Caitlin Doughty | Smoke Gets in Your Eyes
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- Join Caitlin Doughty, mortician, blogger, and author, to celebrate the paperback release of her hit book, Smoke Gets In Your Eyes: And Other Lessons from the Crematory. Caitlin is the creator and curator of The Order of The Good Death, a group of fellow morticians as well as artists and intellectuals that investigates our “death phobic culture” and strives to demystify the inevitable end. From funerary rites throughout history to the jewelry of hair and bone, follow your guide down into the world of the macabre and mortified.
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October 8, 2015
I find it so therapeutic listening to her talk about death so casually
If one does think ahead, one does not think.
I meant if one does not think ahead, this machine is new to a 65 year old vetaeran
Im 61 and in final stage of heart failure. I'm so glad I found her .
How are you doing now? I hope you're well.
Everybody poops, everybody dies. A book for children would be great, go for it!
ladies dont poop, thats why they are so lovely and beautiful.
I guess I have to break it to you that women aren’t lovely and beautiful then.
It happened! Lol
Sofia--That would make a great title for a kids book.
When my beloved great aunt passed, I took my 5 yer old child to the funeral, which many people seemed to think it inappropriate. When she saw the deceased, who had passed due to a massive skin cancer on her head, she said "Is she going bad already?" Horrors. The funeral director came, took her hand, and told her that he would explain it all to her. He then gave her a tour. I was actually cool with that because I certainly couldn't have answered her numerous, detailed, gory questions. She was very satisfied with his guidance and was perfectly calm. (How'd he DO that???) He said he had three small boys and it was no problem. I sincerely thanked him. He calmed ME down too! Just wanted to share!!!
She is an incredible woman. So intelligent and funny. Huge fan, can't wait to get the book!
all that & she's wearing a scarab. Bonus badass points!
Same. I recently found her and I cannot get enough of any & everything involving her ❤️
I think that you are what our society needs. I have watched every video of yours. I just found you a few days ago. Keep writing,we need your thoughts.
paula stella she's awesome! I am nearly all through her videos.
Lol, I've watched several of her videos & it's been very helpful getting closure with my own recent loss. Thanks, Caitlyn!
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A kids book would be amazing!!!!
I agree, I am a special needs mom and have a wide circle of friends who are also moms of special needs. Many of us face the very real reality that our children may not make it to adulthood, so to have a book for siblings to read would be very beneficial, as us parents may be at a loss or unable to find the answers they need in the hard times.
A children's book would be great. The children in our family are toddlers & teens. They seem to have dealt with the death of the family patriarch rather well. I'm glad they have dealt with it so well, but grandpa wouldn't have wanted them to be sad.
I totally agree. A book about Death for children would be amazing and so very helpful to all.
I am from the future...there's one coming!
Love her! Dispelling the taboos of death. We can ALL learn from this, not just kids.
Not my favorite topic but somehow I ended up watching one of Caitlin's videos and got hooked. A great speaker with this much personality can teach any topic
CAITLIN is incredible! She takes the sting out of death with her informative presentation and cool insights.
I was in the room when my father died. We'd all said our goodbyes, but the stubborn old bastard was holding on, holding on. The way it goes, my brother was last to tell him it's ok, let go, and he was gone a few seconds later. I'm from a family of spiritualists so stories like that mean a lot. I kissed his head and said goodbye. At that point it wasn't a dead body, it was still my father.
I went to see the body at the funeral home, and it had changed. He'd been embalmed - I had no idea I could opt out of that - and it wasn't "dad" anymore. I found it tremendously, strangely, helpful. It was like yeah, this is just the vessel, what made him my dad is gone. Somehow it was comforting. Like I said, spiritualist family, I think of him as all around me, not dead and gone, that's just his body. I still miss him tremendously, though, I don't know, seven years on, how to let go. I guess I still haven't come to terms, reached a point where I can celebrate his life, rather than mourn his death. Always had a bad relationship with death, never really processed my first major bereavement, my favourite aunt, when I was 12. I'm hoping reading Caitlin's books will help somehow.
