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The Good Death's Caitlin Doughty Talks Money, Fear, Death, and Awesome Bangs
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- Опубликовано: 22 дек 2019
- Do you have a will? A death plan? The ability to cut your own bangs? This week we talk to author, RUclipsr, speaker, and mortician Caitlin Doughty about how to live and die in all the best ways. (There's also some fangirling over Six Feet Under.)
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What idiot decided to cut out the video of the women while there were questions coming in? Are all the videos from this channel doing this? Bad move
Surprised survivors survival against all odds as well situations
"50% of all marriages will end in divorce but 100% of all lives will end in death" would make for a lovely motivational poster lol
Also a great T-shirt !
Yeah, but married is still worth it. When you get it right, you have magic.
Expect that's not true anymore it's less than 50% it's about 41% and keeps dropping. People are getting married latter in life and waiting to be financially stable before getting married. Like people are waiting to have a stable relationship before getting married and not just jumping into it or only getting married because then that makes sex okay.
I believe fewer people are also choosing to get married. So you combine people getting married when they are older, more self-aware, and financially stable, as well as a fair number of people not going the marriage route and you end up with a decently steady decline on divorce in institutional marriage.
My marriage ended in death. Now what?
I would have never guessed Caitlin would be a guest on the show but I am so pleasantly surprised!
"Don't torture your loved ones with the bureocracy of death"... That line really got to me. 2020 is the year I set up a back up plan, which is nice because I will also be 30 and it sounds like a good age to step up to these challenges. Thank you both!!
You're welcome ojive!
I agree
I love how you say "put the body in earth" and not put the body in the ground
Love your profile pic 💓 I agree and I’m 23 I definitely worry about the future and money is one my main concerns so I deeply appreciated the video.
As a life insurance agent it was amazing to hear another person in a death related industry's (seperate from my own) perspective on death. and the finances of it.
This is absolutely important. My Mother in law passed away suddenly over a yr ago and her having all of her shit together made it so much easier for us to not have to think about her finances. We literally only had to worry about grieving. She was great with her money and opted to have the cheapest cremation possible.
I want that for my family! 💖 Feeling so motivated to start planning.
Marvel: this is the most ambitious crossover event in history
TFD:
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I was just gonna say the same thing!
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Honestly two of the women on the internet I have an insane amount of respect for. My mother died in October and dealing with her death, estate and paying for her funeral has massively affected all 3 of her daughters. I now have life insurance, as a single parent with health issues and have increased my pension contributions to the max I can afford every month!
Start young! My parents married very young, had children young and still started long-term financial planning on a single income. It was the ultimate gift of love for their children. They had prepaid funeral plans and everything they owned was POD to the three of us because you know, someday..... "Someday" came when they were in their 50s, passing away in the same year. We merely had to make the necessary calls to institutions and pick out songs for their funerals. God bless the lady working in the lingerie department helping 2 sisters who were laughing hysterically at her pushing a gift receipt for a robe for their mother. Mom had always been clear -- bury her in a robe with a book😊
This is so lovely. I am so sorry for your loss, but your parents did a great thing. I love that your mom wished to be buried in a robe and a book--Im inspired to do something similar 😊
My grandmother was buried with a puzzle book and a pen ❤️
Thanks so much for doing this interview! My mom died in an accident when I was 19. I was lucky enough to live in a small, tight knit community and we were able to experience her death in a totally unique (for these days) way.
We were able to build her casket ourselves and prepare her body. It was easily the most cathartic thing I’ve ever done and such an important part of how we said goodbye. Because we were so involved, her gravesite also became very important, we designed the headstone ourselves using materials from our property and still visit often, leaving pictures, gifts and coffee.
I have since helped other family and friends navigate this process and prepare their loved ones. I couldn’t recommend this enough. I have not regretted it for a second and I share an incredibly special bond with all those that helped us in that process.
I don’t know exactly how much was saved monetarily in this process, but it was significant.
This is so beautiful! What a way to be able to both thoroughly celebrate the specialness of the person who is gone, and take time to grieve together and work through some of the letting-go process. I've never heard of anyone here who has had that experience, but it seems a real return to a more community-centric model?
That sounds like a beautiful experience.. I have family in a rural area in Mexico. I remember the viewing for one of my uncles was at home, at another cousins house. Burial was a little more involved than in the US. Grave was dug with shovels, not a machine! And mostly the men in the family joined in filling the soil back in to bury him as well. When my grandparents over here in the US were buried they didn't even lower the casket into the ground while we were there.
