Love Languages & the Non-Newlywed Game - SimplyPodLogical #50
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- Опубликовано: 28 июл 2024
- On this episode of SimplyPodLogical, Cristine and Ben take a love language quiz and play the newly-wed game even though they're not married.
0:00 - Hey what’s up holo everyone
1:46 - Love languages
4:32 - Ben’s love language
7:34 - Cristine’s love language
11:30 - The Non-newlywed Game
12:06 - Who’s the better driver?
14:11 - Who said ‘I love you’ first?
16:23 - Who would play your partner in a movie?
19:39 - What was your partner’s first pet?
21:51 - What is your partner’s best feature?
24:10 - What is the first movie you saw together?
25:53 - What is your partner’s favourite food?
28:06 - What is the best present your partner ever got you?
32:42 - What would your partner buy if they won the lottery?
35:17 - If your house caught fire what one thing would your partner rescue?
37:01 - What famous person would your partner want to be?
42:12 - If your partner could be any animal what animal would they choose to be?
46:28 - Who is your partner’s celebrity crush?
49:00 - What is the biggest way your partner wastes money?
52:05 - What do your partner’s sexiest pyjamas look like?
Love Languages quiz we took: www.5lovelanguages.com
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Ben’s love language is “quality time” because all he wants to do is go 👏🏻 on 👏🏻 vacation 👏🏻 Cristine!
Spill the tea Beckeroni
Is the clapping 👏🏻 for 👏🏻me👏🏻
I bet Ben is the one who liked the comment 😂
Yup. I totally called it before the video started. I was like Ben is going to be Quality Time and Cristine is going to be Acts of Service.
I think I've been watching them for too long lol
@@artsygal112 me too! I could just hear her yelling "Beeyyyn" for tea. Lol
57 minutes of ben and christine making each other uncomfortable by being nice
Its so Canadian
I’m sorry to be that person but it’s ‘cristine with no h’, if you edit the comment you’ll lose the heart so have a great day! ❤️
CRISTINE WITH NO H MY DUDE
Ben's celeb crush being a CNN anchor is one of the most Ben things I've ever seen/heard.
They really need to rename the gifting language because it's really a subsection of acts of service. By "gift" it means like, "I saw this and thought of you" or even like "I know you get thirsty after work so I got you your favorite drink"
I agree. Those are both my languages but they're really tied together.
I see where you're coming from, but the problem is acts of service is all of them. At any point in time any of those things can be what someone needs. It's the truest form of love, action.
For some reason i didn't think of that!
I think they were only thinking of things like purses and expensive or big things. If Ben bought Cristine a pack of tea bags she really liked, without her asking for it, that would pretty much also be a gift.
Ben: “you’re my princess🥰”
Cristine: *looks at the camera like she’s in the office*
*missing jim face*
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Ben did the same thing when he thought his best feature were his eyebrows.
Ben: I bet young people don't know what driving a manual car is
Europeans: Am I a joke to you?
Ikr like i cant even remember the last time i saw an automatic
My first thought 🙈 same
Was just about to comment this hahha, so true
Also LatinAmericans 😂😂 tbh is sad that here we druve manually bc it's cheaper
I honestly hate driving automatic, it's so boring
Cristine: “I’m supposed to guess what you’d say is my best attribute”
Ben: “YOUR BUTT”
times stamp pls?
I mean...
@@hi-hi-here around 22:08
That bOoOoOoOotY
I hate vacuuming and cleaning the house in general. So, when I come home and my husband has tidied the house and vacuumed? I can tell you that is absolutely love language.
Ben being Internet-shy back then but still wanting to spend time with Cristine so he joins her on RUclips vids 🥺🥺
Chickens are mean
romantic
Ben had a YT channel first.
Ben now: *HELLO SIMP SQUAD*
Menchie just climbing on ben is too cute
Chickens are mean
(ʃƪ＾3＾）
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This is off topic but you saying too cute reminded me of the show too cute, that showed kittens a puppies. Anyone else?
@@jayden859 one of my favorite shows
Ben: driving a stick is stupid and noone does it anymore
Whole of Central and Eastern Europe: am I a joke to you?
Western Europe too :')
Rural Southern US lol
yesss! italy here
the whole car scene too
I have only drive stick. I had to pick up someone with a rental car once that was automatic when his went in for a service, I struggled so much..it was a disaster.
"Edward Cullen - Anemic and looks like he could barely get himself out of bed in the morning." A quote by Ben. XD
He made me laugh so much with that.
@@andreasolis9466 Same here, I haven't heard anyone else describe Edward Cullen like that!! 😂😂
He's obviously team Jacob
😂💀
The bunny on your profile picture is so cute 😍
Ben's voice is unbelievably soothing
Chickens are mean
Ummm
@@annamatthews2595 lll
I listen to this podcast while I knit ugly scarves. It's my relaxation time.