Daniel Gould Watching Caitlin's channel Ask A Mortician and reading her books has helped me accept death and move on, in a massive, significant way. I struggled similarly to you for years too, well over a decade, if I'm being honest maybe even most of my life. And her work has really caused me to understand and work on my issues, given me the tools to do so, and helped give me that push I needed. I'm sure you'll be able to find what you need through the messages and attitudes spread in Caitlin's work and the overall death positivity movement. Good luck mate, best wishes.
I did have a bad relationship with death when I was younger, when I lost someone I loved for the first time I was utterly devastated. Strangely, I heard a song on the radio one day by Frank Turner, which, although it was a nice perky, cheerful song, it stuck with me. In it he says that we are here for another day and we should live for that person too now. That taught me one of the most important lessons I could ever learn, that it's okay to be sad when a person is no longer with us in their physical form but not forever. Be sad, miss them, be angry, feel everything you can possibly feel if it will make you feel better, but don't stop living your life because of that. Love, be loved, laugh, cry, anything that helps, but make sure you keep enjoying your own life and it will eventually be better. You never get over loss but it gets easier.
The funeral service here in our little town did a wonderful job preparing my father for his viewing & funeral. He really looked fantastic & I know he would've been very proud of his funeral, his dinner & his burial. We, my mother & I, were lucky to be able to go sit with him once he was ready for the public. It was very good for my mother as she had lost her husband & life partner of 59 years.
I had the opportunity to enter the death care industry at the age of 60 and jumped right in thinking it was a good fit. I had dated a girl in high school whose father ran a funeral home and my mother had taken an assistant's position in a funeral home later in life providing me with what I felt was a greater than average experience within the industry. While I thoroughly enjoyed working with the families of deceased persons, and I think I was pretty good at it, what I found extremely difficult was the ability to separate oneself emotionally from all the very intense drama to the degree I could survive in the industry. No, I didn't cry with or over families but I found the weight of the experience to be very difficult to manage. Then, the worst happened. We had two young police officers shot and killed in a single incident with the suspect known, but at large. Our area general manager came to me and assigned me with the task of working with the families offering counseling and cemetery services as he felt comfortable with me stepping up to the plate. I would like to think I did a competent job of working with the families but I recall getting home late that night after having spent the day with them and throwing myself across the bed, while still dressed in a full business suit, saying, "That's it. I can't do this any more". Well, the next day I went right back to work and stayed another six months before departing the business having one full year in the industry. In retrospect, I admire and am thankful for the people who are willing to perform this kind of work day in and day out while I deal with a question I expect to never get fully answered and that is how anyone can do this kind of work and still have a soul. I am also a Certified Hypnotherapist and am very familiar with persons with all types of psychological difficulties and finding ways to get through them yet I suppose I will always maintain a sense of awe over those who are able to serve in the death care industry.
A kid's book is a great idea. But also a book about the death of children. There are books about coping with losing your child, but not about what choices you have or rights or options. Basically about the process of laying them to rest. When my son oliver died I just put all my trust in the funeral director and luckily for me he was amazing. I had lots of people all over the world who followed my posts about Oliver and his courage and determination. He had many setbacks yet no underlying condition was ever discovered. After overcoming massive odds during his life, and doing really well at the time....he then died quite suddenly from chickenpox. Totally unexpected, totally unforseen, and totally unfair. For his funeral I wanted a white smooth coffin with clouds and stars and the moon on, as if he was sleeping. I wanted the lining pale blue. The other workers at the funeral home were all so deeply touched and affected by son and his backstory that the director said they all cried... something they don't usually do considering how often they deal with corpses including those of children. One of the men stayed behind after work to hand sew a matching satin pillow to match the lining he had put in that day. On the day of the funeral 4 of the men insisted on being his pallbearers...so my 5 year old son was carried into the chapel like he was a prince! Of course he was always our Prince, but having them so touched by him that they wanted to honour him in that way, was a massive massive gesture of the importance and impact of his little life, not just to us but to others who had not known him in life. Although my funeral director was incredibly respectful, supportive, helpful, kind, generous..... basically everything you could wish for in the circumstances, there are many things I did not understand about death, grief, my