Kody Sat On His Butt As His Children Were Being Raised By Other People
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- Опубликовано: 23 авг 2024
- Children need as many people in their corner as they can get. In some cases this means that people outside the family have to step up. Unfortunately, for the children of the Brown family the person who's responsibility it was to step up, refused to do so. Kody decided to have 18 children with four women. He also decided to have very little to do with those children as they grew up. During an early episode he made the excuse that he didn't want to have his sparse time with the children polluted by him being a parent. Someone should have told him early on that being present is the job.
TLC's Sister Wives cast members Christine, Janelle, Meri, and Robyn, all find themselves in a very unfortunate situation.
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Most parents fear and mourn loosing a relationship with their children.... then there is Kody..
Thank God the boy's grew up and respect their Mom more now than Kody ever has! 😟
Well said. Janelles children are very emotionally mature young men. No thanks to Kody at all.
Hats off to James’ momma!! 👏👏👏
She raised a kind and respectful son!! 😊🙏
Smart, witty, & hilarious gentle giant 🫶
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I just realized; Kody almost checked himself into the hospital to be near Robyn with her mild Covid drama. He was so worried about her. He said hospitals were where people go to die. But he was fine letting his daughter have major spinal surgery states away. He cares about who he cares about. It's sad.
Also, YOU'RE 6'6"?!?!?!
You're right. I'm just not sure if he wanted to be close to Robyn, or have someone pay attention to him.. Actually I'm closer to 6'7"
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Wow!😮
@@mytakeonreality Good looking and tall well now..😅
@@mytakeonreality And intelligent lol
I know! Why does he not seem that tall? The Speech Prof is 6 2 or 3 he said.... is it that kind, smart men seem short because of toxic masculinity? Smh
I remember someone (maybe Dr. Phil?) telling a story that his kids were being rude and disrespectful and laughing to their mom in the car, and he pulled over and yelled at them to NEVER again speak to HIS WIFE in that manner - and that was powerful. A powerful lesson of a spouse standing up for their partner and letting the kids know that they are a team that will always have each other's back!
Man, looking back and seeing how Logan and Aspyn were parentified... no wonder they are the oldest in their respective families and DON'T have any kids! Logan and Aspyn were basically like "mom and dad" to those kids. They took on so much responsibility for their age! They deserve to rest!
Yes they did. Many years ago that happened in our family. My great grandmother had a heart attack having her 13th child. Her oldest daughter, my great aunt, had to take over and raised that baby as her own. She was 10 or 12 years old. I remember talking to my aunt and she resented it even later in life, her 60s and 70s. But she always took care of her brother
James, unfortunately, I had the same experience as Gwen in regards to having an absent dad. His parenting skills mirror Kody's to a tee, including not being a caring father during a major surgery that I had to have. Even though I was an adult at the time, my father never called, visited, or checked on me or my children during this crucial time in my life. Thank God I had a wonderful mother! I understand how Gwen feels, but I know that not all men are absent fathers. James, from listening to you, your children are very fortunate to have an awesome Dad!!
Ditto, sucks!
He doesn’t respect his wives. He can’t tell them to respect their mothers.
My daddy raised me and took care of me from the time i was almost 3. My mommy died. He continued to care for me until he died in 2020! BTW, my daddy was only 25 when he became a single father in 1971! 12 hours away from any family except for cousins. That's what a real man does.....
Kody doesn't even respect his 'wives', so therefore neither did the children.
Kody should have got off his ass and dealt with it. This is what real men do is step up and handle it
Her father was useless! He ultimately only cares about himself 😢
Thank you James ! 😊 I'm a single mother and i'm having issues with my thirteen year old daughter. I was feeling bad for standing up for myself And laying down the law. Not physically of course. But I had to get Her to understand that disrespecting me is disrespecting herself. Your words made me feel better I don't believe you'll ever know what a difference you are making on this platform. Thank you again.🎉
James you crack me up when you get tickled and start laughing when you are reliving and telling your stories!!😂
And there you go! Again! Another fresh way of looking at this dumpster fire of a man and telling him like it is! Love it!!!
