what transitioning has taught me

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  • @n.s.m.5847
    @n.s.m.5847 4 года назад +93

    I love the worms on strings

  • @sammyc5150
    @sammyc5150 4 года назад +79

    The whole "There's always a lesbian that would wear it as an earring" thing should continue "And if there isn't, Ashton would". Or I would, cause those worms on strings do look hella rad.

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  4 года назад +27

      JXXJSN THIS IS SO GOOD YEA H. im currently wearing T vials that i turned into earrings

    • @m1les_live899
      @m1les_live899 4 года назад +6

      @@graveyardpansy THAT....IS.....SO.....COOL!

    • @sweeetjuicetv
      @sweeetjuicetv 3 года назад +6

      @@graveyardpansy YESSSS IM PLANNING ON DOING THAT W MY OLD T VIALS I JUST NEED TO GET A KIT FOR IT

  • @cecilross2848
    @cecilross2848 4 года назад +154

    Ashton's "coming out as an exorcist" video.

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  4 года назад +60

      stngjdkn listen if anything im the demon that needs to be exorcised

    • @m1les_live899
      @m1les_live899 4 года назад +5

      @@graveyardpansy haha btw love ur vids

  • @matthewpancini7300
    @matthewpancini7300 4 года назад +56

    Transitioning has done so much good for me. A lot like you, I’ve come to terms with some of the feminine characteristics of myself. I’ve finally accepted my bisexuality which is amazing. I tried to push it down so much and it’s nice because I just don’t care anymore. I’ve also become much more thoughtful. I hate to admit it but I used to be a bit of a truscum and I think that came with internalized homophobia and transphobia. Before I transitioned I was super insecure. And would almost take it out on the trans masc people that are secure in their femininity. However as I began to transition and become comfortable in my body, I realized how idiotic that line of thinking was and my emotions behind it. My entire thought process has become way more positive over all. I have 0 regrets transitioning and it’s definitely the best thing I’ve ever done for myself.
    Also just to preface: I’m a big leftist now. I’ve matured past my old ways of thinking and left all my old thought processes behind me. Sorry to get political, But my politics are a big part of my journey. They have definitely matured as I have throughout my transition.

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  4 года назад +12

      hell yeah this is all so good & im proud of you !! my politics have definitely developed through my transition as well, but i'm not sure how tied together they are, yknow? (also, never apologize for bringing up politics here lmao)

    • @matthewpancini7300
      @matthewpancini7300 4 года назад +4

      Ashton Daniel thank you :) and yes. Your political videos have definitely given me a lot of insight on leftism as well. I love your work man :)

  • @rednexttoblack
    @rednexttoblack 4 года назад +42

    this was a lovely video. it's so true that you're allowed to be trans and love yourself - people so often imply that hating yourself is a requirement for being trans which is completely false. (and i love your look oh my god. those EARRINGS

  • @RR-fo2ld
    @RR-fo2ld 4 года назад +29

    This is the cutest, most-validating video

  • @shenenigans2037
    @shenenigans2037 4 года назад +23

    I think the biggest things I've learned thus far are that 1. I'm not comfortable with only they/them pronouns, and 2. I'm pretty comfortable being out to most everyone, but I hate coming out with a burning passion. I'm nonbinary, and I started out my social transition using solely they/them, but found that to be just as uncomfortable as only she/her. So now I'm using all pronouns rotating, at least in theory. As for coming out, I don't hate it entirely. Just mostly. Coming out to people who get it is pretty much fine, especially when it comes to my sexuality. But I despise coming out as trans. And I really hate having to tell people a new name and pronouns. It probably has a lot to do with my anxiety about burdening other people. I know that it's mostly my brain blowing things out of proportion, and I'm not actually being a burden, but still. On an unrelated note, I really appreciate the honest discussion on internalized oppression!

  • @MatrixxSystem
    @MatrixxSystem 4 года назад +10

    I say this a lot to my friends that when I get top surgery I'm gonna end up doing a whole 180 from being introverted and 'lazy' to being extroverted and athletic because i want so bad like i want to be able to run and do sports and be outside but cause of my binder I cant do so many things that require my lungs lmao
    And even on T for like what 3 months now? I'm constantly misgendered outside of my house which is so uncomfortable so I just hide a lot and get so worried about putting myself out there which sucks cause I want to be social and approachable yknow?

