I could have had her sign a document on my expectations in the beginning. But you how they act like none of that matters like nothing in the world matters but their emotions at that exact time. All this advice is great for us. But, women are not logical or reasonable humans.
Facts. Fiance pulled this shit. Over and over, she was shocked when I called it off after tons of emotional testing abuse. Women will burn down a building to see if it's fireproof.
Same. Mine was dumbfounded when I dumped her and never spoke to her again. She expected me to play this bullshit break up / make up game. I have no tolerance for that shit.
"Women test the strength of a relationship by purposefully destroying or self-sabotaging it. Majority of men fail to maintain attraction, desire, and arousal during this test. Understanding these concepts is crucial for handling the emotional investment in the relationship." I'm seriously considering whether I still want this female drama/shit in my life (after a divorce one year ago)
And then they turn around in movies and social Media, demonIzing men, making it a culture to think that only men could be the abusers, narcissists and players. It shows you that women just scream their pain louder than men and they manage to get the attention for it, but it doesn’t mean that they are better, humans , more romantic, always the victim or completely innocent.
Yeah you don't want that, the best way to get a Woman that you actually want is laid out for you at the end of this Video. Tell your potential Woman how things are going to be and if she plays games and tries to destroy the relationship, say There's the Door or if you are over at her place when she does this, say I am Gone and actually walk out the door and drive away out of her life. I had enough of my Ex Wife's BS and Divorced her and haven't looked back since. I have been focused on my own endeavors for 4 years since mentioned Divorce and if a Woman wants me in her life, she cannot try to destroy what we have if she truly wants me in her life as I will not put up with the BS Test as I call it. I am out of School, sure Life is Lessons learned, but we are not in a forsaken Classroom and I am not a classroom student! You either want me in your life for better or worse or you don't #TheEnd.
@@JonThompson-bt8rw it's true, some women are really narcissistic and cold, it's better to drop them, some of them are the exact opposite. However, they all manipulate and test you.
@@frankslade33 Well they are, and if they are damaged enough they will also drain you and consume your sexual energy. You'll figure this out when once you've been with enough women.
@@frankslade33 Heck, I'm on a roll now. Women want attention, attention is currency in girl world, and when a woman wants your _attention_ she IS draining you of energy.
That sounds like a headache dude. Do you actually know how long it can take for a woman to fully,if ever mature. And remember,women are great pretenders.
I just got out of a 12 year relationship. What Casey is saying is 100% true. I hope whoever is watching this heeds this godlike truth. I'm being sincere here.
So true before I was married my wife pulled this on me and my insecurities started to come out. I tightened up and right when she knew I was starting to date all of a sudden she was ready to come back. We’re married now and I can see her respect for me is much higher now but don’t think the test stop. I just had one the other day and had to reiterate her role in this relationship. Next thing you know she’s moving in to cuddle at night. This is the cycle fellas. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news 🤷🏽♂️
My high school gf wanted to break up. I said cool, then she later said "you were supposed to fight for me!" I was totally over the relationship at that point. Fast forward eight years. I photographed her wedding, and she was still telling people we dated in high school. On her wedding day.
Have a similar situation, met a girl at a party and we did the usual stuff. i wasn't really that interested in her and i later introduced her to a frined of mine. They got married and have 2 children. but she still has a crush on me and likes to talk about me in front of others. Even seeks lone time with me. its super weird, especially because i am a longtime friend to her husband.
@@MrHelix7293lol something similar happened to me to like that and I just stopped talking to my friend for that same reason, they both would make it awkward
Yes they can love as deep as you, and often ways way deeper. But then the wind blows, and she don't love you anymore. The difference is NOT being able to love as much or not, difference is that women's love fluctuate, comes and goes FAST on a whim. This is why societies shaming divorces where CRUTIAL to maintain families in the past, and why families are fucke today. If you count on love to maintain couples, you're fucked. Only service, sacrifice, social shaming/acceptance works.
I think that after having children with the woman and displaying being a good father and protector the woman will love the man. But not until then. So men have to deal with that imbalance. The other issue is that men may get less attracted to the woman at that point. So may show less affection. So the balance shifts the other way. Complicated stuff
As a woman I concur this is spot on! I pulled this BS on my husband (unconsciously) a few times when I realized I was in love with him and he totally knew how to respond. 17 years and two babies later, we're going strong and I haven't done this in a long, long time. We women are pretty nutty.
I don't care how many techniques are out there to pass their ridiculous tests. I refuse to keep playing into their wicked mental games. I've had enough of them through my life. Either she plays honest or I'm out. And that's that
@user-zg9pb8lz2g I ve had 3-6 month dating runs with different women.....they can't hold it together for any longer than that, I'm convinced. When shit gets real, they can't hold it together.......and there's always 10 idiots begging to take them out anyways
Everytime a girlfriend tried to shit test me I dumped her the same day and moved on. I now have four ex girlfriends trying to get me back and the sex is constantly on tap. Never commit to these type of women, just keep them hanging on.
My recent ex did all these things. She has borderline personality disorder. It’s a never ending cycle of accusations , tantrums, breakups and apologies. Last time she tested me I said I was done. I’m so above and beyond those petty games. If that’s the same game mentally “healthy” women play - I’ll happily stay single.
I recently did the same with a girlfriend. And I'm pretty convinced she had BPD, maybe Paranoid Schizophrenia and other mental health issues with it. Not to diagnose her but there was obviously something wrong with the wiring.
I am a 29 year old male. I have diagnosed BPD. It's shit and a lot of drama for sure, as if i am a woman on PMS often and i know i'm hard to handle. I never choose this and i hate myself for being this way but what i can do is try my ass off to not be a hardass and or a douchebag and when i love, i love beyond reason. Which as you can imagine is pain in the ass to say the least. But i think it's beyond BPD because i had a woman i loved more then the world and gave up 80% of my life for her and she still cheated and didn't care. Broke up, forgave and did the whole thing all over again... it's something in female psyche that just can't fully commit and god forbid really love that makes them overevaluate everything including us men and they are often like bees going from flower to flower if it suits them better. They see men as tools, crutch or a badage, sometimes even rebreather or a defibrilator but you have to realise that even doe defib may save your life, you will not use it all the time, hence my analogy... I never even managed to help my mother, whis is left with sister and i after a divorce from a wife & child beater and i stuck with her and tried to help and make her open her eyes and live but she is beyond that, and i knew her all my life. Women are boyond reason
Man… cluster bs are very hard to deal with in a relationship. The best advice I can give anyone dating a borderline is to stand firm and love from a distance. Keep one foot out the door; their fear of abandonment will always keep them in chase rather than the “I love you, don’t leave me” in check
Correction to the video: women do not, and _cannot_ , love men. They can only become attached to a man along one or more of the five connection pathways: physical, spiritual, intellectual, emotional and financial. Men, on the other hand, can and often do love women. So, _there is no such thing_ as a woman "loving" a man or "falling in love" with a man. They can only feel attachment, nothing more. If they feel attached to you, they will stick with you. If they ever don't feel attached to you, they will start monkey branching away. So, love has nothing to do with women because they simply cannot feel it.
Women are almost like kids . Like your kid will say hey daddy i want that toy and will keep obsessing over it even for years and keep crying everyday until he gets it and if you dont give it to him he will think about that toy 24/7 and will find ways on how to get it and also behave as you want. But after you get your kid that toy . On the first day he will seem happy and play with it or even sleep with it but after few days you'll feel he has start ignoring it and after getting bored your kid will wonder whats inside that toy and break it to pieces and now that he knows whats inside it he won't be interested. Like you saw your kid obsessing over a toy for months and requesting you but you saw in a week he had got bored of that toy and prolly dismantle it and throw it to trash. And now he will ask you for some other toy
When a humiliated individual is exalted to a pedestal, you have love. That is what love IS. The exaltation of a humiliated person. Ignoring the humiliation.. not letting it lower their value, but actually increase it.. especially if they humilated themselves out of love FOR you. That is what love is. Gives a little more credence to Jesus supposedly being love itself. Women CAN do this. I've experienced it more than once. Even when I had zero "value" and no ability to give back, whatsoever.
When women have the power all hell breaks loose. Women are emotional beings and unfortunately emotions have absolutely no logical thought. Men think logically women think with emotions. Men need to have frame to control the relationship. It's actually kinda easy...have frame and women will surrender.
Or, sometimes she is just done. So whether it’s a shit test or she is really done, take her for her word and bounce. Wish her the best, tell her you love her, and go ghost. Do not look back. And, when she reaches out, wish her the best again but it’s done. Decisions were made. She needs to live with it as an adult .
Yup so do us as men once we made the decision. Being sure is a masculine trait, don't bounce back n forth. Don't wish her bad, genuinely wish her good and move on.
@@puanani_usa it's fun for y'all but it's hell for us. You cant be in peace with the person you love. Knowing her love towards you is only conditional. Can't let your guards down. Your love towards her she sees it as weakness.
@puanani_usa If, as a woman (or man), you've never loved a man (or woman) unconditionally, you're only pretending to be human - i.e., going through the motions of life with neither wisdom nor understanding.
