How To Avoid The Friend Zone ft. Zan Perrion | Becoming FEARLESS

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  • Опубликовано: 19 ноя 2024

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  • @Dub636
    @Dub636 4 года назад +12

    I’ve read Zan’s book and watched a lot of these videos, but for us who struggle with “the dance” this is hands down the best conversation detailing it exactly. No misunderstanding

  • @octane2344
    @octane2344 7 лет назад +42

    Zan Perrion is all about inviting women into a celebration of their beauty. through flirting, playful conversation, sex, and having a penetrating spirit that looks to make an incredible moment with a woman.

  • @VicHristov
    @VicHristov 5 лет назад +13

    I love the way Zan lights up with energy at the end when he speaks about the spirit of invitation. It's a powerful message! Invite, state your feelings without being fearful or forceful. Amazing stuff

  • @EnlightenedSchmuck
    @EnlightenedSchmuck 7 лет назад +40

    Oh my god... Zan is actually Brian with a wig, shaved cheeks and colored glasses. HOW DID I NOT SEE THAT BEFORE?

  • @ratmdeathwan
    @ratmdeathwan 7 лет назад +26

    The Man, the Myth, the LEGEND, Zan perrion!!

  • @adianroman2469
    @adianroman2469 4 года назад +3

    It still strikes me how powerfully Zan's energy influences me. Every time that I watch him speak, I start subtly moving my body and really enjoying my existence and to feel really good and hopeful in general. It inspires me, more and more as I've progressed on my path, to be brave with life. I also get really conscious with my upper and lower energies, and I think: am I just imagining or am I really in this scoundrel state? Now more than ever it really feels like my authentic, uncovered self. Amazing.

  • @treviancalhoun7693
    @treviancalhoun7693 Год назад +1

    The lower & upper energy balance is exactly like the characters in Twilight and other movies… makes sense

  • @xk1390
    @xk1390 7 лет назад +13

    Now that I hear these explanations, they just make so much sense. Pure gold, I really appreciate this guys!

  • @hillortiz
    @hillortiz 3 года назад +2

    If you’re not a scoundrel you’re nothing!!!!! Gooooold!!!

  • @headlesnorseman701
    @headlesnorseman701 6 лет назад +10

    this one hour video highlighted the last ten years of mistakes i have made in various social interactions lol

  • @ZacharyStockill
    @ZacharyStockill 7 лет назад +60

    Great interview, but if I may: I found the background music annoying, and a little distracting.

    • @zmdeadelius
      @zmdeadelius 7 лет назад +2

      Or maybe you just like jazz.

    • @tylerh2548
      @tylerh2548 7 лет назад +3

      Zachary Stockill i can't unhear it.

    • @raspberrynation
      @raspberrynation 5 лет назад +4

      If something as trivial as light background music annoys you, how are you gonna deal with a girl's shit tests?

    • @Jay-yy7uk
      @Jay-yy7uk 5 лет назад +3

      I actually like it and think it fits the mood

    • @sosinati3358
      @sosinati3358 10 месяцев назад

      You dont like jazz? But you like romance? Weirdo

  • @MatthewMaranell
    @MatthewMaranell 7 лет назад +17

    my experience is that as soon as they know they have you. ..they lose all attraction. I love your appreciation for the feminine nature. ...but the truth is when they know they have you, they completely lose attraction. I personally think a man is better off not giving a fuck.

    • @HereIAm247
      @HereIAm247 7 лет назад +11

      I didn't see the video yet, I just found it. But I think, if people loose all attraction after they have you, then maybe they were not the right match. Also, what happens when people start a relationship, they often let themselves go, because they don't have to impress the partner anymore, since they already have him/her. But the relationship is when the work start, not where it ends. (I personally think that is why the divorce rates are so high, because people don't realise that a good relationship does take effort, even for a good match). :)
      Also, how do you behave when she 'have you'? Many friend zoned people (happens to both guys and girls), are very happy, but afraid to loose the person, and will do everything to keep and please the other. This create a nervous and slightly clingy energy, and the other person feel a little forced, and feel that they are responsible for the others happiness. Sometimes, people who are friend zoned, often becomes very focused on the other person, and they wonder if the others interest is genuine, or because he/she thinks she can't get anyone else.
      How was the feminine/masculine balance in the relationship? Were she feminine enough to compliment your masculinity level? Were you masculine enough to compliment her femininity level? Maybe none of this applies to you, maybe some of it does, or maybe all of it, I don't know. But if things doesn't work out, there is usually a reason. And yes, it sucks, but if you figure that reason out, you increase your chances of succeeding next time. :)

