ExJW Pioneer: My Story of Being Married Under Coercion
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- Опубликовано: 15 ноя 2021
- Laura is a 25 year old ExJw, (ex)wife of an elder, and pioneer who woke up during the lockdown portion of the pandemic. Please join us in listening to her tell her story.
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I love seeing people escape the toxic JW religion. Isn't it interesting how much happier and more well adjusted to life that we are after we get out of the cult? Both of you ladies are absolutely gorgeous. Intelligent with wonderful personalities too.
I swear my j dub family would melt like the wicked witch when she was hit by water if I told them this was a satanic religion and I only follow Jesus the best my imperfect self can do, I don’t believe this religion is the truth by all the researching and hearing them speak against the bible, they don’t say it but if you know the bible you can pick up in the lies really easy, a j w thinks they are it, but not according to Jesus
@@vusimngomezulu2500 go out to where? What do you want mean?, I don’t know what comment you are referring to, sorry but your comment sounds lost
@@RitaMalikfour Rita, he’s a troll. Ignore him.
Being an Elders Wife is the only thing that female Witnesses can aspire too !
And it's not fun
@@shallowlove9507 there’s nothing fun in this Evil controlling child abusing Cult!
It’s really sad. Any woman who feels this is necessary for survival has so much healing to do.
Being part of the Elite group! They even have their secret dinners and gatherings!🤦🏽♀️
She can still go up a couple rungs.....CO's wife... Bethel Elder's wife... or even GB's wife!!!! The sky is the limit.
What a kind, beautiful, intelligent woman! I love how she woke up early and was brave to leave, please Wendi, do an update on her I’m the future.
I can totally relate, I liked so many boys in highschool. I even dated one guy who went to a private Catholic school for boys! And I was baptized at 15 and emediatly regretted it a year later at 16. So I was totally a double lifter as teenager. Thank you for another excellent interview! Life outside the BOrg is so much better and I am so much happier because I didn't get married to a "brother" but a great worldly man who is not religious. 😄❤️
Everything she said is SO true about JW. I left in November 2019 after 29 years! Then Covid hit. I got out just in time!!
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Wow..what made you say you have had enough……it’s good to be free….
@@gailbozeman9626 There’s so much! It started with researching the blood issue, and finding John Cedars!😅 I bing watched him for 3 weeks and told my unbelieving husband I wasn’t going back to meetings. Also The ARC case 29 and the experience my daughter had with this organization, secrete elders book and so much more woke me up REALLY Fast.
@@deborahamstead5506 and your husband must be thanking his stars!!! Finally! Congrats .
Hi Wendi! I just found your channel! This was so great to see Laura got away! I am a fourth generation, born in. My kids were the fifth and last! I finally left after 42 years! I’ve been out for 9 years now and my kids got me out! It feels so great!!! Unfortunately, when I stopped going to the meetings, I found out what “conditional” love was. My mother stopped talking to me because I wouldn’t kick my kids out and go back to meetings. I told her it would never happen! She died last year and the last thing she had told me in a parking lot was that I was going to die with my kids!😱 I told her that I was ok with that, because I would be dead!!! There truly is no love in the JW’s. My best friend never even called me once I stopped going to meetings! Oh but, her husband was the COBE🤔It’s a long story but glad to be out! Also glad I don’t have a big family that kept me in! Keep up the good work!🌺🌺🌺
Watchtower has destroyed so many lives
I’m glad she touched on the craziness and jealousy of the women in the Kingdom Hall . They will harass , threaten , and stalk women they view as competition or that their husband once dated and in some cases currently still dating but we won’t talk about the rampant adultery in the organization
😂😂😂😂😂😂right!!!!! I once sat beside a friend of mine and an elder on his way to give his talk passed her a note, guess what it said? I love your shape! He was sitting behind us! It was unbelievable.
By the way he kept sending her his nudes afterwards and she was single! He was married!
@@BeautybyJemyjoan typical JW husband. Cheaters!
My mother-in-law got expelled twice for having an affair with a fat elder.
Elder’s wife- Stanford wives-
Elite club!