Facts i think its the dumbest thing they do. My ex did that shit and i fucking thought “why the hell would she almosttt end the relationship bc of a fight or me being difficult, when things could easily be handled between us?” When she first said we need a break (bc i got mad and showed bad behavior as she put it) i guess i was wrong by actually telling her i dont do breaks etc. I said theres no reason to break up & i went against that shit…but i should of just let it go im assuming? Hate that shit
lol! I failed this test. I was in love with a girl who dumped me and started dating an older guy. I gave up on the relationship in a week because the emotional pain was too much for me. I ignored her out of my mind, and then she screamed at me 2 months later out of nowhere. I was so confused at the time... and no, I didn't take her back.
I failed this test with my H.S. gf when she broke up with me after 5 years I pleaded and cried like a pussy for her not to leave me. Poor girl looked so uncomfortable and embarrassed seeing other people watch in the street
I, as in me, myself just recently broke up with my gf of 5 years after she tried sabotaging the relationship. I was not up for anymore of her games and agreed to end the relationship that she suggested we do. She didn't see it coming this way by me and we ended it with a big fight as the grand finale. Haven't spoke to each in two weeks. I hope everyday she never comes crawling back because I have different plans for me
Impossible to maintain masculine energy and not show fear when she is the mother of your kids . Fantastic methods and female psychology for young single lads however far more daunting for married men .
Dude tell her no problem, Im assured you can raise our kids by yourself, I'm gonna find decent girl and start new family with kids..then leave..she will beg you to raise your kids
@@voiceofreason1829that would mean losing his kids, and paying for them at the same time. Most men can’t afford child support fees and start a new family. No man would want to leave his kids anyway…especially if the mother isn’t particularly stable
I just got caught cheating by my partner of 13 years. We have 2 children. She’s a solid 8/10. I said well you know what I’m like when we got together. You can leave if you like. 2 days later we had a fight and she apologised and asked why she wasn’t good enough and what she can do to improve. Stop being a 🐈⬛. Get jacked, flirt with other women etc.
I swear it’s so true. Makes you hate F3mal3 nature. Us men just want to relax, love someone unconditionally, make love occasionally and stay out the way. But it’s like you say, subconsciously they punish the men that they love and one who loves them back. They do it because deep down they feel guilt for emotionally cheating with other men and because they know deep down that they don’t deserve you and the things that you do for them, which makes them feel the need to test you and the relationship. I hate that shyt.
Don't shape yourself into what these worldly women want you to be... Don't do that one... If you just focus, you'll notice a lot of them are spiritually dead. They want you to put her first.. Before God, obviously. They want you to worship the ground they walk on. And, some of them are bold to the point, where they say this with so much conviction, like it's the most natural thing. Well, it isn't. I want you to understand, a lot of women carry demons on them. And I don't mean that in figurative way, I mean that in literal way...they carry bad spirits on them. Spirit of pride is one of them. The leviathan spirit. A lot of women, they can't be told nothing, you know what I mean... It's been normalized that you see a lot of prideful women, or women with an overblown ego. That is an unclean spirit, guys. The holy spirit humbles you. The holy spirit humbles you! You know what I'm talking about, whenever you try to talk to them, it goes in one ear, leaves thru the other, they are twisting your words, skip over facts, deny validity of any input.. That my men is literally a spirit. Don't feed into it, don't interact with it, unless you're a trained professional. You will never make it understand, it'll never be satiated. It's agenda is to confuse and create chaos not to come to understanding and compromise. I have told you, once you see those signs, keep on moving. God bless you all. In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Hard to swallow pill..If you list "she's always right" as one of the "keys" to a happy/functional marriage. Your marriage is dysfunctionial and you're in denial about your level of your happiness.
If I get exclusive with a girl, I will set a boundary with her. I will say to her, if you threaten to end the relationship, or give me a shit test and actually end it with your words or if she says she wants an open relationship, then I will ghost her forever. I don't care about what relationship we had. She ended it with that crap. I don't want to play games.
@@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534 Absolutely. I hope, with all my heart, that you have the most wonderful relationship there is. Your desire is super good.
After watching these videos, I learned one thing. By keeping note of hypergamy, since I'm able to easily pull in women in the 7s, and they usually give me less trouble that means I'm an 8. When I get with women who are 8s and 9s, that's when these problem begin, they try to self sabotage and are constantly looking for weakness, it's like a never ending psychological battle. So, I think I'm gonna settle with a woman in the 7s for peace of mind since I still find them incredibly hot and emotionally stable, and they usually treat me like a king.
@awakenedone7577 rating people, including yourself, and looking at people as numbers on a scale rather than recognizing the fact that human beings are greatly nuanced and it just isn't that simple. What makes someone a 1 or a 10? It's just as bad as black and white thinking. It isn't how we should view each other. We're all individuals, and attraction is also very subjective.
The best technique to use and its free. Women are crazy so you just ignore them!!! Be happy and safe yourself the unnecessary drama or stress!! Thank you!!!
I like seeing your wisdom geared towards long-term relationships. Being married I try to take the things you show and make them work in a married relationship.
I’m going through a very rough time with my wife, she is testing to the extreme. This video is exactly what I need. Even though we have been married for 27 years and provided for her and our kids the whole time (single income family) she’ll throw out how much I’ve hurt her and never loved her. Now I’m the first to admit I’m not perfect and done stupid and sometimes even bad things but it seems to me her reactions go far beyond what “I’ve done to her.” I’m going to rewatch a few times and I know the one deficit I have is a lack of firm identification of my value and who I am.
Bro such facts I literally had to learn this lesson the hard way just recently. I figured at some point they would get it together or they would change for the better but nah. People repeat patterns and they tend to revert back to what they know. Gotta learn this. Gotta learn to walk away and have your dignity cause they will try to take all of it away. Stay strong and stay focused men.
I've been in a relationship since oct. The other day she broke down and said I'm emotionally unavailable and that she's know she's not my ideal girl. She said she can feel lit. My last relationship was horrible, so I can't really get attached to anyone. Breaking up with a girl is nothing to me
Don’t get overwhelmed by this info guys. Basically if you can be the best version of yourself meaning if you are happy with who you are on your own, that is the key and everything will fall into place.
I’m binging your channel over the last couple months, and I got to say this might be your best video. It shows a very deep understanding that you have. Thanks for sharing this, it was very helpful.
*A lot of it comes down to insecurities and not understanding how to communicate or respect each other's needs. Both partners have to be willing to grow and put in the effort to make things work.*
I was married for 25 years, and she left me for the guy with the million-dollar yacht. two years later she wanted to come back. I had made my rules and said no. I am 75 now and still single. You make some good points however it does not always work out. Women are still drawn to wealth not always your masculine strength.
I've been blessed to have two women in my life I truly loved and wanted a future with both ended with me being hurt after I failed them test this is the things that no one tells you about women so thanks for your work bro
I think someone wrote a good thing in the comment section - replace the word woman with the word GIRL. I’m woman, in a relationship with my man which I love and care about so much. From the point we started to officially date which was less than a month after we have met, I never put myself in a position to lose him! Never! If a woman loves you with all heart and soul and she knows he is the right man for her, she will never put herself in a position to lose the man she loves. I’m talking here about mature women not girls. There is no place for immature games, break-ups to check if you care about me or similar things…every action you take as an individual has an impact/consequence on your partner. I’ve been in a situations where I wanted to do or behave in my way but since I knew my boyfriend wouldn’t like that - I stayed away from those things/behavior/relationship dynamic etc. .. btw. I’m 28 but dating nowadays is just sad… I have 2 younger brothers and when I see how they are treated and what they need to go through as guys it’s just sad and it makes me angry why we ended up where we are as a society now :(
What I’m reading is NOT that you, as a woman, are doing the right thing or behaving yourself out of some mature management of yourself and your emotions but that your man is high value and KNOWS how to manage you. That you don’t risk your relationship with this man you… “love”… because you know that you will lose a sound man and all the benefits he brings to your life were you to choose other behaviors in your relationship.
This is spot on for women with attachment issues. But, not all women have attachment issues. Also, many women have strong cluster B traits. But not all. Walk away from women with attachment issues and find someone secure and emotionally intelligent. They do exist.
“Imagine that she only loves you for the image she wants you to portray to her. Wait, did she ever love you for you to ever do all that. Be strong enough to not care if the wrong ones leave. You were ready since the beginning. Heck, I may have stronger feminine energy than to care so much past my heartlessness. The honor and passion to be you past all her bs that doesn’t measure up to your greatness as a person. Oh, I don’t hate in return. I bid her well as a demonstration of my class and character.” 🍷
The contents of this video is so true and now I understand why my woman acts like a b...h most of the time but she won't leave me. Dating nowadays is more complicated than calculus, differentiation or nuclear engineering.
Tate said something similar about how when he's sad you can't tell because he doesn't show those emotions even though he feels them. That's a good skill, being able to feel something and keep it to yourself without expressing it or bringing attention to it. There's no benefit to doing so.
Thanks for a great video. I agreed with most of the points. Just want to point out that it is never a good idea to show possessive and jealous emotions to your lady. Hide it if u need to. Only man lacking confidence needs to control their lady and feels jealous if they talk to other man. They will run away from you real quick. You can thank me later. Another tip i want to share is focus on building your internal confidence and be comfortable with who you are. U will automatically passess these tests without any effort or awareness as your actions and emotions are on autopilot if u r self confident. avoiding woman is not the best solution. They bring more positives than negatives overall into our lives if u r a confident man.
Freaking true...too many simps failed to master this important skill. Also, my way or the highway. In my relationship, she plays by MY rule or get out. I don't have time for games.
