@@sezja I'm sure your hair is not as bad as you think it is or as bad as other people have made you feel about it. The real problem here is the actions of the people who are teasing you over it, not your hair. You'll get much further in life with "bad" hair than a bad personality/attitude. It's okay if you don't like it right now, but I hope one day you'll be able to love your hair, whether it's because it changed or because you accepted the state it's in at the time.
I say "It's just hair, it'll grow back" whenever I feel tempted to shave my head, but then I never go through with it. Because... I guess it's NOT "just hair!" lol
I remember having a mental breakdown before school because i didnt like the way my hair looked. Edit: omfg !!!! I have never had so many likes !! Thank you. Hope yall have found a way with your hair
THIS. no one talks about this. having acne since teenage and thin fine shoulder length hair my entire life I have had people saying "do this. Do that. Try that" to " it's just acne and thin hair why waste so much time and money on it" . It's because people fail to realise that my skin and hair are part of me. Them being good makes me happy. There is nothing wrong with me investing time and energy to make me feel good about it.
@@astroedits505 I have had thin less hair since birth, nothing new. It's just after a certain age or should I say when I went out in world they started to make me feel insure. For acne i am seeing a dermatologist it's working fine but I have to be very careful and regular about my skincare.
PREACH, they're dismissing this information as if it's genuinely nothing because 3RD WORLD PROBLEMS EXIST. as if mental health isn't important at all, feeling bad for our hairs means we can't try and help out with what's happening RN.
She's right tho. I dont wear makeup, i dont do my nails, and I'm not one for dressing up often, but my hair is a must. My hair is what makes me feel pretty, and i get super panicky whenever i have to go get it trimmed. Friends of mine, on the other hand, dont care about their hair much but they do makeup and nails to feel pretty. Each person has something that makes them feel like themselves
@@seeetsweet6206 only someone deeply insicure and with a nasty personality can comment something like this, get help because otherwise you’ll spend the rest of your life isolated because nobody will want to be with you
Same that's all I actually care among other things about my appearance but still some people tell me that I give way too much importance to my hair like sorry okay my self esteem is low and good hair is what makes me feel better
I can relate to this so much. My hair was so dry and damaged, and paired with a poor diet, started breaking off...rapidly. I now have a self-made mullet, with huge chunks on each side of my hair about 5 inches shorter than the rest of my hair. The only way I can hide it is with a ponytail, but ponytails can also break off hair as well. I've been so down the past few months and trying to explain how my HAIR is making me depressed to my boyfriend was so hard for me to talk about. Us hair journey girls are all in this together
I’m sorry your boyfriend doesn’t understand :( he probably doesn’t understand because he see’s you as beautiful & he’s not just looking at your hair) . Also from your profile pic I think ur stunning girl your so pretty!!
I get that! I'm on a journey to healthy hair at the moment - cutting off the damaged bits, and trying to maintain/support the hair that is healthy/growing. But IT IS HARD! I can't do whatever hairstyles I want because my hair breaks off, or it will add to the damage. And i don't feel attractive with my hair in this transition state. I literally had dream last night that someone cut off all my damaged hair, and my hair was thinner + around mid-neck length (it used to be around my bra strap). To top it all off, I'm dating someone who is Asian and he definitely does not understand the hair struggles (he has long and beautiful hair.. and all he does is wash it and live on - no products or anything), and the challenges between healthy vs. damaged hair + it's effect on a person. I send him photos and try to explain - it's all I can really do to help him understand. @IsabelleDemarko, this video is what I feel, and so well put.
IMME I know for me, my hair falls out in .. well clumps when I’m really stressed. So basically, all school year, and then since I work, my stress levels didn’t go down. This quarantine, I finally had no school or work. And I have been massaging my scalp when I wash it, trying to drink more water between meals, sleeping 8hrs, and just doing things that make me happy. I went from losing 100s of strands while washing my hair alone, to maybe about 5. HUGE DIFFERENCE. All this to say, try to prioritize yourself (physically + mind, soul). Relax, continue with your healthy habits, and add in some head massages too (if someone else can do it for you, even better!). Good luck! ♥️
People often think they can just give strangers "life advice" that noone asked for. I'm so happy for you that you like your hair more and are starting to accept it.
Unique Corn ok but some people could take it into account. Stop being one of those “nobody asked” people lmao. And they give the advice in hopes of helping you. As in a nice act. Clearly ur just salty-
Oh god I used to live with a girl that would give me advice I never asked for. About my hair, my skin, my love life, my work etc... I told many times I was trained as a beauty therapist, especially when she was telling me to put coconut oil on my face while it tends to be oily and prone to acne...
@@evaeilea Yeah and the worst part is that those people genuinely believe that they are helping you like noone is, even if you are directly telling them that they're not. I feel your pain(
I'm being a little off topic here, but I just wanted to say that you have such a scientific mind and approach to learning about hair. I'm so impressed with your experimentation, research on why certain methods succeed and other methods fail, and your positive mindset of "Oh this didn't work, how about this?" You seem like the kind of person one day in the future who will be the lead scientist in a lab, whether for a successful hair product or something else. Keep doing what you're doing :)
5 years back: Long hair, frizzy, dry and damaged Now: Very short hair, soft, thick and healthy I've accepted my hair now and I must say I love short hair and I look better in it!!💇🏻♀️🤩🤘🏻 To all the girls out there don't obsess over the idea of perfect hair, just be you and focus on yourself and your betterment💖! Best wishes!!
I had a very long, frizzy and damaged hair too so I just got sick of it and cut them all very short and now I am so happy with healthy hair too (also I'm just 16 years old) xdddd
My hair kept falling down and I couldn’t find any way to stop it. Then I got a very short haircut and it just stopped falling 😎🥳 best day of my life really
I remember when my hair was thicker and longer than it had ever been, and it was up to my hips. One day i decided to cut it shoulder length. When i tell you that my self esteem dropped like crazy i mean it. Hair is many peoples safe blanket believe it or not.
My hair was waist length and I cut it till mid back length. I know that it isn’t a huge difference (like 5 cm cut off my hair) but it still affects me a bit...
Tbh people who say shit like; "it's just hair!" Probably never struggled with it in their entire life! I had a classmate with the most beautiful hair, so thick, so shiny, never greasy, and she only had to wash it ones a week. And she was always like, "ooh don't worry about your hair so much, it's just hair!" Well thamks a lot. It's not like you have any idea how it feels to be insecure about your own hair🙄
girl this hit too close to home for me. for ages i've been obsessed with my hair. i was always pretty badly teased for how it looked after an unfortunate curly bowl cut i had when younger. i remember being 12, having frizzy, unmanageable curly hair and being too ashamed to be around people for fear they'd think im ugly. i cant tell you how happy your hair journey has made me, its so well thought through and edited. it honestly makes me feel less alone. (ps have you tried that overnight curling bath-robe thing going around tik tok? its worked really well on my hair and i seem to have the same texture hair as you)
I wanna do the bath robe thingy so bad, I’m 2b/2c as well! Does it give you a a faux blowout look haha that’s what I want but I don’t use heat, I seen some videos and when they take it out it looks like a fresh blowout with curls, is that how it resulted for you?
I totally get how you feel. My hair is what makes me insecure the most ever since i was soooo young. I’ve cried over it several times. Every time i look in the mirror i wish i had better hair. People always tell me to just “learn to love it” and “why do you care so much?” but also have the nerve to constantly comment on how it looks and tell me to “brush it”. I was so insecure that i’ve been getting keratin straightening treatment, which cost a lot of money and doesn’t even look that good, for the past seven years and now my hair is basically dead. But on the positive side, I’m so glad i found your videos, you help me get over my dream of having straight hair because that is never gonna happen because my hair is fucking wavy, which i’m learning to love, and learn how to properly take care of it. Also seeing your hair getting prettier every video makes me feel like i’m not a lost cause. Mine is getting better too but damn it takes forever lol sorry for the rant. I just want you to know that you’re not alone, i totally get how you feel, fuck whoever saying it’s not a big deal and i’m so thankful for you! Love you a lot
Aww! I got keratin done a few months ago. Thankfully, I did it and after about 3 weeks I realised how amazing and full of life my 3c/3b hair was. The keratin kind of made me look less like me. I learned to take care and look after my hair, I hope you can to with whatever hair you have 💕💕 all my support girl 👏👌✨💕💗💖🌸
my hair is my biggest insecurity. I just hate it. It’s thin and flat and it’s been thinning out even more over the years. I’ve tried everything.. from getting my blood tested, to hair vitamins, to special treatments, shampoos and washing techniques. It makes me so sad when people say “yeah its just hair, why do you care so much”.
I've seen so many comments on your videos that I think are honestly just insensitive. I admire that you're speaking up about this and I hope people stop being so rude about it. Hope you get all the lovely hair days you deserve!
Yeah, it's sad because I had seen a lot of really rude comments of people that "think they know everything" in other videos of her, it's also worring because of her mental heath, I really hope she can do better.....
