Relationships, Children & Why Ben Won’t Propose - SimplyPodLogical #3
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- Опубликовано: 10 июл 2024
- It's Let's Taco 'Bout it Tuesday! On this episode of SimplyPodLogical, Cristine and Ben talk about how they met, first impressions, why Ben won’t propose, dealing with social pressures to have children, and how RUclips fame, money, and income discrepancy has affected their relationship.
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0:00 - Hey what's up holo everyone
3:58 - How Cristine and Ben first met
17:17 - Pictures from when we first started dating
20:21 - First impressions of each other
23:19 - Is it okay to be single?
28:04 - Having kids, telling the other person your feelings, and population considerations
39:07 - How should you respond to the social pressure of having children?
40:20 - How we manage finances as a couple, who pays the bills, and fighting over money
47:20 - How RUclips ‘fame’ has affected our relationship and using your relationship for clickbait
53:28 - Has Cristine always been this crazy?
56:04 - Dating your best friend and rejection
59:06 - How can you encourage a partner to communicate more?
1:02:10 - Dealing with income discrepancy in a relationship and should men make more money?
1:07:03 - Working at the same job while in a relationship
1:10:13 - Why we aren't getting married (legal implications, religion, societal norms, an expensive spectacle and archaic traditions), parents' divorce
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I love how Ben points out that you shouldn't ask people when they are having kids because of infertility issues and other health problems that physically make them unable to have kids. They are both so honest and caring.
Cough cough* adoption cough cough
@@J.c.brooklyn some people have those problems and wish they could actually have their own kid so if someone asks them if they are gonna have kids it could make them upset (not saying adoption isnt an option but some people just want their own kids)
@@Pineapple-jl1bn sorry I did put it rudely idk why I just looked at my comment and was like that was rude so sorry
@@J.c.brooklyn it's ok lol we all say some random stuff without thinking sometimes
*laughs in Indian*
Beyn: "I was aware of you as the *hot girl* I'd see on Facebook"
Cristine: "No, no one believes that!"
Cristine... You are GORGEOUS. EVERYONE believes that. 🔥
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She really is! Though perhaps she meant it more in the sense that she doesn't present herself in a "hot" way - sure she's very beautiful, but she doesn't wear any revealing clothes and that sort of thing, you know? As we all know she is just a sock after all, albeit a gorgeous sock ;)
I think she meant that she doesn't really dress in hot girl clothes lol We always see her in sweats and a hoodie. But homegirl has it going on and I think she knows it. Not to mention, she's posted pics in videos from her partying days and she was definitely one of the hot girls.
Cristine hasn't changed a bit she was an still is so hot.
Ben is a different person, his face changed a lot 👏🏻
Zombie EXACTLY like she so beautiful 😍
I love how Ben liked christine during her party phase, and still loves her now as a crazy cat lady with a peely bag!
lloydminster has algebra homework g
Cristine
Talk about growing together!😍😍
"We don't want kids."
But mom-
There are over 7 million of us...
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Me as a holosexual hearing them say they don’t want kids: 👁👄👁
this made me smile a lot 🥺
Whew 😅
Ouch
God Ben is so in love with Cristine. This podcast was him gushing about her and her just smiling ear to ear the whole time.
Cristine*
You can see it by the way cristine is just singing her opening theme song and he's just smiling and looking at her and it's just 😩
Definitely comes as he is the one that love more, which is not a bad thing. Is what it works in their relationship, my first thought was that he is the Hal for his Lois haha (Malcolm in the middle reference... I am old).
Even though, she seems more emotional codependent on him, that he on her😋
They are just a great fit for each other❣️
damn. imagine being in a relationship where you actually love your partner.
WE ALL NEED A BEN IN OUR LIFE UGH!
ben and cristine: we dont want kids
the other however many million of us: i thought we were your kids
Bre Rose there’s no million yet...
Cristine has more than one channel?? Idk lol it’s just a joke who cares about the numbers😂
Menchie?
Menchie?
Zyler?
@@naomimartinez3346 7.59 million subs on her main channel, SimplyNailogical.
It's so rare to see two adults having an actual adult conversation on youtube anymore.
Well, it's not a problem anymore 😂 we have simplypodlogical
this is late but i really appreciate the nuance about the kids conversation
I absolutely agree
Cristine, Ben, and Ethan and Hila Klein are the only people I trust on this site. Everyone else ends up being a racist or a child molester at this point.
@@Amirablhad love this
“do you feel it”
“the peelies”
“no the love”
147 likes first reply but about the comment...
LOL that made me laugh a lot 😂 🤣
Wait you are dead...
I bet u haven't seen the rest 😂
CaN yOu FeEl It? TuRn iT uP, uP, uP!!
Ben: "You own my heart."
Cristine: *Smiles yet continues to try and be serious*
what was the time when he said that !
Always Tired 1:17:40
Ben: you own my heart sweetie
And cristine cud die by smiling..
THAT WAS SO CUTE
Cuteness overload 🥰
"we don't want kids"
zyler and menchie: what are we to you? a joke?
Valentina Paniagua 😂😂😂
They're pets...
@@_Piers_ same thing.
