Please tell me she’s happily remarried to someone else. She was a lovely level headed human being and she was wasting her life with that bottom feeder. What an absolute nightmare he was.
The wife is smiling while hubby laughs at her suffering, lies (repeatedly) to her, ignores her needs, steals from her and their child, minimizes his actions, denies accountability, AND doubles down on his Bull$%^# when called out. If that’s LOVE, you can keep that! 🤬 That man-child/king baby has ZERO reason to change. HE is getting all his needs met.
This man is a liar, an addict, abusive, and so self-absorbed he'd walk over his wife's body to spend more money he doesn't have. He considers being a parent a chore and an interruption to his social life. She needed a lawyer and a divorce. And I doubt this man would willingly pay child support either. It would have to come out of his paycheck as a garnish to make sure the child was taken care of. Frankly, he's disgusting.
She picked him. I think he's been bullied and immaculate into self-medicating behavior. And I believe she gave that $1000 check for the baby, knowing the temptation will be insurmountable. Why doesn't he want to be around her in the evening? This is why young men are turning their backs on marriage.
Separate accounts, stack money, close any cards in your name as you pay them off so he can’t use them… and leave him! and use clips from this episode as evidence in court to get full custody.
I would like this message twice if I could. If he can’t manage his finances when he’s 30 it isn’t going to change when he’s older. Dudes a PE teacher living like a crypto bro. Bouncing him would be the greatest financial decision she ever made.
@@ladylibertywdc8324Women need to be smarter & stop thinking they can change them when married. They dont change they get worse. Am I happy single? You bet I am.
I think this is just proof that these shows aren’t truly or mostly real. I believe SOME of it is, but they exaggerate stuff for the money and help but probably mostly, to be on TV. I mean between the producers wanting to get and grow an audience, and most people who would do whatever to be on TV, it’s almost IMPOSSIBLE that any of these are mostly a true reflection of their lives. But then again, I have known people EXACTLY if not worse, than them. Hmmm….it’s a quandary. Why would she stay?
1:53 He gambles! Girl pack up it. Pack up your checks, wallet, purse, cards of all types and lock them up in a safe. And pack your bags just in case. Addiction is not something you wanna mess up. Especially, if it's someone as close to you as your husband.
Tashiba Lampkin I agree with you that Julia needs to divorce Guy, because Guy isn't a loving, considerate husband and father, what Guy is is a man-child who'll never grow up.
@@joshuasummers7440 It's sad that he thinks only of HIS needs and not thinking of the family and what is needed for them. So this is also shows how selfish he is too.
I’ll never forget a sub plot in the Sopranos which revolved around gambling. This family guy had a big time problem and almost bankrupted his family. His wife did everything she could to mitigate the damage, she put the house and the business in her name etc. the guy goes to play poker and loses big to the mobsters. They know they can’t take the house or the physical business but the company (sporting goods) had built up excellent credit under the wife, so they got in and ordered tens of thousands and then hundred of thousands of dollars of stock from different manufactures. As it all came in, they just loaded it up on trailers and took it away for reselling. After a few months when the invoices came in, she discovered her business owed hundreds of thousands of dollars to creditors. The business went under, her house was taken, she’d lost everything in middle age and she had a couple of kids. She thought she’d done everything to protect herself and her family from her husbands sickness but no…….. just a tv show, but based in reality of gambling addiction.
Wow, the very last line sums up the entire episode. After all the wife has put up with, she STILL chooses to be with him. And he spits in her face. Speechless.
I feel in a way they are similar and that is why they are together. He gets told an inconvenient truth and he denies it. She gets told a different inconvenient truth and she has the same attitude. I sort of lost all sympathy for her when she said that last bit.
Assume guy was raised in a household where his father greatly disrespected his mother. His attitude towards Gail, his wife and their daughter was truly appalling.
I love the role reversal task. He’s clearly an absolute narcissist that thinks his wife and child deserve nothing though despite the fact she works and saves clearly a lot harder than he does! I wonder what her friends make of him
@Black republican guy His wife should give him an allowance. If she is even still around, she needs to run the finances. Just about everything on the extras list, he thought was essential. He saw a credit card as extra money. This guy will put them in the poor house.
They should separate their accounts if they want to stay married. She can save her own money and he can spend his. I understand she is still responsible for his debt but a judge will hold him responsible for his debt during divorce proceedings if the accounts are separate.
12:22 - Look how red his face gets when Gail is telling Julia that she needs a protective shield against his superfluous spending... He wants Julia to be his cushion for all his irresponsible decisions
This guy thinks he's funny and charming and smart when really he's being deceitful and selfish and purposely ignorant. I know this program is from years ago but I really hope his wife was able to take care of herself and their daughter, even if it meant dumping him. Once you become a mother to your husband, it will never end.
Agreed. His snarky little remarks that he thinks are funny and charming are really just annoying. I’m sitting here talking to the screen, telling him he’s an a**hole.
He's lucky this episode didn't first air during the social media age. He would have gotten an earful from everyone!! (Although, judging from his attitude, he'd still think he was right and everyone else was wrong.)
The wife is just as detached from the reality of her relationship with her narcissistic husband as the husband is detached from the reality of their disastrous financial situation. It should've been: Challenge #1-send the wife to a divorce lawyer to figure out what it will cost and how to prepare financially for it. Challenge #2-send the wife to a licensed psychiatrist for counseling and treatment figuring out why she has consistently ignored the reality of her husband's narcissism demonstrated by his consistently bad behavior toward her and their child. Challenge #3-talk to a realtor about preparing the house to go on the market for the divorce.