My daughters husband was appointed and immediately one of the oldest elders wife approached her and told her: “welcome, to the elders wives group, we will have a gathering for you!”🤦🏽♀️
Life is great when you are free from that organization
You don’t need this evil controlling Cult to be happy , all you need are. Family and real friends .
“I’m not the type of person who gets put down by somebody else’s shiny” 👏 👏👏
What a powerful story! Really good to see how things have improved for her and I’m glad that she is going to school now too. Awesome stuff and thanks for sharing!
You've been killing it lately! Honestly. I get so excited to see a new vid from you. I can't watch now, but will watch at work Tomorrow.
Thank you so much for this comment. To be honest, it really isn’t me it’s these stories. It’s our growing community. Im here to provide the outlet. ❤️
@@WendiRenay when I get the courage to reach out I may share my story.. Born in , parent disfellowshipped in turn I was treated as disfellowshipped and bad association many folks can relate but can anyone relate to going to a Jw run school !!!!!
Great story Laura! Yes the toxicity is real! Marriage is very difficult as a JW!
Thank you Wendy for another fantastic interview. Laura, you have experienced do much in such a brief time. Much success on you education. Meeting new people and your new life. My heart smiles to know you some up NOW and have a whole life ahead of you. I
41:00 I love that statement, “making major decisions while indoctrinated” it allows you self forgiveness to move on after waking.
You are also soooo pretty lady.
They were all Jealous of you!!
You are a strong Black woman.
Best wishes 🙂
What a great interview. Thanks for sharing this. I am a father of an 18 year old daughter. I think my wife and I brought both our children up well. Yes they were raised as JWs and now that I'm no longer a believer despite my background I hope that I have instilled into both of them the need of using a critical thinking mind. I couldn't help but feel for this young lady as she was telling her story, especially so when she spoke of her father. My daughter has expressed that she wants to keep pioneering and when she finds a like minded man she wants to go to bethel with him. That's her long term goal. I can see all of that crumbling as it takes a lot for something like that to take place. Anyway I will always be there for her regardless.
You’re the dad we all need. ❤️
Even though you are no longer a believer it's commendable that your daughter doesn't shun you. All jws should follow this example.
Great, great interview! OMG! Both of you are so articulate. YT just recommended this video and I watched it. I've been mentally out since 2004 and have watched dozens upon dozens of ex-JW channels and even back then, I said to myself. This is going to explode, the number of ex-JWs making videos. And, it has! It's so good, because there are SO MANY JWs who are PIMO's and these channels give them some place to go! Keep up the GREAT work!
Thank you so much! Welcome!:)
My first thought when I woke up is: OMG I Woke Up!
Sometimes we be too much woman for them . Anyone with the slightest confidence or self esteem is considered a threat. It's a sad shame. Keep growing Girl 💝
Roberta Johnson I saw that in the congregation when I was in there was a brother who was interested in me but I think I was a threat to his mother because I was to worldly for him. I was not raised a witness I think that was her issue with me I got baptized and about 9 months later I was disfellowshipped I never knew what happened to him.
How can a Bethelite become materialistic? By watching the governing body, with their expensive suits, watches and booze.
😂😂😂
Like when the pigs in Animal Farm didn't comply with the seven commandments.
God bless you Wendi....you are in our prayers! Thank you!!!!
Thanks for sharing your story . I really enjoy hearing different perspectives and experiences. I’m hoping my marriage will survive. She keeps telling me I’m under satan’s grasp and an apostate. This is having a really bad affect on my already fragile mindset.
My mom is starting to wake up. She is in the very beginning stages. She is losing sleep already. I want to help her but am not capable at this time. I’m stuck in my own personal purgatory. I think purgatory best describes it, even though we were never taught it. Somehow I still get up and go to work everyday. My wife is hurting. Mom’s hurting and will be hurting more soon. Trying hard to stay positive but awake at 4 AM, with all kinds of ruminating thoughts. RTS, just sucks. I know I sound crazy or don’t make sense sometimes. I just want this to be over.
My thanks and love goes out to the community here!
Hi Jay, Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings in your comment. You are right where you are supposed to be in your journey. I know that it looks real scary right now, because what you and your wife is going through *is scary.* I hope your marriage will survive too. When the love of your life says to you that *"you are under Satan's grasp and an apostate,"* that is some of the most hurtful things one can be told within the JW CULTure.