Piers r/whoosh
Same here, our pets are our children
Ben’s aging like fine wine and Cristine’s not aging at all.
i saw cristine's old photos and she actually looks so much younger now
Vampires
as soon as i saw the second pic im like holy shit she didn't age AT ALL
I think it’s so admirable that not only she doesn’t age she also has a style that is very signature and she never changes it
1:17:43
Ben: You own my heart, sweetie
Cristine: Right, anyway....
Aww
34:25
LMAOO
I understand they don’t want to make children but are they ADOPTING a 26 year old by any chance...id like to apply.
aneeqa ali same. They need a 28 year old too
I'm the 27 and you have the complete trio!
I'll one up ya. A soon to be 32 year old lady~
I am still 17, do I count :3
any space for a 13 year old? i've been a holosexual since i've been birthed 🥺🖤
"Menchie makes me have low selfsteem cause she's so beautiful"
Same.
Maricela Kanter mood hahaha
My fur baby makes me feel the same. She's got big green eyes, a teeny salmon coloured nose, long shiny tortoiseshell + tabby locks, a huge fanned out palm tree tail all in a petite frame. If she were human she would get all the boys!
Valentina Rose my cat is my twin. We both have black hair and a tuft of hers always sticks up in the exact same spot I have a cowlick 😂 She is for sure, without one single doubt, the beautiful one though
@@MyLast2Braincells84 her milkshake would bring all the boys to the yard🤣
Just as i read this comment she said it 😂
I loved when Cristine mentioned she has 2 opinions, her honest one and the one that she tells mothers. I can't stand kids for many reasons and I don't see them in my future, but I'm not gonna tell a mother all the reasons why I hate them and all that. I'll always just be like "they're cute, just not for me" and move along.
funny seeing this comment again, since then I got the news im infertile and will likely need a hysterectomy. I'm honestly just "happy" it's me and not someone who's dream it is to have kids. nice watching this podcast again with a different life experience.
Ik this comment was a year ago, but the way u said how ur happy it’s u and not someone else just made me smile bc a lot of the time ppl don’t think that when their in ur position :) im just trying to say is that ur comment made me smile and I agree with ur point :D
The fact that Ben is disappointed that Cristine doesn't spend money on things that she likes just shows how much he cares about her.
Or how much he doesn't want money to go to waste lol. Apart from donating a lot of money at some point when they're older, but yea.
“I-I like your crazy “ honestly wish someone would say that to me
Edda Marx meeeeeeee
What time?
Omgg I read this while he said this😱😂
im sorry bro
My husband once got me a card with a trilobite on the front and the inside said "You're strange and wonderful".
Ben is actually a wonderful entertainer and I love that he involves himself in these projects with Christine.
And he has like, the best radio voice.
He’s like Roman Kemp
His voice is so calm and soothing!! Ben should do ASMR!!
I’m sorry I hate when people do this but....iTs cRisTeNe
Rachael Zabel when he makes that commercial voice it reminds me of president mic from bnha
Luna Storm,
iTs cRiStiNe
Ben literally adores Cristine and it’s so cute-
Can we just address this logically?
Any person who calls you a name when you say you don't want to date/ sleep with them is not a friend. Period.
completely agree ! that immediately shows to me that they think they are entitled to something from you and when they don’t get what the expected they would, their immediate reaction is to become aggressive and rude. huge red flag in my opinion
@@lee_yuhhh r/NiceGuys is calling. 😅
@@jsmith1516 And r/nicegirls too
@@lobeliaowl2482 Absolutely true.
Agree
Cristine hasnt aged since she was 24. Girl, just let us know the skincare routine
wait shes not 24? 😭😭
Being a generally happy person, and not bitter and hateful does wonders for the complexion. Just look at how nasty Ann Coulter looks.
Probably because she really doesn’t wear makeup and seems to generally take care of herself
@@user-lk9wy7hi1d I was going to say, not a lot of make up
@@foreverdead1248I know it's just a joke, but it's probably not a good thing to equate good looks with moral goodness
can we just take a moment and realize how good of role models they are to their younger audiences? it’s just so nice to see tbh
The good role models is the cat pics
I so agree. And I think they are aware of this and make a conscious choice to make these videos for that purpose, it’s very well done of them.
I have had people ask "who will come visit you when you are in a nursing home?" I respnded "there is no guarantee that your children would come visit you..."
I guarantee you that my kids will NOT come see me in a nursing home bc I will not be in a nursing home ever... lol my retirement savings includes a home health aide/nurse when I need one. I suggest you do the same.😌
I like the engagement ring comment, because I proposed to my boyfriend a couple weeks ago, and he's the one wearing the ring. I've made a deposit on him. So many people have assumed I'm forcing him to get married, or he wasn't ready to get engaged. No, we talked about it, I asked him out, I proposed. We're of the same mindset, like Ben and Cristine, so it doesn't matter who does what, as long as we agree.
KarimaHorton very progressive. I like it, even though I want to be the one purposed to if it ever happens because I want a pretty ring ngl 😂
@@melbapeach162 not saying this in a mean way or anything I also want a pretty ring but you could also get your own pretty ring. it will probably be way cooler too xD next year i want to get me a sapphire ring! put my own ring on it!
I REALLY wanted to propose to my now-husband, but he didn't feel comfortable with it because he's more traditional than I am. He also didn't wear a ring until we were married. I really wanted him to wear a ring when we were engaged because it felt weird that only I had to wear one. However, now that we're married, he literally never takes his ring off, and I'm always forgetting to wear mine. 😂
@@hellspawn22 I have a grape color change sapphire engagement ring. I cannot recommend sapphire enough! It's so beautiful and comes in sooo many different colors.