options, ways to lay someone to rest. I thought there was burial or cremation...no other options. I didn't know about wicker caskets. I didn't know what happens during cremation, despite that being the option we chose...so we could keep him with us. I didn't want him buried and then feel I could never move away. Wherever I choose to live I can take him with me. So I chose cremation yet knew nothing about it! When you are so stricken with grief and shock, the whole arranging a funeral stage passes by in an auto pilot blur. You nod dumbly and agree because you have no knowledge of what choices are available and you're not really taking in any of what is agreed to during this time. As I said, for me personally, we couldn't have had a better director and Oliver's funeral was as perfect and beautiful as I would choose all over again with a now better functioning brain and not weighed down with shock. But I still wish I had gone into the arrangements with a better understanding of how it all works, instead of being led blindly into agreeing with suggestions. With a different director that could have turned into a complete mess! You only get one shot of giving your loved one the most beautiful and apt send off. We should know in advance what our options and choices are! Not wait til it happens and you can barely string a sentence together. A book of practical parenting planning...covering what the parent's choices are if their child should die, and also what arrangements they should make for their own deaths, to take the strain off their children in having to deal with it all.
Caitlin is such a cool chic.
To anyone thinking of buying this book, do it! It is great, I thoroughly enjoyed it.
Seriously, this could explain why green and orange are some of the chosen colors for Halloween.
Just now hearing this video. And your thought on green and orange for Halloween Maybe
I've never seen green as a Halloween color before.
As for orange, it could be. I figure it's most Luella because of pumpkins and Autumn leaves, but you never know 🤷♀️
Could have listened all day, totally fascinating, thanks Caitlin xx
I’ve always wanted to work doing the makeup in funeral homes.
I’m 43 I’m divorced and I’m now an amputee I’m really glad I found your channel I love you passion
I’m going to seriously look into going for it.
Death isn’t a choice
We need Great positive people like you and me in this business
Love you don’t stop
You’re awesome
Hi, I'm curious if you started looking into this, and if so how did it go? This is something I too was interested in as a makeup artist. I've spent a lot of time researching and contacting, and even after doing a year and a half makeup & FX program, was shut down by every place I contacted & given the same answer (also the answer I got online speaking to professionals). The funeral home staff are fully trained to do hair and makeup, which often requires reconstruction, and rarely do they hire outside sources. The funeral industry isn't as steady or financially well off as it once was (which is why you hear of so many unnecessary add-ons being pitched to grieving families), and it wouldn't make sense to them to lose even more money by bringing someone else in to do a job they are fully capable of doing. I was also told several times even if they were hypothetically interested in hiring someone just for makeup, they would hire someone who went to mortuary school. This was in the US, and may vary by region or country, or I'd suspect even how busy a funeral home was, so I'm super interested to hear if you ended up getting different answers where you are located (I hope you did!).:)
I'm curious about both of yalls, if you went for it. Aim high ladies!! And consider everything along the way a distraction that gets in your way or discourages you.
I haven't been to The Strand in decades. But I just ordered "Smoke..." And have two more on my wish list to order later.
What a great speaker, I enjoyed her.
Really great speaker! She's so funny! I love where she apologizes to the adults for saying kids jokes are better. The adult audience were too dumb to get it though hahah
A children's book would be wonderful and as an educator, I would certainly purchase it!!
I just read Will My Cat Eat My Eyeballs?, the book she wrote answering kids questions. Lol. It's a great book for kids and adults to read! Caitlin Doughty is one of my most favorite people! ☺
i can definitely relate to the womans last question in the end, I lived with my parents when i was 9 in a two story house in which my grandparents lived upstairs and we lived downstairs. since my grandmother passed away a year before i'd go visit my grandfather and have sleep overs where he'd sleep on the couch and i'd sleep in a pillow fort we made together. I never understood why he didnt wake up the next morning so i went to my parents and told them and nothing was explained... one of 3 of my cousins just slightly older than me by 3 years had to explain to me what happened and why everyone was so sad, but even that was sort of not fully explained..and i remember that during the funeral both me and the youngest cousin of the three who was my age laughed during the funeral because it seemed so odd and misplaced to go from sleepovers the day before to funeral 24 hours after (which is customary in my country) it felt unreal. we had kept the body in the home upstairs of the house where he lived before the funeral, and wanted to visit him..but everyone kept saying it wouldnt be ideal...i ended up sneaking upstairs and seeing him laid out in the open casket blue. a childrens book would do SO MUCH GOOD to teach the finality of death.