I have been married for 15 years and the last few involved incredibly massive external stress, and a long separation made necessary to help a child in a terrible situation. Working back to the relationship we had before all of this is difficult, but your perspective makes it so very much easier to manage all the drama. I'm a Marine Infantryman. I understand strategy and commitment to a goal. Knowing the logic of the strategy makes executing it and accepting the risks so much easier. I have NO doubt whatsoever about being irreplaceable, but she is happier than most to simply be alone. Life is impermanence and it will be what it will be, but at least with this knowledge I can intelligently adapt my strategy to real time challenges.
Videos on this topic piss me off because I TRULY BELIEVED that being nonchalant about the relationship rules and showing her I didn’t care is what would be what would keep her. PLEASE listen to this advice men: be aggressive and territorial with her to show her you care. Be decisive, and once she leaves you or crosses a boundary WALK AWAY
perfectly explained female behavior :) very accurate. the only thing is, if man does not react to "mini breakups" and tests (at the beginning) and letting me go just like that- i admit he is NOT attached to me and i am not that important. so then i do not reach out to him too, i know he'll find another woman, most probably soon. Guys, in this video it is perfectly explained what and why ladies are doing, the tests. But hey, if you want to be with this lady, you reach out to her. You want to show her she is special for you and she can feel safe with you. The only thing you will have to mention then - " if you just leave like this, it makes me feel deeply bad. and i do not want this to happen again. If you will do something like this again, i might not handle and will call it quits". like this you let her know- she is special for you but she won't be able to manipulate you like this in the future, as you literally tell it to her right now. You do both- give her the validation she needs (as you understand she needs the confirmation you're serious about her) but also you're not a fool who can be manipulated and are not scared to call her out on her sh*t. All coaches are telling people to do step away and stay silent. Dating coach for women is the same "stay away and do not reach out". Yes but who will be the one saving relationships then? There will be less couples and people will remain single more and more often. You guys tryna lower the demography or what?:D
From a distance it´s fairly easy to understand women, the problem is that we men obviously have feelings too. Our soft "feminine" sides are not welcome with women, it´s just nature, so best advice is to never let yourself fall fully in love with a women, she doesn´t understand that, she want to feel safe with her dominant man,. When we fail to give her that feeling, out of neediness, she is already looking for an escape. What finally makes a women tie her strings to one man is when she feels safe enough with one man and is tired of being chased. So don´t fall in love, and don´t try to tie her down, the woman will settle when she is ready. I´m 43 years and have plenty of experience with these creatures.
♤ Expect the RESPECT all the time. ♤ Show emotions but not of desperation but of love..the moment you express emotions of neediness, you are fucked. Instead express the emotions of love and affection and yet reamain calm, stoic, independent.
Bro u absolutely nailed it. BTW best comment section ever! It feels so damn good to sense some kind of brotherhood that when it comes to future cat ladies.
Years ago a girlfriend decided to "test me" by sleeping with another guy. After I kicked her to the curb (what else could I do) she kept crying to take her back.
My last girlfriend wanted me to listen to her tell me about guys hitting on her. She said it was part of telling me about her day. I didn’t see how it was helpful. I told her it’s hurtful that she wants me to acknowledge that I understand she has a line of guys waiting behind me and I’m just an option. After she dumped me and hooked up with a mutual friend a few days later, she told me over text message how I compare to him when I didn’t get remotely close to asking for solicited knowledge of how much better my friend is now than I. When she’s in a good mood, she’s really pretty and the sweetest thing. It’s really creepy, looking back on all of it.
This is absolutely insane. I don't mean it is incorrect, I mean that the behavior Casey is describing is completely crazy. And this is why I have nothing to do with women anymore. I study them for the entertainment value and because I can't believe a group of people can be so solipsistic and self-destructive. I am teaching my son never to be like them.
So sad to see how relationships need this type of work. To the men that have been hurt please heal to the women that have been hurt please heal and find peace. Stay single and live life to the fullest but in the end we going to want that life partner.😢
Im in in the similar situation right now. This video came at the right time as it confirms my deepest intentions: hold my ground, solidify myself, and be ready to throw the book at her if she goes (and she is) too far. I have one foot out the door now, this is a live-in situation. So maybe the logistics make departing a little .... tricky. I'm sure Ill figure out a plan.
I’ve been married for two years, and I’m going through one of those times ..7 years right? Staying focused and learning how to make it stop😂, but surely if we go through that we’ll be a stronger couple ❤
When the tests come….. it’s time to leave. I let mine sit with her actions for over 5 years……. I’m now divorcing her. I don’t put up with playing games anymore. At all. Be with me or not. End of story. If they start with the tests, it’s time to leave. They are manipulating you. If you care about something too much it can be used as a weapon against you.
Watching this video and reading the comments makes me feel better about these last 2 weeks I’ve had. Glad to know I’m not alone in how I felt, but that I just have to do the work on myself to get better and stand on business as a man.
As a woman I am going through this with a guy over the past 2 weeks. Not sure why guys won't just reaffirm their interest and connection, but rather cold stone a girl. How exactly is that arousing for a woman, sorry I don't get it. His silence is just killing me. There is a need to test a relationship, I don't want to be with a guy faking it.
@@DavidMRudy-kn8ed The reason? The man behaved like he wanted me to pull out by stonewalling me. If we had a more intimate moment together, then the next day the stonewalling would begin. He was manipulating me to become emotionally dependent. Why would I ever have doubts about a man if he treated me well and communicated with me? I have a life and s*** to do, I did not need someone to come into my life and try to mindf*** me. I did end it for real, but had he wanted to work on things and find compromises, I would have been more than happy to work things out with him. But it was my-way-or-highway type of attitude. Not a recipe for a healthy relationship, if you ask me. But thank you for your response, I appreciate it.
@@MMS-hr1nz "I have a life and s*** to do, I did not need someone to come into my life and try to mindf*** me". Same with every guy as well.Stop with the dumb tests. I'm not going to even try anymore. I'm on the same mindset. If you want it over, fine. I'm going to suffer now, but long term is the best decision, doesn't matter how good the relationship was. I want to be with an adult, not a child playing games. Stop playing games and show the men you love that you love them. Now, I speak in general. I don't know in your case. But comunication is key. But be aware that if something happens with another man, it's over.
I must be showing these "strong characteristics" cause my narcissist is always hitting me with tests and exams and all sorts of stupid bullshit, and has gone through the act of wanting to breakup, and yet when i say that perhaps I should disappear since I am the problem, it twists and morphs into me "running away from my problems" when i wish to exit. She obviously cannot leave with her attachment to me, so it would have to be me to do it, but me doing it would be "running from my problems" in her eyes. For mw it is moving away from toxicity, but they usually do not see their toxicitiy becauae of their self-important natures. To them, they are pristine and do nothing wrong, which assumes they are always right, which is the basis for their self-important natures. I'm physically, mentally, emotionally, and even to the point of spiritually and royally done and tired with women and their bullshit tests. Believe me amd trust me or gtfo. I'm gdtting too old to be playing these games.
Not everything in here is typical. My Mother did these things with my Father and she truly loved him. My Brother’s ex did these things with him and she turned out to be a narcissist. She initiated the break up while my Brother embraced the break up and happily made it permanent. She did all the begging to reunite as shown in this video but my Brother was way too disgusted as was I when he showed the letters to me.
Agreed. What Casey is describing are girls with narcissism, self-esteem and attachment issues. The reality is, she got bored, lined up your replacement and caused drama as an excuse to relieve her guilt for ending it and blaming you for it.
I like that Casey showed the best way to deal with this is to nip it in the bud. When you decide to be in a relationship, state your boundaries and rules, then call her out if she violates them. I like the idea of being a one-strike kind of guy. The first time she shit-tests you, it's over. The greatest asset we have is that we can choose a life of peace and freedom from drama or we can have a beautiful, mutually benefitting, loving relationship. There is no third option. Women often think that without them, you're just going to get with another woman. They can't stand the thought that you'll be just fine on your own. They can't compete with that.
I am a very decisive man, when it comes to women I don’t waste my time where there is no reciprocation, I don’t stand where I have to be walked over, disrespected, gaslighted, spited, nagged, emotionally abused and manipulated. Often times I try to call the woman to order, in a civil and amicable manner, failure of which I leave the relationship, simple as that, BECAUSE most of the women in these ages don’t want to LISTEN, they're stubborn, prideful and arrogant. Sure signs of masculinity are strength, courage, independence, leadership, and assertiveness, so don’t allow any woman to make you be the opposite gentlemen, WALK OUT if you’re emasculated. Myself I don’t submit to any woman, I will rather be single and work on self-improvement/development. Same as when I pursue a woman; the moment I see that its taking unnecessary time, not showing or saying where she stands and feeds her ego with my attention-then I just stop communicating and delete her number. Gentlemen, you must love yourselves, value yourselves, stand by your values and principles, if you haven’t found the woman to fit in your world then move on ,one day you will find the Queen.
This happened to me about 1 year ago. Unfortunately, it coincided with my father passing away, so I probably showed a bit of vulnerability, to the point that I said to her that I lost my trust in her and started seeing another woman. Needless to say that she felt cheated and betrayed, event hough she was the one that left. This left both of us with a deep sense of unfinished business and longing. I feel like we still have a very deep connection and love for each other, even though we are in no contact for more than 3 months now. With all the stuff happening in my life at that time, I was just fed up with her drama and decided to not tolerate it anymore. I didn`t think for one moment that she was testing the strenght of our relationship, but I remember calling her out on her bluff. Some of our common friends tell me that she looks very sad and lost and I can`t help but feel responsible for that. But still, I expected her to lower her pride and be honest with me.