So, I'm a nurse and I can't even count how many times I've heard, "I don't know what he/she/they would want because we never talked about it." Or having a loved one say they have no idea how they would ever pay the medical bills since they never saved for something like this. I love that Caitin talked about torturing your loved ones with bureaucratic nonsense after you die but what if you aren't dead but can't make your own decisions? As always, I loved watching this. You both are great.
That's what an advanced directive is.
interesting take on natural burial! fun fact- traditional Jewish burial is exactly that, we bury the body wrapped in a sheet with no preservation. I'm from Israel and pretty much all people here are buried this way, good to know it's best for the earth as well.
So nice to know that I am not the only person in Israel who watches TFD. :-)
Caitlin!?! This is going to be the best financial diet ever. What a great duo!
I remember when my Mum passed away and they said we needed to buy a box for her to be cremated in and also a box for her ashes. I couldn't believe the price range of these boxes that WOULD GET BURNED!!! LIKE?????? IT"S GONNA GET BURNED!!! WHY WOULD YOU PAY SO MUCH MONEY FOR THAT????? At any rate, we got a simple pine box because it was a natural material but like man, they can really get you with all those costs.
Ditto with my Dad - I had to kind of channel him and ask for something simpler (a couple of times, IIRC). Literally no one but the crematorium ever saw it, anyway!
Same with my sister
when my sister found out she was dying (cancer) she wanted to be cremated she planned her funeral she was thinking b/c the coffin was just going to be burnt she thought a cardboard coffin would make more sense and be cheaper, turns out no a cardboard coffin was $1500 and a plain white wooden one was $600 yes she went for the cheapest one and we wrote all over the coffin in the last few weeks that we had left with her.
I love how catilin had a quick response about the mafia and acid lmao!!!
THE COLLAB I DIDNT ASK FOR BUT I DEFINITELY NEEDED
It looks like so many of us love both TFD and Caitlin!! So exciting!
I noticed the same thing! Weird, right?
I'm in awe at how much information I've gotten in such a short span of time on this episode! Like twenty mins in and it felt like there was already so much.Forty mins in, again! Love to see two super intelligent women talking about stuff that is uncomfortable but so, so necessary. Inspiring.
Favorite channel crossoveeeeer! Yes!
Same! I nearly choked on my water when I saw this in my notifications!!! 😍😍😍
Same!!
The most ambitious crossover event in history
Can’t say enough about this episode! Such great advice/info. Thank you to both of you.
OMFG IM SCREAMING AT WORK. 2 OF MY FAVORITE LADIES ON THE INTERWEB TOGETHER
IVY P same. My boss gave me a strange look but I regret nothing
@@dxonnie1571 we both have a job and that's all that matters
Great podcast! Just wanted to share Indian funeral culture. We do exactly like mentioned in video- Take care of body at home, washing the body- Dressing up the body like a bride or groom if the spouse is still alive. It is considered auspiscious to touch the feet of the dead, as a way of recieving blessings.
And the creamation service wont be costlier than 50-60 thousand Rupees ( 840 Dollars)
OMG! How have I NOT seen this sooner? I ADORE Caitlin Doughty and her work! I didn't even REALIZE how much I avoided the topic of death until I found her channel. In fact, I think I have been subscribed to her longer than I have TFD! Thank you for interviewing her!!
I never knew I needed this crossover! Marvel is shook
They are both my favourite
My sister and I did our grandmas hair and makeup after she passed. We grew up putting her hair in curlers for her and it just felt wrong to have somebody who doesn’t know how she likes it to do it for her. I thought the experience would be weird, but it was really special for us both. I’m so glad that we spent that last time doing her hair for her.
I’m a simple goth I see a mortician I click
I'm fan girl screaming over my two favorite women on RUclips collabing..... 😍❤ Both of you have helped me through the hardest times of life and conquer them.