@@melbapeach162 You can buy your own ring, girl!!
I always had nothing to listen to before this podcast and would always get bored...
*bUt ItS nOt A pRoBlEm AnYmOrE*
couldn't have said it any better XD
You can also try the Jenna Julien podcast :) they also have very interesting and fun podcasts
I was gonna say there are tons of podcasts out there or just youtube channels lol. Expand your horizons!
I used to listen to Pretty Basic podcast, but that podcast ended quick, cause cant stand girls squealing voice, and fangirling on fuckboys all the time
Dude it’s a joke. Ya’ll are way too literal. Lmao
I love how Ben is the one who opens these. I feel like this channel is definitely more HIS baby than hers lol.
rudeminnesotan YES. & we’re here for it!
Yes I totally agree
It feels nice to see him having a creative outlet that he can share with us. Kinda like Jenna and Julien and how I believe they said in the past that the podcast was really Juliens baby-I love both couples so much 😭
Yeah I was thinking how natural he sounds with this
Yeah, I feel the same. It looks like Ben is enjoying making the podcasts.
Ben is so inlove with Cristine, he would have married her and had kids with her if that's what she wanted. He is down for whatever she wants though and supports her fully. Such a lovely couple. ❤
33:00 thank you, as someone who can’t have kids this question is infuriating to me. I do want to adopt eventually, and the amount of times I’ve heard “don’t you want your OWN kids” as if the child I adopted and raised would never really be my child.. or as if you can’t love a kid unless it literally has your genes.
agree. some people have weird perceptions about their own genes, like dude they’re not superior and a parent’s love comes from care not genes
I think it's the idea of "passing down the bloodline" which I think stems from the old times, and the idea of keeping bloodlines "pure." And the idea that the adoption of a child isn't "legitimate." Which isn't true, in the past its all about family is blood but now it's family is people who care and are there for you and that's what's important.
My parents constantly say "its different when you have your OWN" & i just insist a child i adopt WOULD be "my own"
@@Mocha_x_svt exactly, because otherwise it’d imply superior genetics and that to me is just a weird concept in modern times.
@@Mocha_x_svt when my mom said something similar I just said, "would you love the kid less if they were adopted?"
and that immediately shut her up because no one would want to say/admit something like that
“do you feel it in the air?”
“what? the peely?”
Changbean Jam can you feel the peely tonight!!!!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
sums up their relationship
The likes keep changing from 90 to 1.3K
Iabtoad huh... thats weird, for me it’s 1,3k (that’s insane btw)
Changbean Jam yeah! It’s like if I click the comment and go to the little reply section it’s 1.3K. But when I quickly view it in the comment section in general it’s 90...
This is such a prime example of what a healthy and loving relationship is. These are two people that took fame and figured out how to make sure they were ok beyond anything else. It honestly goes beyond relationship goals. It's inspiring.
They are the most inspirationsl figures I have ever seen, a lot of people trying too hard to be inspirational figures and saying inspirational speeches kinda falls flat with me and not actually that inspirational
If they ever break up, I'm gonna intervene
@@francishill838 copied comment :/
can we just talk about how much better they’ve both looked as time has gone by? Like yeah, it’s only been 8 years, but you can tell their lives have merged so nicely together that their appearances have somewhat done the same? idk, just an observation :)
This gives me hope
Holy shit xyler is like 12 years old! He’s an old boy!
If Ben and cris have been together for 8 years and she had xyler for about 4 years pre Ben...
Zyler
The way you spelt Zyler’s name makes me hurt inside
Well more like middle aged boy lol him and mench are indoor cats and indoor cats can easily live 20 years
“You don’t know someone’s situation, maybe someone is incapable of having kids.” . THANK YOU! 🙌
Yes. This is me.
A professor of mine told us when people would badger her about not having kids as an "older" woman (she was like 40's or 50's) she would just make a sad face, shrug and say "It just didn't happen."
It turns people from judgemental to embarassed and apologetic real quick.
Same here I have a chronic illness its too high risk for me to even try and bring the pregnancy to term and I could come out with other severe health complications
Holo taco should sponsor the jenna and julien podcast just so julien can segue into a holo taco ad
J M 😆😆😆
YES PLEASE make this comment blow up
I NEED THIS
Yes!!!
YES
Long story short; they're perfect for each other.
But on a more serious note, hearing this as a young person is very helpful. I've only ever heard biased opinions about these things, this is what I need to hear.
Yes. Even though they said they don't want to get married. I feel like they're defining it as a thesis. Lol. Just propose, Cristine will be happy regardless.
100 perfect likes
It's so refreshing to see a happy couple that is famous, but still grounded, so in love, and just enjoying their success together.
“You went clubbing and to bars”
“I was young once”
*now she’s older and drinks nail polish in her basement*
Rache Cakes We love a good mom.
Character growth
Love that development
#goals
Drinks nail polish?
I've decided that Cristine is a vampire. She literally hasn't aged!!!
TastersChoice I think she looks younger than when she first started youtube
@@complicatednailogical3901 She does!
Not having kids'll do that :)
And Ben aged but he looks prettier than before????!!
