I am an introvert, and live in a retirement community. I don’t make friends easily but my dog does. I have met and chatted with more people when Dolly the schnauzer takes me for a walk.
Those of us who are alone are tired of being terrorized by being told that we’re gonna die 30% sooner. You can’t go to the store and buy good people or buy family. More sensitivity to this would be appreciated throughout all forms of media and technology. It just doesn’t help us to tell us how bad it is for us to be alone. We’re sad enough about it and frustrated enough and so uncomfortable as it is
As with any relationship, you need to have boundaries. It's taken many years to learn this but it has helped me when making friends. Understanding the difference between acquaintances and close friends.
I know. My friend thst were like sisters. We have always supported and helped each other. It all.startrd with COVID. She works a hospital in the housekeeping. She ia person is on the go all the time when she wasn't working Then COVID hit couldn't do that her attitude started changing. I was 62 she was 60..Seems see couldn't handle.not going going. Then she changed to another of the hospital. Then she really started changing. Like I wasn't good enough anymore, bragged on her money. Which im disabled due to arthritis in my hands. Knowing I would love to be working. Thrower in everytime she bought stuff. She has problem aging. I dont. Shr started working with younger ladies. I think they talked her into all this. Plus she has age issue she wanted to around them cause they were young. It hurt me so bad. After smartphones she always texted me. If I called left a message she never actually call just text. I think that was our biggest problem. The classmate I was there on Sunday we had a great time. Then Monday morning she texted me hateful things . Called me names.. this was overnight less than 12 hrs. Nevrr say what I did. Posted on fb how terrible person I was. That hurt bad too.
@@sweetirishgirl8685 I am so sorry! People can be so cruel and unkind. After a person is hurt so badly so many times, they just want to hibernate at home where no one can hurt them...keep your chin up. It sure sounds like the problem was all her, not you.
True friends don't ask for money when you get an inheritance,,,,,,one of my close friends did.....just not calling her for a while.About to end this friendship!
I have been feeling better than I did when I was in high school, through sixty and me support group! Margaret you are a gem. Getting support for myself is so important as an older woman. I hope I didn’t sound cliche.
Margaret, if you've lost a couple of close friends for ANY reason, it's extremely difficult, especially for an introvert like myself. I have no real social life anymore and have pretty much given up. I used to have dates, girlfriends to hang out with and a decent social life. Now, at 71, a few have passed on, one very close friend betrayed me; I have no desire to try anymore. Reading, a part-time job and my little grandson keep me plenty busy. Is it the life I want? No. I'm just tired of trying. Good topic; stay well and safe. Rosemarie 💖
Hi, Lost a couple of good friends during pandemic! Same problem, looking for friendship. Have not given up, but using time to do meditation and really examine my life and all my good and bad choices.
Rosemary, I was just thinking about how I have lost 8 friends in the last 5 years. Death, moving away, alcohol issues and just negative people that I had to move on from. Now I found book clubs, swimming pool ( I'm learning to swim at 65) community gardens and a part time job. I have to stay busy. I think I am happy. Life is change. Take care.
I’ve had the same experience. The fear, hesitancy and loss of freedom in being around people now. It is better with seeing people’s faces and smiles. So nice. I find it difficult meeting new friends. The friends I have are all far out of town and don’t see each other. I’ll keep looking. Thank you for talking about this important topic and for some examples of where to find possible friends.
I have good friends om fb. None live close. We are thinking when my husband retires he going to be 67. That we would go to our senior citizens center, they serve meals and do lots of things and make new friends
When I retired, I was afraid to lose my work network of friends. But, once I started taking classes (in person and live virtual meetings) I began making new friends in those classes! The work “friends” rarely stay in touch.
Great video Margaret! After knee replacement surgery I decided to join an Aquafit class and have made a couple of new friends. I am also getting ready to go on a 6 month road trip in my camper van and have joined a FaceBook group for senior, solo women travelling in vans. I am very excited about this opportunity for adventure and new friendships. Take care everyone! 💛🌷
Irene, That is so cool! Good luck on your amazing adventure. Just read a great article about women who are doing the same thing. Maybe you could join the Patreon friendship lounge and keep us posted on your journey. I know I would love to hear how it goes! Have a blast!
@@KaLu224, thanks so much, I am so excited! I actually do belong to the Friendship Lounge, but as yet haven’t managed to join in. I will have to come on for a chat soon. An Instagram page and RUclips channel to document my adventure are a possibility. 🌷💛
You look beautiful in green!!! We all need to remember in order to find a friend you need to reach out and be a friend first. And yes, Covid made us all introverts and we begin to enjoy staying in our own spaces. Now we need to put ourselves out there and join groups where we can meet new people. Get out of our rut and seek adventure!
I’m 66, have been single for 20 years. There were a few very rough years but I’m a naturally happy, positive person and came out the other side in pretty good shape. I’ve been off anti-depressants for over a year (I had gotten shingles -,that and the resulting nerve damage pain threw my depression into a depression I sometimes forgot to take my meds;after 3 weeks I was accidentally, completely off them and realized I felt so much better. I attribute it to the EDM music I started listening to 4 years ago and the dancing to it - around my apartment - that I do. I miss having a confidante-type friend in my life but I’m just letting nature take its course. I’m an introvert who enjoys people. Retired, my jobs were always in the hospitality/restaurant/entertainment business and that was enough social for me, my off time was for me alone. I’d never felt lonely in my life and was surprised to find I was experiencing it about 8 months into the pandemic. My daughter has always kind of berated me for not having more people in my life. She doesn’t get it that I’m happy this way and it’s not her business anyway. She doesn’t understand that things change as we get older, it’s not like grade school where a toy is all you need to have in common to be best friends. Interesting to read comments about cliques and how nothing really changes even in a retirement community. Also, I am low-income and don’t have any type of the disposable funds needed for trips, vacations, spas and the like. I haven’t even had a car for 25 years as I live in a small city with great public transportation. I really enjoy this channel but of course I don’t know anyone who watches it. I believe as I grow in my inner life I will draw folks to me (and vice-versa) who I have deeper things in common with. In the meantime the Internet is a good pipeline. And my two cats are wonderful companions. Thank you Margaret!
I have always loved bike riding and have never stopped. I joined a bike riding group and made a great friend that way. We bike, hike, walk, go to the beach, go out for restaurant patio meals, cook for each other and do a lot of laughing. It’s just great!
