What’s the quickest way to improve your dating? Simple you need to discover a few things (1) what is it that you are doing that’s pushing women away (2) how do you self reject (3) how do women experience you? You’ll be surprised how such simple things make such a difference once you see that it’s not about attraction women, but rather what’s preventing your natural ability to attract the feminine? That’s exactly what we teach at Fearless live events - click below to learn more New York City - www.thefearlessman.com/live-nyc-yt Bucharest Romania - www.thefearlessman.com/live-buch-yt
Thank you sooooo much, this helped me realise something. I think this is why women adored me when i was in my young teens. I loved them from a very non-needy place. Then i got into the pickup-community and was taught to show disinterest, dont compliment her, neg, dont give interest. and this messed me up because in essense it is so wrong for me. So actually hiding my love for women is the MORE needy thing. Im hiding it because I think they will "like me" more because of it. WOW, what an insight!
Only you need (in my opinion): 1) Be true with your self, express what you feel, how are you feeling...expand your curiosity. 2) Be present, live the moment, notice how is the energy of her, how is the energy around both and how is you energy. 3) Don`t expect something in change. 4) Be
This is without a doubt the most in-depth, detailed, and interesting discussion of relationship dynamics/dating/self growth that I have ever seen. This is next level thinking and knowledge being dropped
here's a few tips for get a date take your time go out by yourself - dont just stay in all the time thinking about this (I learned about these and more from Shawthing Dating Advice site )
I think I saw this a month ago and thought "nice". Now I watched it again and it's about the nicest, profound, feel-good thing I ever saw. But it's been a long, hard journey to reach this growth phase, and I can't thank myself enough for putting in the work. And I can't thank my many mentors for putting some steel in my spine. I'm in love with the image of becoming someone who just glides through life enjoying himself and in doing so gives women (and men for that matter) a great time. This is enlightenment and sharing your truth and love. Oh, I know this will hurt like a bitch from time to time, but it will never hurt my truth.
I thought it was interesting how Zan said that the pickup community is slowly evolving from manipulative head games to honest, character building type of work. Ive noticed with Rsd teachings n part of the pua community are starting to focus on 'being the best version of yourself' and being honest with your intentions. Some of the stuff Zan says on his book are slowly being realized by other pua coaches which makes me think they are learning from Zan or they by just being in the game, certain lessons are learned. Zan is overlooked because he isnt the stereotypical type ladies man who is very loud and very animated, tho he does have a good vibe to him. It strikes me that Zan is a very good-hearted man because tho he sucked with women when he was in his 20's he didnt resort to manipulative head games like other early pua coaches. This was an awesome n interesting interview, hope to see more collaborations in the future.
+ratmdeathwan Glad you enjoyed! Good insights, and yes, it does seem like PUA companies are evolving to some degree. However, clling yourself a "pickup artist" is by itself a problem to us. "Picking up" implies taking - all really good dating and connecting should actually be about giving. Also, I'm not a fan of all the state-pumping PUA companies tend to encourage: "Why PUA (Pickup Artist) Training Techniques Aren't Working for You" ruclips.net/video/jBO9OfRjmgk/видео.html
nobody wants to be played. the energy of the PUA was manipulative and insulting to women. the old MANtra is not working; I'm glad men are catching up to your message!
The main lesson here is to be your own man. There are infinite ways to accomplish this. By doing so, women of all calibers will take notice and you will have choices. Stay on your purpose and build yourself into what you are on the planet to be.
I actually thought you guys should work together, before you said you'll work together in the end of the video. The reason I thought that is simply cause you knew exactly what to ask Zan to bring out the best information and most value for people thanks guys :)
I made a video about this and what Zan is trying to articulate. Showing up means acknowledging both the potential bad outcome and the fact that you feel some type of way . Yes it could go bad but at least I can try
Great Video Zan! Keep up the Amazing work! Being an older guy I am not into getting into women's pants in the traditional way. I enjoy hanging out with women, enjoying their company, connecting with them on a level which most men never will. So thank you for everything! :)
+notaras1985 glad you enjoyed! As long as you're still stepping into tension with them and being sexual/not suppressing your true desires, that's great. Notaras1985 is angry & bitter. Hopefully that changes, but don't take his comments personally.
+notaras1985 Although I like what these guys are saying, I think there is a huge element of truth to your statements. I used to do daygame and had success, had rejections. I then had a conversation with a friend that is a nice but dry, generally humourless fella that did very well and never made an approach-looks (and leading)
Zan, I really want to get good at this, man! I want to get to the place you're at. I'm 19. How long does it take for it become so natural and effortless like it is for you? I love your unorthodox approach to seduction. It's so natural, and goes against the teachings of the majority of the pickup community. It really resonates with me.