MY DREAM COLLAB!!!! I’ve never clicked on a video faster!😍😍😍 Death comes with so many unexpected costs during a very vulnerable time, thanks for helping people prepare for themselves and their loved ones!💕
I had to get snacks and tea and dig myself into the sofa under a duvet before I clicked because THIS IS GOING TO BE SO GOOD!! 😍😍
Caitlin Doughty is hands down one of the best humans ever! She radiates love, care, and compassion. I’m so happy to know that she’s taking good care of her finances. Thank you Chelsea! You’re awesome! ❤️❤️❤️
"I'm so ready to die! Death doesn't mean anything. I love it!" - such a Gen-Z mood. 😂
I have very much enjoyed your videos Caitlin. They are so very educational. I plan to have a productive conversation with my husband about each of our plans. I believe it should be up to the person who is dying, if that’s possible. Otherwise it should be what the family or loved ones need and can afford if there are no plans. When my dad was dying I took care of him for 18 months until his death. Fortunately I had 20 years of home health care experience. He wanted a traditional funeral. Unbeknownst to me, my sister had badgered him into a cremation because it was cheaper. When I found out I backed her up against the wall and told her never to bring the subject up again….or else! Then I asked him what he truly wanted, and he told me the traditional style embalmment with an open casket. I told him that’s what will happen, you have planned for this and that’s what you’ll get. It has so much to do with what era they are from, and what they’ve become aware of. Just like you said about the Hindu family, it should be according to the beliefs of the one dying , if possible.
She has the most PERFECT bangs
I just watched this video yesterday as I’m actively watching my geriatric dog try to rest through his last few days. This video inspired and empowered me to be more positively active in his passing including planning how to prepare his wake and pet options for body surrender/ cremation (live is city and don’t have place to bury). Thank you for this content and for sharing yourself.
This could not have come at a better time. I am currently going through the arrangements for my recently deceased father and it’s making me consider how I’m going to prepare for my own death. And cool thing is I’m from Waimanalo. I would love to look into the eco caskets being made there.
Shaun Kamakea-Young I know it probably means little coming from a stranger, I’m sorry for your loss and hope you and you’re family are finding some semblance of peace.
@@andykimbrough9019 even from a stranger it is meaningful. thank you for taking the time to express your condolences.
Shaun Kamakea-Young I’m sorry for your loss. Be kind and patient with yourself as you grieve.
My mom made me make her arrangements while she was alive because she said, “ they take advantage of you when you’re sad”.
Also we paid cash and saved $2000.
WOW, so amazing! Thank you so much for introducing me to this guest. I would have never found her without you!
I work in hospice, anyone have questions on the dying process?
Death doesn't need to be scary 😊♥️ Figured I'd offer insight if people have questions about death/dying outside finances.
@alice663 I know anger is one stage in the dying process, just imagine u having to leave your love one's forever your family, kids, friends everyone be - hide only for u to die and for them to live without u. it would be a very agonizing and painful place to be in
TFD and Ask A Mortician are probably the two channels on RUclips that have helped me the most and that I am happiest to see on my feed. Thank you for arranging this excellent episode!
This is actually a really important conversation to have. I live with my fiance and his parents, and we are not saving money. We should be. I'm going to try and set up a savings account and get some money stashed away. We are trying to get married and have a family. This is something everybody should be talking about. Talk to your family, talk to your partner, start shoving money away because you *will die eventually* and you don't want your children or your parents to be put under immense financial stress because you went and died. I'm going to start saving for my own funeral, and that's not a morbid thought, it's a practical one.
Edit a year later: I set up an Acorns account and I’m starting to shove money in a Roth IRA and I’m also investing. It’s fun and interesting.
Could you look at pre paid as in Australia that is a thing and if you have superannuation funds check if you have it in their.
I have NEVER clicked a video faster! Both of you have influced my life is such powerful ways and I am so happy to see this collaboration 💕
Caitlyn: you could watch the things I make for months without running out
Me: lies! I've run out after 3 obsessive weeks, I need more great content
I just did a double take when I saw this notification... two of my fave RUclipsrs doing a collab? When I thought their channels were completely unrelated?? Love to see it
Two of my favorite women, together! Thank you both for this, I've been a fan of you both, so this was special.
Also, having been extremely poor when i was younger, I've found that having money truly lubricates life. I'm not rich, but like Chelsea, I could replace all my makeup if I needed to.
Loved this podcast! Maybe my favorite Financial Confessions yet. ♥️ As someone who works in healthcare and sees the worst part of end of life situations on a regular basis, I can agree that an Advanced Directive is one of the most important documents one can have no matter what your age. Thanks for another great episode!
Omigod, you've got ALL my favorite youtubers in one place. I am SO excited to see Caitlin up here.