My mother volunteered at a hospital for years. She made many friends that way! I agree with Kathy, dog owners have a natural entree to chat. Masks have really been challenging in preventing us from seeing smiles. I lived briefly in a single family home in a retirement community - most of my neighbors were married couples. It is never easy to be a single woman amidst couples! Not saying people aren’t nice, but you are the odd chair at the dinner party.
That’s very true! That if you’re living a retirement community and most of your neighbors are married couples it’s not easy to meet people. That describes some of my situation and married couples well let’s just say they don’t invite me.
I think other cultures, like Italy, for example, are warm cultures where people feel safe showing affection, and people are closer. I agree that making friends is hard. Even at Church, people are insanely busy. In the US we live to work, everything is so expensive- whereas in other countries they work to live. Very different.
I belong to a long standing coffee group of dear friends. We zoomed during the worst of Covid because we needed each other's support. What a pleasure to now be meeting in person again. I also started a book club which is a great way to grow friendships.
@@joanneleonard7913 we all went to the same bagel shop and got along so well so quickly we made Saturday mornings a cherished ritual and expanded into other activities.
I've made some good friends at the local senior center, I also joined a widow & widowers group where they host dances & happy hours. You're right, you have to leave the house to make new friends....
I live in England and we have the WI with local groups that meet together once a month. It is the easiest way to make friends. Several members swim together. We play skittles, quiz, have lunches and outings.
I need to add that I’m perfectly fine with a cup of coffee and a good book. I don’t have any problem being by myself and don’t have any problem being w others ! I’m Not interested in dating… just saying!!!
I worked in a "retirement community"/assisted living facility for over five years. Believe me, living alone is SO much better than a place like that. Many of the residents had the high school nasty girls mentality, and they had their little cliques, and were nasty to each other and to us. I wouldn't recommend it!!
My father insisted on living in his home until his death. In hindsight, he was probably correct. We tried to force him into assisted living, but he refused.
@@AnnMitt I'm glad he was able to stay in his home. I'm sure it probably wasn't easy for you, but I bet he was very content and happy. I hope I can do the same......
I have been warned about the cliques in these facilities especially if there's lots of women. If I ever need assisted living I want to be in one with lots of men. Mean girls mentality is very tiresome. Besides just being around other old people losing all your friends through death or dementia. I like the traditional Mediterranean style of being "looked after by family" being the wise elder instead of the segregation of people into specific age groups. Just because I'm the same age and have the same cultural contextual references doesn't mean that we have EVERYTHING in common.
Ooooh that green! Love it. On the subject of friendship. I have found lasting connections difficult to create off and on throughout the years. I am a member of a great bookclub with a wonderful group of ladies, but rarely socialize with any of them outside of that setting. I should but I am not a good planner, and tend to be tired at the end of the work week and just want to relax and indulge my alone time. This tendency bites me when I crave friend time. Most of the time I'm content, but sometimes I feel great sadness and frustration with myself. I've done meetups, but in the long run never made any lasting friends from them, and quit going. I am married and I also found the ladies meetup groups to have lots of singles, so it didn't fit. It's still a conundrum I fret over. I do need help, but feel stuck.
Thanks for the ideas. I especially like the idea of joining oorganizations related to my interests. I've found my interests have become more focused in the last year, Plus the opportunities to join in with other people has returned. Time to start fresh.
I am still in a rehab facility, recovering from a hip replacement. Compared to some other people, this has been an extremely difficult journey for me. I am going home in a few days. One of the things I realized in this process is how important my friends are to me and I have people in my life who genuinely care about me and my well-being. When this realization hit me, my cup runneth over, my heart is so full, I literally started crying. Wonderful tears. I am a sociable, independent loner, if that makes sense. I am very grateful to have friends in my life that I can be completely authentic, honest, and vulnerable with. Thank you for this great topic Margaret.
Hello Susan, sending you positive healing vibes! I can relate to your comment. Eight weeks ago I too had bilateral hip replacement surgery. Friends and caring family members brought me to tears. Especially while feeling physically vulnerable. Wishing you a great recovery Susan!!💐💐💐
My mom hated her senior housing, very cliquey group of seniors, some outright mean. People don't change with age. She wished she stayed longer in her home where young and old neighbors were. Sure she'd need help being alone with chores, but socially she could watch the neighbors kids, have her patio to entertain and take walks. Sometimes being around seniors is nice, but she finds it depressing, they just die she said, if they leave, they usually have died or have dementia. I think I'll try to stay in my home....
I live in income based Senior Housing. There are all types of folks from around the country. Various levels of education, etc. Truth is, I am not happy here at all. Residents take it for granted when another resident dies. Everyone talks about their medical problems all the time. I have my share, but try to keep them to myself. I have tried to reach out and build something social here. If I had the ability to move I certainly would. I need to be around folks of different ages.
I really liked the meet up suggestion quite a bit. We are thinking about moving to a new community in about a year and that will make it so much easier for us to get connected with people in the community. Thanks so much for doing these videos
I moved to Colorado from Massachusetts 5 years ago. Friends I've made have been at work but they don't last. I do have my daughters ages 16 to 27, my mom and my favorite cousin living here. But i miss my crazy girlfriends back home.
Hi Margaret, I am so fortunate I still have my School Friends in my 63 years. Now back living in Scotland we met up and keep in touch through WhatsApp. We have went on Holidays. And been on a Cruise together. I have No Husband as I’m Divorced. But have my 3 Grown up Children and 5 Grandchildren. I am so Blessed. I am a Cancer Survivor and had 2 heart attacks. Now have a few other health issue’s. But I’m focused on looking outward. I can be Chatty and make friends easy . Life is Short. If you are Lonely, then do something about it. I also got a Dog, my, I know So Many people in my Area now.😃 Also, having a really great Fur Companion. I’m in pain some days, but work within my Limits. My Faith in God and Prayer also helps me. So, Good Luck, Everyone . Other People are looking for Friends too. Go for it❤️👍
Very timely topic. I have a hard time making friends in part because I am an introvert. Go figure that most of the things I like to do are usually done without a whole lot of interaction. Yoga, sewing, etc. Besides this, I find a big barrier to be that I don't have any children or grandchildren to talk about nonstop as many do. I also get tired of hearing what I call the "aches, pains, and belly aches" of every second of some people's existence. Enough already! 😢 I plan on finding a book club, and look at doing sewing retreats, yoga holidays and so forth. Also, I want a politics freezone please.
My friends were always made in my work place. I am indeed, lonely. However, it is just too hard to go through the motions, at least for me. I am 70 years old. Feel I have made a good effort. This is absolutely great advise for folks who haven't given up.