Okey, so here's my personal issue with hair and mental health: 4 years ago when I was 18 I decided to *shave my hair* off. But it wasn't a well informed or thought through decision, I just did it because I was obsessing over my own hair at that time. I would constantly cut it to check if both sides were even, constantly would snip at my fringe until it got shorter and shorter in order to "even it out" and one day I just decided that enough was enough, so I shaved it off and my parents were devistated. I remindend my mom of her mom that she lost due to cancer and I realised that I should never have done it. People at school were giving me looks and even my teachers were talking about me behind my back - like seriously?! My self esteem had never been high anyway but from that point onward it just went downhill. Ever since then I've been trying to grow my pixie out, all I've ever dreamt of was long flowy and wavy hair with a nice center parting - but I'm literally the furthest from it. I'm about to turn 23, freaking 23, and I *still* struggle with weird hair obssessions (OCD, maybe) I can just never NOT stare at other peoples cool hairdo's and worry about my own. After years I've finally put down the scissors, I no longer have any urge to hack away at my hair in distress and since then it's been growing, slowly but surely and I am the happiest I've ever been!!!! :) I didn't even remember what it felt like to put my hair up into a ponytil and it's seriously such a nice thing to do, I love playing around with different hairstyles at my bob lenght, though I'm still struggling with the short weird bangs, but we're getting there. Soon this will all be over and I can hopefully look back at this valuable lesson I learned - for me it is absolutely not "just" hair and it never will be. Thank you sooo so much for your video! I finally feel heard and understood :) Sending you *sooo much love* from Germany
@no war but class war I honestly never considered that as an option because I want to keep my scalp healthy:) Also ... I don't really have any access to them:/ What I would consider though are extensions - god what I would do to have some nicely blended long and beautiful extensions, even if just for a day! It would really spark my confidence
hair is so deeply connected to so many cultures and honestly its simply a disservice to boil it down to just being "just hair", this is a great video and. think its great that she has shown how much her hair has affected her.
I can still remember how my frizzy hair always makes me so down and ugly, coz I believe good hair day is good day face and good day as a human being. I am so thankful my hair is no longer frizzy anymore. My confidence went from 5 to 100 💯The look of your hair also makes you look good tbh, I totally get u babe
I had the same problem. For a few years, I could not get rid of it. For me it was about trying different hair shampoos till my friend recommended me smt that worked, but also adding products like conditioners/volumizing mousses/hair sprays that helped me tame them. It is a journey, bcs not everyone has the same hair type and it takes time. I’m 20 now and my hair is lot better than it was before, the frizz botters me a little if any. Do your research, there is also shampoos for frizzy hair (even tho they are often pricy). Or ask your mom/friends for help. That’s how it started for me :) Hope this helped guys, I know what you’re going through. Good luck!
Now that I know I'm not the only one, Here's my story: I always had long luscious pin straight hair up until I was 12 it was that way then I moved to a new school, in a different city the water there caused my hair to fall out a lot. Things were manageable till then but then the girls in my class and even the teachers began asking me why I straighten my hair, that my hair looked faux, it made my face look chubby and so on. All this made me want to fit in and I began curling my hair, I started using heat on my hair while it was still wet most of the times without a heat protectent and due to high school my sleep cycle was horrible, I hardly slept for 5 hours, wouldn't eat proper meals and this went on till the beginning of junior year. It was then that I realised my hair was all fried out, dry, oily scalp, dandruff, I had a constant urge to itch my hair, dull and I had premature greying. Cut to senior year I now take biotin supplements, sleep for 7 hours, drink 3L of water, oil my hair regularly and wash it twice a week, Stopped using shampoo and conditioner(using shika-kai, which is a natural shampoo it contains soap nut in it) , and have completed stopped using heat. It's a lot healthier now. If you're reading this and deal with the same issues, trust me it's gets better, a little care, faith and oiling will undo it. It will take time, but it's worth it.
My hair wasn't really feeling me during high school. I washed it everyday sometimes twice a day and always used heat. Bleached my hair every six weeks. No wonder it was dry, frizzy and oily 🤦
I worked as a hairdresser for four years, and whenever a client would feel self conscious or apologise for being “picky” (their words, not mine!) about their hair, I’d feel awful. You have to wear your hair all the time. You don’t get to take it off and choose a different head of hair, the way you would with an outfit or with make up. If something is important to you, no matter what it is, it is important!
I started the curly girl method a few weeks ago and love my day one waves, is okay with them on the second but on the third they're pretty much gone and my hair looks weird so I put it up. I'm going to try flaxseed gel soon - hopefully it will make them more defined and last longer. Hair is really important, it's a way to express yourself, feel confident and can have religious and cultural meaning, saying hair is just hair is technically true but to many it's more than just that
Hey you should try spraying your hair with water and then scrunching it to get those waves back on the third day it's a good way to freshen them up without showering
Wavy hair is always a challenge. For today i am a YEAR on CGM, but yet I do not fully understand how to manage my hair. And that is okay, but some times very frustrating. I think the most important for waves is styling and conditioning. And if you have long hair you need to separate it on sections when washing upside down , because when you stand up it is a total mess.
Honestly keep going I know they always say that but do it I started this over lockdown I had so much heat damage I’ve cut it myself twice I’ve tried different techniques almost every wash day. I started this knowing I had natural waves/curls somewhere I was 2a and now I’m 2b/c. Keep going
Flaxseed gel is amazing. It pretty much has zero hold, but is perfect for conditioning the hair and really minimizing frizz. I pair it with hair mousse and it works perfectly.
I have wavy hair as well and go through the same problem. Try adding water mixed with a little bit of leave in conditioner. Put it in a spray bottle and get your hair damp and scrunch. This helps me quite a bit. You can also just use water and add a tiny bit of gel to scrunch.
Thank you so much for talking about this, for the past 2 years I’ve been struggling with my damaged frizzy hair that won’t curl properly bc of the state of it, and it gets me down so damn much and nobody understands, I’ve heard countless times “it’s just hair” “why do you care so much” from my family and even my boyfriend. I genuinely believe that my hair is contributing to my depressed state of mind right now
i have waist length hair and my parents won’t allow me to cut it. also, it’s mentally straining when i look at it in the mirror and it’s so frizzy and knotty 😭 edit: thank you for all of the support! idk why my parents won’t let me cut my hair, something to do with asian tradition 😭. but i’ll definitely try braiding it and giving it more love!
try learning new types of braids/braid-combinations so you can feel happy and express yourself with your hair even if you can't cut it. Or maybe try weird hairstyles or saying you will cut it yourself so your parents will realize that your hair will look better if they let you get a haircut 💕💖
I’d volunteer to braid it if I could, I love doing people’s hair for them TwT But I feel like you should be able to control how you choose to style and wear your hair. I’m so sorry
How old are you if I might ask? Do you think your parents would smack you if you just cut it off? It's your hair, your body, you can do with it whatever you like - as long as you're not inflicting damage or injury to yourself. If the worst that's gonna happen is they will be upset: I'd say grab some scissors and cut them off ;)
I've always hated my hair, and I didn't even realise how much I still appreciated some if it, until it started falling out in clumps (stress, hormones, methotrexate for rheumatoid arthritis) and I was so stressed that I developed trichitillomania and started pulling out my alteady thinning hair. It's been so upsetting, my hair is sooooo thin now :( thank u for talking bout it)
Ahh another person with trich! Honestly, the only thing that has helped me was seeing a therapist and psychiatrist for counseling and medication. Trich is compulsive behaviour so taking meds for OCD helps a bunch !!
@@annat2553 I'm really nervous to try it again as I did once before and it broke me out like crazy:'( I am on spiralactin though which I think is helping? It's hard to say what is trich vs methotrexate vs malnutrition from last year (I have gastroparesis so I went thru a period of time of not being able to eat) vs prolonged stress. But maybe I will try it again!
@@sophroniel that for sure is a side effect of the biotin, just take a lower dose or take one tab every 3/4 days? it's crazy I had a similar combination of health issues to you, the only thing that really helped me was changing immunosuppressants & gaining weight to a "normal" weight. It's so so difficult and I seriously feel for ya, because i've been through it. Hang in there! x
I feel seen for the first time because of this video. My hair frustrates me so badly because of both physical problems and aesthetic issues. I feel stupid complaining about it but this was genuinely so good to hear ❤️
for every person who judges you (be it online of in real life), there will be 5 people who support you here :) I have almost waist-long hair and very few good hair days, but terrible fears whenever my mum forces me to go to the hairdresser because it's obvious they have no idea how to handle very long hair anymore :P (not to shade the hairdressers, they do their best)
Coming across your videos was a God-send. I never have seen anyone around me or in the youtube community share my hair type or struggles as much as you. The well-researched content (which I cannot appreciate and love enough) and the ambition you have to love your hair and find something that works for you is exactly what I strive to see for both of us. And I'm glad I have found you when I did, I was always told the same "just accept it or be glad you have it, etc etc.", I was on the end of whatever little satisfaction I had with my hair. I'm glad to take this journey with you! Thank you.