James nails down for us how Kody never earned respect but always expected it from both his wives and children and now he has neither in large part.
Kody responded to Janelle with...yess??...then walked upstairs to pretend to parent.
Unfortunately not everyone was blessed to have both parents, or parents with good sense. That is definitely where you get your good sense... Lovely!
And in situations like that it's ok for your parents to be examples of what you don't want to be and lessons on what you don't want to do. That's what mine have been for me. At this point in my life, most of the time it no longer hurts to hear people describe what I wasn't lucky enough to experience firsthand.
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Kodys kids only need to respect him and Robyn! Don’t you know?
I never thought about it that way but it's so true. "I wasn't just talking to my Momma, I was talking to my Dad's wife". Nailed it again James!
It’s not Logan’s responsibility to help raise his brothers.
Kody is such a failure in so many ways! 🙄
When rubber meets the road, 6’6” is impressive!
My uncles were 6 foot 8 and 7 foot. My granny was 6 foot. I asked her how she kept them in line. She said, I had a chair and a baseball bat. Go granny
These kids had a horrible excuse of a man as a father. Kody feels like the contact with his kids is transactional. He forgets he is the parent and that this does not apply in parent-child relationships usually. He needs to step up. And it is easy when he just doesnt. It is the Kody show all around... Sad really
I was SO happy for Logan when he left for college!
Your personality and wisdom are a testament to your parents, and the job that they did. Really love both your videos, and the stories about your Mum and Dad. Please keep up this work! 😊 Lots of Love from the UK
You know the realty definition of respect, Kody just screams the word and doesn't know what it is, how to give it, and how to earn it! Well said James!
Kody is the type of father who refers to being the parent responsible for his children without a wife present as "babysitting" rather than PARENTING. A realization that makes me sad is he was probably more involved with his kids than he would have been otherwise because of the show.
We also see a snapshot of how Kody is willing to disrespect his own mother in an early episode of the show. I wouldn't be surprised if his sons' picked up their disrespectful behavior towards their mom from watching how Kody mistreated and manipulated his wives.
Those young men never had a healthy example of how a man treats his lady and reacts when someone has disrespected her. Fortunately they seem to have grown into men who respect and love their mother, despite Kody's awful example. Or maybe recognizing how Kody disrespected their mother and Christine played a role in it
Oh James! I just love your stories and the way you talk! Your story about being disciplined by your parents when you were 16 was hysterical! I am literally laughing out loud at 1:22 AM! Thank you for giving us your masculine influence on RUclips! It is much needed here, especially regarding topics like Sister Wives.
Thank you! ❤🎉🙏🤗
Sir, 6’6 😳
So much respect for your parents who were active and present in your young adult and adult life! I think it's shameful to see grown parents treat their teenagers as "the little husband" or "the placeholder caretaker". Your parents seem to have communicated that they have a healthy partnership and that you as their child are your own individual. They didn't treat you like "built-in babysitting" or "disciplinarian to your siblings". I've seen classmates from religious families raise many of their younger brothers and sisters and then agree they don't want children in their adult lives. Let's not forget - the original wives didn't have the luxury of a nanny!! 😂😂😂 Nanny needs to charge for the existing kids PLUS consulting level fees for dealing with Kody!!
'My momma did not play'... and look how well you turned out. I love your perspective. Thank you!
You are a tall drink of water! I'm 5 foot nothing. I work in a group home and I'm a bit like a mom. I handle stuff with my folks. I don't lie to them, make a promise I can't keep and I treat them like I would want to be treated if I was in their position. I love my folks and they are a part of my family. I've had other staff act like Kody. They don't usually last long. My people will not go to them for anything. They will always come to me.
Kody is not a parent in the ways that it matters. His children have learned that he is not going to be there for them. I feel bad for his children because they didn't ask for this.
Thanks for another great video! Enjoy your day!
That was a big surprise!