Please remember, that she ( and you ) has been indoctrinated to become beyond scared, 😨 even terrified of anything that sounds like, smells like or even appears to be any doubt regarding Jehovah using this organization. [ this is because of what is called, *fear induction* or *fear indoctrination* ]
This is a foundational doctrine of the WT. If one has doubts about whether or not Jehovah is using this organization, their experience is as though *the ground* ( one's foundation ) is *dropping right out from underneath them.*
Coming to terms that you may have in fact been in ( or are still in ) a high control authoritarian Society where you have been trained ( it has been inculcated in to you ) that anything outside of this Society is of the devil, your mindset is naturally going to be in a fragile state of mind. And yes, what you are going through sucks, but it's totally normal for where you are at in your journey. I like that you came up with the *purgatory analogy* regarding this place or stage that you are in. Because It's like you're *stuck in this holding place* where you are trying to make sense of things, which is causing *"cognitive dissonance."* Cognitive dissonance is when one has two opposite beliefs happening at the same time. *Which can actually feel like your equilibrium is off.* So as you are *trying to make sense of things,* it can be mentally overwhelming and you may feel somewhat dizzy.* this may be some of what's causing your repetitive, ruminating thinking. It wouldn't hurt to see a professional psychiatrist that can help you get through this time. I've done it and there is no need for any shame in doing so. When a diabetic takes medication we understand. If a diabetic can control their suger levels by changing up the way that they eat, then that's even better. Same thing when we are going through things that take a lot out of us mentally. We could maybe use some meeds temporarily, once there is no longer a need for them, which is a decision made between you and the doctor, it is super important that the doctor directs you in how you are to decrease the dosage untill you are totally off of them. *It's very dangerous to just stop taking them without lowering the dosage of the medication over an amount of time.* When my doctor has done it with me, it has been a four to six week process. Or we could possibly learn some practical techniques that we are just not aware of. You may be thinking things like, what is it that is or has happened to me?
God is an organize God and he's always had an organization & the things that I have been taught by JW{.}ORG, is that this is the Organization that they are claiming is the only channel by which Jehovah is using to communicate to his people. Yet the problem is, if Jehovah is the same yesterday today and forever, ( meaning he doesn't change ) why would his channel of communication keep changing their teachings?
Oh that's right, it's called, *"New Light."*
Now if you really *take some time to ponder on this concept of new light* for a bit with me, and then some more later *on your own,* it may actually be *kind of fun.*
For example, let's ponder on the, *as "the light gets brighter and brighter" concept.*
Let's say the governing body is looking at a can of Pepsi in the center of that big long table that they meet at once a week. If Jehovah is using a dimmer switch to slightly turn up the light with that can of Pepsi still in view by these mature anointed brothers, *will the can of Pepsi stop being a can of Pepsi as the light becomes even brighter?* Will that *can of Pepsi* become say, *a can of Orange Crush, Dr. Pepper, Sprite, or better yet, a cup of Starbucks coffee?* Or how about when one of the above beverages *( you pick the one and you can tell me later which one you picked, lol )* finally became *understandable.* After spending 6 months to 10 years with this *new understanding* that has been *labeled as a clarification, not a change of biblical doctrine,* you've been able to give talks about *the beverage,* you've been sharing *this beverage door-to-door in the ministry,* and *you're feeling pretty good about this beverage now* and then one day out of the blue, you are watching *one of the governing body members with pointer stick & a chart.* Someone in their infinite wisdom has decided to put *Fred Franz* on the chart *as an example, yet having him on there is not really the way it is.* But Okay......
You are watching and listening, trying to make sense of what you are being shown. Then he says, *"Now wasn't that easy?"* Did you get i? Yeah, neither did I.
Now the beverage ( that you chose earlier ) has now been turned into *the overlapping root beer float.*
🤔🙄😐😊
So again, everything has changed because of course the governing body are neither infallible nor Spirit directed. They are simply God's chosen imperfect men who sometimes get things wrong. Now IDK about you? but I was taught that they ( the governing body ) were Spirit directed.