We need more funeral homes like yours because a person working pay check to pay check can not afford 10 to 20k funerals my dad would have loved what you do he wanted just a pine box he said a vault was a big waste of money.told my kids if you creamate me put my ashes in a maxwell house can and bury me at my dads feet in the family cemetary. Keep up the good work you are doing.
Death is a part of life. Kids have been sheltered from death in contemporary ages. I support you writing a book for kids. There are books to help the older sibling to cope with the new sibling, there is books on what to expect through the lifespan, but when it comes to dying - it is treated like the dying are like "lepers".
I am the Family poet and I've written so many memorial poems that are at funerals, a few wedding ones and even for pets. I do other poetry too but I am my family's go memorial poet. Only time I don't share the poem is if I feel it would do more harm to read it than not to.
My kids were never kept from the reality of death and funerals and even the responsibility of helping to take care of our private family graveyard. So far, my daughter in law isn't allowing the grandkids to experience the same things, but she was raised differently. A book for them would be a great idea!
sounds like a really good book. I have been forced to start thinking of death. My first wife died of natural causes, my second wife was killed in a car wreck and now, my last wife has stage 4 Ovarian Cancer. She has had two major surgeries in two weeks and after 6 weeks in the hosp and rehad she is home. We face chemo next but I know her chances are not great. When time comes I hope I have someone that's cares as much as you do to take care of her.
Rohn Daughtry you can do it yourself too! And just have someone like Caitlin to help
She just writes so well!
I Think what your doing is awesome, I feel every industry needs to take a look at how they do things and grow with the times and not stay stagnant. No matter what type a business it should always be what the people are wanting and supplying that need. I also want to add you have a great personality and make me laugh, I love listening to you speak!!
It seems everything is starting to seem sort've 1960ish. Everyone seems more receptive, open, encouraging with nothing being too outrageous when saying your last good byes to family & friends.
Love, love this lady
Caitlin is hilarious! I cant wait to read her book! I like the idea of bio-urn with a lilac bush grow from my urn!
Caitlin for President!!!!!
It's always good to have a plan! My mom & I had many conversations over the 5 years leading up to her death. She had almost everything documented, final arrangement ideas, which changed more than once. What I wished we did was outline her funeral services such as hymns, scriptures, etc. My church has an outline that members can fill out, they keep a copy & the pastor keeps a copy. I love your conversations you have with us. I;m 58 & not afraid of death, I'm just a big hurry to get there!
You got to love her sense of humor! I appreciate it!😁
Excellent talk. Thanks for sharing.
Caitlin is just so refreshing. I wanna be her friend. She's so considered in her approach to death and in trying to normalise it, I wish we could all be more open about it.
And by the way, I am of the opinion that children are far more robust and pragmatic over the topic of death than we adults are. They learn from us that it's something to be feared or not dealt with.
My children had early exposure due to our pets dying and chickens being killed by foxes - not entirely comparable to losing a loved one - but I did my best to be kind and matter of fact about it. Of course I'm devastated when I have to say good bye to a beloved member of my family, human or otherwise, but I did try not to protect them too much from the idea of death. It's inevitable that something living will eventually die. It's a rule of nature and the source of life by going full circle.
Thank you for sharing you life experience and your fantastic sense of humor. You changed my outlook on death . When I go, I want to be put in a cardboard box and placed in the ground. No funeral.
I want my family and friends to remember me the way I was before. Thank you again for all you do.
Thank you so much
wow I love this women.
I can listen to you all day long.
