How to deal with the grief of losing a Loved One? | Buddhism In English
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My mother went for brain tumour surgery on 9th November. Initially she was well but as of today she lost the conscious and doctors says she might live only few days from now.I ❤ her a lot. Kindly pray for my mother.I love you Amma.
I lost my husband 4 months ago and never a day passes without me crying. I miss him every single day .
I lost my husband last Dec 30th. I cried everyday n I miss him too.I know how you feel.
I lost my daughter 20 years ago…I eventually understand to be brave then move on.
I lost my 34 year old Girlfriend 8 months ago 🥹. I miss her every second
lost my husband exactly 1 month ago, miss him, be strong for the children and myself
Any amount of cry and grief is not going to return our loved one this is the only truth and every thing else is a lie
Death is life's rule. Let's cry for one time and live better, do good things, give kindness. Then the passed one will be happy because you are happy
🙏 Budha
Made me tear up
I have a friend who is suffering from serious illness. And he doesn't have much to time. I just can't believe this because he is young and handsome boy like a gentleman. I am talking to him everyday and I have fear the time will come when we he is no more ❤
I loss my mom 23 years ago, and not a single days goes by that I don't miss her. It's so hard to let go because she is all I knew and loved all my life.😢😢😢
YouaI am the same. And I no longer have a meaning to carry on in this life without her physically with me. I cant seem to jump over that barrier. Im lost.
@@joannenascimento9213 Its never easy but know that she will always be with you in your heart and in spirit. she hears you and she can see you only you can't. warming blessing to you.
@@Zauj-pi6df .Thankyou for caring.💞
Sending you love❤❤❤❤
And that is absolutely ok. Respect your own feelings and be gentle with yourself. You can always talk to her and recount your good memories together.
Thanking him for a better life. And Enlightened My mind in every day.Thank you Buddha . that bring the monk Enlightened the World.
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The teachings that you bestow upon others is so inspiring.
I lost my Mum when I was 15 and my 38 year old partner recently along with my 23 year old sister both in tragedy. Your videos have helped me to heal and I wish to show my gratitude experiencing so much loss is so overwhelming ❤
Saying goodbye to this world will be easy for me when you get to be old... most of your loved ones, have already gone.. Bring it on NO PROBLEM ❤️🙏❤️
Thankyou ...i lost my dog Bella ...i really miss her .it is hard for me to forget her...
Same I loss my dog it is hard forget him
@@shalineepaswan5188same here😢
Me too, just a few weeks ago. My sole companion. I’m completely bereft. 😢
That's why I'm here too
I lost my life long partner 2 years ago. I’ve been getting better. I found a new passion (business) that gave me something to be happy about. Now I’m dating my childhood friend and it woke my heart but now I fear that I will lose him. Im so happy and I don’t want this feeling to go away as everything does.
Great explanation ! Hard to overcome . But must realize if we born, have to die some day. That is the nature of this world. Namo Buddhaya !🙏🙏🙏
Reverent sir, may you have the noble bliss of supreme buddha!!! නමෝ බුද්ධාය!!! තෙරුවන් සරණයි!!! සාදු! සාදු!! සාදු!!!
Today is 6th day of my father's death. He was 88 years of age. Till last moment of his last breath, he was full fit. I am going thru all the videos to overcome the Pain & Grief.
Thank you for making my heart light.l lost my husband 4 months ago,your message make me feel realize the meaning of life and death...
Public comment. My condolences. His soul rest in peace 🙏. Serving humanity is a blessing. Given thanks to almighty God for life 🙏. Pure taught and actions base on how you procieve life journey begins with you ♥ 🙏.
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb from the Philippines..
@@gloriacielo9812 i hope you are doing good
He was an angel in disguise. Why he took him away from us...we will never know...we all loved him with all of our hearts. Every day we seek the answer
I lost my husband 48days.
The hard time for me to accept that he gone. I miss him every single day, my kids need their Dad 😥
How are you ? Are you still okay
@@oliver-pk3xj thanks! I'm still living. Sometimes I think about death but when I see my kids, I can't do that right now 😥
I too lost my dearest hubby 36 days ago... I m still thinking how to live without him 😢 Its not easy 😭
@@binug5843 It's too hard! I just work and do anything I can to raise my kids. They are too young to know everything. One 4 and one 2 yrs. Many times I wanna die with him. I don't understand what life is. Live to die??? But the children need to live their life, I need to live to help them until they can take care their selves.