Tried and tested. When my ex told me we needed a break, my initial reaction was sadness and fear of losing her. I even begged her to stays. Big mistake because that only pushed her away. But the next day I was pissed off and frustrated because I couldn't understand why she was destroying something good. When she contacted me she was actually surprised that I was angry with her because I never raised my voice at her before. As soon as I yelled at her, she had nothing to say, and just sat there moping with puppy dog eyes, almost like a child. Which was weird because before then she was talking down to me. I was empowered as I had "won the break up". After our last talk she tried contacting me for the next 4 months. Calling, texting me to tell me how sorry she was. I just ignored it. She lost me.
Most times when they pull away during the test , They got another dude in the situation , yes they will come back if your the Man an walk away silence an emotionless...shell will beg back ... You want her back after the cheating part ?.. walk away with your pride an Teach her a lesson.. Stay strong brothers....
Thank you Casey! I have just been hit by a pull back/jealousy test and this video reaffirmed that I have the right approach to it. I let her go, I showed her i was displeased and angry and I haven't reached out since. She has a choice to make and I will let her think about what she's caused.
When a man shows that he cares women will go to find another man. Now we speak that when he showes that he cares he will stay. I dobt understand. Help.
Men. Listen to this. It’s all true. If I watched this video 3 months ago my life would be vastly different. 3 year relationship blown up out of the blue because for the first time in the relationship I showed weakness during one of these break up tests. Then post “breakup” when I went no/absolute minimal contact I was literally told “It’s hard to believe you still want me because you haven’t perused me at all, like at all”. Mind you she broke up with me. I got weak and showed many emotions sadness, fear, etc. continually. Never be weak, always demand respect over everything. A woman can’t continually love a man she does not respect. My life is absolutely in shambles because of the future we hand planned. Listen to this because it could save your relationship and life.
I’ve been on a journey harnessing my strength and stoicism and videos like this serve as a testament that I’ve been on the correct path. Nodded in agreement the whole way through and finished your sentences. Still work to do but it’s reaffirming to know I am on the right track. Thanks CZ for making these succinct and delving right into the hard truths. Great vid as always. Happy New Year.
I can agree with a lot of these points, I used many of these instinctively in my last relationship. What I'm not really sure about is the point, that you should show your jealousy. I'm not sure if its good, for me it feels like not having your feelings under control. Feel what you feel for yourself, but when my ex-girlfriend wanted to make jealous when she was asking me, if I let her meet an old friend from school, I told her that if she wants to do this I'm not standing in her way. What I had back in mind was, that there will come and there were times, where im also going to see my old friends from school again. In that case I don't want her to be against that either. Since I noticed that she just wanted to make me jealous I told her, that I'm maybe not a hundred percent fan of her idea, but I will let her do what she wants to... End of the story was, I was meeting some friends and after I gave her my "okay" meeting this guy, she refused to meet him and she was staying home alone. Kind of these situations repeated a couple of times, always gave her my honest okay and she never, not even a single time, chose to meet someone oder go partying...
4 mins in im realizing I didn’t even make that far into the “tests” before I opt out🤦🏾♂️😂she just turned me off when she was doing the jealousy thing. I was worried it’ll come off as insecure but I just felt it’s stupid to do that. If we like each other why even mention who we could have or who wants us. Idk. It felt insecure on her end because it was like “hey I want to let you know these guys want me..” to which my thoughts goes “..ok. but who do you want??” Went no contact before I could find out.
If you want a happy simple life spin plates and focus on you, make dating fun and transactional. If you want to make your life complicated commit to a long term relationship, but there’s always the risk you’re also wasting your time and you don’t get time back. If you do don’t care if you have sex again, marry her.
Watching Casey Zander is like getting a licence to date . I recommend every young man to get your licence first . Saving us years of traps and pitfalls .
Women regarding love each time remember me more to Charlie Chaplin on "The Pawnshop", where he destroys a client's clock while examining it in detail...
As a woman watching this, this is 100% correct. We do not do it intentionally and most of us have childhood wounding that leads us to these behaviors. Most people are insecurely attached and that is why divorce and breakups are so high unfortunately. I’m actively trying to get my triggers under control. I have add one last thing, men who use their masculine emotions to the extreme crossing the line with rage and violence, emotional or physical, that is a definite no and should never be tolerated or encouraged.
Honestly, it’s just fucking exhausting. I’ve recently gone through all of this. I was certainly the dominant one and held frame but it was a constant challenge. Drama was very common, this emotional baiting was very common. It’s very difficult not to get pissed off. I spent a lot of time pissed off and angry at her emotional episodes. They basically do everything they can to tear you down and force you to be pissed off all the time. It’s a joke. They’re never just chilled and happy they always have an issue you’re forced to deal with. Always being shit tested and pecked at is just such a turn off. I had no choice but to end it.
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I could have had her sign a document on my expectations in the beginning. But you how they act like none of that matters like nothing in the world matters but their emotions at that exact time. All this advice is great for us. But, women are not logical or reasonable humans.
Where does Jesus fit in?
Facts. Fiance pulled this shit. Over and over, she was shocked when I called it off after tons of emotional testing abuse. Women will burn down a building to see if it's fireproof.
Same. Mine was dumbfounded when I dumped her and never spoke to her again. She expected me to play this bullshit break up / make up game. I have no tolerance for that shit.
@@alexgataricsend her text how good was last night, ler her see it, then delete it
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It's like cat 7 lives but I can't never die
@@voiceofreason1829Why would he send that when he clearly stated he doesn’t tolerate that bs
The second they want to leave it just means they think they can do better. Let them go and don’t go back.
enjoy being single forever (:
@@onno_vocks yea and you have to keep dumping them and be single.
@@amandaburleson2035 you're not the prize.
@@amandaburleson2035u indirectly said you’re one of these women 😂😂😂 get ur s..t together and be mature
@@lazi15 have fun with your average looking wife that is a good girl.
"Women test the strength of a relationship by purposefully destroying or self-sabotaging it.
Majority of men fail to maintain attraction, desire, and arousal during this test.
Understanding these concepts is crucial for handling the emotional investment in the relationship."
I'm seriously considering whether I still want this female drama/shit in my life (after a divorce one year ago)
U don’t
Nah G, just make money and travel the world homie!
And then they turn around in movies and social Media, demonIzing men, making it a culture to think that only men could be the abusers, narcissists and players. It shows you that women just scream their pain louder than men and they manage to get the attention for it, but it doesn’t mean that they are better, humans , more romantic, always the victim or completely innocent.
Use em and lose em. Be careful doing that too
Yeah you don't want that, the best way to get a Woman that you actually want is laid out for you at the end of this Video. Tell your potential Woman how things are going to be and if she plays games and tries to destroy the relationship, say There's the Door or if you are over at her place when she does this, say I am Gone and actually walk out the door and drive away out of her life. I had enough of my Ex Wife's BS and Divorced her and haven't looked back since. I have been focused on my own endeavors for 4 years since mentioned Divorce and if a Woman wants me in her life, she cannot try to destroy what we have if she truly wants me in her life as I will not put up with the BS Test as I call it. I am out of School, sure Life is Lessons learned, but we are not in a forsaken Classroom and I am not a classroom student! You either want me in your life for better or worse or you don't #TheEnd.
Do not relax when you think you can, they act all lovely and then kill the relationship, lesson learned the hard way.
Amen
If you can't relax.......you don't need her.
@@JonThompson-bt8rw it's true, some women are really narcissistic and cold, it's better to drop them, some of them are the exact opposite. However, they all manipulate and test you.
Wrong! . You can leave her and relaxed . Job is done 👍
Those women aren’t worth it. I wouldn’t chase or put on an act for anyone.
The key is to ignore and keep at arms length these energy sucking vampires until they get their act together and become respectful mature women
Not regarding women as "energy sucking vampires" is much more important.
@@frankslade33What he ment was to show them the way out. Punish them with ignorance if they misbehave, reward them for good behavior.
@@frankslade33 Well they are, and if they are damaged enough they will also drain you and consume your sexual energy. You'll figure this out when once you've been with enough women.
@@frankslade33 Heck, I'm on a roll now. Women want attention, attention is currency in girl world, and when a woman wants your _attention_ she IS draining you of energy.
That sounds like a headache dude. Do you actually know how long it can take for a woman to fully,if ever mature. And remember,women are great pretenders.
I just got out of a 12 year relationship. What Casey is saying is 100% true. I hope whoever is watching this heeds this godlike truth. I'm being sincere here.
I feel for u but 12 years should have atleast been a marriage.
@@rubixrude9954that would’ve been worse
If he never married, I'd say he played his hand right!!! @@rubixrude9954
Yeah. Women don’t have forever. Was she past her child bearing years?
So true before I was married my wife pulled this on me and my insecurities started to come out. I tightened up and right when she knew I was starting to date all of a sudden she was ready to come back. We’re married now and I can see her respect for me is much higher now but don’t think the test stop. I just had one the other day and had to reiterate her role in this relationship. Next thing you know she’s moving in to cuddle at night. This is the cycle fellas. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news 🤷🏽♂️
My high school gf wanted to break up. I said cool, then she later said "you were supposed to fight for me!" I was totally over the relationship at that point. Fast forward eight years. I photographed her wedding, and she was still telling people we dated in high school. On her wedding day.
