5 Reasons You Should Foster Teens
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- Опубликовано: 28 июл 2024
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I was a foster kid from 8 to 17 and got adopted 6 days before my 18th birthday. It took me 8 yrs to find my forever home.. Teenage kids need love the most because they are always overlooked
I'm so glad your forever family found you. And thank you for sharing because it just reinforces my decision to expand my age range for placements too.
Cassidy Sellers My forever family found me when I was 17 too! I was in care from 2-18. I’m so happy for you
My wife and I are talking to the state about a soon to be 17 year old. We are super excited, I remember being a teen like it was yesterday. I hope everything works out and this can be home base from now on.
@@LakotaAntone That’s all I needed to hear.. Makes me want to adopt/foster that much more someday..
Teens need more help than people understand.
I'm 19 and i was in care from 12 to 18. I had nearly 30 placements, very few actually cared about me. One of the biggest shows of kindness that someone did for me was suitcases. I had to leave that placement due to my health needs but they bought me some suitcases to carry my stuff in. I could finally bin the trash bags. When i saw that theyd got me some suitcases I dropped to the floor and cried i stayed there all day just staring at this beautiful gift. It was an act of love. It taught me that I was worth more than trash bags, that I was worth love and that they cared. I was really angry at them for kicking me out but when i saw the suitcases i knew they really did care.
One of the things i struggled with was feeling like i was passed my best before date. Foster carers didnt want me anymore, i was a teen with additional needs and some behavioural issues. So it was care homes, secure units, and hospitals. I was once in a police cell for 2 days, I hadn't been arrested or done anything illegal but we were out of other options. No one wanted me, and I knew that. I went to a group for care kids for a while and they were all a lot younger than me, they would talk about how their foster carer was taking them on holiday, or how they were being adopted. They would talk about how their foster carer reads them a story every night. Meanwhile i was sat on a supermarket car park every few months while 2 social workers tried to convince people to have me just for a couple days. Sometimes there would be nowhere left to go and I'd sleep in a council office under some desks.
I dont want anyone else to have to go through that. When I moved out I was so happy, I could buy a bed. That would be my bed. I could come home everyday and see that my bed was still there. Noone would wake me up at 4am and tell me I had 10 minutes to pack my bags and what I couldn't pack in time would be left behind. I wouldn't have to worry about my stuff getting nicked, room searches, constantly knowing you were a job role, a case file, a case number, not a person. You arent there because people care, you're there because legally you have to have a roof over your head until your 18th birthday. And on that day they dont have to help you anymore. Most care kids have them and their bin bags with their stuff in put on the doorstep on their 18th birthday. The doors closed in your face and then you're in this world alone. Its not a birthday you look forward to.
I want to get healthy enough so I can adopt more difficult to place groups, eg: sibling groups (me and my sister were separated as she stayed at home), kids with additional needs and disabilities (theres very few disabilities i would straight up decline most I'd at least consider) and teens. But in the uk there isnt really any teens available for adoption most are taken off the adoption route and placed in long term foster. I dont have any desire for biological children, but would be open to being a surrogate for my sister if that was required and was what she wanted. I dont think I'm the right person because of my health, I'd have to come off of various medications that keep me alive. Not really possible.
Teens needs to know they are worthy. When you're in care you feel like nothing. You feel like bottom of the heap. Teens need to know they can achieve things, and they can be more than their past and where they came from. Noone believe in me, one of the things a teacher wrote about me in a report was "unlikely to achieve" and that was how most people viewed me. A why should we even bother type of kid. Teens need to know they can use that view and prove people wrong.
Thank you for sharing your view of foster caring. Thank you for being their voice.
Please tell miss A that while I dont know her personally, I know that she can achieve and that amazing and badass and doesn't have to turn out how people think she will. Only she has the power to decide where she goes in life.
Sending love ❤
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I'm so sorry you experienced all of that. When I have a good job and own a home, I want to foster older kids to show them love and stability. And if they come to my home with their stuff in a garbage bag, the first order of business will be to go to Target to buy them a suitcase. I'll even say "this does not mean you have to leave. It means you are better than a garbage bag."