I worked in animal medicine for 20+ years, and the average price of a straightforward cremation of a pet ranged from $200-$350, ashes returned in a little cardboard box. When my mom died in 2003, I opted for a straightforward simple cremation, knowing a funeral/casket/etc would be light years beyond my budget. I received her ashes in the exact same kind of little cardboard box that the pets came in, to the tune of $2500. My very first thought was “I want my pet crematory to take me when I die, no way are my ashes worth more than my dog’s.”
I could listen to these 2 talk all day long! Both women of knowledge!
I’m so glad you got Caitlin on! She’s one of my favorite RUclipsrs and Authors! You’re an awesome interviewer!
I loved it, but I thought you'd talk more about how you have to prepare the paperwork things for when you'll die. Like. The insurances, the contracts that your next of kin don't know about but will need to close, stuff like that. Could you do a video about it ?
Ahhhhhhh this is the most perfect collab ever!! I love Caitlin!
Omg I love "ask a mortician"! Never imagined this collab!
I adore Caitlin. I love her you tube channel, " Ask the Mortician."
Everything stated is so true. I can tell you that I definitely learned a lesson after losing my father almost 10 years ago (crazy to say 😔). Seeing my mother empty her bank account because he didn’t have anything arranged was terrible. As I grew older, I quickly set up my own retirement funds & emergency savings accounts, etc. I’m definitely looking into opening other accounts, getting a living will, funeral plans, etc. Working in the medical field, where death is a common thing, I’ve learned things I want and wouldn’t want done to myself or to burden my family with making decisions.... P.S. love this video!
20:30 I've made these plans recently. I wanted to do it for a long time (hugely thanks to watching Caitlin's videos!) but my friend's boyfriend recently died (he was 30 years old; car accident) and it made me realize that just because I'm 24 doesn't mean I can't die any moment. And I don't want my loved ones to worry and fight about what I would have wanted to happen. I'm also a sensitive person when it comes to body autonomy so I really want to have control of what happens after I die (for example - in my country you rent a grave and if no-one pays your rent after the 100 years they just dig you out and put you elsewhere - I don't want that).
The main reason I'm writing this hear is that this process of thinking about it, putting it on paper, giving it to someone, made me feel calm and much less scared of death. Just like Chelsea explained about her being prepared from the financial point of view (I don't really need that, I'm not a business/property owner.)
Thank you for this awesome collab!
I love Ask a Mortician! Interesting conversation about why people fear death. I’m working through it, but I fear death because I’m happy and I’m not ready to be done gaining new experiences. Coincidentally I have been in counseling before because I get nervous committing romantically. It was determined that that nervousness comes from the “finality” of committing to one person for the rest of my life. Dark, but interesting content. Thanks for sharing, TFD!
I have one and only one fear about death - that I die before one or both of my parents. I don't want them to deal with their only child's death.
Worlds collide! I love these women ❤
Love seeing all my favorite strong female youtubers helping eachother and working together
You’ve had amazing guests on your show so far!!
Nothing lasts except money and death. You guys are like the "topics that last forever" youtubers.
My husband works for TurboTax (Canada) and I'm studying to be a Funeral Director---together we ARE "death and taxes" ! 😊
@@lindsaypaps8099 that's hilarious. But great for you! lol.
I love this lol
Lindsay P Good luck with your studies!
We cry when we are born and we cry b/c we are going to leave this world, and we die the same way as we were born, with nothing.
Would not have thought these two fan-girled each other but I love it! Two of my fav channels collide. Really though the overlap makes perfect sense. Thank you both for making this space where you can find tools to help make those conversations happen. My family has had family plots for generations so I’ve known where’d I’d be buried for as long as I could remember thinking about it now that has helped me feel very settled about the abstract concept of death. Having a plan with 💰 for life & death gives peace in so many ways.
"...come poke it." So funny! Excellent collaboration - Caitlin Doughty, you are a profoundly engaging person and talented author!
I am halfway through this episode and REALLY enjoying it. I can hardly describe how educational this has been, and largely because both of you are so open about finances, income, your businesses etc. I've really struggled with finances because when I ask for someone's help outside of my immediate, immediate family, I get really evasive answers, because they want to give me advice without disclosing all of their finances. They won't say, "This is what I did, this is what I earn, this is how my businesses are run, and these are the accounts I have." But because Caitlin is so open about finances and her business, I feel like I'm actually learning.
Super late to this party, but why is Caitlin like SO GREAT?! “Like the Mafia?” “No, that’s acid.” Love her and going to find her now!
My two favourite Internet ladies in a room together! This is the best!
