I relate to your videos. I spent a long time on the verge of a panic attack around extended family due to indirect trauma. It spilled over to even good friends. I read people way too well and i notice every detail. I can hide it better now I'm 30, but I used to feel pretty stupid as a kid because I thought I'm not normal.
It took time to get to this point but I get a strong sense of pride from knowing that I am carrying the majority of my family’s trauma single handedly. It’s not fair to spend childhood attuning to parents instead of them to you, but the way we can feel things so deeply is something I cherish so strongly.
Some days ago the exact same thing happened to me. I was in a huge table sorrounded by so many people. I was having such a bad time and about to cry that a guy that didn't even know me said: oh, you're so overwhelmed right? I found you're channel when I was looking for some help to manage my PMDD, but I actually found a treasure. You are sharing very personal experiences and really exposing yourself, but that's why I feel relief and being in a safe space with you. Thank you so much for that.
OMG!! This is me!! Still at 56 years old feeling unsafe & not enough.....from my childhood Trauma!! Many many therapists, self help, courses, ADD also....I am in constant Fight/Flight, pain in my body/joints, relationship failure, never feeling enough!! No therapists have helped, always talk, talk....never tools to help me to follow through & actually see/feel healing......can a trauma somatic therapist help me?? Thankyou for sharing your story.....I connected/felt your pain 😢 I hope that I can one day I can finally heal or at least trust myself & feel enough!!! 🙏🙏
I relate a lot to what you said, thank you so much for sharing. A way of looking at things that has come to me recently is to see that a person is not comfortable with the thing I am bringing rather than me. For instance, say if I'm sad and talking about sad things and the person thinks this is too heavy and isn't comfortable, previously I would take it very personally and feel like I'm too heavy, I'm being boring/annoying, when now I direct myself to see it as they aren't comfortable with sadness. Almost like it's a film or pizza. It's neutral, not personal. I've brought pizza to the table, and the person doesn't like pizza, ok makes sense they don't want to share this pizza with me. Although just because it is neutral doesn't mean that there will never be sadness to their response, so I wrap myself in love if it feels disappointing. As I've gone through my healing work, I'm learning so much about the people in my life, I feel like this doesn't get spoken about enough. As you move into sadness, you find out the other person's relationship with sadness, as you move into anger you find out their relationship with anger, with vulnerability, excitement, intimacy, joy. As deep as I go with myself, it exposes those in my life. This has been huge. It's why the healing journey is lonely, not that it intrinsically has to be, but because the vast majority of people do not want to tap into these areas of themselves, so you end up having to eat a lot of metaphorical pizza on your own. There has been a lot of grieving on this, accepting that most of the people in my life can't meet me in my sadness because they can not bear to look at their own. It feels akin to the grief that gets felt when you accept your parents limitations, I feel this doesn't get spoken about enough, grief from others in your life. I'd love for you to keep sharing your personal experiences of all this in your videos, it helps make me feel less alone, thank you for making this channel!
its so heartwarming to hear someone else describe life events from a familiar perspective. I can tell you're "singing your song" as in doing what you're inclined to do. Thank you. I'm moving into that kind of space too and seeing you doing it inspires me. so thank you.
I came across your channel when I was looking into PMDD and connected with your insights. As someone who has identified as highly sensitive (since childhood) and who also has synesthesia, this video deeply resonated with me. Thank you.
I found your channel through an Instagram reel and I'm so glad i did. I found you're entire energy sooo soothing it was incredible, it's really nice and helpful to hear the process you went through and how much it truly helped you overcome. I will put these in practice, thank you for spending the time in making there's videos. You'll help so many I'm sure 🙌
36:43 This rings really true to me, it's helpful and I've never heard it before. The practice was interesting, as well as my initial feeling that I _shouldn't_ extend that energy outwards; probably from finding others' energies so invasive and pushy. But, not everyone feels like we do or wants to hold space for others. Guess we gotta hold against it. Thank you for your good wishes, they are really wise. For me sensitivity really always has felt like a hindrance to life in our current society. Thanks for sharing your insights and with it some hope that better ways are possible.