Oh my, so many red flags here. Run, Julia, RUN! This guy isn't just a narcissist. He is a full blown psychopath. No remorse, not even a trace of empathy. The only time he shows a genuine emotion apart from jovial mockery is at 9:25 and it's anger. How dare these silly women impose on his world of unfettered entitlement!!? You don't walk away from men like that, you run!
I think you’re right because I knew a man exactly like him years ago. He has the same demeanor and attitude. The body language is so similar that it’s astounding.
I had a neighbour once who dropped $400.00 a week on fuel on his huge 4WD. I suggested he switch to a 4cyl car to save $250-$300 a week in fuel costs alone & he suggested I "get real" as he "deserved something nice to drive". They eventually divorced & he lost his fancy car in the divorce. Some people think of themselves first & only :( You get married ---------------- you are now TWO not just ONE in the relationship. Add some kids & you have a family :(
when you are spending a ridiculous amount of money on wants, you probably are using this crutch to justify why you would work at a job that doesn't inspire you to look forward to the future. sure it can be income vs reality, but if you told him that and he responded this way, he was full of misery as it is. at least you tried, most people think it and spare the breath
@@qwertykaitlyn Anyone with a hole in their trousers is going to be more appreciative of a needle & thread than someone with a wardrobe full of clothes. He had the nerve to remind me I once had a similar vehicle until I told him I earned triple his salary but used this to fight the highest tax bracket as it was a company car. After this contract I paid for my own fuel & hence the need to downsize on engine sizes.
I was married to a man like that, Two kids, I left with the two kids, supported myself and them and never was on welfare. It's now 40 yearss later. The guy's fifth wife just divorced him. He has three grandchildren and three kids he has nothing to do with. How damn sad is that?
@@suetipping4841 Well Sue you saved yourself alot of trouble. These people are delusional & whilst we have always overspent a bit a few times in our lives - these fools will never change. I was caught out once with a business with late payers or not paying at all. I lived frugally for 2 years & worked at nights to save the business I worked in during the day. It's like a drug or alcohol or gambling addiction. A former boss had not paid creditors but dropped $2,000+ on new tyres for his BMW. I reminded him that tyres don't pay the creditors for whom we owe thousands in fuel invoices.
This episode shows what financial harassment is. Her husband is nuts and freeloader. Hope this opens her eyes and decide what is best for her and her child.
19:51 You know it's bad when Gail said to their face that the marriage won't last. And I agree. Guy knows, for time being, Juila is gonna deal with his lies, excuses, gambling, and just bad behavior, so he's not going to change. While Guy acts like jerk, resentment will grow and Juila may file for divorce. However, on the other hand? I dont think Juila gonna do that. She doesn't want to leave to Guy, which is her choice and I respect that. But I hope she realizes that Guy will not improve. He has no reason. Guy has lied, deceived, fallen into addiction and Juila has said, "Imma stick beside him." Why would he change when he could stay the same?
I was married to someone like Guy. He didn’t gamble but he had no problem racking up credit card debt. His attitude was you only go around once so forget saving and buy it now. Like Gail, I was placed in the mother/shrew role, trying to explain that all we were doing was paying the interest, because we could only afford to make minimum monthly payments. The marriage ended in divorce (the ultimate separation of spousal finances), and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I am now retired with a good pension…and no credit card debt. Having said this, watching these episodes is instructional and makes me realize I can be more disciplined with my own finances.
Good for you for having the good sense (and the strength) to leave him. With his terrible spending habits, you might have ended-up needing to work well into your senior years!!
Yes such a good idea, either money for the child's education or an account at a divorce lawyer. He is a gambler, narcissist and a liar. What a horrendous episode. He will leave her bankrupt and broken hearted, not to mention, he will simply leave her for the next money ticket he finds.
Why? He makes her happy or is she kidnapped or held against her will? Get it¿ what makes you happy isn't the same for others. Learn that and you'll be better handling situations you don't understand:)
He contradicted himself in the same sentence....he snarkly said he shouldn't pay off the debt so he could quit his second job, and spend more time with his child...then immediately said his child was more important than anything
"We don't need a huge chunk in a savings account, just sitting there" yeah, he's a complete idiot. Those men force you to be their mommy and then chastise you for it. I hope she made it out.
Yeah, having that unnecessarily large chunk of money will just be really stupid when all the credit cards are maxed out and your furnace blows up in the middle of January in CANADA!
Absolutely shocking man, and he is a teacher? What values does he demonstrate to his students? Deception? Selfishness? Lying and cheating? He is an abuser, financially and otherwise. “Hope your daughter doesn’t forget who you are”?
He is a gym teacher - what values are in sports? Nothing - the sports players are abusive, into drugs, cheat, rape and get away with all of it. They learn that behavior is good from somewhere and we were looking at one of their role models. Never marry someone into sports. Have the fun with them and make sure you don't get pregnant and walk away. They are not the ones you marry.
This is about where me and my husband are at minus the gambling. 2 yo daughter, we own a home, and I’m the mother figure and finance manager. When she said it’s hard to be intimate when you fight all the time about money, I FELT THAT OMG. I literally cannot have any amount of desire for intimacy. It’s awful.
So sorry. Have you tried the jar method or cash envelope system with him? That should help with variable spending, just make the budget realistic/not too tight. 🙏🏽
Councelling is always a good option. It will pay itself back eventually by basically forcing you to move forward towards some kind of solution. When you are stuck in a situation it's so hard to make changes on your own, I find it so much easier when there is a third party present and we all agree to do specific changes.