@@andreajohnson6968 it's a simple act but worth its weight in gold. My suitcases are some of my most prized possessions. Those older kids and teens will be blessed with you as a carer. Remember, those kids might never have known kindness or love it wont be easy to convince them someone actually cares about them. They'll make things difficult sometimes but you just have to love them through it. Through the good, the bad and the ugly. Theres not really bad kids, well they're very rare and you're unlikely to ever look after one statistically. Theres damaged kids, confused kids, kids trying to get you to reject them, kids making mistakes, kids growing up. Please dont give up on them, enough people have already dont add to that list.
Thank you for wanting to make a difference in their lives. ❤
Hope your health is doing ok and that you can achieve all your dreams. Never give up hope and you are a valuable person
Alanis Houkes this is beautiful. I just got licensed. Thank you for sharing!
when the dog started walking I thought music started playing lol
potato noses me too!
Me too!!! And this is even after I read this comment. :)
I laughed at this comment then thought the same thing once it happened.
Me too but I listened more and I knew it was a familiar sound dog scratching
Omg, so i want to be a foster parent after I get out of college, I'm in high school now, and this has helped me try and choose an age range with older children
Jamie Starfire it’s gonna be a while after college 😂😂 but good to have in mind
I'm in middle school and I feel the same way. I used to want to have kids biologically (is that bad phrasing? xP) but their channel has definitely changed my perspective a bit.
@@Caroline-pf8ot I've always known I didn't want biological children. It's just not for me. But since I've been in the system I understand what they are saying a bit. And everything I've gone through as a child/teen has made me want to help other kids when I can.
Regardless of age, it's great that you have fostering in mind. We thought it would be when we were much older but we felt it necessary to do it sooner. Maybe you'll have the same experience :) We saw a few young, single foster people in some of our classes.
@@Caroline-pf8ot you can still have biological kids and foster kids
I am a foster parent and have had several teens; I am excited to be fostering a teen boy starting Monday. Mister A is 14 and I am excited to have him as a part of my family and home.
My mother is filling out all the paper work to be a foster mom, Im 16 and it’s just my mom and i in a 4 bedroom house, So our age range is going to be 4-13. I brought the idea to her because of your channel and how real you are about fostering, talking about the challenges and the good fostering brings. 💛 Thank you guys sm.
Oh my goodness you and your mom are amazing!!
Wow! Very inspiring
Sounded like your dog was tap dancing off camera 🐾🎩!!
We just finished foster training last week and had our first home visit Wednesday. I was always open to teens, but it took my husband longer to raise up the age bracket. I've used almost all of these points with him and now our age range will be 10 - 15 years old. 👍🏾I'm so excited he's finally on board with older kids.
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I'm 14 now, but when I'm an adult I want to be a foster parent. It's always been a goal of mine. I'm lucky enough to have a family an a situation where I wouldn't need to go into the system but I want to be able to help people. Teenagers are generally less terrible than people think, and I want to specifically foster teens. This channel has helped educated me and it's fun and entertaining. Tell Miss A howdy for me!
I would love to adopt a teen. Just so that I can be the parent/role model that I needed at that period of my life.
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Adolescence is a very important time in an individual's brain development. It is a HUGE deal to make a positive impact between the ages of 11-early 20s. Most people know early childhood is important for brain development--and this is true. However, it is during adolescence that the brain refines the information learned in early childhood. You can reverse (or greatly lessen) damage done early on if you intervene during the teen years. I love teenagers, they are a lot of fun. I think the most important things to remember when working with teens is to role model respect (you show them respect in the same way you'd like them to respect you) AND keep a sense of humor. There are so many battles you don't want to latch onto--make light of it the best you can and let it go if it's nothing major. Most things adults argue with teens about are not worth arguing about!
when I was still in high school I had met/friended some teens in foster care and majority of them were the complete opposite of the stereotypes. and teens also need support, love & care which people forget. I can’t stress enough that it’s sooo important to have good role models in their lives to help impact them in a positive way!!!
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I’ve really been thinking about doing foster care after I graduate in May, especially because approval takes about six months here and I’ll be a lot more settled six months in.