I am reading your book just nowadays. I love it. people need to open this topic and stop being shock and panic about death, funeraL, cremation. thank you for shering with us ur experience in that fields.
I’m just cleaning rooms,... listening to this book,... living in 2021... just hoping I never have to utilize all this newfound knowledge.
Loved the children questions. Caitlin is my idol.
I am so glad I found you
Enthralled from start to finish! Huge fan of Caitlin and all she does for death and the dealing with death!
This is absolutely fascinating! Caitlin you are so knowledgeable about the process of death and decay of the body, so I’m wondering what are your thoughts about the spirit/soul, and the afterlife?
Would love a video on Viking funeral rites. Burning or burying of boats.
She did a video talking about this, they didn't actually burn the boats on the water. They prepared a ton of wood on land, in some cases in the shape of a boat, and cremate the body on top of the stack of wood. I think she said it takes 8-12 hours to burn
This is actually a myth.
Thank you so much.
You're a fantastic speaker and presenter. Great stuff.
You can't tell if we're fearful of death so you cannot accuse us of lying when we say that we do not fear it. Recently I was having chemotherapy treatment of Stage 4 Lymphoma (there's no stage 5 OK ?) I brought a nun to tears as she was trying to prepare me for my imminent death. All I said to her was that I did not fear death and in fact I was looking forward to it. She was moved by my faith but I have no faith, I have knowledge that I have acquired through study and research, over the years.
……as adults, we don’t think we can really ask a question bc we should have Learned that answer by now. We just we are too old, to ask a young question. Thank you!
I want that book!
Kimberly Johnson I’m reading it now! It’s the best book I’ve read to date xx
I hope you got it! Is great.
Got all the books on audible for my trip to Florida...finished first book before I ever left..I did relistin to it though....loved listening to her and all her stories and thoughts...so happy she did her own audio...thanks for all of it KAT.💕💕💕💕💕💕😵💕💕💕💕💕
Kids death book . YES !!!!!! Me dealing with teaching my grandchild about the death of her puppy .
I have listened to this a good 4 times now.
Awesome Knowledge , "Thankyou." Chicag😎🎷🎶
I honk America and the world needs a children’s death book. I think if I had that 20yrs ago(28now), that I wouldn’t have so much anxiety about death. And that I would understand animal death as well.
PLEASE MAKE ONE!!!!! ❤️💜❤️💜❤️😍❤️💜❤️💜❤️ I love you Caitlyn, from a fellow Kaitlan lol
Fabulous
Biggest mistake of my life not doing it or having that clarity when I was younger. Realized years ago that was my passion.
Come back to New York soon!!!
I love how every question is an interesting question... Lol... Funny how she has to tell everyone how great their questions are. Lol
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I live in SF! Awe. I love you!!
You're like the english Mark Benecke! This really reminds me of one of his lectures (is that the english world?) about the body farm in America. Didn't you even mention the body farm in one of your ted talks?
Also, thanks for helping me out with that essay I wrote about the development of the view on the afterlife throughout history. The youtube video about tombstones actually inspired me to write it.
she kind of looks like bettie page, but younger, but some humor which makes it a little more lighthearted, for such a heavy issue.
I'm just sewing a quilt and watching this video. Lol great video 💙🐝💙
Caitlin I’m a teacher and hope to remain one as long as I can. Should I have to change careers, though, I’m now inspired to go into your industry. Fortunately, being a teacher, I’m not used to making much money anyway. A good teacher has empathy, the ability to read social cues, a want or need to help others, and the ability to understand that individuals need individual interactions. Also, you know, subject matter, teacher stuff, and I argue humor, but that’s not the point. I feel like I could transition well. I’d still be doing something I genuinely feel is a service to society, would be able to help people, and would never be bored at my job. I’ve never had an issue with death and though I’m sure right before I myself die I’ll feel some trepidation and possibly fear, I’m very practical when it comes to death and dead bodies. Except poop, I’ve always had an issue with poop, but I can get past that. Never been squeamish. Actually fascinated by insects including how they help bodies of all types decay. Fascinated by the science behind the process of decay. I don’t wish I’d known about it sooner necessarily because teaching is truly the only real passion I’ve ever had. But this seems like a good second. I’m looking into it more as I get older, because I’m sure being on call all the time is exhausting but teaching comes with its own exhaustion which I worry will get unbearable due to my health issues when I get older.