My big question.. why did they get married with having such different view point about money management? Didn't she know this before they tied the knot?
@@michelecleansup i think you may be right. At the end she chose to stay with him knowing hes not going to change. I was feeling for her, but she is choosing to stay and mother the situation.
Oh, he wasn't smirking the entire time. He got visibly pissed off when Gail told Julia about creating a firewall between their finances to protect herself and he got upset when Gail straight-up said their marriage wouldn't last. Probably because he doesn't want his credit card cash cow to disappear out of his life.
I'm so glad Juila was able to have a girls night out and just enjoy herself Guy, the jerk, doesn't understand the danger he's putting his family through with his unhealthy spending habits.
Why? He makes her happy or is she kidnapped or held against her will? Get it¿ what makes you happy isn't the same for others. Learn that and you'll be better handling situations you don't understand:)
He looked dead behind his eyes. His poor wife. I hope she realises she deserves so much better. There cannot be another woman alive who would put up with his crap. He is 100 percent selfish and even steal from his daughters entertainment pot so he can gamble with the boys.
Wow. I truly feel for the wife and their daughter. If anything, this is confirmation that marrying the wrong person is FAR worse than being single, happy, and responsible.
This is the first time that I've hoped for the show to end with an actual official divorce. No sign online of an update.... I want the comfort of knowing she turfed him out and sent him packing with his sports kit; sofa surfing on his besties couches. I know that we are years on from when this was filmed but I still found myself wanting to throw something through the screen to knock some sense into his head!
He is not good-looking enough to be such a jerk. I’m really trying to see what she sees in him. I hope she got out and found a man who deserves a good woman like her.
I'm the kind of person that holds out hope for change. It's even harder when I love someone. For this reason, I understand where she is at. Because I'm on the outside looking in, I say run for the hills as fast as you can. I can see that he is the kind of person that is very unlikely to ever change. He is the kind that I don't give multiple chances to. I really hope that she eventually came to terms with the fact that he won't change and it's not her job to change him. I hope she left him.
When Gail mentioned at 5:09 "if the interest rate goes up 2% then you loose your home." Here in the US post Covid, the Fed, for the last few months, has hiked the IR and I'm sure a lot of people have or are in the process of loosing their homes. Thank God our family has a fixed rate mortgage.
Just rewatched the last 2 minutes. He had a month to get his crap together with $5,000 on the line and he couldn't do it. I have a feeling option number three didn't happen if it couldn't when it really mattered. Perhaps neither one of them was ready to break their patterns of behavior, be it spending money or being the victim.
Gosh, Gail just gives it to them straight. I would have pulled the woman aside and told her her options. But i guess this way, there is no room for a misunderstanding. This episode was like watching an accident about to happen. I couldn’t look away….
I feel pity for her, she does not love herself or her child. Gail told her it was not going to work, she was probably also told by her friends and family that he was a loser and a relationship with him was not going to work. HE even told her in words and actions it was not going to work. This is a classic case of delusion: “i can change him”, “he will change for me”.
They are 100% still together. Just checked their FB’s and they have photos together as recently as Jan 2024, and they had two more daughters. I assume he probably did eventually get his act together, but man, how long did it take? And did he only change (if at all) because she was going to leave him? I don’t understand staying with man babies like this.
Gail said it all at the end. He is an irresponsible man child. I am afraid his wife loves being his mommy. I don't need an update on this story. Bankruptcy for the both of them, unless she wakes up. I feel sorry for their child.
2:24 How about your wife, your child, your family? Your family is suffering because your actions. Change and progress is hard, but you have remember who you're doing it for.
Gambling is a very dangerous addiction. I know because I was addicted to slots in my late teens into my early 20s. I stole things from my parents, pawned their belongings to support my addiction. I maxed out on my credit cards and did whatever I could to gamble. I haven't gambled for 15+ years now. Gambling destroy people and everyone around them.
Spending a little money here and there? Sixty thousand dollars later... he's taking money out of his child's funds. With him, you will never have anything. He lives for today.
1:23 Y'all ever see that Dr.Phil gif where he shakes in utter disbelief and confusion about what someone said. That was my reaction to what this guy is saying. Most of the time "not spending" is a good spending habit.
My heart breaks for her, I wish her nothing but the best in her future. When he is divorced and paying child support...maybe then he'll realize how lucky he was..
I just feel so bad for the baby girl growing up with someone who doesn’t consider her someone who has no intentions of putting her first, someone who doesn’t have the emotional capacity to connect with her. I hope her mama finds the courage to stand on her own two feet and protect that baby girl from the damage her father will inflict on her.
Oh my word! RUN girl RUN! He will NEVER change. Been there done that, gambling, booze, and he used MY hard earned money as well. I left with one child and no money, I started again and after lots of hard work and saving I’m financially secure, I own my home and have NO DEBT! 40 years down the track now and loving my life.
Please tell me she’s happily remarried to someone else. She was a lovely level headed human being and she was wasting her life with that bottom feeder. What an absolute nightmare he was.
Ugh I hope someone can find an update somewhere
@@christinazito7438 Hey!! This guy was my gym teacher and they’re still married
The wife is smiling while hubby laughs at her suffering, lies (repeatedly) to her, ignores her needs, steals from her and their child, minimizes his actions, denies accountability, AND doubles down on his Bull$%^# when called out.