To much background noise going on. But excellent guidance, thanks. Ever sense being a kid, I can see a woman’s soul by looking into her eyes, and they feel that! It’s a very intense thing between us, dangerous and delicious all at the same time. I’ve had eye sex on more than one occasion as our eyes locked up and friends had to nudge us back to reality. She will generally smile the next time I see her. She knows......
Non-neediness explains why women seem to be interested in you when having a satisfactional relationship and there isn't any intention to pick up anyone. Controversial and annoying also that when you are not after something then you are offered it. In this context it makes sense.
+brian marquez It's about learning to relax and feel good in your body. Let me know if these videos help: "What REALLY Makes You Attractive to Women - Misunderstood Subtleties" ruclips.net/video/29GYxymEE6c/видео.html "Social Confidence Building Exercises" ruclips.net/video/NI7RlN07-to/видео.html
I watched your interview and I do agree what you are saying and your style. I have different problem. I attract beautiful woman (inside and outside), from ages 25 and up and specially when got to know me, I even have relationship with them, so far so good so what's my problem I hear you ask. I am 68 years old. Yes, I don't look my age at all. When I ask people to guess my age most will say 48, 50 max. The problem is, that I feel soon or later to tell them my age to be fair with them and that stops any further serious relationship. I do take in consideration her parents, her girlfriends and friends, even her kids so she will not look ridicules dating guy who is older then her parents. All my life I had this problem. I do love younger woman and "some" like me, but what should I do? Should I don't mention my age at all or keep them under the impression being 48 for example. I also act even younger (almost like a teenager). Love to smile, joke, mischief, even dress with out thinking as younger man (tennis shoes, t shirt etc.) Beside that I am not special, I am slightly over weight and 171cm/5.7" - 100kg. What would you suggest? Just shut up or ? TIA
Maybe in our minds it's speaking the truth when we go up to a woman and say "I like the way you look" but I don't think she will be thinking that. Unless you're very good looking a woman at best will probably just be polite and hope you end it there!
+Trace Rollins That's a very toxic and completely untrue mindset. I have physically disabled students who do well with women, short students, students that certainly aren't pretty boys, etc that all do well with women. It's about who you're being as a man-women aren't nearly as visual as us and are attracted to your presence WAY before your looks. ruclips.net/video/29GYxymEE6c/видео.html
Let's see, women don't need men for anything... So who is going to wash windows on the Empire State building? Or how many women want to be garbage collectors, or how many women actually want to spend their time in theoretical physics developing the new technology? Women don't need men because they can do any job they want when it is inside a climate controlled office with men to call when something doesn't work right. Kind of a side-bar to the discussion, but women are not as independent as they believe themselves to be.
What’s the quickest way to improve your dating? Simple you need to discover a few things (1) what is it that you are doing that’s pushing women away (2) how do you self reject (3) how do women experience you? You’ll be surprised how such simple things make such a difference once you see that it’s not about attraction women, but rather what’s preventing your natural ability to attract the feminine? That’s exactly what we teach at Fearless live events - click below to learn more
New York City - www.thefearlessman.com/live-nyc-yt
Bucharest Romania - www.thefearlessman.com/live-buch-yt
Thank you sooooo much, this helped me realise something. I think this is why women adored me when i was in my young teens. I loved them from a very non-needy place. Then i got into the pickup-community and was taught to show disinterest, dont compliment her, neg, dont give interest. and this messed me up because in essense it is so wrong for me. So actually hiding my love for women is the MORE needy thing. Im hiding it because I think they will "like me" more because of it. WOW, what an insight!
Filip, Live Free I think you’re still lost and confused 🤷🏾♂️ honestly
Ive had the same epiphany! The screaming babies definitely get fed first. Beauty needs a witness.
ha same experience in my young teens, I also seemed to become needy. Going to go back on improving this portion of my life.
Only you need (in my opinion):
1) Be true with your self, express what you feel, how are you feeling...expand your curiosity.
2) Be present, live the moment, notice how is the energy of her, how is the energy around both and how is you energy.
3) Don`t expect something in change.
4) Be
I wish I could ask you a question about your comment
@@italianmiltyfriedman6264 So ask your question. You don't need permission. Worst case is he doesn't reply.
This is without a doubt the most in-depth, detailed, and interesting discussion of relationship dynamics/dating/self growth that I have ever seen. This is next level thinking and knowledge being dropped
Johnny Depp & Jason Statham :-D
exactly lol
lol.
Hahaha! Exactly what I was thinking.
here's a few tips for get a date
take your time
go out by yourself - dont just stay in all the time thinking about this
(I learned about these and more from Shawthing Dating Advice site )
EK NO 😆
I think I saw this a month ago and thought "nice". Now I watched it again and it's about the nicest, profound, feel-good thing I ever saw. But it's been a long, hard journey to reach this growth phase, and I can't thank myself enough for putting in the work. And I can't thank my many mentors for putting some steel in my spine. I'm in love with the image of becoming someone who just glides through life enjoying himself and in doing so gives women (and men for that matter) a great time. This is enlightenment and sharing your truth and love. Oh, I know this will hurt like a bitch from time to time, but it will never hurt my truth.