What many need at over sixty is relationships that have as many of these qualities :- sincerity, trust, inspiration, encouragement, humour and relaxation.
Living rural is hard for me. My husband died a year ago after a long illness and he was my world and best friend for 49 yrs. I am out going once I am out but have a hard time leaving my home to go anywhere. I have become a hermit and this summer it is too hot in my part of the US to go out walking in town. No place to safely walk on our farm. It is hard to let go and now live my life. Thank you for this topic. Hugs Cindy
Book clubs are an interesting way to interrelate, usually there is personal life catch-ups that happen before the focus point: discussing the book. Some bk clubs follow a 'theme' i.e. reading only Women authors, or Historic time period books, or Authors from one country/culture/discipline/era.
This is what happened to me… My husband died unexpectedly in 2015 and it took me 3 years to close our business, have an estate sale, sell our rural home & acreage, and move into a city apartment. I read about a nearby farmer’s market selling fresh produce, eggs, flowers, etc. & decided to check it out the first Saturday after I moved in. It was a beautiful June day in 2018, and the booths were set up near the riverbank, just above a riverside trail for biking, walking, & running. There was a park like area nearby with lots of big shade trees and about 40 people of all ages and sizes taking a free yoga class under the trees. A coffee vendor was set up in a cute booth built around a stationary bicycle. As he pedaled, coffee beans were freshly ground to make delicious hot coffee drinks by the cup. Scattered Adirondack chairs overlooked the river trail. I had brought a book and had just settled into one of the chairs. Two ladies about my age walked up to two empty chairs about 10 feet away. One walked over to me and asked if I knew if anyone was sitting in those two chairs. I said, “Not that I know of, but I’m new in town and don’t know anyone and I sure wish you’d drag them over here to sit and visit with me.” She positively beamed, went & told her friend, and they did just that! We have been close friends since that day and have shared laughter, good times & bad for the past 5 years. Not only that, but they introduced me to their other friends who also welcomed me into their circle. About 2 months later, I was at the same farmers market watching the yoga class when another lady about my age walked up to me, said she was new in town, and asked if I knew what all was going on there. This was the beginning of another friendship that has endured all this time. All of us have helped each other with rides to doctors, hospitals, airports, and brought food and groceries in times of illness. We’ve celebrated birthdays together, had Bon voyage parties, shopped together, had early morning coffee together in our pj’s, and more. I am so thankful for all of these women, who feel like sisters to me. Based on my experience, go do something you enjoy and hopefully there will be others there hoping to make friends just like you. Good luck!
Margaret your video content rang so true in so many ways. I am an introvert. I'm looking at retiring in the next few years. My best friends are at work and h ave few interests outside the home. Have joined meet up but not found many groups near me. Just knowing I'm not alone in this situation a help.
I have found a great church with a great senior group. We meet for several meetings. Coffee time for ladies. Bible meetings luncheons after church and group luncheons 42 usually and volunteering to serve at dinners and now kayaking at 73!! Life is good. (Not sure how to do comments and even where it may pop up so sorry if in wrong area) need to add computer class
You said, in another video, that you need a good health and a little money to make friends. I think you’re so, so, so right. I would like to add we need to plan for it to happen (to plan where to go, to find interesting meetings to go).
I agree about needing a little money because people like to go out to eat, travel, go to concerts. I'd be very limited with what I can do but I still wouldn't mind a friend to walk with, talk to, go out for coffee, etc. Plus people sometimes meet on cruises and organized travel activities but you have to have money for that. Not to say that having money makes friends just that it makes it easier to get out there with activities.
"Hi, Margaret! I just want to 'thank you' for your channel. I enjoy your emails, too! While I am not on Facebook, I can watch and respond here. I DO feel that finding, making and keeping friends at this age is difficult unless I/ you are regularly doing something where I/ you see people on a regular basis. And remember, these people are just like us as they are going through the exact same thing."
Im 63, retired and a widow . I moved from my house of 30+ yrs to a new city . I live now super close to my children and my twin grandbabies. I can’t b happier!! But I left behind my best 2 friends and know no one down here . Of course we stay in touch but is not the same. Yes is very hard and almost impossible to start new friendships. Not to mention I think I repel people. Im not kidding . I’ve been told that all my life abs for the life of me I don’t understand. But on a way I’m not mad at it 😂 Anyway I love you Margaret !! I’ll look into websites like the one you talked abt!!!!
It's very difficult to make friends at my age (66.) I know if I volunteered I'd probably meet more people but haven't yet decided upon that yet. I don't have a car nor have I driven in years so that doesn't help. It just seems to me that people around my area already have plenty of friends and just don't need to add another one. I'm also an introvert and tend to do things by myself. My 3 adult kids are my friends but I don't push myself on them to do things with me. Luckily I enjoy reading, walking and watching movies at home. I also want to add that you have to be careful because there are those that want to take advantage of someone. They want someone to do things for them, borrow money, etc. It's sad because I would never dream of doing that-- that's not my idea of friendship.
I know exactly what you mean. People already have established friendships. I was in a bad car accident many years ago and it left me with a driving phobia. My driving is extremely limited. I’m 64, have never married but have pretty much been in relationships all these years. Recently ended a 10 yr relationship and I just can’t imagine starting another one at this point.
PTL Margaret…you look beautiful in your green, especially your necklace 💯. I thank you for sharing; yes, I am one that kind of keeps to myself. I am not as forward as I used to be, yet, I have brought new people into my life via the internet. When in the outside areas, I still engage; I think it’s a skill set. It’s almost like riding a bike. All your suggestions are valid; it does take initiative 💯🌹!
Plenty of opportunities at church, bible studies, volunteering at local non-profit organizations, or find local service groups. When you meet someone new invite them over for coffee or go out to lunch. It takes effort but it's worth it to have community.
Hi Margaret.. I notice myself too close up on my FaceTime camera with my grands.. You can back up about a foot from your camera… lol More glamorous for us…
I just wanted to comment how exquisite your rainbow necklace looks with your mint green top, and how you coordinate your eye makeup to it. Usually churches don't facilitate social events for seniors but I've found two churches that currently do. Probably a common interest is the best way to meet people. For instance, there's a large dog park close by, and there's a pavilion with seating where I can chat with people. I'm going to try MEETUP to see what's available locally. Volunteer work is a way to meet quality people. Ironically, I live in a small senior apartment community, but there's no way to meet people except on the way to my car. So, I'm going to reach out to my neighbors and invite them to my place.