The collab I didn’t know could happen 💕
Caitlin: *gets married just so she can have a pre-nup*
The collab I didn’t know I needed🙏🙏🙏
"But also if you can be the person in your group or your family that is capable of being centered enough to talk about it, it gives you enormous power."
Like, inner strength kind of power or direct power over my family or friends? Because only one of those is appealing to me at this time.
Great video! I loved how Caitlin brought up the newer ways “to die” such as water cremation and human composting! I’ve never heard of that. I also liked what was brought up about specifying what exactly we fear about death “our number” and taking the time to write a will where were we can get technical and maybe even unethical on what exactly we want done with our stuff and our legacy
Very cool
YOOOOOOOOOO my two favorite educational content creators on a podcast AND they're also adam driver fans???? brooooooo how haven't i found this until like two years after it happened
Haven't watched yet, bit already liking for Caitlin! She's the best and I have a feeling this will be the funniest financial confessions
Just found your channel recently and LOVING all of these videos. I know this one was from 2 years ago but the information is still relevant today. Thank you!
Loved this episode. Especially being able to throw money at a problem. My personal dream.
I am such a fan of Caitlin Doughty's books. This was the best podcast episode thus far!
My grandma always says “I don’t have to do anything but pay taxes and die” and this is the physical embodiment of that lmfao
I cried. Caitlin really took me there, yet again. Life is so precious, thank you for the work you do! Thank you for sharing and I might need a bit more on that investment panic! I think I just need to listen to that but again. Thanks Chelsea for bringing her to the podcast!
I can't believe you actually made a video together! Two of the women I truly love to hear!
Thank you for this. Companies tell us what to do instead of doing what we want to do.
Two of my favorite people that i never thought would do a collaboration. So happy.
MY TWO FAVORITE RUclips CHANNELS ARE TOGETHER?!
I CAN'T.
I'VE NEVER FANGIRLED SO HARD! 😍😭
I work at an investment bank in the tech area, my experienced manager advised me to set a loss limit on any stocks you buy. If you buy a stock for $200 then you have to be prepared for that stock to go down, but at some point you need to stop the bleeding. If that stock value goes all the way down to say, $125 or whatever losses you are comfortable with, sell it, especially if it's not likely to go up in the short term future. That is for one offs, not for something like a recession or a bear market. Think of it like people who held out on selling bitcoin because they thought the price would go back up.
Thank you for bringing Caitlyn into my life!! I want to do what she does. What a lovely soul!
I wish Karen and Georgia would have her as a guest on my favorite murder💁♂️
First off, this was an impeccably timed podcast given what happened in 2020 and wish more people had a chance to watch this epsidoe.
Also, I will always argue that everyone should have a prenup. Even it's as simple as using it to keep your family heirlooms in your family, or the pets you brought into the relationship your pet, or the tools you use to make a living. Doing it when you like each other will have better results for both people than the fights that will ensue in a divorce when you may hate each other.
This is an amazing crossover of 2 youtubers that I really appreciate for the topics you deal with that don't often come up in everyday conversation
OMG geeking over Caitlin's comment about my hometown Waimanalo! Love both of you!!
Oh my God, is this real life?? Two of my favorite "practical" youtubers!!!!
I'm also interested in a natural burial, but the lye dissolving sounds interesting as well. I have an advanced directive, but my husband and I don't have a will at the moment. I've been nudging my husband to go to a lawyer with me to get all of our affairs in order. Both of us have been through deaths with one of our parents and it's not fun to have to work through, even if there is a will. After the new year, definitely!
WE HAVE COME TO A FULL CIRCLE!!!!!!
OML how did miss this interview!!!!!! Two people I follow, meeting and discussing the best taboos.
Wow!!! The crossover I never knew I needed!!
I'm here for this fangirling energy EVERYDAY
I'm only half way through this video but already feel very deeply touched by what's being discussed. I paused the video to sign up as an organ donor. Thanks for talking about such a taboo subject!
I love it when my favorite RUclipsrs collaborate 😌
My two favorites in one video. ❤️
Why do I get so many notifications for tfd but not the one that includes one of my fav people??? So glad I happened to be scrolling through my subscription feed
THE CROSSOVER I DIDNT KNOW I NEEEEEEEDEDDDDD
Yasss Caitlin! Two of my favorite RUclips ladies in one video!
Two of my favorite RUclipsrs together! Loved hearing this conversation.
OMG. I'm not a weirdo! Two of my favs together!!!!
Two of my favorite channels in one video! More of these please!