After years of not having the hair I wanted and getting bad cuts (or at least not what I expected) and waiting for my hair to grow just for it to happen again and waiting AGAIN, I discovered that I'm attached to my hair: one of my points of confidence is my face, and seeing how the way my hair framed my face affected completely how it looked, I understood why it took a toll on my self steem. Now I'm so relieved to be conscious enough to treat it with the importance it has in my life. And I'm not ashamed to be called vain, because I know I deserve to feel beautiful. Great video Isabella, lots of love
Dan from "100% hotter" said that you can go out looking like a homeless, everyone will see that you take good care of yourself, as long as your hair looks good. And honestly, i think that hair is gravely underappreciated
It's crazy how invested in your hair story i have gotten! You are so well spoken and are creating amazing content!! I love how much you're taking control of your hair and learning so much about it and just embracing it! Also your hair in this video looks CRAZY good!!
This is how a feel about my skin. I’ve had cystic acne foe the past 6 years and it truly impacts my self esteem. But if you complain about it you hear “oh everyone gets acne, its nbd”. I think we should be more aware and respectful about how skin and hair can impact mental health.
Thank you so much for making this video.I struggle a lot with my hair fall and for a while now I thought that I was silly. My mum didn’t understand how much I was depressed by my hair. But I am trying to lighten up. Other people should know not to judge other people when they don’t even know the real story. I’m still trying to make my hair how I like it. I am really happy that I am not alone And that you have talked to us about this.
I can totally relate with that , i am also insecure about my hair and how they look , I can't even talk about it with anyone because I know their replies would be " oh ! It's just hair , don't worry about it!", These are the same people who have naturally beautiful hair but I don't. 😔
I can't describe in words how much I love this video. You're so articulate and I love how you talk so confidently like you know what you're talking about. Well got yourself a new subscriber!
I have had hairloss since I was 12 and I can really vouch for all of this because your teenage years are already so hard, and you already don't feel comfortable in your own body. I hated going out, I hated people seeing me, I would rarely leave my bedroom if I had the choice. I have depression and while my hair is not why i have depression, it definitely played a crucial role. I only realised how much of a role it played when my therapist explained that over my teenage years, I let my hair control my body image, so as the years went on and the thinner it got, the more i hated how i looked and consequently myself. I now also have body dysmorphia so when people tell me "it's just hair", it makes me feel more isolated than I usually do. Your hair matters and you deserve to feel pretty and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Girl, your videos are just getting better. A true talent and such a ray of sunshine and inspiration for us all! I totally agree with all you say here! I have started my hair journey within the past year and started to care for it/get to know it and judge it/complain about it less. Thanks again! Always love your content, style, humour and grace. xxx
I just wanted to say, THANK YOU. I'm very sensitive about how my hair looks, even now. I have incredibly thin hair, with several cowlicks... I have never been happy with the way it looks, somehow boring, whatever I try to make it look otherwise. I'm subscribed to your channel since the first video you did about your journey. Hair is so much more important than most of people may think ! Your hair looks gorgeous btw, xx from France. 💛
I honestly cannot thank you enough for this video. This feeling of not being the only one who cares way too much about their hair to the point that you can feel destroyed or restless if your hair doesn't look right, helps me so so much. I feel a little better about my hair after watching this :)
Would be interesting to see a study on this!! Like statistics on how ppl feel Abt their hair. I've cried over my hair and didn't want to go outside because of it. (Didn't get the haircut I wanted haircut due to language barrier😅) I definitely feel like the effect is a two way street, health affects hair and hair effects health. Thank you for making this video and I'm waiting to hear more from you on this subject.🙏
I hate it when people try to tell me that. It’s like they’re trying to tell me how to feel. Hair is super important to my identity and self expression. 😔
this information 100% applies to you too isabella, you are undoubtedly beautiful with or without hair and it's amazing that you're speaking about this when no one ever acknowledges how having 'bad' hair can really impact your self-esteem. i hope as time goes on you learn to love your hair because it looks absolutely gorgeous and the curls look amazing. your hair is normal and you will truly accept it one day
I get this so much. I've always had curly hair, but it was easy to deal with until I turned 13, and then it got frizzier and bigger, and suddenly it was just a huge unmanageable mess. "Treatments" didn't help, so I didn't get why my hair was technically healthy and looking this bad. I didn't feel like another "curly girl", I just felt like a mess. I tried different things, including the curly girl method, and it helped but I still didn't feel like I had control over it. So I just got frustrated looking at tutorials thinking they would never work for me. Then during quarantine I decided to give it another go, and found the Manes by Mell youtube channel. I swear this isn't and ad lol but that channel changed my life. Knowing how to properly apply product on wet hair, how to manually define the curls, how to protect them, etc. It's still a work in progress, but now I don't feel so completely lost anymore. It's hard to get structured advice on how to care for your hair. A lot of what's online is so opinion and personal experience based, and there's a lot of "this habit is why your hair looks bad and you don't even realise it", or "try this thing and all will be fixed". Turns out solutions are never simple. It takes hard work and you have to believe it's worth it, even though people may say it's stupid to care so much. (btw she did a video recently about how to style wavy hair, I'm curious whether it would help you too!)
Your videos have done so much for me. My hair was always a little poofy but as I’ve aged it’s changed texture and turned more wavy and I didn’t know what to do. I realize I have been obsessing over my hair, trying different products and researching day and night just to try and feel happy with myself. To hear someone else going through the same thing, especially when people minimize and say “it’s just hair!” Helps so much
Yesssss, when my hair is dry, frizzy and undefined, I have a breakdown. It makes me so upset so I have a pretty standard routine and I spend a lot of time doing it. My stepsister was confused as to why I do my hair every week...I love my hair.
Thankyou for this video, I work in a barber shop and It’s very true about men too, women aren’t the only ones who care about their hair. I think you’re putting out a really great message out there that more people should listen to
I always thought that your problems should not be made less of just because there are worst things happening to others. What’s important to you and what’s affecting your mental health is a valid concern and a real issue that should be taken care of. Sending all my support ❤️
Sometimes I want to shave my head even though everyone else loves it cause is straight, long and silky meanwhile I want to cut it so that it was drop as much.
Omg me too lol Im like imagining the feeling of a shaved head but I just cannot do it and my parents wont let me but Im happy when I got a boy cut but now I feel like growing it again
@@leeshlee8878 I would recommend shaving it now and then growing it out again :) it's a great opportunity when it's short at the moment anyway. It feels amazinggg I swear. And in my opinion it looks good on everyone. Even tho your parents might not be happy at first, they'll defenitely get used to it 🙂
*I just posted my three month Buzzcut update video... and I couldn't be happier!* Before, I was always worried about the size of my forehead and my big ears, dying my hair constantly, but especially others opinions. It took a big change for me to realise you cannot put all your happiness on one "little" thing or you will never be satisfied with your life. Love the video (a very honest perspective)
Hair definitely has an effect to mental health. If my hair looks bad my mood drops quick, everything that comes out of my mind is just negative, and i feel like the ugliest person ever
I was so grateful for your channel because you were on of the first RUclipsrs I saw discussing hair issues and the impact on their mental health. My hair is very curly, yet very thin so styling it like other curly haired folk has always been a challenge. Thankfully I am in a better place now, but watching your videos has really helped me to process my own feelings about my hair 🖤
made me so upset seeing all those comments shitting on you for being unhappy with your hair, like what makes this different from any other insecurity? hair is literally a huge part of our image, its right next to our faces.
You're back!!! I can't believe how much your hair has grown, it looks much healthier and thicker already compared to when you had it waist length! Embrace the progress you've made and on those bad days, have a good cry and then carry on the good work! Xx
Honestly I love that you made this video because I’m tired of people dismissing others and there feelings just because they disagree or feel differently about it
I feel that's the whole point of YT. I won't discuss my hair struggles with family, friends or coworkers for the reasons you mentioned or for not wanting to bore them to death. but I can go to YT to see if someone is having the same issues and what they are doing about it. If hair is not your struggle, then great, skip the video 🤷🏾♀️
I am SO happy you made this video. It's so important to talk about. I've been struggling with my hair for years and I obsess over it. Its part of my identity. But last year my partner started experiencing hair loss as was diagnosed with alopecia. It's been affecting him so negatively and he has become so self conscience about it. I feel so bad and wish I could help him, especially when people ask him about it as if they find it strange. I wish people would just leave other people's hair alone, as it isn't part of their life, and they don't know other people's struggles. Hair is attached to us, and therefore affects us in both positive and negative ways.
You'd be an excellent documentarian. That's basically what you're doing here! The quality of your videos (between your research, presentation cadence, and editing/motion graphics) is truly professional. Love your channel!