When i was pregnant with my 2nd child, i listen to the podcast to help me fall asleep.
Cristine: who told you, you had nice eyebrows??
*ben stares out at us longingly 👁👄👁*
I hadn't paid attention before the comment but he DOES have nice eyebrows 👀
@@jilliananderson6017 right!!!! Give em to me
I remembered Ben said in another simply vid that it was Nicol Concilio. And he was so proud hahhaha
Deniece Krizia, that would be correct and it looked so cute when Nicol Concilio told Ben that he had great eyebrows lol ✌🏻🤞🏻
As someone who’s love language is receiving gifts: I will spend hours picking out just the right gift for someone, then I’ll pick the perfect way to wrap it and make it look pretty, then I’ll find the perfect card and I’ll draw something on it for them and put a date on it, so if they choose to keep it, they’ll remember.. Because of this, when I receive a gift, I know that someone put that much effort in to me. Plus, it doesn’t have to be a super special gift, it could be a candy from the vending machine on a hard day. It can be so simple, but I’ll cherish it because it means they thought of me
This is the whole point of this quiz and theory tho: you aren't supposed to act according to *your* love language; you are supposed to act according to the other person's LL. You seem to even assign your LL to acts by others as if your motivation is theirs. Thats not how any of this is supposed to work. Read the book.
I’ve always love giving gifts, just like you said, putting in the effort and thinking back for the best thing and wrapping it nicely but I’ve also always hated receiving them, would rather have quality time and physical touch though c
"YOU DON'T SEE HIM AS YOUR SON"
I feel like Ben is gonna hear about this for a whiiiiiile LOL
Ben is 100% the Host of this podcast and Cristine is the co-host. He really seems to thrive and enjoys doing a Podcast!
My thoughts exactly! He looks more confident now
Its so fun to see him thrive in this space
Yeah, it really shows and it's nice that he likes doing this, because we love to see it too!
His voice is perfect for podcast too
Yes and I love and appreciate him so much for it ! It’s so nice to see him enjoy being such a big part of everything !
Ben: Young people don't even know how to drive stick shifts
Me: Laughs in european
Chickens are mean
Right? That's what I was thinking. We have mainly stick shift cars..
Yeah this kind of surprised me as well. They live in Canada so as they said its 4 months of snow a year. Driving in snow is way more reasonable to use stick shift. (Opinion of a dude who lives in Eastern Europe)
@@swonder1137 I live in the midwest US, and pretty much all cars are automatic here, but I know in the Northeastern states and in mountainous regions, stick shift cars are more common because its really hard on automatic cars to go up steep inclines, whereas with a manual, you can manually lower the gear for better power. Even though automatics have lower gesrs you can put it in, its better to have a manual if you drive up mountains a lot. But here in Cornfield USA, an automatic is the most common
yeah i tried automatic and i think it takes out all the fun of driving a car
I wish people didnt talk down gift giving and gift love language as a whole. It is valid. It is not really about being materialistic, it is more about being able to have a tangible representation of someones affection.
My partner likes to show love with gifts. It's not my love language to receive gifts but he loves to give. It's not always extravagant things. Sometimes it's just my favorite chips. And it's cute to see how happy he is to surprise me with a gift
Its just their opinion. They're allowed to think its more shallow and you're allowed to think otherwise. I personally agree with you but it doesn't bum me out that they think differently.
i agree. just because it’s not their language i find it a bit rude to say “why would someone ever choose that?????”. surely they can understand that someone knowing you well enough to create/buy something they know you will like is very loving
@@erinshier8089 Especially owning a nail polish business like most of your revenue during the holiday season comes from gift giving so why is it bad when people like gifts in other times? I love Cristine and Ben but those comments were a bit insensitive. I get that they are different people but it could have been responded to with more respect like words of affirmation and physical touch was addressed when neither of them resonated with those languages.
@@Crazee108 Sure but they are not exempt from criticism or saying potentially hurtful or harmful things. I support them and have been for years, but it's important to have hard conversations and not blindly agree with people that have bigger platforms. I'm not necessarily hurt by it, just think a little bit more conscientiousness could be considered.
the "saying I Love You first" part was relatable because once upon a time, I asked my high school bf "how are you?" in a loud room and his face lit up and he said "I love you too!" (he still doesn't know. I acted like I said it. Justin C. if you see this I'm sorry)
Funny how Cristine dogs on gift giving but doesn’t realize Ben bringing her tea is the epitome of gift giving lol. Gift giving doesn’t have to be huge gestures, it can be small tokens that signify your partner was thinking of you
Yes, you! I don't need gold and diamonds but bring me lunch and you make my day!