Living her best life out here 😂❤️
I've never wanted to have kids, but the societal pressure is so intense that when I found out I was barren, I was actually RELIEVED that I could tell people that so they'd leave me alone. Sadly people have now moved on to nagging me about adoption. I have a million health issues and shouldn't adopt, so I have something to say to shut people up, but man... Why does anyone have to present "valid reasons" regarding not wanting to have kids? It should be enough to say you just don't want them.
Love what you said about having kids. My aunt dated a lot of people when she was younger due to societal pressures but eventually just realized she was happier on her own. I used to ask her all the time why she wouldn’t have kids and why I didn’t have cousins to play with, and she said she wasn’t meant to be a mom, she was meant to be a Tía (Aunt in Spanish). She is truly my role model, she’s so level headed and she is literally the cool aunt I didn’t know I needed. My parents are great, but I can always talk to my Tía about my life openly without her getting overly involved, she is able to give me honest unbiased advice, and she always says she gets to do all the fun parts of being a mom like seeing us smile, taking me to the nail salon ;) and helping us with our schoolwork, without the annoying stuff like taking care of a baby, dealing with my stupid teenage angst ha. Y’all would be an awesome cool Tía and Tío.
Hearing Ben saying he was attracted by Cristine's intelligence makes me happy
Leila M goals
Ben's anti-bachelor party is just an excuse for another vacation with his RUclips bff Rob 🤣
so true. well played Ben.
Yes and I would love to see footage of drunk Rob and Ben in Vegas 🤣
And Tayler and Safiya should do mixing all drinks in Vegas.
We totally need this! A partnership celebration! ♥️
I found this very enlightening.
The last two years, one of the difficult aspects to my relationship, has been my expression of emotion and feelings and my partners lack of entirely.
I struggle with many things, but I found it difficult being in bed and thinking endlessly and turning to him and asking how he is, what he is thinking - and getting one word answers and 'not thinking at all'. Felt on my own so much.
Rebecca Jane Brown I’m sorry you feel like that, you sound like you need someone more open and expressive but I know it’s not always as easy as just finding someone new.
Being in a relationship with someone who seems emotionally unavailable is a nightmare. Emotional needs have to be met and I feel like the relationship falls flat when a partner doesn’t share their feelings and the other person does.
Girl leave him please
How are things going now babe?
I hope things are better and you got what you wanted/needed. Also if not and you’re still with him..maybe have that conversation. Men aren’t smart and need it all laid out sometimes.
Duuuuude. Bens voice is SOOOO smooth on that mic!! He has the most perfect voice for a podcast.
Others: If your not dating for marriage, your dating for heart break
Me: Tell that to Simply and Bannana boy
Benana
@@prudence8808 like prudence comment or you get arrested
I think you mean BENana boi
BANNANA BOY LMAOOFG
benana ooh nah nah half of my heart is a benana ooh nah nah
This video is cristine blushing for one hour straight.
I had a miscarriage when I was 18, and ever since my heart breaks more and more when my friends and (abusive) family pester me about having kids not even taking my feelings into consideration. Marriage isnt as triggering for me, but when I lost my son my views changed on pregnancy and children forever. I still want kids, but at the same time I feel like I failed my son when I lost him, I feel incapable of being a good mom because I couldn't even give my son life. It's been almost two years and I'm still scared to try again...
Consider adoption if you feel some sort of betrayal to you baby boy by having a biological one.
hope you’re feeling better love!
Just by reading your comment I can already tell you’d be an amazing mother. If your willing to try again, I think you’d do just fine😊 But this negative mindset will really take a toll on you. If a heaven exists, I bet your son will be smiling at you all grown up with open arms saying “I’m proud of you Mom!” cause you should be proud. MAMA BEAR YOU LITERALLY CARRIED A CHILD. YOU’RE ALREADY A SUPERHERO, CARRYING A CHILD IS A BIG TASK. Anywho, if you truly want to try again, get rid of that mentally and physically breaking negative mindset. Such a strong person deserves to smile without a weight on their shoulders😕Take a spa day, meditate, relax for a bit, you deserve a relaxing you-time. You’ll be okay mama bear😊
If that 18 isn't a typo then you're actually still very young and many people still have to figure out who they are and what they want when they are in their (early) 20s. It also takes some time to process such a severely bad experience and to accept the past as it is. When I received sex-education our teacher said that many women especially those who have several children experience miscarriages. I don't know if anyone ever made you feel guilty for it but I think there should be no guilt if there was no intention & if the miscarriage wasn't caused by a genetic defect (something you can't controll at all) then all of your life circumstances played a role in that and maybe it would (mentally & physically) help you to change your material and social environment before having kids. Pregnancy and birth are not a one-(wo)man-show and it takes a village to raise a child.
I had a miscarriage when I was 19 and I lost my daughter. I live with a similar situation as you so I couldn’t go to PP and get the extraction done until two years later. So now it’s very likely I might not even be able to have kids because my uterus is “traumatised”. Every time my mother especially talks about how she doesn’t want me to adopt but have kids biologically because she could never love adopted grandkids as much as bio grandkids.
"i'm not maternal unless it's a cat." hit me in my soul.
i'm of the same opinion on having kids as well, it's just not for me. am i good with kids? yes, i'm a gymnastics coach to young kids, they love me and i love them. do i want one of my own? no. give me a cat instead and i will treat that kitty like a human child.