You really make a good point regarding Janelle. Kody should have been there to teach his kids how to be respectful, especially towards their mother, but the problem with Kody is that he treated his wives disrespectfully because he treated them like they were nothing more than an obligation.
Ngl, the James height reveal had me shook 😂
LOL - I want to meet your mama! You had great parents, obviously, because you have great respect for not only them but for other people in general. And all people should support their spouse that way!
I was a single mom with 3 sons. 5yrs -6 months. I hate when people say a woman can't raise a man. All 3 sons military college educated. Pay thier own bills. I kept them in sports and.. I expected a certain behavior. And respect. They are all over 30. If they walked into my home and I snapped my fingers and pointed to the sofa, every one of them would take a seat. The pride I have with my sons is unreal. And we plan a fam vacation and are excited about it.. My boys want thier mama, and I want my boys. Now if my daughter in law complaines about my son, I will hold his ass accountable. Step like the man ya mama taught u to be. Don't embarrass me.#unrealpride
James… Thank you 🙏. My greatest wish is that more men shared your attitudes.
Sounds like your mom talk with her hands too😂😂
I just absolutely love you James! You are a true sage
Accurate. Look, my mother was difficult. She was foul tempered and mean and she made life tough for us kids and our dad. But he never tolerated us giving her any kind of back talk.
This was a fantastic video! I loved the story with your parents! Your thoughts on parenting is great! I’m a great grandma and I see a lot of people these days need parenting advice. Great job James!
James thank you so much! Your "take" is always spot on! ❤❤❤
I love that you're picking up on clues/subtleties that I missed the first time. Great video. Loved the story about Little James learning respect from his Mom
You are absolutely correct in your assessment of the family dynamic and lay your case out so it flows and I love hearing about your lessons from childhood. I have always wondered how some women can control the children so well. More please
I wish Kody could see this and learn something. Kody didn't respect his wives so of course he didn't teach his sons to respect his wives. Fortunately they've grown up to be loving and respectful young men despite his poor example.
I’m still taken aback by the fact that this man is literally a foot and a half taller than me. I’d come up to his elbows 😂😂😂
Kody told Yzabel to go alone, by herself to have the surgery! She cried and said she didn't want to go by herself and Christine told her there was no way she would allow that while Kody sat there like a POS.
I agree James. You are a man with conviction...love it❤❤
I'm a girl, but the scariest my dad ever was was when I fought with and disrespected my mom. "You will NOT disrespect my WIFE. She wasn't my mom, she was his wife.
As usual, you are spot on James.
Thanks James 🏆🙌
The rap battle with my momma story had me crying 😂!
“I’m a grown ass man …… please don’t hurt me ….”
Preach!!
Great story about your parents. Had me laughing and remembering😂
I said this in another one of your videos James and I'll say it again. Every time Kody stayed in each house he would act like a bored boyfriend to the wives mainly. I don't remember him interacting with the kids unless it was for the cameras. It's so sad because that's the example he set for all his children how men should act in relationships. I'm amazed his elder kids got married at all and r in what appears to be health relationships.
Love your story of your moment of clarity. 😂
The only good thing kody did was lead by example of how the boys didn't want to be! Good video james!!
Over 6'6 😮😮😮🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️
I think the whole Gwen saying that fathers are useless is her insinuating that *HER* father is useless to put it Bluntly not anybody else per se just him and he does everything to his own accord, and everything that fits his own narrative. He does what he wants when it fits his needs. He’s that selfish.😡
Oh wow, James! Now that is a story that is a story to live by. If you were just talking with your hands, you know, and your mother miss, took you know you talking with your hands as to raising your hand to her and she you know, she made a move, and then your father steps in as if he’s about to deck you, to make you learn, you’re not a man yet not until you learn to respect the woman you were with, or my mate, your mother you need to be a gentleman with what he was inferring and it seems to me they did a good job with raising you you seem like a really sweet gentleman oh man, but you were just talking with her hands and at least you know maybe she understood it from there on out. you that you were just talking with your hands. Wow dude you are so right in this video James the difference between what Cody is doing is just impregnating women and being a mate to the counterpart wife yes they have children together but Cody’s not taking his part by saying you’re not going to respect disrespect my mate you’re not gonna disrespect me or this house and family and he was about to deck you oh wow, but you learn that day! And that’s how it should be you know you learned, you respect the woman you’re with
Interestingly, the boys respect Janelle but not Kody so much.
that’s the general feeling in the polygamist communities. i’ve watched many shows about people that have left polygamy complain about this exact thing.