@@coBinhtienganh One of the essence of living a virtuous life that I learnt is that we should never rely on external things for our happiness. That includes our family members and anyone else we value. We do not own them. At one point, everyone has to die. My best advice to you is not to think that your life was dependent or has to be depended on your husband. We should NEVER rely on someone else for the major source of our happiness, even if it is our partner. It should be within us. I am not trying to undervalue the impact your husband had in your life and I am genuinely sorry for your loss. But remember, you do not own anybody and anyone who's born has to die at some point. That includes you and your two kids as well. So while we are alive, what's the point of living a life full of misery? What would your husband have wanted you to do in this situation? Constantly mourn him or focus on living your life to the fullest before you die? If he loved you, he would want you to stop grieving him and focus on cultivating your happiness within yourself, even if you have to be a little selfish for that. You are a strong woman and your kids will grow up being inspired by all the things that you are doing for them. Good luck for your life ahead!
My father passed away on 13th November 2022. And I am trying very hard to overcome my sorrow. This speech is specially for me. Thank you Respected Thero for your inspirational speech. May the triple gems bless you.
My Dad passed away 3 weeks ago…just grateful I got to say goodbye. Not everyone gets that 🙏 my condolences to you
@@sherlainmiranda76 Thanks a lot for consoling me. I respect your humanity. My condolences too on your Dad's demise.
I lost my Dad a year ago to cancer, he was my best friend I miss him so much I didn't think I would ever survive without him.
But a year on and I've kept going as he would want me to just finding a new way of life.
All I can say is that remember that all parents want is for their children to be happy in life and after they have gone.
Keep going and do him proud he will live within you. Xx
Is there anything else in this great universe that can be compared to the love of a mother and the great compasion of the Buddha?
Namobuddaya.🙏🌹
🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸
The saddest times are when one lose a unborn baby or infant on child as that was your creation a gift from the most high creator of all life. I have experience this with my sons partners, as both have lost a baby after birth sad cause both were their first.
I am happy to say I have 11 grandchildren and proud of them as they are chosen ones bless with love and grace Christina one Love blessing dear one.
I lost my fiance yesterday ie 18/05/2023....it's very very very hard to accept the reality...
But this video taught me to be happy...sot that she can see me and become happy
Sorry. I too suffering, I lost my son 21.6 . 23 it’s very painful i can’t stop crying. I’m going crazy thinking of him
Greatest Sermon sessions.very mind blowing.n acceptable n Very merits.to All who contributed these vedios..
Whatever is the reality but the truth is that it literally hurts...it kills...I lost my mom a year ago but can't stop my tear even now...tears keep flowing on its own.
The more I accept the fact that everyone dies, the more I love (and probably cling to) my loved ones, and the greater are my grief and loss when their time comes... I sometimes think that if I loved and treasured them less, I wouldn't feel so devastated when they die. Where's the balance? How do I love without clinging?
I would say that by being aware of the law of impermanence every day we cling less. Everything that is born will die.
It is not about loving less. But loving more by clinging less.
It frees Love.
But let's not make it into a big ideal. We probably do cling without knowing it and we will eventually suffer accordingly. That's just the way it works.
Peace.
@@buddhisttv3885 It's a new way of looking at things that I didn't see myself. Thank you for your advice!
I heard this story was made me cryied. So sad our life like that, please make sure love each one of them. Thanks you Buddha spiritual to me .
Everything in this material world is transient. All things are perishable and will pass except the spirit soul which is eternal. Everyone is on a spiritual journey whether they realise it or not. 🙏💖
Very fantastic speach on how to continue our life even after loosing our loved kith & kins.
As always,at the accurate time,when we hv a problem,we get to know the results from this channel.Thank u all for everything.Honourable reverend sir,and the crew behind this work,may god bless u all.Budu saranai.Namo buddhaya.
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I got to read this chapter in class ten I really love this lesson
I lost my son 5,3,2023 💔 and I miss him so much more and more cry and can't sleep I pray every night and day for the pain to go away🙏🙏🙏😔😔😔 God is all I know in Jesus name amen
I lost ,y father on New Years Day. I inherited his musical instrument. It lives inside me. It brought to me my own musical life. I miss him.
I just heard the news that my frd died in an accident one hour ago . Death was inevitable. It's god's will. There's nothing we can do than to live & keep going forward by honouring the person who's dead and to love them 😊
Our loved one's spirit is with us, as close as our next breath.
No they are not this is all concepts made to make us fill happy
Mithen, learn how to punctuate, and spell, before you start pissing on somebody else's chips.
