my strength and spoke to her. We spoke for around 10 mins. But that day my body language was not so good.
So I wanted to ask you about how to go and talk to her again.. as it is a work place so you know what might be the problems. What to do and what not to?
Really glad to hear it Tejinder! And no problem, I got the video that would definitely help you. Good luck! ruclips.net/video/ePgiYXLVTKE/видео.html
@@KateSpring I legit have the same last name as you. This is weird to see, considering I have never seen anyone with "Spring" as their last name. I thought I was the only one, wow!
My teachers say that all the time,"it's not what you say it's how you say it" didn't know it applied to relationships
Oh you have no idea how it applies to so many other things Mateo. It's even applicable to me just taping this vid!
I do have to ask: How do you gain confidence around gorgeous women, I'm talking 9s and 10s?
I'm embarrassed to say it, but women of that calibre intimidate me, I get shy around them, or I'm nervous to approach them.
Confidence isn't something that disappear when talking to certain women. If you're getting cold feet all of a sudden, then you're not really confident. You're actually _pretending_ to be confident. You should get rid of the "Rating" mentality. Your confidence must come from within, from yourself. Not based on a woman's attractiveness.
Thanks I don't believe I can express it enough . Even if the techniques or lack of a better word the information Ive attained from you is a blessing . Because like you said tone is every thing .Because I have a more mono tone voice I have to speak louder so it doesn't sound like I'm mumbeling . But the point I was trying to make is that because of your tone and how you use your linguistics for how you present the information I just sounds more understandable or its maybe easier to process the information because of how you present it I have ADD so I process things differently than some people . To make along story short . I appreciate your time and I got more from this one video than the rest of them . You have value and worth . Again thanks !!!!😉
You're welcome Tim! Don't forget to check the rest of my videos for more helpful contents! 🙂
@@KateSpring I already have. But we as humans only taken so much from what we watch or read . Most of what you say resonates with me so me having ADD and I process things differently . I make sure to take in your videos numerous times. My biggest struggle is being aware of & processing women's body language . And making sure I'm sending out the right body language.
I wouldn't put much stock in the juvenile comments, you've put yourself out there and are doing a great job at coaching.
Naaah. Trust me, it's gonna take more than that Jim 😉 Appreciate your support :-)
Hi Kate, do you have a Q&A email? Would like some personal questions answered. Thank you. Great respect. 🙏🏻
Hey Joshua! Head over to my website at katespring.com and use the contact link found in the upper-right hand corner of the page.
Hello Kate! I really appreciate your advices. I had a really fun day with the girl I like last Saturday. We met at a local activity, hours of one on one talking, spent time with friends at there, eat a dinner in private, after the activity she invited me to drink with her close friend and her friend's boyfriend etc. But I'm still not sure if she's into me or only regarding me as a friend. Since then (3 days now) we haven't called or texted to each other. I don't know if she's waiting me to communicate first. Also I don't want to look like an impatient person (you warned about not being overeager and let her wonder in one of your videos). So you have any suggestions?
Nice going! 3 days isn't that bad, so yeah, why don't you go ahead and contact her? Just something subtle like "Hey, I met this new workmate who laughs just like you." Remember to start the conversation that doesn't sound like you've been waiting to talk to her again for ages. Good luck! :-)
Thank you very much for your answer. I contacted to wish her good luck at her upcoming work. She thanked me nicely, but unfortunately she didn't reply much and texted as playful as before. So I couldn't have the chance to ask her out. I guess she's not into me. Well, at least I tried. Still, thanks again.
I need help, I asked this girl to our senior prom and she’s on the quite side, we’re not exactly friends but she said yes and I need help to break the ice with here and get to know her better before we go so the night isn’t to awkward and maybe start a relationship with her
I suggest you start talking about your common interests and pay attention to your conversation. You'd want her to be comfortable talking to you. Everything should go smooth once she already is. Good luck! :-)
Kate, come back we miss you and your awesome content
Thank you James. New videos will be up pretty soon! 🙂
Kate Spring 😘 love you. looking fwd to the new stuff. your style is so refreshing of delivering the info.