Have a similar situation, met a girl at a party and we did the usual stuff. i wasn't really that interested in her and i later introduced her to a frined of mine. They got married and have 2 children. but she still has a crush on me and likes to talk about me in front of others. Even seeks lone time with me.
its super weird, especially because i am a longtime friend to her husband.
What!!????
@@MrHelix7293lol something similar happened to me to like that and I just stopped talking to my friend for that same reason, they both would make it awkward
@@Max-qk3xi Were they… inviting you or something?
you photographed her wedding?? lmao
When a woman deep down loves you…..your dreaming. It’s impossible for a woman to love a man anywhere even close to how a man loves a woman.
They only love what you can offer.
Beta men love, Alpha, Sigma& Neo-Sigma men don't love either.
Yes they can love as deep as you, and often ways way deeper. But then the wind blows, and she don't love you anymore.
The difference is NOT being able to love as much or not, difference is that women's love fluctuate, comes and goes FAST on a whim.
This is why societies shaming divorces where CRUTIAL to maintain families in the past, and why families are fucke today.
If you count on love to maintain couples, you're fucked. Only service, sacrifice, social shaming/acceptance works.
Compassion and love really aren't the same thing. Its true.
I think that after having children with the woman and displaying being a good father and protector the woman will love the man. But not until then. So men have to deal with that imbalance.
The other issue is that men may get less attracted to the woman at that point. So may show less affection. So the balance shifts the other way.
Complicated stuff
As a woman I concur this is spot on!
I pulled this BS on my husband (unconsciously) a few times when I realized I was in love with him and he totally knew how to respond. 17 years and two babies later, we're going strong and I haven't done this in a long, long time. We women are pretty nutty.
Discusting I'ma be g3y
How did he respond? @slavi7191
@@jordanbaltes6719 she not gonna reveal that, bruh. She evil
@@zatripper6674 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hope he recovered well. Cheers
Any woman who behaves as described wants to somehow test me I will just walk away I don’t need that kind of drama in my life.
I bet your still single. All females are the same.
I don't care how many techniques are out there to pass their ridiculous tests. I refuse to keep playing into their wicked mental games. I've had enough of them through my life. Either she plays honest or I'm out. And that's that
Agreed
Agreed
Agreed 👍💯
@user-zg9pb8lz2g I ve had 3-6 month dating runs with different women.....they can't hold it together for any longer than that, I'm convinced. When shit gets real, they can't hold it together.......and there's always 10 idiots begging to take them out anyways
Good luck wit dat. Dats like tryna find a unicorn
Everytime a girlfriend tried to shit test me I dumped her the same day and moved on. I now have four ex girlfriends trying to get me back and the sex is constantly on tap. Never commit to these type of women, just keep them hanging on.
It's sad how this shit actually works 😅😅😅
My recent ex did all these things. She has borderline personality disorder. It’s a never ending cycle of accusations , tantrums, breakups and apologies. Last time she tested me I said I was done. I’m so above and beyond those petty games. If that’s the same game mentally “healthy” women play - I’ll happily stay single.
TBH, Casey needs to talk about the difference between “test” and mentally ill. I doubt he can.
I recently did the same with a girlfriend. And I'm pretty convinced she had BPD, maybe Paranoid Schizophrenia and other mental health issues with it. Not to diagnose her but there was obviously something wrong with the wiring.
I am a 29 year old male. I have diagnosed BPD. It's shit and a lot of drama for sure, as if i am a woman on PMS often and i know i'm hard to handle. I never choose this and i hate myself for being this way but what i can do is try my ass off to not be a hardass and or a douchebag and when i love, i love beyond reason. Which as you can imagine is pain in the ass to say the least. But i think it's beyond BPD because i had a woman i loved more then the world and gave up 80% of my life for her and she still cheated and didn't care. Broke up, forgave and did the whole thing all over again... it's something in female psyche that just can't fully commit and god forbid really love that makes them overevaluate everything including us men and they are often like bees going from flower to flower if it suits them better. They see men as tools, crutch or a badage, sometimes even rebreather or a defibrilator but you have to realise that even doe defib may save your life, you will not use it all the time, hence my analogy... I never even managed to help my mother, whis is left with sister and i after a divorce from a wife & child beater and i stuck with her and tried to help and make her open her eyes and live but she is beyond that, and i knew her all my life. Women are boyond reason
Man… cluster bs are very hard to deal with in a relationship. The best advice I can give anyone dating a borderline is to stand firm and love from a distance. Keep one foot out the door; their fear of abandonment will always keep them in chase rather than the “I love you, don’t leave me” in check
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Correction to the video: women do not, and _cannot_ , love men. They can only become attached to a man along one or more of the five connection pathways: physical, spiritual, intellectual, emotional and financial.
Men, on the other hand, can and often do love women.
So, _there is no such thing_ as a woman "loving" a man or "falling in love" with a man. They can only feel attachment, nothing more. If they feel attached to you, they will stick with you. If they ever don't feel attached to you, they will start monkey branching away. So, love has nothing to do with women because they simply cannot feel it.
Women are almost like kids .
Like your kid will say hey daddy i want that toy and will keep obsessing over it even for years and keep crying everyday until he gets it and if you dont give it to him he will think about that toy 24/7 and will find ways on how to get it and also behave as you want.
But after you get your kid that toy . On the first day he will seem happy and play with it or even sleep with it but after few days you'll feel he has start ignoring it and after getting bored your kid will wonder whats inside that toy and break it to pieces and now that he knows whats inside it he won't be interested.
Like you saw your kid obsessing over a toy for months and requesting you but you saw in a week he had got bored of that toy and prolly dismantle it and throw it to trash.
And now he will ask you for some other toy
Agree - women will APPEAR to circumstantially love a man. Successful marriages come to mind. But it's not love.
Pretty much yh
We don't need women
When a humiliated individual is exalted to a pedestal, you have love.
That is what love IS. The exaltation of a humiliated person. Ignoring the humiliation.. not letting it lower their value, but actually increase it.. especially if they humilated themselves out of love FOR you. That is what love is.
Gives a little more credence to Jesus supposedly being love itself.
Women CAN do this. I've experienced it more than once. Even when I had zero "value" and no ability to give back, whatsoever.
The person having more power and frame in the relationship is the who least care about it.
If a woman is with a weak man, she will drag him through hell and back.
@@brentonlthe fact that we have to fight with them constantly gets old
When women have the power all hell breaks loose. Women are emotional beings and unfortunately emotions have absolutely no logical thought. Men think logically women think with emotions. Men need to have frame to control the relationship. It's actually kinda easy...have frame and women will surrender.
@@brentonlits even worse for those guys bc women emasculate, disrespect and destroy a man they cant respects self confidence
Or, sometimes she is just done. So whether it’s a shit test or she is really done, take her for her word and bounce. Wish her the best, tell her you love her, and go ghost. Do not look back. And, when she reaches out, wish her the best again but it’s done. Decisions were made. She needs to live with it as an adult .
"... as an adult". Amen.
Yup so do us as men once we made the decision. Being sure is a masculine trait, don't bounce back n forth. Don't wish her bad, genuinely wish her good and move on.
Bro modern women are far from adults.
The breakup routine is a mega turn off anyway.
If she is just flat out done, you just messed up bad. Because a woman will never be truly 'done' with a guy manipulating her well hehe
Dang. Women can be so ruthless, twisted, and self-centered. Care? Love? WTF. Forget about calling it a relationship. It's an ongoing shit test.
And shit testing is abuse. If you disagree, replicate the behavior but reverse genders. Abuse.
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No. It's actually natural and encoded in the DNA.
@@puanani_usa it's fun for y'all but it's hell for us. You cant be in peace with the person you love. Knowing her love towards you is only conditional. Can't let your guards down. Your love towards her she sees it as weakness.
@puanani_usa If, as a woman (or man), you've never loved a man (or woman) unconditionally, you're only pretending to be human - i.e., going through the motions of life with neither wisdom nor understanding.
They do not care about the consequences of their emotional decisions or their actions! And if they do, then they’ll have to face it!
100% true bro 💪🏼😪
I can't stand how much of this has proven time and time again to be anecdotally spot on in my life. This video is insane.
They act just like children. My goodness man 🤣🤣
Don't talk about children that way!
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Yeah just like . Better call George said
They are really evil sometimes.
Yup
Testing the strength of a relationship on purpose is a head game.
Facts i think its the dumbest thing they do. My ex did that shit and i fucking thought “why the hell would she almosttt end the relationship bc of a fight or me being difficult, when things could easily be handled between us?” When she first said we need a break (bc i got mad and showed bad behavior as she put it) i guess i was wrong by actually telling her i dont do breaks etc. I said theres no reason to break up & i went against that shit…but i should of just let it go im assuming? Hate that shit
Girls are gonna hate this but it’s accurate
Truth hurts buttercup
Perfect timing, crazy how all of us have went through the same thing. Women are pre-wired to do the same stuff, it’s predictable
modern instagram girls are not mature women.
lol! I failed this test. I was in love with a girl who dumped me and started dating an older guy. I gave up on the relationship in a week because the emotional pain was too much for me. I ignored her out of my mind, and then she screamed at me 2 months later out of nowhere. I was so confused at the time... and no, I didn't take her back.