  • @mossypunk4039
    @mossypunk4039 4 года назад +19

    Once l came out which wasn't to long ago to be fair i started to use more makeup and glitter and sparkles and it made some of my friends more confused but i feel like because i am more comfortable with they/them than the binary pronouns ,i stoped feeling uncomfortable with traditionally female things almost as if i was trying to pass before i came out (even to my self tbh) but then i was more comfortable i dont know just how i feel.
    \(•3•)/

  • @stephantyrone8678
    @stephantyrone8678 4 года назад +14

    Im half way through the video but i already relate so much! Pre-t i exclusively identified as male (and from time to time kinda tried other labels kinda nb but always felt off). Looking back on it, i think i was just so insecure about my body and other people's view of myself that i literally pressured myself into being a "normal dude". Starting testosterone changed everything, i started loving my body and gaining confidance. I feel less and less socially dysphoric. Back then someone missgendering me was the end of the world, now its just interesting and/or i brush it off as "whatever, they're wrong". I started identifying as non-binary, trigender to be precise. I feel like i started embracing feminity so much its now part of my gender. I still do not identify as female but feminity itself just is part of who i am deeply. Probably already was back then but kept pushing it away. Now i feel so aligned with myself. I say im a dude cause im fine with it and its easier communication wise, but gender wise, i feel like my experience is so unique and out of the binary completely! And as i said, being feminine is also a big part of who i am. I crave experiencing with make up but i cant afford any at the moment cause i put priority into fashion more. Now i almost exclusively buy "female" clothes because they are so pretty, i paint my nails and im looking foward to making my transition less "male" (i kinda want surgery to make my fat redistribution look more androgynous and make my face a bit more feminine). Truely all that is so fun, feeling like i can be myself and play around with gender! All that would have not been possible without testosterone (and the top surgery ill be guetting soon!) I am so greatful of who i am and my journey. Its crazy, before i couldnt even look at childhood pictures. Now i love them! They are part of my journey as a trans person and i just love them so much.
    Edit was just correcting spelling mistakes btw :)

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  4 года назад +5

      hell yea this is all so powerful and im proud of you!!! (also i feel the exact same way abt childhood pictures, I’d never thought about that until now!)

    • @stephantyrone8678
      @stephantyrone8678 4 года назад +2

      @@graveyardpansy thank you! Im also really proud and happy for you about your journey. I never thought that in the past but i do now, being trans is so beautiful and amazing, we learn so much!

  • @purplegrant
    @purplegrant 4 года назад +7

    Cis guy who's just subscribed. Hi, love your vibe, wisdom and sense of identity. Enjoy learning from you. Thanks.

  • @c0balt-blu3
    @c0balt-blu3 4 года назад +13

    I love your look! The worms make it even better.

  • @x.strangewerewolf.x9461
    @x.strangewerewolf.x9461 3 года назад +5

    I only have socially transitioned yet, but it helped me a lot in feeling comfortable with my bisexuality, being feminine and other stuff (like dressing for myself and not only wanting to pass as a super binary cis man) . As an ex-transmed it was really really hard. my medical transition is still a bit ''blurry'' (i'm on blockers but i'm unsure about T, i want surgery but i don't feel like i'm dysphoric enough). realizing I am non binary was also a big part of social transition. I thought of going back to being a girl when i realized i was unsure about my medical transition but it was icky, and i only tried it for a few days and then went ''oh no i'm non binary''. it's been hard but it helps me a lot. (also your channel has helped me out a lot with my gender, especially since i used to be a truscum)

  • @colinlaw8342
    @colinlaw8342 4 года назад +11

    Firstly I absolutely love your content and you, I think it takes a lot to be this open with the world. This video really helped me, it's an interesting way of looking at transition. Thank you for making me think about it and for making me feel more comfortable just existing however I want regardless of others. Lots of love and stay safe

  • @jmcc323
    @jmcc323 4 года назад +14

    I love your make up and just how your earrings fall, I love it.

  • @m1les_live899
    @m1les_live899 4 года назад +23

    hey ashton i think the purple suits you! you look really good in purple

  • @fin6266
    @fin6266 4 года назад +6

    Hi Ashton! I just really wanted to say hi... also I love the worms

  • @ptowzapotato4157
    @ptowzapotato4157 4 года назад +4

    This really helped me be less scared of transitioning, thankysm

  • @micky2708
    @micky2708 4 года назад +4

    Hey Ashton, I loved this video (also awesome makeup/outfit) As someone who’s still on the fence about top surgery for themselves, I still think I’ve learned some things through social transition. I’ve definitely learned that I’m letting go of feeling like I have to dress heavily masculine to be me or be seen as me. I have had an interesting experience with my body or how I’m perceived because to me I think because how I’m built (broader shoulders/thick legs/more androgynous face) I usually appear androgynous. And I love it? Like aside from chest and hips/height I’m pretty comfortable with my body so when I’m misgendered I don’t understand right away because of my own self perception. So idk it almost hurts more? But this relates to the not dressing heavily masculine thing in a the way that because I’ve kind let go of perceiving most of my body as ‘woman’ I feel like the more androgynous I dress the better I’ll be seen as me? Like for the most part I’m not gendered in public interactions (thank fuck) so I feel like if I add more extra layers to that clothing wise, it’ll help?