Hii Kate hope your doing great, I have a question I'm a confident person and I dress well and everythings well but I still don't have a gf, I live in Lebanon so do u think the problem might be that I'm direct and girls here are afraid of the society ?
There is this girl that I like,and she is in a relationship with someone,and I dint know that she was taken,when I asked her out,she wanted to go out with me,and after a month one day when I told her that I have feelings for her,she was like she dis not have any feelings for me but even now everyday she looks at me with those eyes that she does have feelings for me she was probably lying because I put her in a tough spot which to choose between me and her guy with whom she is in a relationship with..
What do I do now,I really want her to be mine...
Someone please let me know what should I do
Women take months to fall in love. Men fall in love in less than few weeks. all you can do is walk away and don't contact her until her second or third attempt of contacting you
Hello Kate i appreciate you becuase you make a wonderful videos that i haven't seen before
Why, thank you Imran! Appreciate it! :-)
Any tips on Wooing an introvert?
They're usually a harder nut to crack so a little more patience than the usual Teemu! :-)
I've got a real question. There's a girl in my school she was interested in me but I didn't see it at first and when I did it was kinda too late. I didn't start any conversations. She lost interest. Do you think if I start talking to her now maybe she would be interested again?
Yes of course, Talk to her and let her know your interest.
It's never too late Ace! Go get her! ;)
Hey Kate, thanks! Also Could you make a video on how to talk to a girl on tinder/match/bumble and spark attraction to get the phone number and set up a first date eventually?
Thanks for the suggestion Aditya! Will definitely consider making one. Appreciate it! :-)
Kate quick question. Basically I was building rapport with this girl today at my local farmers market. It was going well. I asked her out, but she has a dude. And on the way out, we ran into each other again and the conversation was great. Should I have attempted to get her number just to keep in touch, though she has a dude? Your thoughts?
It doesn't matter if you have her number or not. You can take your time since there's no need to rush with the situation you're in. I've got a video that would definitely help you so go check it out! ruclips.net/video/0u29m6UbYSE/видео.html
Hey Kate, there’s a girl in one of my uni classes I’ve been wanting to talk to for a long time. Every time I pop out of the class (testing if she looks) and come back in she always looks at me and we both make eye contact but I always break it asap. not sure if this is a small sign she’s interested in me. From this only would you recommend me go and start a conversation? Thanks
Of course Liam! I'd recommend you don't break eye contact before she does too. Remember to take control and be confident. Good luck!
@@KateSpring, through my own experiences, I have found that smiling at the girl as she is looking at you is a great way to get her attention. At that point, it's okay to break eye contact. It leaves the girl with a nice impression of you and leaves her happy to see you again in the future as you have now developed curiosity in her about you. Also, Kate, it's the first time I am seeing your video. I usually see guys doing these types of videos. I just want to say congratulations to you. It's good to get the female perspective on these matters. (And, ironically, I know I just gave my own male perspective above. :) ).
Thank you so much Kate
Okay so this comment is a question. I am friends with this girl I work with. We became friends after I got turned down by her around 7 or 8 months ago. I was wondering, since it seems like things have changed between the two of us is it alright to ask her out again or is this a bad call?
Of course! A lot of things can change in 8 months so I'd say why not give it a shot? Good luck!
Interesting food for thought.
I have an idea Kate. Let's build rapport.
Oh yeah? Have you subscribed yet? ;)
LOL!!! Should I tell him, or do you want to let Delbrek know that you're engaged (possibly already married)?
Hey Kate I have a question (feel free everyone to answer).
I dated a girl who approach to me a month ago, she accepted on have a drink somewhere so everything seemed amazing.
All changed when right at the moment of the date she didnt come, I asked her and she told me that she felt asleep due to she was really tired. Now, what should I do?
This happened two weeks ago and we didnt talk anymore, I didnt took it personal, this things can happen..
I thought that the next step whould be she to say something about our missing date and maybe search for another day or moment.. She did not talk since that day anymore..
Is this a lost cause? (She came to me in a party and I assumed she was interested so.. I dont know I'm confused.
Thanks!!! (Everyone can answer!!!)