I feel for Logan! Kody is USELESS, I AGREE JAMES!
Sounds like our Mama's were twins James! She took nothing off anybody. Male or female. And let's face it James. These women let Kody skate. They took care of so much on their own, and the rare times he was around, I'm sure they did their best to make their home a paradise for him because he probably made it apparent that if there were too many issues, he would avoid coming around.
He was only there 1-2 times awake and asleep for most of it.
I remember when I first saw this I said to myself why is he just sitting there when she needs help. Gwen has said Kody is abusive so I wonder if he was not intervening because he was scared one of the kids would say something that puts that abuse on camera.
Kody was executive producer on the show and he had say in what was aired and what wasn't to go on
So I watched the original video and I saw Gwendolyn as being sarcastic. Not saying all fathers are useless but saying that people act like they are.
Christine said that when they all lived in Lehi, she had to work at night and needed help getting the kids ready for bed. Christine said that Kody flat-out refused to help at all. Kody said that to help Christine would be giving her too much attention and would be unfair to the other wives. Obviously, Jynelle did not step in to help either. Christine then resorted to tasking poor little Aspyn with getting all of her siblings ready for bed every night. I just thought it was messed up that Kody would not help even though he was THEIR FATHER and literally in the same house. Jynelle also refused to help despite living in the same house. Christine practically raised all of Jynelle’s kids for her, too. Meri didn’t help either. Christine basically struggled alone. It’s surprising and sad to me because I thought that at one point they were one big happy family but apparently not. By the way, I love your commentary! Your observations are the best!
The older kids don't want polygamy bc before the show they were literally starving. When they were in Montana they lived on day old baked goods from the family bakery which they also worked at for free.
If I ever get into another relationship that dude HAS to watch your videos, James! I love a lot of the "man advice" you give. Especially as someone who didn't have a dad, my grandpa died when I was 9, my mom was single until I was 11, this sort of lead me to not know how men should act and I didn't know how men should treat me. I married a man who, while I was going to college, pulling a double major while taking care of my disabled mom and raising our son basically by myself, wouldn't "babysit" his own child so I could attend college because he had a job. Mind you he worked at a call center and got to sit down in the AC all day, he couldn't come home and take care of our son so I could do school work. He wasn't "a babysitter" or "you're his mom, you watch him, that's your job, I did my job for the day!" The last year I've been on a journey of self healing so that I stop repeating mistakes of my past, your advice helps me know what I SHOULD expect and what I SHOULDN'T. Thank you!
Thank you! Stay strong, if a man won't take responsibility for his responsibilities he is no man at all. You can do better, because you deserve better.
@@mytakeonreality aw thank you, that's very true!
You're 6'6"! I would have never guessed that, the camera makes you seem short
You are the best! I love your videos. You put everything into proper perspective.
You get it!! Love your point of view. It’s always so accurate!!
We must have grown up in the era. So right on. I raised 4 boys. I never had my kids say I hate you! Or disrespect. Oh… they made fun or teased ole mom. We laughed a lot. Didn’t mean I didn’t have my heart in my throat all the time. Boys don’t even know they’re looking for trouble! But they can find it😵💫
Yeah both of the two oldest kids, Logan and Aspen have chosen this far not to have children.
We don’t know if it’s a matter of choice. Aspyn and Mitch might want kids but it hasn’t happened yet. Logan only got married a few months ago so it’s very early days for his wife and him.