If that’s LOVE, you can keep that! 🤬
That man-child/king baby has ZERO reason to change. HE is getting all his needs met.
@@JdotJ that’s unfortunate
I would have dumped him long ago ....
“I think she has bad spending habits because she doesn’t spend..”
This guy is an absolute drip.
He’s gaslighting her… he’s saying she is just as bad with money as he is so they are both to blame…
He’s abusive
That's like my ex!!!!!!!! Run girl.
This man is a liar, an addict, abusive, and so self-absorbed he'd walk over his wife's body to spend more money he doesn't have. He considers being a parent a chore and an interruption to his social life. She needed a lawyer and a divorce. And I doubt this man would willingly pay child support either. It would have to come out of his paycheck as a garnish to make sure the child was taken care of. Frankly, he's disgusting.
So be it!
Agree…..well said
She picked him. I think he's been bullied and immaculate into self-medicating behavior. And I believe she gave that $1000 check for the baby, knowing the temptation will be insurmountable. Why doesn't he want to be around her in the evening? This is why young men are turning their backs on marriage.
And, he’s not even cute!
Well, being a parent is a chore, not sure why you’d think different
Separate accounts, stack money, close any cards in your name as you pay them off so he can’t use them… and leave him! and use clips from this episode as evidence in court to get full custody.
I absolutely love this message. I wish more people would listen.
I would like this message twice if I could. If he can’t manage his finances when he’s 30 it isn’t going to change when he’s older. Dudes a PE teacher living like a crypto bro.
Bouncing him would be the greatest financial decision she ever made.
I think if she showed this episode in court she’d get full custody
Sounds like a plan! Sadly for women & our culture in general, he is not "unique".
More like him.😢
@@ladylibertywdc8324Women need to be smarter & stop thinking they can change them when married. They dont change they get worse. Am I happy single? You bet I am.
She deserves so much better.
This is the worst husband I've seen on the show so far.
There's one that's worse. Sam and Stephanie.
@@jenem9618Sam was abusive. Vile.
Sam was the worst but this guy is not far behind
I know sam is awful and this guy is also awful in a slightly different way
You should watch the episode with that creep Sam who is an abusive narcissist!
She should’ve married a math teacher not the PE teacher.
Spot on in so many ways.
😆😆😆😆 no kidding right!?! Well said
Lol
Preach
Best Comment!
This was painful. That guy is the biggest ick. The comment about the absentee mother when she does what he does.
If there was ever an episode that needs an update, it for sure would be this one!!!
They ALL do. It would be nice to see how things turned out several years later, in all of these families/episodes.
I think this is just proof that these shows aren’t truly or mostly real. I believe SOME of it is, but they exaggerate stuff for the money and help but probably mostly, to be on TV. I mean between the producers wanting to get and grow an audience, and most people who would do whatever to be on TV, it’s almost IMPOSSIBLE that any of these are mostly a true reflection of their lives. But then again, I have known people EXACTLY if not worse, than them. Hmmm….it’s a quandary. Why would she stay?
@@tatianagranger2427 why can't this be real... good people stay with loosers all the time. Sad but true
@@om-nj2hw
I’m a good person, and I divorced my first husband who was a lot like this guy !
Not really an update; more of a six month follow up.
When a lady tells a lady to separate her money from her husband's, what she means is "Girl, run!"
Yep, especially being that adamant about it
When he says, as 12:26, "we don't need it," that's when you know he's evil.
Absolutely
1:53 He gambles! Girl pack up it. Pack up your checks, wallet, purse, cards of all types and lock them up in a safe. And pack your bags just in case. Addiction is not something you wanna mess up. Especially, if it's someone as close to you as your husband.
Tashiba Lampkin I agree with you that Julia needs to divorce Guy, because Guy isn't a loving, considerate husband and father, what Guy is is a man-child who'll never grow up.
@@joshuasummers7440 It's sad that he thinks only of HIS needs and not thinking of the family and what is needed for them. So this is also shows how selfish he is too.
@@bobjames6622 and it is one of those hidden addictions......sadly
I’ll never forget a sub plot in the Sopranos which revolved around gambling. This family guy had a big time problem and almost bankrupted his family. His wife did everything she could to mitigate the damage, she put the house and the business in her name etc. the guy goes to play poker and loses big to the mobsters. They know they can’t take the house or the physical business but the company (sporting goods) had built up excellent credit under the wife, so they got in and ordered tens of thousands and then hundred of thousands of dollars of stock from different manufactures. As it all came in, they just loaded it up on trailers and took it away for reselling. After a few months when the invoices came in, she discovered her business owed hundreds of thousands of dollars to creditors. The business went under, her house was taken, she’d lost everything in middle age and she had a couple of kids. She thought she’d done everything to protect herself and her family from her husbands sickness but no…….. just a tv show, but based in reality of gambling addiction.
He'd probably gamble the baby away if he could.
This was such a sad episode. I hope Julia is in a better situation now.
Ugh I know I wish there was an update
She was very patient with him. She must really love him and not want a broken home. Divorce is expensive.
That last comment made me tear up.
@@juditharsenault2131 looks like their current situation is more expensive.
@@CristinaDavalos1127 its costing her happiness and sanity. This guy is such a tool. A huuuuge glaring red flag.
Wow, the very last line sums up the entire episode. After all the wife has put up with, she STILL chooses to be with him. And he spits in her face. Speechless.