Wow, so grateful to have found your channel. I feel like I can relate to *everything* you say, and appreciate the language you use and your ability to word these experiences. Thankyou so much.
To the tea! Omg... you've described word by word what I feel. So well articulated. It is helpful to hear another person sharing something I felt but didn't have words to explain. And now I know that it is actually a thing that other people may experience as well. Thank you for sharing.
This is a really interesting perspective. I have all these symptoms. I feel other people so acutely. Totally resonated with you saying about getting activated by sadness and not excitement. Thank you 💗 xx
Thank you for this video. A lot of interesting ideas to ponder that I’d never previously considered. I have CPTSD and sometimes feel emotion very intensely to the point of feeling overwhelmed and no longer being able to think clearly etc. However, I always considered that an “anxiety” / “social anxiety” issue with its roots in low self esteem. Social anxiety never exactly seemed right because I’m friendly and really enjoy being social, but as you describe, in certain situations / around certain people I too feel overly sensitive/overly observant and have a VERY strong sense of “there’s something wrong with me” or “I’m not enough.” So just always considered it to be some sort of atypical social anxiety informed by self esteem that varies as my psychological state varies or is triggered. More recently have also come to see it as an emotional regulation issue. It wasn’t until you described the social situation in which you were activated that I realized the extent of the similarities. Very curious as to if you would consider the types of struggles around other people that you describe in this video to be a kind of anxiety / difficulty w emotional regulation and/or in any way related to insecurity/self esteem. Or if, for whatever reason, you think those are not helpful labels / framings for those kinds of experiences.
Thank you for sharing so honestly❤. I can relate a lot to the depth of awareness to sensations in other people. I notice for myself that it can be incredibly easier for me to notice minute changes in other people's emotions than to lable and notice my own. I have also been working throughout the dissociation sensations in public (especially in big crowds). It has gotten better for me, the more that I allow myself to explode what does it mean to be me near other people. Through expending my own space, comfort, and freedom.
I saw your video about cptsd - which I have and commented about how similar our emotions etc sweetness etc seems to be - now i discover that you are also spiritual in a similar way as me - amazing. I also have synesthesia and sensitivity to EVERYTHING would love to chat with you about this if it’s at all possible. X
Thank you so so much for this episode and for your podcast in general. Just listening to your experience with cPTSD and sensitivity makes me feel like I am less crazy and not alone in this experience!
Thank you so much for your videos. I really relate to this in so many aspects. This helps explain what it's like to be an Empath/HSP. I relate to the part about being in a group and feeling overwhelmed and feeling like running away
Very, very interesting talk. Thank you. I am a highly sensitive person too and can relate to much of what you talk about. For example, I typically feel uncomfortable in group situations and uncomfortable with others people’s excitement. I often don’t feel excited myself, and my own excitement will make me feel really uncentered and uncomfortable with myself. I regularly suffer from depression and feel I have PMDD as well. I’m curious to learn more about CPTSD. 🙏
Your work is changing my life! I feel so seen. A recent PMDD diagnosis brought me here but I've stayed for your somatic/holistic/spiritual approach and the many a-ha moments I've experienced while watching your videos. You are helping me to release so much shame built up since childhood. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I appreciate your perspective so much. It is comforting hearing somebody be so self compassionate. Having CPTSD myself, I value your reflection on somatic healing.
Thank you! I have CPtSD as well and I’m also sensitive and have struggled with this for years. Thankfully I’m finally accepting how I am and moving away from ppl who make me feel less. Oh how fun I have PMDD also.
We share the same childhood experiences and how we experience life into adulthood. Its been a long journey. We went through all of that for a reason. ♡ I'm going to school to become a healer as well.