Margaret I moved 3 years ago in a senior mobile park. My friends that I have known for years don’t live far. But this one neighbor lady I met the first day she gave me bird seed and then she would post on Facebook if you are in your 60s you shouldn’t wear yoga pants. Well I do . We not to friendly now.
I would also describe myself as an introvert especially in high school and in my 20’s. As I got older I came out of my shell! After marriage, children and selling our home after retirement, we are now living in a retirement community. I find myself so much more outgoing and make friends more easily. I have a group of friends that plays cards, does lunch, etc. I’ve met my best friend in the world here. It never would’ve happened if we hadn’t moved to a community like thais. That said, women here can still be catty and cliquish and not open to letting new friends in. I’m friendly to them, but avoid them. Meeting new friends has made such a positive difference in my life. I forgot to add that we have a dog which is how I met people when we first moved here.
I experienced the same thing, that Barbara mentioned, about moving into a retirement bldg. People tend to stay to themselves. Hi and bye, and that's about it. It's really ashamed.
Hello Ladies, I have been dreaming about retiring in Portugal. What's holding me back is going there alone and not having any friends. Especially if there was a medical emergency. This is currently on my mind, as I am recovering from a bilateral hip replacement surgery and can not imagine going through this process totally independently. I am so grateful for the support of friends and caring family members. Does anyone have any feedback? Greatly appreciated. Thank you the wonderful content Margaret! I enjoy your videos! Wishing everyone a wonderful rest of your day 💐💐💐
The Portuguese are a very friendly, warm and full of hospitality. They are certainly family oriented. Maybe you can live there for half the year and the other half where you live now. If there's any family member or friend that would love to live for a while in Portugal you both can have this adventure, that doesn't have to be permanent. You might decide after a couple of months the dream was very different from the reality. I've heard that there's a lot of ex-pats living over there and that there are communities of them. You could investigate and start to learn the language (which is good for the brain... apparently after Queen Victoria had a stroke she tried to learn to speak Hindi. She apparently never learned to speak it fluently but her brain healed back to the way it was before the stroke.) If you're going to learn Portuguese Duolingo only has Brazilian Portuguese. I have heard that Lisbon Portugese sounds Russian which especially confuses the Russians who visited. You can see the many regional differences in Portugal and even between Portugal and Brazil on RUclips. There's a RUclips channel with a Portuguese teacher from Opporto in the northern Portugal conversing with a Brazilian Portuguese teacher. Lots of Portuguese speak English because it's taught in school also. Whatever you do, do not speak Spanish in Portugal! Portuguese, French, Romanian, Italian as well as Spanish have Latin roots but you wouldn't speak French in Spain or Italian in Paris. You can speak English or use Google Translate and make sure it's European Portuguese & not Brazilian Portuguese because many European Portuguese can't understand Brazilian Portuguese. Personally I have witnessed many angry outbursts between American visitors in England and Scotland with the locals when the Americans asked them to repeat what they said, in English! I was amused because I know that British English and American English is very different, just like Brazilian Portuguese is different from European Portuguese. Even though many Portuguese love to watch Brazilian soap operas they would ask me what was said after they had caught me up on all the relationships in their favorite soaps. I can also speak both European & Brazilian Portuguese so I am frequently asked to interpret as soon as a Brazilian & European know this! So if you do decide to pursue this dream, either temporarily or permanently you now have some things to think about, learn and research. Having a medical emergency anywhere from home can be very scary and overwhelming. It happened to a friend of mine while she was visiting Scotland and she texted me because she knew that I was visiting London. She had a very difficult time understanding the British English mixed in with a Scottish brogue. I was able to take a train up to the hospital and act as interpreter. Not saying this to scare you but just to say if this is one of your very valid concerns then problem solving what you could do in such a scenario including support systems might be helpful. Good luck and wishing you good health and fitness!
I had 2 of my best friends. 1 we called each sister's for 38 yrs . Other a classmate know since 6th grade im.64. I got hurt so bad with these 2.ladies thought all was good friends. That's friends for along time. They both treated me bad when I really needed them, my health. I got to where I dont trust people, honestly . Its like I dont want new friends but I'm lonely. Hubby is great. He works im disabled im home by my all day. Please give me some ideas to help me. Church is in a different town 30 min drive. Im so depressed
I am so sorry to hear about your lost friendships. Perhaps you would like to join the Patreon Friendship Lounge that Margaret mentioned. A chance to chat with some really nice women online. You can watch & listen to replay if you are not available to join. I find it's lovely to just listen.
Bless your heart. I'm also 64. It's hard when we've been betrayed. Been there. But we can and do get past it. Making friends online is nice. I also plan on checking out the 60 n Me's Patreon group.
You are beyond blessed to still have your husband. I would give up a hundred friends to have him back..he was irreplaceable. Count that as a great blessing.
Im having trouble trusting anyone. I got Facebook friends and classmates. They dont live close. Love my friends online but I too need friends I can do. Us and thetr husband.
I’d like to make friends with Russian native women to practice my Russian language. In return, I speak English and Spanish and I am willing to help them to practice these two languages.
Go set up an event, sweep, wipe, bring some music... bingo night... rummage sale.. book exchange... travel talks...garden swap. . Hire a watercolor teacher to teach 4 Saturdays....
I didn’t think I had any special rights as an over sixty person. 🧍♀️ I didn’t think I had anything to say. I felt not very smart. But, on topic my coworker is a 69 year old man. We both work closely together cleaning bathrooms 🚽. That is how I have made friends through cleaning 🧹 bathrooms 🚽 together!
I am an introvert, and live in a retirement community. I don’t make friends easily but my dog does. I have met and chatted with more people when Dolly the schnauzer takes me for a walk.
I have a Golden Doodle called Bonnie.
She is a fab Companion to me.
When Walking Bonnie, I have met so many New People with Dog’s
True be,,Kathy! Those beauties make friends for us as
suredly kids did back when. Halalu!!!
Those of us who are alone are tired of being terrorized by being told that we’re gonna die 30% sooner. You can’t go to the store and buy good people or buy family. More sensitivity to this would be appreciated throughout all forms of media and technology. It just doesn’t help us to tell us how bad it is for us to be alone. We’re sad enough about it and frustrated enough and so uncomfortable as it is
So true!
You are so right. We are not choosing to be alone. It's hard to make friends in a new place city at 70😔
As with any relationship, you need to have boundaries. It's taken many years to learn this but it has helped me when making friends. Understanding the difference between acquaintances and close friends.