I love how you combine the way in which a funeral director empathizes with human clients both living and dead with the science and history behind death and how we react to it. And dark humor is kind of my style so I’m addicted to your videos.
Most importantly your demystification of death is a gift. So many are so focused on it as a thing to fear, where you try to help people understand the processes so they can at least handle it better on the practical level and maybe the emotional/spiritual level.
Lastly what’s hilarious to me is that you’re referencing questions from small children and how very much like the questions I’d get from my middle schoolers they are. Neither groups have filters and both groups have some very weird thoughts. I’m constantly just pausing out of confusion to say “I’m sorry, but why did that just appear in your brain meat?” Like I said, never bored. And if I don’t know the answer and it’s remotely ok to talk about in school, we look up the answer. Because of them I’ve learned all kinds of new things. Did you know a group of jellyfish is called a smack? Or that approximately 27 kids every year earnestly want to know if I can creamste a body in the kiln? (WHY DID THAT THOUGHT ENTER YOUR 🧠) It does in fact reach about 2200-2400 degrees F, but I explain there is no actual fire, so no, it does not look like a retort or function like one. And I’m sure Timmy COULD be stuffed into it, but absolutely not. What is wrong with you? And yes, I have actually had a kid ask if your pet would eat you when you die. I believe we were talking about the early dissection of cadavers by artists. So…I suppose…kind of related. I said if I had to guess cats wouldn’t care and as soon as they’re hungry and have no easier food source they’d go for your soft tissues, but that a dog may resist because they have a unique relationship with human beings. And yes, the classroom skink may do so but since they prefer to hunt live, moving prey they would be far more likely to enjoy the insects on your body. Turns out, I was pretty much right! Thanks for that!
Not what I thought it would be but I still enjoyed it!
She makes it sound so much easier to get over your death and has u not feeling uncomfortable
I'm glad I found this and watched it thru
It answered one question regarding desert burial which is what I'm considering
A kids book would be amazing!!!!!!!!
Can you please come to west Texas???
Wow, you were at the Strand!?? I can't believe I'm just finding out about you Caitlin!
Children's book, please!
"Take all your stuff out to the street and burn it" Is that a standard threat from all daughters? Mine tell me that all the time. They have no respect for a lifetime of collections🤔
Inspiring
Oh SHIT! I missed you by DAYS! >:-(
The bay bridge IS terrifying
When the Smoke got in my eyes I was watching an Alice Cooper concert and he was singing about dead babies got it was credible concert never forget it
Have you ever been working on a body and the smell made you throw up? (My cat left the regurgitated body of a dead bird on my driver carseat. I cleaned it up, but it was a big figth not to make it worse by throwing up)
Also, is there potential of working as a makeup artist for the dead that doesn’t require school, license, or certification? Or perhaps worded better as “what would that job title be? Is there specific school or training for just that?
Ok yes I agree with him "cat" 🐱, the Bay Bridge is a death drap and it does away in the high winds. In my few year in northern Cali I only ventured over that anxiety wrenching bridge of death. I thought I would die.