    • @periteu
      @periteu 7 лет назад +2

      You are absolutely right. I don't aim to "have her" or "have that girl" or even "have friends". I aim to build something with her or to build something with that other person while I'm in my own journey.

    • @vincentd333
      @vincentd333 7 лет назад +1

      Tulio that's the perfect description of positive 'I don't give a fuck'ness.

    • @MatthewMaranell
      @MatthewMaranell 7 лет назад +1

      I don't know everything, I only know what I've experienced, and I'm now facing some realities that I've probably been avoiding for most of my life.
      Buddha said craving and desiring for things we don't/can't have is what causes human misery. This has probably been my biggest problem in life. I tend to choose cluster b personalities into my life and then try to somehow make them happy. ...it's pointless, because most cluster b personalities are notoriously unhappy people at their core...plus, nobody can make another person happy (they either are or they are not)
      All I'm saying is a man is better off not craving or desiring for any woman all too much, because it just causes unnecessary pain. Find your happiness within....not in a women.(than maybe find someone after reaching that point)
      Guys who spend enormous amounts of time chasing pussy are putting women on a pedestal, whether they know it or not.... and I swear it's almost instinctual for a woman to know when a man cares for her more than he cares about himself, and she then starts to lose attraction....and when his feelings are uncertain, she keeps working to gain his approval. Again, these are just my experiences, and of many other men I've known throughout life...and yes, it's also possible that they all keep constantly choosing the wrong type of women;)
      Personally, If you've had a fucked up childhood, I'd suggest facing that stuff head on, and learning how to change your vibration levels. Otherwise a person will keep attracting and being attracted to unhealthy people.
      Regardless of any of that type of stuff, most women seem to like a man that's a bit if a challenge, so if he's ever too eager, he's fucking up his own chances.

    • @danpenia219
      @danpenia219 4 года назад

      He does not give a fuck, you are not understanding what he is saying

  • @MadawaskaObservatory
    @MadawaskaObservatory 5 лет назад +3

    Yup I agree with Zan, men need to be more sexual, but in a sincere and playful way. Girls love romance, not just being ram rodded.

  • @dannyjonze
    @dannyjonze 7 лет назад +4

    really uniquely interesting conversation here. im 51 myself but had a different life to zan even though he described my experience perfectly. I only even started to look into the pickup world a year ago. having spent most of my life in relationship or single. the point about renunciation is huge I gave up alcohol in my twenties and that is one time when my life changed irreversibly and there have been others.

  • @stefanocatalano1501
    @stefanocatalano1501 4 года назад +3

    I'd love to buy a bracelet with the quote "beauty needs a witness"

  • @PickleFlixTV
    @PickleFlixTV 5 лет назад +11

    My mom was sewing in game room so I walk in, open RUclips to Zan Perrion the Fearless Man Podcast and she flips out telling me to "turn that shit off! You need to read a Christian dating book!" LMFAO 😂😂😂

    • @Bryannevillemusic
      @Bryannevillemusic 5 лет назад +2

      😅😅😅

    • @AlexanderLopez-oj4wg
      @AlexanderLopez-oj4wg 4 года назад +2

      I thought my Christian mother was the only person who had that kind of reaction regarding these kind of videos.

  • @gx-rf1tm
    @gx-rf1tm 2 года назад +2

    Thank you, great conversation, great value and message.

  • @yadayada975
    @yadayada975 6 лет назад +5

    Zan Perrion fascinates me deeply!! But, from what ive seen from him till now, hes a tallented charismatic guy that spent decades learning a musical instrument. And now he travels around telling the tonedeaf and the blind to be better...Just be better... Were all individual cases, broken as we are...I personly would need for him to go more sharp into details concerning a lot of the subjects hes been over... "Just be more sexual" wtf? Thats a hell of a balance... That can go south pretty fast!