When one gets baptized, the 2nd statement that they are to reply to *with a resounding yes* is, do you understand that you are being baptized ( or committing yourself verbally to a corporate contract. ) in *the name of the father, Son and Holy Spirit* ( it used to say ) *directed* ( now it is says ) *derived organization?*
I think I'll stop there. I'm sure you get the confusing pictures.
Let me just say here that in time, it's going to get easier and therefore it will get better. Please find an Ex-JW Man that has been out for some time now that has gone through what you are going through now to become friends with in hope's that you can run things by him, vent to him and make a new friend. There is exjw Reddit and plenty of Ex-JW groups on Facebook where you can find someone. If you have kid's, be sure to find an EX-JW man who has kid's too. It is a big comfort to talk with those who really understand what you are going through.
Jay, whatever choices that you make, you are going to get through this with some amazing wisdom under your belt. It is this wisdom that you will gain by going through your own experiences that will be priceless and will be very good for you in the future.
Take care of yourself.
@@apostababelindajames7461 your explanation is spot on! Thank you because even if it’s not addressed to me I can relate. My husband and I fully awake, not connecting in zoom for a year now. And not letter preaching at all!
How they get the msg across and don’t bother us when all this shutdown is over and if they come over we will be telling them we will go when we go! No explanation, no disassociating letter- just leave us alone!
It’s been more than a year we are totally awake! but there are days that we feel lost, and down not because of the org but because we are getting to become agnostics- believe there must be a creator but don’t believe totally in the Bible nor man-made-Bible interpreted!
Thanks, Laura, for taking the time to respond to my comment. I needed to be reminded that my wife is scared too. Many of your suggestions I plan to use. I enjoyed your new light illustration. They change “New light” so often. I'm thinking of investing in light bulbs. I wish I could take credit for that one, but I saw this somewhere. Thanks again!
@@Jay-yp3oq I believe you saw this from 1 of my comments and said you might use it, lol. Glad you did. Looking back, it is funny. Funny but true 👍. Hope things get better and easier for you. Merry Christmas
@@apostababelindajames7461 Hi ApostaBabe! Wishing you and your family a a very Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄
Did you see yourself in her story at all? I certainly did. Who’s next? 👇🏻
I'm feeling more and more like going on a channel like this will help in the healing. But RUclips is so public and permanent. It would make my leaving so "official". Don't know who else might see it.
@@grrb5929 feel the same .. We all have our stories..
Keep exposing watchtower lies and overwhelming Hypocrisy
This is fear tactic used by the org. Remember, not everyone needs to go on RUclips to be free of them. However, if you want to, you're welcome here!
@@grrb5929 I say go for it. I've done 2 interviews...one in spanish and the other in english. Would love to do an interview with Wendi. But yeah go for it, don't worry about who may see it, maybe that 1 person who sees you will also want to get out and you will have helped her.
This girl she is Strong really shunning them before they do !!! Wawa...
Thank you so much for the amazing interview Wendi and Laura! The AAA comment had me laughing so loud. I admire you Laura and I’m rooting for you
Power to you sisters, you are the foot soldiers and gathers in that satanic organization. The more that wake up tell of their abuse the faster watchtower falls.
I hope your experience gives courage to all who are contemplating their own existing.
The sisters feel like it’s a reflection on them that he didn’t choose one of them so they give the newcomer the cold shoulder. Especially if the newcomer is beautiful😂. The cliques are ridiculous. And because there is a man shortage you get “brothers” who get woman who they clearly do not qualify for and would not even attempt to get in the 🌎
Wow 😮 this story really clicked with me! Excellent interview! Thank you for sharing!!
I am so glad I found this channel! I love your style and am so glad to see elders wives sides of the story. As an ex elder whose marriage also dissolved I relate so much to what she says. So nice to have more stories like this. Keep it up!
Thank you so much, happy to have you here !:)
Laura, the best interviewee ever. Knows how to stay on point of her story and doesn’t allow the interviewers questions to go off on a tangent.
"the triple A club" LOL!! Laura is an awesome gal
🤣🤣🤣
I call them the Stanford wives club
Or the Elite club
What a fantastic, confident & strong presence she has. She’s definitely going places.