  • @townes4099
    @townes4099 4 года назад +6

    I LOVE YOU DAWG

    • @townes4099
      @townes4099 4 года назад +5

      you have made me So Much more comfortable with myself!!! my gender, sexuality, and the way I present myself. i feel free finally. love u, i get so hyped when i see ur videos. my favorite trans yter! LOVE U KING!!!!

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  4 года назад +3

      aaaaa that's really sweet, i'm so glad you feel more comfy w yourself now !!! keep being yourself in any way you can

  • @pmbluemoon
    @pmbluemoon 4 года назад +9

    I think you're awesome, I love that you don't conform to any gender. When someone asks me "Are you a girl or a boy"?" I tell them BOTH! They walk away with mind blown or they understand, that's how I know who is going to be a friend for the most part. Just my own way of finding open minded people. I love this video and thank you! I wish I could wear makeup, I'm so sensitive and allergic to so many things it stinks! I LOVE androgyny.

  • @heyna1185
    @heyna1185 2 года назад +1

    I‘ve recognized lately that there‘s a lot of pressure within the trans community but also from some medical professionals to know exactly who you are and what you want as a trans person. And if you have any doubt you’re not actually trans. I‘m trans and I‘ve been out for three years now, have been using my name and he/him pronouns for three years and I like it. My name feels right, my pronouns feel right, I like being called a son/boyfriend/male friend (in German friend is a gendered word), etc. But I still have doubt about top surgery. I really want it and I really hate my chest but I also have anxiety and there‘s this little voice telling me: what if you regret is? The thing is I‘ve been thinking about this surgery for fucking years, I‘ve put my life on hold in certain ways, I don‘t even feel comfortable leaving the house. Even if top surgery wasn‘t the right choice for me, what would happen if I didn‘t go through with it? I would just continue to be miserable. So yeah, my point is trans people are allowed to have doubt. We are allowed to be scared and worried about regret. That doesn‘t necessarily say anything about what the right decisions for us are. You gotta make a choice at some point and I‘d rather go through with it and finally release myself of this burden. And if it‘s the wrong the decision, at least I‘ll know afterwards

    • @moeshrooms385
      @moeshrooms385 2 года назад +1

      I think a lot of the time as well our doubt and imposter syndrome comes directly from others asking us the same questions. By constantly being doubted by those around us we start to feel less confident in ourselves and they plant all these worries in us that we’re just faking it or that we will regret it. Or they use the few people who detransitioned as a representation for what will happen to every trans person. And as you said the pressure to have everything figured out definitely contributes to that as well.

  • @ptowzapotato4157
    @ptowzapotato4157 4 года назад +2

    Rewatching this bc I needed to hear these things today (especially that trans bodies are beautiful (at 13:25))

  • @spookysebby
    @spookysebby 2 года назад +1

    Transitioning socially (I’m still pre-t and pre-op :(( ) has taught me how to make tea because talking with a lower voice can hurt sometimes and tea helps. Also sorry Ashton that I’ve been binge watching your videos they’re just really awesome

  • @mahavishnustravinskij
    @mahavishnustravinskij 4 года назад +2

    Thank you for making this video! I'm super grateful because my own dysphoria and struggle to let me love myself is very present currently and I'm working up the courage to get top surgh because I know I'd be a lot more myself physically that way.
    Also one of my partners is a cis guy which could complicate stuff and certainly makes me scared.

  • @amazingphilisnotondan9901
    @amazingphilisnotondan9901 4 года назад +3

    you look so cool!!

  • @vcalebs
    @vcalebs 4 года назад +1

    this isn’t necessarily through my transition but i know that once i get top surgery and i’m on hormones a bit longer i’d love to dress more androgynous for fun because i feel most comfortable presenting really masc rn because that’s how i feel while being earlyish in my transition? but later i know i wanna try more fashion stuff out because being a bi trans man can be epic and sexy

  • @willtepperman4637
    @willtepperman4637 4 года назад +1

    Ive just started a channel about being a young trans athlete is anyone is interested! Will be posting twice a week!!