  • @nagyguy2478
    @nagyguy2478 4 года назад +2

    Zane and Brian thank you for giving me the confidence to act in masculine energy ...i used to blow a lotta chances in the past , but now i feel the positive mindset now . Hoping to re-attract this other girl she hates me now for not making bold moves

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  4 года назад +1

      That's great to hear man. One of the most helpful things for a situation like that is freedom from outcome. You can start by spending some time letting go of expectations and welcoming enjoyment of the situation before you even talk to her or see her response. Also, it sounds like you might benefit from checking our videos about nice guy syndrome. Here is one of those - Andrew, TFM Staff
      ruclips.net/video/y8ZsP2VAVcY/видео.html

    • @nagyguy2478
      @nagyguy2478 4 года назад

      @@TheFearlessMan Thanks that's huge @The Fearless Man

  • @stevedoetsch
    @stevedoetsch 6 лет назад +2

    This advice and Zan's method is not for all men. The core fundamental key to their advice is the you must be a man who can appreciate beauty. It starts with the man. If he only lusts, then he cannot call out her beauty. If he settled for a woman that he doesn't really feel is beautiful then he won't be able to genuinely call out her beauty either. It all starts with a man who understands and desires beauty and will not settle for a woman he thinks is less than beautiful.

  • @Bossssssssssssssss
    @Bossssssssssssssss 7 лет назад +10

    Do more videos with this legend!!!

  • @bermei5187
    @bermei5187 6 лет назад +3

    I love you two. You guys are the greatest when it comes to this stuff.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад +1

      Thank you! Glad you continue to find it valuable. Hope to meet you at an event!

  • @urielnascimento3567
    @urielnascimento3567 5 лет назад +1

    I find it funny how much i jive with this guy. I could never get into pick up aswell, even tho my friend did a bootcamp and etc. Girls somewhat respond to me differently and I never knew why, Zan helped me to figure out why: I just invite them in, flirt to create a nice experience and girls dig that.

  • @dudewat212
    @dudewat212 7 лет назад +1

    Zan !!!! The legend himself ! Great combo-team in this vid !

  • @Housesedge
    @Housesedge 2 месяца назад

    These two could be an action movie duo

  • @blackharpy7468
    @blackharpy7468 5 лет назад +1

    Romania loves you, Zan!

  • @kugelmanno
    @kugelmanno 7 лет назад +1

    Great audio quality, great interview!

  • @SupereagleChannel
    @SupereagleChannel 6 месяцев назад

    The last thing my ex-gf of 10 years told me when i foolishly tried to get her back when she moved on was, "hmmmmppphh, I needed your presence, not too have money for the 3rd child".

  • @Matthew_Scan
    @Matthew_Scan 7 лет назад +1

    Friend zone is a bonus for me if i said that stuff to a girl they'd get a restraining order on me

  • @TheGridironkid
    @TheGridironkid 7 лет назад +4

    "Beauty needs a witness"
    What if the girl KNOWS she's hot without you having to say a thing? This is due to all of the praises she gets from social media from both strangers and friends and guys who hit on her all the time. How do you go about giving her a compliment even though she gets them all the time?

    • @Noot-Noot7305
      @Noot-Noot7305 7 лет назад +3

      TheGridironkid what you do is compliment her but make sure you add an insult right after.

    • @TheGridironkid
      @TheGridironkid 7 лет назад +2

      Eli The strong yea but not a literal insult where you legit disrespect her right? More like a harmless joke

    • @LiDod20
      @LiDod20 6 лет назад

      Timing my friend..timing

  • @JacobA666
    @JacobA666 4 года назад +5

    Moral of the interview: "Sexual energy".

    • @User0resU-1
      @User0resU-1 3 года назад +1

      Moral of the interview: "balance sexual energy with playful energy".