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Question 1: How do you differentiate which funeral directors are really caring about what they do and ones who don't? They are so trained to show their best "I care about you and your deceased loved one act" that it's hard to know and also (question 2) I allowed my son to make the decision whether to see his grandpa before the mortuary took him away,or not. He chose to. Grandpa had been gone for at least 10 hrs when I found him ( slumped over in his chair with his bottom on the chair and his head on the ground). When they got him ready he was very purple in the face and hands in a creepy pose. My son had nightmares for weeks and was afraid to even walk past his gpa's room. My son was 15 yrs old. I explained what he would see first but he still chose to see. Was that a bad thing on my part? I feel like allowing him to do this will always affect him and how he sees death in a negative way
About cats: Cats can develop very strong emotional bonds with their humans, and when one of their humans dies, such cats grieve for a long time, even if they acquire a new, loving human. Ask your veterinarian about that -- he or she almost always keeps up with the latest research on the animals they treat, and should know. Such cats may indeed chow down on the corpse of their human, but at that point the body is only so much meat, fat, and bone, and no longer contains a soul or a mind, and cats know that. The thing is, cats are among the strongest pro-survival creatures, and would dine on the corpse of even their beloved human in order not to starve, though there have been cases in which a cat whose human had died and crawled between the mattress and box spring of the bed that human had died in in her grief, stayed there for at least two weeks until discovered by a relative of the deceased and adopted her. That was the closest place to where her beloved human had slept, and had the smell and pheromones' of that human in it, so in that space the cat felt close to her human and could still be undisturbed by anyone. She was rail-thin and badly dehydrated, but with loving care and the help of a good veterinarian the cat survived her ordeal and was returned to good health. If she hadn't been found, though, she would have died there in that space between her human's mattress and box spring, grieving over the loss of her beloved human. It depends on the cat, but yes, cats can have strong emotional bonds with their humans. They don't reveal this to many other humans or cats or other creatures, because they have evolved to not show distress if at all possible to avoid being preyed on by predators who observe their distress and therefore regard them as low-hanging fruit.
Are there any great applications or videos you recommend to have to keep up to date on Mortuary Science practices all around. Anything helpful and practical??
so cool
Cats need to eat a lot more than dogs do, they get liver damage very quickly when starved, so they have to eat sooner than dogs.
Caitlin, are you hiring??? I'm on board.
I didn't think much about death when I was a child. The day president Kennedy was assassinated my mother went to the hospital to see my grandfather who had had a heart attack. I was 4 years old, when I saw on TV they were telling us that the president had died. Right after that my mother came home from the hospital, and the phone rang. Grandpa had died. Mom told me years later that they were told they would not be able to bury Grandpa on the same day as the president's funeral.
Mom was Catholic, and told me grandpa had died and was in Heaven. I understood that. I had no questions about death throughout my childhood. People died. As I was told good people went to Heaven, and bad people went to hell. Mom only took me to church a couple times when I was a child, and I wasn't taught much about God, Jesus etc.
The thing is I understood death well enough, and didn't dwell on it.
The sad thing I think is that less children are taught about God, Heaven and hell these days. They wonder about death because they are not told where they go when they die. And believing that this is all there is can be scary for some children.
I'm glad I was taught the way I was at least. Today I know that I will go to Heaven, because I have received Jesus as my Lord and Savior.
Question: If a person has died while laying on their side, back, or stomach...within 2-3 hours would the blood be pooled enough to cause blue/purple coloring of the skin, or look like brushing in any way?
The blood pools immediately in the dependant area (lowest gravity spots) while the person is still living. It is called mottling, the skin is patchy blue dark purple. Tells us in Healthcare thar death is near. That pooling continues as death occurs and the colour is like a dark bruise, the rest of the body is pale and becomes waxy in appearance. The change to paleness in the face is because the blood is pooled in the back, lower legs, feet. So hope that gets to your question.
I'm from south San Francisco whoa
Interesting about the legislation in California. Physician-assisted suicide, or whatever you want to call it. I remember back in the 80's, when Jack Kevorkian, a doctor from Michigan, who was the first doctor who ever assisted people with death. They died with dignity. There was a suicide machine he used, and there were some people that did die using his machine. He had been sent to prison, for murder, i believe, and he did die in prison. Many people were disturbed by his methods, and others were quite comfortable with it.
45:10 while they’re alive?!!!!!
At 32:58 - while many people in America are completely not educated about death, I don't think that's true in various religious communities that have distinct specifications for what should happen to bodies when death happens.
It's just a different experience with different communities of different folks, I guess.
46:52 I didn’t totally grasp her answer here.
She said that the reason they don’t like her is that she is threatening to their business and their way of life.
Here's a question for you,.. Can person have their body or the body of a loved one buried on their own Property ?
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Is there any way to get a signed copy of Smoke Gets in Your Eyes?