Johnn Lawyer I went and did. Amazing book, and I'll probably read it until it falls apart.
Honestly... these are really good interpersonal communication skills in general. Just be engaging. Awesome interview.
I thought it was interesting how Zan said that the pickup community is slowly evolving from manipulative head games to honest, character building type of work. Ive noticed with Rsd teachings n part of the pua community are starting to focus on 'being the best version of yourself' and being honest with your intentions. Some of the stuff Zan says on his book are slowly being realized by other pua coaches which makes me think they are learning from Zan or they by just being in the game, certain lessons are learned. Zan is overlooked because he isnt the stereotypical type ladies man who is very loud and very animated, tho he does have a good vibe to him. It strikes me that Zan is a very good-hearted man because tho he sucked with women when he was in his 20's he didnt resort to manipulative head games like other early pua coaches. This was an awesome n interesting interview, hope to see more collaborations in the future.
+ratmdeathwan Glad you enjoyed! Good insights, and yes, it does seem like PUA companies are evolving to some degree. However, clling yourself a "pickup artist" is by itself a problem to us. "Picking up" implies taking - all really good dating and connecting should actually be about giving. Also, I'm not a fan of all the state-pumping PUA companies tend to encourage: "Why PUA (Pickup Artist) Training Techniques Aren't Working for You"
ruclips.net/video/jBO9OfRjmgk/видео.html
I think Mark Manson should certainly also be mentioned. Models has probably been a solid pillar of this change, one of several.
nobody wants to be played. the energy of the PUA was manipulative and insulting to women. the old MANtra is not working; I'm glad men are catching up to your message!
Thanks Cheryl!
wow you changed my life with the video's I watched! Am getting rid of the pua mindset for a while now. This will help me do it! am buying his book!
The main lesson here is to be your own man. There are infinite ways to accomplish this. By doing so, women of all calibers will take notice and you will have choices. Stay on your purpose and build yourself into what you are on the planet to be.
This is a great video in a different and refreshing perspective. I got more out of this video than 100 other how to talk to women in a bar videos.
this is a very powerful interview!
+Jake Megabyte Thanks! Glad you got a lot out of it
One of the best Zan interviews. Thanks man.
This is art. So inspiring. Thank you! 🙏🏼
I actually thought you guys should work together, before you said you'll work together in the end of the video.
The reason I thought that is simply cause you knew exactly what to ask Zan to bring out the best information and most value for people
thanks guys :)
Great compliment-thanks!
Really interesting and useful video. Thanks Brian and Zan :) Love the energy too. Feel inspired after watching it.
I made a video about this and what Zan is trying to articulate. Showing up means acknowledging both the potential bad outcome and the fact that you feel some type of way . Yes it could go bad but at least I can try
Great video. It was a pleasure seeing you in person at the 21 Convention Zan!
Zan is pure genius and a good man.
Great Video Zan! Keep up the Amazing work! Being an older guy I am not into getting into women's pants in the traditional way. I enjoy hanging out with women, enjoying their company, connecting with them on a level which most men never will. So thank you for everything! :)
+Damion Harper Glad you enjoyed!
+Damion Harper that sounds gay. so you are their "girl friend"?
+notaras1985 glad you enjoyed! As long as you're still stepping into tension with them and being sexual/not suppressing your true desires, that's great. Notaras1985 is angry & bitter. Hopefully that changes, but don't take his comments personally.
+notaras1985 Although I like what these guys are saying, I think there is a huge element of truth to your statements. I used to do daygame and had success, had rejections. I then had a conversation with a friend that is a nice but dry, generally humourless fella that did very well and never made an approach-looks (and leading)
i love it there is so many things to take here but i am in the practice mode
Zan, I really want to get good at this, man! I want to get to the place you're at. I'm 19. How long does it take for it become so natural and effortless like it is for you?
I love your unorthodox approach to seduction. It's so natural, and goes against the teachings of the majority of the pickup community. It really resonates with me.
He works to be a balanced human, men/woman benefit from it. Same with assuring you are present with someone.
Great stuff!!
Ars Amoratta sounds like "The art of love"
Read your book Zan. Beautiful
This is quality
WOOHOO finally been waiting for this vid for months!! Guess im not sleeping today haha
+ratmdeathwan Hope you enjoyed-let me know what you thought?
Love the green cross right between them in the background lol we all know what that means 😎
It means that is a drug store lol - Andrew, TFM Team
Doing a movie on the G…Champion 🚀
Zan celebrates women.
yes he does
The background music is distracting.