It is so hard to differentiate between HSP as a personality trait and trauma, but the "HSP to autistic" pipeline is a huge thing in the #ActuallyAutistic (aka "there's no need to cure autism") spaces, especially among women who came of age in the 2000s or earlier when girls were rarely diagnosed autistic. Most things that are "HSP" are also just what being autistic is. But no autistic person gets to adulthood without significant trauma, so it's very hard to disentangle the two for most of us. Is X because of trauma or an inherent quality of our personality as an autistic person (esp the AuDHD - autistic and ADHD - folks) or do both build on each other? All of the above?
Insightful! I love the way you share. I agree that religion is a safe space to retreat to. Hebrews 5 talks about maturity and discerning good from evil. We all need to learn how to manage or parent ourselves. I never thought about curiosity as a good way to learn about ourselves and others.
I think i have PMDD but I’m not completely sure cuz whenever i go to a doctor they don’t even know this exists and they say “its just symptoms you get before your period “ , “its normal” ,“just stop stressing out” which makes me hopeless.. how can i self-diagnose myself?
How do you manage to meditate while having ADHD? I have ADHD, and am an hsp, but I struggle to not get overwhelmed when I don't give my mind something to do at all times.
Hi, I come here because I feel an alien the most of the time. I feel that I really don't belong to my environment. I really don't belong to any country. I moved to Italy when I was 10 yeas old and I'm from Colombia..so I don't feel a Colombian or italian. I don't identify my culture, in the behavior, my family is very noisy and not so sensitive, or interested in the things I use to do. And Italians culture environment where I live, is very noisy too, they can be rude and insensitive. They don't give attention to details, to the beauty of nature, they don't enjoy the silence! So I feel like alien because be sensitive where I live is like something strange or stupid. I will be like other teens that go to the clubs, drink a lot, have a lot of boyfriend... Instead I prefer a book, walk in the nature, make some sports... And I feel that they are anger with their lives, they don't know how to be happy with the things they do, they are unhappy with their jobs, they tend to give guilt to others is some way for they unhappiness. I went to a coffee store or in a clothes shop, and I smile to them but I feel instead they envy and anger. It's horrible
Ps. It's not in general in Italy but in a particular places, they are not only black or white. There are a lot of beautiful places in Italy where people is kind and sensitive..
I would disagree with your assertion that trauma may be causal to becoming an HSP. They happen and exist separately and sometimes HSP will be subject to trauma.
I agree as well. I found myself thinking about deep things, feeling my environments and taking in things at a very young age before big traumas happened in my life. Could it be that trauma just distorts a persons natural highly sensitive nature, making it work against them?
Same here...just a question...could it be a confusion of sensitivity with codependency , when they're not the same thing at all. *And* many of us (the majority?) have both. I'm not sure if this makes sense, but it's ringing true. Especially, others who aren't HSPs, by definition, don't really understand what it means, subjectively; and mistake sensitivity for codepenency. One is innate to a nervous system, and the other is more related to environmental adaptations.
I'm looking for a long term relationship with a witch, I love their connection with the universe and am attracted to them a lot. I'm very sensitive too, and have bipolar and severe anxiety. I don't know how to find what I'm looking for but I want love in my life badly, is their any way to connect with you and chat? I'm 27 and prefer women in their 30's or 40's
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I relate to your videos. I spent a long time on the verge of a panic attack around extended family due to indirect trauma. It spilled over to even good friends. I read people way too well and i notice every detail. I can hide it better now I'm 30, but I used to feel pretty stupid as a kid because I thought I'm not normal.
It took time to get to this point but I get a strong sense of pride from knowing that I am carrying the majority of my family’s trauma single handedly. It’s not fair to spend childhood attuning to parents instead of them to you, but the way we can feel things so deeply is something I cherish so strongly.