And I’ve so been feeling called to respite care for older kids (idk if they’ll let me have teens at 22, but like 11-12 for sure) once I get my license. It’s inspiring that y’all ending with that suggestion, just kinda affirming what is on my heart
I wish i had foster parent's like you guys. my foster homes were not the best stable situations growing up. Everything you guys said is everything i wanted and needed. just one person to show they cared and didn't take me for the money. you guys seem like great foster parents.
I love how they understand the needs of teens so well. You can tell they remember how hard it was to be a teen. I also think its great to see how supportive they are of Miss A and her family.
My husband and I have three kids 12, 6 and 4 and we foster teens. Our Foster Daughter has been with us over two years and we move her to college in a couple weeks😭❤️ I wholeheartedly agree with all your points. It is no easy thing, but these kids deserve a safe place to be loved and help them learn and grow into adults!
I always thought about fostering my youngest will graduate when I'm like 36! It's really not that far away for me unfortunately. One day you will miss the piles of laundry you have to do! I absolutely love your family and love that you show your journey!
I’ve never fostered teens. In my area, homes for infants are so badly needed. I’ve spoken to some younger people who have fostered teens and they’ve had some incredible experiences. Maybe someday.....
I aged out of foster care...in and out of homes and treatment centers. It was traumatic. Most people who want to foster don’t want older kids and it breaks my heart. Every home I was in I never felt loved. This is why I’m so determined to foster teens when I get a bit older. I’m only 23 and I have a 3 year old but being a foster mom to older kids is what I feel like my purpose is in life. Because I will love them whole heartedly and never give up on them❤️ thanks for this video.
Can’t ❤️ this more! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
We foster teens! Just certified and had a young man with us for a week. Taking a break until January due to PTO needs, but looking forward to it!
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I needed to hear this! I should be an approved carer by the end of the year. Big love from Australia
Congratulations!!!!! Same here, so exciting!
Would you guys be documenting or do you know any Australians who do document their foster care journey in Australia?
Same here 🙌 Sydney. Lots of forms and checks done - I’m probably 3-4 months away from being approved 🤞 My range has always been 8-18, and siblings.
thank you sm for this. im a trans man (born female, transitioning to male), so ever since i knew i had a uterus, i knew i wasnt gonna use it. then when i was like 10, i found out about how teens have so much trouble getting adopted/fostered, and decided that's what i wanted to do. every time ive mentioned it over the years, people try to talk me out of it. sorry, i just want kids to enjoy at least a little bit of their remaining childhood...
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I'm a 38 year old cis woman and people are still trying to convince me to use my uterus to make a baby and probably will well into my 40's! You live your life the way you want to. When you're ready, there will be teenagers who will be lucky to have you.
We are planning on fostering teens (getting certified), and we also have two little kids. We similarly feel like we couldn’t handle another little kid and that’s why we want to do teens. Sometimes I still get nervous, so it’s fun to hear from someone in a similar situation who is doing well with this kind of set up!
Got certified finally!!!! My age range is 6 to 12, or I should say was because I just said yes to a 17yr old placement. I figured if she is anything like Miss A this is going to work out. 😊
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I chose to become a guardian to a child at 11 to give the child a stable home life and permenancy
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Love you guys! It is so important to give teens in foster care love! I appreciate all you're doing. 💖
you two are so inspiring! i am currently a college student, but i have always known that i want to be a foster parent once i grow up and get settled. i have two adopted little sisters who lived in foster care some time before we adopted them, and witnessing how foster care impacted their lives convinced me to foster myself. its so sad how in both foster care and adoption, older kids are usually passed up or overlooked due to trauma that is out of their control. i have always dreamed of creating a safe space for kiddos like that, much like your own!
First of all, you guys are an absolute blessing to this world...and second...no matter how many times I see the intro, it brings a tear to my eye, so beautiful!!
The dog sounded like a great jazz drummer lol
It cracks me up!!!!
You both are awesome! While I am not a foster parent. I am a mentor (have been a mentor) through a not for profit org in Chicago for the past 2 years, and I totally agree that being an influence and having an impact on their lives through stability is sooooo important and needed. You guys are incredible and are spreading a good message and example.