Brian is similar to Zan, but yet so different!
To much background noise going on. But excellent guidance, thanks. Ever sense being a kid, I can see a woman’s soul by looking into her eyes, and they feel that! It’s a very intense thing between us, dangerous and delicious all at the same time. I’ve had eye sex on more than one occasion as our eyes locked up and friends had to nudge us back to reality. She will generally smile the next time I see her. She knows......
Great interview.
9:46 EXACTLY, ZAN.
Sharing = union. Namaste
Non-neediness explains why women seem to be interested in you when having a satisfactional relationship and there isn't any intention to pick up anyone. Controversial and annoying also that when you are not after something then you are offered it. In this context it makes sense.
52:00 gold
brian can u give some tips on how to be caln,cool,collective like you are in this video ?
+brian marquez It's about learning to relax and feel good in your body. Let me know if these videos help:
"What REALLY Makes You Attractive to Women - Misunderstood Subtleties"
ruclips.net/video/29GYxymEE6c/видео.html
"Social Confidence Building Exercises"
ruclips.net/video/NI7RlN07-to/видео.html
got rejected by a girl like 5x over the course of a year eventually she came around
35:00 38:00 52:00
hey I just random found this guy RUclips his great
They have the same voice
yea we live in a fucked up world
Zan you have an awesome voice. you could sing in a rock band. do you do that already?
+kaalmansur Zan isn't in a band, but he does play the guitar!
The Fearless Man he should use that voice
Excellent!
How can I be that guy? Still figuring out...
Definitely an art form!
Johnny Depp
+ashvoj haha very funny
I watched your interview and I do agree what you are saying and your style. I have different problem. I attract beautiful woman (inside and outside), from ages 25 and up and specially when got to know me, I even have relationship with them, so far so good so what's my problem I hear you ask. I am 68 years old. Yes, I don't look my age at all. When I ask people to guess my age most will say 48, 50 max. The problem is, that I feel soon or later to tell them my age to be fair with them and that stops any further serious relationship. I do take in consideration her parents, her girlfriends and friends, even her kids so she will not look ridicules dating guy who is older then her parents. All my life I had this problem. I do love younger woman and "some" like me, but what should I do? Should I don't mention my age at all or keep them under the impression being 48 for example. I also act even younger (almost like a teenager). Love to smile, joke, mischief, even dress with out thinking as younger man (tennis shoes, t shirt etc.) Beside that I am not special, I am slightly over weight and 171cm/5.7" - 100kg. What would you suggest? Just shut up or ?
TIA
looking 20 years younger than you are and attracting young women is not a 'problem'.
Personal bookmark 22:34
@20:00
great
@21:30
What book was Zan talking about; the autobiography of the guy with an Italian-sounding name?
Believe this was it: www.poetryintranslation.com/PITBR/Latin/ArtofLoveBkI.php
This isn't the one I was talking about, but I was looking for this too. Thanks for finding it!
@Divergent Integral Thank you!!
Personal bookmark 44:35
Does Brian and/or Zan drink and/or smoke consistently, just very curious.
I don't drink very often. Zan likes to have a drink more often
Maybe in our minds it's speaking the truth when we go up to a woman and say "I like the way you look" but I don't think she will be thinking that. Unless you're very good looking a woman at best will probably just be polite and hope you end it there!
+Trace Rollins That's a very toxic and completely untrue mindset. I have physically disabled students who do well with women, short students, students that certainly aren't pretty boys, etc that all do well with women. It's about who you're being as a man-women aren't nearly as visual as us and are attracted to your presence WAY before your looks. ruclips.net/video/29GYxymEE6c/видео.html
Johnny deep
Haha. A lot of people think so.
Put legend on the video please
Legend?
Sorry, i'm mys english is intermediate,
I need subtitles,
Unfortunately human-transcribed captions are not in the budget right now, but there should be auto-captions available.
The static is fucking my ear
Make some videos of you talking to women. I'm tired of these talking heads (directing this request to Zan).
Let's see, women don't need men for anything... So who is going to wash windows on the Empire State building? Or how many women want to be garbage collectors, or how many women actually want to spend their time in theoretical physics developing the new technology? Women don't need men because they can do any job they want when it is inside a climate controlled office with men to call when something doesn't work right. Kind of a side-bar to the discussion, but women are not as independent as they believe themselves to be.
Good luck approaching girls without a concise game plan 😂
Have you seen yourself in the mirror ?
#Bullshit
What do you see as bullshit?
YEAH security sucks but it pays the rent and puts food in your belly .quit your good job and go live your dream, good luck with that.
I lived on couches for quite a while, and I'd do it all over again
Amazingly insightful content. The true nature of things has been uncovered.