You're a gem (and I like ur face)
Ha! I love both of your channels
It’s so comforting to find not only someone who is like me, but also someone who can provide hope for healing ❤
Some days ago the exact same thing happened to me. I was in a huge table sorrounded by so many people. I was having such a bad time and about to cry that a guy that didn't even know me said: oh, you're so overwhelmed right?
I found you're channel when I was looking for some help to manage my PMDD, but I actually found a treasure. You are sharing very personal experiences and really exposing yourself, but that's why I feel relief and being in a safe space with you. Thank you so much for that.
OMG!! This is me!! Still at 56 years old feeling unsafe & not enough.....from my childhood Trauma!! Many many therapists, self help, courses, ADD also....I am in constant Fight/Flight, pain in my body/joints, relationship failure, never feeling enough!!
No therapists have helped, always talk, talk....never tools to help me to follow through & actually see/feel healing......can a trauma somatic therapist help me??
Thankyou for sharing your story.....I connected/felt your pain 😢 I hope that I can one day I can finally heal or at least trust myself & feel enough!!! 🙏🙏
You are enough❤
I think somatic therapy be very good. My daughter is doing it at the moment and has now lots of tools.
I relate a lot to what you said, thank you so much for sharing. A way of looking at things that has come to me recently is to see that a person is not comfortable with the thing I am bringing rather than me. For instance, say if I'm sad and talking about sad things and the person thinks this is too heavy and isn't comfortable, previously I would take it very personally and feel like I'm too heavy, I'm being boring/annoying, when now I direct myself to see it as they aren't comfortable with sadness.
Almost like it's a film or pizza. It's neutral, not personal. I've brought pizza to the table, and the person doesn't like pizza, ok makes sense they don't want to share this pizza with me. Although just because it is neutral doesn't mean that there will never be sadness to their response, so I wrap myself in love if it feels disappointing.
As I've gone through my healing work, I'm learning so much about the people in my life, I feel like this doesn't get spoken about enough. As you move into sadness, you find out the other person's relationship with sadness, as you move into anger you find out their relationship with anger, with vulnerability, excitement, intimacy, joy. As deep as I go with myself, it exposes those in my life. This has been huge.
It's why the healing journey is lonely, not that it intrinsically has to be, but because the vast majority of people do not want to tap into these areas of themselves, so you end up having to eat a lot of metaphorical pizza on your own.
There has been a lot of grieving on this, accepting that most of the people in my life can't meet me in my sadness because they can not bear to look at their own. It feels akin to the grief that gets felt when you accept your parents limitations, I feel this doesn't get spoken about enough, grief from others in your life.
I'd love for you to keep sharing your personal experiences of all this in your videos, it helps make me feel less alone, thank you for making this channel!
its so heartwarming to hear someone else describe life events from a familiar perspective. I can tell you're "singing your song" as in doing what you're inclined to do. Thank you. I'm moving into that kind of space too and seeing you doing it inspires me. so thank you.
I came across your channel when I was looking into PMDD and connected with your insights. As someone who has identified as highly sensitive (since childhood) and who also has synesthesia, this video deeply resonated with me. Thank you.
I have Cptsd, Pmdd and I’m a hsp. Thank you SO SO much for posting these videos… you’re helping me more than you know ❤
I found your channel through an Instagram reel and I'm so glad i did. I found you're entire energy sooo soothing it was incredible, it's really nice and helpful to hear the process you went through and how much it truly helped you overcome. I will put these in practice, thank you for spending the time in making there's videos. You'll help so many I'm sure 🙌
36:43 This rings really true to me, it's helpful and I've never heard it before.
The practice was interesting, as well as my initial feeling that I _shouldn't_ extend that energy outwards; probably from finding others' energies so invasive and pushy. But, not everyone feels like we do or wants to hold space for others. Guess we gotta hold against it.
Thank you for your good wishes, they are really wise. For me sensitivity really always has felt like a hindrance to life in our current society. Thanks for sharing your insights and with it some hope that better ways are possible.
We, HSPs are so alike in the way we experience things and life! Thank you for sharing.