You go girl!!! Thankfully you’re still young, smart & beautiful. You got this!! Welcome to the other side where we welcome you with unconditional open arms. 🤗💪🏼
I just started following you on tiktok! Ty for sharing 💓. I enjoyed her story sooooo many double lifers I never felt right doing that. Being truthful was instilled in me as important- hilarious when I look back on the organization 🤣 A whole new meaning of AAA
Great interview, both of you. Thanks!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Minus the African heritage… OHHH MY GOODNESS, Laura, I could relate to pretty much EVERYTHING you went through. You’re SO not alone. I could just hug you. And even though I’ve been out nearly 20 years now, your story actually helped me work through some of my own things, that I hadn’t really even processed. THANK YOU.
And just … ❤❤❤❤
Watchtower is Corrupt
What a powerful conversation! I'm so glad to find others who want to help people get free!
It always breaks my heart when they say they were sexually abused as children. That was one of the things that keep me POMI was Jehovah's Organization was setting to tone for the New World. To find out they have been covering it up since the beginning was one of the worst days of my life.
I hate to admit this, but when you are in, you are supposed to love knocking on doors, I not only hated it, clocked watched every meeting, it was pure torture, I still love Jesus and I found my truth from the bible,not the watchtower, I feel my relationship with God and Jesus now feels real, it did not before
Laura you are so strong. I'm so glad you got out and didn't waste anytime doing so! Thanks for sharing your story and showing everyone they can overcome JW indoctrination 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🦾🦾🥰
@@vusimngomezulu2500 You certainly get ur hours in, don't you Vusi. We're all anxiously awaiting the day you wake up! Thanks for watching all ex jw websites!!!
Being raised in a protestant home with a misogynistic father and family structure I had a tendency to question the way religious tenets and Biblical verses were used and interpreted to enforce misogyny yet while this led to arguments I wasn't shunned unlike those who question JW teachings. Misogyny exists no matter what denomination one is a part of but the JWs seem to take the misogyny to extremes. In the Jehovah’s Witnesses religion women are supposed to be housewives and mothers and dedicate their life to witnessing however quite unlike protestant denominations they are actively discouraged from higher education. Women are actually ordered by the Watchtower to stay with abusive, violent family and spouses and only adultery on the part of either spouse is deemed acceptable grounds for divorce. The JW teachings therefore jeopardise your safety if you have an emotionally and/or physically abusive or violent family, parent or spouse. The Watchtower endorses patriarchy and the teachings of the JW weaponise the Bible. The priorities of JWs are so warped i.e. SO are not turned over to police while teens are punished just for having social media accounts.
Hello Wendi, I really enjoyed this video.
You are doing Great!
Thank you so much!
Thank you for talking about this. I grew up in a really big, loud, loving congregation with TONS of kids. Then the hall split and we went to join a newer congregation starting out with very few kids. They were really sickly, quiet, and weird. I didn't fit in with them and they didn't like me. I was 16. I couldn't hang out with kids at school and I didn't have friends at the hall. I was so depressed.
Hey Megan, thank you for sharing this. What an experience you had. Welcome ❤️
New subscriber! Listened to you and Lloyd today. Wonderful interview. Every ex jw needs to create their own club-ILMC. I Love Me Club. And be the president of it! ( Not my original. I heard this somewhere but darn, it's a good one)
Great interview 👍
Biggest reason I didn't get baptised was I didn't want to be treated better for it. I felt like I could see who really were my friends/ not friends staying not baptised.
Great interview glad to see some one so young wake from this cult.
I wish i had your strength. cool to see people who thrive on the outside. we were one of the families that wasn't fully accepted in the hall. always had the feeling of being on the outside looking in on all fronts, that shit isn't good for the mind, everyone wants to feel like they belong somewhere. Glad i was good at skateboarding, made it a lot easier to make "worldly" friends.
Really great video
Great video absolutely fantastic helped me so much so relatable to my own story I woke up left my narcissistic ex and dis associated in august 2020 these videos are invaluable xx
Hi Helen, glad to have you here !!:) Happy you found an escape
@@WendiRenay thank you 😊 look forward to more videos xx
Triple AAA what the heck 😂 😂 that was a good one. In my hall all the single guys wanted to marry Jepthah’s daughter in paradise 🤦🏻♂️
I thought Jesus told the Pharisees like them that there will be no marriage at the resurrection?😀😀maybe I mixed it up; Bible scholars can correct me.