Yeah, like I love gift giving but the gift giving I usually do comes from Like, something I made like cookies or small crafty things, or a pretty rock I thought someone would like. Like gift giving/receiving doesn't have to mean Like, buying something for someone, it could be as simple as picking a flower on a walk and giving it to someone you care about.
Exactly!!!
I think that’s more acts of service than gift giving tbh i got the same result as Christine tho lol
@@alecia5447 buying someone a tea or coffee could definitely apply to either gifts or acts of service, but people with gifts as their love language will absolutely tell you that someone buying them their favorite drink is an example of their love language being spoken
Christine forgot that giving tea counts as gifts and gift giving is secretly her love language 🤫
Me over here hearing "Can vacuuming be an act of love?" Me: YES!!!! There is nothing I appreciate more then when my husband takes out the trash or cleans the dishes. It's so wonderful.
100% agree with you! It seems silly, but I really appreciate it when my husband does the vacuuming or the dishes because it's one less thing on my list of things to do
Is it though? I think as a member of the house, it's kind of their responsibility to help with chores as well. Now it's a different story if it's like, he know you hate vacuuming so he got that covered for you, that would be an act of service. But if it's just "my husband doing chores and that's amazing", I would disagree it's an act of service, because it should be "my husband doing chores because he's supposed to".
Ben sounding like Seinfeld... “I’ve been told I have nice eyebrows” cristine “who told you that?” Ben “lots of people!”
Hi there, just wanna offer some perspective on the "receiving gifts" love language as I think it was misinterpreted in a negative way. I took the quiz, and receiving gifts was my secondary love language. I don't consider myself a materialistic person, I think a better way to think about "receiving gifts" is to call it "Tangible Affection", which can be something as simple as my partner picking up a tea for me on his way home. Just small tokens of affection really make me feel loved by my partner. To me, when my partner brings me a "gift" it shows me that he's thinking about me even when I'm not around, and that makes me feel loved. So it's not that people who have "receiving gifts" as a love language are materialistic or would rather have a present than spend time with their partner, to me it's just knowing that when I'm not around them they are still reminded of me and are thinking of me and ways they can make me feel loved. I can understand how people wouldn't want to associate with the options because they sound super negative and materialistic, so I think if the questions were worded better more people would find they associate with the love language receiving gifts.
I completely agree with this! Thank you for wording it because I didn't know how to explain it.
I completely agree! I also think they didn't quite understand acts of service when talking about the vacuuming example. As a working mom of 2, my hubby running a vacuum around the living room is 100% definitely an act of service! I'm busy and it's taking something off my list of things to do! I think they would benefit from actually reading the book instead of just taking the quiz. The book is short, probably took me about an hour to read. 🤷🏻♀️
same with physical touch!! Ben mentioned this a bit. It's not meant to imply people want to be groped and grabbed all the time, just that simple things like hugs, holding hands, or generally being close in proximity is nice!
Yes! Thank you for explaining this lol, I was hoping I wasn't the only one thinking "it's not about the actual gift", it's about the thought!
I think gifts has to be one of my top love languages because I love giving gifts. Knowing how much thought I put into my gifts, makes me think about all the thought that someone put into a gift for me. It's about them seeing something and being excited to see my face when they give it to me. I'm even trying to be low waste so I rarely buy stuff for myself so I really appreciate when someone does.
the common misconception with the love language of gift receiving is the person being superficial cause they want gifts.
the actuality of it is gift giving to them is a physical representation of someone thinking about them. and by gifts it doesnt have to be huge, expensive things; it can be a cute little keychain you see at a shop that reminded you of the person.
my moms love language is gift receiving and i realized that it meant a lot for her to get something that made you think of her rather than me doing a task or chore for her.
thank you ! i felt bad bc people that like getting gifts are portrayed as selfish and materialistic people when it’s not true. i just love a physical item that represents something meaningful 🥰 i kept a ton of letters from my classmates when i was in the hospital back in kindergarten,. i just love the thought people take to give u something ☺️
Yes to me it doesn’t mean something continental even. Your spouse bring you a bar of chocolate home from grocery shopping or getting your favorite brand of chips. Yes I agree it’s very much about aw you were thinking about me. Not actually about an expensive gift.
Yes! I rephrase gift giving love language as being sentimental and it makes more sense to people. “Gifts” don’t always have to be store bought, expensive gifts.