Awwww I love the comic Nathan P (something- I forget his last name hahaha) from your pp 🥰
His work is right up my alley.
mum: when are you giving me grandchildren?
me: you already have two...they're furry and have tails.
Cristine:*talking about guys owning women over rings*
Ben:'U owe my heart sweetie'
ADORABLE!!!
1:17:40
he said own btw :)
My parents met at a party when they where 18 and 19. My dad woke up and my mums number was on his arm and he had an exam that day (which he had not studied for) he ended up walking out and phoning my mum instead. They’re now 50 and 51 and been married for 20 years :)
(I thought it was a nice story so wanted to share)
Thank you for sharing! Really nice story. ☺️
Just orange aww that was a cute story!
Introverted Emma no one cares
That's adorable 🥰 I want that love story one day
Introverted Emma my dad should be home any minute with the milk. It’s been 13 years. There must be some insane traffic
Christine: where do you buy our products holo taco?
Ben: umm idk
Christine: YoUr FiReD! 🤣
Ben: "Do you feel it in the air?
Cristine: "...the holo?"
Ben: "No the love"
😭😭😭😭I'm wheezing rn y'all
But have you considered...
*Making a Holo wedding dress just for the fun of it.*
Weeble Flufflycakes with holo taco :))
Like a faux holo wedding, just for a video idea... that would be awesome! Holo dress,holo decor n maybe menchie as holo flower girl aa
This has 420 likes i dont wanna mess that up
Now it has 666 oh boy sorry
"My Clickbait Holowedding" A Series:
Part 1 - Holo Flowers (holo origami paper?)
Part 2 - Holo Veil (Holo gems on tulle, FT Menchie the model)
Part 3 - Holo Wedding Dress (using that $$$ to order a custom holo dress that can be worn at the HOLO TACO booth!).
petition to call it “TALK-o tuesday” because double puns. puns squared.
m. Yesss plz
That u for this amazingness
We need ben’s brother on the podcast to figure out the math on that!
m. This comment is......beautiful
🤭🤭😂 yess
I love and believe the idea of "finding each other at the right time". Timing is everything
I'm barely getting past the 12-minute mark and I cant bro. It's like watching them say "I love you" in a thousand small ways. So now I feel waaaay too lonely, yet extremely happy for them.
On the bright side, I have a dog who loves me unconditionally, so I think I'll be aight
"no-one believes you" Cristine are you KIDDING me you're literally so beautiful
She is one of the few beautiful people that I honesty believe doesn’t see it and isn’t just fishing for compliments
100% agreeeeeee.
Hi, I love you profile picture of jimin 😂😂
aRe YoU kIdDiNg? Of CoUrSE i DoNt SlEeP wItH StUfFeD AnImAlS
cristine is so pretty plss also she looks even more youthful now than her old photos
Ben has such a “podcast” voice.
This channel eas more like... a ben thing I think and it's awesome~
Such a fact
OMG yea
Iuisamariam yea
That man is straight up NPR
i grew up feeling almost a pressure from stereotypes that i HAD to have kids and i HAD to get married to a man, and that left me with a lot of issues as im growing up. i realised i really wanted a career and that was important to me. i realised i liked girls AND guys and that left me VERY confused with what i wanted still, do i want to be the stereotype and marry a man, is that really what i want or was that years of pressure from society?? and then there's wanting kids, ive always grown up with the thought that women just have kids and thats it, but it made me really think about what i want, and what i want is to have a happy life, get married and have kids one day as well as a great career for myself, but it's been hard figuring out if thats because i grew up with that stereotype or if i actually want it.
however all i know for sure is that what matters is im happy!! and if what i want changes, thats okay!!! so for anyone who feels kinda like me, its okay to not know now, and your opinions CAN (but they might not) change. as long as you're happy and healthy then that's all that matters, take your time to figure out what you want and what makes you happy!!
I've been saying since I was 10 that I didn't want kids. Always talked about getting my tubes tied at 18. Was always told "you'll want some one day" and it honestly reinforced my choice. My pregnant sister moved in with her two kids when I was 14 so I practically helped raise the 3 of them. It was tough. Don't want to do it again.
I love how Cristines idea of romance is having their names joined together on a published paper rather than on a marriage certificate ;)
My only thought during this video: damn Zyler is old
im not the only one lol
I know hey! He’s a senior freaking citizen
Wait what? He looks like a baby! 🥺
Ana Clara Barreiros Yeah but he’s been with Cristine since a long time ago
literally how---
I’m so glad you talked about unwanted kids. My father didn’t want me, but my mom wanted me - it was very obvious growing up and I suffered a lot of emotional abuse and guilt. I tried so hard to get him to love me, and it still affects me. As an adult, I know I don’t want kids and I would NEVER want them to feel the way I did growing up.
i keep getting asked by family if im gonna have kids. that question implies im allowed to say no and the option exists, but when i say no, they TELL me i will and "u just dont know it yet, youll change your mind"
im 17 leave me alone.
Wait, you're 17. Why are they asking you if you want kids???
@@shreya9156 theyve been asking for like 2 years its annoying
That’s so effing creepy. Why would anyone ask a 17 year old ohhh honey when are you going to have kids?? Will you have kids some day?
😐not your business but hers.