@@1019lms I'm simply saying they haven't rushed to start having kids in rapid succession the way a Mykelti and Madison have. Logan especially seems to really be taking things slow and he has taken the time to really enjoy his young adult years. You're right, we can't know exactly what they're thinking or planning. I'm just saying it doesn't look like Aspyn or Logan are in the same kind of hurry their parents were to start big families.
@@haleyrison68 Logan took his time getting married but we don’t know what Aspyn wants in terms of family. I’m simply saying her lack of children might not be something she and Mitch have chosen.
@@1019lms yeah I don't disagree with that. I'm just pointing out that it's possible that having so much parental responsibility at such a young age could have made them less eager to jump into being parents again. Maybe not, but it would make sense if that were the case.
Great analysis, as always!
I get what you are saying. My mom is 4'11" tall Mexican lady. My dad called her the little woman. She is not a person to trifle with. Even to this day. Her sisters were also no nonsense when it came to kids acting up.
Let's have kody wake up and make breakfast for everyone, and work out the details of his start time at work with an employer. Women have to do this all the time.
I think it would be hard for any child in polygamy to have respect for men. The poor example that Kody has set proves that. Logan was the man of the house when he shouldn’t have had to be!
I only have one thing to say in that is each and every one of those wives decided to have all those children knowing that Kody was the way he was but they still all wanted to please him by having all of these children that didn't have a say so in anything in their lives and I 100% blame their mothers and the reason I say that is because each and every one of those wives have said that they can leave at any time that they want to but each and every one of them picked staying with Kody instead of worrying about their children and how they were being brought up !! When you decide to stay with the man that treats you like a piece of crap but then also treat your children the same way, then I say that is the mother's fault for staying in the horrible situation that they were in and putting their kids last !!!
sxi foot six! You are right, I never would have guessed it!
I 100% agree with you … there are times when kids don’t need both parents coming at them. If one parent has it under control then let them handle it however if that’s just not enough then absolutely the other parent needs to step in and double team them 😂
My husband, who as I’ve said many times is not my son’s bio father but he has been in his life since he was 2 and has helped me raise him since he was almost 3 years old- he’s 15 now, my husband has always disciplined him if he’s needed to. He’s always been his dad and that isn’t just being there for the fun times or to be Austin’s friend. It’s to help raise him to be a grown man who acts like a grown man and can become a functioning member of society. My son god bless him has never been through those typical stages …. Never the terrible 2s or horrible 3s ….. he was sleeping through the night at 2 weeks old! 2 WEEKS OLD!!! Teething not a problem never even knew he was getting new teeth until they were popping through or he’d be chewing on your finger or something …. Potty training was a breeze …. He was 100% potty trained like “big boy underwears” day and night by his 2nd birthday … he hated being wet so learning to use the bathroom at like 18ish months was nothing….. wore pull ups for 2 months at night and really he didn’t need them that long but I figured it wouldn’t hurt just in case plus we had them to use so use them up…. So really by like 21-22 months he was fully potty trained. Now he never went through those typical kid stages … not until he turned 11ish. Once he started hitting puberty did he start having an attitude and talking back, that got nipped in the bud so quick! If it was towards me I’d handle it if it was towards my husband he’d handled it however there was this one time, and one time only, while I was pregnant with my twins, he got so nasty and disrespectful and I immediately started in on him but it was very disrespectful…. I was at his bedroom door upstairs and we have a balcony in the middle of our upstairs hallway that looks over into the living room and the living and kitchen are really all one big room … now my sons room is on the other end of the hallway (other side of the house from the kitchen side of the upstairs if that makes sense) and he was loud and so disrespectful honestly he’s lucky I did punch him … I’ve never wanted to ever lay a hand on any of my kids but that day it took a lot out of me to not… anyway like I said if one of us is taking care od disciplining or at the very least saying something to himrhe other parents stays out of it well this wasn’t one of those times my husband came flying around the corner up the stairs 4 at a time and moved me out of the way and slammed the door and yoked him up and got in his face screaming … I won’t go into what was said aside from it started with “you don’t EVER speak to your mother that way and you definitely do not EVERRRRRR speak to MY WIFE that way!”