@carolgirl29 indeed they are
Bhikshu you are calm and quiet.Have peace of mind ....
I member a Friend who lost his Grandfather’ at work he was so said on break with his head down a week after the funeral’ I looked at him and told him’ if your Grandfather seen how sad and down you are he will tell you: I’m okay’ I’m not hurting anymore be happy that I’m not suffering and I don’t want you suffering’ it’s the way that we come in this world and we leave this world’ my Friend lifted his head up looked at me and started smiling’ I said you see? Your Grandfather will want you to be happy as he is happy now that you are not sad’ remember the good times
Namo buddhay 🙏🙏🙏🌹💐🌹💐🌹 vandami bhanteji 🙏🙏🙏🌹💐🌹💐🌹
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I lost my beloved cat last july 2022.. I deeply miss him so much... And i cry a lot until now.. Is very hard to accept
I last my dog 1month ago yes it is very hard to accept the fact
I am grieving my beloved cat too. She was my soul animal and we got on so well and understood each other. I've never had a bond like that before with another soul. I too struggle to process and accept that she is gone, I still feel in shock 6 months on and cry every day.
Knowing this reality is one thing, accepting it is difficult 😔...I miss you Maa 😩💕😢😔
Public comment. Great message 👍 nothing is permanent. Only what God created. God created everything for humanity to enjoy life and giving thanks to almighty God for life 🙏.
Hi my dear Buddhism Master,namobuddha my name is Ashok Wasnik and I am very much thankful about your the most excellent and guidanable lesson how to control ourself after the death of a loved person. It's my hope to ask you a question that is, What does happen after the death of a person? as the calling of societies like Hindu spirit, Buddhism Mind , and scientific language Energy would you like to reply my question?
This is so moving and beautifully said, it comforts me greatly. Bless you and thank you, kind regards from Susan.
The question is..my mother died of covid..alone when i went out looking for hospital ,looking for doctors..and i wasnt there..the guilt of letting her alone haunts me till now...she was a good person...why that kind of death has to happened to her..she was in pain i couldnt do anything ,couldnt take her to hospital as that time hospital was full..i didnt know what to do..my siblings were stucked in other countries couldnt come home..why this had to happened to us..in such short period of 3 painful days
Public comment only almighty God can give you love and comfort .please it is hard but life is a journey every one must go one day. Pray for her soul to rest in peace 🙏. Lord Krishna bless her soul 🙏 ❤.
I m deeply sorry for what you have gone through. My story is somewhat same. I was not there when she took her last breath. Its haunts me the same.. thinking my mom's eyes must have been searching for us desperately and we were not there in the icu.
Sadu sadu sadu tempal blessing swamin sahansa
I lost my father yesterday. I miss him so much
😄 you never loose à love one hé is always in your heart in your head.. So as long as you keep him in your heart and mind you never loose à loved one
🙏🙏 i have attached so much meaning to my earthly friends ❤️❤️🙏🙏
Beautifully said.thank you very much.I learn so much from you 🙏
We lost our eldest daughter 27 years ago ..when she was 11 years old....we di many meritorious deeds in her name...but for me, there has not been a single day that i have not cried.😢..wish i was born in lord buddha's time...like Kisa Gothami..
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU❤ I WILL GO NOW..
6:15 - In simpler words, it is the law of cause & effect
Supreme buddha said.
Amitabha is the king of light and the king of buddhas. Amitabha can also be called Buddha of Infinite Light and Buddha of Infinite Life. Namely Amitabha. Amitabha, freely translated as immeasurable life (Sanskrit amita^yus), immeasurable light (Sanskrit amita^bha), so Amitabha is also known as immeasurable life Buddha and immeasurable light Buddha. However, in Tantric Buddhism, Amitabha's response is incarnate as the Buddha of Immeasurable Light, and his sacrificial body is the Buddha of Immeasurable Life. It is stated on the scroll of the immeasurable life that the Buddha of immeasurable life is majestic and bright, the most respected first. It is also said that the Buddha of Infinite Life is boundless in stature, which is beyond the reach of ordinary people.
The "Blessed Life Sutra" says: If anyone gets the title of Buddha, he rejoices, believes, and even thinks, he should know that he has the supreme merit. The Amitabha Sutra says: recite Amitabha, and get the protection of all the Buddhas in the sand of the Ganges in the ten directions!
Support sentient beings to the Pure Land of the West. The person who recites the Buddha can now obtain ten benefits. This is what the Blessed One proclaimed in the sutras that the Buddha opens the golden mouth, the truth is true!