I failed this test with my H.S. gf when she broke up with me after 5 years I pleaded and cried like a pussy for her not to leave me. Poor girl looked so uncomfortable and embarrassed seeing other people watch in the street
You didn't play her game and won
sounds more like you passed with flying colors! :)
You didn’t fail. You dodged a bullet with a girl of zero character. She left you and started banging someone else. Ratchet behaviour.
Naw, you passed the test.
My ex was shit testing me with some "time apart" shit. A few months later, she came back crying........with herpes. No thanks!
My ex did this too. 😂
She saved you bro!
Maybe aids too
I, as in me, myself just recently broke up with my gf of 5 years after she tried sabotaging the relationship. I was not up for anymore of her games and agreed to end the relationship that she suggested we do. She didn't see it coming this way by me and we ended it with a big fight as the grand finale. Haven't spoke to each in two weeks. I hope everyday she never comes crawling back because I have different plans for me
Impossible to maintain masculine energy and not show fear when she is the mother of your kids . Fantastic methods and female psychology for young single lads however far more daunting for married men .
Exactly. Married with children? You’re hostage.
Dude tell her no problem, Im assured you can raise our kids by yourself, I'm gonna find decent girl and start new family with kids..then leave..she will beg you to raise your kids
@@voiceofreason1829that would mean losing his kids, and paying for them at the same time. Most men can’t afford child support fees and start a new family. No man would want to leave his kids anyway…especially if the mother isn’t particularly stable
@@AdamBrowne-eg1eb no negotiation with terrorists
I just got caught cheating by my partner of 13 years. We have 2 children. She’s a solid 8/10. I said well you know what I’m like when we got together. You can leave if you like. 2 days later we had a fight and she apologised and asked why she wasn’t good enough and what she can do to improve. Stop being a 🐈⬛. Get jacked, flirt with other women etc.
I swear it’s so true. Makes you hate F3mal3 nature. Us men just want to relax, love someone unconditionally, make love occasionally and stay out the way. But it’s like you say, subconsciously they punish the men that they love and one who loves them back. They do it because deep down they feel guilt for emotionally cheating with other men and because they know deep down that they don’t deserve you and the things that you do for them, which makes them feel the need to test you and the relationship. I hate that shyt.
Don't shape yourself into what these worldly women want you to be... Don't do that one... If you just focus, you'll notice a lot of them are spiritually dead. They want you to put her first.. Before God, obviously. They want you to worship the ground they walk on. And, some of them are bold to the point, where they say this with so much conviction, like it's the most natural thing. Well, it isn't. I want you to understand, a lot of women carry demons on them. And I don't mean that in figurative way, I mean that in literal way...they carry bad spirits on them. Spirit of pride is one of them. The leviathan spirit. A lot of women, they can't be told nothing, you know what I mean... It's been normalized that you see a lot of prideful women, or women with an overblown ego. That is an unclean spirit, guys. The holy spirit humbles you. The holy spirit humbles you! You know what I'm talking about, whenever you try to talk to them, it goes in one ear, leaves thru the other, they are twisting your words, skip over facts, deny validity of any input.. That my men is literally a spirit. Don't feed into it, don't interact with it, unless you're a trained professional. You will never make it understand, it'll never be satiated. It's agenda is to confuse and create chaos not to come to understanding and compromise. I have told you, once you see those signs, keep on moving. God bless you all. In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.
They are the one who are cheating and are afraid that you will cheat too
Gee, "us men" , you have no idea what women go through with men,,, in my experience , this is not what men want in my experience
Hard to swallow pill..If you list "she's always right" as one of the "keys" to a happy/functional marriage. Your marriage is dysfunctionial and you're in denial about your level of your happiness.
This dude is legendary. You’re witnessing a true genius I swear. Had to comment that too!
If I get exclusive with a girl, I will set a boundary with her. I will say to her, if you threaten to end the relationship, or give me a shit test and actually end it with your words or if she says she wants an open relationship, then I will ghost her forever. I don't care about what relationship we had. She ended it with that crap. I don't want to play games.
Shut up goof ball 🤣🤣🤣
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Fucking same. I don't care how good it was.
Just leave. You will suffer for a while, but big win long term.
I’ll do the same with men
@@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534 Absolutely. I hope, with all my heart, that you have the most wonderful relationship there is. Your desire is super good.
After watching these videos, I learned one thing. By keeping note of hypergamy, since I'm able to easily pull in women in the 7s, and they usually give me less trouble that means I'm an 8. When I get with women who are 8s and 9s, that's when these problem begin, they try to self sabotage and are constantly looking for weakness, it's like a never ending psychological battle. So, I think I'm gonna settle with a woman in the 7s for peace of mind since I still find them incredibly hot and emotionally stable, and they usually treat me like a king.
Single girls that are 8s & 9s are single because they crazy.
I'm sad that this is how you view the world.
@@JustCammie What do you mean?
@awakenedone7577 rating people, including yourself, and looking at people as numbers on a scale rather than recognizing the fact that human beings are greatly nuanced and it just isn't that simple. What makes someone a 1 or a 10? It's just as bad as black and white thinking. It isn't how we should view each other. We're all individuals, and attraction is also very subjective.
To add, attraction has more to do with one's own self than the other person. That's also something to consider.
The best technique to use and its free. Women are crazy so you just ignore them!!! Be happy and safe yourself the unnecessary drama or stress!! Thank you!!!
I like seeing your wisdom geared towards long-term relationships. Being married I try to take the things you show and make them work in a married relationship.
I’m going through a very rough time with my wife, she is testing to the extreme.
This video is exactly what I need. Even though we have been married for 27 years and provided for her and our kids the whole time (single income family) she’ll throw out how much I’ve hurt her and never loved her. Now I’m the first to admit I’m not perfect and done stupid and sometimes even bad things but it seems to me her reactions go far beyond what “I’ve done to her.”
I’m going to rewatch a few times and I know the one deficit I have is a lack of firm identification of my value and who I am.
Paternity test.
She is projecting. Probably she is the one that never loved you, sorry to say that, then again, paternity test!
Time to close the door...
I love that this ended up in my algorithm. These videos give me insight into patterns that I didn’t even know I had.
Never ever go back if she breaks up with you. They don't change. Been there, done that.
Facts they play the victim card and act dumb and don’t respect you decision in the future
Bro such facts I literally had to learn this lesson the hard way just recently. I figured at some point they would get it together or they would change for the better but nah. People repeat patterns and they tend to revert back to what they know. Gotta learn this. Gotta learn to walk away and have your dignity cause they will try to take all of it away. Stay strong and stay focused men.
I've been in a relationship since oct. The other day she broke down and said I'm emotionally unavailable and that she's know she's not my ideal girl. She said she can feel lit. My last relationship was horrible, so I can't really get attached to anyone. Breaking up with a girl is nothing to me
It just means she really like you
@ashinthewind2759 just like the video says. She still tests. She's a ghetto latina. Her problem is talking shit 😆. That break up around the corner lol
@@ashinthewind2759she is seeking for his investment, and trust me once he invest without guaging level from the both side he will loose to it
Be careful she could be up to something
Keep focusing on your stuff. Always.
Women test their relationships all the way to 3 cats and boxed wines.
That makes so much sense😂😂
shit just 3 cats try 9
lol
If they are late 20’s without a good man and some kids they are making terrible decisions. Especially if they are good looking.
If a woman puts me through tests like this I don't even want her anymore.
on point. experienced this, every step of the way. Hard lesson to learn, but once you learn it you're free.
Don’t get overwhelmed by this info guys. Basically if you can be the best version of yourself meaning if you are happy with who you are on your own, that is the key and everything will fall into place.
Most men ARE happy, until they have a woman in their life. Fact: a woman will make you question your sanity and ability to make good decisions.
I’m binging your channel over the last couple months, and I got to say this might be your best video. It shows a very deep understanding that you have. Thanks for sharing this, it was very helpful.
*A lot of it comes down to insecurities and not understanding how to communicate or respect each other's needs. Both partners have to be willing to grow and put in the effort to make things work.*
I was married for 25 years, and she left me for the guy with the million-dollar yacht. two years later she wanted to come back. I had made my rules and said no. I am 75 now and still single. You make some good points however it does not always work out. Women are still drawn to wealth not always your masculine strength.
I've been blessed to have two women in my life I truly loved and wanted a future with both ended with me being hurt after I failed them test this is the things that no one tells you about women so thanks for your work bro
I think someone wrote a good thing in the comment section - replace the word woman with the word GIRL.
I’m woman, in a relationship with my man which I love and care about so much. From the point we started to officially date which was less than a month after we have met, I never put myself in a position to lose him! Never! If a woman loves you with all heart and soul and she knows he is the right man for her, she will never put herself in a position to lose the man she loves.
I’m talking here about mature women not girls. There is no place for immature games, break-ups to check if you care about me or similar things…every action you take as an individual has an impact/consequence on your partner.
I’ve been in a situations where I wanted to do or behave in my way but since I knew my boyfriend wouldn’t like that - I stayed away from those things/behavior/relationship dynamic etc. .. btw. I’m 28 but dating nowadays is just sad… I have 2 younger brothers and when I see how they are treated and what they need to go through as guys it’s just sad and it makes me angry why we ended up where we are as a society now :(
How long have you been with him????