The dog feet 🤣 I was like “what is that sound”
We're planning to foster children when we move. Our youngest child passed away from cancer in January, and we just have too much to work through in the grieving process yet. His last months and especially his last 2 weeks of life took up as much time and effort as a newborn with health issues (we experienced this with our middle child). We're still waking up in the middle of the night panicking that he didn't wake us up and then realizing he didn't wake us for anything because he's dead.
We've been planning to take in kids around the same age as him. I know he's irreplaceable but we enjoyed 8-12 years old so much with him and his older brother and sister. We want to help kids return to their homes and after our experience, I'm looking at foster kids in a new light. Time. It's something they have that our son didn't have. We expected years more with him. I never missed the baby stage of women I know talk about. I was happy to put that stage behind us when we had our third child as soon as possible. Kids in the system have a lot of disadvantages but they've got one big advantage: Time. I'd like to help them utilize their time because they have years ahead of them to figure things out.
I will look further into fostering teens. It's a little intimidating because of the potential for things to go very wrong.
Another great video! You guys are an inspiration ❤️!!
Yes! You don’t know how much I value your videos. We just passed our home study and are in the process of getting approved. We’re doing teenagers, I teach middle school so it’s what I’m the most comfortable but my husband and I are still terrified!
Teens need a place also. There’s one thing that concerns me. I cant imagine a teenager becoming 18 @ the foster parents kick them out. I couldn’t do it. Another thing I think is wrong that when a child has been with 1 family for a couple of years the worker decides to jerk them out & put them with someone else, especially when the child is well adjusted. My granddaughter was jerked out of my home & she didn’t want to leave. She told them she wanted to stay with us. We had done nothing wrong. Our story is very complicated. In other words take a child out of a happy home. Miss A was very lucky to get u 2. Hopefully when & if she goes back to her family she will stay in touch. It will hurt your babies when she leaves cause they have a bond, & wouldn’t understand why they can’t see r talk to her. ❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰
I was one of the teens. As soon as I graduated, I was handed a $100 bill by my foster parents and told good luck.
Where I live, foster parents get awards for how many children they’ve fostered. The quality of the home is never taken into account. Roach and rat infested homes. But they ignore that because the foster parent has had 600 kids come through her home. It’s quantity over quality that is recognized here.
@@jodirabe9566 thats disgusting. like a damn foster kid factory. im so sorry yall dealt with this fkd up system.
@@jodirabe9566 Where are you from? Hearing this makes me sad. I plan to open my home to teens because I have been told by one of the agencies that everyone wants babies and little ones. So sad
Kylee' Fish, Illinois. Out of 8 foster homes, only one I was in wasn’t like that. But they moved me from that one without any reason given to me or them.
In my state you are allowed to sign yourself back in at 18. You go to a home for adults that help you get a job if you are not in school.. the program only lasts 3 years so at 21.
Love your dog walking around. My dog always gulps water anytime I hit record 🤣😂
Such perfect timing....
Hey! Im 20 and always wanted to adopt but in the past couple years I decided that when Im gonna be ready i would want to adopt teens because of all the reasons you talk about! Thank you for making this video !
Cincinatti Picker! I've been a Cincinatti Picker subscriber for a while now. It was so cool to see this video pop up randomly as I was searching fostering and adoption videos. I was like "Oh wow that's John and his wife!" I had no idea you guys were foster parents and made videos like this. So cool! I have even more respect for you both. Keep up the great work. ❤
So glad you found the channel!
I know this is off topic but I must say..
If my next relationship isn’t like y’all’s, I don’t want it! You two are “#goals”, as the kids say. 🤣
You guys are an AMAZING example of great communication between each other and towards others. The care and love between you two shows heavily and I’m glad I am able to witness it!
I know you are impacting many, including myself. 💚
I promise we are not perfect! Every relationship struggles with added stress. I do think we are pretty awesome at communicating and as a marriage counselor told us “we argue really well” 😂
@@BeTheVillageCommunity But the way you look at each other!
You guys are have such a kind heart ♥😍😘
I hope the love between you two have never fades and should last till ur last breath
I never wanted to foster teens, I only wanted like 0-5 but since I’ve been watching the crazy middles and the crazy pieces (and now you guys) I feel like I almost exclusively want teens. My husband and I don’t have any kids but we have 12 nieces and nephews and we are only 26 so I feel like we would be able to relate to them and also create the stability for them.