I feel in a way they are similar and that is why they are together. He gets told an inconvenient truth and he denies it. She gets told a different inconvenient truth and she has the same attitude. I sort of lost all sympathy for her when she said that last bit.
Assume guy was raised in a household where his father greatly disrespected his mother. His attitude towards Gail, his wife and their daughter was truly appalling.
Right?!?
Concur
This kind of behaviour is financial abuse, a form of domestic violence.
I agree!!
My money is on him not having a father
Gail is not afraid to say it like it is on her way out. I love that!
She was so unbelievably direct, incredible bravado
I don't know what is sadder: His apathy or her belief that he is actually going to change.
She deserves him.
He will.
second!
The sect. She shouldn't have gotten a baby from him...
I love the role reversal task. He’s clearly an absolute narcissist that thinks his wife and child deserve nothing though despite the fact she works and saves clearly a lot harder than he does! I wonder what her friends make of him
His wife should contribute since she makes more
@Black republican guy His wife should give him an allowance. If she is even still around, she needs to run the finances. Just about everything on the extras list, he thought was essential. He saw a credit card as extra money. This guy will put them in the poor house.
@@Proud5050man contribute to what? His gambling debt?
He's dragging her down.
He may not allow her to have friends.
They should separate their accounts if they want to stay married. She can save her own money and he can spend his. I understand she is still responsible for his debt but a judge will hold him responsible for his debt during divorce proceedings if the accounts are separate.
12:22 - Look how red his face gets when Gail is telling Julia that she needs a protective shield against his superfluous spending... He wants Julia to be his cushion for all his irresponsible decisions
I noticed that as well...
Exactly. He's acting like a child, so you have to treat him like a child.
This guy thinks he's funny and charming and smart when really he's being deceitful and selfish and purposely ignorant. I know this program is from years ago but I really hope his wife was able to take care of herself and their daughter, even if it meant dumping him. Once you become a mother to your husband, it will never end.
Agreed. His snarky little remarks that he thinks are funny and charming are really just annoying. I’m sitting here talking to the screen, telling him he’s an a**hole.
He's lucky this episode didn't first air during the social media age. He would have gotten an earful from everyone!! (Although, judging from his attitude, he'd still think he was right and everyone else was wrong.)
I would divorce him
wonder what his buddy's think about him - he's sucks at poker so they probably love him coming to the table with his wifes money
This show NEEDS a "where are they now" serie!!!
Right?
For sure!!
there is one for some of the couples.
@@kamk.1704 Where!!??
Hard to do without Gail don't ya think????? It quit bcuz she walked away
The wife is just as detached from the reality of her relationship with her narcissistic husband as the husband is detached from the reality of their disastrous financial situation.
It should've been:
Challenge #1-send the wife to a divorce lawyer to figure out what it will cost and how to prepare financially for it.
Challenge #2-send the wife to a licensed psychiatrist for counseling and treatment figuring out why she has consistently ignored the reality of her husband's narcissism demonstrated by his consistently bad behavior toward her and their child.
Challenge #3-talk to a realtor about preparing the house to go on the market for the divorce.
Yours is the best answer in the comment thread, in my view.
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Agreed!
Well said, Lisa. I agree completely!
Bravo!
Run girl, RUN. He's an addict and a narcissist, just to name a few buzz words. "Hope you don't forget Mommy" LIKE SERIOUSLY?????
Oh my, so many red flags here. Run, Julia, RUN! This guy isn't just a narcissist. He is a full blown psychopath. No remorse, not even a trace of empathy. The only time he shows a genuine emotion apart from jovial mockery is at 9:25 and it's anger. How dare these silly women impose on his world of unfettered entitlement!!? You don't walk away from men like that, you run!
Run, Julia, Run!
She’s clearly a masochist cause they’re still married
He's got that adorable baby, and he doesn't give a damn for her future or even the security of the roof over her head.
Adorable baby face?? Ehhh gross ok. Idk where to even start with that . Maybe barf?
Christina said adorable baby, not adorable baby face.
@@sneakerfreak2002 can you read? What do you have against babies??
He said he would rather be out having beer and wings every night
Oh girl. Run. Gail is telling the truth.
He is a narcissist… His happiness is the only thing that matters!
You can tell in the eyes. The vague squinty eyes. Every narc I’ve tangled with had the same demeanour. Lessons learned
Facts. He is a classic narcissistic
@@AFBudgets yup. So much education on yt now to learn about exposing these miserable d bags
@@sneakerfreak2002yep. But not back then. The show is 15 years old
I think you’re right because I knew a man exactly like him years ago. He has the same demeanor and attitude. The body language is so similar that it’s astounding.
I had a neighbour once who dropped $400.00 a week on fuel on his huge 4WD. I suggested he switch to a 4cyl car to save $250-$300 a week in fuel costs alone & he suggested I "get real" as he "deserved something nice to drive". They eventually divorced & he lost his fancy car in the divorce. Some people think of themselves first & only :( You get married ---------------- you are now TWO not just ONE in the relationship. Add some kids & you have a family :(
when you are spending a ridiculous amount of money on wants, you probably are using this crutch to justify why you would work at a job that doesn't inspire you to look forward to the future. sure it can be income vs reality, but if you told him that and he responded this way, he was full of misery as it is. at least you tried, most people think it and spare the breath
@@qwertykaitlyn Anyone with a hole in their trousers is going to be more appreciative of a needle & thread than someone with a wardrobe full of clothes. He had the nerve to remind me I once had a similar vehicle until I told him I earned triple his salary but used this to fight the highest tax bracket as it was a company car. After this contract I paid for my own fuel & hence the need to downsize on engine sizes.