I know. My friend thst were like sisters. We have always supported and helped each other. It all.startrd with COVID. She works a hospital in the housekeeping. She ia person is on the go all the time when she wasn't working Then COVID hit couldn't do that her attitude started changing. I was 62 she was 60..Seems see couldn't handle.not going going. Then she changed to another of the hospital. Then she really started changing. Like I wasn't good enough anymore, bragged on her money. Which im disabled due to arthritis in my hands. Knowing I would love to be working. Thrower in everytime she bought stuff. She has problem aging. I dont. Shr started working with younger ladies. I think they talked her into all this. Plus she has age issue she wanted to around them cause they were young. It hurt me so bad. After smartphones she always texted me. If I called left a message she never actually call just text. I think that was our biggest problem. The classmate I was there on Sunday we had a great time. Then Monday morning she texted me hateful things . Called me names.. this was overnight less than 12 hrs. Nevrr say what I did. Posted on fb how terrible person I was. That hurt bad too.
@@sweetirishgirl8685 I am so sorry! People can be so cruel and unkind. After a person is hurt so badly so many times, they just want to hibernate at home where no one can hurt them...keep your chin up. It sure sounds like the problem was all her, not you.
True friends don't ask for money when you get an inheritance,,,,,,one of my close friends did.....just not calling her for a while.About to end this friendship!
I have been feeling better than I did when I was in high school, through sixty and me support group! Margaret you are a gem. Getting support for myself is so important as an older woman. I hope I didn’t sound cliche.
Margaret, if you've lost a couple of close friends for ANY reason, it's extremely difficult, especially for an introvert like myself. I have no real social life anymore and have pretty much given up. I used to have dates, girlfriends to hang out with and a decent social life. Now, at 71, a few have passed on, one very close friend betrayed me; I have no desire to try anymore. Reading, a part-time job and my little grandson keep me plenty busy. Is it the life I want? No. I'm just tired of trying. Good topic; stay well and safe. Rosemarie 💖
Hi, Lost a couple of good friends during pandemic! Same problem, looking for friendship. Have not given up, but using time to do meditation and really examine my life and all my good and bad choices.
I'm tired of trying too Rosey. I'm in a town of about 7,000 people, so people have had the same friends for years. They don't want any new ones.
My husband who is 85 lost 5 friends in 1 month. He was so sad for awhile.
Rosemary, I was just thinking about how I have lost 8 friends in the last 5 years. Death, moving away, alcohol issues and just negative people that I had to move on from. Now I found book clubs, swimming pool ( I'm learning to swim at 65) community gardens and a part time job. I have to stay busy. I think I am happy. Life is change. Take care.
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I’ve had the same experience. The fear, hesitancy and loss of freedom in being around people now. It is better with seeing people’s faces and smiles. So nice. I find it difficult meeting new friends. The friends I have are all far out of town and don’t see each other. I’ll keep looking. Thank you for talking about this important topic and for some examples of where to find possible friends.
I have good friends om fb. None live close. We are thinking when my husband retires he going to be 67. That we would go to our senior citizens center, they serve meals and do lots of things and make new friends
When I retired, I was afraid to lose my work network of friends. But, once I started taking classes (in person and live virtual meetings) I began making new friends in those classes! The work “friends” rarely stay in touch.
Great video Margaret! After knee replacement surgery I decided to join an Aquafit class and have made a couple of new friends. I am also getting ready to go on a 6 month road trip in my camper van and have joined a FaceBook group for senior, solo women travelling in vans. I am very excited about this opportunity for adventure and new friendships. Take care everyone! 💛🌷
Irene, That is so cool! Good luck on your amazing adventure. Just read a great article about women who are doing the same thing. Maybe you could join the Patreon friendship lounge and keep us posted on your journey. I know I would love to hear how it goes! Have a blast!
@@KaLu224, thanks so much, I am so excited! I actually do belong to the Friendship Lounge, but as yet haven’t managed to join in. I will have to come on for a chat soon. An Instagram page and RUclips channel to document my adventure are a possibility. 🌷💛
You look beautiful in green!!! We all need to remember in order to find a friend you need to reach out and be a friend first. And yes, Covid made us all introverts and we begin to enjoy staying in our own spaces. Now we need to put ourselves out there and join groups where we can meet new people. Get out of our rut and seek adventure!
I’m 66, have been single for 20 years. There were a few very rough years but I’m a naturally happy, positive person and came out the other side in pretty good shape. I’ve been off anti-depressants for over a year (I had gotten shingles -,that and the resulting nerve damage pain threw my depression into a depression I sometimes forgot to take my meds;after 3 weeks I was accidentally, completely off them and realized I felt so much better. I attribute it to the EDM music I started listening to 4 years ago and the dancing to it - around my apartment - that I do.
I miss having a confidante-type friend in my life but I’m just letting nature take its course. I’m an introvert who enjoys people. Retired, my jobs were always in the hospitality/restaurant/entertainment business and that was enough social for me, my off time was for me alone. I’d never felt lonely in my life and was surprised to find I was experiencing it about 8 months into the pandemic.
My daughter has always kind of berated me for not having more people in my life. She doesn’t get it that I’m happy this way and it’s not her business anyway. She doesn’t understand that things change as we get older, it’s not like grade school where a toy is all you need to have in common to be best friends.
Interesting to read comments about cliques and how nothing really changes even in a retirement community. Also, I am low-income and don’t have any type of the disposable funds needed for trips, vacations, spas and the like. I haven’t even had a car for 25 years as I live in a small city with great public transportation.
I really enjoy this channel but of course I don’t know anyone who watches it. I believe as I grow in my inner life I will draw folks to me (and vice-versa) who I have deeper things in common with. In the meantime the Internet is a good pipeline. And my two cats are wonderful companions.
Thank you Margaret!
I have always loved bike riding and have never stopped. I joined a bike riding group and made a great friend that way. We bike, hike, walk, go to the beach, go out for restaurant patio meals, cook for each other and do a lot of laughing. It’s just great!
My mother volunteered at a hospital for years. She made many friends that way! I agree with Kathy, dog owners have a natural entree to chat. Masks have really been challenging in preventing us from seeing smiles. I lived briefly in a single family home in a retirement community - most of my neighbors were married couples. It is never easy to be a single woman amidst couples! Not saying people aren’t nice, but you are the odd chair at the dinner party.
Ditch masks
That’s very true! That if you’re living a retirement community and most of your neighbors are married couples it’s not easy to meet people. That describes some of my situation and married couples well let’s just say they don’t invite me.
I think other cultures, like Italy, for example, are warm cultures where people feel safe showing affection, and people are closer. I agree that making friends is hard. Even at Church, people are insanely busy. In the US we live to work, everything is so expensive- whereas in other countries they work to live. Very different.