How were they treated?
They were treated like simps lmao
What I’m reading is NOT that you, as a woman, are doing the right thing or behaving yourself out of some mature management of yourself and your emotions but that your man is high value and KNOWS how to manage you. That you don’t risk your relationship with this man you… “love”… because you know that you will lose a sound man and all the benefits he brings to your life were you to choose other behaviors in your relationship.
This is spot on for women with attachment issues. But, not all women have attachment issues. Also, many women have strong cluster B traits. But not all. Walk away from women with attachment issues and find someone secure and emotionally intelligent. They do exist.
Yes to this.
“Imagine that she only loves you for the image she wants you to portray to her. Wait, did she ever love you for you to ever do all that. Be strong enough to not care if the wrong ones leave. You were ready since the beginning. Heck, I may have stronger feminine energy than to care so much past my heartlessness. The honor and passion to be you past all her bs that doesn’t measure up to your greatness as a person. Oh, I don’t hate in return. I bid her well as a demonstration of my class and character.” 🍷
The contents of this video is so true and now I understand why my woman acts like a b...h most of the time but she won't leave me. Dating nowadays is more complicated than calculus, differentiation or nuclear engineering.
Looks like you didn’t set the rules.
It's always been this way. Meeting women now gets harder because our heads are stuck in our phones and computers.
Set the rules
Little breakups here and there, sure. That only makes the person not playing games lose trust and respect for the other.
Tate said something similar about how when he's sad you can't tell because he doesn't show those emotions even though he feels them.
That's a good skill, being able to feel something and keep it to yourself without expressing it or bringing attention to it.
There's no benefit to doing so.
From what I see, I think it would be easier for me to become a rocket scientist then to maintain a relationship.
Lmfao my N
Thanks for a great video. I agreed with most of the points. Just want to point out that it is never a good idea to show possessive and jealous emotions to your lady. Hide it if u need to. Only man lacking confidence needs to control their lady and feels jealous if they talk to other man. They will run away from you real quick. You can thank me later. Another tip i want to share is focus on building your internal confidence and be comfortable with who you are. U will automatically passess these tests without any effort or awareness as your actions and emotions are on autopilot if u r self confident. avoiding woman is not the best solution. They bring more positives than negatives overall into our lives if u r a confident man.
This is so accurate it’s unbelievable ! But YES this does happen !!!!!!!
This video by my boy, Casey Zander, was pure GOLD ! 🔥
learn the power of indifference and you'll avoid most of the nonsense they'll put you through
Freaking true...too many simps failed to master this important skill. Also, my way or the highway. In my relationship, she plays by MY rule or get out. I don't have time for games.
I have been married for 15 years and the last few involved incredibly massive external stress, and a long separation made necessary to help a child in a terrible situation. Working back to the relationship we had before all of this is difficult, but your perspective makes it so very much easier to manage all the drama. I'm a Marine Infantryman. I understand strategy and commitment to a goal. Knowing the logic of the strategy makes executing it and accepting the risks so much easier. I have NO doubt whatsoever about being irreplaceable, but she is happier than most to simply be alone. Life is impermanence and it will be what it will be, but at least with this knowledge I can intelligently adapt my strategy to real time challenges.
Videos on this topic piss me off because I TRULY BELIEVED that being nonchalant about the relationship rules and showing her I didn’t care is what would be what would keep her. PLEASE listen to this advice men: be aggressive and territorial with her to show her you care. Be decisive, and once she leaves you or crosses a boundary WALK AWAY
why do you say this?
I don't allow women to test me. I was done with testing back in Higschool. I test them. They don't meet my criteria, they're out.
I swear. Everytime you post something, is exactly what I'm going through in a relationship. The timing has been bang on for the last 2 months
perfectly explained female behavior :) very accurate. the only thing is, if man does not react to "mini breakups" and tests (at the beginning) and letting me go just like that- i admit he is NOT attached to me and i am not that important. so then i do not reach out to him too, i know he'll find another woman, most probably soon. Guys, in this video it is perfectly explained what and why ladies are doing, the tests. But hey, if you want to be with this lady, you reach out to her. You want to show her she is special for you and she can feel safe with you. The only thing you will have to mention then - " if you just leave like this, it makes me feel deeply bad. and i do not want this to happen again. If you will do something like this again, i might not handle and will call it quits". like this you let her know- she is special for you but she won't be able to manipulate you like this in the future, as you literally tell it to her right now. You do both- give her the validation she needs (as you understand she needs the confirmation you're serious about her) but also you're not a fool who can be manipulated and are not scared to call her out on her sh*t. All coaches are telling people to do step away and stay silent. Dating coach for women is the same "stay away and do not reach out". Yes but who will be the one saving relationships then? There will be less couples and people will remain single more and more often. You guys tryna lower the demography or what?:D
Na too much work, go be with your cats ;)
@@mjay5222🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Are you stupid?
The secret to any relationahip is aettimg boundaries amd expectations. You WILL be tested on them. You must stand fitm whatever the consrquence
@@jeansollot6419If she leaves, so what? Stop being a dork.
From a distance it´s fairly easy to understand women, the problem is that we men obviously have feelings too. Our soft "feminine" sides are not welcome with women, it´s just nature, so best advice is to never let yourself fall fully in love with a women, she doesn´t understand that, she want to feel safe with her dominant man,. When we fail to give her that feeling, out of neediness, she is already looking for an escape. What finally makes a women tie her strings to one man is when she feels safe enough with one man and is tired of being chased. So don´t fall in love, and don´t try to tie her down, the woman will settle when she is ready. I´m 43 years and have plenty of experience with these creatures.
♤ Expect the RESPECT all the time.
♤ Show emotions but not of desperation but of love..the moment you express emotions of neediness, you are fucked. Instead express the emotions of love and affection and yet reamain calm, stoic, independent.
Bro u absolutely nailed it.
BTW best comment section ever! It feels so damn good to sense some kind of brotherhood that when it comes to future cat ladies.
Years ago a girlfriend decided to "test me" by sleeping with another guy. After I kicked her to the curb (what else could I do) she kept crying to take her back.
My last girlfriend wanted me to listen to her tell me about guys hitting on her. She said it was part of telling me about her day. I didn’t see how it was helpful. I told her it’s hurtful that she wants me to acknowledge that I understand she has a line of guys waiting behind me and I’m just an option. After she dumped me and hooked up with a mutual friend a few days later, she told me over text message how I compare to him when I didn’t get remotely close to asking for solicited knowledge of how much better my friend is now than I. When she’s in a good mood, she’s really pretty and the sweetest thing. It’s really creepy, looking back on all of it.
This is absolutely insane. I don't mean it is incorrect, I mean that the behavior Casey is describing is completely crazy. And this is why I have nothing to do with women anymore. I study them for the entertainment value and because I can't believe a group of people can be so solipsistic and self-destructive. I am teaching my son never to be like them.
So sad to see how relationships need this type of work. To the men that have been hurt please heal to the women that have been hurt please heal and find peace. Stay single and live life to the fullest but in the end we going to want that life partner.😢
Im in in the similar situation right now. This video came at the right time as it confirms my deepest intentions: hold my ground, solidify myself, and be ready to throw the book at her if she goes (and she is) too far. I have one foot out the door now, this is a live-in situation. So maybe the logistics make departing a little .... tricky. I'm sure Ill figure out a plan.
I'm in the same situation too. Question is do you wait for her to contact you first or reach out at some point?
If she’s testing you a lot, that means you already failed.
You just solved what am going through right now. Thanks love Guru
I’ve been married for two years, and I’m going through one of those times ..7 years right?
Staying focused and learning how to make it stop😂, but surely if we go through that we’ll be a stronger couple ❤
When the tests come….. it’s time to leave. I let mine sit with her actions for over 5 years……. I’m now divorcing her. I don’t put up with playing games anymore. At all. Be with me or not. End of story.
If they start with the tests, it’s time to leave. They are manipulating you.
If you care about something too much it can be used as a weapon against you.
Watching this video and reading the comments makes me feel better about these last 2 weeks I’ve had. Glad to know I’m not alone in how I felt, but that I just have to do the work on myself to get better and stand on business as a man.
As a woman I am going through this with a guy over the past 2 weeks. Not sure why guys won't just reaffirm their interest and connection, but rather cold stone a girl. How exactly is that arousing for a woman, sorry I don't get it. His silence is just killing me. There is a need to test a relationship, I don't want to be with a guy faking it.
@@MMS-hr1nz there are far better ways to test a relationship than by threatening to end it just so you can evaluate whether the response suits you.
@@DavidMRudy-kn8ed The reason? The man behaved like he wanted me to pull out by stonewalling me. If we had a more intimate moment together, then the next day the stonewalling would begin. He was manipulating me to become emotionally dependent. Why would I ever have doubts about a man if he treated me well and communicated with me? I have a life and s*** to do, I did not need someone to come into my life and try to mindf*** me. I did end it for real, but had he wanted to work on things and find compromises, I would have been more than happy to work things out with him. But it was my-way-or-highway type of attitude. Not a recipe for a healthy relationship, if you ask me. But thank you for your response, I appreciate it.
@@MMS-hr1nz "I have a life and s*** to do, I did not need someone to come into my life and try to mindf*** me".