Yyyeeesss!!!
It's getting hard to believe what I hear. Which may or may not be a good thing depending how you look at it.
I've always heard that teens will often push the foster parent away because the are "grown up" and don't need someone or they just have that teen attitude. Basically that teens are the hardest age group to foster over all.
I'd like to hear what foster parents who have had tons of teens and children feel about this subject.
You both are doing a wonderful job at showing us an inside look at your life as foster parents. I hope you continue to do this!
We don’t foster yet, but I do have the viewpoint as a Sunday school teacher/mentor/previous school teacher! I’ve taught both young children and teens, and I much prefer teens! They’re in that part of life where they’re making decisions that will effect the roads they take in adulthood. I’ve found it very rewarding to see how consistency and love can completely change a negative mindset and outcome in them!
Okay so I am a education student. I know a lot of what you said really related to my choice in grades to teach. I want to teach 8th to 12th grade because of the impact you can make with the students.
I was a teen when I was put into forster care (14 also) I feel so bad now for all the families I lived with, I was a real handful, but looking back it was because I didnt want to build a relationship and get rejected constantly. I ended up spending most of my time in a group home, which is sooo bad, we need more careers like you.
Such an amazing channel! So important!
I love that you are breaking the stigma!✊🏼
With my health and some other issues, I'm not sure I'll be able to ever foster kids, but I've known for quite a while that I want to take in the older kids when I do. They deserve love and attention just as much as the little ones that most people only seem to want.
We have been fostering for a few years but have our first teen placement! I was super hesitant to take a 16yo girl. We were told it would only be a few weeks.. then COVID happened. Now it’s indefinite. Thankfully we’re actually loving having a teenager here! She is respectful and kind. We are still figuring it out but I think she won’t be our last teenager. Your channel has been super helpful to me! We just want to be the best we can be for all the kids we have (1 adopted, 2 foster placements) and it’s hard with a wide age gap!
❤️❤️❤️❤️ I cant love this more!! Thank you for being open to fostering teens!!
You know it is awesome to hear this Perspective when we foster my Husband already said he didn't think he would be able to have babies because we already have two little ones. So now it opened up the discussions for us to have a wider age range and he is an awesome father so he would be a great role model to teens as I . God have your way!
You've got it! You know the way.
Can't wait to foster teens
Such a great message! A family member of mine only takes in teens and soon will be adopting them. It's something my husband and I are open to if we ever got that call for placement. ❤️
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I’m only 26 and unmarried (and childless), but for years I’ve wanted to foster teenagers. I know there’s a huge need, and I especially feel sorry for the ones who get kicked out the day they turn 18. I know many don’t have basic life skills and are behind in school, and I’d be happy to teach and tutor them so they can succeed. If I could adopt them and they wanted to come back to my house for Christmas or whenever that would be wonderful, even if I didn’t meet them until they were 17. But if they just needed a temporary place of peace and stability, I’d be that too. For now I’m just mentoring, but someday when I’m secure, I’ll get a house with plenty of bedrooms.
Right now our age range is 5-12ish, basically K-grade 5. Our daughter is 8. So many people have told us that we should not break birth order, and basically said we should do under 5. One of my favorite things about you guys is that you aren't only doing kids under your bio kids ages. It's so encouraging, especially since fostering is not super common in our area.
Yeah, I heard so much about that before but I’ll be honest.... it hasn’t been an issue at all in our home. Although, we are starting our kids young so it’s just what they will know. I could maybe see it being confusing to a bio kid who is older to all of a sudden have an older kid around. But idk.. I just don’t buy it lol
We’re an adoptive home and re-opening our license. It was recommended not to break birth order by our child’s therapist. I think for kids with trauma backgrounds it could be more of an issue then bio kids.
@@noragilson3322 that makes sense too. I guess, because we have only one child, I just feel like any others we bring in will be breaking the birth order. Going from being the only to being either an older or younger foster sibling is already going to be huge. I don't know how much difference it would make to only do younger.
Love you guys!!