Literally every single thing in the world can have an affect on someone’s mental health. Hair is just hair when you have healthy hair and maybe you got a bad hair cut or color but no one discredits someone suffering from hair loss or religious ties to hair. Not to be dry but western culture is dramatic as eff. I personally felt some type of way about my “big chop” to the point where I didn’t take pictures... but then i was like... wow G, there are legit worst things in the world than short curly hair. Edit: people have talked about a reason why not to be happy about hair. Black women. Who for centuries were taught to believe that coils were ugly and straight hair was beautiful but no one listened to them when they wanted to address that problem 10 years ago.
i always had really frizzy hair and my friends teased me about it, that's why i always get my hair straightened. and now that my old hair is coming back, everyone's teasing me about it again. i just really hate my hair :'(( i dont know what to do with it anymore...i always try to hide my hair by putting it in a ponytale or other hairstyles. but i just had enough of it...its really annoying and i get so frustrated because of it. i dont know what to do with my hair :'((
Im very sorry to hear that you feel very upset about your hair. I myself cannot relate to your experience though I can say that my sister, whom had very curly hair always striaghtened it to the point where it was damaged and frizzy. She had struggled with her hair for awhile and was pretty upset. Though she eventually accepted her frizzy hair, stopped damaging it with heat and repaired her hair into thick beautiful curls :). If I may recommend, I wish you luck in your road to accepting and healing your beautiful hair. ❤❤❤
I have navel length 2C hair that became really damaged when I went through a period of major depression, it has been incredibly hard to restore to health ever since and has been a huge blow to my self esteem. Thanks for talking about this.
My hair is very similar to yours and the ONLY way I can keep it long, shiny and healthy is to have Brasil Cacau keratin treatment done every 6 months. I’ve been doing it for six years now and not to brag but everyone is crazy about my hair. People are stopping me on the street to ask me what kind of conditioner/mask do I use. I have finally gained self confidence :) It changed my life. (A lot of salon is using some other type of keratin which can damage the hair. The original Brazilian one is the best!)
Florassy I’m aware that it CAN damage hair, I’m a bioengineer. But people with bleached hair (like me) can definitely benefit from keratin treatments as the cysteine in it can (semi-)permanently repair broken bonds in our hair. Btw I had a break from it for more than 1,5 years and my hair was still nice and shiny, but got back to wavy after 7 or 8 months. It does work for some people, however I agree that not for everyone.
Girl I really enjoy hearing all the things that you want to expose, not only talking about them but giving valid arguments🥰 I don’t know you but I love this kind of people Greetings from Colombia ❤️
Edit: my anxiety made me chop off 10 inches of my hair. I look fine and I love my hair more than anything in me,46 inches long hair ! But my too much hair fall,tangled hair, thin ends, no hair volume, and thin braid(my hair is quite thick but hair fall made it thin) makes me so anxious and affects my mental health too. No matter how calm I be, take good food use remedies it won't stop.
Due to pandemic,we can't go out and derma doctors are not going hospitals. I'm not iron deficient,i eat plenty of vit c,b complex, and protein food. Maybe my anagen phase is very short.
Wow thank you for taking the time to make this informative video, I always struggled with my hair and it has always brought my self-confidence down. Just hearing you talk about having the same issues helps me feel less alone and more beautiful, I am still on the journey to loving and accepting my hair and you inspire me, thank you again such and inspiration!
I started using less damaging products for my hair in an attempt to keep it healthier. I absolutely hate how my hair looks some days and it can really bring me down. and other days it can make my mood 200% better. that said I'm cutting off like a good 10cm off next month because the ends just tangle 3 seconds after I run my brush through them because they're so damaged. I have no idea how it'll look, and I'm a little scared, but it's what I need to do.
I had almost waist length hair at the start of the year which I loved and was very happy with. After a disastrous bleach fail that left me unable to brush through my hair... I cut it all off. Phrases like 'it's just hair' or people telling me it'll grow back, even if it is true, don't really help and have made me feel like I'm not allowed to feel frustrated and sad about my current hair because 'it's just hair'. I know the way things are now aren't permanent but it's still difficult to deal with, I don't feel comfortable or confident with this hair no matter how hard I try. Thank you for making this video, you explained so well all the different emotions and view points that go along with this topic
I think my hair has ruined my mental health too! My hair has this nasty wavy curl to it, where the top layer of hair is super frizzy and the ends are dry and the roots are oily. There was this day I tried doing curls in my hair but because my hair was SO GOOD at keeping its discusting shape it was impossible to curl it after I straightened it. I tried burning the ends of my hair off by keeping the straightener there for a minute and for some reason they didn't burn and my hair was intact and that made me even more furious. My parents didn't even help with the issue which makes this a whole lot worse. They just sat there calling me mental and saying I deserved being in a mental asylum.
You should consider going to psychologist and I really do mean this. Obsessing that much over hair (while we all do it to a degree) and ruining your mental health over it, means you might need help. And instead of ruining it with a straightener and burning it almost off, you should consider a Keratin straightening treatment. It's not healthy for your hair, but it can only be better than straightening it every single day or losing your sanity over it. Also make sure you have no Zinc or iron deficiency, and take care of it with good products (no sulphates), hydrating masks and maybe even try the CGM. Just see what works for you...
Sarah A Thanks, I have been fixing it with CGM over quarantine it looks much nicer now! I have also gotten rid of the urge to straighten it too. It’s still not the way I want it exactly, but I think it’s much better than it was before
I feel like hair is what makes some people feel beautiful and need to be taken care of cause its so important
And just because you don't feel like hair is meaningful, it doesn't mean that for someone else it has to be the same...
alexandrina3622 o okay I don’t care much for my hair :3 it’s just tied up that’s all
But I do care for my hair that I will wash it :3
@@MEXICQ same
@@sezja I'm sure your hair is not as bad as you think it is or as bad as other people have made you feel about it. The real problem here is the actions of the people who are teasing you over it, not your hair.
You'll get much further in life with "bad" hair than a bad personality/attitude.
It's okay if you don't like it right now, but I hope one day you'll be able to love your hair, whether it's because it changed or because you accepted the state it's in at the time.
Sezja Shrestha Your hair is so cute !!! You’re gorgeous too, keep your head up
Subscribed :)
I think we should stop dismissing other people's feelings and struggles in general
I agree, especially when it can take a toll on their mental health.
@@hmmmm635 This is it. This is the main issue. I feel like my struggles are not valid because they're small.
@@hmmmm635 exactly struggles are struggles don't dismiss someone because their struggle might be less than other struggles
Some people are so used to comparing each others problems that the problem that seems smaller at first look just gets overlooked so easily.
I've always hated the term "it's just hair"... No it's not to me!
i say that to myself sometimes when i mess up my hair real bad
I say "It's just hair, it'll grow back" whenever I feel tempted to shave my head, but then I never go through with it. Because... I guess it's NOT "just hair!" lol
Ghadah Alotibi Me too
physically its just hair
socially its not just hair
its just hair
It's just hair, it grows back. YES, BUT IT TAKES MONTHS AND YEARS TO GROW BACK. Nobody realizes that.
Seriously 😭😭😭
Exactly!!! I cut my hair to the bottom of my neck about 4 years ago and my hair is still short right below my shoulders 😭
True!!! Especially if it just grows slow natually!!
my hair takes forever to grow back, I want clip in extensions 😩🤣
It doesn't always grow back...
I remember having a mental breakdown before school because i didnt like the way my hair looked.
Edit: omfg !!!! I have never had so many likes !! Thank you.
Hope yall have found a way with your hair
Actually same
Same !!!
Same, I threw my hairbrush at the wall, started ripping my hair out and crying and screaming- holy moly.
Sameee and my mom would get mad at me 😭
I relate too much
THIS.
no one talks about this. having acne since teenage and thin fine shoulder length hair my entire life I have had people saying "do this. Do that. Try that" to " it's just acne and thin hair why waste so much time and money on it" . It's because people fail to realise that my skin and hair are part of me. Them being good makes me happy. There is nothing wrong with me investing time and energy to make me feel good about it.
RIGHT
Yeah!
You should consult your doctor. These are the symptoms of pcos. Sometimes it's all because of our internal health
@@astroedits505 I have had thin less hair since birth, nothing new. It's just after a certain age or should I say when I went out in world they started to make me feel insure. For acne i am seeing a dermatologist it's working fine but I have to be very careful and regular about my skincare.
Lol I felt the acne part, people used to randomly recommend me face washes and skincare products during conversation.
*Just because people talk about their hair quality/appearance* DOES NOT MEAN THEY DO NOT FOCUS ON WORLD ISSUES AS WELL. we can multitask💁🤦
PREACH, they're dismissing this information as if it's genuinely nothing because 3RD WORLD PROBLEMS EXIST. as if mental health isn't important at all, feeling bad for our hairs means we can't try and help out with what's happening RN.
*Exactly*
She's right tho. I dont wear makeup, i dont do my nails, and I'm not one for dressing up often, but my hair is a must. My hair is what makes me feel pretty, and i get super panicky whenever i have to go get it trimmed.
Friends of mine, on the other hand, dont care about their hair much but they do makeup and nails to feel pretty. Each person has something that makes them feel like themselves
yes exactly
Your hair makes you feel pretty because your face is ugly. It’s the only thing you can get attention on.