Wtf, at 17?! I understand u because my husband and i have been dealing with that for years, we are 26... But at 17?! U arent even an adult yet! Tf? I would honestly tell them to fuck off, thats wild dude
Yeah when women say they don’t want kids everyone just thinks they’re chatting shit bc apparently that’s all we’re good for. Ignore them and don’t change ur values
I appreciate Ben saying "Just don't ask." on the topic of having kids. I'm on the opposite side of y'all on the kids/no kids issue. I've always wanted to have babies and be a mom but I wasted 10 years in a relationship that went nowhere and now I'm 48 and can't have any children. It's always a sensitive subject for me when people ask me if I have kids or why didn't I have them. And I can understand how that would be frustrating for those that don't want children too.
Deanna db if you still want a kid adopt. as a kid who’s been adopted it really matters
@@vesta2758 Adoption is really expensive though. Not everyone has that kind of money.
Crowned Lily fair. but so is having a kid. if you save and are careful it is possible. also it’s really meaningful
@@vesta2758 I have actually,recently been considering fostering to adopt. There are just a few things that need to be done first.
Deanna db YES!!! it is one of the most purposeful ways of loving someone
“When you guys having kids” is the question I loathe. I am infertile and when they find this out then they tend to offer “advice”. Inappropriate, uneducated and useless “advice”.
That's awful. Asking that is such an invasion of privacy and they just don't realize it.
Ugh.. my husband is having fertility issues n its been 5 years we're married, everyone asks me why I am not having kids n if I have issues. Its gross what people think is acceptable to ask others.
I loathe it because I'm 18 and absolutely adore small children so people automatically assume but I want them. Even though I've made it so so so clear that I've had enough parenting to last my life because I have a four-year-old brother. Yes I'm young, yes I love children, yes I absolutely loathe the idea of having my own. So I won't. The bullshit about how you might regret that when you're older or you'll change your mind is trash. I don't want something living inside of me, I don't want to have to push it out, I don't want to deal with the medical expenses and aftercare and parenting full-time.
My colleagues found out I was infertile and gave me "advice" I told them, its my body, its none of thier business and my boyfriend doesnt want kids so i dont need thier advice.
Molly O'Hara omg same it is just so awkward and personal and i hate talking about it when people i don’t know will inquire and tell me about their moms sisters step cousins best friend got pregnant who had the medial condition i had and i have to smile and be like cool thanks
I'm a mom who never wanted children before becoming pregnant. Now that I have a child I am so grateful that I'm able to be a mom and I can watch my child learn and grow. In my opinion I think you would make great parents together; however, I have always believed that not wanting children is the best reason to not have children. Kudos to both of you fpr knowing yourselves well enough to make mature adult choices. I love you both and I hope you're having a wonderful day! (Whichever day you're reading this... If ever)
Me and my boyfriend met on tinder. He super liked me during the full lockdown during the pandemic and we have been together since. Nothing too romantic but it’s a fun story to tell
50 years from now, you'll be one of the only couples that met during the Covid-19 pandemic, an event that will be talked about in schools and etc. That's cool haha
*Me: I don’t really listen to podcasts. I already have to many shows, books, RUclips channels and hobbies to keep up with.
*Cristine: We are making a podcast.
*Me whose been here since before polish mountain and still very devoted: Damit
I firt thought i also didn't have the time... but i just downloaded the audio and listened to it on the train instead of my normal music... or you could watch it at the gym or listen to it while driving...
Ariana Correa SAME but I came waaay before polish mountain :3
Yesss! Granted, I didn't start consistently watching before polish mountain but I do know I watched several videos before it.
Polish mountain gang gang :DDD
The anti-marriage party sounds like Ben is actually trying to convince you to go on vacation.
True true lol
Basia Padlo shhhh! You’ll have her catch on!!!
i feel very strongly about having children. i have always wanted children and still do and would absolutely adore my children when i have them. i feel as if it’s something i am made to do, in no way do i think all woman are meant to do it or think i am being pressured to do it. i feel as if everyone has a passion and this is mine. people should realise not all woman have a passion of being a mother and they shouldn’t have standards of woman “ being made to have baby’s” all that leads to is bad mothers and unhappy children. i think it’s wonderful that you don’t want kids and if you did want kids that would be wonderful too. be who you want to be and if having children isn’t a part of that then simply don’t have children.
Me too but I'm most likely going to have my future kids through a donor once I have the money, a good home for a family, have already gone to therapy to address some of the toxic parts of myself so I don't project onto them, and have already done most of my bucket list travelling because I honestly don't see a romantic relationship in my future and I can't really see myself loving a man in that way
PREACH!
Essentially everyone is being pressured in MANY ways in society to have children. It's just built into the culture, this expectation, and all the media and fears around the subject, like your biological clock ticking, all the way to "who will visit you when you're elderly". A lot of people have very direct pressure from people in their lives, but that's just additional pressure. This also isn't to say that everyone is experiencing these things as pressure, many people brush these things off or hardly notice it, but it's there. Same with marriage.
I like your comment though.
Also like with what Oncerand_ Directioner may do, I hope you at least strongly consider adoption, and the reasons why you wouldn't. Ask yourself the questions, get to the bottom of exactly why you feel doing one over the other is preferable. I think it's pretty hard to justify not adopting if one wants kids, but yea just throwing it out there!