I am a huge gift giver. I like to remember small details from conversations and surprise them with a gift that relates. Example: My co-worker joked that we needed a "Happy Pill Jar" full of all sorts of anxiety meds since the office was so stressful. I know she has a sweet tooth so I bought a bunch of candies that looked like pills and put them into a container with a label that said, "RX Happy Pills." It's silly and cheap but it made her smile. I also love giving gifts at Christmas. Trying to find a gift that perfectly fits someone's personality is just the bees knees lol
Gifts can also be practical things like household requirements to make life easier, a smoothie because you know your lover likes em and you pass aplace that sells them. It's really not a negative thing unless its superfercial and expected.
Gift giving isn’t a shallow or vain love language. It’s not like “buy me a Prada bag” constantly. My husbands love language is gift giving and that’s how he shows to me that he’s thinking of me or remembers something I like and randomly brings me a chocolate bar because he knows it’s my favorite. There isn’t a monetary value when it comes to it. It’s something as simple as when Ben brings Cristine tea!
Ben: I don't want to objectify you.
Also Ben: YOUR BUTT!
For the "gifts", it's not about the "things". It's the fact that a loved one thought of you and knows you well enough to think of something meaningful to get you. That could be something as simple as getting your favorite snack from a gas station when they go in to pay... without you saying anything and not expecting a snack, to something extravagant like planning a vacation on your birthday. It's not about the gift, it's about the intention and thought behind the "gift" . The gift is their attentiveness to you in reality.
I honestly hope they address this in the next podcast because I legit feel sad about how they made it sound, it's definitely my love language and I hate to think people just imagine that makes me want like Gucci bags from a boyfriend rather than like... A rock he found on the beach 😭
@@melbapeach162 normal people wouldn’t assume that about gift-giving, they’re just needlessly judgmental about topics they don’t fully comprehend and Ben needs to feed his superiority complex. Gift-giving is lovely.
@@mads597 wow, that's maybe you being needlessly judgemental...
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a love language of getting gifts. Just a nice note or a candy bar can make people feel special and thought of.
Also, its not just about getting gifts, my sis love language is gifts, and she goes out of her way to buy people things too. Gifts is my lowest, but I've learned that a $5 Starbucks card on a hard day can mean the world to her.
i like buying gifts for people to show love. it’s kinda like “hey! i saw this thing and knew you’d love it so i got it for you!” or “hey! i know you’ve been needing one of these for a long time! surprise i got it for you!” it doesn’t have to be expensive or unique stuff and i never expect anything back
Right! Like I want to know what makes someone feel appreciated and if it’s gifts it means that I know enough to get them a gift. You have to know a person well to get them a 🌟meaningful🌟 gift
Totally, and I think maybe there's a misunderstanding of what a "gift" can be. Like it's not always a shiny new purchase, I've definitely expressed affection for people by giving them drawings or a book I had that I think they'd like. It's more about the "I was thinking of you and here's why."
@@aina3387 actually it is just about getting. Your love language is about how you want to receive love, what makes you feel loved, it's not to interpret how you want to show love to other. Obviously we don't know each other but for example, if your sister (someone you say loves to give) were to pick up and gift something she saw that reminded her me, it would make me uncomfortable(as I do not like getting gifts). Now if she were to just come over like "hey, I saw something today that reminded me of you" that's how I would feel love. I hope that's not confusing because I also kinda suck at explanations
Holy shit. I didn’t even realise driving stick is so uncommon these days. I’m 26 and I’ve never driven an automatic in my life.
I'm 24 and can't drive stick to save a life lol
In europe everyone drives a stick🤣
I also had no idea because all of the people I know drive manual. I driven an automatic before, but like in driving classes where the instructor had to change cars because the person before me was learning automatic. And another time when I drove my grandmother and grandfather somewhere in their car.
@@nikolina5799 oh so that's it, it's an European thing. That's why I didn't know about everyone driving automatic these days haha
@@nikolina5799 I guess that has to be it 😂 I European as well
As someone whose love language is Gift Giving the question that is “have partner help me with a project vs give me a meaningful gift” I personally don’t like help because I know I will get frustrated if it’s not done the particular way I want it done. So I typically would prefer a gift saying “wow good job” than taking the help. I hope that cane help you understand that love language more. Also gifts don’t have to expensive or even purchased. Flowers picked in a field are gifts. A gift to a person with this love language means something because it says “when I wasn’t with you I thought about you and got this for you” or “I spent my own time thinking of this gift to give you to make you happy”. And this goes vice versa, so when your friend who has the love language of gifts comes over with a candy bar or small trinket to give you, that’s how they show they love you.