I belong to a long standing coffee group of dear friends. We zoomed during the worst of Covid because we needed each other's support. What a pleasure to now be meeting in person again. I also started a book club which is a great way to grow friendships.
I am wondering how your coffee group got started? :)
@@joanneleonard7913 we all went to the same bagel shop and got along so well so quickly we made Saturday mornings a cherished ritual and expanded into other activities.
I've made some good friends at the local senior center, I also joined a widow & widowers group where they host dances & happy hours. You're right, you have to leave the house to make new friends....
I live in England and we have the WI with local groups that meet together once a month. It is the easiest way to make friends. Several members swim together. We play skittles, quiz, have lunches and outings.
I need to add that I’m perfectly fine with a cup of coffee and a good book. I don’t have any problem being by myself and don’t have any problem being w others ! I’m
Not interested in dating… just saying!!!
I worked in a "retirement community"/assisted living facility for over five years. Believe me, living alone is SO much better than a place like that. Many of the residents had the high school nasty girls mentality, and they had their little cliques, and were nasty to each other and to us. I wouldn't recommend it!!
Agree
My father insisted on living in his home until his death. In hindsight, he was probably correct. We tried to force him into assisted living, but he refused.
@@AnnMitt I'm glad he was able to stay in his home. I'm sure it probably wasn't easy for you, but I bet he was very content and happy. I hope I can do the same......
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I have been warned about the cliques in these facilities especially if there's lots of women.
If I ever need assisted living I want to be in one with lots of men. Mean girls mentality is very tiresome. Besides just being around other old people losing all your friends through death or dementia. I like the traditional Mediterranean style of being "looked after by family" being the wise elder instead of the segregation of people into specific age groups.
Just because I'm the same age and have the same cultural contextual references doesn't mean that we have EVERYTHING in common.
Ooooh that green! Love it. On the subject of friendship. I have found lasting connections difficult to create off and on throughout the years. I am a member of a great bookclub with a wonderful group of ladies, but rarely socialize with any of them outside of that setting. I should but I am not a good planner, and tend to be tired at the end of the work week and just want to relax and indulge my alone time. This tendency bites me when I crave friend time. Most of the time I'm content, but sometimes I feel great sadness and frustration with myself. I've done meetups, but in the long run never made any lasting friends from them, and quit going. I am married and I also found the ladies meetup groups to have lots of singles, so it didn't fit. It's still a conundrum I fret over. I do need help, but feel stuck.
Thanks for the ideas. I especially like the idea of joining oorganizations related to my interests. I've found my interests have become more focused in the last year, Plus the opportunities to join in with other people has returned. Time to start fresh.
I am still in a rehab facility, recovering from a hip replacement. Compared to some other people, this has been an extremely difficult journey for me. I am going home in a few days. One of the things I realized in this process is how important my friends are to me and I have people in my life who genuinely care about me and my well-being. When this realization hit me, my cup runneth over, my heart is so full, I literally started crying. Wonderful tears. I am a sociable, independent loner, if that makes sense. I am very grateful to have friends in my life that I can be completely authentic, honest, and vulnerable with. Thank you for this great topic Margaret.
Sending virtual hugs Susan - hope you heal soon ❤️
Hello Susan, sending you positive healing vibes!
I can relate to your comment. Eight weeks ago I too had bilateral hip replacement surgery.
Friends and caring family members brought me to tears. Especially while feeling physically vulnerable.
Wishing you a great recovery Susan!!💐💐💐
@@sandrababich9593 Thank you. Wishing you all the best in your recovery.
My mom hated her senior housing, very cliquey group of seniors, some outright mean. People don't change with age. She wished she stayed longer in her home where young and old neighbors were. Sure she'd need help being alone with chores, but socially she could watch the neighbors kids, have her patio to entertain and take walks. Sometimes being around seniors is nice, but she finds it depressing, they just die she said, if they leave, they usually have died or have dementia. I think I'll try to stay in my home....
My mom had a similar experience. Seniors in her complex were mean and closed minded. She was lonely.
I think I’ll stay in my home as long as I can too. I meet young and old at the gym I go to.
I live in income based Senior Housing. There are all types of folks from around the country. Various levels of education, etc. Truth is, I am not happy here at all. Residents take it for granted when another resident dies. Everyone talks about their medical problems all the time. I have my share, but try to keep them to myself. I have tried to reach out and build something social here. If I had the ability to move I certainly would. I need to be around folks of different ages.
I really liked the meet up suggestion quite a bit. We are thinking about moving to a new community in about a year and that will make it so much easier for us to get connected with people in the community. Thanks so much for doing these videos
I moved to Colorado from Massachusetts 5 years ago. Friends I've made have been at work but they don't last. I do have my daughters ages 16 to 27, my mom and my favorite cousin living here. But i miss my crazy girlfriends back home.
Hi Margaret, I am so fortunate I still have my School Friends in my 63 years.
Now back living in Scotland we met up and keep in touch through WhatsApp.
We have went on Holidays.
And been on a Cruise together.
I have No Husband as I’m Divorced.
But have my 3 Grown up Children and 5 Grandchildren.
I am so Blessed.
I am a Cancer Survivor and had 2 heart attacks.
Now have a few other health issue’s.
But I’m focused on looking outward.
I can be Chatty and make friends easy .
Life is Short. If you are Lonely, then do something about it.
I also got a Dog, my, I know So Many people in my Area now.😃
Also, having a really great Fur Companion.
I’m in pain some days, but work within my Limits.
My Faith in God and Prayer also helps me.
So, Good Luck, Everyone .
Other People are looking for Friends too. Go for it❤️👍
Looking forward to this video discussion
Very timely topic. I have a hard time making friends in part because I am an introvert. Go figure that most of the things I like to do are usually done without a whole lot of interaction. Yoga, sewing, etc. Besides this, I find a big barrier to be that I don't have any children or grandchildren to talk about nonstop as many do. I also get tired of hearing what I call the "aches, pains, and belly aches" of every second of some people's existence. Enough already! 😢 I plan on finding a book club, and look at doing sewing retreats, yoga holidays and so forth. Also, I want a politics freezone please.
My friends were always made in my work place. I am indeed, lonely. However, it is just too hard to go through the motions, at least for me. I am 70 years old. Feel I have made a good effort. This is absolutely great advise for folks who haven't given up.
What many need at over sixty is relationships that have as many of these qualities :- sincerity, trust, inspiration, encouragement, humour and relaxation.