  • @Martin12000
    @Martin12000 4 года назад

    Thank you Brian I truly appreciate your work

  • @tkkt3605
    @tkkt3605 4 года назад +1

    Dreams? Overrated. Dreams and circumstances change by the moment. Dreams like life are always fleeting. Once you are dead what does it matter? What if you have no dreams, dont care, and have already have many experiences which many people dream of? Then what do you do? What have I learned? Than You cannot relate to most other people since most are shallow, vain, and stupid if you unintentionally expedience their wildest dreams. You cannot truly share and most will think you arrogant for it. Who cares! Playful is fun but only until others hate you for it. It will only get others to use you.

  • @DaveDelli
    @DaveDelli 7 лет назад +11

    Kill the music!

  • @davidcombest1134
    @davidcombest1134 4 года назад

    best dating coaches very thankful for this content

  • @muonlinenet3378
    @muonlinenet3378 7 лет назад +1

    guys you are awesome and amazing!

  • @FastGoing247
    @FastGoing247 7 лет назад

    A great combo you two are together!

  • @nobodysperfect06
    @nobodysperfect06 7 лет назад +2

    i like to believe there was a time in history in which guys, men, didn't need to seek out help from dating coaches or PUA's, in order to learn how to talk to and attract women, etc., get a girlfriend, etc. Because dating coaches, PUA's, the Seduction community, and even things like Fearless, are relatively new, modern, they weren't around like 40 or 50 years ago, so how did guys learn how to talk to women and attract them back then?

    • @crankbreath176
      @crankbreath176 7 лет назад

      nobodysperfect06 easy, a multi-billion dollar industry created from nothing !!!!

    • @ZapatosVibes
      @ZapatosVibes 7 лет назад +3

      Back then, you were pretty much limited to women you met in your church's village on Sundays. Now the world is very diffrent, so new learning happens.

    • @crankbreath176
      @crankbreath176 7 лет назад

      Agreed but it's still an industry created, just like global warming !! 🤤

    • @MatthewMaranell
      @MatthewMaranell 7 лет назад +2

      Back then women didn't have a constant stream of orbiters on social media sites stroking her ego beyond healthy levels. Today's modern women are becoming spoiled rotten, disloyal, entitled little shits...with the full backing of society and the federal government. Girl power!!

    • @gavinreid8351
      @gavinreid8351 5 лет назад

      @@ZapatosVibes 40 years ago?!

  • @ratmdeathwan
    @ratmdeathwan 7 лет назад

    Thank you brian for making a p.2 with this man!!!!

  • @VoiceOfThe
    @VoiceOfThe 5 лет назад +1

    How do I go about getting out of the friend zone? We used to be intimate, but she’s rejected me and is now with someone else, but keeps splitting up with him and contacts me, but won’t meet up. I’ve only asked her once, mind.

  • @kittendivine1
    @kittendivine1 6 лет назад +5

    Men, honestly: is it possible for men to be just interested in friendship? (:
    I don't like the word friendzone. We're just friends, that's it. You're not a victim, you chose this. Also personally, when I'm friends, it will never become something els

    • @stephenpitkin5492
      @stephenpitkin5492 5 лет назад

      If a relationship can't grow and change it's just narcissistic supply. Anyway, a victim attitude is the opposite of what it takes to get out of the friend zone and has never been recommended by any major PUA or dating coach.

    • @monolith94
      @monolith94 3 года назад

      Only if she’s married. Those are the only female friends I have.

    • @johnmarks714
      @johnmarks714 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@stephenpitkin5492 yeah it may not technically be recommended by a major PUA/dating coach, but there's this undercurrent of: if a woman friendzones you, it means she's ranked you as a 2nd class citizen worthy only of platonic friendship and nothing more. Like you failed as a man. That they secretly have contempt for you. Even if they don't directly say this, you can see it in the language they use and how they describe platonic friendships.

    • @johnmarks714
      @johnmarks714 8 месяцев назад

      It really depends on the man. There are men interested only in friendship, but you won't find them in youtube comments nor in forums for men struggling with women.