Beyn saying "simp squad, super simps" just makes my every single freaking week
Chickens are mean
I will cry when he stops saying it 😂 I love being part of the the super simp squad
@@marinachristine2591 same lol
I think by "holiday" the questionnaire meant something like Christmas, birthday, anniversary, etc. Not a vacation😎
I came to the comments for this lol
yep lol they mean liking Christmas because your partner will give you a gift
So glad someone explained this to them. 😆
Oh thank you for clarifying, I couldn't figure out why they kept saying "get a holdiay" lmao I was like, yeah, everyone will "get" the holiday, and lots of holidays come with gifts.
The American in me did not think of a vacation
I've never related to Ben more than during his incredibly weird and hilariously awkward reaction when Cristine was thanking and praising him
I appreciate you appreciating me appreciating you!
When they said holidays I think they were referring to like Christmas, Valentine's Day etc, not vacation.
Petition to make ben kissing menchie the official intro to simply podlogical! They're just so cute!
Chickens are mean
Everyone always thinks the gift giving love language is materialistic and just wanting things but it’s more than that. its my love language and it’s not about WHAT the gift is, but the thought and effort behind the gift. Like my husband told me afterwards that he chose my engagement ring because he thought I’d be able to wear it while I worked in nursing (it was a flatter cut gem so it wouldn’t poke through the medical gloves). Likewise, I gifted him a valentines card with puns drawn in it because he likes clever puns, and I also bought him foot and hand cream because they’re very cracked and sore a lot of time and he really appreciated it.
My mum was like that - always so thoughtful with any gift she gave and really appreciated any small token. I'm acts of service but it's always nice to know someone has been thinking of you in some small way.
That being said, I also know some people who have had tantrums if their partner doesn't get them an expensive enough gift for their birthday 😬😬. I feel as though people think more of that extreme when they hear gift giving instead of people like you and my mum which I think is far more common 🙂
Yeah the dismissiveness really bothered me. But everyone is entitled to their own opinion. My primary love language is gift giving which translates into small, thoughtful items. Partner ran out of deodorant so I'll pick some up for him. Or his favourite chocolate bars are on sale etc. I'm not out here buying him a car.
That’s so cute! And I agree, gift giving isn’t always materialistic. It can be sweet and thoughtful like with you and your husband, and that’s very admirable :)
EXACTLY!! It's about paying attention to someone and thinking of them. Love this!
100%. It's not about how expensive or how big the gift is, it's about how much thought the person put into that gift or just showing that they thought about you. One of my primary love languages is giving and recieving gifts and I appreciate very personal gifts so much, it just shows that the person knows me very well and thought about me when getting me that gift. My ex used to just give me money and tell me to "get yourself a gift from me" and that's not what gift recieving is about for me.
The whole intimacy thing in the end.... I appreciate them not talking about it because I don't want to see my yt parents talk about their sex life 😁
😅 same
I felt this 😆
i just belive to myself they dont. ill cry
@@victoriasminizooLMAO
gift giving doesn't necessarily mean buying expensive things to give to your partner, it could be cheap flowers, or giving little notes and small things!
Oats have been added to Cristines display shelf.
NOW SHE NEEDS THAT SIMPLY TEA BLEND 😆👏👏👏 FOR THE TRIFECTA!!!
David’s tea.....?
We have a local place here in town named Simply Tea and I love going there for all my tea things!
me clicking so fast because this is the only thing that makes my week better:
Same
Same
Tru lol
Chickens are mean
same
Over the years I’ve realized there are two aspects of the love language: 1) the one you like to receive and 2) the one you like to give.
I realized that I like to receive acts of service and quality time. But when I want to express my love and give it to someone else, I do it in the form of giving gifts and physical touch. So yeah there might be some sort of “compatibility” when it comes to love languages. But yes super true about putting in the effort in the relationship regardless of love language.
Gift giving isn't personally my love language, but I don't think it's shallow at all.
Receiving a nice gift shows that the person a.) understands you and b.) thinks about you when they are not with you.
It can be as simple as leaving a sticky note with a sweet message for them to find or making a photo collage and emailing it to them.
Oh I never thought of it this way!! I like to do the sticky-notes thing, and writing letters etc and giving them to my partner.
ben calling cristine "his princess" melted my heart ;-;
pov: you're scrolling through trying to find comments about cristine and ben's relationship but there's only Europeans talking about their stick cars
Edit: removed the word "angry"
lol You're right.
Lol, true
guilty
@@nesab2671 that’s the perfect way to explain this phenomenon lol thank you!
@@nesab2671 on a worldwide perspective, only Europe and maybe Japan prefer manual, so it's not really just a North American thing
Awww! Ben was shaking from how embarassed he was when Cristine was complimenting him! So sweet! That's how you know he means it when he says what he is saying.