Your hair color, and mine, wouldn’t be allowed here in the congregation, the elders had a sister, tell my sister her hair color was “too much”, it was the same as yours! I just realized it when I was watching on my TV.🤣🤣🤣🌺🌺🌺
Because it gets attention 🥴🥴. They’re so weird and insecure
And this culture of telling someone to tell someone is what fuels gossips and the monitoring attitude among them!
@@BeautybyJemyjoan but, I got my sister out! She’s 4 years older than me, I’ll be 53 next month so, she will be 57. I’ve been out 10 years and my mother shunned me for the last 8 years of her life. She died in 2020 and I knew my sister hadn’t gotten baptized , that she was just going because if my mother. My mother told her to stick with the witnesses, they would take care of her! I got to her just before she almost got baptized! She had shunned me 8 years too. I knew it was because of my mother. The last thing my mother said to me, was, “ you’re going to die with your kids!” My 2 kids had been disfellowshipped and my mom thought I should kick them out, I refused. All I did was stop going to the meetings, I wasn’t doing anything wrong! I told my mother, “well, I’ll be dead and I won’t know it!”
After my mother died, I sent my sister a messenger and just asked her, if she ever wanted anything to do with me, if, not I wouldn’t bother her again. She answered right away, this was July 2020, height of the pandemic and no one cared about her. She has heart issues and even had her second heart when I was there for her! I told her what I’d learned and she was as shocked as I was. We’ve been “back together” and she was saved from baptism! The same sister that was supposed to tell my sister about her hair color? When she found out my sister was talking to me, asked if she had talked to the elders? She said, no what for? The sister told her if she didn’t tell the elders, she would! My sister said go ahead. An elder called her and said, oh I hear you’re talking to your sister again. Yep, she says. He tells her to keep in touch with the congregation. In the middle of Covid! No one checked on her and she hasn’t heard from them since then!
I wish everyone would wake up! Maybe some will, now that they added 2 new governing body members! Have a great night😃
I was JW, I never put up with any of this crap. I never got called out for anything. I think those dudes were afraid of me.
OMG I need the shirt that says I'm mildly offensive!
Lol, here’s the one I have
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I really enjoyed this video! TY.
Thank you !!:)
Got the best comeback to if a "sister" ever said that. "My husband has prestige. My husband has power."
"Your husband broke as hell." Any ex-JW knows if you become an elder's wife, a Bethel (think I spelled it right) wife, or missionary's wife; as soon as the the elders take away that status your "powerful" husband has, you're gonna be living in poverty for a long time, or close to being on the streets. Course to them, "punishment" from the "world" is a good thing XD . Awesome vid. You ladies rock!
thanks for sharing your experience
Hi I am Nick from Arizona. I'm DF XJW. Trying to start a new life without Jehovah.
Hey Nick! Welcome!
Beautiful girl, your ex-husband would’ve had a beautiful marriage if he wasn’t so blind. We can blame the religion for that!!!
wow! pretty! 👍
Inspiring! And your guest, who is gorgeous, makes me wonder if tennis star Venus Williams is also from Togo.
Thank you for tell us your history living this sistem religious criated by humans its encourage more people leaving this diabolic cult
Oh this made me remember something from when I studied with jw's 10+ years ago.
I was visiting a sister that got recently divorced after her husband (jw as well) cheated and didn't want to get together again. She told me that she had doubts before the marriage and that no one listened when she tried to talk about it with friends. they were all about how great it would be and it would be all right. The day she married, after the ceremony they got back home to their room and his behaviour changed completely. Typical bait and switch. She already regretted marrying him within a day.
And now, she was sitting far away from her friends in a small apartment having a difficult time financial, because he cheated and left her. I remember that the thing she was hurt by the most was that he was back in the old congregation treated like he never did anything wrong while she was here alone, mostly ignored by the old congregation.
I remember the pain and sadness in her eyes. It was absolutely heart breaking.