    • @johnmarks714
      @johnmarks714 8 месяцев назад

      Also here's something I posted elsewhere...
      There are two types of friendzones:
      #1 Toxic
      #2 True
      #1 Toxic Friendzone - she is either consciously or unconsciously keeping
      you as a backup plan. She gets jealous and acts like you cheated when
      she sees you pursuing other women. In nastier cases, she even sabotages
      your efforts. She may even tell you other women aren't into you.
      Two women friends I had were this category.
      #2 The True friendzone supports you in your efforts to find other women.
      Even points out when other women are showing interest. May even set you
      up with other women she knows. She even told me I should've gotten a
      woman's phone number, which I didn't because I didn't want to creep her
      out.
      I had one woman friend like this, though she never did the matchmaker part.
      CONCLUSION:
      You can instantly detect which type you're in, by flirting with other girls in front of her. Watch how she reacts.
      Some clarification...
      I would never flirt with other women in some sick effort to change her mind. The seduction community has advocated that and I always found that quite distasteful. Also, I'd be quite turned off if a woman ONLY becomes interested in me once she sees other women fancy me. It's like the person who was dirt poor and when he wins the lottery, everyone wants to be his friend.
      I would flirt with other women because:
      #1 I want to continue pursuing other women until I get a YES.
      #2 I'm treating her just like my guy friends. My guy friends would support me pursuing other women. So should she if I'm truly just a platonic friend.

  • @MB-oc1nw
    @MB-oc1nw 6 лет назад +4

    It's the same guy wearing a wig people!

  • @josephk6373
    @josephk6373 7 лет назад +1

    Thank God for Zan!

  • @BlySS93
    @BlySS93 7 лет назад

    Loven' the new intro

  • @tylerh2548
    @tylerh2548 7 лет назад +1

    46:00 holy accuracy, Batman.

  • @christofferellingsen3494
    @christofferellingsen3494 4 года назад +1

    The more I watch these videos I am reminded of the time when I was a kid.
    Unapologetically and fearlessly giving compliments and sharing beautiful sexual moments
    with women of all ages, mostly older women. Why? Because their husbands weren't doing
    their jobs as men and as husbands of witnessing their wives or partners beauty. Because I
    did that, I was there as a man sharing vulnerable moments with women, bjs in public moments
    as well as sexual intercourse in public moments. Witnessing their beauty and them feeling the energy
    of me witnessing them when they were walking their kids home from school. The women feeling appreciated
    and loved for being women.That got me into some
    trouble where the husbands and male partners would confront me about doing their jobs as a man
    and then the women defending me. After a while the girls my age started noticing
    this, and were wondering why they were not sharing those moments with me. And so they would
    confront me, and I would say "well then, let's sneak away somewhere quiet and share a moment together"
    Not to mention the fact that I would litterally say but in swedish that I would like to see you this time.
    I would even go so far as to say let us just meet up and have fun together. I went on a date with
    beautiful older woman and just went on a walk with her and talked. All I would say before the meet up
    was "I like you and I would like to see you again" and we arranged the date. I remember we went to her place
    after the date and just had fun together. We briefly spent time with her family, her husband not liking me being
    there. Then I took her hand and lead her to a room where we could be alone together. We started doing more intimate
    stuff, we had sex, then we went to the bathroom and she gave me a bj. After that I went home.
    Once I am happy again I will bring that adventure into my life with women again. Cannot believe I forgot,
    adventourous childhood that I am remembering bit by bit, because I am slowly coming back to my genuine
    reality. And getting some help remembering through the videos you have made. Thank you so much!

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  4 года назад

      That's a pretty amazing story man. Looking forward to you getting healthy so we can hear more :) We need more guys out there having adventures and lighting up the world like that. - Andrew, TFM Staff

  • @jwccea5894
    @jwccea5894 7 лет назад +3

    great job gentleman! you mentioned how the lady sees the nice guy and then begins to tell him all her problems. how do you stop that from occuring and not be an ashole about it?! and is it to late to change the situation since I placed myself in the friendzone, can it go from her telling me her problems to just being fun and having sex instead?! thanks!!

    • @stevedoetsch
      @stevedoetsch 6 лет назад +1

      It's never too late; change your behavior and she will be forced to change, it's as direct as that. You just need the courage to change and endure her initial rejection before she is forced to accepting the new behavior.

    • @gabrielguzman6018
      @gabrielguzman6018 5 лет назад

      @@stevedoetsch so if she tries to tell you her problems just say I'm busy right now ill call you back later?