Yeah! The same chp we have in class10 English book...
be kind to others well u have the time
You can always make time to be kind , it doesn’t have to be huge and only take a minute.
🙏🏻Thank you for this explanation ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing your valuable words and please never stop 🙏🏻
I love Buddhism and you my Guru.
💜 You are such a great person
I thank you for your words of comfort❤😌
I love this channel. Can please tell me the wonderful monk. I want to learn more about him because he's wonderful.
I guess he is from Sri Lanka
Do a good things the dead person will be happy, and do the good things for them to ( because I love you I give food to the hungry for you) pray for them
Thank you sir🙏🙏Great words sir.
I lost my only brother 29 years back and my father 4 years back and i still find it hard yo cope up with their loss
Thank you so much for this video...everyone need this namo buddhay
🙏☸️NAMO BHUDHAI☸️🙏
I still hurt me my mum died in Covid time 😢, my heart gets heavy when I think of her, I love her so much I lost my loving grandmother too , this has become my hardest time when I lost both of them in some months apart, but people take it lightly, but people don’t understand they are always opening their mouths as we are suffering in our grief, my sorrow and my pain is with me always I felt like my life is like this 😕😏
The way to love anything is to realise that, it might be lost.
I understand this was bond to happen but why some people leave us too soon.
Thanku so much from the core of my heart 💓
Luv this channel. Thank you .
Great teaching bhante... thank you so much ...namo budhay🙏🙏
I don't believe in spirits, ghosts, the soul, life after death, heaven, spirituality, etc and never will. Once you've gone you cease to exist other other than in people's memories. And that is why although my wife died in 2011 I've never gotten over losing her. In fact the grief has gotten worse year after year, even intensive therapy did nothing to ease my grief. I now accept the pain I feel will haunt me till the day I die.
Please don’t wreck the rest of your life…. spread some of that love you gave her - people all around you will appreciate it…. live on, get yourself in good shape physically to live on
thank you so much. i needed this now
dear babaji,pranam,thnks for your help,blessings,abt.,meditation,spirituality,but,I'm confused,abt.,souls,healing,materialistic,environment,atmosphere,thnks,regards,
Thank u for ur speech 🙏
Thank you, Bhante for your enlightening.
Namo Buddaya. Amen
9:46 - We can transfer merit to the dead people with a simple trick.
Here if is.
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When you are going to do a wholesome or meritorious deed, think to yourself "May all the goodness and merit of this deed go to this person"
Then the merit of the deed immediately goes to the dead person. And you yourself will get nothing but the happiness of that deed.
In sri lanka , we call it punyaanumodanaa(punya + anumodhaana)
Thankyou buddha😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Namo Buddhaya
My only beloved brother died. I am devastated. I dearly loved my brother. Why did Buddha did this to me? I have never done wrong to anyone. 😭😭😭
Harekrishna 🙏🌷💖
🙏🙏Namo buddhaya
Awesome presentation sir👏👏
Thank you for that 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Namo Buddhaya...!!! 🙏🙏🙏
Nammobudyha thankyou ❤️😊🙏
Namo Buddhaya 🙏🙏🙏
Tq 🙏
Namo buddhaya 🙏
Namo Buddhaya 🙏🙏🙏❤️
Nammobudyha ❤️😊👍🏻
I want to become a monk ❣️
NAMO BUDDHYA
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 sadhu sadhu sadhu 🙏🙏🙏
At 14 my mom was brutally murdered by someone she loved, and we all loved. All she showed him was love, the event was public and on the news. He’s arrested, she’s gone, it’s been atleast 10 years. Besides grief and loss, how does one deal with the anger towards someone else like that?
My farther died yesterday.its a big pain for me😢.but i know every one has to died
thank you master.
It is not easy to love someone whole heartedly and then loose them one day., especially when they are young. It’s the most heart breaking thing to loose one of your children. But why I think it happens is because of that person karma. I am thinking that’s why we are on the
this earth. We have to pay for all our wrong doings, because we hurt someone in our pass life. So we have to suffer the consequences in this life😭😭😭😭
Buddha has said that the rebirth cycle is so vast, we meet the same people again and again with a difference appearance. We don't know what deeds or evil actions we may have done, we can only see results as we meet with people.
Thank sir ..
Lost my son of 24 years 2 months before . It’s so painful
I lost my son 21yrs 8months dack
I m still not able to cope up with it
I lost my elder daughter of 22 years old on 16.7.23
I m unable to handle it, very painful
Namo Buddha ya 🙏🌹
I depend on myself no need.