Same with every guy as well.Stop with the dumb tests. I'm not going to even try anymore. I'm on the same mindset. If you want it over, fine. I'm going to suffer now, but long term is the best decision, doesn't matter how good the relationship was. I want to be with an adult, not a child playing games. Stop playing games and show the men you love that you love them.
Now, I speak in general. I don't know in your case. But comunication is key. But be aware that if something happens with another man, it's over.
I must be showing these "strong characteristics" cause my narcissist is always hitting me with tests and exams and all sorts of stupid bullshit, and has gone through the act of wanting to breakup, and yet when i say that perhaps I should disappear since I am the problem, it twists and morphs into me "running away from my problems" when i wish to exit.
She obviously cannot leave with her attachment to me, so it would have to be me to do it, but me doing it would be "running from my problems" in her eyes. For mw it is moving away from toxicity, but they usually do not see their toxicitiy becauae of their self-important natures. To them, they are pristine and do nothing wrong, which assumes they are always right, which is the basis for their self-important natures.
I'm physically, mentally, emotionally, and even to the point of spiritually and royally done and tired with women and their bullshit tests. Believe me amd trust me or gtfo. I'm gdtting too old to be playing these games.
Best Keypoints yet
1) Expectations
2) Rules
3) How you operate(Stoic in Consequences)
Not everything in here is typical. My Mother did these things with my Father and she truly loved him. My Brother’s ex did these things with him and she turned out to be a narcissist. She initiated the break up while my Brother embraced the break up and happily made it permanent. She did all the begging to reunite as shown in this video but my Brother was way too disgusted as was I when he showed the letters to me.
Agreed. What Casey is describing are girls with narcissism, self-esteem and attachment issues.
The reality is, she got bored, lined up your replacement and caused drama as an excuse to relieve her guilt for ending it and blaming you for it.
I like that Casey showed the best way to deal with this is to nip it in the bud. When you decide to be in a relationship, state your boundaries and rules, then call her out if she violates them.
I like the idea of being a one-strike kind of guy. The first time she shit-tests you, it's over. The greatest asset we have is that we can choose a life of peace and freedom from drama or we can have a beautiful, mutually benefitting, loving relationship. There is no third option. Women often think that without them, you're just going to get with another woman. They can't stand the thought that you'll be just fine on your own. They can't compete with that.
I am a very decisive man, when it comes to women I don’t waste my time where there is no reciprocation, I don’t stand where I have to be walked over, disrespected, gaslighted, spited, nagged, emotionally abused and manipulated. Often times I try to call the woman to order, in a civil and amicable manner, failure of which I leave the relationship, simple as that, BECAUSE most of the women in these ages don’t want to LISTEN, they're stubborn, prideful and arrogant. Sure signs of masculinity are strength, courage, independence, leadership, and assertiveness, so don’t allow any woman to make you be the opposite gentlemen, WALK OUT if you’re emasculated. Myself I don’t submit to any woman, I will rather be single and work on self-improvement/development. Same as when I pursue a woman; the moment I see that its taking unnecessary time, not showing or saying where she stands and feeds her ego with my attention-then I just stop communicating and delete her number. Gentlemen, you must love yourselves, value yourselves, stand by your values and principles, if you haven’t found the woman to fit in your world then move on ,one day you will find the Queen.
This happened to me about 1 year ago. Unfortunately, it coincided with my father passing away, so I probably showed a bit of vulnerability, to the point that I said to her that I lost my trust in her and started seeing another woman. Needless to say that she felt cheated and betrayed, event hough she was the one that left. This left both of us with a deep sense of unfinished business and longing. I feel like we still have a very deep connection and love for each other, even though we are in no contact for more than 3 months now. With all the stuff happening in my life at that time, I was just fed up with her drama and decided to not tolerate it anymore. I didn`t think for one moment that she was testing the strenght of our relationship, but I remember calling her out on her bluff. Some of our common friends tell me that she looks very sad and lost and I can`t help but feel responsible for that. But still, I expected her to lower her pride and be honest with me.
A woman builds a home...then destroys it. -- Chinese proverb.
Tried and tested. When my ex told me we needed a break, my initial reaction was sadness and fear of losing her. I even begged her to stays. Big mistake because that only pushed her away. But the next day I was pissed off and frustrated because I couldn't understand why she was destroying something good. When she contacted me she was actually surprised that I was angry with her because I never raised my voice at her before. As soon as I yelled at her, she had nothing to say, and just sat there moping with puppy dog eyes, almost like a child. Which was weird because before then she was talking down to me. I was empowered as I had "won the break up". After our last talk she tried contacting me for the next 4 months. Calling, texting me to tell me how sorry she was. I just ignored it. She lost me.
Most times when they pull away during the test , They got another dude in the situation , yes they will come back if your the Man an walk away silence an emotionless...shell will beg back ... You want her back after the cheating part ?.. walk away with your pride an Teach her a lesson.. Stay strong brothers....
Thank you Casey! I have just been hit by a pull back/jealousy test and this video reaffirmed that I have the right approach to it. I let her go, I showed her i was displeased and angry and I haven't reached out since. She has a choice to make and I will let her think about what she's caused.
When a man shows that he cares women will go to find another man. Now we speak that when he showes that he cares he will stay. I dobt understand. Help.
Men. Listen to this. It’s all true. If I watched this video 3 months ago my life would be vastly different. 3 year relationship blown up out of the blue because for the first time in the relationship I showed weakness during one of these break up tests. Then post “breakup” when I went no/absolute minimal contact I was literally told “It’s hard to believe you still want me because you haven’t perused me at all, like at all”. Mind you she broke up with me. I got weak and showed many emotions sadness, fear, etc. continually. Never be weak, always demand respect over everything. A woman can’t continually love a man she does not respect. My life is absolutely in shambles because of the future we hand planned. Listen to this because it could save your relationship and life.
I have had female bosses do this too me… fire me then rehire me 2 weeks later when I didn’t chase after the job or her
I’ve been on a journey harnessing my strength and stoicism and videos like this serve as a testament that I’ve been on the correct path. Nodded in agreement the whole way through and finished your sentences. Still work to do but it’s reaffirming to know I am on the right track. Thanks CZ for making these succinct and delving right into the hard truths. Great vid as always. Happy New Year.
Why would you want this
🤣🤣 lil girls man
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I can agree with a lot of these points, I used many of these instinctively in my last relationship. What I'm not really sure about is the point, that you should show your jealousy. I'm not sure if its good, for me it feels like not having your feelings under control. Feel what you feel for yourself, but when my ex-girlfriend wanted to make jealous when she was asking me, if I let her meet an old friend from school, I told her that if she wants to do this I'm not standing in her way. What I had back in mind was, that there will come and there were times, where im also going to see my old friends from school again. In that case I don't want her to be against that either.
Since I noticed that she just wanted to make me jealous I told her, that I'm maybe not a hundred percent fan of her idea, but I will let her do what she wants to...
End of the story was, I was meeting some friends and after I gave her my "okay" meeting this guy, she refused to meet him and she was staying home alone. Kind of these situations repeated a couple of times, always gave her my honest okay and she never, not even a single time, chose to meet someone oder go partying...
4 mins in im realizing I didn’t even make that far into the “tests” before I opt out🤦🏾♂️😂she just turned me off when she was doing the jealousy thing. I was worried it’ll come off as insecure but I just felt it’s stupid to do that. If we like each other why even mention who we could have or who wants us. Idk. It felt insecure on her end because it was like “hey I want to let you know these guys want me..” to which my thoughts goes “..ok. but who do you want??” Went no contact before I could find out.
Casey is a true hero! Saving thousand of lives of men
If you want a happy simple life spin plates and focus on you, make dating fun and transactional. If you want to make your life complicated commit to a long term relationship, but there’s always the risk you’re also wasting your time and you don’t get time back. If you do don’t care if you have sex again, marry her.
Up here, those plates are broken and out of balance
Watching Casey Zander is like getting a licence to date . I recommend every young man to get your licence first . Saving us years of traps and pitfalls .
Women regarding love each time remember me more to Charlie Chaplin on "The Pawnshop", where he destroys a client's clock while examining it in detail...
As a woman watching this, this is 100% correct. We do not do it intentionally and most of us have childhood wounding that leads us to these behaviors. Most people are insecurely attached and that is why divorce and breakups are so high unfortunately. I’m actively trying to get my triggers under control. I have add one last thing, men who use their masculine emotions to the extreme crossing the line with rage and violence, emotional or physical, that is a definite no and should never be tolerated or encouraged.
@EricaWexler Can you share your experience regarding this subconscious test and how it ended up?
@@jneanfdwsnfwe1231 it’s doesn’t end well. It drives men and people in general away. That’s why awareness is key ;)
Honestly, it’s just fucking exhausting. I’ve recently gone through all of this. I was certainly the dominant one and held frame but it was a constant challenge. Drama was very common, this emotional baiting was very common. It’s very difficult not to get pissed off. I spent a lot of time pissed off and angry at her emotional episodes. They basically do everything they can to tear you down and force you to be pissed off all the time. It’s a joke. They’re never just chilled and happy they always have an issue you’re forced to deal with. Always being shit tested and pecked at is just such a turn off. I had no choice but to end it.
You picked the wrong woman. Good thing you ended it. Sounds exhausting just reading your comment.
I wish I saw this video 45 days ago. I love that the algorithm of RUclips knows what I’ve been through. This is pure gold, 100% facts
Sounds like narcissism to me
I’ve dated quite a few I think…