  • @dohaqeen2404
    @dohaqeen2404 4 года назад +3

    beautiful, I loved your style

  • @montanadavis4462
    @montanadavis4462 4 года назад +2

    I love this video and I like the way you are Ashton

  • @stasacab
    @stasacab 10 месяцев назад

    I am comfortable with your teeth. Even cooler would be someone else's teeth. Guy who burglarized my home OD'd and was cremated before I was able to get trophies. What I have learned, well, the science behind trans issues is not what it used to be and is still pretty bad. Then there is the issue of sexuality. I think being in what seems to other people as a hetero relationship before you transitioning if you are heterosexual as a trans person will demand a long journey for discovering your sexuality. Some go the fetish way and never realize that it is not the only way. All legal, consensual sexuality is legal and valid, I am not saying, but there is more to discover.

  • @UnnTHPS
    @UnnTHPS 10 месяцев назад

    trans bodies are desirable
    yeah first time being with a transgirl truly revolutionized the way i view my own body
    a lot of revelations u mentioned been happening to me quite recently, and they been feeling quite liberating

  • @blainemason426
    @blainemason426 4 года назад +2

    your makeup and hair looks incredible 😍😍

  • @thedukeofweasels6870
    @thedukeofweasels6870 4 года назад +1

    Sorry I'm really trying to listen to what you're saying but I'm just distracted by the worm on a string earrings XD. Such an epic concept

  • @blobxxfish
    @blobxxfish 4 года назад +2

    Ur earrings are everything

  • @mikatosis
    @mikatosis 4 года назад +1

    I love this video (-:
    Also woah damn that makeup you look sooooooooo fancy

  • @masscreationbroadcasts
    @masscreationbroadcasts 3 года назад +1

    10:15 I can see you as an Exorcist

  • @deadboy5678
    @deadboy5678 4 года назад

    W O R M
    okay okay but this whole video was so relatableeeee like wow
    But first thank you for saying you don’t need to be 100% certain before transitioning, because FUCK I WAS SO BACK AND FORTH EVEN AS I WAS STARTING. My internalized shit was so real and I’m definitely still working through it all. But also I’m big anxious bean and fear of the unknown (ie. not knowing EXACTLY how T would change me specifically) while also weighing out the changes I wanted vs don’t want is definitely a big part of what kept me from feeling certain/“deciding” sooner.
    I’ve realized my transition is for myself, too. And I’m super grateful that I’ve been able to experience the beginning of physical transition while having to stay at home to just help me see that I’m doing this for me and processing changes on my own without much input from others.
    I’ll see as time goes on, but I might be a bit more extroverted than I thought I was, too. Wild lol. OH ALSO I HAVE SO MUCH LESS PHONE ANXIETY OMFGMSNNDD
    I think transition helped me realize that my past expression was kinda indirectly performative. I might make a twitter thread about this, but like growing up in costumes on stage doing dance shows and later theatre, I definitely gravitated towards fun clothes off stage as well. Putting on an old item of clothing the other day felt less dysphoric than I expected and more like dress up. Getting to experience that after feeling more comfy with myself was eye-opening in the most liberating way tbh. Like wow I’m really getting to a better space in my transition tf. 🥺
    Just,, the way I’ve already been starting to see myself, I just,, aaaaAAAAKFKGNFSSNKNDK 😭 am grateful 😭😭💞💖💞💖💞💖💞

  • @rockylowenthal2472
    @rockylowenthal2472 4 года назад

    Thank you so much for this video. A video made specifically /for/ trans people is something I never thought I'd find. Even videos by other trans people aren't made just for trans people so this made me feel pleasantly special. I hope when I finally get to physically transition I can also experience similar positive mental changes as you did (lessening internal homophobia, etc.). I think it'll take a while to accept that my trans body is beautiful, but I'm doing my best :)

  • @julianna9703
    @julianna9703 3 года назад

    awww i came from your super old stim toy video because i’m trying to find a drum toy i like i don’t have a good one and it’s frustrating...and wowwww i’m so proud of your transition (i mean this is the most best and positive way) glad i found this channel!

  • @87654321j
    @87654321j 4 года назад

    I've been watching you for a while Ashton I'm so proud of how far you've come you've changed and grown so much

  • @vykcryptid
    @vykcryptid 3 года назад

    Awesome video, thank you.

  • @shouldacomewithawarninh4974
    @shouldacomewithawarninh4974 4 года назад

    The worms on the stringsssssssss 😻😻😻

  • @rodentia1474
    @rodentia1474 3 года назад

    My question is, *are those real teeth* ?

  • @h3xrise
    @h3xrise 4 года назад +2

    wait so you are a transtrender?

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  4 года назад +11

      hell yeah i am

    • @h3xrise
      @h3xrise 4 года назад

      @@graveyardpansy ok

    • @h3xrise
      @h3xrise 4 года назад

      @@graveyardpansy wait but i thought you had dysphoria

  • @adaptationss6508
    @adaptationss6508 4 года назад

    You’ve changed so much I can’t it’s scaring me I don’t understand how people change so much omg