@@seeetsweet6206 that is so mean and petty it's ridiculous! your attitude and comment are the most ugly thing here
@@seeetsweet6206 only someone deeply insicure and with a nasty personality can comment something like this, get help because otherwise you’ll spend the rest of your life isolated because nobody will want to be with you
Same that's all I actually care among other things about my appearance but still some people tell me that I give way too much importance to my hair like sorry okay my self esteem is low and good hair is what makes me feel better
I can relate to this so much. My hair was so dry and damaged, and paired with a poor diet, started breaking off...rapidly. I now have a self-made mullet, with huge chunks on each side of my hair about 5 inches shorter than the rest of my hair. The only way I can hide it is with a ponytail, but ponytails can also break off hair as well. I've been so down the past few months and trying to explain how my HAIR is making me depressed to my boyfriend was so hard for me to talk about. Us hair journey girls are all in this together
Use subliminals!!!
I’m sorry your boyfriend doesn’t understand :( he probably doesn’t understand because he see’s you as beautiful & he’s not just looking at your hair) . Also from your profile pic I think ur stunning girl your so pretty!!
I get that! I'm on a journey to healthy hair at the moment - cutting off the damaged bits, and trying to maintain/support the hair that is healthy/growing. But IT IS HARD! I can't do whatever hairstyles I want because my hair breaks off, or it will add to the damage. And i don't feel attractive with my hair in this transition state.
I literally had dream last night that someone cut off all my damaged hair, and my hair was thinner + around mid-neck length (it used to be around my bra strap).
To top it all off, I'm dating someone who is Asian and he definitely does not understand the hair struggles (he has long and beautiful hair.. and all he does is wash it and live on - no products or anything), and the challenges between healthy vs. damaged hair + it's effect on a person.
I send him photos and try to explain - it's all I can really do to help him understand.
@IsabelleDemarko, this video is what I feel, and so well put.
So relatable, I diagnosed with alopecia last year. it started to thin and fall like crazy since. Even now I have anxiety over it :(
IMME I know for me, my hair falls out in .. well clumps when I’m really stressed. So basically, all school year, and then since I work, my stress levels didn’t go down. This quarantine, I finally had no school or work. And I have been massaging my scalp when I wash it, trying to drink more water between meals, sleeping 8hrs, and just doing things that make me happy. I went from losing 100s of strands while washing my hair alone, to maybe about 5. HUGE DIFFERENCE. All this to say, try to prioritize yourself (physically + mind, soul). Relax, continue with your healthy habits, and add in some head massages too (if someone else can do it for you, even better!). Good luck! ♥️
People often think they can just give strangers "life advice" that noone asked for. I'm so happy for you that you like your hair more and are starting to accept it.
Unique Corn ok but some people could take it into account. Stop being one of those “nobody asked” people lmao. And they give the advice in hopes of helping you. As in a nice act. Clearly ur just salty-
@@cookinlikeachefima5starmic747 exactly, i'm CLEARLY just salty :)
The only thing we should give people unasked is empathy
Oh god I used to live with a girl that would give me advice I never asked for. About my hair, my skin, my love life, my work etc... I told many times I was trained as a beauty therapist, especially when she was telling me to put coconut oil on my face while it tends to be oily and prone to acne...
@@evaeilea Yeah and the worst part is that those people genuinely believe that they are helping you like noone is, even if you are directly telling them that they're not. I feel your pain(
I'm being a little off topic here, but I just wanted to say that you have such a scientific mind and approach to learning about hair. I'm so impressed with your experimentation, research on why certain methods succeed and other methods fail, and your positive mindset of "Oh this didn't work, how about this?" You seem like the kind of person one day in the future who will be the lead scientist in a lab, whether for a successful hair product or something else. Keep doing what you're doing :)
bless you thank you. i was always terrible at science, only scraped by with a pass haha. so that's a huge compliment x
Your hair looks so much better than when you started you’ve really made progress.👏👏👏👏👏
5 years back:
Long hair, frizzy, dry and damaged
Now:
Very short hair, soft, thick and healthy
I've accepted my hair now and I must say I love short hair and I look better in it!!💇🏻♀️🤩🤘🏻
To all the girls out there don't obsess over the idea of perfect hair, just be you and focus on yourself and your betterment💖! Best wishes!!
I had a very long, frizzy and damaged hair too so I just got sick of it and cut them all very short and now I am so happy with healthy hair too (also I'm just 16 years old) xdddd
@@airigabrielle Yayy!! Gurl I just turned 17 a week ago!! I cut my hair when I was 16!!🙌😍💖
Airi Gabrielle ME
My hair kept falling down and I couldn’t find any way to stop it. Then I got a very short haircut and it just stopped falling 😎🥳 best day of my life really
@@АлияХамидуллина-ы3ц I can totally relate duh!!😆
I remember when my hair was thicker and longer than it had ever been, and it was up to my hips. One day i decided to cut it shoulder length. When i tell you that my self esteem dropped like crazy i mean it. Hair is many peoples safe blanket believe it or not.
My hair was waist length and I cut it till mid back length. I know that it isn’t a huge difference (like 5 cm cut off my hair) but it still affects me a bit...
Tbh people who say shit like; "it's just hair!" Probably never struggled with it in their entire life! I had a classmate with the most beautiful hair, so thick, so shiny, never greasy, and she only had to wash it ones a week. And she was always like, "ooh don't worry about your hair so much, it's just hair!"
Well thamks a lot. It's not like you have any idea how it feels to be insecure about your own hair🙄
I wrote a whole essay on the documentary “good hair” and my thesis was literally why it’s not “just hair”!!!!
girl this hit too close to home for me.
for ages i've been obsessed with my hair. i was always pretty badly teased for how it looked after an unfortunate curly bowl cut i had when younger. i remember being 12, having frizzy, unmanageable curly hair and being too ashamed to be around people for fear they'd think im ugly. i cant tell you how happy your hair journey has made me, its so well thought through and edited. it honestly makes me feel less alone.
(ps have you tried that overnight curling bath-robe thing going around tik tok? its worked really well on my hair and i seem to have the same texture hair as you)
i have type 2b/2c hair and i was wondering what that overnight curling bath-robe is and how you do it?
She has tried the bathrobe belt curls before, I think she showed the results in one of her CGM updates. 💜
I wanna do the bath robe thingy so bad, I’m 2b/2c as well! Does it give you a a faux blowout look haha that’s what I want but I don’t use heat, I seen some videos and when they take it out it looks like a fresh blowout with curls, is that how it resulted for you?
Alissia Serratore search your robe curls on RUclips! I’m gonna try it out for the first time as well, the results are supposed to be very pretty lol
i'm so glad you can find some comfort in my videos! yes I did try it, it didn't look good x
I totally get how you feel. My hair is what makes me insecure the most ever since i was soooo young. I’ve cried over it several times. Every time i look in the mirror i wish i had better hair. People always tell me to just “learn to love it” and “why do you care so much?” but also have the nerve to constantly comment on how it looks and tell me to “brush it”. I was so insecure that i’ve been getting keratin straightening treatment, which cost a lot of money and doesn’t even look that good, for the past seven years and now my hair is basically dead. But on the positive side, I’m so glad i found your videos, you help me get over my dream of having straight hair because that is never gonna happen because my hair is fucking wavy, which i’m learning to love, and learn how to properly take care of it. Also seeing your hair getting prettier every video makes me feel like i’m not a lost cause. Mine is getting better too but damn it takes forever lol sorry for the rant. I just want you to know that you’re not alone, i totally get how you feel, fuck whoever saying it’s not a big deal and i’m so thankful for you! Love you a lot
Aww! I got keratin done a few months ago. Thankfully, I did it and after about 3 weeks I realised how amazing and full of life my 3c/3b hair was. The keratin kind of made me look less like me. I learned to take care and look after my hair, I hope you can to with whatever hair you have 💕💕 all my support girl 👏👌✨💕💗💖🌸
_CuteNoodles_ thank you so much💗
thank you that means a lot x
im happy to find the same ppl having the same journey as i am
Wavy and curly hair might be a handful but is so beautiful ❤️ I totally miss my wavy hair
my hair is my biggest insecurity. I just hate it. It’s thin and flat and it’s been thinning out even more over the years. I’ve tried everything.. from getting my blood tested, to hair vitamins, to special treatments, shampoos and washing techniques. It makes me so sad when people say “yeah its just hair, why do you care so much”.
i hear you
You could try viviscal? Look it up it’s got great reviews you might be interested :) xx
I have the same problem. Thin, flat, and dry hair. Nothing is working. ☹️
I love how well spoken she is
I've seen so many comments on your videos that I think are honestly just insensitive. I admire that you're speaking up about this and I hope people stop being so rude about it. Hope you get all the lovely hair days you deserve!
Yeah, it's sad because I had seen a lot of really rude comments of people that "think they know everything" in other videos of her, it's also worring because of her mental heath, I really hope she can do better.....