Just going to put it out there but if someone calls you a bitch and stops being your friend because you won't date them, they're not your friend. So many guys think that getting close to a "girl" or being loving and supportive of them entitles them to a relationship and so often that's the only reason why they put that work in. I don't think we need to be coddling their feelings over it if they blow up from being rejected, because they're only blowing up like that because they feel like they're being denied something they've "earned".
"I'm not maternal unless it's cats"
Caternal?
ahhhh i made it 69 likes. *niceeeee*
Puuurfect!😹 and same. Lol
I am nocturnal lol
This is how I identify now too. Caternal 😂 thank you 😂
YES
most m/f couples: *girl steals dudes shirt*
ben and cristine: *ben steals cristines oversized sleep shirt*
Thank you for mentioning fertility issues. Every time someone asks me if I don't want children, or when we will finally have children, I could cry (once I actually did). I really want children, I love babies, I have loved babies when I was still a toddler myself. But I can't! But I really don't want to explain this to people. So I try to change the topic awkwardly... 😖
Honestly I know this is a cliche but what they said about those who force relationships typically don’t end up in the healthiest one...I think that really is so true. Just this summer I wanted a boyfriend so bad and bounced into 2 different relationships that were never gonna work out in a span of a few months, and honestly now that the second one just ended I just realized that now just isn’t my time, but that time will come. I’m in junior college right now and I think it’s gonna be best for me to just wait until I can go to university to start dating again, I just feel like that’s will be my time I don’t know why it took me this long to figure it out though!
Them: relationship goals
Me 11pm on a school night single af alone in my bed: 🥺
At least your not single at 1 AM with a wrecked sleeping schedule and nothing but school to look forward to.
Same tho
V atleast your not just over someone cheating on you and haven't slept for days and days and have no will to live (:
@@babyyodaguard4999 lol same same here
Yo do you live in the UK? It's 11:32 rn
Ben: you want smart people......you want good people to be the one having kids.
It’s not a popular opinion but I appreciate you being brave enough to say it.
As someone who comes from a horrible family situation I agree. I know I'm an outlier in terms of my outcome.
Yeah.. but it should be right? I mean it makes perfect sense.
Rather surprising that someone of their specific academic background should say that, because surely they must be aware of the discourses such statements feed into...
ATL Phycologist agree
SO MANY PEOPLE just need to admit they shouldn’t have kids. It’s okay to not be ready, ever, for kids. Some people just need to say, hey, I’m too selfish to focus on a child, I’m not financially able, I don’t work hard enough to make things work, I’m not good with kids, etc. And that’s okay.
I just loved how he said “ I love your crazy” and whole video is overall wholesome ✨
I love what Cristine said about being "given away" by her dad. I got married almost a year ago, and was 48yo... no one 'owns' me. My dad walked me down the aisle, but I did not want anything that indicated that I was property being transferred to a new owner! Instead, the officiant (my mother) asked for a blessing from each family. My father spoke for my family, my husband's mother spoke for his family. It was a nice way to include them in the ceremony.
It is SO refreshing to hear someone with as large of a platform as you say: “This is my belief, my truth, and if you feel differently, THAT’S OKAY! I’m happy for YOU to have your beliefs. This is simply what works for me, and I’m happy you have what works for you.” Especially on the topic of marriage and kids, because so often people have a mentality that you HAVE to agree, HAVE to do the same things they want. Authenticity and respectfulness about these topics are a ray of sunshine. So, thank you for being mature and respectful to people who want different things, I hope you guys receive respect and understanding for your beliefs/ life desires too!
It's sometimes a little bit worrying how uncommon that is. Tolerance and communication ✨
I've noticed lately that the large majority of the youtubers I watch say this kind of thing throughout at least a few videos even if it's not every video. Like even Tati Westbrook the makeup guru? Every couple videos "lemme just remind you this is how I do things and i hate a product you love? USE IT. We might have different skin or different preferences."
SO Canadian #polite 😂❤️
Yes. I love her attitude about all of this. I absolutely hate when people just HAVE to make everything black and white- it's either one extreme end or the other and if there are any disagreements or everything is not the same thinking that somehow makes someone a horrible person. Cmon, lets just respect each other, not shit on each other, have freedom to make choices based on out beliefs and understand that in real life most things are not black and white, one extteme or the other. Often, it's just in one big gray area, with a variety of different opinions and such on one topic
"There are people who have kids because of pressure"
Hi, I'm that kid. My mother didn't have a maternal instinct. And my life... is pretty crazy. ;)
Giada Marie my life is somewhat like that I have a brother and sister 7 years older than me and my dad kept my brother busy that my mom felt she didn’t have enough time or raise him so she wanted another son and instead I was born so she kind had postpartum depression and never got over it and so never felt close to me and my dad worked away from home so I only seen him every second weekend. So I somewhat feel like that lol my dad was pressured into having me because my mom wanted a son and didn’t get that so she neglected me and my dad felt bad for me because he couldn’t be there for that. 😆
in it all started when my mom met my dad
and they fell in love
and they had me
hi, my name is r y a n
and my life... is pretty crazy
My mom really wanted a girl so she got pregnant by the same useless man 🙄
Hi! I'm an accident, if I didn't came to existence my parents wouldn't be married and they would be happy.