Ben's "Netflix and chill" made me laugh so hard. Presumably he meant literally that, which is such a dad thing
Gift giving doesn’t mean lambos and diamond rings. Many people prefer actions over words as words can be quite empty. In example, someone grumbling that they love you while they’re completely distracted and ignoring you to play a video game or talk to other people and this is a regular occurrence. Versus, your significant other bringing you a $.50 plastic car that they found at the gas station before they came home that they thought was cute and you might like. It’s about the gesture, not the monetary value for some. I love giving gifts and they’re usually handmade often miniatures that took me many hours to a couple of days to sculpt. Haven’t finished the podcast but I felt I had to point this out as a lot of the comments in the beginning like “who would pick that“ seemed pretty judging.
Felt the same, one of my favorite moments in life is when I gifted a toddler something they would completely love is sad to see the think is put of nowhere but actually it involves that thoughtful moment of knowing the person and what to give or even how to receive
In the Netherlands, stickshift is the normal way to drive. Almost everyone learns how to drive a non automatic car. More automatic cars are coming but most people find it not necessary here haha. So not every young person won't know hahaha
Same! 🙈 Was m'n 1e gedachte
It's the same way in Germany!
im from the us but my parents like stickshift cars so some reason idk so i actually learned to drive with a manual car. it actually hurt me for my driving exam since my instructor had an automatic lol.
(also here the stereotype is that the only people who know how to drive stickshift are car bros who are super into cars and stuff. most 'normal' people just use automatics)
Same in France, and most of Europe in general too I think
same in portugal, I was really surprised they weren't obligated to learn it, we only learn manual in schools
I feel like there isn’t really a “quintessential hot guy” anymore because people’s taste varies so much and popular culture is slowly catching up
My boyfriend likes gifts. But that means he likes when I buy him tea, a donut, a chocolate bar, or shampoo.
I just love how menchie is like "heck with these podcasts! Let's play dad"
I love menchie
Chickens are mean
Menchie needs to stop being so cute, I can’t take it
"Dad, you're moving your hands around. They should be petting me."
I feel like people are too quick to assume that the gift giving love language is superficial. I LOVE getting presents for people, I love showing how well I really know them and what they love. Not just big gifts but like when someone says they used to love a certain food as a kid I'll go out of my way to buy them it or if I know someone's having a stressful day I'll bring them a fancy coffee or something. Making things too, putting your heart into making someone a gift just for them is such a good way to show your love. I feel like the gift-giving love language is always looked down on and it's sad to me as someone that hates physical displays of affection and can't stand compliments it's such a nice subtle love language anyone can appreciate.
What one thing would your partner rescue if your house caught fire?
“Menchie”
“BEEEEEEEEYYYNNNNNNNN”
The utter tone of righteous outrage in Cristine’s voice loool
First Zyler isn’t Ben’s first pet and now this. XD
My definition of being "rich" has always been when food (and shelter to a lesser degree) decisions have nothing to do with money.
When I can live comfortably without having to live paycheck to paycheck and can actually put some money into savings.
Gift giving is not my primary love language but I totally understand why it's important to some people. It's not just about being superficial, they can be very sentimental objects that have little to no monetary value, but they show that a person cares about you enough to have gone out of their way to think about and get something that would excite you.
I love how driving a manual car is such a “skill” in Canada and America... and is lot in the UK all drive manual cars 😂 #skilled In fact it’s kinda weird when a friend or family member gets an automatic car, it’s almost frowned upon as not proper driving!!!!
Although it’s not the norm there are actually quite a lot of people in the US (and I assume Canada) who learn manual as well, it’s a good skill to have. Ben just talks out his rear-end too much (and I’m not talking about a car part!)
As a German I can relate to this. Most automatic cars over here are like SUVs or the more expensive cars like a BMW 5/7 or an Audi A6. The average cars however are like 99% manual. I learned (manual) driving with a VW Golf and immediately after I passed my test my dad (who has an automatic) made sure I learned how to drive his car as well. In my friend group I‘m pretty much the only who knows how to drive both, most people around me are anxious to drive an automatic. Which is also partially because the stick has letters for English words. Like „D“ for drive, „R“ for reverse etc. so most people don‘t know what the letter is supposed to mean and don‘t know what to do 😄
Wow thanks for the cool fact. I’m in Australia and most people drive Automatics but we are encouraged (by our parents these days) to learn to drive a manual, because once you have your manual licence you can drive an automatic too, and if you need to drive a manual in an emergency you are able
@@elizabeth0484 I don’t know how manuals work in changing into Drive/Reverse etc but maybe putting extra sticker labels to learn what each thing is if people are unsure in an automatic. Just a tip I might suggest
Nobody:
Ben remembering he's Canadian: eh?
MY OATS ARE COMING TODAY!!!!!
that is all. 😂
Mine toooooooo!!