I was married to a man like that, Two kids, I left with the two kids, supported myself and them and never was on welfare. It's now 40 yearss later. The guy's fifth wife just divorced him. He has three grandchildren and three kids he has nothing to do with. How damn sad is that?
What made you think he wanted your advice? Did he ask? Or are you just a nosy obtrusive neighbor?
@@suetipping4841 Well Sue you saved yourself alot of trouble. These people are delusional & whilst we have always overspent a bit a few times in our lives - these fools will never change. I was caught out once with a business with late payers or not paying at all. I lived frugally for 2 years & worked at nights to save the business I worked in during the day.
It's like a drug or alcohol or gambling addiction. A former boss had not paid creditors but dropped $2,000+ on new tyres for his BMW. I reminded him that tyres don't pay the creditors for whom we owe thousands in fuel invoices.
OMG! This episode had me so enraged... this man.... It made me so angry of her. It is unbelievable how he downplays and ignores their debt!!!
I’m sick to stomach with this episode. He is not father or partner, he is a parasite. For sake of your daughter leave him, woman!
This episode shows what financial harassment is. Her husband is nuts and freeloader. Hope this opens her eyes and decide what is best for her and her child.
19:51 You know it's bad when Gail said to their face that the marriage won't last. And I agree. Guy knows, for time being, Juila is gonna deal with his lies, excuses, gambling, and just bad behavior, so he's not going to change. While Guy acts like jerk, resentment will grow and Juila may file for divorce. However, on the other hand? I dont think Juila gonna do that. She doesn't want to leave to Guy, which is her choice and I respect that. But I hope she realizes that Guy will not improve. He has no reason. Guy has lied, deceived, fallen into addiction and Juila has said, "Imma stick beside him." Why would he change when he could stay the same?
She’s a plain Jane; she probably thinks she can’t get anyone else!
@@cherylT321she’s actually quite pretty
This dude does not respect his wife at all, I am shocked she has not left yet after finding out about his gambling...
I was married to someone like Guy. He didn’t gamble but he had no problem racking up credit card debt. His attitude was you only go around once so forget saving and buy it now. Like Gail, I was placed in the mother/shrew role, trying to explain that all we were doing was paying the interest, because we could only afford to make minimum monthly payments. The marriage ended in divorce (the ultimate separation of spousal finances), and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I am now retired with a good pension…and no credit card debt. Having said this, watching these episodes is instructional and makes me realize I can be more disciplined with my own finances.
Good for you for having the good sense (and the strength) to leave him. With his terrible spending habits, you might have ended-up needing to work well into your senior years!!
Guy is a red flag as much as his face is....damn I hope she left him. Hes a hot mess of narcissism and he will never change.
I love Gail. I wish she had given the wife a check to deposit into her personal checking account to cover the divorce. And given Guy nothing.
Gail didnt seem to realize gambling is very serious.
Yes such a good idea, either money for the child's education or an account at a divorce lawyer. He is a gambler, narcissist and a liar. What a horrendous episode. He will leave her bankrupt and broken hearted, not to mention, he will simply leave her for the next money ticket he finds.
Why? He makes her happy or is she kidnapped or held against her will? Get it¿ what makes you happy isn't the same for others. Learn that and you'll be better handling situations you don't understand:)
@@alexxx7066 Guy is that you?
@@aurorabora7901 lmao 🤣
God I hope she left him! My fear is she didn’t.
Yeh that marriage looks like my ex one, but I didn't have a kid with him TG
Hes single...shes married
meh takes 2 to tango unfortunately
This couple didn't deserve any money because of the Man child Guy. But I have only seen Gail not give a check to 1 other couple.
She probably didn't.
That never will happen, person like that, like to save others, the problem is not him is her , for be with him.
He waa turning all red when Gail suggested the wife keeps her finances seperate ... lol
I love how he is lying to her face but he says her not trusting him is a problem. Just leave him and start over girl.
Hes been honest in saying multiple times what he values..he doesnt care about having debt and he likes to verbally throw jabs at his wife constantly!
Truth! Who was it that said, "When someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time."?
@@alittlepieceofearth Maya Angelou
Listen I’m like he said it don’t bother him!! Stop trying to change him lawd
He contradicted himself in the same sentence....he snarkly said he shouldn't pay off the debt so he could quit his second job, and spend more time with his child...then immediately said his child was more important than anything
Wish they did updates it would be interesting to see how long it took before she started being realistic about him
how long it took for her to pack her things and run away
2023 update please! She deserves better ❤
"We don't need a huge chunk in a savings account, just sitting there" yeah, he's a complete idiot.
Those men force you to be their mommy and then chastise you for it. I hope she made it out.
He's got a baby and he thinks there's no need to save?!!!
Yeah, having that unnecessarily large chunk of money will just be really stupid when all the credit cards are maxed out and your furnace blows up in the middle of January in CANADA!
And the episode ends with Guy making a snarky remark about her willingness to work with him.
RUN, JULIA! RUN!!!
He’s basically saying “I’m not going to change, so it’s as Gail said: if you want me, you’re just going to have to take it and stop whining.”
Absolutely shocking man, and he is a teacher? What values does he demonstrate to his students? Deception? Selfishness? Lying and cheating? He is an abuser, financially and otherwise. “Hope your daughter doesn’t forget who you are”?