  • @rhythmicbeast
    @rhythmicbeast Год назад +1

    GOAT

  • @cuchullain27
    @cuchullain27 7 лет назад

    bloody amusing how similar these two look.

  • @mattwkendall
    @mattwkendall 3 года назад

    Enjoy the videos. Suggestion: background music is distracting

  • @alexandermanzanares3879
    @alexandermanzanares3879 6 лет назад

    Bring Zan to Los Angeles

  • @mattwkendall
    @mattwkendall 4 года назад

    Thank you for the great interview. I find, however, the background piano to be obnoxious

  • @thivan233
    @thivan233 4 года назад +2

    No music in the background please! 🤣 ocd here

    • @thivan233
      @thivan233 3 года назад

      @ANDMA unnecessary

    • @thivan233
      @thivan233 3 года назад

      @ANDMA for someone like me it is incredibly distracting, to the point that not on this ocassion but when it gets too much i just yeet ☺️

    • @thivan233
      @thivan233 3 года назад +1

      ​@ANDMA sure, still annoying... in movies I agree to have soundtracks that fits the mood or intensity of the situation, I see it as unnecessary in a podcast like this, Imo 💁🏻‍♂️ guess you would not relate to me since obviously doesn't bother you...then I refer to the other comment I wrote, yes to you is not annoying.

  • @randymartin9876
    @randymartin9876 3 года назад

    Better with no music

  • @MrSamisos
    @MrSamisos 7 лет назад

    Zan the Man!

  • @ryanmcginnis2936
    @ryanmcginnis2936 6 лет назад

    Is it logical to be think and/or act logical among women?

  • @bryant1996123
    @bryant1996123 5 лет назад +1

    When was Zan Perrion's great renunciation in his life?

  • @sghiorrini
    @sghiorrini 7 лет назад +1

    Zan sound like he has read the books Carlos Castaneda.

  • @thivan233
    @thivan233 4 года назад

    Hey im nicaraguan and still a mess with girls 🤣 help brothers

  • @Hubbard61
    @Hubbard61 2 года назад

    Please, DO NOT ADD the jazz music background. It hinders, does not help. I love your content, but the music is unneeded and distracting.

  • @hamzakhiar3636
    @hamzakhiar3636 3 года назад

    It kinda feels bad to look up your phone while he's talking look how he was at 49:53 that shift in energy looking at your phone and just went ouff whatever

  • @TheNtedgg
    @TheNtedgg 7 лет назад

    i know this is off topic this women I'm but talking to says I'm logic how do i not be logical and how do i talk in disciptive language.. what am I not getting?

    • @Niekoue
      @Niekoue 4 года назад

      Just make sure that what you say doesn't make any sense at all

  • @danielghazar7906
    @danielghazar7906 4 года назад

    Zan in Persian means woman

  • @brandongallegos6949
    @brandongallegos6949 5 лет назад

    I wonder if zan ever creeped out a American girl after complimenting their energy and their aura and then telling a American women in the seduction process that they would make a great lover for me wouldn't you? Then tell her that would lead up to a lawsuit if the girl didn't like you

  • @marcelloval6332
    @marcelloval6332 7 лет назад

    bill evans?

  • @pikachuuprising637
    @pikachuuprising637 6 лет назад

    Only the confident what?

  • @mtgHose
    @mtgHose 6 лет назад +1

    these dudes are identical twins wtf

  • @MisterInsomaniac
    @MisterInsomaniac 7 лет назад

    Is this guy wearing a suit that glows in the dark? XD

  • @phasemitski3918
    @phasemitski3918 3 года назад

    0:11

  • @MatthewMaranell
    @MatthewMaranell 7 лет назад +11

    They love you as long as they don't know how you feel about them..... being a mangina doesn't make them suddenly feel wet for you. get real guys. women want what they can't have.

  • @TheFearlessMan
    @TheFearlessMan  5 лет назад

    Learn about these principles and how you can become a powerfully masculine, grounded and attractive man - www.thefearlessmanlive.com

  • @kamelkadri1825
    @kamelkadri1825 7 лет назад

    Dont even have a girl to celebrate

  • @TheFearlessMan
    @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад

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