Awesome perspective! Also love the background typewriter sound effects 😬
Thank you
You guys are amazing
I’m only fostering kids around my kids age or younger but I do want to foster teens in the future.
I definitely want to foster kids and teens eventually ❤❤
We are adopting a 15 year old girl and a 11 year old girl out of foster care. If I knew how easy having a teen was we would of done it ages ago. We are so happy 😁
That is so incredible!!!
You gyus are asome
As a teen foster kid I love this 💕💕
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I'm a teen foster kid too. I'm about to turn 18 this month. I can't explain but this video and this family makes me so happy because I know they are taking good care of foster kids but it also makes me sad because I wish I had gotten the chance to have a family like them before my expiration date.
Do you ever worry about an older kid with sexual misbehaviors and your little ones? We foster little ones who have been groomed and sexually abused and we do have room for another kiddo, but we really want to protect our little ones. Is that something that you consider? How do you ensure their safety? (Also, I know not all older kids will have sexual misbehaviors, but the ones we have considered having in our home have those issues.)
That was a thought we had at first too. My position is: 1) know what types of children you can accept into your home based on their trauma. It doesn’t mean you are a terrible person, just that you aren’t the right home. 2) with any new placement just be observant and watchful with how the kids are interacting. With ANY kid, foster or otherwise I wouldn’t leave my kids alone with until I know them and how they play.
Yes, this happened to someone in my family. They were fostering a child who had been sexually abused, but the caseworker didn't tell them! And there was suddenly an issue and they had to quickly move her out of the home and get counselling for their youngest child. :(
I can’t be the only one who noticed the dog squatting in the background hahaha
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I think a lot of people are afraid to Foster older pre-teens and teen because of the bad image media (news, tv, movies) have given them. I do have a question. When media speaks about older fosters (especially in movies) they always run away. Obviously they are going through a huge change and their life is upside down. Are runaway foster teens as common as movies make it seem?
From personal experience it's more to do with how the child is parented. My sister ran away a lot in one home because she wasn't getting treated nicely whereas in other homes she was in she would be fine
Yes and no...
I'm a social worker and in my office, we have had a bunch of kids over the years I've been there who would run away. However, there's also a lot who don't. So, it may seem common, being something we do deal with. But, comparatively it's probably not that many that run away compared to those who don't. In my years as a case worker, I only had one teen who ran away. My others did not. And, this is more personal opinion than fact, but I think teens are less likely to run away when they're in a good Foster home than when they're in a group home.
Do you think you’ll still have Miss A when she turns 15?
I would like to foster teen girls but my only dilemma is I literally look like a teenager and I’m only 28. Do you think this will skew the lines as far as mutual respect and boundaries because we’re close in age?
Im only a teenager but one things i was sure about was I didnt want kids mainly because Im personally not a huge fan of toddlers and baby's but also simply due to the fact I don't want biological kids. I think I never truly realised to me that I could foster a teen until I watched the episodes of This is Us with Deja. I definitely want to foster teenagers when I get older and your videos are a hugeeee inspiration for me to pursue that. Reason #2 is one of my main reasons for wanting to do it.
Great video! I was wondering if you could do me a favor and move the word banners like “reason 2” away from the bottom. I use closed captioning and the captions often cover your banners so I get a bit lost. Thank you!
Oh shoot, I didn’t think of that. Those are the easiest iMovie captions to use but I’ll see what options I can find to accommodate that!
How is Miss A feeling? I remember she was sick a few days ago!!
Full recovery!
@@BeTheVillageCommunity glad to hear!
I don't want to be super negative but the window being behind you is back-lighting you so that your faces are a bit shadowed and I think it would be clearer if you had a light on your faces to counter that
Good call! We need to invest in some RUclipsr equipment like that :)
Love the video. Do you think that fostering teens is easier or harder for younger foster parents?
I think it’s easier honestly, because of the age difference it makes things more relatable. I think the kids need that more than we realize.
My social worker said exactly that. Teens need someone who can relate to them a bit more. She said a lot of teens get moved around because older foster parents set unnecessary strict rules that teens this days have a hard time following.
Can a foster teen be left home alone? My 13, 15 & 17 stay home alone (or in pairs or as a trio) all the time. Wondering how fostering would affect that...