They’re wildly insecure and jealous (many JW women/wives)
Because they knew how they stole the men since men are not in abundance😂😂😂😂😂
I married an ex JW as an ex JW myself and he was abusive and the worst man I've ever met after the first year
So sorry to hear about your experience
Bottom line, she had a horrible narcissistic controlling dominating mother.
A little off topic, but this video reminds me of what my mother (she was a jw, and I’m an exjw, just for context) told me about the attitude of the public was in Poland, where she lived until her early 30s.
In Poland, a doctor’s wife was addressed as: Mrs. Doctor, followed by his family name. The honorific “Dr. “ was added to the wife’s name, as if she were also a qualified doctor 😂! Such bullshit!!
myself, baptized at 13, 1970 , shunned at 20 for Cigarettes.......never looked Back....
I have learned many Truths since that Time Frame...
I thought I waS better cause I was gonna live and the rest were not How a child an be molded
You are responsible for your parents when they're old. Remember the 10 commandments? Did you divorce because adultery? Yes, there is a lot of things going wrong in the past, present and the near future, Jesus Christ respected woman, we weren't to become mindless or slave to our husband. God made us to be a compliment to our husband.
Oh I just commented on JW's forced marriage
It's truly heat wrenching to see videos like this one... please don't let imperfect humans turn you away from the truth and from serving Jehovah. For, Jehovah See's who the rotten ones are and they will be dealt with accordingly.... Please also remember that we are living deep in the last days.,And,Satan is hard at work. Please don't let him turn you away from Jehovah. It's what Satan wants... Remember Jesus words at John 8 32.....
It’s a cult. You can believe in God and not by be controlled by the governing body . No one ever leaves a normal church and says it’s a cult . But every single member who
Leaves the watchtower organization says it’s a cult ,…. Because it is !
I am so struggling tryng to hear this guest.
is this a thumbs down to womens lib
Jesus said his load was light, I understand. Why don’t the ones in this org
Pick up the torture stake and follow me he says ..anyone who does not follow me continually is not worthy of me... Load does not seem light, and many men failed God and were offed. One mistake and you could be done..one sin..done ..49 50 70 years a lifetime with a target on your back from Satan .. sounds light to me.
Has this young lady, living in the west heard of the word CHOICE? There are no such things as 'arranged marraiges amoung the WT members, that rubbish! She knew what she was doing as indicted by her lucid presentation here! Get over it! Assume some responsiblity for the mistakes YOU make in life!
Hi Peter. Assuming you’re a JW, you might want to read up on subtleties and coercion. If you listened to her speak, which, clearly you didn’t, you’d hear that she did actually take responsibility for what happened in her marriage as far it depended on her.
Please give me a timestamp where we mentioned arranged marriages, and I will correct my course. You’ll notice we never said that.
Also, thank you for your comment, but you do not need to be here. Have a good day.
They absolutely coerce and guilt you into marriage despite clear indicators of incompatibility. When you go to the elders their answer is always “Jehovah will fix it “. The man can be beating you, verbally abusing you , or you simply can’t stand the other person , and guess what they’ll say “Jehovah will fix it “
@@priscillatherealtor12 Not too long ago I heard that JW's discourage marraige, now you say they urge it! This is news to me! ( I am not a JW myself) What is your evidence please?
@@kiwihans100 they don’t want you marrying anyone that’s not in the “truth” ( meaning a non JW) but they definitely encourage marriage unless it’s more beneficial to the organization for you to remain single.
@@priscillatherealtor12 Can you quote me a WT publication where it actully 'encourages marraige' because Paul recommended 'He that marries does well he that remains single does better'. 1 Cor 7: 25-30 )o
Wow victim mentality again! Why do so many people trouble with taking ownership and responsibility!
Describing how she was a victim and victim mentality are two very different things.
Thank you for your comment, appreciate it.
@@WendiRenay so which is it? She clearly takes no ownership of her decision! Clearly she is trapped in her own head
Watch it again. Yes she does.
@@WendiRenay if she does then she is not a victim! She either has free will or not!
@@chrisconti3271 you clearly are ignoring the brainwashing and cult mentality of JW . Even when you want to say no they guilt you into saying yes
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