Just want to say I love your freckles! They're adorable! You're adorable... Okay, now I will unpause and continue watching...
thank you! i applied them with fake tan x
im gonna show this to my whole freaking family. i would show the whole world if i could.
Okey, so here's my personal issue with hair and mental health:
4 years ago when I was 18 I decided to *shave my hair* off. But it wasn't a well informed or thought through decision, I just did it because I was obsessing over my own hair at that time.
I would constantly cut it to check if both sides were even, constantly would snip at my fringe until it got shorter and shorter in order to "even it out" and one day I just decided that enough was enough, so I shaved it off and my parents were devistated. I remindend my mom of her mom that she lost due to cancer and I realised that I should never have done it.
People at school were giving me looks and even my teachers were talking about me behind my back - like seriously?! My self esteem had never been high anyway but from that point onward it just went downhill.
Ever since then I've been trying to grow my pixie out, all I've ever dreamt of was long flowy and wavy hair with a nice center parting - but I'm literally the furthest from it. I'm about to turn 23, freaking 23, and I *still* struggle with weird hair obssessions (OCD, maybe) I can just never NOT stare at other peoples cool hairdo's and worry about my own. After years I've finally put down the scissors, I no longer have any urge to hack away at my hair in distress and since then it's been growing, slowly but surely and I am the happiest I've ever been!!!! :)
I didn't even remember what it felt like to put my hair up into a ponytil and it's seriously such a nice thing to do, I love playing around with different hairstyles at my bob lenght, though I'm still struggling with the short weird bangs, but we're getting there.
Soon this will all be over and I can hopefully look back at this valuable lesson I learned - for me it is absolutely not "just" hair and it never will be.
Thank you sooo so much for your video! I finally feel heard and understood :)
Sending you *sooo much love* from Germany
That amazing 💕💕👏👏 proud !
i feel the same! i became obsessed and it's not good, i do believe it can become an ODC. but I'm slowly getting better. I'm glad your hair grew out! x
@@IsabellaDemarko That's so lovely, thank you for your reply! :)
I wish you the best of luck in all regards
@no war but class war I honestly never considered that as an option because I want to keep my scalp healthy:) Also ... I don't really have any access to them:/ What I would consider though are extensions - god what I would do to have some nicely blended long and beautiful extensions, even if just for a day! It would really spark my confidence
Wait....teachers..were talking behind your back...?
Honestly im so invested in this hair journey, keep it going!
hair is so deeply connected to so many cultures and honestly its simply a disservice to boil it down to just being "just hair", this is a great video and. think its great that she has shown how much her hair has affected her.
I can still remember how my frizzy hair always makes me so down and ugly, coz I believe good hair day is good day face and good day as a human being. I am so thankful my hair is no longer frizzy anymore. My confidence went from 5 to 100 💯The look of your hair also makes you look good tbh, I totally get u babe
What did you do to stop your hair from being frizzy 😢
@@diyanahs7694 YEAAA SAME QUESTION THO
J C what did u do??
I had the same problem. For a few years, I could not get rid of it. For me it was about trying different hair shampoos till my friend recommended me smt that worked, but also adding products like conditioners/volumizing mousses/hair sprays that helped me tame them. It is a journey, bcs not everyone has the same hair type and it takes time. I’m 20 now and my hair is lot better than it was before, the frizz botters me a little if any. Do your research, there is also shampoos for frizzy hair (even tho they are often pricy). Or ask your mom/friends for help. That’s how it started for me :) Hope this helped guys, I know what you’re going through. Good luck!
Please tell us how
Now that I know I'm not the only one, Here's my story:
I always had long luscious pin straight hair up until I was 12 it was that way then I moved to a new school, in a different city the water there caused my hair to fall out a lot. Things were manageable till then but then the girls in my class and even the teachers began asking me why I straighten my hair, that my hair looked faux, it made my face look chubby and so on. All this made me want to fit in and I began curling my hair, I started using heat on my hair while it was still wet most of the times without a heat protectent and due to high school my sleep cycle was horrible, I hardly slept for 5 hours, wouldn't eat proper meals and this went on till the beginning of junior year. It was then that I realised my hair was all fried out, dry, oily scalp, dandruff, I had a constant urge to itch my hair, dull and I had premature greying. Cut to senior year I now take biotin supplements, sleep for 7 hours, drink 3L of water, oil my hair regularly and wash it twice a week, Stopped using shampoo and conditioner(using shika-kai, which is a natural shampoo it contains soap nut in it) , and have completed stopped using heat. It's a lot healthier now.
If you're reading this and deal with the same issues, trust me it's gets better, a little care, faith and oiling will undo it. It will take time, but it's worth it.
My hair wasn't really feeling me during high school. I washed it everyday sometimes twice a day and always used heat. Bleached my hair every six weeks. No wonder it was dry, frizzy and oily 🤦
I worked as a hairdresser for four years, and whenever a client would feel self conscious or apologise for being “picky” (their words, not mine!) about their hair, I’d feel awful. You have to wear your hair all the time. You don’t get to take it off and choose a different head of hair, the way you would with an outfit or with make up. If something is important to you, no matter what it is, it is important!
I'm grateful that someone on this platform has the same issue as mine and is talking out loud. Thanks for the support
I started the curly girl method a few weeks ago and love my day one waves, is okay with them on the second but on the third they're pretty much gone and my hair looks weird so I put it up. I'm going to try flaxseed gel soon - hopefully it will make them more defined and last longer. Hair is really important, it's a way to express yourself, feel confident and can have religious and cultural meaning, saying hair is just hair is technically true but to many it's more than just that
Hey you should try spraying your hair with water and then scrunching it to get those waves back on the third day it's a good way to freshen them up without showering
Wavy hair is always a challenge. For today i am a YEAR on CGM, but yet I do not fully understand how to manage my hair. And that is okay, but some times very frustrating. I think the most important for waves is styling and conditioning. And if you have long hair you need to separate it on sections when washing upside down
, because when you stand up it is a total mess.
Honestly keep going I know they always say that but do it I started this over lockdown I had so much heat damage I’ve cut it myself twice I’ve tried different techniques almost every wash day. I started this knowing I had natural waves/curls somewhere I was 2a and now I’m 2b/c. Keep going
Flaxseed gel is amazing. It pretty much has zero hold, but is perfect for conditioning the hair and really minimizing frizz. I pair it with hair mousse and it works perfectly.
I have wavy hair as well and go through the same problem. Try adding water mixed with a little bit of leave in conditioner. Put it in a spray bottle and get your hair damp and scrunch. This helps me quite a bit. You can also just use water and add a tiny bit of gel to scrunch.
Thank you so much for talking about this, for the past 2 years I’ve been struggling with my damaged frizzy hair that won’t curl properly bc of the state of it, and it gets me down so damn much and nobody understands, I’ve heard countless times “it’s just hair” “why do you care so much” from my family and even my boyfriend. I genuinely believe that my hair is contributing to my depressed state of mind right now
I feel you , hopefully one day we will be satisfied with our hair we just have to keep trying products ❤️
i have waist length hair and my parents won’t allow me to cut it. also, it’s mentally straining when i look at it in the mirror and it’s so frizzy and knotty 😭
edit: thank you for all of the support! idk why my parents won’t let me cut my hair, something to do with asian tradition 😭. but i’ll definitely try braiding it and giving it more love!
try learning new types of braids/braid-combinations so you can feel happy and express yourself with your hair even if you can't cut it. Or maybe try weird hairstyles or saying you will cut it yourself so your parents will realize that your hair will look better if they let you get a haircut 💕💖
I’d volunteer to braid it if I could, I love doing people’s hair for them TwT But I feel like you should be able to control how you choose to style and wear your hair. I’m so sorry
If you can try trimming the split ends. I hope you will feel better soon. I tried to grow my short hair to waist length.
Me too... my hair is below my hips but isn’t frizzy or knotted my mum just wont let me cut it ☹️☹️
How old are you if I might ask? Do you think your parents would smack you if you just cut it off? It's your hair, your body, you can do with it whatever you like - as long as you're not inflicting damage or injury to yourself.
If the worst that's gonna happen is they will be upset: I'd say grab some scissors and cut them off ;)
I've always hated my hair, and I didn't even realise how much I still appreciated some if it, until it started falling out in clumps (stress, hormones, methotrexate for rheumatoid arthritis) and I was so stressed that I developed trichitillomania and started pulling out my alteady thinning hair. It's been so upsetting, my hair is sooooo thin now :( thank u for talking bout it)
Methotrexate really do be the devils drug when it comes to thinning 💔 try biotin, after a few months it really helped mine grow back
Ahh another person with trich! Honestly, the only thing that has helped me was seeing a therapist and psychiatrist for counseling and medication. Trich is compulsive behaviour so taking meds for OCD helps a bunch !!
A few months ago I developed trich too, cuz I hate my hair SO hecking much.. :/
Thank God people dont notice that I developed trich :)
@@annat2553 I'm really nervous to try it again as I did once before and it broke me out like crazy:'( I am on spiralactin though which I think is helping? It's hard to say what is trich vs methotrexate vs malnutrition from last year (I have gastroparesis so I went thru a period of time of not being able to eat) vs prolonged stress. But maybe I will try it again!