All depends on the kid and their case, level of maturity and such. For both of our teens, yes.
My dog being dramatic every time I wait a few weeks too long to cut her toe-toes 😂
we did foster care for two teen girls about age 16 (two different occasions) major problems with sexting, how do you prevent this. We no longer will foster girls over the age of 14.
When reunification occurs, do u still continue to be involed with ur fostered kids? Maybe visits/calls/texts? Or is that something u feel best not to do?
As with most things, it is a case by case basis but we would prefer to stay in contact when possible.
@@BeTheVillageCommunity i love how u guys communicate with ur kids (bio or not) u dont seem to let it out of ur monds that they all do have opinions and emotions that deserve to be heard and felt. Keep being amazing! Big hugs and good vibes to u all!
I have a question. So, growing up, my parents emotionally abuse my twin and I and so we just got someone that was able to help us and or even get us into a foster family. But, I'm scared though. I don't know what it's like to have a foster parent. What is there that you both would let me know about foster parents or just foster families in general?
The only advice I can give is talk to a trusted adult ❤️ teacher, neighbor, family member. Talk with someone close to you.
@@BeTheVillageCommunity Thank you for the advice. I'll be sure to talk to someone I trust.
I want to foster now, I'm 22 but in my state I have to be 25🤯. I'm really considering moving cause there's a lot of kids that need help❤
You could also spend the next 2-3 years getting involved in other ways!
@@BeTheVillageCommunity that's so true. Do you have any ideas of what i could do?🤩
I'm in Ireland and we can't decide what age range we want to foster we have to be open to foster all ages
That’s actually great :)
@@BeTheVillageCommunity my mom's friend also fosters and at one stage she had triplets aged 1 and three teenagers
So I plan on being a foster parent when I grow up (I'm 14) but my parents are dead set against it. I know that they can't stop me from becoming a foster parent but I don't want this to ruin my relationship with them. Do you have any tips on how to deal with family members opposed to fostering? Thanks!
We can talk about support from family and friends in an upcoming video :)
@@BeTheVillageCommunity Thank you so much. You guys are inspiring and awesome and so kind!
Why are your parents against it?
@@mason3461 They have predjudice about 'troubled youth' and that all foster kids are 'problem children' or aren't worth the work (all kids are worth the work) :(
I spoke with someone from work, who fostered teens. He said his wife was headbutted by a teen. It scared me but I am starting to think it may have been a rare case and maybe the way his household was set. I have seen some people's rules they have in place and some of them are ridiculous. Just curious, what are the rules you have set?
We actually have our rules posted on Instagram! Go check it out at @BeTheVillage_Insta
I do think it's probably a rare case or one that if someone couldn't handle, they could have screened out with the placement call.
Is your dog in any of your videos? I want to meet him/her!
I think? I’ll try to feature him next time :)
Your new video is set to private?
Yes, had to make a slight edit and will be reposting shortly!
You forgot one point: they can help out with stuff (like if you have younger kids or animals)
True, however we don’t want people to get the idea to foster older kids because they can “work” for you. That sometimes happens in foster homes unfortunately. However, yes! Giving a teen chores and allowance is huge. And like with Miss A, she is not allowed to babysit our kids but if sawyer is fussy and I’m making dinner she’s quick to help out and hold him and comfort him.
In my country, you can not foster a child older than yours.... They don't give you a younger or older child to put your others out.
What country?
@@BeTheVillageCommunity Australia.
I don't know about foster care, but in Spain you can't adopt a child older than your oldest. When my grandma was a kid, people used to adopt older kids (+7) to take care of their youngest. So the system forbids it. They don't want people to "adopt babysitters".
I am in Australia and know of a few foster homes where the foster children are older than the biological children. Maybe it varies by state?
Can't you be single without children and foster...? Most homes I was in we never had other children there and they were single middle aged women. This was Australia btw
www.tutustennisshoes.com/crowncarekit this is a new resource I came across today it was posted in my foster support group. Kanisha Tillman and her company Tutus & Tennis Shoes, specializes in working with transracial adoptive and foster families to provide products, tools and education to families.Thought it was a resource you may enjoy or may be able to give to others who may need it! :)
This is amazing!!