@@Heykatierose Yay!! 😁
Chickens are mean
@@annamatthews2595 not all chickens
YAYYYY GLORIOUS OAT DAY
In the U.S. we don't refer to vacations as a "holiday". When we say holiday, it usually means like Christmas. So they may look forward to Christmas because of a gift. Hope that makes sense lol
Lol came here to say this
nah i hear im going on holiday as a vacation
@@meow-ne6lx that's not typical in the U.S. The question was implying a holiday, not vacation.
@@KimKong1011 yeah i get what u mean but it is typical at least around me i live here lol
@@meow-ne6lx I'm on the east coast. I've never heard it. Maybe it depends on the region.
Ben’s face when he’s talking about his eyebrows is great lmao, and I think his choice of Anne Hathaway to play Cristine in a movie was great!!
The way Ben stared into the camera when Cristine asked who ever told him he had nice eyebrows 🤣😂
Ben was basically blushing when Cristine was complementing him, adorable
The only good thing about tuesday, is this podcast
Chickens are mean
@@annamatthews2595 SHUT THE VCHBBV UP
@@hellohellohihi haha
I feel like the vacuum example is perfect for me. It's on the list of things I truly hate doing and my friends and loved ones know this. Sometimes when I've not been doing well my friends have helped me tidy and then have let me hide in another room while they vacuum for me (hate the noise) and it's truly meant the world. I don't think I ever feel more loved than when a friend vacuums or takes the trash out for me.
I’m late to commenting, but as someone with chronic pain, I am often deeply touched by my boyfriend doing basic household things like vacuuming or taking out the cardboard: those regular things can be very painful for me to do when I’m going through a bad period. Just yesterday he scrubbed the bathtub for me so I could take a hot bath and I teared up lol. It might not seem like much, but when he goes out of his way to do things that he knows will spare me pain without me even asking, it makes me feel not only loved and cherished, but deeply understood. ❤️
I feel like I’m so used to you guys not talking about the intimacy side of the relationship that I would be taken aback if you actually do hahah
Europeans lifting their brow when Ben said "you probably don't know what a manual is" 😂
I had surgery and was not able to vacuume and my partner thoroughly vacuumed my entire apartment for me (I live alone). I felt SO LOVED. Vacuuming should be its OWN love language! hehe.
I love how much Ben loves his eyebrowns
Like, he say it several times now in different videos and sound so proud. I love it 😂
I love how he's just ignoring menchie like, standing on his shoulders.
IKR?
He is probably so used to it lol
Ben sayin “Rahhhhnnnnn stopppp” makes my day significantly brighter while struggling to accept back to back compliments ❤️😂
Hey! I'm a young person I'm 22 and I learned manual! And I still drive manual! I don't really like driving an automatic because I learned manual. So no it's not the norm for young people to drive manual these days, my friends also drive manual so it's not just me. My younger sister who's 18 also drives manual, because that's also what she learned. But then again I live in the Netherlands so maybe it's different in Europe?
Loved them not understanding holiday as in Christmas when talking about anticipating a gift bc they’re all Canadian and call vacations holidays
Thank you for explaining. I was so confused by their confusion.
Um yes, Joseph Gordon Levitt and Evangeline Lilly. Can we get this movie made, please?
there is definitely a resemblance between Simply and Evangeline Lilly.
@@delphinidin But J Gordon Levitt lacks the facial hair to play Ben.
Ben and Cristine's relationship is goals, but also that's just called having a healthy relationship so I think I have real low standards for my future lmao
I love how you guys communicate. You are the best couple on a podcast I have seen so far. The conversation is fluid and no one overpowers or overshines the other.
Ben: "You young people probably don't even remember driving stick"
Every European watching this: Uhhhhh... I only drive sitck xD
My love language is also acts of service and I love when my partner vacuums for me 😂 I work pretty late hours and really value having a clean space, so when my partner cleans for me it makes me so so happy!
I quickly took the quiz for teens, and it was a lot more centered on familial and platonic love with friends. I imagine the children's one is very similar. My top love language was quality time. And I agree, the gift giving one did seem... a lot. Like, yes I appreciate a gift, but at the same time the amount that it came up was a lot and constantly answering it would seem almost greedy, imo.
I took the (adult single) love language quiz a while ago, and got quality time as well (40%, just like Ben). I too thought the gift thing was a lot. Also, I really love GIVING gifts, way more than recieving them, but that was just not an option as far as I recall.
@@93maija The reason giving gifts wasn't an option is because this quiz is about how you like to receive love, rather than how you express it.
"Gift giving" was my bottom percentage when I took the test. Literally 3% but I still think it's a lovely way to show affection. They don't have to be extravagant things.