He is a gym teacher - what values are in sports? Nothing - the sports players are abusive, into drugs, cheat, rape and get away with all of it. They learn that behavior is good from somewhere and we were looking at one of their role models. Never marry someone into sports. Have the fun with them and make sure you don't get pregnant and walk away. They are not the ones you marry.
This man is ill qualified to be around children in any capacity.
This is about where me and my husband are at minus the gambling. 2 yo daughter, we own a home, and I’m the mother figure and finance manager. When she said it’s hard to be intimate when you fight all the time about money, I FELT THAT OMG. I literally cannot have any amount of desire for intimacy. It’s awful.
Perhaps try single and couple counseling.
So sorry. Have you tried the jar method or cash envelope system with him? That should help with variable spending, just make the budget realistic/not too tight. 🙏🏽
Councelling is always a good option. It will pay itself back eventually by basically forcing you to move forward towards some kind of solution. When you are stuck in a situation it's so hard to make changes on your own, I find it so much easier when there is a third party present and we all agree to do specific changes.
I’m sorry, that sounds awful. Nobody deserves that. I hope you can find a solution.
Well you've acknowledged the issue, so if you don't leave you're choosing this.
My big question.. why did they get married with having such different view point about money management? Didn't she know this before they tied the knot?
Probably not. It's hard to ask the tough questions when you have hearts on your eyes.
@@tashibalampkin8555 thats true.. love puts on the rose colored glasses
My thoughts exactly 💯.
My guess is he lied to her. Even if they had the conversation, he's the kind that lies about it. Then she got married and the truth showed up.
@@michelecleansup i think you may be right. At the end she chose to stay with him knowing hes not going to change. I was feeling for her, but she is choosing to stay and mother the situation.
16:52 hopes YOUR daughter don't forget who you are, meanwhile he's always out and disagree that Julia IS the MAIN caregiver🤢🤮🤢
And did you see how quick he was to turn down the notion of separating finances when Gail suggested it?
@@alittlepieceofearth scary. He wants to bring her down if he does. I hope in 2022 no women would tolerate this🤞
Did anyone notice how the Man Child had a snarky grin on his face the whole time? I sure hope she left him right after this show!
Right?! He's like a literal child.
He probably never imagined that he would eventually live on in RUclips Land long after the episode aired on TV. 🤭
Oh, he wasn't smirking the entire time. He got visibly pissed off when Gail told Julia about creating a firewall between their finances to protect herself and he got upset when Gail straight-up said their marriage wouldn't last. Probably because he doesn't want his credit card cash cow to disappear out of his life.
I'm so glad Juila was able to have a girls night out and just enjoy herself
Guy, the jerk, doesn't understand the danger he's putting his family through with his unhealthy spending habits.
He understands; he just doesn’t care.
Why? He makes her happy or is she kidnapped or held against her will? Get it¿ what makes you happy isn't the same for others. Learn that and you'll be better handling situations you don't understand:)
@@alexxx7066 This episode is tragic. That poor wife had to put up with that Man Child. 🫠 He's a loser. 😆
Everything is a joke to him. Including his own wife and child. She doesn't deserve this.
He looked dead behind his eyes. His poor wife. I hope she realises she deserves so much better. There cannot be another woman alive who would put up with his crap. He is 100 percent selfish and even steal from his daughters entertainment pot so he can gamble with the boys.
There's no possible way these two are still together. Money is the #1 cause of marriage problems and divorce and these two are complete opposite.
He's a textbook gaslighter.
Valid point! Delusional as well
Wow. I truly feel for the wife and their daughter. If anything, this is confirmation that marrying the wrong person is FAR worse than being single, happy, and responsible.
“I think she does have bad spending habits because she doesn’t spend.”
Boy, did your momma drop you on your head?!!
He will NEVER change Julia
This is the first time that I've hoped for the show to end with an actual official divorce. No sign online of an update.... I want the comfort of knowing she turfed him out and sent him packing with his sports kit; sofa surfing on his besties couches. I know that we are years on from when this was filmed but I still found myself wanting to throw something through the screen to knock some sense into his head!
They're still together, according to people in the comments who looked them up on Facebook.
Unfortunately some users here found that they stayed together and had more kids.
@@wonipowa7542so sad
He is not good-looking enough to be such a jerk. I’m really trying to see what she sees in him. I hope she got out and found a man who deserves a good woman like her.
And she's pretty, too I really don't understand, like he brings absolutely nothing to the table, she makes more than him too.
I thought the same 😆
He’s so homely and she’s lovely. He brings absolutely nothing to the table.
I'm the kind of person that holds out hope for change. It's even harder when I love someone. For this reason, I understand where she is at. Because I'm on the outside looking in, I say run for the hills as fast as you can. I can see that he is the kind of person that is very unlikely to ever change. He is the kind that I don't give multiple chances to. I really hope that she eventually came to terms with the fact that he won't change and it's not her job to change him. I hope she left him.
Your cute too ;)!).
When Gail mentioned at 5:09 "if the interest rate goes up 2% then you loose your home." Here in the US post Covid, the Fed, for the last few months, has hiked the IR and I'm sure a lot of people have or are in the process of loosing their homes. Thank God our family has a fixed rate mortgage.
Oh my goodness I hope you packed your bags and left Julia so you can give your daughter a better life!
Guy you are unbelievably selfish!
Just rewatched the last 2 minutes. He had a month to get his crap together with $5,000 on the line and he couldn't do it. I have a feeling option number three didn't happen if it couldn't when it really mattered. Perhaps neither one of them was ready to break their patterns of behavior, be it spending money or being the victim.