Chances are, she's honestly tired that day and she's just waiting for you to ask again. There's no harm in asking, so why don't you give it another shot? :-)
Sorry I'm coming late to your question but keep in mind that in some cases, a girl will purposely or unconsciously put you in a predicament to test your reactions to see if you're fazed easily or even a threat. The best way in a lot of these cases (but remember each girl is an individual and could feel differently than most) is to act like it didn't bother you and possibly even give her a gentle ribbing about it if you can pull that off. The more you're controlled by other people's actions, the less you're able to control the narrative of your life and those around you. I would go to her in an honest and non--condemning way and directly ask her out. Maybe she had something bad or embarrassing happen to her or maybe she's testing you. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt but remember that girls will sometimes seem compliant in order to be polite instead of confrontational by turning you down directly, and some girls - like some guys - are just flakes.
Thank you! This video was very helpful. I am very shy have not been with anyone for over 9 years. Having trouble talking to women!
You're welcome Bryan! I think this video on mastering small talk would definitely help you. Go check it out! ruclips.net/video/7eGRGK48Sc8/видео.html
Hi. I am always successful at starting a conversation with my ex on a high note, with interesting stuff. I am facing problem with getting the conversation to flow and leaving her wanting more. Help! :-)
I would like to ask how to start a conversation directly over text. In my situation I don't have the girl's phone number but we do follow each other on Instagram. We study in same college but in different departments so there is a real small chance of us to meet in person and I will get a chance to ask her number. Please guide me on how to start and take it forward.
Thank you.
Good information.
i have no idea what to talk about with women. so all the tips work up until the actual conversation, and than im doomed.. like always. and im 28 and i look good. T-T
Sounds like you could really use this video on mastering small talk Pavel! ruclips.net/video/7eGRGK48Sc8/видео.html
You are awesome thank you!
I know I am 😎 You're welcome! :-)
Wow you're actually a really geniune person. Also I like your style mate.
Thank you! 😊
@@KateSpring like I feel you radiate this energy that allows others to feel safe. Its relaxed and soothing ya know? Well I wish you much success and happiness
What should I tell a girl right after a kiss to avoid making it awkward?
Got the perfect video for you John! ruclips.net/video/Nl-qHxk8nrQ/видео.html
you shouldn't tell her anything look at her and go for another kiss no words
THIS IS A REAL QUESTION: If a girl views all your snapchat stories, is she into you?
That's definitely a big plus, but not enough to tell that she likes you. There's a couple more signs you might want to check out in this video: ruclips.net/video/n7-09X9aKg8/видео.html
No.
Nope
That is so true... Wish i would take action though rather than only watching videos ;) I cannot convince myself. Actually to be honest i don't like some stuff because it seems very probable to work, though i hate to think that it might be used for manipulative purposes, that doesn't make me feel right at all.
Kate spring so can you tell me how to be unattractive so that I can get women to stop approaching me?
Wow, you look absolutely jaw-dropping gorgeous today, Kate.
Why, thank you Jason! :-)
Well i ended up dating someone i never thought - always been tall, confident and in good shape but let me tell you that doesnt get you the girl for you in most cases :)
Show care, enjoy the moment, dress well, act decent aswell as dont lean too much into it at first :D
Went from going to the bar with my pals every weekend to considering buying a house, get a bigger car etc. :) But wait however long it takes to meet the special someone dont be hasty :)
Great Thumbnail!
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True!!!
Them earing's tho 😀
I watched this video once.
She's so beautiful! 😍
That's very nice of you, thanks! Appreciate it! :-)
Hi Kate, thanks for getting back, I will be in touch w/ you ~pressed for time now , like what you have to share.Jay.
kate ln a reationship
love you
Why you don't smile??
kate l want to be with you
Damn! you are so cute! ;)
Thank you 😊
You tell everyone what to do. Then they follow your instructions. Then finally they end up getting hurt. Then they never ever want to be in a relationship ever again. That's what happened to me. You see guys who are successful; everyone runs after them. When you fall down, nobody stands beside you. People don't always get the girl they want. So shut the hell up.
Love your channel and a subscriber but your Victoria Secret look has to go for a more professional outfit. Your sharper than this to stoop to this level.
Kate. Great job. But your hair isn't getting it looks like you just got up.