Living rural is hard for me. My husband died a year ago after a long illness and he was my world and best friend for 49 yrs.
I am out going once I am out but have a hard time leaving my home to go anywhere. I have become a hermit and this summer it is too hot in my part of the US to go out walking in town. No place to safely walk on our farm.
It is hard to let go and now live my life.
Thank you for this topic.
Hugs
Cindy
Hugs to you too Cindy ❤️
Have read just the first few comments , but agree!
HELLO! I read all these comets and I am glad I am not alone.
I like to be an introvert. That is what I am. I moved into a condo 2 months before lockdown.
Keen on this one!!!
Book clubs are an interesting way to interrelate, usually there is personal life catch-ups that happen before the focus point: discussing the book. Some bk clubs follow a 'theme' i.e. reading only Women authors, or Historic time period books, or Authors from one country/culture/discipline/era.
This is what happened to me… My husband died unexpectedly in 2015 and it took me 3 years to close our business, have an estate sale, sell our rural home & acreage, and move into a city apartment. I read about a nearby farmer’s market selling fresh produce, eggs, flowers, etc. & decided to check it out the first Saturday after I moved in. It was a beautiful June day in 2018, and the booths were set up near the riverbank, just above a riverside trail for biking, walking, & running. There was a park like area nearby with lots of big shade trees and about 40 people of all ages and sizes taking a free yoga class under the trees. A coffee vendor was set up in a cute booth built around a stationary bicycle. As he pedaled, coffee beans were freshly ground to make delicious hot coffee drinks by the cup.
Scattered Adirondack chairs overlooked the river trail. I had brought a book and had just settled into one of the chairs. Two ladies about my age walked up to two empty chairs about 10 feet away. One walked over to me and asked if I knew if anyone was sitting in those two chairs. I said, “Not that I know of, but I’m new in town and don’t know anyone and I sure wish you’d drag them over here to sit and visit with me.” She positively beamed, went & told her friend, and they did just that! We have been close friends since that day and have shared laughter, good times & bad for the past 5 years. Not only that, but they introduced me to their other friends who also welcomed me into their circle. About 2 months later, I was at the same farmers market watching the yoga class when another lady about my age walked up to me, said she was new in town, and asked if I knew what all was going on there. This was the beginning of another friendship that has endured all this time. All of us have helped each other with rides to doctors, hospitals, airports, and brought food and groceries in times of illness. We’ve celebrated birthdays together, had Bon voyage parties, shopped together, had early morning coffee together in our pj’s, and more. I am so thankful for all of these women, who feel like sisters to me.
Based on my experience, go do something you enjoy and hopefully there will be others there hoping to make friends just like you. Good luck!
You are truly blessed! So happy for you!
Margaret your video content rang so true in so many ways. I am an introvert. I'm looking at retiring in the next few years. My best friends are at work and h ave few interests outside the home. Have joined meet up but not found many groups near me. Just knowing I'm not alone in this situation a help.
I have found a great church with a great senior group. We meet for several meetings. Coffee time for ladies. Bible meetings luncheons after church and group luncheons 42 usually and volunteering to serve at dinners and now kayaking at 73!! Life is good. (Not sure how to do comments and even where it may pop up so sorry if in wrong area) need to add computer class
You said, in another video, that you need a good health and a little money to make friends.
I think you’re so, so, so right.
I would like to add we need to plan for it to happen (to plan where to go, to find interesting meetings to go).
I agree with making plans for where to meet folks. Even so, chance meetings can be fun, too.
You can add me. Thank you .
I agree about needing a little money because people like to go out to eat, travel, go to concerts. I'd be very limited with what I can do but I still wouldn't mind a friend to walk with, talk to, go out for coffee, etc. Plus people sometimes meet on cruises and organized travel activities but you have to have money for that. Not to say that having money makes friends just that it makes it easier to get out there with activities.
I like making friends on the train.
"Hi, Margaret! I just want to 'thank you' for your channel. I enjoy your emails, too! While I am not on Facebook, I can watch and respond here. I DO feel that finding, making and keeping friends at this age is difficult unless I/ you are regularly doing something where I/ you see people on a regular basis. And remember, these people are just like us as they are going through the exact same thing."
Im 63, retired and a widow . I moved from my house of 30+ yrs to a new city . I live now super close to my children and my twin grandbabies. I can’t b happier!! But I left behind my best 2 friends and know no one down here . Of course we stay in touch but is not the same. Yes is very hard and almost impossible to start new friendships. Not to mention I think I repel people. Im not kidding . I’ve been told that all my life abs for the life of me I don’t understand. But on a way I’m not mad at it 😂 Anyway I love you Margaret !! I’ll look into websites like the one you talked abt!!!!
It's very difficult to make friends at my age (66.) I know if I volunteered I'd probably meet more people but haven't yet decided upon that yet. I don't have a car nor have I driven in years so that doesn't help. It just seems to me that people around my area already have plenty of friends and just don't need to add another one. I'm also an introvert and tend to do things by myself. My 3 adult kids are my friends but I don't push myself on them to do things with me. Luckily I enjoy reading, walking and watching movies at home. I also want to add that you have to be careful because there are those that want to take advantage of someone. They want someone to do things for them, borrow money, etc. It's sad because I would never dream of doing that-- that's not my idea of friendship.
I know exactly what you mean. People already have established friendships. I was in a bad car accident many years ago and it left me with a driving phobia. My driving is extremely limited. I’m 64, have never married but have pretty much been in relationships all these years. Recently ended a 10 yr relationship and I just can’t imagine starting another one at this point.
PTL Margaret…you look beautiful in your green, especially your necklace 💯. I thank you for sharing; yes, I am one that kind of keeps to myself. I am not as forward as I used to be, yet, I have brought new people into my life via the internet. When in the outside areas, I still engage; I think it’s a skill set. It’s almost like riding a bike. All your suggestions are valid; it does take initiative 💯🌹!
Plenty of opportunities at church, bible studies, volunteering at local non-profit organizations, or find local service groups. When you meet someone new invite them over for coffee or go out to lunch. It takes effort but it's worth it to have community.
Hi Margaret.. I notice myself too close up on my FaceTime camera with my grands.. You can back up about a foot from your camera… lol More glamorous for us…
I just wanted to comment how exquisite your rainbow necklace looks with your mint green top, and how you coordinate your eye makeup to it.