And the went on but that’s exactly how it stated but I’ll tell you what that was the one and Only time my son has ever been nasty disrespectful. Now a days if he’s got “moments” it’s usually just how he says things but even that is something he actively is working on … I’ll catch him stopping himself from saying things in a rude way but my point is that god gave us 2 parents for a reason. Raising kids isn’t easy you need a teammate. And my son, after that day never ever ever has need nasty disrespectful again. My husband put the fear of god in him. My husband is not the one to get loud and aggressive so Austin knew right away he fucked up if he got my husband losing his shit like that. Now if you’re a parent who reacts like that all the time and aggressive all the time I feel like that either makes a terrified kid OR you end up having a kid who that does nothing to. I will say that when I or my husband has had to talk to my son about his behavior he’s always made a conscious effort into trying to change the behavior ….now who knows how this baby I’m
Currently pregnant with will be when she grows up but I’m making this known now, my girls my twins, though identical, sienna is the much more relaxed chill twin whereas Miss aria jade is hell on wheels…. She’s going to be my problem child. She’s going to be the one who really tests our patients. She’s also the one who will and has taken the most years off my life 😂😂
My Dad was wonderful, very dry and witty. I wonder what he would have said about Kidney. Lol.
I think Ysabel's surgery was season 16. According to Christine's recent interview with People Magazine, Kody not going to Ysabel's surgery was the final nail in the coffin.
Kody not going to Ysabel's surgery was because he couldn't be away from his little kids. He didn't have any problem being away from Truley in Flagstaff. Truley is barely older than Solomon.
I watched Gwen’s video and she was definitely just talking about her dad and other polygamist men.
My response to the title of this video: Yup!
My response to the content of this video: Yup!
I could really relate to your story. I'm quite a bit older than you are and the things in my household would be considered abuse today although some of my friends had to order since some of them had a better but we all knew if you broke the rules I was going to be bad trouble.
🤣🤣 dad was coming to take you out 😂
Kody was afraid of covid, so he couldn't go with ysabel to her surgery or go to see her after, but had no issue going to officiate and party at a wedding! 😡
Kody refused to "babysit" hid kids when janelle asked him for help 🙄 babysit? Wtf?
Not Robin she had her niece and a nanny to take care of 3 of her kids and now 2 of her kids
And that’s why his older children have ZERO respect except for Christian one daughter because he had zero responsibility in raising them
I am glad Kody is exposed for who he truly is. Poor Gwen is obviously not used to useful fahers.
She said that as like a joke about dad's as if the mothers couldn't ask Kody for help cuz GOD for bid, any of the mothers ask Kody to lift a finger and actually step in and do something about the boys fighting.
My Aunt had six boys. And they had hot wheels growing up. And when they got out of line. My aunt would grab those orange tracks. And spanked them.
Now they are old men .
And moms gone now.
Today they laugh about what their mom did. You don't mess with momma.
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i didnt christen him Studley Dolittle for no reason
Can I just say my husband and I love you. You are so right on!
Those boys are the ones that she would not remove from her house during COVID. And one was National Guard or something.
I felt Gwendolyn's pain when she said, "Father's are useless", when watching her video. My bio dad was beyond useless and downright abusive. My stepdad was an awesome man, and we sadly lost him almost a year go. Unfortunately, while Gwendolyn had a great mom and potentially a 1 or more extra growing up, she only had Kody for a father. I don't think Gwendolyn really meant her comment to rip on all fathers.
I really speculate that Kody really never had a real job. He sold one sign they talk about. So ok then what?? He was useless , in their book they talk how immature he and Meri were to quit a job so they could go off to go do something fun. They never really changed and used Jenelle for her work ethic. She was loyal and played by the rules of their cult.Everything is so coy about his work all the time. I don’t know it’s just my take on it. 😗
James!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