@@sophroniel that for sure is a side effect of the biotin, just take a lower dose or take one tab every 3/4 days? it's crazy I had a similar combination of health issues to you, the only thing that really helped me was changing immunosuppressants & gaining weight to a "normal" weight. It's so so difficult and I seriously feel for ya, because i've been through it. Hang in there! x
WOWW I'm so early! I'm not sure what this video is about yet but I'm sure it's going to be amazing because I love this channel!
I feel seen for the first time because of this video. My hair frustrates me so badly because of both physical problems and aesthetic issues. I feel stupid complaining about it but this was genuinely so good to hear ❤️
for every person who judges you (be it online of in real life), there will be 5 people who support you here :) I have almost waist-long hair and very few good hair days, but terrible fears whenever my mum forces me to go to the hairdresser because it's obvious they have no idea how to handle very long hair anymore :P (not to shade the hairdressers, they do their best)
thank you x
Coming across your videos was a God-send. I never have seen anyone around me or in the youtube community share my hair type or struggles as much as you. The well-researched content (which I cannot appreciate and love enough) and the ambition you have to love your hair and find something that works for you is exactly what I strive to see for both of us. And I'm glad I have found you when I did, I was always told the same "just accept it or be glad you have it, etc etc.", I was on the end of whatever little satisfaction I had with my hair. I'm glad to take this journey with you! Thank you.
I can definitely relate to this, my hair means everything to me.I love that you are talking about this
After years of not having the hair I wanted and getting bad cuts (or at least not what I expected) and waiting for my hair to grow just for it to happen again and waiting AGAIN, I discovered that I'm attached to my hair: one of my points of confidence is my face, and seeing how the way my hair framed my face affected completely how it looked, I understood why it took a toll on my self steem. Now I'm so relieved to be conscious enough to treat it with the importance it has in my life. And I'm not ashamed to be called vain, because I know I deserve to feel beautiful.
Great video Isabella, lots of love
Hair makes me who i am. I show myself through my hair. When it dosent look good i am upset. Most people dont understand it
I love the dignified way you set your boundaries in this video.
Dan from "100% hotter" said that you can go out looking like a homeless, everyone will see that you take good care of yourself, as long as your hair looks good. And honestly, i think that hair is gravely underappreciated
It's crazy how invested in your hair story i have gotten! You are so well spoken and are creating amazing content!! I love how much you're taking control of your hair and learning so much about it and just embracing it! Also your hair in this video looks CRAZY good!!
This is how a feel about my skin. I’ve had cystic acne foe the past 6 years and it truly impacts my self esteem. But if you complain about it you hear “oh everyone gets acne, its nbd”. I think we should be more aware and respectful about how skin and hair can impact mental health.
Thank you so much for making this video.I struggle a lot with my hair fall and for a while now I thought that I was silly. My mum didn’t understand how much I was depressed by my hair. But I am trying to lighten up. Other people should know not to judge other people when they don’t even know the real story. I’m still trying to make my hair how I like it. I am really happy that I am not alone And that you have talked to us about this.
The people who tell me to calm down about my hair usually have full shiny hair..
I can totally relate with that , i am also insecure about my hair and how they look , I can't even talk about it with anyone because I know their replies would be " oh ! It's just hair , don't worry about it!", These are the same people who have naturally beautiful hair but I don't. 😔
I can't describe in words how much I love this video. You're so articulate and I love how you talk so confidently like you know what you're talking about. Well got yourself a new subscriber!
Isabella kicking the butt of those haters in the nicest way ever...
😂😂
I love it.😘
I have been unhappy with the look of my hair for three years, and this video has made me aware that I am not alone. Thank you.
I have had hairloss since I was 12 and I can really vouch for all of this because your teenage years are already so hard, and you already don't feel comfortable in your own body. I hated going out, I hated people seeing me, I would rarely leave my bedroom if I had the choice. I have depression and while my hair is not why i have depression, it definitely played a crucial role. I only realised how much of a role it played when my therapist explained that over my teenage years, I let my hair control my body image, so as the years went on and the thinner it got, the more i hated how i looked and consequently myself. I now also have body dysmorphia so when people tell me "it's just hair", it makes me feel more isolated than I usually do. Your hair matters and you deserve to feel pretty and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Girl, your videos are just getting better. A true talent and such a ray of sunshine and inspiration for us all! I totally agree with all you say here! I have started my hair journey within the past year and started to care for it/get to know it and judge it/complain about it less. Thanks again! Always love your content, style, humour and grace. xxx
I just wanted to say, THANK YOU. I'm very sensitive about how my hair looks, even now. I have incredibly thin hair, with several cowlicks... I have never been happy with the way it looks, somehow boring, whatever I try to make it look otherwise. I'm subscribed to your channel since the first video you did about your journey.
Hair is so much more important than most of people may think !
Your hair looks gorgeous btw, xx from France. 💛
I honestly cannot thank you enough for this video. This feeling of not being the only one who cares way too much about their hair to the point that you can feel destroyed or restless if your hair doesn't look right, helps me so so much.
I feel a little better about my hair after watching this :)
It's not "just hair", it's my hobby, something I take great pride in, and something that can make me feel bad because I can't make it behave.
honestly I've been obsessed with my hair for years, its refreshing to see that someone else feels the same way
Would be interesting to see a study on this!! Like statistics on how ppl feel Abt their hair.
I've cried over my hair and didn't want to go outside because of it. (Didn't get the haircut I wanted haircut due to language barrier😅) I definitely feel like the effect is a two way street, health affects hair and hair effects health. Thank you for making this video and I'm waiting to hear more from you on this subject.🙏
For whoever’s going through it, your feelings are valid and you are loved❤️
I hate it when people try to tell me that. It’s like they’re trying to tell me how to feel. Hair is super important to my identity and self expression. 😔
this information 100% applies to you too isabella, you are undoubtedly beautiful with or without hair and it's amazing that you're speaking about this when no one ever acknowledges how having 'bad' hair can really impact your self-esteem. i hope as time goes on you learn to love your hair because it looks absolutely gorgeous and the curls look amazing. your hair is normal and you will truly accept it one day
I get this so much. I've always had curly hair, but it was easy to deal with until I turned 13, and then it got frizzier and bigger, and suddenly it was just a huge unmanageable mess. "Treatments" didn't help, so I didn't get why my hair was technically healthy and looking this bad. I didn't feel like another "curly girl", I just felt like a mess. I tried different things, including the curly girl method, and it helped but I still didn't feel like I had control over it. So I just got frustrated looking at tutorials thinking they would never work for me. Then during quarantine I decided to give it another go, and found the Manes by Mell youtube channel. I swear this isn't and ad lol but that channel changed my life. Knowing how to properly apply product on wet hair, how to manually define the curls, how to protect them, etc. It's still a work in progress, but now I don't feel so completely lost anymore.
It's hard to get structured advice on how to care for your hair. A lot of what's online is so opinion and personal experience based, and there's a lot of "this habit is why your hair looks bad and you don't even realise it", or "try this thing and all will be fixed". Turns out solutions are never simple. It takes hard work and you have to believe it's worth it, even though people may say it's stupid to care so much.
(btw she did a video recently about how to style wavy hair, I'm curious whether it would help you too!)
This was very well spoken. Really.
“But most importantly, you are undoubtedly beautiful.”
Can we say it louder for the people in the back?
Your videos have done so much for me. My hair was always a little poofy but as I’ve aged it’s changed texture and turned more wavy and I didn’t know what to do. I realize I have been obsessing over my hair, trying different products and researching day and night just to try and feel happy with myself. To hear someone else going through the same thing, especially when people minimize and say “it’s just hair!” Helps so much
Yesssss, when my hair is dry, frizzy and undefined, I have a breakdown. It makes me so upset so I have a pretty standard routine and I spend a lot of time doing it. My stepsister was confused as to why I do my hair every week...I love my hair.