Usually churches don't facilitate social events for seniors but I've found two churches that currently do. Probably a common interest is the best way to meet people. For instance, there's a large dog park close by, and there's a pavilion with seating where I can chat with people. I'm going to try MEETUP to see what's available locally. Volunteer work is a way to meet quality people. Ironically, I live in a small senior apartment community, but there's no way to meet people except on the way to my car. So, I'm going to reach out to my neighbors and invite them to my place.
I moved to a new city during the pandemic so this is a very timely topic for me.
Margaret I moved 3 years ago in a senior mobile park. My friends that I have known for years don’t live far. But this one neighbor lady I met the first day she gave me bird seed and then she would post on Facebook if you are in your 60s you shouldn’t wear yoga pants. Well I do . We not to friendly now.
Thanks for sharing beautiful video with great experience. Love you all keep smiling. 😊😍
Also Margaret what time are your live chats on Patreon these days? I enjoyed the membership during lockdown.
I've made friends at church, gym and my service club.
I would also describe myself as an introvert especially in high school and in my 20’s. As I got older I came out of my shell! After marriage, children and selling our home after retirement, we are now living in a retirement community. I find myself so much more outgoing and make friends more easily. I have a group of friends that plays cards, does lunch, etc. I’ve met my best friend in the world here. It never would’ve happened if we hadn’t moved to a community like thais. That said, women here can still be catty and cliquish and not open to letting new friends in. I’m friendly to them, but avoid them. Meeting new friends has made such a positive difference in my life. I forgot to add that we have a dog which is how I met people when we first moved here.
I experienced the same thing, that Barbara mentioned, about moving into a retirement bldg. People tend to stay to themselves. Hi and bye, and that's about it. It's really ashamed.
Hello Ladies,
I have been dreaming about retiring in Portugal. What's holding me back is going there alone and not having any friends.
Especially if there was a medical emergency. This is currently on my mind, as I am recovering from a bilateral hip replacement surgery and can not imagine going through this process totally independently. I am so grateful for the support of friends and caring family members.
Does anyone have any feedback?
Greatly appreciated.
Thank you the wonderful content Margaret! I enjoy your videos!
Wishing everyone a wonderful rest of your day 💐💐💐
The Portuguese are a very friendly, warm and full of hospitality. They are certainly family oriented. Maybe you can live there for half the year and the other half where you live now. If there's any family member or friend that would love to live for a while in Portugal you both can have this adventure, that doesn't have to be permanent. You might decide after a couple of months the dream was very different from the reality.
I've heard that there's a lot of ex-pats living over there and that there are communities of them. You could investigate and start to learn the language (which is good for the brain... apparently after Queen Victoria had a stroke she tried to learn to speak Hindi. She apparently never learned to speak it fluently but her brain healed back to the way it was before the stroke.)
If you're going to learn Portuguese Duolingo only has Brazilian Portuguese. I have heard that Lisbon Portugese sounds Russian which especially confuses the Russians who visited.
You can see the many regional differences in Portugal and even between Portugal and Brazil on RUclips. There's a RUclips channel with a Portuguese teacher from Opporto in the northern Portugal conversing with a Brazilian Portuguese teacher.
Lots of Portuguese speak English because it's taught in school also. Whatever you do, do not speak Spanish in Portugal!
Portuguese, French, Romanian, Italian as well as Spanish have Latin roots but you wouldn't speak French in Spain or Italian in Paris.
You can speak English or use Google Translate and make sure it's European Portuguese & not Brazilian Portuguese because many European Portuguese can't understand Brazilian Portuguese.
Personally I have witnessed many angry outbursts between American visitors in England and Scotland with the locals when the Americans asked them to repeat what they said, in English! I was amused because I know that British English and American English is very different, just like Brazilian Portuguese is different from European Portuguese.
Even though many Portuguese love to watch Brazilian soap operas they would ask me what was said after they had caught me up on all the relationships in their favorite soaps.
I can also speak both European & Brazilian Portuguese so I am frequently asked to interpret as soon as a Brazilian & European know this!
So if you do decide to pursue this dream, either temporarily or permanently you now have some things to think about, learn and research.
Having a medical emergency anywhere from home can be very scary and overwhelming. It happened to a friend of mine while she was visiting Scotland and she texted me because she knew that I was visiting London. She had a very difficult time understanding the British English mixed in with a Scottish brogue. I was able to take a train up to the hospital and act as interpreter.
Not saying this to scare you but just to say if this is one of your very valid concerns then problem solving what you could do in such a scenario including support systems might be helpful.
Good luck and wishing you good health and fitness!
I had 2 of my best friends. 1 we called each sister's for 38 yrs . Other a classmate know since 6th grade im.64. I got hurt so bad with these 2.ladies thought all was good friends. That's friends for along time. They both treated me bad when I really needed them, my health. I got to where I dont trust people, honestly . Its like I dont want new friends but I'm lonely. Hubby is great. He works im disabled im home by my all day. Please give me some ideas to help me. Church is in a different town 30 min drive. Im so depressed
I am so sorry to hear about your lost friendships. Perhaps you would like to join the Patreon Friendship Lounge that Margaret mentioned. A chance to chat with some really nice women online. You can watch & listen to replay if you are not available to join. I find it's lovely to just listen.
Bless your heart. I'm also 64. It's hard when we've been betrayed. Been there. But we can and do get past it. Making friends online is nice. I also plan on checking out the 60 n Me's Patreon group.
You are beyond blessed to still have your husband. I would give up a hundred friends to have him back..he was irreplaceable. Count that as a great blessing.
Thank you.
Im having trouble trusting anyone. I got Facebook friends and classmates. They dont live close. Love my friends online but I too need friends I can do. Us and thetr husband.
Now it seems as my friends are only available at senior center in town.
It's hard
A trap is to try and rush things...
53 hrs here, can I join on patreon? I moved countries from NewZealand to Australia 16 years ago and lost my close friends and family connections
Yes you are welcome
I’d like to make friends with Russian native women to practice my Russian language. In return, I speak English and Spanish and I am willing to help them to practice these two languages.
I thought you mentioned a book by Barbara Kline. Can you share the title?
Go set up an event, sweep, wipe, bring some music... bingo night... rummage sale.. book exchange... travel talks...garden swap. . Hire a watercolor teacher to teach 4 Saturdays....
Love that color on you margret
Where can I find finds near me who like learning guitar
The local Womens Institute is a way of meeting women
Hi I would like to find a friend
I didn’t think I had any special rights as an over sixty person. 🧍♀️ I didn’t think I had anything to say. I felt not very smart. But, on topic my coworker is a 69 year old man. We both work closely together cleaning bathrooms 🚽. That is how I have made friends through cleaning 🧹 bathrooms 🚽 together!