And he literally said she didn’t have the choice that he stops his crap
Love how Gail told him. She’ll get sick of it eventually. He’s not going to change. His last statement of her third choice tells it all.
Omg I know this is old but I was FUMING 😤. I hope she left him. He has to be the biggest douche I’ve seen on here.
Gosh, Gail just gives it to them straight. I would have pulled the woman aside and told her her options. But i guess this way, there is no room for a misunderstanding. This episode was like watching an accident about to happen. I couldn’t look away….
I hope Gail pulled Julia off screen at the very least to chat about this.
Well Gail does tell her her options at the end and Julia "chooses" a third alternative... she was either trapped or avoiding the truth.
Daylight savings time has me three hours late to this episode. I’m hooked!!!
I feel pity for her, she does not love herself or her child. Gail told her it was not going to work, she was probably also told by her friends and family that he was a loser and a relationship with him was not going to work. HE even told her in words and actions it was not going to work. This is a classic case of delusion: “i can change him”, “he will change for me”.
I’m feel so sad for her. So much sadness in her eyes. And he thinks he’s never done anything wrong in his whole life.
I’m 51 seconds into this video. The dudes name is literally Guy: tells me everything I need to know about this episode.
They are 100% still together. Just checked their FB’s and they have photos together as recently as Jan 2024, and they had two more daughters.
I assume he probably did eventually get his act together, but man, how long did it take? And did he only change (if at all) because she was going to leave him?
I don’t understand staying with man babies like this.
He needs to gamble more.
I can't believe it. Julia must be a masochist. So codependent!
The end comment said it all. I hope she has found the strength to move on for her and her child.
WOW I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS GUY!!!
Gail said it all at the end. He is an irresponsible man child. I am afraid his wife loves being his mommy. I don't need an update on this story. Bankruptcy for the both of them, unless she wakes up. I feel sorry for their child.
Yeah. Maybe she likes being the mummy
That child IS being raised in chaos. It will show up in her therapy sessions when she gets older.
Unfortunately, they had very little to bankrupt. About 12 grand, it looks like. Student loans are not bankruptable and the mortgage is protected.
I read the comment that they are still married. I've watched this episode 2x and each time I'm shaking my head. Like dude do you not hear yourself.
I pray that she gathered her child, her heart, used her brain, and left this narcissistic rectum. He'll leave her broke and broken.
What an immature man! He has no common sense.
❤ the role reversing part where Julia gets to let go of responsability for a week
I was more suprised he was 29 than the debt, dude looks like hes in his 40's
How can he be a phys Ed teacher 😂looks like he’s never hit a gym in his life
@@desdicadoriche's built like the Pillsbury dough boy
@@KennedyIvy😅😅😅😅 this
Lol where does he get this ego?? She’s miles ahead of him in every way hope she left him
I feel so sorry for her. He is a selfish piece of crap. I hope she was smart enough to at least separate her money from his.
This man is clearly in denial about his addiction... it's frightening
Please note. Teachers don't really have the summer off. We are working from home. Planning units for the new year.
This was so painful and sad to watch. He has a lovely family yet he chooses to continue been irresponsible 😢. Sad
Wow.. All I heard was “me, me, me” whenever he opened his mouth. He clearly cannot be trusted and could care less.
I don't know why he's losing his hair, he clearly doesn't have a care in the world!
2:24 How about your wife, your child, your family? Your family is suffering because your actions. Change and progress is hard, but you have remember who you're doing it for.
He is absolutely horrible! What a narcissist. I hope she realized this and left him already.
This Guy would never get a high value woman like this in my country. Julia I hope you value yourself moving forward
What a narcissist! He won't change. Just look at his face when things aren't going his way
He is a compulsive liar... poor woman...
Gambling is a very dangerous addiction. I know because I was addicted to slots in my late teens into my early 20s. I stole things from my parents, pawned their belongings to support my addiction. I maxed out on my credit cards and did whatever I could to gamble. I haven't gambled for 15+ years now. Gambling destroy people and everyone around them.
Spending a little money here and there? Sixty thousand dollars later... he's taking money out of his child's funds. With him, you will never have anything. He lives for today.
1:23 Y'all ever see that Dr.Phil gif where he shakes in utter disbelief and confusion about what someone said. That was my reaction to what this guy is saying. Most of the time "not spending" is a good spending habit.
Wow.... How does she put up with him?!!! Hope she is able to find the financial security she wants with or without him
Wow this guy's wants to have fun and confine her to the house.
My heart breaks for her, I wish her nothing but the best in her future.
When he is divorced and paying child support...maybe then he'll realize how lucky he was..
He got really mad about seperating finances was brought up !
I just feel so bad for the baby girl growing up with someone who doesn’t consider her someone who has no intentions of putting her first, someone who doesn’t have the emotional capacity to connect with her. I hope her mama finds the courage to stand on her own two feet and protect that baby girl from the damage her father will inflict on her.
Here is to hoping she got into debt hiring a divorce lawyer.
Oh my word! RUN girl RUN! He will NEVER change. Been there done that, gambling, booze, and he used MY hard earned money as well. I left with one child and no money, I started again and after lots of hard work and saving I’m financially secure, I own my home and have NO DEBT! 40 years down the track now and loving my life.
Bro married way out of his league and is dead weight 😂😂😂
No way he's a gambler and a hustler she won Biggie.
Makes me sad to see people not believe other people when they tell them the truth.