Wow, so grateful to have found your channel. I feel like I can relate to *everything* you say, and appreciate the language you use and your ability to word these experiences. Thankyou so much.
To the tea! Omg... you've described word by word what I feel. So well articulated. It is helpful to hear another person sharing something I felt but didn't have words to explain. And now I know that it is actually a thing that other people may experience as well. Thank you for sharing.
This is a really interesting perspective. I have all these symptoms. I feel other people so acutely.
Totally resonated with you saying about getting activated by sadness and not excitement. Thank you 💗 xx
Thank you for this video. A lot of interesting ideas to ponder that I’d never previously considered.
I have CPTSD and sometimes feel emotion very intensely to the point of feeling overwhelmed and no longer being able to think clearly etc. However, I always considered that an “anxiety” / “social anxiety” issue with its roots in low self esteem. Social anxiety never exactly seemed right because I’m friendly and really enjoy being social, but as you describe, in certain situations / around certain people I too feel overly sensitive/overly observant and have a VERY strong sense of “there’s something wrong with me” or “I’m not enough.” So just always considered it to be some sort of atypical social anxiety informed by self esteem that varies as my psychological state varies or is triggered. More recently have also come to see it as an emotional regulation issue. It wasn’t until you described the social situation in which you were activated that I realized the extent of the similarities.
Very curious as to if you would consider the types of struggles around other people that you describe in this video to be a kind of anxiety / difficulty w emotional regulation and/or in any way related to insecurity/self esteem. Or if, for whatever reason, you think those are not helpful labels / framings for those kinds of experiences.
Thank you for sharing so honestly❤. I can relate a lot to the depth of awareness to sensations in other people. I notice for myself that it can be incredibly easier for me to notice minute changes in other people's emotions than to lable and notice my own.
I have also been working throughout the dissociation sensations in public (especially in big crowds). It has gotten better for me, the more that I allow myself to explode what does it mean to be me near other people. Through expending my own space, comfort, and freedom.
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Glad I found you today through Forrest !
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Thanks a lot, I heard (and noticed) some very interesting aspects to take with me to therapy. It might help me further!
I saw your video about cptsd - which I have and commented about how similar our emotions etc sweetness etc seems to be - now i discover that you are also spiritual in a similar way as me - amazing. I also have synesthesia and sensitivity to EVERYTHING would love to chat with you about this if it’s at all possible. X
Thank you so so much for this episode and for your podcast in general. Just listening to your experience with cPTSD and sensitivity makes me feel like I am less crazy and not alone in this experience!
Thank you so much for your videos. I really relate to this in so many aspects. This helps explain what it's like to be an Empath/HSP. I relate to the part about being in a group and feeling overwhelmed and feeling like running away
Very, very interesting talk. Thank you. I am a highly sensitive person too and can relate to much of what you talk about. For example, I typically feel uncomfortable in group situations and uncomfortable with others people’s excitement. I often don’t feel excited myself, and my own excitement will make me feel really uncentered and uncomfortable with myself. I regularly suffer from depression and feel I have PMDD as well. I’m curious to learn more about CPTSD. 🙏
Your work is changing my life! I feel so seen. A recent PMDD diagnosis brought me here but I've stayed for your somatic/holistic/spiritual approach and the many a-ha moments I've experienced while watching your videos. You are helping me to release so much shame built up since childhood. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I appreciate your perspective so much. It is comforting hearing somebody be so self compassionate. Having CPTSD myself, I value your reflection on somatic healing.
Thank you! I have CPtSD as well and I’m also sensitive and have struggled with this for years. Thankfully I’m finally accepting how I am and moving away from ppl who make me feel less. Oh how fun I have PMDD also.
This is absolutely true. I can relate to this and I developed the same habits. But we can unlearn them over time.
We share the same childhood experiences and how we experience life into adulthood. Its been a long journey. We went through all of that for a reason. ♡
I'm going to school to become a healer as well.