My husband never finishes his food so when he gets fries and doesn't finish them he bring them home for me to enjoy. I consider that gift giving and it makes me so happy when he does small things like that.
Menchie is such a shweet little SHNOOKUM DOODLES!!!!
Literally just started it, but I feel like Cristine's love language will be acts of service and quality time
Wow shocker, I was right 😂 Cristine is so practical
I know it doesn’t really sound romantic, but when my fiancé vacuums without me expressing that I want it done. That really makes me feel loved and appreciated. I tend to do most of the cleaning since I’ve always been more a neat freak in my life, so when my fiancé notices that something needs to get done and just does it without being asked it shows me that he is in tune with our daily life and values living to the standard that I do.
Thanks for coming to my Ted talk 😂
No one love language is better than another. Each just needs to be understood and given attention. 🤷♀️
hi! i just wanted to shed a little light on 'the gift giving' thing. My love language especially the way i 'give love' or rather show affection, is that i love giving gifts. I like making small (and big) gestures to the people i love! i always buy another round or put a lot of thought and energy into birthday presents and what not for my loved ones. I can barely hide my excitement, because im just so thrilled to hopefully get them something that they appreciate and like! I know you don't mean any harm, but i found it difficult for me to hear you talk the gift giving (and receiving) down, as if it only was about showing love by spending money, when its so much more than that. I am aware that capitalism is upon us all, and that its not at sustainable way to live, and trust me i understand and feel the same way, but when i buy stuff or put effort into getting people i love something i know they would love, its more about me letting them know, that i think about them even when they're not around, and that i care about them, by showing them the thought and effort i put into these things. I hope this gives another perspective to the situation! xxx
Schools are closed because of snow and I'm listening to this podcast. Couldn't be more happy.
here too!
Same. But I'm in TX so I have no power either and am watch this on my phone.
In the Netherlands driving manual is the norm. So when I got driving lessons I had to learn how to drive manual because most of the cars in the Netherlands are manual cars. The cars are getting more automatic though so probably in a few years everyone will be driving an automatic car.
Ben: food question
Me: hummus, oats.
a lot a people drive manual over here in the netherlands, it is a very normal thing that still young people learn to do
You guys, EVERYONE in Europe knows how to drive stick. It’s the standard here and in most countries, you have to pass your test in a vehicle with manual transmission 😬
here in Jamaica it's 50/50. with our terrain, a lot of the SUVs and trucks have to be manual
As a Canadian I am horrified at this hahaha. I tried to learn but I felt that it was such a distraction from the road
@@pasc8699 haha sorry. It’s just so odd to me that that’s such a thing in North America about the stick driving when over here it’s completely the standard.
Here in the Philippines, you can pick either manual or automatuc transmission when you study. When I first got my license, I studied manual first.
Most cars also here in my country are still manual
“Manual cars are kind of a forgotten art, I bet young people don’t know what we’re talking about.”
All the UK kids who learn how to drive using manual cars: 👁👄👁
Shhh only Ben’s lived experience is valid here
The questions on the Love Language Test are kind of weirdly formulated I think. For example, my partner and I say “I love you” to each other all the time, definitely multiple times a day. Gift giving is not at all a big part in our relationship, and a much more rare occasion. So if you ask me what means more to me, saying I love you or getting a super sweet and thoughtful gift that he just spent a lot of time and effort on, I might be inclined to say the latter, just because it’s more of a special event. But that doesn’t mean I think gifts are really important.
I don't agree that acts of service is really superficial like, I also value that very much. So I totally get where Christine is coming from.
Omg you both aren’t that old everyone still knows what stick shift is
Chickens are mean
Saw this was highlighted and just wanted to say I love and look up to you both :) I was born in 1997 so I get the brute of a lot of “bet you don’t know what this is” it gets annoying when the stuff is still pretty relevant like stick shift, don’t worry guys you aren’t that old yet! ❤️
@@kpopkpopkpopXD they are overly judgmental. Ben just needed a reason to come off as superior, as he is known to do. Your original comment is truth.
@@mads597 they truly are. Its been surprising to see just how judgemental they really are, about everything. These podcasts and their comments make me like them less. They try soooo hard to act relatable but its clear they look down on a lot of people.
Ben: Driving stick is a forgotten art
Me: Yeaay I'm an artist :-)
(greetings from Germany)
Men complain about purses until they need something
“could you put this in your purse for me”
You two are SO GWADDAM CUTE!!!!! The level of comfort and intimacy you two share is so beautiful, hilarious, and comforting 🥰🥰🥰 You're dynamic brings my heart giggly joy! Hey Ben, your nails are TO DIE FOR! 💅