@@sirijaw and you wouldn't be alive. Im glad you are here and i hope you raise above your hardships, they don't define you, what you do in your own life does!:)
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 years now and everyone keeps asking when are we getting married when are we having kids... But I want to finish school first he went to work right away after we graduated high school and I went into school and since then I have had a lot of health issues and it is put me behind quite a bit, but just like you guys were happy now why change it? PS this is the first podcast that I've listened to / watched and I love it! I love listening to your voices they're so calming. And I like listening to the topics that you guys talk about, they're entertaining and I feel like I'm part of the conversation ❤️ I love you guys! .. and zyler and menchie😻
"we found each other in the right time"
awwwww my heart just melted 💜😭💜😭
My husband wanted an engagement ring too and his grandmother heard it. She gave him a ring that belonged to his Grampy and he wore until the day of the wedding.
This is sooo cute 🥰
Omg thats such a lovely idea! 😊
aww i got chillss
That is so sweet.
“you own my heart sweetie” sorry brb you’ll find in the bathtub crying
Bro the difference between Christine on her channel vs the podcast is crazy !!! im not saying it is bad. she is amazing on her channel and on here I am just saying its so weird how I've watched her for year and haven't seen a podcast episode and now that I have I feel a different vibe and its cool. lmao anywhooo im happy for you both :)
This podcast just made me cry by listening the lovely way they both talk about each other it shows how much they appreciate each other's comapany.
as someone who hates when podcast put their last topic in the title, I freaking love the fact that they actually put the topics in the description with timestamps like this is why I love you guys.
Thank you! I never look in the description so I wouldn’t even of thought to look for timestamps of their conversation until I read your comment. You saved me from listening to the parts I was not interested in, instead of blindly skipping through the video.
"Do.. do you feel it in the air?"
"What? The peely?"
"The love..."
CRISTINE GODDAMNIT :')
this podcast is gold. holo. amazing. i feel seen, validated, and its so refreshing. i live in a smaller town and marriage, kids and white picket fences are still HIGHLY valued. i have been with the same person for 8 years and the QUESTIONS i get tick me OFF but hearing pretty much the same answers i have been giving people for years feels so good. thank you guys for being so open and honest about your relationship and your personal dynamics. i love it so much. CHEERS 🥂
This video shows how perfect they are for each other😭 I can't believe how they compliment each other so well in a way and there's always balance in their relationship and thats honestly impressive and pretty refreshing to see here in youtube.And to be honest, as someone who is not into all of that romantic stuff even before, cristine and ben gave me a new perspective on relationships and that relationships isnt always about all the fancy stuff and the dates and all the things most people romanticize about.Anyway, ben was so whipped for cristine during the whole podcast CAN WE JUST TALK ABOUT THAT?! BESTIE WAS SMILING EAR TO EAR
"we don't want kids"
bruh u have two adorable feline kids u have everything u need in life. rock on cat fam
Along with a significant number of young subscribers who are being remote light touch parented by momanddadlogical.
i also want feline babies. they're the cutest!
I think it takes a bold person ta make this statement Good for them.
@@maevejones1179 Make sure you have a job to pay for the expensive vet bills. Cats are living creatures and a responsability, they are like children... Its not much different except they die in 20years.
They need a doggie thi
“why Ben won’t propose”
I’M SCARED-
Man, it is taking me several nights to make it through an episode! Ben has the best voice and you both lull me into a good sleep!
This is one of the coolest videos i’ve seen my regular subscription channels put out. Thank you for being so real and transparent 🥰
All i know about relationships are
1. Call their name
2. Wait for them to come
3. Ask for tea
I can relate to Cristine talking about being a fly on the wall to men’s gross conversations about women. There was a part of my life where my two best friends were straight military guys, and while I love them dearly hearing the way they talked about women when it was “just us guys” made me not want to date men for a really long time because all I could think about was if they had the same conversations with their friends about me
I completely agree, I live with my 3 brothers that are in their 20s and they speak like that about girls.
@@lindilotter6042 Omg that really sucks... Could you tell them to not do that? Or have a chat with your parents so they could talk to them?
@@anni9666 I've tried. My parents say boys will be boys or respect yourself and they'll respect you and then they give me a hard time.
@@lindilotter6042 Oh wow and also oh no...I really have no idea what to say...😩 I guess you just have to wait until you can move out, but it really sucks that you don't get understood...
@@anni9666 I only live with boys, I have no sisters and 5 brothers.
It upsets me that they speak like that but luckily earphones were invented and I feel good about myself so it doesn't bother me that much what they say but I see the fact that my younger brothers hear what they say and they are terrible role models.
I just hope no guy speaks about me the way they speak about others.
Hi Cristine and Ben! I just relistened to this episode. A couple of months ago, I stumbled upon this episode of your podcast when I searched for relationship podcasts on Spotify. The relationship with my boyfriend had just ended because he decided he wanted children after all and I never did. I never heard of you guys, but loved the episode and our similarities. It is refreshing to hear others talk about how not all women want children and that there is nothing wrong with that. I ended up listening to all of your podcasts, and have now watched a bunch of your videos even though I hardly ever paint my nails. They are really funny and well put together! Thanks for helping me during a difficult time in my life and keep up the great content.
This is maybe the best video I’ve ever seen on this platform 😍 it just gave me an insane amount of joy, calm and serotonin. Love you guys ❤️