Thank you Elizabeth! I am very much like you! It helps me so much!
❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥 Thank you! ❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥
I love your intro! And I identify with all of it!
Your videos have been so helpful to me, thank you!
Love. I have enjoyed and learnt. I resonate with this.
Can I ask what your moon sign is and if you include astrology in your practice?
Thank you for sharing.
It is so hard to differentiate between HSP as a personality trait and trauma, but the "HSP to autistic" pipeline is a huge thing in the #ActuallyAutistic (aka "there's no need to cure autism") spaces, especially among women who came of age in the 2000s or earlier when girls were rarely diagnosed autistic. Most things that are "HSP" are also just what being autistic is. But no autistic person gets to adulthood without significant trauma, so it's very hard to disentangle the two for most of us. Is X because of trauma or an inherent quality of our personality as an autistic person (esp the AuDHD - autistic and ADHD - folks) or do both build on each other? All of the above?
yeah I was overwhelmed at how much this sounds like AuDHD as it presents in folks assigned female at birth.
Insightful! I love the way you share. I agree that religion is a safe space to retreat to. Hebrews 5 talks about maturity and discerning good from evil. We all need to learn how to manage or parent ourselves.
I never thought about curiosity as a good way to learn about ourselves and others.
I think i have PMDD but I’m not completely sure cuz whenever i go to a doctor they don’t even know this exists and they say “its just symptoms you get before your period “ , “its normal” ,“just stop stressing out” which makes me hopeless.. how can i self-diagnose myself?
How do you manage to meditate while having ADHD? I have ADHD, and am an hsp, but I struggle to not get overwhelmed when I don't give my mind something to do at all times.
Hi, I come here because I feel an alien the most of the time. I feel that I really don't belong to my environment. I really don't belong to any country. I moved to Italy when I was 10 yeas old and I'm from Colombia..so I don't feel a Colombian or italian. I don't identify my culture, in the behavior, my family is very noisy and not so sensitive, or interested in the things I use to do. And Italians culture environment where I live, is very noisy too, they can be rude and insensitive. They don't give attention to details, to the beauty of nature, they don't enjoy the silence! So I feel like alien because be sensitive where I live is like something strange or stupid. I will be like other teens that go to the clubs, drink a lot, have a lot of boyfriend... Instead I prefer a book, walk in the nature, make some sports... And I feel that they are anger with their lives, they don't know how to be happy with the things they do, they are unhappy with their jobs, they tend to give guilt to others is some way for they unhappiness. I went to a coffee store or in a clothes shop, and I smile to them but I feel instead they envy and anger. It's horrible
Ps. It's not in general in Italy but in a particular places, they are not only black or white. There are a lot of beautiful places in Italy where people is kind and sensitive..
Bullet points
I would disagree with your assertion that trauma may be causal to becoming an HSP. They happen and exist separately and sometimes HSP will be subject to trauma.
I agree as well. I found myself thinking about deep things, feeling my environments and taking in things at a very young age before big traumas happened in my life. Could it be that trauma just distorts a persons natural highly sensitive nature, making it work against them?
Same here...just a question...could it be a confusion of sensitivity with codependency , when they're not the same thing at all. *And* many of us (the majority?) have both. I'm not sure if this makes sense, but it's ringing true. Especially, others who aren't HSPs, by definition, don't really understand what it means, subjectively; and mistake sensitivity for codepenency. One is innate to a nervous system, and the other is more related to environmental adaptations.
I'm looking for a long term relationship with a witch, I love their connection with the universe and am attracted to them a lot. I'm very sensitive too, and have bipolar and severe anxiety.
I don't know how to find what I'm looking for but I want love in my life badly, is their any way to connect with you and chat? I'm 27 and prefer women in their 30's or 40's
WOW.. so much aha-moments!it is wonderful how you share your inside insights.. lovely magic
Thanks a lot 🙏🏾🦄🦦