Thankyou for this video, I work in a barber shop and It’s very true about men too, women aren’t the only ones who care about their hair. I think you’re putting out a really great message out there that more people should listen to
I'm glad ur talking abt this because ur honest and it can help people with this same problem 😊👍
I always thought that your problems should not be made less of just because there are worst things happening to others. What’s important to you and what’s affecting your mental health is a valid concern and a real issue that should be taken care of. Sending all my support ❤️
Sometimes I want to shave my head even though everyone else loves it cause is straight, long and silky meanwhile I want to cut it so that it was drop as much.
if you want to shave it of just go for it cause you only live once❤️
Stuti honestly I can’t bring myself to do it😂
Omg me too lol Im like imagining the feeling of a shaved head but I just cannot do it and my parents wont let me but Im happy when I got a boy cut but now I feel like growing it again
@@leeshlee8878 I would recommend shaving it now and then growing it out again :) it's a great opportunity when it's short at the moment anyway. It feels amazinggg I swear. And in my opinion it looks good on everyone. Even tho your parents might not be happy at first, they'll defenitely get used to it 🙂
*I just posted my three month Buzzcut update video... and I couldn't be happier!* Before, I was always worried about the size of my forehead and my big ears, dying my hair constantly, but especially others opinions. It took a big change for me to realise you cannot put all your happiness on one "little" thing or you will never be satisfied with your life. Love the video (a very honest perspective)
Hair definitely has an effect to mental health. If my hair looks bad my mood drops quick, everything that comes out of my mind is just negative, and i feel like the ugliest person ever
I was so grateful for your channel because you were on of the first RUclipsrs I saw discussing hair issues and the impact on their mental health. My hair is very curly, yet very thin so styling it like other curly haired folk has always been a challenge. Thankfully I am in a better place now, but watching your videos has really helped me to process my own feelings about my hair 🖤
Having insecurities around your hair is like any other body part, and it s sad that many don't take it seriously :(
This channel is so underrated. Every video feels like a documentary and is extremely educational and well put together
made me so upset seeing all those comments shitting on you for being unhappy with your hair, like what makes this different from any other insecurity? hair is literally a huge part of our image, its right next to our faces.
I honestly love that you brought out this conversation!!
i’m so intrigued in this, i’m excited for this upload!
This made me cry ! I relate to this soooo much. Thank you so much Isabella for addressing this topic !
Absolutely beautiful hairstyles!! ❤
Your voice is so soothing
You're back!!! I can't believe how much your hair has grown, it looks much healthier and thicker already compared to when you had it waist length! Embrace the progress you've made and on those bad days, have a good cry and then carry on the good work! Xx
Honestly I love that you made this video because I’m tired of people dismissing others and there feelings just because they disagree or feel differently about it
I feel that's the whole point of YT. I won't discuss my hair struggles with family, friends or coworkers for the reasons you mentioned or for not wanting to bore them to death. but I can go to YT to see if someone is having the same issues and what they are doing about it.
If hair is not your struggle, then great, skip the video 🤷🏾♀️
I am SO happy you made this video. It's so important to talk about. I've been struggling with my hair for years and I obsess over it. Its part of my identity.
But last year my partner started experiencing hair loss as was diagnosed with alopecia. It's been affecting him so negatively and he has become so self conscience about it. I feel so bad and wish I could help him, especially when people ask him about it as if they find it strange.
I wish people would just leave other people's hair alone, as it isn't part of their life, and they don't know other people's struggles. Hair is attached to us, and therefore affects us in both positive and negative ways.
Finally someone talked about it
You'd be an excellent documentarian. That's basically what you're doing here! The quality of your videos (between your research, presentation cadence, and editing/motion graphics) is truly professional. Love your channel!
Literally every single thing in the world can have an affect on someone’s mental health. Hair is just hair when you have healthy hair and maybe you got a bad hair cut or color but no one discredits someone suffering from hair loss or religious ties to hair. Not to be dry but western culture is dramatic as eff. I personally felt some type of way about my “big chop” to the point where I didn’t take pictures... but then i was like... wow G, there are legit worst things in the world than short curly hair.
Edit: people have talked about a reason why not to be happy about hair. Black women. Who for centuries were taught to believe that coils were ugly and straight hair was beautiful but no one listened to them when they wanted to address that problem 10 years ago.
Please post more I am always checking your channel and u never post I just love watching you 💓😍
i always had really frizzy hair and my friends teased me about it, that's why i always get my hair straightened. and now that my old hair is coming back, everyone's teasing me about it again. i just really hate my hair :'((
i dont know what to do with it anymore...i always try to hide my hair by putting it in a ponytale or other hairstyles. but i just had enough of it...its really annoying and i get so frustrated because of it. i dont know what to do with my hair :'((
If your friends are teasing you about it so much then go find some new ones
Im very sorry to hear that you feel very upset about your hair. I myself cannot relate to your experience though I can say that my sister, whom had very curly hair always striaghtened it to the point where it was damaged and frizzy. She had struggled with her hair for awhile and was pretty upset. Though she eventually accepted her frizzy hair, stopped damaging it with heat and repaired her hair into thick beautiful curls :). If I may recommend, I wish you luck in your road to accepting and healing your beautiful hair. ❤❤❤
the only thing i can suggest would be to look up curly hair care and start caring for it differently. that's what I had to do and it has helped a lot.
Hey Army... We all love you and your hair!💕
@@cocoa_ts2471 thank you ami🥺💜
I have navel length 2C hair that became really damaged when I went through a period of major depression, it has been incredibly hard to restore to health ever since and has been a huge blow to my self esteem. Thanks for talking about this.
My hair is very similar to yours and the ONLY way I can keep it long, shiny and healthy is to have Brasil Cacau keratin treatment done every 6 months. I’ve been doing it for six years now and not to brag but everyone is crazy about my hair. People are stopping me on the street to ask me what kind of conditioner/mask do I use. I have finally gained self confidence :) It changed my life.
(A lot of salon is using some other type of keratin which can damage the hair. The original Brazilian one is the best!)
D L yeah but your basically damaging your hair to make it look better...
Florassy I’m aware that it CAN damage hair, I’m a bioengineer. But people with bleached hair (like me) can definitely benefit from keratin treatments as the cysteine in it can (semi-)permanently repair broken bonds in our hair.
Btw I had a break from it for more than 1,5 years and my hair was still nice and shiny, but got back to wavy after 7 or 8 months. It does work for some people, however I agree that not for everyone.
Girl I really enjoy hearing all the things that you want to expose, not only talking about them but giving valid arguments🥰 I don’t know you but I love this kind of people
Greetings from Colombia ❤️
Edit: my anxiety made me chop off 10 inches of my hair.
I look fine and I love my hair more than anything in me,46 inches long hair ! But my too much hair fall,tangled hair, thin ends, no hair volume, and thin braid(my hair is quite thick but hair fall made it thin) makes me so anxious and affects my mental health too.
No matter how calm I be, take good food use remedies it won't stop.
Girl don’t give up..go to the doctor maybe you have anemia or a shortage of a certain vitamin..!! Something will surely work ♥️♥️
Kajal Singh go see a doctor!!!
See Dr Dray channel. There is a remedy
Visit a doctor, maybe you're iron deficient? I totally understand the struggle sis
Due to pandemic,we can't go out and derma doctors are not going hospitals. I'm not iron deficient,i eat plenty of vit c,b complex, and protein food. Maybe my anagen phase is very short.
Wow thank you for taking the time to make this informative video, I always struggled with my hair and it has always brought my self-confidence down. Just hearing you talk about having the same issues helps me feel less alone and more beautiful, I am still on the journey to loving and accepting my hair and you inspire me, thank you again such and inspiration!
I started using less damaging products for my hair in an attempt to keep it healthier. I absolutely hate how my hair looks some days and it can really bring me down. and other days it can make my mood 200% better.
that said I'm cutting off like a good 10cm off next month because the ends just tangle 3 seconds after I run my brush through them because they're so damaged. I have no idea how it'll look, and I'm a little scared, but it's what I need to do.
You are so kind to be educating people about this topic. Kudos to you Isa.
i can't tell you how many times i've cried or wanted to cry over my hair jus cuz it's so frustrating
I had almost waist length hair at the start of the year which I loved and was very happy with. After a disastrous bleach fail that left me unable to brush through my hair... I cut it all off. Phrases like 'it's just hair' or people telling me it'll grow back, even if it is true, don't really help and have made me feel like I'm not allowed to feel frustrated and sad about my current hair because 'it's just hair'. I know the way things are now aren't permanent but it's still difficult to deal with, I don't feel comfortable or confident with this hair no matter how hard I try.
Thank you for making this video, you explained so well all the different emotions and view points that go along with this topic
I think my hair has ruined my mental health too!
My hair has this nasty wavy curl to it, where the top layer of hair is super frizzy and the ends are dry and the roots are oily.
There was this day I tried doing curls in my hair but because my hair was SO GOOD at keeping its discusting shape it was impossible to curl it after I straightened it. I tried burning the ends of my hair off by keeping the straightener there for a minute and for some reason they didn't burn and my hair was intact and that made me even more furious.
My parents didn't even help with the issue which makes this a whole lot worse. They just sat there calling me mental and saying I deserved being in a mental asylum.
You should consider going to psychologist and I really do mean this. Obsessing that much over hair (while we all do it to a degree) and ruining your mental health over it, means you might need help. And instead of ruining it with a straightener and burning it almost off, you should consider a Keratin straightening treatment. It's not healthy for your hair, but it can only be better than straightening it every single day or losing your sanity over it. Also make sure you have no Zinc or iron deficiency, and take care of it with good products (no sulphates), hydrating masks and maybe even try the CGM. Just see what works for you...
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Thanks, I have been fixing it with CGM over quarantine it looks much nicer now! I have also gotten rid of the urge to straighten it too. It’s still not the way I want it exactly, but I think it’s much better than it was before
you are such a great communicator, I could listen to you for hours. Amazing video!!